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You did the same thing
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/26 02:36 AM
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Ffs all that psycho babble nonsense is immaterial to the reality that the people who pick emotional unavailable people over available are just attracted to the former. Life is messy BECAUSE it's as simple as that. People who constantly pick a certain type is ATTRACTED to that type. Doesn't matter if they say that isn't what they want or what they need. We are talking about attraction. Trauma this and healing and all that shit might be a reason or maybe they just are attracted to shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/26 01:36 AM
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You think good looking men are rejected by women for ltr by rule?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 03:22 PM
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Never said they did or didn't more, just said that they DO. Which your argument seems to be is that they don't BECAUSE they are good looking enough for casual.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 02:29 PM
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Lol you have stats for that one??
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 02:23 PM
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Do you think attractive people don't have kids? I am trying to understand why you think men who are attractive enough to have casual sex don't get married. Typically, attractive men have casual sex until THEY want to stop having it and settle down. They are in full control. Less attractive men are NOT in full control.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 02:18 PM
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ego or misguided intentions = bad though. Also, gambling and drug taking are risks, but they tend to be initiated with bad intentions by men, pure by women. This is how you properly PPD.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 09:01 PM
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what you don't understand though is INTENTION. She didn't have ill or bad intention! Maybe she made a mistake (very lightly said, btw), but her intentions were pure. And that is the debate that we should be having. Saying choose better to men makes sense because they have BAD INTENTIONS, but it doesn't make sense to say it to women because they don't have bad intentions.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 08:49 PM
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Thank you! I have been fighting with my friends for ages about this. They say that some women don't think it's a big deal to harass strangers, and I told them that no, EVERY SINGLE WOMAN IN HISTORY knows it's wrong to harass strangers. Women just don't have the mental capacity to lack empathy!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 08:41 PM
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Yeah but all those options are uggos!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 03:49 PM
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I mean you joke, but yes, that is exactly what a partnership is: splitting chores and common mortgage, plus raising kids too in some cases. All the other things can be satisfied by a friend or FWB. What do you think a boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife relationship is? What do you think the difference is with that relationship vs a close friend or FWB? It's "building a life", and building a life means: living arrangement, bill paying, chore splitting, child rearing. You can go on vacations with f…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 03:43 PM
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I got banned from the AverageHeight men or whatever subreddit that was fed to me by saying this guy seems like a snake. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 12:05 PM
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Exactly, not your place
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 06:44 PM
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Expensive clubs are NOT for most people. That isn't your crowd dude if that is what you are noticing first rather than the vibe. Not the girls that go there, not the dudes that go there. Not for you. It's OK, it's not for the majority of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 04:50 PM
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Good faith response, take advice from men you trust. True male friends who are looking out can see bullshit from a mile away. Even some of your girlfriends could probably see it too. People who fall victim to narcissists tend to look back and realize they ignored logical red flags due to their feelings. Outside perspectives don't have those same feelings to cloud judgement.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 07:49 PM
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Under 5'10" lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 02:42 AM
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100% ChatGPT written
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 04:18 PM
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The biggest ick on the planet is a man relaxing in his own house. That is what vacations are for. Are you on the beach? No? Then DO SOMETHING.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 04:06 PM
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There's such large groupings of men that are exactly the same, you just pick your "bundle" and you wouldn't know the difference
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 03:39 AM
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Oh stop, yes they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 02:25 AM
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Busting balls but not being serious about it. The point is to lighten the mood not to put the person down. You are at a bar person you are talking to spills their drink: Teasing: "Good job, you can put that anywhere! Let me get you another one!" Not flirting: "Oh no, I'm sorry, are you ok are you wet, here let me dry this off for you, want my shirt, here's $20 for dry cleaning!"
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 01:44 PM
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Guys here are weird
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 01:33 PM
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Well I wasn't particularly thinking of childlike shit
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 01:33 PM
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That guy sounds like an ass. Most men aren't that ass!
