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Dapper_Employer5787/r/Divorce_Men28/12/23 09:03 PM
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Sounds familiar. I was chastised because I wasn't "spending time with her and the kids" this was after I started scheduling tee times at 7am. I would get home by 11 or 12 and a lot of times they had only been awake for a couple hours by then.
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/24 08:34 PM
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I used to love playing golf, at first she went along with it, but eventually she began trying to prevent me from going. It took her about 18 months, but she ultimately made it so unpleasant for me every time I played that I just stopped going.
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/24 08:27 PM
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This has been a known stat for years. After divorce men's quality of life increases and the woman's decreases (in most cases, obviously there are exceptions). Even with my own parents who are divorced, my dad is fairly well off and my mom isn't sure how she'll make it once she's too old to work. The thing is that this fact isn't apparent in the early years following a divorce, for a while it can seem like the woman is "winning", but eventually the child support runs out and they are completely f…
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/24 07:25 AM
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I'm not divorced but I'm on this sub because I feel like it could eventually happen. My 2 cents? My wife has said "I want a divorce" many times, as have I. We're still together. She may not actually pursue this whatsoever
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/24 04:33 AM
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Look how much money I saved. I was gonna order this $20 thing online, but it said if I spent $100 I could get free shipping! I just saved $9 by spending $75 on stuff we don't even need or want!
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/24 03:26 PM
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It wasn't about the guitar or your music. She would have treated any hobby you had the same way
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/24 03:24 PM
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And when he was done with the lawn, he wanted to take a break. A break!!
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/24 03:21 PM
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They don't want to see a smile on your face unless they put it there
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/24 02:46 PM
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He didn't mow it fast enough because he had to pick up the nuts first. This took time away from other chores he could be doing!
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/24 02:42 PM
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Never get married again
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/24 06:02 AM
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She knows what she did is wrong, deep down she knows. Problem is that everyone around is probably telling her the opposite, propping her up
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/24 04:00 PM
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Yes, very similar to yours. Bio dad never in the picture, weak willed step father that her mom essentially bullied for 20 years until he had enough and left, now MIL is a bitter old woman. The main problem I think is that when they were kids the stepfather would try to discipline them, but MIL would tell them things like, "you don't have to listen to him, he's not your dad". This explains the shit attitude and lack of respect, constant undermining, etc that caused so many problems in our marriag…
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/24 02:28 PM
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There's no "right" move
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/24 02:29 AM
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My only advice, don't start drinking. It will only make things worse and you'll be more likely to act on your violent ideations
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/24 09:22 PM
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Damn, this sounds exactly like my wife and MIL. MIL is twice divorced because of the same behavior and the more time that goes by the more I feel like one of these beaten dogs that eventually had enough and left, like you said the older she gets the more she becomes like her mom. Good for you having the balls to move forward. I don't know how much more disrespect I can take, but I'm sure I'll get there soon enough
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/24 05:53 PM
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Just be glad this isn't happening when you're 35 or 45
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/24 01:14 AM
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If you really want to fuck with her start doing some crazy shit. Like go on a drinking bender for several days without calling, don't pay bills so the cable or electricity gets shut off, start smoking meth. She'll definitely pay attention to you then and also will start trying to get you back on track to continue her lifestyle. It sounds crazy but it will work. You gotta shock the system
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/24 04:49 AM
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This is pretty much what I was thinking too. I know a guy who at one time was banging a couple different chicks every week. He's not particularly good looking, no money, still lives with his mother, etc. The women he hooks up with are all fat slobs, with poor hygiene and other issues. It's like George Carlin said, "I never fucked a 10, but this one night I fucked five 2s!"
