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Well, this is awkward, but no - you're not a "good guy". From what you wrote, you come off as as a passive-aggressive nice guy (as defined in the book "No More Mr. Nice Guy"). People rarely care to dig beneath the humor surface I create Why would they, it's not their place to do "the digging". If you want people to learn about who you are behind that surface, share with them, take the risk and be vulnerable. Other than that, you really simply need to put yourself out there more, put your desires…
/r/seduction04/03/17 07:36 AM
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"Good-looking" is not an objective term. The girl you find super good looking can be "average/above average" to me, and vice versa. Seriously, this comes up often enough and whenever I've seen threads in forums with guys posting photos of their "ideal type" of women to compare tastes, its mind-boggling to see how someone's example of the best looking woman he can image is someone, I wouldn't give a second glance. On top of that, that same woman can look completely different while running chores …
/r/seduction25/02/17 06:38 AM
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Hey guys, My apologies for not converting the article into a "reddit-suitable" post, but I've been very much strained for time recently. For anyone wtf is this challenge all about, see the earlier posts: 30-Day Challenge To Become An Attractive Man (Week 1) - best place to get started 30-Day Challenge To Become An Attractive Man (Week 2) 30-Day Challenge To Become An Attractive Man (Week 3) - see comments for some early feedback from guys who started the challenge. And this is the last part. Wou…
/r/seduction13/02/17 04:50 AM
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That's great! Thank you for sharing it. I'd also like to apologize for the delay with W4. Some great things happened in my own life during this challenge. Unfortunately, it did leave me time-strained. I plan to finish the challenge by the end of the week.
/r/seduction07/02/17 06:08 AM
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I think it boils down to what world you live in: The one where things happen to you Or the one where you make things happen If I'm not mistaking it, the book "Mindset" talks about it in more depth by distinguishing "Growth" and "Static" mindset. With the former your reaction when facing a problem is "Ok, how can my make it work?", with the latter "I'm fucked..."
/r/seduction30/01/17 05:50 AM
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Hey! Thank you for sharing this :)
/r/seduction29/01/17 06:54 PM
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Personally, I have a single big cup of strong black coffee in the morning. I love it. But in general, as long as you're keeping it in moderation and don't drink it in the afternoon (can ruin kill your sleep quality), I'm not aware of any issues with coffee/caffeine in regards to our goal with this challenge.
/r/seduction27/01/17 05:50 PM
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Get a blood test and find out. And yes, if you do have low t levels, they can be naturally increased: -Plenty of quality food (fatty meats and veggies) -Hydration -Rest -Reducing stress -Lifting heavy shit It's also possible that you're lacking any of the key vitamins/minerals but until you test it, you won't know for sure.
/r/seduction27/01/17 05:06 AM
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The author :) I mean at least I hope he's not a serial killer lol
/r/seduction27/01/17 04:56 AM
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Btw, one of the guys shared his first small win with the challenge :) Would love to hear from anyone else who also started the challenge - how's it going so far? Were there any parts the felt unclear/troublesome/whatever? Did you drop the challenge down the road? Why?
/r/seduction26/01/17 02:53 PM
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While you make some good points, using texting for logistics is not a myth, it's one of the strategies. It originated as a way to screen out time wasters and set the frame. Also texting is a common newbie bait, who end up texting for hours and hours, and never meeting the girl. As for dating apps like Tinder, if you matched you're already "pre-selected" and just need a few messages to show that you're not a complete weirdo before checking out the logistics. But sure, if you're able to craft an i…
/r/seduction26/01/17 01:45 PM
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If you weren't so nervous and in your head yourself, you'd notice that women can get quite nervous/awkward too. Other than that, yeah, as mentioned many times already in this post - more abundance/practice.
/r/seduction26/01/17 06:15 AM
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There you go http://sexystyleforjoe.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/08/V1-WEB-Optimized.jpg
/r/seduction25/01/17 03:13 PM
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That's fair, I mean the quality you're looking for will depend on your price range. But to answer your question, no, they don't feel cheap.
/r/seduction25/01/17 01:56 PM
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That's just the store, the brand is Ted Baker. I'm sure they have it on their own site/stores too. Edit: that said I like some of the Asos own stuff like tees, especially their muscle cuts.
/r/seduction25/01/17 12:44 PM
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Sure. Check out this survey Now, I'm well aware how imperfect this method is (too many factors were not isolated), but it's consistent with what else I could find on the topic. Few examples: Male models on women's magazines (cosmo and such) are ~10-20 lbs lighter than those on men's magazines From an evolutionary perspective having shoulders that are too wide would impair throwing ability (sorry, can't recall the paper but it's been referenced in the book "Looks: Why They Matter More Than You Ev…
/r/seduction25/01/17 05:47 AM
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I personally own this pair from Ted Baker. Gets complimented all the time and the navy panels are fun to work with in an outfit.
/r/seduction25/01/17 05:32 AM
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It seems we really have different definitions for the word muscular. Again, if we're talking about bodybuilder type physique - no arguments. But then again, it terms of sex appeal/aesthetics, lean & muscular > huge any day of the week, outside of a narrow niche of women who have a thing for that type of physique (I mean it's seddit, so it makes sense to look at it from the seduction's pov). He looks pretty bad. Why? Tight shirt, tight blue jeans, and a brownish Chelsea. Looks kinda gay to me imo…
/r/seduction24/01/17 05:09 PM
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It's definitely not necessary as it seems like you're already more active than most men. Still, if you want more volume to your frame, then yeah, I think it would be a good idea. Heck, even weight-less training, you could do pull ups/chin ups/handstand shoulder presses/ pistol squats for a similar result. It shouldn't take you more than ~30-40 min/workout. And hey, glad to be of help :)
/r/seduction24/01/17 02:38 PM
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As for Chelsea boots... For chubby guys I agree, but muscular - no. Unless you mean bodybuilder/strongman kind of muscular, then again, fair point as shoes would need more "volume/chunkiness" in such cases to keep the proportions in check. As for dropping out of style, it's quite irrelevant, because as you noted they're not going to be "unfashionable" any time soon. Desert boots are okay, but they do have a different vibe about them. They are a bit more casual-masculine, which is fine for day ga…
/r/seduction24/01/17 02:04 PM
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First off - How clothes should fit. This is so underrated. I remember going to uni with a guy who did fitness competitions on an amateur level, the guy had a properly epic physique. Except no one could've guessed it, because he'd always wear thick, baggy clothes. Such a waste. Anyway, nice guide. A little too understated for my taste. What I would recommend for night game specifically, is pick Chelsea boots instead of sneakers and racer leather/faux leather (for budget option) jacket instead of …
/r/seduction24/01/17 05:19 AM
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Hey! That's great, just try to stick with the challenge as much as you can right now. I know that there can be external factors stopping from fully implementing every single step right now (financial/schedule/etc.) and if the timing is not right for some of them, you can always go back to it, once those external factors are handled.
/r/seduction24/01/17 05:08 AM
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Awesome! Let me know how it goes for you :)
/r/seduction24/01/17 05:06 AM
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Hey! I do have a full course on the topic. It includes wardrobe guides for each image archetype, with recommendations for items to add and outfit suggestions for how to use them (literally hundreds of combinations). On top of that we cover things like color psychology, deconstruct individual items, and more. Other than that, make sure to check out the style inspiration links in the "I'm getting laid tonight" attachment as you'll find outfits deconstructed and explained why certain pieces/colors …
/r/seduction24/01/17 05:05 AM
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True, depending on the physique, finding well-fitting clothes can be tricky.
/r/seduction23/01/17 12:59 PM
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Kinowear used to be good when other people (Jay/Nicholas) ran it. Their archive (posts from ~5 years ago or so) is worthwhile to check out, but I'd avoid the newer posts.
