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Men like the one who raped my daughter starting when she was 8 years old. Men like the ADA who fucked up some paperwork on the plea deal for the guy who did it, allowing him to get a third of his sentence taken off because my daughter just wanted to move on and not spend the next several years dealing with the justice system again. Men like the one that got drunk and beat me up. Men like the adult who predated on me when I was in high school. Men like the ones that raped me, sexually assaulted m…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 06:27 PM
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I don’t try to say that i don’t have disdain for men. It has been well earned. Spending any amount of time on this sub has only reinforced it for me as well. I don’t abuse my boyfriend. On the contrary, my only instinct is to protect him. He knows exactly how awful, disgusting and dangerous most men are. He dated men almost exclusively before we met. He says they’re “absolutely vile”. It’s also telling that you can’t come up with even one example of an antifeminist man with the type of relations…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 02:17 PM
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Every post you have made here is evidence of that. And yeah, I’m sure there are misogynistic women out there. But they’re not the same women who are going to be cool with supporting you financially and being sexually dominant. I am that type of woman and I’m only willing to do that for a man who recognizes his inferiority.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 10:36 AM
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Who are you talking to? I haven’t once said that I think gay and bi men are misogynistic. I do think that about you though, just to be clear. You’re an annoying and terrible example because your disdain for women is obvious and palpable. Because of that, the chances of you finding what you want in a woman are negligible. But good luck with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 08:20 AM
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If only
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 08:12 AM
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lol I make twice as much as my boyfriend. All I care about is that he is happy and fulfilled with what he does. If it were totally up to me he wouldn’t be working at all, but he wants to.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 02:07 AM
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So you’re just throwing out another unrelated statement for no reason? Ok then.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 01:45 AM
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It’s a stupid analogy because fish don’t want to be caught. If you are trying to get women who don’t want you, that’s the problem. If you have to trick a woman into being with you then YOU are the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 10:07 PM
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I wanted to believe that at least half of men were decent respectful people, but now I’m thinking it’s more that a whole lot of them just don’t want to have sex with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 09:59 PM
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In what way does giving your female partner gifts, showing her that you care about her, and “chasing” her mean that she thinks she is better than you? You’re just making less and less sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 09:33 PM
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All of these “reasons” are absolute bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 08:44 PM
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I don’t get very much male attention, and I still don’t really want it most of the time. Not because the men are mostly unattractive. I don’t care about that. But because of their consistent inability to “read the room” leading to me feeling unsafe a majority of the time it happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 01:55 PM
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Yeah I kind of agree with this take. I feel pretty lucky in that I’m much more attracted to personality than specific physical features because i don’t really think that’s the norm. I have had multiple times in my life where I wasn’t physically attracted to someone at all initially, but after getting to know them that completely changed.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 11:28 PM
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I want regular and exciting sex, and I also want that with someone I’m in love with. I don’t think that’s a crazy thing to ask for.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 02:25 PM
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Likewise I will not live in a house that only has a bathroom. 😆
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 02:20 PM
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I grew up with corporal punishment at home and in school too and wound up with borderline personality disorder and all kinds of health issues that are associated with adverse childhood experiences. There is a lot of science on this issues and it does not fall on the side of HITTING CHILDREN. I raised my child without that and she is a fully functioning and wonderful adult. I will never be on the side of hitting kids. Period.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 01:52 PM
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It’s more that most of the time I assume guys aren’t going to be interested in me, so I don’t allow myself to catch feels unless I have some reason to believe they might be reciprocated.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 11:19 PM
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I don’t approach strangers. I have to know them at least somewhat to be interested. Also, I would guess that only about 20-25% are gonna be within a reasonable age range of me at the most.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 10:04 PM
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They were nice decent average guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 09:15 PM
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Because there’s more to people than their looks and I liked them as people. The baseline level of physical attractiveness someone needs to be for me to be interested in them is fairly low. Personality is more important.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 09:09 PM
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These men were not “out of my league”. You guys always assume that, but they were all average to below average looking. Objectively. Short, bald, overweight to obese, average to below average face. My black pill friend described a couple of them as “subhuman”. Not a single one has been above average in looks or anything else. My boyfriend is significantly more attractive than most of the men I have approached have been, so clearly I’m not that hideous.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 08:11 PM
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Unsolicited attention isn’t that big of a deal. It’s when the guy doubles down on women who are not interested that it’s a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 05:43 PM
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Eh, my feelings have changed toward several guys once I realized they were into me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 05:37 PM
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As a woman who has made the first move many many times, it doesn’t really work with hetero men. Men don’t really consider the fact that the women who would approach them are not necessarily women they will be interested in. Not only that but a lot of men are put off by women who are forward. They may not believe they would be, but that’s been my experience. It’s like they think there must be something wrong with you, otherwise you wouldn’t have to approach.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 05:23 PM
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I’ve been the “starter relationship” for a few below average men. It went poorly.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 12:02 AM
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It’s only ok when men do it. Didn’t you know?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 03:17 PM
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Maybe I’ve just been lucky then. 🤞 Probably didn’t hurt anything that my bf has had horrible experiences with the men he has dated.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 07:15 PM
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Don’t presume anything about bi men as a whole based on this one really annoying and terrible example. My boyfriend is bi and is an absolute gem.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 06:59 PM
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You know that most low paying jobs are a lot more physically demanding right?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 06:57 PM
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How the hell am I supposed to do that? Stop being hot? Anyway, it doesn’t bother me at all when my boyfriend finishes quickly. He tries to hold out for his own benefit.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 06:50 PM
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Live and let live. It has absolutely no effect on me. It’s kind of cool that men can do this with female avatars as well. Think maybe they’ll shut up now about how unfair it is that women can just do sex work? Yeah, probably not. But I can always hope.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 06:34 PM
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It seems incredibly far fetched to credit being assaulted one time with fixing all of her discipline issues for the rest of her life. And there are other consequences besides being hit.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 05:21 PM
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I’m likely in your generation. Or maybe older, because we got hit way more than a few times, and you know what it left me with? Anger issues and mental health problems. There is no “good” amount of hitting children.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 04:20 PM
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That’s a weird analogy to use. Are you fighting gym crimes now?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 04:14 PM
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Yeah I would much rather have a generation of softer boys than start hitting kids again. And military men are awful. No thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 04:09 PM
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Look, I don’t necessarily think that you are wrong about men these days, but also this in particular seems like not that much of an issue. They’re young. Most people don’t graduate high school immediately knowing how to adult. It takes time. I would also much rather see a man ask for help than just try to do shit himself when he has no clue what he is doing and fuck it up. Men my age are allergic to asking for help and it’s seriously irritating.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 04:06 PM
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That’s what I’m saying. You can only argue that men are more efficient at cleaning if they are getting things as clean as women do.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 03:54 PM
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Most men have gotten better but still aren’t anywhere near where we want them to be. Other men have gotten much much worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 01:44 PM
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We got some of the changes we wanted.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 01:40 PM
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I lived in Alaska until I was 28 and I love camping. Like hell am I getting in a car with a random dude to drive me out into the woods though.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 01:32 PM
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Yeah you’re totally right. Openly blatant misogyny has definitely seen a resurgence of popularity.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 01:15 PM
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Hahahahahaha noooooo. They were worse. They just haven’t improved very much. Women did complain about men a LOT in the past. They just didn’t have TikTok or YouTube so men didn’t really hear it directly.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 01:11 PM
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Cooking is a lot more fun when you don’t have to do it 2-3 times every single day. And when you don’t have to clean up the kitchen and wash all the dishes afterwards.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 12:14 PM
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Yes, most apartments here do not have in-unit laundry facilities. Most have on site machines that you have to pay for, but it’s usually much more expensive and takes a lot longer than going to the laundromat. As to how much time any given individual spends on things like birthdays and medical appointments, it would depend a lot on the size of their family. If you are making medical appointments for your own kids, you generally also have to take the kids to those appointments as well. That can re…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 12:07 PM
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Most people in my socioeconomic class do, yeah. Also you do realize there is more to it than just “remembering” someone’s birthday, right? It’s almost as though there’s a reason you need to remember someone’s birthday is coming up. It takes time to shop for a gift and card, wrap the gift, package it safely for the mail if needed and then take it to the post office and stand in line for half an hour to mail it because your post office is chronically understaffed.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 11:50 AM
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I couldn’t “exude femininity” if my very life depended on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 11:43 AM
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Sounds like you should have chose better.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 11:41 AM
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Oh yeah, the hour of total time that I have to stay at the laundromat while the laundry is in the machines and have nothing else to do but scroll my phone (in most cases I’m returning phone calls, making appointments, and catching up on work stuff anyway) is all just fun leisure time for me. 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 11:39 AM
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All I’m seeing here is that on average, women have to sacrifice some amount of paid employment so that shit gets done around the house. Sounds terrible.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 11:28 AM
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That’s a really miserable way to look at relationships. Most couples are just wanting someone they enjoy spending time with. If a man expected me to provide him with a bunch of free domestic labor, I would have zero interest in dating him. That type of man can get fucked (but not by me). I watched my grandmothers have those kinds of relationships, and I never wanted that, even as a child. My grandfathers were both miserable, difficult people, and my grandmas got no medals for putting up with the…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 11:20 AM
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I think that if someone is dead set against having kids then they should listen to that instinct. Having a child isn’t one of those things you should do in the hopes it will “fix” your life, because it won’t. You’ll still be the same person. If you have depression or anxiety, those things will not go away and in all likelihood they will be worse for a while. When I was growing up I saw my life playing out a certain way and being a wife and mother was never a part of that. I did wind up having a …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 05:57 AM
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Me too, but only because I’m still fucking number 87 or whatever he is. You know what they say. The 87th time’s the charm!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 05:57 PM
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Aww, that’s a shame!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 06:02 AM
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If I’m asking, it’s because it needs to be done, so as soon as possible and practicable. If it can wait a few hours, I will say so and give a timeframe.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 05:44 AM
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I find it very telling when men use the fish analogy, considering that fish don’t want to be caught because they generally get killed as a result. Not to mention you catch fish by deceiving them and literally luring them into harm’s way. You sure that’s an analogy you want to make? Do you think that makes you seem trustworthy? Does that make you seem like someone a woman should want to be with? Because to me it sounds like you’re dangerous and duplicitous. Btw, Dahmer was autistic af (and also g…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 05:16 AM
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For real. I know many men who hit at least two out of those three things, if not all of them, but are also trans or gay as hell.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 03:40 AM
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I see. Where is your gym exactly? 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 03:26 AM
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Have you considered the possibility that they just didn’t like you? Yes, I do want the man I’m with to have values that are close to mine, but that doesn’t mean that’s the only thing that matters to me. I also want him to have a personality that clicks with mine. I want him to be funny and silly and creative and passionate. Sexual compatibility is also incredibly important to me. My boyfriend is not particularly masculine at all outside of his sex drive. He wears my clothes all the time and I lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 03:11 AM
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They do studies on all kinds of shit. Even things where the answers seem completely obvious.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 02:55 AM
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2 and 3 are both good, but dirty talk is even better.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 02:31 AM
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Literally never. Not even while single.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 12:56 AM
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Still their choice to make and a valid one.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 02:11 PM
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It’s just not worth it to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 02:03 PM
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I know several men who choose not to date at all. They are not asexual or aromantic.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 01:00 PM
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You literally did compare dating women to employment and provided no other context.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 12:58 PM
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My boyfriend had no idea what I looked like before I picked him up to hang out the first time. I had seen him on webcam before and thought he was unattractive, but he was better looking in person.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 12:56 PM
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How?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 12:55 PM
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I met one of my boyfriends on a local BBS in 1997, and did not know what he looked like until we met for our first date. He didn’t know what I looked like either. We dated for a few months, but I was about to graduate high school and he was still in the 10th grade and I really didn’t want to be tied down to anyone. The 90’s were a wild time. I met a bunch of my friends on that BBS, most of whom were really weird dudes, and several of them were grown ass men. Anyway. Probably would not use a “dat…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 12:53 PM
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You can choose not to date women at all. You are unlikely to wind up homeless over it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 12:42 PM
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How is that even comparable? From all I see men say in this sub women are more of a financial liability than an asset anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 12:39 PM
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Show me where I said that.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 09:56 PM
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lol what fucking data?! We know that single men spend less time doing housework. There is no data to suggest that, on average, single men are cleaning an adequate amount. Some do, but plenty of them do not.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 09:46 PM
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Why are you acting like I have never been into men’s homes? Read my flair. Some of them have been absolutely fucking disgusting.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 07:16 PM
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I did not know that he was putting me as his emergency contact. Are you serious?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 04:05 PM
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No I kinda can fault his logic, because at the time I left he was immunocompromised from an organ transplant, plus he’s always been diabetic. In the five years after I moved out he was hospitalized multiple times with sepsis, had amputations on both feet, and I finally found out about all of this when he, once again, wound up in the hospital in a coma with meningoencephalitis. And I was his emergency contact. He’s not able to work anymore and he is my problem again.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 03:23 PM
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My ex was completely fine with having literal garbage and cat urine and feces all over the floor, dirty dishes piled up, and visible dirt on surfaces. And he used to say the same thing to me. That I was the one who needed it to be “cleaner” than that so it was my “problem” to fix.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 02:58 PM
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You’re making an awfully big assumption that single men aren’t more often living in squalor.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 09:51 AM
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I’m was with a woman for 7 years and that was never an issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 02:39 AM
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I have had dead bedroom relationships with two men so far. Either way I have to find someone with a libido that matches mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 02:27 AM
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There is no evidence to suggest that that is typical.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 08:09 PM
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If it’s irrelevant then you have zero room to complain about dead bedrooms.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 07:42 PM
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Most men on the dating apps fail immediately in the “respecting boundaries” department. Hence why I stopped using them many years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 04:02 PM
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I have dated other women. If I have to date again starting from scratch, it’s gonna be women.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 04:01 PM
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If you haven’t dipped your toes into the male dating pool then you truly have no idea how many good men are in it. They are vastly outnumbered by bad men.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 03:59 PM
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Disappointed by their behavior. In the dating stage that can include things like trying to steer the conversation into sexual territory literally out of nowhere, unsolicited dick pics, uncalled for jealousy (like don’t expect me to not be seeing other people if we haven’t agreed to be exclusive). When dating seriously/cohabitating, stuff like not picking up after himself or doing any housework, being selfish in the bedroom. And any attempts to be manipulative at any stage are a hard line in the …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 11:14 PM
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Yes but I only look at solo women or two women together. I am also not straight. I kinda like watching two dudes sometimes but mostly if I know one of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 10:53 PM
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Irrelevant. Women are at their “horniest” from ages 27 to 45. AFBB is a non-issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 09:35 PM
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He is above average enough for me to swipe left.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 07:48 PM
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Yeah he’s objectively attractive but I’m not into guys who look like that at all. I don’t want my boyfriend to be prettier than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 07:47 PM
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They are much more tender than adults. This should be obvious.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 02:47 AM
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In my experience, men rarely leave those frustrations on Reddit. They give themselves away pretty quickly when talking to women off of Reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 02:43 AM
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Poor women don’t expect to be supported either. We have always had to bust our asses to survive, whether with a partner or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 01:29 AM
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I have never expected my partner to support me. Not even back in the 90’s. My boyfriend makes a lot less than me, and it’s never been an issue for me. I would honestly be fine with him just staying home but he likes his job a lot and he doesn’t want me paying for everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 01:25 AM
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Dude, it proves that THAT woman cannot handle rejection. Just like a lot of men also cannot handle rejection. I have been rejected many many times and I have always told them it’s completely fine and they have nothing to feel bad for. It stings, but that’s just life.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 11:40 PM
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Yes I would sacrifice myself for a man that I love. I gave my second husband one of my kidneys. When his health started going downhill and he could no longer live on his own safely, I insisted that he move back in with me. I am his caregiver and medical POA and I support him financially because he is no longer able to work. It’s fucking rough. But I’m all he has and I’m not going to let him die alone in a nursing home. I may not feel romantic love for him anymore, but he is my family and always …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 03:40 PM
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I’ll do it for the sex alone as long as it’s good, and he is otherwise not a jerk.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 11:00 AM
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https://ifstudies.org/insights?id=4410 Married women are much more likely to be having sex at least once a week than unmarried women. https://www.guttmacher.org/journals/psrh/2008/sexual-behavior-single-adult-american-women Married women across every age group included in the study report being currently sexually active at a rate significantly higher than single women in their 20’s. Also only about a quarter of single women in their 20’s have had more than one sexual partner within the previous …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 10:10 AM
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Yeah I’m gonna need to have some evidence of that claim.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 09:09 AM
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Because the AFBB claim is that women are the most sexually active in their teens and early 20’s and then lose interest in sex once they get married, when the exact opposite is actually true.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 09:02 AM
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It’s cute that you seem to believe that men don’t make self destructive decisions their entire lives because of their hormones. But it also doesn’t really dispute anything I said.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 08:30 AM
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I agree there’s not just one reason why this happens. With my first husband, he did not lose his drive at all, but he was also a really selfish lover. Regardless of that, I still had sex with him. I just really wanted it to be with someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 02:00 AM
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So it would seem that their current partner being boring is the real issue then. Not that their partner wants all this wild sex too and they just don’t want it anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 01:54 AM
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The first study states exactly what I said. That men with DT personalities are more skilled at manipulation and that that could very well be the reason for higher sexual success. My first husband definitely had some kind of cluster b personality disorder. He was also very very manipulative. He succeeded in manipulating almost everyone he knew into thinking he was a harmless nice guy. When I started to see who he actually was, I bailed. Those qualities were not attractive to me in any capacity.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 01:51 AM
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In addition to everything else I listed, my boyfriend is also a strong believer in monogamy and wanted a serious relationship with me right out of the gate, has a job that he loves and is a hard working and reliable employee, consistently does grocery shopping, washes dishes, does laundry, vacuums and puts shit away without being asked, is very affectionate and treats me incredibly well, and has very healthy communication skills. He is more bonded with my cat than I am. It’s by far the most stab…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 01:35 AM
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Not sure how you got any of that out of my post but ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 01:26 AM
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Well you would be wrong. It is absolutely not necessary for a man to be “very good looking” for a woman to be sexually excited by him. The most physically attractive men I have been with have been my absolute worst lays. A couple of them were really nice, but still kinda crap in bed. And no, the guys I have been with who were the best sexually were not “Chad” in other ways. They all had working class to middle class jobs. I wouldn’t even call most of them particularly charismatic. One of them wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 01:23 AM
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There are certainly men in dead bedroom situations who don’t want to be there. But there is no real reason to assume that all their wives had a wild past with Chad and then decided they don’t like sex anymore as soon as they get married. I’ve spent time on that sub before, as someone who was also not having sex within my relationship, and it seemed like those men’s wives never had a super high libido to begin with.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 01:05 AM
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Been there, done that. Implying that they have already sown their wild oats and no longer have any desire to be sexually adventurous.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 01:00 AM
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Find out if what is true?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 12:58 AM
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Regardless it’s a false dichotomy.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 12:56 AM
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I’m defining it by when her libido is at its highest, which is also when her fertility is in decline.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 11:59 PM
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Then you would have to not be paying attention at all. That’s the whole idea behind AFBB.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 11:58 PM
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Yeah I settled for a guy who was not interested in sex for a while. I won’t do it again. Either way, the problem was certainly not that I didn’t want to have sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 11:57 PM
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Nah studies show that women may be more likely to be attracted to people who display those traits, but people who display those traits are also more likely to be highly charismatic and manipulate, which means they can manipulate people into liking them more easily. Anyway. Moving on to your question, here are some of the things that I feel like makes my boyfriend a “bad boy” to me: He’s openly queer and non-religious despite his family’s disapproval, he likes to experiment with psychedelics, he …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 10:56 PM
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The whole argument against BB hinges on the idea that she’s not going to want to have sex with you because she’s already btdt. But that idea has no basis in reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 09:42 PM
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Yeah that’s definitely not what I mean by “bad boy”. At least not any kind of bad boy that I would actually want.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 09:34 PM
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No way, I like below average men.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 09:31 PM
