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I don’t know if it’s about modern feminism, aka the boogeyman of the dating world, but there are some realities that some of you guys haven’t really accepted or understood. Women can consume or deal with men in as much or as little as they like at all times. Guys are essentially a faucet for most average and above women. So it’s not crazy for a woman to spend 2-3 months focused on her hobbies and friends and passing on dating. When she wants, she can simply get on a dating app and get as many da…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 05:11 AM
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Men do have a biological clock as do women. But trying to make their respective clocks seem equal, which I have seen here before, is completely dishonest and serves no real purpose. Please stop it or don’t buy into it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 12:19 AM
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Frankly, I don’t think he’s popular anymore. I used to see his content all over 6-8 months ago. Now….not so much
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 04:06 AM
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Back in the day, a single mom would NEVER ask a guy to pay for the babysitter. That is a recent expectations.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 01:31 AM
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Boy these comments here are a doozy. Wishing all yall well
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 05:47 PM
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Because you have better chances as a man when you are approaching women in real life. Dating apps aren’t going anywhere because women like them. For guys, approaching gives you a little measure of control.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 03:40 PM
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I starting telling young guys that post pandemic would be a great time to meet women in person. I stand on the idea that working on approaching women is one of the best uses of time for any young single man. Full bias I was a cold approacher when I was single. It’s the best way to go
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 02:53 PM
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Bumbles premise as an initial strategy to differentiate from other apps was very smart to start and build their brand. It made the CEO a billionaire. That being said, long term it was never going to last. Women were never going to pursue or approach men en masse. Sure I know some ladies who regularly approach when they are interested but they are a small minority. This does underscore my long held stance that I never ever want to hear women’s opinion on male dating rejection. The amount of datin…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 05:27 PM
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lol Im married and am not looking to like them more. Like I said, turn off is a term more befitting a grown woman of say 30 plus. Just my opinion nothing more nothing less. You are really looking for an argument and I’m not going to give you one. 😂 😂 have a good day.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 04:48 PM
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Since you asked…. I believe they would be better off as I think the “ick” is just immature and something a grown woman would not say. I believe “turn off” is a more mature way of expressing it if you are a grown man or woman looking for a grown man or woman romantic partner. As I said above it’s my personal opinion. Nothing more nothing less. Random women can also do whatever they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 09:47 PM
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Go to the dating over 30 and 40 subs here…you will see the term used liberally.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 08:36 PM
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My personal opinion is that a grown woman is better served using “turn offs”. I feel like the “ick” sounds like something a high school girl would say. There is nothing wrong with seeing something you don’t like in a relationship context.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 03:45 PM
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Only if you’re hitting on the same friend group. If you are talking to multiple women at a bar or a party…nobody cares guys. Keep talking to that girl and approach that girl that you are attracted to. Good luck
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 09:19 PM
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Lol this lady said broke people shouldn’t have kids which is just terrible
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 05:30 AM
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Just responding to the title of this post to say that it is 100% correct. Assuming you know you want kids, do not put them off as long as possible. You are hurting your chances of ever having them as well as robbing yourself of that experience of growing with your kids a little bit. You absolutely should aim to have them in your mid 20s..ideally 2 in that period. Everyone has a better chance at a healthy outcome if doing that. If you’re 25, don’t have kids and want them…take a moment today and a…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 06:32 PM
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When you’re a high level guy and you are basking in the middle of hook up era it’s fine. The problem becomes when you want to settle down, you’ve seen “too much” and it’s hard to get over it and move forward. One of the unpopular consequences is delaying having kids and a family. Instead of playing in your early-mid 30s, you could be building with a girl in your late 20s. Looking at my friend circle now..the guys that won are not the dudes who were still getting after it at 34. The guys that won…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 02:45 PM
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Player. Because at that point you are so “good” at what you do that you continue to get girls and nobody hates you. The goal is to be a player, guys not a fuck boy.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 07:33 AM
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Dear fellas, One of the big topics that yall waste time discussing with women on this forum is some aspect of “dating rejection”. Due to the nature of the game, y’all will never be able to relate to each other on this. Just let it go and talk amongst yourselves and your guy friends about it. In truth those ladies aren’t hating or intentionally showing lack of empathy…they cannot relate
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/24 02:03 AM
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Generally speaking, I’ve stopped commenting on fertility on Reddit threads because the bias just give so much misinformation and it makes me sad that some people take it at face value. Instead I simply encourage people to meet with a doctor..they will tell you a different story than what’s said on Reddit. Yes I’ve heard people here say that men and women’s bio clock is essentially the same…it isn’t. No matter what people here say.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 06:25 AM
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I would do ok for sure as I was an approacher and I went through the time and rejection to build and have real game. In some respects y’all do have it easy. But in a few very important respects, yall have it infinitely harder/worse than when I was dating in 2001-07. What is much harder for guys is finding a genuine connection with a person you can take seriously..who also takes you serious. Women today don’t seem like they really care about men at all. Women reciprocated much earlier and better …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 05:19 PM
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It’s going to be a while for it to take effect but it will be very interesting to see how boys/girls who are say 7-8 years old today interact with each other in the following 20 years. Women of my generation got a benefit of the doubt that women going forward will get less of. Don’t know if that’s good or bad so we will see.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 12:20 AM
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The one thing I’ve learned from this subreddit is that there is finally a true answer to that old guy trope of “this thing was better in my generation” Dating in your 20s was definitely better during my 20s than it is today. I wish all you men and women actively in the game the best.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 12:11 AM
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I was going to post it by itself but Your last line says it all.. a truly high value man does not struggle with dating. He, much like a classically beautiful woman, is awash in options.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 05:43 PM
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I’m not dating in this current year as I am married. For me, I always paid because it was easier for me and usually easier for my date. Frankly, I think this is a topic that most of y’all waste your time on. If there is virtue signaling going on here please ignore it. This is one of those gender roles that will not change in my lifetime. I’ve never seen a female friend rule a man out for paying on a date. I’ve seen plenty of times where she rules him out because he did not pay. Just pay guys. It…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 05:23 AM
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To go with your generalization, single women (under 40) generally do better than single men because of a few things. Women are generally socially “superior” to men. They are more sociable in general and cultivate more varied friendships/ relationships. Single men have their few close guy friends and business associates and that’s about it. Women are always getting sexual attention. By virtue of them being the pursued, a single woman will still get hit on enough to keep her confidence high. Guys …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 02:52 AM
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Some things my dad told me and some things I learned myself.. Keep building himself. Keep working to be the smartest fittest richest most fully loving and living version of yourself. Force yourself to be better. Attraction matters but find that woman who is all about you! Relationships work better when the woman is a bit more in love with the guy. She will accept that you have to work and be gone somewhat to put your family in a good position if she loves you and sees you as her best option out …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 06:42 AM
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Desperation stinks..and everyone can smell it. The only time to be desperate is when your life is actually in danger.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 06:47 PM
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I’m a big believer that the “wall” is now just a tool for both sides of that debate. The pill people overstate it..the anti pill people understate it. I don’t say anyone should or should not get married young but I will say that women who want children should try to have them earlier rather than later.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 04:34 PM
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I’ll be a broken record on this point but….Yes because it was done mainly in person. I was a single guy dating when match just started to become mainstream. Before that, as ridiculous as this will sound to most of y’all, OLD was Craigslist personals lololol.. anyway it was better because everyone had to put themselves out there a little bit to achieve their goal..a romantic partner. I don’t mean to be gendered but part of the reason dudes get absolutely crushed by online dating is that ladies ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 05:55 PM
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One day the people, men and women, who yell so much about high standards will turn it around on themselves and ask “what standard do I demonstrate or provide to a partner?” And then their whole lives will change.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 05:45 PM
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It’s an amazing paradox. A general rule of life success is to take advice from people who are doing what you want to do or have done it… But not in this case. Single people know better than married people. Lol. It’s crazy when you think of it that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 02:53 AM
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I’m a big believer that this is cope. Single people always say “married people don’t give good advice” A portion of single people just don’t want to hear it. So yeah, why not dismiss the advice of people who actually did what you want to do. If you think the advice is outdated, talk to a person getting married now. But of course there will be an excuse for that
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 01:28 AM
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Well like so many things on this forum the truth is in the middle. It’s certainly a bit overstated by those “manosphere” types that dating gets great in your 30s. I always feel sad when I see guys bank on that because man you’re missing out dating in your 20s which is also super fun. It is rooted in some truth though as a single man in his mid 30s can date with a freedom and lack of pressure that a mid 30s woman cannot..assuming both their goals are marriage and children. Putting aside the big a…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 12:41 AM
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I always preferred to make the first move when I was single because once you’re good at it, there’s nothing quite like it That said, I’ve always felt like this logic is completely self serving and just a way for women to maintain the societal norms that they get to sit back and pick and choose as opposed to having to step forward a bit. It’s right along side the logic of “the man has to be more into the woman or it work work”. Ladies prefer to be the pursued as it’s the more comfortable position…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 05:00 AM
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If a guy is dead serious about this… Take care of the controllables..get your fitness and style together. Then go out every day with one goal..talk to 5 new people a day. Men and women. Youll meet plenty of people that way and build a network
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 06:04 PM
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I guess the simple answer is that men care somewhat about a woman’s career but they care significantly less than women do. Women will freely admit this. I feel like people keep trying to adjust this concept to avoid stating what I consider to be common sense. Spent years at a boutique investment firm. The men that worked there dated and married similar and lower levels of career achieving women. The women that worked there didn’t consider men below their educational and financial status Lol keep…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 11:30 PM
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If your a woman, You didn’t cold approach as me because society expects men to approach. This was in the early 00s so at that time most women would rather die than approach a man… I don’t even understand the rest of the point you’re making. I’m responding out of courtesy
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 06:03 AM
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“Woe IS me” Nothing I said was incorrect… Ok you’re just trolling at this point so I wish you well. Reminder I was a cold approacher. So I met girls in the super market, clubs, bars, the street. Whenever i saw an attractive woman. I didn’t complain about it but I’m not going to let a woman who sits back and waits to be approached criticize… lol Have a good day and good luck out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 05:47 AM
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Ok instead of hyperbole, let me be more accurate. You have significantly Less experience than the average man with approaching someone romantically and therefore you have received significantly less rejection than that same man…I’ll stand by that a million percent. Nobody endorses or justifies a man getting angry or worse at a woman’s rejection especially a respectful one. Stop it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 02:16 AM
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We’re so far off your original topic that i think you’re trolling me..the goal keeps moving. Lol I wish you well. I am an attractive man and got rejected a lot more than any unattractive woman….but that’s the game.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 04:52 PM
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Dishonest is you saying that women get rejected as much as man. That’s not the way the game works and you know it. I don’t quite know how you made that leap. Lol so let me ask when women reject men, it’s women hating them?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 04:37 PM
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Lol..That’s just dishonest. Men being viewed as the ones who must approach is a gender role that will likely never die..but it certainly is alive and well today. Good luck out there OP
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 04:11 PM
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Just mentioned above that times when men have gotten rude or much worse, that’s certainly something women can speak on. Obviously a woman being killed for something like that is unacceptable Of course men can take some rejection and some embarrassment..and I can and do say that as I’ve gone through it. But men dont need to hear how much embarrassment YOU think they can take. You speak from a place of zero experience. Women speaking on men’s dating rejection is like billionaires talking down on h…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 03:41 PM
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I’ll take you at your word that it’s what YOU have been through. Would you say that most women share that experience? Most of my female friends would proudly tell you that they have never approached a man and almost never have been rejected….
