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48	What would you need to see/get from a woman in a relationship to feel certain that you were not being settled for, or used for resources or companionship?	Question For Men	DMmeClownPics	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/03/26 10:31 PM
0	AFBB ignores actual biology	Debate	DMmeClownPics	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/26 02:26 PM

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6	Women, do you prefer watching porn with big dicks? Pretty much this. I will straight up ask my boyfriend for dick pics, or at least I did when we were long distance. But I’m more or less repelled by the sight of someone else’s.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/08/26 08:57 PM
4	How important is a woman’s first time, really? Yeah I try really hard not to think about it	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/08/26 05:41 PM
3	Women, do you prefer watching porn with big dicks? Idk their presence in porn just turns me off.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/08/26 04:05 PM
4	Women, do you prefer watching porn with big dicks? I prefer porn with no dicks. Dicks ruin porn for me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/08/26 03:58 PM
13	How important is a woman’s first time, really? It was painful and somewhat traumatic. The guy was also sexually and emotionally abusive and if I could murder someone without ever having to worry about consequences, he would be high on that list. Hatred doesn’t even begin to cover it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/08/26 03:51 PM
12	Stop Acting Like The Average Beta Husband Is A Tragic Romantic Hero When He's Mostly Just A Guy Who Married Whoever Was Next To Him At Age 29 Out Of Convenience Both people. They presumably both made the choice to do that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/08/26 06:35 PM
1	Would you rather have children with a man who isn’t your ideal, or never have children? I can accept criticism just fine. But it’s been my experience that men who talk about women the way you do invariably wind up being shitty partners. I can assure you that my boyfriend does not find me difficult to be with. We have healthy and open communication with one another and he doesn’t act like a misogynistic twat.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/08/26 05:06 PM
1	Would you rather have children with a man who isn’t your ideal, or never have children? Funny because the way you talk about women is a glaring red flag to me. I’ve been avoiding men who talk like you do about women for the last 20+ years and it’s served me very well. Btw, acknowledging the damage that patriarchy causes is important because a lot of people have internalized those messages and is at the root of many of those problems people have. You can’t start to change your thought patterns without dismantling the ones that are already there.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/08/26 04:25 PM
1	Would you rather have children with a man who isn’t your ideal, or never have children? I don’t think you realize just how much and it how many ways patriarchy and misogyny harms society. Probably because you’re contributing to it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/08/26 04:03 PM
1	Would you rather have children with a man who isn’t your ideal, or never have children? You actually are being misogynistic. And yeah misogyny has a lot to do with it. I was raised in a patriarchal abusive religious environment and it fucked me up bad and set me up to wind up with someone who would abuse me. I spent 15 years in therapy undoing the damage, and I learned how to recognize when someone is trying to manipulate me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/08/26 03:36 PM
1	Would you rather have children with a man who isn’t your ideal, or never have children? Oh I know how I got there. I got there by being mistreated for my entire childhood and learning to equate mistreatment with love. And I’m most definitely not sobbing. It’s been over 20 years since I left that fuckstick and he’s only halfway through his prison sentence. I’m with someone now who treats me wonderfully, and I’m doing just fine. Unlike you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/08/26 03:01 PM
1	"Don't make dating/relationship your goal" is the worst advice possible I mean. That’s kind of how it happened for me. I wasn’t a virgin because I’m very sexually aggressive, but it was very very hard to find someone who didn’t just want to hook up. I didn’t meet my bf until I was 46 though. I never expected us to be anything more than friends, but we wound up being really mutually attracted.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/08/26 02:36 PM
1	Would you rather have children with a man who isn’t your ideal, or never have children? lol no. Women tell men that when their shitty personally is evident from their words. There might be other reasons for it too, but they’re not helping themselves at all by having a blatantly misogynistic attitude. I have also never seen women tell other women to “go for it” in terms of having a baby with someone they barely know. Have you even been reading the replies to this thread? You’re so full of shit.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/08/26 01:53 PM
18	It’s a sound male strategy to vote away women’s rights for entertainment value in a divergent sex world. I love how this sub continually reinforces my decision to put zero trust in men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/08/26 01:14 PM
1	Would you rather have children with a man who isn’t your ideal, or never have children? How do you figure I learned nothing? First of all, I wasn’t “blinded by lust”. I got pregnant by someone I hooked up with a couple of times and had zero self esteem and thought I would never find anyone else willing to be with me. Abusers are attracted to that shit like catnip. Also, why do you think women don’t warn each other about things like that? I’ve never once heard a woman say or imply that “women can always detect if a man is abusive”. What I have heard women say is that if anything fee…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/08/26 01:12 PM
1	Would you rather have children with a man who isn’t your ideal, or never have children? I was 19 years old when I began dating my first husband and fresh out of a very physically and emotionally abusive childhood. It would be fair to say that my perception of what is normal and healthy was beyond fucked up at the time. I haven’t been with someone who was abusive since then, and it’s been over two decades since we split up. My ability to sus out if someone is abusive/manipulative isn’t by virtue of me being female. It’s learned from experience. Doesn’t seem like you’ve learned very …	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/08/26 07:52 AM
2	Poverty has the opposite effect on virginity for each gender Not really. My grandmother never worked outside the home and was constantly depressed. My other grandma had a job and was a lot happier. My mom had all kinds of mental health issues until my youngest sibling moved out and she got a job.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/26 08:33 PM
3	Would you rather have children with a man who isn’t your ideal, or never have children? I had Adenomyosis which causes secondary infertility. I never got pregnant again after that and had already had several miscarriages.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/26 06:52 PM
1	Poverty has the opposite effect on virginity for each gender Still want to A) earn it myself, B) not be dependent on someone else for that and C) I actually like working. I like having a job. I have wanted to work outside the home since I was a kid. I never saw myself staying home with kids, even though my mom did.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/26 06:14 PM
1	Poverty has the opposite effect on virginity for each gender lol no. I had friends. I still hated it. 100% unpaid work with total dependency on my partner for any and all income? Fuck no. I was so damn happy to go back to work.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/26 06:10 PM
3	Would you rather have children with a man who isn’t your ideal, or never have children? Except it didn’t.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/26 05:51 PM
4	Would you rather have children with a man who isn’t your ideal, or never have children? Except I didn’t know that he was until years after it was too late.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/26 05:49 PM
5	Would you rather have children with a man who isn’t your ideal, or never have children? It’s not really an issue of the relationship working out or not. Sometimes the other parent is an absolute garbage person, and your ability to legally keep your child away from them is limited, especially if you don’t have a lot of money for an attorney.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/26 05:34 PM
2	Poverty has the opposite effect on virginity for each gender I fucking hated being a stay at home mother	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/26 05:27 PM
1	Poverty has the opposite effect on virginity for each gender When men do all of that stuff plus work a full time job, we can talk.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/26 05:20 PM
0	Poverty has the opposite effect on virginity for each gender Housekeeping, chores, and taking care of children is all unpaid work.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/26 04:44 PM
4	Would you rather have children with a man who isn’t your ideal, or never have children? 20	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/26 04:42 PM
6	Would you rather have children with a man who isn’t your ideal, or never have children? Yes it was an unintentional pregnancy	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/26 04:37 PM
16	Would you rather have children with a man who isn’t your ideal, or never have children? I had a child with someone who was not “my ideal” and I strongly regret doing so. It was pretty much my only chance to have a child, but if I had it to do over again, I wouldn’t have done it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/26 04:30 PM
1	People trying to shame women into relationships with bi men That’s what I’m saying.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/26 03:12 AM
2	the bi men conversation is silly Attraction doesn’t happen in a vacuum though. It’s very much impacted by cultural norms.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/08/26 11:51 PM
2	Why do women give themselves passes for trying to defy a "real man" but men immediately get shunned when they try and defy women? Yeah, what? I don’t date anyone whom I feel like I have to “defy” in order to do what I want. I feel like I’m missing something.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/08/26 06:51 PM
2	People trying to shame women into relationships with bi men Even if it doesn’t lead to any changes in your attraction, people could at least be honest with themselves about the fact that beauty/attractiveness standards in the media highly favor people with more Caucasian features, even when they are non-white and that being bombarded with a lifetime of those messages about who is and isn’t attractive plays a role in the way our own attraction develops. The root of that is bigotry. Even if you yourself did not cause it or want it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/08/26 08:09 AM
2	People trying to shame women into relationships with bi men Like I said, conversion therapy doesn’t work. I didn’t have to convince myself to be attracted to to anyone. I only had to realize that my reasons for not being attracted to certain people were shallow and arbitrary. The change happened on its own after that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/08/26 07:59 AM
2	People trying to shame women into relationships with bi men No? It’s not irrelevant. One of them can change. The other cannot. I used to think I couldn’t be attracted to any guy who wasn’t taller than me. Until I started to really think about why I cared about that and I realized that it had more to do with worrying about what other people might think than anything else. That wasn’t something that was happening consciously. But understanding why it was happening allowed that bias to change. Neuro plasticity is a thing. It just doesn’t work for changing s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/08/26 07:53 AM
2	People trying to shame women into relationships with bi men Sexual orientation is something you are born with. There is nothing similar about not finding anyone of certain races attractive.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/08/26 07:43 AM
2	People trying to shame women into relationships with bi men I never said that you could police attraction. And while I recognize that it’s often not a conscious choice as to you you are and are not attracted to, that doesn’t mean that bigotry cannot play a role. You have not explained to me how it is possible to not be attracted to a single person of a certain race without bigotry being a factor.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/08/26 02:49 AM
2	People trying to shame women into relationships with bi men Cool explain how it’s not bigotry	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/08/26 01:46 AM
2	People trying to shame women into relationships with bi men Not being attracted to anyone outside of a single race has bigotry behind it. You will absolutely not convince me otherwise.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/08/26 01:37 AM
2	People trying to shame women into relationships with bi men That isn’t at all what I said, but go off.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/08/26 01:34 AM
1	People trying to shame women into relationships with bi men It’s bigotry to say that you are ONLY attracted to white people though.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/08/26 11:09 PM
1	People trying to shame women into relationships with bi men It’s very equivalent given nobody has any choice about what race they are or what their sexual orientation is.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/08/26 11:02 PM
1	People trying to shame women into relationships with bi men Do you think it “should be disclosed” if someone is non-white?	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/08/26 09:54 PM
2	People trying to shame women into relationships with bi men I don’t feel like that’s something they should feel required to put all on the table before the first date.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/08/26 09:09 PM
2	People trying to shame women into relationships with bi men Sure you can, but it’s still bigotry. Just because someone doesn’t immediately tell you they are bi doesn’t mean they’re “hiding it from you” either.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/08/26 08:58 PM
0	People trying to shame women into relationships with bi men No but if you are attracted to someone until you find out they’re non-white that is racist, and that would be the equivalent to what OP is discussing.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/08/26 08:23 PM
0	People trying to shame women into relationships with bi men Sometimes people look white but aren’t.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/08/26 08:12 PM
2	People trying to shame women into relationships with bi men Not particularly.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/08/26 07:47 PM
1	People trying to shame women into relationships with bi men Would it be racist to be white and only be willing to date white people? Come on.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/08/26 07:07 PM
0	People trying to shame women into relationships with bi men Umm, yes? If that’s the only reason why then yes.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/08/26 07:02 PM
4	People trying to shame women into relationships with bi men It’s not uncommon for straight men or lesbians to not want to date bi women as well. And yes, it’s biphobia. Regardless of who it’s coming from. It’s not entitled to want people to be honest about where their preferences are coming from.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/08/26 06:55 PM
4	People trying to shame women into relationships with bi men You’re allowed to have whatever preferences you want, but it is homophobia to not want to date someone for only that reason.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/08/26 06:38 PM
1	Do women cover the tab on the rare occasions they ask men out for a date? Yes, when I ask a guy out I pay.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/08/26 02:01 AM
5	Is it possible that some women just don't understand what makes sex so meaningful to others? Im hypersexual as a comorbidity of other medical conditions. It’s compulsive behavior, and I also have a much stronger desire. It’s gotten me in some really terrible situations before. Scary, dangerous and physically painful situations. Even when it’s bad enough for me to be seeking out sex with strangers, the way many men have talked to me and treated me is absolutely repellent. Luckily I’m older now and my sex drive is still very high but also manageable. I strongly prefer sex within a committ…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/08/26 11:54 PM
–	CMV: Working women who plan to have their parents and siblings raise their children have no right to complain that a stay at home parent does not pull their weight, because wtf Until men are doing 90% of the parenting there is no way to produce accurate data on how many men would be murdering their children if they were effectively forced to care for them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/08/26 05:07 PM
–	CMV: Working women who plan to have their parents and siblings raise their children have no right to complain that a stay at home parent does not pull their weight, because wtf I explained this in my last comment, but most men don’t want to be the primary caregiver to their children.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/08/26 04:52 PM
–	CMV: Working women who plan to have their parents and siblings raise their children have no right to complain that a stay at home parent does not pull their weight, because wtf The data is never going to show an accurate representation of how many men would be neglectful if they were full time parents because men are so rarely full time parents unless that is the best available option. Men generally don’t WANT full custody of their kids. Men don’t WANT the responsibility of being a primary caretaker. If they want that, they’re more likely to take that role seriously. Far more women are getting stuck with childcare by default because if the father doesn’t want that duty…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/08/26 04:50 PM
–	CMV: Working women who plan to have their parents and siblings raise their children have no right to complain that a stay at home parent does not pull their weight, because wtf Many of the women who have had similar experiences are on this very sub. I’m tired of getting a crap ton of upvotes on my comments and then seeing men say “but you’re the raaaaaare exception!”	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/08/26 03:21 PM
–	CMV: Working women who plan to have their parents and siblings raise their children have no right to complain that a stay at home parent does not pull their weight, because wtf lol no? Proximity and opportunity have a lot to do with these statistics.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/08/26 03:19 PM
–	It is possible for women to be more sexually open with random men. Same. The exception is if my partner in some way causes me to feel shame over my needs or desires, which has unfortunately happened.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/08/26 02:21 PM
1	CMV: People who complain that stay-at-home dads don't pull their weight in housework are people who were never interested in the lifestyle in the first place and thus should not have an opinion on the relationship style That didn’t clear anything up	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/08/26 12:58 PM
1	CMV: People who complain that stay-at-home dads don't pull their weight in housework are people who were never interested in the lifestyle in the first place and thus should not have an opinion on the relationship style No idea what you’re talking about.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/08/26 12:11 PM
–	She wants a faceless man who looms over her but doesn’t take the attention entirely away from her on slide three I never posted anything to social media until my boyfriend moved in with me. It’s basically only so his family another state over can “see” him and know that I haven’t enslaved him or something. I know his parents and sister miss him terribly.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/08/26 12:02 PM
4	Women: would you date men if they could never spend any money on you? Yes on the dates, but I need hugs.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/08/26 11:48 AM
6	Women: would you date men if they could never spend any money on you? We knew.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/08/26 11:47 AM
1	Women: would you date men if they could never spend any money on you? I miss when my bf first moved in with me and didn’t have a job. I told him he didn’t have to get one if he didn’t want to, but he prefers to be working. He also didn’t love having most of the errands and domestic duties falling on him. Which I can’t say I blame him for.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/08/26 11:41 AM
19	Women: would you date men if they could never spend any money on you? OP says “no bed or roof that isn’t entirely your own” meaning that if you live together you would have to pay all of the rent or mortgage yourself in this scenario.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/08/26 11:35 AM
0	Women: would you date men if they could never spend any money on you? Yes I would still date men. I won’t even get pregnant now, so nothing would change there (couldn’t do so even if I wanted to, I got surgically sterilized when I was 27 and had the whole thing removed in 2020. I currently pay for stuff as often as my bf does.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/08/26 11:29 AM
–	CMV: Working women who plan to have their parents and siblings raise their children have no right to complain that a stay at home parent does not pull their weight, because wtf No, I don’t even know what that means. I work in disability services.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/08/26 11:25 AM
1	CMV: People who complain that stay-at-home dads don't pull their weight in housework are people who were never interested in the lifestyle in the first place and thus should not have an opinion on the relationship style I’m very used to being called a liar here by men. Nothing new for me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/08/26 11:25 AM
1	CMV: People who complain that stay-at-home dads don't pull their weight in housework are people who were never interested in the lifestyle in the first place and thus should not have an opinion on the relationship style Nope	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/08/26 11:17 AM
1	Q4women would you be ok with your partner using sex toys? Oh yeah we have one of those, but he can’t feel it so much as I can.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/08/26 11:16 AM
1	Q4women would you be ok with your partner using sex toys? Sweet! Thank you for that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/08/26 11:14 AM
–	CMV: Working women who plan to have their parents and siblings raise their children have no right to complain that a stay at home parent does not pull their weight, because wtf I mean neglectful deadbeat fathers aren’t uncommon. If fathers did the amount of parenting that mothers do, those percentages would look quite different.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/08/26 11:13 AM
–	CMV: Working women who plan to have their parents and siblings raise their children have no right to complain that a stay at home parent does not pull their weight, because wtf I am not and have never been a sex worker. wtf are you talking about.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/08/26 11:10 AM
2	The sexual revolution didn't liberate women; it just turned female intimacy into a cheap, free commodity for men. Majority aren’t really in a big hurry to marry the first guy who comes around and pop out a few kids either.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/08/26 05:22 AM
1	CMV: People who complain that stay-at-home dads don't pull their weight in housework are people who were never interested in the lifestyle in the first place and thus should not have an opinion on the relationship style I make twice what my boyfriend does	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/08/26 05:21 AM
2	The sexual revolution didn't liberate women; it just turned female intimacy into a cheap, free commodity for men. You say that like it’s not living the dream. I had a child who is grown now when I was young and I’m fully enjoying my freedom. I’m absolutely grateful that I’m not tethered to my kid’s piece of shit father anymore and that I had the freedom to pursue relationships that were healthy instead.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/08/26 04:16 AM
2	The sexual revolution didn't liberate women; it just turned female intimacy into a cheap, free commodity for men. Do we though?	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/08/26 04:13 AM
1	CMV: People who complain that stay-at-home dads don't pull their weight in housework are people who were never interested in the lifestyle in the first place and thus should not have an opinion on the relationship style Couldn’t be me	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/08/26 02:52 AM
2	The sexual revolution didn't liberate women; it just turned female intimacy into a cheap, free commodity for men. Why would I do that	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/08/26 02:34 AM
1	CMV: People who complain that stay-at-home dads don't pull their weight in housework are people who were never interested in the lifestyle in the first place and thus should not have an opinion on the relationship style I’m a female breadwinner and my boyfriend calls me daddy. So that was particularly humorous to me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/08/26 02:20 AM
5	The sexual revolution didn't liberate women; it just turned female intimacy into a cheap, free commodity for men. Cool, tell my boyfriend that. He’s been pretty heavily invested since day one.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/08/26 02:19 AM
3	The sexual revolution didn't liberate women; it just turned female intimacy into a cheap, free commodity for men. How so	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/08/26 02:12 AM
6	The sexual revolution didn't liberate women; it just turned female intimacy into a cheap, free commodity for men. Yeah, maybe I don’t actually want to sell my body to the highest bidder and use my sexuality as a bargaining chip?	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/08/26 12:52 AM
6	Q4women would you be ok with your partner using sex toys? Tell me more about these vibrators for penises.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/08/26 11:47 PM
2	Q4women would you be ok with your partner using sex toys? Of course. I’ve gone shopping for them with him. He mostly has dildos and stuff for anal play, but he has talked about getting some “crafted for male genitalia” and I’m all for it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/08/26 11:14 PM
5	"The ick" is an excellent example of how modern women encourage narcissistic self glorification among each other I can more readily forgive high school aged kids for doing immature things regardless of gender. The negative comments I have gotten from men were not high school kids in most cases. Men generally don’t post content about their icks so much. Instead they comment on people’s photos or videos on social media with absolutely no provocation. I follow a lot of plus sized and non gender conforming women on social media, and these fuckwits just CANNOT keep their thoughts inside their heads.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/08/26 09:38 PM
5	"The ick" is an excellent example of how modern women encourage narcissistic self glorification among each other Dude I have had men directly tell me that they are not interested in me because I embody one of their “icks”, often when I haven’t even expressed any interest in them in the first place. And there’s usually a very judgmental tone about it. This has been a thing that has been happening to me my entire life and I’m solidly middle aged. If I had a dollar for every time a man felt the need to make unsolicited comments to me about women with tattoos, piercings, dyed hair, having a kid, various clothi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/08/26 09:21 PM
3	"The ick" is an excellent example of how modern women encourage narcissistic self glorification among each other That’s the thing. I don’t. I quietly move as far away as possible and leave if I’m able to. I don’t make it someone else’s problem. I’m not making judgments about anyone’s character. I don’t feel the need to proclaim my stance on it publicly. It’s just an incompatibility for me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/08/26 09:06 PM
4	"The ick" is an excellent example of how modern women encourage narcissistic self glorification among each other It’s not just in the context of dating. I have moved to the opposite end of the bus before because a passenger was chewing gum. I have a legit phobia.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/08/26 08:23 PM
8	"The ick" is an excellent example of how modern women encourage narcissistic self glorification among each other You would be correct.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/08/26 08:06 PM
16	"The ick" is an excellent example of how modern women encourage narcissistic self glorification among each other You know what? I don’t go around expressing my extreme distaste for gum chewers outside of using it as an example for this thread. You could try the same.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/08/26 07:36 PM
–	Men, do you genuinely care about your partner's pleasure and well-being during intimacy? Such as? I gave almost anyone who was interested a chance, so I feel like it was a pretty accurate cross section of average to below average looking men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/08/26 06:35 PM
–	Men, do you genuinely care about your partner's pleasure and well-being during intimacy? The common denominator is that they were all cisgendered males between the ages of 20 and 50. Generally speaking I have spent a decent amount of time beforehand talking about likes and dislikes, and they talk a big game about being really into those things, only to disappoint me greatly in person. I ended the conversation at any hint of selfishness or attempts at manipulation before anything sexual has occurred. The more physically attractive they are, the more they suck in bed, so I learned to …	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/08/26 06:31 PM
–	Men, do you genuinely care about your partner's pleasure and well-being during intimacy? Oh no, most of the men I have been with didn’t care about my pleasure at all. By most I mean more than half.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/08/26 06:16 PM
–	Men, do you genuinely care about your partner's pleasure and well-being during intimacy? I’ve expanded my horizons plenty. There are just a lot of sexually selfish men out there.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/08/26 06:07 PM
–	Men, do you genuinely care about your partner's pleasure and well-being during intimacy? Ok, yeah to be honest I’ve met more men who are like this than not.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/08/26 06:05 PM
14	"The ick" is an excellent example of how modern women encourage narcissistic self glorification among each other Yeah what you are describing is kind of on par with men who feel the need to talk loudly about attributes in women that he himself does not find attractive, as though women who have those attributes should all just change themselves to be attractive to him. It’s stupid and eye-roll-worthy in both cases.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/08/26 06:04 PM
3	CMV: Working women who plan to have their parents and siblings raise their children have no right to complain that a stay at home parent does not pull their weight, because wtf Yeah I’m sure he was the only shit father in existence. 🙄 Weird how many women I have met with similar experiences.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/08/26 06:00 PM
–	Question for red pill: What are some direct examples of how women "speak a different language" than men, in an unironic autistic 1:1 "woman code?" Oh yeah this isn’t circle jerk bait at all.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/08/26 05:36 PM
–	Men, do you genuinely care about your partner's pleasure and well-being during intimacy? What projected transgressions are you talking about?	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/08/26 05:23 PM
–	Men, do you genuinely care about your partner's pleasure and well-being during intimacy? Good question. I know that for me it is often a compulsion to have sex so I wasn’t necessarily vetting them super well. At least not when my sex drive was at its highest. Since I’ve gotten older I’m much more willing to hold out for someone who makes it worth my time and effort.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/08/26 05:18 PM
–	Men, do you genuinely care about your partner's pleasure and well-being during intimacy? I’ve experienced both. I’ve been with a guy who only wanted to make me orgasm because he liked it. It was a turn on for him and he also tried to use that to have some kind of power over me. Physically it felt good but emotionally it felt shitty and I had no regrets about cutting him loose. Contrast that with my bf who does get very turned on by making me orgasm, but with him it’s less about just getting that physiological response and more about really wanting me to feel good. There’s no hint of…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/08/26 05:12 PM
–	Men, do you genuinely care about your partner's pleasure and well-being during intimacy? Then what’s your confusion about what constitutes real pleasure?	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/08/26 05:04 PM
3	CMV: Working women who plan to have their parents and siblings raise their children have no right to complain that a stay at home parent does not pull their weight, because wtf You don’t know the half of it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/08/26 05:03 PM
–	Men, do you genuinely care about your partner's pleasure and well-being during intimacy? Let’s say for example that someone shoved their fingers in your ass without your consent and your body had a physiological response to that and you got an erection. Would that be real pleasure? Is the fact that you got an erection in that scenario proof that you were enjoying it and wanted it?	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/08/26 04:58 PM
–	Men, do you genuinely care about your partner's pleasure and well-being during intimacy? I understand the distinction that you’re talking about. Ideally you’ll have a situation where it’s both. My bf gets extremely turned on by giving me orgasms, but he also makes sure that I’m enjoying it too, and I feel the same about him. It took me a very long time to find.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/08/26 04:53 PM
5	CMV: Working women who plan to have their parents and siblings raise their children have no right to complain that a stay at home parent does not pull their weight, because wtf Not uncommon at all.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/08/26 04:51 PM
–	Men, do you genuinely care about your partner's pleasure and well-being during intimacy? You’ve been lucky. I would say that only about 10% of my past sexual partners were memorable in any positive way, and I’ve had close to the same number of partners that you have.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/08/26 04:47 PM
–	Men, do you genuinely care about your partner's pleasure and well-being during intimacy? There are men out there that really care about their partner’s pleasure and are genuinely attracted to their partner even if she doesn’t look like an IG model, but I have personally found it to not be the norm. It 100% worth holding out for. Don’t commit to anyone who isn’t giving you that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/08/26 04:45 PM
–	Men, do you genuinely care about your partner's pleasure and well-being during intimacy? Wrong. If a guy is ONS material it because either the sex was boring and not good, or he has issues that make him unsuitable for a long term relationship, or both. The vast majority of men I have had sex with I had zero desire to lock down.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/08/26 04:38 PM
4	CMV: Working women who plan to have their parents and siblings raise their children have no right to complain that a stay at home parent does not pull their weight, because wtf Based on the sheer volume of housework and childcare I had to attend to the minute I got home when my child’s father was SAH, probably not. I would often come home to the house being in significantly worse condition than I had left it, and he would be playing games on his computer, oblivious to what our child needed.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/08/26 04:30 PM
8	CMV: Working women who plan to have their parents and siblings raise their children have no right to complain that a stay at home parent does not pull their weight, because wtf My family members actually watched my child and attended to her needs. Her father did not. Simple as.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/08/26 04:24 PM
3	Women, are your sex toys bigger or smaller than your partner's penis? Yeah same, all the dildos in my home belong to my bf and I have never used them on myself.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/08/26 04:17 PM
3	"The ick" is an excellent example of how modern women encourage narcissistic self glorification among each other Like a brother, one might say.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/08/26 02:40 PM
46	"The ick" is an excellent example of how modern women encourage narcissistic self glorification among each other Your definition is completely off base. I have mostly seen it referred to as something that just turns you off without there being anything serious behind it. I don’t date people who chew gum. I find it to be revolting. That doesn’t mean they are bad people.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/08/26 02:21 PM
4	Men being unmasculine is not mainly shameful because "woman bad". Yeah same. I love that my bf is cute, and small, and soft. I love that he wears my clothes. I love that he has pretty eyes and a soft voice. I want to protect him at all costs.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/08/26 02:16 PM
2	Women, are your sex toys bigger or smaller than your partner's penis? And there are also a very wide variety of sizes because different people want different sizes. Ultimately the average doesn’t really matter all that much. A size that would be too small for one person might be too big for someone else.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/08/26 02:08 PM
2	Women, are your sex toys bigger or smaller than your partner's penis? Because I want to be able to bottom out when I use a strap on? Because people have preferences for different girths?	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/08/26 01:42 PM
60	Women, are your sex toys bigger or smaller than your partner's penis? I don’t use penetrative toys.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/08/26 10:39 AM
4	Anal sex in a heterosexual relationship is an abomination What are you five years old? You clean it out first.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/08/26 06:28 AM
2	Most above average men want kids and I think a lot of women that want a child-free life don’t fully realize that. That tracks.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/26 10:34 PM
1	Most above average men want kids and I think a lot of women that want a child-free life don’t fully realize that. I’m not talking about women. In fact I didn’t bring them up at all.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/26 09:05 PM
3	CMV: People who complain that stay-at-home dads don't pull their weight in housework are people who were never interested in the lifestyle in the first place and thus should not have an opinion on the relationship style No, I had a whole comment I was gonna type up but then decided it wasn’t worth the effort.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/26 09:08 AM
2	CMV: People who complain that stay-at-home dads don't pull their weight in housework are people who were never interested in the lifestyle in the first place and thus should not have an opinion on the relationship style I’d elaborate on that, but frankly I don’t care enough about your response.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/26 08:16 AM
3	CMV: People who complain that stay-at-home dads don't pull their weight in housework are people who were never interested in the lifestyle in the first place and thus should not have an opinion on the relationship style lol, you’re so delusional.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/26 07:49 AM
