DaftWarror181 Archive

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6	Gender War Is A String Of Unfortunate Events: I was Raped And Didn't Think It Was Rape LOA is a nefarious form of new age thinking that is really popular with allot of people where I grew up. It tells you that if you want to meet a goal/objective in life you should try to act as if you already have it and try to visualize it happening (i.e. "manifesting"). The "bible" of LOA is Rhonda Byrne's book The Secret). Bad thoughts = bad vibes which will cause bad things to "manifest" in your life, so you can only think good thoughts and must suppress bad ones. One of the most disturbing i…	/r/ExRedPill	30/03/23 07:22 PM
3	Is it bad that I pay for my own meal? Not at all. This wouldn't bother me (M27) and I would see it as a green flag. I would interpret that as you being financially independent and respect that. It would signify to me that you have your shit together and aren't going to force me into a provider type role. The thing that allot of terpers and trad types don't understand is that the gender norms they advocate for actually put allot of pressure on them to be providers. I was in a relationship with someone who was helpless, submissive and…	/r/ExRedPill	18/03/23 01:51 PM
11	I'm 28F, and have really internalised the idea of "The Wall" to the point it's making me unable to enjoy life or do day-to-day tasks or feel motivated. Any support or similar experiences? Terpers are deeply insecure and gynophobic and only feel comfortable in relationships with women when there is a power differential. This paradigm is almost inherently predatory.	/r/ExRedPill	06/03/23 11:33 PM
1	Redpillers and their mothers I completely agree that any guy who acts like a terper should be avoided and a red flag is a red flag. I just don't think that it's the core issue for allot of those guys. I think the people influencing them are criminal psychos.	/r/ExRedPill	06/03/23 01:54 AM
1	Redpillers and their mothers Yup, the US military also has problems with extremism and sexual assault that seriously need to be dealt with.	/r/ExRedPill	05/03/23 09:25 PM
4	Redpillers and their mothers Some of them are, but some of them are just individuals who are suffering and found "enlightenment" in the wrong places. You wouldn't call people who get recruited into cults criminal psychos would you?	/r/ExRedPill	05/03/23 07:34 PM
2	Redpillers and their mothers "Mommy issues" are definitely a risk factor for TRP. Men who had mothers who exemplified RP female stereotypes are more likely to carry these flawed paradigms into adulthood. This will influence their expectations of women and their relationship choices. If your early experiences with female figures in your life were negative, you are a natural fit for TRP. I had some of these issues from my upbringing, though I never went full RP. Here's a vignette: Of the all the guys I've know who have gotten…	/r/ExRedPill	05/03/23 07:33 PM
6	How can depression play a role in consuming redpill? Being depressed and seeking self-empowerment from online sources is one factor that can render someone vulnerable to ideological recruitment. There are also many correlates to depression such as substance use, social isolation and increased time online that are also factors here. Most guys I've known who got into TRP were seeking empowerment because they were depressed or had some negative experience that left them feeling down. There are RP-adjacent, alt-light influencers like Jordan Peterson (…	/r/ExRedPill	05/03/23 07:38 AM
1	Is there one thing you do agree about the Red Pill? I agree with aspects of TRP that promote self-improvement like hitting the gym or managing your money better. Working on yourself is a valid strategy for gaining self-confidence and making yourself more appealing. These are pretty much common sense though and you can get this advice from sources that aren't trying to exploit or radicalize you.	/r/ExRedPill	05/03/23 02:39 AM
4	Redpill ideology is self-contradictory. Allot of terpers I've known seem to think that women don't know themselves and are secretly masochistic. In their minds, pleasing a women isn't pleasing them since they actually want you to hurt and control them. Some of these guys literally assume that most women want you to choke and slap them during sex. Some have described doing these things to women without their consent!	/r/ExRedPill	01/03/23 12:32 AM
6	What hobby to choose in order to meet women organically? My hobbies are chess, competitive programming, debating gender on Reddit, weightlifting, volunteering as a math tutor. I would try to lose this specific hobby. As a man, I know that what gender another person chooses to express has no bearing on my identity and poses no discernable harm to others. What's in it for you to debate gender? Why even make it an issue? I think you are not totally out of TRP and possibly have an overly competitive nature or need to showcase your intelligence. Addressing…	/r/ExRedPill	21/02/23 08:53 PM