/r/seduction23/01/17 11:47 AM
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By classic I mean what lead characters wear in the movies year after year Careful with this. A lot of the TV shows/movies try to make male leads relatable and in turn their image is tailored to cater to the lowest common denominator. A lot of the lead characters (even the supposedly sexy ones) are dressed absolutely terrible and if you tried to replicate it in the real world and you're not professionally good looking, the result will look like shit. hoodie Your average hoodie is pretty freaking …
/r/seduction23/01/17 11:44 AM
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Ah, there you go: Man's Guide To Looking Attractive (Collection Of Best Free Resources) 30-Day Challenge To Become An Attractive Man
/r/seduction23/01/17 11:38 AM
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Darius. Hi! But while I do write for GirlsChase occasionally, I'm not a "pick up guru" if that's what you're asking.
/r/seduction20/01/17 03:26 PM
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My bad, didn't include in this week's post that this challenge is not meant to be a replacement for meeting women, but a supplement. That said, few things to note: You're waayyy over thinking this bro. Skincare routine is to make sure you look good and healthy. That, and so that you don't get called "grandpa" when you hit your early 40s. Why not work actually work on your game? You know, the normal way? While my game is still flawed, I know my fundamentals and at this point I've pulled more than…
/r/seduction20/01/17 03:17 PM
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I think when it comes to dieting, the best thing you can do is focus hard for a short while to build a habit of meal planning (and sticking to the plan) and then you can essentially forget about it. We cover this in Week 2 post: https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/5oxamp/30day_challenge_to_become_an_attractive_man_week_2/ (Btw, don't worry too much about letting go every once in a while, in the long run it can even help you stay in shape!) Good goal with the veggies (some fruits are calo…
/r/seduction20/01/17 04:36 AM
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as /u/GentlemenPreferButts noted, it's a good idea to add moisturizer to the mix. Personally, I have a very sensitive, dry skin so everything I use needs to be gentle. Still, the routine is very basic: cleanse, tone, moisturize. There's a link in W1 post on how to adjust your routine based on your skin type and other good practices.
/r/seduction20/01/17 04:33 AM
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Np! I'm using this challenge as an opportunity to kick-start a few new good habits myself, so it's a win-win :)
/r/seduction19/01/17 07:38 PM
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Absolutely! Regular practice also does wonders as a stress-reliever, lowering cortisol levels, which has a ton of benefits (including making us more attractive)
/r/seduction19/01/17 07:37 PM
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Thanks, man! By all means, I'm still work in progress too (I'm using this challenge myself to add a few things), but having spent most of my adult life experimenting with these lifestyle topics, I think I picked up a few good ideas.
/r/seduction19/01/17 06:26 PM
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Also explained in Week 1, here's the link to specific attachment :) https://www.dropbox.com/s/y74jj2mvaxybv3d/Day%203.%20What%27s%20A%20Gratitude%20Routine.pdf?dl=0 It really makes most sense to start from Week 1, Day 1, as a lot of the steps are building on each other. Edit: just realized you made this comment on W1 post (my bad lol). For all "how to" parts that don't link to external articles/guides, I've included pdf's in the attachments section. Otherwise the post would be very long and unre…
/r/seduction19/01/17 06:18 PM
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Specifically from this challenge, no. This is the first time we're doing it. For my own photos/backstory, there's a link in Week 1 post.
/r/seduction19/01/17 04:48 PM
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Well that's a topic that seems to come up often. The recipe to deal with your insecurities is actually quite simple: Deal with aspects that are in your control. Physique is the most obvious here because honestly, if you're overweight/skinny and don't like it, it's only on you, it's something that you can change with time and effort. Accept and be mindful of the aspects that you cannot control. Something like height is an aspect that you cannot really control. It is as it is. So the best thing yo…
/r/seduction18/01/17 08:52 AM
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Sure. The way I would do it, is still do the 3 times a week weight routine (personally, I think you're really missing out by not giving heavier weights / low reps a chance, it really does a lot of good for men) and on other days do the running instead of recommended walking. But the bottom line is that you want a lifestyle that you enjoy, so as long as you do some form of exercise, you're good.
/r/seduction17/01/17 05:33 PM
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The standard routine should look like this: cleanse -> tone -> moisturize. That said, the specifics will depend on your skin type. IIRC the article covers skin types. If it's not clear, you can google "mens skin types", maybe another explanation will make more sense to you. Because the thing is, based on your skin, different products will work best. And if you have some super sensitive skin, you might need a very gentle cleanser (or stick to just using water), etc.
/r/seduction17/01/17 02:28 PM
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Sure. Or pm me if there are any details you don't want to make public or whatever.
/r/seduction17/01/17 05:33 AM
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Is the skin care routine just for the face? The routine itself, yes. Sleep, hydration, and other lifestyle/diet changes will improve how our skin looks on the rest of the body. Also do you suggest it for everyone participating in the challenge or just those with acne? Everyone. There's a narrow subsection of guys (and girls), who got so lucky in gene lottery that they have super resistant, clear, glowing skin despite having terrible habits, but even in those cases, it generally doesn't last and …
/r/seduction17/01/17 05:31 AM
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Yes, lift heavy things (or yourself). If you want to run, as far as I'm aware, only sprinting is a viable alternative. Jogging is something you do for pleasure, health, not physique.
/r/seduction16/01/17 06:02 PM
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How do I know if my crush has a crush on me too? What difference would it make? I mean, even if she does, it's not like she will be the one coming up to you with the "Hey, I really like your ass, you want to get coffee some time?"... But, if you want to know so you can ask her out, just assume that she does and do it anyway.
/r/seduction16/01/17 05:35 AM
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I'd look into the book "convict conditioning" for a body-weight program. It's going to be a lot slower process, but you can build a lot of strength over time. Also, doing handstand push ups just looks really cool lol Just make sure you be disciplined about the workouts if you go this route. My own attempts with exercising on my own (not in a gym) never lasted more than a few months, because its just too easy to slack off. On top of all of this I am skinny. I was thinking of running a mile three …
/r/seduction16/01/17 05:18 AM
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I would avoid studio photos. Instead, see if you can find a photographer who could take a few great shots for you in a more natural environment.
/r/seduction16/01/17 05:13 AM
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Also, can this 30-day challenge be done over a longer period of time? Your call. What I would highly recommend is to make sure to do something towards it every day and plan ahead what exactly you plan on doing each day. Don't fall into the "well, I'll see how much I time/energy I have..." trap Am I required to film myself with a webcam/smart phone for the gratitude routine, or can I just record my voice with a microphone? Required? No. But I would recommend this and I'll explain why in Week 4. A…
/r/seduction16/01/17 05:11 AM
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Yes, free. There might be costs involved - gym membership, getting a haircut, etc., - but in terms of know-how, I won't ask you to buy anything throughout the challenge. That would be a douchy thing to do...
/r/seduction15/01/17 07:20 PM
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Few questions: -How long you've been on this self-improvement path? -What results do you get now and what's your goal/what results you would consider a "success"? -How long have you been feeling bitter? The point is, self-improvement doesn't mean that your life will just get better and better, and better, without any pitfalls. In reality, it's messy. There are fluctuations and sometimes you feel unstoppable, like you could do no wrong and other times you can't help but wonder if you're just wast…
/r/seduction15/01/17 10:54 AM
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Dealing with insecurities boils down to mindfulness, awareness and self-talk. But in your case I would recommend something different: quit porn, limit masturbation to once a week at most, lift heavy shit, get plenty of rest, eat fatty meats, go for walks where you'd see plenty of women - essentially "hack" your brain chemistry to get as horny as you can without giving yourself the release. I'm sorry to tell you this, but there's nothing technical you need to fix right now (yes, including butt-ac…
/r/seduction15/01/17 10:37 AM
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Great to see that we have challengers! :) One thing I would love to ask from those, who are taking part in this - can you keep me updated with your progress: have you followed through? If so, how are you feeling? Was it too easy? If not, when and why? This will help me when preparing the specifics for the other 3 weeks, to make sure that the challenge feels as intuitive and smooth as possible. Cheers!