3	CMV: People who complain that stay-at-home dads don't pull their weight in housework are people who were never interested in the lifestyle in the first place and thus should not have an opinion on the relationship style Umm, you just said that people who were critical of the idea of having a SAHD were not people who were actually interested in having one. I’m critical because I’ve been there, done that, and lucky my child is still alive.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/26 07:47 AM
3	CMV: People who complain that stay-at-home dads don't pull their weight in housework are people who were never interested in the lifestyle in the first place and thus should not have an opinion on the relationship style My daughter learned how to make bread when she was like 12 because there was nothing else to eat in the house. ☹️	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/26 03:07 AM
12	CMV: People who complain that stay-at-home dads don't pull their weight in housework are people who were never interested in the lifestyle in the first place and thus should not have an opinion on the relationship style Yep, and his odds of finding an anti-feminist or even non-feminist woman who is all cool with that are slim to none.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/26 03:02 AM
3	CMV: People who complain that stay-at-home dads don't pull their weight in housework are people who were never interested in the lifestyle in the first place and thus should not have an opinion on the relationship style Oh yeah, it got worse after we split up and I couldn’t keep an eye on things anymore. At least at that point she was able to somewhat fend for herself.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/26 02:56 AM
14	CMV: People who complain that stay-at-home dads don't pull their weight in housework are people who were never interested in the lifestyle in the first place and thus should not have an opinion on the relationship style My daughter’s dad stayed at home with her while I worked for a while. It was an absolute disaster. I had to quit my job because it was bordering on neglect, and I still had to do all the cooking and cleaning.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/26 12:03 AM
23	Young men are likely more single than young women because the latter are dating each other I think this likely accounts from some of the disparity. But not the majority. There is also the issue of the woman considering herself to be in a relationship while the man does not.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/08/26 06:29 PM
1	Most above average men want kids and I think a lot of women that want a child-free life don’t fully realize that. I’m much older now and I’m still dating a man who fits that description.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/26 09:43 PM
5	Most above average men want kids and I think a lot of women that want a child-free life don’t fully realize that. I get it, but everyone’s different. I dated plenty of guys my age when I was 25 and didn’t care if they were “established”.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/26 07:16 PM
4	Most above average men want kids and I think a lot of women that want a child-free life don’t fully realize that. I don’t agree but you are certainly entitled to wait if you prefer.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/26 07:08 PM
6	Most above average men want kids and I think a lot of women that want a child-free life don’t fully realize that. You could certainly date someone your age who also wants kids someday. 🤷	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/26 07:06 PM
11	Most above average men want kids and I think a lot of women that want a child-free life don’t fully realize that. Most of us are not looking for a relationship with an expiration date. If you are going to want kids someday then you’re not a good option for a woman who wants to remain child free.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/26 07:01 PM
1	I'm tired of the lying and the Gaslighting. Women approaching men has MORE advantages then if a guy approaches women. Tbf I doubt they would have been interested in me if I had never approached.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/26 06:42 PM
10	Most above average men want kids and I think a lot of women that want a child-free life don’t fully realize that. “I’m not saying to marry a bum just because he doesn’t want kids. But maybe a younger guy who didn’t go to college and doesn’t make as much money but is still disciplined with money, health, etc” What am I misinterpreting? These guys mostly want kids too.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/26 06:41 PM
11	Most above average men want kids and I think a lot of women that want a child-free life don’t fully realize that. Your odds are not any better with a so-called “lower value male”.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/26 06:33 PM
1	I'm tired of the lying and the Gaslighting. Women approaching men has MORE advantages then if a guy approaches women. I lived in Seattle for most incidents and San Francisco for one of them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/26 06:22 PM
19	Most above average men want kids and I think a lot of women that want a child-free life don’t fully realize that. Men that are emotionally immature, not very smart, and low income want kids too.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/26 06:19 PM
5	I'm tired of the lying and the Gaslighting. Women approaching men has MORE advantages then if a guy approaches women. No idea but I never would have approached them because if uglier guys rejected me then why would I expect different results with a more attractive guy?	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/26 04:47 PM
1	I'm tired of the lying and the Gaslighting. Women approaching men has MORE advantages then if a guy approaches women. Dozens	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/26 04:46 PM
1	I'm tired of the lying and the Gaslighting. Women approaching men has MORE advantages then if a guy approaches women. My experience has been otherwise. There have been MANY times that I was harassed in public with plenty of people right there who did nothing.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/26 04:46 PM
0	I'm tired of the lying and the Gaslighting. Women approaching men has MORE advantages then if a guy approaches women. Regardless, you’re putting an awful lot of faith I strangers to intervene when most people really aren’t interested in doing so.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/26 02:30 PM
1	I'm tired of the lying and the Gaslighting. Women approaching men has MORE advantages then if a guy approaches women. Plenty. Enough to know that it wasn’t worthwhile.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/26 02:29 PM
1	I'm tired of the lying and the Gaslighting. Women approaching men has MORE advantages then if a guy approaches women. These were men who approached me	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/26 02:18 PM
2	I'm tired of the lying and the Gaslighting. Women approaching men has MORE advantages then if a guy approaches women. Nah, I was as average as they come when I did the majority of my approaching.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/26 02:16 PM
1	I'm tired of the lying and the Gaslighting. Women approaching men has MORE advantages then if a guy approaches women. You really think I have any control over where men harass me? This was in a large city.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/26 02:15 PM
2	I'm tired of the lying and the Gaslighting. Women approaching men has MORE advantages then if a guy approaches women. Maybe for attractive neurotypical women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/26 02:05 PM
1	I'm tired of the lying and the Gaslighting. Women approaching men has MORE advantages then if a guy approaches women. Bus stops and just out walking down the sidewalk in broad daylight with plenty of other people around.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/26 02:03 PM
1	I'm tired of the lying and the Gaslighting. Women approaching men has MORE advantages then if a guy approaches women. Because that has been the case for me a hundred percent of the time I have done it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/26 01:45 PM
2	I'm tired of the lying and the Gaslighting. Women approaching men has MORE advantages then if a guy approaches women. Yet it has worked out for me many times over when the man shows interest first.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/26 01:41 PM
2	I'm tired of the lying and the Gaslighting. Women approaching men has MORE advantages then if a guy approaches women. lol no, I had to act like a psycho to get them to leave me alone while people just fucking stared.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/26 01:40 PM
0	I'm tired of the lying and the Gaslighting. Women approaching men has MORE advantages then if a guy approaches women. Who cares if a guy who isn’t interested in me is impressed? Seriously? Even if it does, it just makes things awkward between us after he rejects me. Well yes, but again, if he’s not attracted to her (which has been my experience every single time) then it’s still a net loss. Yeah I used to think that too. Turns out they just didn’t like me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/26 01:38 PM
2	I'm tired of the lying and the Gaslighting. Women approaching men has MORE advantages then if a guy approaches women. lol I have had men follow me yelling at me for rejecting them in broad daylight with plenty of people around who said and did nothing.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/26 12:36 PM
1	I'm tired of the lying and the Gaslighting. Women approaching men has MORE advantages then if a guy approaches women. I’m not even talking about cold approaching in my case. I don’t do that because I need to know something about a man’s personality before I have any interest in him. But regardless, I have seen no benefits from being the one to approach or show obvious interest first. And I have done it a lot.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/26 12:33 PM
1	I'm tired of the lying and the Gaslighting. Women approaching men has MORE advantages then if a guy approaches women. It’s only a benefit of the men I approach are receptive. Historically they have not been. And I don’t have any reason to believe that it’s because I’ve been aiming out of my league either. The men I have approached had multiple physical features that both men and women agree are less attractive (bald, fat, short, disharmonious facial features, neurodivergent). Conversely, the men who have shown interest in me first are significantly better looking. And no, they’re not just pumping and dumping me…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/26 12:28 PM
10	I'm tired of the lying and the Gaslighting. Women approaching men has MORE advantages then if a guy approaches women. Not in my experience. I wasn’t even really all that ugly when I did most of my approaching. I was pretty solidly average at that point in my life. And I approached below average men almost exclusively because I prefer not subject myself to humiliating rejection as a rule. I still got rejected constantly. Though they at least seemed to feel bad about it. Conversely the men who approached me were significantly more attractive.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/26 12:07 PM
–	It makes perfect sense to have different standards for casual sex and relationships and in fact, men do it too The number of upvotes my comment has would indicate that this meme is irrelevant.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/26 06:42 PM
3	I'm tired of the lying and the Gaslighting. Women approaching men has MORE advantages then if a guy approaches women. I’m 47 and have been making the first moves since I was 12. It has never actually panned out for me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/26 06:31 PM
1	Men get approached by women less because women rarely cold approach. Yeah I agree that women rarely cold approach. I’m just saying why I don’t do it personally.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/26 06:17 PM
1	Men get approached by women less because women rarely cold approach. I have no problems with approaching but even I don’t cold approach ever. I need to know more about a man than what he looks like to be interested in him.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/26 06:14 PM
1	What do women truly think about masculinity? I’m not a big fan of it in general. I like small doughy guys with pretty eyes.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/26 05:44 PM
1	It makes perfect sense to have different standards for casual sex and relationships and in fact, men do it too I would honestly have been happy with anything. My boyfriend finishes quickly a lot of the time and it’s not an issue for me at all. I’m just happy that he actually wants to have sex.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/26 05:32 PM
1	It makes perfect sense to have different standards for casual sex and relationships and in fact, men do it too Yeah maybe but idk why it’s so hard to find men who want a relationship and also want to have sex consistently	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/26 05:10 PM
4	It makes perfect sense to have different standards for casual sex and relationships and in fact, men do it too In both of my db relationships the man was the one who changed.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/26 02:40 PM
5	It makes perfect sense to have different standards for casual sex and relationships and in fact, men do it too Dead bedrooms happen for all kinds of reasons but usually it’s because something changes during the course of the relationship.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/26 01:46 PM
1	It makes perfect sense to have different standards for casual sex and relationships and in fact, men do it too Yeah same. I was expressly NOT wanting to start a relationship with my boyfriend after we hooked up because he lived ten hours away from me. But he won me over and I’m glad he did.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/26 01:34 PM
14	It makes perfect sense to have different standards for casual sex and relationships and in fact, men do it too I have all the same standards for a relationship that I have for a hook up, but my standards for a relationship are much higher. The men I have been in relationships with are more physically attractive than my average hook up, and I have to like them a whole lot more as people, have more in common, and have a much higher level of trust. There are certain sexual activities I will only do with someone I’m in a relationship with because it won’t be enjoyable or safe for me without that high level o…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/26 01:22 PM
2	Do women really see men in shorts as less attractive? I don’t live in the Sahara. I live in a place where people wear less when it’s hotter. Therefore it would be weird if men were not wearing shorts.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/26 05:19 AM
–	Clubbing creates completely different feedback loops for young men and women Yep, the gay club in my city is the most popular club in town, and probably fewer than half of the patrons are LGBTQ. First the straight women started going there, then the straight men followed them because they weren’t showing up to the non-gay clubs. Now it’s just a mixed orientation club with a higher than average number of rainbow flags and drag queens.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/08/26 11:24 PM
–	Clubbing creates completely different feedback loops for young men and women I have an entire collection of fancy platform Crocs for the club.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/08/26 11:18 PM
–	Clubbing creates completely different feedback loops for young men and women Yeah when I did drink I always paid for my own too. I usually only had the patience to wait in line for the bar one time max, and only at like 10pm before it was actually busy. Most of the time I don’t bother.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/08/26 11:13 PM
–	Why don't most women normally wear their hair up? Noooo! Don’t abandon me! 😆	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/08/26 10:15 PM
–	Why don't most women normally wear their hair up? Guess we’ll just have to deal with the fact that we’re inadvertently titillating this guy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/08/26 10:13 PM
–	Why don't most women normally wear their hair up? Yeah, I have only ever had guys tell me I should wear my hair down. I have bad sensory processing disorder and if my hair touches my neck it’s a terrible time for me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/08/26 10:00 PM
6	CMV: It’s valid to end a friendship if their dating success constantly reinforces your insecurities even if they did nothing wrong I’m not gonna argue. I was always the ugly friend. It was rough. I could understand that being too much for someone.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/08/26 09:57 PM
–	Clubbing creates completely different feedback loops for young men and women Also I never said I stayed sober. I just don’t like drinking at the club. It’s annoying. The lines for the bar are too long. The area around the bar is too crowded. I can’t hear fucking shit over the music when I’m trying to talk to the bartender. I have to finish my drink before I can dance again, and I have to pee way more often which means waiting in line for a sketchy gross bathroom. I just take drugs at home before I go.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/08/26 09:01 PM
–	Clubbing creates completely different feedback loops for young men and women I think I’m not the exception for not going with validation and free drinks as a primary motivator.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/08/26 08:45 PM
1	Women handle rejection worse then men That’s only a benefit if you have a snowball’s chance in hell with those men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/08/26 08:34 PM
–	Clubbing creates completely different feedback loops for young men and women Relationships, no. Casual sex, definitely. Whether successful or not, that’s a pretty big motivator for many of the men that go and at least some women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/08/26 08:33 PM
1	Women handle rejection worse then men I’m 47 and have been doing it since middle school.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/08/26 08:17 PM
0	Women handle rejection worse then men I have not experienced these supposed benefits.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/08/26 08:16 PM
–	Clubbing creates completely different feedback loops for young men and women Dating/sex is the primary reason to go to a club for many people of any gender, and I can respect that. I don’t think we fundamentally disagree at any rate. You definitely shouldn’t just assume that anyone who goes to a club is there because they want to be hit on.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/08/26 08:16 PM
0	Women handle rejection worse then men Yeah most women don’t bother with approaching because it’s not really worth it	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/08/26 08:05 PM
–	Why don't most women normally wear their hair up? No because then he’d be able to see our sexy sexy necks.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/08/26 07:13 PM
2	If you, as a woman, pay for half the date, you are agreeing that a man is entitled to your body. Yeah if you’re wanting to play badminton on dates a lot, you might have to come to terms with the reality that most people aren’t particularly good at badminton. 😆	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/08/26 06:15 PM
–	Clubbing creates completely different feedback loops for young men and women I have been hit on and groped by men at every gay club I have been to. Straight men know that women go to gay clubs to get away from them. And some guys will happily hook up with anyone of any gender who is willing.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/08/26 06:12 PM
–	Clubbing creates completely different feedback loops for young men and women Hell, I don’t even blame men for shooting their shot. I get it. Lots of people do go to the club for that reason, even if a fairly large percentage don’t. But I’m not there because I want that. It’s at best a neutral experience for me that can quickly turn into a negative interaction depending on the guy involved.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/08/26 06:09 PM
–	Clubbing creates completely different feedback loops for young men and women I go to LGBTQ bars/clubs exclusively. But a lot of straight men do too, because I’m far from the only woman who does that. And weird how I’m “the exception” yet I only have men arguing with me about this. Why is it so hard for men to admit that maybe women are being honest? I like going on vacations. I hate not having adequate personal space on the airplane. I still fly places because overall it’s worth the trade off. Could I just drive instead? Could I just stay home? Sure. But those choices al…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/08/26 06:05 PM
–	Clubbing creates completely different feedback loops for young men and women No I don’t believe that I am an exception.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/08/26 05:52 PM
9	Women objectively have it better than men in the modern western world And bigger and stronger.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/08/26 04:47 PM
5	Women objectively have it better than men in the modern western world That’s not an accurate description of how most catcalling goes.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/08/26 04:47 PM
7	Women objectively have it better than men in the modern western world Oh I love when people bring up the “pig women” experiment when it was absolutely shockingly obvious that the men talking to “her” were Nigerian romance scammers. They even used their own pics for Pete’s sake. Figures that men would consider being the target of scam artists as a privilege.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/08/26 04:43 PM
2	If you, as a woman, pay for half the date, you are agreeing that a man is entitled to your body. I’m assuming if he’s taking me on a date to McD’s it’s because he wants to go to McD’s. Never in my life have I asked a date to take me there. But I have had some guys suggest it and I happily went.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/08/26 04:33 PM
1	The gym is meant to be a safe space not a place for men to try to hit on or date them Yes, thank you. I hate that my guard goes up immediately if a man approaches me, even if he’s not intending to hit on me at all. But I have had enough of these situations so situations go sideways so fast, that now my initial visceral reaction is fear. Men who are respectful absolutely suffer due to men who are not.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/08/26 04:04 PM
1	The gym is meant to be a safe space not a place for men to try to hit on or date them Most women don’t mind being approached in these places, what we mind is when men don’t gracefully take no for an answer. I particularly hate it and feel unsafe when it’s a situation where I can’t just leave (bus stop or bus/train, laundromat, while I’m working, etc.)	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/08/26 03:52 PM
–	Clubbing creates completely different feedback loops for young men and women I like the environment, the volume, and I like being able to dance without having a judgmental audience of cats and my roommate. I like dancing with people, whether I know them or not. What I do not like is being groped non-consensually, or followed around by someone who isn’t respectful of my boundaries.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/08/26 03:37 PM
2	If you, as a woman, pay for half the date, you are agreeing that a man is entitled to your body. How can I be using a guy for food he is going to eat himself?	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/08/26 02:20 PM
–	Clubbing creates completely different feedback loops for young men and women For your cousin maybe. Even when I was single and went to clubs alone or with female friends, I didn’t drink.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/08/26 02:19 PM
–	Clubbing creates completely different feedback loops for young men and women What if I told you that I go to clubs because I like to dance (and I like that style of music as well as the ambiance of that environment). I prefer going with my boyfriend because it greatly reduces my chances of being harassed or assaulted. I also know that any sexually charged contact is going to be with someone I like and am fully consenting to being touched by.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/08/26 02:03 PM
1	If you, as a woman, pay for half the date, you are agreeing that a man is entitled to your body. If I ate $30 worth of McDonald’s I would be puking like that lightweight in Supersize Me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/08/26 01:45 PM
4	Men not enjoying being single and alone makes it easier for women to have power over them. Honestly that’s just my kink. I don’t even need to get anything material out of it. Being in control is more than enough for me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/08/26 06:33 AM
1	Most of the women who have difficulties dating are just low value as sexual partners. Both.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/08/26 01:30 AM
1	Most of the women who have difficulties dating are just low value as sexual partners. To your earlier point, I have had some really really traumatic experiences because of my compulsive sexual desire. And I like kinky sex. But I only engage in those kinks with someone I fully trust and have a relationship with. This isn’t unusual for hypersexual women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/08/26 12:15 AM
1	Most of the women who have difficulties dating are just low value as sexual partners. We had opposite work schedules for a long time and that made it harder. If it were up to me it would be more often, but I don’t want to burn him out.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/08/26 12:08 AM
1	Most of the women who have difficulties dating are just low value as sexual partners. It varies depending on his and my work schedules. 5-6x a week on average probably. When he wasn’t working it was a lot more often.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/08/26 11:59 PM
1	Most of the women who have difficulties dating are just low value as sexual partners. As often as possible. I have never turned down my bf.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/08/26 11:34 PM
0	Society is not being entirely transparent about what attracts people. Hence you shouldn’t listen to anyone’s opinions about it. Well the last woman I was with who met that description dumped me for someone much hotter than I am. Her ex was really attractive too.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/08/26 10:43 PM
0	Society is not being entirely transparent about what attracts people. Hence you shouldn’t listen to anyone’s opinions about it. Rating a 300 lb woman highly doesn’t make someone a “glazer” or dishonest is the thing. I’m very much attracted to large women. Way more than I am women with conventionally attractive body shapes. I don’t take the concept of leagues seriously at all.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/08/26 10:19 PM
3	Q4W: Would it be crazy to ask men to be a bit more gay? My boyfriend is bi and is much more attracted to men than women in general. He’s very “gay coded” and I love that about him. But I’m honestly really confused about this question. I have met and known of some absolutely horrible gay men. One of my good friends was drugged and violently raped by two men and contacted HIV from the attack. And I have several straight male friends whom I would trust with my life.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/08/26 05:13 PM
17	Q4W: What do you mean by emotional intelligence? Autistic people can learn these skills.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/08/26 03:35 PM
7	Q4W: What do you mean by emotional intelligence? Idk if I have ever specifically used that descriptor, but here’s what I want from a man on that front: Willing and able to talk about things that are bothering him. Not emotionally stifled or stunted. Would rather have a guy who cries really easily than not at all. I strongly prefer emotional vulnerability to stoicism. I am supportive and comforting when my partner is going through it, and I want someone who will do the same for me. I want a partner who is moved emotionally by things like art, m…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/08/26 03:33 PM
7	Why do women lose interest so quickly? lol yeah that’s what I was thinking too. Dudes are just as flaky on apps. I have had so many ghost me before a scheduled date.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/08/26 03:05 PM
2	Do women really see men in shorts as less attractive? Me too! 😆	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/08/26 02:49 PM
1	How do women know what about personality turns them on? No, it’s hard to find anything that isn’t paywalled anymore if you want a full study.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/08/26 09:31 AM
2	The overwhelming are women are painstakingly disingenuous about gender roles. They want gender roles not because "it's sexy" and more because a laziness and convenience Most women, yeah. But we’re not pretending we all love being approached by anyone either. I’ve had enough terrifying situations with strange men approaching me that I kinda hate it regardless of what the guy looks like. Men get particularly hateful if they are rejected by a woman perceived as beneath him.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/08/26 09:27 AM
1	How do women know what about personality turns them on? People (including women) tend to judge their own attractiveness more harshly than others do. I’m not in the minority.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/08/26 06:06 AM
1	How do women know what about personality turns them on? I don’t ever wear makeup or any of that stuff you listed. I own almost nothing besides t shirts, hoodies and joggers. I wouldn’t even begin to know how to rate myself, or them. I was attracted to them (still very much am attracted to my boyfriend). I would say that my boyfriend and I are probably looks matched, but unlike the other two guys he has at least average facial attractiveness. Before we met he had had sex with a woman only once (he was 33), and didn’t get very many matches on grindr (h…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/08/26 05:40 AM
3	The overwhelming are women are painstakingly disingenuous about gender roles. They want gender roles not because "it's sexy" and more because a laziness and convenience Maybe show me where I have personally ever said things like this to a man and you might have some kind of point.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/08/26 05:08 AM
5	The overwhelming are women are painstakingly disingenuous about gender roles. They want gender roles not because "it's sexy" and more because a laziness and convenience Oh cool, so any fucked up batshit insane thing a man says on here I can attribute to you as well? What a dumb fucking conversation.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/08/26 04:54 AM
3	The overwhelming are women are painstakingly disingenuous about gender roles. They want gender roles not because "it's sexy" and more because a laziness and convenience Who are you responding to, because it isn’t me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/08/26 04:46 AM
2	The overwhelming are women are painstakingly disingenuous about gender roles. They want gender roles not because "it's sexy" and more because a laziness and convenience lol show me where I said I was entitled to men wanting to date me? I’m saying it’s not an effective strategy for women unless maybe they’re really conventionally attractive and neurotypical.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/08/26 02:20 AM
1	The overwhelming are women are painstakingly disingenuous about gender roles. They want gender roles not because "it's sexy" and more because a laziness and convenience Yeah well I’m autistic so it more than likely has at least a little to do with that. But that just bolsters my point. Let’s not pretend that men are always gonna be overjoyed and receptive at being approached by a woman. They only want to be approached by certain women. Not below average women. Not autistic awkward women. Not gender non-conforming women. Not women they think are “sluts”.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/08/26 02:18 AM
7	Do women really see men in shorts as less attractive? It’s been in the hundreds where I live. It would be weird if dudes weren’t wearing shorts. To answer your other questions, sandals are fine. Speedos are fine, though I think trunks look better. Crocs are a green flag.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/08/26 11:55 PM
1	How do women know what about personality turns them on? You said “all women” say this to virtue signal. I’m included in “all women”. And now you’re trying to backtrack by saying that these men were not actually “ugly”. Even if that were true (it’s not) my feelings about them changed because of their confidence. I’m capable of being objective though. The first guy was paunchy with a really puffy face, bad acne, and long greasy hair. All of my friends thought he was gross looking. Even my male friends. My boyfriend started going bald at 16 and is about…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/08/26 09:13 PM
1	Most of the women who have difficulties dating are just low value as sexual partners. You clearly haven’t dated any men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/08/26 08:13 PM
2	Most of the women who have difficulties dating are just low value as sexual partners. I’m literally hypersexual and I still feel repulsed by men who are too direct about it too early. It does not turn me on in the slightest because it’s disrespectful, overbearing, and presumptuous. I have a very high sex drive, but I also have to feel safe and respected by my partner before I get super horny like that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/08/26 08:00 PM
1	There is no excuse for a man to wait until after a woman is pregnant to tell her that he wants a paternity test. Damn straight. If a guy pulled that shit on me I’d be getting an abortion as soon as the paternity test came back positive. No way in hell am I going to leash myself to someone like that for the rest of my life.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/08/26 07:53 PM
1	What do women think about other women who expect elaborate, movie-like romantic gestures without communicating those expectations, reciprocating similar effort, and making it a deciding factor if the guy actually loves you? He’s like a real-life cryptid!	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/08/26 07:36 PM
3	The overwhelming are women are painstakingly disingenuous about gender roles. They want gender roles not because "it's sexy" and more because a laziness and convenience Even if they don’t see her approaching other guys, they seem to assume that she will if she was acting that way with him.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/08/26 07:35 PM
2	The overwhelming are women are painstakingly disingenuous about gender roles. They want gender roles not because "it's sexy" and more because a laziness and convenience Oh gotcha. So when men say they would love to be approached by a woman, what they really mean is that they would love to be approached by a hot woman. 🙄 Look, the less forward I am with men, the less likely they have been to ghost me or friend zone me. With the exception of my boyfriend, as I said. And his pet name for me is “Daddy”. Straight men are not like that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/08/26 07:33 PM
1	How do women know what about personality turns them on? I just love when men on this sub think they know more about me than I do. The first guy I was ever head over heels for, the first time I saw him I physically recoiled because I thought he was ugly af. He had me eating out of his hand (not literally) within a week. The first time I saw my boyfriend on his webcam I thought he was really unattractive. Now I think he’s the best looking guy I have ever been with.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/08/26 07:26 PM
3	The overwhelming are women are painstakingly disingenuous about gender roles. They want gender roles not because "it's sexy" and more because a laziness and convenience You don’t have any idea how many men I have asked out. And when I say that it works great with women, I’m not speaking for other women. I’m saying that women do not find it off-putting to be approached by me like men do.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/08/26 05:35 PM
1	How do women know what about personality turns them on? Confidence makes ugly men way more attractive to me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/08/26 05:14 PM
2	How do women know what about personality turns them on? Charles Manson was 5’2” and looked batshit insane.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/08/26 05:04 PM
4	The overwhelming are women are painstakingly disingenuous about gender roles. They want gender roles not because "it's sexy" and more because a laziness and convenience I have made the first moves a LOT and I have not found a lot of men who like it. Works great with women though.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/08/26 04:59 PM
3	The overwhelming are women are painstakingly disingenuous about gender roles. They want gender roles not because "it's sexy" and more because a laziness and convenience Nah, I’m basing this on my own experience. When I take the lead in approaching, asking guys out, paying for dates (or at least trying to) it has rarely panned out for me in any positive way. The only guy it has ever gone well with is my current boyfriend who is used to dating men. The vast majority of men, particularly straight men, are very put off by it in reality.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/08/26 04:57 PM
6	What do women think about other women who expect elaborate, movie-like romantic gestures without communicating those expectations, reciprocating similar effort, and making it a deciding factor if the guy actually loves you? Man, idk. My algorithm is like 50% Jimothy these days with the rest made up by various proportions of clown content, weird art, and funny cat videos. I’m lucky that my boyfriend understands the assignment and uses this knowledge to woo me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/08/26 04:44 PM
7	Brutal truth: as you get old and the more you fail in relationships, higher chances you'll die alone Assisted living facilities are having huge problems with the spread of STI’s nowadays. It’s never too late. 🤣	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/08/26 04:31 PM
2	The overwhelming are women are painstakingly disingenuous about gender roles. They want gender roles not because "it's sexy" and more because a laziness and convenience Every dude thinks he would love this. My experience has been very very different.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/08/26 04:29 PM
-2	The overwhelming are women are painstakingly disingenuous about gender roles. They want gender roles not because "it's sexy" and more because a laziness and convenience It’s not out of laziness. It’s out of knowing that men are just as socialized into gender roles as women are, and doing these things makes you seem masculine to men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/08/26 04:22 PM
5	Preference to not date or marry victims of abuse Sexual abuse is also strongly associated with hypersexuality. Doesn’t really make sense to just impose a blanket ban when people are individuals and are affected or not affected by trauma in completely different ways.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/08/26 03:49 PM
2	Preference to not date or marry victims of abuse People can date or not date who they want, and I’m also perfectly free to think that’s a completely shitty thing to do. It’s also not an unusual thing to do although most won’t admit it. And that’s part of the reason people who have had these experiences tend to be revictimized, or at the very least struggle to get into healthy relationships. I’m not being hypocritical by saying this either. Two of my exes have had a history of sexual abuse and my current boyfriend was in an abusive relationship…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/08/26 03:42 PM
–	Why do women who claim to be progressive still feed the patriarchy? You can try to raise your children however you want, but even if you manage to convince them to stifle parts of themselves for the sake of having a larger percentage of the opposite sex finding them attractive, it comes at a cost. Personally, I value authenticity above appealing to the largest possible demographic. I was raised to be submissive, feminine, and ladylike, but I was never going to be that kind of person. Even if I tried, people saw through it. People have been calling me a dyke sinc…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/08/26 12:35 PM
11	How do women know what about personality turns them on? The first time I remember feeling attracted to my boyfriend, we were at a club and I got too hot so I took off the fake fur hooded vest I was wearing. He was cold so I told him to put it on. (It was a rooftop dance floor). He was really feeling himself in that vest and started to dance super flamboyantly. I was like “oh ok, he’s actually very cute.” He came out of his queer little shell and I was about it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/07/26 01:48 PM
