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SELF IMPROVEMENTDancersep38/r/RedPillWomen11/02/19 01:43 PM
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If I want to nag, I give it time to pass. Don't keep ruminating on it, just get your mind off of it for 5-10 minutes. One of two things happens once I've settled myself back to emotionally neutral: 1) I realize that I was just being emotional and this isn't worth complaining about or 2) I find it IS worth bringing up, but now I'm calm so it's not a nag anymore but a constructive conversation that I start respectfully. It's a very simple solution, but it's definitely not always easy.
/r/RedPillWives13/01/24 01:45 AM
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Absolutely not! Divorce is on the table when what he's doing is considered cheating. If you want to negotiate an actual "open" marriage that is one sided- not my cup of tea, but you do you. But you're calling it cheating so it's completely inappropriate in a marriage. I swear, these must just be trolls trying to prove traditional women are just doormats or something.
/r/RedPillWives22/12/23 11:43 PM
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Yes, absolutely. In fact, I'm 6 years younger than my husband and we've noted many times that it's about as large a gap as we'd go with for long term. Otherwise, logistics alone get weird. Once you cross 9 years, you're a generation younger/older- that's not to be taken lightly. I'm not saying people should never have such a large gap, but I find a lot of red pill men don't appreciate just how impactful this really is to your happiness. It really isn't just about sex at a certain point. Who's dr…
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/23 07:30 PM
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He's an anomaly because he's high status. My husband and I have discussed a second wife and specifically wouldn't go below 28, so there you go.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/23 04:26 AM
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You make sweeping statements about a 22 year old ALWAYS being "worth" more. It's a false dichotomy and sends way to many good women into dark alleys. Everyone ages, even men. My husband is extremely high quality and I promise you, he would never seriously date a 22 year old at this stage. My brother is recently divorced and high status late 30s and specifically won't date under 40. He freely admits younger is hotter but everything else is worse, assuming women of an otherwise similar IQ et al. S…
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/23 04:20 AM
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I am not discussing a woman on the dating market. This is red pill WOMEN. We're married and EXTREMELY valuable to our husbands', even if our sexual market value is dwindling down to none. My husband doesn't need or want me innocent of the life we built together! I'm optimistic with him about our future.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/23 04:08 AM
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Fort short term mating, yes. As a long term mate for a relatively young alpha, yes. As a long term mate for an older or even old low quality male (assuming at least 1 high quality trait- like wealth) absolutely. But, a high quality man in his 40's or more? No. A truly high status male at that level is too mature. Wealth is not the only marker of status so we can dispense with all that. At 22 you're hot, and hot is super valuable! The goal is to be 72 and stunning- more precious than gold having …
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/23 03:54 AM
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Relative youth matters more than absolute youth though. At least in the top quality men by my standards.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/23 03:10 AM
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As I age, the more I realize they really do BECOME unimportant. I've been married 11 years. I do believe him when he says some women look too young for him at his age. I'm bi, so I see it too and agree; it's not that I'm unaware the woman is hot -for her age, but 22 year olds are starting to look like children to me.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/23 03:07 AM
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Asking his intentions behind cheating on her- but leaving out the extremely pertinent detail that he had have reason to think you two were going to have sex soon, radically changes his potential motives in this situation.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/22 08:27 PM
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With respect, most men will get rock hard from most women. Getting a man with an erection to beg for sex is no great challenge or mystery. The person is pointing out that the thrill of a new partner, in addition to the thrill of cheating, are both reason enough for plenty of people. He had little love or respect for you by definition- he wasn't faithful to you either and lied to you with malicious intent.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/22 08:24 PM
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Lies by omissions are still lies. They're being a shade more truthful, but it's still deceit.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/22 08:19 PM
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If they won't answer yes or no then that IS your answer. I would advise against ever dating anyone who won't answer very basic and fundamentally important questions.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/22 08:18 PM
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And plenty of men not only don't care, but can be totally empathetic to that situation. The world is way more nuanced than "She's not a virgin, nevermind."
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/21 02:24 AM
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My husband and I knew each other for a decade before we dated. He specifically refused to date me initially because I was a virgin. Not all guys are into it apparently. Even now, knowing we would be married, he still insists he doesn't regret that decision. On a few occasions I've lamented having had other partners but his perspective is we were way too immature at the time and he's never liked the pressure of being a girl's first. He thinks we would have crashed and burned hard instead of windi…
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/21 02:22 AM
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Yup. I'm a SAHM. Currently my daughter is battling cancer so we spend days at a time in the hospital. Tonight was day 5 of 8 hour long infusions, plus a 90 minute round-trip to the big city hospital. It's a pretty standard working mom schedule and I'm burnt the fuck out. I truly feel like I never see my other children. I basically have time to put out one "fire" every day, meaning things have to be a flaming emergency before it's dealt with. I have a tremendous support network too, which makes m…
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/21 02:18 AM
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And you know those wives were damn savvy and intelligent themselves. It's absolutely a group effort building an empire. Wives are right there helping them make their moves. You hang on to that kind of partner.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/21 02:39 AM
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That depends. If he has to come with the wealth then yes. If she's willing to build it together then I see wealth as more of a couple's goal.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/21 02:35 AM
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I'll add networking to this too. My husband has aspirations for us to be a pillar of the community type of family. That means I'm mailing out the birthday cards, sending the sympathy flowers, bringing that new mother a dish tonight, etc... You need to have social graces and interact well with all types of people. You can vet for a financially stable man easily enough and you can establish these things subtly at first. Once you're actually dating seriously you can be a bit more candid about these…
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/21 02:31 AM
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I would HIGHLY recommend against getting more work done at this age. I think you're trying too hard to look like a 20-something. I'm 35, I get it, we don't look 25 anymore, but you can still look gorgeous. I think what your body is screaming for is to go back to basics: hydrate, eat well, fresh air, exercise, simple beauty routines. Do that for 6 months and see if you don't start looking better. Then, stop being concerned if a 23 year old would date you; find the age of man where you're still yo…
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/21 11:12 AM
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Especially in the early, carefree years! The amount of women who seem to hate their spouse before they even say "I do" is ridiculous. Why are you getting married to this person you don't even like!? You know this is the easiest part of the relationship so why would you START like that!? It makes no sense to me. My SIL spents the months leading up to marriage giving the ring back during fights and threatening to call it off. I've truly never even thought about giving the ring back. That's a MASSI…
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/21 01:03 PM
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When I was 25 and started dating my husband I moved to be closer to him. We knew this was a very likely lifelong partnership even in the first few months, and I had been planning on moving cities anyways, I just hadn't decided where I wanted to go. Dating him made that decision easy. Well, you'd think I'd told people I was moving to the Moon to join the mermaid army. Even though it also meant being much closer to my family too. Nope. You're not supposed to make any decision ever "for a man" even…
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/21 06:37 AM
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If you have all the answers, then get on with it. You asked for advice, my advice is to try working on your relationship with an unbiased 3rd party.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/21 09:23 PM
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Absolutely not. But, you already have kids so maybe try some couples counseling?
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/21 08:52 PM
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We want 3-4 too! We already have 2. I also encourage people to not wait too long either. I was in my 20's when we started trying and still had some trouble getting and staying pregnant with my first. There's definitely a balance that needs to be struck between security and fertility. We're going to have to have our kids a lot closer than we wanted, but so far I'm actually really enjoying the close spacing. Unfortunately, all we can really do is stop actively preventing pregnancy, the rest is ent…
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/21 01:24 AM
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My husband is a software developer, I was in mortgages. We used my income to pay off all debt, 20% down on a house, and invested. I took my maternity leave with no intention of ever going back. We were together almost 7 years before having children- not entirely the plan but so it goes. I would absolutely NOT go into debt to stay home. Delay having children until you're debt free, work part time, or nights, whatever. We delayed having children until we were financially rock solid so that I could…
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/21 07:49 PM
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This never "just happens." Either she ignored red flags or they weren't properly tending their marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/21 10:51 PM
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Yes, huge pet peeve of mine in the red pill community. It can be portrayed as if women just cease to have value at some point between 30 and 40. First, a high value man, treated well, is precisely the type of man who wants more than "young and hot." VET WELL! Secondly, while you should always take care of yourself, be VERY careful the level of self esteem you derived from your looks and youth. No matter who you are or how gorgeous you are, you will age, don't put more value on your external appe…
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/21 05:52 PM
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I look for nightgowns. It eliminates most overly provocative things as I can just buy lingerie if that's what I'm looking for. There's some serious old lady stuff, but there's plenty of younger options. I also by actual pajama sets. I think it's better looking and helps motivate me mentally to change in the morning as they are DEFINITELY not "street" clothes. Try department stores. They all sell them so just pick one that's your budget and style. There's of course Amazon too.
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/21 12:59 AM
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No one is arguing against that. Fathers are also historically older, on average, now too. We're better understanding that sperm quality and quantity also drops with age. That's all that is being said.
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/21 12:15 AM
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I never said it guarantees issues, but old sperm causes issues too. https://www.washingtonpost.com/national/health-science/the-link-between-autism-and-older-parents-is-clear-but-the-why-is-not/2017/12/15/dbe03284-dc62-11e7-b859-fb0995360725_story.html
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/21 10:57 PM
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Inseminate a woman? Sure. Be a husband and father in a meaningful capacity? No. And healthy? Well, there's some debate about that too as the link between older fathers and birth defects is becoming more clear, as well as other risks like increased prevalence of autism and schizophrenia in children of men over 35.
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/21 03:59 AM
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Mostly the issues start on the second half of life. I've witnessed several situations where the younger partner is still young, active, and working and the older partner starts needing some serious end of life care. There's no guarantees who dies first, but you I know a widow in her 40s and another in her 50s. That's just a little too young to be without a life partner but a little old to have to start completely over. How many children you have, how close together is affected too. A man in his …
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/21 03:52 AM
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My husband and I are 6 years apart and it works pretty well, but definitely has some hiccups. I personally think around 8 years gets really tricky and more then 10 becomes unwieldy. Of course, that's just my opinion. I'm personally a planner type so things like when to have children, when to retire, when to head to a senior community, end if life care were all on my mind in my 20's having witnessed some bad scenarios due to large age gaps.
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/21 03:43 AM
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Then you don't have a 3rd date planned. Make other plans.
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/21 01:34 AM
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To be honest, I never watch people's stories, I find the whole notion obnoxious. I do, however, accidentally click on them constantly. There are a million reasons he could be on FB but not texting you. Trying to figure out why will only make you crazy. If he texts you, great, if not, then he's just not into you. Move on. Don't use up so much energy on some guy you had 2 dates with.
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/21 01:33 AM
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Absolutely do not message him again about anything until he responds. If he never responds you never message, it's really that simple.
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/21 01:07 AM
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Yeah, I agree. I LOVED being a teacher and working with kids. Don't get me wrong, I definitely have plenty of fun with my kids, but it's absolutely relentless. There is always someone who is clambering for my attention, 2 kids, 2 dogs, and a husband. I quite literally get only a few minutes each day where no one wants or needs me. It's exhausting down to your soul.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/21 01:23 AM
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I live in New England. My monthly tax bill for 3 acres is 10 times more as our family friend's 40 acres in Kentucky for the YEAR! And our weather sucks all year except for 1 week in May and September- October. Why do I live here!?! Lol
/r/RedPillWives06/08/21 01:49 AM
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To my knowledge, no, not in the US. Tradesmen who own their own shop to exceptionally well here, though that is in part due to how they are able to work and earn money while learning a trade instead of going into debt before entering the labor market with a degree. If they're savvy, they stay ahead of the game the whole way through.
/r/RedPillWives06/08/21 01:45 AM
