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It's a cult - an organization that feeds on suffering and provides an easy explanation for failing that places the blame on factors outside of their control Disproving that disproves their entire world and self identity and removes the convenient, comforting excuses they've been telling themselves
/r/ExRedPill15/02/22 06:37 PM
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I would still think their advice would be valuable; maybe they can provide some insight you may have overlooked Also no judgment, everyone likes what they like, but what's wrong with tattoos? Do you have a religious proscription against them? You may be artificially limiting your dating pool that way
/r/ExRedPill03/02/22 04:39 PM
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I'm sorry you had that experience I'm still friendly with my exes; we broke up because we weren't romantically compatible, not because we didn't like each other, but I realize not everyone has that experience Still, you should ask female friends why you aren't having success with your dating profile if you want to continue using them
/r/ExRedPill03/02/22 04:24 PM
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But that might be what you need Guys are notoriously bad at knowing what women find attractive. You said you're having difficulty finding matches with dating apps, that's the most common issue. Have good pictures with proper lighting, have a profile that goes in depth about who you are, mostly put in effort. Have someone else (preferably women whose opinions on men you trust) to make sure you're not accidentally sending the wrong signals. Ask your exes what attracted them to you, if there's anyt…
/r/ExRedPill03/02/22 08:45 AM
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Women are directly and negatively impacted by redpill thinking. They have a vested interest in supporting those that are trying to escape its toxic mindset
/r/ExRedPill25/01/22 06:07 PM
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Absolutely, the brain is incredibly plastic and no attitude is intrinsic to a person. Broad personality is usually pretty set but thoughts and any higher order reactions are all ultimately conscious actions Generally I think any unplanned or unconsciously developed thought pattern takes half as long to undo with conscious effort. Whether that's getting over a relationship, dealing with trauma and its aftermath, or problematic beliefs, anything you've picked up over time will take at least 50% of…
/r/ExRedPill14/01/22 06:58 AM
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"Have it easier" doesn't mean "had it easy" You see this a lot with white fragility - "what do you mean white people have it easier, nobody gave me anything, I've had to work hard all my life and I'm barely scraping by" - and they can be right! But if that same person had to go through everything they did, but also with dark skin, would it serve to make things easier or harder for them? Almost certainly harder, given our culture and society built upon racism. The analogy I've heard is that it's …
/r/ExRedPill08/01/22 05:06 PM
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before TRP, I was super beta and a nice guy. I was shy, feminine, super respectful, kind, followed rules, awkward around girls, spent a bunch of time playing video games, got bullied, couldn’t even do 10 pushups, socially awkward, etc. I couldn’t even get a girl to talk to me. You were a shy and awkward teenager. Lots of people are like that, it's not a big deal. Also being feminine isn't an intrinsically bad thing I got into TRP a little under 2 years ago in late high school, and despite doing …
/r/ExRedPill05/11/21 12:10 PM
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If you're an abusive or immature person yourself is the obvious answer
/r/ExRedPill05/11/21 11:31 AM
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Okay.
/r/ExRedPill02/11/21 01:02 PM
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You are incorrect about Elliot Rodger, people still think he (or at least his photograph) is good-looking, just like they do with Bundy. In person was probably different because Rodger was probably obsessed with his own (misperceived) inadequacies whereas Bundy was focused on preying on people and exploiting their sympathy. But I specifically remember people being flabbergasted that Rodger had trouble with dating just based on his appearance. You've gone from saying confidence didn't matter at a…
/r/ExRedPill01/11/21 12:46 PM
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Because human beings aren't perfectly logical robots. In most cases you don't know their entire relationship history, the things that happen behind the scenes. Abusers will often start off as Prince Charming and then, consciously or not, start escalating abusive behavior. The victim is stuck constantly chasing that early relationship high. Common fallacies include "I can save him" or "he was nice before, it must be my fault" or "I must deserve this." Abusers will also systematically separate the…
/r/ExRedPill01/11/21 11:50 AM
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Going by the same logic: why have I seen short, conventionally unattractive men having success dating and tall, attractive men consistently fail to get more than a first date? It's because individual data points don't define the entire trend. There is no one thing that will guarantee romantic success, just as there is no one thing that will guarantee failure with everyone. Individual traits and behaviors just alter the probability Red pillers consistently over-value physical traits like height, …
/r/ExRedPill01/11/21 11:29 AM
