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I'm confused.
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/14 04:23 PM
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By contrast, if my client is married to a man who is physically abusive, chronically unfaithful, or actively addicted to drugs, alcohol, or gambling she simply isn’t safe, and safety always comes first. That’s a divorce I endorse. FTFY. I firmly believe in the Oxford comma. If that's the only flaw I find, let it be said that this was a great dose of advice. Don't stay in an unsafe relationship. Thats not RP. RP is taking a look at how you can contribute to a healthy, happy culture in your home, …
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/14 04:03 PM
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Too many negatives. Rephrase?
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/14 03:50 PM
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Your mention of "master's in women's studies" reminds me of one of my college professor's. She is a heavyset, late-30s woman from India. She taught English at my University, and her focuses were international literature, identity, and women. She was calm on the feminism, but it was clearly there. During my University years she would giggle about her boyfriend in India, but during the last year of school, she started dieting, wearing nicer clothes, acting more positive... turns out she was gettin…
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/14 03:15 AM
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“Because really, when you get down to it, there are only two things that are important: that a guy is attracted to me and that he isn’t currently dating someone else,” Palermo continued. “I haven’t had to cross those off. Yet.” This pairs nicely with the post about Why Feminists Won't Surrender The War On Marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/14 03:44 AM
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Brilliant link. Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/14 10:13 PM
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Try to copy- paste from the article. See what happens.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/14 05:55 PM
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This is all tongue-in-cheek. I started cringing about halfway through. When the writer mentioned sex rules in absolutes, I wanted to stop reading. When a man comes home from work he has to be “on” for the kids. He does not get a moment to relax and read the paper. The second he walks through the door, a woman is relieved of her duties and can go lock herself in her bedroom. She can zone out until dinner. This got me. Is this a serious criticism, or is it projection? Edit: wrong word (FYI, this s…
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/14 02:17 PM
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facepalm
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/14 01:55 AM
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So, prioritizing Wife before Mother is a good tell for men at the beginning of a relationship. Would the opposite be true? Should a RP man prioritize Father over Husband?
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/14 12:55 AM
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I meant blatantly "infected." I was going to call them trolls, but they are all serious people. I don't even understand why that is a question on AskWomen.
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/14 09:45 PM
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Best of luck! I do hope you keep us updated. I would love to hear your thoughts since you seem to be as self-analytical as I.
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/14 01:30 AM
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If that were true, could I sue my mother for emotional damage? Pretty sure forcing me to wash dishes every night since I was 12 would be considered abuse then....
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/14 06:53 PM
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That's cute. I like the simplicity.
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/14 11:05 PM
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Off topic: Chapati are delicious.
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/14 10:38 PM
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Pedestals give me anxiety. I had a blind date one where a guy made no decision without asking me first. shudder That one did not get a 2nd date.
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/14 10:33 PM
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You are my hero. I cant even talk to my friends who don't know they are feminists. I get a lit of flack for how much control I'm willing to (but haven't, yet) give to my boyfriend. Thank you for reassuring me that I'm not entirely crazy.
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/14 05:44 AM
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Thank you for that brilliant idiom. I love how it applies in this case.
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/14 05:36 AM
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Rain has been soaking us here for weeks. Here's to hoping we both have nice weather for next weekend. :)
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/14 10:35 PM
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Payless Shoesource has BOGO going on until Monday. Plus every sandal is on sale. If you like to shop online, they have all the same deals, plus free ship to store. (Shameless plug for my employer.) Tuesday starts a Five-Day Sale through the 4th. :)
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/14 06:07 PM
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What do I even put in one? I almost snorted in my coffee... Listen to /u/Agent_Elle Oh! And Payless Shoesource is doing BOGO through Monday, then a 5-Day sale. They have lots of purses in various sizes. I have a small one right now for my wallet, phone, and sunglasses.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/14 05:31 PM
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I love this book! It taught me how to put my hair up using a pencil/pen/chopstick. I use this skill all the time!
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/14 05:01 PM
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Crocheting blankets is something I learned from my grandmother when I was little. It can monotonous, but I like the constancy of using my fine motor skills. I picked up some cheap yarn at Goodwill to make my sister a hanging container for her plastic bags accumulating in her kitchen.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/14 04:51 PM
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Thank you for sharing this. It's so brilliant and lengthy!
