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| 284 | Have you ever noticed how single mothers are villainized in movies for setting boundaries concerning their kids with their ex-husbands? | DISCUSSION | DayAfterManana | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 01:27 AM |
| 55 | Do you ever just get angry when a guy says they “want kids”? | RANT | DayAfterManana | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 09:05 PM |
| 1 | “Most of my first kisses with a girl have happened on a couch”... he can’t be bothered to get out of a car to give a girl a kiss. Can someone say low effort? | THINGS SCROTES SAY | DayAfterManana | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 12:21 AM |
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| 13 | If you're terrified to lose him - you MUST leave.I think this is also directly related to the sink cost fallacy. Being so terrified of it ending because you feel you’ve invested, and what else do you have? Such a toxic place to be. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 05:26 PM |
| 29 | For realsociety is pushing women to co-sign their own suppression and oppression. Holy bejeezuz, THIS RIGHT HERE. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 02:32 AM |
| 14 | I just thought this was really sweet and refreshing.Right. I have my own areas of expertise, but let’s say my partner knew a lot about and did research on, idk, the long term effects of deforestation, I wouldn’t be an expert but I’d like to know more. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 02:18 PM |
| 6 | In this society, we are all pickmes by default, we have to unlearn it, and this work is hard. FDS is life outside the caveI used to look up to certain women for the ways they managed dating and relationships. Now I see they are in one form or another, pickmes. I thought I needed to be like them, do better. Now I can confidently say I have surpassed them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 01:54 AM |
| 6 | Walk away! Run away!The best gift for me was for him to end it. It was like my life flashed before my eyes. The shock of it made me see all of his indiscretions from the past in a different light. I felt some shame for not having seen them earlier. But now I truly feel the BEST THING to have happened to me was when he broke it off. I have no shame now, I’m just grateful I can see the truth now for what it is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 01:52 AM |
| 2 | The gospel truthYESSSS there’s saying something like “I can’t believe you chose me” or “I’m not good enough for you” cuz yep that’s true. Now if he says something like, “I got so lucky to find you” that’s also true cuz I am unique and there’s not many out there, so you did get lucky. Hopefully we both got lucky. I’ll be happy one day when I can say that to an SO because goddammit is it hard to find a good one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 01:46 AM |
| 3 | Here is a picture of the men who stormed the Capitol building today:Basement dwelling human pond scum. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 04:24 PM |
| 7 | Since I've seen that u like him... here is another one.Yeah I gotcha. It’s crazy how our mindsets can change so dramatically and what we realize in retrospect! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 07:13 PM |
| 15 | Since I've seen that u like him... here is another one.I’ve only been cheated on a few times Love that you found FDS and are still vetting, but some people never cheat/get cheated on. Saying “only a few times” reinforces that it’s inevitable and not a big deal cuz it didn’t happen, idk, 5 times. Cheating is not an “only a few times” thing. Just wanted to point that out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 05:54 PM |
| 17 | The lows you stoop to to get picked.Jesus wept hahaha I am dead 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 09:58 PM |
| 29 | I don’t understand the obsession with wanting to live with menI fucking love my tiny studio apartment and it’s too small for anyone but me, wouldn’t have it any different 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 09:53 PM |
| 13 | This is the kind of crap that just makes me wanna give up on love forever...With a name like Ca$aNoVa, it has to be LVM. * read like smuckers commercial * | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 06:28 PM |
| 33 | If you have to ask; it’s a NoSo. Frickin. True. I refuse to have the “what are we” conversation ever again. I won’t do it. I’ll just walk away. That convo never ends up going where you want it to go. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 02:44 AM |
| 11 | My fiancee organised another lovely date in lockdown times! Happy new year ladies ❤️It’s okay I didn’t know this and English is my first language 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 06:24 AM |
| 21 | FDS is for any womanWow this happened to me too. I used to be more unsure of myself and didn’t get asked out much, but since leaving my pickme days behind, I’ve been pursued and definitely dropped after a few days cuz the fuckbois realize they’re not gonna get some. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 04:45 AM |