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Idk I started wanting a kid when I was like 19, and wanted a stable relationship even earlier than that. But I wasn’t really wanting to do the whole married with kids thing until I was 19.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 09:21 PM
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What exactly does “bad boy” mean to you, because I feel like it doesn’t mean the same thing to me at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 09:16 PM
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If you settle down with a woman in her late 20’s to early 30’s and stay together then you get the entirety of that peak. Even if you start dating at the very top of that peak, you still have at least ten years before that peak starts to appreciably decline. Most women are only just starting to go through menopause in their mid 40’s and maintain a pretty high libido until it’s over. If you marry a 30 yr old woman you’re getting about 25 years of increased libido.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 09:12 PM
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Is that actually true though, or is it just what men believe? I know that isn’t true for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 09:06 PM
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That’s not true at all. The best sex I have ever had has been with the schlubbiest looking dudes.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 09:04 PM
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Again, maybe this is just me being autistic, but never in my life has a man been good in bed only because he was good looking. In fact more often than not it’s been the opposite. The best sex I have had in my life has been with very average looking dudes. And by that I mean well under six feet tall, bald, hairy, paunchy, guys who look like a high school guidance counselor, not an Abercrombie model. But here’s the thing. Those guys typically have no interest in any kind of serious relationship ei…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 09:03 PM
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I’m trying very hard to organize my thoughts and communicate effectively here, and I feel like I’m just failing at it. I don’t understand what being aggressive or subby (in life and in bed) has to do with it? It seems to me that the reality is more like Alpha Fucks and Beta could also fuck but doesn’t really want to. Am I wrong?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 08:57 PM
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I’m doing my best to keep up with replies but I have to do some work training for the next couple hours. If i haven’t replied yet, I will.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 08:29 PM
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The whole idea of BB is that this guy has been chosen. Why he thinks that the woman who chose him doesn’t also want her back blown out by him while her libido is at its highest is honestly beyond me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 08:29 PM
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Yeah in hindsight i didn’t word the OP correctly. Men on this sub act like you can’t be both a stable partner as well as sexually exciting.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 08:20 PM
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Chad can be boring. Normies can be not boring. It’s not a choice between Chad or boring.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 08:18 PM
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There is nothing inherently contradictory about being a stable loving monogamous partner and wanting to regularly have adventurous sex with your stable loving monogamous female partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 08:17 PM
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Idk I’m 47 and my sex drive has only just started to head back downhill, but my sex drive is still very very strong. I’m not yet menopausal but my hormone levels started hitting the ups and downs maybe a year and a half ago. I probably won’t be fully menopausal till my mid 50’s. It’s super frustrating to me that I wasted so much of my sexual peak in relationships with men who had next to zero interest in sex. I don’t really like casual sex either though. It took me forever to find a guy who want…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 08:13 PM
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Maybe this is just me being very autistic but I don’t understand what makes these things contradictory. I don’t understand why men are like this. If you have a woman who is ravenous for your cock she is somehow not wife material. It makes no fucking sense to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 08:08 PM
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Nah, I’m not. I’ve had no problems finding men who want to have sex, and I’ve had no problems finding men who want to settle down and get married, but it unfortunately kind of rare to find both in the same man.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 08:02 PM
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I’d say more like a bell curve. I’m 47 and not fully menopausal yet, and while I would say that my sex drive was higher 10 years ago than it is now, it’s still pretty damn high.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 08:00 PM
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It hilarious that you think wanting a partner who wants a stable monogamous relationship and is also very interested in having sex with you on a regular basis is an absurdly high bar. But what’s sad is that you seem to be correct.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 06:32 PM
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What makes you think she’s not attracted to the man? Personally, the higher my sex drive is, the easier it is for me to become attracted to someone. What I was looking for in a partner, and ultimately found with my boyfriend, is someone who wants a monogamous long term relationship, is kind and loving, affectionate, has healthy communication skills, and has a high sex drive with a high level of enthusiasm. My boyfriend is very excited to try new things in the bedroom and lets me know frequently …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 06:28 PM
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No, you’re misunderstanding. The peak continues until menopause.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 06:14 PM
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If libido is not the issue then why all the moaning I see on this sub about not wanting to wind up in a dead bedroom? You’re statistically least likely to deal with this when you’re with a woman in her 30’s or 40’s. You can be fairly risk averse and still be sexually adventurous. Having a monogamous sexual relationship is relatively low risk.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 06:13 PM
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In order to come in after the peak you would have to get together when she’s entered menopause.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 06:04 PM
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You can be stable and consistent without being boring. It took me a LONG time to find a man who is both a loving, stable partner, and also sexually exciting. They’re out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 06:01 PM
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By sexual peak what they mean is that’s when a woman’s libido is the highest, and women in this age range have lower sexual inhibitions. What I mean by this is that it entirely possible to be a stable loving partner and sexually exciting at the same time. It’s just harder to find that in men.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 05:57 PM
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Women have a higher sex drive when our fertility starts to fall.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 05:54 PM
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I honestly don’t remember but I wasn’t able to orgasm from PIV with him at first. It took a little while. I don’t think it happened till weeks after we started using toys and doing some other kink stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 03:18 PM
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I don’t know how accurate this is because I only have myself as an example. But I think it’s a matter of “the more you do it the easier it gets”. I did not have an orgasm at all until I had been sexually active for over five years. I even gave birth before I ever had an orgasm. I think that a lot of it was mental state, and a lot of it was just not knowing how. I grew up before the internet was widely accessible, and even when I did have access later on, it was in public computer labs, so I wasn…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 02:32 PM
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Men are more than happy to volunteer about what they like and what they don’t in women. I couldn’t give a rat’s ass.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 05:18 PM
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No, we don’t know that. We know that women on OkCupid in 2008 found most of the men on that site to be below average. I was on OkCupid in 2008 and most of the men on there were below average. I have been attracted to a lot of men who I knew were objectively below average.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 04:39 PM
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Have we met? Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 04:32 PM
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My body count is very high, and an average sized dick is still my preference. I have turned guys down for being too big. I don’t want to be in pain just from trying to have sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 04:31 PM
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I’m hypersexual and I have a preference for smaller, shorter, more effeminate men. But that probably has as much to do with me being queer than anything. In reality I take what I can get. Historically I have not been very picky when it comes to sex partners. I tend to prioritize feeling safe with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 04:24 PM
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I had pretty similar experiences on the apps. Except a decent number of them would ask for nudes and ghost you if you declined.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 07:41 PM
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Nah, I worked 65 hours a week (in a very physically demanding field) to my ex husband’s 40. I still did about 95% of the housework and when I asked him to scoop the cat box he would wait days, and then refuse to do it at all when I asked him again.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 05:37 PM
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Yeah because men started mass right swiping without ever looking at pics, let alone reading profiles. Which led to a pretty unpleasant user experience for women, and women had to adjust their use accordingly. Getting immediately unmatched as soon as they look at your pics is pretty brutal. Getting low effort convos from men who might be willing to use you for sex if you make it as easy on them as possible is not much better.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 05:28 PM
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Nope. Online dating was a much different experience before it became popular with Tinder. I might get one or two initial messages a week 20 years ago, and I was often sending out more than I was receiving. But you also didn’t have to “match” with someone to converse with them. You could just simply send them a message.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 05:21 PM
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Men have essentially forced women to be extremely selective on apps unless they want to get hounded with farrrrr more messages than they can possibly respond to or keep up with.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 05:16 PM
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Sounds like they’re consistently blowing it in the chat.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 04:59 PM
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Yes that’s what they did
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 04:56 PM
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Couples who met online also include those that met through other online channels, not just dating apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 02:00 PM
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In comparison to bullying victims.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 01:15 PM
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This study had both male and female subjects, and female bullies had a much higher correlation with dating success than male bullies did. That point aside, it’s hilarious to me how studies with self reported evidence are worthless garbage to so many of you here, unless of course it supports your preconceived worldview. Like, wow, such a shocker that the Machiavellian asshole kids claim to have had more sex, claim to be well liked by their peers, and self-assess as more attractive than average. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 11:57 AM
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The benefit is that I get to see and spend time with my boyfriend more often, and that we each only have to pay half the rent. I like sleeping with him every night. I like seeing him as soon as I come home from work. I miss him so much when he is out of town for a couple of days. I don’t care all that much about marriage. I will get married if he wants to. But it’s not that big of a deal to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 12:37 AM
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Nah, she may have every reason to believe that the other guy isn’t/couldn’t be the father if the timing of the pregnancy makes it unlikely.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 12:20 AM
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It’s not necessarily a 50/50 chance though.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 12:19 AM
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We’re not talking about any of those though. We are talking about fraud. Which you have to prove there was intent.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 08:14 PM
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Yeah that doesn’t make it better to me. Idk, I’m younger than that and I have a 26 year old kid. To me it feels like messing with a kid, even though I’m aware it’s all legal. I just feel squicked out about big age gaps.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 06:34 AM
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I have never felt like it was a question to be taken seriously. I always thought it was just a weird joke. Boy am I out of the loop.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 05:43 AM
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I used to,but honestly, fuck that. I won’t any longer settle for being in a relationship with a man who doesn’t match my sexual energy. I want someone to do like alien abduction role play with me. And I stuck it out for years before finding my person.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 05:35 AM
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There could be scenarios where you had reason to think it was a bonus or something and didn’t think much of it. Or if your paychecks only go up my a little bit each time but it adds up over time.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 05:21 AM
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I honestly don’t care if men look abroad for a partner. I don’t think there is anything wrong with that inherently. But some of the things passport bros say about “western” women are super misogynistic and shitty. That’s where I take issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 01:39 AM
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That’s wild. I’m having a negative reaction to it right now, so make it two. I’m not against age gaps but I would seriously question the motives of a woman that age going after someone in their 20’s. Eww.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 11:25 PM
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Ok he can still get it though. 😆
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 11:20 PM
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If you’re talking specifically about burglary, the victim is rarely going to see any compensation coming from the person who did it, even if they are caught.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 11:11 PM
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The chances of a man contracting HIV from having unprotected vaginal sex one time with an HIV positive female partner are actually pretty low. From the CDC: >The likelihood of a man becoming infected with HIV from a single episode of unprotected vaginal sex with an HIV-positive woman is relatively low—statistically estimated at about 4 in 10,000 exposures.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 11:08 PM
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Just saying that it’s not always irrelevant if you’re trying to get compensation for your shit being stolen.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 11:05 PM
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Battery is a crime. Cheating is not.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 11:03 PM
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You would have to know that the money doesn’t belong to you, and they would have to prove that to get a conviction. That’s intent.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 11:01 PM
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That’s not a criminal charge though. It’s a civil one.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 10:55 PM
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Well it’s a good thing that lower class men are also getting into relationships and getting married too then. I’ve worked a lot of low wage jobs, and of the men I have worked with, a majority were either married or in a long term relationship. I live in the shitty part of town and have tons of neighbors who are in heterosexual relationships. Most are Gen Z or younger millennials.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 10:54 PM
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Being charged with most crimes requires proof of intent.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 10:47 PM
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She’s talking about the obvious double standard that many male posters display on this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 10:46 PM
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Insurance does account for the quality of the lock on a break in.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 10:45 PM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 10:33 PM
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In order to get any kind of legal justice in that situation, they would still have to prove that that guy knew he had HIV. Otherwise he’s just a garden variety reckless scumbag.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 10:29 PM
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Yeah who gives a shit about how dehumanizing that is. 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 05:03 PM
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I honestly wish that anyone who says this actually *could* experience what it’s like to live as a girl/woman starting at birth. I wish you all could experience having to protect yourself and your younger siblings from creepy uncles before hitting puberty. I wish you could experience having gross sexual comments made about your body by grown ass men before getting out of middle school. I wish you could experience unsolicited comments like “Should you really be eating that? You don’t want to get f…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 04:51 PM
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OLD stats only reflect the truth about people’s behavior on OLD platforms at the time they were done. Some people on this sub will take almost 20 year old data, and act as though it has any bearing on how the average person dates. It doesn’t. Not only that but they will conveniently leave out allllllll the other data from those same “studies” that don support their POV. I was using OK Cupid in 2008 when that “80/20” stat came out. Meeting your partner online at that time still had a huge stigma …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 01:45 PM
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Cool, have fun taking care of all the severely disabled people. It’s pretty fucking exhausting anyway. I’m happy to unload that “useless” job onto any male who wants to take my place. Hope you have a shit ton of patience and a strong stomach.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 06:28 AM
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I’ve never been to a bachelorette party with a stripper. Hell I have never been to a bachelorette party at all. I didn’t have one for any of my marriages either.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 05:22 AM
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I have literally had dudes follow me around the club and continue putting their hands on me even when I keep walking away from them each time. I expect absolutely no help from men in this kind of scenario though. Other women who were complete strangers to me have stepped in on my behalf.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 12:37 AM
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The good guys I’ve dated whom I didn’t have sex with right away were really not interested in having sex at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 03:48 PM
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Ugly men are my type.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 09:27 PM
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And? Who said anyone about other topics? Not me.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 02:25 PM
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You asked me to link you to posts from men who complain about women taking basic precautions. That’s not the only topic where I’ve seen it happen, but it’s certainly one of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 10:00 AM
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Well it’s a lot harder to defend yourself if you did sleep with them. And on the topic of men being terrified of being baby trapped, I used to tell men that I had an incurable STI (I don’t) and they would STILL pressure me to have sex without a condom. I have had so many veritable strangers jump into bed with me without so much as a conversation about birth control as well. Men are absolute morons.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 09:47 AM
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Search the sub for “male loneliness” and you should have enough material to keep you busy for weeks.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 09:42 AM
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I didn’t like the losers I was with either, to be fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 09:40 AM
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Cool, I hope you stick around and keep that energy for the men here who do exactly that.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 09:29 AM
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Well, not jumping into bed with any and every woman who is remotely willing would be a start.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 09:28 AM
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The way men on this sub talk about false rape allegations of being baby trapped, you’d think they would be a bit more cautious.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 06:34 AM
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Yo, it’s not that women don’t have self preservation instincts, it’s that we are routinely shamed (by men) for having them. Thanks for coming to my Ted Talk.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 06:30 AM
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Based on how my brother turned out, I’m guessing things would not have been great. Who really knows though. A lot of the reason I am the way I am is not just because I’m female but also because I’m queer. That caused me to question a lot of the ways I was brought up pretty early on.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 10:35 PM
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Reminded me of my childhood in a lot of ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 12:33 PM
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It’s a miniseries, but Unbelievable on Netflix. Also Welcome to the Dollhouse.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 01:56 AM
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Most autoimmune disorders won’t kill you outright or shorten your life. Also if you have one, you are very likely to get more.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 11:28 PM
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Do they even know what “bisexual” means? 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 02:34 PM
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🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 02:01 PM
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No, I have no idea what you are trying to say’s what do bisexual and lesbian women have to do with anything?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 09:04 AM
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It helps a lot that my boyfriend is 14 years younger than me! 😆 He keeps me young.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 03:16 AM
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Thanks, me too! My drive has slowed some since I turned 40, and I think his drive is quite a bit higher than mine. But I can still be persuaded by him very easily. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 03:11 AM
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>A large number of women being bisexual lesbian and hypergamous also confirms to the suspicion that why women avoid 50-50. Wait… what?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 12:38 AM
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Well my lived experience is having wasted 12 years total of my life on men who were not interested in having sex at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 12:10 AM
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There are about as many men causing dead bedrooms as there are women. After going through that twice now, I’m heavily crossing my fingers that my boyfriend maintains at least some of his high sex drive for a while.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 10:58 PM
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lol yeah most of us are lucky enough to not be on that man’s radar. 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 05:05 PM
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It’s certainly a lot better if you are not an unwilling captive audience
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 05:03 PM
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Yeah I really don’t see women here behaving the same way that men do. I have literally been accused of lying more times than I can remember on this sub. I do not see men getting treated this way.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 06:36 AM
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Nah, those are not the only resources. That’s just the stat that includes books. And if 43% of mothers is “pathetic” what does that make 23% of fathers?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 12:50 AM
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https://www.cbsnews.com/amp/news/women-breadwinners-tripled-since-1970s-still-doing-more-unpaid-work/
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 11:26 PM
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I did this for about a year and my kid’s dad did fuck all while I was at work. He was pretty useless in general. Some men are better at doing the stay at home thing than others.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 11:19 PM
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Apparently some guys aren’t aware of this rule because out of the five men I have been in longer relationships with (anywhere from 4 months to 8 years) four of them I hooked up with on the first date. I’ll concede that most men I have hooked up with, I never heard from again, but also I didn’t really want or expect to either. Honestly, I didn’t expect to hear from any of the guys I was in relationships with after the first date either. The one that I didn’t hook up with right away, I assumed did…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 09:57 PM
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>while getting fucked every Friday with a new man thruout their entire 20s. Who do you think is doing this? My body count is over 10x more than average for a woman my age, and it still only works out an average of about 2.5 per year. Any woman having sex with a different guy every week would be an extreme outlier. Even gay men aren’t hitting those kinds of numbers.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 09:44 PM
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I said we have insane sexual chemistry. Idk if that means the same thing as what you are talking about or not. It wasn’t immediate, and definitely not based on looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 08:59 PM
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What do you consider to be “raw lust”?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 08:53 PM
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I’m not “just friends” with my male friends because I think they are ugly. That’s just weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 08:34 PM
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Who said anything about studies? The thread OP linked to is only going to get responses from people who selected their partner for stability and not love. It’s right there in the title. You will not see any other point of view from that thread because people who did select their partner for love won’t be responding in that thread.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 08:31 PM
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>What does that even mean? >You're not actually saying anything. 🙄 >Idk who you are. I'm not looking to have anything in common with you. Clearly you don’t, nor do I expect you to. But I sincerely have no idea why you feel like you have to be rude about it. What that means is surviving without many or most of the creature comforts that most people have in industrialized nations. There are still a few parts of the US where most people are living a subsistence lifestyle. I have done it before and …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 08:04 PM
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Most of the issues that men have meeting women online are specifically issues on dating apps. Discord and other similar platforms are basically just an extension of one’s social circle now.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 07:58 PM
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Let me put it this way, if you have never contributed directly to your own survival, and you have zero desire to ever do that, I probably won’t have much in common with you. It’s not a judgement on anyone’s character. Most people have no interest in that, and that’s fine. But I personally feel very confined in relationships with people like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 07:55 PM
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“Online” in this context includes way more than just dating apps. I met my boyfriend on Discord. I was not looking for a relationship and neither was he.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 07:51 PM
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One that has no connection to their base animal instincts.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 07:47 PM
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That’s certainly your prerogative. Domesticated humans bore the shit out of me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 07:46 PM
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Not unless they’ve been in a monogamous relationship for the past 15 years with no breaks.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 07:44 PM
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“Feral” is a typically domesticated animal that lives in the wild. Happens pretty often with cats. The only reason feral cats get put down is because they can become an invasive species and threaten bird populations. Even in the context of humans it just means independent, unconventional, and untamed. Not “crazy”.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 07:42 PM
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There are plenty of couples who have both feral sexual attraction and stability within their relationship. You just won’t find them in that thread. I had neither of those with my first husband. I have both of those with my current partner. What irritates the fuck out of me is the guys in this sub who take any random Reddit comments that even halfway show some evidence of their pre-existing worldview as the absolute gospel truth. But when I say that my boyfriend is 5’6”, bald and a little pudgy, …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 07:24 PM
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I don’t care if it’s the middle of the day and there are lots of people around. I have been groped by a drunk guy at a bus stop with lots of people there and they all fucking ignored it. I have also had a guy get on the bus, get off at the same stop as me, and follow me harassing me because I wasn’t receptive to his advances. Also in the middle of the day, and there were lots of people at the stop. I will always be on guard in that scenario.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 07:10 PM
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Fun fact: you can be both.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 06:51 PM
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Every. Single. Time. And then they act like women are the problem because they’re statistically more likely to file for divorce. 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 06:13 PM
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Or at a bus stop. Even if they turn out to be nice and not creepy at all, it’s gonna get my hackles up.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 05:32 PM
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The only time I have hooked up with guys who cold approached me, I was by myself at a bar or club. I have never had it lead to a relationship, but that had more to do with the circumstances at the time than anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 05:25 PM
1