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/14 01:59 AM
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I got magicked with some flair a while back. I like the one I have, and if my relationship keeps going well maybe I'll request an upgrade in a few months. :) (I actually counted it an achievement that two of my recent posts were ripped on by /r/thebluepill )
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/14 02:31 PM
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"Dress for the man you want" by /u/wearing_yoga_pants. Ironic.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/14 11:11 PM
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Well, like picking the restaurant. Neither of us was sure what to pick, but he finally offered two choices (as opposed to leaving the decision totally up to me which gives me some minor anxiety.)
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/14 04:46 AM
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He has asked me to travel with him on my days off and wants to spend all the time he can with me. It's a little off-putting, this speed, but I'm certain hee is just a man who knows what he wants. The mutual exclusivity was implied. He told me he's an all or nothing guy and seemed more genuinely concerned that it was too soon for me to commit, not vice versa.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/14 04:02 AM
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He knows exactly what he wants. I'm comfortable with him taking the lead but offering options if he is unsure.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/14 03:58 AM
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Saving this. :D
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/14 02:54 AM
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Men are strange. I just recently learned that my father was hurt that I didn't enjoy his kitchen remodel more. From the paint on the walls to the color of the flooring, I should really be more receptive to the needs of the men in my life. Whether they want glowing admiration of their work or a laugh at their joke that was funny to them, we can't forget that they are human too.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/14 02:47 AM
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Thank you. This such a wonderful, down to earth response of good advice.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/14 02:35 AM
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Welcome. Good people need a shout out more often. :)
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/14 03:05 PM
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Asking them over is the perfect solution. No anxiety over the food; ask them to bring a beverage instead, like wine. You can offer healthier options to them. It's a case of show-don't-tell. The more you show them how it could be, the more likely the are to rise to higher standards. Often works in place of "the talk."
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/14 02:55 PM
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/u/danabanana9 is the perfect example of tough love. We may not say the prettiest things to each other as women sometimes, but sometimes it's what has to be heard.
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/14 06:50 PM
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It's not nice to mock betas. I think it's safest to feel sorry for him in this case because he obviously understand that something is wrong.
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/14 05:53 PM
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/mentally adds that to the list of things to do/ /snark :)
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/14 05:26 PM
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I'll be damned if I didn't lay down the law a few times with my friends who needed to hear the truth. Your passive responses to her antics are only seen as encouraging. You're playing up to her emotions, encouraging her to talk about it. My friends know when they talk to me that I'm going to be honest and completely judgemental if it's about something like this. And I expect the same from my friends. Who else is going to give you the harsh truths if not your friends? Just looking at that one scr…
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/14 05:24 PM
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I'm with you there. I wouldn't join the throng on Facebook, but I'm not going to scroll past his picture saying, "Next!"
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/14 05:10 PM
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Okay this explains something I ran into recently. Trying online dating there is the inevitable exchange of pictures. I wouldn't dream of sending a picture where I wasn't smiling. Most pictures I get in return are serious faced. Which is okay. Just okay. I love the ones where they give a smirk or a shot with someone else and they're smiling like it's a good time. (Note to self: Just don't ask him to smile?)
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/14 05:04 PM
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Lists or anecdotes... Either way, I love what I'm seeing here and I'm realising that I am a bit hung up on this and that. Looking for perfection is going to get me nowhere. It's amazing how much a single girl can get caught up in her "criteria" and forget what really matters.
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/14 04:47 PM
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If I was having an awful week, I would do my best to explain it before he sees it. Dont want to give him too much of a surprise. If it makes you feel any better, my sister had to go to the hospital the other day for a shot because she had a reaction to poison ivy while pulling weeds before her husband got home. She's swollen from ankles to knees and from wrist to elbows.
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/14 04:56 AM
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It's not about WHAT advice is given, it's about WHO is giving the advice. RPW are no more mollycoddling than TRP. Men will hear hard truths on TRP, just as women hear hard truths in RPW. No matter the subject, men will hear the most honest RP advice from other men, and women will hear the most honest RP advice from other women. The problem being addressed by this announcement is that men coming to women for advice is practically BP. This can be addressed on a case by case basis, but in general, …
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/14 04:50 AM
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Some day I want to be reddit famous like Dana and have a whole copy-paste thread dedicated to reading me apart. While they are certainly selective listeners, I hope Dana takes heart that she's important enough to tear apart. I like to think of her as our devil's advocate, keeping us from being too nice to the betas.
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/14 04:42 AM
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This was my favorite part. Thanks for the post about the article!
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/14 03:59 AM
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The issue is not the OP, it's the context of the answers which would attract trolls.