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/24 06:48 PM
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I always think to myself, "nobody else in my life has ever been this awful to me, treated me so horribly"
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/24 10:27 PM
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Amphetamines remove empathy and a few other human qualities. IME it turns people into completely selfish assholes who can't even consider how their actions impact another person
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/24 11:11 PM
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I have the Rosie Palm 3000, I got a lefty and a righty version
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/24 05:22 PM
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I'm still married, I come on this sub because I feel like divorce is a big possibility for me. What I will say is that if I do end up divorcing I can't imagine myself ever putting any effort into chasing another woman or maintaining a relationship with one. I'm completely and utterly exhausted in that regard.
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/24 05:52 PM
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Yeah, I see what you mean, none of that sounds attractive in the slightest. I guess I've been going through life with blinders on
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/24 08:25 PM
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What do you mean when you say they have masculine traits and behaviors? I have been married for 20 years so I have no idea what the dating scene is like these days
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/24 05:04 PM
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Enjoy it while it lasts
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/24 02:48 AM
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Women expect to be happy/entertained 100% of the time which is very unrealistic
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 05:28 PM
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The crazy part is that if you had been a reckless asshole with legal, financial or substance issues creating lots of drama she might not have gotten "bored"
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 05:26 PM
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A lot of women seem to have a perpetual teenager mentality
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 05:24 PM
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Its crazy how a stable husband and father who is responsible and provides winds up being thought of as boring. Yeah, it might be boring sometimes because the guy is doing everything by the book to ensure there is a consistent and safe home environment
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 05:23 PM
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I have gotten random DMs like that a couple times after posting or commenting here. I always ignored them cuz I thought it was going to be some feminist defending women or something
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/24 06:25 PM
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Get a NetSpend card, it's a prepaid account, but still has a routing and account number
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/24 03:19 PM
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I can't see this working out in your favor, if anything it will just infuriate her and she will amplify her vindictive behavior
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/24 02:17 PM
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Misery loves company
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/24 08:26 PM
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Fuckin A
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/24 09:08 PM
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Right? Even as children it's always the boys who are being disciplined and punished, we learn early to keep those urges contained
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/24 09:01 PM
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"Because I don't feel close to you after being berated for 45 minutes this morning because you think I should be making $50k more per year."
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/24 08:30 PM
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Yes. The thing I'm coming to understand and attempting to come to terms with is that this isn't necessarily women's fault, it's programmed into their DNA. I watch a lot of nature programs about primates and females exhibit this exact behavior. The "alpha" male is only as good what he is currently providing and any indication of weakness or anything is met with him being exiled from the pack and another male replacing him.You would think that as humans capable of rational thought and reasoning th…
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/24 08:28 PM
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I'm in the same boat, I'm still married and that's how I feel a lot of the time. It's kind of like they see us as a sort of utilitarian entity, our only purpose being to provide things they need or carry out tasks they need done. Can't have your pesky "long term wants/needs" interfering with that
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/24 08:21 PM
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They just don't "love" in the same way we do in most cases. They love that you have a good job and money to support them They love that you have a job title that sounds impressive when they brag to their friends They love a new, leased Lexus every 3 years They love the big house So they don't really love "you", they love what they get by being with you. A man in our society is judged not by his character or personality, being a good person, etc. it's all about what type of tangible assets you ca…
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/24 04:51 PM
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Yup, the time thing is what gets me. I've seen it explained on this subreddit and it comes down to us being viewed as a utility by women. Basically the way you think of your car or a microwave or something. Imagine you go to warm up some leftover pizza but you can't cuz your microwave is out golfing with its buddy the toaster. That's how women feel about us having our own time or not taking part in their activities
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/24 11:23 PM
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This reminds me of our "vacations" where she would sleep in until noon and then want to just lay around the hotel on her phone, we couldn't go out and do anything until like 3pm. Then we go out for a few hours, eat dinner, now she's tired and wants to go back to the room. Of course we would always end up in an argument because I'm not happy paying money to be on vacation just to sit in a room half the time, we can do that at home for free! If I ever get into a serious relationship again it won't…
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/24 01:58 PM
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But, I didn't even say what day....
