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And you can be lonely in a marriage also This is the big one. Sure, a good marriage is great if you get it. But you will literally never be more lonely than if you get married to someone who slowly morphs into a harpy that hates your guts once the shine of being married wears off. Not only will your romantic life be unsatisfying, but it will seriously stunt your ability to have fulfilling friendships also. Then you get to be poor (and probably ostracized by whatever circle you had) when she gets…
/r/TheRedPill22/05/20 04:19 AM
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Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/20 12:44 AM
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Oh no, men being liked for something that's not their personality. Whatever will they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/20 01:14 PM
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Dating a BPD girl is insane. Literally had girls contradict themselves in the middle of a conversation and then just pretend they didn't really say the first thing. Great in bed tho tbf.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 01:50 AM
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I like girls that are attractive, pleasant, and have some sort of moral system. Don't care much about pick-me attitude one way or the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 01:47 AM
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It does when it affects the only option left if casual is not an option, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/20 03:56 PM
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I think the degradation of the social contract is something that occurred largely for recent generations though, so the boomers/older x-ers will be not very reflective of the attitudes of people at a usual marrying/dating age.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 06:41 AM
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Given that the marriage stats are not broken down by generation, hard to draw any meaningful conclusions here.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 05:31 AM
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good for you then
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 03:14 AM
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I'm just curious why you think it's any different from the other side. That's literally how flirting works, its exaggerated interest for effect.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/20 04:17 AM
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In general I prefer to pay if I know the girl and that there's some commitment to traditional relationship style on her end also. If its an OLD situation I think offering to buy a round/dessert/whatever and actually planning on following through is pretty sufficient. For later dates, a girl that plans one occasionally definitely gets more interest from me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 07:23 PM
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Also, I have no idea why people are so mad about having to pay for dinner. In general I just get annoyed at the expectation, not the actual act. If access to you in a romantic/sexual sense has to be purchased, what does that make you? Not interested in buying some random's time, I have more fun on my own.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 07:04 PM
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well look who just discovered compliments
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 06:47 PM
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Your posts are so good and your punctuation is so bad. It leaves me confused
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 04:55 PM
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I do it too. It's just mildly entertaining when bored
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 10:36 PM
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My friends are very confused
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 04:31 AM
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Once you commit yourself to something an actual cancellation is absolutely needed. That's how being an adult works.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/19 02:06 PM
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I dress fine, not sloppy and not super try-hard. jeans and button up with rolled up sleeves is my go-to since you can p much change the shoes to hit the level of dressy you want for anything casualish.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/19 08:02 AM
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I've never had anyone reject me because I am too skinny Congrats. I have tho, so now our anecdotes cancel each other out.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/19 06:32 AM
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Men are abundant and low value and should be grateful for the scraps
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/19 08:35 PM
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So you're not attracted to men. It's 2019, you're fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/19 07:18 AM
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I think the incel/femcel stuff is representative of like a quarter of people so far. fwiw, I make lots of friends in video games and most of them only have normal issues with the opposite gender. The part that concerns me most is that it seems unlikely to change directions any time soon. I think the broader observations (especially from TRP) on attraction triggers and such is pretty broadly applicable though.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/19 06:07 AM
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It's fascinating to me that I can tell when someone is a pinky just from their toxicity roughly 100% of the time
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/19 12:35 AM
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that erotica is "romance porn". That stuff was just...porn Yeah I wasn't saying they're the same, just that they both contribute. Also idk, seems weird to me how much you're emphasizing that reading is a difficulty barrier. It really isn't. Saying that one form of media influences expectation in regards to sexuality, and the other doesn't? I don't really know how you defend that. The fact that there isn't a performance expectation on women is far more likely to be the difference imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 10:29 PM
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Maybe. So far you've just presented your gender's preference as factually better, but without any actual facts. I think women just don't want to admit that erotica/romance porn screws up their expectations just as much.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 10:13 PM
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Crossdressers exist, so women's clothes are really for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 10:02 PM
