DanHitt Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	36M, 2 Months post divorce… Yes, marriage is a HORRIBLE idea for men. You are soooo right.	/r/Divorce_Men	15/12/25 05:57 AM
3	36M, 2 Months post divorce… I'm 52, i have an 11 year old daughter from a 2nd wife. It's going great. Like seriously great. But this time I knew what to watch for. I now have a good relationship with my ex-wife, but she ran off with another guy. When I fixed myself she wanted me back, said I was the love of her life, and I said that ship sailed. It's weird because our kids are 10 months apart. I'm still married to my daughter's mother and she is not married to her kid's father. A strong indicator is to watch closely how th…	/r/Divorce_Men	15/12/25 05:56 AM
1	Need some help. Take out your phone and video record. These are PERFECT ducks. Also, take screenshots of your call log to show she didn't call and also your text log. Next time you are in court make sure there is only one type of communication allowed: Phone (including phone text) and nothing else. When it's time for her to pick them up and she doesn't arrive...record it and show the kids still there and say in a CALM voice on camera that she is late (at least 30 mins). Then lock all the doors and when she arri…	/r/Divorce_Men	15/12/25 05:49 AM
1	So F’ing Sad Pleading is one of the worst things you can do. Women are only attracted to men they see as above them. I know, when we are desperate, we will try almost anything, and, unfortunately, that will often include the worst thing. Like a drug addict who allows himself to be near one of the habits that led him to drugs (bad girls, clubs, certain friends, etc) this will not usually end well.	/r/Divorce_Men	14/12/25 12:28 AM
1	So F’ing Sad Good advice. Stoic is one of the stronger things you can do. He says 'you don't have to agree with her' -- basically never agree with her. But also don't disagree. Allow things while also being indifferent to those same things. Fixanymarriage, is right, you shouldn't worry about her illogical or wrong actions/words. It doesn't matter what she is saying or doing because women only sexually respond to men by instinct. Their words and their sexual responses have nothing to do with one another.	/r/Divorce_Men	14/12/25 12:24 AM
1	So F’ing Sad Nah, bro. Women are never done. She just thinks your value is too low. It's not too hard to rescue your value, it just takes some effort. Monarchist is right, that is one very good step. There are a bunch more. You just have to want to.	/r/Divorce_Men	14/12/25 12:18 AM
1	So F’ing Sad Women don't do well in counseling generally speaking. A lot of therapists default to talk therapy because they know one party will refuse all accountability and usually doesn't care about the relationship itself, only what they get out of it. You need something to take up your time. I work with guys all the time and giving them something to do often does wonders. The only thing that can actually work in this situation is to suddenly appear to have more value than her (she currently thinks she ha…	/r/Divorce_Men	14/12/25 12:16 AM
4	What do I do with 1000’s of pictures of my STBXW on my phone? Delete ASAP. Living in the past is never a good idea. If you share kids keep a few good ones.	/r/Divorce_Men	14/12/25 12:11 AM
2	A follow up to my post the other day about walkaway wives. Lee & Kushner (2008) – academic achievement and parent/child gender (26k filtered down to 6.5k relevant cases) Bertsch & Matthews (2021), Current Psychology (250 people) - this, of course, is a difficult area to conduct a study in and thus the studies are often small sample sizes which can cast doubt (and reasonably so), but it's still a study conducted by reputable folks. Kathleen N. Bertsch Ph.D. in psychology Researcher in trauma, social psychology, and gendered behavior Publications in peer-…	/r/Divorce_Men	03/12/25 09:53 PM
6	Very quick question for support I was in your exact situation. One night she just didn't come home from work. It was rough. It sent me on a journey. I ended in a really good place, but it was hit or miss for a while. I cried the first night and then a few more times over the next couple months but I wanted to get revenge by fixing everything that wasn't working in that relationship. I ended up giving advice to other guys, helping them through things. My advice is to find your purpose. Not the magical, zen purpose, but your pur…	/r/Divorce_Men	02/12/25 02:02 AM
5	It's final Figure out a purpose you can pursue. You'll be surprised how much time (a.k.a. heartache) it can swallow for you. It'll fade, though, count on that. I went through a rough one and I for sure cried the night she didn't come home. But my life is so much better now.	/r/Divorce_Men	02/12/25 01:53 AM
4	It's final Shuttling kids to her isn't your job. If she isn't doing the same for you then I'd argue you are setting a standard that doesn't work for men in general and certainly not for you.	/r/Divorce_Men	02/12/25 01:48 AM
4	A follow up to my post the other day about walkaway wives. But propagating a system where kids turn out worse is okay? Love the man up talk, but what is the woman up version? There isn't one.	/r/Divorce_Men	02/12/25 01:44 AM
1	Getting back into dating after divorce, how do you rebuild confidence for conversations? No, why do you ask?	/r/Divorce_Men	02/12/25 01:41 AM
