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You didn’t read my whole comment to understand why I brought that up.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/06/25 08:29 PM
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“We actually have no idea how many of the reports are false… These are not estimates of likely, or possible, false allegations.” Yeah, we don’t know the exact number — but that’s true of literally every crime. We don’t throw out data on theft or assault or anything else just because we can’t perfectly measure the unknown. What we do know is that studies consistently show proven false accusations are rare, usually in the 2–10% range. That’s not nothing, but it’s also not some epidemic. And no — w…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/06/25 08:25 PM
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“Patriarchy has no value as a concept because only rich/powerful men benefit — so isn’t that just oligarchy?” Not quite. Oligarchy is about class power. Patriarchy is about gendered power. They overlap, but they’re not the same. If patriarchy only benefited the elite, we wouldn’t see gendered patterns across all social classes — like how care work is underpaid, how domestic violence affects women more, or how men are still often seen as more “naturally” suited for leadership. That’s patriarchy i…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/06/25 08:07 PM
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You're right that terms like male dominance hierarchy or intra-sexual competition describe specific evolutionary behaviors. Those are real, and they're not inherently about injustice or oppression. They're descriptive of how humans, especially men, have evolved to compete for status and resources. But patriarchy isn’t just about evolutionary instincts. It’s about how those instincts have been reinforced and institutionalized over time into cultural, legal, and political systems that give certain…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/06/25 12:42 AM
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The definition of “patriarchy” can feel all over the place sometimes, especially online. But I don’t think it’s some kind of bait-and-switch so much as it’s just a complex system that affects different people in different ways. The term can refer to a few things -- male dominance in institutions, social expectations around masculinity, or gender-based power imbalances - but they’re all connected. It's not really shifting the goalposts so much as looking at the same structure from different angle…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/06/25 10:21 PM
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I understand where you're coming from, but I think some of your conclusions might be based on selective observations and misunderstandings of how systems of power work. The idea of patriarchy doesn't mean that every individual man benefits more than every individual woman in every circumstance. It describes a broader social structure where historically and institutionally, men as a group have held more power — politically, economically, and socially. That doesn’t mean women never benefit from ce…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/06/25 10:10 PM
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I’m not justifying it. I’m explaining the context and tone that the general public feels, because clearly a lot of people are making criticisms that miss the mark/aren’t taking into account all cultural contexts.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/12/23 07:58 PM
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To be fair you hear more about horny men begging women to humiliate them more than the opposite.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/12/23 07:56 PM
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This is a satirical femdom ad. Out of kinks it’s pretty known and mainstream. It would not be the same when the genders are reversed because maledom as a kink is not satirized nor shown in media like femdom is. Probably because it hits too close to common and real life sex crimes committed by men. It’s easier for the public to digest femdom because if the man is physically stronger it’s easier to imply that it’s consensual and he wants to be in that position. The same tone would not be really co…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/12/23 03:59 AM
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Oh of course. Sorry I misunderstood your reply. I definitely agree the people in power have a disconnect to the normal people in general. Obviously just canning the men and not doing anything about the corrupt women in power. (Looking at you insane US republican female governors…) wouldn’t do anything good. Maybe it would be right to just focus on the power imbalance in all people in general.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/11/23 03:19 AM
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Woah you’re putting words in my mouth. I didn’t say that. When I say patriarchy I mean men in power and old institutions that were created and upheld by men in power. Which is historically, most things. Religions and whatnot included. I don’t mean “ordinary men in general” when I say patriarchy. I believe most men as well as most women are victimized by cultures and practices created by a patriarchy in some way or another. So basically I agree with you.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/11/23 02:50 AM