5	Q4W: How would you vet another woman if you were looking for one to date? Of course they do. Not every woman is going to be into you just because you’re also a woman.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/07/26 04:33 AM
5	Q4W: How would you vet another woman if you were looking for one to date? If a woman isn’t really texting you back, or is noncommittal on plans, she’s just not that into you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/07/26 04:01 AM
7	Q4W: How would you vet another woman if you were looking for one to date? I’m bisexual and had a long term relationship with a woman. The most important thing I looked for was whether it felt like she was putting effort into the earlier stages of the relationship. Not necessarily a fully equal amount, but definitely a solid amount. I did generally approach, pay for dates, make first moves, but I didn’t want to feel like it was pulling teeth to get responses. I wanted to feel like she was actually interested in me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/07/26 03:53 AM
1	Women handle rejection worse then men If they’re going to a gay club to creep on women, what makes you think they’re drunk. None of them was acting drunk.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/26 09:09 AM
1	Women handle rejection worse then men I didn’t think I needed to mention it since that’s what we were talking about. I’m not interested in hearing you rationalize why what happened to me somehow doesn’t “count”. I don’t give a shit what narrow parameters you have set up in your head. My experiences are why I fear strange men approaching me. My experiences are why I fear having to turn a guy down. Stalking, rape, sexual assault, and having some man scream inches from my face are plenty of fucking reason. I do not have to be beat up o…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/26 02:34 AM
1	Women handle rejection worse then men Firstly, the first two guys were actively trying to hit on me. The fact that they were probably either mentally ill or on drugs is irrelevant. The second guy beat the shit out of the person who came to my defense. He was violent, no doubt about it. Who the fuck knows what would have happened if the homeless guy hadn’t been there to intervene. It happened ten years ago and I still worry about whether he was ok. Had my phone not been about to die I would not have left. But getting my daughter home…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/26 12:56 AM
1	Women handle rejection worse then men Yeah they don’t want either with me most of the time.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/26 08:25 PM
1	Women handle rejection worse then men I certainly don’t mind approaching, it’s just honestly never once worked out for me. The only time it ever kinda did, I was just wanting to hang out as friends and he thought I was wanting something more, while I assumed he wouldn’t be interested in me so I wasn’t even really trying. Most of the time men seem really put off by it. Straight men do anyway. My boyfriend isn’t straight (I thought he was gay initially but he’s bi).	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/26 06:52 PM
1	Women handle rejection worse then men Men are just sneakier about it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/26 06:02 PM
1	Women handle rejection worse then men In one incident a guy had me cornered in an empty train car and was literally screaming at me. I told him that I was married and he accused me of lying. He also had asked me if I was Russian and I had said that I wasn’t and he was accusing me of lying about that too. He seemed like he was an EDP, or possibly on drugs. I balled up in my seat and covered my face and told him I didn’t want to talk anymore (never did in the first place but he wouldn’t leave me alone and clearly being polite wasn’t g…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/26 12:45 PM
3	Women handle rejection worse then men Maybe you just didn’t see it. I’ve had guys follow me around nightclubs after I pointedly leave and move to another part of the dance floor because they wouldn’t stop groping me even after I repeatedly pushed their hands off of me. In once case the guy didn’t stop until I elbowed him hard in the gut. In other cases women I didn’t even know got inbetween and pushed them away from me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/26 12:02 PM
2	Women handle rejection worse then men Why shouldn’t I have fear of it happening to me when it has happened to me many times over? I have had terrifying experiences after rejecting men. Not always, but often enough that it’s constantly in the back of my mind when I have to do it again.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/26 08:18 AM
7	Women handle rejection worse then men Men react badly much more often to being rejected by a woman. Especially a woman he perceives as less attractive than him.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/26 08:13 AM
5	CMV: Many bisexual men are not as "lopsided" towards straight as people think they are; their gay side simply resembles the typical straight women's attraction towards men Anyone who thinks that bi men aren’t actually bi is an idiot, full stop. My boyfriend has a really rigid physical type with men, but not with women. I have a really rigid physical type with women but not with men. He still has a strong preference for men and I have a strong preference for women. I’m the first woman he has had a serious relationship with and the second woman he has ever had sex with. There are many reasons why bisexual people of all genders are more likely to wind up with someone…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/26 08:12 AM
–	Height for a guy actually matters? Some women care a lot, some women don’t at all. Some men really care a lot about being taller than the woman they’re with too. I’ve been rejected by men my height or shorter. I’m 5’2”.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/26 07:54 AM
6	Women handle rejection worse then men I’m referring to the study. Having stronger negative feelings does not equal lashing out at the person who rejected you. You have not experienced rejecting a man as a woman either. I have had absolutely terrifying experiences after rejecting men, or even them perceiving that I was rejecting them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/26 07:47 AM
1	Women handle rejection worse then men Oh no. They say all women want this.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/26 04:09 AM
1	Women handle rejection worse then men Weird because I have been led to believe that women only like hypermasculine men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/26 02:39 AM
2	What system of dating have you created? I haven’t done online dating in almost a decade. It’s completely broken.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/26 01:51 AM
1	Women handle rejection worse then men Asking men out. Wanting to pay for dates. I have to play this stupid game where I pretend to be less interested than I am because if I pursue too hard they always bail.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/26 01:38 AM
2	Women handle rejection worse then men Cool I will add you to the pile of men who don’t believe me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/26 01:36 AM
4	Women handle rejection worse then men This is based on my experience of approaching men long past college. The more forward I am, the more likely they are to ghost me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/26 01:34 AM
1	Women handle rejection worse then men A large part of it was because of my personality. Not because my personality is bad but because of just who I am fundamentally. It’s like a repellant for straight men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/26 01:25 AM
4	Women handle rejection worse then men Because those are by and large the only ones that work. Men internalize social norms too and a woman doing the approaching is seen as “masculine” and “desperate”.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/26 01:13 AM
3	Women handle rejection worse then men I’m autistic and very masculine, both physically and in terms of my personality and mannerisms. Believe me, I know how it is to be rejected for things outside of my control. Even when I spent a lot of time and effort into looking, acting, and sounding more feminine, it wasn’t anywhere near enough. When I just gave up on trying to do that I had basically zero men interested in me for years on end. I just dated women and never expected a man to want me again. I never blamed men for not being inter…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/26 12:28 AM
3	Women handle rejection worse then men I’m not sure you’re understanding me. I’m not blaming men for having preferences. There’s nothing wrong with that. I’m pushing back against the statements made on this sub that men “can’t afford” to have preferences. They do. Even men who are getting next to zero interest from women will still reject women who they’re not attracted to. As is their absolute right. I’m not sure why you’re bringing up men pretending to be friends with women just to get close to them. It’s not really relevant to wha…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/26 12:00 AM
6	Women handle rejection worse then men Yes, that’s why I take such issue with a lot of these things being repeated on this sub. Men can and do have preferences. Men can and do turn down women for all kinds of reasons. Women doing all the approaching is not the answer to modern dating issues. The difference between men approaching and women approaching is that men tend to decide whether or not to approach pretty quickly and with very little information about that woman. Not always, of course, but men are much more willing to approach …	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/07/26 09:30 PM
1	Urbanization Is Contributing to Both Sexlessness and Hypersexuality. I don’t really get how it would relate to hypersexuality? HS is typically associated with early in life sexual abuse and/or mental illness or personality disorders.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/07/26 08:47 PM
11	Women handle rejection worse then men Way to miss the point. Having stronger negative feelings after rejection does not automatically mean that those feelings are directed at the person who rejected you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/07/26 08:42 PM
1	Why is relationship a womans job? Lol no, I was drawing those examples directly from the comment I was responding to. You tacked your comment on as though it was in any way relevant.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/07/26 08:34 PM
12	Women handle rejection worse then men No, I just have men and culture putting out the message constantly that women are the selectors. That all a woman has to do is make the first move and it will be like shooting fish in a barrel. That men will fuck “anything”. So when I’m not even wanted for an easy lay, not even by guys that my friend described as “subhuman”, it hurts pretty fucking bad.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/07/26 08:31 PM
2	Women don’t actually need men anymore. So what incentive is left for commitment? It took me decades to find a guy who treats me this well and has the best sexual chemistry with me, plus many interests in common and a personality that compliments mine. Why on earth would I not want to lock that down?	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/07/26 07:59 PM
60	Women handle rejection worse then men I’ve been rejected a lot and while I do have pretty strong negative feelings afterward, those feelings are very internalized. I don’t take it out on the guy/woman and I wait till I’m alone to cry. It just makes me feel like I’m ugly and unlovable.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/07/26 07:48 PM
1	CMV: It is not the premature ejaculator's job to solve the problem, it is the other partner's, because they are the ones who wants them to last longer I’m not telling anyone else to not trust men without consistent strong evidence. That’s my deal. Abusers are more drawn to people who have been abused in the past, so I have even more reason to be careful than some other people do. It’s not simply about fear that something may happen for me. It’s fear based on things that have happened. I have the absolute right to protect myself. I have the absolute right to not get close to men in order to do that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/07/26 11:05 PM
1	CMV: It is not the premature ejaculator's job to solve the problem, it is the other partner's, because they are the ones who wants them to last longer I’m not talking about one or two adverse experiences. I’m talking about a literal lifetime of adverse experiences. Trusting men has led to a lot of horrible things happening to me and to my female family members. Increasing what it takes for me to give a man my trust is my absolute right. In fact men have called me stupid for trusting the men that hurt me in the first place. I can’t make any of you happy, so I might as well do what I need to do to protect myself. I don’t see any connection betwe…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/07/26 09:38 PM
1	CMV: It is not the premature ejaculator's job to solve the problem, it is the other partner's, because they are the ones who wants them to last longer If you want a bunch of statistics I can give you those too. But it’s ultimately irrelevant TO ME. It wasn’t a bad experience with one man, it had been many men spanning my whole life. That doesn’t mean I don’t trust any men, but it takes a lot more for me to feel like I can. If a man had nearly universally poor experiences with women I would not blame him for feeling the same way.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/07/26 07:37 PM
1	CMV: It is not the premature ejaculator's job to solve the problem, it is the other partner's, because they are the ones who wants them to last longer My experiences are what led to me not trusting men or thinking very highly of them as a group. There are some men that I trust in addition to my boyfriend but not many. They have all had men do horrible things to them too though. In my world and in my life it has not been a minority of men doing these things. It has been the rule rather than the exception.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/07/26 06:50 PM
1	CMV: It is not the premature ejaculator's job to solve the problem, it is the other partner's, because they are the ones who wants them to last longer Men like the one who raped my daughter starting when she was 8 years old. Men like the ADA who fucked up some paperwork on the plea deal for the guy who did it, allowing him to get a third of his sentence taken off because my daughter just wanted to move on and not spend the next several years dealing with the justice system again. Men like the one that got drunk and beat me up. Men like the adult who predated on me when I was in high school. Men like the ones that raped me, sexually assaulted m…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/07/26 06:27 PM
1	CMV: It is not the premature ejaculator's job to solve the problem, it is the other partner's, because they are the ones who wants them to last longer I don’t try to say that i don’t have disdain for men. It has been well earned. Spending any amount of time on this sub has only reinforced it for me as well. I don’t abuse my boyfriend. On the contrary, my only instinct is to protect him. He knows exactly how awful, disgusting and dangerous most men are. He dated men almost exclusively before we met. He says they’re “absolutely vile”. It’s also telling that you can’t come up with even one example of an antifeminist man with the type of relations…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/07/26 02:17 PM
1	CMV: It is not the premature ejaculator's job to solve the problem, it is the other partner's, because they are the ones who wants them to last longer Every post you have made here is evidence of that. And yeah, I’m sure there are misogynistic women out there. But they’re not the same women who are going to be cool with supporting you financially and being sexually dominant. I am that type of woman and I’m only willing to do that for a man who recognizes his inferiority.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/07/26 10:36 AM
1	CMV: It is not the premature ejaculator's job to solve the problem, it is the other partner's, because they are the ones who wants them to last longer Who are you talking to? I haven’t once said that I think gay and bi men are misogynistic. I do think that about you though, just to be clear. You’re an annoying and terrible example because your disdain for women is obvious and palpable. Because of that, the chances of you finding what you want in a woman are negligible. But good luck with that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/07/26 08:20 AM
1	Most men give their attention so freely to women that it doesn't mean anything to them anymore. If only	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/07/26 08:12 AM
2	Why is relationship a womans job? lol I make twice as much as my boyfriend. All I care about is that he is happy and fulfilled with what he does. If it were totally up to me he wouldn’t be working at all, but he wants to.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/07/26 02:07 AM
1	Why is relationship a womans job? So you’re just throwing out another unrelated statement for no reason? Ok then.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/07/26 01:45 AM
5	Men following other men's advices because you "don't ask a fish how to fish" is pretty stupide It’s a stupid analogy because fish don’t want to be caught. If you are trying to get women who don’t want you, that’s the problem. If you have to trick a woman into being with you then YOU are the problem.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/07/26 10:07 PM
–	So are most men "normal and well adjusted" or are most men immoral predators? I wanted to believe that at least half of men were decent respectful people, but now I’m thinking it’s more that a whole lot of them just don’t want to have sex with me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/07/26 09:59 PM
-1	Why is relationship a womans job? In what way does giving your female partner gifts, showing her that you care about her, and “chasing” her mean that she thinks she is better than you? You’re just making less and less sense.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/07/26 09:33 PM
4	Why is relationship a womans job? All of these “reasons” are absolute bullshit.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/07/26 08:44 PM
11	Most men give their attention so freely to women that it doesn't mean anything to them anymore. I don’t get very much male attention, and I still don’t really want it most of the time. Not because the men are mostly unattractive. I don’t care about that. But because of their consistent inability to “read the room” leading to me feeling unsafe a majority of the time it happens.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/07/26 01:55 PM
5	Could having standards that are too high be helped with therapy? Yeah I kind of agree with this take. I feel pretty lucky in that I’m much more attracted to personality than specific physical features because i don’t really think that’s the norm. I have had multiple times in my life where I wasn’t physically attracted to someone at all initially, but after getting to know them that completely changed.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/07/26 11:28 PM
2	If sex isn’t something to be ashamed of, then don’t hide your desires for it. I want regular and exciting sex, and I also want that with someone I’m in love with. I don’t think that’s a crazy thing to ask for.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/07/26 02:25 PM
5	If sex isn’t something to be ashamed of, then don’t hide your desires for it. Likewise I will not live in a house that only has a bathroom. 😆	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/07/26 02:20 PM
1	Men on the whole are objectively worth less to date now than ever I believe I grew up with corporal punishment at home and in school too and wound up with borderline personality disorder and all kinds of health issues that are associated with adverse childhood experiences. There is a lot of science on this issues and it does not fall on the side of HITTING CHILDREN. I raised my child without that and she is a fully functioning and wonderful adult. I will never be on the side of hitting kids. Period.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/07/26 01:52 PM
1	Women should make the first move, its better for everyone. I already told you that I have approached men who I found out later had been incarcerated, and it did not change my level of interest.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/07/26 03:19 AM
1	Women should make the first move, its better for everyone. I wouldn’t know unless they told me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/07/26 03:16 AM
1	Women should make the first move, its better for everyone. No? I’m not in the habit of dating my family members. They’re the only ones with above average rates of incarceration. The rest of the men I know seem to have pretty average rates of incarceration. My ex husband is only in prison because I put him there after leaving him. He didn’t have any criminal history before we met.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/07/26 02:48 AM
1	Women should make the first move, its better for everyone. Probably yeah, though they don’t tend to volunteer that information. More than half of my male relatives have been. My ex husband is currently incarcerated. At least two of the guys I approached had been incarcerated, and while I did not know that until after the fact, it wasn’t an issue for me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/07/26 12:27 AM
1	Women should make the first move, its better for everyone. I have known many men that are currently incarcerated or have been in the past.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/07/26 12:09 AM
1	Women should make the first move, its better for everyone. No by the upper half I mean the upper half of the bell curve.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/07/26 11:34 PM
1	Women should make the first move, its better for everyone. And what makes you think that the men I have approached were not somewhere on the upper half of that distribution? Even in terms of age, they were within five years of the median age for men in the US. Once again, whether or not I personally know them has zero bearing on whether or not they are “average.”	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/07/26 11:32 PM
1	Women should make the first move, its better for everyone. I have approached a lot of average men that I actually knew. Me knowing them doesn’t suddenly make them “not average”. Them not being old enough to be my father nor young enough to be my son also does not make them “not average”.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/07/26 11:21 PM
0	Women should make the first move, its better for everyone. It’s more that most of the time I assume guys aren’t going to be interested in me, so I don’t allow myself to catch feels unless I have some reason to believe they might be reciprocated.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/07/26 11:19 PM
0	Women should make the first move, its better for everyone. Yes, I’m only wanting to date Chad because I’m not into guys who recently graduated high school or are old enough to get social security. 🙄 I already told you I don’t approach strangers. I would have no way of knowing anything about their personality, and that is a requirement for me to want to approach a guy in the first place. You seem to think I’m lying about most men being attractive enough for me to consider based on absolutely nothing. That’s why I brought up my right swipes in the first p…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/07/26 11:14 PM
1	Women should make the first move, its better for everyone. I filtered for age.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/07/26 10:29 PM
1	Women should make the first move, its better for everyone. I right swiped more than half of the men I saw during the short time that I used Tinder.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/07/26 10:26 PM
1	Women should make the first move, its better for everyone. Also, I don’t want to be with a guy who is too physically attractive, so that would eliminate a lot of them as well.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/07/26 10:25 PM
1	Women should make the first move, its better for everyone. Nah, I would say that probably 50% of men have a decent personality.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/07/26 10:23 PM
1	Women should make the first move, its better for everyone. If they have a decent personality too, then yes. A lot of men don’t.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/07/26 10:18 PM
1	Women should make the first move, its better for everyone. Why do you keep saying that? Yes, average. I still have to know them so that I know they are a nice and decent person. That isn’t something I can just know by looking at a stranger.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/07/26 10:11 PM
1	Women should make the first move, its better for everyone. I don’t approach strangers. I have to know them at least somewhat to be interested. Also, I would guess that only about 20-25% are gonna be within a reasonable age range of me at the most.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/07/26 10:04 PM
1	Women should make the first move, its better for everyone. They were nice decent average guys.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/07/26 09:15 PM
1	Women should make the first move, its better for everyone. Because there’s more to people than their looks and I liked them as people. The baseline level of physical attractiveness someone needs to be for me to be interested in them is fairly low. Personality is more important.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/07/26 09:09 PM
1	Women should make the first move, its better for everyone. These men were not “out of my league”. You guys always assume that, but they were all average to below average looking. Objectively. Short, bald, overweight to obese, average to below average face. My black pill friend described a couple of them as “subhuman”. Not a single one has been above average in looks or anything else. My boyfriend is significantly more attractive than most of the men I have approached have been, so clearly I’m not that hideous.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/07/26 08:11 PM
4	Women should make the first move, its better for everyone. Unsolicited attention isn’t that big of a deal. It’s when the guy doubles down on women who are not interested that it’s a problem.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/07/26 05:43 PM
0	Women should make the first move, its better for everyone. Eh, my feelings have changed toward several guys once I realized they were into me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/07/26 05:37 PM
0	Women should make the first move, its better for everyone. As a woman who has made the first move many many times, it doesn’t really work with hetero men. Men don’t really consider the fact that the women who would approach them are not necessarily women they will be interested in. Not only that but a lot of men are put off by women who are forward. They may not believe they would be, but that’s been my experience. It’s like they think there must be something wrong with you, otherwise you wouldn’t have to approach.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/07/26 05:23 PM
–	If below average men were given experience they would even themselves out. I’ve been the “starter relationship” for a few below average men. It went poorly.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/07/26 12:02 AM
23	Many women have been socially programmed to be self-centered and narcissistic. It’s only ok when men do it. Didn’t you know?	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/07/26 03:17 PM
1	Q4W: Do women give good dating advice to other women? I have both given and asked for dating advice from my female friends. If I felt like they gave bad advice, I wouldn’t ask.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/07/26 08:16 PM
2	Men on the whole are objectively worth less to date now than ever I believe Discipline, yes. Punish, no. Punishment is much less effective, and studies back that up.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/07/26 10:42 AM
2	Men on the whole are objectively worth less to date now than ever I believe No. I have worked with IDD individuals for years. Punishments are ineffective and typically make their behavior worse.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/07/26 10:20 AM
2	Men on the whole are objectively worth less to date now than ever I believe Punishment doesn’t improve behavior in this population either.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/07/26 09:04 AM
1	Men on the whole are objectively worth less to date now than ever I believe Yeah, you really have no idea what you are talking about if you think that people with IDD just need to be hit more as children. Never mind the fact that adults with IDD are significantly more likely to have been physically abused in the past than other adults.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/26 08:01 PM
1	CMV: It is not the premature ejaculator's job to solve the problem, it is the other partner's, because they are the ones who wants them to last longer Maybe I’ve just been lucky then. 🤞 Probably didn’t hurt anything that my bf has had horrible experiences with the men he has dated.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/26 07:15 PM
1	CMV: It is not the premature ejaculator's job to solve the problem, it is the other partner's, because they are the ones who wants them to last longer Don’t presume anything about bi men as a whole based on this one really annoying and terrible example. My boyfriend is bi and is an absolute gem.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/26 06:59 PM
2	CMV: It is not the premature ejaculator's job to solve the problem, it is the other partner's, because they are the ones who wants them to last longer You know that most low paying jobs are a lot more physically demanding right?	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/26 06:57 PM
1	CMV: It is not the premature ejaculator's job to solve the problem, it is the other partner's, because they are the ones who wants them to last longer How the hell am I supposed to do that? Stop being hot? Anyway, it doesn’t bother me at all when my boyfriend finishes quickly. He tries to hold out for his own benefit.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/26 06:50 PM
1	What's your opinion on vtubers? Live and let live. It has absolutely no effect on me. It’s kind of cool that men can do this with female avatars as well. Think maybe they’ll shut up now about how unfair it is that women can just do sex work? Yeah, probably not. But I can always hope.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/26 06:34 PM
1	Men on the whole are objectively worth less to date now than ever I believe And the law still protects that man from being hit.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/26 05:59 PM
3	Men on the whole are objectively worth less to date now than ever I believe Hitting any adult for the purposes of discouraging bad behavior would be assault and it’s idiotic that the smallest and most vulnerable members of our society don’t get that same protection from being hit. I work in disability services with adults who function on the same level as children and have significant behavioral issues. If I were to hit one of them, I would probably serve time for it and would never be allowed to work in this field again. There is no difference. If it’s possible to help…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/26 05:54 PM
4	Men on the whole are objectively worth less to date now than ever I believe It seems incredibly far fetched to credit being assaulted one time with fixing all of her discipline issues for the rest of her life. And there are other consequences besides being hit.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/26 05:21 PM
8	Men on the whole are objectively worth less to date now than ever I believe I’m likely in your generation. Or maybe older, because we got hit way more than a few times, and you know what it left me with? Anger issues and mental health problems. There is no “good” amount of hitting children.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/26 04:20 PM
11	Men on the whole are objectively worth less to date now than ever I believe That’s a weird analogy to use. Are you fighting gym crimes now?	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/26 04:14 PM
10	Men on the whole are objectively worth less to date now than ever I believe Yeah I would much rather have a generation of softer boys than start hitting kids again. And military men are awful. No thank you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/26 04:09 PM
3	Men on the whole are objectively worth less to date now than ever I believe Look, I don’t necessarily think that you are wrong about men these days, but also this in particular seems like not that much of an issue. They’re young. Most people don’t graduate high school immediately knowing how to adult. It takes time. I would also much rather see a man ask for help than just try to do shit himself when he has no clue what he is doing and fuck it up. Men my age are allergic to asking for help and it’s seriously irritating.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/26 04:06 PM
1	CMV: Women shouldn't complain that men don't pull their weight in cooking + cleaning + parenting based on dubious self-reported statistics when they are willing to pay men for it. Yeah, that’s one possibility, but it’s equally possible that men just live in dirtier/messier homes than women do on average. Based on what I have seen, I’m guessing it’s the second one.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/07/26 02:26 PM
3	CMV: Women shouldn't complain that men don't pull their weight in cooking + cleaning + parenting based on dubious self-reported statistics when they are willing to pay men for it. That’s what I’m saying. You can only argue that men are more efficient at cleaning if they are getting things as clean as women do.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/07/26 03:54 PM
1	Q4W: Do you think men were better at some point in the past? If so, when exactly? Dude the entire point of the thought exercise is to compare the nature of bears to the nature of me. You can’t just pretend that bears want to be around people because they don’t. And I would sacrifice my job before I let a random man babysit my child.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/07/26 02:28 AM
2	Q4W: Do you think men were better at some point in the past? If so, when exactly? I don’t think you’re really grasping what I’m saying. The thought exercise says nothing about having to have bears in your house. Bears would not just up and move into a house that people lived in. I left Alaska because of the men. Not the bears. And I was around bears every single day.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/07/26 05:13 PM
1	Q4W: Do you think men were better at some point in the past? If so, when exactly? You know why? Because bears avoid people, as a rule. There were bears all over the woods in which I lived. I very very rarely saw them. That’s why I would choose the bear.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/07/26 03:33 PM
2	Q4W: Do you think men were better at some point in the past? If so, when exactly? By the way. Alaska is crazy dangerous for women, and it’s not because of bears. That state has very high rates of sexual assault and domestic violence.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/07/26 03:28 PM
1	Q4W: Do you think men were better at some point in the past? If so, when exactly? I lived in a one room cabin out in the woods with no running water with a newborn. Lots of women live like that in Alaska. That’s a majority of the state outside of like two or three cities. I only lived about 10 minutes outside of Fairbanks city limits up in the mountains. There were bears.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/07/26 03:13 PM
1	Q4W: Do you think men were better at some point in the past? If so, when exactly? Most men have gotten better but still aren’t anywhere near where we want them to be. Other men have gotten much much worse.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/07/26 01:44 PM
1	Q4W: Do you think men were better at some point in the past? If so, when exactly? We got some of the changes we wanted.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/07/26 01:40 PM
2	Q4W: Do you think men were better at some point in the past? If so, when exactly? I lived in Alaska until I was 28 and I love camping. Like hell am I getting in a car with a random dude to drive me out into the woods though.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/07/26 01:32 PM
4	Q4W: Do you think men were better at some point in the past? If so, when exactly? Yeah you’re totally right. Openly blatant misogyny has definitely seen a resurgence of popularity.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/07/26 01:15 PM
3	Q4W: Do you think men were better at some point in the past? If so, when exactly? Hahahahahaha noooooo. They were worse. They just haven’t improved very much. Women did complain about men a LOT in the past. They just didn’t have TikTok or YouTube so men didn’t really hear it directly.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/07/26 01:11 PM
2	More women today have a disdain for men because the only thing women can offer today is sex, so they understand all of men's efforts today is just for her pussy, which fills them with contempt No, we argued about it constantly but nothing ever improved on his end despite him eventually conceding that I was right. It’s just that soooooo many American men are like this, it’s difficult to avoid. And they tend to get worse about it as the relationship progresses. A small imbalance in the beginning of the relationship seems tolerable, but then it just continues to widen until it’s no longer worth it to be in the relationship at all.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/07/26 01:03 PM
3	More women today have a disdain for men because the only thing women can offer today is sex, so they understand all of men's efforts today is just for her pussy, which fills them with contempt Yes, that’s why women are complaining about it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/07/26 12:19 PM
–	More women today have a disdain for men because the only thing women can offer today is sex, so they understand all of men's efforts today is just for her pussy, which fills them with contempt Cooking is a lot more fun when you don’t have to do it 2-3 times every single day. And when you don’t have to clean up the kitchen and wash all the dishes afterwards.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/07/26 12:14 PM
–	More women today have a disdain for men because the only thing women can offer today is sex, so they understand all of men's efforts today is just for her pussy, which fills them with contempt Yes, most apartments here do not have in-unit laundry facilities. Most have on site machines that you have to pay for, but it’s usually much more expensive and takes a lot longer than going to the laundromat. As to how much time any given individual spends on things like birthdays and medical appointments, it would depend a lot on the size of their family. If you are making medical appointments for your own kids, you generally also have to take the kids to those appointments as well. That can re…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/07/26 12:07 PM
–	More women today have a disdain for men because the only thing women can offer today is sex, so they understand all of men's efforts today is just for her pussy, which fills them with contempt Most people in my socioeconomic class do, yeah. Also you do realize there is more to it than just “remembering” someone’s birthday, right? It’s almost as though there’s a reason you need to remember someone’s birthday is coming up. It takes time to shop for a gift and card, wrap the gift, package it safely for the mail if needed and then take it to the post office and stand in line for half an hour to mail it because your post office is chronically understaffed.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/07/26 11:50 AM
–	More women today have a disdain for men because the only thing women can offer today is sex, so they understand all of men's efforts today is just for her pussy, which fills them with contempt I couldn’t “exude femininity” if my very life depended on it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/07/26 11:43 AM
–	More women today have a disdain for men because the only thing women can offer today is sex, so they understand all of men's efforts today is just for her pussy, which fills them with contempt Sounds like you should have chose better.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/07/26 11:41 AM