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 01:16 PM
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What is flirting to you? Seriously, making jokes, being light, playful is a problem no good? You want captain serious who interviews you? Good faith question here. To edit, if the other person doesn't respond IN KIND then it goes from flirting to annoyance fast. Admittedly.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 01:15 PM
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You are taking things to the extreme here. "Being playful, teasing and pushing boundaries" that means FLIRTING. This isn't about crossing the line and being disrespectful. No matter what your far extreme response addressing a small subset of men will be, the poster was NOT talking about being disrespectful. If the man is not outwardly attractive, and they are just "friendly", they will never attract a person who might want to date them. People have to flirt.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 01:08 PM
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Anecdote for sure, BUT, *certain* circles/groups of women are absolutely height obsessed. My example, the women in my division at work (ranges from 28 years old to early 50's) talk about height CONSTANTLY. They are married, partnered, single, doesn't matter they yap about men all day. I have been asked "oh you finally met so and so, they look short on ZOOM, how tall are they?". Just yesterday this was said to me by a 27 year old "when I was 23 I totally would have dated him because he's tall, no…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 03:06 PM
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What? My wife and all her friends are in their 30s. Most of the people I interact with at work and elsewhere are in the 30s on average. No one is going around and saying "you are husband material!!" to people in the wild. If anything, it is being said in some sort of subtext to their friends. Not to the person being prescribed it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 03:05 AM
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Whenever *I* heard it said, it was said in a way "you will make a woman very happy one day, but not me". I heard this said to friends, and myself when I was young. My point is that I never saw it said TO THE MAN DIRECTLY by a woman who meant it as a way to gas up the person they actually wanted. Maybe they said it to their friends when describing a guy they liked or was dating or whatever, but never to the man. On reddit, women TYPE that it is a compliment, maybe they THINK it, but how often is …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 09:09 PM
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I suppose men "think" that is what women want to hear when a guy is into them. So they verbalize it in a positive manner to their date. How it lands depends on the situation and the woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 03:02 PM
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Well there is a distinction here. The women are talking among each other about the guy (which I assume you are talking about). I have no doubt husband material can a good thing when you are talking about your date/boyfriend/crush with your friends. It could ALSO mean "blah, bland, boring" too, depends on context. A man can be husband material and not be attractive, handsome, or even dateable. Or he can be husband material and be all those things too. What the men are saying is that in THEIR expe…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 02:52 PM
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I find it very hard to believe a man was ever called "husband material" by the person they actually wound up marrying. People don't declare that to people they actually like. In my experience whenever I or someone I knew was called husband material the woman saying it was not attracted to the person. It was something nice they would say to an ugly friend. Basically telling them they have all the qualities of a safe guy. "You are going to make someone very happy one day!" That does not mean attra…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 02:28 PM
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For sure, like I emphasized, especially when it's friends asking out friends. However, I do think the other proposals (cold approach, short amount of time knowing, long amount, etc etc) all are admirable things for women and negative things for men. It's because of the historical men's role of approaching first and initiating, so when a woman does it, it's heroic regardless of if the men actually welcomed it or not. But you are right, men typically don't hate it. At a minimum I would think most …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 08:55 PM
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Yup, if you don't know for a fact that she is interested in you, then she is NOT interested in you. And if you are incapable of seeing the signs when she is, then you aren't ready for a relationship or a date to begin with. Only thing I can kind of sort of agree with OP on, and it's the faintest whiff of agreement, is that society has started to look down on men shooting their shot without pre-knowing the outcome. ESPECIALLY if a man asked a friend out after developing feelings. No one would sha…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 08:10 PM
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The point he is making is that the other party ALREADY BROKE IT OFF by losing interest. So he's meeting their energy. He isn't playing the "is something wrong?" game because he knows the answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 01:48 PM
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Dude, you are wrong! Women don't "lose interest" and not tell you how they are feeling clearly with articulation. They communicate! If you *think* they are losing interest, then you are WRONG, they aren't! They love you! They are just busy. If a women loses interest in you, she will tell you immediately. Every women. All of them. Every one. At all times. They all have perfect communication records. And in the highly UNLIKELY event that she has lost interest and didn't explicitly sit you down and…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 01:30 PM
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People know when the person they are dating loses interest. What people tend to do is lie to themselves and try to "fix" it, or say "oh its nothing, maybe its stress, blah blah" Gut tends to be right. Some folks also are wusses and instead of breaking it off, then just fade and slowly ghost the people they are seeing. Happens to a lot of people at some point. I know it happened to be when I was young, I probably did it to others too. Its shitty.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 01:26 PM
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If the SAS is more socially compatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 02:34 PM
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Lol look at "her" username, you are being trolled
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 12:32 AM
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"dont replay to often/to instantly is some kind of crazy manipulation" It's manipulation if you don't NATURALLY do those things. If you have to think about and make a DECISION not to reply often/instantly, then that means you are larping as a cool person with a life. That is manipulation. If your nature isn't cool and if you aren't inherently busy, you are tricking the woman if you act like you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 01:11 AM
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The thing is these dudes are salty that she had the AUDACITY to even try for the "chad". How dare she!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 08:00 PM
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Cornball response
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 07:59 PM
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Beta billy won in the end! He got the girl. The jock did too just a different girl tho
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 05:35 PM
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Apologies and noted
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 04:50 PM
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Where did I say anything about me being oppressed as a man?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 04:49 PM
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Yeah and that's what matters in this case. You don't even have an argument to win. Another bet I'd make, the women (and men for that matter) around you are doing better than you, dislike you, and you need something to blame. Look at how many men are living full, successful, loving lives even with all these rights that women have! Sucks for you that you aren't too!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 03:30 PM
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"They love the idea of full "autonomous rights" for women -- until the woman's autonomous decisions don't work out and there's a man nearby to blame. Then suddenly it's "he took advantage of her!!" "her brain isn't fully developed" "there was a power differential!" etc. etc." I would bet good money women go out of their way to avoid you.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 02:50 PM
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The line between "Don't care if women vote" and "I don't care if they aren't allowed" is blurring with this post.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 01:50 PM
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TDS is knowing who the secretary of defense models his very public faith around? You think Hegseth is trying to hide it?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 01:45 PM
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There are major evangelical populations that would absolutely welcome a world where birth control and marital rape is eliminated as a concept under the banner of Christianity.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 01:43 PM
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You seriously should consider joining a religious cult if you think "love" is restricting basic autonomous rights of women to do things men do. You don't have a minority viewpoint, you have a small, extremely insecure viewpoint that always leads to violence against the people want to control once they decide "nope".