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Yes. It isn't accurate to say the labor force doubled, though it certainly increased substantially, particularly in certain middle income and high income fields that never traditionally had a strong female labor force. This is coupled with a significantly greater number of people in general holding college educations. So, basically, certain labor markets have been "flooded" in recent years. It is true that incomes have been stagnant for decades, but, like with everything else, the reasons are mu…
/r/RedPillWives06/08/21 01:41 AM
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Seriously. I'll take short, small dick, and slightly pudgey. A core value of mine is staying home with children, but he just needs a middle class salary for that since I'm pretty frugal. My husband happens to be a "three 6 man" as they're called, but that's not what I was looking for specifically. It's our values, politics, religion, and so on that matters.
/r/RedPillWives04/08/21 09:50 PM
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Nope. My worth as a wife and human being extends well past my dress size and age. If the only value I provided was a warm body because he couldn't do better physically then I would dump him the second that was made clear.
/r/RedPillWives04/08/21 02:32 AM
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I agree with you totally. I forgot about the loss of time! Until you have young kids you really can't appreciate how huge that is. I barely get time alone with him and now I'm sharing it with some low value woman (which she is by definition for sleeping with a married father.) I don't get a shower today because he's sleeping with another woman!? My daughter doesn't get her nightly "Daddy princess story" because he's screwing around? I have to bring the baby to an appointment and need to hire a s…
/r/RedPillWives04/08/21 02:27 AM
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Nope. That is my husband, though he's not a lifter or in great shape. If we were talking an actual second wife I would at least hear him out. I'm 100% opposed to swinging, open marriages, or any form of casual sex outside of your relationship. It's not high value behavior, first and foremost. A man like that is by definition not an alpha or however else you want the phrase it. What a terrible example to set for our daughters- women are to be used for fun and no woman should expect commitment fro…
/r/RedPillWives04/08/21 02:20 AM
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Raising children, for a HUGE one. There is absolutely no logical reason to do it, any of it, at all. The whole system relies on maternal feelings. Likewise with sharing resources amongst them. Logic would NEVER favor the youngest, weakest, sickest, etc... Marriage, while there needs to be a logical component to it, is also a very emotional endeavor. I'll say all human relationships, generally speaking, require a more emotional than intellectual approach. Tending plants and animals as well. Peopl…
/r/RedPillWives04/08/21 01:41 AM
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I definitely need to work on this!
/r/RedPillWives31/07/21 05:08 PM
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Oh hell! I seriously thought he was a teenager reading this...
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/21 01:45 AM
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It makes perfect sense if you realize the goal is to orbit her until she maybe one day invites you in.
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/21 02:01 AM
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I find being on social media creates far more of an echo chamber than I could curate in real life. I haven't deleted, but I have done this: eliminate all the social media that you don't "need" to function day to day. Then, set daily usage limits on your phone for them. Additionally, set a timer everyday, mine is 9:30 AM and put your phone into "work mode" that specifically blocks your time wasters. For a few days you might hate it, but it becomes wonderfully freeing!
/r/RedPillWives13/07/21 01:26 AM
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Nope. If a man is going to cheat, many prefer their affair partner also be in a relationship. Mutually assured destruction keeps everyone quiet.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/21 11:15 PM
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Also, I've heard the argument that if they both have something to lose it's less likely either will talk.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/21 11:14 PM
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This is toxic on multiple levels. Break up and stay away! Clear your head, work on you, and then start over fresh with someone new. If things were going to change they would have by now.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/21 07:06 PM
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You're thinking captain means "above" or "better than" when it only means "leader." I would say don't ever marry anyone you wouldn't trust to make every decision for you, not because he should, but because legally he basically can:his debts are yours, his property is yours, if you're deemed unable to make legal or medical decisions he will make them for you, he gets equal say in all child matters, on and on. I personally hate the term. The word "husband" already means head of household to me, so…
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/21 01:17 AM
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Yes! People forget that just because we have machines to do the cleaning does not mean there is not work loading/unloading, maintaining, and cleaning said machines. We also owned about 3 outfits, so saying things like sewing, mending, laundry is definitely true, but it wasn't the wardrobe you would expect today. Laundry wasn't done more than once a week, and often not even that frequently. It's unfair to compare just like it's unfair to judge plowing a field vs being an accountant.
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/21 11:24 AM
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I'm of incredibly significant value as a housewife. It is easier than in the past in many ways, absolutely, but there are plenty of new modern demands that still make it a full time job. Men also used to work far more labor intensive jobs, as a whole, than they do now. It doesn't mean I don't respect my husband for working all day just because he's behind a desk.
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/21 12:54 AM
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No, the 1920s communist party coming out of the soviet. LBJ did a great job in helping though.
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/21 12:49 AM
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I'm a SAHM. My husband and I stress "fair, but never equal." He does certain house chores, maybe 10-25% and makes all the money. I do all the remaining chores and about 80% of child care (closer to 100% for the under 2s.) For us, in our marriage, with our strengths and preferences this is a very fair, but by no means equal division of labor. We feel interdependent and no one feels resentful about their load. That's the balance every couple needs to find and it will be different for each couple h…
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/21 12:46 AM
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Well before kids I worked my ass off to pay off all our debts, save the down payment for our house, and invest my income. Now I don't work. If my husband were to pass, I could invest the life insurance with our other assets and live decently on the passive income indefinitely. Divorce is a choice, choose a good partner and keep your marriage a top priority. My husband relies on me just as much as I rely on him, that's healthy in a marriage. We're interdependent. There are plenty of ways to be a …
/r/RedPillWives15/06/21 01:17 AM
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Love that analogy! It becomes so obvious if we talk in concrete terms.
/r/RedPillWives10/05/21 12:17 AM
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No. Marriage of any kind does not give you a higher legal standing than natural born children unless they are also your children. If you have or your spouse has children from a previous marriage you need a will, full stop.
/r/RedPillWives09/05/21 07:13 PM
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And even if you are married, any children he has that aren't yours are legal heirs EQUAL to you, meaning: without an ironclad will, the get half his estate, including real property. You can literally have your house sold out from under you. His kids can't even stop it unless you can buy them out and they accept.
/r/RedPillWives09/05/21 02:05 AM
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Hard pass from me. Marriage was non-negotiable. It is absolutely not the same level of commitment as dating. I hate the government too, but that's such a weak argument. This is a legal contract between 2 people, which is something I, as a libertarian, borderline anarcho-capitalist am ALL ABOUT. We're entered into a legally binding agreement before God and man, beholden to both sets of laws. That is the level of dignity our relationship, and I as a wife, deserve. Either he gets that and decides t…
/r/RedPillWives09/05/21 02:01 AM
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This. I was a virgin at 19 and that's totally normal! I do agree though, by late 20s I do think this becomes a bit of a hindrance. I don't really know the answer other than try to find the right man early. I knew a woman who was 32 and still a virgin and it was dramatically hurting her at that point. I'm in a very progressive area though, so that doesn't help. I will say this sub sometimes gets a little extreme. Your options aren't stay a virgin until your wedding night or have a body count in t…
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/21 08:58 PM
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I'm going to disagree with you here. I don't think the actual degree is what men are looking for but rather an educated, cultured woman. You can be on par with a college educated woman without an actual degree. It's baseline intelligence coupled with an articulate and well rounded woman highly educated men seek; those women just also typically hold degrees. I'm a housewife to a high earner with an engineering degree. He cares that I'm intellectually his equal and that I wouldn't ever embarrass h…
/r/RedPillWives12/01/21 03:13 AM
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I've found they mostly can't actually tell, they just don't like the idea of left overs or frozen. In my husband's case, his mother was a terrible cook and often let food expire/get moldy, so he just wouldn't eat anything not fresh until I showed him it was fine. Besides, once I showed him the difference in time and money, that removed any lingering doubts!
/r/RedPillWives06/01/21 06:35 PM
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Thank you! I'm certainly not bragging about my faults though, and they're numerous! One HUGE one is knowing what I'm NOT good at and letting go of guilt there (if it's something non-essential.) I don't sew, I don't have a homestead, etc... I had a lot of guilt early on about all I don't do, and kept trying to do everything, but it's so much better to pour your efforts into what you can do well and master that. Find a way to organize yourself, your calendar, your chores that works for you. Be rel…
/r/RedPillWives03/01/21 08:04 PM
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My husband was this way too at first. You might consider gently breaking him of this. Things like frozen pasta sauces and casseroles are truly no different and it saves SO much time, especially once children arrive. Some food is even significantly better "left over." I actually wouldn't dream of serving guests mashed potatoes that weren't AT LEAST a day old.
/r/RedPillWives03/01/21 07:47 PM
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Haha, thanks! You'll note a distinct lack of fine motor activities: sewing, knitting, etc... I think it's tremendously valuable to know your weaknesses too. I'm a huge proponent on really focusing on your strengths. Unless a weakness has become a stumbling block, just let that stuff go. To that end, if baking isn't your thing then don't. Though, I do find it odd you stop at bread, there's so many other things. I hardly ever bake bread, that's really almost a separate skill set entirely. Etiquett…
/r/RedPillWives03/01/21 07:13 PM
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Amen to that! I cook once or twice tops during the week. With some planning and bulk cooking you can really streamline things. It also saves a ton of money!
/r/RedPillWives03/01/21 03:12 AM
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I think so much of this depends on your lifestyle and status. For my particular life I need a really strong hostess game. With that comes cooking, baking, and decorating. I need to be reasonably aware of etiquette. Household management in general is invaluable to all wives. It's important to me to be a good conversationalist and to keep track of the interests of various people in our lives; Networking in general is something I work hard on. Organization is essential for us! I personally enjoy ga…
/r/RedPillWives03/01/21 03:09 AM
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I didn't start dating my husband until I was 25, thankfully. No one i was dating before then was husband material, and I would have blown it with him any younger as I was far too immature. I think it's better to lose a little in the looks and fertility department to wait until your mid twenties for your maturity.
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/20 02:43 AM
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I grew up in a rural area, but I lived in NYC and Boston in my 20s; we then moved back to a rural area. I can 100% confirm. I got married at 29, bought a house at 30, and had my first child at 31and second at 34. In my circle of city friends, I am one of the youngest to do anything of the sort. Many are still single in their mid-thirties. Conversely, most of my friends I grew up with who stayed local have school aged children, a few have highschoolers! My husband is 6 years older, so he's on par…
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/20 02:40 AM
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I don't consider his parties an active hosting requirement. I'll set things up, but then I get as out of the way as possible, what with it being man o'clock and all. My husband also loves to host almost as much as I do so it's really his opportunity to have complete control over an event.
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/20 02:17 AM
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Definitely not a STFU moment. You have a right to have your weaknesses handled sensitively.
/r/RedPillWives19/11/20 01:58 AM
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Totally. There are very real practical considerations you need to make when choosing a spouse. It is absolutely a business transaction as much as it is a selection of mate and companion.
/r/RedPillWives14/11/20 01:30 AM
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I personally wouldn't, but I knew I wanted to be a full time SAHM. I made that abundantly clear while dating and never got too serious with someone who couldn't support us. That doesn't mean you're wrong to marry him, just my perspective. Would he consider being the SAHD? In my research and lived experience life with young children is infinitely easier when one spouse is fully focused on the home front.
/r/RedPillWives14/11/20 12:25 AM
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Huge red flag. Either: A) he has a bunch of beta female orbiters or is spinning plates. He may also be hoping to pick up "nice guy" points and turn these women into girlfriends one day. Or B) he's not capable of existing well within the male social hierarchy so he avoids it. A man, by definition, isn't part of the female hierarchy, so it's a cowardly social strategy. A way of winning by default. A man doesn't need to be #1 in a hierarchy to be esteemable, but he does need to play the game. Same …
/r/RedPillWives22/10/20 12:46 PM
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There is no "my" net worth, but our net worth was about $350,000 when we got married. I quit working 2.5 years later when our first was born, so our financial situation wasn't radically different, though we bought a house in between so a lot of it shifted to equity.
/r/RedPillWives28/09/20 10:02 AM
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As a fellow co-sleeper we just go to the couch or guest bedroom. Sex is almost never spontaneous with 2 littles, but I don't see that that matters much. Just put it on the calendar and have it. Spontaneity will return as they age, what's important now is to just maintain the connection. Your sex life doesn't need to look like anyone else's, including your own before the baby. As for post partum bodies: by all means work on the weight, but i do find we tend to be way harsher on ourselves than the…
/r/RedPillWives06/09/20 04:10 PM
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I disagree that mistress is only used in connection to a man. It's the feminine version of master. It certainly has other definitions, but it's not inherently referential to men.
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/20 11:48 AM
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No argument, I'd encourage all women to be married before 30 to well avoid that problem. That said, there is absolutely the message sent to women from RP that you're completely disgusting by 30, maybe 35 with good habits.
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/20 08:14 PM
4