Then why are you here?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 07:45 AM
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My boyfriend doesn’t come close to any one of those metrics, and I would hurl myself off a cliff if anything happened to him. Tall men give me the ick. They don’t even look right.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 07:38 AM
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>whom is arguably the most influential female politician in history Who is arguing that?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 07:06 AM
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Do you think they would have done it the exact same way if the Ukraine also drafted women?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 04:21 AM
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I literally said there was some skill set crossover. Why are you acting like I have said there is no similarity whatsoever? And my second point still stands. I have no idea what bodycam footage he has seen but it’s idiotic to assume that that is representative of how any female cop or soldier would behave in a potentially dangerous situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 04:21 AM
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I didn’t feign anything. I assumed he was talking about cops, but he didn’t specify, and it had nothing to do with my comment regardless. There may be some skill set crossover, but they are still very different jobs. Regardless, the vast majority of bodycam footage is not out there available for civilians to watch, so why he would think whatever he has seen has any bearing on female soldiers is beyond me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 04:04 AM
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Norway cannot change Ukraine’s conscription laws.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 03:42 AM
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I realize he is talking about cops. It’s a very different job.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 03:29 AM
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What exactly is it that you expect them to do?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 03:22 AM
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I’m responding to the claim that women don’t want the bad part of dismantling gender roles.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 03:21 AM
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I’m not attractive enough to be a Becky. 😆
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 03:17 AM
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The only guy I know who has a boat is my dad. He’s never had a six pack and he is 71. It’s also like a small fishing boat.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 03:16 AM
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Yeah, it’s the same for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 03:10 AM
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In my experience, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 03:05 AM
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The hell are you talking about? Since when do soldiers wear bodycams?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 02:59 AM
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Yes, I read his post. That has no bearing on the comment I’m responding to.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 02:54 AM
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Masculine women are definitely not preferred in a heterosexual dating context.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 02:51 AM
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Men are largely the ones who tried to keep women out of the military and out of combat positions.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 02:49 AM
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No, why would we? It doesn’t really matter if non-parents are buying/reading the books. The statement I am responding to is “Most people don’t actively work to be a good parent.” You can’t actively work to be a good parent if you aren’t a parent in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 02:30 AM
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Because non-parents rarely read that sort of material unless it’s out of vocational or academic interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 01:42 AM
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My job, which is a female dominated vocation, requires a huge amount of undervalued skill.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 01:03 AM
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Well yeah. We’re typically the ones providing the majority of the care.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 12:56 AM
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That would be a weird thing to study.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 12:32 AM
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10% physical 90% everything else.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 12:23 AM
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According to Pew Research, 43% of mothers utilize parenting books, magazines and websites.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 12:22 AM
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https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2015/12/17/parenting-in-america/ 43% of mothers vs 23% of fathers utilize parenting books, magazines, and websites for advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 12:14 AM
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>Most people don't actively work to be a good parent, male or female, you do pick up skills as you raise them but it isn't a thing women are actively working to build especially when majority of young women these days are unsure or out right don't want children. Who is buying all of those parenting books then? I read a bunch of them when I was pregnant and when my daughter was young. >Even emotional intelligence isn't something women are actively trying to build, it is just something that happen…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 11:45 PM
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Neither are female bus drivers (I used to be one, and there are a ton of them) or cleaning ladies, or any of the other number of women breaking their backs to keep shit running.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 11:42 PM
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I agree with the premise but your examples are almost insulting. I work at a group home for intellectually disabled adults, and have gone for months being the only staff on shift, working with four adults with violent behaviors. I have come home with bruises and scratches all over my arms from being pinched and hit. Cook for them, clean the whole house, make the menu, order groceries, do their laundry, help them change clothing, shower, use the bathroom, brush their teeth, dealt with (huge) diar…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 10:49 PM
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You’re definitely not the only one.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 06:07 AM
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Right, I was being a little hyperbolic. But my point is that what isn’t a good fit for you or for me might be a perfect fit for someone else. At the end of the day it just a compatibility issue. No harm no foul.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 05:33 AM
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I agree with everyone saying you guys just didn’t have chemistry and were a good match for each other and that ok. I can’t imagine not having any strong opinions either, but it doesn’t make someone a bad person. I wouldn’t want to date someone like that, but someone else might like them very much. Who am I to judge?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 03:54 AM
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It’s not at all uncommon for men (even average and below average men) to reject women without having sex for a whole bunch of reasons, which is their complete right to do. I’ve been rejected by men more times than I can even remember, and while it stings, that’s life. I’m not most people’s cup of tea.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 10:23 PM
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Yeah that’s not even close to accurate. You just pulled that number out of your ass.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 10:11 PM
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lol show me statistics on the percentage of men who ghost after sex and their attractiveness ranking.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 10:02 PM
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Has nothing to do with my “opinion”. It’s not my opinion that unattractive men ghost women after sex. It’s my actual lived experience. Sure, some of them might text me like six months or a year later. Which is fundamentally no different.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 08:36 PM
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lol why in the actual fuck would anyone lie about having sex with unattractive men? I’m hypersexual due to BPD, and unattractive men are generally pretty easy to get into bed, and much more likely to be a quality lay than any attractive man is. I only had to fuck a few 7s to know they were a waste of my time, at best, and I started avoiding anyone who was above average looking.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 08:26 PM
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They make up the vast majority of my body count, which is significant.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 03:54 PM
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There are an awful lot of unattractive, low earning men out there who are not incels. Also, it’s against the rules of this sub to downvote. JSYK
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 03:51 PM
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Men of all “value” levels do and will ghost women after having sex one time.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 03:49 PM
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You don’t have to approach someone first in order to be rejected by them. I’ve had plenty of dudes not be interested in going out a second time even though they were the ones who asked me out initially. Likewise, I have asked out guys/women first and then not wanted to continue seeing them. It’s not unusual for an incompatibility to be revealed early on in the dating process.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 03:42 PM
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They’ve been dicking around in politics far longer than that, unfortunately.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 05:09 AM
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>after decades of promoting the narrative of male-bodied humans as insatiable rape monsters whose very presence is a threat to women safety. On what fucking planet? The only people I ever heard this narrative from was the bat-shit insane purity culture weirdos I had the misfortune of being surrounded by as a child.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 05:02 AM
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My boyfriend would disagree with you about sex not being a magical otherworldly experience. 😆
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 01:29 AM
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Ok sure. Whatever you say.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:33 AM
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I actually stopped dating men for over seven years. I dated women and had a relationship with a woman during that time. When I met my boyfriend, I wasn’t looking for anything and never intended on dating a man again. We were just friends initially and I thought he was gay, but it turned out that he is bi and we’re a very good fit for one another.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 11:40 PM
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What you call “validation” is worthless to me and annoying at best. Typical male validation just makes me appreciate my boyfriend even more. Horny men are a dime a dozen. They will dm you without even knowing what you look like. Because of them my participation on social media is pretty minimal. It irritates me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 06:11 PM
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If it were inherent to sex then no woman would have masculine characteristics (physical or otherwise). You can put a dress and makeup on a masculine woman but she is still going to come off as masculine. Same goes for feminine men.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 05:07 PM
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You can have social skills and a magnetic personality without being a good person. You can be a good person and have poor social skills and/or a boring personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 04:54 PM
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Men provide no unique value to society aside from reproduction, and neither do women. Whether someone provides value to society or the world would be better off without them is entirely dependent on the individual.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 04:45 PM
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Clothing has nothing to do with it. My family tree is full of incredibly masculine women in dresses.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 04:41 PM
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I do think it matters. I would not say that masculinity is a characteristic completely unique to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 04:35 PM
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So you have never met a woman who has typically male characteristics? Or a man who has typically female characteristics?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 04:29 PM
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My mother is significantly more masculine than my boyfriend. She’s not cosplaying anything. That’s just who she is. She is 74 and I would not attempt to fight her.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 04:28 PM
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How do you define masculinity?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 04:27 PM
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Never met a butch woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 04:09 PM
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Men absolutely do not find it attractive when women are proactive. At best they are flattered but still not interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 02:10 PM
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I see absolutely hideous blanket statements about women stay up on here all the time. So much for your theory.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 01:27 PM
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My comment that just got deleted by Reddit would indicate otherwise. It’s still very much a man’s world.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 01:10 PM
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Well I will certainly remember this moment the next time someone claims that society is biased toward women and that misandry is completely accepted. Meanwhile I cannot count the number of times I have read negative blanket statements about women which go unchecked.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 12:54 PM
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Apparently I can’t say what I actually think 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 12:46 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 12:42 PM
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You can hate men and still believe that they deserve equal rights. To be fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 07:44 AM
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The viewpoints of self described feminists are so widely varied that the term has become almost meaningless. Many opinions that are popularly held by self-appointed feminists go directly against the ideals of gender equality. It would be like if 2/3rds of self described vegans actually ate cheese and bacon a few times a month. People would very rightfully start to not take any vegans seriously, and they would have an even bigger PR problem than they currently do. But if you *don’t* consider your…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 03:58 AM
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Oh yeah there was a lot of blatant racism and homophobia involved in that case as well. It was a mess. He could have been caught way earlier. I lived in Seattle for about a decade and I randomly met a woman who was close friends with Ted Bundy’s girlfriend during the few years before he was caught. She said that he was really good to her and her daughter and never laid a finger on either of them. He volunteered for a suicide hotline for years as well. Some men are waaaaaaay more adept at hiding …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 03:50 AM
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Dahmer was a weird dude and his neighbor called the police multiple times because she legit believed he was killing people in his apartment, and they ignored her. Bundy, on the other hand, was pretty well liked.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 03:06 AM
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There are “tells”. Younger and/or less experienced women won’t always pick up on them. But a lot of women will.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 03:03 AM
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Umm, if it’s a shit test then you have lost nothing by taking her up on it because why would you even want a woman who does those kinds of shit tests in the first place?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 10:22 PM
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I had a guy nearly push me over to pay for a $4 coffee once rather than allow me to pay for it. This is not an unusual scenario. I try to pay for my own shit and they get all fucking offended.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 10:16 PM
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Yes. I’m referring to that study. “In actual practice” men are paying more for dates because they literally will not let women pay even if they are fine with it or want to.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 10:06 PM
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If I have issues with men insisting on paying, I’m sure plenty of other women do too.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 09:55 PM
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I have no problems paying for dates or splitting the bill, including the first date. In practice it has rarely happened because most men would rather remove their left testicle than allow a woman to pay for the first date. And I’m not about to fight a dude over it. Just for the record, because I fucking know someone will bring it up if I don’t say this: No, I am not less likely to go out with a guy again depending on who pays. I paid the first time I went out with my boyfriend AND I picked him u…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 09:41 PM
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I probably have a lower threshold for mixing drugs/alcohol and sex than most, and I still think it’s fine as long as neither party is intoxicated. That’s where I personally draw the line. If they are showing any signs of intoxication, I get their number or give them mine and don’t hook up at that time.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 02:06 AM
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I have never in my life claimed to want a serious man. My criteria are based on wanting someone who is a good fit for my personality. I am a deeply unserious person. I would be bored to death with a serious man. You can be exciting and also reliable. You can be charismatic and also monogamous. You can be interesting and also a kind person. It’s not like your choices are strictly between a boring man and a fuckboy.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 01:56 AM
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I don’t really care if men want to have standards around that. It’s the shitty way they talk about women with higher n-counts that I dislike.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 05:48 PM
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My boyfriend is bisexual. Obviously it’s not a problem for me. I’m bisexual too. The idea of him having sex with men does not turn me off. He has actually shown me videos of himself with men and it was one of the sexiest things I’ve ever seen in my life. The STI concern, however, is very real. Certain STI’s are much more prolific in the MLM community as they’re just significantly easier to spread through certain types of sexual contact. He has had gonorrhea before. Cheating can certainly be a va…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 05:36 PM
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Idk, I don’t see it that way. I deserved to not have my whole life consumed by a personality disorder I didn’t ask for. I deserved a chance at peace and happiness. And I do think I deserved to be criticized for my behavior, because I was legitimately awful to a lot of people who didn’t really deserve it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 02:11 AM
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Don’t get me wrong. I get why people wind up that way. I was bullied and abused as a kid and it turned me into a mega asshole for a long time. I was diagnosed with BPD in my early 20’s so I was like…clinically an asshole. I took that shit seriously though because I didn’t want that to just be my life. It sucked. I was angry and sad and felt hopeless and unloved. I didn’t want to feel that way for the rest of my life, you know? I wanted to be able to have good healthy relationships with people. S…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 01:58 AM
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If you want to meet people who will value you, you won’t do that by sabotaging every potential relationship. You’re cutting off your nose to spite your face by doing that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 01:51 AM
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You can. It’s hard but possible. I used to have crippling social anxiety but I forced myself to confront that by working in jobs that were public facing, and proactively cultivating friendships with people I click with. It still scares me sometimes. But I can make myself be social in situations where it’s warranted. It has helped a lot. I’m still fundamentally myself, of course, but I’m not the person who withdraws and stays home and never talks to anyone. I met my boyfriend because we were frie…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 01:46 AM
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From my perspective, the only ones who are actively working on promoting a point of view that men’s emotions are valid and matter and that men have a right to express those emotions, are those quarter or so of feminists that you mentioned. It doesn’t make sense to oppose that group of people. As you noted, not all feminists are the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 01:38 AM
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Yeah I’m being kind of facetious in saying that, because men like to tell women that all the time. It does solve a lot of problems, but the reality is that sometimes you’re gonna learn lessons about what you don’t want in a relationship the hard way. Very few people get it right on the first try. It’s not that it’s misogynistic advice, it’s that it’s overly simplistic and ignores the realities of how relationships develop. These are things you don’t find out until you have already chosen someone…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 01:32 AM
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I’m in total agreement with you. It’s been deeply engrained into our social norms and that’s hard to change. It’s hard being in a relationship with someone who is so emotionally stunted or closed off, but that describes so many people, and men in particular. And yeah I do believe that there are a solid number of women perpetuating that with their biases and their responses to normal emotional reactions. I don’t know how to fix it. I wish I did.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 01:02 AM
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We have a lot of work to do as a society. Men and women both.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 11:51 PM
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This is how my current relationship is and my boyfriend is a treasure to be protected at any and all cost. It’s not that I don’t reciprocate. I absolutely do. It’s just a physiological reality that I’m able to orgasm more frequently and easily than he is. And it happens to be his favorite thing to do. Our sex life is phenomenal.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 11:13 PM
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The brutal reality that a lot of people just don’t want to hear or accept is that sometimes it can take a long time to find someone who is right for you. Especially if you’re different in ways that the majority of people are put off by. This has been my experience too. I can certainly sympathize. It’s nobody’s fault. That’s just how it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 10:41 PM
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Just for what it’s worth, my boyfriend dated men almost exclusively before we met, and his experience was pretty fucking awful. Most of them didn’t want anything more than sex. Not even friendship. The only man that did want a relationship with him was incredibly abusive to him, especially when he dared to show emotional vulnerability. This is not strictly an issue with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 10:24 PM
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Choose better
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 10:05 PM
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It’s interesting to me that you would like to see more women embracing emotional vulnerability in men, yet you call yourself anti-feminist.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 10:05 PM
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I used OKcupid 8 years ago, and that’s the last time I used any kind of dating app. Once upon a time it was primarily used for actual dating, not hookups. That seems to no longer be the case:
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 07:20 PM
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Exactly. If I hate it enough to not even want to use apps as a hypersexual person, I can’t even imagine what it’s like for women who aren’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 06:55 PM
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Definitely it’s a high enough percentage that it’s hardly worth it to converse with all of them in the hopes of finding those that aren’t. It’s not usually something that can be screened out from the opening message. You actually have to talk to them. And the process is disgusting and demoralizing.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 06:43 PM
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It’s honestly just so refreshing to me. I’ve seen him cry more in six months than I saw my ex husband cry in 8 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 05:22 PM
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I doubt that very much.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 03:47 PM
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The fact that my boyfriend is emotionally vulnerable with me is one of the most attractive things about him to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 03:31 PM
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That pretty much describes my relationship with my boyfriend except I make almost twice as much as him. It’s by far the best relationship I have been in.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 04:18 AM
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My boyfriend’s is on the smaller side of average, and I have been with a lot of guys with bigger penises, but he legit has ten out of ten dick game. Yes, he does magical things with his tongue and hands too, but I really enjoy penetration with him and I orgasm from it regularly. I’m about ready to agree to adopt a baby just to keep him around, because he’s that good (he wants a kid and I can’t get pregnant anymore).
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 01:31 AM
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I was in a relationship with a woman for 7 years and I didn’t like being penetrated with any kind of toys. We rarely used toys at all. Still had orgasms every time unless I just didn’t want to.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 12:47 AM
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Yes, all relationships require effort, but there is such a thing as too much effort. If I can be in a happy relationship that requires very little effort on my part, why would I want to put in way more effort just to have a guy who is like 6 inches taller with a better looking face? Make it make sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 11:27 PM
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I dislike people who think they know more about what my values are than I do. That happens to describe a lot of the men in this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 11:00 PM
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You’re not making the case for them being worth the effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 10:41 PM
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Yes. You’re correct. If you want to start making legal exceptions to a child’s right to support from both parents, that’s probably the best place to start.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 10:11 PM
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I’m not why you are explaining this to me as if I don’t understand that only the mother can legally decide to terminate a pregnancy. The question is how do you accomplish symmetry without overriding the rights of the child.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 10:09 PM
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Yeah well either I’m the one magical person for whom leagues don’t apply, or it’s not actually that much of a rule.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 10:04 PM
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I absolutely fucking don’t. ✌️
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 06:55 PM
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Or just maybe the women getting mad here don’t view men that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 06:50 PM
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I’ve had so much variance within just my own dating experience (well over a hundred at this point) that it hard for me to even take the idea seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 06:38 PM
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Regardless of the reasons, a man who is tall, attractive, and/or a high earner is more difficult to obtain and more difficult to hang onto. It’s not really worth the effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 05:40 PM
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Not everyone prefers Chad and Stacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 05:37 PM
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I certainly didn’t consider them “beneath me” or I would not have shown interest in the first place. Obviously I was attracted, or at the very least willing to hook up. They had their reasons for turning me down, and were completely well within their rights to do so, and none of those reasons given had anything to do with feeling they were out of my “league” fwiw. I have to say though, that my current boyfriend is much more physically attractive and better “on paper” than any of them. So were mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 05:20 PM
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So you think the correct move is to change the laws so that children only have the legal right to financial support from their mother? You think this is fair to children?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 04:10 PM
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Not enough percentage of men are perma-virgins or strictly gay for this issue to not affect men as a whole. If, as a man, you ever have sex with women, then the SC decision potentially affects you too.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 04:05 PM
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It has more to do with the rights of the child than “the government” not wanting to provide for children. Children are people too, and vulnerable citizens at that. So are you suggesting that children having a right to material support front their parents is wrong?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 04:01 PM
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The problem is that the “other factors” seem to come into play at least as often, if not more than the “general rule.” So I kind of ceases to be much of a general rule.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 03:58 PM
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No, I mean specifically. If a child is born then the woman is also financially responsible for that child. Child support is for the child. Once the child exists in the world it’s no longer a question of reproductive rights, because reproduction has occurred. I suggest you read about the court case that established precedent for not allowing “paper abortion”. It’s not as simple as you think it is. The reason for the decision is based on pre-existing law and no individual judge has the right to ov…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 03:56 PM
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The courts have to decide based on the law as it is written.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 03:42 PM
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I’m talking about average women.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 09:47 AM
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Yeah I didn’t really mean you specifically. Just what I see repeated here all the damn time about women only wanting “Chad”.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 06:55 AM
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>The hotter the woman, invariably, the more work she is to get and to maintain a relationship with. Crazy that men somehow believe women don’t think the same way.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 06:43 AM
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Indifferent. It’s not what I’m into so much, but I’m very very ND and don’t relate to NT men at all. So pretty much every guy I have had a relationship with has had nerdy interests.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 03:24 AM
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Not for women it isn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 02:41 AM
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I literally do, but not for random-ass strangers. I have to have a reason to.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 02:18 AM
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Ok, but in order to change that we would have to somehow overturn the laws that entitle children to material support from both parents and solve the issue of how to make this fair for the child. How do you suggest we do this? FWIW, I am saying this as someone who had a child because I was unable to obtain an abortion. The nearest provider was over six hours away and I did not have a vehicle or anyone who could help me. The child’s father did not want me to have an abortion and refused to help me…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 10:51 PM
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This is not me saying this. This is what the courts decided. The child’s right to material support is codified into law and cannot just be ignored.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 10:30 PM
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The problem with that is that child support is for the child. Once the child is born they are legally entitled to material support from both parents. When a pregnancy is terminated there is no child, therefore no child to support. It’s not a matter of reproductive rights if he is actually reproducing.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 10:19 PM
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“Men’s reproductive rights” meaning what?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 10:13 PM
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Reproductive rights affect men too. Unless you want to be paying child support for a kid that neither one of y’all wanted in the first place. Or having women farrrrrr less likely to engage in sex outside of a long term committed relationship. It’s no coincidence that the R v W decision coincided with the sexual revolution.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 08:30 PM
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>If a woman sleeps with someone that they’re not proud to have, nor would have in a sober state, it’s often beneficial to communicate to society - and themselves - that it wasn’t entirely in their control. Men really seem to believe this is the case, but that not reality. The reality is that regardless of the facts of the situation, and the amount of evidence there may be, you will be called a liar. You will have your motives questioned. You will lose relationships with people over it. I have se…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 09:38 AM
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Explain it to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 07:42 AM
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I fail to understand your point
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 07:38 AM
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My point is that it doesn’t really matter. If you commit a crime while drunk you can be held responsible for that crime.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 07:30 AM
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Fine, you can’t legally sign a contract while regular drunk either. Nor should anyone be giving you a tattoo. You can certainly be held responsible for a crime committed while blackout drunk though.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 07:23 AM
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I’m sure you could.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 05:09 AM
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Yeah you can. But it’s not nearly as easy as some of y’all seem to think. Your body absolutely fights it from happening and the discomfort is pretty significant.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 05:04 AM
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Wait, are the ones saying yes liars or the ones saying no? 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 05:00 AM
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You know that peristalsis keeps things moving in one direction out of that particular orifice, right? You’re definitely not “designed to take it.”
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 04:59 AM
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That’s why I said “depending on the situation”.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 03:52 AM
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Which is why enthusiastic consent is important. Having sex with someone in the above scenarios may not rise to the level of rape or sexual assault in a legal sense, but depending on the situation it may get you branded as a creep, and you may deserve that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 03:42 AM
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>Alcohol removes inhibitions, it doesn't make you do something you fundamentally don't want, or remove critical thinking skills as long as you're still capable of understanding your surroundings. People still have the right to decide not to do something even if a part of them may want to do that thing. And I would argue that being chemically impaired absolutely does impact your judgement and ability to make decisions. >This is basically describing every semi-drunk sexual encounter as possibly no…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 03:26 AM
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They will, and then they’ll be all Pikachu surprised when it goes sideways.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 03:33 AM
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Bingo. I would say within the confines of a relationship, if boundaries around that have been discussed while sober, it can be a relatively safe activity. Otherwise it’s just a bad idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 03:24 AM
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Think about it like any other crime a person could commit while drunk. Let’s say a woman gets drunk and goes to her ex boyfriend’s house and vandalizes his car. Action was taken and a crime has been committed in that scenario. Whereas if you are half passed out on a couch and someone removes your clothing and has sex with you, you have not committed any crime.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 03:22 AM