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 03:32 PM
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So true man. So many attractive women in Asia. Good luck out there man.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 01:14 AM
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Yeah man you make a great point as my Asian friends struggled In mixed spaces. Speaking just from my circle, my Pinoy homies always did ok but they were only dating for fun. They all went back to the Philippines to get wives when it was time. I had a 6’ tall Chinese American friend and he used to have to fight Asian girls off with a sword. My Asian guys who were shorter it was slim pickings. I know a few who’s parents ended up arranging their eventual wives. A lot of the dating stereotypes didn’…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 12:35 AM
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Lol proud to say I’ve never worried about inefficiency and dating. How very 2023 of you. It was more fair because both genders had to come to the “party”. There were singles events and bars where girls and guys had to look and act their best. Girls and guys got to judge each other a little bit and it cut both ways. Sure you could approach that out of your league girl and if you have the right look and right game, you could pull her. the real point is eventually your game tells you that almost no…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 11:42 PM
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As a man who was cold approacher in his dating days and took the time (and rejection) to get better at it, I do agree that in general men need to get over the rejection and go for it. I promise it’s better, guy. Now here’s where I take the downvotes…if there is one subject that I absolutely do NOT want to hear an woman’s opinion on it’s anything relating to men “embracing rejection”. The vast majority of women have never approached a man and have almost never gotten rejected. Guys have gotten mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 11:25 PM
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People still met primarily in real life settings during that time. I don’t know how a person dating today could understand it but it was much more “fair” back then. About as fair as dating could be.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 11:02 PM
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I think the best advice is to be your best and you will attract good romantic partners. In all things you will “get” what you really are..success, relationships, jobs/business
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 05:58 PM
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Putting aside teenage boys, most men eventually figure this out in their mid-late 20s. That’s when smart guys go from chasing to pursuing. Most Teenage boys chase..period. Not hating cause I sure did. But yes men if a woman isn’t reciprocating your interest, stop talking with her and find a woman who is. Said another way, if you got on three dates with a woman and you aren’t sure she’s interested in you, there shouldn’t be a fourth date. Still makes me cringe looking back at how much energy and …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 08:11 PM
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I am happily married and was an unapologetic player in my 20s. I comment here to try to provide real experience with the topics that come up. My general criticism of Reddit is that people operate on more theory than experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 06:38 PM
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I would say that the general premise here is correct. I had to “learn” how to get better with women the hard way…trial and error, lots of rejection etc. Sure, It worked but I would bet that a similarly inclined 22 year old of today would be able to go from zero to player much faster than I did. The information is out there. There is a lot to sort through…I’ll give them that bit of grace but it is out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 11:40 PM
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Ok since you asked… I don’t believe in any pick up stuff or nonsense like that. I learned the “worst” way for most people..trial, error and rejection. The first step is flirting. Flirt with every woman you are not interested in to start to develop comfort with talking to them. Since you aren’t interested you won’t care about outcomes. So try to flirt with 2-3 a day minimum…everyone if you can.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 12:45 AM
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In the beginning, bad. By the time I was good at it..pretty decent. Met a lot of ladies the whole way through.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 12:36 AM
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I know most of the guys here will dismiss what I’m going to say but my hope is 1 will listen and take it to heart I was a cold approacher when I was single -gasp- and I promise you will meet so many cool women if you keep working on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 03:17 PM
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What I also meant to say is that Thai guys weren’t very interested in American or most European women that we saw out at night. Based only on our group, the ladies were very aware of their lack of popularity and somewhat surprised.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/23 06:21 AM
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As I often say, Anecdotal evidence is not absolute but it is real. I have been to Thailand a few times with a mixed group of American men and women. All in the late 20s and early 30s. When we went out socially, the American men were the “stars” of the show and very very sought after in the same way that in the United States with a mixed group the American women will be the “stars” of the group. The American women in our group were not so popular in Thailand. Even when we went to touristy popular…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 06:02 PM
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Oh goodness. Sometimes y’all be so defeated in this forum. I built my confidence from friendzone guy to a full on player. It can be done. It is hard…it takes a while but it can be done.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 05:32 PM
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Lol yeah at 80 it seems laughable to even say. It’s just so stupid when men or women try to say this. Can you even imagine what the world would be if all women disappeared tomorrow? Same with men.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 06:06 PM
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Any theory or rhetoric that starts with either gender could survive in the complete absence of the other is silly and I wish youguys wouldn’t entertain it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 04:39 PM
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45, married man Overall the discussions are both funny and sad. Sometimes y’all argue, in bad faith, stuff that isn’t in question in reality or practice. Sometimes the conversation is super adversarial which I don’t think is necessary. So many experts that aren’t..but that’s Reddit frankly. What I wish the younger folk new is that it is worth your time to solve your primary relationship struggle..whatever it is. You will be better off for the effort. Relationships are important Specifically to t…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 05:42 PM
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I am not any pill but I have to speak on this because, in what I have seen in my experience, of course it happens. The easy bottom line is that a beautiful woman will always be able to punch above her “financial weight” in the dating world. Easily Years ago there used to be this bar in NY that was consistently flooded by young female teachers at happy hour. Why…because that bar was also the choice of wall st guys when they wanted a drink post market. It’s not PC to say but the financial gap betw…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 10:11 PM
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Being attractive always helps as a guy. If you are the literal tall dark and handsome, you will get more opportunities than a guy who is father away from that description. Also yes when women see women around you, others want to be around you too. One of the best lessons of my player days, when I wanted to meet a lot of girls, i would call my little sister up and tell her to get her friends and dinner is on me. By the second round of drinks we always magically had a few new girls sit at the tabl…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 04:57 PM
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I’m married and if we are blessed enough to have children I would like my wife to stay home until the kid is in 6th grade as that’s how my mom and dad did it with me and my sister. My wife did not get this luxury and feels that she and her mother have a little distance between them as she went back to work asap after having her. It was a requirement in their situation at the time. She would love to be a stay at home mom for 8-10 years. If she felt bored I would have no problem with her taking a …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 08:27 PM
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I did fine in my 20s with no money. I did fine in my 30s with plenty of money. Youguys should spend more time living and less time repeating pill talking points. Not saying it is totally false,,,but you will do better going out there and getting practical experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 02:47 AM
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You found your place. Wishing you well man. Kids as a goal or no?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/23 11:45 PM
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Fair enough man. I’m married but if I went your route I’d go back to Brasil. Philippines is a good time for what I understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/23 11:01 PM
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At your age, what is your endgame or desired outcome? Is it just sowing oats or something else?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/23 09:09 PM
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The reason that dating is supposed to get “easier” at 30ish is because you as a man should be more confident in yourself and more comfortable in your own skin. That makes it all easier and you better. There is some truth to point 2 for sure. It varies
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/23 08:52 PM
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Goodness I see why guys say that there is nothing but gaslighting on this forum. The person with more opportunity is always better off than the person with less. Do they have different hards, yes..but you are always better off with more opportunities for success.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 07:36 PM
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I think the headline statement…prize a pretty face over character..is a sad truth for a lot of men. There’s that old quote about what part of her will be raising your children
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 10:38 PM
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Lol “sapiosexual” just screams pretense. That word like didn’t exist and then was featured on Twitter and everyone put that somewhere in their social media 😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 04:25 PM
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That’s tough. My guess is it’s the same women that deny that it’s easier to have kids when you’re younger and bring up their “cousins aunts bosses secretary” who had a healthy child at 47 no problem. Empathy shouldn’t be in short supply but alas it often is on Reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 04:38 PM
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I wish this woman well. I’m guessing the comments here are pretty rough but it’s never good to see a woman cry and lamenting her not having the children that she wanted. It’s sad. Waiting past 30 to have kids is a dangerous game. That’s all I’ll say and I’m speaking from experience. Wishing everyone well
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 04:27 PM
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Ok so to your question, I didn’t feel “owed” because that’s how I was raised and to be clear I was doing quite well. I was a single man with no kids making over 200k a year. It wasn’t millions but I was financially able to do whatever I wanted for the most part. I had an amazing closet, 2 nice watches, a high end car and lived in a total bachelor pad complete with high end furniture. I had girlfriends all over the world due to my vacation schedule. My approach game and fitness were on point as w…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 04:02 PM
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Ok let’s break it down Meaning when I broke up with her I didn’t say to myself “you know, maybe I should give her another chance because of how much money she makes” There was no reason to say that because I wasn’t seeing that money anyway. Although I went through it in real time I think it was Kevin Samuels who expressed that point beautifully. I was OK with it because it was a learning experience and I am also an old school man. Most women I had dated at that point made less than me with a few…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 02:52 PM
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Personal experience/story time. I once dated a woman who made about 60-70k more than me annually while i was still making pretty good money (200ish a year). I got one very nice birthday gift from her. She got a very nice birthday, Valentine’s Day and Christmas gift from me. I still paid for 4/5 dates and the mini vacay we went on. Her money was spent largely on her, her mother and little sister having their adventures. So when I was later thinking about moving on from her, I didn’t at all mark h…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 01:58 PM
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Correct you do. Point being, you also don’t consider her money if you’re thinking about breaking up with her. Not in the same way she considers yours. It is what it is in the relationship world.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 01:21 PM
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I’ll say this every time a variation of this question comes up because some people need to hear it… Men are totally ok to wait to have sex provided that he is interested in her and she is clearly interested in him. Simple. Guys that are disappearing after the 2nd or 3rd date do so because they aren’t sure you’re interested. If a guy can’t tell by her actions that a woman is interested by the 3rd date, there shouldn’t be a 4th. No those actions don’t mean sex. It means a woman who is not sitting …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/23 04:16 PM
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For dating, It never mattered to me as their money was very rarely used on me/us. Frankly I think this is one of those things things that those “manosphere” clowns get right. Her money doesn’t matter because she’s more than likely not spending it on you anyway. Most women are pretty honest about this. For women who place career as the top priority, I understand why. It’s a very big risk for a woman to bet so much on a guy. That has never been lost on me. I think that women who focus on career an…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 05:02 PM
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Well the details vary with preference and taste but if you’re really asking… Be an attractive man leading an attractive lifestyle. -Be as fit and healthy as you can be. You don’t need to be pro athlete level..just be lean and strong -Have great style. Figure out clothes and colors -Do well financially. You don’t need millions just keep growing from wherever you are. -Become worldly. Travel. Read more books. Do more things so that you have plenty to share -Have a great network of friends and fami…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 09:25 PM
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Not her. The idea is being that man and having Women in general wanting you. You have to let her go. Many years ago, I was the “glow up” guy at my 10 year HS reunion. It was glorious to speak with women than rejected me and watch them fawn over who I became. It was pleasant and everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 09:14 PM
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Lol similar question came up in dating over 40 so I’ll expound on my answer because I do think some ladies need to hear this. A man will wait plenty of time for intimacy from a woman provided that he is interested in her and she is showing clear interest in him. So long as you have those 2 things, that man and woman won’t have any issues as to when intimacy happens. Period. So many times on Reddit relationship threads I see ladies say “it takes a while for me to develop attraction” which is real…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 09:05 PM
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The only way is to live your life, be happy and successful, become great at whatever and become a man that men want to be and women want to be with. There’s nothing else. Move on and live well
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 08:48 PM
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In fairness to ladies, that’s life and people in general. The walk rarely matches the talk. Watching what people do is far more reliable
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 06:04 PM
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Beautiful women are nice for the same reason classically handsome guys are..life is a tad bit nicer to them and they can pay it forward. Your public experience if you are in that category starts you out in a good place.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 03:36 PM
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This is why I no longer respond to most stuff here on fertility as Reddit biases make them so dishonest about it. I’ve seen redditors say that a male and female bio clock is exactly or nearly the same and that’s just not true. Not at all. Assuming they both started at normal fertility at say 25…A healthy 35 year old woman will almost certainly have decreased fertility whereas a healthy 35 year old man has almost zero fertility concerns. As a man if you get a full semen analysis and blood work th…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 09:28 PM
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The reality is that if kids are important you should be skewing younger as that gives you the best chance. Yes men and women have a bio clock but it is not the same no matter what I bet the comments are saying here. The two friends that I knew that did everything the could to have children in their 40s got lucky with 28 and 30 year old women. Good for them. Guys, Please go to your doctor and they will tell you the truth about your fertility. Not Reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 08:57 PM
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Yea of course family can and should make you reconsider a person you are dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 03:52 PM
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Yeah I think no fault divorce isn’t going anywhere for the states it exists in. I live in a no fault state but know it’s still a thing in quite a few states. If someone doesn’t want to be with me all they need to do is state it. It won’t make me feel better to keep more money if I caught her cheating. Maybe a mandatory counseling period for no fault divorce so that the record can be set straight on departure. I really believe that if two people meet and truly want to raise kids together, that wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 09:13 PM
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I didn’t have a bunch of girls but I did have one HS sweetheart and got to experience that full young puppy love. The eventual heartbreak was painful but looking back the whole thing was great and lovely
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 08:44 PM
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Marriage should exist and is a good goal for a lot of people But oddly, I agree that the dating market would be better if everyone dated until they met someone and said “hey I’d like to raise children with you” “i would like to do that with you too” It would really make it awesome
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 08:22 AM
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Everyone wants the person that’s so into them that they aren’t considering other options. Unless I somehow caught her out with a dude, how would I know? The one time that did happen, that woman became very clingy and into me as she got to see us side by side and realized our size difference lol
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 12:15 AM
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I dated before the current app/social media situation When I was in my single 20s, match.com was just starting to come into the main stream but most guys (and girls) I knew that were able to date would not be caught dead on that. Answer to 1. Yes it seemed like when we went out to bars/clubs looking for girls, there was someone for everyone at whatever level. Part of the reason is that’s what going out was for. Each bar had a different archetype or style for the majority of the clientele and whe…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 10:50 PM
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You need to be the top of the food chain for a attractive woman to look within in the rare cases she is rejected. If an NFL qb rejects her..she may wonder but she won’t be concerned by some regular good looking dude doing it. She will get approached by another in 3-4 minutes. Saw this recently on a film I was working on where a super attractive friend was freaking out because she found out she’s just an option for this more famous actor she was seeing.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 04:23 PM
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It’s love and it’s just how I was raised. It will sound cliche to most but my dad really told me stuff like “one day it will be your job to protect those who can’t protect themselves” when I was growing up. He also told me on my first date that it is your responsibility to make sure that young lady returns to her home safely at any cost. Money and bedroom stuff is important but if a woman doesn’t feel safe with you, there’s no reason for her to spend time with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 03:13 PM
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Lol I know this girl and used to train with her back in the day. She’s aa crazy as you all think..but her Muay Thai was top level.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 11:21 PM
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There are levels to OFs but assuming she was doing the full porn level then No i absolutely would not take her seriously for marriage. I think trading on your body in that way is taking the “easy way” out. I am sure she would find a guy with similar baggage and live happily ever after.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 08:03 PM
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Game is always worth your time to learn, fellas. No matter where you sit on the handsome or finances chart, game will help you.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 09:30 PM
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Yeah it’s weird and not clear as to why. I married a tall women and one thing about it, as a tallish guy I had zero competition for tall women when I was single.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 07:40 PM
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Oh boy..this thread won’t go well as race topics never do on Reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 05:25 PM
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Frankly this is a very easy decision if a 6 means a person who still graduated from a second tier state school. Where I live you’re basically saying an 8 who graduated from Cal State Fullerton. Yes I would take her over a 6 from Cal Tech. Maybe suggest a bigger gap to make it a choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 07:08 AM
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Lolol this nonsense gets trotted out again. Why? I’m sure that there are people who will believe you but you won’t convince most people that more choice and more options, along with the bad ones that come with it, is “worse” than less options and opportunity. Geez Specifically to your point a woman who is a legit 10 is doing fine in real life and dating apps. A man who is a 10 still goes through a tremendous amount of rejection. That’s the game.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 05:37 AM
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Yes I would agree that in a long term relationship/marriage there is a lot more shared finances but not so much in the dating phase. I’ve heard for years my female friends expressing why they just don’t feel quite right spending a lot money on a BF. All good. Best wishes to you and your hubby