I won my husband by baking him a great birthday cake, which I also had a slice of. My figure was great then, and is usually great now (9 months pregnant so I'm basically a land whale at the moment! Haha) Balance is key for me at least. In my experience most women look great at 27 unless they've REALLY been rough with themselves.
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/20 05:49 PM
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Everyone gives women shit for hitting the wall, but the truth is, almost everyone ages like milk. I think women tend to age harder and faster because they are both more inclined to do damaging things to look good in youth (dye hair, sunbathe, etc...) and the demand pregnancy, childbirth, and raising children places on women cannot be understated. This is not to say women have to or should let themselves go once they're pregnant, but it is to point out a very real physiological response and shift…
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/20 03:26 PM
2

2nd wave was a mixed bag. Some of it was needed. Women couldn't get a car loan without a male cosigner, regardless of ability to repay, for example. However, the other shit they snuck in there too? And now 3rd wave is just 100% useless nonsense.
/r/AntiFeminists11/04/20 06:00 PM
3

Yup! Next question?
/r/AntiFeminists11/04/20 05:58 PM
2

Just chiming in to say while it may smooth lines, it's definitely not natural looking; Personally I find it off putting. Keep in mind, you're SO YOUNG. Is this really a path you want to start down now, because there's no getting off that train once you're on it. I doubt if you start now you're suddenly going to wake up at 30, 40, or 50 and be okay with those wrinkles now. This is A LOT of time and money to invest over the rest of your life.
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/20 02:11 AM
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Yeah, my husband had to be ordered to work from home and his office shut down before he did. I think it's something deep seated in men whereas women are far more willing to "run and hide" as it were.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/20 02:19 AM
1

Yes, definitely put in more effort in general towards appearance. Then OP might start doing things to initiate if she feels sexier. OP feeling sexier and initiating more might start a positive reinforcement cycle where he starts to initiate more. Definitely work on weight loss specifically OP as you know this is an issue for both of you. In my experience women usually don't even need to lose as much as they think they would to start turning heads again, if that's motivating to you at all.
/r/RedPillWives05/04/20 02:28 AM
31

There's nothing even funny here. This is just boring. Their biggest crime lately is ruining perfectly good forms of entertainment.
/r/AntiFeminists11/03/20 11:32 AM
4

My thoughts exactly. Projection much? Edit: the "projection much" was snark aimed at OP's friend. Re-reading I'm not sure that's clear.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/20 12:56 AM
3

It seems obvious to me they probably limit their commute to be more available to their children. God forbid women should prioritize family even slightly above work and money. You can't be the CEO in the city and be home at 3 in the suburbs for the school bus. This isn't the patriarchy, it's the same work/life decision men have had to make for decades.
/r/AntiFeminists08/03/20 12:59 PM
3

Sorry. Your original comment doesn't read as sarcasm.
/r/AntiFeminists04/03/20 01:14 PM
2

Yikes. Can't believe I fell for it! Lol
/r/AntiFeminists04/03/20 01:12 PM
5

So? Women head the household and men head the family. If individual families want to adjust those roles, I'm all for it, but the consequences to society of demolishing that structure has been dire. Look at what's happening to our own society. Were there things wrong with society in the 50s? Very much so. Are we better off social socially than we were in the 50s? I'd argue vehemently no. The dictators you mentioned didn't advocate for families to be patriarchal; they did it because it's literally…
/r/AntiFeminists04/03/20 01:11 PM
5

Could be fine, from my observational experience casting out older tends to be more successful. I certainly wouldn't rule out men in their 30s.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/20 01:22 PM
2

Yeah, I should have listened to my gut on that one. He seemed like a douche from the start but I figured I'd give it a shot. I couldn't believe it either. There were a few other stories but that one really struck out. On what planet that's a first date story I will never know!
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/20 12:35 PM
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No success story from me, but I want to wish you luck! I'd also offer the advice to look for older men. Youth being relative, most of the women I know who are successful at an older age get this. I don't know exactly how much older, but my guess is early 40s. Most of the women in their early-mid 30s who are still single are chasing guys their own age. Obviously don't rule them out, but that would not be my target audience.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/20 02:52 AM
2

I guess this is where everyone's opinion on what exactly constitutes high or low makes a huge difference in the answer. Personally I never found any appeal in men who were virgins or had n-counts lower than mine. That said, I would also find a very high n-count unappealing, particularly if there was a lot of flagrant promiscuity. I went on a date with a guy once. I never got his n-count, but I'll never forget him telling me how he fingered some random MILF on the commuter rail and never even kne…
/r/RedPillWomen29/02/20 01:48 AM
2