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It's definitely this. I define confidence as "the knowledge that no matter the outcome, good or bad, you will be the equal of it." Nobody likes rejection, but a confident person can get rejected and not resent the other person, shrugging it off and still caring for them as another person. You never have to walk on eggshells around a confident person, and it's nice to be around someone that exudes an aura of "I got this, you don't need to worry about me" Is it easier to be confident when you've a…
/r/ExRedPill01/11/21 01:53 AM
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I define confidence as "the knowledge that no matter the outcome, you will be the equal of what happens." A confident person isn't a braggart - they have nothing to prove and nobody to impress, and are not diminished by someone else's success. Indeed, a confident person will try to build up other people instead of overshadowing them. A confident person isn't arrogant, which I will define as having a sense of superiority over others. They have the humility to know they aren't the best in the worl…
/r/ExRedPill20/10/21 01:34 AM
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Yes, I do The things I mentioned aren't going to apply to every specific case, that was the entire point. ON AVERAGE, the burden falls on women. But women are people just like men, so you can have deadbeat thoughtless careless women just like you can have caring, considerate, thoughtful men. But when a man is seen spending time alone with his kids or takes them to all their doctors appointments or acting as homemaker, it's USUALLY perceived as outside the norm and commented upon. "Oh good for yo…
/r/ExRedPill14/10/21 10:56 PM
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Women are culturally expected to be the one to remember birthdays and buy gifts, to do laundry, to cook and clean and decorate the house, to buy groceries, to take care of children, to care for sick and elderly family members, schedule doctor and other appointments, to remember all the things that need to be done, AND after a full-time job. Nobody explicitly asks women to do it, but if they don't then people start judging and the weight of that falls disproportionately on women. Or sometimes it'…
/r/ExRedPill14/10/21 10:19 AM
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That's the rough part of growing up Hopefully at some point you'll realize that whether you sleep with them or not, or they ghost you or not, none of that has any bearing on who you are and becoming the kind of person you want to be. If you want to have sex, have sex! If you don't, don't use as a way to get others' approval or attention or respect - sure you'll lose some people in the process, but you shouldn't entertain them anyway. Once you have a solid foundation for yourself, your values and…
/r/ExRedPill28/09/21 12:17 AM
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I'm so sorry you had to go through all this, and I'm glad you seem to have found some measure of peace. I'm sure you know this already but you are not responsible for the actions of others, and something happening to you does not define you. Proud of you for being a survivor and for working through all that trauma
/r/ExRedPill25/09/21 11:03 AM
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That advice is the right thing for the wrong reasons Yes, women are typically smothered by men constantly trying to use them for sex. It's exhausting constantly dealing with attempts to get into your pants, to say nothing of endless harassment, plus the fear that if you don't let them down easy enough they'll blow up at you, but if you do it too easily they might start stalking you. Someone hanging on their every word making them the center of attention and the world is just more of the same, an…
/r/ExRedPill22/09/21 12:19 PM
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Ok well her posting and flirting on social media, peacocking if that is such a description, irritates me. It makes me feel jealous. I’m at a very low point right now. I don’t want to tell her that because I have experience of showing weakness and either being ignored or taken advantage of based on past experiences. I find that she won’t end the relationship if I just “man up” and stop expressing these feelings. Ok so there's several things going on here, and their seriousness and responsibility …
/r/ExRedPill12/09/21 04:25 PM
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Have a conversation with her, explain your insecurities (and that they're your issues, not hers) and discuss how you want to deal with them. If she cares about you and your feelings, you should be able to work out something together, whether it's just reassurances from her or you working on therapy or her doing things slightly differently. However, you should ditch "hypergamy" from your lexicon - it's false and foolish bullshit, because women are just like men and it doesn't exist any more than …
/r/ExRedPill12/09/21 03:41 PM
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Or maybe that's all bullshit and both men and women remain virgins, get in relationships, and have sex at approximately the same rate According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, the average age Americans lose their virginity (defined here as vaginal sexual intercourse) is 17.1 for both men and women. The CDC also reports that virgins make up 12.3 percent of females and 14.3 percent of males ages 20 to 24. That number drops below 5 percent for both male and female virgins ages 25…
/r/ExRedPill06/09/21 11:47 AM
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You're going to be a mess at first. If this is your first ever breakup/cheating, it'll probably feel like the world is ending. This is normal, and it's ok to be devastated. The important thing to remember is that everyone goes through some versions of this, and that you're not alone. It won't be like this forever, and eventually you'll be able to look back on this with equanimity. You deserve someone that wants you for you. Whoever you thought this other person was, they weren't it.