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/14 05:04 AM
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Adding that to my "snarky reply" repertoire.
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/14 05:03 AM
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I liked this on TRP. Occasionally, men do come up with brilliant lists. Who doesn't like lists? :D
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/14 05:00 AM
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It's a frequent question. I don't feel like it's relevant and could come off as trollbait.
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/14 02:38 AM
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Well said. To clarify my original "like this", I'm not a slave to my own insecurities. I'm sure I was several years ago, through high school and my early 20s. It's probably why her blog post makes me cringe the most. I'm sure at one point in life I had a similar rant going on in my brain. What we dislike in others is merely a reflection of what we dislike about ourselves.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/14 02:29 PM
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I say "what the fish" and "fishsticks." Something about the word "fish" is just fun to say.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/14 05:31 AM
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Submissive women are taking a backseat to strong female leads. Unfortunately "strong" comes in the form of Woman Scorned. Can anyone share a list of movies in the last decade where the guy isn't a bumbling idiot? (I know a lot of older movies, like black and white films, that have strong male characters, but I can only take so many of those, you know?)
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/14 05:28 AM
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And then the insecurity monster comes back to bite at our relationship again…me, begging for affirmation, and him tiring from saying the same thing over and over. Criminy. Her post is dripping with insecurity. I cringed after each paragraph. Maybe it's because I'm single, but I am so glad I'm not a slave to my emotions like this.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/14 04:46 AM
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TIL... eye contact. I cant even. I feel like I was just given sacred advice.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/14 02:54 AM
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I'm always into self improvement. I have a long enough "track record" now that I've started analyzing my relationship expectations and outcomes. Not good. I took to much after my mother. My first realization I was doing something wrong? I sounded like "his" mother. In several relationships. /shudder/ After a recent LTR implosion, I picked up the pieces, moved back home, and started working on me again. Getting lonely, I decided to try a dating app. Met a really smart, self-proclaimed beta who in…
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/14 08:09 AM
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You know, I think I want to entertain this for a minute... This is what I just read: 1. I think I am unattractive. 2. I have given up. 3. I am working on it. 4. I will look for a man again some day. Half (arguably 3/4) of those are negative. I can see why someone would be frustrated at your constant negativity towards yourself. And if that's all we see here in RPW, where looks dont matter since we can't see you, maybe your number one concern shouldn't be your looks? 95% of a person's perception …
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/14 07:54 AM
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Pretty. Reminds me I have a bin of hair accessories to repurpose.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/14 10:52 PM
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I never thought of it like that. Huh. I don't know her, but I know the guy who reposted it.
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/14 08:46 AM
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Oh, and one sorority was specifically geared towards "academic" girls. Their house had the basement set up as a study area with desks for each girl.
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/14 05:12 AM
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Sororities are given a bad rep by Hollywood, but the ones on my campus were great places to find feminine girls who loved to volunteer, hangout, throw fundraisers, etc. Of course you still have to be careful who you specifically hang out with, but I regret not joining one at my college. The girls are great and the sisterhood would be nice to have after school. Sorority Benefits: Philanthropy Sisterhood/support Traditional Interaction with Fraternities (I remember being jealous of the time spent …
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/14 05:02 AM
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Reading all the comments... Reactionary and equally bitchy responses aside, what I'm seeing is that she needs to be confronted and given a chance to explain herself. A simple, What do you mean? will frame the conversation in your favor and give her a chance to explain her tone or word choice. My stepmother used to do this to me a LOT. Being the younger, less mature one, I would fume. I hated and resented her (and still do, but I have a mindset now that my father knows what he's doing and it's no…
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/14 07:57 PM
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ROFL I love your reactions, Dana.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/14 05:40 AM
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Tempest is giving the best advice here. From my experience with an off-and-on, LTR, through most of my 20s that eventually failed.... issue the ultimatum if it's important to you. If its important to you, you have to express it. If he ignores you or doesn't make adequate accommodations, get out. You won't be a lonely cat lady, you haven't wasted time, and having your heart broken is easier than compromising your personal comfort. You are beautiful, and if he thinks you're worthy then someone els…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/14 05:27 AM
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I agree 500% with your analysis. Could not have written a better explanation. Thank you for writing this.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/14 03:42 AM
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This leans a little towards "conspiracy theory" for me, but it makes sense. Bringing up economics then, feminism is rooted in the growing lower class? Without a healthy middle class, the US is failing. Could that in part be because of feminism? Perhaps I'm taking the conjecture too far. I'm sure plenty of middle-class adults are feminists, but is that solving, creating, or ignoring another issue of equality? (These are rhetorical questions; thanks for letting me vent my thoughts.)