/r/seduction15/01/17 06:14 AM
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Challenge accepted ;) Awesome! To add something on diet, I would also suggest to cut on sugar and caffeine guys Interesting. I don't really use sugar (not a fan of sweets), but I do love a good cup of coffee in the morning. Though I'm aware that caffeine can put a strain on our bodies. Diet in general will be the trickiest subject to tackle, not only because there's a fuckton of conflicting data, but also because for this challenge we'll need to find that sweet spot that leads to great results b…
/r/seduction14/01/17 12:17 PM
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Seem to carry a consistent identity and a lot of CERTAINTY in how they conduct themselves I think you're romanticizing what it means to be non-autistic in a sense that no, most people you see are not certain and consistent identity-wise. Put them out of their comfort zone and your average guy (or woman) will be awkward, weird, lost - that's normal. As for fractured personality, once again, that's something we all have to a certain extent: there's enough studies that show how our immediate surrou…
/r/seduction14/01/17 06:56 AM
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at the beach, with friends in a tuxedo, having a barbeque Irrelevant. I know the general consensus is that you need to show off that you live a super awesome life in general, but from my experience the bottom line is getting high quality (as in production value) photos that show you from a flattering angle/facial expression. Everything else becomes just a cherry on top (right now I'm using two photos: close up and one full body in a neutral background. Works like a charm.) Is there some magic in…
/r/seduction14/01/17 06:47 AM
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I use tinder, but I haven't been able to get matches You're 21, the only way for you NOT to get matches is by using shitty photos or getting all needy in the about section (though if your photos are really good, you can probably get away even with that).
/r/seduction13/01/17 12:48 PM
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The problem I have is that mild autism leaves someone with a "fractured" or "uncertain" identity I'm not sure if I'm understanding this part correctly. Could you explain how do you think "everyone else" (let's say, guys who get results with women) are identity-wise? Is there any other "look" that could work outside of those categories? On the other hand, maybe it's just as simple as wearing properly fitted clothes that aren't incredibly boring? Personally, in my work I use 5 different image arch…
/r/seduction13/01/17 05:55 AM
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Sure
/r/seduction12/01/17 06:06 AM
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It sounds like you've already decided to give up and now just need some random guy on the internet to confirm that. Sorry, that won't be me. As said, I don't know what it means to have mild autism, but no, not having a full-time job or a social circle are not deal breakers in the grand scheme of things.
/r/seduction11/01/17 03:49 PM
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To start with, you obviously reek of neediness. I cringed at multiple points while reading your post: She was on and off with some douche bag boyfriend that kept disappointing her To this day, I still haven't met a woman as lovely as the dream girl i met. evil guys and ugly men So many repulsive mindsets are hiding behind these sentences, so much passive-aggressive anger, yuck... That said, you're not giving us anything to work with to try and help you. Based on what you shared, the only recomme…
/r/seduction11/01/17 03:27 PM
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Sure.
/r/seduction10/01/17 05:57 PM
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I obviously don't know what it means to have mild autism, so take what I'm about to say with a grain of salt. But what strikes me is that essentially what you're saying is that you want to stay the same, but have different results in life - it doesn't really work that way. Pushing your comfort zone is supposed to be painful in a way, that's why it's called comfort zone, because we feel all sorts of negative feelings when we're outside it and that's true for pretty much everyone. I'm sure the int…
/r/seduction10/01/17 05:19 PM
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Sure, I think I'll make a separate post on the topic, as I don't want to just point out the obvious. But it will take me a few days to get it ready as I have few other big things cooking right now :)
/r/seduction10/01/17 05:07 PM
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To be honest, there's nothing special about how I approach screening. Obviously maximize your attractiveness, fundamentals first - as we'll be taking the path of least resistance, we want to have lot of women who are "green" (interested from the get go) and that those women are attractive/high quality. My image does most of the heavy lifting in terms of screening. I don't do khakis and polo shirts, or other "nice guy" attire. My image is sexual and polarizing: skinny cuts, scarves,bracelets, edg…
/r/seduction09/01/17 03:56 PM
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The two that I had that had a positive impact on my confidence/social skills: Direct sales - Self-explanatory (I did door-to-door on a hard mode lol) Customer service - Nothing thickens your skin as getting yelled at on a daily basis and you're forced to stay calm and upbeat during all of it and afterwards
/r/seduction09/01/17 06:03 AM
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From my own experience there's only one thing I can say for certain, improving your appearance works. Physique, grooming, fashion - the last two especially, since for a long time I've been skinny-fat and that didn't stop from getting results. Only recently I developed a more lean & muscular physique (still no six pack lol) and that helps too. The issue I see most guys make when they read max out appearance is that they assume that you need to work to look like a bodybuilder wearing a rolex, but …
/r/seduction09/01/17 05:43 AM
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You're saying you have to look like a male model and be socially connected and do well financially? No, that's not what I'm saying. Where did you get that from? I mean, I'm definitely not well socially connected, my financial situation is rather crap, and even though I improved my appearance a lot, I don't have the features required for modeling. So yeah... lol
/r/seduction09/01/17 05:06 AM
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I have some mixed feelings about this comment. While I agree, that you'll rarely see people dating way out of their attractiveness range (it happens, but its more of an anecdotal exception) and I also think that hotness in general is a little bit overrated (ideally, every man should sleep with a gorgeous woman, who's shit in bed to fully realize this), couple of things bug me: Beauty is subjective. For example, I've recently been with a "tall, blonde with a beautiful flat stomach", beautiful fac…
/r/seduction08/01/17 06:02 PM
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Indeed, this is one of the downsides. I wouldn't say that it lowers confidence, but it is a form of neediness. (Not the worst kind of neediness by a long shot but still bad) But from my experience its mostly a transitional stage, until you get comfortable in this new, more attractive "skin". Once its normalizes, the neediness goes away too. You just stop making a big deal out of it in general.
/r/seduction08/01/17 04:09 PM
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For context, this is an older seddit post I made (with photos and shit :) ): Looks, Women And Life: Lessons Learned Going From “Ugly” To Attractive I know that the traditional way of approaching this whole thing is along the lines of "Get Game -> Get Confident -> Get Laid". I started as a wbafc hardcase about a decade ago, and after failing to get any results the first few years, I changed my strategy to focus on "the product" (myself). The results took a while to get, but eventually my journey …
/r/seduction08/01/17 03:23 PM
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while we're waiting for the "it doesn't matter, just be confident" and other la la la, sunshine, puppydogs and rainbows comments... I feel like I should just give up with women So you have two physical factors working against you, there are still about half a dozen in your control: physique, fashion, grooming (skin care, facial hair, teeth), etc. that are in your control. All of us here have some sort of imperfections. Proud owner of a receding hairline (slow but steady lol), girly (geeky) hands…
/r/seduction08/01/17 02:34 PM
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That's awesome!
/r/seduction07/01/17 05:40 PM
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Feeling better now that you let this all out? I seriously do not like clubs at all Then why would you go there? Because it's Saturday and that's what "others" are doing? Fuck that. The only thing you actually need to figure out is what you want: Companionship? Get laid? Someone to talk to, to hold in your arms? Friendship? All of it is achievable. Probably not tonight, but who cares, tomorrow is another day. The "how to" part is really not rocket science. For example if you simply want some comp…
/r/seduction07/01/17 03:20 PM
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No worries, mate, glad to be of use :) And I can see now how ridiculously it would be sound if I say that to a girl, maybe I'm get "being direct" to literally. Essentially until you start having sex you're just friends. Imagine going up to your friend with a "Hey John, you know you're a great friend and I love hanging out with you, but the truth is, I'm not ready to be the best man in your wedding (to which John would reply, "but I don't even have gf right now...") and I'm still seeing other fri…
/r/seduction07/01/17 12:27 PM
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Okay, this going to be fun haha (on a serious note, good job with being honest!) I'm assume all girls want serious and committed relationships Nope! and also feel bad for seeing several girls simultaneously, You shouldn't, most women do this, especially before sex is involved One friend said that with my looks I can pull girls left and right, but I said that looks isn't everything, he answered I just don't have confidence yet, maybe.. You have a smart friend But good looking is not the same thin…
/r/seduction07/01/17 11:35 AM
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I've read and re-read your post but what I'm not seeing is what you're doing to meet women, to put yourself out there and where it goes wrong? Its hard to give you any practical advice without this. Looking into your rateme photos, there are some things to improve: -With heart shaped face, you'd be better off with a haircut that's longer on the top, while keeping the sides short. This will also add some perceived height. Facial hair, short or full beard, would also look good on you as it would a…
/r/seduction07/01/17 08:19 AM
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Essentially, yes. And yeah, I know it sounds weird. Getting comfortable with this is the first thing to make it work. But let's put this into context so you don't crash & burn and think "that freaking asshole from seddit..." Let's say you're meeting a girl over drinks for the first time. You already went through all the normal niceties and get-to-know-yous and honestly, at that moment you have nothing to say. So instead of getting in your head, trying to figure out some witty/interesting thing t…
/r/seduction06/01/17 06:20 PM
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That's a fair point. I just assumed isolation, but that might have been a mistake. There are still ways to bypass a lot of the "social chatter", but it gets nuanced and based on the situation. Essentially, be the "strong, silent type" (whatever the fuck that means), instead of the super extroverted, life of the party guy. Dunno, never felt like I was at a disadvantage being the former rather than the latter.