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/24 04:09 AM
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Reminds me of this: https://youtu.be/qi_cUdf1zr8?si=NzFV6J9rcBPUoRvj
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/24 08:23 PM
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Nice
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/24 08:22 PM
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I feel you man, I often fantasize about the same shit. There's a part of me that just wants to walk away from it all, wife, kids, family, just move like 1000 miles away and never look back. It feels selfish, but at the same time why should I be selfless? I've been playing the family man role for almost 20 years and I'm just bored to death and feel like there is very little to look forward to. I think a lot about my dad, he did the same things I'm doing for most of his life and then ended up alon…
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/24 10:13 PM
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Free frogs
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/24 03:13 AM
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How many terms did you serve before failing to be reelected?
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/24 06:58 PM
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Never thought of this, someone normal would seem super amazing even though they might be average at best, interesting
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/24 10:03 PM
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You made the right choice. I opted to stay in my marriage until the kids are in college, this was absolutely devastating to my relationship with my kids. Because our marriage is so volatile and my wife is constantly playing the victim, my kids now see me as an ogre. Ending it now is giving your kids the chance to see you be happy and will only strengthen your relationship with them
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/24 09:50 PM
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Based on his response to this comment I'm thinking he's just trolling now
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/24 04:59 PM
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I'm having trouble figuring out what you said that triggered so many commenters here. This post isn't that far off from average for this sub
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/24 03:04 PM
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Damn, that sounds familiar. My wife's dad and stepfather were the same way, her mom ran all over both of them with verbal and mental abuse. Both marriages failed. The problem we've had is that my wife grew up in this environment and expects to essentially rule over me and dictate everything I do. I have refused to live this way which will inevitably lead our marriage to fail as there is a constant battle of wills.
/r/Divorce_Men29/02/24 04:10 PM
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A moment of realization is worth a thousand prayers
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/24 07:00 PM
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If you're in Vegas like me you've probably noticed how many of these idiots drive around in Jeeps that will never touch dirt, rocks or snow, certainly not flood waters lol. It's just a trendy vehicle. I like calling them MTVs, Mall Terrain Vehicles
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/24 06:12 PM
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Sounds like she's just making excuses so she won't feel as bad about cheating
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/24 10:11 PM
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So she basically said that she cheated because the "wounds" from when you were broke never healed? Even though you had bounced back financially?
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/24 08:28 PM
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Movie star looking guy with glasses is "geeky"
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/24 01:52 AM
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They definitely do. A few years ago I got tired of being overweight and started hitting the gym. I ended up getting really into it and was making very good progress. My wife was very encouraging and would say she was glad I was getting healthy. Well, about 18 months into my new lifestyle she started to have an issue with my gym routine and meticulous dieting. This was shortly after I achieved having visible abs for the first time in my life, and I began noticing that more women were sneaking gla…
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/24 01:51 AM
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Although you may not be in love with her anymore, she is the mother of your children so there will always be some type of love there
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/24 10:14 PM
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Luckily for me she still wants to have sex quite often so I'm satisfied with the frequency, but there are definitely areas that I'm not so happy with. For instance, she is pretty selfish in bed, it's all about her getting off and she almost never gives oral, like once a year if I'm lucky. Like you said though, I'm afraid of the unknown. Some of these fears are probably irrational like I worry that maybe I'm not even very good at sex, but my wife just doesn't know it since we got together so youn…
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/24 06:14 AM
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Thanks man, I would actually love to get back into shape. A few years ago I was heavily into the gym/bodybuilding and I actually looked pretty good for a while, felt good about myself too. Probably what I should do is get back in there, might make me feel better about the idea of divorce. That last part you said is important to, nobody is gonna give a fuck that my ex wife is with a new guy, it doesn't mean anything
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/24 06:06 AM
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I feel like being with another woman and that confidence boost would make it more palatable knowing your ex is with someone else. It is tough though. Personally I don't even know how I would approach a woman and have things lead to sex. Being married for so long I fear that I have no "game". This is another thing that keeps me in the marriage, the fear/knowledge that my wife would start sleeping with someone new much sooner than I likely would, I guess you're living it and are surviving so maybe…
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/24 05:58 AM
