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Same..... It drives me absolutely mental that there is the expectation you have to "tell" a man to reciprocate..... um, it's called basic human caring? Why should I have to tell some dude that he isn't meeting the bare minimum? Fuck off, they aren't dumb, they know full well, and don't care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 05:24 AM
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Don't bring this up again, dump him. What an absolute douche, he is jealous he didn't hurt her? Wtf?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 02:20 AM
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Incidentally, I wish more people felt confident to step in and say something, I would have loved someone to say something to me when I had first started seeing my LVXs Like when I was 18.... and decided I was going to move in with the 28yr 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 12:17 AM
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Hah! I'll have to see if I can find the link to the article, but actually, a lot of mining companies PREFER women to drive their big and horribly manly mining vehicles because women are better at it. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 12:15 AM
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Yes! So glad that guy was looking out for her. I think sometimes women have been indoctrinated into the whole "charming but broken epic love story bullshit" that whilst we logically we know the red flags, sometimes we turn a blind eye because "he can change " (don't waster your time) or "he is sometimes really sweet and loving" (for now till he has you hooked and then he will drop the sweet act) etc etc.... So having a impartial 3rd party say something like this, can really help us see through t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 12:13 AM
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I think in a way, because in the past you've been lovebombed you are equating anxiety and feeling off centre with "love". So when you spend time with someone sane, they don't give you that anxious butterfly feeling, so therefore your brain says you can't possibly be attracted to them. I agree with the above commenter, take a break, heal some more.
/r/askFDS15/08/21 10:21 AM
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No one can make anyone break up, she pointed out what she thought of the situation, GF realised she had a point and chose to leave. The brother and the family are dicks, good riddance them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 10:07 AM
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Girl, same. Any young women on fds reading this please RUN. I had the same situation, 8yrs and a slow destruction of my soul. Plot twist, we separated years ago, he is now dating someone who is 20yrs younger then him. My friends and I call her the childbride 🤷‍♀️ (because they met when she was 17 🤢)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 02:04 AM
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I think I just threw up a little 🤢 So he commented on her pic, she DIDNT respond and then he tracked her down on instagram? 😒 Ergh no. smacks dumbass man with a rolled up newspaper This is just gross and I stopped reading at this point. Leave the child alone, and let her get an education.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 02:01 AM
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Have to agree with this one. My sons dad and I are separated (when my son was 2, he is now almost an adult) and whilst I actively avoid spending time with his dad if possible, the few times I have been to his house it was exactly like this. Empty/dirty fridge, bathroom disgusting, smelly litter box etc. And he was exactly the type to palm off chores to me while we were together. In fact, years later when he helped me pick up a new washing machine (I dont drive and this was when we were vaguely t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 01:55 AM
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I freaking DESPISE this. Previous partners 100% used this to get out of doing housework, because they "weren't good at it". I was a huge people pleaser in the past, and also I take a lot of pride in keeping a nice house and taking care of my family, which the NVXs took complete advantage of. I'll never share a house with anyone who tries this bullshit again. Nor will I put up with my son doing it either (and good on the writer for reading her son the riot act when he did) I remember one really v…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 01:35 AM
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Yep that's the same for me too. ☺😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 01:13 AM
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Also, that whole "men keep the lights on and the world running" Women are perfectly capable of doing all of that Maybe stop only hiring men for certain roles 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 12:19 AM
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I would happily turn down 672,000 men. 🤷‍♀️ And my "body count" is single digits, because frankly, most men aren't worth the effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 12:16 AM
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Wtf? Maybe husbands could start by actually maintaining healthy relationships 🤷‍♀️🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 09:13 AM
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Don't.... a significant proportion of males devalue women based on their looks? 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 02:12 PM
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I used to consider botox for vanity reasons. I spent over a decade in abusive relationships and ended up with serious deep 11 lines in between my eyebrows. Everytime I looked in the mirror I was reminded of how many years I spent unhappy.... I've now been happily single for 6years and after a few years of facial massages and actually learning to relax, they are almost gone. I'm glad I didn't bother, I like the fact that them fading is a reminder now of how far I have come since I left my ex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 02:08 PM
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Agreed. I'm working on my teen son, basic skincare is essential for all I think.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 02:05 PM
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I'm actually saving up for botox for this reason. I have horrid TMJ, bruxism and migraines. I've actually cracked teeth before from my teeth clenching during the day. It's not vanity, but pain relief for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 02:04 PM
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Yes! This. There is actually a book I've read and recommend to all my female friends who are in these situations. It's called "too good to leave, too bad to stay". You are allowed to be happy, you don't have to stay in unfulfilled meh relationships just because it's not a dumpster fire of DV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 01:59 AM
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Holy fuck, that poor child. (And woman + new partner obviously) I'm just imagining how hard it would be for the son to live with that image
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 12:38 AM
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I'm not sure if my narc ex had a replacement lined up before I left, it was pretty quick that I switched from "this is fine, I need counselling to be better for you" to "actually no this is messed up I need to leave now" but he found one pretty quickly after.... and hasn't been single in 6yrs (and has dated.... 7 different women? 🤷‍♀️) And yes they all got the same story about how much of an evil ex I am. I know this because one of his exs reached out to me and now we are best friends. 😂😂😂
/r/askFDS26/06/21 01:01 AM
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Oh yep I got years of "why don't you trust me? I'm a nice guy" .... First of all.... anyone who has to say they are a nice guy, isn't And secondly.... statistically, you are untrustworthy 🤷‍♀️ I'm lucky I have a supportive and understanding family who were able to help me, and also, said child is in yr 12. So phew least he waited till now....🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 12:58 AM
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I'm still accruing debt thanks to one LVX. we have a child together and he has just stopped paying his half of school fees, because of reasons 🤷‍♀️ despite having agreed to this year's ago. So I had to borrow money to pay for his half too. Nevermind all the debt from the relationship. Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 01:25 AM
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Oh I wish I had FDS back then. I ended up proposing to HIM around the 3yr mark... and then bought my own ring around 7yr because he still hadn't 🤦‍♀️🤢🙄 So tragic. But we live an learn.