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It’s not misogyny but hatred of gender non-conformity often stems from the systems of patriarchy. Remember patriarchy hurts everyone, not just women. Who victimizes feminine men the most? I find that it’s mostly men that subscribe to a certain type of machismo. A lot of women fall for gay men because of the femininity other men will bully him over. I’m not saying women don’t hurt feminine men over it but if you ask any man that grew up a little fruity even if they’re straight and they will tell …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/11/23 02:22 AM
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Well said. Obviously nothing proven, but if human females were naturally inclined to be polygamous and females chose the top 10% and left the rest to die, it almost seems like patriarchy and the institution of marriage came into existence by the “undesirable” 90% to try to mitigate that which would’ve been kickstarted by the fact that men are usually bigger and stronger. I also remember someone saying “human males are basically biologically deathly afraid of being cucked” if that’s mostly true y…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates10/11/23 11:01 PM
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I’d say lock them up as long as the accusation would’ve put the guy in jail. I know it’s not that simple and shit doesn’t work like that but I wish it did.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/11/23 10:26 PM
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Personally I think false accusations when proven false should be punished as wasting law enforcements time and defamation. It’s just as disgusting to lie about that shit.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/11/23 10:16 PM
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Good point, haven’t even thought of it that way.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/11/23 11:35 AM
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Well I think a lot of them are going off the notion not that they are violent but that men are “dense” and “don’t get the hint” unless you make it clear as day. They get annoyed because most of the time if a man approaches them on the street it’s for sexual reasons and they want them gone asap so if they’re rude they don’t have to deal with them if they decide to act “dense” and try to stick around. If a man needed directions and there were other people around (men) but went up to you, they may …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/11/23 11:16 PM
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Yeah I agree with you- and also, ageism? Sounds a bit dramatic. If a woman is in her 20s and a man clearly in his 50s flirted with her there’s some glaringly obvious connotations. It’s obviously creepier for an older guy to hit on a young woman and implies a lack of self-awareness or an inflated ego on the man’s part.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/10/23 07:58 PM
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I’ve never understood women who say that. But maybe that’s credence to the fact that I am: 1. Especially emotional/sensitive 2. Short 3. Asian I could see where the woman is coming from if she’s white, tall and rich. But being a white tall rich woman will almost certainly have a better life than a poor short poc man. I feel like the women saying stuff like OP’s post is greatly missing the point. I have a brother and I’ve never wished to be in his position. I’ve also noticed from a VERY young age…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/10/23 06:56 PM
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Sorry, old thread so I know it’s weird to comment but I think you’d be surprised at how unaware and/or uncritical a good majority of the average public is to these problems. I’m by nature introverted so sometimes I forget, but the moment I go into a group of normal people they are intensely uninformed nor critical of the issues Shoe talks about. But ofc the misandrists she showcases is also an extreme end of the spectrum.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/10/23 06:48 PM
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Everybody here is gonna say it’s always good for a woman to be straightforward but from my experience It depends on the man. I’ve had men tell me they thought I was easy (eg not gf material) and it put them off, but had sex cuz it was easy sex. Which was fine, since it was a mutually casual experience, but ofc from the male side of things, it tends to be: having sex with you =/= see you as gf material. You can do what you will with that information, I personally wouldn’t date someone who gets pu…
/r/seduction15/06/23 09:25 AM
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It depends on your personality, your confidence and your circumstance. One man can be happy only having 1-3 partners ever, and another man will not be satisfied until he has taste tested every flavor of woman. I think a moderate number of people (5-15) is the healthiest for most. As it allows experimentation and experience different relationships and people but not so much that it starts skewing your vision of yourself and others. My current partner of ~2 years’ body count was probably around 30…
/r/seduction10/06/23 10:20 PM
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Honestly, those aren’t friends. They’re just being assholes. Humans are deeply affected by people they’re close with.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 06:13 AM
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Internalized shame and puritan culture
/r/seduction03/09/22 07:18 PM
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Agree with all points
/r/seduction20/08/22 05:00 AM
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I do. With my boyfriend. At least once a day.
