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ADVICEDarkBaddie/r/RedPillWomen23/11/23 06:03 PM
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I’m not one to give relationship advice. If I were in this situation, I would apologize for what I thought I could have done better in. Maybe you could have let him know there was something off with the flavor and offered it to him before you threw it away? His reaction of threatening divorce is serious. When he’s settled for the day, I would tell him I love him, how important he is to your mutual family, how much he means to you, then try to go down on him without asking for permission. Nothing…
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/23 05:52 AM
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Just want to add this whole “spreading your seed” is not sustainable and I don’t think is “natural”. I think it’s natural for men to have a high sex drive and to be attracted to women. But do men actually want to go around impregnating the women they are attracted to? No, they want to have sex with them; they DO NOT want to have children lying around everywhere! Also, if this were a “natural” desire, then I wouldn’t understand why men aren’t attracted to high mileage women. To me, they instincti…
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/23 12:12 AM
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Oy, then to endure diatribes of how he’s the best leader, best everything really, gets so taxing.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/23 08:08 PM
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He’s agreed to get a job, but he feels I have put him through emotional abuse and put him through an “emotional title wave” when I spent time in the other room because I was so furious and needed to control myself.
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/23 02:38 AM
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Answer to 1 is yes. Definitely my main issue. He says it’s mostly our arguments, but I don’t start the arguments. I would much rather discuss our topics. Answer to 2 is yes, but I am trying to be as concise as possible in this cluster. One of the areas we discussed was the things in our relationship which challenge my trust in his headship. One of those things is being able to be vulnerable with him and to feel protected. Definitely a deal breaker. Last night, he said he got a tip on a job nearb…
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/23 05:14 PM
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This has crossed my mind many times. I feel demeaned because if he was by himself, he would need to work, so he’s giving me less than he’d give himself. If he’s with any other woman, she’s not going to be able to support him through retirement. He did mention he’s gotten a tip on a job which pays well and is close by. Regardless, I am fully prepared to walk away because he’ll be completely okay if we aren’t together, so I definitely shouldn’t be feeling guilty at all. This thread has helped a to…
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/23 04:37 PM
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Gah damn. I have been trying to hold myself back to be calm and have been giving myself space to think clearly. This morning, I wrote down the main items which hurt the worse on being excluded from the family meal yesterday. I made us coffee and asked if he was ready to talk about what happened. After saying my four main items, he said I was being emotional about the situation, he had nothing to apologize and started degrading me by saying I was being insane. I can’t be the person I need to be w…
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/23 03:50 PM
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Definitely not a way to be able to save for retirement!
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/23 02:25 AM
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I have been tolerant because I wanted to be supportive when he’s been sick. But he’s not that ill anymore. I wanted to give him time to turn it around, but he’s shown me what he’s willing to not do to keep our household together or to treat me in a way to show he cherishes me. Sure, I am important to him, but that’s not the same thing.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/23 02:24 AM
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My first failure is that he is actually the first guy I had been with. We had reconnected once before, but I ran quickly. This time, I was coming off a divorce a year prior. He said he was working as a safety manager for a large company, but was on FMLA to take care of his dad’s medical needs. Turns out, he had been laid off for abusing the leave on this occasion and a time prior when he was medically ill. He became medically ill and I wanted to be there for him, but fully expecting him to start…
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/23 11:48 PM
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Such a hard hitting comment, but it’s relevant and important. Thank you
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/23 10:08 PM
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Loyalty, love, and guilt. All self-imposed.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/23 08:54 PM
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I wish I could feel like I need him. The things he does around the house are nice, but not to the extent where I feel like I can’t do without him. When we had separated, sure, there was more work around the house, but I was still able to focus on my job and get my dog training in. Here’s the thing: I am a damn golden goose to this man. I don’t degrade or boss him around or hold the financial situation over his head in any damn way. I just want him to buy us food. That’s it. Keep us fed and I wil…
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/23 07:37 PM