Yeah. I'd say in general we're more feminine, which means we're also pretty quick to "go along to get along." We're not going to be great soldiers in this war, unfortunately.
/r/AntiFeminists27/02/20 05:03 PM
6

Yes. In fact, ironically, many of us who are opposed to feminism are also fairly timid. Not in a bad way, we're just less likely to be assertive and aggressive, we tend towards being more agreeable and trying to keep the peace. A lot of us are quite afraid of speaking out in public.
/r/AntiFeminists27/02/20 04:38 PM
6

This is a false dichotomy. Plenty of emotionally healthy people are charming. Here's a far better test: how quickly is he trying to progress the relationship and how does he respond to you pumping the brakes? If you say "no" to sex on the first date does he whine and pout? Try to persuade you otherwise? Is he pushing to move in or get engaged after 3 months? These are signs he's either only after sex or trying to form an attachment before you have time to actually get to know the real him. Feeli…
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/20 02:59 AM
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You can't possibly know what it was about. Obviously sex was part of it, but there could be a lot else going on.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/20 03:05 AM
3

Are you saying a woman can't backpack alone through cartel owned Mexican desert because she's weak and you're racist! There's never any onus on a woman to prevent rape.
/r/AntiFeminists21/02/20 01:27 PM
2

I mean...can't it be both? False dichotomy.
/r/AntiFeminists21/02/20 01:25 PM
1

That all adds up.
/r/AntiFeminists20/02/20 12:16 PM
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Definitely. It's just so stunningly stupid! I could see if you were being a jerk about it, but it's perfectly polite and reasonable, just an opposing view.
/r/AntiFeminists18/02/20 02:31 PM
2

I don't understand what's even remotely controversial with your statement!? Obviously they disagree with your opinion, but it's well reasoned, in no way offensive or bombastic, and can't possibly violate any reddit terms or conditions.
/r/AntiFeminists18/02/20 12:06 PM
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I think this is an issue each couple needs to negotiate on their own to find the right answer. If you're uncomfortable with this, then that's a legitimate boundary for you. Have a conversation about it with your boyfriend and if you can't figure out a way both people are completely comfortable and happy with the type and amount of porn being consumed then you both owe it to yourselves to move on. I can't say this is or isn't a problem universally. I know for me personally i'm fine with occasiona…
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/20 02:36 AM
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Not for a second. We never learn!
/r/AntiFeminists12/02/20 01:23 PM
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Those of us with older brothers were never under any illusions of strength. You fight over that TV remote one time and you know forever you're not winning shit.
/r/AntiFeminists12/02/20 12:16 PM
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I don't think this post is bashing equality, I think it's pointing out that you can't "have it all." This woman now has to work because of education debt and has too late realized what that tradeoff actually entails. A whole generation of women were told they had to work much the same way their grandmothers were told they had to stay home. Feminism has given women the same lack of choice it claimed to correct, just in the opposite direction.
/r/AntiFeminists08/02/20 02:56 AM
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Yup. Let's be blunt, if both parents are working full time, daycare is raising your kids. You can cry foul all you want but it's the fucking truth.
/r/AntiFeminists08/02/20 02:51 AM
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Keep your own hobbies and interests fresh with podcasts, books, tv shows, movies, etc... It's easier to be fresh and interesting when you have fresh and interesting material. Also, sharing activities, even just reading the same book, can go a really long way. We've also started doing more activity dates since having kids to keep things playful. We went to an arcade before dinner last weekend and had a blast! We'll also read off trivia questions to each other, which is fun on its own but can also…
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/20 02:58 AM
2

I know, I'm just categorically opposed to that level of government control. Glad to hear it's being stepped back.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/20 02:34 AM
2

Good to know, I hadn't heard that! Still crazy the government controls that, but at least they're easing up.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/20 01:59 AM
1

Mine was a few weeks gone. I did start miscarrying naturally about 10 days later.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/20 01:58 AM
1

Ugh, same! I never even knew there was a thing as a "missed miscarriage." I thought everything must be fine since a miscarriage meant you'd just start bleeding one day right?
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/20 12:47 AM
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My miscarriage was my first so was pretty devastating, but I've since had one and am almost due with our second, so we're perfect on the ratio too it would seem!
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/20 11:34 AM
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Bingo! A great deal of abuse is just selfishness and lack of empathy. That's what makes it so God damn hard to identify when you're in it. If it we all punches to the kidneys it'd be obvious.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/20 03:03 AM
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Agreed. I would go so far as to say they're only worth doing because they're hard.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/20 03:00 AM
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Excellent point. With the one child rule, abortion is probably pretty common.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/20 02:57 AM
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I'm so sorry for your loss. I had a miscarriage at 12 weeks. There are no words. Our society does a shit job of recognizing these losses. Mine was 3 years ago; it hasn't healed completely but it does get better.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/20 02:56 AM
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I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't say if you're doomed or not; the story you tell is pretty horrific and based solely on this I'd say run, but I don't have any clue about how your marriage is in all other regards. I'm chiming in to say 2 things: 1) you need to have a serious conversation NOW about having children, to include a clear timeline with action steps. 2) whether you stay or go, all is not lost. Fertility is a lot more complex than "over 25 bad, over 35 DOOMED." You still have plenty o…
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/20 02:51 AM
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People vastly overestimate how much it costs to raise a child. They're pretty cheap. Daycare, organic gerber puree, endless paid activities, the latest xbox, and extravagant birthday parties are what's expensive. Also, it's not like abortion is the only alternative. Adoption is preferable in my book, especially now where they can be as opened or as closed as you want them to be.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/20 02:42 AM
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I'm not offended, just letting you know it might not be well received. I prefer just to hate on those bitches directly.
/r/AntiFeminists29/01/20 02:12 AM
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A lot of us here are women, FYI.
/r/AntiFeminists29/01/20 02:04 AM
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Well, agree to disagree I guess. Best case scenario and what you're saying is true he has the maturity of a teenager. Not good for a marriage. My husband and I expect each other to be honest and forthright with each other. If he'd been having a bad few days it's on him to let his wife know that. There are absolutely no excuses for his behavior, though I'm sure there is an explanation. That doesn't mean she needs to leave him or anything, but this behavior is inexcusable from adults and he needs …
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/20 07:28 PM
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Don't be condescending. He's using guilt and manipulation to TRY TO get the yes. It seemed implied she was giving the yes the next day when he got home.
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/20 06:55 PM
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I'm sorry, but what the fuck!? Just no. Under no circumstances is it okay to beat your wife. Just no. Divorce her then. If you think the only way to get what you need is to beat your spouse then you must seek help or divorce them. I DO NOT advocate divorce lightly, but holy hell if ever there's a time for one!
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/20 03:06 AM
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It would also be unacceptable if the genders were reversed though. I don't really see the toxic femininity here. No does mean no. Her husband didn't rape her, but he did use guilt and manipulation to get the yes. He's still at it the next day trying to press the no into a yes not just this once, but to "teach her" to never say no to him. Is it technically rape? No. But it's abuse. It's holding the threat of divorce over her for noncompliance in a really disturbing way. This isn't about OP not re…
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/20 03:01 AM
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It's not redpill behavior under any circumstances. Let the blue pills have their jokes but that behavior is completely disrespectful.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/20 02:51 AM
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This wouldn't be acceptable to me. A good leader takes care of his wife. If you refused constantly I could see having a mature conversation about it, but this is both immature behavior and uncaring. Definitely not what I would consider a healthy display of dominance.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/20 01:25 AM
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When people tell you who they are, believe them the first time. NEXT!
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/20 12:48 PM
3

Monogamy didn't start with Christianity. Just because a man CAN impregnate that many women doesn't mean we're therefore non-monogamous. The anthropological research indicates we're flexible, that's why we can't even agree on if we're monogamous or not, the answer is yes and also no.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/20 04:51 PM
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I do, actually, but you're starting from such a fundamentally false place that I'm not even going to bother. You can't boil it down to women are monogamous and men aren't though, the science just doesn't back that, to say nothing of the thousands of years of recorded history that demonstrate time and again a strong monogamous bent in human nature. At best it can be boiled down to humans are basically monogamous and will opportunistically cheat, but this is still a gross simplification.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/20 04:01 PM
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You're original premise is false, so any conclusions you've drawn are as well.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/20 03:44 PM
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Women also have to choose one thing for dinner, what's your point? Marriage is about way more than just sex. I'm sorry for whatever is going on for you that you think you need to accept a man like that, but you don't. Yes, men want sexual variety, but that is not the only parameter that defines them. They're not base animals incapable of overcoming sexual urges. You're just putting yourself in the middle of the men who are choosing to be led around by their dicks. By definition not an RP husband…
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/20 12:51 PM
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I don't know any woman who has slept with anywhere near 50 men. I'm curious about these women you're talking about.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/20 12:56 AM
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I'd also say having your first at 40 is a world of difference from having your last at 40. A lot of the women I know are just starting in their late 30s and early 40s. Still better than never getting to have kids at all, but so many of them are so naive about what pregnancy and the first 3-5 years of a child's life require. If you have your last at 40, you know full damn well if you're ready to handle it, your body has been through it before which often makes it easier, your oldest child/ren can…
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/20 12:03 AM
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My mom pulled this shit with kids. Don't have any before 30 but you better be done by 35 when your ovaries fall out. You can't win with these women, best to just smile and nod.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/20 08:48 PM
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1) having gone through a lot of shit does not automatically convert to wisdom. 2) not partying is not the same as being mature. 3) having success and business acumen is not the same as maturity or wisdom. 4) having maturity in one area of life, such as wealth management, does not mean one has global maturity. 5) everyone under 25 wants to help the world, that's not maturity, that's youthful optimism. Just because he may actually have the means to do so doesn't inherently convey foresight or good…
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/19 12:14 AM
1