7	Has anyone woman that is in her early 20s or prime as the red pill would call it ever dumped a guy if she found out he was redpill or find men who are redpilled repulsive? Also are any young women that the red pill say are high value and are in there prime have they never went for the bad boy or the super red pilled guy ? Fuck what TRP considers high value, ask yourself what YOU consider high value. What do YOU want in a woman? As far as terpers/bad boys go, these guys don't last long in relationships because the way they act is abusive and they suck as people. They are not remembered well and cause trauma in their wake. Sometimes men who are super good looking an…	/r/ExRedPill	31/01/23 03:09 AM
1	I think I am slowly becoming a misandrist About my self hatred because of gender, It is a big thing for me. I am overwhelmed of being belittled by men(and sometimes women) put down because I am “inferior." I'm curious, were you raised in a conservative enviornment where this kind of thinking was constantly reinforced?	/r/ExRedPill	28/01/23 04:56 PM
12	I think I am slowly becoming a misandrist But when I found out the red pill ideology everything changed. I found out what men really think about women. This is a hasty generalization; you cannot gauge what all men are thinking based on what you see in the red pill community. Ironically, that is the same kind of fallacious reasoning that results in men getting redpilled. They have bad experiences with a handful of toxic women or come across something like FDS and assume "all women are like that," which is irrational. Don't let yourself b…	/r/ExRedPill	28/01/23 09:40 AM
2	can I get your critiques on Henry makow? I would say he is a terrible person to learn about men (or anything else) from. He is a wingnut's wingnut who sees the Illuminati/Satanists behind every tree and beneath every rock. A cursory glance at his website will reveal that this characterization is not a straw-man. He combines far-out batshittery with manospherian ideas, like that Asian women are preferable to western women because they are more trad and less vulnerable to the seductions of evil feminist lesbians. Feminism is, according t…	/r/ExRedPill	27/01/23 10:47 PM
8	I’m afraid I’m too short to date You have body dysmorphia. I've known guys who were in the 5'4" to 5'10" range who had girlfriends. My best friend was an inch shorter than you and dated at least three girls. You made an excellent choice getting away from the cult of RP/BP. Your next step is getting into therapy.	/r/ExRedPill	27/01/23 02:12 AM
3	Why Tinder isn't going to get you a girlfriend: Men are an average of 70% of dating app users in the US and 85% in Europe Basic stats and logic should be mandatory in high school.	/r/ExRedPill	26/01/23 07:05 PM
3	Do I stay with my boyfriend? The right choice might be to leave unfortunately. I've known a dozen or so guys who have gotten red pilled and, for all of them, it fucked up their relationships with women. My sister's ex-boyfriend started to become mentally abusive after getting into red pill content. Fortunately she caught onto what was happening and left. He got recruited into the alt-right later on. He also said other things that sons like fixing and problem solving so he’d teach them useful things like fixing lightbulbs et…	/r/ExRedPill	26/01/23 06:27 AM
2	Debunking the alpha/beta dichotomy None. The results of the study were not meant to be generalized to humans in the first place.	/r/ExRedPill	23/01/23 09:31 PM
1	Debunking the alpha/beta dichotomy It is though, whether he knows it or not. Ideas get laundered all of the time and allot of people don't know where their ideas actually come from. That concept has been around and being reinforced by mainstream society for far longer than TRP (like since the 70s) and its clear point of origin is the wolf studies. My mom was using terms like "alpha male" like a decade before the guys I grew up with got into TRP. Sure people have added their own takes on it since then or cherrypicked evidence that…	/r/ExRedPill	23/01/23 07:58 PM
1	Debunking the alpha/beta dichotomy The whole alpha/beta dichotomy originates from outdated studies done on wolves, not humans. Not only that, subsequent research has shown that this isn't even how wolf packs operate. Even for wolves, this understanding of power dynamics is too binary and too simplistic to reflect reality. It's a stupid mythology that originates from a misunderstanding of canines.	/r/ExRedPill	23/01/23 05:37 PM
11	The redpill/extreme right wing politics ruined many relationships Are there any passions, hobbies or interest that you had before you got red pilled that you no longer indulge in? If so, now might be a good time to revisit those things.	/r/ExRedPill	21/01/23 06:22 AM
3	Are narcissistic and/or richer people living better lives? Wealthy people may have it easier in allot of ways because their money cushions them from real struggles, but that lack of struggle comes at the expense of meaningful life experiences. Some wealthy people (especially if they are born into wealth) often experience a narrow subset of reality and may take for granted how well they have it. People with pathological narcissism (as in NPD) are actually pretty fucking miserable, even ones who are materially wealthy. The inner world of a narcissist is d…	/r/ExRedPill	10/01/23 10:33 PM