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 12:02 AM
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Lol I have time today It’s not that men don’t care at all. It’s that men care less about a woman’s career than women do about a man’s. Largely because women don’t share money with men like men do with women as that’s largely socially expected. A lack of career success will NOT stop a man for pursuing a woman he wants. A woman of a certain career level won’t give a man a chance if he’s not close enough to her career level. That woman still expects that man to pay for almost all the dates. I hate …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 11:38 PM
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It’s just that simple. Send that last text then move on with your life
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 12:57 AM
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Ghosting is never a good look, man or woman. A 2 line text isn’t much to ask for. Justifying ghosting is almost as bad as doing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 10:26 PM
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Lol..Women approaching men is the super minority among women and will always be. Sure if you really have the goods a lady may put herself out there but more than likely she’s going to position herself to where you come talk to her as opposed to her making cold approach. No matter how much we re-examine gender roles and society changes, the majority of women I know would still rather die than approach a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 08:20 PM
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Grifters exist in every place possible
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 05:09 PM
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There’s nothing wrong with being short. All you can do is be every inch of who you are. I’m sure your wife is lucky to have you. It’s the Women being dishonest about this preference online will always get me 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 10:32 PM
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Beyond this specific thread..there seem to be a lot of men that get dragged into the “explain by bodycount matters to you” argument..I just see it as a waste of time
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 03:36 PM
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If fitness is important, you have to screen out up front. If she doesn’t have great fitness habits before y’all get married, it is rare that she develops them after. I only had one buddy who successfully dated a girl and helped her get in shape. He tried it with 2-3 other girls before her and it failed
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 03:46 PM
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Well yes and no. Yes your logic is totally sound..6-5 plus is rare but according to OP a 5-8 guy who’s a 9 in the face would do better with women than a 6-6 guy who’s a 6. As the young kids say, that’s cap. My basic point is that my real world/life experience tells me that it not true. I’ve seen too much and had so many conversations with regular women about this, as a tallish guy, that I know better. As always, anecdotal evidence is not absolute but it is real. I won’t even talk about my ugly t…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 02:31 AM
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I respect his career but yeah Young tom cruise no longer exists, in fairness. You’d also be surprised how many women still don’t know how really short he is. I’ve also met women who stopped liking him when they find out he’s really 5-7. I just thought you were sorta cherry picking to put Lebron James vs Tom Cruise. Jordan is closer in terms of fame and Brady was the closest clean cut white guy I could come up with. But hey rational minds can differ and I love doing that without name calling so t…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 02:25 AM
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Yeah the OP is focusing on this part to obscure the point 6-5 inch accountant with average face vs 5-8 inch accountant with model good looks…I am sure who gets more general attention from women. From my experience my PGs always did fine with women varying from 5-9 to 6-1 as they had a bit more game. My teammates 6-7 and above got girls with no game just because they were tall.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 02:13 AM
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Tom cruise is the celebrity crush of older women..not women I know under 35 My real experience tells me otherwise but happy to disagree. Your putting fame on it to sorta obscure the point Same scenario..at a bar you go to right now with regular dudes.. who does better with women? Let’s equalize the all time fame levels… Who pulls more..Michael Jordan or Tom Cruise? Let’s equalize the race aspect. Who pulls more.. Tom Brady or tom cruise? Edit: like i said to the poster 6-6 accountant with an ave…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 02:07 AM
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Ok I’ll bite as I have experience here. Face is important for sure but to piggy back off that guys scenario… A 6-6 guy with an average looking face vs 5-8 guy with model looking face…who does better with women? Who gets more attention at a bar or party? Years of playing basketball and going out with my teammates taught me the real answer, but I’m curious to what you will say. Women do consider men in a lot of cases “just” because they are tall..saw that all my basketball playing life. Women will…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 02:02 AM
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Man..i have fond memories of a lot of stuff during my dating days. Meeting new people, Cool restaurants and experiences, getting dressed up etc. To the point of the OP, I don’t miss women “interviewing” me with a checklist in a way that men just don’t do to women 😂 but it happened plenty.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 04:48 PM
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Yes very true. It is a double edged sword. Wealth, after a basic level, does not help a woman’s dating prospects like it does a man. That’s because women care more about wealth/money in men than men care about that in women. Nothing helps a woman’s dating prospects more than beauty/attractiveness improvements, if you will. Also true with men that attractiveness improvements will not help nearly as much as wealth. Take two same age average looking guys..both making 60k a year with chubby physique…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 03:51 AM
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So many lol. Money is pretty obvious..a girl working at McDonalds has a different dating life than a man doing the same An Overweight women’s least desired choice is an overweight man. I love when that article is reposted. Height is also an obvious one. I’m tall-ish so I benefitted from it. So many really short girls “needing” a guy my height. Here’s a quiet one. Men will date a girl who is bisexual whereas women often see a bisexual man as a red flag/closet gay. Here’s a loud one. Age gaps. We …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 10:05 PM
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Something I learned from a mentor a while ago. Over-explaining something you feel strongly about makes you look either weak or unsure.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 08:06 PM
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Yes..all men and women should stop explaining the preferences they feel strongest about. If it’s a hard line for you, just rock with it and stop entertaining discussion about it. I have female friends that I’ve know for decades that only date taller guys. You can call them out but I’ve never seen them with a short guy ever. Same with body count. If that’s how you feel, state it and move on. If you would kinda prefer someone who watched or didn’t watch a certain show..that’s when you can explain …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 07:06 PM
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Lol holy dishonest misleading math Batman. Umm when you have a baby by surrogate you have to add that cost PLUS the lifetime cost of raising the child. Come on..that’s super misleading on your part. Let me share with you what my doctor said after our first round of IVF… the best easiest most efficient and affordable way to have a child is with a willing and able partner of the opposite sex. Every other way is fighting for second place. Ah yes you are not childfree by choice but don’t want to be …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 09:06 PM
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It seems like Japan is even further along in this process so they will provide an interesting case study in 25 more years or so
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 08:57 PM
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Lol you clearly have no idea what surrogates or IVF costs..let alone adoption. This is just something people on Reddit say. People who have done or investigated these things are far less cavalier than you are about them being solutions. Oh I get it…you’re childfree by choice aren’t you? Why would you even discuss this subject with me? Just to be argumentative? Edit: to respond to your edit, there is risk in everything in life. No guarantees for anything. By your logic, don’t do anything in life …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 08:39 PM
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Stigma yes. Impossible..no. We agree on one thing..it’s not easy to come back to the workforce as a single parent. That’s very accurate. Here’s another fact, it’s not easy to end up childless if you wanted them. Career success does not comfort you or your heart if it came at the expense of having a family if you wanted one. Period. Just like you provided anecdotal evidence, I can provide the same with women I’ve seen do it successfully and part of the reason they were is they fundamentally chose…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 08:16 PM
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Plenty of places in plenty of industries. You just start entry level but that shouldn’t matter. I’ve seen a lot of women go back to whatever industry they were in before and essentially start over after having kids. By the time that woman is 40 she will be crushing it at her company with a great family at home. Will they reach the career heights they might have if they never took that break? Probably not. If the choice is 40 year old regional director with a husband and no kids or 40 year old mi…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 07:57 PM
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Reddit leans child free in a way that the real world doesn’t so I’m sure you’re comments will reflect that. Of course I fully respect anyone who chooses not to have kids for any reason That said, yes if you are a woman who wants children please have them early as opposed to trying to have them late. You could have 3 children and then start your career at 30 and still have an amazing career and family. if you go hard in your career and then try to have them in your late 30s you are asking for hea…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 03:52 PM
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Age gap within reason but nothing crazy. If I was a 24 year old attractive woman then yes my target for this scenario would be 28. Maybe this is the guy part of me but players are always very obvious. I sure as hell was. So it baffles me when women say they don’t know what to look for in a guy. What sort of answers have you gotten on this?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 05:24 AM
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Full disclosure, I live in Los Angeles and work in the business. So that’s what I’m basing “attractive woman” on and yes legitimate top level beauties in LA date the kind of guys who often have high body counts. In my experience I have been reasonably surprised by how many very attractive women have crazy body counts and have been quite forward about their sexual escapades/adventures…with both famous and non famous dudes. Obviously not all beautiful women have a high count..but I just don’t unde…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 05:11 AM
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I don’t think I quite understand your question. Can you restate it please?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 03:37 AM
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Meaning if I am this woman, I would personally ensure that I had a low body county. Don’t need to be a virgin but i wouldn’t be known as a beautiful woman that had let many men have access to my body like that. Frankly, I wouldn’t intentionally filter out high body count men because where I live that’s who beautiful women date. I would filter out those who weren’t looking for a relationship which women can sus out. I think those women know that the actor or the laker they are having dinner with …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 12:03 AM
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This is sorta a wild question that I don’t know if you will get reasonable answers but I will give it a try.. If I were an attractive woman, a legit 8 or higher, I would frankly be picky all ways. I would be picky on who I dated and, unpopular part, I sure would be picky on who I slept with. I would definitely want to date an attractive guy with a lot going for him. He doesn’t have to be rich now but I have to be able to see the path to being financially stable and build a family together. Ladie…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 11:40 PM
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You are completely correct to call it out. I do wish men had a bit more rights on this topic. I would be in favor for some sort of steps that a man can follow to help prevent his biological child from being aborted although that seems difficult to do. But a man takes responsibility in a way that women still don’t always have to. A man sometimes has to take it on the chin and keep moving forward
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 05:01 PM
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If you really want to know, you have to set up the scenario. Prepare a night out and come with some of your own embarrassing stories or stuff that you aren’t proud of. Focus on being very non judgemental and mix with a little alcohol..she will reveal a lot
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 04:47 AM
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I just believe that this is one of those double standards that aren’t fair but are real and I support it. If anything there should be some sort of rule to allow the man to be a stronger advocate for a woman to keep a child if she is on the fence. But if the woman clearly wants to bring the child to this world, a man must take responsibility for his child. It is what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 01:09 AM
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Long before the word “passport bros” existed my older BILs buddy started going to Brasil at 39 with the expressed purpose of finding a wife. This was back in the late 90s. He was very much an average dude who never was able to be a player in the US I’ll spare you the long details. Bottom line is he got exactly what he wanted and they are still happily married. I think ladies waste time worrying about guys like this. The percentage is so small..it’s like maybe 2-3% of guys who do this. The other …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 06:17 PM
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I think everyone should have kids that want them. One thing I’ve noticed is that Reddit discusses fertility in a very dishonest way so I’m just here for comments. Yes I’ve seen people here equate a man’s fertility window to a woman’s and that’s just not true guys no matter how many cousins friends mom got pregnant at 46. Please stop it
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 04:42 AM
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Not answer the question for every Tom dick and harry unless it was a man who was going to marry her……like I explained in the response.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 09:22 PM
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Even simpler…the more attractive you are the easier time you’ll have with almost everything..
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 03:46 AM
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In the real world, game is absolutely not overrated. I met so many more women and had so much fun when I finally made it a point to work on it. I cannot recommend it to any young man highly enough. Full disclosure I am in my 40s and was single when meeting women in real life situations was the norm. Apps are a totally different ballgame I also do not do any PUA bullshit. I did it the right way
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 04:41 PM
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Rejection is part of the game and when I embraced it, my game and approach got so much better. I still prefer respectful rejections as opposed to some of the times where I was made fun of or a woman went above and beyond to make sure the rejection was special But the rejection just means you aren’t a fit with that person and what they want. There’s someone out there who wants what you have to offer. Find her
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 07:50 PM
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Correct! That’s fair on both sides. Blessings to you both
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 12:52 AM
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I am Gen-x and boy when I am at mixed age places..it’s so much different seeing how people in their current dating prime (20s) now a days. So very standoffish both genders are. 20s girls are so much meaner now a days looking from the outside. Of course, lots of people on their phones.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 11:24 PM
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This is so accurate. A DJ buddy of mine and I were talking recently and whereas clubs back in our 20s were 75% dance floor and 25% bottle service, that ratio has flipped so that clubs can make more money. It definitely is a hinderance for dudes that can’t drop 3-400 bucks for a bottle just to talk to girls
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 07:11 PM
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Lol thanks I never know the average age of the posters in this forum
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 11:11 PM
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Well I was in my early 20s in 2001. Match.com was just starting to become a thing but most guys my age wouldn’t be caught dead on there because OLD definitely had a stigma at that time. We assumed it was all the same as Craigslist personals. Also living in a big city and doing most of my mobile dating in big cities. First level was most people went to bars, clubs, concerts and parties to meet people. Happy hours after work, sometimes friends would hook you up was also common. Even the most shy g…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 09:36 PM
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Just here for the comments. I was always an approacher but I’m old, so I’m curious to see what people in the game now say
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 08:32 PM
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Just direct, honest and respectful is all that is required in a rejection. “I’m not interested in you like that”. The majority of women rejected me in a similar manner A good 20% did go above and beyond in a bad way in rejecting me. Whereas that would be an ok response to a less than respectful approach, there is a rudeness with rejection that is unfortunately deemed as ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 03:08 PM
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Yup. People get so up in arms about the “wall” when all it really means is getting to the age where everyone can see how you have taken care of yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 02:53 AM
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My understanding is that RP believes that it gets easier for men to date 20something in their early-mid 30s up until about 40 which I think is true. Op inserted 40 “and beyond” to slightly move the goal post.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 12:06 AM
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“It” being easier for guys at that age is about the self confidence and poise that you are supposed to have developed by then. You should also be past chasing girls like a puppy. Men certainly age and most 45 year old men aren’t as attractive as they were at 35 but if you’ve lived your life right, your actions (and internal reaction) towards women in a dating sense should be very different than when you were 17-20 for example.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 05:53 PM
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Lol 2 weeks is ridiculous. I would say a week maximum and hopefully within a few days
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 12:16 AM
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Yes this is correct. There are differences between the genders in approach For example a woman can be passive aggressive and it’s normal at frankly any age. A man should be direct once he comes of age because being passive aggressive is weak
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 03:22 AM
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Yes that’s a different matter. My thought is that at 30 men have figured things out and no longer operate like they were when women weren’t feeling them.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 02:59 AM
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First thank you to you and all the guys who responded on the 30 and over part. My presupposition for this belief is that by 30 most guys have “figured out” their style and approach to women and have been implementing it for better results than in their 20s per se. I also believe that grown men take a more measured approach to thing and wouldn’t be looking to follow some other man so fervently. This is my personal bias on this issue. I’m Thank you for sharing another perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 09:50 PM
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In my view it’s not at all mysterious why some young men are attracted to the red pill. For those that aren’t doing well with girls, they provide some reasons why and some steps to change it. It’s a little more mysterious why grown men (30plus) get sucked into it with such fervor.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 08:49 PM
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Women hold mostly all the cards in dating. They are the pursued at the end of the day. As a man you have to work to build your position into one of advantage. Yeah being at least decent looking is a part of it that you may not always be able to control and that helps. If you can put it all together, by your late 20s you get the advantages that come with being highly desired by a lot of women. It’s really awesome and something I wish every man to feel for a little bit at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 04:27 PM
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In fairness to the lady in the video..confessing feelings to a friend is not approaching. It’s using their friendship to get to her. She is right to feel put off by it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 04:29 PM
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There is no question a woman or a man can look great at 30. You have to take care of yourself, your fitness and eat right.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 05:42 AM
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Honestly is a life hack for single guys but tall women are so rarely approached on the scene, I always found them very receptive. I’m tall-ish (6-2) but even on those rare occasions where I approached a woman taller than me, they were so happy to talk to a decent guy. Approach those tall girls guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 06:35 PM
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Lol it’s an argument because you said “anything” above 2 years is a divorce risk and people get divorced at all age differences…same age up to crazy big gaps. I’d be curious to see what the difference is between 2 years and 4 years. It’s quite curious that y’all fight me so much over it but nobody has expressed it. The reality is You’re just looking to be argumentative which is your right on Reddit. I’m just mad at myself for wasting my own time. Have a good day and good luck
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 07:02 AM
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Lol marriage is a divorce risk.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 06:06 AM
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Did you even read my post? The age range I am suggesting is 4 years….just like you mentioned “most people” do. Nah..you didn’t read it at all. You just wanted to disagree
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 03:53 AM
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Umm..if he’s 30 and she’s 26 when they get married, they probably dated at 28 and 24…….