/r/seduction30/05/22 03:51 PM
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Voice, mannerism. Etc
/r/seduction19/05/22 05:28 PM
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I don’t particularly agree with these criteria, but I can still see and recognize that the “ideal man” is “everything good” in moderation.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 03:26 AM
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In my understanding a hvm is not necessarily 10/10 in looks but at least 5-6/10 plus emotional intelligence, a well paying career, confident but not cocky, assertive but not pushy, and caring but not clingy.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 01:40 AM
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Fixed
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 04:30 AM
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Oh no yeah I know. It’s just a lot of them are also retweeting l0li porn on their Twitter
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 10:52 PM
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I’m short and I look 14. Also non-exclusive pedophiles exist
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 09:43 PM
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Hey! How do I correctly reformat this post? I’m just a little clueless. Thanks :)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 10:49 AM
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Maybe it’s the way you boil women down to what they can do for you? Which is less of a “standard” you have and just a character flaw on your part. Which is what I was pointing out to “get help” The way you commodify and see women as not a person but something that can serve you. At least that’s how your comment was worded. Only seeking a partner for your own sake is ultimately unsustainable. Do you even believe in love? Lol Also- not a lot of women have ridiculous standards lol. I literally only…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 10:46 AM
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Yea and those women stay unhappy and unfulfilled. Just because both exist doesn’t mean you shouldn’t change it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 12:48 AM
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just say u want an obedient sex slave who loves you and leave lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 08:57 PM
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there’s your problem. Get help. Christ.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 08:52 PM
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No. I approach the men I want myself because men that approach me are 99% of the time 10+ years older than me, asian fetishists, pedophiles in denial and all in all just the fucking worst. I have given chances to some ugly/low value men tho when I was younger and dumber which gave me a myriad of emotional and sexual trauma. Ick.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 07:41 PM
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Because I’m horny. It’s not that complicated lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 10:06 PM
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Beautifully said
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 05:24 AM
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Who did
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/22 11:38 AM
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Impossible to quantify. Depends on context. Some people change, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 08:36 PM
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Women don’t work that way. We get off on a narrative, story, power dynamic, etc. There is no “body part” specifically. However if it was like, for example, a picture of a handsome guy dressed like a dominant figure (suit, uniform, etc) in a tastefully sexual tone, that may get some women’s imagination and motor running. Because they can create a narrative based off the context
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/22 04:35 PM
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My boyfriend cried when I gave him a meaningful Christmas present, and I fell in love even more. He’s usually a very aloof guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 02:24 AM
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Honestly, having a special talent or defining feature (musical instrument, in a band, interesting hobbies, etc). Confidence and attitude is everything. On another note, I have seen jaw enhancements via Botox show incredible results.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/22 06:54 AM
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Stay single then
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 10:09 PM
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A man I can wake up next to everyday and go “Damn, I’m lucky”
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 09:45 PM
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Vastly different fetishes or kinks.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 09:25 PM
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It’s not unfair, but a waste of time imo. If they ask ur height just unmatch them
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 09:19 PM
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The kind of women that stay virgin until late 20’s typically are religious, and are looking for men who can provide and support. You’re looking for a career oriented virgin. That’s not gonna fucking happen lmfao. You think you’re owed a loving relationship with a high income virgin, because….what? You’re a virgin and good with kids? Virgin women in their 20’s have very very high standards. Lower your standards, become more high value, or stay single.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 09:08 PM
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They aren’t rejecting you because you’re kind, they’re just trying to soften the blow with a compliment.
/r/seduction02/01/22 12:29 AM
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Because we have a lot of options, and if it feels like someone is wasting our time, we drop them. Supply and demand, blah blah.
/r/seduction02/01/22 12:24 AM
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Yes. Lived in japan for a while, u just had to be 170 cm or above (5’6”)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 12:22 AM
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love and fulfillment for both genders
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 08:41 PM
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It depends on the reason why they’re a virgin/their attitude towards it. By itsself though, no, it’s not a red flag.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 02:14 AM
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Picky eaters. 10000%
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 10:40 AM
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I did not say cute>bombshell, I meant for me personally I look better playing up the cute aspect rather than downplaying my natural advantage and TRYING to be sexy. That’s what I was saying. Not in general. Also yes I know, short women most of the time go after very tall men, but I was saying in my own personal experience I had (as a side note). I was basically saying: yeah I’m one of the stereotypical tall loving shortie, BUT I have also found that a lot of (not most) tall dudes rly like short …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 10:35 AM