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Clearly she resented you being there for your mother and sister. If your ex wife is anything like mine she would have preferred that you just let your mom rot and forget about her. Reading posts on this sub has helped me realize a lot about how the female mind works. The way they think of us is that we are basically a utility, only existing to serve their interests. If you are not present for any reason other than being at work to provide things for them it is not acceptable. Think of it like ho…
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/24 05:11 AM
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Absolutely. In a way it's quite fascinating, almost like studying a different species. It's a species whose minds somehow function in the absence of logic and reason and are driven almost entirely by emotion and personal perception of reality. The defining moment when I realized my wife and I were not only not on the same page but reading a different book was when I realized that she had systematically put an end to every hobby and friendship I had in our new city. One day we had an actual conve…
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/24 04:46 AM
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I totally get that, I'm embarrassed too. I haven't been happy for several years but stick around and do everything I can to try to keep the marriage going because I'm too afraid of what divorce would look like. Namely her with another guy, I feel like that would destroy me. One question I have, do you think if you were to have sex with someone else that it would help? Sometimes I think that might be the only way to feel ok with letting go
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/24 04:23 AM
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Absolutely, the real problems in my marriage started after I lost a well paying job and we had to relocate. If only my wife had had the foresight to realize that constantly needing to punish me for this wouldn't help me get back to where I was
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/24 04:07 AM
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Yup, I often imagine how things would play out for my wife if she started up with someone new. I can't imagine a positive outcome unless the guy was an even bigger pushover than I've been
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/24 03:56 AM
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It's really sick how she's trying to guilt trip OP into essentially becoming her gay friend that she can dish to about who she's currently fucking
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/24 03:54 AM
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Isn't everyone perceived as being kind and caring in the beginning of a relationship? Are these women just stupid? Of course he's nice to her right now. I've never heard someone say, "oh yeah my new bf/gf? Total asshole who treats me like shit, I've never been happier!"
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/24 03:51 AM
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I hear you man, I'm still married only because of the exact same thing you are feeling. The money thing is part of it too, but so very, very secondary to the emotional attachment. I'm still married because we've been together since we were basically children, I don't know anything else and I can't even imagine knowing she was with someone else. How you are able to deal with it I can't even understand
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/24 03:48 AM
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This is making me quite angry reading this. So basically your ex wife wants to be able to call you and gush about how great her new boyfriend is? Absolutely preposterous. It's fucking crazy. Is she also gonna tell you how big the guys dick is and how hard he makes her cum? Fuck that. I would tell her she's completely out of her mind
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/24 03:39 AM
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God damn man, I know this an old post, but I stumbled across this and had to say something. I'm sorry you had to go through this, I hope things are somehow better now
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/24 02:44 AM
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It's highly likely that it's not actually all your fault. It takes two people to get married and it takes two people to make it work or not work
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/24 02:16 AM
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My wife is absolutely paranoid. She'll run to the store or something and call me two or three times within an hour. If I go anywhere by myself? Calls or texts every 15 minutes or so. I have never cheated on her either
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/24 02:09 AM
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It's like that old expression. Misery loves company
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/24 02:02 AM
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No, man. Fuck no. Bang one of those coworkers who likes you
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/24 01:53 AM
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Thanks for this, a lot of what you said resonated with me. I too have had to give things up for likely the same reasons you did. I had to give up playing golf which was actually a huge blow to my mental well-being, I never realized how much of an outlet it was for me. More recently I even gave up going to the gym, at least consistently. Maybe it really wouldn't be cheaper to stay in this thing, I've been reflecting a lot on how the money I earn is spent and am realizing that my wife seems to hav…
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/24 02:59 PM
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Geez. I'm assuming that she's now working? Probably making very good money
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/24 10:59 PM
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Well said, especially that last part. I'm getting closer and closer to 40 and I really want to make the next 15-20 years count before I am "old"
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/24 09:14 PM
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Because she's just so wonderful, the light of my life! /s
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/24 08:45 PM
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I see
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/24 08:43 PM
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Seems like they aren't willing to work if they think it will benefit us in some way. When the money they make is only for them they become willing to work. Or it's an entitlement thing, maybe both. My wife once said and I quote "if I have to work, then why do I need you?"