/r/seduction06/01/17 04:41 PM
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This is from seduction pov, not social: but sometimes i just don't know what to say and will be completely blank Then don't say anything. Get comfortable with silence. Silence is awesome! Silence creates vacuum, silence builds tension. Look at her instead and enjoy the sexual tension building up. Resist the urge to release that tension by saying something clever or making a joke. Combined with a little kino and good timing, I had women jump to kiss me because the tension was that overwhelming. M…
/r/seduction06/01/17 03:54 PM
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I clicked on the link expecting some politically correct bs, but this is actually great!
/r/seduction26/10/16 06:05 AM
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You can make yourself look better by working out or finding a sport you enjoy to keep you in shape, get a good haircut, dress well, etc. Very much this. Unless a guy is actually physically deformed or suffer from a major skin condition, by having the fitness / grooming / style parts covered, pretty much everyone can get at least in the ~7 - 8 / 10 range. The good thing is that those areas of attractiveness are fully in your control, some might take time to develop and polish but they are in your…
/r/seduction04/08/16 08:35 AM
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Question (especially for the well-traveled lads): What's the most chill/least stressful large city in Europe?
/r/seduction26/12/15 03:30 PM
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Let me put this into perspective for you, Imagine you're walking down the street, having a good time and notice in front of you some not-too-pretty girl locking eyes with you (or maybe she simply starts moving in your direction as she notices you). Instantly, something in your brain starts making calculations "what the hell is happening? is this a potential threat?", so you actually start observing her: you notice that she's rocking a fake smile that says "I hate this job... But I need to be pol…
/r/seduction26/12/15 08:38 AM
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There you go: https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/3qasvo/practical_guide_to_dressing_for_meeting_women_and/ (The advice there is based on my work with clients most of whom are in your age group and I offer "results or money-back" guarantee, so as long as you can overcome some limiting beliefs and implement it - it works)
/r/seduction04/12/15 01:51 PM
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Should you drop your friends to attract women? Definitely no, that's just desperate. Should you drop your friends if they are being disrespectful/are being negative influences/dragging you down? Sure, most friendships eventually run their course and it's important to know when to cut them before they get toxic. That said, from the anecdotal story you shared it doesn't sound like "Jim" is cockblocking you (that's actually a cool, playful story if you play along instead of getting all defensive) b…
/r/seduction27/11/15 02:21 PM
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Never understood why people are making a problem out of it - it's really not a big deal and can actually make things easier. LR on how I usually handle those (second half): http://www.pua-zone.com/showthread.php?12904-The-One-Who-Changed-My-Life
/r/seduction25/11/15 07:02 AM
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The book that I would first recommend is "The Unchained Man" by Caleb Jones because it focuses on how to build a long-term happy life as a modern man (which of course includes satisfying love life). If I ever have a son, that's the book I would give him on his 16th birthday.
/r/seduction09/11/15 07:18 AM
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I've used "Come. I want to kiss you." a few times when due to positioning I couldn't simply kiss her right there, but in most cases why not just skip the line and get to the kissing. Seems kinda unnecessary.
/r/seduction04/11/15 03:47 PM
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Generally yes, though I wouldn't get hung up on the "skinny" vs "slim" tags and instead focus on the fit itself because how tight the pair is actually cut will vary from brand to brand, i.e. some of Zara's slim cuts feel just as tight as Levi's skinny cuts. What you want to pay attention is the proportions between upper and lower body, as long as the transitions look natural, smooth you can go with slim cuts too. And yeah, it's a less feminine and less rebellious option.
/r/seduction30/10/15 09:32 AM
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/u/paleolo nailed it. Khakis are not bad in general, it's just that they are best suited for business-casual looks and alike, not dating. Try the same look with khakis and then with well-fitting jeans or dressier chinos (depending on the look you're going for) and you'll notice the difference in feedback rather quickly. One thing I would like to add is that khaki as a color is a light shade of yellow-brown (though there are variations) and yellow in general is a terrible color for men to wear wh…
/r/seduction28/10/15 12:19 PM
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Glad you enjoyed it! If you really want to push the rugged look forward it boils down to your choices in jacket/jeans/boots. Extra detailing like zippers/pockets on a jacket, can look into heavily distressed jeans. In terms of what to add, a cool necklace with a meaningful (or just one you really like) pendant can do the job too. In most cases for bags I prefer to stay with messenger bag style. Though with rugged you can actually pick a backpack too - try looking into vintage leather designs, it…
/r/seduction27/10/15 01:10 PM
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Yes, I've personally worked with and consulted guys from multiple races and even though I hadn't had a black client yet (the darkest skin tone I personally worked with was Indian), I know there are quite a few readers on my site who are black and are successfully applying the principles. As /u/BEARS_ARE_GREAT noted there are some nuances in terms of choosing colors. I.e. usually outfits with less contrast will look better on you as it will match with the contrast in your natural complexion and i…
/r/seduction27/10/15 05:16 AM
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Awesome!
/r/seduction26/10/15 05:44 PM
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My late bloomer story: http://www.girlschase.com/content/why-sucking-women-might-be-good-you (warning: includes several embarrassing, cringe-worthy stories lol )
/r/seduction26/10/15 06:43 AM
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The guy obviously messed up there and I agree with most of what you wrote. One thing I would like to add, the sort of bright side, is I'm actually impressed how he dealt with it emotionally afterwards (the edits part): -He didn't try to put the blame on her by calling her "whore", "slut", w/e. -Nor did he try to rationalize his own fault by trying to convince himself that maybe there were something shady going on ala "rape" or something. -Heck, he even cut the ties (at least for now) when he rea…
/r/seduction25/10/15 02:45 PM
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About a month ago I tried doing exactly that - collect best free articles on the net for handling inner game. Topics covered: communication, character, relationships, sexuality, lifestyle (ended up filtering to about 100 articles if I recall correctly). The result: http://sexystyleforjoe.com/ultimate-mans-guide-to-being-attractive/
/r/seduction24/10/15 06:41 AM
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1. I don't ACTIVELY game much, it became part of the lifestyle to sustain my long-term romantic/sexual goals. 2. I felt frustrated because of lack of romantic options (hard case, late bloomer). When I first started out, I had this fantasy of finding "the one" and living happily ever after, yada yada yada. Quickly that changed to "be the player grandiose, sleep with as many women so I can to compensate for what I was lacking I had". 3. That last stage didn't last long either. After getting better…
/r/seduction31/08/15 12:00 PM
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Been there, done that, it was stupendously fun but I would NOT recommend it in most cases. The only reason it worked out great for me because I was willing to walk away from the job if shit hit the fan. If you actually like your job or need it, just find other women.