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I have seen this scenario play out tons of times on Reddit where a man describes a sexual encounter occurring where he was not able to and/or did not consent, and the broad consensus from commenters (especially female commenters) is that what happened was rape/sexual assault. Yes, people do take it seriously when it happens to men. Maybe not law enforcement so much, unfortunately, but average people, yeah.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 03:15 AM
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Any level of inebriation is playing with fire. Sometimes people appear to be more in control than they actually are, and if you don’t know the person well enough to know that, you risk taking advantage of a state where they were not capable of consent. Why would you even want to risk that? Even if you 100% felt that you were in the right, is it really worth it if you wind up in a legal battle that you may or may not win? Why would you even *want* to have sex with someone who would not consent to…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 03:11 AM
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Looks like it wasn’t produced by feminists.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 03:01 AM
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It’s kind of more similar to someone getting you to sign a contract while blackout drunk or giving you a tattoo while blackout drunk. Driving drunk is a crime. Being taken advantage of is the opposite of that, even if you chose to drink to excess.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 02:39 AM
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Ok, but I have been turned down by more than one man who was significantly less attractive (physically and otherwise) than my boyfriend. So were they out of my league? If so, where does that put my boyfriend? It’s not like there’s a hard cutoff.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 02:34 AM
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This image is too blurry to read who produced it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 02:14 AM
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Proof?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 02:09 AM
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Who doesn’t apply it equally to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 01:41 AM
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I rarely have this kind of information about casual partners. The vast majority of my casual partners have been terrible in bed. The things that make the biggest difference are enthusiasm, respect for consent, curiosity and willingness to experiment, and allowing time for sexual tension to build.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 08:42 PM
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Umm yeah? It’s not that it’s annoying seeing someone relax. It’s annoying when you are running around trying to get shit done and he’s just sitting there like a useless blob.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 05:55 PM
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I love it when my boyfriend is relaxing, but I want to be relaxing *with* him. Luckily he is not the kind of jerk who will smoke weed on the couch while I’m running around doing chores.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 06:18 PM
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Idk, I feel pretty damn good about my vetting abilities now, given that it’s been over 20 years since I have been in any kind of abusive relationship. I have been in relationships that have, for various reasons, not worked out. But I’m still close friends with them all and care deeply for them. If I get an uncomfortable feeling about someone, I no longer just brush it aside and ignore it. And no, it’s not just neurodivergence that “gives me the ick”. I don’t date neurotypicals. They’re often ver…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 06:04 PM
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lol I would be surprised because he really likes dudes.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 04:50 AM
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No, it would not be an issue for me. My boyfriend is already bi.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 04:49 AM
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Yeah, that would not be any sort of issue for me at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 12:28 AM
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My boyfriend makes about 28k annually and I make about 55k annually. He really loves his job. That’s all that matters to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 07:03 PM
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The problem with your theory is that you are assuming emotional damage from past relationships has made me a less suitable partner. I don’t feel this to be the case at all. The biggest effect it has had on my current relationships is that those experiences have raised the bar for me on what kind of partner I want substantially. Character and compatibility are my two highest priorities now. I’m no longer willing to put up with poor behavior from partners just to have a warm body next to me. My bo…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 12:32 PM
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I agree that not everyone can handle it. I can and I have had plenty of casual sex without giving a second thought to the other participants. But even with that ability, it’s far from my preference. Having a long term relationship with someone who I have amazing sexual chemistry with is so so much better in every way.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 06:50 AM
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Oh sure yeah, but you are ignoring the vast majority of people who don’t post gender war stuff on social media at all. Outside of Reddit, I only use social media media to post art I made that I’m selling, and even then I only do so on Facebook. My IG account has zero stories or photos. I don’t use X or TikTok at all. If I *did* talk about any gender wars stuff on any other platforms you would be hearing different takes. But nobody would hear them because my takes are not the sort of inflammatory…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 03:12 AM
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The type of freedom I long for is stuff like the ability to just quit my job and move to a squatter camp and open an art museum. And I need someone who is ride or die on that type of lifestyle, because when I make up my mind about shit, I’m pretty focused on those goals.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 10:10 PM
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Two out of five of my long term male partners caused serious lasting psychological harm through their actions. There was a third guy I dated for a couple of months who got violent with me a couple times while drunk, but I peaced out of that one really quickly so I don’t count him. Out of the other two, the first was not ever physically abusive, and the second one I left as soon as he escalated to physical abuse (after five years of being together) and never looked back.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 05:57 AM
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Oh fair enough, now that I’m noticing your flair I can hazard a guess. It did come off as a pretty… neutral take. 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 03:54 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 03:06 AM
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I’m 47 years old and spending actual money on clothing and accessories for my stuffed capybara couple. Why am I like this?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 02:51 AM
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I think sex is important too, but outside of advocating for the decriminalization/legalization of all kinds of sex work, there are not a lot of things that we can do as a society for sexless men (or women).
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 02:07 AM
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It’s definitely better to be in a good relationship than alone, assuming that’s something you want. But proactively seeking said relationship has historically just led to me trying to force myself into a box I do not fit in. I was not proactively trying when I met my boyfriend, and neither was he. I was just trying to hang out with a friend from Discord who was in town for a few days who I thought was gay. As it turns out, he is not gay.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 01:46 AM
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Cool, link me to these posts/comments that are mad about men’s mental health month. I must have missed them.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 01:02 AM
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>My position is that campaigns such as "Nuclear Family Month" are best understood as part of a broader effort to promote traditional gender and family roles in response to recent cultural changes. The key difference here is that Pride month isn’t “promoting” anything. We’re not recruiting. We’re not trying to entice any straight people to switch teams. Pride parades and other events are in commemoration of the Stonewall riots. What historic event is “Nuclear Family Month” commemorating?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 12:51 AM
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Are these women in the room with us right now?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 12:44 AM
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I’m sure the parties will be lit.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 12:43 AM
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Oh it has nothing to do with you being “annoying” and has everything to do with the way you talk about victims of abuse and domestic violence.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 11:34 PM
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>I know you don't give a shit what non-abusive men think though and prefer all your little dramas and redemption arcs with the "exciting" abusive guys … are not words that a non-abusive man would ever utter.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 12:44 PM
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Fuck that. It would need to be a requirement for both parties. I have zero problems having sex once a week, but at least two of my exes would have found that to be fully unreasonable. In all seriousness, having sex with someone who is completely checked out and uninterested in it is absolutely horrid and I would not sign up for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 07:51 AM
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Gay men often get pressured into non-monogamous relationships they don’t actually want, and put up with it because they can’t find anyone else who even wants a relationship. If someone is wired to want monogamy, then it really doesn’t matter how easily they can get casual sex. They’re still not going to want their partner to be fucking other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 03:44 PM
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Even attractive men don’t want their woman having sex with other men.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 02:04 PM
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Yeah, and what makes you think they would be be fine with women doing the same thing to them?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 12:39 PM
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I’m sure as hell not hot, and I’m autistic too.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 05:43 AM
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Fuck that. I hated it. I’m finally in a healthy and happy relationship and I wouldn’t compromise that for anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 05:41 AM
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Dude why would you assume that? I wound up with an abusive guy because nobody else fucking wanted me. I got rejected by all kinds of nice guys who I imagine probably wouldn’t have abused me.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 05:24 AM
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Who is lying? I learned how to spot it by being with men like that. I haven’t been in an abusive relationship in over 20 years so I guess I figured it out.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 05:13 AM
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You know what, to actually answer your question though, what my abusive exes brought to the table was pretty much the same stuff that my non-abusive exes and current partner bring to the table. They weren’t being shitty towards me 100% of the time. Most of the time things were good, and in those times they were funny, loving, affectionate, we had some things in common, when we weren’t fighting I liked spending time with them. I have a lot of happy and funny memories, and that feels complicated f…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 02:59 AM
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I grew up with an abusive father and other male family members who were abusive, so that seemed normal and comfortable to me. On top of that I’m autistic and was considered really unattractive compared to other girls my age, so I felt like no one else would ever want me and I had to take what I could get. That sort of mentality is like catnip to abusive men. Thankfully I healed and got past that pretty early.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 02:07 AM
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By that logic, Chads and high status men would be fine with being cheated on, and I’m just not seeing any evidence of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 10:11 PM
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Doubtful
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 08:31 PM
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Nah I like pudgy short guys who kind of look like cartoon characters.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 08:23 PM
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Open relationships and casual sex without getting into a relationship are much more common and accepted in the gay community.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 04:32 PM
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R.I.P Baddie Winkle
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 08:42 PM
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Having self respect? Yeah, oh well. Would rather be single than deal with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 07:44 PM
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Not at all. When you’re not attractive you mostly get the guys who see you as an easy mark for casual sex and most of them don’t put much effort into hiding that fact. It’s unbelievably dehumanizing and demoralizing as well. I could never stomach it for long before just giving up.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 07:42 PM
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It’s not uncommon for none of them to pass the vetting process.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 07:36 PM
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Man, you make me look neurotypical in comparison. There are a whole lot of women out there in the world choosing and dating average men. If you want to pretend that’s not reality, I cannot help you.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 11:40 PM
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Then you would be 100% wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 11:37 PM
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Not just myself. Literally all of my hetero or male partnered female friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 10:59 PM
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Most women aren’t even queer
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 10:58 PM
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I know a lot of poor people and am dating a poor person. Are you gonna try and tell me I’m just imagining all the poor men I know who are in relationships?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 10:41 PM
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You literally just copied and pasted the last comment I responded to. It was incorrect then and it’s incorrect now.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 10:30 PM
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Fems are more aggressive than mascs in my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 01:47 AM
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Yeah that’s why it’s ridiculously easy to pull women as another woman. All you have to do is be willing to make the first moves.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 01:39 AM
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I don’t have any trouble pulling women despite being short, autistic, and fairly unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 01:29 AM
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You have to realize you’re in an abusive relationship to know that you need to get out of it and figure out how to end that cycle. After I broke up with my first boyfriend when I was 17, everyone kept telling me “oh thank god, he was so abusive.” But nobody said anything to me the whole time we were together. That really pissed me off.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 01:11 AM
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I’ve heard the same from other women, yeah. For various reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 12:43 AM
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It’s not “convenient”. It’s fairly common.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 12:39 AM
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I believe the point that was being made is that what you consider an average woman may be way off. Nobody considers male characters in romance novels to be average.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 12:37 AM
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No, not all women want this man. I specifically avoid tall conventionally attractive men. They’re not my cup of tea.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 12:27 AM
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The characters in novels are fictional. The women in porn are actual humans.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 12:19 AM
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Exactly. I have been in a couple of dead bedroom long term relationships and that’s just not something I’m willing to tolerate anymore. Shit happens and people may go through periods of not being in the mood, and that’s fine. But years on end with no attempt to solve the issue? I just can’t do that anymore. Sexual compatibility is my number one priority. Aside from that I want someone who is relatively stable, self sufficient, and kind. I make more than my boyfriend, though it’s mostly because I…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 11:09 PM
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I figure that based on the fact that we’re all in pretty average income ranges, work in a variety of fields, and there’s nothing really extraordinary about any of us. They don’t even all know each other because I have moved around a few times as an adult and have friends in different states.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 10:32 PM
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Dude, I live in the ghetto and there are tons of hetero couples living in my apartment complex. The guys are not above average in anything. My boyfriend makes $15 an hour and is about 5’5”.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 10:24 PM
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My friends and I are very average women and pretty representative of the average woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 10:20 PM
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My friends aren’t atypical women. I knew all of them before they even met their partners. It’s not like I go out of my way to hang out with only women who date normies.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 10:15 PM
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I’m sure that’s the case for some women, but I’m hardly an anomaly. All of my hetero friends are partnered up with average income normies.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 10:11 PM
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I have very high standards for a partner but none of them have anything to do with height, income, looks, or status.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 10:07 PM
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I agree that many people in broader progressive spaces are not as progressive as they want to believe they are. But as far as dating goes, even queer people have types. I’m only attracted to masc women and more feminine men (like twinks) but not femboys because they’re too far over on the feminine scale. I’m attracted to androgyny. I don’t know a single queer person who doesn’t have a type, especially when it comes to where that person lands on the spectrum of gender presentation. Women who like…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 04:20 PM
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Well luckily I work in a field that is always hiring and always has difficulty retaining staff. I can work as much OT as I want, though I really only do if I’m saving up for a trip or something. I work 10 minutes from my house and could take the bus for free if I really needed to, though I have a second car that always has gas in the tank if I need it. I also get free meals at work, so I don’t have to buy a whole lot of food. I don’t find my life to be hard at all. Other than the shit I would be…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 02:35 AM
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See my reply above
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 02:15 AM
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Life is too fucking short not to enjoy it as much as possible, and I don’t need a lot of money to do that. I’m make $16 an hour but my job is rewarding and never boring, and I spend my free time making art and collecting art, hiking and camping, visiting little rural towns and squatter camp, going to car shows, dropping acid in a thunderstorm, and I’m very very content.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 02:02 AM
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Yeah fuck that. I’d rather be homeless than boring.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 01:52 AM
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God, that’s so boring! 😴
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 01:49 AM
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I agree that most men are unbelievably boring. But most of them are not out there grinding either. I would rather have a man who is passionate about something than a man who is focused on making as much money as possible anyways.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 10:29 PM
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Yes, I have male friends whom I have never had any kind of flirtatious or romantic relationship with of any kind. Though I will say that most of my male friends are exes.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 10:16 PM
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What narrative? Things are either true or they aren’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 06:20 PM
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There is not much I can think of that’s going to be true for every woman on the planet.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 05:01 PM
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Tell me more about this “scary dog”! 👀
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 03:26 PM
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Your point is that as population density increases, birth rates decrease. This is not true - look at the birth rates of high pop density areas in South Asia and compare those to birth rates in the West. We can observe rather that there is a difference in birth rates between races/ethnicities and also GDP per capita. Yeah I would imagine that the less people feel like they have any choice about it the more their behavior is going to go against their instincts. That’s probably why you see birth ra…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 02:55 PM
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I’m not sure what it is that you are having trouble with. Many, many studies have shown that as population density increases in animals, reproductive behavior is affected. We might do things as a matter of public policy to try to mitigate the effects of a low birth rate, but ultimately a big part of the reason people aren’t having kids is because they are biologically driven to not want to have them.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 02:43 PM
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Fewer teenagers are having sex now than in the past couple of decades
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 02:36 PM
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Because unlike mice and other animals, we have an economic system to think about. But ultimately we are still animals and we react biologically to overpopulation.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 02:34 PM
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I think this is a natural consequence of overpopulation. The same thing happens in other types of animal populations. We will just have to adapt because you can’t force people to breed.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 02:27 PM
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When I talk about how much intense desire I feel for my boyfriend on here, I get accused of straight up lying.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 09:21 AM
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Surely you’re intelligent enough to realize that she is not capable of accurately making claims for the reasons that every single woman on the planet does things. Do you think that lesbians want the attention of attractive men? Her claims don’t hold up to scrutiny. Taking it as any kind of reflection of truth is idiotic.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 05:30 AM
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Thank you. I love wearing sexy clothes sometimes because I feel sexy in them and I like feeling sexy. But men have pretty much ruined that for me now. I only wear them in my home now when no one is going to see me except maybe my boyfriend. He would love for me to wear these clothes when we go out sometimes, but I just don’t feel comfortable with it anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 05:23 AM
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She can only speak for herself. She does not get to speak for every woman in the world or decide their own reasons for doing things.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 05:17 AM
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She’s speaking for herself. That doesn’t mean that any woman who says otherwise is being dishonest.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 05:14 AM
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It’s not uncommon for lesbians to wear revealing clothing as well, and I can assure you that they are not doing so because they want male attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 03:29 AM
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Unless a woman is wearing a t shirt that says “Please make sexual remarks to and about me” you cannot assume that that is what she wants based on how she is dressed.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 03:13 AM
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Having racing stripes on your car is not against the law, so people who complain about getting pulled over for having them are well within their rights to do so. It’s almost as though cops pull people over for bullshit reasons all the time, like the color of their skin. People are not wrong to be pissed about it. Just as women as not wrong to be pissed about men harassing or assaulting them because their skirt is shorter that day.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 01:58 AM
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Yeah and men who put racing stripes on their car should expect to be more likely to get pulled over. And it doesn’t stop them from doing it, does it? Are you seriously saying you believe how a woman dresses has zero impact on how likely or often she'll elicit men's sexual interest? No, I’m saying that it ultimately prevents nothing so women might as well dress how they like.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 01:48 AM
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Because they like how they look. It’s not akin to leaving your car unlocked. It’s akin to putting a really cool wrap on your car or having designs airbrushed onto it. And yes, men will sexually harass women regardless. I believe I already said that.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 01:39 AM
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Because they want to. You don’t have to just shut up and take it if men behave like creeps as a result. And just for the record, wearing more clothing does not prevent men from sexualizing and objectifying you. It does not prevent men from sexually assaulting you or sexually harassing you. I have had it happen in the middle of winter with no skin showing besides my face.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 01:23 AM
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I fully do think about women in an entirely sexual context in a regular basis, and I still don’t find it at all difficult to not express those thoughts out loud, or feel the need to make sure the woman I’m directing those thoughts towards is aware of that fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 01:14 AM
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You can think whatever you want to yourself without it affecting anyone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 12:43 AM
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If your objective is to avoid being called out on it, that method works just fine. You also avoid making that person uncomfortable. So it’s a win/win.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 12:25 AM
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It’s even very possible to consume and enjoy thirst trap content without making creepy comments on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 12:13 AM
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You can look at that content and even “like” it, without saying weird sexual shit about it. I do it all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 11:56 PM
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I’m sexually attracted to women. When I see women walking around showing a lot of skin, I think to myself “damn, she looks pretty hot” and then I continue on with my day without taking any other particular action. It’s not very difficult.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 11:51 PM
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I’m not lying. I’m very intentional about what kinds of content I engage with and that affects my algorithm. I don’t fuck with biphobia, transphobia, or ableism in my media, among other things. Let alone defend it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 07:33 PM
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By definition, if someone is biphobic, they are conservative and promoting conservative views. Therefore not leftist.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 07:24 PM
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I haven’t said anything about your experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 07:21 PM
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My late grandmother’s husband is a hardcore Democrat and he’s also extremely racist. I think it’s pretty shortsighted to presume anything about anyone’s personal views based on which party they vote for. Much as I wish you could reliably do that, a majority of the US is pretty anti-progressive in reality. Pretty much every social media platform is going to have a mix of views as well, even if they lean slightly one way or another. I’m pretty intentional about the content that I engage with on so…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 07:17 PM
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Yeah I would say that most internet spaces are conservative. I know multiple gay and lesbian people who I would consider to be fairly conservative.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 06:40 PM
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Not sure what made you think these particular women were leftist, but voting for the slightly more progressive political party does not make you a leftist. Many many registered Democrats in the US have very conservative values.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 06:31 PM
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Listen I don’t doubt that women are saying these things. What I’m saying is that these are not women who hang around in leftist circles. On the very rare occasions that I have seen people defend women being biphobic toward men, they’re getting downvoted to oblivion and dragged for it. As they should.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 06:21 PM
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I’m saying that this kind of discourse is not coming from leftists. Also my boyfriend is not the first bi man I have dated.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 06:17 PM
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I consume a lot of left wing feminist content and I literally never see the types of videos you describe. I can assure you that this kind of sentiment is not making its way around left wing online spaces. My boyfriend is bi and not at all “traditionally masculine”. That’s part of what attracted me to him in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 03:18 PM
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Hard disagree. I had no interest in my boyfriend at first. He didn’t have to “wine and dine” me at all, but what he did have to do was convince me that he was actually interested in me and not just looking for someone he thought would be an easy lay
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 02:57 AM
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You mean Billy the accountant who completely lost interest in sex for years, and expected me to be fine with that because he gave me hugs sometimes?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 12:00 AM
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When it’s uninvited and unwanted but being pushed on me regardless, absolutely.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 09:52 AM
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I’m also bisexual. I don’t need men to satisfy that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 09:50 AM
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I’m specifically talking about the use of dating apps. I’d rather be single than use them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 09:48 AM
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lol don’t do Kenny like that!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 06:10 AM
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Yeahhhhh, my personal experience didn’t exactly set me up to have healthy relationship dynamics. It was kind of the opposite. I had to put in a lot of work to get to this point.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 02:54 AM
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My hypersexuality is linked to a personality disorder I was diagnosed with that was triggered by being abused as a kid. I was raised in a fucked up cult and aspects of that rubbed off on me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 02:47 AM
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I kind of prefer the Walmart Great Value frozen pizzas tbh, but look here’s the thing… I work 60 hrs a week on average and I cook a lot at work. When I’m at home I survive off of grapes and popcorn. I’m super appreciative of my boyfriend when he throws a frozen pizza in the oven for me or makes me some Ramen. He has been a cook by trade for most of his adult life, and I’m sure that he has made fancy gourmet dinners for exes before. But that’s completely unnecessary for me and I don’t care if he …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 01:48 AM
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Yeah exactly, I make significantly more than my SO and I don’t want him having to change jobs to something stressful to make more just so he can support me staying home.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 12:59 AM
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We know that people live longer and are healthier when they exercise regularly and avoid processed foods, but I still eat donuts and don’t go to the gym. Like a lot of people. I don’t expect that many people would change their lifestyle based on this info. Besides. It would need to be replicated several times with the same results to be useful.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 12:51 AM
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I lost count but I would guess in the 70’s or 80’s. Potentially higher depending on what you “count”.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 12:44 AM
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I lost coins but I would guess in the 70’s or 80’s. Potentially higher depending on what you “count”.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 12:44 AM
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Why would that hurt? It would just show that you know my taste and comfort level and adjust where we go on dates to accommodate that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 12:40 AM
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I’m kind of very curious about that scene but also I have social anxiety and I kind of feel like that environment would be a legit nightmare for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 12:34 AM
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Disgusting. Where is this porn, so that I can avoid it?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 12:28 AM
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There are plenty of women on that sub too.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 12:18 AM
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Ddlg might not be physically painful but it’s definitely distasteful for many women and would absolutely be a no go for many for what I hope are obvious reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 09:27 PM
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Well, no one has asked the women here. Many of us were the initiators in our relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 07:18 AM
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I just said no
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 05:23 AM
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Not for casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 04:09 AM
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Right. Most women are having sex with a man that they are in a relationship with, or at the very least have an ongoing thing with someone who is making it worth their time and effort. Waiting until marriage is a bad strategy because you have no way of knowing how he’s going to be in bed until you have invested way more time and energy into the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 04:08 AM
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There is a whole lot of space between hooking up with randos and not having sex until marriage. It’s almost as though most women land somewhere between those two extremes.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 01:31 AM
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Jesus H. Christ, posts like this make me appreciate my boyfriend so much more than I already do.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 06:47 PM
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I’m a bisexual woman dating a bisexual man.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 10:58 PM
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I only wear my clown makeup for special occasions, but i don’t see what that has to do with my comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 10:48 PM
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My boyfriend mostly watches gay porn. My roommate is a boob man. He’s left his tablet on in his room before a few times.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 10:18 PM
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I’ve watched my roommate left swipe every single blonde no matter how gorgeous she is. He’s certainly no Chad either. He just has this visceral adverse reaction to blondes and will not consider them at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 03:22 PM
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I don’t have a rigid physical “type”. I do have some mild preferences, but many of my exes fall outside of that range or only have one or two physical characteristics in common. But to the best of my knowledge those preferences were set during my formative years and are based on physical characteristics of the first handful of boys I had crushes on. What is much more important to me than their physical characteristics is their personality. I do have a much more rigid “type” when it comes to that…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/26 03:16 PM
