| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 1031 | After telling him I’ve been in hospital, have covid pleurisy & too unwell to date atm.. I’m done with men | MALE DEPRAVITY | Daydreamingon | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 04:46 PM |
| 27 | Guys are feeling too needy for me?? Ya girl is levelling up! | LEVEL UP | Daydreamingon | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 02:43 AM |
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 3 | Men Double TextingReminds me of when some guy on bumble started video calling me cos I didn’t reply. I was at work. He was shocked/unmatched when one of the blokes in the office answered for me 😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 05:55 AM |
| 2 | "Sex Playlist": How the music you find sexy can be a vetting strategyWhat a great vetting strategy! I’m all about those sexy baselines haha. For the indie/alt ladies, Memory serves by Interpol is my go to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/22 03:34 PM |
| 209 | After telling him I’ve been in hospital, have covid pleurisy & too unwell to date atm.. I’m done with menThe fact he brought it up when considering the prospect of me dying is just.. ugh shudders | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 05:31 PM |
| 82 | After telling him I’ve been in hospital, have covid pleurisy & too unwell to date atm.. I’m done with menI know right! I’ve not even met the guy which makes it so much more bizarre.. he’s done me a favour though 🗑 And thank you lovely, means a lot! 🤍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 05:28 PM |
| 113 | After telling him I’ve been in hospital, have covid pleurisy & too unwell to date atm.. I’m done with menYou’re right, it’s like something I’d have read in a Richard Dawkins book about Neanderthals’ mating behaviour.. madnessss | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 05:25 PM |
| 287 | After telling him I’ve been in hospital, have covid pleurisy & too unwell to date atm.. I’m done with menI’ve never blocked somebody so quickly hahaa! And thanks lovely 🤍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 05:22 PM |
| 15 | As funny as this sounds it's really hard to find men who actually like sexGirllll I also thought I was Demi for so long because I didn’t want to be choked or spat on | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/22 04:10 PM |
| 7 | Perfect example of men having issues with your pets being a red flag! And this queen response!!!My ex was jealous of my dog and hated him. This wasn’t the only red flag I chose to ignore. He turned out to be a psycho with a smelly floppy dick that only got hard when I cried! Thank god I came to my senses hey! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 03:25 AM |
| 15 | Tell the world you abuse women without telling the world you abuse women 🤫🤭I wonder how many women they’ve made cum in their life.. 🐸☕️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 01:33 AM |
| 37 | Darcey from TLC's 90 Day Fiance is usually a mess, but I love this video where she handles her petty, insecure scrote ex like a queen.When he made this big thing of giving her a (fake) key to his house when it looked like he was about to propose.. I lost my shit. I love darcy but she is so insecure it’s sad to see | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 01:30 AM |
| 662 | I have no wordsWhen I used to wear clip ins I would get this comment all the time. When men “deceive” us with beards hiding weak jaws and hats hiding the fact they’re balding, or they deceive us into thinking we’re dating so they can get into our pants.. the list goes on! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 04:56 AM |
| 20 | The 30+ playboy life style isn’t what you think it is.I’m mid 20s and have an acquaintance in his early 30s. He’s been trying to sleep with me for almost 2 years now and still has the audacity to test the waters. He tried to book a “date” in with me but he dropped the other day that said “date” will be at his place and he insinuated it was going to lead to sex. Moral of the story - a leopard never changes its spots. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 04:51 AM |
| 1 | Start having sex where the man doesn’t orgasmThe best sex I’ve ever had is with a guy that I unintentionally did this with. We knew eachother already and I stopped by his place one day after work, things got hot and heavy but I refused to let it go past a heavy make out session. He respected my boundaries and when we did eventually have sex it was similar to this post describes, he was very much a giver and it was an all day event, we were tired and hungry but could not keep our hands off eachother. He’s the only guy to have made me cum an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 10:51 AM |
| 1 | LVM blocked by ex decides to plaster self-indulgent hoover letter all over her new neighbourhood (French)Reminds me of when I dumped my LVM ex in lockdown last year, he proceeded to hand write a 20 page letter and send a photo of each page, lolllllllll | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 10:07 AM |