/r/ExRedPill29/08/21 02:20 PM
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Feminism doesn't seek to have a matriarchal society It seems like a lot of your objections to feminism are based on stereotypes of the "feminazi" archetype - female-supremacists seeking the domination of women over men, instead of the basic "anything a man can do a woman should get to to, and vice versa"
/r/ExRedPill19/08/21 02:55 PM
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Are you assuming all men are rapists because if so that's very bad statement. We do police other guys on our approaches, a lot of men would rather however play videogames that talk about dating, the black and red pill had demoralized an entire gender. If you look at the statistics, male sexless is so much on the rise because men have been abused by the black pill. They feel in hopeless for no justified reason. What about that statement makes you believe I think all or even most men are rapists? …
/r/ExRedPill19/08/21 02:52 PM
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First of all Dating isn't a fucking game. Don't give me that. Why the hostility? All i can guess where you got this idea is my use of the term "zero-sum game" which isn't meant to mean something played for amusement, just that people are using strategies to survive but that one sex's gain isn't intrinsically the other's loss. Social expectations of men is my biggest issues because we are social creatures. Men have the expectation to be the one asking out girls, paying for dates all the time, ini…
/r/ExRedPill19/08/21 01:44 PM
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Feminism IS good for both men and women. Too many people see taking away an unfair advantage as taking away men's rights, when all it's seeking is to even the playing field. Insecure men see women competing with them (and beating them at their own game!) and instead of thinking "I've gotta improve!" they think "those stupid [slur] must be cheating." Women get paid something like 80% of men, regardless of if they have a kid or not. They do the majority of housework, despite 60% working a full job…
/r/ExRedPill19/08/21 12:44 PM
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I've found this very helpful as well. "Can I change this? Do I want to change this? No? Then I'll stop worrying about it." Impulsive and obsessive thoughts are hard to control, and the nature of the brain means the more you think something the more embedded it becomes, so it will take a lot of time and effort to re-wire your brain. But if every time you realize you're indulging in self-pity you take a mental step back and decide "no, I'm not going to do that" eventually THAT becomes the dominant…
/r/ExRedPill17/08/21 02:30 PM
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This is the most complete response I've seen. Pre-victims of red pill are hurting; they are told life should be one way, and yet their life is not that way. In seeking an explanation they come across the red pill, which provides an explanation, provides a community and support, and relieves them of responsibility for their situation. However it's all false drugs and illusions. The explanations are all bunk; even the things they get "right" are from stopped clock effect and not because it has sci…
/r/ExRedPill01/08/21 03:35 PM
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I suspect (I am not sure) that the members of mgtow take advantage of adolescents without a formed criterion and of people who had a love break, to unite them to their sect This is largely correct in my experience. A lot of red pill, incel, mgtow stuff is based on people with "insecure attachment style" trying to find ways to protect themselves. They desperately want love and have experienced trauma from seeking that love. Because they base their worth on people validating their need for love an…
/r/ExRedPill29/07/21 01:33 PM
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Didn't expect to watch this the whole way through. But yeah this is a good summary of red pill fallacies and internal inconsistencies. It matches what I've seen of people that are in it: an "insecure attachment" style and adopting this mindset to avoid past trauma or being hurt in the future.
/r/ExRedPill27/07/21 07:29 AM
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Some great advice here Let's not forget apologizing to your partner and the mother of your child. Tell her that you're sorry for how you've behaved, that you're struggling with some things, and that you'd appreciate her support and understanding as you work through this confusing time. If you feel comfortable you can liken it to deprogramming, because that's what it is
/r/ExRedPill27/07/21 06:54 AM
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Red pill is pseudoscientific bullshit - it has absolutely no basis in actual evolutionary, interpersonal, relationship, or other research, but instead couches all its preconceived conclusions in sciency terms to give it the veneer of legitimacy. This use of jargon is a common feature of cults - and I use that term deliberately. Red Pill like all cults relies on finding people feels dissatisfied with life and gives them a convenient answer for their problems. It showers them with attention and af…
/r/ExRedPill26/07/21 09:34 PM
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dunno man. the inner machinations of my retarded little mind are an enigma, even to myself. sorry if i wasted your time Maybe stop thinking of yourself like that and you can make progress. I don't consider it time wasted even assuming you are trolling, and if you are sincerely a person in crisis then it was time well spent even if it doesn't ultimately work. Still I hope you can find happiness wherever it might be for you, just please try not to take it away from other people.