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or read some erotica or something. this one really gets me. It's the female version, so it must be better, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 09:54 PM
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Most people are just people. I think its foolish to say that exceptionalism should be a good standard to require for relationships. Also, our current system protects cheaters of both genders. Is that really the way it should work?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 06:57 PM
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No-fault divorce and the current child support system both removed incentives to stay with a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/19 05:16 PM
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grr centrists
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/19 03:18 PM
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The red pill lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/19 03:10 AM
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Sure. But that's because its "the guy I'm currently sleeping with." You dont ask high n girls because it's obvious and there's no reason to pry or maybe embarrass. The girls who've been with <5 are happy to tell you that
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 02:17 PM
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These weebs confuse being adored for your whiteness with being adored for being a man. Because the second part isn't a thing. At all. Men are always loved for the way they make a woman feel or what they do, not for "being a man". Which I'm pretty sure you've vehemently stated in your own posts on this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 10:35 AM
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Yeah, extroverts.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 10:05 AM
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gonna guess it's some variation on "I'm hot so you'll do what I want" since she's a pinky/FDS
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 09:44 AM
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Other women only like the dudes that are hot/rich/dominant/whatever. How is being liked for being white any different?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 09:31 AM
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show us on the doll where the poors touched you
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 09:27 AM
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rob you of value what does this even mean lmao I thought sex wasn't taking anything from you and you get every date comped?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 09:17 AM
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I personally think n - count should be about partners who fulfilled your expectations in bed and made you orgasm, which cuts my N count in half. Does cheating only count if she's hot, then?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 09:10 AM
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idk why you think that, every guy on here is saying that women do talk about it. That's been my experience as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 09:08 AM
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Accept it, assume you're being lied to, or don't accept it are pretty much the only possible responses to being told something. Not sure what your argument really is here
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 09:05 AM
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Having all of those things pretty much makes you UMC. Having a couple of those things makes you regular MC imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 04:31 AM
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I'm asking a serious question though, what problems do you think marriage counseling is capable of solving?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 02:11 AM
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which type of problems do you believe it's effective for?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 12:41 AM
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I don't post it for you. It's so the randoms know you're full of it
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 09:23 AM
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I think you're seeing a little bit of the opinion that caring about a girls feelings (for most small stuff) is maladaptive for both. She would rather be distracted than engaged with over it, and I would rather not have to deal with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 09:22 AM
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https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1854883/
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 09:17 AM
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I think often when they complain about emotional labor they're including dealing with the guy who expresses his emotions by lashing out or getting in fights or drinking himself stupid. Is it just me or is this moving the goalposts? Not trying to be toxic about it, but I've legitimately never seen it described like that. Lashing out/getting in fights/drinking pretty quickly labeled as abuse, not as causing emotional labor.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 04:00 AM
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no, you need a psychiatrist. But here we are
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 03:09 AM
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sis, you need your perspective adjusted if you think these responses are any kind of "worst" lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 03:07 AM
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only unattracted, amirite
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 12:43 AM
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Oh nice. Glad I could help. Also you seem angry
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 12:42 AM
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How would you, a woman, have any insight into my lived experience?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 11:53 PM
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how on earth would you know that
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 11:31 PM
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How dare you assume I'm making assumptions
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 10:41 PM
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The same reason "rugged" is a good look for a dude, and not for a woman. Pursuing financial/career success requires lots of time and effort. Putting effort into looking good detracts reduces the amount available for other pursuits. Thus, a "beautiful" man has always been viewed with some level of distrust. (obv this is just my opinion. No data to back this one up)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 06:53 PM
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Is it? Has it ever been? Seems like an odd question to ask while defending a hetero dating subreddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/19 04:29 AM