–	More women today have a disdain for men because the only thing women can offer today is sex, so they understand all of men's efforts today is just for her pussy, which fills them with contempt Oh yeah, the hour of total time that I have to stay at the laundromat while the laundry is in the machines and have nothing else to do but scroll my phone (in most cases I’m returning phone calls, making appointments, and catching up on work stuff anyway) is all just fun leisure time for me. 🙄	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/07/26 11:39 AM
–	More women today have a disdain for men because the only thing women can offer today is sex, so they understand all of men's efforts today is just for her pussy, which fills them with contempt All I’m seeing here is that on average, women have to sacrifice some amount of paid employment so that shit gets done around the house. Sounds terrible.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/07/26 11:28 AM
–	More women today have a disdain for men because the only thing women can offer today is sex, so they understand all of men's efforts today is just for her pussy, which fills them with contempt That’s a really miserable way to look at relationships. Most couples are just wanting someone they enjoy spending time with. If a man expected me to provide him with a bunch of free domestic labor, I would have zero interest in dating him. That type of man can get fucked (but not by me). I watched my grandmothers have those kinds of relationships, and I never wanted that, even as a child. My grandfathers were both miserable, difficult people, and my grandmas got no medals for putting up with the…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/07/26 11:20 AM
–	I genuinely believe most women would be happier if they put more emphasis on trying to start a family. I think that if someone is dead set against having kids then they should listen to that instinct. Having a child isn’t one of those things you should do in the hopes it will “fix” your life, because it won’t. You’ll still be the same person. If you have depression or anxiety, those things will not go away and in all likelihood they will be worse for a while. When I was growing up I saw my life playing out a certain way and being a wife and mother was never a part of that. I did wind up having a …	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/07/26 05:57 AM
1	JOIN DISCORD OUR DISCORD - N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREAD Me too, but only because I’m still fucking number 87 or whatever he is. You know what they say. The 87th time’s the charm!	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/26 05:57 PM
1	A lot of liberal women struggle in dating because what they're truly attracted to and what they say they want are usually contradictory. Aww, that’s a shame!	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/07/26 06:02 AM
2	Women, when you ask a man to take out the trash, what is the time limit for the man to do that? If I’m asking, it’s because it needs to be done, so as soon as possible and practicable. If it can wait a few hours, I will say so and give a timeframe.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/07/26 05:44 AM
1	A lot of liberal women struggle in dating because what they're truly attracted to and what they say they want are usually contradictory. I find it very telling when men use the fish analogy, considering that fish don’t want to be caught because they generally get killed as a result. Not to mention you catch fish by deceiving them and literally luring them into harm’s way. You sure that’s an analogy you want to make? Do you think that makes you seem trustworthy? Does that make you seem like someone a woman should want to be with? Because to me it sounds like you’re dangerous and duplicitous. Btw, Dahmer was autistic af (and also g…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/07/26 05:16 AM
0	A lot of liberal women struggle in dating because what they're truly attracted to and what they say they want are usually contradictory. For real. I know many men who hit at least two out of those three things, if not all of them, but are also trans or gay as hell.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/07/26 03:40 AM
0	A lot of liberal women struggle in dating because what they're truly attracted to and what they say they want are usually contradictory. I see. Where is your gym exactly? 🤔	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/07/26 03:26 AM
1	A lot of liberal women struggle in dating because what they're truly attracted to and what they say they want are usually contradictory. Have you considered the possibility that they just didn’t like you? Yes, I do want the man I’m with to have values that are close to mine, but that doesn’t mean that’s the only thing that matters to me. I also want him to have a personality that clicks with mine. I want him to be funny and silly and creative and passionate. Sexual compatibility is also incredibly important to me. My boyfriend is not particularly masculine at all outside of his sex drive. He wears my clothes all the time and I lo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/07/26 03:11 AM
1	If woman understand there own attraction and stuff, why then people do studies? They do studies on all kinds of shit. Even things where the answers seem completely obvious.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/07/26 02:55 AM
9	Question for women: What is your audio preference during sex? 2 and 3 are both good, but dirty talk is even better.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/07/26 02:31 AM
11	how frequently you turned on about men you see in public ? Literally never. Not even while single.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/07/26 12:56 AM
1	If you dont like women, don’t date them. Not giving up is also a valid choice. Both are equally viable options.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/07/26 02:17 PM
0	If you dont like women, don’t date them. No, I’m repeatedly replying because I’m correct about this and you know it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/07/26 02:12 PM
1	If you dont like women, don’t date them. Still their choice to make and a valid one.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/07/26 02:11 PM
–	If you dont like women, don’t date them. And yet here you are. Still replying.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/07/26 02:06 PM
2	If you dont like women, don’t date them. It’s just not worth it to them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/07/26 02:03 PM
1	If you dont like women, don’t date them. I’m not actually interested in debating your irrelevant comment that you tacked onto mine.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/07/26 01:52 PM
2	If you dont like women, don’t date them. Case in point.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/07/26 01:28 PM
0	If you dont like women, don’t date them. You must really like hearing yourself talk. Very typical for a man. Not shocking.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/07/26 01:22 PM
2	If you dont like women, don’t date them. It is irrelevant.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/07/26 01:19 PM
2	If you dont like women, don’t date them. In that case what you wrote is irrelevant to my reply on someone else’s comment.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/07/26 01:14 PM
7	If you dont like women, don’t date them. I know several men who choose not to date at all. They are not asexual or aromantic.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/07/26 01:00 PM
7	If you dont like women, don’t date them. You literally did compare dating women to employment and provided no other context.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/07/26 12:58 PM
4	Q4W: Would you participate in or use a dating app that had no pictures of the person you are talking to? My boyfriend had no idea what I looked like before I picked him up to hang out the first time. I had seen him on webcam before and thought he was unattractive, but he was better looking in person.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/07/26 12:56 PM
6	If you dont like women, don’t date them. How?	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/07/26 12:55 PM
3	Q4W: Would you participate in or use a dating app that had no pictures of the person you are talking to? I met one of my boyfriends on a local BBS in 1997, and did not know what he looked like until we met for our first date. He didn’t know what I looked like either. We dated for a few months, but I was about to graduate high school and he was still in the 10th grade and I really didn’t want to be tied down to anyone. The 90’s were a wild time. I met a bunch of my friends on that BBS, most of whom were really weird dudes, and several of them were grown ass men. Anyway. Probably would not use a “dat…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/07/26 12:53 PM
14	If you dont like women, don’t date them. You can choose not to date women at all. You are unlikely to wind up homeless over it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/07/26 12:42 PM
14	If you dont like women, don’t date them. How is that even comparable? From all I see men say in this sub women are more of a financial liability than an asset anyway.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/07/26 12:39 PM
1	CMV: Women shouldn't complain that men don't pull their weight in cooking + cleaning + parenting based on dubious self-reported statistics when they are willing to pay men for it. Uh huh. Because I didn’t say that. I said you are assuming that men do an adequate job on average:	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/07/26 10:17 PM
–	CMV: Women shouldn't complain that men don't pull their weight in cooking + cleaning + parenting based on dubious self-reported statistics when they are willing to pay men for it. Show me where I said that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/07/26 09:56 PM
3	CMV: Women shouldn't complain that men don't pull their weight in cooking + cleaning + parenting based on dubious self-reported statistics when they are willing to pay men for it. lol what fucking data?! We know that single men spend less time doing housework. There is no data to suggest that, on average, single men are cleaning an adequate amount. Some do, but plenty of them do not.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/07/26 09:46 PM
4	CMV: Women shouldn't complain that men don't pull their weight in cooking + cleaning + parenting based on dubious self-reported statistics when they are willing to pay men for it. Why are you acting like I have never been into men’s homes? Read my flair. Some of them have been absolutely fucking disgusting.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/07/26 07:16 PM
1	How to understand what is your league? Yes that’s literally what I was asking for	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/07/26 05:58 PM
2	Women are to blame for doing more house work and not men I did not know that he was putting me as his emergency contact. Are you serious?	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/07/26 04:05 PM
1	How to understand what is your league? Yes, and you haven’t given any information as to how a person would learn aside from “it’s common knowledge”.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/07/26 03:40 PM
3	Women are to blame for doing more house work and not men No I kinda can fault his logic, because at the time I left he was immunocompromised from an organ transplant, plus he’s always been diabetic. In the five years after I moved out he was hospitalized multiple times with sepsis, had amputations on both feet, and I finally found out about all of this when he, once again, wound up in the hospital in a coma with meningoencephalitis. And I was his emergency contact. He’s not able to work anymore and he is my problem again.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/07/26 03:23 PM
2	Women are to blame for doing more house work and not men My ex was completely fine with having literal garbage and cat urine and feces all over the floor, dirty dishes piled up, and visible dirt on surfaces. And he used to say the same thing to me. That I was the one who needed it to be “cleaner” than that so it was my “problem” to fix.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/07/26 02:58 PM
16	CMV: Women shouldn't complain that men don't pull their weight in cooking + cleaning + parenting based on dubious self-reported statistics when they are willing to pay men for it. You’re making an awfully big assumption that single men aren’t more often living in squalor.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/07/26 09:51 AM
1	The disparity between good men and good women Lesbian. I don’t blame her. She didn’t sign up to be someone’s caregiver. Shit happens.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/07/26 03:03 AM
1	The disparity between good men and good women I wanted to, but she didn’t feel the same way. One of my family members was no longer able to live in his own due to severe health issues and moved in with us, and she said she was ok with it but clearly wasn’t happy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/07/26 02:44 AM
1	The disparity between good men and good women I’m was with a woman for 7 years and that was never an issue.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/07/26 02:39 AM
1	The disparity between good men and good women I have had dead bedroom relationships with two men so far. Either way I have to find someone with a libido that matches mine.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/07/26 02:27 AM
1	How to understand what is your league? You’re not making sense. What you are saying is circular.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/07/26 10:30 PM
–	AFBB ignores actual biology There is no evidence to suggest that that is typical.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/07/26 08:09 PM
–	AFBB ignores actual biology If it’s irrelevant then you have zero room to complain about dead bedrooms.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/07/26 07:42 PM
2	The disparity between good men and good women Most men on the dating apps fail immediately in the “respecting boundaries” department. Hence why I stopped using them many years ago.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/07/26 04:02 PM
3	The disparity between good men and good women I have dated other women. If I have to date again starting from scratch, it’s gonna be women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/07/26 04:01 PM
2	The disparity between good men and good women If you haven’t dipped your toes into the male dating pool then you truly have no idea how many good men are in it. They are vastly outnumbered by bad men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/07/26 03:59 PM
7	What do you mean exactly when you say that men are “disappointing”? Disappointed by their behavior. In the dating stage that can include things like trying to steer the conversation into sexual territory literally out of nowhere, unsolicited dick pics, uncalled for jealousy (like don’t expect me to not be seeing other people if we haven’t agreed to be exclusive). When dating seriously/cohabitating, stuff like not picking up after himself or doing any housework, being selfish in the bedroom. And any attempts to be manipulative at any stage are a hard line in the …	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/07/26 11:14 PM
3	Ladies, do you get aroused when watching mainstream porn like men do? Yes but I only look at solo women or two women together. I am also not straight. I kinda like watching two dudes sometimes but mostly if I know one of them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/07/26 10:53 PM
1	AFBB ignores actual biology Irrelevant. Women are at their “horniest” from ages 27 to 45. AFBB is a non-issue.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/07/26 09:35 PM
1	Handsome and Socially intelligent dude tries for 6 months in dating apps and failing miserably, shows that as a man if you want playtime, you must make dating your everything to get anything in the dating market He is above average enough for me to swipe left.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/07/26 07:48 PM
2	Handsome and Socially intelligent dude tries for 6 months in dating apps and failing miserably, shows that as a man if you want playtime, you must make dating your everything to get anything in the dating market Yeah he’s objectively attractive but I’m not into guys who look like that at all. I don’t want my boyfriend to be prettier than me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/07/26 07:47 PM
3	Why do women bother trying to date men when they find at least 95% of them completely unattractive? I stopped dating men entirely for 8 years. The only reason I have a boyfriend now is because we were friends first and he is everything in a man that I never thought I would find. I actually find at least 75-80% of men within a reasonable age range to be physically attractive enough to date, but it’s way more about peridot me and most men don’t make the cut.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/07/26 02:05 PM
2	Cheating on your partner is more "toxic" than posting uncouth things online They are much more tender than adults. This should be obvious.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/07/26 02:47 AM
3	Cheating on your partner is more "toxic" than posting uncouth things online In my experience, men rarely leave those frustrations on Reddit. They give themselves away pretty quickly when talking to women off of Reddit.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/07/26 02:43 AM
2	I feel like men being the sole providers is an unrealistic expectation in 2026. Poor women don’t expect to be supported either. We have always had to bust our asses to survive, whether with a partner or not.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/07/26 01:29 AM
3	I feel like men being the sole providers is an unrealistic expectation in 2026. I have never expected my partner to support me. Not even back in the 90’s. My boyfriend makes a lot less than me, and it’s never been an issue for me. I would honestly be fine with him just staying home but he likes his job a lot and he doesn’t want me paying for everything.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/07/26 01:25 AM
4	The Voice Memo Guy, Proves Women Also Can’t Handle Rejection. Dude, it proves that THAT woman cannot handle rejection. Just like a lot of men also cannot handle rejection. I have been rejected many many times and I have always told them it’s completely fine and they have nothing to feel bad for. It stings, but that’s just life.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/07/26 11:40 PM
–	I don't think women love men the way men love women and that's not a bad thing Yes I would sacrifice myself for a man that I love. I gave my second husband one of my kidneys. When his health started going downhill and he could no longer live on his own safely, I insisted that he move back in with me. I am his caregiver and medical POA and I support him financially because he is no longer able to work. It’s fucking rough. But I’m all he has and I’m not going to let him die alone in a nursing home. I may not feel romantic love for him anymore, but he is my family and always …	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/07/26 03:40 PM
5	Are women inherently superior to men? I’ll do it for the sex alone as long as it’s good, and he is otherwise not a jerk.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/07/26 11:00 AM
0	AFBB ignores actual biology https://ifstudies.org/insights?id=4410 Married women are much more likely to be having sex at least once a week than unmarried women. https://www.guttmacher.org/journals/psrh/2008/sexual-behavior-single-adult-american-women Married women across every age group included in the study report being currently sexually active at a rate significantly higher than single women in their 20’s. Also only about a quarter of single women in their 20’s have had more than one sexual partner within the previous …	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/07/26 10:10 AM
1	AFBB ignores actual biology Yeah I’m gonna need to have some evidence of that claim.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/07/26 09:09 AM
0	AFBB ignores actual biology Because the AFBB claim is that women are the most sexually active in their teens and early 20’s and then lose interest in sex once they get married, when the exact opposite is actually true.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/07/26 09:02 AM
1	AFBB ignores actual biology Yes, I grew up in an area with a relatively low population and a lot of fucked up and dangerous men. A couple of them in particular, everyone knew they were fucked up. Their crimes were pretty shocking in nature but nobody didn’t see it coming. One guy got sentenced to over 400 years, and he had been a powder keg since I knew him in middle school. I’d rather not dox myself so I’m just going to leave it at that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/07/26 08:50 AM
1	AFBB ignores actual biology Nah, I have known people who have done much worse than that and nobody was particularly surprised to see it at all.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/07/26 08:32 AM
0	AFBB ignores actual biology It’s cute that you seem to believe that men don’t make self destructive decisions their entire lives because of their hormones. But it also doesn’t really dispute anything I said.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/07/26 08:30 AM
1	AFBB ignores actual biology As I said, no one ever thought he would be capable of doing something like that. These are the things that people said to be directly. I know it’s very important to your worldview to think that people cannot hide dark triad traits, you are so incredibly fucking wrong.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/07/26 08:25 AM
1	AFBB ignores actual biology People were stunned because they could not imagine he would ever do something like that. Cool that you think you know more about it than I do though when I heard people’s reactions directly.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/07/26 05:35 AM
1	AFBB ignores actual biology Dude, you don’t know him or them and you don’t have a fucking clue what you are talking about, ok? People were absolutely fucking stunned when he got arrested for raping a child. Trust me, if they knew, they would have cared. Even I never would have expected him to be capable of that shit and we were married for five years. He kept his shit buried deep.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/07/26 04:27 AM
1	AFBB ignores actual biology Are you being intentionally obtuse? They all thought he was the greatest guy ever. Some of them still do despite the fact he’s been in prison for the last 10 years.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/07/26 02:21 AM
1	AFBB ignores actual biology Then I guess all of his friends, family, coworkers, and classmates were all attracted to narcissists too.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/07/26 02:09 AM
1	AFBB ignores actual biology Possible but pretty unlikely.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/07/26 02:05 AM
1	AFBB ignores actual biology It’s often very much not easy to spot. It took me years of being away from him for me to even recognize some of the things he had done that were actually full on manipulation. I was also a very trusting person when we met. I’m not anymore.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/07/26 02:03 AM
1	AFBB ignores actual biology I agree there’s not just one reason why this happens. With my first husband, he did not lose his drive at all, but he was also a really selfish lover. Regardless of that, I still had sex with him. I just really wanted it to be with someone else.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/07/26 02:00 AM
1	AFBB ignores actual biology So it would seem that their current partner being boring is the real issue then. Not that their partner wants all this wild sex too and they just don’t want it anymore.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/07/26 01:54 AM
2	AFBB ignores actual biology The first study states exactly what I said. That men with DT personalities are more skilled at manipulation and that that could very well be the reason for higher sexual success. My first husband definitely had some kind of cluster b personality disorder. He was also very very manipulative. He succeeded in manipulating almost everyone he knew into thinking he was a harmless nice guy. When I started to see who he actually was, I bailed. Those qualities were not attractive to me in any capacity.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/07/26 01:51 AM
1	AFBB ignores actual biology In addition to everything else I listed, my boyfriend is also a strong believer in monogamy and wanted a serious relationship with me right out of the gate, has a job that he loves and is a hard working and reliable employee, consistently does grocery shopping, washes dishes, does laundry, vacuums and puts shit away without being asked, is very affectionate and treats me incredibly well, and has very healthy communication skills. He is more bonded with my cat than I am. It’s by far the most stab…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/07/26 01:35 AM
0	AFBB ignores actual biology Not sure how you got any of that out of my post but ok.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/07/26 01:26 AM
0	AFBB ignores actual biology Well you would be wrong. It is absolutely not necessary for a man to be “very good looking” for a woman to be sexually excited by him. The most physically attractive men I have been with have been my absolute worst lays. A couple of them were really nice, but still kinda crap in bed. And no, the guys I have been with who were the best sexually were not “Chad” in other ways. They all had working class to middle class jobs. I wouldn’t even call most of them particularly charismatic. One of them wa…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/07/26 01:23 AM
0	AFBB ignores actual biology There are certainly men in dead bedroom situations who don’t want to be there. But there is no real reason to assume that all their wives had a wild past with Chad and then decided they don’t like sex anymore as soon as they get married. I’ve spent time on that sub before, as someone who was also not having sex within my relationship, and it seemed like those men’s wives never had a super high libido to begin with.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/07/26 01:05 AM
1	AFBB ignores actual biology Been there, done that. Implying that they have already sown their wild oats and no longer have any desire to be sexually adventurous.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/07/26 01:00 AM
1	AFBB ignores actual biology Find out if what is true?	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/07/26 12:58 AM
1	AFBB ignores actual biology Regardless it’s a false dichotomy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/07/26 12:56 AM
2	AFBB ignores actual biology I’m defining it by when her libido is at its highest, which is also when her fertility is in decline.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/26 11:59 PM
1	AFBB ignores actual biology Then you would have to not be paying attention at all. That’s the whole idea behind AFBB.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/26 11:58 PM
2	AFBB ignores actual biology Yeah I settled for a guy who was not interested in sex for a while. I won’t do it again. Either way, the problem was certainly not that I didn’t want to have sex.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/26 11:57 PM
1	AFBB ignores actual biology Nah studies show that women may be more likely to be attracted to people who display those traits, but people who display those traits are also more likely to be highly charismatic and manipulate, which means they can manipulate people into liking them more easily. Anyway. Moving on to your question, here are some of the things that I feel like makes my boyfriend a “bad boy” to me: He’s openly queer and non-religious despite his family’s disapproval, he likes to experiment with psychedelics, he …	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/26 10:56 PM
2	AFBB ignores actual biology The whole argument against BB hinges on the idea that she’s not going to want to have sex with you because she’s already btdt. But that idea has no basis in reality.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/26 09:42 PM
2	AFBB ignores actual biology Yeah that’s definitely not what I mean by “bad boy”. At least not any kind of bad boy that I would actually want.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/26 09:34 PM
2	Passport bros is the only real solution for average and below average men. And men and women should agree with it No way, I like below average men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/26 09:31 PM
3	AFBB ignores actual biology Same. I have done anal a handful of times with guys I wasn’t seriously dating, but I still had to really trust them and it was never a ONS. If a guy I’m in a relationship with wants to do it, we’re doing it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/26 09:30 PM
–	Do most women take the marriage and kids revelation as positive or negative realistically? Idk I started wanting a kid when I was like 19, and wanted a stable relationship even earlier than that. But I wasn’t really wanting to do the whole married with kids thing until I was 19.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/26 09:21 PM
0	AFBB ignores actual biology What exactly does “bad boy” mean to you, because I feel like it doesn’t mean the same thing to me at all.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/26 09:16 PM
2	AFBB ignores actual biology Ok I think I’m with you now. Most people aren’t really at the far ends of that spectrum though. Most people are somewhere in the middle.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/26 09:15 PM
1	AFBB ignores actual biology If you settle down with a woman in her late 20’s to early 30’s and stay together then you get the entirety of that peak. Even if you start dating at the very top of that peak, you still have at least ten years before that peak starts to appreciably decline. Most women are only just starting to go through menopause in their mid 40’s and maintain a pretty high libido until it’s over. If you marry a 30 yr old woman you’re getting about 25 years of increased libido.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/26 09:12 PM
3	AFBB ignores actual biology Is that actually true though, or is it just what men believe? I know that isn’t true for me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/26 09:06 PM
3	AFBB ignores actual biology That’s not true at all. The best sex I have ever had has been with the schlubbiest looking dudes.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/26 09:04 PM
1	AFBB ignores actual biology Again, maybe this is just me being autistic, but never in my life has a man been good in bed only because he was good looking. In fact more often than not it’s been the opposite. The best sex I have had in my life has been with very average looking dudes. And by that I mean well under six feet tall, bald, hairy, paunchy, guys who look like a high school guidance counselor, not an Abercrombie model. But here’s the thing. Those guys typically have no interest in any kind of serious relationship ei…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/26 09:03 PM
1	AFBB ignores actual biology I’m trying very hard to organize my thoughts and communicate effectively here, and I feel like I’m just failing at it. I don’t understand what being aggressive or subby (in life and in bed) has to do with it? It seems to me that the reality is more like Alpha Fucks and Beta could also fuck but doesn’t really want to. Am I wrong?	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/26 08:57 PM
0	AFBB ignores actual biology I’m doing my best to keep up with replies but I have to do some work training for the next couple hours. If i haven’t replied yet, I will.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/26 08:29 PM
2	AFBB ignores actual biology The whole idea of BB is that this guy has been chosen. Why he thinks that the woman who chose him doesn’t also want her back blown out by him while her libido is at its highest is honestly beyond me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/26 08:29 PM
2	AFBB ignores actual biology Yeah in hindsight i didn’t word the OP correctly. Men on this sub act like you can’t be both a stable partner as well as sexually exciting.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/26 08:20 PM
3	AFBB ignores actual biology Chad can be boring. Normies can be not boring. It’s not a choice between Chad or boring.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/26 08:18 PM
1	AFBB ignores actual biology There is nothing inherently contradictory about being a stable loving monogamous partner and wanting to regularly have adventurous sex with your stable loving monogamous female partner.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/26 08:17 PM
5	AFBB ignores actual biology Idk I’m 47 and my sex drive has only just started to head back downhill, but my sex drive is still very very strong. I’m not yet menopausal but my hormone levels started hitting the ups and downs maybe a year and a half ago. I probably won’t be fully menopausal till my mid 50’s. It’s super frustrating to me that I wasted so much of my sexual peak in relationships with men who had next to zero interest in sex. I don’t really like casual sex either though. It took me forever to find a guy who want…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/26 08:13 PM
1	AFBB ignores actual biology Maybe this is just me being very autistic but I don’t understand what makes these things contradictory. I don’t understand why men are like this. If you have a woman who is ravenous for your cock she is somehow not wife material. It makes no fucking sense to me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/26 08:08 PM
1	AFBB ignores actual biology Nah, I’m not. I’ve had no problems finding men who want to have sex, and I’ve had no problems finding men who want to settle down and get married, but it unfortunately kind of rare to find both in the same man.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/26 08:02 PM
1	AFBB ignores actual biology I’d say more like a bell curve. I’m 47 and not fully menopausal yet, and while I would say that my sex drive was higher 10 years ago than it is now, it’s still pretty damn high.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/26 08:00 PM
1	AFBB ignores actual biology It hilarious that you think wanting a partner who wants a stable monogamous relationship and is also very interested in having sex with you on a regular basis is an absurdly high bar. But what’s sad is that you seem to be correct.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/26 06:32 PM
5	AFBB ignores actual biology What makes you think she’s not attracted to the man? Personally, the higher my sex drive is, the easier it is for me to become attracted to someone. What I was looking for in a partner, and ultimately found with my boyfriend, is someone who wants a monogamous long term relationship, is kind and loving, affectionate, has healthy communication skills, and has a high sex drive with a high level of enthusiasm. My boyfriend is very excited to try new things in the bedroom and lets me know frequently …	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/26 06:28 PM
2	AFBB ignores actual biology No, you’re misunderstanding. The peak continues until menopause.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/26 06:14 PM
3	AFBB ignores actual biology If libido is not the issue then why all the moaning I see on this sub about not wanting to wind up in a dead bedroom? You’re statistically least likely to deal with this when you’re with a woman in her 30’s or 40’s. You can be fairly risk averse and still be sexually adventurous. Having a monogamous sexual relationship is relatively low risk.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/26 06:13 PM
0	AFBB ignores actual biology In order to come in after the peak you would have to get together when she’s entered menopause.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/26 06:04 PM
2	AFBB ignores actual biology You can be stable and consistent without being boring. It took me a LONG time to find a man who is both a loving, stable partner, and also sexually exciting. They’re out there.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/26 06:01 PM
3	AFBB ignores actual biology By sexual peak what they mean is that’s when a woman’s libido is the highest, and women in this age range have lower sexual inhibitions. What I mean by this is that it entirely possible to be a stable loving partner and sexually exciting at the same time. It’s just harder to find that in men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/26 05:57 PM
2	AFBB ignores actual biology Women have a higher sex drive when our fertility starts to fall.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/26 05:54 PM
3	AFFIRMATIVE✅ AND ARGUMENTATIVE🤬 POSTS📝 MUST BE FLAIRED🚩 AS DEBATE🗣️ DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵 I made some chicken fried rice with cauliflower rice and some vegetable wontons. I only ate a few of the wontons.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/07/26 11:02 PM
1	How to understand what is your league? If it were that well known and established then why is OP asking?	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/07/26 07:39 PM
1	How to understand what is your league? Again. Where would one find this information in order to gauge their own league?	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/07/26 05:36 PM
1	Why do some women find it so much more difficult to orgasm than others? I honestly don’t remember but I wasn’t able to orgasm from PIV with him at first. It took a little while. I don’t think it happened till weeks after we started using toys and doing some other kink stuff.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/07/26 03:18 PM
2	Why do some women find it so much more difficult to orgasm than others? I don’t know how accurate this is because I only have myself as an example. But I think it’s a matter of “the more you do it the easier it gets”. I did not have an orgasm at all until I had been sexually active for over five years. I even gave birth before I ever had an orgasm. I think that a lot of it was mental state, and a lot of it was just not knowing how. I grew up before the internet was widely accessible, and even when I did have access later on, it was in public computer labs, so I wasn…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/07/26 02:32 PM
1	What should be the appropriate punishment for a paternity fraud? Apparently there’s a new method now. They used to have to do amniocentesis. TIL	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/07/26 01:31 PM
0	What should be the appropriate punishment for a paternity fraud? Those are risk to the fetus.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/07/26 01:22 PM
1	How to understand what is your league? Compare yourself to a bunch of people whose leagues are known or to requirements of each league of women. Then see previous comment. Sure, and where are you going to find that information? There is no consensus on what league anyone is in. No matter who it is you will have people arguing about it. One person’s ideal is another person’s mid or even lower.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/07/26 04:28 PM
–	how interest are you about what men like? Men are more than happy to volunteer about what they like and what they don’t in women. I couldn’t give a rat’s ass.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/07/26 05:18 PM
1	How common is it for women to have higher sex drives than men? No, we don’t know that. We know that women on OkCupid in 2008 found most of the men on that site to be below average. I was on OkCupid in 2008 and most of the men on there were below average. I have been attracted to a lot of men who I knew were objectively below average.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/07/26 04:39 PM
1	How common is it for women to have higher sex drives than men? Have we met? Lol	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/07/26 04:32 PM
2	How common is it for women to have higher sex drives than men? My body count is very high, and an average sized dick is still my preference. I have turned guys down for being too big. I don’t want to be in pain just from trying to have sex.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/07/26 04:31 PM
2	How common is it for women to have higher sex drives than men? I’m hypersexual and I have a preference for smaller, shorter, more effeminate men. But that probably has as much to do with me being queer than anything. In reality I take what I can get. Historically I have not been very picky when it comes to sex partners. I tend to prioritize feeling safe with them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/07/26 04:24 PM
1	There is no such thing as a male escort, in the history of humanity no women on earth payed for sex Depends on who you ask. I’m not hot. I was in a dead bedroom marriage at the time.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/07/26 03:58 PM
2	There is no such thing as a male escort, in the history of humanity no women on earth payed for sex I have paid a professional male sex worker a couple of times. Sure, I could have gotten some ugly dude to jackhammer me for free for 60 seconds. But that’s not what I wanted. I wanted to orgasm many many times. And I did. The guy kept his clothes on every time. He was very skilled with his hands.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/07/26 02:50 PM
1	r/Bumble proves men do, in fact, have options I am, in fact, not a colony of ants. You can DM me if you want. I’m sure I can dig up some pics I used.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/07/26 08:06 PM