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/24 08:31 PM
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This is what I was told two years ago by a lawyer, and the only reason I haven't filed. However, I'm getting to the point that I don't really care about the money anymore. I'd rather be a bum than keep dealing with her shit
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/24 08:24 PM
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Do you think she did this intentionally just in case you ever got divorced? Like she knew if she made more than you that she could end up being the one who has to pay?
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/24 08:22 PM
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Yup, I'm not well off by any means, barely making enough to get by. My wife refused to work for our entire marriage, she didn't care that we were broke as long as it meant she wouldn't have to get off her ass.
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/24 08:20 PM
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They can't help themselves
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/24 12:29 AM
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The only comments I ever see here from women are defending other women's horrible behavior or something along the lines of "not all women are like this, I treat my husband like a king blah blah blah" The last thing anyone on this sub needs or wants to hear is an opinion from a woman. It would be like me going into a rape victim sub to provide a male perspective, and let them know that not all men are predators because I have not personally raped anyone
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/24 11:01 PM
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I think it is definitely relevant that you mentioned the cultural difference. As you have now learned, Western women don't think much of getting a divorce which is why more than half of all marriages in the US end that way. They know that they are holding all the cards (in most cases) when it comes to divorce so they are much more willing to consider divorce than men
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/24 09:39 PM
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You could drive yourself crazy trying to figure out her motives. Maybe the new bf is just a pawn on the chess board, maybe she actually loves the guy, as far as you're concerned NONE OF THAT MATTERS. You are divorced, you don't need to deal with her or any of her mind games. Stop worrying about what she is trying to do and just focus on your own life and your kids. Keep communication with your ex to a bare minimum, the only subject you and she discuss is the kids, period.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/24 11:37 PM
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Don't let her jerk you around like this. What will most likely happen is things will go well for 2-3 months and then she'll be right back to wanting the divorce. This is a terrible situation for your mental well-being
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/24 05:05 PM
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Yup they crave drama in many cases, so someone like OP who was doing all the right things seems boring. He should have cheated on her or became a gambling addict, or something, that would have created enough drama
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/24 11:10 PM
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So I guess it's about being hung up
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/24 11:07 PM
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I don't fuck with you by Big Sean
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/24 10:04 PM
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Just a note, He Stopped Loving Her Today is a love song. He stops loving her because he died, "placed a wreath, upon his door" in reference to his casket
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/24 10:02 PM
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Bro, file for divorce tomorrow. You guys don't have kids, you never have to see or deal with this person again once the divorce is final!
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/24 11:10 PM
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Just sounds highly suspect, man. I don't want to suggest anything but you gotta figure out what's really going on
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/24 04:34 AM
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Do you have any idea where he learned that self harm was even a thing? That is very upsetting I'm sure
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/24 01:29 AM
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Probably just pissed he went on vacation without her
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/24 12:28 AM
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I never felt like I settled either, I married my wife because I loved her, she was loyal and I felt like I could trust her, all reasons one might think of that would make you want to marry someone. A lot of women unfortunately have a whole laundry list of requirements before they'd even consider marrying a man, like can this guy get me the big house and leased Lexus?