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Right. I felt it necessary to specify that women aren’t necessarily drowning in perfectly good options like many men on this sub seem to think.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/26 04:01 PM
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My boyfriend dated men almost exclusively before we met and he says that gay men are absolutely vile. So yeah, some men who are sexually attracted to men absolutely do mind that kind of behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/26 08:31 AM
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Yeah I’m not really sure why we’re talking about them. Care to enlighten me?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/26 08:24 AM
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Are the gay men in the room with us right now?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/26 08:15 AM
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My boyfriend is bi and he is hella picky with men. He never thinks that the men that I think are attractive are good looking at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/26 01:58 AM
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4 kind of implied to me that they leave quickly because they found what they wanted. A lot of the time they leave just as single as they started.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/26 01:36 AM
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Unsolicited dick pics, requests for nudes, attempts to steer the conversation towards sexual content/weird fetishes that come out of literally nowhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/26 01:35 AM
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Women use dating apps for a short period of time then wind up leaving disgusted at the way they’re treated by the men on them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/26 12:23 AM
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Why would you think that
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 05:14 PM
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I have a very high sex drive that that vast majority of men are just unable or unwilling to fulfill.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 05:13 PM
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It’s probably my most important criteria for a relationship, so nah. He only had sex with a woman one time before me though. What makes him good in bed is his enthusiasm, respect for boundaries, and willingness to learn, and desire to experiment.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 04:47 PM
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He’s easygoing, a total sweetheart, and he’s incredible in bed. We also have a lot in common, and he’s a great cook, and adores my cat, but I would have been happy with just the other things.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 04:39 PM
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I didn’t find a dude who was worth my time until I was 46. That’s my dating issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 04:27 PM
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No sane person wants that occurring.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 06:38 AM
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Yeah, I’m sure people will still manage to jailbreak it regardless, but here’s hoping they at least make it difficult.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 06:21 AM
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I really just love dancing. I prefer it if my SO goes with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 05:35 PM
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I got lucky and found a guy who is into older women (and men).
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 12:00 AM
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And why are they bothering to spend their time on this subreddit, if they are in such happy marriages? I need an outlet for drama in my life and this is less destructive than starting shit with people I actually know. This sub and certain reality TV shows fill that void for me. I’m not gonna sit here and try to argue that I’m 100% emotionally healthy, but at least I manage to keep that combative energy out of my relationships now. 😆
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 08:48 PM
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The point is that i don’t go for men out of my league when i take initiative but it still doesn’t work out. The only reason I went for it was because he had orthodontic braces and I have a major thing for adults with braces. 😬 In hindsight I doubt it would have worked out anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 07:06 PM
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I can handle not being valued or wanted sexually or romantically, but not even being valued or wanted as a friend is deeply hurtful to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 06:46 PM
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My best guess would be that there is a general perception that women overreact to things.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 06:16 PM
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lol no, the last guy I asked out hadn’t dated anyone in over a decade and looked a hell of a lot like Butthead from Beavis and Butthead. We went out on one date and then he started getting evasive and finally admitted that he had gotten really used to being alone and decided he didn’t want to change that. I could respect it. We stayed friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 05:29 PM
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Well, I have been multi-orgasmic for a long time, and it’s partly the result of over 20 years of training my body to respond in certain ways by pushing a little bit past what feels like my limit each time. But my boyfriend has really made it his life’s ambition to learn my body, and he can get way more than that out of me now. A big part of that too is that I feel incredibly safe with him and un self conscious. He gets me to just zone out and focus fully on the sensations. Usually he will start …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 08:32 PM
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Oh I do often. LSD sometimes as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 04:46 PM
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I’m in a serious committed relationship headed toward marriage. I have had a lot of “firsts” with my current SO that I had never done before, and have done things with him that I have done only rarely in the past. It’s honestly a lot of the reason I want to be in a committed relationship with him in the first place. Many of my exes just weren’t all that sexually adventurous or into the stuff I like to do, and he is.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 03:27 PM
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Yep, I have had that experience as well. He was on the shorter side but more facially attractive than I typically date. Had the personality of a wall. I had no desire whatsoever to have sex with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 02:58 PM
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25 would be a fairly low number with someone who knows what they’re doing.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 02:55 PM
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Haha well unfortunately it seems you can’t have one without the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 11:21 AM
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That has not really been my experience. These men are often either so sex starved that they have zero concept of how to behave appropriately towards a literal stranger, or they just have no social skills period. And plenty of them will still treat you as disposable.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 10:48 AM
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Don’t be. It has been very difficult to find a partner who is willing and able to keep up with my drive without getting burned out quickly and losing interest in sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 10:39 AM
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1-2 hours give or take, but it’s not uncommon for my bf and I to take short breaks and then get back to it for another hour or two.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 10:37 AM
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Wait wait, just to be clear, it did not happen while giving a blow job. But, as a result, I have a difficult time eating cupcakes and thick sandwiches.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 10:06 AM
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There is a conflict, because going for less attractive men does not do anything to improve the quality of your options. I met a handful of decent guys, most of whom I never heard from again, and one whom I dated for a few weeks before he told me that he wouldn’t be ready to have sex anytime soon (he was in his 40’s) and that just wasn’t going to work for me. I gave up on dating men entirely shortly after that. I have a boyfriend now, but I wasn’t looking for one at the time, and we started out a…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 09:57 AM
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I’ve never dated any men who were “very attractive”. The majority of short and/or average looking men I have encountered have been pretty terrible.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 09:35 AM
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It’s exceedingly rare for me to have sex without having at least one orgasm. I need like a minimum of 25 to even consider it to have been worth my time. One orgasm is like eating one potato chip. It’s just gonna make me want to eat a whole bag.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 08:45 AM
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Nope, only the autistic guy. He seemed relatively normal until the date.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 07:24 AM
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Which one? The autistic guy who spent half of our date texting his mom and ignoring me? The dude who immediately started asking me questions about the consistency of my shits? The guy who immediately wanted to know if I would cuckold him? The multiple men who sent unsolicited dick pics with absolutely no sexual conversation prior? None of these guys were physically attractive in the slightest either.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 07:07 AM
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lol hey! I dislocated my jaw in high school. I have limits! 😆
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 03:19 AM
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What if you were just too big for her to be able to do it comfortably though?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 02:28 AM
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I’ve found that some positions work much better when my boyfriend is at half mast. Like putting my legs up over his shoulders and then having him push my legs as far towards my chest as they will go. It kinda squishes down on everything and gets a lot more friction going. It does come out easier but whatcha gonna do. I also like getting on top of him. As long as I’m wet enough I can usually get it inside, and I can feel it pretty well in that position.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 02:17 AM
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Yeah some women don’t feel like they can do any better and put up with whatever crap shitty men throw at them. I used to be one of them. Had nothing to do with anyone’s looks. I just didn’t believe that anyone else would ever like me. Thankfully I’m past that now.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 01:29 AM
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I stopped using apps completely because my experiences were so grim. I tried to give everyone a fair chance unless the red flags were right there in his bio. But it wasn’t nearly worth it to me for the handful of nice dudes I met (none of whom seemed all that interested in me anyway).
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 01:19 AM
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Then it’s almost as if these Tinder “studies” hold even less water.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 11:53 PM
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Most women just want a guy that is taller than them. Still seems kinda shallow to me but whatever. Since the average man is taller than the average woman this is pretty doable.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 10:47 PM
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My boyfriend is around 5’6” give or take (probably lower) and I think he’s extremely hot. I’m 5’2” and have gone out with guys who were same height as me or shorter before.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 10:41 PM
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I’m sure these are very rigorous academic experiments that have been published in peer reviewed journals and hold up under scrutiny too, right? I always used to swipe left on any guy who was conventionally attractive, because even if we did match, and he was somehow not a chad-fish, i don’t want to be with someone who is way better looking than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 10:30 PM
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Ok if you want to consider someone who can’t keep their antisocial tendencies under wraps for even 30 minutes an “option” then good for you. I do not consider this man to be an option as there is no way in hell I’m ever going to date him.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 10:27 PM
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The vast majority of men within a reasonable age range pass my looks filter. It’s not a difficult bar to meet. BigMoistDaddy67 is asserting that women will overlook these red flags if the guy passes the woman’s looks filter. I most certainly do not.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 10:25 PM
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I have read it hundreds of times on this sub
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 09:57 PM
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Dude, the guy has to have passed through my “looks filter” to have a chance to display any red flags in the first place. Otherwise I’m not even talking to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 09:54 PM
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How does that negate what I said?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 09:46 PM
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You can’t simultaneously tell women to “choose better” while also insisting that they consider every single man who shows interest as an “option.” If a man is waving more red flags than a communist parade then he is not an “option”.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 09:42 PM
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I honestly don’t care that much. If my bf wanted to leave me for that person, I would be pretty distraught. But if it was just sex or a FWB type situation, and we were still having sex at the usual rate, i wouldn’t mind it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 07:28 PM
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My bad I didn’t realize there was a link to a pic in there. He’s a good looking guy but my other points still stand, and if he is only using apps to shoot his shot that is a big part of the reason why. The average looking guys I know who get laid are meeting women in person and they’re charming and charismatic. It’s much harder to leverage that using apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 03:02 PM
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I’m saying that most women don’t prioritize a man’s desire to spend a few hours a day fucking, and doing it really well, above damn near anything else. It’s much more rare than a guy being 6 feet tall. Particularly a guy like that wanting a relationship and doing that with the same person every time. There’s a reason I didn’t find that until I was in my late 40’s. If I just wanted a decent looking tall guy, I could have had that easily. I’ve broken up with several.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 02:55 PM
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That’s one guy. We don’t have any way of knowing what he actually looks like or whether he’s unknowingly coming off as a creepy weirdo, or even how often he is actually trying to get laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 02:47 PM
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No, my dad is 6’2” with a full head of hair and a different race.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 10:16 AM
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I have seen men claim that autistic women go for chads and NT men as well on this sub many times. There have been entire threads about it. Also, eww to saying “normal brained women.” If I had to guess I would say that me being bisexual has more to do with it, but even so, plenty of average looking men are having casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 06:11 AM
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Most women don’t want, let alone need, to orgasm 50 plus times a day. And most men don’t want, let alone love to do that every day. Did you edit your post? I didn’t see your questions before. We met on Discord on an Ai related server. We were friends for a little while through the server, though I wouldn’t say that we were particularly close or anything. He was visiting my area with his parents and sister on vacation and I offered to pick him up and take him clubbing. He agreed. We had a really …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 05:03 AM
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If more women were like me it wouldn’t really help anything because I’m probably picker than most women are now.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 04:32 AM
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Most guys don’t have that effect on me. Even ones who are taller or objectively better looking or make more money or whatever. I just have really specific things I want in a partner and he meets those requirements.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 04:26 AM
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Idk man, but their loss is my gain. It’s not all about looks, though I do think my bf is really cute anyways.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 02:09 AM
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Women typically have a much higher libido in our late 30’s than we do in our 20’s. I’m 47 and mine hasn’t slowed down a whole lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 02:03 AM
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I don’t “settle” anymore. I’m not willing to do that. I settled more when I was young because I didn’t think I would find anyone else who wanted me. My standards are much higher now, and I am unwilling to compromise on them. I’m 47 and started dating my boyfriend 6 months ago. He had very little dating experience with women before me and had only had sex with a woman one time. So I guess it is safe to say that he is no “Chad”. He told me that women were not usually interested in him before. He’s…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 01:43 AM
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A local cruise with an all you can eat prawn buffet is way too fancy for me. I spent two days at a squatter camp with my ex on my last honeymoon after getting married in Vegas.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 10:54 PM
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I love it but I also cum at the mere suggestion of a stiff breeze which makes my bf extremely turned on when it’s happening right into his mouth and it turns into this positive feedback loop of wanton pleasure.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 10:38 PM
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Yeah they do. I have a gay male friend who hates anal and he didn’t know that until he tried it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 10:22 PM
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I have a boyfriend who is more than happy to oblige me and he enjoys every second.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 06:25 AM
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Not easily.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 07:59 PM
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Yeah I want those to be things that he also really enjoys. What is also important though is that he genuinely enjoys making me orgasm using various methods for a couple hours at a time. I orgasm very easily but it takes like 50+ for me to feel satiated and I can easily do that every day (though it’s not necessary). Lots of guys are down to do it once here and there, but are unable or unwilling to keep up with my sexual appetite on a day to day basis.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 06:52 PM
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He has every right to break up with them and they have every right to feel how they feel about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 12:27 AM
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Seems pretty important to most of you.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 08:11 AM
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Negging, transparent attempts at manipulation, acting like they are smarter than I am, using any kind of manosphere lingo or talking points, comparing other women to me in a negative way or vice versa, mansplaining, talking down to me, being selfish in bed, adhering very rigidly to gender norms, being really into sports or hunting or fishing or other traditionally masculine hobbies… I’m just not attracted to masculinity in men at all. My boyfriend is basically as close to my ideal as humanly pos…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 07:58 AM
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This is just Red Pillers straight up refusing to believe shit they are being told. If I had dollar for every time a man has accused me of straight up lying on here, I could take a well deserved vacation. I’m not even BP. Yes, I do prefer feminine men. I do prefer men who respect me and defer to me. There is no room my relationships for two domineering people. In exchange I make sure my partner is very well taken care of in every way possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 07:26 AM
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Then get used to women thinking that you are using them for sex, because that’s what it looks like if you are unwilling to communicate with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 04:22 AM
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And? I’m hypersexual. It’s right there in my flair. It’s a medical diagnosis. It’s different from sex addiction.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 03:45 AM
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That’s largely irrelevant to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 03:40 AM
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The other part of what you’d need to be upfront about is that you have had difficulty finding that.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 03:11 AM
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If a random guy came up and gave me his phone number I would be riding that high for the rest of my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 02:50 AM
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I wouldn’t say that it happens slowly but it’s not immediate either. If it’s not happening by the third date for me then there’s probably not much hope. But it often takes more than one date for me to start getting really infatuated. One thing that absolutely has to be “there” for me is I have to be getting very strong signs of romantic interest from him in order for me to catch feels myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 02:32 AM
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Yes there is. That sexual compatibility is necessary for you to want to move forward with a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 02:06 AM
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I just find a lot of women don't enjoy sex that much or dont enjoy my performance much, so no longer feel sexually confident with them and I don't want to see them again. If this is literally the only reoccurring issue, then yeah you’re not going to solve it without communicating.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 02:00 AM
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Then he should probably just be honest from the get go. Or learn to live with women being mad at him when he dumps them after having sex. That’s life.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 01:53 AM
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If you’re unwilling to be upfront I guess you’ll just have to deal with women being mad at you. I have sex with women too, btw. They’re just way less likely to suck in bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 01:48 AM
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I was diagnosed with BPD in my early 20’s and yeah all of that sounds very familiar to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 01:32 AM
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I won’t LTR someone unless they are very sexually enthusiastic, have a VERY high drive, and are into at least 75% of the stuff I like doing (getting rimmed, pegged, fingered, watersports, and bondage are the major ones and watersports is basically a requirement). I also like them to be on the submissive side. I can and will orgasm continuously for hours, and I need to be with someone who enjoys doing that. Yeah, ideally it’s better to not have that kind of pressure hanging over you, so that’s wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 01:18 AM
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95% of the men I’ve had sex with were not worth having sex with a second time, and I’m at a point in my life now where I’m just unwilling to commit to someone unless they’re in the other 5%. So I get where you are coming from. At the very least you need to be very up front about this and tell women you go out with that sexual compatibility is non-negotiable for you and that it’s somewhat rare for you to find. Getting dumped for that reason fucking sucks, no matter what gender you are. So you eit…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 12:43 AM
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Then I guess we’re even.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 07:10 AM
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Tylikcat is older than I am. Not everyone here was born 20 years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 05:09 AM
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Umm, this happened in 1998, so…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 05:04 AM
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I have slept with a lot of guys who had nothing that stood out. Ideally I like them to be good kissers, but I’m honestly not even that picky.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 03:16 AM
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I know, right? I went on a date with a guy who I thought was really cute once but he had the personality of a blank wall. I’d rather be with a nice, ugly dude who is not boring any day of the week.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 02:30 AM
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I can get on board with the idea of charisma being more important. But… you can be nice and charismatic. You can certainly get laid if you are charismatic and a douchebag, but it’s only going to be a certain type of woman who will go for that. I guess it comes down to what kind of woman you want and whether you want a healthy relationship (or a relationship at all).
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 02:16 AM
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I haven’t really had issues. I guess the biggest issue that I have faced is biphobia in general. But overall I find it much easier to date women and I prefer dating women. The only reason I’m dating a man right now is because he basically fell into my lap and was everything I wanted in a relationship. He is also bi and dated men almost exclusively before we met. It’s a very different experience from the other men I’ve been in relationships with.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 03:21 PM
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I thought he was gay because I met him through his ex boyfriend on Discord, and because while we were driving to the club he was talking about all the guys from the Discord server he thought were hot. I had also seen him openly flirt with lots of dudes on the server whether they were gay or not. He does “act” kind of stereotypically gay as well, (though not to any extreme degree) but that’s something I’m attracted to, personally. Like you said, I’m bisexual. The qualities I find attractive in me…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 11:10 AM
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People shutting down conversations about SA is part of the problem. It needs to be talked about openly. People who have been through it need to be able to talk about it openly and without shame.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 03:54 AM
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Not even remotely. Sexual assault is a reality. People are allowed to discuss it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 03:48 AM
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I don’t care that you don’t want to hear it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 03:45 AM
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Because I’m not obligated to stay silent just because some people are uncomfortable with hearing about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 03:43 AM
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No.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 03:41 AM
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I didn’t see my boyfriend in “that way” initially either. I thought he was gay and I saw him as just a friend. I had no reason to think he would ever be interested in me sexually at first. Once he made it clear to me that he was attracted to women as well, and that he was interested in me specifically, my feelings changed and I started gaining attraction to him. Our relationship is definitely not devoid of lust. He does things for me sexually that I have never experienced with any other man befo…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 02:16 AM
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I don’t want my boyfriend to be indifferent about what I wear. I want him to like it. I want him to like how I look and for him to be excited about it. I don’t really care about what other men think about it. I don’t really wear revealing clothing much at all (except once in a while to the club, and my bf goes with me) but I do wear things my boyfriend likes on me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 01:48 AM
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Well I meant what I said.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 02:40 AM
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I asked my boyfriend out first and paid for our first date.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 11:24 PM
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In the past I have felt very pressured to perform a certain type of femininity. Dressing sexy but not too sexy. Wearing makeup but not too much makeup. Being sexually available but not too sexually available. Letting the man “take the lead” and make the first moves so as not to appear desperate. Etc etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 04:01 AM
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Notice that I never even came close to saying that.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 02:59 AM
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It’s an analogy. I’m not going to date a man who makes my life objectively worse, as most men seem to do. I have high standards for that reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 02:48 AM
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It’s more like my standards are that I don’t want to eat something that I’m allergic or intolerant to, and I have a lot of food allergies and intolerances making it very difficult to find thing I can eat without feeling like absolute shit afterward. That would be a more apt analogy.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 02:38 AM
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Pretty much.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 02:00 AM
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Healthy communication and conflict resolution skills (it’s something I learned and have put a lot of effort into practicing since I was 18). I’m a damn good cook, though I wish I had the time to cook for him more (I work the 3-11 pm shift 5 to 6 nights a week). I love, appreciate, and celebrate him for who he is and do not put expectations on him to make a certain income or act a certain way or withhold showing emotions, or any crap like that. I love that he is bisexual. I love that he is emotio…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 01:58 AM
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There is a reason for the orgasm gap in straight women. But obviously this is gonna come down to the individual’s likes and dislikes too. I don’t think any man should feel pressured into doing oral if that’s not his jam either. There are plenty of other ways to get a woman to orgasm if PIV isn’t doing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 01:11 AM
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Being kissed on the neck is my kryptonite. That’s how my boyfriend pulled me. 🥵
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 01:02 AM
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No, not ugly. Most men my age are just kind of neutral to me. I’m not attracted to them but I’m not repelled by them either. I am very rarely attracted to a man unless he is very attracted to me first. But a lot of the time that’s all it takes. I’m generally more attracted to younger men though. Men my age are a tough sell. Most are just too conservative.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 12:55 AM
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I have no gendered expectations of myself in dating. I lean masculine. I have always leaned masculine. I used to try to make myself less masculine to appeal to more men. I’m not doing that shit anymore. I haven’t shaved any part of my body in 15 years. I don’t wear makeup. I wear almost 100% men’s clothing. I used to keep my hair really short but I got tired of the maintenance so now I just wear it in a ponytail all the time. 99% (or more) of men are not into it, and that’s fine. I’m not interes…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 12:26 AM
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I think it absolutely could impact a woman’s decision to date a guy or not. The way a guy dresses shows a lot about his personality and what he values (and doesn’t value). Women who care a lot about appearance may be swayed by designer brands. Other women will be put off by it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 11:57 PM
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Yeah, I mean I guess you would have to just test that out? Wearing designer clothes would certainly attract a different type of woman than wearing good fitting basic stuff. Either one is better than wearing holey sweatpants. As to your last point, just because a woman is staying with a guy for years, that doesn’t automatically mean they’re still having an active sex life. Dead bedrooms aren’t uncommon in a long term relationship, especially when one party no longer puts any effort into their app…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 11:31 PM
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Having a good haircut and flattering well fitting clothing can absolutely make or break an average looking man. Also, even if she is attracted to him in the first place, it’s beneficial for that to remain the case. Too many dudes really let themselves go as soon as the woman is committed and then wonder why she loses interest in him sexually.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 08:16 PM
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Preach. I mostly wear men’s clothing and it’s difficult to find colors and styles that I actually like. Why are men so allergic to color? Who is making that decision?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 08:10 PM
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I prefer men closer to my height (5’2”). I’m willing to overlook a man being on the taller side, but I’m more attracted to men who are shorter.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 08:07 PM
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I have had a hard time even getting my bi friends to date women instead of very sub-par, disappointing men. Idk where you are getting this from.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 02:48 PM
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Your position is asinine.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 03:54 AM
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A man does not have to be conventionally attractive in any way for me to be attracted to him, but he does have to have qualities that I’m attracted to, whether they are physical or otherwise. Nobody is going to date someone whom they feel zero attraction to. That’s just asinine.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 03:47 AM
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If I have any interest in dating a man then it’s because I’m attracted to him. Whether or not he looks like a model is irrelevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 02:36 AM
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Look, if you don’t believe me, make a profile on Tinder with pics of an average looking woman looking for casual sex and right swipe on every single guy. Then engage in conversation with every single guy you match with. See how they behave towards you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 10:07 PM
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Not bait.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 10:05 PM
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I could give a big long answer to this but I’m not straight. So.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 07:56 PM
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Putting the husband in husbandry.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 11:43 PM
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Heck, why not?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 11:34 PM
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No, that’s just normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 08:39 PM
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Yo. I have given a very large number of those “invisible men” a chance and plenty of them have been predatory when given the opportunity.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 03:44 PM
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I peaked in 4th grade. 😢
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 01:21 AM
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5 inches shorter would be 4’ 9” tall. Honestly either would be totally fine. I’m 47 so going 10 years younger is not a big deal anymore. My boyfriend is a few inches taller and 14 years younger than me. I’m not pressed about height, and I prefer younger men in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 10:51 PM
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That IS my experience with apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 04:21 AM
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Because dick is dick.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 03:34 AM
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I have been turned down before by men who I was not at all physically attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 03:08 AM
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Except that I will ditch a FWB in a hot second if I meet someone who checks all my relationship boxes and actually wants to be in one. I have zero loyalty to someone I have hooked up with, even multiple times.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 02:42 AM
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I have had casual sex for a wholevariety of reasons and the guys looks were rarely much of a factor other than “he’s not bad looking.”
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 02:16 AM
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Same! Personality matters more than anything!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 02:14 AM
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Personally matters A LOT for me for hook ups. If I’m gonna be alone with a rando, I prioritize feeling safe with him above anything else. Looks are pretty low on my list.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 02:06 AM