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 01:41 PM
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I am not sure i personally feel this way myself. It's from observations with others, what other women have said, and experience when I was much younger. My wife and i met on a dating app and we became romantic and friends at the same time so it doesn't really apply to my situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 05:31 PM
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Exactly. People aren't understanding the definition of "friend" here. Friends first means "you aren't a stranger, you have flirted with me, and other people like you", not actual FRIENDS.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 04:27 PM
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No, "friends first" DOES NOT mean *real* friends. What that means is that the person knows who are you, can notice things about you themselves, and hear good things about you from their friends, and you have flirted with them a bit. Women in particular, and men too for that matter, DO NOT want to date *actual* friends. The biggest ick a women can get is a true friend asking them out. If a women is interested in the person, they can never become a real friend to begin with; they won't be confided…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 04:24 PM
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" In one month i got more then for my whole life to that moment. And it's about anything - my dancing, my clothes, my music taste, my confidence - everything" Awesome!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 03:35 PM
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Being a good dancer should do you well regardless, even if not with this particular group of people. So much is vibe based, and if you are being yourself, it just may not gel with these folks. Who knows! But the majority of people, outside of maybe a hard rule in work environments, won't dismiss a potential romantic interest. Some sure, but not most.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 03:00 PM
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What people say and do are two different things. Being ugly or not isn't the end all for attraction too. Wasn't implying that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 02:44 PM
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They will date you if they find you attractive. People don't overthink these things as much as you think they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 01:43 PM
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This person's opinion is basically man bad women good. Move along, you won't get anything that resembles a debate.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 11:41 PM
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I can't imagine even beginning to prompt the AI this person used to right this. "Red Pill me but in a cartoonish villain like tone."
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 12:59 PM
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Look, your post isnt necessarily bad advice or anything. But it seems this particular sub is monogamous focused. And that is the default or "normal" relationship type. Poly and open relationships and people who do that have a different mindset from the norm. It helps to throw that out there to start.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 08:46 PM
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It feels like niche/poly/open relationship people are all over reddit without disclosing it when they give relationship advice. Like moles.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 05:13 PM
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Eh this isn't a thing that JUST young, naive or inexperienced women do. People change their behavior based on who they are pursuing or who is pursing them no matter their age. People "cannonball" as you called it throughout their lives. And yes, people WILL do this for people they find more attractive. Folks try to frame this behavior as if it's exclusive to an angelic young women finding their way in their life's wonderful journey, then once they are wise and perfected they slow down and get wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 12:58 AM
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Do people consider a twink someone who is jacked?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 08:35 PM
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No one says tall, dark, and nice delts for a reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 07:24 PM
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They definitely aren't built for the lady gaze
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 07:23 PM
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The point is, when women don't like "muscles" the kind they are referring to are body building physiques, which is a different level and makes total sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 06:48 PM
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It is not a lie, it is a response to what I see you harping on over and over. And this one is even more ridiculous, that ANY sex before some arbitrary length of time in a long term relationship means it's just casual and a hook up. And if you actually read people's replies, both men and women, you will find that is pretty mixed and level headed in their approach. It just doesn't match your strict definitions. You don't even respond to anyone asking what YOUR timeline is. You just attack around t…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 02:18 PM
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So what is your timeline? 2 months? 6? Marriage? How many years do you need to be married before you are allowed to have sex and it not be casual? In my opinion, 3, or two years after your first child is born. Whichever comes first. Why are you more obsessed with this subject than the men you claim are obsessed with sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 12:35 AM
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My point is that when a woman just wants sex the man is nothing but a tool. Men do the same thing, but their drive for it carries more weight. Their risk assessment sometimes ends with "this might be risky but AT LEASY he's super hot and I'm down at this moment I'm time". They won't do that for plain people, why would they? Low reward.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 10:06 PM
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It means nothing to them but it means something to men. If it's "withheld" it's because they are vetting if the person they are dating is in it for the right reason. The short list of men who "get" it (lol it's the women who are getting it, not the guy, they are just a warm dildo), is because it's kind of a hassle for women. There are many risks involved so mind as well look as good as possible, be as chill and safe as possible (different criteria for different things). Also, it means so little …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 01:46 PM
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I'm not bitter at all! Happily married, just understand that men get it wrong and cause their own problems
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 11:43 AM