I had already read through that comment when I commented.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/19 09:42 PM
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You do you, but that doesn't sound like a strong leader I would follow, he sounds like a condescending prick. If that's all you want, move on. Work on you. If he is that great, he'll see the improvement and commit without ambiguity. If I'm right and he's not that great, you'll see that with some self work and be happy to have dodged a bullet.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/19 09:07 PM
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Your comment is fantastic. A lot of truth here, I think.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/19 08:58 PM
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He's playing a lot of games here. If he's so clear about what he wants, you're either it or your not. A good man will now and not string you along if it's a "no" or would be clear it's a "yes" and be in your corner helping you improve. If I were you, I'd move on. I can almost guarantee you this won't end in a fulfilling RP marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/19 08:57 PM
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Agreed. All hat and no cattle.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/19 08:54 PM
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I've never understood that either. Why would you deliberately make yourself less attractive to your mate? Why would you ever knowingly do anything they hated without damn good cause? A shit test isn't good cause. If a haircut is going to prove or disprove your marriage vows, your relationship has bigger issues anyways, adding a fight over something as dumb as hair is definitely a bad move.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/19 05:40 PM
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Exactly! His words aren't terribly concerning on their face, but if your gut goes off then it's a red flag, even if you can't rationally explain why.
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/19 12:33 PM
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I went with the always alluring "I think this is the right time this month" or the tried and true "I'm ovulating!" I'm not great at initiating anyways and he was plenty happy to have sex, the "mood" has never much mattered to him. Probably not the best advice, but I think it's women who overthink sex. Men usually are pretty happy to know it's a green light.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/19 01:50 AM
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Trust your gut. If this isn't sitting right with you, you need to move on. Don't talk yourself into or out of something that feels off because he looks good on paper.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/19 08:48 AM
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Sounded well thought out to me and was a really good point. I'm not great at getting to the point, but my point is that I'm appreciative for the insight. Many men are in the anger phase, and it's easy to forget that once you're mostly out of it. Also, yes, men get angry and women get sad. Being a woman, I can deal better with someone's depression better than their rage. Definitely agree that women have more outlets. For one, society definitely handles sadness better than anger, for a variety of …
/r/AntiFeminists09/10/19 02:27 PM
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Both fantastic points. I went through my own anger phase after realizing actual femininity and virtue have been sold in the name of "equality." I know a lot of women who never took the red pill, or took it too late and now they're in their 40s, unmarried and childless. It still pisses me off how deeply we were lied to and now these women's lives will be forever spent mourning what could have been. Obviously they bear personal responsibility too, but it's frustrating when society just pretends we…
/r/AntiFeminists09/10/19 11:21 AM
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Preach! I hate modern feminism too, but it's super off putting to just be mocked by the men you're trying to unite with. Hey fellas! We agree with you! You can put the weapons down.
/r/AntiFeminists08/10/19 01:48 AM
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I'm an atheist in a heavily blue state and have never encountered this either. I don't think this is normal in most people's bubbles.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/19 01:56 PM
2