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/24 11:13 PM
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From my experience they care more about outward appearance than men do. It's very important to them to have the big house, new car every couple years, big engagement ring, fancy clothes and purses, hair and nails done, etc. What do all of these things have in common? They're all just things that other people will see and will allow the woman to feel superior to others. That's my take anyway. In most cases women marry up, men will often marry down, I guess it makes sense as the two sexes have ver…
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/24 08:21 PM
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That's fucking crazy, $15k in one year on alcohol and weed, not to mention the other stuff but damn
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/24 08:06 PM
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Interesting, I have never really looked at divorce statistics. So if "happiness" doesn't really affect whether the marriage ends in divorce, what are the most typical things that do matter?
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/24 12:44 AM
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Mine has always been able to make sure that the couch doesn't fly away
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/24 11:00 PM
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Imagine if you didn't do any of those things, then she'd be saying how lazy and a slob you were
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/24 10:59 PM
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Or "why are there all those dishes on the coffee table?" When it's literally just a glass and a plate that I'm actively eating/drinking from
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/24 10:46 PM
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So the kid has to use a dirty toilet?
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/24 10:44 PM
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I like Happy Spouse Happy House better because it implies that both husband and wife should be happy
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/24 10:41 PM
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Housework is only a full time job if you're cleaning multiple houses per day. I knew a couple that did this and they could clean like 4-5 houses per day, granted there was 2 of them, but still
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/24 09:29 PM
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Why? Laziness mostly, or maybe just not caring
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/24 07:02 PM
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She does things but half asses the chores. For example she does laundry but will just leave all the clothes in a pile on top of the dryer to wrinkle. Or washes dishes, but only plates and leaves all the silverware on the sink
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/24 06:07 PM
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So she was "basically a single mom" but now can't even handle having the kids half the time, lol, that must be bittersweet
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 07:03 PM
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Correct. I've come to realize that what women say they want vs what they actually want are completely different things
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/24 04:18 PM
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My wife expects me to be the reincarnation of Mr. Rogers, constantly being compared to these ultra nice guy types. She doesn't realize that even people who appear this way often have their own demons that nobody sees
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/24 01:13 AM
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Well said
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/24 05:49 PM
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It's definitely about working on yourself first and not being so worried about a woman or women in general. The idea is that if you have your shit together and are not so hung up on this one woman that they will instinctively treat you with respect and work to maintain the relationship. Personally I have read a lot into RP stuff and especially the married red pill sub and while I have not fully committed to it or necessarily practice it, I do find it quite interesting. It can be a hard pill to s…
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/24 05:45 PM
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Just be glad this is happening while you're still very young, you have so much time left and can easily build a happy life
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/24 08:00 PM
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Yes
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/24 05:13 PM
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This is where I'm at, divorce is on the horizon and I plan on just walking away and never looking back. I already chose a new city on the other side of the country
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/24 04:43 PM
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Pretty much! One time I even had to take the bus home which took three times longer than her driving would have!
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/24 08:25 PM
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I'm very familiar myself, I've been accused of faking being sick because I'm just lazy. I've been told it's my fault I got sick cuz I must not have washed my hands enough. The one thing from your comment I can relate to the most is the whole "doing you a favor" thing. That shit is infuriating. Almost the same story too, I got hit by a drunk driver and my car was totaled. For a couple weeks my wife had to take me to and from my office. She kept demanding that I be more grateful for the favor she …
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/24 07:47 PM
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/r/Divorce_Men04/01/24 03:19 PM
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Perhaps it's all by design
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/24 03:18 PM
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Just curious, when you say you lost your house, car and boat, does that mean your ex was awarded those things? Or you had to sell them to cover legal fees?