6	Anybody else find guys who call themselves "feminist's," cringe? Context is everything. Like so many things, it depends on the circumstances. If I get the sense that they are saying it for clout or attention and aren't being sincere, it's cringe. If such a statement honestly and accurately reflects someone's values though and was made in an appropriate context, then it's not cringe. Is the act of sharing a political opinion, in and of itself, cringe? I just feel bad whenever I see dudes who spend a lot of their free time trying to fit into that space, the tru…	/r/ExRedPill	10/01/23 01:55 AM
8	Found this on PurplePillDebate... Jesus This is just an anecdote, but I also know a guy on the spectrum who has had a fairly normal dating life for someone his age. Clearly it would be wrong to assume that a given person with ASD is an incel. People on the spectrum can vary considerably in presentation. That being said, I do think that people who have weak theory of mind (ToM) are uniquely susceptible to this kind of thinking. Someone who struggles to understand emotions and lacks psychological insight is probably more likely to accep…	/r/ExRedPill	09/01/23 08:57 PM
1	What made you turn soy? Soy is redpillese for a sissy.	/r/ExRedPill	09/01/23 01:16 AM
1	What is up with "Small dick energy," and why is that ok? Andrew Tate deserved what he had coming to him, but I think the Small dick energy thing shows how women truly feel about penis size. I don't think it reflects what women actually think about penis size as much as what women think of guys who overcompensate. Small dick energy is a byproduct of toxic masculinity, the actual causes of which vary and may not have anything to do with penis size. A man who has small dick energy is prone to feeling emasculated and feels he has to constantly prove his m…	/r/ExRedPill	30/12/22 06:13 PM
2	How does exredpill feel about women who purposely date men with low self esteem/good-but-naive men? Someone who takes advantage of others and acts in bad faith isn't a person I could stay friends with. If I suspect someone is manipulative, predatory or uses people then I don't trust them and can't be friends with them. There's usually nothing stopping such a person from doing the same to you. Whether they are a man or a woman is irrelevant.	/r/ExRedPill	29/12/22 10:42 PM
2	A Brief Foray Into FoxBrained Manosphere and a Sudden Awakening A redpiller.	/r/ExRedPill	26/12/22 07:30 PM
2	Women losing respect of partner once his unemployed; how to mitigate That's not as excessive as some people I know. There might have been other compatibility issues at play.	/r/ExRedPill	24/12/22 06:15 PM
3	Women losing respect of partner once his unemployed; how to mitigate If you're saying to read upon this, I can go back to end up reading RP or RP influenced material as there's not much of a way to validate the info out there. Having no explanation is better than a bad explanation from someone who takes you for a sucker and is leveraging your social deficits for money or power. With TRP material, allot of the influencers putting it out probably don't want you to get better. It doesn't benefit them for you to get healthy and find satisfying relationships. In gener…	/r/ExRedPill	24/12/22 06:07 PM
6	Women losing respect of partner once his unemployed; how to mitigate Well, how many hours a day were you gaming and how frequently? If you were sitting around playing video-games all summer (not a good use of your time IMO) for a significant part of each day and not interacting much with her, there is a possibility that your girlfriend felt neglected or like there was no real substance to the relationship. If you are a heavy gamer I would be on the lookout for a girl who shares your interest in gaming, otherwise this could be an issue. Also, I don't want to make …	/r/ExRedPill	24/12/22 05:23 PM
6	A Brief Foray Into FoxBrained Manosphere and a Sudden Awakening There's some crank magnetism going on with TRP/MRM, without a doubt. I know probably only a dozen or so terpers personally so I can't speak for all of them. But, for what it's worth, most of the ones I know are also alt-right. Accepting anti-feminist views almost invariably skewed them to the far-right in other ways too and some of them are heavily into conspiracy theories. I had to distance myself from one of them because he kept trying to get me into QAnon (his ex told me he would literally fa…	/r/ExRedPill	23/12/22 12:44 AM
2	Alternatives to redpill? I want to learn how to approach women. I also get told when I stop looking it happens but what’s that mean, stop talking to women? I was romantically interested in a girl I was friends with and was turned down, but we remained friends. I was bummed for a little while, but to call it "emasculating" would be a bit much. She introduced me to other girls too, which was great and helped me out allot socially. I am also friends with an ex who is in an LTR with different guy now, and it doesn't bother me at all.	/r/ExRedPill	22/12/22 09:02 AM