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Ffs you aren't going to get the answer you want. Women do NOT see sex as anything special. The act of genital stimulation means literal nothing to them. Most of the time they rather use a toy. The problem with the dudes on this sub is that they think like a puritan as if sex is some taboo thing for women, it isn't. Again, it means NOTHING. They will fuck whatever they want whenever they want and bite the head off the guy like a mantis. It's a joke to them, they laugh about it with their friends.…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 03:00 AM
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She admitted she converted for her boyfriend. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 02:30 PM
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She's a "Catholic", we aren't allowed to talk about sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 01:01 PM
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The fishing trope on dating sites is so absurd at this point that I think the men who think that attracts women eat lead paint chips.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 03:58 PM
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Yeah, it's like nature balances itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 08:49 PM
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If men cared just as much about vibe, it would be lonely out there
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 08:23 PM
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You aren't wrong, but what is funny about the whole dynamic is that the girls in this scenario didn't have to be cool or outgoing, or really do anything at all other than be there. Lame, boring, basic, do nothing girls got dates with the cool & outgoing guys as long as the cool and outgoing guy talked to her. Tells you something about standards of young men.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 07:21 PM
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You would, and that is actually OK if you think about it. But that isn't what "beta buxx" is when used in that context, its the money focus. A rich, successful and powerful man with options tend to not be labeled that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 01:42 PM
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When they say beta buxx they are referring to situations where it's the money itself that is the attraction, not the person who has it. The person isn't "hot" because he has money, the MONEY is hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 01:33 PM
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Some men are in the beer leagues though. And there are no women there.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 02:28 PM
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Find the woman that is in love with ugly/messy/loser you! Only then will you know true desire! lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 02:27 PM
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Right. My wife didn't declare I was "marriage material" she just said I love you. My freshman year roommate who none of the girls wanted to date said he was "husband material" because he likes to cook. His datelessness didn't go away because "one day he will be a good person to bring home in 20 years".
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 02:09 AM
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This topic is rarely framed right. The issue with "husband material" is when it's used in the context of "Oh you are husband material! I couldn't date or hook up with you, because I am not ready for marriage yet and that is what you would be good for. You are a great fail safe when I am going through menopause or need child support." (this is the extreme version, for illustrative purposes!) That notion is said to "safe" friends who aren't good looking, no charisma, and low social status. Those p…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 03:13 AM
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Right but is this new person that he is a proper match for what you want? Maybe, maybe not it's your relationship, but you being bothered by how he approaches the relationship WITH YOU is worrisome. Maturing is not "checking out" and "low effort", maturing and changing is recognizing what is good for you, which tends to not be messiness and chaos, and investing EFFORT in THAT relationship and not the toxic one. You don't have to settle for a relationship with someone numbed out. And keep this in…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 03:04 AM
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"My current bf treated his ex much better in terms of planning dates and trips and such, and she was a hot mess who treated him badly. Sometimes this bothers me, but then I think he’s probably just burned and not willing to make as much effort anymore. " That statement is sad, for real. People deserve the effort back as they put in.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 11:00 PM
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If you listen to what women say in these posts about "husband material" a common theme is that no, they would NOT have sex with husband material if a relationship was not on the table. That is why this topic is even talked about it, because of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 08:24 PM
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Marriage material is SUBJECTIVE to the person saying it. Someone who hooks up a lot, I would *bet* is OBJECTIVELY good looking enough for women to want to have sex. The notion that the bar for hook ups, looks wise, is much higher than for husbands, so yeah the guy looks good. And if he's not husband material to you, he might be to someone else. But he slept with you both. You had fun, he had fun, then he got married. These guys posting this stuff are the ones who don't get the "fun" before marri…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 07:35 PM
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The majority of men that are good looking enough to be used for sex get married. I never understood why women think it's one or the other. Good looking men get married. Full stop. Maybe they wanted to just use you too.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 07:18 PM
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It's just semantics at this point. They aren't trying to "trick" anyone, just using the wrong word. Or stretching the definition of a word. The thing is, outside of very very very rare instances, a woman will want to date an actual friend who expressed feelings down the line if she ALREADY had those feelings too. There is almost no chance they will "give it a shot" with a friend when those feelings didn't already exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 03:47 PM
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Folks on Reddit who dismiss sex as just another thing people do tend to reveal they are in an open relationship or poly. Their perspectives aren't generally "average"
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 01:13 PM
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If you want to have sex with woman the fastest timeframe possible be attractive, charismatic and unfit for a relationship. You will get laid immediately.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 03:47 AM
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Are you in an open or poly relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 03:41 AM
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It doesn't mean what you think. Friends in this case means casual acquaintance. 99% of the interaction is flirting. They know more about you through other people talking about you because they asked (because they are interested already). That is what they mean
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 03:38 AM