/r/ExRedPill26/07/21 01:15 PM
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Would I be spending my free time if I didn't think maybe I could help you? It doesn't matter to me if I succeed or not or you're just trolling, I'll have done my best to help someone that seems to need it and been an example to anyone watching from the sidelines. Not everyone has the patience to deal with an abrasive and hateful attitude, so I'm happy to choose to make an effort even if it's ultimately doomed. I'm quite happy with my life and my choices after nearly falling into red pill mentali…
/r/ExRedPill26/07/21 01:09 PM
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So you reply just to say you're not going to reply? What is it you get from these exchanges? Why do you keep putting yourself through it if you've already decided you're not going to change, that everyone else is wrong, that it's just going to make yourself mad? Find something more productive to do with your time if you're not getting anything out of this.
/r/ExRedPill26/07/21 12:57 PM
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People are often instinctively attracted to indicators of health. Muscles take a lot of time, resources, and effort. People are also attracted to confidence, so people who exude an aura of "I can handle anything that comes my way" will naturally be desirable for most people. Equating that with a "bad boy" attitude is the same fallacy as thinking women are attracted to assholes when really it's that many assholes are confident. Regardless, attraction is not uniform and ultimately people are drawn…
/r/ExRedPill26/07/21 12:08 PM
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Has someone gone through something similar? How do I stop this toxic thought process? The first step is recognizing it as toxic and wanting to improve, so that's good you're already along the way! Therapy would be a great second step, as they will be equipped with methods and techniques to help you deal and adapt so you can be the person you want to be. In the meantime, a lot of times narcissism comes from a defense mechanism to deal with insecurity. Someone lacks a sense of inner self-worth, so…
/r/ExRedPill26/07/21 11:40 AM
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its difficult to navigate. i want to maintain my sense of self but also have to face change, this sometimes confuses and frustrates me and im not sure how to handle those emotions when they happen so i can lash out in response. Ok, this is something we can work with. You realize that changing behavior doesn't mean changing anything fundamental about yourself right? If you notice that a particular action is causing strife in your life then you can modify that behavior without altering who you are…
/r/ExRedPill26/07/21 11:27 AM
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Many of them are a "pick me!" mindset. Whether they were already raised to think that way or joined it later, they get to feel special and "one of the good ones"
/r/ExRedPill26/07/21 10:45 AM
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Not everyone is like that, and there are lots of people trying to change society for the better. Many of the people on this sub, for instance, who have donated their time and effort trying to help people in general escape redpill thinking and convince you specifically to abandon the toxic ideas you've internalized. But instead you've decided to focus on one harsh comment, and interpreting it in the meanest way possible, so you can continue wallowing in your own miseries and act with hostility to…
/r/ExRedPill26/07/21 10:01 AM
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I get what you are saying. But why is this sub actively invalidating the experiences of men? I don't understand how you came to this conclusion, how is anything I said invalidating men's experience? I never said anything that implied men didn't experience this phenomenon. When a man (in your eyes, a weak man) tells you that they dont feel comfortable sharing their emotions with people, because they feel that they are ridiculed, or lose value in society... What other purpose would you have to cal…
/r/ExRedPill25/07/21 06:44 PM
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I'm so so sorry about your experience and I totally understand your mindset after it. However I hope your refusal to date men is truly because you're not attracted to them and not just because you're terrified of a relationship with them. Your experience was with someone who used you emotionally, financially, physically to overcome their their problems and transferred their self-hatred onto you instead - they exploited you, consciously or unconsciously, as a scapegoat for their shame. Traditiona…
/r/ExRedPill25/07/21 05:53 PM
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I'm so sorry you think that way, it sounds like a lonely and unpleasant way to live. It sounds like you are surrounded by unpleasant and toxic people who don't care for you or are at minimum buried in their own problems with toxic masculinity. Someone who actually cares about you will want to help and support you when you share your struggles, just as you should want to help and support others when you're able to.