Amazon has some.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/19 07:47 PM
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r/curlyhair is super helpful. This site is very informative for porosity, which is probably the most important thing besides straight/wavy/curly. https://www.simplyorganicbeauty.com/hair-porosity-types-tests-and-treatments/
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/19 06:53 PM
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Learning about hair type, porosity, etc... I finally figured how to take care of my hair properly without it getting frizzy or oily. I never understood why I always used "too much" argan oil and looked greasy. Turns out my hair just doesn't absorb certain oils well. I need to use different techniques and oils than what is mainstream. Who knew? 9 months later and my hair is so much healthier!
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/19 05:28 PM
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Conversely, learn how to rock healthy, natural wavy and curly hair. I started doing the curly girl method. My confidence is way up and my hair looks amazing. I feel more like "me." I think most women look their best when they accentuate their natural features instead of trying to do the opposite. That said, if you like it straight or are naturally pretty straight, it will always look best healthy and done well!
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/19 05:24 PM
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Agreed. I always do both, but try to only "go big" with one. That having been said, rules are meant to be broken and you certainly can rock a more bold look on both for a special occasion if you're skilled and comfortable with a real statement. I would recommend to only do this with a fairly tame outfit though. You're not trying to look like a clown.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/19 05:19 PM
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Completely agree.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/19 11:42 PM
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Came here to say this. OP, you're asking for advice from women and you start off by insulting us. I'm also not into a lot of those activities because I'm not shallow. You're essentially saying all the other women are shallow. I'd say that's simply not true. You need to find where less shallow people are and then work on your own attitude so you don't alienate them. Partially this is a function of age, teens and early 20s people do tend to be more shallow, but I also suspect a lot of confirmation…
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/19 06:56 AM
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I see no problem with them in theory, but I've never seen a healthy one in reality. The ones we see on TV very rarely show the true problems these people have. There's a certain allure to it when you're only shown the advantages and some minor issues.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/19 09:08 AM
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Absolutely! It's sad, but we're human. Rich men and beautiful women can get away with a hell of a lot before anyone notices or cares. Such is life. OP, for what it's worth, a new piece of lingerie used immediately upon his return will go a long way. Follow that up with your conversation later that day or the next and it should hopefully go a lot smoother. I find a common mistake we make is expecting intimacy and then sex and men are the other way around on that. You need to meet his needs first …
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/19 10:37 AM
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Great answer. Also, I can not stress this enough ladies: Men don't care about your degree or job Like, not at all, not any amount. Especially if he's already rich and any amount of red pilled. This doesn't mean they won't go for women with fancy degrees, but stop putting it on your dating resume like some kind of bait. WOMEN are drawn to these things so we think men will be too; false! OP, being in you're 30's and leading with where you went to college, in addition to the above, is also a red fl…
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/19 10:31 AM
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Good response. I agree but would like to add it's not always SMV issues. Definitely look into that as a first step, but a stunning bitch is pretty unattractive after the novelty wears off. Even if you're still keeping yourself up, it's always a good idea to examine our character too. Eventually we all have a SMV of 0 and personality is all that's left. That having been said, there's a lot of potential red flags in OP's story. If this behavior is new then it may be about another woman and/or some…
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/19 10:10 AM
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I second this. I lost 6 pounds in a month (and kept it off.) I do 16:8 Monday through Thursday and then the weekends I still fast but it's a lot more dynamic and usually I don't fast one day. There are so many extra calories I used to mindlessly eat while preparing breakfast and lunch that I just don't eat now, to say nothing of actually just skipping breakfast 6 days a week.
/r/RedPillWives25/06/19 08:48 PM
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I don't remember ever not wanting to be a mom. I decided I wanted to be a SAHM in high school. All through college I kinda felt silly picking a career since I wanted to stay home, but you're "supposed" to go. I was purple pill back then. Told any guy I was even remotely serious with about wanting to have 3 children and stay at home. Now I'm a SAHM to 1and trying for #2. I think most women want to be mothers if they're being honest with themselves. Our culture just shames us for it. I was told I …
/r/RedPillWives23/06/19 01:25 AM
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Yes, there is. That being said, I don't know your friends, but my husband explained there's also an "easy" privilege. I'm quite attractive, but I've always felt like the ugly one around these two friends. I'm definitely quite a bit prettier than one, and about the same as the other, yet I get far less perks and attention. Essentially it boils down to them being extremely flirty, always throwing out "come fuck me" looks, etc... Men will do a lot for them because they're broadcasting their potenti…
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/19 12:50 PM
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I think so much of it is age, children, and individual libido. People say all men want sex all the time and that's simply not true. Each couple needs to asses their own desire and find the overlap. You also need to update that model as life circumstances dictate. Sex isl important, but how important is different for everyone.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/19 01:23 PM
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Stefan molyneux does a pretty varied podcast with a strong redpill leaning.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/19 06:45 PM
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Yup! Very similar to you. I Also found some of my old habits keeping me thin weren't keeping me healthy. I'd rather be healthy.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/19 10:15 AM
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I'm with you. I'm also gonna start smoking again. I don't particularly care what it does when I'm 90. If I'm in any pain they won't medicate away I will also be on the corner buying whatever are the finest street drugs money can buy by then.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/19 10:12 AM
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I'm 5'7", was a 2 or 4 most of my life until becoming a mom and now I'm an 8. I'm not some fat blob, but I am obviously heavier. I've spent a lot of time figuring out what's changed. It's harder to fit in working out, but not impossible. Sleep deprivation causes junk cravings; if you understand that your body just wants fast energy you can fuel it properly. I hate food waste, so I find myself mindlessly eating my toddler's leftovers. Don't! A lot of kid activities that include snacks are 100% ju…
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/19 10:07 AM
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That's simply not true.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/19 09:31 AM
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We met when I was 14, but as an actual potential boyfriend? I was 25 and he was 31 when we started dating. He's the relative of a friend of mine, so we met in passing initially. So, you may already know him and the timing just isn't right yet. I'm not sure how old you are, but I was always disheartened by those people who met at 20 and were each other's first loves. Not every great love story starts that way! Been together almost a decade now, yikes that was fast! I have my dream life now, but 1…
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/19 08:43 AM
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I've had some success with those at home dry cleaning kits. The only major downside is it won't be nicely pressed. I mostly just avoid buying dry clean only because I'm lazy like that.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/19 04:59 AM
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To add: keep a few batches of cookie dough too. You can have fresh, homemade cookies in minutes for company or to take out.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/19 04:57 AM
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Fact
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/19 04:55 AM
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Meditation and mindfulness do wonders. It's almost impossible to be ugly if you're present. An ugly heart is the product of ego. I mail a birthday card to just about anyone I know who's birthdate I have. It's a small act that reaps huge benefits. Buy cards in bulk on Amazon, and don't forget kids! Also, if you truly listen to people then they'll drop all kinds of hints about things that would be great gifts or acts of service. I keep a little list of these ideas for whenever I might need or want…
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/19 08:00 AM
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No, I've never actively tried to acquire orbiters. I genuinely thought I had male friends who enjoyed my company. Some of them I understood were attracted to me, but I truly thought that didn't affect their desire to be friends. If it's sexual attention from a beta male I feel uncomfortable and squeamish. I don't want to be rude or hurt his feelings, but I have no desire for the attention and want it to stop. Regular friendly attention is well received. Anyone being nice and paying you attention…
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/19 11:35 AM
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Definitely something to consider. I think, in general, some men place more stock in looks than others and you'll need to plan accordingly. My husband is 6 years older, which is great, but as I get older it feels like I have less and less of an edge by being younger. I will say that your husband may be more reacting to his own aging when he insults these other women than your aging. Also, once you're his age you'll still be 11 years younger than women his age.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/19 12:27 PM
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I have friends who used to think we were poor. Our house gives us away now, but before that we were in a 500 sqft apartment. People completely do not understand the difference between having money and spending money. Most of our wealth is in various investments as well. People just assume you spend the most you can on things like your car. Imma drive my Subaru and watch my money pile up, you have fun in your Benz and crippling debt.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/19 11:21 PM
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I'd probably fit that category. Married for almost 4 years, together for almost 8. We both come from fairly affluent families. Much of our non-inheireted wealth was built together; his salary covered everything and mine was saved/invested/paid off debt for 7 years. Now I'm a housewife and he has a high salary.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/19 05:26 PM
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For my husband and the fact that he thinks he's the lucky one by going to work all day to support our crazy family!
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/19 05:20 PM
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I wish you all the luck in the world, truly. I'm not really sure what it is you're looking for from us on this thread. It's not an advised situation but it's certainly possible it could work. My husband and I spoke about your situation and his warning was that your boyfriend "isn't ripe yet" and there's a lot of dangers here. This isn't to say you're doomed, but you should go in eyes open. I've read through the whole thread and you seem a little hand-waving of everything we've had to say. I don'…
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/19 06:21 AM
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I'm sure you are, but I should warn you: you've mentioned up-thread about wanting children right after marriage. At least in my personal experience, having children ages you pretty damn quickly and there's really nothing you can do about it. Hopefully you get kids who sleep well, but not sleeping for months on end in your 30s is very hard on your appearance. Also, sex gets moved way down the list of priorities. Again, YMMV but most early/mid 20s guys are going to be far less understanding of tha…
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/19 06:10 AM
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Really nicely explained!
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/19 06:00 AM
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I think both of you being young makes a huge difference. You're both going through things together, being young, dumb, and broke at the same time. If he had been still figuring out jobs while your clock was ticking for children, I think that would make a huge difference.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/19 11:13 AM
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Excellent points. I'd also like to add the harsh reality that he has not yet reached his RMV peak, but she is past her SMV peak. OP, you're going to need to be pretty amazing as a wife to compensate, unless he is substantially below you in SMV. I personally wouldn't want to risk it. Even a few years younger starts to unbalance the equation, but over a decade is far too big a gap for me to be comfortable with. I prefer slightly older men. It keeps things fairly well balanced in this regard. You'r…
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/19 03:35 AM
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Totally misread that! My MIL has a saying though, "When someone tells you who they are, believe them the first time."
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/19 11:05 AM
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I misread the sociopath comment. 100% disagree about this being a hamster situation though.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/19 04:01 PM
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Great answer and 100% agree. None of us can or should diagnose someone else, but her description definitely had me thinking along those lines as well. I think the real eye opening moment was when he said she might be a sociopath. Project much? It's not an "extreme" to point out that someone's behavior is a red flag. That's a big part of the job of this community is to point out the warning signs others are missing. Also, and again this is not a diagnosis, but abusers are successful because their…
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/19 09:41 AM
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Math is a cruel mistress! You still have plenty of time, honestly, but you don't have time to waste. Married with children is still totally doable by 30, but you're going to need a guy who is on that page too. I can't tell you what to do or if your BF will be the right one or not, but in my experience marriage and children only highlight any preexisting issues. Any boundary issues with the in-laws are almost certainly going to get worse. For me, it's just minor annoyances, but my husband had bee…
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/19 04:37 PM
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Okay, so 1 child by 30. That means pregnant by 29. For that to happen you'll need to be married and trying by 28.5. So engaged by 27.5 if you're planning a traditional wedding. That means you'll probably need to be dating him by 26. So you need to be seriously looking by 25.5. Obviously things may move faster or slower for you, but just based on a fairly average timeline, you're pretty much are out of "wait and see" time. I got serious about looking around 24, dating at 25.5, married and TTC by …
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/19 04:18 PM
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Yes yes yes! Assume the person you're with will stay the same or get slightly worse with age. Do you still want to stay with them? Absolutely a sunk cost, move on!
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/19 02:16 PM
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Break up, honestly. I spent 2 years with a guy like this in my early 20s. He's 34 now and guess where he still lives? I'm not saying this guy will never grow up, but he's over a decade behind the norm. Even if things started to get better tomorrow, he has several years ahead of him before he's even self sufficient, nevermind being ready to lead a family and have children depend on him. You've already given this 2 years, how much more time are you going to give him to grow up? I mean that genuine…