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Don't even need to be flirty. Just don't ask out actual friends. Be "casual" friends, someone that you KNOW not someone that is a *friend*. There is nothing more of a turn off to a woman than dating an actual friend. Their husbands/boyfriends/partners are a completely different class of human than what they think of as a friend. In many many instances, their partner isn't even close to a true "friend" in the way that they see their other friends. If they know A LOT about you and never showed sig…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 03:22 PM
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Fully agreed. It's not only the dude's fault, but he also is a fucking grade-a loser for even feeling a certain way about it! Good, strong, attractive men don't get ghosted.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 08:58 PM
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Yes, anyone under that height doesn't even count as a man. Preferences matter!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 12:53 PM
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Yeah they both do it
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 01:08 AM
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This is ridiculous, and it shows how clueless the dudes here are with what women want. The *average* women wants the *average* man: tall, handsome, good job, in good shape, dresses well, has hobbies (investing, reading, DIY around the house) but wants those hobbies done when she isn't around and not too much, wants the man to be ABLE to talk passionately about the hobbies but not TOO passionate and definitely not to her because that's icky, to have a life of his own outside of her that he partic…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 10:52 PM
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Totally agree. These red pillers here don't understand that women date multiple men even after marriage to fulfill all their checkbox needs. Husband to pay the bills and raise the kids with, boyfriend number 1 for fun and carefree things, boyfriend 2 for the passionate sex, boyfriend 3 when she's on the road trip visiting parents (family can be a drag and you need some 1-1 time with a man who UNDERSTANDS her), and boyfriend number 4 who buys the good gifts. I don't understand why all the men in …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 10:45 PM
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Jokes on you dude, at least 55% percent of men have those traits, and MORE. The girl in that pic is describing the AVERAGE guy!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 10:42 PM
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Smartest comment yet on this topic, seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 02:02 PM
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Absolutely not, talking about the men who have a hard time in this case.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 10:44 PM
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They are attracted to them. Their biological instincts are telling them they probably will never have another chance with a woman again. They innately know they can't have high standards if they want a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 09:57 PM
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Why would they? It's not beneficial. Do men?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 12:34 PM
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I have yet to see any women ever get accused of tricking a man by befriending only to announce feelings later. Only men get accused of that. That is a double standard that should be acknowledged as just the way life is. Would the women have been friends with the guy that they developed feelings over time for if he was ugly? No one ever asked that question. No one even cares. In fact, I have seen situations where the man who rejected his long time friend GOT SHIT ON by everyone else for not recip…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 10:06 PM
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No shit
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 09:22 PM
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Do you back away from being friends with someone you are attracted to. That is the question.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 07:25 PM
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People are simple
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 07:09 PM
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Yeah I don't think you were trying to make that point on purpose, I think you stumbled upon it. A lot of people DON'T acknowledge them, but you did. I agree with you on them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 06:39 PM
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Of course there isn't a specific number, I was being obtuse and sarcastic. But there is a bit of good faith in my question too: at what point do you, who self proclaims that it's "ew" if a friend *develops* feelings, start to get too far into the friend territory and then YOU back away from getting to close to a romantic prospect that you are attracted to? I am going to assume that your rule that it's ick when a friend develops feelings probably never even crossed your mind as you develop feelin…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 06:36 PM
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So you don't date friends, you don't date strangers. Fine. How many questions you need to ask to get out of the stranger zone but not before it starts getting TOO friendly for you and you ruin everything?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 06:29 PM
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You are talking about the root of the differences, which most people claim aren't true for some reason. I agree with you, women are capable of absolutely treating all intimacy as platonic and men struggle with that. On average, it is very gendered that way. Rooted in biology maybe? Socially? I am not qualified to answer that, but it's true. Most men get familial intimacy from their mothers only, then move onto a partner. They get confused when they are rejected romantically because they don't se…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 06:26 PM
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Asking a few questions still means the person is a damned stranger.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 06:20 PM
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OK fair enough! OP was being overly prescriptive and kind of telling on themselves. BUT, it's not always boyfriend driven in all scenarios. In OP's, sure, I missed that.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 06:00 PM
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The person you are responding to despises you and everyone else here, it's pointless to ask questions in good faith.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 05:59 PM
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Dating is for strangers only. Fuck first, then ask questions later. Since you are retired now, when you were promiscuous I'm guessing you were a physically attraction only kind of person.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 05:59 PM
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"so he asked her to stop." You don't know that. And as you rightly asked to the poster you responded to: Source?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 05:55 PM