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/14 03:42 AM
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I'm saving that image. Thanks.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/14 09:03 PM
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Stop that. This is good advice. I admire your effective use of a short sentence to display emphasis. As an English teacher, you make me happy.
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/14 04:27 AM
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Lol. All the lol.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/14 11:38 PM
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This is inquired a lot on here, so it had me thinking. Men who are "ready" for a LTR, should they really feel the need to seek out a RPW? We don't grow on trees, we don't do weekly meetings, or even enjoy the same leisure activities. Finding one in the wild, so to speak, would be rare. To me this begs the question, why are you looking for a RPW? We really aren't a found sort of people. (Please correct me if I'm wrong ladies.) I'm beginning to believe that the most succinct answer to this questio…
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/14 11:16 PM
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TRP, to me, is a support group. We women have our own support group, RPW. It's not a program or a set of steps. It's not rules, a code of ethics, or a new morality. Red Pill, in my opinion, is about finding happiness with what we have. It's not a prescription to cure feminism or a criticism of personal choice. Red Pill is choice. It's support for men and women, in their respective subs, to identify and communicate the ideals they are looking for in life. Would you ask a Christian what Christiani…
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/14 08:31 AM
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Well said. I cant thank you enough for this outlook and advice. I think I've run into too many drinkers to have a positive outlook right now. I'll research this in my area tonight.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/14 06:51 PM
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The most important thing you can focus on is your grief. Grieving is important because there is nothing else in this world that will measure up to how much you lost. You take your time. You can only do what you CAN do; the rest will only wait. I'm truly sorry. This is an awful event for anyone to work through. You're in my thoughts.
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/14 02:52 AM
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I've just viewed Red Pill in separate male and female terms the same way men and women have different goals, needs, expectations, etc. Of course TRP is different. I cant imagine approaching the opposite gender from their point of view. I'm going to be honest, women are scary. I scare myself. I like RPW more because it suits my needs as a woman: to understand my role, how to improve myself for my future SO, and how to be a good role model to others.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/14 06:24 AM
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The muffin shop immediately closed its doors until further notice over that little chestnut. I’m wasn’t fucking creepy uncle that night. Whoever this woman is, she deserves a literary gold medal for this description.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/14 03:20 AM
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It does sound a bit campy. The tone is unnatural sounding to me. Good advice, off-putting tone.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/14 06:26 AM
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I wouldn't say this out loud, but she gave me the idea that hipsters and feminists belong in the same camp. Let that thought follow through to more lines of thinking...
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/14 06:14 AM
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You probably shouldn't sound like your condoning "consequences" for free speech. Unless you condone hate mail? One could argue that chastising trolls is the Internet equivalent of wasted breath, but I wouldn't go so far as to give them any justification for using the same freedom of speech to put someone down for their opinion.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/14 06:12 AM
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Introverts hate the bar scene. Its noisy and attracting drunk guys is a given. (I avoid them.) Try a park or a bookstore. Coffee shops are also an option. I've been struggling with a similar conundrum. My area is littered with plate spinners and it seems like 90% are either paying child support or too broke to pay for child support. This is probably a pretty cold description, but the economy here is one of the worst in the state. Point being, I have started looking for new friends. People who ca…
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/14 05:53 AM
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My off the wall advice? Figure out why this comment bothers YOU more than it seems to bother him? A lot of my own panics over "Whats that supposed to mean?!?!" come from my own insecurities.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/14 04:50 AM
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Start slow. You'll find a lot of good advice here, but I highly recommend http://www.therulesrevisited.com/ for some reading. You have time and you're young. Dont try to do an about face. People can tell when you're being genuine, so start now with little things that help you become who you want to be. By the time you're back in the States, you'll be in a much better mindset to start the life you want.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/14 08:17 PM
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Eye contact is my number one way to show interest. Lack of eye contact from a distance means stay away. Lack of eye contact during a conversation means disinterested. I can be pollute and carry a conversation, but you can tell if I'm genuinely interested in you by how much eye contact I make. Eye contact is a form of social approval. Other ways to know she's interested? She may ask questions to keep the conversation going. Move closer to hear what you're saying. Follow you as you walk. Even afte…
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/14 08:12 PM
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