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So much of it is personal preference, like I LOVE men that dress like an edgy eboy that wears black nail polish but some women would find that too effeminate. But if you’re just trying to find a very general look, I’d say go for khakis/jeans that fit right, and a clean tshirt or button up with the sleeves rolled up, depending on the occasion.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 04:55 AM
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I know my preference will get hate, but I’m 4’10” and I prefer 5’10”+. Anything over 6’3” is a bit awkward though. Its definitely not a deal breaker though. In fact one of my longest relationships he was about 5’6”-7”, but just by physical attraction, I have a soft spot for tall lanklets lol. To answer your question- 5’9” with model tier face though. I do think a lot of it is from social conditioning that tall=better and I’m unfortunately not free from societal beauty standards. But then again, …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 04:33 AM
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1.) I do genuinely believe this, however I also think some people just don’t have the opportunity or will to meet said person. An introvert that stays inside all day won’t meet anyone, let alone a good match. 2.) I think most of the time when people use this it’s saying “I don’t want to be rude but I have no interest in this please stop talking” LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/21 04:07 AM
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Who tf complains about men watching porn? This is news to me
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 09:32 PM
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With the context that the fds is truly that bad, this is the same as “what does this hvm get out of this toxic relationship?” The example given above does not seem healthy, but perhaps the fds has a charm or personality that he finds endearing and wants to protect. Some HV people date LVs because they like taking care of people, especially the ones that are not doing well. So what does this paternal hvm get out of it? Fulfillment via savior syndrome maybe? But that’s just a very small fraction o…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 09:29 PM
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I think this is definitely related to the point of how Men's Right's Activists only appeared after 3rd wave feminism appeared. Men's right's movement was never a thing until it was made to go "against" feminism. I just think both parties should be egalitarians and stop fighting lmao. There are many valid points to MRA as there is to Feminist's. Thing sthat MRA stand for like incarceration rate and custody battles existed long before MRA. MRA only started to fight off feminism, which at a base le…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/20 03:46 AM
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Right. It really does seem like a trope but once I began actually improving my mental health and gained my self worth back, I met the loml. I don’t think it’s coincidence, I think when we started talking he could see I wasn’t just a piece of meat wallowing in pity
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/20 08:05 AM
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Well if you want a real healthy and fulfilling relationship neither party should have to “power play” and use “head games” to find one. On the other hand, getting simply laid, that is probably the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/20 03:31 AM
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Thanks :) I had no plans of stopping wearing makeup regardless of the responses so no worries on that part. Really was just wondering what the other side had to say, and if they have any real perspective-changing input
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/20 04:33 PM
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I agree with that. Thanks for the response
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/20 04:31 PM
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Thanks for your input! And yeah haha preference is totally fine. Can’t choose what you’re attracted to haha. What’s terrible to you could be decent to other people, vice versa.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/20 04:28 PM
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I see, thanks for your input :)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/20 04:26 PM
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Supermodels wear makeup too don’t they? And if the ugly women do wear makeup to attract a man, is that morally bad in your book?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/20 04:19 PM
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Thanks for the response! I totally agree. I suppose I was looking too specifically on two very opposite spectrums of the argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/20 04:18 PM
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Regardless of what responses come, I’m not gonna stop wearing makeup lol. I was just wondering what people thought about the topic.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/20 04:15 PM
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I wasn’t asking for personal preference, but even for a “natural look”, a lot of men don’t understand or see the difference between actually bare-faced and natural-looking makeup. Can you tell?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/20 04:13 PM
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“Most women” u live in Vegas or smth???
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/20 07:59 AM
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Female here, for men I seem to be attracted to glasses and general “nerdiness” weight doesn’t bother me, but would prefer overweight over skinniness. If fit though, strong arms are a huge turn on. I also like big men, not skinny buff but like, fat buff. (Is that a thing) like not all muscle- but like a lot of fat but equally has as much muscle. Those dudes that remind u of like grizzly bears lmao. Also Ik this isn’t a physical feature but any other hot physical feature doesn’t matter if they don…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/20 07:43 AM
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1.) 8 + 3 same sex 2.) female/20 3.) LTR: 4 ONS: 7 4.) introvert 5.)10- currently with LTR, glad I experimented and got it out of my system 6.) open when it’s FWB/ONS or threesomes with LTR but monogamous for LTR.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/20 07:04 AM
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“damaged” lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/20 06:50 AM
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If that works for you that’s fine, it works the other way for me. Fwb is literally just testing waters before either commits
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/20 04:07 AM
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Because sexual compatibility is important to me. Fully committing to a person before knowing what they’re like in bed is a huge risk for me. It doesn’t work for everyone though I realize.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/20 04:46 PM
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That’s understandable. I see your point and I’ll agree to disagree
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/20 08:24 AM