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You have 2 scenarios of what men are comparing as sexually desirable. Women saying you need to spend weeks or months planning dates, talk to me daily, prove you can keep me happy, earn my trust and approval, give me exclusivity, dedicate your time and attention to me in a relationship and then if you’ve done all of this successfully I’ll have sex with you. Or I barely know him but I want to have sex with him right now. You can literally have both of these things within the same person aside from…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 01:29 AM
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I don’t know where you are getting this idea from that men don’t have to put any effort into getting casual sex. I have had men buy me a lot of drinks and food and spend a lot of time and effort chatting me up and flirting with me trying to get me into bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 01:22 AM
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I have had casual sex with a staggering number of undesirable men
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 01:20 AM
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Most of my long term relationships I have had sex with them within a week of meeting for the first time, the one that I didn’t, it certainly wasn’t because I didn’t want to. I don’t push anyone past their own comfort level. More than half of them I slept with the first time we met. Those three I didn’t even want a relationship with them at first but they changed my mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 01:15 AM
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That’s weird. It’s lower for me. I don’t have to look at him every day.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 01:02 AM
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I’m livin reckless out here with you, fellow queerdo! 😆 High fives!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 01:00 AM
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I’ve had that arrangement a couple times in my life before. It’s rare, but so nice when it works.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 12:58 AM
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I hate so much that you are correct.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 12:57 AM
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lol people will be finding stray pubes.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 12:54 AM
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That’s ridiculous. If I’m having casual sex with a guy I can take him or leave him. In the vast majority of cases I won’t even have sex with the same guy twice. He has to be really exceptionally skilled or he has to be giving me indicators of genuine interest that are reciprocated by me. I’m also way less sexually inhibited with a guy I’m in a relationship with than someone I’m just casual with. When I actually want a relationship with a man, I’m straight up obsessed with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 12:54 AM
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Yeah something alone those lines. I mean the biggest benefit to what I’m thinking about is that you could have sensory experiences that would be legitimately impossible any other way. You want to feel what it’s like to have a vagina as a male or a penis as a female, or even have both at the same time? You want to have sex with Humpty Dumpty and feel his yolk break as you climax? You want to get gang banged by dragons? You want to be flogged in the middle of a Roman colosseum while a crowd of anc…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 05:57 PM
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Imagine being the guy who has to clean sexbots before they get sent back out.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 05:45 PM
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Or just put it in a storage unit.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 05:44 PM
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Yeah, I’m holding out for that!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 05:44 PM
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I think they will never really catch on in the mainstream because I think at some point we will go straight to Ai brain implants that allow you to essentially have waking lucid dreams, so to speak. Why would you limit yourself to what is possible in the physical world, with all of the expense and maintenance required of that, not to mention all the other drawbacks you mentioned, when you can literally have any fantasy fulfilled in real time with full sensory integration? Your sex robot is going …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 05:26 PM
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Facts. This ugly bald black pill dude I know would be a total incel aside from the fact that he is a nurse with relatively low inhibitions.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 08:31 AM
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Same. I think we should give ourselves plenty of grace and latitude for things we believed when we were younger and much more easily influenced. Being able to look at those beliefs critically and be open to a different POV it ultimately what’s important.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 07:05 PM
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Your 1-2” obv.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 01:57 PM
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lol, I work at a group home as a caregiver. They are just happy that I show up and do my job! 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 01:36 AM
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Clowncore and weirdcore fashion has been helpful. My boyfriend is very attracted to my style though. That’s how I knew he was the one. 😆 If you can pull a guy while wearing platform Crocs with big pompoms on them and an oversized neon colored fake fur leopard print hooded vest, he’s probably being sincere.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 01:34 AM
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Oh my sweet summer child. I’m 47 and I still have to actively dress and behave in a way that repels men. Even with that, I still sometimes get hit on.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 01:15 AM
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Get her all lubed up and grind it on her clit while you kiss her neck and maybe lightly grip and pull her hair. Use your fingers. Use your tongue. Rejoice in the fact that you can facefuck her without choking her.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 12:15 AM
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It’s ridiculously easy to make me orgasm.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 12:09 AM
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Good sex. Lots of orgasms (not necessarily from penetration alone). Means that the sex is just fun and that I’m getting a lot of pleasure out of it. It’s not dependent at all on the actual size or shape of the penis. It just means that it feels really good.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 12:07 AM
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Hang around outside my apartment for 15 minutes probably.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 10:30 PM
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Significant legal issues, substance abuse issues, untreated mental illness, egregiously poor housekeeping skills, kids you don’t see or take care of. These are some of the more common things that make me stop considering a guy as any kind of long term prospect.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 09:26 PM
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Yeah, a man can move from a short term prospect to a long term one by expressing significant interest in doing so and by being clear about wanting a committed relationship. I may or may not be interested, but I’m generally not going to entertain the idea unless he brings it up first. The reverse has happened less often, but there was one guy I recall who I met up with while looking for a LTR and he was cool and all but I quickly realized he was better as a FWB. I didn’t think of him as boyfriend…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 09:18 PM
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It doesn’t. I have a general mistrust of conventionally attractive men. How soon I start thinking about sex has little to do with what a guy a looks like and almost everything to do with how much interest he is showing in me. My attraction is very reactive.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 08:45 PM
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Hot, but I like a little bit of belly and some love handles too. 🤤
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 03:15 PM
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Maybe I’m just old but I’m not “settling” for any dude. A guy is not relationship material for me unless he is highly enthusiastic in the bedroom and has a drive that won’t quit. Skill is great, but enthusiasm and curiosity trumps all. I have never had a hookup that even comes close to the levels of depravity and mutual satisfaction I have experienced with my boyfriend. That kind of sex requires both trust and knowing the other person inside and out. Why in the hell would I ever want a relations…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 01:27 PM
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We get accused of virtue signaling anytime what we say doesn’t align with whatever preconceived worldview you have. It has been less than zero days since I have been straight up accused of lying about my boyfriend. It doesn’t fucking matter what I like or value want in a partner. Even when those qualities are laying in bed right next to me, wearing my fucking boxer shorts, I’m still “virtue signaling” if I say that I’m not at all into “Chads”.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 01:02 PM
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It was basically ideal other than me getting irritated with my drawing. 😆 I have a ceiling when it comes to realism.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 12:50 PM
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Man, I just know if I tried something like that some damn bird would swoop down and grab it and fly off.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 09:49 AM
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Nah. I can see all the things I don’t like about it. I’m just tired of fucking with it. It’s as good as I care to make it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 06:37 AM
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Spent the evening smoking weed with my boyfriend, watching some dumbass comedy movie, and making a drawing of Battleship Rock from the Jemez Mountains. He made us some cheesy lasagna Hamburger Helper with fresh tomatoes added, and I also had some pandan ice cream. <image> I remember why I don’t like drawing landscapes now. It turned out ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 06:21 AM
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He’s putting an awful lot of faith in gravity to keep that ring box on the drone. I guess it must not be a breezy day at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 06:13 AM
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Uh huh.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 07:12 PM
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Like I said. It doesn’t need to be a majority of men. I can only be married to one person at a time. Assuming it were even that important to me in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 06:35 PM
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I don’t need a fleet. I just need one at a time. I’m 47 and my boyfriend is 33. I’m fairly indifferent about getting married again but he has been talking about it since within the first month we were together. I wasn’t even looking for anyone at all tbh but he made it clear he was super into me and he’s very sexy, so why not?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 05:27 PM
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Bruh, younger men are down to date us too.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 04:29 PM
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Sounds like something a serial killer would do. 🤨
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 03:53 AM
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I pretty much can tell when a guy is using PUA techniques when I see him going up to every single halfway decent looking woman in the room one after the other until one of them doesn’t shoot him down. I have also had guys admit to me after the fact that they were running game on me when I knew before they even opened their mouth that’s what was happening. Sometimes I’ve been asked afterwards at what point I knew I was going to sleep with them and the answer is always something like “Oh within th…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 05:14 PM
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You’re not wrong necessarily, but I butt heads so badly with men who have dominating personalities. Things are so much easier for me in a relationship with someone who is not necessarily “submissive” but at least laid back and likes for someone else to take the lead. I like for my partner to have their own personality. But I also want them to be on board with my shenanigans, because I’m very strong willed and am gonna do what I want regardless.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 05:05 PM
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Oh we know. It just a matter of whether or not we want him to pick us up.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 04:37 PM
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My algorithm is filled with cats, maximalist fashion, and cool art stuff. It knows me so well.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 01:16 AM
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My boyfriend got a job! It’s at a dog daycare and he fucking loves dogs. He gets to spend two thirds of his shift legit just playing with dogs. It’s basically his dream job. It doesn’t pay great but we live in the ghetto and it’s enough to pay the bills, so that’s all that matters. I would rather he be doing something he loves than him be making more but stressed out and overworked. Fuck that. Life is short.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 01:15 AM
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Hi. Female supremacist here. I could honestly give a shit about whether a man is conventionally attractive, has high status, or makes a high income. The only men I’m interested in are the ones who know their place. I generally prefer women for relationships anyway because most men have too much of an ego to be in a relationship with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/26 06:36 PM
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The men removing themselves from the dating pool are not the “good” men. The good men are already locked down. There just aren’t very many of them, period.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/26 02:37 AM
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I gave up on dating heterosexual men a long time ago. I just think that what I want and what the vast majority of straight men want are too vastly different for me to be compatible with them. So yeah I think I can fathom what you mean.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/26 02:10 AM
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Yeah, you can change negative patterns. Every relationship I have been in has been better than the one before it. I haven’t been in an abusive relationship since my early 20’s either. I figured out how to avoid that pretty quickly.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/26 01:49 AM
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Fuck that. No way.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 12:57 AM
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My ideal partner has a very high libido so that sounds pretty torturous to us both. Also, what are we defining as sex? Like only PIV? Because I cannot envision a realistic scenario where other stuff is off the table. I am just fine without PIV as long as we are still having an active sex life otherwise. There are a whole lot of ways to give and receive sexual pleasure.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 12:37 AM
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Not all relationships that started online are from apps. I met my boyfriend on Discord on a hobby based server that we were both members of. We met online but neither of us was looking to meet someone online. We didn’t even connect sexually or romantically until we met in person.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 03:24 AM
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The few toxic guys I know are perpetually single and most of the normal guys I know are in relationships. The few “normal” guys I know who are not in relationships have a lot of other things going on in their lives and aren’t looking for a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 03:11 AM
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Hell no I would not. I love my dad but I agree with him about almost nothing. Also, I make my own decisions. Neither my father nor my spouse tells me what to do. I will give a lot of consideration to what my spouse wants and needs. But ultimately I make my own choices. I expect my spouse to make their own choices as well. I won’t marry a momma’s boy. He can absolutely have a close relationship with his mom. I think that is wonderful. But he needs to be his own person.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 02:45 AM
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As a woman with a high body count, I’m far less discriminating when it comes to the looks of my male partners, not more. Personally I avoid really good looking guys because based on my limited experiences with them they really suck in bed. The best sex I have had has been with very average to below average looking guys. It’s more about personality for me. If I feel at ease and turned on then I’m DTF.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 06:47 PM
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Nah, it’s from the exact same CDC study where y’all get your stats on gay men and lesbian DV rates.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 07:41 PM
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The DV and SA stats for bi women are completely different than they are for lesbians. Not only are they much more likely to have been the victims of both (DV and SA) in their lifetime, but 90% have only had male perpetrators. I personally greatly prefer to have relationships with women over straight men. I also really like queer men, they just haven’t been that into me historically. But my current partner is a queer man and I absolutely adore him. I wouldn’t date a straight man again if you paid…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 06:31 PM
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Where did you find this pic of me and my boyfriend?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 06:24 PM
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Only if he pursues me first. I’m pretty much never interested in a guy without getting major indicators of interest from him first. And the few times I have been, the minute he pumped the brakes I was over it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 06:23 PM
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I can’t speak for other women, but I do.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/26 09:40 PM
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I don’t think so. I’m 47 and I turned down a lot of dudes when I was in my teens, mostly because they wanted to lock me down and I was nowhere near ready for that. I broke up with my high school boyfriend because I was graduating and didn’t want a boyfriend who was still in high school. Guys were pretty brutal toward me too. Things only changed as I matured and decided that I was ready for marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/26 01:16 AM
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Haha me too! I gotta keep this one! 🤞
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 04:39 PM
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Oh I know, I lucked out big time! And we wear the same size clothes too so we share a wardrobe! 😜 He’s the absolute best!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 04:32 PM
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Some things are still going to be dependent on the individual women (my boyfriend is bi and nothing is more attractive to me than when he is signaling his queerness, which is most of the time). But aside from that, I would agree with this take.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 03:19 PM
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Which is why I said it could theoretically depend on which unit they worked in as to whether or not I would consider it. I just could not personally date someone who had to do that for a living.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 02:24 AM
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I think the world would function if homeless people were not routinely harassed while just trying to sleep, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 01:50 AM
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Whether or not I am personally willing to date someone who harasses homeless people for a living is pretty fucking irrelevant in the grander scheme. Sorry if that offends you but I sincerely don’t care.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 12:43 AM
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Honestly almost never, but that likely has a lot to do with the circles I hang out in and what kind of shit comes up in my algorithm (lots of queer shit, artsy shit, and clown related shit).
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 10:28 PM
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Then they should be honest and end the relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 09:43 PM
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Dude, obviously the fact that I would hypothetically be open to dating a cop depending on what unit they worked in means I do not have a blanket hatred for cops, so you can calm your ass down ok? I would not be able to date someone who did something for a living that went against my own personal ethics and boundaries. I would hope that everyone feels this way. And there are a lot of things that the police are legally required to do to do that I am absolutely not ok with. That’s life.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 09:41 PM
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We have had this exact conversation before. And it has not been my experience at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 06:28 PM
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Fair, that popular interests are regionally dependent, but that seems like a weird reason to call me a “fool” in and of itself. Just because you think some popular interests are boring doesn’t make your interests any less popular or boring.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 06:20 PM
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Weird. I don’t know anyone who gives a shit about soccer.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 04:21 PM
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Is water wet? 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 04:20 PM
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For me the most important thing about what a man does for work is whether her or not he enjoys it and/or finds it to be meaningful. Also that he’s not a cop or like an ICE agent or something like that. Idk even a cop I could potentially be interested in depending on what unit. It’s never come up so this is all hypothetical. I digress. I have been in a LTR with people who hated their jobs before and it leached into the relationship in a very destructive way. Obviously we will all have stressful d…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 03:33 PM
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Idk but it fucking sucks being on the other side of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 02:34 PM
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How does any of that sound to you like what I’m suggesting? Gaming is one of those wildly popular but boring interests I was referring to. I would also include anime in that. Unless the woman is really into those things herself, it’s probably not gonna be interesting for her to talk about them a ton.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 02:34 PM
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Nah, massively popular interests are boring. Even if those are your actual interests, there are ways to be interesting outside of that. I want to hear something new. Travel somewhere off the beaten path. Make a few bad decisions. Leave your comfort zone. Having a few “good stories” helps a lot with being an interesting person.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 01:58 PM
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No, it’s not wrong to learn social skills. But a lot of what is taught in PUA circles isn’t “social skills”. It’s manipulation. This is where it gets tough, because I think that a lot of it is genuinely decent advice, whereas a lot of it is very much NOT. And for men who aren’t socially savvy enough to know the difference, that’s dangerous. It might seem to work, but it’s only going to work on specific types of women and those may not really be the types of women you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 01:42 PM
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Men stop caring once they “have” you. All their effort is expended early on in the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 01:26 PM
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No, that’s not the reason. I mean once you are in a relationship with a man, he might not ever leave you, but he also couldn’t give two shits whether or not you are happy in that relationship. I have been in three serious long term relationships with men (married or living together), and one with a woman. I was the one to end things in all three cases with the men. But there was a damn good reason for it each time. And no matter how much I would beg for what I needed from them, I got zero effort…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 01:23 PM
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How do you think things will change?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 09:11 AM
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Men are much much harder to be in a relationship with.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 09:08 AM
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I’m a bisexual woman. It’s “easier” to date men only in that it’s easier to find men willing to go on dates with you in the first place. Beyond that though? It’s much much easier to find a woman who wants to have a relationship. My boyfriend is bi also and has had most of his dating and relationship experience with men, and had the same experience. If you just want to hook up and have no other emotional fulfillment from them, then cool, go for men. My boyfriend had a pretty terrible experience w…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 04:46 AM
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I like fat men whether I’m fat at the moment myself or not. I have dated guys who were in the morbidly obese range and was very attracted to them. Dad bods and skinny fat is cool too. The only type I’m not really attracted to is “fit and muscular”. Just does nothing for me visually and they suck to cuddle with.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 09:55 PM
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Easier just to get a guy who likes a little more cushion for the pushin’. They are not hard to find. I’m not huge or anything but I’m middle aged and I would rather eat cake sometimes than have a slightly hotter body. There’s a ceiling no matter what I do anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 06:47 PM
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Right?! Sexual stimulation is as much mental as it is physical. Understanding this is what separates a blah sexual partner from an incredible sexual partner. And you do not have to be super good looking to get someone going mentally. I have been successfully seduced by some ugly motherfuckers, and that’s all it takes for me to be ready to go.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 06:45 PM
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I mean, I can certainly say what has worked on me. The one thing that other men won’t have insight into is that moment when things switched in my brain from me not seeing a guy “that way” to me seeing him as a viable option. In most cases I can pinpoint exactly when that happened and why.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 06:35 PM
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Or take an even clearer example: If a sweet 4-year-old child's mind was in the body of a 50-year-old hairy, balding man with a deep voice—but he kept the exact same innocent behavior—would you still feel that 'maternal' urge to hug him and tell him how cute he is? No. You’d probably find it disturbing. Interesting that you say this because that kinda describes my boyfriend somewhat, except he is in his mid 30’s and his voice isn’t particularly deep. But he does have a really youthful, sweet, and…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 10:05 PM
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Most of my rules and requirements have been made specifically because of past bad experiences and wanting to avoid those going forward. I did go out on a few dates with a guy who identified himself as politically “moderate” even though I typically only consider men who are politically leftist. I guess I made an exception for him because I didn’t have a whole lot of other options and wanted to at least give him a chance. We just didn’t have much at all in common though and I found that our values…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 08:41 PM
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They were diagnosed. What you are failing to grasp is that their autistic traits didn’t really stand out to me at all as anything abnormal or noteworthy because I shared most of those traits myself. What I noticed about them was that I seemed to get along with them better than men who were not diagnosed with autism, and that they were much more likely to want to have a relationship with me than NT men.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 06:30 PM
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Because like I said, it has been several different men and the ways that they were socially inept varied between them. If you want me to recall specific examples, it’s gonna be hard for me to do that because A) for the most part it was a long time ago, and B) it never really came off as that weird to me and I only really knew because they would tell me about having a lot of difficulties making friends growing up or getting along with coworkers.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 06:03 PM
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I’m struggling to grasp exactly what information you are wanting from me. Those are common autistic traits that the men I had relationships with displayed.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 05:52 PM
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It varies quite a bit between them. Some have way more social issues than others. But all of them were at the very least kind of socially inept in various ways, even if they were pretty outgoing. Special interests and hyperfixations are common among them. Extreme sensory sensitivities to noise and textures and other types of stimuli. Blunt communication style. Very inflexible in general. Difficulties with having empathy for others which results in some fairly self-centered thinking and behavior.…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 05:34 PM
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There are entire subreddits about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 12:25 AM
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Yeah it’s an insult. Just like the gross dudes who have called me a “dyke” whatever perceived injustice I committed against them. I’m very attracted to women, so it doesn’t exactly hurt my feelings, but the intent is obvious.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/26 09:57 PM
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A majority of the men I have had relationships with have been autistic and the rest were all some kind of neurodivergent. Apparently everyone thinks I’m autistic as well. It makes sense but I’m not planning on getting tested or anything. I’m definitely some kind of neurodivergent regardless.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/26 09:52 PM
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I’m a lesbian now. Thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/26 04:53 PM
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If sex bots are so much better than women then why would they keep bothering me and other women? Why not just use a sex bot? Is that not the whole point?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 11:54 PM
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I’ve thought about this quite a bit. I’m bisexual and the idea of a female sex robot is certainly something that piques my interest somewhat. But then it occurs to me that mostly what I enjoy about being with a woman is making her feel pleasure. Even if a robot could simulate that pretty well, I’m not sure if I would actually enjoy it. Because at the end of the day it would basically just be like a high tech sexy video game, but I’m not actually causing anyone or anything to feel real pleasure. …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 11:52 PM
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It’s better in that the men who don’t care about women as people won’t be bothering us anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 11:27 PM
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Many are. I’m 47 and my boyfriend is 33. I’m generally not attracted to older men and never have been. I have always gone for guys around my age or younger. Sometimes a lot younger.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 12:35 AM
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Yeah I fully agree with this take. There are non homophobic bi women out there, and probably even some non homophobic straight women too. I love that my boyfriend is bi. I love that he’s queer af and I think he’s so damn sexy. I wouldn’t want him to be straight.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 11:28 PM
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Yes. My boyfriend is bisexual and has mostly dated men before me. He gets it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 07:20 PM
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The only women who get all of these benefits are the most attractive ones. Regardless of age. Average looking young women are not benefiting financially from their “sexual power” outside of an occasional “free” dinner for which sex is very much an expectation in return. We do still have all the same risks though without that sexual power.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 07:14 AM
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I agree with the OP, and I will add that I refuse to cry for the plight of autistic men since I have had sex and relationships with a number of autistic men well into double digits.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 05:47 AM
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For something like that, the researchers will usually target the group they are looking at. So maybe the subreddits for autistic women or Facebook groups for them. I have filled out several surveys aimed at people with certain diagnoses asking about things along these lines and I see them posted on subreddits that are relevant to the larger group they are trying to get data on.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 05:44 AM
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I don’t think I would be, but only because I have delusional levels of self confidence and “rizz”, or at least that’s what I’ve been told. I’m also very into women of a physical type that tend to get less attention from straight men. I like big bellies. I have no problems pulling women I’m attracted to now, so I’d probably do okay-ish.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 05:31 AM
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There are a hell of a lot of women who do not work desk jobs. Who do difficult, stressful, and very necessary work that men don’t want to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 12:07 AM
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I’m not Asian and he’s not white. And thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 07:36 AM
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Not necessarily. I have really specific things I look for in a guy but none of those things is based on looks or money or status, and a lot of the men I wind up with haven’t had much luck with women in the past. My boyfriend is absolutely that guy for me, but prior to us meeting he had had sex one time with a woman, at the age of 32.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 04:02 AM
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A man can be guy number one to one woman and have been guy number 3 to the last hundred women he encountered.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 03:54 AM
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You won’t be able to ferret it out 100% of the time. But I have very often seen women tell one another when a guy is using manosphere language and talking points in text screenshots here on Reddit, or if he’s being manipulative or whatever else. We definitely do talk about this stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 07:01 PM
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Nah he doesn’t get mad about that. He knows I’m not interested in other men. He likes looking at me. He likes touching my bare skin. He likes getting all turned on and then taking me home and getting me out of those clothes as fast as possible. He likes knowing that what’s underneath is all his.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 05:14 PM
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He likes it when I wear sexy outfits out in public.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 05:09 PM
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I don’t wear makeup ever, but I’m actually more likely to wear sexy clothes because I’m wearing them for my partner. Imagine that.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 05:06 PM
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Yeah. I’m only willing to do anal with a guy with an average or below average sized dick. And I’m willing to do a lot more kinky stuff with someone I trust, which rarely happens outside of a serious long term relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 04:56 PM
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More from the POV of I don’t want to date someone young enough to have been my own child. I was a kid at 14. Even though I was still pretty young, once I had a kid of my own it was a new stage of life for me and it marked a shift in my personality and frame of mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 04:45 PM
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I was a virgin at 14, so personally I could not have been.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 04:38 PM
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The litmus test isn’t whether or not my kid could theoretically date my partner. That could be possible regardless of their age. It’s whether or not I’m literally old enough to be his mom. I can live with being 14 years older than my parter but not 20+ years. That’s just me though. There’s a big difference in the relative maturity of someone in their mid 30’s vs their mid 20’s.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 09:39 PM
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My male friends I have known for almost my whole life. Some of them since high school or my freshman year of college. I value them immensely. They have been much less likely to judge me and ditch me for making decisions they don’t agree with. Unfortunately I cannot say the same for some of my female friends (or former friends I guess).
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 09:20 PM
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It’s your relationship. Do what you want to do. That’s a pretty hefty age gap. I’m a few years younger than you and while I am fine with age gaps, I would personally be creeped out at the thought of dating a literal teenager. My kid is 26 and I wouldn’t even date someone close to her age. My boyfriend is 33 and I am 47. But we make about the same amount so we split things evenly when it comes to finances.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 09:16 PM
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Yes it’s totally possible! I used to have absolutely crippling social anxiety. Now I’m just mildly socially awkward. 😆
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 12:51 AM
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It honestly takes a lot to speak up or report it, and it may not always be the best idea to do so. Sometimes it just puts a target on you, unfortunately. You have to weigh whether or not it’s really worth it. If they were making disparaging comments about female colleagues or women in general it may be more of a big deal and worth calling out. My ex wife used to work at a hospital where one of the security guards was reported to HR by some of her other coworkers for making homophobic remarks abo…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 12:45 AM