/r/seduction30/08/15 07:12 AM
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Hey guys, So some time ago I created a post here that many of you enjoyed: Man's Guide To Looking Attractive (Collection Of Best Free Resources) Since then, I've decided to take up an even more challenging task, to create a similar "crowd-sourced book" (directory) for inner game and lifestyle resources. You can see the result here. Anyway, the point of these types of articles is to have a single "ultimate" resource based on suggestions and recommendations from the whole community. I did my part …
/r/seduction26/08/15 04:54 PM
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Your issue is first and foremost with your body image and scarring itself is a secondary problem. Assuming "fixing" the physical problem is not an option (and I don't have experience with this to claim one way or the other), it's time to learn to live with it. First, check this video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?t=40&v=litXW91UauE It's from a Dove campaign and even though it focuses on women, it actually does a great job portraying the difference in how we see ourselves and how others see us. …
/r/seduction25/08/15 02:05 PM
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That's actually a fair point. Might even add extra motivation to move out quicker haha
/r/seduction24/08/15 06:43 PM
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In a small town he'll burn through sets fast and its very easy to make a bad reputation (assuming he's a newbie in this style). Personally, I'd focus on saving every penny and moving ASAP. Getting away from his parents and start living on his own will be a big bonus too. Or as /u/theonetowardsyou suggested, make the decision to drive to bigger cities, etc. This option has an added benefit that you're going somewhere where people don't know you, so there's less pressure when trying to improve.
/r/seduction24/08/15 04:45 PM
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Ahh.. I see, sorry no idea why it's happening, never had this problem with GirlsChase site myself.
/r/seduction21/08/15 07:04 PM
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Problem?
/r/seduction21/08/15 01:34 PM
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I usually pitch a meet few times (for later today), almost never schedule meets in advance with the exception of girls who've been in my life for a while. But from experience, the follow-ups have very little rate of return if she doesn't give a counter proposal or something similar on the spot to indicate that she really wants to meet me. So yeah, you can pitch a couple more times but mentally keep in mind that a positive outcome is not that likely and just go for other women in the meanwhile. S…
/r/seduction18/08/15 05:49 PM
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First and foremost - ignore what they say, pay attention to what they do. That said, the fact that you go up to three days without sleeping with them is an issue in itself, by this point you're naturally falling into the "potential boyfriend" category. You're saying that you're not looking for anything overly serious, but not pulling at the latest by the second date? That's incongruence. Go for early pulls (first/second date) and it will naturally screen women, who are not in the same boat as yo…
/r/seduction18/08/15 08:56 AM
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"The Game" is a fun read, but don't take it too literally: a) It's a novel, not a "how to" guide b) It's been written in the "teenage years of seduction" when everything was pretty awkward and if you take it to heart some of the stuff can mess you up and then you'll need to spend time and effort to unlearn them (though of course there are some gems of insight there too). Models is a much more better read in terms of lifestyle and mindset.
/r/seduction17/08/15 06:23 PM
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There ya go: http://www.girlschase.com/content/how-deal-your-physical-insecurities There are also some good books on the topic, i.e. "The Body Image Workbook" by Thomas F Cash
/r/seduction17/08/15 06:11 PM
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I do have some anxiety, but i think it's normal(?) with any new person I meet Yes. How could I want to kiss a girl with whom I do not wish to have a relationship with? It feels repulsive. This is kinda messed up in so many ways, but truthfully, I'm not qualified, nor do I want to go deep into this topic. (Quite likely this is more than just about fear based on your response) The reason I want to push you to take action even if it's with someone "less than perfect" is because right now you have n…
/r/seduction16/08/15 05:02 PM
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To be honest, I haven't found a girl attractive enough to escalate Let me get this straight - you go multiple parties, hang out with a lot of cool people, but can't find a woman you're attracted to? Let me call BS on this. And yes, I think you convinced yourself and constantly tell yourself that "nah, I probably don't need to escalate on her, because she has XYZ qualities that are not that great" (or whatever), when in reality you're simply scared shitless that she might reject you and it will c…
/r/seduction16/08/15 02:23 PM
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I loved the guy's posts back in mASF, if I recall correctly he was the one who coined the most brilliant and practical acronym/strategy for pick up - GATA! (Go After That Ass!) Seriously, just GATA!
/r/seduction16/08/15 02:05 PM
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Unless your physique didn't change at all in 5 years (unlikely considering it's going from 17 to 22), chances are they fit like crap and I can't imagine a 5 year-old shirt not loosing it's color and having other issues. This can be a major thing holding back your overall appearance.
/r/seduction07/08/15 06:04 PM
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Haha, this had me laughing hard! I actually keep a few old, too big tees that kinda smell like me to give to girls to wear after sex :)
/r/seduction07/08/15 04:40 PM
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Just to clarify - yes, most clothes do get 'worn out' by the two year mark (usually, much quicker), but I prefer to treat it on case-by-case basis instead of having hard rules. This might be a good advice for guys, who don't yet have an eye to know when it's time to say "bye bye" to their favorite item :)
/r/seduction07/08/15 04:10 PM
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Heh, I'm no means trying to disprove the importance of style, clothes and how you present yourself. After all it's kinda my job and I do experiment with new look regularly hehe That said, I think it's a bit a restrictive approach. For example, in the experiment from this post I used a blazer that's two years old - still works like charm. Also a note on jeans, assuming you take care of them well (don't wear on consecutive days, let them went on the off days instead of washing), they can last a lo…
/r/seduction07/08/15 03:59 PM
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Ughm... this only makes sense for tees and other items that get worn out quickly. Are you actually suggesting to get rid of good leather jackets, boots, quality jeans, etc. every 15 months?! Shit... that doesn't make sense. A) Some items, like good leather jackets only get better with time (assuming you take care of them), wear gives them character. B) That's a waste of money! Edit: clothes are important and stuff, but you don't need to spend a fortune on them. Also only wearing a shirt every tw…
/r/seduction07/08/15 03:41 PM
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Never tried it, so can't say for certain. I know some anecdotal cases of guys pulling off weird/goofy pics with solid success, but that's about as much insight as I can offer :)
/r/seduction07/08/15 09:54 AM
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The sad (or fortunate, depending on how you look) reality is that it doesn't really matter. I've tried a lot combinations (writing nothing, writing elaborate texts, etc., etc.), right my profile text says my height (because for me it's an advantage, I wouldn't write it I was average/below average in height) and my name with a bait to google it (I write for sites like GirlsChase and want to be upfront about my lifestyle). But yeah, in terms of matches having nothing performed just as well as the …
/r/seduction07/08/15 07:13 AM
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Face is definitely (!) not your problem, symmetry is fine, heart shape, none of the features are too small/big. A haircut could be better (heart shape looks best with longer hair), but if you need to keep them short (let's say for work), short sides with raised top is the way to go (based on your face shape), so in other words just need improved styling/care. And no, I'm not sugarcoating it - you won't work as a male model but your face is by no means unattractive. Though you do have a sort of a…
/r/seduction06/08/15 02:02 PM
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Yeah, I need to face the reality that my hairline is receding too and I probably have only couple of years left before significant measures need to be taken. My goal for this time is to increase my musculature, especially around shoulders.
/r/seduction04/08/15 01:21 PM
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I tried to do it by increasing the amount of veggies high on beta carotene consumed daily. My reasoning was based on this research: http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3296758/ But frankly, the results were not visible by a naked eye. Did it for two months or so. I might experiment with the tablets.
/r/seduction04/08/15 01:18 PM
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Cool! I've been getting a lot of comments and compliments on my "chastity belt key" (lol). How is it working for you?