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That makes total sense. I suppose everyone wants different things from different situations. Thanks for your input :)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/20 08:12 AM
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Again, you’re right if you’re simply going in blind sighted. If “likely to cheat” and “unlikely to cheat” is the ONLY THING you base successful relationships off of then sure, grape away. But there are too many factors to simply say green or purple.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/20 08:06 AM
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Exactly this lol. I suppose it really depends on the person and what you’re looking for, but if you can’t be successful FWB I think there’s a very low chance you can work it out as a LTR, so it is a good testing ground.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/20 08:02 AM
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Some women do feel that way, yes. And that’s completely okay. However I’m talking about when there is an opportunity to “upgrade” there isn’t any real reason not to if both parties want to do so. The real key here is to be on the same page as eachother. If one wants a relationship and one doesn’t, it’s time to cut it off.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/20 08:01 AM
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If all parties are consenting, then I believe it’s completely okay. With any other types of relationships too. Polygamous or not. Forcing or secretly doing either is unhealthy and bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/20 07:59 AM
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I don’t ever think I “date down” because I respect and love my partner but people around me have told me I could “do so much better”. And those people can go fuck themselves lmao. It’s all subjective and depends on the situation and people.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/20 07:51 AM
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If you see your partner as “dating down” that is extremely unhealthy and both partners should see eachother as “dating across”. Relationships are more than “will they cheat or not”. It’s a mutual understanding and respect for eachother and demise is inevitable for anything otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/20 07:49 AM
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This is just bias. Yeah you don’t know any women who ditched their fwb, I know plenty.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/20 07:35 AM
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I guess I should’ve known what kind of answers I would get on this sub haha. Still interesting to hear many (albeit maladjusted) perspectives.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/20 07:31 AM
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You definitely have a point, but it’s not just rotten or fresh. Obviously relationships are more than “likely to cheat” and “not likely to cheat” there are a lot of pros and cons to both grape colors. And rotten purple grapes can’t unrot but people can, and green grapes can also rot eventually, like people too. It’s not a fair comparison in terms of people and relationships. What if your “the one” is a fresh purple grape, but you never gave them the chance because they were purple? And you settl…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/20 07:30 AM
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you definitely have a point. However it’s not like playing the lotto, with all your life savings, it’s like pouring little tiny bits of your money in occasionally and seeing if you win. There’s a chance, and there’s no harm in trying occasionally, and you shouldn’t judge people who HAVE won. Because there are people who have put all their life savings on a “90% chance of getting a million dollars lotto”, and didn’t get it. It just sounds like to me most people on here see the person who won a hu…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/20 07:22 AM
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I think this is a point many failed to grasp, is that I don’t mean degrading one night stands and other non-beneficial relationships, I truly do mean FRIENDS with benefits. With a mutual understanding and respect for each others wants and needs. If that evolves into something more- then yay! If not- that’s okay! I’m glad someone understood where I was coming from.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/20 07:15 AM
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Two years now with plans of marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/20 07:12 AM
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That’s usually how it starts, obviously I don’t start out thinking I’m gonna end up dating them, but by some chance they end up being sexually AND romantically compatible with me, then I don’t see a reason why I can’t date them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/20 07:12 AM
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If you believe something about their mentality just from having FWBs, that’s a you problem. In your mind is it impossible to have a healthy sexual relationship without the emotional commitment? It’s mutually beneficial and have respect on both parties involved. I guess I failed to address the fact that real FRIENDS with benefits have mutual respect for eachother and their needs.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/20 07:10 AM
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Again, this is referring to fuck buddies and ONS, not FWBs. For me, fwb is a mutual respect and understanding of each other’s boundaries and needs. For me, I engaged in healthy and mutually beneficial sexual relationships and I met one who met my romantic needs as well, and thus committed.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/20 07:07 AM
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Yes but what if you by chance picked the fresh purple grape? This is what I’m mostly referring to. What if you got a fresh purple grape, would you throw it out just because it’s a purple grape? Yes you should choose the green grape if you’re just going in blindsighted with no preparation or time. But if you were just walking by a grape vine and happened to find a fresh purple grape, you wouldn’t choose it just because it’s purple?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/20 07:01 AM
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A vast majority of these comments is grouping all women with a high n count into “she belongs to the streets” and “idk cuz it feels gross”. Which was a less satisfactory consensus than I was initially hoping for. It’s okay to generalize when it’s true, but this seems to be people completely ignoring and denying the fact that there are exceptions. (There are more “exceptions” than u think) One point I’ve been reiterating is Correlation=/=Causation “She has a high n count=likely to cheat” When it’…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/20 06:59 AM
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Even traditional women can say that. Obviously I can’t say for certain I’ll be with him forever but that’s the same with trad women. Also if we ever do have a falling out I wouldn’t cheat. I would simply break up and move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/20 06:41 AM