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 02:25 AM
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Contrary to what most purple pill women say lolol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 02:23 AM
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4 year age gap is high divorce risk? Lol seems like you are looking for stats to justify a reasonable age difference. Ok.. enjoy.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 09:11 PM
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Lol I dont know how those ages make you think that but suffice it to say I don’t agree at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 07:46 PM
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30 year old man with 25-26 year old woman I think is perfect
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 07:31 PM
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The real answer is that it’s probably 26-33 for guys as you are a good mix of youth and life experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 06:06 PM
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Great value Idris Elba is born 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 08:18 PM
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The point that I will always cede to women is that taking a bet on being a stay at home mom/wife for a man is a huge risk. It can either work beautifully or can be a disaster and a start over for her. No way around that. Certainly the man has risks as well. I think those have been fairly and honestly stated here
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 08:13 PM
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I think we all heard that quote when we were young..”regret what you didn’t do more than what you did” And boy…that really was one of the most accurate classic lessons out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 04:17 AM
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What I am saying, essentially, is that it IS the same thing and the “Mano sphere” tried to make this slight adjustment to specifically hate on women. It’s just the “one that got away” repackaged in my view. Don’t get me wrong there are things that they get right and explain beautifully. I just don’t rock with y’all on this one.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 11:37 PM
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2 things Yes men and women experience different things. You are just focused on sex and just not thinking broader. If you don’t have a single male friend that has a “one that got away” woman then you don’t have an honest enough relationship with your guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 11:06 PM
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The wording isn’t the best but it’s absolutely true for men and women. Long before this “alpha widow” term came to be, people simply called it “the one that got away” and I’d be willing to bet that we all know at least one married man or woman that confessed in private that they love their husband/wife but xyz is the one that got away. That’s all it is…nothing more. Lol we don’t have to add the word alpha Edit: If you keep trying to come up with ways to differentiate it, all that means is that t…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 08:40 PM
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If you are 20 and don’t do hookups.. Keep building your fitness and find out what you want to do career wise..school…start a business..whatever. Get a mixed group of friends and keep building. Make sure you are know as the guy that doesn’t do hookups. Eventually those guys and girls will help introduce like minded people to you. Good luck and rock it out. As some one who was a player in my 20s, I would have traded it all for one quality girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 10:59 PM
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Ok “reckless sex lair” is an absolute gem. Bravo to you!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 03:11 PM
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You make great points. I thought the normal was to try to blend families especially when they are still kids and having two parents in the house, step or not, was a good thing. I believe in cohabitation and think it’s awesome. If I get divorced I’ll never get married again but I can’t imagine the rest of my life not living with a woman I love.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 08:21 PM
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I think this is a Reddit thing more than real life. I can see it at 70 plus as people don’t want to complicate their lives. I cannot imagine being interested in this during someone’s active dating period..say age 30-60
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 07:30 PM
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Just here for the comments and boy are they gold.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 02:10 AM
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Oh man girls in Highschool were super mean to guys they werent interested in. I can remember a time a girl said “you? Really” she talked with her friends and everyone started laughing. It helped me long term but was not pleasant then.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 12:12 AM
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Paternity fraud as it hurts the child when this eventually comes out
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 05:16 PM
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I wouldn’t trade my height for anything. It definitely helped me when I was single.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 04:05 AM
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I think everyone should look at sex as “someone having access to your body” Generally speaking would you prefer to commit to someone who given more people access to their body or less? This is non gendered in truth
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 10:49 PM
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I completely agree with you. Sex is not a resource you can give away..it’s access to someone’s body. That said, I think you should say this to women who claim that “body count doesn’t matter”
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 09:32 PM
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Lol just here for the comments 😂😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 05:41 AM
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It always brothers me when women here say this kind of thing doesn’t matter whereas women in the real world will full acknowledge it helps. For the guys out there..get in the best shape you can get in by whatever method you choice. Take care of your hair, skin and face. Get clothes that match your new body. You will have much more of a chance with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 05:53 PM
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I actually don’t have a problem with the concept Alimony in a marriage where it both partners laid the groundwork for it. If i work and bring home money and you are the day to day manager for the house and especially our kids, that’s a fair trade on its face. The amounts get crazy and I disagree when it’s given in perpetuity..that should never be the case. There is no one I’d rather look after my children when they are young that their mother..so there is a value to that. No problem with prenups…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 04:48 PM
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On some level that may be true but to be clear here my only issue here is that the 19 year old is still a teenager and yes less experienced. As the younger person ages and gets a base level of life experience, I care a lot less about the age gap than Reddit does. A 25 year old and a 34 year old, for example, I have zero problem with.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 03:27 PM
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That’s very true. I’ve seen lots of 19 and 30 year olds in Japan and Europe
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 03:21 PM
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Lol everyone is projecting here as that’s baked into Reddit. Just like that guy is projecting to say he had barely been in any sort of club scene at 25 but that’s besides the point. I can’t speak for other countries but most 25 year old Americans have been to a club or two by that point. Goodness..you are super projecting there. A 25 year old is more experienced in that world than almost any 19 year old….that was the point
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 07:40 AM
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That’s you. I was running a party promotions business at 25 so you could say I had seen the insides of every club in my city many times by then.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 05:47 AM
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For me it is. Because at 19 you aren’t even out experiencing, for example, night life and the club scene. The 25 year old has seen that among other things. I feel like 19 year olds should be learning with other 19 year olds.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 05:44 AM
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That obviously a good point but I would still feel that 25 year old is on a different mental level than my kid. At 19 my child just hasn’t experienced enough life yet. I’d rather them make more relationship mistakes with other similarly experienced 19-20 year olds.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 05:42 AM
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It’s the age of the younger person that matters most. A 19 and a 25 year old is questionable to me and not what I would want my child involved in. A 26 and a 32 year old is completely fine in my view.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 04:56 AM
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Yup..And see that’s the part that people always leave out about the friend zone discussion…the times when it’s used so they can maintain favor and still get what they want out of that person. This does happen both ways to be clear. Sure, You don’t have to date every nice guy that approaches you. You absolutely don’t owe anyone a relationship. You can also choose to reject soft if you worry about an angry response. Nothing wrong with protecting yourself. But I’ve seen people get used in the frien…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/23 10:04 PM
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I didn’t see it as vindictive at all nor was it my intent. I was trying to figure out the best way to handle it different than I did in the past (HS) and the best way was to just live my life and be friends with her. At that point it my life, I had finally figured it out and was going into my player era. The only thing that made me mad was her lie about not dating coworkers. That turned out to be completely false. The other dude was higher ranked and making more than me. Like I said, she seemed …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/23 06:52 PM
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Sure I was friendzoned in HS but I’ll tell you about when i figured out how to actually handle it when I was in my early 20s. So a group of coworkers, similar ages, and I went out for drinks. Me and one coworker got a little close that night. Days later we talk and i tell her that I’m interested in dating her. She tells me she doesn’t see me like that and she doesn’t date guys she works with. Let’s be friends? Ok cool. So I later heard on the low she was talking with another dude at work..ok coo…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/23 06:06 PM
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Lol of course it’s real. Every guy has been put in it once, hopefully when they are younger and didn’t know how to handle it. It’s only on Reddit where people say it’s a myth. Back in the day, sometimes it’s good and honest friendzone and sometimes you get used but people never want to talk about that Funny thing tho..when guys post it, that’s when the myth comments come out. On the occasion when a woman posts that she got friend zoned, I never see people tell her it’s a myth. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 01:24 AM
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I think my parents had a traditional marriage with a more dominant husband and more submissive wife at home. They were partners but my father was definitely viewed as the overall leader of the household. He was also the final decision maker on anything big. My mother told me she made it a point to never publicly disagree with my father or raise her voice at him outside the house. Her belief was that a wife should never publicly disrespect her husband. Now a days that logic would make a lot of wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 11:31 PM
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lol of course. Reddit always wants to express their racism, so when the chance comes boom
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 05:32 AM
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Lol this is completely incorrect. Instagram girls have made real women feel like this and that’s sad and really unfortunate. I promise women with natural bodies and less than a full face of makeup are still desired by normal men.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 06:54 AM
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This is the correct take
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 09:50 PM
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Ok let me adjust it slightly and make factual There is no such thing as being too busy to be in a relationship with someone you are really interested in. Period. Full stop. End of story. Absolute fact
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 01:45 AM
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Your “league” is whoever you can get in an exclusive long term committed relationship.. if he or she is turning down the field to be with you, that’s your level
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 03:03 AM
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Lol where is that guy at now a days? I remember that reality show he did as one of those guys went to my gym at that time.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 04:56 PM
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I would say the target for women rejecting men should just be respectful and direct. Do they have to be overly nice? No. Do they have to be overly mean? Also no.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 06:06 PM
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My brother in laws buddy did this in Brasil and they are still happily married and raised 2 kids. It worked out well for him.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 02:34 AM
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The path for men to go from zero to getting girls is pretty simple and always has been.. Get with guys who are dating the kind of women you want and learn from them. It works every time
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 03:17 PM
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Keep building man. I can kinda see where you are on the journey so keep building your confidence and you will keep rising in whatever you’re trying to do..work..business…meeting women. Good luck out there
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 01:17 AM
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Fascinating topic that I’m happy to share on To answer the title question, no. If you truly have confidence it comes across without you having to say anything. The only true confidence comes from within. Until it’s inside you, the guy is just faking it. When you start building confidence, yes you have to fake it. I promise you that if a guy is truly confident inside..it is visible on the outside to both men and women. The toughest guy in the bar doesn’t talk about it. He IS it and if time comes …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 08:37 PM
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I can introduce you to 7-8 American-Latina couples that are happily married with children…. Both sides of the coin exist
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 07:39 AM
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Columbia is dangerous. I left off Venezuela because it’s too dangerous frankly
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 07:37 AM
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Lol not going to watch the video but based on the title I will say this.. If you are an American man of any race and want to go to a country to “do better” with women…. Women in Mexico, Brasil, Columbia, Dominican Republic and Uruguay will give you the ego boost you are looking for
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 05:59 AM
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Your confidence should be based on a lot of things. Having been blessed down there certainly helps. I will say that when I realized that I got lucky down there compared to most guys, yes it did help my confidence in approaching women.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 04:23 PM
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I don’t think this is the forum for this topic as Reddit generally skews to child free so I am guessing there is a lot of “who cares” in the comments That said, the birth rate decline in western countries is something that I’m glad I won’t be here to have to deal with. A couple generations like this and it’s going to get dicey
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 02:55 PM
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I learned from my dad. He is an old school man’s man and gentleman. He taught me so much and I can often see the difference in upbringing when I am around a group of guys I don’t know.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 04:10 PM
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It’s because we are in the social media era..anything anyone does can be made into an opinion video/post. I’ve known two men who did it and it worked out well for them and their wives. I’ve also heard about bad stories.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 04:08 PM
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If they are very young, you shouldn’t tell them as it’s grown folks business At some point when they are old enough, yes they deserve the absolute truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 04:04 PM
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This is definitely a popcorn thread… comments please don’t let me down
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 05:23 AM
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I don’t know if this would qualify for any pills but EVERY woman on earth has a friend that dated for dinner…without a doubt
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 09:53 PM
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It worked for me. Getting in A level shape was the closest I’ve ever seen to women throwing themselves at me. My only regret is that I had a stupid rule of never approaching or dating girls from the gym. I passed on so many quality women that way. Learn from my mistake guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 08:57 PM
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This is not new, correct. I’ve seen this up close a few times and if that is your specific goal and you plan it, it seems to work out well. Never seen it in Asia but I know a few dudes who imported brasilian and Columbian brides and seems like everything turned out well. Yes American citizenship was a factor. Seems like it was citizenship and babies as the most important things to agree on.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 02:43 AM
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I had a lot more fun when I was multi dating as a single man in my 20a
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 02:30 AM
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It’s more the independent women vs why won’t he commit. I see that all the time and it makes me giggle each time.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 07:51 PM
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I would imagine you will get killed in the comments here but I do enjoy you referencing something that we see all the time…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 07:25 PM
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Body count will always matter to a large portion of men. You can tell it matters to women too as I’ve only met a few in my life that were unapologetic about their number.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 05:45 PM
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Bumble had a good idea and the founders made money but it also illustrates how hard women will avoid making the first move if at all possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 05:27 PM
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This isn’t news…like not even a little bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 05:26 PM
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The solution would be for fundamentally less men to participate on those apps. It won’t happen but that would spark change
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 04:26 PM
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Ok I’m happy to share. Full disclosure, I’ve done this before to help guys here and some dudes disqualified my advice because I am a decent sized former college athlete (6-2, 190ish during my player days) and being tall was all it was. It helps but this is specifically how I went from 2/3 girlfriends in my whole life to being very popular with ladies for a decade. So I had gained weight my first 3 years working a real job and I broke up with my college GF. I was single and just hooking up with w…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 11:14 PM
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By early stage do you mean HS? college? Or when I fully figured it out?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 09:51 PM
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Ok so I’ll give an honest answer The non controversial parts..Confidence and danger are always appealing to women. When I think about my real badboy friends growing up that did well with girls vs me the nerdy good boy, they had those two things in spades. The less acknowledged parts..bad boys flip the dynamic. I remember my man told me when I asked him why I didn’t get chicks like him “you go out there trying to prove yourself to those hoes..shit them hoes gotta prove themselves to me”. They tre…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 08:56 PM
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There are some things that men will never understand about women or what they go through. I’ve heard this and it’s true One thing that women will NEVER truly understand about men is the scope and reality of romantic rejection. Never ever. They will never deal with it like men simply due to “lack of practice”
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 07:58 PM
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Lol…this is complete nonsense. Being beautiful or handsome has no downsides and will not hinder you from success in any field.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 04:03 AM
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Mckenzie Bezos became one of the richest women and people on earth when she divorced…doesn’t seem like a lot to complain about
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 09:09 PM
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I think that this is a great rule to follow. Wait til marriage for unprotected action
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 09:07 PM
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This isn’t at all shocking or surprising. Nor should it be for any adult here. For the millionth time, there are very few “accolades” that a woman can have that a man would be excited about and more romantically inclined towards her for.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 03:13 PM
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I’m taller so it was so easy meeting y’all girls when I was single and people avoided women 5-10 and over it seems. Married a woman who is 5-11 Keep rockin and you will be fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 11:40 PM
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I do laugh when I speak with some of my single 40s female friends and they talk about what they are looking for..in some cases it’s really crazy how big the gap is between what they want and what they are offering. Either way, you can always choose to be single and that’s all fair for any of us. Good luck out there
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 10:38 PM
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If we are talking about HVM along with him rich and famous..yes I believe that those women knowingly sign that contract with that husband that comes with that lifestyle. They just act shocked or hurt for the public when something comes out. Women “come with the job” and is frankly one of the top 3 perks. Tough to expect that man to give it up before he’s gotten his fill of it. Said another way Derulo might be a faithful husband to someone when he’s 45-50 but certainly not today. Frankly speaking…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 08:43 PM
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The only advantage a man has is that he ultimately gets to choose which woman he invests his time and money in. Thats it. Otherwise women hold all the cards
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 04:28 PM
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I do think there will be a bit of reversion to normal/natural. 2-3 years ago seemingly every girl was trying to get a bbl. The hype seems to be subsiding.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 09:07 PM
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Lol. Pro, college or high school…an athlete in one of the desired sports will do fine with women and will have plenty of willing partners in the corresponding realm. The 5-9 point guard or running back won’t get as many girls as the small forward or quarter back but they won’t be lonely. This can’t be a serious question..as in I hope y’all knew this from experience
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 08:08 PM
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I was floored when I met her in person. Naturally beautiful women age very well. He’s a normal dude and a good dad so I’ve got no beef with him. Man..I just imagine them walking around Costco and other dudes must be like how the hell did he land her?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 10:43 PM
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I think OP is more ranting than looking for actual answers. That said, I always give honest answers here no matter how much I get trolled or mocked… My father gave what I consider really good advice on picking men to my sisters. All 3 married good dudes. 1 is now divorced but he was/is a good dude. When the topic of sex and relationships came up..this is about what he told them. When you start having sex, your relationships with men will change forever. It’s part of life but it can cloud your ju…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 09:43 PM
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Lol unless there is a crazy age gap it’s not predatory at all. We talk about 40 year old men and young women all the time here…if you are a 40 year old man with decent money and you really want a 20s woman, you can go to an Asian or South American country and have your pick pretty much. Otherwise it’s completely fine. Related: my BILs best buddy did that. He never did well with women here and decided at 35 to go to Brasil with the expressed purpose of finding a wife. He did. She was about 10 yea…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 08:32 PM
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I’ll answer. I post here because I want to share my actual real word experience. Reddit is a fun place but so many here speak from theory as opposed to experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 04:50 AM
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Can’t speak for ladies but for men, an early 40s man who has never been married is likely not going to get married. I’ve confidently told my female friends this over the years. That dude isn’t going to marry you. I’ve seen people say to be leery of women who aren’t married by 35 and that seems to be pretty accurate
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 04:44 AM
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Yes it’s a great thing assuming they are legit platonic and you have no dating history with them. You having women around you makes other women wonder in a good way.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 06:11 PM
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Lol of course it does. Putting relationships aside, everyone here is benefitting or suffering today, jobs finances fitness, from what they did in their past
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 07:25 PM
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In the end it got to a point where mother and daughter were just going in on him for hours. I realized that they would talk about me like this as well. No Thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 02:19 AM
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It was how they all acted and then how she and her mom talked about her dad when it was all over. That was the eye opening part.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 01:16 AM
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Good for him. If that’s what you both want, I wish you a lot of wedded bliss. I met a lot of quality girls that came from a divorced family. Kept it casual and had fun. They would usually reveal the effects of that divorce at some point in our relationship. That girl I mentioned became one of my loves but when I saw that full dynamic on display, it was the beginning of the end. I don’t regret dating her and I loved her but I am happy I didn’t marry her. It was a deal breaker for 20s me. It was a…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 12:54 AM
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Happy it has worked out for you. Just out of curiosity what are his thoughts on marriage? The person matters most, I think we agree. There are no absolutes either. As far as a filter for wife potential, it served me very well to use it and I would do it again if I were magically 25.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 09:08 PM
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Oh boy knowingly unpopular opinion incoming First thing, I have female friends that had/have that same requirement. I think your premise is a bit needlessly gendered. That said I will speak from my own experience. It was a requirement of mine for most of my single 20s life. I thought that I had to be with a woman who has seen a marriage work despite struggles and the ups and downs of life. At the time it seemed like girls who went through divorce would always see it as a realistic option. I didn…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 04:23 PM
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Now this is the kind of thread I’m fascinated to read.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 07:25 PM
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Oh these polarizing threads… one half making it sound like younger women never ever date older. The other half making it sound like all young girls are waiting for their 40 year old knight The truth is in the middle.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 10:21 PM
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The “wall” , depending on your definition, exists but like most things here are generally overstated or understated by whichever side of the gender war is speaking. Tô the OPs point I certainly think women look great at 30 but you have to take care of yourself to look great in a way you didn’t have to at 25. If you’re smart, you already are taking care of yourself in your 20s so you have an amazing start to your 30s. That said, any 32 year old well maintained woman will tell you that, unless she…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 08:43 AM
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All the cynicism and “risks” aside…this has to be said. Nothing beats a man and a woman in a healthy relationship raising a child/children. Nothing at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 02:41 AM
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Ive never worked at a place that had attractive employees that weren’t having sex with each other off the clock. Like never. I’m convinced that “don’t shit where you eat” is just one of those cliches people say but don’t follow. You work in high powered industries…finance, legal, tech and yes it’s going down.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 02:35 AM
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My catch all quote for these situation. Forget who I heard it from but props to them. “The woman who says she doesn’t need a man..has never met one. The man who asks what a woman brings to the table..has never met one.”