/r/seduction04/08/15 01:15 PM
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Hard to say. First, I suspect that our pretty ladies might be a bit more hesitant giving an honest answer, it might lower the overall the results by a small margin. How handsome the guy doing the questioning would also make an impact on the results - if he's less than attractive it would likely boost my own results and drop them if the guy doing the questioning is a handsome devil (due to point of comparison). Though these are only my predictions, based on... well... nothing really haha
/r/seduction04/08/15 01:14 PM
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Yes, I learned most of the Latin and ballroom dances for a couple of years (yes, those are piss poor credentials :) ) before stumbling onto Kizomba and later bachata (though my bachata is beyond terrible, only did it for a few months haha). The main takeaway from afro-latin dances is how close you dance to your partner - without clothes it would quite literally feel like fucking. The other important point is that dancing doesn't need to be flashy. When I did salsa I thought that I need to spin g…
/r/seduction04/08/15 01:09 PM
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Dancing has been giving huge payoffs since I learned it (afro-latin dances like kizomba, bachata would be my recommendations). Bartending (or simply said, making cocktails) has also been fun and great skill to have for social circle game. Meditating if it can be called a "hobby" to help deal with mental BS. Edit: while preparing dinner I realized that I forgot one of the most important ones - cooking! Improving your physique and consuming the right macros / calories is easier when you know how t…
/r/seduction04/08/15 03:12 AM
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We didn't. I live in a predominantly (heavily) white country, with relatively little cultural diversity. Even though I would have liked to include other cultures/races in the survey too (would be interesting to see the results).
/r/seduction04/08/15 03:06 AM
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I didn't, the perceived height changed mostly due to clothes. Baggy (well, straight-cut) jeans and similar items do a great job making one look shorter. In the second outfit (from previous experiment) I wore Chelsea boots, so in that case I did get an actual extra cm or so due to the heel/soles.
/r/seduction04/08/15 03:03 AM
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If you'd be willing to do a similar experiment (survey women), I'd be happy to consult you regarding clothes / grooming for maximum results. Send me a pm if you'd be up for it. (I'll be logging out for the night in a minute and would respond sometime tomorrow) EDIT: This is an open invitation for shorter guys btw
/r/seduction03/08/15 06:58 PM
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Great points. I've first experimented with skin coloration from diet (vegetables), but this didn't lead to noticeable results, got a subtle tan simply from spending more time in the sun (I'm naturally a pale bastard :) ). Overall, the issue I have with tanning is it's long-term effects on skin. I'm aware that it would look better in the short term, but I'm still on the fence when it comes to cost-benefits in the long run. As for facial hair, you're right - I would look better with a short beard …
/r/seduction03/08/15 06:54 PM
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I'm actually convinced that if we did an experiment with someone, who's around the height of an average woman, the perceived height would be bigger than his actual height (assuming clothes and hairstyle/facial hair are chosen right)... Now I just need to find someone to help me prove it :)
/r/seduction03/08/15 06:34 PM
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/r/seduction03/08/15 04:48 PM
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Haha, fair enough, but I'm not writing a scientific paper on this. The outcome would not justify the resources needed to conduct such a study that you described. This i like asking my family to tell me how cool i am. Now that's stretching it.
/r/seduction03/08/15 03:36 PM
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Not that I'm aware off. Though it would be an interesting experiment because it's a more personal question than "can you rate attractiveness", no idea how this would play out.
/r/seduction03/08/15 02:48 PM
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Technically, yes. But if it was that easy to implement, less-than-pretty girls would get no love as every guy would act as confident in front of super-attractive women as they do with women they don't find desirable. (There are certain qualities in women that I still find somewhat intimidating too) But yeah, as long as you manage to act and be in front of her as you would with any other girl, you're good to go - it's not a guaranteed success (of course!) but you'll have a fighting chance :)
/r/seduction03/08/15 01:02 PM
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I'd say a much better resource would be this: blackdragonblog.com His tone might come off a bit harsh at times, but this guy knows his stuff to a point and a lot of the advice there would address OP's exact situation and help get into the dating world a better man as a result (it's also seduction-friendly, not like artofmanliness)
/r/seduction03/08/15 07:41 AM
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If you find yourself intimidated by her success that's pretty much a done deal (not in a good way). But that's your emotional issue and has nothing to do with her success in life. However, I think it's Mark Manson who wrote that your "potential for success" matters more than your current success when it comes to attractiveness. I completely agree with this. But even if you take this out of equation you're still highly over-thinking this. woman who is probably looking at men who are in the same '…
/r/seduction03/08/15 06:31 AM
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First off, unless you're deformed or something there's no good reason staying "a 5" - physique can be improved (and camouflaged/emphasized via style), grooming can significantly change how your face looks, etc., etc. I'll make a thread here about it later, but I did an experiment to see how clothes alone affect perceived attractiveness (we surveyed women on the street). Result - 6.14 to 7.71 going from average to good style. After this experiment, I spent 6 months focusing on physique, skin care…
/r/seduction03/08/15 05:39 AM
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Yes, had a couple of lays that where done before I even had a chance to talk due to reputation of being a good lay and looking hot. Great sex is scarce, even for hot women. That said, group dynamics matter whether they'd be actually willing to sleep with you.
/r/seduction31/07/15 11:36 AM
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I did an intensive course on meditation, well, relatively intensive, for a month. For the first week meditated daily for 20 min, next week 30 min, up to 45 min per day. Now I only meditate on an on an off basis, usually before important events and occasionally before going out. All I can say - meditation is freaking awesome and is probably the easiest solution to most of the BS self-talk, self-analyzing, over-thinking, etc. Highly recommended.
/r/seduction31/07/15 11:09 AM
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Become a sociopath? We all care what others think of us (degree and which groups of people vary of course) and that's fine. The reason I find myself not approaching is because I know that the conversation will always be boring. BS self-talk. How can you give something an honest shot if you're already going there with expectations that it's going to suck? I want to have fun with my interactions but I don't know how. Do you want to have fun or do you want to appear smooth, cool, funny, charming to…
/r/seduction26/07/15 07:02 AM
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It "doesn't get more sexual", you MAKE it more sexual: * Kino (touching). No, you don't need an excuse. * Talk less (vacuum). Alternatively talk about dating/sex. * Eye contact. * Don't break tension (when you get that tingling tension in your stomach don't break with laughter/defusing comments, etc.) * Dancing can be great too, if you know what you're doing.
/r/seduction13/07/15 06:12 AM
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First off, when it comes to Tinder (and other online dating platforms) it's not how good looking you are, but how well you present yourself in photos - angles, facial expressions, style, how you display your physique, context (environment/people/activity), etc., etc. simply said quality of the photo depends as much as your actual looks. Generally if you're good handsome guy, you should have plenty of matches, spending very little time in the process. Now that we got this out of the way, sure Tin…
/r/seduction11/07/15 06:04 AM
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A style breakdown / critique / suggestions for someone, who's in a similar situation as you (about 30, lean, below average height, shaved head): http://www.girlschase.com/content/styled-summer-style-consultation Your social life/people you hang out with/budget/women you're going for will dictate the specifics but this should help you get started in the right direction. MFA is great for dressing well, but there are some nuances when it comes to dressing for seduction/pick-up if you want optimal r…
/r/seduction10/07/15 08:12 AM
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I was a little skeptical when I saw that it's a reddit comment, but damn, it's actually quite neat, simple and practical. I'll include it for now and if we ever get a more comprehensive/detailed guide replace it. Thank you for this recommendation!
/r/seduction10/07/15 05:31 AM
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Interesting, can you elaborate on the reasoning/provide some sources for pros/cons?
/r/seduction10/07/15 05:26 AM
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Indeed, fitness is not my expertise. Anyway, care to elaborate/offer alternatives? Also, by "junk" do you mean that if followed those approaches will not lead to improved physique, assuming the goal is simply lean and muscular physique (not preparing for a competition or w/e)? Because here's the thing, I didn't just pick them randomly from google but I've seen dozens of men using that core approach (nuances change from program to program) significantly improve their physique. I'm really curious.
/r/seduction09/07/15 04:28 AM
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Yeah, can't say about their personal development/general advice stuff - never watched it.
/r/seduction09/07/15 04:22 AM
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Haha, that's the simplified version, but yeah, the topic is not exact science and can feel a bit overwhelming.
/r/seduction09/07/15 04:21 AM
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Hey man, That sucks, I know. Have you visited a dermatologist? I don't have experience or can refer to any guide on using make-up as a male either.