1	r/Bumble proves men do, in fact, have options Idk, at the time I was in decent shape and wore makeup and feminine clothing. Maybe they just assumed I was fake.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/07/26 07:58 PM
1	r/Bumble proves men do, in fact, have options Well your friends must be better looking than me then. The vast majority of my matches I never heard from once. And they were pretty average looking guys. Overweight. Bald. Well under 6 feet.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/07/26 07:46 PM
–	r/Bumble proves men do, in fact, have options I had pretty similar experiences on the apps. Except a decent number of them would ask for nudes and ghost you if you declined.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/07/26 07:41 PM
6	For the most part, the idea of "unpaid domestic labor" either doesn't exist or isn't relevant Nah, I worked 65 hours a week (in a very physically demanding field) to my ex husband’s 40. I still did about 95% of the housework and when I asked him to scoop the cat box he would wait days, and then refuse to do it at all when I asked him again.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/07/26 05:37 PM
–	r/Bumble proves men do, in fact, have options Yeah because men started mass right swiping without ever looking at pics, let alone reading profiles. Which led to a pretty unpleasant user experience for women, and women had to adjust their use accordingly. Getting immediately unmatched as soon as they look at your pics is pretty brutal. Getting low effort convos from men who might be willing to use you for sex if you make it as easy on them as possible is not much better.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/07/26 05:28 PM
–	r/Bumble proves men do, in fact, have options Nope. Online dating was a much different experience before it became popular with Tinder. I might get one or two initial messages a week 20 years ago, and I was often sending out more than I was receiving. But you also didn’t have to “match” with someone to converse with them. You could just simply send them a message.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/07/26 05:21 PM
–	r/Bumble proves men do, in fact, have options Men have essentially forced women to be extremely selective on apps unless they want to get hounded with farrrrr more messages than they can possibly respond to or keep up with.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/07/26 05:16 PM
–	r/Bumble proves men do, in fact, have options Sounds like they’re consistently blowing it in the chat.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/07/26 04:59 PM
1	if given two options, 99.9% of women would choose the shy guy over a serial killer Yes that’s what they did	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/07/26 04:56 PM
–	Women Get way more than men in relationships and Marriages. Couples who met online also include those that met through other online channels, not just dating apps.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/07/26 02:00 PM
4	if given two options, 99.9% of women would choose the shy guy over a serial killer In comparison to bullying victims.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/07/26 01:15 PM
12	if given two options, 99.9% of women would choose the shy guy over a serial killer This study had both male and female subjects, and female bullies had a much higher correlation with dating success than male bullies did. That point aside, it’s hilarious to me how studies with self reported evidence are worthless garbage to so many of you here, unless of course it supports your preconceived worldview. Like, wow, such a shocker that the Machiavellian asshole kids claim to have had more sex, claim to be well liked by their peers, and self-assess as more attractive than average. I…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/07/26 11:57 AM
0	What should be the appropriate punishment for a paternity fraud? Three weeks is a long time.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/07/26 01:25 AM
1	Unpopular opinion: I think asking for a live-in relationship before marriage is a red flag—for me The benefit is that I get to see and spend time with my boyfriend more often, and that we each only have to pay half the rent. I like sleeping with him every night. I like seeing him as soon as I come home from work. I miss him so much when he is out of town for a couple of days. I don’t care all that much about marriage. I will get married if he wants to. But it’s not that big of a deal to me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/07/26 12:37 AM
0	What should be the appropriate punishment for a paternity fraud? When you go in to the ob gyn and they tell you how far along you are, it’s an estimate. There is no way to pinpoint an exact date of conception. If she is given incorrect information about the date of conception, she may think it’s not possible for someone else to be the father.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/07/26 12:27 AM
0	What should be the appropriate punishment for a paternity fraud? Nah, she may have every reason to believe that the other guy isn’t/couldn’t be the father if the timing of the pregnancy makes it unlikely.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/07/26 12:20 AM
0	What should be the appropriate punishment for a paternity fraud? It’s not necessarily a 50/50 chance though.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/07/26 12:19 AM
1	What should be the appropriate punishment for a paternity fraud? We’re not talking about any of those though. We are talking about fraud. Which you have to prove there was intent.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/07/26 08:14 PM
0	What should be the appropriate punishment for a paternity fraud? They would still have to prove that you knew the money was given in error.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/07/26 12:32 PM
1	The Reactions to the Ice Spice/Tobey Macguire Kissing situation DEBUNKS the AGE GAP OUTRAGE myth Yeah that doesn’t make it better to me. Idk, I’m younger than that and I have a 26 year old kid. To me it feels like messing with a kid, even though I’m aware it’s all legal. I just feel squicked out about big age gaps.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/07/26 06:34 AM
1	“Would you love me if I was (sic) a worm?” is the single most valid concern/insecurity women have and men should be ashamed for mocking them over it I have never felt like it was a question to be taken seriously. I always thought it was just a weird joke. Boy am I out of the loop.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/07/26 05:43 AM
10	Do most women feel they have to restrain their sexuality to find a compatible man? I used to,but honestly, fuck that. I won’t any longer settle for being in a relationship with a man who doesn’t match my sexual energy. I want someone to do like alien abduction role play with me. And I stuck it out for years before finding my person.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/07/26 05:35 AM
2	What should be the appropriate punishment for a paternity fraud? There could be scenarios where you had reason to think it was a bonus or something and didn’t think much of it. Or if your paychecks only go up my a little bit each time but it adds up over time.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/07/26 05:21 AM
1	What should be the appropriate punishment for a paternity fraud? Yeah I have received court ordered victims compensation. It helped a lot, but there are limits to what you can get compensated. You have to show proof of expenses incurred and cannot get pain and suffering unless you also file a civil suit.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/07/26 04:16 AM
1	Passport broing is unfairly demonized I honestly don’t care if men look abroad for a partner. I don’t think there is anything wrong with that inherently. But some of the things passport bros say about “western” women are super misogynistic and shitty. That’s where I take issue.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/07/26 01:39 AM
2	What should be the appropriate punishment for a paternity fraud? I’m not saying that getting HIV is no big deal. I’m saying that you are pretty unlikely to get it from someone else who is under treatment, even if you are hitting it raw on a regular basis.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/26 11:40 PM
2	The Reactions to the Ice Spice/Tobey Macguire Kissing situation DEBUNKS the AGE GAP OUTRAGE myth That’s wild. I’m having a negative reaction to it right now, so make it two. I’m not against age gaps but I would seriously question the motives of a woman that age going after someone in their 20’s. Eww.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/26 11:25 PM
1	The Reactions to the Ice Spice/Tobey Macguire Kissing situation DEBUNKS the AGE GAP OUTRAGE myth Ok he can still get it though. 😆	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/26 11:20 PM
2	What should be the appropriate punishment for a paternity fraud? Then he is much more of a scumbag but still didn’t break any laws. Most people who are being treated for HIV are not able to pass it to others, even if no condoms are used. Current treatments are very very effective. I have friends who are HIV pos and it’s not like it used to be.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/26 11:16 PM
-1	What should be the appropriate punishment for a paternity fraud? So called “paternity fraud” does not meet the legal definition of fraud.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/26 11:12 PM
1	What should be the appropriate punishment for a paternity fraud? If you’re talking specifically about burglary, the victim is rarely going to see any compensation coming from the person who did it, even if they are caught.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/26 11:11 PM
3	What should be the appropriate punishment for a paternity fraud? The chances of a man contracting HIV from having unprotected vaginal sex one time with an HIV positive female partner are actually pretty low. From the CDC: >The likelihood of a man becoming infected with HIV from a single episode of unprotected vaginal sex with an HIV-positive woman is relatively low—statistically estimated at about 4 in 10,000 exposures.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/26 11:08 PM
0	What should be the appropriate punishment for a paternity fraud? Just saying that it’s not always irrelevant if you’re trying to get compensation for your shit being stolen.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/26 11:05 PM
0	What should be the appropriate punishment for a paternity fraud? Battery is a crime. Cheating is not.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/26 11:03 PM
5	What should be the appropriate punishment for a paternity fraud? You would have to know that the money doesn’t belong to you, and they would have to prove that to get a conviction. That’s intent.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/26 11:01 PM
5	What should be the appropriate punishment for a paternity fraud? That’s not a criminal charge though. It’s a civil one.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/26 10:55 PM
5	Men shouldn’t have to be hypermasculine providers in order to get into relationships. Well it’s a good thing that lower class men are also getting into relationships and getting married too then. I’ve worked a lot of low wage jobs, and of the men I have worked with, a majority were either married or in a long term relationship. I live in the shitty part of town and have tons of neighbors who are in heterosexual relationships. Most are Gen Z or younger millennials.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/26 10:54 PM
12	What should be the appropriate punishment for a paternity fraud? Being charged with most crimes requires proof of intent.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/26 10:47 PM
3	What should be the appropriate punishment for a paternity fraud? She’s talking about the obvious double standard that many male posters display on this sub.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/26 10:46 PM
1	What should be the appropriate punishment for a paternity fraud? Insurance does account for the quality of the lock on a break in.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/26 10:45 PM
7	What should be the appropriate punishment for a paternity fraud? No	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/26 10:33 PM
2	What should be the appropriate punishment for a paternity fraud? You don’t have to be an attorney to want the actual law to be followed ffs.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/26 10:30 PM
7	What should be the appropriate punishment for a paternity fraud? In order to get any kind of legal justice in that situation, they would still have to prove that that guy knew he had HIV. Otherwise he’s just a garden variety reckless scumbag.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/26 10:29 PM
4	Life as a woman in west is so much easier Yeah who gives a shit about how dehumanizing that is. 🙄	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/26 05:03 PM
1	Life as a woman in west is so much easier I honestly wish that anyone who says this actually could experience what it’s like to live as a girl/woman starting at birth. I wish you all could experience having to protect yourself and your younger siblings from creepy uncles before hitting puberty. I wish you could experience having gross sexual comments made about your body by grown ass men before getting out of middle school. I wish you could experience unsolicited comments like “Should you really be eating that? You don’t want to get f…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/26 04:51 PM
6	No matter who you are or what opinions you hold, if your views on dating and gender relations come from second-hand "online experiences", those opinions aren't worth much OLD stats only reflect the truth about people’s behavior on OLD platforms at the time they were done. Some people on this sub will take almost 20 year old data, and act as though it has any bearing on how the average person dates. It doesn’t. Not only that but they will conveniently leave out allllllll the other data from those same “studies” that don support their POV. I was using OK Cupid in 2008 when that “80/20” stat came out. Meeting your partner online at that time still had a huge stigma …	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/26 01:45 PM
3	Many young men are viewed as blobs Cool, have fun taking care of all the severely disabled people. It’s pretty fucking exhausting anyway. I’m happy to unload that “useless” job onto any male who wants to take my place. Hope you have a shit ton of patience and a strong stomach.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/26 06:28 AM
3	Bachelorette parties I’ve never been to a bachelorette party with a stripper. Hell I have never been to a bachelorette party at all. I didn’t have one for any of my marriages either.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/26 05:22 AM
–	Do women feel entitled to men's bodies? I have literally had dudes follow me around the club and continue putting their hands on me even when I keep walking away from them each time. I expect absolutely no help from men in this kind of scenario though. Other women who were complete strangers to me have stepped in on my behalf.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/26 12:37 AM
1	How to understand what is your league? No. For yourself. How do you determine your own league.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/26 12:03 AM
1	I feel like many women complain about not being able to find a “good guy” or steady man but are having sex way too early on. The good guys I’ve dated whom I didn’t have sex with right away were really not interested in having sex at all.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/07/26 03:48 PM
–	Why specifically would you dislike the blackpill going mainstream? It's getting more popular. Ugly men are my type.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/07/26 09:27 PM
1	How to understand what is your league? Ok. And how do you do that?	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/07/26 04:07 PM
1	Women only feel anxious and unsafe because they have no survival instincts, and don’t learn until something bad happens. And? Who said anyone about other topics? Not me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/07/26 02:25 PM
2	Women only feel anxious and unsafe because they have no survival instincts, and don’t learn until something bad happens. You asked me to link you to posts from men who complain about women taking basic precautions. That’s not the only topic where I’ve seen it happen, but it’s certainly one of them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/07/26 10:00 AM
2	Women only feel anxious and unsafe because they have no survival instincts, and don’t learn until something bad happens. Well it’s a lot harder to defend yourself if you did sleep with them. And on the topic of men being terrified of being baby trapped, I used to tell men that I had an incurable STI (I don’t) and they would STILL pressure me to have sex without a condom. I have had so many veritable strangers jump into bed with me without so much as a conversation about birth control as well. Men are absolute morons.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/07/26 09:47 AM
2	Women only feel anxious and unsafe because they have no survival instincts, and don’t learn until something bad happens. Search the sub for “male loneliness” and you should have enough material to keep you busy for weeks.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/07/26 09:42 AM
0	If you have to use Money or Status to attract a Women she just doesnt like you that much. I didn’t like the losers I was with either, to be fair.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/07/26 09:40 AM
2	Women only feel anxious and unsafe because they have no survival instincts, and don’t learn until something bad happens. Cool, I hope you stick around and keep that energy for the men here who do exactly that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/07/26 09:29 AM
2	Women only feel anxious and unsafe because they have no survival instincts, and don’t learn until something bad happens. Well, not jumping into bed with any and every woman who is remotely willing would be a start.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/07/26 09:28 AM
2	Women only feel anxious and unsafe because they have no survival instincts, and don’t learn until something bad happens. The way men on this sub talk about false rape allegations of being baby trapped, you’d think they would be a bit more cautious.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/07/26 06:34 AM
3	Women only feel anxious and unsafe because they have no survival instincts, and don’t learn until something bad happens. Yo, it’s not that women don’t have self preservation instincts, it’s that we are routinely shamed (by men) for having them. Thanks for coming to my Ted Talk.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/07/26 06:30 AM
1	If you were born male, do you think you'd be doing better than other men in areas that you criticize men for? Based on how my brother turned out, I’m guessing things would not have been great. Who really knows though. A lot of the reason I am the way I am is not just because I’m female but also because I’m queer. That caused me to question a lot of the ways I was brought up pretty early on.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/07/26 10:35 PM
1	Women won't tolerate a male version of AWDTSG ive had this discussion with another person on this exact thread earlier lol. I do not necessarily disagree, but I think that you have chosen sex as a "personal super private information" not in arbitrary manner. if your partner was arrested for drug smuggling in 2015, it was still be socially required of him to disclose that info even he has already paid the time etc because relationships are built on foundational honesty. Unless they have a conviction of the sort that they are legally required…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/07/26 06:48 PM
1	Women won't tolerate a male version of AWDTSG If someone needs to know the exact number of people I have slept with in the past and details about each sexual encounter, then I’m not compatible with that person. If that kind of information exchange is important to you, then find a partner with the same standards. You do not have the right to information that a partner or potential partner isn’t interested in giving. The only thing you have a right to in the scenario is to end the relationship.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/07/26 06:18 PM
1	Women won't tolerate a male version of AWDTSG No, it doesn’t make the situation clearer because those situations really aren’t comparable at all.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/07/26 06:11 PM
1	Women won't tolerate a male version of AWDTSG Just how often do you think this is actually happening?	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/07/26 04:52 PM
–	What movies would you like men to watch? Reminded me of my childhood in a lot of ways.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/07/26 12:33 PM
3	Women won't tolerate a male version of AWDTSG I assume that if things got serious enough to the point where he met my family, any family members of mine he had slept with would take me aside and let me know that later on. I do not know how many people my boyfriend has been with before me, nor do I know all their names (except has last ex, because I met and was friends with his ex before I ever even had talked to my boyfriend) or know what they look like. My boyfriend mostly has dated and had sex with men before me. It’s not a trivial number…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/07/26 07:09 AM
5	What movies would you like men to watch? It’s a miniseries, but Unbelievable on Netflix. Also Welcome to the Dollhouse.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/07/26 01:56 AM
–	Women get autoimmune disorders more than men because they have it worse Most autoimmune disorders won’t kill you outright or shorten your life. Also if you have one, you are very likely to get more.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/06/26 11:28 PM
1	How to understand what is your league? Well considering that the OP is about how to understand what your own league is, trends don’t matter all that much in that context.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/06/26 03:29 PM
11	Women who don't pay for thier stuff or avoid 50-50 are red flags. Do they even know what “bisexual” means? 🤣	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/06/26 02:34 PM
8	Women who don't pay for thier stuff or avoid 50-50 are red flags. 🙄	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/06/26 02:01 PM
14	Women who don't pay for thier stuff or avoid 50-50 are red flags. No, I have no idea what you are trying to say’s what do bisexual and lesbian women have to do with anything?	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/06/26 09:04 AM
–	Wives who don’t have regular sex with their husbands should never have married him It helps a lot that my boyfriend is 14 years younger than me! 😆 He keeps me young.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/06/26 03:16 AM
–	Wives who don’t have regular sex with their husbands should never have married him Thanks, me too! My drive has slowed some since I turned 40, and I think his drive is quite a bit higher than mine. But I can still be persuaded by him very easily. Lol	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/06/26 03:11 AM
26	Women who don't pay for thier stuff or avoid 50-50 are red flags. >A large number of women being bisexual lesbian and hypergamous also confirms to the suspicion that why women avoid 50-50. Wait… what?	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/06/26 12:38 AM
–	Wives who don’t have regular sex with their husbands should never have married him Well my lived experience is having wasted 12 years total of my life on men who were not interested in having sex at all.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/06/26 12:10 AM
1	How to understand what is your league? I’d rather just be myself any find someone who likes me for who I already am, rather than having to change my entire physical appearance and put on a costume every day just to attract a slightly higher percentage of men. But that’s me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/06/26 12:08 AM
–	Wives who don’t have regular sex with their husbands should never have married him There are about as many men causing dead bedrooms as there are women. After going through that twice now, I’m heavily crossing my fingers that my boyfriend maintains at least some of his high sex drive for a while.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/06/26 10:58 PM
1	How to understand what is your league? Trends really don’t matter all that much on an individual basis though.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/06/26 09:30 PM
1	How to understand what is your league? There may be trends in terms of some people being found statistically more attractive than others. But on an individual basis it is entirely subjective.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/06/26 08:53 PM
2	Women detest men who “just want to have sex” yet live exactly like that from age 18 to 32 or so. lol yeah most of us are lucky enough to not be on that man’s radar. 🤣	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/06/26 05:05 PM
2	Where is it ok to "cold approach" woman? It’s certainly a lot better if you are not an unwilling captive audience	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/06/26 05:03 PM
2	"Nice guys finish last", AFBB statementes are kind of true for most average guys. Yeah I really don’t see women here behaving the same way that men do. I have literally been accused of lying more times than I can remember on this sub. I do not see men getting treated this way.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/06/26 06:36 AM
2	It's not "men act, women are", it's "men's skills are recognized, women's are taken for granted". Nah, those are not the only resources. That’s just the stat that includes books. And if 43% of mothers is “pathetic” what does that make 23% of fathers?	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/06/26 12:50 AM
2	If the woman is successful and makes more money than the man, he can be a stay at home dad while the woman provides https://www.cbsnews.com/amp/news/women-breadwinners-tripled-since-1970s-still-doing-more-unpaid-work/	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 11:26 PM
2	If the woman is successful and makes more money than the man, he can be a stay at home dad while the woman provides I did this for about a year and my kid’s dad did fuck all while I was at work. He was pretty useless in general. Some men are better at doing the stay at home thing than others.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 11:19 PM
1	Women detest men who “just want to have sex” yet live exactly like that from age 18 to 32 or so. Apparently some guys aren’t aware of this rule because out of the five men I have been in longer relationships with (anywhere from 4 months to 8 years) four of them I hooked up with on the first date. I’ll concede that most men I have hooked up with, I never heard from again, but also I didn’t really want or expect to either. Honestly, I didn’t expect to hear from any of the guys I was in relationships with after the first date either. The one that I didn’t hook up with right away, I assumed did…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 09:57 PM
9	Women detest men who “just want to have sex” yet live exactly like that from age 18 to 32 or so. >while getting fucked every Friday with a new man thruout their entire 20s. Who do you think is doing this? My body count is over 10x more than average for a woman my age, and it still only works out an average of about 2.5 per year. Any woman having sex with a different guy every week would be an extreme outlier. Even gay men aren’t hitting those kinds of numbers.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 09:44 PM
1	"Nice guys finish last", AFBB statementes are kind of true for most average guys. I said we have insane sexual chemistry. Idk if that means the same thing as what you are talking about or not. It wasn’t immediate, and definitely not based on looks.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 08:59 PM
1	"Nice guys finish last", AFBB statementes are kind of true for most average guys. What do you consider to be “raw lust”?	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 08:53 PM
2	"Nice guys finish last", AFBB statementes are kind of true for most average guys. Well the only other person it could be is me, and it isn’t.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 08:43 PM
2	"Nice guys finish last", AFBB statementes are kind of true for most average guys. You’re not the only one in this sub, but I can see that my replies have exactly one view and one downvote, and you have to view my reply in order to respond.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 08:41 PM
2	"Nice guys finish last", AFBB statementes are kind of true for most average guys. It’s weird that you keep downvoting me when I’m literally just answering your questions. Have a nice life.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 08:36 PM
4	"Nice guys finish last", AFBB statementes are kind of true for most average guys. I’m not “just friends” with my male friends because I think they are ugly. That’s just weird.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 08:34 PM
7	"Nice guys finish last", AFBB statementes are kind of true for most average guys. Who said anything about studies? The thread OP linked to is only going to get responses from people who selected their partner for stability and not love. It’s right there in the title. You will not see any other point of view from that thread because people who did select their partner for love won’t be responding in that thread.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 08:31 PM
1	"Nice guys finish last", AFBB statementes are kind of true for most average guys. Yes, some people find that a fully modern lifestyle leaves them feeling disconnected from themselves and from their community. I’m not completely anti-technology, but having to work 50-60 hours a week to keep paying bills that I don’t have any control over the rising costs of is not it for me. I prefer to do more directly for myself and worry less about money.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 08:26 PM
1	"Nice guys finish last", AFBB statementes are kind of true for most average guys. I’m explaining myself just fine. You just don’t seem to understand any of these very common terms and are apparently unwilling to google them either. By creature comforts I mean things like indoor plumbing, air conditioning, laundry facilities, electricity, etc. A subsistence lifestyle is living off the land. Acquiring resources directly from your natural environment rather than exchanging money for those things.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 08:17 PM
1	"Nice guys finish last", AFBB statementes are kind of true for most average guys. No? “Couples who met online” include those who meet on other social media for the purpose of these statistics. Video games, Discord, Reddit, Facebook, etc. You can have no luck with apps at all and still have met your SO online.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 08:07 PM
2	"Nice guys finish last", AFBB statementes are kind of true for most average guys. >What does that even mean? >You're not actually saying anything. 🙄 >Idk who you are. I'm not looking to have anything in common with you. Clearly you don’t, nor do I expect you to. But I sincerely have no idea why you feel like you have to be rude about it. What that means is surviving without many or most of the creature comforts that most people have in industrialized nations. There are still a few parts of the US where most people are living a subsistence lifestyle. I have done it before and …	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 08:04 PM
2	"Nice guys finish last", AFBB statementes are kind of true for most average guys. Most of the issues that men have meeting women online are specifically issues on dating apps. Discord and other similar platforms are basically just an extension of one’s social circle now.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 07:58 PM
2	"Nice guys finish last", AFBB statementes are kind of true for most average guys. Let me put it this way, if you have never contributed directly to your own survival, and you have zero desire to ever do that, I probably won’t have much in common with you. It’s not a judgement on anyone’s character. Most people have no interest in that, and that’s fine. But I personally feel very confined in relationships with people like that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 07:55 PM
3	"Nice guys finish last", AFBB statementes are kind of true for most average guys. “Online” in this context includes way more than just dating apps. I met my boyfriend on Discord. I was not looking for a relationship and neither was he.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 07:51 PM
3	"Nice guys finish last", AFBB statementes are kind of true for most average guys. One that has no connection to their base animal instincts.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 07:47 PM
2	"Nice guys finish last", AFBB statementes are kind of true for most average guys. That’s certainly your prerogative. Domesticated humans bore the shit out of me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 07:46 PM
2	"Nice guys finish last", AFBB statementes are kind of true for most average guys. Not unless they’ve been in a monogamous relationship for the past 15 years with no breaks.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 07:44 PM
3	"Nice guys finish last", AFBB statementes are kind of true for most average guys. “Feral” is a typically domesticated animal that lives in the wild. Happens pretty often with cats. The only reason feral cats get put down is because they can become an invasive species and threaten bird populations. Even in the context of humans it just means independent, unconventional, and untamed. Not “crazy”.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 07:42 PM
2	"Nice guys finish last", AFBB statementes are kind of true for most average guys. There are plenty of couples who have both feral sexual attraction and stability within their relationship. You just won’t find them in that thread. I had neither of those with my first husband. I have both of those with my current partner. What irritates the fuck out of me is the guys in this sub who take any random Reddit comments that even halfway show some evidence of their pre-existing worldview as the absolute gospel truth. But when I say that my boyfriend is 5’6”, bald and a little pudgy, …	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 07:24 PM
5	Where is it ok to "cold approach" woman? I don’t care if it’s the middle of the day and there are lots of people around. I have been groped by a drunk guy at a bus stop with lots of people there and they all fucking ignored it. I have also had a guy get on the bus, get off at the same stop as me, and follow me harassing me because I wasn’t receptive to his advances. Also in the middle of the day, and there were lots of people at the stop. I will always be on guard in that scenario.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 07:10 PM
1	Gendered expectations for men are only retired in word, not reality Fun fact: you can be both.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 06:51 PM
4	Question for bluepill: Why do feminists say men have problems expressing their feelings, when men are known for being more direct and blunt then women? Every. Single. Time. And then they act like women are the problem because they’re statistically more likely to file for divorce. 🙄	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 06:13 PM
10	Where is it ok to "cold approach" woman? Or at a bus stop. Even if they turn out to be nice and not creepy at all, it’s gonna get my hackles up.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 05:32 PM
1	Where is it ok to "cold approach" woman? The only time I have hooked up with guys who cold approached me, I was by myself at a bar or club. I have never had it lead to a relationship, but that had more to do with the circumstances at the time than anything.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 05:25 PM
1	Gendered expectations for men are only retired in word, not reality Granting asylum to conscription aged men would absolutely interfere with Ukraine’s ability to enforce their conscription. How would it not do so? Why would Norway grant asylum to men wanting to avoid conscription when they conscript their own men and women?	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 10:39 AM
1	Gendered expectations for men are only retired in word, not reality It has nothing to do with gender roles. They have no control over Ukraine’s conscription laws and who is included in the conscription pool. They have chosen not to interfere with Ukraine’s conscription, and there is nothing hypocritical about the way they have done that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 10:32 AM
1	Gendered expectations for men are only retired in word, not reality Their asylum laws are structured on not interfering with conscription in other countries.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 10:28 AM
1	Gendered expectations for men are only retired in word, not reality How is it against Denmark’s principles? They have conscription irrespective of gender. Their principles allow for conscription.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 10:22 AM
1	Gendered expectations for men are only retired in word, not reality Their position on conscription is very relevant. Women are not subject to conscription in Ukraine. Sending women back would do nothing to improve Ukraine’s chances. Same with sending back boys and men over 60. The only people being excluded from seeking asylum are those able to be conscripted.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 10:20 AM
1	Gendered expectations for men are only retired in word, not reality Norway includes both men and women in their own conscription, so clearly as a country they believe that the right to bodily autonomy should not include the right to not be conscripted. Nothing about their position here is hypocritical.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 10:12 AM
1	How should a female navigate a situation where the man is smaller than average Gross.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 10:02 AM
1	Gendered expectations for men are only retired in word, not reality I never said that it wasn’t about interference? Norway specifically cited not wanting to interfere with Ukraine’s conscription. I have said this several times. Allowing asylum to people within the conscription pool DOES interfere with Ukraine’s self governance. Accepting women does not interfere with their conscription and in turn their self governance. All it does is put those women at risk for no benefit.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 10:01 AM
1	How should a female navigate a situation where the man is smaller than average I thought you had all the time in the world. What happened to that?	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 09:54 AM
1	Gendered expectations for men are only retired in word, not reality For fuck’s sake. They are denying asylum to anyone able to be conscripted. If women were being conscripted I highly doubt they would grant those women asylum but not men, especially considering that Norway includes women in their own conscription pool. They are not denying asylum to all men, only men within the age range able to be conscripted. So clearly they are not just being sexist for the sake of being sexist, right? It’s not “accidental” either, it’s very clearly intended to avoid interfer…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 09:52 AM
1	How should a female navigate a situation where the man is smaller than average Nope	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 09:40 AM
1	Gendered expectations for men are only retired in word, not reality That’s not the only principle that they have. If it were, then you might have a point. Allowing asylum to conscription aged men from Ukraine does interfere with Ukraine’s ability to self govern by giving those men a legal channel to dodge conscription. Why is this so difficult for you to grasp? There is no reason to send back women or men outside of the conscription age range because those people would just be at risk without any benefit to Ukraine.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 09:40 AM
1	How should a female navigate a situation where the man is smaller than average I’m also responding to other lame ass dudes online.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 09:35 AM
1	How should a female navigate a situation where the man is smaller than average What else have I got to do	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 09:32 AM
1	Gendered expectations for men are only retired in word, not reality Where did I ever say that it wasn’t a sex sort?	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 09:30 AM
1	Gendered expectations for men are only retired in word, not reality Norway specifically cited not wanting to interfere with Ukraine’s ability to defend themselves. Why are we still talking about this?	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 09:30 AM