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So your answer to my question is cuz “it’s just...gross” thank you for your intelligent answer lol. Also, I believe the study but that doesn’t necessarily mean “they cheat because they have a high n count” it’s more like “they have a high n count and cheat because of an underlying issue.” So if her reasoning for having a high n count isn’t “I’m insecure and need male attention” then I don’t see that as a reason to claim that she’s gonna cheat. However for women like me, I simply have a high sex …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/20 06:39 AM
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I suppose it's behind the motive and reason for having a high n count. If the woman has a high n count just to feel validated and not just for actually the sex, they got some underlying issues with themselves. For me it was literally just not meeting the right person (but having a high sex drive) so I never felt the need to commit, until my current ltr.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/20 06:28 AM
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Nothing "changed" persay. I just met a person that I connected with on a deeper level through a FWB relationship and decided it was time to commit and have a real romantic relationship and after that I had no urge or need to have other "Friends" because I found one who checks all my boxes.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/20 06:24 AM
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Call me lying or a ho or whatever but I completely ditched all my other fwb's because we caught feelings for eachother. Before that I never really commited thus never ditched. I have no desires to get with anyone else right now. We've been together for 2 years
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/20 06:14 AM
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we've been dating for two years lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/20 06:12 AM
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When I was younger I did sleep around, because i didnt feel a need to commit to one person back then. Doesn't necessarily affect my relationship now.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/20 04:37 AM
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well sjw's hold a completely different value then what real feminism does. There are also a lot of different subsets of feminists. Doesn't feel right to dump them all into one group. Some are more tolerable than others.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/20 04:13 AM
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really really great point
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/20 08:16 AM
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I’m not sure what you’re trying to say
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/20 02:13 AM
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Because men are generally conditioned to think they need to be dominant and aggressive, while women not so much.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/20 01:11 AM
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Over all, I just feel that this post is written in a very condescending way, like you are fishing for drama to start. Saying “women create the nice guys they hate.” Instead of saying something more neutral and less incel-like “Bad mothers make ‘nice guys’.” The way you worded this post, makes you sound like you’re somehow trying to blame all women for how shitty people end up. ‘Mothers’ and ‘Women’ arent interchangeable. It’s all in all a misleading, badly worded post. Your ground point in that …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/20 11:28 AM
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Well the thing is- we’re talking about the “nice guy” thing here. Not just men who can’t get a gf. That’s another story. There is most definitely something wrong with “nice guys”, whether it’s conscious/voluntary or unconscious/involuntary. Also I was talking about children boys with the “love yourself” thing. Because you specific brought up “raising a boy” in the original post. You aren’t talking about mother’s initial reactions to their adult son suddenly confessing to her that he’s a nice guy…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/20 11:12 AM
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I think these advices could do a lot harm as well, it would need to be perfectly balanced and well thought out. Personally my mother always called me fat and I need to focus on my looks to get men- which resulted in me thinking I’m uglier than I supposedly am. It would result in always just needing “more”. “I need to be skinnier/more muscular” “I need to be prettier/hotter” and results in arguably worse mental state than being a nice guy. I think what needs to be emphasized is you should focus o…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/20 01:14 PM
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You definitely have a point and I understand where you’re coming from and have no real argument haha. Just as a discussion, what do you think mothers should do to avoid this from happening? What would be a more effective way to teach this to her kids? Obviously I don’t expect you to have a full blown analyzed answer, but if you got any ideas I’m very interested
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/20 11:12 PM
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I think referring to these as “which has got a better deal” is extremely vague, both are okay and both have its pros and cons, and it completely depends on the person. If you’re not the emotional type who enjoys being loved and loving back, and have a sense of genuine love, FWBs are always gonna be your best bet. It is also very different for everyone how sex affects people’s view on them. Some have sex with you and it deepens their connection because to them sex is emotional. As for others, the…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/20 09:03 PM
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Okay but the “nice guy” stereotype you’re referring to here is absolutely not what mothers taught them. The stereotype means men who are entitled, rude, dishonest and view women as a stamp card reward rather than a human being. Being taught to be kind and responsible is not what shapes boys into “nice guys”. Toxic mothers are a different story completely, a majority of “nice guys” I met hate their mother. I really don’t think you’re onto anything here unfortunately.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/20 08:48 PM
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If this is the case, I rarely, rarely see this. I think you’re making something up that barely exists. I really don’t think women are complaining about men who find them attractive and have conversation with them, but instead the creepiness and assumption that she would want to be with him and the one-sided harassment. Bad take, irrelevant example and overall unfortunate post.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/20 08:42 PM
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Well, I think it’s a bit more complex than that. For example, if a bank left it’s doors and safes open and unattended, and someone steals from them- the bank should expect that, and be more responsible. However, the criminal is still the robber. No matter how irresponsible the bank is, that doesn’t justify the robber robbing the bank. It’s still morally wrong. Just because they left the locks open, doesn’t mean it’s an open invitation to raid the bank. You don’t know why they left it open, how t…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/20 08:19 PM
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