/r/seduction09/07/15 04:19 AM
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Thank you, I'll check it out and add later. Edit: added to the list.
/r/seduction09/07/15 04:14 AM
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It's not really rocket science to notice that the survey is less than perfect - recognizability (though to counter this argument, even if we take Brad's physique out of equation male choice (Zyzz?) didn't make it even in women's top 3), tattoos, skin, photo color, pose were not controlled but did in fact affect the results. At this point I really think that fitness industry did to men's body image what fashion did to women's body image - the former thinks that they need to look like comic superh…
/r/seduction09/07/15 04:13 AM
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She may even gain more respect for you for wanting to get to know her better before hopping into bed with her. Sorry, but this is romantic comedy type of bs. The main difference is that you will turn off women, who are looking for sex and have high drive and put yourself into provider category - great if you want to go on dates, meet her parents, etc. (or become an orbiter) but not so great if you're looking for a promiscuous lifestyle (whether thats FBs or casual relationships) It's also not un…
/r/seduction08/07/15 01:07 PM
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Great reply. If you own it "oh my... look what you did to me. Bad girl!" it's hot. If you're embarrassed/shy about it like actively trying to hide it, it's awkward.
/r/seduction08/07/15 06:05 AM
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However, what I feel is , with each day passed I am getting older and still alone. And that's exactly why you should stick with - the only person who can change this is you. Some men find seduction community (whether that's seddit/sedfast /old masf/or sites like GirlsChase) after a bad break up, some men who find it already get laid and want to polish their skills (maybe make it a career one day) and then there's people like you (and me), who found it because we never even had someone to have a …
/r/seduction07/07/15 09:40 AM
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If you want to be direct that's fine (whether it will work or not in this particular situation is hard to tell due to lack of context), but come on, get a bit more creative: "Feeling kinky tonight? Leave your panties at home and come over to my place, I'm gonna do bad things to you" (again, whether it works or not is all about the context) If you're afraid of getting burned, there's always the ever-popular "how about a glass of wine tonight?" :)
/r/seduction07/07/15 06:06 AM
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Wow... I'm so sorry to hear that 3 months of action didn't magically fix a decade of neglected social/romantic life. Look, sorry to sound like a dick here, but you need to be a bit more realistic with your expectations and how long it will take to progress. You're basically starting from scratch when it comes social/romantic life and it will take time to get real results - the fact that you had three dates is an achievement that you should celebrate! Now, you're also playing the game on hard mod…
/r/seduction07/07/15 05:54 AM
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As in having a woman get under the sheets with you, take off her panties, your pajama bottoms and sit on you? That happened only once. Oh, and once or twice woke up after a party from a bj, but that was from someone I've already slept with in the past. But seriously, sure it helps, by a large margin, but you still need to make things happen (or simply not fuck it up too bad).
/r/seduction07/07/15 05:42 AM
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First off, as someone mentioned, you need to get comfortable with silence and not talking. It's difficult to find topics if your mind goes into panic mode the moment you're alone with someone or there's a moment of silence. Secondly, ask questions - especially in seduction (and I suspect business too), you want to direct the conversation but NOT be the one doing all the talking. On a side note, I've been experimenting with a daily practice of speaking into the camera for ~15 minutes (about anyth…
/r/seduction07/07/15 05:28 AM
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No offense taken, don't worry about it :) I would like to point out one thing - the Before photo is literally the result of not taking care of myself for a month; so for anyone reading this - if you think that's an "okay" look, chances are, this is an area where you should improve or it might end up holding you back. As for the new look, I'm well aware that it will turn some people down and I'm okay with that. Still, it's a more dressed up version of what I usually rock, a better example would b…
/r/seduction01/07/15 11:17 AM
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Brilliant point! I can say from my own life that the areas that I feel are the strongest in my life right now are those that hurt the most 10 or 5 years ago (appearance is among those). Desire to improve is great, of course, but we cannot ignore that it's a thin line to a point where something can become an unhealthy obsession - loosing weight turns to anorexia, improving musculature leads to using steroids and similar crap, improving your style leads to becoming addicted to designer brands/shop…
/r/seduction01/07/15 10:09 AM
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That's actually great! Chances are you won't find your major passion at first time (very few are lucky that way), so experiment with various things until something really captivates.
/r/seduction01/07/15 10:00 AM
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Short answer: A good routine should consist of washing / toning / moisturizing and occasionally exfoliating - the products you should be looking for will depend on your skin type. Go to a site like mankind.co.uk there are some guides to help you identify your skin type and look for products that are designed for that type. Personally I'm using a combination of Men-U products for dry-sensitive skin. Though I'll probably get back to Acne.org kit for a few months as last month was quite stressful (…
/r/seduction01/07/15 09:58 AM
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Haha, yeah, never underestimate the drunk factor!
/r/seduction01/07/15 07:04 AM
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Brilliant! Your appreciation for these changes is inspiring.
/r/seduction01/07/15 07:03 AM
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That awkward moment when you see a comment and think you just been called a "drama queen" (in a pretty cool manner, I must add), only to google the name and realize that it's a real name and person...
/r/seduction01/07/15 07:00 AM
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The "correct" answer here (at least from pick up's perspective) is to go and incrementally practice. But considering you're still 15, I'll throw another option to the table - try to find something you're passionate about (other than those pretty ladies) and focus on that. You don't necessarily need to stop approaching and meeting women (you shouldn't top) but you have an opportunity to build solid foundations so early that by the time you're in your early twenties you'll have amazing ground-work…
/r/seduction01/07/15 06:56 AM
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It's by far the most underrated piece of item in a man's wardrobe - a well-chosen vest can make any physique appear more visually attractive than it is (emphasize the V-form). Almost mandatory for chubbier guys, who need to hide beer gut.
/r/seduction01/07/15 06:48 AM
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Labai džiaugiuosi, kad patiko.
/r/seduction01/07/15 06:39 AM
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From what you wrote, no, you're probably not in the friend zone (at least not yet), but damn you're inviting shitloads of drama into your life with this: -Work romance? Check. -You're the superior? Check. -She already slept with another colleague? Check. -Jealousy plot because she's likely isn't over that other guy? Check. Look, work romances are fun and all, but I just hope you understand the possible consequences that are awaiting even if "all goes well" and you sleep with her. Be smart. Perso…
/r/seduction23/06/15 09:54 AM
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Yes, it's a very good sign and an indication of interest.
/r/seduction23/06/15 09:47 AM
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I've tested photos that had a lot of DHV (travel, etc.) and had profiles (Tinder/OKC) that only had one great photo (no DHV) - both can perform equally well. Though DHV photos often lead to some conversation starters. The only thing that matters in the end is that you look freaking good - grooming and style all the way (unless you have a great physique, then keep your style tight but simple). If you want, pm and I'll show you what I actually used. Beware, every shitty photo will be used to disqu…
/r/seduction13/06/15 03:11 PM
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"social ain't shit" - I think it's 60yoc, who first wrote it years ago but it's as true as it gets. Unless you present yourself as a sexual man, you're going to stay that orbiter, who's fun to have around but unfuckable. Two things to work on: 1. Escalate during interactions (kino ftw) 2. Your image Because you wrote that you're not getting matches on Tinder it means that the second one definitely sucks (Tinder is all about photos after all), the first one is major issue for most who start out o…
/r/seduction12/06/15 02:15 PM
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Unless you're quite literally deformed by an accident/physical condition there's no reason why you should be "3 out of 10" (even then I'm sure we could get at least to a 5 by stacking every advantage). With "an ugly face" and average body you can easily get into 6-7 range simply by dressing solid (tested). Add sexy grooming on top (skin care/hairstyle/facial hair) and working out (if you're willing to "get a good job and get rich", I don't see why you wouldn't be willing to spend a year or so wo…
/r/seduction09/06/15 02:41 PM
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Yes, being smart/well-educated/sophisticated/successful doesn't make a woman desire attraction/sex less. Lately, this is the type of women I screen for personally.