| 7 | I know checklists are passé but I keep them and update red flags.No hate but my question is “Is he a believer” if yes, he’s fake, haha. Just complete opposite. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 05:31 AM |
| 2 | So much respect for her father in-law for correcting his son’s behaviour!It’s definitely scripted. If you follow their videos this is kinda their style. This one is not funny to me though... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 04:02 AM |
| 4 | They can’t even be bothered to pretend to make an effort. I set my preferences to 200 characters min for 1st messages to avoid meaningless “hey”s, and this is what I get sent - oh, & this loser claims to have a master’s degree in his profile.He does have a master’s degree. In Dumbfuckery. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 08:11 AM |
| 5 | Scrote refuses to acknowledge true intentions (even to himself) and abandons personal standards to cheat on wife.Christian men...some of the lowest of low value. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 08:03 AM |
| 1 | A huge piece of the puzzle that is misogyny is mothers.And that’s on enmeshment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 03:57 PM |
| 1 | My neighbor had sex with a guy she was interested in really soon, they had a condom slip incident, and he immediately changed. This is why we vet!!Literally ANYTHING. Never stop vetting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 04:04 AM |
| 26 | Kicking MyselfDon’t kick yourself. At all. Pat yourself on the back for waking up, and acknowledge that you are not the person you were before. Think of it this way: if you were to talk to your former self, would you actually kick her and yell at her? Probably not. You’d reveal what you know now with some painful but truthful love. It’s hard to learn something and fully grasp it if you don’t experience it, so sometimes going through the pickme stage is the best way to level up. You’ll find a lot of FDS member… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 06:45 AM |
| 12 | Imagine getting this as an Xmas gift. I'd be so pissedHonestly, low effort isn’t exclusive. FDS honestly helps you weed out anyone who drains you and keeps you from being your badass self. And that includes all low effort friends and partners. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 06:33 AM |
| 12 | Imagine getting this as an Xmas gift. I'd be so pissedComic sans just radiates low effort font energy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 06:31 AM |
| 24 | My neighbor had sex with a guy she was interested in really soon, they had a condom slip incident, and he immediately changed. This is why we vet!!Yep. I love it when people say things like “well he was so sweet and he cuddled with me and said these nice things,” and then they are shocked when they’re ghosted. Honey, he likes cuddling. You were available. Him saying those nice things means you’re more likely to continue being available. Stop believing the first thing someone says. He’s not dIFfErEnT until he consistently shows up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 06:28 AM |
| 8 | My neighbor had sex with a guy she was interested in really soon, they had a condom slip incident, and he immediately changed. This is why we vet!!“I felt like he was different and really genuine. Also we barely know each other.” Yep. Checks out. 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 06:24 AM |
| 27 | Anyone else have this view on having children?I 100% get this. I feel like having kids in this day and age is a bit selfish and unethical, if I’m completely honest. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 10:35 PM |
| 11 | A man taking responsibility, we love to see it!Also, “thank you for telling me” translates to “shit, you got me.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 10:23 PM |
| 9 | A man taking responsibility, we love to see it!Yep. 789 (so far) people upvoting this is concerning. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 10:23 PM |
| 34 | A man taking responsibility, we love to see it!Stop normalizing the praise of bare minimum behavior. 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 10:21 PM |
| 11 | Is *this* where the "PickMe" epithet hails from? I laughed so hard I pulled a muscle in my neck.Mmm I just vomited a little in my mouth. Can I unwatch that? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 04:15 AM |
| 11 | I'm done with relationship subs for todayUmm I’m really not sure how tf you could have an “otherwise great relationship” when your bf shoved silverware up your asshole. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 11:41 PM |
| 21 | I thought this was perfect for us 😉That dog said: “HALP. ME.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 11:31 PM |
| 129 | Why it's important to date multiple guysI used to be a one person at a time woman and couldn’t imagine anything else. And then I’d wonder why I’d get attached so quickly (lots of reasons for that that I was blind to, but one being I would throw myself into one person). Now I will take it slow with different people because like you, more often than not, they aren’t HV, or there’s simply nothing there between us and won’t ever be. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 04:12 AM |