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 08:07 PM
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Like most things on this forum, there’s some truth to it but it may be overstated by the “opposing side” if you will. Women don’t shrivel up and die at 31. Men who reach a point of financial stability become more in demand when they reach that. I do believe attention and options change for both due to that age/success rating. I know some beautiful 35 year old women who will admit that they definitely don’t get hit on as much as they did at 25. I also know some dudes who are average looking 35 ye…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/22 06:41 PM
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Yes youguys make this clear all the time that y’all think cold approaching is over. I am in the minority of this. So let me present it to you a slightly different way… During the lock down period people were really starved for human interaction. I believe a way to stand out positively would be to work on approaching women as people are back out in public. Social circle is fine especially if you have it already. If you don’t, making new friends by approaching people will help expand it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 05:56 PM
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Guy here but I have to say, as I always happily die on the “approach women in real life hill” Lol met my second longest relationship from a cold approach. After we broke up I met my wife also through a cold approach. Edit: I acknowledge that I am in the minority on this topic. I will say that when I truly figured out that beautiful women get approached less…it changed my dating life for the better. Good luck out there guys!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 05:17 PM
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Lol if you’re making $250k-ish and live that lifestyle, you will get plenty of casual sex. That said, my Reddit downfall is that I will always give an honest answer from my own real world experience. Full disclosure this was in a time before apps so this is what worked in bar/club/real life dating situations. First, you can’t fake being a “bout that street life” type bad boy. You would actually have to get out there and put in that type of work. Usually those dudes were like that since HS and ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 12:42 AM
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The one thing that those clowns in the color pill or “manosphere” communities have completely correct…the absolute highest honor or the most important thing a woman can give a man is a child.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 11:03 PM
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You are a million percent correct man. It would be a riot if you said that. Whereas I’ve seen short dudes get rejected/killed and women laugh at them Im sure there’s some sort of expression out there about being right doesn’t change reality or something close to that. This would be the time to say it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 06:07 AM
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Nothing wrong with that way as well. When I was on the scene approaching, it also increased my circle immediately. Good luck out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 05:18 AM
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Just out of curiosity…eliminating all cold approaches… what do you think the best way to meet women is?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 03:41 AM
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Lol..have we really gotten to a point in Reddit-society where a man approaching a woman he is interested in, in real life, is “cringey and desperate”?? Boy..y’all should ask your parents how they met. Edit: I’ll say it again to my guys out there..of all the skills and self improvement you work on in your 20s-30s learning to properly approach women is very high on the list of valuable uses of your time.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 02:44 AM
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Men and women have different expectations in the dating world. That’s just reality As a man you’re supposed to take rejection on the chin gracefully and not be intentionally mean if you reject a woman. I see your point but it’s irrelevant as, like it or don’t, the rules are different.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 02:39 AM
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Correct. When I was in my single 20s and wanted to meet women, I would call my little sister and take her and her friends to sushi. By the time we were heading to whatever bar we were going to, we always magically picked up a couple of ladies as we were just a big group having fun
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 09:24 PM
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Lol I’m happily married and Dated plenty in my 20s. Most importantly, and as I said above, I’m not happy to see any woman crying about not having a child when she wants one. It’s a sad thing. The funny part is I agreed with you and still got this response. My guess is you just wanted to argue. I wish you well and congrats on your career.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 04:09 PM
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Actually I completely understand and agree with your base level point. Investing in 1 guy is a lot more risky than investing in a career path for a woman. No question about that. It’s the thing that makes it all so tough on ladies. Never let it be said that it’s an “easy” situation
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 01:15 PM
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Regret is a hard pillow to sleep on for sure. I definitely know a few female friends that chose career success over family and even if you really hit your career goals it doesn’t quite hit the same as family
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 02:27 AM
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Yeah it’s crazy. I’m not happy to see someone cry like that but my understanding is she was super duper arrogant when she was on the dating scene in her early 30s, at least when she was visiting LA.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 01:32 AM
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Wow I didn’t know this is how Lolo jones ended up.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 12:37 AM
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Young girls are fundamentally in demand. When that’s the case you can be picky. My personal belief is that young women should be picky but not mean. It’s the mean girls that get caught off guard by this much ballyhooed “wall”. And yes, when you really have your life together as a guy, you should also be picky but not mean.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 09:31 PM
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I’m sorry this is nonsense. Those famous and rich men you mentioned could have whoever they wanted when they were single. They chose who they wanted..not who you wanted for them. Get to that level and you can choose who you want for you. I work in the biz man. B level actors, no offense to them, don’t struggle with meeting pretty girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 05:00 PM
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Flirt with every woman you aren’t interested in for the next few months. You will be so much more comfortable talking to beautiful woman. If you see a woman out who is exactly what you want as far as attractive, approach her. Better off finding out how she feels as opposed to wondering about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 10:44 PM
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Struggle in some ways yes but it’s the struggle you would expect given that scenario. If a man is classically handsome and objectively successful in his career, he has all the struggles that come with having lots of choices. From personal experience, the main struggle is finding a woman you trust. The struggle is not in meeting beautiful women willing to spend time with you. But the struggles that most guys talk about here?? Not at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 05:43 PM
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Divorce rape is real albeit sometimes overstated. If you aren’t sure, you should ask for a paternity test.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 03:36 AM
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I’m sure In some cases. They can recover so long as they are open for more kids
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 03:31 AM
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Lol. I sure was and it didn’t prevent me from being poplar. Glasses aren’t a negative for most.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 03:24 AM
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I see a lot of folks who finally hit early to mid 30s and all of a sudden that laundry list of things they want gets boiled down to an actual workable small list of deal breakers. People date much happier then.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 03:23 AM
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Goodness..I’m about to shout into the abyss here because I know guys won’t listen but hey..I’m going to try to help Dear guys..if you are going to commit to being better at approaching (as you should) then I have 2 tips for you..1 approach all women you find attractive and 2 Approach each and every woman you think is too attractive for you! Each and every one. I didn’t believe this at first when guys told me so I won’t hate on you for not believing but it’s so true..so many drop dead beautiful w…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 01:30 AM
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If this is true, as in is just about the card and no love, you should at least be getting paid.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 08:06 PM
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Yeah it’s really a measure of growth to feel that way. When you and that ex first break up, there’s so much hate that you hope they trip and fall when they go on a date. But as years pass and you move on to a happy healthy relationship, you remember the times when this person told you their hopes and dreams..so you wish that they reach them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 03:18 PM
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Man listen… cockiness is a way that a average guy can create an edge and will help him tremendously with women. When he continues this path and calms down..he settles into real confidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 06:48 PM
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Just as I know some people with thyroid and other medical issues that prevent them from getting in shape. Is it the majority of overweight people? As in more than half? No..not even close.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 08:52 PM
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Oh man was life changing for me! My first job out of college took me from decent athlete shape to way overweight. Eventually I got back on it and got into the best shape of my life and women threw themselves at me. This was years ago and the climate was different but I met women all over my city..cafes, grocery stores, walking the streets, shopping…to say nothing of bars and night clubs. I didn’t get every phone number of a woman I approached but surprisingly most were open to my initial approac…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/22 01:42 AM
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I think you make a good point. One thing that sure seems different in women now vs 10-20 years ago is the concept of really taking care of your man. I see young guys I work with in so many one way relationships. It’s like their girlfriends expect those dudes to worship them while they basically tolerate those guys. It’s sad honestly
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 02:18 PM
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The thing that always gets me about redddit is that so many women here act like that didn’t happen..or “none of the girls I know have ever dated older” lol. In highschool there were a subset of girls dating much older dudes..so old that legally it shouldn’t have been happening. You get to college and now that they are 18-20 it’s at least legal but it happens again You get to Reddit “that never happened” lololol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 01:26 PM
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Lol assuming it’s true IE a beautiful woman with a below average attractive man, the woman is happier because she will always have the advantage in the power dynamic. The dude knows she is in demand and will treat her accordingly. The woman knows she has more options than him so she will get constant ego reinforcement but won’t have to deal with the competition she would if the guy was also highly desirable. This is why the old, but accurate, trope of a woman wanting a “man that is hot but doesn…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 04:18 AM
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Holy cow..so many excuses in one post. Sure it’s genetics for some but if you think the majority of overweight people aren’t there because of lifestyle and habits..I don’t know what to tell you
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 01:24 AM
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Weight is not quite like height, despite the way both sides seem to use this against each other. With weight, how you carry it does matter a lot. Generally speaking a lot of guys are forgiving of some weight on a woman if it comes with curves they like. With height, how you carry yourself helps if you are 5-8 to 5-10 as that level you can still do very well. It’s tough to overcome 5-6 and below as a guy. It can be done tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 12:54 AM
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It’s not incumbent on women to stop giving dating advice..they are always going to share. It’s on men to no longer listen and politely dismiss it. I’m not going to go with all the silly fishing/hunting analogies..I just think that if you haven’t learned yet to ignore womens advice on this issue, you had to learn it for yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 10:44 PM
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I didn’t say looks don’t matter. You randomly injected that to make your “point” I guess. It’s the Reddit way. I’m speaking from my personal experience as a 34 year old dude who was in good shape, reasonably handsome and tall. Anecdotal is not absolute but it is real. Anyway…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 07:10 AM
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There’s a third category..older men who have their shit together and want a reasonable shot at children. That aside, yes there are plenty of delusional men who think they will automatically be hot when they are 40 and have their career in order. That’s an overstatement. From my personal experience I was surprised at how popular I was at 34 with 24-26 year old women despite not being rich at that age. A little confidence and a bit of game go a long way in comparison to 25 year old dudes who reall…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 04:15 AM
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It seems like this is a blind spot for Reddit due to the distaste for it. To make it sound like there aren’t plenty of age gap marriages and relationships is silly. Perhaps living in LA means I see it more than other cities but it’s alive and well. We can toss out both ends of the discussion. 3 years and under is essentially the same age. 20 years is rare and those relationships are fraught with issues But 8-12 years, which is a large gap, happens all the time in big cities. This is to say nothi…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 02:18 AM
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I was not popular with the ladies in HS. I was mid popular in college as an athlete but, and I’m about to date myself by using this phrase, I had no “game” so I couldn’t just go and meet ladies. At 24 I figured it out my style and the best way for me to meet ladies. I worked on it…I worked on myself..went through epic amounts of rejection..but then learned to approached and meet women whenever and whoever I wanted. It changed my whole life. I didn’t hate women. I did break a few hearts on purpos…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 01:31 AM
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The wall does exist for both men and women but it is overstated in terms of impact generally by the gender that is using it to hate or demean the other. By saying somebody hit the wall, it just simply the reaching the point where you are past your overall dating prime. We all arrive there eventually.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 01:08 AM
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Men care about a woman’s career/social status more than they would like to admit but still and forever substantially less than women care about a man’s career/ status. Highly successful career women struggle dating in a way that highly successful career men do not… A beautiful woman from a lower socioeconomic background can marry “up” financially in a way that a handsome man from a similar background can’t even dream of.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 02:17 AM
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I don’t believe a man should need to be forced to take responsibility for his child. DNA testing all confirmed…I will never co-sign a man not taking responsibility for his child. The abortion issue you are trying to raise is a false equivalent that I will not join you on. We agree to disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 06:50 PM
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Being old school means you apply it widely..not selectively. I would never allow a child of mine to exist in this world without my support..with acknowledgement of the extreme but real example i gave.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 05:50 PM
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30 is a pretty good age for that first good bit of earned maturity. You don’t know everything in life but you’ve definitely lived at least a little bit by the time you hit 30. As cliche as it sounds there are some dating epiphanies that you can see in your male and female friends if you look around at that time. By 30 me, and my guy friends, understood that rejection isn’t fatal and you should be confident enough to talk to any woman you are attracted to. You also develop real bulletproof confid…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 05:39 PM
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I’m about to reveal myself as completely old school… Simply put, No, I do not believe that a man should be able to abdicate his financial responsibility to a child that he fathered under normal circumstances. When you lay with a woman a child can be a result and as a man, you have to step forward and take that responsibility. Period. Full stop. Even if you don’t necessarily love that woman. The idea that a man can sign away his parental rights and responsibility is laughable to me. For an extrem…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 05:26 PM
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Married guy here, full disclosure. I wouldn’t say hard as hell or impossible. I feel sad for guys that think like that because they are letting the negative voice in their mind win. If you see it that way, that’s what you will get. If you see it as lots of ladies out there..that’s what you will get. Of course dating is easier for women and always will be. They are the pursued. So it’s just regular hard in my observation. What I will say that I feel for guys now a days is that women sure seem mea…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 05:05 PM
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Easiest one I can tell youguys.. Go on a date with her and ask her questions about her the whole date. A girl who is really interested in you will ask you about you as well. Most girls will just keep talking about themselves as you are giving them attention. Girls who only want attention will string you along for more attention. Also..if you ever feel like you are chasing as opposed to you both pursuing each other…you are going to get led on
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 08:08 PM
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Lol of course this isn’t true all the time but I would be willing to bet that everyone on this forum has a person or two in their past where the chemistry was amazing and the sex was off the charts to where if they ran into that person and they were both single…you would certainly be up for another go around hoping the chemistry is still just as good. Said more simply, we all that that person that really fucked our brains out so much you would always consider round 2 The statement itself is a bi…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 11:14 PM
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To be fair, I don’t think “most men” is ever applicable in this discussion. I can introduce you to dudes who pay 1000/mo and it’s not enough for the basics in their city. They live in high cost of living areas. I can also introduce you to my good friend who’s ex didn’t work because of how much the child support was. When he took her to court for an adjustment, she came to him and basically laid the truth out and begged him not to go through with it. She’s not most women either.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 02:06 AM
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Simply put, my point is that a man should not be able to “opt out” of all assistance if he is the biological father. Regardless of his wishing she terminates the pregnancy. Period. Full stop. It’s tough to say but all that must be considered before the act. And yes the woman has the ultimate say about bringing that child to the world. That may be unfair but that’s how it is. Lol I’m certainly not left wing or right wing. I’m just an old school man.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 01:49 AM
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I agree they can be angry about improper fund usage.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 01:44 AM
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Yes France is wild with that one. Paternity fraud isn’t new but I think we all agree that it should end responsibility for the father if the dna doesn’t match
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 01:36 AM
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If you have sex, there’s always a possibility a child will come from it. That man should certainly have to support that child financially. It would be sad if that father chose not to be in the child’s life but that’s another story
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 01:30 AM
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Of course. DNA tests should be mandatory
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 01:27 AM
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Yes I do and it’s fair for that man to question her on that. Next question.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 12:31 AM
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I’m sure in some cases it’s deserved and in some cases it isn’t. I can comfortably say it’s never deserved in perpetuity. My sympathetic ear means I am open to BOTH possibilities depending on the details. I am not open to such discussions on child support is really the grand point I was trying to make.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 12:30 AM
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Um..my main point was about child support but clearly you wanted to go off on alimony. Im sure in some cases alimony is deserved and some cases it isn’t. Child support is never in question
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 11:46 PM
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If you’re getting good dating results with whatever you are doing now, continue on. If you are a guy who is struggling or who isn’t happy with the results you are getting.. spend 2-3 months cold approaching and making adjustments from trial and error. Adjustments like where you approach, your personal style and look, what you actually say etc. By the 3rd month you will be in a different and better place in dating. You will look back on yourself and be amazed at the growth. Good luck
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 11:06 PM
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Men who complain about the length and amount of alimony payments, I will listen with a sympathetic and understanding ear. Sometimes alimony is deserved and sometimes it isn’t but there is room for discussion. Men who complain about child support are clowns who don’t deserve to be fathers.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 10:05 PM
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Noted. Best of Luck to you In all things.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 06:45 AM
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I’m going to help both sides here and give you my iron clad 100% accurate doctrine on this. The only rule is you must accept the whole statement or reject the whole statement… A woman who says she doesn’t need a man..has never dated a good one. A man who asks what women bring to the table…has never dated a good one. You’re welcome.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 02:22 AM
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Lolol. this is one of those “I hope nobody paid serious money for a study that I could have told you the answer” situations. I’m kinda surprised it was as high as 33. I was thinking 25% Don’t get me wrong, I am old school and always paid for the first several dates at least. I just hate when people lie and act like this isn’t the expectation still in 2022. I dated many a strong woman in my single days who got significantly less strong when the bill came.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 02:20 AM