/r/askFDS17/05/21 03:28 AM
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9yrs is a decent chunk of time. It will take awhile. Please keep going to counselling, you are worth so much more but it will take a lot of working through what you went through to get into a better mindset. Also screw him and his new gf. I was pissed that my LVX had a new relationship and was all "happy and loved up".... except when they broke up, she came to me, apologised for ever believing his lies about me and that he was abusive to her too. She is now my best friend, and he is on his 6th r…
/r/askFDS17/05/21 03:25 AM
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Agreed, I wasted 8yrs with an abusive ex. But the plus side, I didn't waste 9? Or 10.... or 30?
/r/askFDS17/05/21 03:22 AM
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my uterus just cringed right out of my body :o so glad I get the Depo shot, but also I might just wear an old school chastity belt anyway
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 03:09 AM
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I'm sorry you went through this and felt so alone. I also had the labels of borderline and bipolar thrown around. Turns out it's actually just trauma from awful people and long term abuse. I hope you are ok, you can msg me if you want to chat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 03:50 AM
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I went through an 8yr long emotionally abusive relationship, after I finally got the backbone to leave him, I had chronic panic attacks whenever I had to see him (we have kids together) and being around men even as friends would set me off as well. It's taken about 6years to heal and get to a point where I can (most of the time) be neutral about seeing or hearing from him, and also to be comfortable around men as friends. I have one male friend I am comfortable enough to spend time with or have …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 03:48 AM
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I agree, if a guy has mental health issues and has done no work on them, im out. I never expect someone to never have had issues, but do.the. work to improve them. I am not your therapist. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 08:02 AM
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Get a smart watch with an SOS function. Realising mine has this has helped eased a lot of my anxiety.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 07:54 AM
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I've had my share of age-gap relationships (always older dudes :/) and now I have stepped back and grown up a lot I can confidently say no grown up man of value should have anything in common with a 18yr/20yr old just out of high school or college. If you are 30+ and you are picking barely legal young adults to date, you need to grow tf up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 02:23 AM
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You're welcome 😉😋
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 01:47 AM
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😂😂😂 sorry, I almost snorted a drink out of my nose with that comment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 05:19 AM
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Exactly. And honestly most women aren't looking for a model look guy, many are looking for a guy who is clean, smells good, knows what moisturiser, deodorant, toothpaste and sunscreen are and uses them. It's not that hard, and im so over putting up with unwashed sasquatches bitching about women's looks and how we are too picky or whatever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 05:18 AM
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I was thinking about this recently, the effort I put in to get ready to go out. Hair done, freshly dyed, make up, daily skincare, layered scents, shaved, lingerie, heels.... And.... you get to your date and its like jeans and a tee and maybe showered if you're lucky. Please smell nice, wear clothes that fit, cmon man. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 12:42 AM
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I love this. Men absolutely CAN do this stuff. They just don't a lot of the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 09:26 PM
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Thanks, I was doubting myself until I heard my daughter say that. AT FOUR!? nope, we are better off without him. They still have visitation with him, but i can counteract his bs now that they aren't exposed to it 24/7. And yes they are starting to understand it. My older girl especially. I'll never say a bad word about him to them, but be honest about why we separated, and show how we live by values. It is so hard, no one wants a broken family. But tbh, some families are so broken they are bette…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 03:00 AM
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I spent 8yrs in a relationship that drained me dry, emotionally and mentally. Finally left after a friend commented how messed up it was that I said I wish he would just hit me so I'd have "permission" to leave. The day I left I waited in the police station with my two daughters, my then 4yr old said "why can't you just be good and do what daddy tells you to and then we could stay and be happy"..... So glad I left. Still recovering 6yrs later but better then that hell. I'll never go back to a re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 11:57 AM
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I was just thinking about this yesterday, lamenting my stomach (which tbf needs some fitness love, but overall, would need surgery to correct it 100%, thanks to a c sec that was sewn on an angle 🙄) Dad bods are presented as cute or cuddly. Actual mum bods? So gross and women have let themselves go. Ridiculous. No more allowing men who put zero effort into their appearance or fitness comment on women's bodies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 12:40 AM
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Divorce sounds good here.... What a piece of trash he is 😡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 04:49 AM
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