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"In the same way that a 19th century lady would be outraged if one of the servants made any kind of sexual advance" I would bet my LIFE that 19 century ladies were banging the shit out of the help.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 05:50 PM
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The assumption, which is 100000% wrong is that the default is men have ill intentions and that all women are wonderful until proven otherwise. The reality is all people suck.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 05:47 PM
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The differences in opinion on this makes any statement moot. Yesterday I was arguing with someone here that what you stated happens all the time, the women (at least flaired as one) said that NO women ANYWHERE wants to date a friend and that it is extremely rare that someone can go from platonic to romantic. My argument was that it happens all the time, BUT the caveat is that it's socially acceptable for a women to develop feelings, but men tend to get accused of tricking the women if they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 03:06 PM
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I call BS on that as a rule because there's so many instances where ACTUAL friends develop into something more over time.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 06:45 PM
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Just because someone is attracted to an attractive person doesn't mean they want to pursue a relationship though. Like, if you go around and need to declare attraction to every good looking person you meet? That's absurd. Depending on where you live and work you are bombarded with attractive people everywhere, and some of those people will inevitably become your friends. Some of those friend relationships might change over time. Men "let" them because like I said, men get accused of lying about …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 06:14 PM
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In that case, should men avoid friendships with women they think are attractive? I think there is a double standard here that should be out in the open: women and women alone control the friend > relationship pipeline. No one accuses a women for being a trickster if they develop feelings over time *ONLY* men get accused of that. And probably for good reason most of the time. This is why it is just easier for MEN to date strangers. Women choose whoever they want, friends, strangers, co-workers, e…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 06:01 PM
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The average women couldn't care less about a man's muscles. The average man has NO muscle whatsoever. Hell, the typical above average man has no muscles either, they are just tall with an attractive face. I'd bet more women would say a muscular guy is gross rather than hot BECAUSE of the muscles.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 09:49 PM
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I met my wife on OG OKCupid in the early 2010's. I posted decent pictures where it looked like I was having a good time and in different environments. My profile had a few jokes, some of my interests in fun, music, food, etc. I was good at keeping conversation going, she was interested in keeping it going. We were each other's last first date. Everything was natural there on out. Meaning, no tricks or "strategy" was applied. That is "blue pill".
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 08:47 PM
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Its not a TRICK to be played on people, that isn't what I was saying. I mean it doesn't fall into nice neat little buckets and tiers. Someone who has all the attributes of your "type" may still be unattractive to you whereas another person is and who cares WHY you don't have to justify it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 08:58 PM
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Lol I don't think you understood what I was trying to say but whatevs Lil B, it's all good.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 08:38 PM
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People have no clue how attraction works here, because attraction is a tricky subject to begin with. The usual correct answer to "what do you find attractive?" is: I don't know, I know it when I see it. They think that a "type" means someone is attracted to every person who has that attribute. That is just wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 08:33 PM
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Holy shit, personality does matter. The asshole felon IS a personality that gets rewarded, sometimes, when they are hot. When they are gross, they don't get rewarded. Not by "shallow" women, by WOMEN. Shallow, not shallow, it doesnt matter. If they find the person attractive, they find the person attractive. Regardless of the person's morality. Attraction is not JUST looks, its WHO they are. Some people just like what they like. There is nothing shallow at all about a women being attracted to a …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 03:32 PM
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" they either really suck or they don't think you make a good boyfriend. Ask them why." Probably true, most of the time, but sometimes they actually don't know anyone available. It's possible. Regardless, I wouldn't expect even very close friends to tell the HARSH truth as to why they don't try to set them up.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 02:22 PM
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He said he is friends with women all his life, so that means he treats them as human beings. He never said he tried to date them, never said that he is friends JUST because he wants to date them. What he is talking about is the advice he gets here and in life: just be friends with women! That advice is perfectly fine because women make great friends, no argument there. But being friends with women or not does nothing to help someone's dating prospects with OTHER women. At best it doesn't hurt. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 02:20 PM
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Quality work you put in here. Logic Pill Man is taking logical notes. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 02:13 PM
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Oh stop with this, women love short men that have good personalities. The problem is that women have so many men competing for them, that it will take forever to vet the personalities of all the short men that are interested in them. So when faced with a time crunch, they will give the guys they are more physically attracted to the first go to see if they would be good partners. Sometimes the tall guy pipeline dries up very quick, so then the chances for the shorter men go higher. It really depe…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 03:34 PM
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Lol what? No! The ideal scenario is for the losers to come to terms that no one is there to truly "care" about their problems, because if they really think about it, they probably don't care for other people's problems either. And that's just life.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 12:29 PM
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At least you dole out the tough love equally.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 11:59 PM