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It’s pretty simple. I don’t believe in god. I never have. I likely never will.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 12:05 AM
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Yes to both. I’m bisexual fwiw, and also somewhere on the trans spectrum myself. I consider myself to be agender if I had to pick a label. But it’s not that important to me socially. Once I had all the surgeries I wanted I pretty much entirely stopped having issues with dysphoria.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 04:45 PM
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I’m not gonna go pay for testing before every single hookup. Especially since many of them happen with no advance warning.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 02:32 AM
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I felt like that was obvious, but yes. I think you should be careful not to take that anger out on your partner, but you can’t really control what emotions come out for various situations.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 08:09 PM
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Well that isn’t me. There is no “wrong” reason to cry. If your emotions lead you to cry then it’s a valid reason to cry.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 07:38 PM
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Personality is more than just social skills although that’s part of it. And we are not all looking for the same thing in terms of personality. I like men with a “softer” personality. Very emotionally expressive. Not afraid to cry in front of me. I like men who are creative and idealistic, but less “driven”. Another woman might find a man like this to be undateable.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 02:20 PM
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That’s so unusual for a woman. I’m pretty damn promiscuous and I still haven’t gone over a hundred bodies in my lifetime despite being close to 50 years old. I rarely had more than one at a time. Gen Z is having even less sex overall than my generation too.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 08:45 AM
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Yeah my feeling is that it’s got some misogynistic roots for a lot of men. Like they don’t consider them to be “real women” and they will treat them soooo poorly sometimes. Like a paid sex worker often. Telling them what to wear and how to do their makeup and hair like it’s build-a-bitch. I know several trans women and the single ones all complain about the “chasers”.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 08:37 AM
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My bad I misread. Thought it said “had” a male waiter with a table full of women. And I have. I guess I have only hung out with women who know how the hell to act.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 08:11 AM
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Plus some boundaries can just make two people incompatible. That’s also a possibility. It doesn’t mean either person is wrong. I broke it off with a guy I was seeing because he wanted to wait months to have sex and that just did work for me. He wasn’t wrong to have that boundary and I wasn’t wrong to not want to accept it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 07:57 AM
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Yes, both can be true. Not every woman is going to have a mature and reasonable response to a healthy boundary. Not every man is either. That is how it is. A lot of humans are not emotionally healthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 07:53 AM
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Honestly kind of. I had theeeee hardest time getting dudes to use a condom and a lot didn’t even bother to ask me about birth control the older I was. Like hello? A 38 yr old can still very much get pregnant and it would be a high risk pregnancy too! I was surgically sterilized so I wasn’t worried but my point is that they didn’t know that because they never asked! It was eye opening and it made me feel way less badly for dudes who cry about “baby trapping”. I literally had a dude cancel the dat…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 07:45 AM
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Yeah, ok gotcha. So I didn’t join with the intention of meeting anyone for a romantic relationship. In fact I mildly judged the people who did that because they were always long distance relationships and I just think you don’t really know each other in that scenario. I joined because I have some kind of niche creative hobbies and was feeling really lonely about it, just wishing that I could find a group of likeminded people who would maybe appreciate what I do. So Chat GPT suggested a discord s…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 03:35 AM
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Which thing? What draws my interest to the discord servers? Or having a relationship with someone I met on one? Just want to double check before I answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 02:19 AM
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I kinda did this with my boyfriend, fully intending for it to be a ONS situation, and now he’s completely obsessed with me. I wound up getting feels for him hard tho. Granted, he is bisexual and a little subby.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 04:46 PM
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Lots of times. Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 04:12 PM
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I met a couple of long term relationships through OkCupid, though the platform has changed quite a bit since then. There used to be a heavy stigma attached to using OLD services. People would legit make up alternate stories about how they met to avoid saying they met online because it was seen as something only for desperate dateless losers back then. I met my current boyfriend through a hobby related Discord server. We were friends on the server but things didn’t turn sexual/romantic until afte…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 03:54 PM
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Yeah, it’s risky. And that’s why some women aren’t willing to do it. Some obviously are willing. But the fallout can be severe even if things work out between you both.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 03:18 PM
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I met my boyfriend on a large and active discord server where I was a mod and VC host, and shit got messy SO fast. It turned out that he had been having an explicit online relationship with another member of said discord server whom my boyfriend had perceived to have rejected him. So he moved on. But when we went public with our relationship, the guy he had been talking to and exchanging pics and videos with before had an apocalyptic meltdown over it, and engaged my boyfriend in a very public fi…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 01:37 PM
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I’m thrilled to have found a boyfriend who is also hypersexual, but the biggest downsides are that I’m constantly distracted from getting anything accomplished on my days off, and now I have seriously fucked with an old injury in my low back and hip from too many orgasms. 😑
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 08:58 AM
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It was easier 20+ years ago by far. If I were having to make that decision now I doubt I would want to have any kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 08:47 AM
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Oh hell yeah, I concur. I have so much love for LSD and this is one of many reasons why.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 08:43 AM
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If you don’t want to and don’t personally see any upsides or value in doing so, I won’t try to convince you otherwise. If I were to give a real reason though, I would say that both men and women are still individuals at the end of the day, and that there a great number of men I have come to trust and care about a great amount in my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 06:37 AM
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If you’re getting exactly what you want out of it then go on with your bad self. Seriously, I’m 100% in favor of sex work. Sometimes it’s nice to have the experience of getting exactly what you want and having someone who only cares about your pleasure for a while.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 06:08 AM
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Yeah I’m not necessarily disagreeing with that. Most of the red/black pill color spectrum are hella hypocritical when it comes to lookism and have zero compunction about judging women super harshly.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 05:49 AM
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If you hook up with a mid girl for a one night stand, the reality is that you’re likely “sharing” her with other men too.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 05:36 AM
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If it were possible, yeah. That would necessitate a pretty huge change in standard of living though, which is already not that high. I don’t make a whole lot and that is very unlikely to change. Edit: No I would not belittle him. Reasons why wouldn’t really matter. It would only become an issue if he weren’t doing a fair amount of errands and housework and were leaving most or all of it for me to do. I’m physically disabled and it’s very hard for me to do everything on my own on top of working f…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 07:55 PM
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That wasn’t really a personal attack. More of a casual observation.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 12:25 AM
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I’m not young, but I’m into kinky sex because of religious trauma. (yay!) Also, OP, you sound like a dirty old man.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 01:07 AM
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No, I’m flattered and I usually flirt back if he’s being smooth and charming. I’m ridiculously easy to pick up if a guy has halfway good game.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 12:57 AM
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“Because I ask them out” would fall under straight telling them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 07:50 PM
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Asking to “hang out” one on one, especially if it’s a sexually charged environment like a club. Offering drugs without expecting any payment for them. Inviting you into my home. Sitting close. Bringing up sexual topics or not shying away from talking about them. Getting giggly and laughing at all your jokes. Paying for your drinks or admission or whatever. Making future plans, especially if we’ve just started hanging out. Flirty banter. None of this is like 100% because I would do most of these …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 07:27 PM
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The OP literally says “besides straight up telling them”. So yeah they’re asking for the less obvious shit. Women are just better at following directions.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 07:18 PM
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Good thing I always have a sex towel nearby.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 12:38 AM
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That made me throw up in my mouth a little.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 12:34 AM
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Yeah that’s what I’ve done in my current relationship. My only concern is where do we go from here to keep it exciting? I mean I’m not fussy and I’m fine with pretty vanilla sex most of the time as long as I’m getting off too. I just don’t want either of us getting bored with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 12:38 AM
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Historically in my past relationships I have been the one wanting to introduce kinks a few years in. Nothing crazy. Really tame stuff. But they’re always just like… so not into it. It takes a lot for me to lose sexual attraction to my partner. They basically have to just shut me down consistently over a period of years. Or say things to me that make me feel bad or gross about my sex drive or my interest in kink. If I’m feeling desired pretty consistently by my partner then I will keep desiring t…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 12:30 AM
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Well every long term relationship I have had has failed because of either a dead bedroom or a partner who was really selfish in bed. There may have been other issues but that was the thing that made it not worth it for me. I’m willing to put up with a lot for a good sex life if i otherwise enjoy spending time with someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 12:13 AM
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I pretty much exclusively date and hook up with these guys (autistic too) and yeah I really do empathize with them. Some of the things they have said to me… I know that it’s really rough out there. That said, I have also heard from them that showing confidence has made a big difference between being overlooked completely and having some options occasionally. And in every case it was their confidence that attracted me to them. So I’m not taking out of my ass when I say that confidence is crucial.…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 11:57 PM
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What does “mankeeping” mean? I guess you could say that my boyfriend was lucky to have met me, and likewise I feel very lucky to have met him. But I wouldn’t say he has been lucky in general. At 32 years old (when we met) he had had very little sexual experience with women. He told me that women were usually not interested in him. He had come out to his family a year prior to us meeting and had been dating men for that time, but before that he had next to no dating or sexual experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 11:42 PM
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As a former slutty woman, I agree. All I ask for is an active, varied and enthusiastic sex life. And if I can get that consistently from one person who I like spending time with as well, then I will absolutely love them and commit to them. I can deal with a temporary drop in my partner’s sex drive, because I know that life happens, as long as it doesn’t drag on for years with no attempts to address it. Sometimes it happens to me too. But I’m too young to sign up for a dead bedroom forever.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 11:36 PM
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What’s the alternative? Putting on a false front? What happens when you get into a relationship and you have to pretend to be that person for the rest of your life? Does that seem realistic? My boyfriend is a very emotionally expressive person. I love that about him. What I saw from him the first time we hung out in person was just a drop in the bucket. Maybe there was a reason that he felt safer being himself around me. I couldn’t say. I’m glad he did though.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 04:10 AM
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Haha my “baby” is 26. I had secondary infertility from adenomyosis, and had a hysterectomy in 2020, so yeah. Just had the one. Tbf, I had zero intentions of having any more anyways.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 02:14 AM
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My boyfriend got moved in with me and it’s been so lovely. 🥰 He’s such a sweet and sexy man. I absolutely adore him.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 02:12 AM
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I’m low key surprised that she didn’t change her mind after the first dozen. Hooking up with men is so not worth it nine out of ten times. If it were not a compulsion for me I’d have stopped long long ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 01:48 AM
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I went through a brief period where my hormones really wanted me to get pregnant and were successful in getting my brain to cooperate with that. It was weird because even inside my head I was like “wtf why do I want this?” Once I succeeded in having a baby those feelings evaporated and never returned.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 01:45 AM
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Yeah, it’s very cruel. And there are tons of average and below average looking men who do this. When I was a lot younger and didn’t know any better I was hurt quite a bit by dudes who did shit like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 01:41 AM
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I don’t have an issue with either sex workers or the people who patronize them. If I found out someone I was dating had seen a SW it wouldn’t change my opinion of them. I might have lots of questions about it, just because I like hearing about experiences that a kind of taboo, but it wouldn’t change my feelings about them at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 11:55 PM
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Ouch. I mean, you’re not really wrong, but still. 😆
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 06:40 PM
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I don’t care about money or status in general. A guy with a lot of money or high status is intimidating to me. It’s a world I don’t feel like I can fit into so I avoid those men as a rule. And what makes a guy “that guy” for me has everything to do with the way he treats me. Looks are not that important. Once I catch feels he’ll be the hottest man on the planet to me regardless.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 05:21 PM
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You can be narcissistic without having NPD. My first husband has been in prison for the past ten years for what he did to me and our child, so definitely not lying or exaggerating. I have no idea which one of the cluster B personality disorders he has, if any, but one thing I know for sure is that he’s abusive.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 04:53 PM
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It think it goes beyond them just being hot. I have seen fugly drug addict dudes be assholes to the women they are with. The women put up with it because they are mentally ill, broken, drug addicts themselves, etc. They are not healthy people in a good place in life. There are a whole lot of women who get away with treating their male partners terribly for similar reasons as well. When you have internalized that you are fundamentally unlovable and that no one else will ever want to be with you, …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 04:48 PM
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Historically that has not been my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 11:50 AM
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Who gives a shit what the “normal” reaction would be? That’s not what my reaction was. Being open and vulnerable with his emotions got him a relationship with a woman who loves and appreciates that about him.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 05:07 AM
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Oh I thought women could only feel that way about men that they have spontaneous attraction to. 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 01:55 AM
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lol. Misinformation. It’s from the very same CDC study that you all so gleefully refer to when you’re trying to make women out to be the violent ones. https://www.thetaskforce.org/news/bisexual-women-have-increased-risk-of-intimate-partner-violence-new-cdc-data-shows/ I read the full report before it was removed during the current Trump administration, but the stats I referenced are included in this article.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 11:53 PM
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Like four months
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 11:18 PM
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By talking about his emotions in a really vulnerable way. Telling me how nice it was to have some human contact when I started slow dancing with him. It just made me want to pull him close and hold onto him.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 07:32 PM
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Love how ya’ll always bring that up but ignore that stats against bi women which dwarf both of those, and 90% of them have only had male perpetrators.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 09:01 AM
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I definitely developed a taste for the types of guys I attract. It didn’t take long for that to happen. By the time I was like 16 I was deeply into autistic dorky dudes.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 02:19 AM
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Ask other bisexual women too then.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 12:59 AM
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Not really, when I’ve heard the same shit from like a hundred men and it’s so predictable I could set a clock to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 12:25 AM
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As a bisexual woman I can verify that this is literally one of the first things that come out of a man’s mouth upon leaning that I am bi.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 03:59 PM
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Yeah, sometimes that’s gonna be the case. My boyfriend had very little experience with women before me. But he loves that he can fully be himself with me and that I love him for it. He doesn’t have to fake being someone different. Maybe he possibly could have gotten the attention of a larger percentage of women earlier by not being himself, but at what cost? I used to do that with men and they were fine with it but I never was. Once I just decided to say “fuck that” and just be authentic, attent…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 03:31 PM
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OP isn’t saying to just stop caring about women period: So secondary to that, for the average guy the best approach is to stop caring as much about what women think about you. Meaning you can just say whatever you want in conversations and you dont need to play whatever role she expects you to play or the role you think you should play. This is the relevant piece of advice. When you try to manipulate yourself and how you act and respond around women in order to do what you think needs to be done…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 11:41 AM
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About a sex robot? I would have zero fucks to give.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 12:48 AM
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It doesn’t need to. That’s the point.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 12:34 AM
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Men are the ones who have made men paying on the first date the default. Ask any woman what happens when she routinely tries to pay for herself, or god forbid both of them, on the first date?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 03:28 PM
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For people struggling with this concept because of the whole “leaving for a younger woman” angle, instead imagine that the husband is just really unhappy in the relationship and wants out. Maybe they have just grown apart and have very different goals in life. Maybe she treats him poorly. Regardless of the reason, he wants out. Having a wife that earns a similar income and getting awarded 50/50 custody by default will make it much easier for him to exit that relationship without there being a ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 03:37 AM
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Yeah I would agree with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 03:15 AM
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Haha my boyfriend loves it
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 01:28 AM
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When he jizzes in your mouth and you spit it into his mouth.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 01:27 AM
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Well, physical strength, or at least lean muscle mass, is very important for a lot of health reasons. So it’s a good thing to do for yourself. But that doesn’t necessarily translate to looking jacked. Though it will generally improve your posture and overall body composition. I would never discourage someone from doing weight bearing exercises. It’s super good for you on so many levels. I just think there are diminishing returns in terms of attracting women.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 10:09 PM
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Idk man, I think a lot of us know that we aren’t model material and don’t have that expectation of our partners either. Even if an objectively 7/10 guy genuinely liked me and wanted to be with me I would always be wondering what’s wrong with him and I would be intimidated by the fact that he is so much more attractive than I am. I’d be worried about better looking women hitting on him. I don’t think I would be able to feel secure in that kind of relationship. It’s nuts to me that some men here t…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 09:35 PM
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Thank you. That experience really fucked up my ability to trust my judgment for many years, and I wound up in other bad situations because of it. After he got arrested I finally started to remember everything that had happened in a new context and realize that I can trust those instincts about people. It has made it much easier for me to date because i don’t feel like I have to give men a chance when they are throwing up red flags, and I am VERY sensitive to those now.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 08:29 PM
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Bro, I had been using the same clit sucker for the last 9 years until my wife took it with her when she left me. They don’t sell that same one anymore and none of the ones I have bought to replace it feel the same and I’m dying.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 08:12 PM
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I’m most definitely thinking about the ways that sex robots and other tech advancements could enhance my sex life. I’m partnered but we are both bisexual. Unicorn hunting is gross tho. I wouldn’t want to use an act human as a sex toy, but using a sex toy as a sex toy does sound quite intriguing.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 08:05 PM
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Yeah as the tech advances I will most definitely be neglecting real life sometimes. It very easy to just sucked in.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 07:59 PM
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I know when men are physically attractive but I’m not attracted to them. If that makes sense. Experiences in my younger years had led me to have a negative association with physically attractive men. Even if they are nice to me (well especially if they are nice to me) I just don’t trust them. The ugly and below average guys were the only ones who were ever interested in me and genuinely nice to me. They’re my people. Good looking people exist on another plane that I have never had the privilege …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 07:34 PM
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Sometimes it’s pretty obvious. Other times they’re much better at hiding their toxic traits until you are more deeply involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 07:14 PM
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Not at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 07:05 PM
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Everyone liked and trusted my first husband. When I went to the hospital and asked for help and told them he was abusive, he found me there, and talked to the doctors and convinced them that I was delusional. And they believed him and convinced me to go home with him. I still left him anyway a few years later, right after he escalated to physical violence for the first time. Unfortunately I was unable to keep him from getting partial custody of our child and he is now in prison for what he did t…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 07:03 PM
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It is relevant because the numbers do not support the likelihood of a future society of a hypermasculine queer patriarchal nature. First of all only about 10% of Gen Z men (vs 30% of women) are IDing as LGBTQ and not all of those are into men. Second not all queer men are hypermasculine nor do they want to be. My boyfriend disliked dating men because he felt it very difficult to connect with anyone on a romantic or emotional level.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 06:51 PM
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If it’s that simple then you should have no problem explaining it to me. In what way is it absurd.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 06:44 PM
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It’s not as uncommon as you think. My ex successfully manipulated not just me but also everyone I went to for help in the moments that reality broke through for me, his family, my family, all of our friends. Nobody believed me. He used my history of mental illness against me to convince everyone that I was imagining the abuse. And eventually I became convinced that everyone else was right too.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 06:44 PM
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Explain
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 06:38 PM
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Look, if that pint of Haagen Dazs will commit to me then I’ll just be fat and happy. Life is too short to eat nothing but chicken breast and broccoli.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 06:37 PM
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Maybe in the short term. I learned very young that those types of men put in zero effort tho and the sex is bad. I go out of my way to avoid good looking guys now. Anyone above a 5 has to put in way more effort to convince me that he’s worth me giving the time of day to.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 06:31 PM
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It doesn’t get boring for me. I feel a lot more comfortable experimenting and trying out new things with a steady partner whom I trust than some rando I just met. I love that my bf is into the same kinda weird shit as me. We’re planning to do an alien abduction RP with like a full on set and costumes and everything soon and we’re gonna take turns being the alien. 😜 He’s a literal dream come true.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 06:24 PM
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Not as long as he keeps fucking me. Making me cum is like his favorite thing to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 06:15 PM
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Which part.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 06:13 PM
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Oh yeah for sure. My male friends are awesome too.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 06:12 PM
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Oh yeah, there are some positive things I have taken from being here too. Like you said, I make sure that he feels desired and knows all the time how attractive he is to me. I also have taken it to heart that men rarely receive compliments and I try to overcome my social anxiety and compliment men on their outfits much more often. Hopefully it makes their day at least sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 04:21 PM
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Old and mid. Not particularly fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 04:18 PM
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Yeah, I’m totally fine will all of that as long as he washes some dishes without being asked to and handles his emotions in a healthy way. You can’t half ass it!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 04:16 PM
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You too huh?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 04:12 PM
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That’s so cuuuuuute!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 04:11 PM
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I love r/love and r/bald. They are both such positive communities!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 04:11 PM
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Idk about any of the other women here, but I often find myself feeling extra grateful for my boyfriend after spending time on this sub. I’m so glad he’s nothing like a lot of the men here. Like damn.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 04:10 PM
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Which thing
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 02:33 PM
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My male friends are either already partnered, not interested in me, or people I have already dated that it didn’t work out with.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 01:05 AM
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He was a violent man. But evidently even he had limits as far as what he was willing to do for sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 12:51 AM
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You’re not wrong. My grandma used to make my grandpa sleep in the barn when she didn’t want to get pregnant for a while.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 11:58 PM
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There are three times more Gen Z bi women as there are bi men. Im dating a bi man right now and he did not have great things to say about the experience of dating men.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 10:00 PM
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Yeah but if progressives are reproducing at much lower rates, then the number of conservatives that come out of that will be fairly negligible. Funny thing is, when you are born LGBTQ and your family of origin treats you as a disease to be managed, a moral failing, or a second class citizen because of it, you tend to not really agree with their values so much. And currently more than 1 in 5 Gen Z’ers are identifying as LGBTQ.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 08:01 PM
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We’re talking about Gen Z and Gen Alpha here though. Younger generations are much more likely to identify as bisexual, and women are much more likely than men to identify as bisexual. While historically most bi women have been in relationships with men, the tides can certainly turn on that if more and more young men become unsuitable partners. Especially as it becomes less economically viable to have children.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 07:52 PM
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Many many progressives and LGBTQ people come from very conservative families. Myself included.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 07:42 PM
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We’ll never “die out”. My sister and I were raised in a conservative household and rejected those values wholesale. Same with a whole lot of people I know. You can try to raise your kids however you want but they are still individuals.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 07:29 PM
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Yes I will try to pay for my own. If I was the one to initiate asking them out then I typically insist on paying, though it’s rare for me to not be argued with about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 07:02 PM
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Yes, but the number of Gen Z women who believe that is still well below the number of Gen Z men who believe that. Bisexual women aren’t limited to dating lesbians. They can date each other, bi men, or more progressively minded straight men. They are pretty unlikely to date men with heavily conservative values though.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 05:06 PM
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At least the men who believe women’s duty is in the home.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 03:01 PM
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It may not change their minds, but there will be fewer options for the men with these values to pair with. The LBGTQ women will just pair off with one another or with other queer men who are not monosexual. Of those conservative Gen Z that manage to pair off and reproduce, many of their children will ultimately reject those ideals as well (speaking as someone who did did exactly that, and so did my sister).
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 02:43 PM
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A much much higher percentage of Gen Z women self id as LGBTQ so it seems like the problem could be self correcting.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 02:36 PM
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lol straight down to business
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 02:54 AM
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Like I said. I don’t have a dick. You would have to talk to other guys about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 02:37 AM
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To me they are pretty uncomfortable, but yeah they look sexy. If you go up one size from your usual then they’re not nearly as bad. That is my secret. They have existed since before the seamless laser cut ones you mentioned tho. Personally, I started wearing the men’s loose cotton boxer shorts when I was pregnant and couldn’t afford to buy maternity stuff, and they were so comfortable that I went back to wearing them a few years ago when I was getting painful rashes from women’s underwear (sorry…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 02:16 AM
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I don have a dick so I cannot speak to that but it’s a completely different sensation, and after spending some time using a vibrator or clit sucker for a while the nerve endings in my clit are unbelievably sensitive. My boyfriend and I like to use one for a bit mid session, and afterwards he can just touch the tip of his tongue to my clit and I’m cumming. It’s insane. I have routinely used my toys on myself for 5-6 hours at a time while my bf and I were long distance and my shit is so sensitive …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 02:03 AM
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I think it’s fantastic and I’m looking forward to augmented reality with full sensory integration so that you can see, touch, and have sexual experiences with Ai entities!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 01:58 AM
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Nah, I genuinely prefer it over being freshly washed. I love the muskiness. It smells soooo sexy to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 01:14 AM
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Yeah idk bout you but swallowing a mouthful of snot is kinda nasty. I do really enjoy the taste of unwashed pussy and dick tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 12:42 AM
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lol well put a load of your cum in your mouth sometime. It’s not exactly the most pleasant thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 12:16 AM
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Sex should be fun and enjoyable for both parties. That is a hill I will die on. If you’re not getting what you need out of someone, there are plenty of fish in the sea, and some of those fish will tongue your asshole if you ask nicely.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 11:40 PM
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Well that’s about how long it takes for me to cum the first time so I think after that they’re too busy patting themselves on the back to realize I’m just getting warmed up.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 10:40 PM
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My ex wife was a diesel mechanic and I went crazy for her sweaty pussy at the end of the workday. If it’s freshly washed it takes away the natural smell and taste. A slightly sour/metallic taste is very normal. If it tastes actually bad then there is likely a fungal or bacterial infection and no matter how clean it is it will taste bad till that is treated.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 10:38 PM
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They say they love it but then just don’t back that up with action. And I don’t give them a second chance after that.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 10:27 PM
1