/r/seduction06/06/15 05:44 PM
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Yup, that's it! If you can take a class - afro-latin (bachata/kizomba; I personally prefer to incorporate more from kizomba) is the way to go. As for tips - get close, very close and when you think you're close when dancing, get closer.
/r/seduction04/06/15 02:38 PM
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No, I don't think so. It just puts focus on different parts of the game. The way I see it the goal is a satisfying sex life, not having the most "game" Personally, I prefer to stack the odds in my favor as much as possible, so that meeting and sleeping with women takes as little effort as possible, this way I can focus the mental energy on the big picture things in my life and, indeed, Tinder if executed right is quite efficient in this regard.
/r/seduction02/06/15 05:24 PM
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Did it for a short while, definitely fun and a great experience in general (would recommend simply as a cool hobby), but I wouldn't say it did anything to directly improve my performance with women. Being too good at the social part of the game can be dangerous as it's very tempting to just stay there and skip being sexual.
/r/seduction01/06/15 02:26 PM
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Did she make any counter suggestions for meet ups? I.e. "Sorry busy tomorrow, but I have Friday off" Most likely she just used you for sex (or the sex was "meh"). Anyway, you can try pinging her again (invite her straight to your place) in a week or so, but generally just move on.
/r/seduction31/05/15 03:21 PM
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Let's start by dropping the numbers - they are fine when you're running experiments and want some tangible data, but it's a very damaging way to look at things in general. Let's use a hypothetical example to illustrate this - let's say you start trying to convince yourself that you're a 10/10, in theory this would mean that all women find you desirable and super attractive (which is of course impossible) - then every time you try to work your magic on a women that for one reason or the other don…
/r/seduction28/05/15 03:15 PM
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You're right. Heck, I'm the guy who did an experiment to see how simply changing clothes from average to good changes perceived attractiveness (the answer is 6 to 8 in my case hehe) I guess I didn't make myself clear - "It's all mental at this point" was specifically for OP's case as he can improve his actual looks as much as he want, until he overcomes his imaginary limitations it won't be effective (he'd be an equivalent of a hot chick with low self-esteem). Anyone who went significant physica…
/r/seduction27/05/15 11:41 AM
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This^ It's really about your self-perception. I would start by noticing your self-talk, are you THAT guy that gets hot girls? Or maybe you're more "yeah, I'm okay, I guess. I had some successes after all. I'm sometimes confident and assertive." It's all mental at this point. (Am I allowed to post links in comments?) Check this article for a more in depth look on self-perception and how to develop yours: http://www.girlschase.com/content/how-your-self-perception-can-make-or-break-your-night
/r/seduction26/05/15 03:00 PM
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To answer your question - no, not necessarily. Teens - mid 20s is when it generally the easiest (drunken parties, social circle, everyone is horny out of their mind, etc.) but frankly if you're pretty much unfuckable right now (have no game, don't know how to present yourself well/look attractive) it can only get better from there. Personally, I only started getting some success at 21 and the progress since has been exponential year after year and now, at 26, it really doesn't look like it's abo…
/r/seduction25/05/15 03:40 PM
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If I may ask, whats your job? I do style consulting for men, specializing heavily in style for dating. Probably the best way to make significant changes is to do a wardrobe clean up. Get rid of clothes that are not meeting the standards that you would like your new image to have (this can be done all at once, or piece by piece as you get better items). That's assuming that you don't plan any further physique transformations any time soon :) (btw, good job on that!)
/r/seduction18/02/15 03:08 PM
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Actually, style (fashion is a ridiculous word) is one of those skills where the top 1-5% reap all the benefits. Having terrible style (think basketball shorts and oversized tees) can be a deal breaker, average style (fit is mostly fine, same "nice" items that every other guy in the venue is wearing) is where you stop shooting yourself in the foot. You will start seeing some benefits when you start building something unique, less casual and less conservative, benefits will usually be in a form of…
/r/seduction17/02/15 04:25 PM
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If I lived my life like I truly wanted to... Do it. Seriously, if you know what you actually enjoy doing, do it. Screw those activities "not being social" You know why you have trouble keeping conversation? Because the topics people you surround yourself with are talking about are boring you to death. What you're doing right now is obviously not working - change it. At worst, you'll enjoy your life doing what you love. At best, you'll encounter few more people who love the same stuff and you'll …
/r/seduction16/02/15 04:32 PM
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Be fun, attractive and fuckable Yup, that's it, we can close this /r/ now
/r/seduction16/02/15 12:06 PM
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Am I the only who finds it ironic that the approach advocated lead to a torn shoulder and "put me out of the gym for 1 year", which means while he's beating his chest how hardcore he is, "less supreme" men are in the gym doing work the smart way that is sustainable for life.
/r/seduction16/02/15 06:46 AM
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You're absolutely right, I'd go as far as to say that most people are looking for that, even though not everyone would like to admit that. Also, my bad if my first comment came off as if no woman can be monogamous without cheating. And yet, craving sexual variety is in our human nature (in a good way). Sure, both men and women can suppress it, certain personality types do it better than others, having certain beliefs/upbringing can have an impact, having low sex drive definitely helps. And yet, …
/r/seduction16/02/15 05:17 AM
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When you're no longer chasing the fantasy of "the one", you realize that there's nothing morally wrong with sleeping around, at worst it's just a minor case of lying. The way I see it, guys who have a problem with is are those who still cling to illusion of purity and that they, themselves will one day find a girl to settle down with and she will never, ever cheat on him (hint: she will :) Probably ) That said, I do find BF-destroyer techniques distasteful. Why would you want to lower someone el…
/r/seduction15/02/15 07:04 PM
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Fair enough, what kind of friends you'd enjoy spending time with? What would you do together? How you'd enjoy spending time when you're alone?
/r/seduction12/02/15 05:14 PM
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What do you want to do? How do you want to spend time? I mean, not how you think you should do/spent time, but let's say you instantly super cool, confident, have plenty of women, friends and all that la la la - how would you spend your days? What would be your goals, aims?
/r/seduction12/02/15 03:50 PM
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You have a point, really. Waiting for motivation to do something is quite ridiculous, just ask anyone who tried writing a book, start a business, get into great shape, etc. (EDIT: Sorry, if you ask someone who "TRIED" to do those they will tell you that motivation is super important, if you ask someone who actually "DID THAT", they'll tell you to get back to work.) But if we're talking about long-term we really need to learn to love the process (or adjust it so we can actually stick to it) If ev…
/r/seduction12/02/15 03:39 PM
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I really don't see where's the problem here. As long as your frame from the start was that it's a casual fling, there shouldn't be any problems, heck, it can even make things easier (great way to maintain the casual status for years). For me, meeting them once a month (or occasionally once every couple of months) with little to no communication in between has been standard and haven't had issues with this approach at all. From the start those women knew that I'm a busy guy. Here's couple of cave…
/r/seduction12/02/15 07:31 AM
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Move on, You're mentally over-invested in this girl already, even in case of success (you go out / have sex) you're in the danger zone for getting a one-itis.
/r/seduction10/02/15 02:46 PM
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Quick tip: avoid photoshoots in the studio; it should look natural, not staged. Somewhere outdoors (in the city, outside the cafe, etc.) work best.
/r/seduction10/02/15 09:19 AM
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Simple, don't smile. Statistically you're better off not smiling in photos anyway (http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/the-4-big-myths-of-profile-pictures/ )
/r/seduction10/02/15 09:01 AM
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Good photo above all else in Tinder (and other online dating)! That said, no need to overcomplicate this. My top performing photo to date: http://sexystyleforjoe.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/09/20121123-_IGP0150-e1379775839399.jpg Simple casual outfit + pretty good photographer (cost me 40$ for 1 hour) = solid results :) Nearly perfect rating on beautifulpeople.com, plenty of unsolicited messages on OKC (before getting banned haha) and ~80% match rate on Tinder, when combined with a few others (h…
/r/seduction10/02/15 08:51 AM
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