1	How should a female navigate a situation where the man is smaller than average No, I’m just ignoring that. It against the rules of this sub to block participants. My boyfriend is asleep and will be for at least another 5 hours.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 09:28 AM
1	Gendered expectations for men are only retired in word, not reality Norway accepting asylum from Ukrainian men interferes with the Ukraines military defense. It is intellectually dishonest to claim otherwise.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 09:26 AM
1	How should a female navigate a situation where the man is smaller than average Like what? You admitting that you have no proof of anything you claim? Sure.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 09:22 AM
1	Gendered expectations for men are only retired in word, not reality Norway accepting asylum from men absolutely does interfere with the laws in Ukraine.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 09:21 AM
1	How should a female navigate a situation where the man is smaller than average I don’t fuck with children	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 09:18 AM
1	Gendered expectations for men are only retired in word, not reality Even if that were true, in what way does that imply that they value bodily autonomy over another country’s right to self govern?	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 09:18 AM
1	How should a female navigate a situation where the man is smaller than average I do what I want	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 09:16 AM
1	Gendered expectations for men are only retired in word, not reality When has Norway ever claimed to value bodily autonomy above all else? Why would anyone have that expectation of them?	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 09:16 AM
1	How should a female navigate a situation where the man is smaller than average I’m not your baby. Glad you’re finally admitting that you haven’t proven anything though.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 09:13 AM
1	Gendered expectations for men are only retired in word, not reality No, not if it’s only men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 09:13 AM
1	How should a female navigate a situation where the man is smaller than average Still waiting for you to prove anything you have said	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 09:11 AM
1	Gendered expectations for men are only retired in word, not reality I don’t believe in conscription unless both men and women are included.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 09:10 AM
1	How should a female navigate a situation where the man is smaller than average I’d like you to back up your claims with something besides anecdotes that fall apart with the slightest breeze.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 09:07 AM
1	Gendered expectations for men are only retired in word, not reality You are misreading that comment. If a bunch of other countries start accepting asylum from Ukrainian men, they will not have the ability to adequately defend themselves, putting the entire country (Ukraine) at risk.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 09:06 AM
1	Gendered expectations for men are only retired in word, not reality When I asked for more examples I meant examples having nothing to do with the current war in the Ukraine. The fact that other countries are doing the same thing only reinforces that interfering with another country’s conscription is not a good idea. Also, you’re going to have to provide some evidence for Norway, Denmark, and Germany all branding themselves as “my body my choice.”	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 09:04 AM
1	Gendered expectations for men are only retired in word, not reality I never said anything about reducing risk in Norway. Choosing not to interfere with Ukraine’s ability to defend themselves is not equal to wanting to support them in the war.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 09:00 AM
1	Gendered expectations for men are only retired in word, not reality How would it reduce the risk to Ukraine if they sent the women back too? Women seeking asylum due to the war are not going to enlist voluntarily, and Ukraine isn’t going to conscript them either.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 08:56 AM
1	Gendered expectations for men are only retired in word, not reality Because, once again, Norway has no control over who gets conscripted in the Ukraine. The only thing Norway has control over is whether or not they are going to actively participate in putting the entire country at risk.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 08:52 AM
1	How should a female navigate a situation where the man is smaller than average Still haven’t proven dick	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 08:49 AM
1	How should a female navigate a situation where the man is smaller than average I told you I have all the time in the world.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 08:48 AM
0	How should a female navigate a situation where the man is smaller than average I have no desire to fix anyone. Which is why I jumped at the chance to be with someone who did not require any fixing.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 08:46 AM
0	How should a female navigate a situation where the man is smaller than average You gave some questionable anecdotes that didn’t hold up under any scrutiny at all, and then dismissed everything I said to counter that because I’m a woman. What are you, like 13?	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 08:41 AM
0	How should a female navigate a situation where the man is smaller than average You haven’t proven anything.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 08:38 AM
1	How should a female navigate a situation where the man is smaller than average So do i	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 08:36 AM
1	How should a female navigate a situation where the man is smaller than average I’m not mad. You’re just wasting your time.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 08:35 AM
0	How should a female navigate a situation where the man is smaller than average Then really, idk why you bother commenting here. “I don’t believe anything a woman says” isn’t an argument. Meanwhile I’m supposed to just believe that you don’t know anything single woman who doesn’t strictly adhere to the 6/6/6 rule, except they really don’t because he only has to satisfy one of those three things.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 08:31 AM
0	How should a female navigate a situation where the man is smaller than average I hadn’t been on a date with or had sex with a man in over seven years when we met. I wasn’t looking for anyone during that time either.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 08:27 AM
2	Gendered expectations for men are only retired in word, not reality It's that a country branding itself on equality and "my body, my choice" had one moment where the principle carried a real price, and it dropped it, for one sex. Because standing on principle in this instance puts the entire country at even higher risk than it already is. Do you have any other examples to back up your argument, or is it only this one?	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 08:25 AM
1	How should a female navigate a situation where the man is smaller than average My boyfriend still doesn’t have any one of those. I pursued him. I drove 10 hrs to see him when we were long distance. I initiate sex with him almost daily. Does that sound like someone I’m merely settling for?	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 08:21 AM
1	How should a female navigate a situation where the man is smaller than average I thought one of the 6’s was for 6 inches. Either way, it’s not much of a rule if he only needs to satisfy one of those three “requirements”.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 08:12 AM
0	How should a female navigate a situation where the man is smaller than average No it doesn’t. Being “in good shape” isn’t even a part of the 6/6/6 rule.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 08:07 AM
1	Gendered expectations for men are only retired in word, not reality Norway cannot conscript Ukrainian women. Only Ukraine can make that decision. If women from Ukraine are seeking asylum in Norway due to the war, there is almost zero chance those same women would volunteer to fight if they were sent back. Not wanting to potentially affect the outcome of a war for an entire country is a completely legitimate reason to make the decision that they did. No other reason is needed.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 08:06 AM
1	How should a female navigate a situation where the man is smaller than average That’s ridiculous logic. Even if that were true, I sincerely doubt that you don’t know a single woman who is in a relationship with a man who is under six feet.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 07:58 AM
0	How should a female navigate a situation where the man is smaller than average You know the salary and dick size of every single man that every woman you know is in a relationship with?	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 07:55 AM
1	How should a female navigate a situation where the man is smaller than average Why do you feel that it’s not “worth” believing that some women could not give a shit about some arbitrary 6/6/6 rule?	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 07:51 AM
0	How should a female navigate a situation where the man is smaller than average No, I mean why are you here at all? This is a debate sub. If you’re just going to say that you don’t believe anything a woman says, you’re not debating in good faith.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 07:48 AM
1	How should a female navigate a situation where the man is smaller than average Then why are you here?	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 07:45 AM
0	Gendered expectations for men are only retired in word, not reality So name one: what consideration outweighed a man's right not to be sent toward a front, that isn't just "Ukraine is willing to force men and not women"? Umm, the fact that even more men will definitely die if Ukrainian soldiers are significantly outnumbered? The fact that it could permanently alter the entire future of Ukraine?	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 07:44 AM
0	How should a female navigate a situation where the man is smaller than average My boyfriend doesn’t come close to any one of those metrics, and I would hurl myself off a cliff if anything happened to him. Tall men give me the ick. They don’t even look right.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 07:38 AM
1	Gendered expectations for men are only retired in word, not reality You keep acting as though bodily autonomy is the only thing that matters in this decision.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 07:35 AM
0	Gendered expectations for men are only retired in word, not reality >whom is arguably the most influential female politician in history Who is arguing that?	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 07:06 AM
2	Gendered expectations for men are only retired in word, not reality Right, but granting women from Ukraine asylum is not going to have any effect on that country’s ability to defend themselves. There is no realistic chance that that could potentially change any outcome. Granting men asylum certainly could.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 07:03 AM
1	Gendered expectations for men are only retired in word, not reality Right, but granting women from Ukraine asylum is not going to have any effect on that country’s ability to defend themselves. There is no realistic chance that that could potentially change any outcome. Granting men asylum certainly could.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 06:50 AM
3	Gendered expectations for men are only retired in word, not reality We’re not talking about sheltering one man. It would be a lot of men. The neutral option would interfere with Ukraine having enough able bodied soldiers, and thus interfere with their ability to defend themselves adequately. You’re making this all about feminism, when that’s not the only thing at stake.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 05:02 AM
2	Gendered expectations for men are only retired in word, not reality How would they have known what it’s like before women were even allowed in combat roles?	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 04:57 AM
2	Gendered expectations for men are only retired in word, not reality They would choosing to interfere with another country’s laws by doing so. That’s not something to be taken lightly. Gender equality is not and cannot be their only consideration.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 04:48 AM
2	Gendered expectations for men are only retired in word, not reality Bodycam footage is released in more than just “intense” situations involving a direct threat. Regardless, we have no way of knowing how much of it he has seen, how much comparable footage he has seen of male officers in comparable situations, and whether or not the footage he has seen is getting attention only because the female officer is showing fear. Hell, since he hasn’t posted any links at all, I can’t even confirm whether what he is saying is even true. It’s a stupid-ass reason to claim th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 04:40 AM
2	Gendered expectations for men are only retired in word, not reality No, the reason given was that they did not want to interfere with Ukraine having enough able bodied soldiers. If Ukraine were drafting women as well, and they only denied asylum to men, then you might have a point. But they aren’t. Foreign policy is based on a whole lot more than just ideals about gender equality.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 04:35 AM
0	Gendered expectations for men are only retired in word, not reality Do you think they would have done it the exact same way if the Ukraine also drafted women?	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 04:21 AM
2	Gendered expectations for men are only retired in word, not reality I literally said there was some skill set crossover. Why are you acting like I have said there is no similarity whatsoever? And my second point still stands. I have no idea what bodycam footage he has seen but it’s idiotic to assume that that is representative of how any female cop or soldier would behave in a potentially dangerous situation.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 04:21 AM
3	Gendered expectations for men are only retired in word, not reality I didn’t feign anything. I assumed he was talking about cops, but he didn’t specify, and it had nothing to do with my comment regardless. There may be some skill set crossover, but they are still very different jobs. Regardless, the vast majority of bodycam footage is not out there available for civilians to watch, so why he would think whatever he has seen has any bearing on female soldiers is beyond me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 04:04 AM
6	Gendered expectations for men are only retired in word, not reality Norway cannot change Ukraine’s conscription laws.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 03:42 AM
3	Gendered expectations for men are only retired in word, not reality I realize he is talking about cops. It’s a very different job.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 03:29 AM
5	Gendered expectations for men are only retired in word, not reality What exactly is it that you expect them to do?	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 03:22 AM
4	Gendered expectations for men are only retired in word, not reality I’m responding to the claim that women don’t want the bad part of dismantling gender roles.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 03:21 AM
1	The sexual revolution and casual sex brought about delusional standards - even for women who are not promiscuous. I’m not attractive enough to be a Becky. 😆	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 03:17 AM
6	The sexual revolution and casual sex brought about delusional standards - even for women who are not promiscuous. The only guy I know who has a boat is my dad. He’s never had a six pack and he is 71. It’s also like a small fishing boat.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 03:16 AM
0	What % of your attraction to a man is physical and what % is everything else? Yeah, it’s the same for me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 03:10 AM
2	What % of your attraction to a man is physical and what % is everything else? In my experience, yes.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 03:05 AM
4	Gendered expectations for men are only retired in word, not reality The hell are you talking about? Since when do soldiers wear bodycams?	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 02:59 AM
0	Gendered expectations for men are only retired in word, not reality Yes, I read his post. That has no bearing on the comment I’m responding to.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 02:54 AM
7	Gendered expectations for men are only retired in word, not reality Masculine women are definitely not preferred in a heterosexual dating context.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 02:51 AM
-3	Gendered expectations for men are only retired in word, not reality Men are largely the ones who tried to keep women out of the military and out of combat positions.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 02:49 AM
1	It's not "men act, women are", it's "men's skills are recognized, women's are taken for granted". I think a lot of people actively work to be good parents. Reading parenting books and websites is one of many ways to do that, and a sizable percentage of mothers are using these resources.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 02:48 AM
3	It's not "men act, women are", it's "men's skills are recognized, women's are taken for granted". No, why would we? It doesn’t really matter if non-parents are buying/reading the books. The statement I am responding to is “Most people don’t actively work to be a good parent.” You can’t actively work to be a good parent if you aren’t a parent in the first place.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 02:30 AM
2	It's not "men act, women are", it's "men's skills are recognized, women's are taken for granted". Because non-parents rarely read that sort of material unless it’s out of vocational or academic interest.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 01:42 AM
9	It's not "men act, women are", it's "men's skills are recognized, women's are taken for granted". My job, which is a female dominated vocation, requires a huge amount of undervalued skill.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 01:03 AM
1	It's not "men act, women are", it's "men's skills are recognized, women's are taken for granted". Well yeah. We’re typically the ones providing the majority of the care.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 12:56 AM
1	It's not "men act, women are", it's "men's skills are recognized, women's are taken for granted". That would be a weird thing to study.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 12:32 AM
0	What % of your attraction to a man is physical and what % is everything else? 10% physical 90% everything else.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 12:23 AM
4	It's not "men act, women are", it's "men's skills are recognized, women's are taken for granted". According to Pew Research, 43% of mothers utilize parenting books, magazines and websites.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 12:22 AM
3	It's not "men act, women are", it's "men's skills are recognized, women's are taken for granted". https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2015/12/17/parenting-in-america/ 43% of mothers vs 23% of fathers utilize parenting books, magazines, and websites for advice.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/26 12:14 AM
5	It's not "men act, women are", it's "men's skills are recognized, women's are taken for granted". >Most people don't actively work to be a good parent, male or female, you do pick up skills as you raise them but it isn't a thing women are actively working to build especially when majority of young women these days are unsure or out right don't want children. Who is buying all of those parenting books then? I read a bunch of them when I was pregnant and when my daughter was young. >Even emotional intelligence isn't something women are actively trying to build, it is just something that happen…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/06/26 11:45 PM
10	It's not "men act, women are", it's "men's skills are recognized, women's are taken for granted". Neither are female bus drivers (I used to be one, and there are a ton of them) or cleaning ladies, or any of the other number of women breaking their backs to keep shit running.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/06/26 11:42 PM
12	It's not "men act, women are", it's "men's skills are recognized, women's are taken for granted". I agree with the premise but your examples are almost insulting. I work at a group home for intellectually disabled adults, and have gone for months being the only staff on shift, working with four adults with violent behaviors. I have come home with bruises and scratches all over my arms from being pinched and hit. Cook for them, clean the whole house, make the menu, order groceries, do their laundry, help them change clothing, shower, use the bathroom, brush their teeth, dealt with (huge) diar…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/06/26 10:49 PM
1	If you're a regular, average guy, you don't need to relate on dating apps You’re definitely not the only one.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/06/26 06:07 AM
–	A lot of people don't really know who they are or what they want, and that makes them incredibly frustrating to date Right, I was being a little hyperbolic. But my point is that what isn’t a good fit for you or for me might be a perfect fit for someone else. At the end of the day it just a compatibility issue. No harm no foul.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/06/26 05:33 AM
–	A lot of people don't really know who they are or what they want, and that makes them incredibly frustrating to date I agree with everyone saying you guys just didn’t have chemistry and were a good match for each other and that ok. I can’t imagine not having any strong opinions either, but it doesn’t make someone a bad person. I wouldn’t want to date someone like that, but someone else might like them very much. Who am I to judge?	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/06/26 03:54 AM
2	Men do reject women at similar rate, it’s just different. It’s not at all uncommon for men (even average and below average men) to reject women without having sex for a whole bunch of reasons, which is their complete right to do. I’ve been rejected by men more times than I can even remember, and while it stings, that’s life. I’m not most people’s cup of tea.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/06/26 10:23 PM
0	Men do reject women at similar rate, it’s just different. Yeah that’s not even close to accurate. You just pulled that number out of your ass.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/06/26 10:11 PM
0	Men do reject women at similar rate, it’s just different. lol show me statistics on the percentage of men who ghost after sex and their attractiveness ranking.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/06/26 10:02 PM
0	Men do reject women at similar rate, it’s just different. Has nothing to do with my “opinion”. It’s not my opinion that unattractive men ghost women after sex. It’s my actual lived experience. Sure, some of them might text me like six months or a year later. Which is fundamentally no different.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/06/26 08:36 PM
0	Men do reject women at similar rate, it’s just different. lol why in the actual fuck would anyone lie about having sex with unattractive men? I’m hypersexual due to BPD, and unattractive men are generally pretty easy to get into bed, and much more likely to be a quality lay than any attractive man is. I only had to fuck a few 7s to know they were a waste of my time, at best, and I started avoiding anyone who was above average looking.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/06/26 08:26 PM
-3	Men do reject women at similar rate, it’s just different. They make up the vast majority of my body count, which is significant.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/06/26 03:54 PM
-1	Men do reject women at similar rate, it’s just different. There are an awful lot of unattractive, low earning men out there who are not incels. Also, it’s against the rules of this sub to downvote. JSYK	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/06/26 03:51 PM
1	Men do reject women at similar rate, it’s just different. Men of all “value” levels do and will ghost women after having sex one time.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/06/26 03:49 PM
3	Men do reject women at similar rate, it’s just different. You don’t have to approach someone first in order to be rejected by them. I’ve had plenty of dudes not be interested in going out a second time even though they were the ones who asked me out initially. Likewise, I have asked out guys/women first and then not wanted to continue seeing them. It’s not unusual for an incompatibility to be revealed early on in the dating process.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/06/26 03:42 PM
–	The logic on bathroom laws targeting trans people They’ve been dicking around in politics far longer than that, unfortunately.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/06/26 05:09 AM
–	The logic on bathroom laws targeting trans people >after decades of promoting the narrative of male-bodied humans as insatiable rape monsters whose very presence is a threat to women safety. On what fucking planet? The only people I ever heard this narrative from was the bat-shit insane purity culture weirdos I had the misfortune of being surrounded by as a child.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/06/26 05:02 AM
1	How to understand what is your league? Yeah, the problem with promoting the idea of leagues as something concrete and immutable is that if a person is turned down by someone whom they believe to be below their “league”, they either get super offended by it, or it causes them to think they are less attractive than they actually are. Some people put so much stock in this concept that it affects their own self worth, or makes them feel like they are entitled to the attention of someone they feel is below them on the scale. I’ve had men …	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/06/26 04:48 AM
1	How to understand what is your league? It is also an observable reality that people have all kinds of reasons for dating someone or choosing not to date someone that have nothing to do with that person’s appearance.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/06/26 04:06 AM
1	How to understand what is your league? People make up all kinds of things that aren’t real.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/06/26 03:58 AM
2	Female entitlement My boyfriend would disagree with you about sex not being a magical otherworldly experience. 😆	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/06/26 01:29 AM
1	How to understand what is your league? The fact that all attractive people and unattractive people are not uniformly mixed does not mean that people are relegated to imaginary leagues.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/06/26 12:51 AM
1	How to understand what is your league? Ok sure. Whatever you say.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/06/26 12:33 AM
1	Why do you still want to date? I actually stopped dating men for over seven years. I dated women and had a relationship with a woman during that time. When I met my boyfriend, I wasn’t looking for anything and never intended on dating a man again. We were just friends initially and I thought he was gay, but it turned out that he is bi and we’re a very good fit for one another.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/06/26 11:40 PM
3	People are too in love with social media validation to give it up for a partner who doesn’t beat that attention What you call “validation” is worthless to me and annoying at best. Typical male validation just makes me appreciate my boyfriend even more. Horny men are a dime a dozen. They will dm you without even knowing what you look like. Because of them my participation on social media is pretty minimal. It irritates me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/06/26 06:11 PM
1	What unique value do you think men provide to society, that can't be provided by women? I didn’t say there are no differences at all between the sexes. I said that masculinity is not unique to men and femininity is not unique to women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 05:51 PM
1	Q4W: Are there any critiques of feminism that you believe are valid from a woman’s perspective? Which has fuck all to do with what I said then.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 05:38 PM
0	What unique value do you think men provide to society, that can't be provided by women? Sexual dimorphism in humans is only considered moderate compared to other primates. In humans, there is significant crossover between men and women for nearly all naturally dimorphic traits. Masculinity is not unique to men. Femininity is not unique to women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 05:37 PM
2	What unique value do you think men provide to society, that can't be provided by women? If it were inherent to sex then no woman would have masculine characteristics (physical or otherwise). You can put a dress and makeup on a masculine woman but she is still going to come off as masculine. Same goes for feminine men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 05:07 PM
1	Q4W: Are there any critiques of feminism that you believe are valid from a woman’s perspective? Provide proof that men are marginalized.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 04:56 PM
16	"Personality" and "social skills" are just attempts to moralizing dating and make lonely men feel bad You can have social skills and a magnetic personality without being a good person. You can be a good person and have poor social skills and/or a boring personality.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 04:54 PM
3	What unique value do you think men provide to society, that can't be provided by women? Yes. Yes it was.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 04:52 PM
10	What unique value do you think men provide to society, that can't be provided by women? Men provide no unique value to society aside from reproduction, and neither do women. Whether someone provides value to society or the world would be better off without them is entirely dependent on the individual.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 04:45 PM
5	What unique value do you think men provide to society, that can't be provided by women? Clothing has nothing to do with it. My family tree is full of incredibly masculine women in dresses.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 04:41 PM
6	What unique value do you think men provide to society, that can't be provided by women? I do think it matters. I would not say that masculinity is a characteristic completely unique to men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 04:35 PM
6	What unique value do you think men provide to society, that can't be provided by women? So you have never met a woman who has typically male characteristics? Or a man who has typically female characteristics?	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 04:29 PM
10	What unique value do you think men provide to society, that can't be provided by women? My mother is significantly more masculine than my boyfriend. She’s not cosplaying anything. That’s just who she is. She is 74 and I would not attempt to fight her.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 04:28 PM
5	What unique value do you think men provide to society, that can't be provided by women? How do you define masculinity?	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 04:27 PM
1	What unique value do you think men provide to society, that can't be provided by women? How do you define masculinity?	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 04:26 PM
9	What unique value do you think men provide to society, that can't be provided by women? Never met a butch woman?	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 04:09 PM
1	Q4W: Are there any critiques of feminism that you believe are valid from a woman’s perspective? Well I can’t reply since you apparently have me blocked. That’s how badly you needed to have the last word. 👍	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 03:39 PM
1	Q4W: Are there any critiques of feminism that you believe are valid from a woman’s perspective? It was more of an observation. One I have made countless times before.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 03:21 PM
1	Q4W: Are there any critiques of feminism that you believe are valid from a woman’s perspective? The mods would have sent you a message. Yes, I got a message from Reddit. What I wrote is not in the message. Just a link which goes to the deleted comment above. Then you aren't any better than any of us, cupcake. It’s annoying when someone else does it to you, isn’t it? Not that that’s going to stop you from continuing.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 03:18 PM
1	Q4W: Are there any critiques of feminism that you believe are valid from a woman’s perspective? You could pm me the comment that was deleted and the mod message, you know? I'm not saying you must as you've already said you don't care what I think about it. It’s been deleted so there is no proof of what I said in the first place. But you are also responding to me every time, so look in the mirror when it comes to beating a dead horse. I treat men the same way they treat me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 03:13 PM
1	Q4W: Are there any critiques of feminism that you believe are valid from a woman’s perspective? Case in point that you, like nearly every other man on this sub, feel the need to beat a dead horse endlessly no matter how many times I tell you there is literally no point. You seem intent on believing that Reddit is misandrist. I have just gotten evidence to the contrary delivered to my inbox. Since I cannot give you this evidence without repercussions, from my perspective we are at an impasse.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 03:04 PM
1	Q4W: Are there any critiques of feminism that you believe are valid from a woman’s perspective? Case in point	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 02:55 PM
1	Q4W: Are there any critiques of feminism that you believe are valid from a woman’s perspective? Where did I “make a stink?” I said I have no proof of your claims. If you don’t care then why are you the one who keeps bringing it up? It’s hilarious how men here are incapable of just not responding when there isn’t anything left to say.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 02:52 PM
1	Q4W: Are there any critiques of feminism that you believe are valid from a woman’s perspective? I literally just said that it doesn’t matter to me if you believe me or not.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 02:49 PM
1	Q4W: Are there any critiques of feminism that you believe are valid from a woman’s perspective? I hold men to the same standard they hold me to.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 02:36 PM
1	Q4W: Are there any critiques of feminism that you believe are valid from a woman’s perspective? It’s clear to me. Whether or not you believe me doesn’t matter to me all that much. I’m very used to being accused of lying on this sub.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 02:28 PM
1	Q4W: Are there any critiques of feminism that you believe are valid from a woman’s perspective? Clearly not in my case.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 02:22 PM
6	Women naturally tends to make things harder for men, while men naturally tends to make things easier for women Men absolutely do not find it attractive when women are proactive. At best they are flattered but still not interested.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 02:10 PM
0	Q4W: Are there any critiques of feminism that you believe are valid from a woman’s perspective? It was absolutely for a BS reason but since I can’t discuss what I even said, there is no point in talking about it further with you. The only thing I can say is that unless you consider men as a whole to be a “marginalized group”, I did not break any rules.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 02:03 PM
0	Q4W: Are there any critiques of feminism that you believe are valid from a woman’s perspective? Proof of what? That I've been banned or my own comments deleted? Yes Men and women get their shit taken down and their accounts banned all the time, for various reasons. And what? You think that automatically makes it equitable? I can't see the comment you tried to make, but I'm guessing the reason given by the mods wasn't "comment removed because you are a woman" lol I never said it was. But since I’m not allowed to say it, I guess our conversation about it has to end here.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 01:47 PM
1	Q4W: Are there any critiques of feminism that you believe are valid from a woman’s perspective? I have absolutely no proof of that claim.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 01:38 PM
2	Q4W: Are there any critiques of feminism that you believe are valid from a woman’s perspective? I see absolutely hideous blanket statements about women stay up on here all the time. So much for your theory.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 01:27 PM
0	Q4W: Are there any critiques of feminism that you believe are valid from a woman’s perspective? My comment that just got deleted by Reddit would indicate otherwise. It’s still very much a man’s world.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 01:10 PM
1	Q4W: Are there any critiques of feminism that you believe are valid from a woman’s perspective? Well I will certainly remember this moment the next time someone claims that society is biased toward women and that misandry is completely accepted. Meanwhile I cannot count the number of times I have read negative blanket statements about women which go unchecked.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 12:54 PM
1	Q4W: Are there any critiques of feminism that you believe are valid from a woman’s perspective? Apparently I can’t say what I actually think 🙄	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 12:46 PM
1	Q4W: Are there any critiques of feminism that you believe are valid from a woman’s perspective? [ Removed by Reddit ]	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 12:42 PM
4	Q4W: Are there any critiques of feminism that you believe are valid from a woman’s perspective? You can hate men and still believe that they deserve equal rights. To be fair.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 07:44 AM
12	Q4W: Are there any critiques of feminism that you believe are valid from a woman’s perspective? The viewpoints of self described feminists are so widely varied that the term has become almost meaningless. Many opinions that are popularly held by self-appointed feminists go directly against the ideals of gender equality. It would be like if 2/3rds of self described vegans actually ate cheese and bacon a few times a month. People would very rightfully start to not take any vegans seriously, and they would have an even bigger PR problem than they currently do. But if you don’t consider your…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 03:58 AM
9	"Personality" and "social skills" are just attempts to moralizing dating and make lonely men feel bad Oh yeah there was a lot of blatant racism and homophobia involved in that case as well. It was a mess. He could have been caught way earlier. I lived in Seattle for about a decade and I randomly met a woman who was close friends with Ted Bundy’s girlfriend during the few years before he was caught. She said that he was really good to her and her daughter and never laid a finger on either of them. He volunteered for a suicide hotline for years as well. Some men are waaaaaaay more adept at hiding …	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 03:50 AM
16	"Personality" and "social skills" are just attempts to moralizing dating and make lonely men feel bad Dahmer was a weird dude and his neighbor called the police multiple times because she legit believed he was killing people in his apartment, and they ignored her. Bundy, on the other hand, was pretty well liked.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 03:06 AM
12	"Personality" and "social skills" are just attempts to moralizing dating and make lonely men feel bad There are “tells”. Younger and/or less experienced women won’t always pick up on them. But a lot of women will.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 03:03 AM
2	Effort Asymmetry. The Courtship System Women Perpetuate. Double standard in Being Transactional in a Transactional Amoral Market. If you insist on paying the full bill even when she is upfront wanting to pay it or split it, and it was some kind of shit test on her part, then all you get out of that is possibly a second date woman who conducts shit tests right out of the gate. That’s my answer. You just don’t like my answer.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/26 11:20 PM