| 104 | I thought having same taste in music indicated compatibility and was always so flattered and proud when guys were impressed by the genres/bands I like... facepalmGirlllllllll I’m the same!! But then on dating apps I’d be negged for not being the typical “big tiddy goth girl” who wears lingerie and collars in her pics (eye roll/yawnnnnn) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 09:54 AM |
| 15 | What do you think of men who do live feedings for pets like large snakes, snapping turtles, etc?The true crime junkie in me tells me to run as the next live feeding I’ll be the prey 😂 (don’t fuck with cats truly scarred me for life) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 01:39 AM |
| 77 | A guy I met on Hinge sexually assaulted me, so I get him banned on dating apps whenever I see him 💅I truly think women need to develop a dating app where an Uber style rating system is used for this exact reason. After several reports of shitty behaviour, a lifetime ban imposed! If I knew how to develop it, I would. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 05:03 AM |
| 1 | Why we should quit the diets/eating habits that make us miserableThanks for this - I’ve gained some weight this year due to the pandemic and feeling meh. My self esteem/worth has plummeted to the point where I don’t even want to be seen out and about by people I know. I keep reminding myself that I am worth a lot more than just a number on a scale and I’m a good person but it’s hard when you’re conditioned to believe from such a young age that we’re meant to look like Victoria’s Secret models or we won’t be liked. So thank you for the reminder 💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 11:47 PM |
| 33 | First date failOh girl I feel u! Finally deleted my OLD profiles this week- sick of LVMs expecting you to choose dates or make plans, or inviting you to their place now cos Boris has allowed it (Fellow brit here!🙋🏻♀️) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 11:09 PM |
| 2 | 🤨Yes I totally agree! Tbh this was in my early days of discovering FDS and I definitely didn’t vet properly. I’ve always been too polite for my own good but I’d like to think I would leave in that situation now (currently taking a break from dating to work on myself!) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 11:08 AM |
| 1 | 🤨Yes 1000%! Tbh this was in my early days of discovering FDS so I definitely didn’t vet adequately. I also think he was intimidated by me/my job prior to meeting him so when I turned up to be taller than him that was it 🤣💁🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 11:06 AM |
| 2 | 🤨Yessss docs and dresses are definitely a cute look! I like to wear docs to make me even taller now 🤣💁🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 11:03 AM |
| 77 | The nerdboy syndrome is just as toxic as the f*ckboyYES! My ex was a nerdy weirdo and tbh I don’t know why I went there, he won me over with his humour. He’d constantly put me down and I felt so small by the end of it. My mom says he never saw me as a human being, he was with me for my looks and basically saw me as a dolly to take out to places and put down to make himself feel better. Ugh. Fuck men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 11:02 AM |
| 124 | 🤨Usually it’s a “oh I didn’t realise you were so tall!”.. sure 🙄 one guy actually blamed me for wearing doc martens - he saw me in my pics wearing docs and dresses, no complaints about my alt vibe before that. Spent most the date telling me how I shouldn’t dress like that, he’s used to more girly, glam girls who wear heels (it’s a good job I didn’t tho?!), told me I looked like I “crushed babies skulls” wtf?! Blocked as soon as I got home! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 08:12 PM |
| 140 | 🤨And let’s not forget lying about height. I’m 5’11 and have turned up to many a first date being significantly taller than a guy claiming to be 6’-6’3 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 07:43 PM |
| 32 | 🤨I call it hatfishing 🤣 also have seen many profiles with makeup on to make their beard connect (like we can’t tell?!) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 07:40 PM |
| 128 | 🤨It’s such a sad reality- also it’s horrifying how marital rape was only introduced as a criminal offence in the early 90s (in England & Wales) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 07:30 PM |
| 2 | Shaking with rage at pederasty on redditI’m a crime analyst in a unit fighting CSE/trafficking. I deal with stuff like this all the time. I don’t think people (and specifically MEN) realise that these PREDATORS use this boyfriend tactic to groom their young victims. The child ends up thinking they’re special because they have an older boyfriend who can drive and take them places, who can buy them nice things (in reality it ain’t shit but these are kids we’re talking about), they shower them with love and affection and are able to come… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 12:25 AM |
| 24 | Let's Have Fun!“ let’s just see if we vibe” “let’s not go into this with expectations and add even more pressure” are also fuckboy favourites | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 03:30 PM |