/r/ExRedPill25/07/21 05:38 PM
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I'm confused, I was agreeing with the OP? My intent was to show that revealing weakness is not itself weakness, but rather a sign of strength itself. I was trying to reframe the idea "men must be strong" with the understanding that asking for help doesn't invalidate strength. Someone who can't allow themselves to be vulnerable, reveal weakness, or ask for help will be incredibly fragile and brittle if they're anywhere close to their limits. It's the fragile masculinity mentioned in the image.
/r/ExRedPill25/07/21 05:35 PM
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Who is stronger: someone who can reveal their weaknesses, or someone who cannot allow anyone to know they exist?
/r/ExRedPill24/07/21 05:10 PM
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So proud of you for the effort you're putting in. I know it's not easy but it definitely looks like it's working judging from the outside. I hope you can learn to love and care about yourself like this stranger on the internet does
/r/ExRedPill24/07/21 04:12 PM
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Congratulations on how far you've come, and I'm excited to see how far you'll go! You look great especially in that suit and with that flex! For what it's worth the guy on the right appears significantly happier and more fun to be around
/r/ExRedPill24/07/21 04:09 PM
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You flee to your parents' with your child and anything you can spare. As you feared everyone is shocked and thinks it "just came out of nowhere" and he tells them you're acting crazy, that you're being irrational and emotional. You've lost almost all your friends from your community, and even those that are sympathetic are asking you to do counseling and wondering why you're refusing to consider anything but divorce. He drags things through the courts, trying to keep you from leaving, and becaus…
/r/ExRedPill24/07/21 03:20 PM
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Edit: split into two posts We definitely do have different experiences. Are you the same person you were at 5? At 10? At 15? At 20? So why would someone be the same at 25 or 30? Brains haven't even finished developing executive function control until something like 24 or 25 (it's why car insurance is so high until then, especially for guys). Here's the experience of dozens of women I know from personal experience, and hundreds I personally know who've had some part of this, and going by statisti…
/r/ExRedPill24/07/21 02:54 PM
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It sounds like you're mostly on the right track,though i have some comments. In general they boil down to "being right about a few things doesn't automatically translate into being true; you should expect any viewpoint to be accurate about some things just by random" It's generally a good idea to vet who you date. You definitely don't want to date most single moms, druggies, selfish people, alcoholics, and women who don't have a job or a long term plan. This is what RP gets right. I'd disagree w…
/r/ExRedPill24/07/21 11:49 AM
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This is correct; if someone makes a claim, it's their responsibility to back it up. Unfortunately most redpillers aren't interested in truth as much as confirming their biases. I happened to have these references handy so I don't mind providing them. Summary: young men and women are equally likely to be virgins. Under 40, men slightly outnumber women. However the discrepancy within age groups is only about 2% and decreases with age, and about 1.8% over the entire cohort. Notes https://www.hepi.a…
/r/ExRedPill24/07/21 11:11 AM
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You are mistaken No less than 27 percent of 15- to 24-year-old men have never had any form of sexual contact (oral, vaginal, or anal) with another person, up from 22 percent in 2002. Meanwhile, 29 percent of females in that age bracket have never had sex, also up from 22 percent at the time of the last study. https://www.livescience.com/13072-sex-stats-virgins-rise.html
/r/ExRedPill23/07/21 10:17 PM
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First step is to realize all that stuff is bullshit. Some people have lots of casual sex, and some people only have sex in serious relationships, and some only want romantic love and not sex. Male or female, it's just people. Quit thinking women are different from yourself and you'll start making progress.
/r/ExRedPill23/07/21 08:47 PM
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I was not, so thank you. I'm not at all versed in this culture, I'm on safari here trying to help people escape.
/r/ExRedPill23/07/21 08:24 PM
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What even is this toxic bullshit? All Women Are... Lying Tramps? God this seems like such an exhausting and hateful way to exist
/r/ExRedPill23/07/21 09:24 AM
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He literally associates women and the feminine with chaos The best summary of Peterson and his thoughts I've heard is "what is true is not new, and what is new is not true"
/r/ExRedPill21/07/21 11:01 AM
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What. The difference between boyfriend/husband or girlfriend/wife is a marriage certificate, nothing more. It's a relationship that has made a legal commitment to be together for the foreseeable future. The circumstances of that relationship can vary widely and depends on what the participants want and agree on. Some have open relationships, some are polyamorous, some are asexual but romantic, and on and on. Most are exclusive sexual partners yes but it's by no means the only way. "Promiscuity" …
/r/ExRedPill19/07/21 08:58 AM
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It's not real. Certainly some people experience this dynamic, but women are people just like everyone else. They want someone that will be a friend and partner and that they're attracted to AND they can rely on, just like a guy. Yes anyone in this kind of relationship should be pitied but thankfully it's not nearly as common as redpill types think.