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I wish I could answer in the affirmative to any of your questions. I definitely feel like I am getting less than he would give himself because he will tell me things about what he used to do, such as cleaning his entire house each week despite working 12 hour days, and I am looking around my place and discouraged by the condition. It’s slightly cleaner than when I was single and working two jobs. He had agreed to cook more, but that declined and he started saying he was weak because there was NO…
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/23 07:29 PM
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It’s definitely been a mental gymnastics exercise for me to struggle against my loyalties and making a healthy decision for my future. We separated a few months ago and I explained some of the things I struggle with which I said actually tell me to be independent of him. If we were to marry, I wouldn’t get the option of picking when I am cooperative. I want to be cooperative, but this isn’t the environment. I can’t even talk to people I know about this because it’s so shameful to be putting up w…
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/23 07:04 PM
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I feel like I have allowed enough time for him to show me what he’s capable of and willing to give. I had been trying to be supportive when he was feeling bad, but he’s recently been saying things to insinuate that things he does around the house is enough to justify him not working. If only that were true. I guess it has to hurt to motivate me to take action.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/23 06:58 PM
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I’m white, so I don’t have the same experience as a black lady would have with constant micro-situations which cause derision and exclusion for no reason. I won’t go into detail on what I mean by that, but you being closed off and tense isn’t your fault, but it is your problem. I applaud you for wanting to overcome your internal struggles and the external stereotypes!!! I would recommend starting with smiling. Men will often tell women they want to see them smile because it’s more appealing. You…
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/23 02:32 PM
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I want to echo the sentiment of looking past those who aren’t interested. They just aren’t in your target market. If they are stuck on letting a stereotype get in the way of the type of people they would start a family with, then they aren’t someone you want to be with anyways. Everything that glitters isn’t gold!
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/23 02:20 PM
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If you aren’t attractive to him, then (1) why did he ‘stay’ and (2) will your relationship be sustainable? There may be more to the story and you don’t need to explain here. But I really suggest you work on root causes because there’s a lot more to work on than just you. One thing about choosing a guy is being able to always cooperate with him, which requires him to cherish you. A submissive woman can only flourish when she feels safe and protected.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/23 02:09 PM
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In my marriage (now divorced), we had sex about 2-3 times a week. We were younger and were pretty emotionally open with each other. In my current relationship (of a year and seven months), we struggle with a dead bedroom. I want more and won’t marry into this situation. He needs things to be a certain way before he can have sex.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/23 02:04 PM
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No matter how much he says he wants this, you will never look the same to him afterwards. Don’t do it.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/23 12:43 AM
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Yes, it will. As one of the billions of women who have made poor decisions in the past, I attest that therapy will help you find the relationship you desire.
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/22 05:47 PM
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You have two choices: Therapy or being alone. Men see marriage as obligation. Who wants to be obligated to a family member who thinks marriage is the solution to their emotional issues? You’re the sort of woman good men run from and bad men pray on. The definition of crazy is a proverb for a reason.
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/22 05:41 PM
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Sounds like your own issue is with your body image. I would LOVE to be 150 lbs. Now, I am fat. I miss being thin as I was in my younger years, but my lifestyle choices messed that up. Being fat isn’t something beyond your power. You can’t change it now, but you can change that for your future self. You’re focusing your self-hatred on men; and no wonder…your state of mind seems to have you picking lower character men. Stop looking for a husband now because you need to work on yourself. A good hus…
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/22 05:36 PM
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I would respect his entire freedom by letting him completely go. I don’t have time for non-monogamy nor the time to figure out if I can trust. If it makes you feel strange, it probably is. And anyone knows this is a situation they would not want to be in.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/22 07:14 PM
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I don’t understand the ‘mis-step’ either. I am completely lost.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/22 04:13 PM
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My best friend stayed with her fiancé when he made a baby under her with his baby mama. Three years later, he made a third baby with baby mama, and my friend finally decided to divorce him. Personally, I would leave.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/22 08:36 PM
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