3	Is there a possibility that I will naturally recover Did you have any passions, hobbies or things you enjoyed doing that you stopped doing after you got pilled? If so, maybe try to pick those back up.	/r/ExRedPill	22/12/22 06:05 AM
3	Alternatives to redpill? I want to learn how to approach women. I also get told when I stop looking it happens but what’s that mean, stop talking to women? Again, "not reporting" as in not seeking help from emergency services or mental health professionals for DV. A random phone survey that involves no face to face interaction is a little different.	/r/ExRedPill	21/12/22 11:20 PM
1	Alternatives to redpill? I want to learn how to approach women. I also get told when I stop looking it happens but what’s that mean, stop talking to women? Definitely not.	/r/ExRedPill	21/12/22 11:14 PM
3	Alternatives to redpill? I want to learn how to approach women. I also get told when I stop looking it happens but what’s that mean, stop talking to women? This article also concludes (on the basis of CDC data) that women are statistically more likely to experience intimate partner violence. Also: Data on how often victims report domestic violence incidents comes from the National Crime Victimization Survey. The survey asks the general public if they were a victim of a crime and whether they reported this crime to the police. So reported means reported to the cops in the article you've cited. That means that even if men are far less likely to repor…	/r/ExRedPill	21/12/22 11:13 PM
2	Alternatives to redpill? I want to learn how to approach women. I also get told when I stop looking it happens but what’s that mean, stop talking to women? And you omit the part where it says: "Approximately 1 in 4 women (23.2%) and 1 in 7 men (13.9%) have experienced severe physical violence by an intimate partner in their lifetime. Approximately 1 in 10 women (9.7%) and 1 in 43 men (2.3%) have experienced stalking by an intimate partner in their lifetime. Approximately 1 in 6 women (16.4%) and 1 in 14 men (7%) have experienced contact sexual violence by an intimate partner in their lifetime." Stalking and contact sexual violence are probably the …	/r/ExRedPill	21/12/22 10:16 PM
3	Alternatives to redpill? I want to learn how to approach women. I also get told when I stop looking it happens but what’s that mean, stop talking to women? By your own citation, women are significantly more likely to be victims of intimate partner violence in all areas except psychological aggression and coercive control.	/r/ExRedPill	21/12/22 10:12 PM
5	Alternatives to redpill? I want to learn how to approach women. I also get told when I stop looking it happens but what’s that mean, stop talking to women? The risks are substantially higher for women than men in dating.	/r/ExRedPill	21/12/22 09:53 PM
2	Alternatives to redpill? I want to learn how to approach women. I also get told when I stop looking it happens but what’s that mean, stop talking to women? How did the ASD guy you grew up with build his social circle? Mostly just by meeting people who had common interests. It's been no fairytale for him and there was allot of painful trial and error along the way and he got burned (badly) a few times, not gonna lie. He had to go to therapy for awhile but pulled through. He is doing better now. He has had some crappy failed relationships, but so have I and lots of other people.	/r/ExRedPill	21/12/22 08:31 PM
2	Alternatives to redpill? I want to learn how to approach women. I also get told when I stop looking it happens but what’s that mean, stop talking to women? Makes sense. If you hang out with enough terpers, conspiracy nuts and similar ilk you will probably meet some narcissistic personalities who will use anything they can to deflect criticism. The people who weaponize PR are the ones most averse to it themselves.	/r/ExRedPill	21/12/22 08:22 PM
2	Alternatives to redpill? I want to learn how to approach women. I also get told when I stop looking it happens but what’s that mean, stop talking to women? That's how cults deflect and ignore criticism. There's a big difference between weaponizing personal responsibility (PR) as a mechanism for victim blaming and evading accountability (as a cult does) and suggesting to someone that they need to accept some level of PR for where they are at. There is nothing wrong with the idea of PR in and of itself; it is in abusive contexts that this gets distorted.	/r/ExRedPill	21/12/22 08:05 PM
1	Alternatives to redpill? I want to learn how to approach women. I also get told when I stop looking it happens but what’s that mean, stop talking to women? But did you learn anything from your social failures? Have you taken your own inventory? It's clearly a work in progress for you.	/r/ExRedPill	21/12/22 07:23 PM