Not even. They make things even more sensitive, not less.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 10:23 PM
3

Ok but unless you are putting in overtime specifically to afford paying for dates then you are not doing anything you wouldn’t be doing otherwise. You’re just allocating your funds accordingly. As far as the commercialization of Valentine’s Day, it’s probably a bit of both on that. If you don’t want to spend hundreds of dollars on jewelry every year, establish that early. I have never expected anything more than a small token box of chocolates or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 06:38 PM
2

How does it take more time and effort to pick up the check? Is it really that women inherently care about the amount of money spent on them for Valentine’s Day? Or is it the shameless commercialization of the holiday that has convinced men that is necessary?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 03:17 PM
2

How often do women pay the entire bill compared to men? How much do women spend on Valentine's day compared to men? Like, be for real. Time and effort to pick up the tab more often? And if we are strictly comparing time and effort then who cares who spends more for V-day?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 12:57 PM
1

Well nobody ever got arrested and sent to prison for having a high body count unless those bodies were also dead.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 06:44 AM
4

The hell. If you killed someone in the past it most definitely could change your partner’s future. Ask Gary Ridgeway’s former wife about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 02:27 AM
1

Men will assume we are lying no matter what we tell them anyways. If you tell the gods honest truth about your body count they will mentally multiply that number by two or three or four or whatever the man-o-sphere slut inflation calculator is telling them these days. They will assume that you let multiple Chads run a train on you and spit roast you every weekend even if you have a body count of three. So what difference does it make? I just tell them that I have lost count. It’s the truth. I do…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 02:22 AM
5

Amen to that. It’s been a long time since I have attempted to use dating apps and it will be half past never before I do so again.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 02:17 AM
0

Definitely. I definitely am right now, in an all encompassing, life altering sort of way. I feel like I’ve been pulled into a black hole, spaghettified, and then knit into a sweater to keep him warm. Like, it makes me really question if I have ever actually been in love before now. Because never in my 47 years on earth have I felt like this about another person.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 02:04 AM
2

I love just staring at my boyfriend’s face and memorizing every detail. It’s not sexual, and it’s not because he looks like a celebrity or anything. Objectively he just a normal average guy. But he’s MY guy. And everything about him is perfect to me. ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 01:27 AM
2

Lots of oxblood and aubergine pill men out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 12:43 AM
8

He’ll always be Chad to me. IDGAF what the pill-heads would think about him. 🫶
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 12:42 AM
4

Look, the content of that thread is pretty clear from the title alone. If it’s gonna make you feel like shit, don’t click.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 12:34 AM
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As far as men in general go, yeah it hasn’t been super common. I would say definitely under 50% total have, though all of the men I have been in relationships with have. Of those who do (not counting those from longer term relationships) I’ve been pretty lucky to get 20-30 seconds of it tops. Most of the time they don’t even stick with it long enough to make me cum once, which is sorta pathetic because it’s ridiculously easy to make me cum. What makes a man good at it in my book is if I’m having…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 12:29 AM
1

I feel like I have known him through hundreds of lifetimes. It’s the most intense bond I have ever shared with another human being. I couldn’t fathom ever loving anyone else as much as I love him. I love that we have so many shared interests even though they are pretty niche, and that he loves and appreciates all of the weird shit about me. I love going antique shopping with him, going dancing at the club, making art with him, and can’t wait to go camping with him in the desert when the weather …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 12:14 AM
2

Yeah same. I can never gauge from just pics and texting/chatting if I’m gonna really feel a connection with someone. One guy I actually got along with so great both over text and in person, and we just never ran out of things to talk about and had the best conversations. But then as soon as we started to get physical the chemistry was just completely absent and we both felt it. 😞
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 10:13 PM
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To be clear, I’m fine with “odd” in the harmless sense. All of my exes have been ND, some to a pretty extreme degree. I’m used to it, I get it very much myself, and I find it to be charming most of the time. But a lot of these guys have internalized some toxic masculinity and allowed it to turn them into not very good people. Refusing to get treatment for obvious mental health issues is one of the biggest, as well as just plain bottling up negative emotions and letting them fester. Allowing soci…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 07:36 PM
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Okay. Whatever you say. I have been there. Dude had everyone fooled. Not just me. He’s in prison now. Thank god I never stopped working.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 06:28 PM
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Oh yeah because men always show you how things are gonna be beforehand and never put on a facade until after you’re already dependent and it’s much harder to leave. 🙄 I’m sure you’d be so much better at picking the one non-abusive trad husband out of a pile of misogynists.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 06:09 PM
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The other side of that coin is that when we excel at our chosen path, that success is continually diminished, discounted and overlooked and overshadowed. 😃
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 06:05 PM
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To be valued for what I am (a body regardless of the actions taken by said body) Just so long as those actions don’t include having sex with too many men. Whatever “too many” means to each individual person. And it’s not just men that will judge you for that either. Better hope you never get sexually assaulted as well because good luck getting justice if you have any kind of history that can be brought up in court. To find a partner willing to pay for me. I mean yeah, that’s usually possible but…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 05:58 PM
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The odds are good, but the goods are odd.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 05:37 PM
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Female-like?! 😒
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 05:32 PM
6

Your experience sounds a lot like mine. I used to use OkCupid back when it was just a website and it was mostly used by people who took it seriously and wanted to meet someone they were compatible with. They had thousands of questions you could answer, and you could choose how your ideal mate would answer and how important it was to you, and each profile showed you a match score. I didn’t get a lot of nibbles but I went out on at least one date with any guy who asked me as long as he didn’t have…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 04:47 PM
1

Dating for women is like floating in an ocean full of sharks with nothing but a life vest to keep you afloat.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 04:39 PM
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Yeah i don’t doubt that. I’m just saying that being appreciated only for that (and only just barely, because let’s be real, I’m well aware that men are more than happy to fuck women they think are unattractive if they’re horny enough so it’s not exactly a compliment) isn’t a fucking paradise that men seem to think it is. It makes you feel like garbage. When I was raped by an acquaintance it made me feel like “Oh well, everyone else has had a piece. Does it even really matter? That’s all I’m good…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 04:33 PM
4

I think I mainly hang around here because it makes me appreciate my boyfriend that much more. He really could have turned out like one of these guys, but didn’t. He’s about 5’7” and started going bald at 16. I love him so intensely that it’s physically painful sometimes. He’s such an amazing man.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 03:06 PM
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I would ask the same of men. Don’t assume that you know what it’s like. I don’t personally think I’m THAT ugly, but I really haven’t had much “male attention” that wasn’t 100% with the goal of hooking up and no intention of taking it any further than that. When it comes to men actually wanting me, loving me, seeing who I am as a person and embracing all of it fully? That’s so rare. In fact it’s so rare that I’m 47 and it didn’t happen until late last year for me. I know that men think they would…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 03:03 PM
3

There are a lot more female dominated jobs than that where dealing with bodily waste is common.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 01:32 AM
8

Right but there are a lot of people that you spend a ton of time around starting from infancy that you may not even have a choice about. Like your family for example. In what ways should you be taught to treat your partners that would differ significantly from say, your siblings?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 07:46 PM
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Like how should people be taught to treat their partners that would be different from how they should be taught to treat people in other types of relationships?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 07:09 PM
1

Then what did you mean by this: This sounds like a person describing a 2 hour long warmup procedure to allow an engine to start up and then going "oh it's very user friendly". Everyone can see that it's not. Maybe a man who has to move heaven and earth to get you in the mood is one you're less attracted to than one who doesn't?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 06:52 PM
1

Well that would be most of us then? So fucking what? Toys certainly aren’t necessary to be good at making a woman orgasm, but they’re an option that many women are into.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 06:14 PM
1

Bull. Spend some time on the sex subreddit. Plenty of straight couples incorporate the use of vibrators and all kinds of other toys into their sex lives. I’ve been doing it with straight male partners since my mid 20’s and my boyfriend at the time was the one who suggested it. Most women don’t have an issue with it at all, but straight men are more likely to be insecure about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 06:05 PM
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You can be good at sex without involving a penis at all. I was in a relationship with a woman for seven years before my boyfriend, and the quality of the sex I was having was significantly better than it had been with any men prior. And before you say it, i don’t like being fucked with a strap on or dildo, but men can incorporate the use of toys just as well as women can anyways.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 06:00 PM
1

I’ve had sex with a lot of unattractive men who still only saw me as a body and had no interest in having a relationship with me. Men are not usually that picky about who they fuck and if they are looking to get their dick wet they will get it from anyone. This is where a lot of my mistrust of men stems from. But hypersexuality is a compulsive behavior. And sooner or later I get tired of masturbating. I still had to seek out casual sex and put a decent amount of effort into finding it, and I eve…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 05:11 PM
1

You’re just making assumptions now. I love giving him pleasure and will do that any way that he wants me to. Even when he’s completely soft I love to lick, touch, and fondle his cock, and do other things that he greatly enjoys. He’s only able to cum like 3-4 times a day max though, and he gets extremely gratified from making me orgasm, so most of the time we spend in bed is doing that. He will initiate it even if he is completely spent himself.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 05:00 PM
1

Well that wasn’t my experience. I have always been pretty average looking in the first place, and then I started losing my adult teeth at age 12 because of a genetic condition. I have never been seen as desirable and most of the “male attention” I have received has been in the form of crude street harassment from drunk bums, which was more terrifying than flattering. I never had men beating down my door to date me. If anything it takes me a lot longer to trust a man when he shows interest becaus…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 04:54 PM
1

Then it shouldn’t be taking you two hours to convince her of anything? It’s a simple yes/no question isn’t it?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 03:11 PM
1

Any man can be good at sex if he actually gives a shit about it. But they’d have to think of someone other than themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 02:39 PM
2

I am a woman. And frankly I’m pretty average other than looking pretty good for my age. I’m also into men, and don’t require any of that. I just posted a portrait I drew of my boyfriend. I mean it’s not photorealistic or anything, but you tell me if you think he’s “extremely attractive.”
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 02:29 PM
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If it takes you two hours to get one orgasm out of a woman, that’s a skill issue. It ain’t difficult. I have yet to be with a woman who I can’t make cum in under five minutes. And I’m not exactly rushing anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 02:14 PM
3

So the only thing that determines how romantic a person is paying for stuff?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 11:24 AM
1

Specifically who is complaining that men aren’t “romantic” though? If all of this is basically forced and unappreciated though, then it seems the man should “choose better”. I might actually be aromantic or demiromantic, but I also have no expectations of romantic overtures from my partner. I will always do these things for my partner though because I realize for most people it does matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 11:20 AM
8

Nah, I paid for my first date with my boyfriend and went and picked him up. It’s a big part of the reason that he’s my boyfriend now. He didn’t try to argue with me like every single other man on the planet has.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 11:01 AM
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My sex drive is and has always been very high, with the exception being when my child was really young. My first husband and was pretty fucking useless. I was the one working and he was supposed to be taking care of the kid and the house so that I could work. But I would gone home every single day to him playing PC games and a baby that needed a diaper change and fed, and the home a total disaster. I grew to resent him for that very much. I was exhausted and pissed off, and on top of that he act…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 10:48 AM
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And for the record, women find it absolutely vulgar to actually hold that power in a relationship and have their partner be the sub. Definitely not. I find the idea that I should have to submit to anyone to be vulgar. I hold that power in my relationships and if my partner isn’t willing to go along with that then they can find someone else to be with because it won’t be me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 05:34 AM
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I’m a woman with a very dominant personality and omg YES I’m attracted to soft men. Not like a wimpy pushover sad boi type man. My boyfriend is confident and outgoing, but he has this softness and sweetness to him that just makes me melt. He’s emotionally open, sensitive, romantic. Super queer and flamboyant. Physically small. He likes having a partner who takes the lead. I want to take care of him and protect him and keep him forever. I love being the big spoon and kissing the top of his head. …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 05:24 AM
1

Honestly, it’s been six weeks since I have seen my boyfriend and that just sounds like heaven right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 04:10 AM
2

How do you plan on find out about all of those? You think there’s like a CarFax but for women?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 03:18 AM
1

Idk but most bisexual people don’t experience attraction to all genders in exactly the same way.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 09:17 PM
1

Ok, I was merely asking him for clarification on his own answer. That’s all.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 09:12 PM
1

I do get spontaneous attraction to women, though it’s a relatively small percentage of of women. I definitely have a “type”.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 08:58 PM
2

Not even remotely. I am bisexual and so is he. Almost all of his prior sexual experience before me has been with men. I enjoy topping and being in a dominant role with partners and always have. Sex with my boyfriend is legitimately the best sex I have ever had in my life with another human being. We will literally fuck for 5-6 hours a day and only stop because we have other shit to do. To say that I genuinely desire him would be an understatement. I cannot keep my hands off of him when we’re in …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 05:59 PM
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Well. You’d be wrong. If you had even said that she’d be willing to, that I could maybe understand. Even then some women absolutely hate it and won’t do it for anyone, like I used to be. But wants to? Nah. A relatively low percentage of women really want to do that, and those women would likely want to do it with anyone they were with whether they gave two shits about him or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 05:27 PM
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You don’t have to be a sexual prude to not enjoy that. That ain’t how it works. That would be like me saying that that a man can show he genuinely desires me by enjoying it when I finger his asshole, and if he doesn’t enjoy that then he is a sexual prude. My boyfriend loves being pegged but does not enjoy the idea of being blindfolded during sex. I would definitely not call him a prude despite not being into that one fairly mundane thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 04:22 PM
1

I have received a lot of great answers. And I’m still asking commenters to clarify vague answers or circular answers. Nobody has to if they don’t want to. It’s not that deep.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 04:06 PM
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Clearly it isn’t obvious to a lot of men based on how they talk about it here. But if some men don’t feel they need additional evidence beyond the fact that she is in a relationship with him, that’s just as valid for him. 🤷
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 03:59 PM
4

It’s not particularly common for a woman to actually enjoy having a dude cum in her mouth. It has an incredibly unpleasant texture and often a really bad taste as well. I used to get super pissed if a dude jizzed in my mouth without even warning me first and would spit it into his belly button. Eventually a female friend of mine taught me how to swallow without any of it ever touching the inside of my mouth, so that has made it bearable for me. I’m actually giving as much side-eye to the laundry…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 03:49 PM
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I meant “shitty things” more in the context of saying things about them being unworthy of love, sexually undesirable, etc. But as a general concept, yeah very much not a female exclusive behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 03:25 PM
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But that’s literally my question. Beyond merely wanting that, what evidence would you, or he, accept as being enough to feel pretty confident about it? Obviously the vast majority of men want their partner to be legitimately attracted to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 10:00 AM
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I don’t think you understand. I told my boyfriend at the time that I wanted him to do that with me and he said that it was too far and he wasn’t comfortable with it. Which was fine. I didn’t bring it up again. There was not ever a single thing that he wanted to do that I said no to.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 09:45 AM
4

Who is “we”? You would have to ask the tradwives that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 09:28 AM
3

Yeah, you’re not intelligent enough for me to continue having this conversation with. Have a good one.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 09:26 AM
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So you’re talking about CNC (consensual non-consent). Yeah I’m familiar with that. I haven’t yet found a man willing to do it with me. Of course I have only broached it with men that I: A) was in a long term relationship with, B) trusted implicitly, and C) had already done some other pretty hardcore kink stuff with. And so far in my life that has been exactly one man. I’m sure as shit not doing that with some random man I met that night at the club.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 09:24 AM
5

I have only heard it used in the context of a woman putting down other women to make herself look better to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 09:18 AM
4

You’re going to have to explain because non-consensual means literally that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 09:15 AM
3

A pickme isn’t a woman who puts in effort to impress a guy she likes. Google it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 09:15 AM
3

Except that isn’t what it means.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 08:42 AM
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Well by definition a tradwife has already been picked, but using that as an example: just being a tradwife is not what would make them a pickme. Saying things like “Well I guess if you are fine with microwave dinners every night, then marrying a “boss babe” is fine.” It’s not her actions or choices that are at issue. It’s literally talking shit about women who don’t do things the same way that you do in order to make yourself look better to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 08:34 AM
5

Hold on… NC as in non-consensual?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 08:24 AM
3

You would think it would be ideal for most guys, but historically they have tended to get burnt out on it really quickly. I’m not all fine with a quickie unless that’s like one of several other longer sessions in the same day. I’m multi-orgasmic and need somebody who is more than happy to spend an hour or two at a time making me cum.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 06:49 AM
5

How would you know that she is legitimately physically attracted to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 06:42 AM
1

This is the way.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 06:29 AM
6

If average men never ask for these things then how are their wives/girlfriends supposed to know that they would like them?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 06:27 AM
1

My personal feelings? No once a week would not be good for me. Ideally I want sex multiple times a day. Although I’m fine with having it less often if the enthusiasm is there, and it’s the types of sex that I enjoy most of the time. I don’t mind initiating and expect to be the one to do so more often, but I do not want to be initiating 98% of the time or more. I also have no problems with planning and paying for dates and other activities on a regular basis.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 06:18 AM
1

Well I’m not heterosexual.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 05:30 AM
7

Genuine desire means enjoying having someone cum in your mouth and doing someone else’s laundry? I feel like more people should be calling these examples out.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 04:40 AM
3

You don’t have to have more than one option at the same time to not be settling. Not settling in that scenario would be holding out and staying single until you find a man who is offering everything you are looking for in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 04:37 AM
1

Yeah, I’m not down with shit tests.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 04:17 AM
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That’s not what “pickme” means. It’s not going above and beyond for someone you are dating. It’s a woman who seeks approval from men by putting down other women.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 04:13 AM
1

Ok I gotcha, that makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 04:07 AM
2

Yeah I assume that’s how it’s meant when I have seen men use it in that context. Like “It’s better than being alone” sort of a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 04:06 AM
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I’m the one that wrote the OP in the first place. I do understand the question. It was your “no deviation from” that I was questioning.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 03:58 AM
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To have someone similar to them to go do shit with? Because they prefer having sex with the same person repeatedly over having to find a random stranger every time? To maybe experience love?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 03:51 AM
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And he used it to describe heterosexual attraction too! Fellas, is it gay for your girlfriend to be attracted to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 03:27 AM
2

And how would she show that exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 03:16 AM
3

I don’t know that I would call pushing for marriage automatically toxic or a red flag, though it can be depending on the context and circumstances (irrespective of gender). But I also think it’s kinda dumb to try to pressure someone into marrying you if they don’t want to. Even if you’re successful you are still marrying someone who doesn’t want to be married.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 03:12 AM
2

What kind of other activities?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 02:57 AM
3

Idk man, I have zero expectations that my male partner provide for me, financially or otherwise. If he decides that he suddenly would like for me financially support him then we may have to have a conversation about that because I don’t make a lot of money. But I’m not ever looking for a provider.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 02:54 AM
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