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/19 02:14 PM
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Agreed, this is way more than a cultural difference. He's acting like a 13 year old boy.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/19 02:05 PM
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We have Marshall's which is great too. None of the others. There's Ross stores in more urban areas that I used to go to when I lived in the city, but nothing close enough to be worth the trip. JC Penney is nice too if you have those. Also a huge fan of DSW for shoes and accessories. We have Kohls too, but I'm often a little disappointed at the quality. Good thrift stores can be amazing too, but it can be hard to find really good ones, most are just junk.
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/19 04:32 PM
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OMG yes to TJ MAXX!!!! I don't think we have that other store near me, but $$ at TJs can go a really long way.
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/19 03:53 PM
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I'm definitely interested in the answers too! My wardrobe is all pre-baby and is either too young, too professional for a SAHM, or just doesn't fit well anymore (I'm up a size and not really prioritizing weight loss yet.) For what it's worth, my general rule has always been to focus on high quality, classic, and neutral colored bottoms, dresses, shoes, and sweaters/shrugs. From there, you can go color and trend crazy on tops, accessories, costume jewelry, etc... I'm also a sucker for colorful su…
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/19 03:41 PM
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I try to remind myself that this is the internet. I don't know who I'm getting advice from. Here and on other forums it can be easy to start feeling badly about yourself because everyone else has it so together even though you're likely not speaking to a true peer. We don't have any way of knowing who is who and if what they're saying about their lives is true. We women tend to be higher in neuroticism, so we're more sensitive to perceived slights or lacks. This is part of why we need strong men…
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/19 09:53 AM
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Yes I agree. I kinda hate when people say "common sense." Common to whom? Most common sense is life experience and good intuition, and not everyone has those. I'd also like to point out that for women it is often extremely difficult to go against the grain. Sort of the same thing as not wanting to give each other honest advice because we don't want to be mean. Even if our bullshit alarms are going off, we don't want to be the one to stand out. I've long noted an irony that the women best suited …
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/19 09:43 AM
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Haha yes! I love this, too bad we're married now. I could have been freaking people out all the time!
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/19 01:48 PM
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Yes. Being the wife is a total game changer. Fiancee was also a notable step up. I've always felt like there should be a term between girlfriend and fiancee. I was always annoyed talking about "my boyfriend" like some 16 year old kid. We were living together, had joint bank accounts, had been monogamous for 2 years, and so on; I was mid twenties and he was early 30s, hardly kids, we just hadn't officially gotten engaged yet, but we knew we were going to get married. I'll never forget having to a…
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/19 08:43 AM
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Assuming there's no underlying medical issue, which is worth checking out, I'd follow advice for people trying to bulk or doing a re-feed after an eating disorder. The basic gist is to "hide" calories in everything. Some examples: butter your vegetables, add cheese on top of everything, use whole fat dairy instead of skim and use cream instead of whole milk. You can add straight oil to you food, (things like oatmeal) as you won't taste it but that can be almost 100 calories depending on the oil …
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/19 12:28 PM
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Long hot bath with masks/treatments. Lots of buffing and lotioning things after. Read something Fiction or light nonfiction. Meditate/contemplate in my deck garden (this will have to wait a few months.) Take a nice brisk and long walk ALONE! Sorry dogs. Fall asleep on the couch to bad reruns. There is something extra rejuvenating about a mid day couch nap.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/19 12:15 AM
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I would prioritize the hot bath over the hot bath, but otherwise, I 100% agree!
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/19 12:10 AM
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I don't know all the details of your relationship, but don't stay in it simply because you've already spent a lot of time in it. This reminds me of the phrase "don't chase bad money with good money." We tend to get stuck in bad situations because of all the sunk costs when really it's just wiser to cut bait and move on. What if you stay 7 more years but still never quite make it work?
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/19 07:53 AM
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This is such a good point! 10 years ago I could eat garbage, never sleep, drink, smoke, wear cheap makeup poorly, just do whatever with my hair, dress like a loon, etc and I would still get hit on constantly. I was mid to late twenties when I started realizing I couldn't count on being beautiful without any effort anymore. As I age, the effort increases. I'm just glad I did realize it before I was at the wall. I think most women won't until then (if ever.)
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/19 09:06 PM
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Well clearly I'm in the minority opinion here. I think there is something very strange looking about an "enhanced" brow. All the times I've had my makeup professionally done, this has never come up. This is makeup though, so I guess I don't know why green eyelids are okay but not extra eyebrow hair. Yes, some people don't really grow eyebrows, my husband's grandmother got hers tattooed on. I'm not talking about them.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/19 09:58 AM
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OMG yes! I've always looked a little bit older, even as a kid, but especially from some hard living in my early 20s. This is a particular thorn in my side as these women seem to find me on purpose or something. I'm early 30s and I very much look it. I've never understood people who fool themselves otherwise. You can be a good looking 30, but you're still every bit 30 and everyone knows that if they look for more than a minute. I met a woman who was 40. The second she said her age it was obvious …
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/19 05:20 AM
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In general BMI is a valid tool, albeit flawed. I will grant you, yes, for very muscular people it is typically quite wrong. I think it's important for most of us to realize we aren't the exception. I've personally always liked body fat percentage as an indicator, but that's a lot harder for most people to figure out. Edit: for clarity, I'm making no judgment at you. If you say it's a flawed metric for you I believe you, just pointing out most of us are not the exception.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/19 05:01 AM
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Can we all really pause a moment on the fake eyebrow thing? Ladies, what is up with this!? If you aren't undergoing chemo or otherwise can't grow them, STAHP. It's very noticeable when you use powder, or pencil fill them in "just a little." Every time I watch a makeup guru advocate this, I die a little more on the inside.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/19 04:56 AM
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I don't pay my cleaner minimum wage, I pay WELL above, but I believe in a free market and if someone is willing to work for $5/hour they have every right to negotiate that with an employer. Also, you're assuming this person is even in America where this would be below minimum wage.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 03:17 PM
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So true! I thought he'd be concerned about dishes in the sink (his pet peeve.) But he'd honestly rather have them there and us all ready to see him. Works for me!!!
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 03:14 PM
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$5/hour!?!? Send her to my house!!! A basic cleaning of the house for sure. Definitely a load of laundry or two, changing your sheets, vacuuming/mopping, emptying your garbages. Would she shop for you at all? Also, see about a quote for the job rather than hourly. There's no incentive for her to be fast or efficient at an hourly rate.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 09:54 AM
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Building a warm, safe, welcoming environment is a skill. Yes, OP does need to be the judge, however that doesn't mean she doesn't need advice on how to get her home how she likes it. Don't conflate educating oneself with approval seeking.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 06:17 AM
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How great are baskets when company is coming! Just hide all the baskets and my house looks pristine!
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 06:14 AM
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Yes! The 3 "R's" of homemaking: Routines routines, routines! Definitely get input from your husband. Mine wants us to all greet him happily whenever possible. Truly that's "it." He wants a big welcome home and a chance to lay on the couch while we all talk about our day and catch up. Done! I'd also prefer that to having a perfectly clean kitchen, so I try to focus on having done what I can by 5, and then just start playing until he gets home so I'm not all "go mode" cranky when he's home.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 06:13 AM
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Mostly reusing a post from a different sub, but these are my methods in a nutshell: To start, recognize that there will ALWAYS be something you could be doing when you're home all day. I make a fairly extensive to-do list every day, but when it's done, so am I! The eighth sink full of dishes can wait until tomorrow! I never liked anyone else's schedules. I'm a control freak, with a unique house. I have chores I need to do others don't and visversa. I wrote out a big list of everything that neede…
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 06:04 AM
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Just my $0.2, this is worth it even much less frequently. Ours comes every other week and does a deep clean of the whole house. All I have to do are the day to day chores and maintenance cleaning. It gives me soooooo much "free" time to work on the things only I can do for the family.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 05:46 AM
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I'm thankful for my Mom's group. I've always had trouble fitting in with groups of women and the whole "sisterhood" thing, but think I'm finally with some like minded women and it feels really wonderful.
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/19 08:57 PM
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I'm definitely thankful for JBP! Glad to hear things are going well 😊
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/19 08:52 PM
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100%. 2 of my very first relationships were disastrous because I didn't understand this. I'm not saying the first date he needs to propose, but if you're ready for the next level but he isn't, that's a wrap folks! Also, let's get it through our heads that it does not matter why. Now, yes, you should figure out "why" to make any changes to yourself or your vetting process, that's how we learn. What I'm saying is, so many of us get the loud and clear message that this guy is never going to commit …
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/19 10:39 AM
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I find a quick wipe down after every use pretty significantly eases the problem.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/19 02:26 AM
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I just learned a fun new chicken dish! Cut breasts into bite sized pieces and cook halfway in a pan with your favorite oil (I use coconut.) Add about half a container of your favorite hummus and finish cooking. Just a note in general, I find most people cook dry chicken because they're overcooking it out of fear of bacteria. Cook it just a hair less. Temp it if you're nervous. I'm obviously not advocating eating raw poultry, just cook it slightly less than you're comfortable with. That's probabl…
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/19 02:25 AM
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I'm curious why you're only giving this a month? A month is better than nothing, but I don't think it's nearly long enough, especially if you're an alpha widow. Also, be very careful with continued education. It's a dirty secret no one talks about, but not all advanced degrees are made equal or worth having. In my husband's field he works with a ton of guys with masters who are by and large making half my husband's salary. The degree just doesn't translate automatically like it does in some fiel…
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/19 09:01 AM
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I'd just add to put these on a physical to-do list and cross them off as they're done (dopamine hit.) I make one every day and I put EVERYTHING that I can't be certain I'll do on there. For example, I used to put "floss" on it every day for months until I absolutely never missed/forgot.
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/19 08:50 AM
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Yes! Sometimes we panic a little and try to fix everything; that usually just dilutes our efforts and makes us feel frustrated, then we start forgetting and quitting. I agree, pick something small, tangible, and easily accomplished and check it off your list. It's like the "debt snowball" but for personal development.
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/19 08:45 AM
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Ugh, been there. I'm a mom now, so I'm finally able to find clothes again, but the struggle is real once you're out of college but still under 30. I wish I had some great tips for you, but I struggled too. The best I ever figured out was to dress older for the office and younger for social life and hope it evened out.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/19 07:27 PM
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Haha! If you manage it, report back with detailed instructions!
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/19 07:03 PM
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Good for you!!! That's going to be the best tasting takeout ever!!!
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/19 06:45 PM
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Saggy pants are the best feeling in the world! Good for you!!!
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/19 06:43 PM
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I just jazzed up some vases I had lying around with ribbons and embellishments. The whole project took like 15 minutes with a hot glue gun but it was one of those things where I got the idea, bought the stuff, and then 3 months later it was just collecting dust in a spare room!
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/19 06:40 PM
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I've taken the week and cut down all my chores to the bare essentials to buy myself a little extra time. I've been using it to FINALLY get some of those things done that just seem to pile up but are never a priority. So far I've organized all the bathrooms, guest bedroom, and my laundry area, designated and sorted items into "keepsake" boxes, cleaned my vacuum and replaced the filter, got the dogs groomed, finished the details for 2 of the 3 birthday parties I'm responsible for, and finished a s…
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/19 04:49 PM
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Good tips! I like baths personally. Once she got too big for her bouncer I just started bringing her in with me. I have a really big tub, so she wears an "otteroo" and swims around while I do my thing. It works out decently, certainly better than not bathing for days!
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/19 06:27 PM
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Silly me, I started curly girl thinking it would make my routine easier 😂
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/19 02:03 PM
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I have a night each week, set in stone, where my husband comes home and I go take a bath. I facemask, bath bomb, do my feet etc... I take about an hour. Sometimes it's purely a mental break and I just soak, but it's great to have the time if I want it. For nails, I've never liked having manicures and I don't like the look of painted nails (I'm a weirdo, I know.) I have a little kit with my files, clippers, lotions, etc... Once a week I bring it to whatever room I'll be in and do my nails. I only…