| 2 | In terms of audacity does your cup runneth over?It’s the face squinch at the very end for me 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 12:13 AM |
| 34 | Mastercard and Visa stop allowing their cards to be used on Pornhub. Even credit card companies know what’s up.You KNOW Amex and everywhere else is getting a TON of applicants right now just because of this... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 10:05 PM |
| 7 | One of Taylor Swift’s new songs “closure” is about shutting down exes who come guiltily crawling backOh my gooood this happened to me two weeks ago!! Yes, I hear what you’re saying, but I’m fine, and I don’t need to talk cuz “closure” means nothing to me 👋🏼💁🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 09:54 PM |
| 4 | Have you ever noticed how single mothers are villainized in movies for setting boundaries concerning their kids with their ex-husbands?Wow, I never thought of that. Such bullshit when even a gay man taking the mothering role can’t get some credit for shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 03:00 AM |
| 17 | Happy holidays girlsI’ve definitely met Frosty the Fuccboi, hope he melts for good this spring. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 09:17 PM |
| 27 | 'Christian' husband doesn't like how teen babysitter dresses, so his wife reprimands her 🤦🏽♀️Oh do NOT get me started on LV Christian men. They are truly some of the WORST. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 09:02 PM |
| 23 | They don't care what you wantHonestly, telling a man your standards directly in the beginning just gives them to opportunity to know what they need to do so you’ll stick around for awhile, fuck you, and leave. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 04:18 PM |
| 5 | Have you ever noticed how single mothers are villainized in movies for setting boundaries concerning their kids with their ex-husbands?Also there is FDS approved media in the wiki just not a ton. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 07:19 AM |
| 5 | Have you ever noticed how single mothers are villainized in movies for setting boundaries concerning their kids with their ex-husbands?Yes!! Céline Sciamma is a GODDESS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 07:18 AM |
| 33 | Have you ever noticed how single mothers are villainized in movies for setting boundaries concerning their kids with their ex-husbands?Oh my gooood you’re right, I totally forgot about the first one where he totally wanted to fuck that blonde chick! He really is a LVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 05:34 AM |
| 2 | 🌻 Wednesday Warmth🌻 This is me @ all of you lovely ladies when you put your foot down and cut off low-value people who mistreat you!Why do I feel like she’s genuinely talking to me 😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 04:05 AM |
| 27 | Have you ever noticed how single mothers are villainized in movies for setting boundaries concerning their kids with their ex-husbands?On the same note of film but completely different in that it’s quality material, Portrait of a Lady on Fire should be in the list of FDS approved films. Those are some boss ladies. It’s in my top 3 films of all time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 03:43 AM |
| 22 | Have you ever noticed how single mothers are villainized in movies for setting boundaries concerning their kids with their ex-husbands?Oh yeah definitely! I actually thought about that one but forgot to include it!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 03:36 AM |
| 11 | One of my love languages is receiving gifts..Oh this is 100% love bombing. No one throws money at you that early unless they want to manipulate you down the line. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 12:48 AM |
| 8 | A small one, but a red flag nonethelessThis reminds me of when my college freshmen orientation counselor (he was a sophomore) coerced me into giving him a handjob after I said I wasn’t comfortable because “you’re not doing anything to your body. It’s my body and it’s fine with me”. 🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 12:45 AM |
| 7 | Us telling men “I’m not interested anymore” after seeing them follow tons of new girls in the same city on Instagram. Stay vigilant queens!I am loving her energy 👏🏼 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 12:39 AM |
| 43 | When FDS gives you a signIt doesn’t get more low effort than literally omitting words lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 12:31 AM |
| 29 | If an ex comes back and says he misses you, don’t be flattered. He should miss you. You're deeply missable.Had one do that to me a couple weeks ago. “You’re a really great person and I don’t want to lose that.” FFS you chose to give it up. And ya can’t lose something you don’t have!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 03:29 PM |