3	A follow up to my post the other day about walkaway wives. You say case by case, but, in fact, data tells the true answers. Perhaps what you mean to say is that each case should be determined based on its own merit even though women file for divorce the most, lie the most, exaggerate the most, and ruin their kids the most? Because that's what the data says. Data. Not feelings. Data.	/r/Divorce_Men	01/12/25 04:00 PM
1	A follow up to my post the other day about walkaway wives. Show her or tell her about the data that fathers make WAY BETTER parents than mothers. That will really piss her off. ;)	/r/Divorce_Men	01/12/25 03:53 PM
1	A follow up to my post the other day about walkaway wives. Perfect reply.	/r/Divorce_Men	01/12/25 03:50 PM
1	A follow up to my post the other day about walkaway wives. Of course, because you are a man and men take care of business. However, women file for divorce 70-80% of the time data shows. They are far more likely to make false or heavily inflated claims. Data also shows children are FAR more likely to have good incomes with the father, which is further bolstered by the fact that women leave for general unhappiness while men leave in reaction to events like infidelity, lack of sex, etc. demonstrating a selfishness in general. Child support allows them to b…	/r/Divorce_Men	01/12/25 03:50 PM
1	Getting back into dating after divorce, how do you rebuild confidence for conversations? The first thing you need to understand is frame. This is your world, so to speak. Women want, more than anything, to enter a strong frame. And in mating, what they want least is for a man to want to enter their frame, this is a hallmark sign of unsuitability in a mate. It's why they hate 'interview' dates. Because you being interested in learning about them is entering their frame. They want to enter yours. It's instinct. Women will talk about how men can't communicate all day long. The reason i…	/r/Divorce_Men	01/12/25 12:39 AM
3	Dealing with intense sadness, regret, and self doubt post separation, long post There's a lot of cope here, which might be exactly what you need. A lot of times we can't do anything but try to survive. If that's where you are at, there are some really good comments here. But...if you are damn angry as well and want to do something about it then this is the comment for you. Be excellent. I'm not fucking kidding, retreat and be excellent will be the most beautiful revenge you could ever hope for. And it will drive her insane. She'll say, 'Why didn't he do this while we were t…	/r/Divorce_Men	30/11/25 10:28 PM
6	A follow up to my post the other day about walkaway wives. Yes! The system is fucked. But also, we don't demand change. We are not speaking up. We accept less. So we get less. It's our system, for crying out loud. We created it. Men. Not women. We allowed the breakage. We just have to start speaking up for what we want again. Women love that guy anyway so there's no downside to demanding change.	/r/Divorce_Men	30/11/25 09:59 PM
8	A follow up to my post the other day about walkaway wives. so you get to smash without buying the cow (again)! sweet.	/r/Divorce_Men	30/11/25 09:57 PM
9	A follow up to my post the other day about walkaway wives. I always side with them in this situation. It works sooooooo well. her: (blah, blah, blah some problem from 15 years ago.) me: You're right. You should get the fuck out. Go find a guy that will listen to this. That's not me. That's another guy. Go get him. her: (whatever cope, they mostly say the same sorts of things - just repeat, or say I can't communicate, whatever) me: Did you hear me? Kick rocks. You're boring me. This triggers something primal in them, below their conscious. Even if it tri…	/r/Divorce_Men	30/11/25 09:56 PM
15	A follow up to my post the other day about walkaway wives. Data shows that children have far better outcomes with a single father than with a single mother. Mothers should, on average, move out. Custody should be 50/50. There should be no spousal support, nor child support (because it's 50/50). That's equality.	/r/Divorce_Men	30/11/25 09:33 PM
1	Overwhelmed by spous Well, don't get married is the first layer of protection. Always get a prenup. Put things in your mother's name if that is a viable and trustworthy solution. See a financial expert. Don't marry a girl that gets validation from social media. (Always look at all her accounts on the pretext of being interested, you are, you're just not saying why. If she has pictures begging for attention...bikini, glamour pics, very revealing clothing, that kind of thing--the answer is don't get married.) And also…	/r/Divorce_Men	04/11/25 06:21 PM
1	Overwhelmed by spous Sometimes. But, weirdly, i found an unexpected satisfaction in it. More profound than the fun kind of satisfaction of video games, though, let's face it, men love video games. I do. The only men that don't are the ones that haven't played them. There are aspects of 'tending to a child' efforts, for sure. But there are good benefits as well. Once she decided she wanted to be on my page, she made stronger efforts to support, through actions, the things I wanted. I've been building this app with AI…	/r/Divorce_Men	02/11/25 03:18 AM
3	Overwhelmed by spous First I'll point out the issue then I'll help you solve the problem. (I know, I'm making it sound so easy and it's not easy...but it's much easier than people think, if they can tap into their will.) First, women follow the lead of the strongest male they can get continued attention from. The form of that attention need varies from woman to woman and to a lesser degree from moment to moment. You, like most people in the world, argue about the problem you are trying to solve. It's exactly why it'…	/r/Divorce_Men	01/11/25 09:08 PM