2	Effort Asymmetry. The Courtship System Women Perpetuate. Double standard in Being Transactional in a Transactional Amoral Market. According to that study they don’t expect men to pay. Men are just paying anyway. Probably because they think it’s always a shit test.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/26 10:31 PM
3	Effort Asymmetry. The Courtship System Women Perpetuate. Double standard in Being Transactional in a Transactional Amoral Market. Umm, if it’s a shit test then you have lost nothing by taking her up on it because why would you even want a woman who does those kinds of shit tests in the first place?	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/26 10:22 PM
4	Effort Asymmetry. The Courtship System Women Perpetuate. Double standard in Being Transactional in a Transactional Amoral Market. I had a guy nearly push me over to pay for a $4 coffee once rather than allow me to pay for it. This is not an unusual scenario. I try to pay for my own shit and they get all fucking offended.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/26 10:16 PM
2	Effort Asymmetry. The Courtship System Women Perpetuate. Double standard in Being Transactional in a Transactional Amoral Market. Yes. I’m referring to that study. “In actual practice” men are paying more for dates because they literally will not let women pay even if they are fine with it or want to.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/26 10:06 PM
2	Effort Asymmetry. The Courtship System Women Perpetuate. Double standard in Being Transactional in a Transactional Amoral Market. If I have issues with men insisting on paying, I’m sure plenty of other women do too.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/26 09:55 PM
6	Effort Asymmetry. The Courtship System Women Perpetuate. Double standard in Being Transactional in a Transactional Amoral Market. I have no problems paying for dates or splitting the bill, including the first date. In practice it has rarely happened because most men would rather remove their left testicle than allow a woman to pay for the first date. And I’m not about to fight a dude over it. Just for the record, because I fucking know someone will bring it up if I don’t say this: No, I am not less likely to go out with a guy again depending on who pays. I paid the first time I went out with my boyfriend AND I picked him u…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/26 09:41 PM
–	If women really cannot consent to sex if they've had any amount of alcohol, then women with certain mental conditions cannot consent to sex either I probably have a lower threshold for mixing drugs/alcohol and sex than most, and I still think it’s fine as long as neither party is intoxicated. That’s where I personally draw the line. If they are showing any signs of intoxication, I get their number or give them mine and don’t hook up at that time.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/26 02:06 AM
1	Women, what if the problem isn’t men, but the criteria you use to choose them? I have never in my life claimed to want a serious man. My criteria are based on wanting someone who is a good fit for my personality. I am a deeply unserious person. I would be bored to death with a serious man. You can be exciting and also reliable. You can be charismatic and also monogamous. You can be interesting and also a kind person. It’s not like your choices are strictly between a boring man and a fuckboy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/26 01:56 AM
1	If there is no obligations and nobody owes anyone anything. We should go fully, not picking and choosing. Men particularly, Need to simply be selfish and self serving, alot more. About half of the women who use sperm banks are in partnered relationships. Also, single women and lesbian couples were not allowed to use sperm banks in the US until the 80’s, and it was a really controversial thing when it happened.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/06/26 06:17 PM
3	Fear of automatic cheating or getting an STD aren't the biggest reasons why women won't date bi men. Their reasoning is mostly due to their idea of masculinity. I don’t really care if men want to have standards around that. It’s the shitty way they talk about women with higher n-counts that I dislike.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/06/26 05:48 PM
5	Fear of automatic cheating or getting an STD aren't the biggest reasons why women won't date bi men. Their reasoning is mostly due to their idea of masculinity. My boyfriend is bisexual. Obviously it’s not a problem for me. I’m bisexual too. The idea of him having sex with men does not turn me off. He has actually shown me videos of himself with men and it was one of the sexiest things I’ve ever seen in my life. The STI concern, however, is very real. Certain STI’s are much more prolific in the MLM community as they’re just significantly easier to spread through certain types of sexual contact. He has had gonorrhea before. Cheating can certainly be a va…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/06/26 05:36 PM
1	If there is no obligations and nobody owes anyone anything. We should go fully, not picking and choosing. Men particularly, Need to simply be selfish and self serving, alot more. If the fetus does develop into a child, the end result is still the same though. The fact that he opted out doesn’t erase the child’s existence.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/06/26 04:54 PM
1	If there is no obligations and nobody owes anyone anything. We should go fully, not picking and choosing. Men particularly, Need to simply be selfish and self serving, alot more. You don’t see any difference in that situation besides “convenience for the mother”?	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/06/26 04:52 PM
2	Men don't understand what women want because women have been sending mixed signals, not because men have poor understanding. Same to you! 🖖	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/06/26 05:35 AM
1	Men don't understand what women want because women have been sending mixed signals, not because men have poor understanding. I have definitely had my own share of mental and emotional health issues, and I’ve seen how something as simple as getting on the right medication can make a night and day difference in your ability to function in relationships and the rest of the world. It gave me a different perspective on why people wind up the way that they are and how difficult it can be to change those maladaptive behaviors that have become deeply entrenched. Medication gave me some breathing room, but I still had to do ye…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/06/26 03:47 AM
2	Men don't understand what women want because women have been sending mixed signals, not because men have poor understanding. I feel as though I’m pretty damn good at spotting red flags, and yet I have been in relationships that were abusive. I can see how on its face that sounds ridiculous, but it’s because of those relationships that I’m way more attuned to it. The earliest red flags one might catch are much more subtle than people think. And I had to figure this shit out for myself starting at 16. People can be abusive in different ways too. So you learn to recognize one type but may miss it the next time if it pres…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/06/26 03:22 AM
–	How does one really change their personality? Idk, I don’t see it that way. I deserved to not have my whole life consumed by a personality disorder I didn’t ask for. I deserved a chance at peace and happiness. And I do think I deserved to be criticized for my behavior, because I was legitimately awful to a lot of people who didn’t really deserve it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/06/26 02:11 AM
1	Men don't understand what women want because women have been sending mixed signals, not because men have poor understanding. Yes, being in relationships with men who were very emotionally stunted gave me insight into why and how they turned out that way. It wasn’t really their fault, but at the same time they were unwilling to do anything about it even as it was destroying our relationship. It was really just heartbreaking because I wanted to be there for them but they wouldn’t or couldn’t let me in. At least I know that I raised my daughter to be different and she is.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/06/26 02:08 AM
–	How does one really change their personality? Don’t get me wrong. I get why people wind up that way. I was bullied and abused as a kid and it turned me into a mega asshole for a long time. I was diagnosed with BPD in my early 20’s so I was like…clinically an asshole. I took that shit seriously though because I didn’t want that to just be my life. It sucked. I was angry and sad and felt hopeless and unloved. I didn’t want to feel that way for the rest of my life, you know? I wanted to be able to have good healthy relationships with people. S…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/06/26 01:58 AM
–	How does one really change their personality? If you want to meet people who will value you, you won’t do that by sabotaging every potential relationship. You’re cutting off your nose to spite your face by doing that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/06/26 01:51 AM
–	How does one really change their personality? You can. It’s hard but possible. I used to have crippling social anxiety but I forced myself to confront that by working in jobs that were public facing, and proactively cultivating friendships with people I click with. It still scares me sometimes. But I can make myself be social in situations where it’s warranted. It has helped a lot. I’m still fundamentally myself, of course, but I’m not the person who withdraws and stays home and never talks to anyone. I met my boyfriend because we were frie…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/06/26 01:46 AM
2	Men don't understand what women want because women have been sending mixed signals, not because men have poor understanding. From my perspective, the only ones who are actively working on promoting a point of view that men’s emotions are valid and matter and that men have a right to express those emotions, are those quarter or so of feminists that you mentioned. It doesn’t make sense to oppose that group of people. As you noted, not all feminists are the same.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/06/26 01:38 AM
3	Men don't understand what women want because women have been sending mixed signals, not because men have poor understanding. Yeah I’m being kind of facetious in saying that, because men like to tell women that all the time. It does solve a lot of problems, but the reality is that sometimes you’re gonna learn lessons about what you don’t want in a relationship the hard way. Very few people get it right on the first try. It’s not that it’s misogynistic advice, it’s that it’s overly simplistic and ignores the realities of how relationships develop. These are things you don’t find out until you have already chosen someone…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/06/26 01:32 AM
1	Men don't understand what women want because women have been sending mixed signals, not because men have poor understanding. I’m in total agreement with you. It’s been deeply engrained into our social norms and that’s hard to change. It’s hard being in a relationship with someone who is so emotionally stunted or closed off, but that describes so many people, and men in particular. And yeah I do believe that there are a solid number of women perpetuating that with their biases and their responses to normal emotional reactions. I don’t know how to fix it. I wish I did.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/06/26 01:02 AM
6	Men should not be seeking dating advice from women We have a lot of work to do as a society. Men and women both.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/06/26 11:51 PM
1	Men dating down It’s realistic but you have to find someone who is a good fit for you, has fairly healthy communication skills, and puts in an equal amount of effort. That’s that hard part. Some of my exes were decent people but we just weren’t a great fit for one another, and the amount of effort I was putting in to making things work felt completely lopsided.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/06/26 11:48 PM
1	How would you feel about a "reverse orgasm gap*? This is how my current relationship is and my boyfriend is a treasure to be protected at any and all cost. It’s not that I don’t reciprocate. I absolutely do. It’s just a physiological reality that I’m able to orgasm more frequently and easily than he is. And it happens to be his favorite thing to do. Our sex life is phenomenal.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/06/26 11:13 PM
27	Men should not be seeking dating advice from women The brutal reality that a lot of people just don’t want to hear or accept is that sometimes it can take a long time to find someone who is right for you. Especially if you’re different in ways that the majority of people are put off by. This has been my experience too. I can certainly sympathize. It’s nobody’s fault. That’s just how it is.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/06/26 10:41 PM
3	Men don't understand what women want because women have been sending mixed signals, not because men have poor understanding. Just for what it’s worth, my boyfriend dated men almost exclusively before we met, and his experience was pretty fucking awful. Most of them didn’t want anything more than sex. Not even friendship. The only man that did want a relationship with him was incredibly abusive to him, especially when he dared to show emotional vulnerability. This is not strictly an issue with women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/06/26 10:24 PM
4	Men don't understand what women want because women have been sending mixed signals, not because men have poor understanding. Choose better	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/06/26 10:05 PM
4	Men don't understand what women want because women have been sending mixed signals, not because men have poor understanding. It’s interesting to me that you would like to see more women embracing emotional vulnerability in men, yet you call yourself anti-feminist.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/06/26 10:05 PM
6	Do you think men given women's dating profiles would fail due to lack of social skills, personality, etc? I used OKcupid 8 years ago, and that’s the last time I used any kind of dating app. Once upon a time it was primarily used for actual dating, not hookups. That seems to no longer be the case:	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/06/26 07:20 PM
7	Do you think men given women's dating profiles would fail due to lack of social skills, personality, etc? Exactly. If I hate it enough to not even want to use apps as a hypersexual person, I can’t even imagine what it’s like for women who aren’t.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/06/26 06:55 PM
11	Do you think men given women's dating profiles would fail due to lack of social skills, personality, etc? Definitely it’s a high enough percentage that it’s hardly worth it to converse with all of them in the hopes of finding those that aren’t. It’s not usually something that can be screened out from the opening message. You actually have to talk to them. And the process is disgusting and demoralizing.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/06/26 06:43 PM
7	Men don't understand what women want because women have been sending mixed signals, not because men have poor understanding. It’s honestly just so refreshing to me. I’ve seen him cry more in six months than I saw my ex husband cry in 8 years.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/06/26 05:22 PM
9	Men don't understand what women want because women have been sending mixed signals, not because men have poor understanding. I doubt that very much.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/06/26 03:47 PM
16	Men don't understand what women want because women have been sending mixed signals, not because men have poor understanding. The fact that my boyfriend is emotionally vulnerable with me is one of the most attractive things about him to me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/06/26 03:31 PM
1	Men dating down You don’t know me or what values I demonstrate.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/06/26 01:31 PM
10	Would you truly enjoy and appreciate arelationship that goes against gender norms of men providing and protecting? That pretty much describes my relationship with my boyfriend except I make almost twice as much as him. It’s by far the best relationship I have been in.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/06/26 04:18 AM
–	CMV: Penis size does matter, bigger may not always be better but smaller than average is a dating death sentence. My boyfriend’s is on the smaller side of average, and I have been with a lot of guys with bigger penises, but he legit has ten out of ten dick game. Yes, he does magical things with his tongue and hands too, but I really enjoy penetration with him and I orgasm from it regularly. I’m about ready to agree to adopt a baby just to keep him around, because he’s that good (he wants a kid and I can’t get pregnant anymore).	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/06/26 01:31 AM
–	CMV: Penis size does matter, bigger may not always be better but smaller than average is a dating death sentence. I was in a relationship with a woman for 7 years and I didn’t like being penetrated with any kind of toys. We rarely used toys at all. Still had orgasms every time unless I just didn’t want to.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/06/26 12:47 AM
1	Men dating down The amount of effort you are putting into a relationship is not what determines how healthy it is. I have, in the past, put a ton of effort into relationships that were not healthy or good at all, because I wasn’t getting an equitable level of effort back from the other person. My current relationship feels almost effortless in comparison, and I’m much happier. In reality I am putting in effort, but it’s not unbalanced like it had been with past partners. One person putting in all or most of the…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/06/26 11:54 PM
1	Men dating down Yes, all relationships require effort, but there is such a thing as too much effort. If I can be in a happy relationship that requires very little effort on my part, why would I want to put in way more effort just to have a guy who is like 6 inches taller with a better looking face? Make it make sense.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/06/26 11:27 PM
2	Men dating down I dislike people who think they know more about what my values are than I do. That happens to describe a lot of the men in this sub.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/06/26 11:00 PM
3	Men dating down You’re not making the case for them being worth the effort.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/06/26 10:41 PM
–	If there is no obligations and nobody owes anyone anything. We should go fully, not picking and choosing. Men particularly, Need to simply be selfish and self serving, alot more. Yes. You’re correct. If you want to start making legal exceptions to a child’s right to support from both parents, that’s probably the best place to start.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/06/26 10:11 PM
–	If there is no obligations and nobody owes anyone anything. We should go fully, not picking and choosing. Men particularly, Need to simply be selfish and self serving, alot more. I’m not why you are explaining this to me as if I don’t understand that only the mother can legally decide to terminate a pregnancy. The question is how do you accomplish symmetry without overriding the rights of the child.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/06/26 10:09 PM
1	How to understand what is your league? Yeah well either I’m the one magical person for whom leagues don’t apply, or it’s not actually that much of a rule.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/06/26 10:04 PM
2	Men dating down I absolutely fucking don’t. ✌️	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/06/26 06:55 PM
2	Men dating down Or just maybe the women getting mad here don’t view men that way.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/06/26 06:50 PM
1	How to understand what is your league? I’ve had so much variance within just my own dating experience (well over a hundred at this point) that it hard for me to even take the idea seriously.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/06/26 06:38 PM
3	Men dating down Regardless of the reasons, a man who is tall, attractive, and/or a high earner is more difficult to obtain and more difficult to hang onto. It’s not really worth the effort.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/06/26 05:40 PM
1	Men dating down Not everyone prefers Chad and Stacy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/06/26 05:37 PM
1	If there is no obligations and nobody owes anyone anything. We should go fully, not picking and choosing. Men particularly, Need to simply be selfish and self serving, alot more. That’s not a factor at all. If you are serious about this then you have to think like a lawyer. You don’t have to convince me. You have to convince judges all the way up to the Supreme Court, and you have to do it in a way that doesn’t essentially turn you into a villain taking food out of the mouths of babies. You see the difficulty?	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/06/26 05:23 PM
1	How to understand what is your league? I certainly didn’t consider them “beneath me” or I would not have shown interest in the first place. Obviously I was attracted, or at the very least willing to hook up. They had their reasons for turning me down, and were completely well within their rights to do so, and none of those reasons given had anything to do with feeling they were out of my “league” fwiw. I have to say though, that my current boyfriend is much more physically attractive and better “on paper” than any of them. So were mo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/06/26 05:20 PM
1	If there is no obligations and nobody owes anyone anything. We should go fully, not picking and choosing. Men particularly, Need to simply be selfish and self serving, alot more. Children cannot and should not be held legally responsible for the decisions their parents make. If you want to actually overturn any laws that give children the right to financial support from both parents, that argument isn’t going to cut it in any court.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/06/26 04:51 PM
1	If there is no obligations and nobody owes anyone anything. We should go fully, not picking and choosing. Men particularly, Need to simply be selfish and self serving, alot more. Again. Child support is not an issue of women’s rights. It’s an issue of children’s rights. The courts have upheld that a child’s right to material support is not less important than an adult’s right to decide whether or not they want to be a parent. Overturning this law would also set a dangerous precedent in the 21 states with abortion bans currently in place, as it would functionally leave children with zero rights to support from their parents.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/06/26 04:26 PM
1	If there is no obligations and nobody owes anyone anything. We should go fully, not picking and choosing. Men particularly, Need to simply be selfish and self serving, alot more. This is about the child and their rights. The child’s rights have nothing to do with the mother’s rights. The child did not make that decision. I think you may be vastly overestimating how easy it is to terminate a pregnancy in any case. It’s not at all uncommon for a woman to not know that she is pregnant until the window to have an abortion has already closed or is rapidly approaching. And they’re also pretty significantly expensive, and dependent on proximity to a provider and availability of…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/06/26 04:17 PM
–	If there is no obligations and nobody owes anyone anything. We should go fully, not picking and choosing. Men particularly, Need to simply be selfish and self serving, alot more. So you think the correct move is to change the laws so that children only have the legal right to financial support from their mother? You think this is fair to children?	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/06/26 04:10 PM
–	If there is no obligations and nobody owes anyone anything. We should go fully, not picking and choosing. Men particularly, Need to simply be selfish and self serving, alot more. Not enough percentage of men are perma-virgins or strictly gay for this issue to not affect men as a whole. If, as a man, you ever have sex with women, then the SC decision potentially affects you too.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/06/26 04:05 PM
3	If there is no obligations and nobody owes anyone anything. We should go fully, not picking and choosing. Men particularly, Need to simply be selfish and self serving, alot more. You think it’s wrong for children to have a right to material support from both parents? Explain your reasoning.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/06/26 04:02 PM
–	If there is no obligations and nobody owes anyone anything. We should go fully, not picking and choosing. Men particularly, Need to simply be selfish and self serving, alot more. It has more to do with the rights of the child than “the government” not wanting to provide for children. Children are people too, and vulnerable citizens at that. So are you suggesting that children having a right to material support front their parents is wrong?	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/06/26 04:01 PM
2	How to understand what is your league? The problem is that the “other factors” seem to come into play at least as often, if not more than the “general rule.” So I kind of ceases to be much of a general rule.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/06/26 03:58 PM
–	If there is no obligations and nobody owes anyone anything. We should go fully, not picking and choosing. Men particularly, Need to simply be selfish and self serving, alot more. No, I mean specifically. If a child is born then the woman is also financially responsible for that child. Child support is for the child. Once the child exists in the world it’s no longer a question of reproductive rights, because reproduction has occurred. I suggest you read about the court case that established precedent for not allowing “paper abortion”. It’s not as simple as you think it is. The reason for the decision is based on pre-existing law and no individual judge has the right to ov…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/06/26 03:56 PM
–	If there is no obligations and nobody owes anyone anything. We should go fully, not picking and choosing. Men particularly, Need to simply be selfish and self serving, alot more. The courts have to decide based on the law as it is written.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/06/26 03:42 PM
2	Men dating down I’m talking about average women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/06/26 09:47 AM
2	Men dating down Yeah I didn’t really mean you specifically. Just what I see repeated here all the damn time about women only wanting “Chad”.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/06/26 06:55 AM
8	Men dating down >The hotter the woman, invariably, the more work she is to get and to maintain a relationship with. Crazy that men somehow believe women don’t think the same way.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/06/26 06:43 AM
1	Is a man being nerdy a turn off? Indifferent. It’s not what I’m into so much, but I’m very very ND and don’t relate to NT men at all. So pretty much every guy I have had a relationship with has had nerdy interests.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/06/26 03:24 AM
22	why cant you lust after average men? Not for women it isn’t.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/06/26 02:41 AM
22	why cant you lust after average men? I literally do, but not for random-ass strangers. I have to have a reason to.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/06/26 02:18 AM
5	If there is no obligations and nobody owes anyone anything. We should go fully, not picking and choosing. Men particularly, Need to simply be selfish and self serving, alot more. Maybe having more options for reversible and effective male birth control would be the more realistic and fair option. I agree with you that we need a better social safety net as well. I’m just not sure that giving men a legal avenue to the abandonment of a living existing child is the right move. Kids don’t get to choose.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 11:46 PM
7	If there is no obligations and nobody owes anyone anything. We should go fully, not picking and choosing. Men particularly, Need to simply be selfish and self serving, alot more. Ok, but in order to change that we would have to somehow overturn the laws that entitle children to material support from both parents and solve the issue of how to make this fair for the child. How do you suggest we do this? FWIW, I am saying this as someone who had a child because I was unable to obtain an abortion. The nearest provider was over six hours away and I did not have a vehicle or anyone who could help me. The child’s father did not want me to have an abortion and refused to help me…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 10:51 PM
8	If there is no obligations and nobody owes anyone anything. We should go fully, not picking and choosing. Men particularly, Need to simply be selfish and self serving, alot more. This is not me saying this. This is what the courts decided. The child’s right to material support is codified into law and cannot just be ignored.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 10:30 PM
9	If there is no obligations and nobody owes anyone anything. We should go fully, not picking and choosing. Men particularly, Need to simply be selfish and self serving, alot more. The problem with that is that child support is for the child. Once the child is born they are legally entitled to material support from both parents. When a pregnancy is terminated there is no child, therefore no child to support. It’s not a matter of reproductive rights if he is actually reproducing.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 10:19 PM
8	If there is no obligations and nobody owes anyone anything. We should go fully, not picking and choosing. Men particularly, Need to simply be selfish and self serving, alot more. “Men’s reproductive rights” meaning what?	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 10:13 PM
12	If there is no obligations and nobody owes anyone anything. We should go fully, not picking and choosing. Men particularly, Need to simply be selfish and self serving, alot more. Reproductive rights affect men too. Unless you want to be paying child support for a kid that neither one of y’all wanted in the first place. Or having women farrrrrr less likely to engage in sex outside of a long term committed relationship. It’s no coincidence that the R v W decision coincided with the sexual revolution.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 08:30 PM
1	Women are larping loneliness. God forbid I want someone who is actually a good fit for me. I’ve done the whole “choose from the best available options” things before and all it has gotten me was a dead bedroom with little physical affection of any kind, for years on end, with a man who had zero interest in meeting me even partway. I had to uproot my entire life, go through a divorce that fucked me financially, and start over from scratch if I ever wanted to have a relationship that involved regular sex with my partner again.…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 03:55 PM
1	Would you ever let men penetrate you for money? I’m sorry, are you asking me how I feel about this question? Or something else?	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 09:46 AM
1	It is infantilizing to women to say that women who have drunk alcohol cannot consent to sex, while nothing is said about men who drank alcohol It worth noting that all of the men I spoke to also felt that they did nothing wrong. It’s like they seem to believe that as long as they got a “yes” at some point then it doesn’t matter what else they did.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 09:44 AM
2	It is infantilizing to women to say that women who have drunk alcohol cannot consent to sex, while nothing is said about men who drank alcohol >If a woman sleeps with someone that they’re not proud to have, nor would have in a sober state, it’s often beneficial to communicate to society - and themselves - that it wasn’t entirely in their control. Men really seem to believe this is the case, but that not reality. The reality is that regardless of the facts of the situation, and the amount of evidence there may be, you will be called a liar. You will have your motives questioned. You will lose relationships with people over it. I have se…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 09:38 AM
1	It is infantilizing to women to say that women who have drunk alcohol cannot consent to sex, while nothing is said about men who drank alcohol That’s all I need. You wouldn’t believe me regardless.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 09:16 AM
1	It is infantilizing to women to say that women who have drunk alcohol cannot consent to sex, while nothing is said about men who drank alcohol I know that every single time a man has claimed to me that some bitch tried to ruin his life and he was completely innocent of any wrongdoing, and then he gave me his side of the story, I wound up siding with the woman.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 09:14 AM
1	It is infantilizing to women to say that women who have drunk alcohol cannot consent to sex, while nothing is said about men who drank alcohol That’s not true at all. I don’t know how many people got hit by lightning last year but I know that it isn’t common.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 09:06 AM
1	It is infantilizing to women to say that women who have drunk alcohol cannot consent to sex, while nothing is said about men who drank alcohol I never said I knew a number. I said that it not common. And it isn’t.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 09:04 AM
1	It is infantilizing to women to say that women who have drunk alcohol cannot consent to sex, while nothing is said about men who drank alcohol Show me where I said I knew the number.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 09:00 AM
1	It is infantilizing to women to say that women who have drunk alcohol cannot consent to sex, while nothing is said about men who drank alcohol I don’t have to do exactly what you ask of me in order to properly argue my point. If you have evidence that women are usually lying when they accuse a man of wrongdoing after a drunken hookup, I’d love to see that. Until then, I’m going with what I know.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 08:56 AM
1	It is infantilizing to women to say that women who have drunk alcohol cannot consent to sex, while nothing is said about men who drank alcohol Yeah you can be predatory without “violent coercion.” Obviously there are degrees.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 08:54 AM
1	It is infantilizing to women to say that women who have drunk alcohol cannot consent to sex, while nothing is said about men who drank alcohol I don’t give a shit what you asked of me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 08:51 AM
1	It is infantilizing to women to say that women who have drunk alcohol cannot consent to sex, while nothing is said about men who drank alcohol I have no reason to believe that you wouldn’t be telling the truth about what happened.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 08:49 AM
1	It is infantilizing to women to say that women who have drunk alcohol cannot consent to sex, while nothing is said about men who drank alcohol I have heard the man’s side of the story enough times to know that he fully deserves whatever accusations he is getting. Enough to know that women don’t say things like this just for fun, because it doesn’t end well for them either.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 08:48 AM
1	It is infantilizing to women to say that women who have drunk alcohol cannot consent to sex, while nothing is said about men who drank alcohol I didn’t suggest that you do anything in particular. How you choose to handle it after the fact is your decision.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 08:43 AM
1	It is infantilizing to women to say that women who have drunk alcohol cannot consent to sex, while nothing is said about men who drank alcohol And what repercussions of having sex do you think someone can escape from by saying that they didn’t feel they were able to consent at the time?	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 08:42 AM
1	It is infantilizing to women to say that women who have drunk alcohol cannot consent to sex, while nothing is said about men who drank alcohol Again, have all four billion of you been accused of wrongdoing after a drunken hookup? Because those are the men I’m talking about specifically.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 08:38 AM
1	It is infantilizing to women to say that women who have drunk alcohol cannot consent to sex, while nothing is said about men who drank alcohol I would consider that to be predatory behavior on her part. What you choose to do with that is your decision.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 08:36 AM
1	It is infantilizing to women to say that women who have drunk alcohol cannot consent to sex, while nothing is said about men who drank alcohol I’ve been given the man’s side of the story enough times to know that the guy who swears up and down that he is completely innocent of any wrongdoing in these kinds of situations rarely is.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 08:34 AM
1	It is infantilizing to women to say that women who have drunk alcohol cannot consent to sex, while nothing is said about men who drank alcohol All four billion of you have been accused of wrongdoing after a drunken hookup?	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 08:31 AM
1	It is infantilizing to women to say that women who have drunk alcohol cannot consent to sex, while nothing is said about men who drank alcohol Based on what the men themselves told me about what happened.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 08:26 AM
1	It is infantilizing to women to say that women who have drunk alcohol cannot consent to sex, while nothing is said about men who drank alcohol It’s not about what I think, it’s about what I know.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 08:18 AM
1	It is infantilizing to women to say that women who have drunk alcohol cannot consent to sex, while nothing is said about men who drank alcohol However I don't think that's really fair to equate that to men not doing adequate due diligence as far how many drinks a woman has had, particularly if she's the initiator. I’m not equating them. You shouldn’t be held responsible for something you had no way of knowing. It’s when they do know that it’s an issue. Sometimes a person will buy someone else way too many drinks on purpose. Sometimes they will mix that with a high pressure situation as well. I don't know if you noticed, but alcohol is …	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 08:17 AM
1	It is infantilizing to women to say that women who have drunk alcohol cannot consent to sex, while nothing is said about men who drank alcohol That doesn’t mean it’s common.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 08:10 AM
1	It is infantilizing to women to say that women who have drunk alcohol cannot consent to sex, while nothing is said about men who drank alcohol Do you really think a lot of women are calling a man they had sex with while drunk a rapist, or a creep, or predatory for absolutely no reason? There is almost always more to the story than just her having been drunk.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 08:05 AM
1	It is infantilizing to women to say that women who have drunk alcohol cannot consent to sex, while nothing is said about men who drank alcohol I would be much more cautious about purchasing anything expensive from a store if I learned they have a strict no refunds policy from reviews. In fact I’d probably just find another store to shop at. But that’s me. If they routinely used high pressure sales techniques on drunk people and had a strict no refunds policy, I would consider that to be predatory behavior. I blocked a former friend after I found out that he had pressured another friend of mine into a sexual relationship on the day of…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 07:56 AM
1	It is infantilizing to women to say that women who have drunk alcohol cannot consent to sex, while nothing is said about men who drank alcohol Explain it to me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 07:42 AM
1	It is infantilizing to women to say that women who have drunk alcohol cannot consent to sex, while nothing is said about men who drank alcohol Ok, so there is no way to un-fuck someone. But if you feel like they took advantage of you in a vulnerable state, nothing is stopping you from warning others of their behavior. To use your example, you can still leave negative reviews online for that store.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 07:41 AM
