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That's a great quote, thank you.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/19 09:05 AM
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Brilliant, thanks!
/r/askTRP01/09/19 10:40 AM
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Can you go into more detail about your mindset shift? What it was, how you did it, what inspired/taught you? If it's too personal to post here please dm me
/r/askTRP31/08/19 11:55 PM
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What was the main thing that changed for you to get girls throwing themselves at you? Was it a mental shift or physical improvement?
/r/askTRP31/08/19 10:03 PM
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This is really special and exactly the kind of method that would work for me, particularly as it treats the women well and with respect, without mind tricks and lies. Having said that, if I got vibes kiss/sex was down from the first date if go for it, no doubt. Got my last two long relationships from first night hookups. Speaking of which I might pm you, If that's cool,, here's my story and I'd really appreciate you looking it over. I'm newly out of a long relationship too, 7 years it lasted, al…
/r/seduction20/03/19 10:28 PM
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That's a great response, you taught me a lot here man, thanks!
/r/seduction13/03/19 09:44 AM
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Good question, I'd like to know the answer to this too
/r/askTRP13/03/19 12:22 AM
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How long have you been on them? I considered taking meds but my doctor said I should try to ride it out and I'm kinda glad I did. Some days I feel like shit (it's been 3 weeks today) but some days I feel fine and happy and optimistic. It's a tricky one and I know time will heal it but it's also a real fucker on the bad days. Thankfully I've moved in with a mate so he keeps me grounded at the bad times.
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/19 12:24 PM
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I'm going to write this down and keep referring back to it, it's really useful to hear it spelled out like this. Thank you, really appreciate it.
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/19 12:23 PM
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Thanks man. These are good words. What would you say the lesson you learned is?
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/19 11:59 AM
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So it'd be ok once in a while? Outside of the zealous nofap community what's seen as an ok amount to jerk off? Like a couple of times a week or just whatever feels ok?
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/19 09:47 PM
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Ah I was just on a bit of a health kick, quit caffeine, exercise more, stopped doing any recreational drugs (nothing heavy), and quit masturbating too, all about a week before she broke up with me. think I could sense it coming and either did all this to show I was willing to try better myself or did it in preparation for the grim months ahead. Think I'm just worried I'll feel all shit and guilty and weak if I break my accidental nofap, and get all wimpy and sad about my ex. Should probably stop…
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/19 05:22 PM
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Are you on no contact with your ex? I'm moving away from this city to live with a friend too, tomorrow. I think I'll be happier then.
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/19 12:16 AM
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That's harsh man. I did similar, reading the Love Languages book, but she'd decided months ago it was done. In a way I feel happy I don't have to keep debasing myself to try to make her like me again. Hope you feel better soon. Do you feel better now than the first week after the split? I'm still in the very early days so my mind is all over the place.
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/19 07:24 PM
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Thanks man. I had my first cry in years earlier after reading these comments. Felt a bit silly but it was definitely needed and I felt good after, it was really cathartic
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/19 07:23 PM
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Yeah I'm doing ok at not dwelling on her specifically, she treated me so badly in that final year that it's great to be out of it. I'm not sure what all the emotion is, maybe that I wasted my time, or I failed at this thing. Yeah I'm avoiding drugs, and just having the one glass of wine at night, physically I'm doing well. How does your counselling go? Do they ask what's on your mind, and is it ok if you cry? I'm thinking of doing it myself for a couple of sessions while I wait for my CBT sessio…
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/19 02:42 PM
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Yeah it's weird, I know it's ok to be upset but I hate big dramatic scenes and don't want to be part of it. Want to just plough on through clinically and sort things out. But I guess a good cry is ok every so often when going through something as big as this. I'm thinking of taking a couple of counselling sessions. Do you cry in them? How does your therapist respond?
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/19 02:38 PM
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Thanks man, even your comment made me well up for fucks sake haha
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/19 12:32 PM
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Thanks man, your words are great
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/19 12:19 PM
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These are the kind of words I need to hear right now, thank you. Although I blubbed at the dog mention - the only things that make me truly upset is thinking about the kindness of my friends throughout this and my dogs. Very little sadness at losing my ex wife, which is a bit surprising to me, I guess it's because she put me through so much misery and pain this past year, she wasn't the person I knew, she changed entirely. The thing that worries me though is that it's almost an exact mirror imag…
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/19 01:49 AM
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This meant a lot reading this, thanks man. I've saved it to my phone notes so I can reread it when I feel low. Again, thanks so much. Out of interest how long are you divorced? What's your situation if you don't mind me asking?
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/19 01:36 AM
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Like the poster guessed below, I've always lived in major uk cities and used my bicycle to get around. It was never a necessity. Though I did learn at 17 but failed my test and ran out of money, wish I'd stuck it out and continued but that's life.
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/19 01:33 AM
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Yes this is correct. It's not such a necessity in the city where I live, though I regret not doing it earlier.
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/19 01:31 AM
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Thanks man, getting those books now. I've set up Tinder and Bumble but it's pretty depressing so far. Then again I'm moving to a different more lively city in a week so I guess I shouldn't be too fussed. What do you think about my plan to move to Thailand for a bit? Will a change of scene help or will I just take my misery with me? A good friend is letting me stop with him for a while, which is a massive relief. My friends have been great with all this, and my family too. I feel better in a weir…
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/19 05:20 PM
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Does it vary for everyone? I'm a bit scared as it's so new, and not sure how long it'll take me to bounce back. Having said that, I'm already a lot happier. Feel like a massive weight has been lifted, the last few months have been hell so it can only be better from now on.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/19 04:21 PM
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That'll be ok, she started earning more than me, in the past year or so. I think it'll be a clean break financially.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/19 04:21 PM
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I dunno i might get married again, to the right person, but a small one this time not a big event. It's not put me off women, it's just the end of a relationship, which happens. I'm just lucky there's no property or kids involved.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/19 02:40 PM
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Cheap place to live, with decent internet so I can still work remotely - I write for a living. I feel kind of ok right now, just went through all social media deleting her and her friends. Also set up Tinder and Bumble but that's proving a bit grim, slim pickings.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/19 02:09 AM
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