/r/ExRedPill18/07/21 12:13 PM
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Easiest thing is just to imagine if the girl was a guy (or a guy was a girl) and if you'd treat them differently; if so, can you justify that difference based on your feminist reading? Women aren't intrinsically different from men, so just treat them respectfully like actual individual people and you'll usually be fine.
/r/ExRedPill16/07/21 12:33 AM
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It all stems from that scene in the Matrix where Neo is offered a red pill that will reveal the scary world-altering truth and a blue pill that represents continuing to live in the comforting lie. "Taking the red pill" in general means facing some kind of harsh reality. So if blue pill represents the standard understanding of reality, in the context of relationships that means that men and women date easily, that looks and money aren't everything, that personality is what's most important. Incel…
/r/ExRedPill15/07/21 12:45 PM
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Was going to suggest bropill
/r/ExRedPill14/07/21 04:23 PM
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Just by virtue of being clean, articulate, and clever. Also there's a huge advantage just being "exotic" A similar phenomenon happened with explorers landing on random pacific islands
/r/ExRedPill10/07/21 08:25 PM
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They were Jewish guys dealing with the rise of naziism and came up with an übermensch that would be on the side of the little guy. Early Superman was a bit of a jerk but he took out crooked bankers and bosses and helped workers. As he became a huge money making property the writers who followed had less freedom to write him like that. But there are plenty of authors and artists carrying the same message and they're in the same spot Superman was back then: small-run, unknown little stories by peo…
/r/ExRedPill10/07/21 07:39 PM
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He's also basically the antithesis of "red pill" thinking https://imgur.com/a/x6lW5qy
/r/ExRedPill10/07/21 03:43 PM
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Depends how you consider it (online dating vs in person vs getting fixed up with someone), but it was in the dozens. I had to practice a lot, both my delivery and my response. But those dozens of rejections didn't really hurt any more, and in the case of people i already had relationships with I'm still friends with most of them
/r/ExRedPill10/07/21 03:23 PM
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Yup, he started in the post-Great Depression era during the run-up to WWII. His radio show was also instrumental in dismantling the KKK of that era!
/r/ExRedPill10/07/21 11:46 AM
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If I recall correctly Superman was still just as good serving a communist regime as he is when serving a capitalist one.
/r/ExRedPill09/07/21 10:16 PM
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He's a product of his creators. They're not perfect either. Though Red Son explores if Kal El's ship landed in Russia instead of Kansas and adopted communism instead of "Truth, justice, and the American Way"
/r/ExRedPill09/07/21 10:06 PM
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This is fantastic!
/r/ExRedPill09/07/21 10:03 PM
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So someone unwilling or incapable of fighting is by definition unable to be a man? I think that's bullshit. Being a man in my opinion is about using your talents and strengths and power for the benefit of others. Sure it could come in the form of defending your family, but maybe my partner is better suited to that than I am. Or being a material provider, or handy around the house, or whatever. Maybe I'm better at being caring and nurturing and emotionally supportive. Is being a caring and loving…
/r/ExRedPill09/07/21 07:53 PM
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This is Superman at his very best in my opinion: https://imgur.com/gallery/Ijdxh The power of a god, and he uses it to help just one person. "Whoever saves one life saves the world entire."
/r/ExRedPill09/07/21 07:40 PM
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That's fine that's what you want to be for them. Its fine if that's what masculinity means for you. It's not necessary for everyone though. It's not "always been this way" - it's a recurring theme in many cultures but it's by no means universal throughout history or across civilizations. I encourage you to consider a broader definition of masculinity besides one that requires the ability to fight. Fighting is a possible means of manliness, but by no means a necessary one.
/r/ExRedPill09/07/21 07:29 PM
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Who's disparaging being a warrior? And if someone is incapable of fighting does that make them less of a man? If someone gets sick at the idea of martial conflict but can organize and coordinate a rescue effort during a disaster are they less masculine?