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/19 10:27 AM
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I replied further up too, but seems relevant here. I'm CGM too. I do my washes in the kitchen sink. I can keep an eye on my daughter but still have 15-20 minutes to go through the whole routine. Just keep a few extra tee shirts handy in case you need to mid-wash plop to avert toddler destruction.
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/19 10:15 AM
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I wash my hair in the kitchen sink now for this reason. I can actually do a pretty involved routine this way. I'd never get it done properly if I waited for naps or evenings. Never thought to add a makeup routine, but that's a great idea.
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/19 10:11 AM
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Well, I'm a SAHM. I had a career and that wasn't fulfilling to me. I'm a lot more than young and pretty, and I'm hardly agreeable. 🤣 I find meaning in many ways. Do I miss being "important" with my meetings and subordinates? Sure, sometimes. If that's where you find your meaning, have at it, but let's not pretend like a career is the only way for a woman to be fulfilled. It's incredibly insulting to dismiss me as young and dumb for not having a job outside the home. Yes, we're incredibly fortuna…
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/19 06:11 AM
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That's not disagreeing with me though. You're just describing hypergamy. I'm not saying no man would want you because you're successful, I'm saying your success is not likely to be the primary draw for a man. Edit: re-reading my initial comment I see the confusion. I don't mean they don't look for it as in they don't want it, I mean it's not a "must have" top priority the way it is for women. Also, intellectual compatibility is usually desired by most men I know, but I don't class that under "su…
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/19 02:04 AM
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These are good points. I'd like to add 2 more. First, it's also possible she let herself go since their relationship. They could have both been a 7, and he improved to an 8 and she devalued to a 6. Secondly, it can not be overstated that women expect successful partners (in the traditional sense of degrees, titles, income, etc...) Men by and large don't look for these in a mate. I see a lot of women confusing what they want in a mate with what men want.
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/19 01:04 AM
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Excellent point!
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/19 05:27 PM
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Same thing everyone else is saying. Treat yourself like an addict, because you basically are. There's definitely emotional issues you've been using easy sex and attention to cover up. You'll need to start working through all that or else you'll just hop back on the CC next time life gets tough. Learn about, and implement self care in general. Here are some suggestions to get you started: Journaling, meditation, religious practice, exercise, stretching/yoga, therapy, volunteer work (one of the be…
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/19 10:08 AM
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This! I tell younger women all the time that date #1 you should let him know you want marriage and a family and any intentions you have with those things. It will scare him off? GOOD. I made no compunction about this and I'm now happily married, staying at home with my first, and an agreed to 3 child minimum. I'm not a terribly assertive person, but some things are too important. Congratulations on your engagement!
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/19 09:27 PM
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No, but you raise a valid point. Each generation tends to rebel against the previous generational norms. I'm hoping to at least have my daughter understand the choice she truly faces, even if she makes different choices. Fingers crossed!
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/19 07:34 PM
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No, kinda the opposite. My grandmother truly had to work as they were poor. My mother was NEVER going to be poor again. To be fair, she never was.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/19 07:22 PM
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My husband and I always say things should be split fairly, but fairly does not usually mean equally.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/19 06:15 PM
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I'm a SAHM and my husband freely admits he could never do what I do and that my job is WAY harder (and he has a pretty demanding career.) I watched my mother "have it all" and noped right the fuck out of that. Most women would be perfectly content to stay home. We've been lied to and sold a false bag of goods for decades. The best thing we can do is be honest with our children moving forward. Some families will always need (or want) the second income, but so few women are told the harsh truths o…
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/19 06:14 PM
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That's so good to hear! Thanks for the update. I think I might steal the sabbath idea!
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/19 09:49 PM
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And even once he does start buying things, this is still a very feminine form of gifting. Most men appreciate it at least occasionally instead of buying more junk.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/19 07:53 AM
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I don't have any fun formula, but my gut says about 10 years assuming everyone is over 25-ish to start.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/19 04:09 PM
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Yes, quite a bit! Not to scare you, but I was super bloated the whole time. They kept checking me for issues but I was very healthy otherwise. I tried everything to stop it, but the only thing that worked was giving birth 🤣. I actually weighed more when I got home from retaining all the IV fluids too. Don't worry, I lost like 20 pounds in a week! It was crazy!!!
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/19 10:11 PM
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This is an excellent point in general. Don't let your SMV/RMV drop too far below your spouse's or they won't be your spouse for long. What that means is going to be different for everyone. My husband's friend is decently high value and happily married to a pretty overweight woman, the thing is, he's REALLY into it, so hey, it works.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/19 09:35 PM
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No, I think there are valid reasons in life to cut back on the time we devote to certain things. Exercise is always important for health, and staying relatively thin is important to maintain my marriage, but being a perfect size 4 and bikini ready year round just isn't my priority anymore. For some women it is, and that's great! Right now it's more important to me to get the extra sleep or to have a date night. If we're honest with ourselves, we know when we're just full of shit and lazy versus …
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/19 09:23 PM
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You sound like me! I basically ate buttered English muffins ( which I never eat in "real" life) and cut up vegetables. The thought of a salad was disgusting to me but putting the same things separately on a plate was fine for some reason. 🤷‍♀️ My workouts were pretty damn lame some days. I would literally nap on my office floor with all my computer sounds turned up so I could hear anything urgent coming in. I used to judge women who let themselves go so hard before pregnancy and children. I'm no…
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/19 06:03 PM
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Good to know this might not always be an issue! I'm a year into breastfeeding and my nipples are still extremely sensitive. Everyone keeps telling me theirs got less sensitive but I'm not experiencing that. I got plenty of attention once I was given the all clear. I truly had little to no desire for any form of sex even after my 6 week all clear but I know it's vital for a marriage so we made it happen. I also took care of myself plenty, and still do. Orgasm is an underated tool for health in ge…
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/19 05:45 PM
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I didn't have much nausea thankfully, but the exhaustion was brutal. I did have a very high sex drive when I had the energy though. We had a lot of weekend morning sex or right after work if we could. Don't worry, the 2nd trimester really does get better for almost everyone I know.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/19 05:38 PM
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I would discuss this with your husband and stay open minded until you're actually postpartum. Here is how it worked for us, but the key is that we were both on board and adapted to our real situation, not plans we made ahead of time. While I was pregnant I was willing and able, but by the 3rd trimester he was too freaked out and wanted us to just take care of ourselves. This was fine by me since I was pretty exhausted anyways. For the 6 week recovery neither of us had much desire. We're first ti…
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/19 04:38 PM
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Not RP specific but I like it: let your commitment get you through the times your love is waning, let your love get you through the times your commitment is waning.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/19 07:38 AM
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80 pounds of fat is inexcusable, but be aware the actual number on the scale is largely out of your control. I gained 44 pounds, and had lost all but 10 by 1 month postpartum. I worked out my whole pregnancy and ate mostly well but I could NOT get my swelling/water retention under control. It sort of ruined the experience because I was so focused on how "fat" I was getting. Eat right and exercise as best as you can and you'll only gain the fat you need. Don't worry about the actual number on the…
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/19 07:36 AM
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Yes, I'm way screwed. Most companies don't even carry foundation and highlighter light enough for me. I basically need white-out 😂
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/19 07:49 PM
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And to flip the point a little, if you still like having orbiters, you may not have found your captain. In fact, I'd say you're not ready for him as you're still too insecure.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/19 01:23 PM
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Yup! This stopped being an issue once I let it stop being an issue. Don't seek validation outside your relationship and they'll go away on their own.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/19 10:06 AM
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One thing that helps me a lot when I'm getting this way is to check my thoughts. I find I get snippy not so much due to anything in the present so much as a lot of negative thinking about my husband in general. A few things that have really helped. 1) bring up problems when everyone is calm. I tend to avoid conflict, but a little goes a long way when it's done calmly and respectfully. 2) when I catch the negative thoughts I first take 10 deep calming breaths while I completely clear my mind. The…
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/19 06:14 PM
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I don't have any problem with a commercialized holiday. While it is vital to maintain your relationship daily, having a day set aside to really do an extra special gesture is wonderful. It can also be a great kickstart to a relationship that may be starting to falter. It's also nice to have the societal expectation so that bosses don't expect overtime and no one plans other events. It's officially date night across the country and I think that's wonderful! That said, we don't go crazy. We write …
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/19 12:37 PM
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I just started about a month ago, so I'm still figuring it out but it's been such a game changer already. So glad I discovered it!
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/19 01:22 AM
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Great tips, thanks! Are you are a curly girl too??
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/19 01:07 AM
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I never tried actually shaving with it, definitely on my to do list now! I use it after I bathe but before I get out as a moisturizer. Put it everywhere, quick rinse, AMAZING!
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/19 04:31 PM
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I'll check it out, thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/19 03:41 PM
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Yeah, I tend to be a little sensitive too. I can't really use neutrogena products at all or I become an oily pimpled mess! I've found Almay to be one of the few "regular" products my skin will tolerate well.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/19 03:41 PM
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This is excellent advice, thank you! I used to use BareMinerals too and I loved it. I don't remember why I stopped, thanks for the reminder!
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/19 02:42 PM
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Thanks! I'll check those out.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/19 02:14 PM
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I'll definitely try it! I love their eyeshadow! I got a huge palette for under $10, and it's quality!
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/19 01:57 PM
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This whole story raises red flags for me. He's following chicks on IG who he thinks are hot? You're not "allowed" to wear makeup because you're trolling for a new man? He's not being a strong, assertive leader of you're relationship; he sounds insecure and like he's projecting his own wandering eye onto you. I dated 2 men like that before my husband. The first always insisted I would leave him for someone else, cheated on me multiple times. The second insisted I change the way I dress as I was c…
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/19 07:43 AM
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I laugh/cry every time one of these convos starts stressing the importance of sleep as I read this in a rocking chair at dawn with the baby. I've noticeably aged this year (worth it) but I'm definitely not going to be mistaken for a teenager either!
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/19 10:28 AM
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These are all great! Just a note about the shampoo and conditioner. These do not have to be expensive! I do what's called the curly girl method (there's a sub for it.) I use VO5 and tresemme cheapo products (there are several sulfate and silicone free drugstore products.) The shampoo I use once a month to clarify. I wash my hair twice a week with conditioner. Even for straight hair I'm pretty sure this works. My hair is way better than when I used expensive products.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/19 10:22 AM
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This is fantastic advice!
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/19 08:39 PM
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The only thing I'll add is meditation. Inner peace brings an outter glow. No matter what our outter beauty is slowly fading, but a beautiful mind will always show.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/19 02:17 AM
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I'd say a good rule of thumb is if you're wishing bodily harm on them or someone close to them. There's no place for that in civil discourse and you've automatically lost the moral high ground when you do it. That's a tactic these women employ is getting you so riled you lash out inappropriately. Then they don't have to contend with your argument, they can just show how deplorable your behavior is. Don't let them win by default!!!
/r/AntiFeminists17/01/19 09:02 PM
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Yes, too far. Please don't wish that on anyone. Male or female, feminist or not.
/r/AntiFeminists17/01/19 08:17 AM
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How are you able to straighten it so quickly!?!
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/19 01:50 AM
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My daughter is 9 months too! I'm also careful to dress her like a girl. Not to say it's all pink and dresses, but there is always a feminine touch. We both always where dresses for special occasions like Christmas.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/18 04:34 PM
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