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u spend a lot of time saying that it seems like
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 10:55 PM
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I've never understood this at all. Dinner by yourself is just dinner
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 09:00 PM
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delusional enough to believe they had a chance More likely they just literally don't give a shit what you think lol
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 08:55 PM
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My dad is dating a girl that's basically my age. So is his older brother. Sure they're screwed up, but certainly seems p feasible.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 08:50 PM
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That's a feature, not a bug. When most of the liberals and a few of the conservatives think there's a problem that needs fixed, there probably is. When the anti-estabs are in a million different camps and infighting, there's two options imo. Either there are no real problems that deserve serious government intervention, or everything is so screwed up that it's time to start over anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 07:51 PM
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You're right it's ridiculous, and she's right that a lot of people expect it regardless. Especially for UC/UMC, is a huge status symbol. Same with the weddings.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 08:18 AM
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but not fucking men is not one of them I'm curious where this even came from? I didn't see that being discussed in the thread rly. And you're def right about introversion. It's a hurdle to overcome for a guy, not a valid personality type.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 06:34 AM
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and we are the cause for all of their current problems. Well this thread is specifically about women, so idk what tell you. You definitely cause some of them. Would you disagree with that? being a woman is fucking fantastic with the caveat of being youngish and at least moderately attractive, it certainly sounds like it from what they say. After that you just get treated more like a dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 05:39 AM
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Women want the responsibilities of a child and the rights of an adult. Will probably work just fine for them until the next war.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 02:38 AM
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"circular firing squad of wokeness." I wish this wasn't so true. It's how it always goes though, you throw off traditional values and anything and everything is on the table again.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 01:23 AM
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Same, but in reverse. Be the exception, not the rule.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 12:15 AM
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Yup, this exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 12:13 AM
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I think it depends. Like sure, maybe the alpha doesnt deal with the day to day "emotional labor" kind of BS problems involved with providing, but is someone that when shit hits the fan can actually deal with a problem. Basically just much higher ability to deal/lack of concern.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 12:20 AM
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The ultimate chad move. Enjoy life when young, then start a war in your 40s so the women are desperate.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 10:27 PM
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I'm willing to be flexible between meeting and first date. If you don't want to see me more than once a month after first date, we're not happening. I'm only interested in seeing girls again that are into me, and you don't tell someone you're into that you can pencil them in sometime a month from now. And sure, I've done what you're talking about with girls before too. Also an easy way to get your heart broken, since you're selecting for guys who are ok with it not being something that moves for…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 10:14 PM
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I don't really mind waiting on someone if it's part of their process of getting comfortable and intimate with their partner. I do mind when it's a hard and fast rule that more or less is a mind game. Yup. This is just the n-count discussion in reverse. A hard number indicates neuroticism and fixation.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 09:55 PM
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p sure you want glass or stainless. A lot of the BPA-free ones are (I've heard) using something that's essentially identical to BPA, just rearranged enough that they can call it BPA-free
/r/TheRedPill12/12/19 02:09 AM
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not all of us were born into the UMC
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 10:05 PM
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Women want commitment and marriage for the financial security lol. Getting married then divorced still gives them that, especially if there's a kid in the mix.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 10:05 PM
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lol maybe not in manhattan and the trendy bit of brooklyn. Can confirm its a lot like the south once you're past park slope/prospect heights.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 09:59 PM
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Moved away for a bit and then visited the south again. It's so gross. I'm sure its all just thyroid problems tho lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 08:31 PM
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I have some dudes in my discord that would pretend for u until u find your forever goth gf
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 08:20 PM
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The herpes leaves her, just like all the guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 08:17 PM
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Can we please stop with the exact opposite threads. Thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 08:16 PM
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I highly doubt you are willing to provide for a man though, am I right? Not OP, but you're right. Maybe the money isn't the important bit, but having a dude that does something you can brag about in the FSM is pretty important.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 08:15 PM
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However, I don't have plans to actually do what I'm talking about here. Scared, Potter?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 08:12 PM