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Funny thing is, men in therapy or seeking help is instant ick. Damaged goods. Yes, like how unfairly women are labeled damage goods for reasons, same injustice. Maybe on reddit which is basically the tabloid arm of the therapist industrial complex, it's seen a good thing. But out in the wild, it's not attractive. So they bottle it up instead or do it silently. No support.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 11:55 PM
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Man equals adult in this case. be a woman, be a man, same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 11:52 PM
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She's being an asshole about it. And therapy isn't going to fix the problem. It's just going to ask "why does being a loser bother you, how does being a loser make you feel." Therapy doesn't produce answers it just helps them cope with being less then. They need help and support understanding why women not caring about men's problem is meaningless. This is "all problems matters" in the responses here.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 09:00 PM
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You don't hear yourself. You are mean to these men. Not all of them are hopeless, and you come here just to tell them you couldn't care less about their issues and throw around the reddit trope of therapy doesn't help. Why bother coming here?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 08:03 PM
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This isn't real life. This sub is shit-post tier, inches away from a circlejerk sub so none of this is serious I know, BUT, your TONE screams just what I said but I'll fix it a bit: "be a man, stop being a little bitch, get therapy." But I kind of agree, everyone in here needs to just man up. They will be happier with themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 07:47 PM
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These dudes tipping there hats saying m'lady, getting curved, moving onto to the next one, still hat tippin'. Passing out flowers. lol But, there is something to be said about the kind of dudes who shoots their shot with one woman in the group then are persona non grata with the rest: they are not attractive. And I am not talking about just looks, it's the whole unattractive package. Once the unattractive guy gets shot down, there is nothing he can do within that group to make himself attractive…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 07:43 PM
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Basically, your answer is "be a man, stop being a little bitch."
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 07:16 PM
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Lots of times "crazy in bed" just means uninhibited not "good". Lots of times bed crazy does dumb shit they think is "porn star" or they would do things that physically hurts. No one wants that shit all the time. It's like "giant vacation dick" trope. Exhausting and not even pleasurable every time.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 03:22 PM
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Many men want to be everything to their partner. Many women don't see it that way, they see "partner" as a separate role that fills a specific need. Sex is a common one they sacrifice to get that role filled. Not all the time though, depends on the person. A lot of men cannot comprehend that.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 03:12 PM
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The Bellichek situation is barreling towards elder abuse at this point.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 05:26 PM
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No matter what the fashion industry, media, movies, etc says - more than enough men actively prefer fat women. Always has.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 05:21 PM
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It makes you sound bitter. You arent going to get an answer you like.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 11:45 PM
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"But ONE side is trying to act like they have moral high ground over the other, with false, manipulative, and downright cruel platitudes disguised as knowledge, advice, and tips." I don't agree with this
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 10:49 PM
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You have ear plugs in. Men AREN'T saying that at all. They are saying, early sex does not mean he just wants a hook up, it can mean very much they want a relationship. Ultimately it doesn't matter, my wife and I were exclusive and official first, but if we didn't do that, I would still have married her anyway. I don't whine about it, it was totally cool and a non factor.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 07:53 PM
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Some women here are saying explicitly they have sex with men DON'T want relationships with on purpose. They purposefully don't have sex with men they DO want a relationship with. Having sex is them INSULTING the guy. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 07:32 PM
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Some women truly and deeply believe that if she has sex with you right away then she is insulting you. Some women truly and deeply believe that waiting to have sex with a man is the highest compliment she can give him. Sex is not sacred to these women. What is to them is their idea of partnership and longevity. Sex means NOTHING.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 06:20 PM
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If AFBB was true, then your comment makes that reality even worse. Because in their worldview, there are only so many alphas, so they get 4 or 5 women vying for them later in life and they typically only choose one. So then the "leftovers" who couldn't nail the hot guy then tiers down to BB. It's all bullshit, but that is what they are saying. They are saying they never got to have any fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 06:06 PM
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Again you kind of miss the point The phrase alpha fux beta bux is corny as hell, dumb, and probably not even true, but the point is: beta bux are ONLY GOOD for their money. When they were young and trying to have fun, they were rejected because they are not good looking. Physically. Ugly, plain, short, etc. They sat on the sidelines and waited. No one wanted to have fun with them. Now that they are older and have resources, they STILL don't get to have fun, and instead are only good to provide. …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 05:55 PM
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You are extreme, do you think I said "all" women or something? I'm not approaching you with any hostility or absurdity, i have never commented about your situation. What gives?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 12:36 PM
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In the past before I was married absolutely it happened. Many times. I 100% do not subscribe to the manosphere shit. I'm too old for that regarding believed in it. It's people who don't understand how the world can be unfair. They are irrelevant. But that doesn't mean that some women are out there being assholes and pull stunts. Men do it too.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 12:28 PM
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The guy you are responding to is bitter, but everything he said absolutely DOES happen and often enough to be talked about. It's not only men who who mess around with people. Your experience does not negate everyone else's because all the women in your life are wonderful.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 12:12 PM