| 4 | "Caught in the net (2020)" documentary about sexual predators young girls face onlineAccidentally deleted previous comment - newbie here! See below for those interested- My job is quite relevant to this. I’ve always seen it as not the fault of parents from not limiting kids access but the fact that predators are utilising the internet as a tool to exhibit behaviours that would have also occurred in person but 1 - it’s a lot harder to “catch” predators solely doing things in person, it relies on the victim or a witness coming forward. And 2- in person CSE predators are usually on… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 05:23 PM |
| 5 | "Caught in the net (2020)" documentary about sexual predators young girls face onlineDefinitely - it’s the awful victim blaming culture we live in. The same kinda thing you get with rape myths happens with this. It’s like the victims of CSE giving evidence in court is such a traumatic experience - could you imagine... you’re not of legal age to consent and an adult male abuses this and exploits you. Not only do you have trauma from what you went through but you have to live through that experience in court AND have lawyers question your actions. E.G - did you tell them your age?… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 05:21 PM |
| 12 | Adulthood male circumcisionMy LVX had issues with his foreskin and now I wonder if it was this- ew!!! And that idiot made me think it was my fault he’d have pain during sex?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 04:34 AM |
| 28 | Being groomed by an older man is not “empowering” (translation in comments)I see this a lot and younger cousins have told me about their friends - young teenagers thinking they’re girl bosses for selling photos to gross old men. Men who are sex offenders, who want a relationship with them, men who are still living with mummy. Little do the girls know these men are manipulative fuckers who are exploiting and grooming them. And it’s only getting worse because of this culture of only fans and “empowerment”. It’s like girls who start only fans as soon as they turn 18, they… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 05:20 PM |
| 143 | I’ve been seeing an uptick in the posts and comments on here criticizing beauty and performative femininity, here’s some more food for thought :)Wow- thinking about it, my negative self talk is not too dissimilar from what you’d see an incel post online. I know I have so many redeeming qualities, but it is like for me the deciding factor on how I view myself is what men want- it’s quite shocking to realise this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 11:56 PM |
| 2 | Chronic illness, CPTSDThank you lovely- I’m getting there, and tbh I’m in an amazing career in vulnerability/safeguarding because of what I went through so there’s a positive! I’ve come to the same conclusion as your post recently too- I need to start showing myself some compassion and won’t open myself up to dating until I’m ready/love myself as I know there’s men about who will latch onto that self-hatred! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 08:06 AM |
| 3 | Chronic illness, CPTSDI have CFS/fibro and I’m sure it’s a ptsd thing from witnessing my schizophrenic dad beat my mom as a toddler and the implications of him stalking us throughout our childhood. Interestingly my mom and brother also have autoimmune issues which I’m 100% certain is a trauma related response too.. Sending love to everyone in the comments, you’re all strong beautiful ladies x | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 12:23 AM |
| 40 | Since you joined FDS, what are the ‘pink-flags’ or little LVM behavior you started picking up on that you didn’t notice before or would let slide?Mommy issues - my ex resented his mother and always compared me to her. Reading this sub made me realise I minimised this and that he was a complete misogynist. Side note - this has made me wonder why there’s a “daddy issues” trope for women but guys just get called a “mommy’s boy” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 01:38 AM |
| 15 | Online dating... should I try again or am I being ridiculous?Just don’t take it seriously and set your expectations low.. 90% of the time I get gross first messages describing how they’d use me or whatever, going into vivid detail on sexual acts so I feel more like a damn sex doll, or it’s low effort, socially inept guys, or those stupid gifs.. how many times have y’all seen that god same Joey “how you doin’” gif?!??.. I’ve figured these guys put in minimal effort and expect the world, which makes sense when the majority are still mummy’s boys who are cod… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 07:14 PM |
| 9 | Women in their early 20s are dating LVM/NVM because they think that all men our age are like this.I’m guessing HVM like this won’t be on dating apps? I suppose that’s a silly question but it’s difficult to meet new people rn! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 09:25 PM |
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