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If I'm going to wait three months, will be for a nice girl whose parents and friends I know. Don't care enough about a random.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 06:43 PM
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Lets be honest, most men are bad at sex. And how many dudes have you been with that are completely unable to get themselves off? Just lol. You're interpreting clearing a bar you could trip over as being better than dudes.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/19 12:03 AM
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Nothing makes any depressed man more likely to commit suicide than women. Also true for non-depressed. No quicker way to become depressed for real than a SO that tears you down, especially if its subtle/starts slowly.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 07:51 PM
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Your experience matches mine for NYC at least. Hear waayyy more stories about cheating and being cheated on here. Think its just really easy for chicks to do, and people feel really easily replaceable. Also the divorce/child-care laws are terrible for dudes so women have zero concerns about that side of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 07:46 PM
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Do you live in the city or somewhere rural?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 07:22 PM
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is this not a passive dating strategy Sure, but one that also looks a whole lot like not caring about dating. It's more rewarding for the guy anyway. Putting effort into dating/relationships has a decent chance of just wasting a lot of your time, effort put into muscles/career/social circle/hobbies is very very unlikely to be a waste.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 06:58 PM
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To dudes that sounds a whole lot like not actually having hobbies, especially since most women have no problem talking endlessly about random details from acquaintances lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/19 04:56 AM
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WGTOW has always been a thing. Just make sure you aren't allergic to cats first. And no I don't blame them, given those circumstances I'd probably feel the same way.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 08:29 PM
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You have 100% legal control over everything related to birth or sex with you. Why on earth would a guy spend a single second thinking about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 02:25 AM
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Voluntary association can most definitely be discriminatory.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/19 02:23 AM
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I think below 25 or so guys are worse off. After that it seems like dudes start to have more fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 08:55 AM
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Having limited matches is a great way to make sure apps have at least a semblance of male/female balance. When you can't just rightswipe for an hour, you actually have a chance of talking to a real person.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 08:35 AM
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Maybe you just suck at dates. I had plenty of luck with girls from hinge, even if I wasn't exactly drowning in matches. Sure, they aren't church girls, but most were nice enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/19 07:23 AM
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Why dont you just be a decent person then she might stay Sadly makes it less likely, not more
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/19 08:58 AM
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Both comparisons have a bit of false equivalence and a bit of truth
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/19 06:32 AM
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so is SAHM and deadbeat, but here we are
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/19 05:03 AM
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Ye. I agree with you. I think it's an issue in RP spaces mostly because they are filled with late-bloomers and people who are still not in a permanent relationship for whatever reason. Seems overblown to you probably, but to guys even at at mid 20's it starts to be something to think about. At least with a woman who wants to be with you regardless of marriage, you know she's not just after the divorce check when she gets bored.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 09:23 PM
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I think that's a very reasonable position. Surely you can see how a guy that is not marrying his college sweetheart might have additional concerns though
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/19 09:10 PM
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I was too inexperienced during my first LTR to see that I was drowning in her red flags. Decided I was never going to feel that way again, so spent time dating around. Am still young tho, so will prob be just fine for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/19 10:57 PM
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This is why RP says to polarize every interaction. You functionally don't exist as a sexual being until you do.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/19 06:53 PM
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Cool. Just make sure you pick an adventurous one.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/19 12:53 AM
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Yup. Can definitely be a weird experience and makes it harder to have a dominant vibe if you're less experienced. v easy to be insecure. On the other hand, you do learn way faster that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/19 12:38 AM
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because most of the kweens on here are defending that type also.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/19 12:13 AM
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I think it definitely makes it workable. Consistency is important, and you at least know what you're getting with that kind of girl. Trickle-truthing is insulting. I tend to be a more staid person, so those kinds of girls aren't a great fit for me, but I don't think it's a red flag like it would be for the type of girl addressed in the linked post.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/19 12:10 AM
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Tbh i would rather go pour raw sewage in my eyes. Sry
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/19 11:24 PM
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This is not true. Was a post by the main tart over there about how bowling is a terrible date and she should hold out for an expensive dinner.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/19 10:52 PM