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Your first point…The paying for dates thing you mention above is really the only dating tip that ladies need to hear and understand. I’m fine with women who say they won’t ask men out or approach. I also believe fundamentally us guys should pay for the first few dates..but boy if women knew how much good will and positive feeling it would buy them to pay for the 4th or 5th date..even if it’s something small, then I believe every marriage minded woman would do so. Like you said..a $50 date is not…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/22 12:16 AM
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Good question. She was sad and hurt that this is the first time she was not getting a guys full attention and romantic energy. The dude was more successful than her so he had 2-3 of her on his roster. She assumed that they were all as pretty as her which was a mind fuck. It was a total shoe on the other foot thing as she has had periods where guys were competing for her. In this case she was competing with other girls from the beginning. She just didn’t know it until later
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 01:11 AM
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Very interesting. Years ago I was working on a film and there’s lots of downtime on set. So I’m talking to an actress friend..27 years old at the time, classically beautiful and all that. She was freaking out because she was dating a more famous actor but she just found out she was just an option on his roster as opposed to his full attention and girlfriend. So I asked her when was the last time she got rejected or didn’t get the guy she wanted? She told me that some boy in 5th grade didn’t want…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 12:57 AM
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I’m not going to negatively generalize about what women want or value although I certainly could. I’m also not going to engage you in yours.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 07:06 AM
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Lol no..y’all don’t know or else you wouldn’t call men thirsty. Men just want a real connection…just like women. I know you’re just being punchy with the “thirsty” comment but y’all sure don’t deal with rejection as well as men do largely due to lack of practice. You can choose to fuck or not. That’s up to you. But I do not allow for women to lecture men on dealing with rejection. We can lecture each other about it and y’all can talk about male rejection amongst yourselves but you should never t…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 06:16 AM
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I wouldn’t say changed but I will say that this forum and Reddit helped me confirm that women really have zero idea the amount of romantic rejection men go through from teenage until they are married. Some conversations with female friends over the years helped start to show me but Reddit shows how big the blind spot is for women on this particular issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 02:48 AM
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Players get girls because girls see them with other girls all the time..and wonder what they have going on to where they are always with girls. Maybe i should go find out I hope most of you knew this before Reddit
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 12:18 AM
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Female friends are awesome. I have a bunch of them. We’ve never dated or anything romantic. That’s why it works. Part of the reason why is, for the sake of this forum, i solved the dreaded and dirty friendzone when I was in my mid 20s and it’s been all good since then.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 09:46 PM
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Assuming you aren’t at a level where you can discuss it, Body language will tell you. Pick one partner and really watch them while they are together in your presence. If one partner checks out after a while, look at the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 06:43 PM
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There’s the honest way and then there’s “just to find a wife way”. For me I had a good time and dated quite a few. Didn’t quite find one to marry but had a good time. I was in my mid 20s and wasn’t thinking wife. Make no mistake tho, those girls are interested in marriage and having a family. That’s still big culturally. My BiLs friend went down there when he was almost 40 for the expressed purpose of finding a younger brasilian wife to bring back to America. He was not what you call a ladies ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 04:52 AM
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If you are a black male, get your passport and head to Brasil.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 02:18 AM
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I don’t believe you are going to get honest answers on this. Women crap on average men and most people applaud. Picking on average women is not quite as much a crowd pleasing argument. It can come across as mean..simply put.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 01:14 AM
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Haha they may make it difficult but ladies literally wouldn’t have any other options
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 07:39 AM
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Go out of my way? No. I go out of my way to talk to women, when I was single, that I was interested in or attracted to. Would I speak to them with respect and basic humanity? Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 07:29 AM
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lol yes. Silly hypothetical but yes. To keep it local if 90% of American men died tomorrow..the remaining 10% would absolutely be super popular and likely spend every day having sex with ladies.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 07:25 AM
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I tell this to younger guys all the time..social skills and physical fitness are a worthwhile investment for both your professional and personal life. For all the BS people talk, men are still socially expected to approach and accept rejecting in a frequency that would make most women cry. Social skills and fitness will help you on both. Good luck guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 05:40 PM
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“Dating for dinner” is not at all a new concept. Looking back on my single days, there were definitely a few girls who were only in it for a meal.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 06:25 AM
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I know that you are mainly talking to men and make some good points. Honestly, I feel like the bigger lesson of your post is that your female friend shouldn’t have spoken so cavalierly about getting an abortion before she had to go through it herself. I think most men fairly rate abortions. It’s a very serious thing but we are told, constantly, that we have no say in the decision..at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 01:21 AM
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Going by your list of what a high value man is.. A guy with those things would have absolutely no need to use online dating. None. He could meet fantastic women in real life and would frankly get approached some as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 02:16 AM
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The comments here are just as wild as I would have hoped! Man..I didn’t think there was a defense for paternity fraud but people here are selling it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 10:57 PM
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It will never be made a law/requirement guys. This discussion is pointless
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 08:16 PM
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Putting aside the glamour fields..pro athlete, actor, singer..something in that area which you are right to ignore as it’s not as readily attainable to anyone as my suggestion is. But if a 10 year old boy came to me and asked him what job he could get that would guarantee he would get significant female attention just because of it, I would tell him to go to medical school and be a Doctor. Doesn’t guarantee success with dating but I’ve never met a doctor who was in a shortage of female attention…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 08:17 PM
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Ok I’ve never heard of this lady but THIS is fascinating.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 09:54 PM
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Cigarettes
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 11:39 PM
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It helped tremendously!!! Tremendously!!! This may be too old of advice as my single 20s were almost 20 years ago and long before online dating was what it is today..but at age 24 after working my first job I had gotten super obese by just working a lot and making enough to eat out every night. By 25 I got back to my college playing size ( 6-2, 180) and literally women threw themselves at me. It was great. I met women all throughout the day, IRL, and they were very willing to date and hang out. …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 02:58 AM
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Some women do but i don’t think anything would force women en masse to approach men. Literally, the rejection possibility would kill them
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/21 05:05 PM
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What if I told you that every man on here should, for 2022, delete all online profiles and approach women in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/21 04:09 AM
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Correct. Most marry at the same level but again, just so we don’t avoid it.. Who is most likely to be able to marry up financially..an attractive man or an attractive woman?? We all know the answer but I figured I’d ask just for the record. Good on you that you look deeper at a man that what he makes.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 06:25 PM
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Good for you, specifically. That doesn’t change the general truth of what I laid out.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 03:26 PM
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Ok..I’ll regret this but I feel like this thread needs some honesty. You’re focusing specifically on McDonalds because it’s not well regarded or liked these days so it’s makes your example woman “more undesirable” than if she were just a barista. All of this is really a smokescreen tho because in going for specificity I think you’re trying to avoid what I consider to be a well accepted relationship fact of American life. Can’t speak to other contraries. When those guys are saying a HVM would dat…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 06:46 AM
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Lol I didn’t think anyone used the term Sarging anymore..but this idea of “no public approaching” is where Reddit becomes a bubble Guys on this thread, I promise you can approach a woman the right way in your real life daily travels and meet them and exchange numbers. If you think we as a society have moved past that, you need to get out more.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/21 08:06 PM
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I believe it starts with putting the other person first. Ideally if you put her first and she puts you first, you’re going to both treat each other great. You have to have some, but not all, similar Goals and values. You have to be on similar pages about some of the biggies..religion..kids..family…general money beliefs Respect..you have to respect your partner as both your partner and as a human. Understand that when you disrespect them you disrespect your relationship. You have to laugh and hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 03:43 PM
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In every situation you can either see the opportunity or the downside. To those angry guys who might have gotten dealt a tough hand..I wish them well and hope they can get back on their feet. For me, I see 2022 as nothing but opportunity in terms of meeting women and on the job front. It seems to me that women are much more receptive to flirting and other nice stuff. For example…i open the door for any woman (ie if I’m going into Starbucks) and 2 years ago about only 60 percent would say thank y…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/21 03:09 PM
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Yup.. quarantining alone really hit some women hard. I dont think they want to repeat it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/21 03:01 PM
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I feel like in 2022 it will be open season with respectful approaches to people in real life
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/21 03:26 AM
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Good for you and your boyfriend and I wish y’all well. At the same time, as I mentioned to someone else, we don’t even use the word “dating down” for men who date a woman who makes considerably less or who is “lower class” (gosh I hate that) it’s just normal. The exception being men who have some official “royal” title, which I also don’t believe in but hey some countries do. Just shows how we haven’t arrived at dating equality just yet but maybe one day. My bigger revelation here was how many w…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/21 01:54 AM
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Agree to disagree. So many female friends who have been cooped up on their apartments want nothing more than a guy who will make them feel safer in an unsafe world. I feel like this is a massive opportunity on the horizon
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/21 01:02 AM
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I think people are divided because we can’t fully come together. That will end, in my view, when we are largely out of the woods. Nothing wrong with paying down debt tho. Good job
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/21 01:00 AM
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I got a random POV for this. First, happily married now so my wife and I had a good time quarantining together. Second, I’m putting aside the human cost of the pandemic. RIP to all those that didn’t make it through and to loved ones lost.. In an alternative timeline, I would love to be single 20-30 something me at this point in the pandemic. Holy cow…when the world reopens more there will be a significant and damn near once in a lifetime opportunity to meet new romantic partners. Lock down had e…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/21 12:33 AM
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Hmm..I’m curious to read that thread. Where can I find it?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 05:48 AM
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It’s the classist part for me 😂 I can’t speak for other countries but if you’re in the United States, you can’t deny that the caste/class system is real after reading this thread. I have taken girls to high end restaurants and events and watched them struggle with selecting the right fork. I didn’t look at them like “Aww you poor under class wretch, you’ve got no shot with me”…I looked at them like a human being taught them which ones to use.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 04:43 AM
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Yes! Some would I agree. I think the percentages would differ. As I mentioned on another comment…we never use the word “date down” for men short of those who are identified as some sort of “royal” title. Edit: Wonderful user name!! Haha keep rockin
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 01:05 AM
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In terms of a woman who’s making meaningfully more than you…. You will learn that when you are only dating, as opposed to fiancée or more, that you don’t care about her money because it’s not for YOU. It’s for her and her personal tastes. The social ladder aspects are a bit different.. frankly I think there is a hint of elitism with folks here on this topic. Lots of code and I am proud to say that will never be me. Anyway…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 01:03 AM
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I would say there are Reddit biases that lean towards dishonesty that manifest from both genders on topics like this…or topics in the dating/relationship space. Reddit and the real relationship world are often different things
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 12:19 AM
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I would agree with this including the gradual shift that is occurring.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 12:15 AM
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I’m never here to argue. Waste of time. Be well
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 12:11 AM
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No I don’t and won’t respond further. Have a good day and good weekend.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 12:04 AM
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Wouldn’t a guy from Princeton marrying a girl that went to Santa Monica city college qualify? They had a great wedding. This is my fault for responding. I feel like you’re always so needlessly aggressive in any discussion which is not what I come to Reddit for. Good luck out there and have a good weekend.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 12:03 AM
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They exist but given the choice, almost no woman would be open to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 11:44 PM
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I would say some men would fall under that. I would say the societal pressures are the greater influence. Everyone says being a stay at home dad is no problem until you tell men and women that you are one..and that judgment comes from both genders, if you’re being honest.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 11:44 PM
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She’s higher on those ladders that he..that was the point of the question….. College isn’t the be all end all…I feel like I have to say that for the record in your case. I do believe in it and enjoyed it myself. But to your last point..my anecdotal experience. Sorry..I don’t have full “stats” I worked at a boutique investment management firm for a long time. Six figures was a salary you would hit, man or woman, by your 3rd year at latest. Most of the people that worked there were Ivys and compar…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 11:41 PM
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I’ll put the educational aspects aside for a second although they are a real factor. Men care about the money they make. From attracting women to buying stupid stuff and everything in between. I don’t think anyone denies that. Men do NOT care about the money women make until we are married. Like I said, there is no such concern or phraseology when a man dates a woman who makes less money. As I have finally read some of the comments here…most women comments are along the lines that they don’t car…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 11:29 PM
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They are not the same but they are related. In this case, It’s both factors included and I answered the OPs specific question. If a guy is willing to commit and he is lower on the social and economic ladder, does he have a chance? In my experience the answer is a clear NO in terms of a long term relationship or marriage. Sure a hook up or ONS can always happen…but women marrying down is something they avoid. Something my female friends have avoided since age 25 and onward. If the social level is…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 11:16 PM
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Yeah you don’t know what’s in people’s hearts. I kinda wish everyone would date someone with a significant income difference once or twice so they can see it in real life. Meaning a guy who dates a woman who makes a lot more and a woman who dates a guy who makes a lot less. When you see it and experience it, you know better
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 10:57 PM
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In truth there is NOTHING wrong with a woman requiring that. I’ve dated girls when I was making really good money and when I’ve been lower on the totem pole. The ones I dated where honest about It. The problem here is the dishonesty about it. What’s unattractive about it varies from lady to lady but, if you want to know the underlying reason why…it’s something a female friend would tell you if you asked her in a normal conversation. “hey Jane, what is it about guys that make way less than you th…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 10:50 PM
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People will not always agree with what I say but I’m always going to comment honestly and from my own actual real world experiences. This general topic is full of people being dishonest. Without reading any of the comments, I’m betting a lot of women will answer that “they don’t care about his status” but that is not true in the real world
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 10:32 PM
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One thing that youguys are generally right about here..women do not “date down” unless it’s completely unavoidable. Sure when everyone is teens and early 20s we’re all just having fun so it can happen. But whatever age you consider “adult” is when a woman will not seriously consider a guy who’s not making at least close to as much as her or she can see the path to him getting to that type of money (ie grad school) the social ladder aspect is a bit trickier as being elitist and/or classist isn’t …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 10:14 PM
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Ok so I’m going to sorta skew the ages a bit but I’m going to speak from what I see and who I know in this situation. For the sake of this I’m talking about full relationships and not just a hook up here or there. As I say seemingly every time this topic comes up..men on this forum overstate how often/easy 20 year age gaps happen. They happen but it’s usually fame and/or significant wealth. Women here consistently understate how often 8-12 year age gap relationships happen. Not even with guys th…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 04:23 AM
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Yeah If your 52 and doing pretty well financially, although not crazy money, you shouldn’t have a problem attracting late 30s early 40s women on the regular
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 03:06 PM
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Lol if a 43-46 year old guy has all the things you mentioned…good looking, fit and funny and is legitimately rich, the bottom line is that guy will not at all struggle with women. He will generally have a line of interested ladies much in the way 24 year old models have a line of male suitors. How young he can go will depend but for example, he will have no problem getting every 29-34 year old woman he wants. He will have a shot with 23-25s as well although the game is obvious with those girls. …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 02:40 AM
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Boy the comments here are gold 😂 that’s all I got
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 08:01 PM
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To each their own. I’m speaking from my very popular 20s dating life. I missed a lot fewer shots at beautiful women, 8-10s or whatever, than my friends who only went after them because I was more relaxed than them. I acknowledged their beauty but didn’t put it on a pedestal. Those guys often make mistakes as they put too much on it and got nervous. That’s always the advantage.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 01:48 AM
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The reason is works is not about lowering the standards.. it’s about consistency and confidence. When you are regularly getting women, of all levels, you walk with a tremendous level of confidence and as a result you likely approach more beautiful women than a guy who just approaches those women. Those beautiful girls can feel that confidence as well. If youguys are in your player phase of life..really just go and approach all with as much confidence as you have and you will do much better than …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 01:36 AM
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I think this is one of the best ways I’ve ever seen this expressed. The idea that everything needs a peer reviewed study is ridiculous indeed. Thank you for this. Bravo
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 01:31 AM
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Hahaha now that ain’t no lie!! We agree on that I want to thank you for that laugh. I sure didn’t expect your response and I needed a laugh today and yes my wife had to ask me what the hell I was laughing at.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 05:11 PM
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One married her before the tape... so I will say 2 for the sake of your example. But her fame explains that pretty easily. And good for her. I can bring up that felon bae dude as converse outlier. She’s also divorced 3 times as well…. The question was do the majority of men see her that way and I would say the majority of men would not want a wife with a public sex tape..