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/24 02:09 AM
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There's women in this sub now too defending other women's awful behavior. I get the feeling this sub will soon be brigaded by "feminists" and simps
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/24 11:08 PM
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I'm very happy for you
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/24 11:06 PM
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The sad truth is that women are not capable of loving men in the way that you desire
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/24 07:53 PM
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Damn, this has been my experience to a T
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/24 07:53 AM
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That's interesting, my wife is a SAHM, but the part the caught my attention is how the character from the book won't let anyone else watch the kid. My wife was the exact same way, we couldn't even go out on a date because she wouldn't leave our kid with anyone. Not even her own mother
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/24 03:45 AM
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Yeah, plus many people will stay in a bad marriage "for the kids". IMO the reality is that divorce just sucks more if you have kids, obviously because of child support but also because you have to stay in contact with the ex wife. If one could just divorce and never have to see or talk to the ex again it would be a much easier experience
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/24 04:55 PM
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Bro, stop letting her shit on you like this. You may not realize this but by accepting this you are doing catastrophic damage to your own self esteem, self image and mental health. You are hurting yourself by staying in this relationship. It will be difficult but you will feel so much better in the end if you end it immediately, you need to preserve the last shreds of dignity and self respect you have left
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/24 04:44 PM
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There was a lot of this when I first met my wife, not so much later on. When I first met her she had a few guys that she had friendzoned and these fuckers would just orbit her. Once she got pregnant most, if not all of them stopped calling/texting and this was enough for her to realize that they were just trying to fuck her the entire time.
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/24 03:30 PM
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This really is the attitude. Being with a wife like this feels like being an indentured servant, basically you work full time and during off work hours you are required to dedicate 100% of that time to her and the kids. I remember I used to like to go play golf, I'd go to the driving range a few times a month and play 18 holes 3-4 times per month. My wife couldn't stand this. She would gripe and complain constantly any time I had plans to play. It got to the point that I started making my tee ti…
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/24 02:57 PM
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Imagine paying someone $100k to sit in the living room half the day smoking pot while playing on her phone and watching Lifetime. Oh, I almost forgot, she cooked a meal in the slow cooker and used a machine to do laundry which she didn't even fold.
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/24 06:13 AM
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Any recommendations for YT channels?
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/23 06:39 PM
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I mean, we could die at any moment. No sense in thinking about what if it happens when I'm 80
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/23 09:15 PM
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We actually got in a big fight about 6 months ago because I had her listed by her name, not "Wifey" or something
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/23 05:51 PM
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Good points. I couldn't really quit my job anyway as we have no savings
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/23 05:07 PM
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Her parents live near the coast in South Carolina, she wants to move there and just use my money to basically live her life on vacation while paying no rent or bills.
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/23 04:49 PM
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I needed to read this today, gonna be going through it pretty soon here
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/23 04:31 PM
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The most asinine part of that comment is it's not like I'm making a bunch of money or anything. So she's so entitled and lazy that she's willing for us to be almost like poor just so she can sit on her ass all day
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/23 12:45 AM
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That last sentence is key for me. My wife could easily make herself out to be some sort of saint and me a villain
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/23 10:44 PM
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According to my calculations I would end up paying only around 1100 a month, so I could still afford to get my ghetto apartment at least. There's some cheap areas here where a one bedroom is only like $700
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/23 10:03 PM
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This has been a point of contention our entire marriage. She once told me, "if I have to work then why do I need you"
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/23 09:50 PM
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Las Vegas, NV
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/23 09:31 PM
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Yeah fuck that
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/23 08:40 PM
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Sounds like my wife, she will PMS for almost a week before her period comes and then it takes another week for her to go back to normal. This means that she is like this 50% of the time. I'm actually dealing with it right now, the day after Christmas she started saying all this shit and that she wants a divorce. It's definitely not normal PMS behavior either, she acts like she fuckin hates me for two weeks and will just start sobbing and stuff
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/23 08:38 PM
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Bro, I feel this way too. If I could just disappear somewhere I would. My kid is almost all grown up, and her mom turned the kid against me over the past several years. We are about to start divorce process in January, I wish I could just walk away, but not sure if that's possible
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/23 08:16 PM
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