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Women tend to appreciate a man more over time and don't take men for granted when the man is a positive influence in their life. lolwut
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/19 10:40 PM
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Are they not to be forgiven? Idk. Should there be no consequences for actions? I don't even mean in the punishment sense, but in the cause-and-effect sense. You're plenty happy to say that dudes who don't make themselves attractive don't deserve anything from you. Why should the reverse be different?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/19 10:29 PM
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So I can watch you try to deflect
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/19 10:23 PM
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Agree with this. Most of guys' stress seems front-loaded, relatively. Trying to make something of yourself romantically and financially is a fairly large stressor for men, whereas most women that I know tend to only have to pick and choose from the options presented to them romantically and to a lesser extent financially. Their stress comes later in the form of keeping a good thing, rather than in finding it in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/19 05:42 AM
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cock-carousel riders will end up alone and sad not alone, just not with a guy they're as attracted too as if she had locked one down at her peak.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/19 11:42 PM
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They wouldn't be here if they actually hated women, in general. Frustration at lack of romantic success or perceived disadvantages != hate. For right or wrong though, romantic failure to launch is a huge issue right now for a lot of men. TRP and thus this sub devoted to arguing about it wouldn't exist otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/19 11:41 PM
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I try to judge people on their own merits. Being unwilling to call a spade a spade is not very rational though. I certainly don't hate sluts, many of them are great people, and I struggle with self-control in enough areas I'm not going think harshly of them for it. Golddigging is different and very despicable imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/19 11:22 PM
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Yes, I've made the connection. It's not my decision which standard you adhere to, but I am going to judge you accordingly. If you've slept around before and aren't all over me on the first/second date, I am going to assume you don't care that much and move on. If you've never slept around, then I'm going to try to decide whether you're just LL or actually care about building a relationship first, in which case I'll be much, much more patient. I don't care what attitude you needed to succeed in y…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/19 11:18 PM
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Yes to both? Exploitation of positions of power and/or lack of self-control are not genderlocked issues though, not sure what that has to do with women specifically.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/19 10:45 PM
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You should try it. Can make good friends online too. Not like people stop being people because of where you meet them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/19 07:21 PM
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Ok. I have lot of female friends that I've known for years then. Would say they are good relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/19 07:06 PM
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Is your OP asking for opinions from people who think some women are those things, or who think all women are those things?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/19 04:06 AM
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society was created by men to protect their women. Part of the old social contract was distributed participation in that protectionism. The disintegration of that contract is leading to what you describe, but the "women and children first" attitude was a social norm that enabled women to flourish and push for more rights in the first place. imo, feminism/women's lib/suffrage exists because benevolent sexism was cultural rather than tribal like it is now becoming (due to continued exploitation of…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/19 02:11 AM
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hoes mad
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/19 11:38 PM
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it isn’t sugar babies I'm really not sure how you can spin it any other way. If financial incentives (beyond equal contribution) are non-negotiable, then you're a sugar baby.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/19 04:07 AM
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I'm just shocked that OG would stoop to that level.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/19 03:48 AM
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thats crazy sis
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/19 11:22 PM
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I'm shocked that you think that tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/19 10:06 PM
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“women should pay for dates because equality” I'm not sure how you come up with equality any other way. Are you an equal, or do you need to be pampered and coaxed like a child or dog?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/19 09:45 PM
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I think in the early stages (maybe before the real subreddit was a thing) it was like that. Was guys who sucked at dealing with women trying to figure out what they were doing wrong. At least that's the vibe i get from some of the ECs.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/19 06:56 PM
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You're being pedantic. If you know how to do something already, no need to look for advice on how its done.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/19 06:51 PM
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It never attracts men who aren't essentially failing at dating this is literally the point of it lol. What use do successful people have for guides/advice?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/19 02:42 AM
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You could be normal and just watch TV until your eyes bleed every day
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/19 06:21 PM
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Because this discussion is not something that can really happen irl
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/19 06:08 PM
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