/r/ExRedPill09/07/21 07:09 PM
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For me it was Superman. I think he's a boring superhero but an excellent role model. He could do literally anything he wanted and nobody would be able to stop him, but he chooses to be good and help others and then disappears once he's no longer needed.
/r/ExRedPill09/07/21 07:01 PM
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The point is that not everything is a competition or battle. Sure, sometimes someone might need to fight, but that's not what will make you a man. It's not the fighting, it's caring for others. Too many people treat the fighting as what the fighting is for
/r/ExRedPill09/07/21 06:58 PM
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First, learn to forgive yourself. Yeah you've done shitty things in the past but you walked away from that. You gave up comfort and power because it was the right thing to do. That is much more difficult and admirable than someone who was brought up with those principles, and way WAY better than the people still in those communities. Second, as others have said feminism isn't a zero-sum game. Recognizing your privilege and giving it up doesn't mean losing, it's returning something that wasn't yo…
/r/ExRedPill08/07/21 12:47 PM
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One of them used the name "SwallowAdolfsCum" to give you an idea of the type, though I think that account has since been deleted
/r/ExRedPill08/07/21 10:23 AM
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I do, because I was one of them. I desperately wanted a relationship. I knew I had a lot of love to offer and couldn't figure out why nobody wanted it. I had to realize though that my desperation and anxieties were obvious and off-putting, that my focus was either on myself or on a mistaken idea of others where I put them on a pedestal instead of seeing the individual. A lot of that came from media, where movies show huge grand gestures or stopping someone just as they're about to go on a flight…
/r/ExRedPill08/07/21 10:21 AM
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Toxic masculinity hurts everyone. It tells men that they should be having sex, that if they aren't they must have something wrong with them. It hurts those people when they suffer because of that, and hurts them when they're told to "man up" or suck it up by others who've been similarly damaged. Without an outlet, a bunch of these people take it out on women. Women bear the brunt of a bunch of repressed and frustrated men who think they have to be tough, or dominant, or can't express feelings, o…
/r/ExRedPill08/07/21 12:48 AM
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The guy is a troll trying to pick a fight in a bunch of other threads too.
/r/ExRedPill08/07/21 12:31 AM
1

I've had at least three announcements that accounts with zero posts and zero or negative kharma followed me lol
/r/ExRedPill08/07/21 12:25 AM
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Glad to hear you were able to escape
/r/ExRedPill08/07/21 12:07 AM
1

People are social animals and crave affection. These groups weaponize this need into spreading their ideology. It's literally like a disease or social cancer. I've notice that people prone to black and white thinking seem more susceptible to these groups. Something about all-or-nothing just naturally leads to extremism
/r/ExRedPill08/07/21 12:06 AM
1

It's weird seeing brand new accounts follow me after I make a post challenging them
/r/ExRedPill08/07/21 12:01 AM
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Some women want to be SAH, some women absolutely refuse to ever be SAH, most are somewhere in between and willing to negotiate with a partner to decide what's best for both of them. Having a steady well paying job is a huge advantage. It indicates you're responsible, can function in society, and can contribute something to a relationship. But it is by no means a requirement. Some women even want to have a house husband! Some guys get insecure if the woman out earns them, so not having those kind…
/r/ExRedPill07/07/21 11:59 PM
1

It's so, so bizarre looking at these red pill guys from the outside. It's just such a warped worldview, like looking through a funhouse mirror. Seems like such a miserable existence
/r/ExRedPill07/07/21 11:23 PM
1

Religion has largely ceased to be about moral behavior and has become dominated by tribalism and culture war crap. There's a lot of congruent causes, but Nixon and Reagan working to do the Southern Strategy and courting the Religious Right as a means of getting political power has a lot to do with it. Once they started couching things as "us vs. them" and as a battle for survival, extremism was inevitable. Also, you had Roger Ailes (with help from Nixon lackeys like Roger Stone) created Fox News…
/r/ExRedPill06/07/21 12:03 PM
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Glad to see you've achieved this wisdom :) "Alpha" and "beta" doesn't exist in wolves and it doesn't exist in people. What people mistake for it are that confidence and self-assurance are attractive. People mistake assholish behavior for being rewarded with female attention, when what is really attracting them is the confidence that assholes often have. If you can be confident without being an asshole you will have far, far more success than someone relying on redpill bullshit, with the added bo…
/r/ExRedPill05/07/21 01:39 AM
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