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 04:17 PM
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That put her on, sure. It’s also the reason guys don’t see her as wife material. But who’s buying their various beauty products? In crazy numbers…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 12:32 PM
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Lol.. It’s girls liking and wanting to be like the Kardashians that built their empire. Not men. Like not at all…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 04:42 AM
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I think your wording is pretty clumsy and heavy handed but reality bears it out that being slender does have a fundamental value in western society At the same time there has never been a better time for curves. Haha so yeah it’s quite a thing
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 10:37 PM
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I really couldn’t agree any more. The pandemic has forced people to re-examine so much. Namely, if you quarantined by yourself you just realized that you would be facing the end of the world alone if it happened. So many people are looking to come out of this with a different strategy but it’s with the lack of human interaction.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 08:52 PM
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Lol we were close to the same page before this man. Good gracious. If you don’t think you can approach women without looking like harassment…do what you need to do to protect yourself. Have a good day man.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 07:10 PM
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The more “unpopular” it becomes the more you standout when you do it right. I feel like guys should spend a month doing public speaking and or comedy classes and spend 2 months getting rejected by approaching women and they would be much better off in a few months..and meet a ton of women
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 06:41 PM
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Lol I did quite well as a single loner in terms of meeting girls. As the expression goes you get to keep all the limits you’re willing to fight for. Full disclosure I’m old so I dated before apps were a thing but I believe men are better off approaching and dating in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 07:26 AM
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This is the first time I’ve ever looked at this sub after hearing about it from other places..that said I completely agree on this. Be good upstanding tough honest direct legit Man and everything that comes with it. Being a good man..the best man you can be is enough Tally ho gentlemen.
/r/MensRights11/10/21 03:17 AM
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Eh..I’d rather you just say that online dating apps don’t work for men because then I would agree with you. I don’t know why guys waste their time there
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 01:24 AM
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Lol this premise is a bit of nonsense. Most girls start getting sexual romantic attention from appropriate aged boys by 9th grade at the latest and it only increases from there. Im going to put aside attention from grown men cause that’s gross
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 04:13 PM
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Yes of course. Almost everything you do is viewed differently if you have those characteristics. Is this a serious question??
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 03:22 AM
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Money isn’t everything but it is, still, the way a less attractive guy can overcome his looks and regularly get female companionship. It may not be for the “right reasons” but a lot of those guys don’t care. Well Off older guys who are divorced, have their kids and are not attractive do not care that those women spend time with them for their money. This is as enjoyable a way to spend their money as anything, so they tell me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 02:32 AM
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Every man should simp for his wife…yes absolutely. The converse is also true.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 08:43 PM
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lol this reminds me of those posts “my wife did anal back in the day but won’t for me now” but it’s a funny question to ask.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 04:04 PM
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One of my favorite Reddit stories ever
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 03:55 PM
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Ok the last part is true. It’s all variable man. We all are around different types of folks. As for your girlfriends friends..I bet if you gave them a name of a guy you know and they at least knew a little bit and asked if he was “husband material” I bet they would give you answer and seeing as how they aren’t dating your buddy…that would be out of the context you are referring to. My belief is your girlfriends friends don’t use this term in front of you..but they do use it amongst themselves
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 09:24 PM
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Then you don’t hang around regularly with any groups of single female friends. It is a thing they use to describe certain guys. I hear it less now that me and most of my female friends are all older and married but it does exist. I remember one time in particular at a job years ago..it was mostly ladies in the lunch room when I came in. They were talking about guys and one of them said “joe” is total husband material and a couple of them agreed. Almost all those ladies were single and similar ag…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 08:51 PM
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It’s only a compliment when a woman you are dating and who wants to marry you, and you her, calls you husband material. Otherwise is just window dressing. Husband material is not equal to wife martial. The first is a slight. The second is a compliment.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 08:28 PM
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I always pursued but I don’t chase. I’m going to approach you. I’m going to ask you for your phone number and I’m going to ask you out. In a pursuit a woman will also let you know that she is interested in you as you are doing the pursuing. When you are chasing, she generally isn’t as interested as you are Don’t chase em guys/girls….replace them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 07:19 PM
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There are preferences and deal breakers and the difference is everything… A deal breaker by definition is something that breaks the deal for you…something you cannot get past. For my example, smoking cigarettes is a no go. I don’t care what other positive things you have..I won’t do it. For something like that, I’d rather be single On the other side, some of your preferences keep you single and whereas it’s ok to have them, if you have been single for a while to the point where you are getting l…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/21 04:50 PM
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Ive seen those couples too and bless them. I’ve also seen so many fat guys who just grind at a job become a solid provider and they magically end up with a few kids and a wife. They, married fat guy, are Sorta the definition of marriage stability. Part of it is also cultural I think based on what I have observed.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/21 04:59 AM
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First thing, fat girls beat fat guys in dating and causal sex. Fat guys beat fat girls in marriage. To the question, yes as a man get in as good a shape as you can reasonably be in. You will do much better with ladies. You don’t have to be in fitness model or athlete shape, unless that’s your job. Just find out what your workout is and do it 3/5 times a week and eat well. After a few months you will feel better and get noticed in a positive way. Your confidence will be the biggest difference in …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/21 01:58 AM
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Agree to disagree. I think it’s case by case situation. Actors don’t really get all the female attention they “deserve” until the do something moderately big. A list actors do great with ladies obviously. Heck, B list guys do very well. Actors getting girls is a byproduct of their fame and that’s part of that life. But in high school and college…when almost none of them are famous, athletes get way more girls than drama students. Most of the girls I dated in HS or college didn’t come see any of …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/21 01:42 AM
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Smoking cigarettes. Absolute no go
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 11:37 PM
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Completely incorrect. Been going to pro games for a long time and have a lot of old friends who played the big three sports (in USA) the women are there and yes they drool heavily over athletes. The guys on the Lakers who almost never play generally have to fight women off with a stick. Do you think those women who go to games in tight revealing clothing go there to watch basketball or football??
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 11:30 PM
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Ok this is totally random and didn’t expect this to come up on this forum but when I found out Padma used to be with Rushdie, it’s the tell that she is Just like every other model..looking to trade her beauty for the richest or most famous dude she could get at the time. Lol. It changed my whole view of her. Lol..Padma…you are just as bad as any of them
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 11:27 PM
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Well..I’m happy that there seems to be a bit more honesty on both sides in this rehashed topic as opposed to the first time.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 05:35 PM
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This really summarized it perfectly…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 05:30 PM
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Copy that! Pass me some popcorn as well
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 04:50 PM
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Good on you. Consenting adults can do what they want. But magically people here never see those couples in real life. I promise, they exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 06:08 AM
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I feel like this place would be better off of the age gap debate was permanently retired. The extreme age gaps, 20 years, are pretty rare but they do happen when the money is right. We all look at those relationships and know exactly what’s going on, if you will. So those people have to deal with that social stigma. However, there is a high level of dishonesty that exists around this conversation. Meaning, there are plenty of relationships with 4-10 year age gaps where both parties are getting w…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 04:23 AM
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Of course average looking women get attention. Plenty of it. Source: real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 04:06 PM
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Ok..let me address that. If you are looking for a male empathy point that is similar…I believe Instagram harms young boys as it normalizes and lightly encourages steroid use to reach the Instagram phony aesthetic. I used to see so many teenage-21 year old guys when I went to big gyms looking for steroids and checking their IG for inspiration. I hope we can help save their minds too.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 02:51 AM
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This ain’t it, Fam. I HATE what instagram does to teenage and younger girls. It’s terrible and I hope that society will collectively pressure some adjustments into it and those platforms in general. Hopefully we can save those girls minds from that nonsense. I will not entertain comparing it to any male issue
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 10:49 PM
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I believe there are enough guys complaining that I don’t need to. Again, do not stand for any woman who treats you badly. I remember one time years ago I was out with the girl I was dating and her friends at dinner. She was showing out for her friends and it crossed the line to disrespect. I got up, paid the bill for what we had eaten/drank at that point and left. Told her that if she treats other guys disrespectfully that’s between her and them. I don’t treat you like that so I won’t accept it …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/21 02:54 PM
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Lol I don’t know where you got that at all. Like not at all. You are free to argue that created point with someone else. Don’t be a fool. Don’t get played but as a man, don’t complain. Just get on with it. Don’t play their game. I agree with you on that tho. Just be you and be every bit of the man you can be. As a man, you gain nothing from complaining..nothing at all. I’m certainly not going to complain about some of the general advantages women have in the dating world. I just did my thing as …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/21 01:51 PM
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In a very general, super simplified way to look at this and what it should mean for men at large in this topic.. I agree that men shouldn’t really complain about anything. Period. We just can’t, guys. We just have to get tough, get better and get on with doing/being our best. Men should not complain about the “advantages” women have in terms of dating, relationships etc. Just do and be your best..learn from your mistakes, don’t be a fool or a doormat and be all the man you can be. Trust that it …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/21 11:49 PM
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Ok. We’ve all got our preferences. I’ve never heard of this one so thank you for sharing.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 07:08 PM
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Ok…so I’ll bite here. Let me get this straight and restate so I am clear as I’ve never heard this..ever The women in your circle find confidence a turn off???? As in your girls don’t want a confident guy???