| 28 | This is what they really think of you.A man who checks his messages mid-sex is a GVM, Garbage Value Man lolol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 08:00 AM |
| 1 | Did you know that "aftercare" was a thing with BDSM?Perhaps could be part of it. I’m not entirely sure and haven’t put a finger on it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 08:08 PM |
| 8 | My boyfriend was worth the wait! He’s been taking care of me since I broke my foot.You have a point. I think what’s important to recognize is that a HV action is different than a HV man. Some here may realize that, some don’t. Being an actual HVM takes a lot of time, consistency, and effort, and he must continue to prove his HV. I do, however, like to see real life actions like this as an example of a single action. But in no way should any FDS member (or anyone for that matter) justify their LVM BF because of one simple act. I just don’t know OP’s actual relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 08:07 PM |
| 1 | Did you know that "aftercare" was a thing with BDSM?I’m talking specifically about my brother and I getting into fighting matches generally started by stupid sibling things. We both said hurtful things when we were younger that we regret. We were both pretty passionate children still learning self control. Thankfully as adults we have been able to navigate our relationship and communicate maturely, and I talk to him every day, never any fighting matches. My parents have never in their lives said anything intentionally hateful toward me. Edit: I’l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 02:59 PM |
| 4 | I've been dating a man for 2 months nowI see both of your points. It’s possible the question of “how can you know” is to simply ask for someone’s perspective on their convictions. If they asked me this, I would then turn it back on them, and say, “so, do you know that you wouldn’t cheat? Or do you mean to say you don’t know that you wouldn’t cheat? Under what circumstances could you find yourself cheating?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 07:32 AM |
| 8 | Men having a type and women having a type. How men fake interest and clown women. Ways to avoid this happening to you.LVM like him are too far gone. He’s a never-change man. Hopefully she’ll get out sooner rather than later. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 07:27 AM |
| 4 | Did you know that "aftercare" was a thing with BDSM?I find this interesting, and it seems to be the impression that most have about why women say they like BDSM. I have in the past (single and happy atm!) enjoyed very light BDSM. I am grateful to say I have not ever been abused. Never been physically touched in a violent way. In my family, very harsh and hurtful words were said during occasional heated arguments, but these were not everyday and I wouldn’t equate them to emotional abuse. I’ve never been verbally or physically abused by any man I w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 07:16 AM |
| 6 | I replied to a comment and got a nasty PM. The poster didn't want to be her insecure husband's unpaid therapist. The commentor disagreed. Apparently I deserve to be mistreated for not...allowing myself to be mistreated? My reply is probably harsher than I meant, but I have no regrets. 😂“Obviously you haven’t finished with yours yet” (last pic) lolllll roast so hot he toasted!! 🔥🔥🔥 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 06:54 AM |
| 37 | My boyfriend was worth the wait! He’s been taking care of me since I broke my foot.Thank you for sharing this HVM material!! Edit: there seems to be confusion sometimes on the distinction between HV actions and HV people. An HV individual is only HV because of their proven consistency of HV actions. This I would consider a HV action, but it takes more than one gesture to actual be HV. I hope that clarifies my comment when I say “material”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 05:42 AM |
| 36 | Just... NO 🤢🤮you need to cOmMuNiCaTe | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 05:41 AM |
| 109 | THIS IS IT. This is the attitude 👑This is one of the best ways I’ve heard it described!! If you’re not bringing anything to my already fulfilling life, you’re either taking away from it or a waste of my time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 04:37 AM |
| 2 | Being with a low value man can make you believe that you are insecure and have low self-esteem. You are not the problem: they are!Holy shiiiiiit. I haven’t heard something that I’ve related to so much. I’m 3 days post breakup. Wow. I thought at times I was demanding too much contact or being clingy, but in reality, he creating an unsafe and insecure environment for the relationship!! 🤯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 04:42 AM |
| 9 | Don't make the mistake of believing that men only use women for sex.I was used for the past 10 months in an LDR for god knows what reason only for him to break up with me 3 days before I was supposed to see him because there’s someone else. I should have seen the signs. I won’t ignore them next time... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 04:09 PM |
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