1	Alternatives to redpill? I want to learn how to approach women. I also get told when I stop looking it happens but what’s that mean, stop talking to women? The meaning is that you will be rewarded for helping yourself. In your case it definitely applies. Unless you take initiative socially and work on yourself, you won't get what you want.	/r/ExRedPill	21/12/22 07:08 PM
2	Alternatives to redpill? I want to learn how to approach women. I also get told when I stop looking it happens but what’s that mean, stop talking to women? Yeah but there's an actual moral imperative to act if you see someone dying and can get help for them. I think his comparison is flawed.	/r/ExRedPill	21/12/22 06:54 PM
1	Alternatives to redpill? I want to learn how to approach women. I also get told when I stop looking it happens but what’s that mean, stop talking to women? That's an absurd comparison. The moral imperative to act is clearly much stronger in the case of someone dying in the streets; that person's life could be in my hands. A loner isn't likely going to die from me not engaging with them socially. If someone wants friends they have to make themselves available and approachable. People aren't going to chase you.	/r/ExRedPill	21/12/22 06:51 PM
3	Alternatives to redpill? I want to learn how to approach women. I also get told when I stop looking it happens but what’s that mean, stop talking to women? Part of the problem is that we are conditioned by society to see the opposite sex as alien. I remember being younger in the early naughties and seeing books on my mom's shelf that had titles like "Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus." Growing up, everyone reinforced this idea that women were some kind of different species from men. I can't imagine this mindset helps break the ice in social and dating situations.	/r/ExRedPill	21/12/22 05:26 PM
4	Alternatives to redpill? I want to learn how to approach women. I also get told when I stop looking it happens but what’s that mean, stop talking to women? One of my friends I grew up with has ASD. He's self-awareness challenged because of TOM deficits and used to say and do things that pissed people off and would have seemingly no idea why they reacted negatively. We always had to look out for him because social predators would take advantage of his naïveté and inability to discern their intentions. Some of the people he hung out with were creepy or showed signs of being psychopathic but he seemed oblivious to it. If you are anything like him, you…	/r/ExRedPill	21/12/22 02:28 AM
23	Alternatives to redpill? I want to learn how to approach women. I also get told when I stop looking it happens but what’s that mean, stop talking to women? Good, that's what boundaries are supposed to do. If those people abandon, so be it.	/r/ExRedPill	21/12/22 12:41 AM
53	Alternatives to redpill? I want to learn how to approach women. I also get told when I stop looking it happens but what’s that mean, stop talking to women? Making friends with women is a good start and will ultimately help you in learning how to be more comfortable around them. Start hanging out with them more and don't fear the "friend-zone." I've actually dated women I've met through women I was friends with.	/r/ExRedPill	20/12/22 09:50 PM
6	I don't want to fall into the red pill, but I'm having a hard time seeing how it's wrong or what's so bad about it. I think it's obvious that RP feels true to you because you are insecure and hold a number of profoundly negative and overgeneralized views about women. I can tell your self-esteem is comparison based, otherwise that girl's sexual history wouldn't matter much to you. She probably likes you and would sleep with you willingly, yet here you are pigeonholing her. TRP is just a narrative that sounds right to insecure dudes, it is not an evidence-based worldview. It is all feelings based (appealing to …	/r/ExRedPill	20/12/22 09:02 AM
5	I was never redpill, but I feel like living proof it's "right" and I feel like my normal healthy consensual relationship wishes are mistaken for redpill beliefs. In my experience, a lot of women are like this for safety reasons, thanks to negative encounters with men or male-perceived people that are ultimately traced to redpill. Mine too. I absolutely agree that TRP has made women more guarded around men and male-perceived people. Most of the girls I know have had negative dating experiences in the past, which coincides with real data. You can't change your sexuality that much for acceptance from others though, it's just not a good trade. Personally, I'…	/r/ExRedPill	20/12/22 01:02 AM
6	How exactly did you divorce yourself from TRP? I had some red pilled beliefs when I was younger because of negative childhood experiences and toxic early relationships, though I never identified as a terper or watched TRP content. I saw myself as a victim and thought everyone was selfish and only in it for themselves, so I started treating others poorly. While my negative view of people wasn't specific to women, I definitely thought that women (like everyone else) were just going to use me or treat me badly and that it was best if I did it t…	/r/ExRedPill	19/12/22 07:31 PM