1	It is infantilizing to women to say that women who have drunk alcohol cannot consent to sex, while nothing is said about men who drank alcohol I fail to understand your point	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 07:38 AM
1	It is infantilizing to women to say that women who have drunk alcohol cannot consent to sex, while nothing is said about men who drank alcohol You’re the one who brought up drunk driving. It’s not comparable to having sex while drunk.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 07:35 AM
1	It is infantilizing to women to say that women who have drunk alcohol cannot consent to sex, while nothing is said about men who drank alcohol My point is that it doesn’t really matter. If you commit a crime while drunk you can be held responsible for that crime.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 07:30 AM
1	It is infantilizing to women to say that women who have drunk alcohol cannot consent to sex, while nothing is said about men who drank alcohol Drunk driving is a crime. Having sex is not a crime (unless it’s with someone who is not consenting to it or is incapable of consenting to it). These things are not comparable. You can argue your right to have sex with drunk women all you like. You don’t get to decide how she feels about it later though.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 07:28 AM
1	It is infantilizing to women to say that women who have drunk alcohol cannot consent to sex, while nothing is said about men who drank alcohol Fine, you can’t legally sign a contract while regular drunk either. Nor should anyone be giving you a tattoo. You can certainly be held responsible for a crime committed while blackout drunk though.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 07:23 AM
1	It is infantilizing to women to say that women who have drunk alcohol cannot consent to sex, while nothing is said about men who drank alcohol If I dont want to be called a rapist then I have no choice but to take their 10 year medical history. Your words. Look, you can choose to conduct yourself however you like, but if that includes having sex with drunk women, then you are knowingly taking that risk.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 07:21 AM
1	It is infantilizing to women to say that women who have drunk alcohol cannot consent to sex, while nothing is said about men who drank alcohol Then do that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 07:15 AM
1	It is infantilizing to women to say that women who have drunk alcohol cannot consent to sex, while nothing is said about men who drank alcohol Not what I meant. You can’t be held responsible for something you had no way of knowing, but there are people who will intentionally take advantage of others being in a vulnerable state and that is creepy-ass behavior even if it doesn’t cross a line into illegal activity.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 07:13 AM
1	Would you ever let men penetrate you for money? I’m sure you could.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 05:09 AM
2	Would you ever let men penetrate you for money? Yeah you can. But it’s not nearly as easy as some of y’all seem to think. Your body absolutely fights it from happening and the discomfort is pretty significant.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 05:04 AM
2	Would you ever let men penetrate you for money? Wait, are the ones saying yes liars or the ones saying no? 🤣	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 05:00 AM
6	Would you ever let men penetrate you for money? You know that peristalsis keeps things moving in one direction out of that particular orifice, right? You’re definitely not “designed to take it.”	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 04:59 AM
1	It is infantilizing to women to say that women who have drunk alcohol cannot consent to sex, while nothing is said about men who drank alcohol That’s why I said “depending on the situation”.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 03:52 AM
1	It is infantilizing to women to say that women who have drunk alcohol cannot consent to sex, while nothing is said about men who drank alcohol Which is why enthusiastic consent is important. Having sex with someone in the above scenarios may not rise to the level of rape or sexual assault in a legal sense, but depending on the situation it may get you branded as a creep, and you may deserve that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 03:42 AM
1	It is infantilizing to women to say that women who have drunk alcohol cannot consent to sex, while nothing is said about men who drank alcohol >Alcohol removes inhibitions, it doesn't make you do something you fundamentally don't want, or remove critical thinking skills as long as you're still capable of understanding your surroundings. People still have the right to decide not to do something even if a part of them may want to do that thing. And I would argue that being chemically impaired absolutely does impact your judgement and ability to make decisions. >This is basically describing every semi-drunk sexual encounter as possibly no…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 03:26 AM
2	Most of women's dating issues are due to the fact that they are all chasing the same top 5% of men. Change my mind. lol no, Joel. Apparently this happens a lot. 🤣	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 03:04 AM
1	Most of women's dating issues are due to the fact that they are all chasing the same top 5% of men. Change my mind. My van dwelling wookie friend used to date a woman whose name started with R. 👀	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 02:59 AM
3	Most of women's dating issues are due to the fact that they are all chasing the same top 5% of men. Change my mind. My boyfriend is 5’6”, and started going bald in high school. He works at a dog daycare and boarding facility and makes about little more than half of what I do. And he is Mexican, not Indian. So you got me there I guess.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 02:37 AM
3	Most of women's dating issues are due to the fact that they are all chasing the same top 5% of men. Change my mind. It’s so cute that you think you’re not a misogynist.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 02:04 AM
3	Most of women's dating issues are due to the fact that they are all chasing the same top 5% of men. Change my mind. “Liking” women doesn’t make you not a misogynist. It has been over 20 years since I have had sex with an attractive man. It is very much a conscious decision for me. Hell, I have only had sex with one man in the past 8 years, and we only started dating about six months ago.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 02:00 AM
5	Most of women's dating issues are due to the fact that they are all chasing the same top 5% of men. Change my mind. Oh I’m afraid it’s much too late for that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 01:53 AM
2	Most of women's dating issues are due to the fact that they are all chasing the same top 5% of men. Change my mind. Yeah, a few of them were pretty decent as boyfriends but terrible to live with. The vast majority didn’t make it that far, of course, but a handful did.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 01:51 AM
5	Most of women's dating issues are due to the fact that they are all chasing the same top 5% of men. Change my mind. I don’t have sex with attractive men either. I did a couple of times in my 20’s because I lived in a smallish town and took what I could get, but the sex was legit terrible and I decided it was enough of a trend to not be worth it for me. Ugly men are more likely to put effort in. It’s not a guarantee, but the best sex I have ever had has been with short, bald hairy trolls.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 01:50 AM
4	Most of women's dating issues are due to the fact that they are all chasing the same top 5% of men. Change my mind. No, I have rarely known much, if anything, about a guy before going out with him. Either because we met online or because I only knew him through a friend of a friend kind of thing. Even in the cases where I did know him beforehand, I only knew how he behaved as a friend or acquaintance, not in a dating or living together context. When I talk about them being lackluster, I’m not talking about looks at all. If I’m going on a date with someone, they have already passed my (very low) looks threshol…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 01:45 AM
4	Most of women's dating issues are due to the fact that they are all chasing the same top 5% of men. Change my mind. I never said I wasn’t biased against men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 01:41 AM
9	Most of women's dating issues are due to the fact that they are all chasing the same top 5% of men. Change my mind. Because I don’t know how they’re going to act until I get to know them. What kind of question even is this?	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 01:37 AM
6	Most of women's dating issues are due to the fact that they are all chasing the same top 5% of men. Change my mind. It’s so endearing when I’m accused of lying on this sub. Totally makes me feel like I was wrong all along about most men being trash.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 01:35 AM
5	Most of women's dating issues are due to the fact that they are all chasing the same top 5% of men. Change my mind. What?	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 01:10 AM
9	Most of women's dating issues are due to the fact that they are all chasing the same top 5% of men. Change my mind. I’m not afraid to go after them. I just associate men who look like that with assholes and as a result they’re not attractive to me. Neural plasticity is a thing.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 01:10 AM
5	Most of women's dating issues are due to the fact that they are all chasing the same top 5% of men. Change my mind. That’s a lot of stuff to try to guess from just a picture.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 01:00 AM
6	Most of women's dating issues are due to the fact that they are all chasing the same top 5% of men. Change my mind. “Hot” guys were assholes to me when I was younger. I reflexively don’t trust them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 01:00 AM
7	Most of women's dating issues are due to the fact that they are all chasing the same top 5% of men. Change my mind. My boyfriend is 5’6” and started going bald in high school. He doesn’t work out at all and chocolate is a food group for him. I think he’s very cute but I’m certainly biased.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 12:53 AM
7	Most of women's dating issues are due to the fact that they are all chasing the same top 5% of men. Change my mind. I’m not chasing them either. They may as well not exist. I’m attracted to average looking men just fine. It’s their behavior that is an issue for me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 12:50 AM
9	Most of women's dating issues are due to the fact that they are all chasing the same top 5% of men. Change my mind. I don’t desire the top 5-10% either. I actively avoid conventionally attractive men and high earners. They’re not really my type.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/26 12:48 AM
24	Most of women's dating issues are due to the fact that they are all chasing the same top 5% of men. Change my mind. The men I have dated have not been in the top 5-10% of anything. They have still been mostly pretty lackluster at best. I’ve seen the guys that my friends date too, and they’re pretty damn average. Nevertheless we all have/have had dating issues.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/06/26 11:52 PM
3	It is infantilizing to women to say that women who have drunk alcohol cannot consent to sex, while nothing is said about men who drank alcohol They will, and then they’ll be all Pikachu surprised when it goes sideways.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/06/26 03:33 AM
4	It is infantilizing to women to say that women who have drunk alcohol cannot consent to sex, while nothing is said about men who drank alcohol Bingo. I would say within the confines of a relationship, if boundaries around that have been discussed while sober, it can be a relatively safe activity. Otherwise it’s just a bad idea.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/06/26 03:24 AM
7	It is infantilizing to women to say that women who have drunk alcohol cannot consent to sex, while nothing is said about men who drank alcohol Think about it like any other crime a person could commit while drunk. Let’s say a woman gets drunk and goes to her ex boyfriend’s house and vandalizes his car. Action was taken and a crime has been committed in that scenario. Whereas if you are half passed out on a couch and someone removes your clothing and has sex with you, you have not committed any crime.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/06/26 03:22 AM
14	It is infantilizing to women to say that women who have drunk alcohol cannot consent to sex, while nothing is said about men who drank alcohol I have seen this scenario play out tons of times on Reddit where a man describes a sexual encounter occurring where he was not able to and/or did not consent, and the broad consensus from commenters (especially female commenters) is that what happened was rape/sexual assault. Yes, people do take it seriously when it happens to men. Maybe not law enforcement so much, unfortunately, but average people, yeah.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/06/26 03:15 AM
4	It is infantilizing to women to say that women who have drunk alcohol cannot consent to sex, while nothing is said about men who drank alcohol Any level of inebriation is playing with fire. Sometimes people appear to be more in control than they actually are, and if you don’t know the person well enough to know that, you risk taking advantage of a state where they were not capable of consent. Why would you even want to risk that? Even if you 100% felt that you were in the right, is it really worth it if you wind up in a legal battle that you may or may not win? Why would you even want to have sex with someone who would not consent to…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/06/26 03:11 AM
5	It is infantilizing to women to say that women who have drunk alcohol cannot consent to sex, while nothing is said about men who drank alcohol Looks like it wasn’t produced by feminists.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/06/26 03:01 AM
6	It is infantilizing to women to say that women who have drunk alcohol cannot consent to sex, while nothing is said about men who drank alcohol It’s kind of more similar to someone getting you to sign a contract while blackout drunk or giving you a tattoo while blackout drunk. Driving drunk is a crime. Being taken advantage of is the opposite of that, even if you chose to drink to excess.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/06/26 02:39 AM
9	How to understand what is your league? Ok, but I have been turned down by more than one man who was significantly less attractive (physically and otherwise) than my boyfriend. So were they out of my league? If so, where does that put my boyfriend? It’s not like there’s a hard cutoff.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/06/26 02:34 AM
1	It is infantilizing to women to say that women who have drunk alcohol cannot consent to sex, while nothing is said about men who drank alcohol This image is too blurry to read who produced it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/06/26 02:14 AM
6	It is infantilizing to women to say that women who have drunk alcohol cannot consent to sex, while nothing is said about men who drank alcohol Proof?	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/06/26 02:09 AM
3	It is infantilizing to women to say that women who have drunk alcohol cannot consent to sex, while nothing is said about men who drank alcohol Who doesn’t apply it equally to men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/06/26 01:41 AM
–	Q4w: who fucks better? I rarely have this kind of information about casual partners. The vast majority of my casual partners have been terrible in bed. The things that make the biggest difference are enthusiasm, respect for consent, curiosity and willingness to experiment, and allowing time for sexual tension to build.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/06/26 08:42 PM
1	When it comes to chores, it's not that men won't help out/pull their weight. Women just hate to see men relaxing. Umm yeah? It’s not that it’s annoying seeing someone relax. It’s annoying when you are running around trying to get shit done and he’s just sitting there like a useless blob.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/06/26 05:55 PM
3	When it comes to chores, it's not that men won't help out/pull their weight. Women just hate to see men relaxing. I love it when my boyfriend is relaxing, but I want to be relaxing with him. Luckily he is not the kind of jerk who will smoke weed on the couch while I’m running around doing chores.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/06/26 06:18 PM
1	Let's say your a stay at home partner $250 a month would not cut it for me. I spend a lot more than that on discretionary expenses each month and I work hard to be able to do that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/06/26 06:13 PM
3	Discernment needs to be reworked. Idk, I feel pretty damn good about my vetting abilities now, given that it’s been over 20 years since I have been in any kind of abusive relationship. I have been in relationships that have, for various reasons, not worked out. But I’m still close friends with them all and care deeply for them. If I get an uncomfortable feeling about someone, I no longer just brush it aside and ignore it. And no, it’s not just neurodivergence that “gives me the ick”. I don’t date neurotypicals. They’re often ver…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/06/26 06:04 PM
12	Q4women if your long time bf/husbands sexual orientation slightly changed after years together would you break up? lol I would be surprised because he really likes dudes.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/06/26 04:50 AM
17	Q4women if your long time bf/husbands sexual orientation slightly changed after years together would you break up? No, it would not be an issue for me. My boyfriend is already bi.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/06/26 04:49 AM
5	Woman, would you date a detrans man? Why or why not? Yeah, that would not be any sort of issue for me at all.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/06/26 12:28 AM
1	How do you reconcile the 'hypergamy' argument with the rise of high-earning, successful women in modern dating? My boyfriend makes about 28k annually and I make about 55k annually. He really loves his job. That’s all that matters to me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/06/26 07:03 PM
4	The Emotional Baggage Problem The problem with your theory is that you are assuming emotional damage from past relationships has made me a less suitable partner. I don’t feel this to be the case at all. The biggest effect it has had on my current relationships is that those experiences have raised the bar for me on what kind of partner I want substantially. Character and compatibility are my two highest priorities now. I’m no longer willing to put up with poor behavior from partners just to have a warm body next to me. My bo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/06/26 12:32 PM
7	Reddit lacks nuance when it comes to casual sex I agree that not everyone can handle it. I can and I have had plenty of casual sex without giving a second thought to the other participants. But even with that ability, it’s far from my preference. Having a long term relationship with someone who I have amazing sexual chemistry with is so so much better in every way.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/06/26 06:50 AM
1	Social media represents how people feel insinde Oh sure yeah, but you are ignoring the vast majority of people who don’t post gender war stuff on social media at all. Outside of Reddit, I only use social media media to post art I made that I’m selling, and even then I only do so on Facebook. My IG account has zero stories or photos. I don’t use X or TikTok at all. If I did talk about any gender wars stuff on any other platforms you would be hearing different takes. But nobody would hear them because my takes are not the sort of inflammatory…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/06/26 03:12 AM
2	Freedom in relationships The type of freedom I long for is stuff like the ability to just quit my job and move to a squatter camp and open an art museum. And I need someone who is ride or die on that type of lifestyle, because when I make up my mind about shit, I’m pretty focused on those goals.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/06/26 10:10 PM
1	How Common is it For Male Relationship Partners to Misbehave So As to Cause Lasting Emotional Harm Do I even want to know what the yellow pill is? Is it Sertraline?	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/06/26 06:11 AM
–	How Common is it For Male Relationship Partners to Misbehave So As to Cause Lasting Emotional Harm Two out of five of my long term male partners caused serious lasting psychological harm through their actions. There was a third guy I dated for a couple of months who got violent with me a couple times while drunk, but I peaced out of that one really quickly so I don’t count him. Out of the other two, the first was not ever physically abusive, and the second one I left as soon as he escalated to physical abuse (after five years of being together) and never looked back.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/06/26 05:57 AM
0	Campaigns such as "Nuclear Family Month" are part of a broader effort to promote traditional gender and family roles. Oh fair enough, now that I’m noticing your flair I can hazard a guess. It did come off as a pretty… neutral take. 🤣	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/06/26 03:54 AM
4	DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵 <image>	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/06/26 03:06 AM
2	DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵 You’ve clearly never met my cat. Shifty little bastard.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/06/26 03:01 AM
1	DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵 I’m 47 years old and spending actual money on clothing and accessories for my stuffed capybara couple. Why am I like this?	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/06/26 02:51 AM
1	Relationships are downplayed too often I think sex is important too, but outside of advocating for the decriminalization/legalization of all kinds of sex work, there are not a lot of things that we can do as a society for sexless men (or women).	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/06/26 02:07 AM
2	Relationships are downplayed too often It’s definitely better to be in a good relationship than alone, assuming that’s something you want. But proactively seeking said relationship has historically just led to me trying to force myself into a box I do not fit in. I was not proactively trying when I met my boyfriend, and neither was he. I was just trying to hang out with a friend from Discord who was in town for a few days who I thought was gay. As it turns out, he is not gay.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/06/26 01:46 AM
0	Campaigns such as "Nuclear Family Month" are part of a broader effort to promote traditional gender and family roles. Cool, link me to these posts/comments that are mad about men’s mental health month. I must have missed them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/06/26 01:02 AM
0	Campaigns such as "Nuclear Family Month" are part of a broader effort to promote traditional gender and family roles. >My position is that campaigns such as "Nuclear Family Month" are best understood as part of a broader effort to promote traditional gender and family roles in response to recent cultural changes. The key difference here is that Pride month isn’t “promoting” anything. We’re not recruiting. We’re not trying to entice any straight people to switch teams. Pride parades and other events are in commemoration of the Stonewall riots. What historic event is “Nuclear Family Month” commemorating?	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/06/26 12:51 AM
1	Campaigns such as "Nuclear Family Month" are part of a broader effort to promote traditional gender and family roles. Are these women in the room with us right now?	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/06/26 12:44 AM
2	Campaigns such as "Nuclear Family Month" are part of a broader effort to promote traditional gender and family roles. I’m sure the parties will be lit.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/06/26 12:43 AM
–	Do abusive men have good personalities? Oh it has nothing to do with you being “annoying” and has everything to do with the way you talk about victims of abuse and domestic violence.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/06/26 11:34 PM
–	Do abusive men have good personalities? >I know you don't give a shit what non-abusive men think though and prefer all your little dramas and redemption arcs with the "exciting" abusive guys … are not words that a non-abusive man would ever utter.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/06/26 12:44 PM
1	Would women still get married if they were legally mandated to frequently have sex with their husbands? Fuck that. It would need to be a requirement for both parties. I have zero problems having sex once a week, but at least two of my exes would have found that to be fully unreasonable. In all seriousness, having sex with someone who is completely checked out and uninterested in it is absolutely horrid and I would not sign up for that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/06/26 07:51 AM
1	Is an average woman dating an average man considered "settling?" His boyfriend was a bad person. You’ll get no argument from me there. And I don’t doubt that if women had similar sex drives to men that there would be a lot more women doing things like that. Or pressuring for non-monogamy when it’s not wanted by the other party. I want to be married but between me and you if I knew me and my partner could get equal amounts of attention I would have no problem with an open relationship until I have children. I prefer the structure a nuclear family provides. But…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/06/26 03:53 PM
1	Is an average woman dating an average man considered "settling?" Gay men often get pressured into non-monogamous relationships they don’t actually want, and put up with it because they can’t find anyone else who even wants a relationship. If someone is wired to want monogamy, then it really doesn’t matter how easily they can get casual sex. They’re still not going to want their partner to be fucking other people.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/06/26 03:44 PM
1	Is an average woman dating an average man considered "settling?" I guess that all depends on your views on monogamy. My boyfriend is bi and most of his dating experience has been with men. He really wanted a monogamous relationship but found that impossible to find. The only guy who was interested in being his boyfriend cheated on him constantly with random dudes and lied about it, and then got super mad when his lies weren’t believed.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/06/26 03:23 PM
1	Is an average woman dating an average man considered "settling?" So do you agree that if women had similar sex drives to men that it would cause at least as many problems as it solves? Because that’s what I’m saying. Non-monogamy is more common in the gay community, but for those who want a monogamous relationship, it’s much more difficult.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/06/26 03:01 PM
1	Is an average woman dating an average man considered "settling?" Right, but it’s not in actuality a monogamous relationship if at least one party is cheating. What you’re suggesting though is that if women had similar sex drives as men, that men would be fine with that because then they could also have sex with other women just as easily. But it’s not even fully about that. Most people don’t want someone they are in a relationship with to be having sex with other people, even if they themselves could easily have sex with other people. Mate guarding is a thing…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/06/26 02:45 PM
1	Is an average woman dating an average man considered "settling?" Cheating is very very common.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/06/26 02:38 PM
1	Is an average woman dating an average man considered "settling?" Even attractive men don’t want their woman having sex with other men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/06/26 02:04 PM
0	Is an average woman dating an average man considered "settling?" Yeah, and what makes you think they would be be fine with women doing the same thing to them?	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/06/26 12:39 PM
2	What do abusive men bring to the table? I’m sure as hell not hot, and I’m autistic too.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/06/26 05:43 AM
4	What do abusive men bring to the table? Fuck that. I hated it. I’m finally in a healthy and happy relationship and I wouldn’t compromise that for anything.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/06/26 05:41 AM
5	What do abusive men bring to the table? Dude why would you assume that? I wound up with an abusive guy because nobody else fucking wanted me. I got rejected by all kinds of nice guys who I imagine probably wouldn’t have abused me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/06/26 05:24 AM
12	What do abusive men bring to the table? Who is lying? I learned how to spot it by being with men like that. I haven’t been in an abusive relationship in over 20 years so I guess I figured it out.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/06/26 05:13 AM
14	What do abusive men bring to the table? You know what, to actually answer your question though, what my abusive exes brought to the table was pretty much the same stuff that my non-abusive exes and current partner bring to the table. They weren’t being shitty towards me 100% of the time. Most of the time things were good, and in those times they were funny, loving, affectionate, we had some things in common, when we weren’t fighting I liked spending time with them. I have a lot of happy and funny memories, and that feels complicated f…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/06/26 02:59 AM
44	What do abusive men bring to the table? I grew up with an abusive father and other male family members who were abusive, so that seemed normal and comfortable to me. On top of that I’m autistic and was considered really unattractive compared to other girls my age, so I felt like no one else would ever want me and I had to take what I could get. That sort of mentality is like catnip to abusive men. Thankfully I healed and got past that pretty early.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/06/26 02:07 AM
4	Is an average woman dating an average man considered "settling?" By that logic, Chads and high status men would be fine with being cheated on, and I’m just not seeing any evidence of that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/06/26 10:11 PM
–	Men like different types, Woman like different flavors. Doubtful	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/06/26 08:31 PM
–	Men like different types, Woman like different flavors. Nah I like pudgy short guys who kind of look like cartoon characters.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/06/26 08:23 PM
2	Is an average woman dating an average man considered "settling?" Open relationships and casual sex without getting into a relationship are much more common and accepted in the gay community.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/06/26 04:32 PM
1	Women who call themselves "baddie" are just as cringe, if not more cringe, than men who call themselves "alpha". R.I.P Baddie Winkle	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/26 08:42 PM
2	Men will never go back to what they used to be for good reason I put myself out there for any incel to talk to, and gave every guy who DMed me a chance. So if that’s the case then the average incel isn’t trying.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/26 08:32 PM
3	Men will never go back to what they used to be for good reason About ten years ago I spent a lot of time talking to self-described incels, thinking that we had the same problem and that it should be fairly easy for me to find someone suitable among them. They were their own worst enemies. Most had standards that I did not meet. Some were incredibly hateful toward women and did not pass my own vetting process. Some were minors, so they were automatically out. All of them had options that they did not consider to be options. Mind you, I have never considered …	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/26 08:21 PM
2	Men will never go back to what they used to be for good reason Most of them don’t try either. And the ones who do/have give up very easily, convinced that no woman will ever be attracted to them until it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/26 07:57 PM
3	Men will never go back to what they used to be for good reason Yeah in that case there are no actual incel men either.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/26 07:54 PM
4	Men will never go back to what they used to be for good reason Only because what she would have to go through to find someone suitable is significantly worse than just staying single, sure.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/26 07:52 PM
4	Men will never go back to what they used to be for good reason You’re forgetting that not finding a man remains a perfectly viable and superior option.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/26 07:49 PM
5	Men will never go back to what they used to be for good reason No, it’s not “weakness of will” to refuse to continuously allow people to treat you like you are less than a human being.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/26 07:47 PM
6	Men will never go back to what they used to be for good reason Having self respect? Yeah, oh well. Would rather be single than deal with that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/26 07:44 PM
4	Men will never go back to what they used to be for good reason Not at all. When you’re not attractive you mostly get the guys who see you as an easy mark for casual sex and most of them don’t put much effort into hiding that fact. It’s unbelievably dehumanizing and demoralizing as well. I could never stomach it for long before just giving up.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/26 07:42 PM
5	Men will never go back to what they used to be for good reason It’s not uncommon for none of them to pass the vetting process.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/26 07:36 PM
1	DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵 Because they get what we go through.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/06/26 08:11 PM
1	DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵 I’m telling ya. Get yourself a guy who is used to having sex with men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/06/26 06:33 PM
1	"meet my standards", "not settling", "treat me the way i deserve" ect. All of these buzz phrases at the core is just hypergamy, Man, you make me look neurotypical in comparison. There are a whole lot of women out there in the world choosing and dating average men. If you want to pretend that’s not reality, I cannot help you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/06/26 11:40 PM
1	"meet my standards", "not settling", "treat me the way i deserve" ect. All of these buzz phrases at the core is just hypergamy, Then you would be 100% wrong	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/06/26 11:37 PM
1	"meet my standards", "not settling", "treat me the way i deserve" ect. All of these buzz phrases at the core is just hypergamy, Not just myself. Literally all of my hetero or male partnered female friends.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/06/26 10:59 PM
0	How good would women be at dating if they had to be men for a year and date women? Most women aren’t even queer	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/06/26 10:58 PM
2	"meet my standards", "not settling", "treat me the way i deserve" ect. All of these buzz phrases at the core is just hypergamy, I know a lot of poor people and am dating a poor person. Are you gonna try and tell me I’m just imagining all the poor men I know who are in relationships?	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/06/26 10:41 PM
1	"meet my standards", "not settling", "treat me the way i deserve" ect. All of these buzz phrases at the core is just hypergamy, You literally just copied and pasted the last comment I responded to. It was incorrect then and it’s incorrect now.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/06/26 10:30 PM
1	"meet my standards", "not settling", "treat me the way i deserve" ect. All of these buzz phrases at the core is just hypergamy, Maybe because women know what they want more than men know what women want?	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/06/26 05:48 AM
1	"meet my standards", "not settling", "treat me the way i deserve" ect. All of these buzz phrases at the core is just hypergamy, I don’t think most women are actually wanting a non-human lover.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/06/26 05:25 AM
1	How good would women be at dating if they had to be men for a year and date women? Fems are more aggressive than mascs in my experience.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/06/26 01:47 AM
1	How good would women be at dating if they had to be men for a year and date women? Yeah that’s why it’s ridiculously easy to pull women as another woman. All you have to do is be willing to make the first moves.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/06/26 01:39 AM
1	How good would women be at dating if they had to be men for a year and date women? I don’t have any trouble pulling women despite being short, autistic, and fairly unattractive.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/06/26 01:29 AM
–	Women don’t choose their abusers You have to realize you’re in an abusive relationship to know that you need to get out of it and figure out how to end that cycle. After I broke up with my first boyfriend when I was 17, everyone kept telling me “oh thank god, he was so abusive.” But nobody said anything to me the whole time we were together. That really pissed me off.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/06/26 01:11 AM
1	"meet my standards", "not settling", "treat me the way i deserve" ect. All of these buzz phrases at the core is just hypergamy, Lol so if women are claiming they’re not going to settle but actually do settle then who gives a shit?	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/06/26 12:58 AM
1	"meet my standards", "not settling", "treat me the way i deserve" ect. All of these buzz phrases at the core is just hypergamy, Idk I don’t really read those books. My boyfriend is into them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/06/26 12:45 AM
3	"meet my standards", "not settling", "treat me the way i deserve" ect. All of these buzz phrases at the core is just hypergamy, I’ve heard the same from other women, yeah. For various reasons.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/06/26 12:43 AM
1	"meet my standards", "not settling", "treat me the way i deserve" ect. All of these buzz phrases at the core is just hypergamy, A lot of the male romantic interests in novels aren’t even human.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/06/26 12:42 AM
3	"meet my standards", "not settling", "treat me the way i deserve" ect. All of these buzz phrases at the core is just hypergamy, You didn’t address anything else I said. How are you going to claim that women settle when the whole premise of your post is that women are refusing to settle for men who aren’t Chad?	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/06/26 12:41 AM
5	"meet my standards", "not settling", "treat me the way i deserve" ect. All of these buzz phrases at the core is just hypergamy, It’s not “convenient”. It’s fairly common.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/06/26 12:39 AM
4	"meet my standards", "not settling", "treat me the way i deserve" ect. All of these buzz phrases at the core is just hypergamy, I believe the point that was being made is that what you consider an average woman may be way off. Nobody considers male characters in romance novels to be average.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/06/26 12:37 AM
2	"meet my standards", "not settling", "treat me the way i deserve" ect. All of these buzz phrases at the core is just hypergamy, If women settle then what are you going on about with the “meet my standards” “not settling” “know my worth” stuff? I certainly have not settled.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/06/26 12:31 AM
4	"meet my standards", "not settling", "treat me the way i deserve" ect. All of these buzz phrases at the core is just hypergamy, No, not all women want this man. I specifically avoid tall conventionally attractive men. They’re not my cup of tea.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/06/26 12:27 AM
2	"meet my standards", "not settling", "treat me the way i deserve" ect. All of these buzz phrases at the core is just hypergamy, The characters in novels are fictional. The women in porn are actual humans.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/06/26 12:19 AM