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 06:57 PM
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Separating it from the premise and the set up, for guys confidence is huge! It take a good while to really build bulletproof confidence but everything in your life as a guy gets better with more confidence. In terms of Dating, yes the confident guy will do better than the doubtful gentleman. By a mile he will! It took me so long to accept this as a kid..but as a guy all you really need for life success is to be confident and consistently take action. Like..that’s it on a very basic level
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 06:55 PM
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It’s tough for sure but I do think that average men are better served in real life as opposed to just being a profile online or on an app
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 05:29 AM
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It wasn’t a thing at all in the early 2000s.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 05:14 AM
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Unless we are athletes or fitness models, we can all lose 10 lbs. 20 is definitely not a problem so long as it comes with sexy curves. Speaking of belly’s specifically, whereas women love a six pack on a man..most, not all, prefer a flat but soft stomach on women. Whereas we respect that level of fitness, guys don’t go gaga over a lady’s six pack abs.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 02:22 AM
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Correct. You ladies are more complex in that regard but I’m sure you have had some guys that hit the right buttons.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 02:15 AM
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I’m not going to get in to the beta, alpha, free meals or any of that kind of stuff…not that it’s incorrect I just believe that 2022 will be a great opportunity for men to meet women in real life. If a guy is getting what he wants from apps/online all good. Go forward. It seems to me that most guys don’t do well and certainly guys that are considered “average” or below don’t do well. If I was in one of those tough categories I would leave online dating and go all in on a more “real world” dating…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 08:26 PM
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Fair question. I’m 43 which is why I mentioned match.com as that was really starting to get big in my single 20s. That was the first dating site that I had ever heard of
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 07:41 PM
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Now these are the topics I lurk on this sub for. I am old enough to have been dating when the OPs statement was true..that online dating was viewed as only for divorced or middle aged people and was generally looked down upon by anyone under 35. A single 20 something wouldn’t be caught dead on match.com because those that were, people made fun of them. Things have changed and, unfortunately, online dating/apps are here to stay. It seems to serve ladies really well and the convenience means that …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 04:49 PM
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How you carry the weight is always more important to most men than the actual number. The key from your post is curves. You can have some extra weight but so long as there is a clear shape and a difference between your bust, waist and hips, guys will have no problem with it. Most women shaped like that don’t have a problem dating. When you have no shape or boxy shaped, that’s what I feel most dudes think of when you say “fat” If you have rocking curves, go forward and date it up! It may be more …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 03:54 PM
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Lololol. If you think any “stat” compares to or accurately quantifies the value of a good romantic partner…for a man or a woman, you are too far gone to discuss this with. I’m not even going to go there with the “giant exotic animal” thing..wow. Nothing wrong with you swearing off relationships. It’s your choice and I respect it. Be well.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 02:27 PM
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Man that’s a crazy percentage but thanks for sharing. You’re better off getting with a guy and you both learning each other’s buttons as opposed to just saying “men have no idea how to please women”. Even if true based on this thread, ending on that statement is kinda like accepting defeat
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 02:18 PM
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Lol of course we all know that man. I didn’t even watch a lot of it but after her, I haven’t watched any at all since and that was over 20 years ago. It seems like today there are a lot of dudes who have various degrees of porn addiction out there. I see stories all the time. It seems to definitely be a thing that a good chunk of women are seeing in their partners. I try to tell them, younger guys, that the most basic woman with you is better than the most amazing porn you can imagine watching. …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 02:15 PM
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I do believe ladies are smart to start out focusing on education and career. You should always try to rise and better your situation. I think that’s obvious But given a binary choice between either a great career or a great romantic partner, a great romantic partner..the woman (or man) who has a great romantic partner will live a happier life long term versus the person with a great career. It is a big risk for sure. So many times relationships let you down but I spent so many years working in i…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 06:33 AM
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If given the choice between two partners that watch a lot of porn and use toys vs two partners that focus sexually on each other…I think the latter will have a happier long lasting relationship. In moderation, toys and porn are fine but, speaking towards the guys, real live women beat porn 10 times out of 10. I am forever grateful to the girl that taught me that lesson years ago. Maybe the ladies can speak up and tell me if toys beat real live men or not. I think men are better but that’s for y’…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 06:11 AM
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Just here for the comments and they have not disappointed
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 02:17 PM
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Boy..putting aside the specific topic of this thread, there is a stunning amount of dishonesty in the comments. 😂 that’s all I really have to say
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/21 08:45 PM
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I mean..good for those young men who go to college. My school was pretty balanced gender wise. I don’t even know if I would be able to function if 17 year old me walked on campus and it was 2-1 ratio.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/21 06:46 AM
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Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 10:58 PM
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I’m a married guy and I love lurking on these forums and enjoy the conversations so thank you. That said, I do think you guys who are single waste your time when you “argue” things that have been reasonably established in my view..wether we like those things or not. If you are a guy who wants to attract/date more ladies..go meet with the guy you know that gets the kind of girls you like and ask him for advice. Period. It will help. If you know a couple guys who get that kind of attention speak w…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 12:15 AM
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Now this is an interesting discussion. So much has changed over say the last 20-30 years in terms of single moms and step dads. The internet, choices, divorce vs marriage rates. Thinking back to when I was a kid, I saw step father relationships both in my family and among my friends so I’ll focus a bit on the internet side of it..both parties are louder and able to broadcast their opinions. I knew friends who had good relationships with their step parents but also plenty that hated their step da…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 04:51 PM
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Nice work gang
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen26/08/21 05:59 AM
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Lol I’m already married and also been abroad. You are right tho, as an American guy going abroad was like shooting fish in a barrel regarding ladies.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 07:47 PM
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Oh man!! I used to have a running joke with a friend in HS that I would always try to get her to tell her stepdad that “You’re not my real dad” in an argument. She never did but it was always funny imagining it. That said, the first time a step kid told me this would be my last hour with that mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 05:51 PM
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I’ve never done OLD, so feel free to dismiss me, but as I see it from the outside looking in you will stand out from the crowd of dudes on apps by being able to approach women in real life. My understanding is online is tilted towards ladies. At least with approaching you have some small measure of control of your dating life
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 05:37 PM
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Would definitely have been a factor while we were still actively playing. Some of those dudes were like at the end of the bench. Point being they did well with ladies post playing and I’m not talking about guys that played in the league.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 03:54 PM
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I mean the Zoom meeting era caused things to be a lot more professional which I think is good
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 07:10 AM
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Had a lot of basketball teammates over the years that were not attractive facially but were relatively tall. They did fine with ladies. Being tall is one of those things that make women give you a chance
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 02:08 PM
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Had a lot of basketball teammates over the years that were not attractive facially but were relatively tall. They did fine with ladies. Being tall is one of those things that make women give you a chance
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 02:08 PM
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Man…there is nothing quite so painful as knowing, without a shadow of a doubt, that your partner settled for you. Not settled down..settled for you. Don’t know where you go from here
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen09/08/21 05:04 PM
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Thank you because this is exactly what I was curious about on this post.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen09/08/21 04:58 PM
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Some did. Some hit full bloom right at 30 and we’re quickly taken off the market. Nothing wrong with dating to marry in your 20s but there are just so many single people in the 20s that every quality person cannot be taken. A lot less completely single people when you hit 30..and that’s when the real estate comparison tracks 100 percent.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 03:32 PM
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I would say that it hasn’t really declined since about 25. Early 20s I had crooked teeth and was out of shape. So it’s been pretty consistent for the the most part. Now, one cliche caveat.. I say cliche because I heard this as a kid and never believed it..but after I got married, I’ve definitely got hit on more than the last year my wife and I were just dating. Beautiful women of almost all age groups.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 03:29 PM
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There’s a lot of single people out there so you still have opportunity to meet folks but in general this is true. Look at your own friend circle and it will tell you. 20 somethings are different as almost all people are in perpetual states of single-ness. In terms of early and mid 30s…the quality men and women I know are not single. Period.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 03:10 PM
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The childfree by choice couples that I know both work because at that point their focus is having as much money as possible to travel and live how they want to
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 12:39 AM
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Oh I wasn’t hating on your point of view at all! I don’t disagree. My statement was more directed at a trend, that I see, where average people have these crazy standards for their partners. The one that always gets me is people who are allergic to the gym requiring a fit partner. So I just wanted to contribute to your thread
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 11:04 PM
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There is nothing wrong with wanting above “average from” a romantic partner…there is something wrong with you being average and requiring more from your partner than you have to offer
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 10:21 PM
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You are Correct. It seems like on Reddit there is this great desire to all of a sudden equate a mans and a woman’s “biological clock” and they simply are not the same. I certainly agree that both men and women are better off having kids at a younger age but men are just fertile much longer. It’s just how it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 11:42 PM
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I feel like your descriptions in your premise definitely favor one side over the other so let me remove those and answer… Give me the optimist each and every time as a life partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 11:28 PM
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Something that I thought was only true in movies/tv that I found true once I started dealing with affluent couples..infidelity is generally more accepted as part of that “lifestyle” and out of financial convenience divorce is not as common a result
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 01:52 AM
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Wow..all I can say is wow. I will say that she has gall to try to reengage that dude
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/08/21 08:49 PM
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Oh boy..that girl… “I thought he was gonna pick a slow jam” It was low class on his part sure, but as she mentioned she was already a conquest by that time so it’s kinda all moot.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 08:06 PM
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My only question is what did she say in the moment?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 08:04 PM
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This is a very long list of things to do for your ladies and I feel for y’all. That being said, and I’ll happily accept downvotes, there are definitely some very good things on that list that will attract high quality guys.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/21 04:12 AM
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I think he’s more a performer/entertainer now a days and so he goes out of his way to be mean to men and women who call in cause that gets clicks and builds his brand. In terms of a general thought now, I wish he would offer these people actual solutions as opposed to just crushing them and their delusions about themselves. One thing I will say is that I haven’t heard him say anything that i would consider an out and out lie as yet. Stuff like men who are going nowhere need to level up first bef…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/21 06:04 PM
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Correct and agreed. If the question is who gets laid more..women period get laid more because they are largely the pursued. If the question is who has a better chance of getting married and starting a family, if that’s their goal, big dudes win that all day.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 02:12 AM
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I’m speaking of commitment and marriage and not just sex. Yeah, I know plenty of “fat” girls that are fucking but I know more “fat” dudes that are happily married with children. All women can go out and get laid at a moments notice…not all of those women can get someone to marry them. Given the choice, which option would those girls choose?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 02:05 AM
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Oh boy I kinda love reading the drama here too from a safe distance. I do try to help when asked and yes my curiosity is amazing. Especially this online stuff and how prevalent it has become. I’m old enough to where I was dating when match was starting out. It’s crazy to me that it’s the standard now
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 11:46 PM
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I would agree with your first point. It can be said that women can look at other positives to “get past” a guy that’s heavier. Some of it varies by region. I live in LA and it never ceases to amaze me that you will see these absolutely beautiful, petite feminine latinas pushing a stroller with 2 kids and holding hands with a very chunky Latino dude..I’m not even talking about those with a lot of money..just middle class folks. Society and the dating world is wild now a days. I wish you young men…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 11:42 PM
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Definitely more of a problem for ladies in terms of attractiveness than guys. File this under the category of anecdotal but not absolute… I know plenty of dudes who have all the other things in a row and they are a bit heavy and they still date beautiful women. Hell when I went from fat to in shape, sure I got more attention but I still had plenty of girlfriends. If you are a funny fat guy, you will do well with the ladies. Whereas thick girls are “in” once you get past that, I see a lot of girl…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 11:20 PM
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Sigh..guys don’t fall for this trap. If you asked for her time, pay for the date just don’t go anywhere crazy beyond your budget. It’s about your standards and not her. If you want to date and meet more women (and frankly have more intimate partners), guys I promise that chivalry still works…but you gotta do it all the time. Yes some women don’t appreciate it anymore, feel free to call them out, but you keep doing it and you will reap the benefits.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 06:11 PM
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I am guessing that someone has already mentioned that it’s divorce that is the bad deal for men. Every man knows at least 1-2 guys who got divorced for a non dramatic reason (no cheating or abuse) that got absolutely killed financially. I simply believe as a man that you can get so wealthy to the point where the risk of divorce would outweigh the possible gain of a legal marriage. You could afford to put all the protections in place to make sure your partner is provided for and fairly compensate…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 04:19 PM
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Lol as if people haven’t been seeing multiple people for decades while being single. The time of the “talk” may vary but it should be stated clearly for both parties when you are exclusive. Communication is key!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/21 08:27 PM
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Just wanted to say that, looking back on it, I totally agree that it’s easier for us guys to see the users than it seems to be for ladies. I can remember so many ex’s that were magically never available for more basic dates (movies, a friends party) but if I had tickets to a pro game or reservations at a high end restaurant, they were ready at the drop of a hat. I’m never for any gender using the other so I wish the ladies luck out there in keeping those clowns off them.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/21 05:44 PM
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I would agree that society doesn’t value sex like it should. But if you are willing to demand of others what you will also demand of yourself, I cannot hate on that.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/21 03:45 PM
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Putting aside how body counts are viewed from men to women, As well as the religious aspect, I will just say this.. If you are committed to keeping your body count low, you do deserve a man in the same situation. How you will enforce that and be sure is beyond me but as so many people expect more from their partner (ie out of shape people demanding fit partners) than they provide, I respect the heck out of your commitment to keeping your count low and expecting a guy to do the same. I wish you l…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/21 03:34 PM
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Men want commitment..women want commitment. In terms of marriage, men are afraid of divorce. Period. End of story. Every man knows at least 2 men, one family and one friend, who has been absolutely decimated in a divorce. I’m not going down that whole route of “most women initiate divorce” stat because I think it’s meaningless unless we are going to talk about the reason for each filing. Those mgtow guys kinda cherry pick that stat. I’m happily married but if it somehow ends in divorce, I’ll nev…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 10:23 PM
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If you know you aren’t great looking…just focus on your fitness and your career and make some money. I know so many unattractive guys who do ok, not even rich, who are married to beautiful women. This is to say nothing of guys who are rich enough to “overcome” their looks struggles.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 10:14 PM
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Yes. Very simple answer is yes, women care about social status.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 10:10 PM
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It’s about really committing your time to getting better at something that hopefully “matters”. The guy you are when you are doing that is very attractive to ladies. It shows focus and dedication. Assuming you make progress, the woman can see that you (and her) will likely level up your life over time
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 10:08 PM
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I can’t speak for ladies but if you are a guy and need romantic advice, a guy who is or has been successful with women will give you great actionable advice that works. That has been my experience both when I was seeking advice and when I got to the point where I was qualified to give that advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 11:23 PM
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Confidence..you have to know how quality you are so that she can see it from a distance. Do you best with your looks…as fit as you can be and dress as well as you can. Lastly, talk to women and be an unabashed gentleman. I know that sounds campy and old school but as that’s how I was raised, it’s how I acted the whole time. So when women realized that I wasn’t acting like that (ie opening doors) just to impress them, it was who I really was, it actually did impress them. All that aside..the “eas…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 11:16 PM
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Generally speaking, everyone hates who a high value man dates except the person he dates. They are either “not good enough” for people’s perceptions or they aren’t the people that want to date that man
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/21 01:20 AM
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Confidence is being comfortable in your own skin and knowing your value even if the girl doesn’t give you her number. In my view, there’s nothing like confidence. One of my favorite quotes on the topic.. Confidence applied properly can surpass genius On a personal note everything changed when I finally specifically worked on my confidence with women. Good luck out there guys and girls
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 04:15 PM
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6-2 was natural. The former athlete part was a lot of work. The guy I hung with that got more women than he could deal with was 5-10
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 02:46 PM
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I definitely had some natural advantages..I am 6-2 and was a former athlete but I don’t assume that I worked harder than you. I didn’t read books on dating though..everything was trial and error. I got one tip that I give to everyone..flirt with everyone especially women you aren’t interested in. I also believe that girls come with the “job” if you do it right. They came with playing basketball and they came when I was younger and making pretty good money. I don’t know where tou are but I had pl…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 02:33 AM
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Ok so what do you think it was? What was the thing you were missing in your view? Asking cause I want to try to help. Thinking back if nerdy, chubby 16 year old me would have seen 26 year old me and the types of girls I dated, He wouldn’t have believed he/I could have turned out like that. If I can do it, anyone can.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 02:12 AM
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Wow. If that’s been your experience I’m very sad for you man and I wish you well. I met some fantastic ladies in my single period.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 01:59 AM
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Nothing will ever match seeing a woman in the “wild”, approaching her with a smile and her smiling while your arriving and having a great conversation ending in a connection/agreement of getting together. It’s amazing and fun! The game isn’t fair but I tell younger dudes all the time…if you put yourself out there, the rewards outweigh the rejection.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 12:02 AM
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Oh goodness yes thank god I am tall and kinda classically handsome or it would have been worse. I would never use an app if I was single. Once I learned how to approach and meet women, any other way doesn’t seem nearly as fun…or rewarding. I don’t hate on those that do.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 11:27 PM
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I wish youguys on todays dating scene well. I’m old (and married) now and basically dated when we looked down on dating apps and the like as they were just starting. Dating was tons of approaching and frankly getting rejected..yes sometimes those rejections were not polite. So yes ladies have an easier time getting dates and attention but to be clear, I wouldn’t want to change places nor have it any other way. The growth I got personally from going through it was tremendous. Ended up with a pret…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 10:23 PM
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I would say generally speaking this is true once you get over 29-30ish. The high quality men and women I know in that age range aren’t running around single. Random note I want to say this forum is so refreshing as both sides have civil discussions on these very hot topics.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 06:37 PM
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Hey young brotha…it’s ok for you to feel like this but never “want to die”. I know you’re being a bit hyperbolic but still. Keep living and keep getting better and you will live an awesome life.
/r/ExRedPill25/06/21 10:09 PM
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This was a great answer to her question
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen12/06/21 03:46 PM
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