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Yeah i think we are aligned here with your last paragraph I think she's separating the act of hooking up from a "hookup only person "categorization which doesn't really move the convo.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 09:43 PM
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This person you are responding to is not understanding the premise. To them it's hook up OR date. She's not understanding at all that you are saying "why do you only date men you don't find attractive". People here are not understanding OP's point at all. It's not even a bad point to DEBATE when what he is saying is properly understood, which is "the odds of a healthy and successful long term relationship is highest when the woman actually finds their spouse physically attractive very quickly". …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 09:17 PM
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I had the same upbringing, except it was multiple women, not just my mother basically training me to be as unattractive to young women as possible. They wanted me to be the man they wish their husbands and ex's WERE but AFTER they were already attracted. The male role models weren't any better either. Took years to figure out they were just outright wrong about everything that a woman actually wants in a man. And to add, they also were horribly judgemental about looks ,to the point where I would…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 02:50 AM
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If that is the first thing she says, then that means she is not even close to being over that ex.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 07:27 PM
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Sure, that's fair, but I think the argument isn't "any woman" it's just that men give the only one or two women in their entire life time that would be into them a chance. And since their checklist is smaller, odds are those women may very well fit just fine for them. It doesn't mean those women are bad matches! On average, people are good, so really there wouldn't be anything wrong with them! Men MUST do this, since the average dude has limited interest from women. It just works out
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 01:28 AM
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Men don't need a hundred items on their checklist for their romantic partner they are in love with to be their best friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 10:53 PM
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No it's not! Don't be obtuse
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 07:34 PM
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"Men take very little to be content." They can and do easily love who makes them content. It's not fake. It just doesn't take as much. Their "checklist of boxes" are much shorter.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 06:29 PM
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Yup. Be man, deal with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 04:21 PM
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You are on to something....
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 03:14 AM
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Lol they do exist
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/25 03:13 AM
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Ok sure. But again, this subreddit is not the place for advice from folks who do not have traditional relationships or arrangements unless you lead with information to start. These dudes are struggling with confidence and social skills. That needs to be addressed before we get into throuples and paid intimacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 06:30 PM
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So you are a sex worker or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 06:27 PM
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Not the norm. What the hell do i have to explain? Affairs aren't a good thing, lol. What do you mean you hire providers? You pay your boyfriend for sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 06:16 PM
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Managing two full blown relationships is far-fetched for the overwhelming majority of western society
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 05:51 PM
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Same goes if you gender swap. Any unsolicited "he/she is gross" or "sooo annoying" is a massive red flag
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 12:58 PM
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Getting into poly world is way too advanced for the folks in here that can't even get one date, let alone two relationships. I feel sorry for the dudes in here that are bitter, none are looking for solutions just support.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 12:51 PM
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Again, being attractive is a great way to give yourself the best chance to find someone that works for you, then you need to do all the other things to keep them. The BEST chance, not the ONLY chance!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 09:07 PM
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"Be attractive and don't be unattractive" is fine advice. The men you turned down for relationships that you liked physically were attractive. The men you date are too. So...they were all attractive. advising men to be attractive is to help them find out who they are compatible with or not. You don't get to that stage if you are unattractive
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 02:25 AM
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It's two men. All women are going after the same two men. Ralph from accounting and Nick Cannon.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 07:48 PM
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I once chewed out the Time Warner Cable support rep because they shut my Internet down by a mistake. My wife wanted to jump my bones because I really let em have it. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 12:37 PM
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Women date men who don't like dancing and clubs all the time. Most men do not like it. The typical club going man is going there to find women. Some like the music at the same time, some like to dance at the same time, but it's the women they are really after. OP is basically saying that "girls night out" is actually not girls only night out, it never is because of the places they go to. In reality, it's "your partner and strange men's night out" while you are home waiting. It is just replacing …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 02:00 AM
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This isn't a bad question to ask, as extreme about it OP is. Everything below is my opinion of the AVERAGE, and I fully understand there are exceptions, poly people or whatever yada yada. Again, the average, but NOT ALL. The average straight man gets romantic, emotional, and physical intimacy ONLY from his partner and in a non-sexual sense, his female relatives. With his male friends, the intimacy is typically completely different: games, sports, debate - mainly competitive intimacy, which is ne…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 11:54 PM
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