Dayman115 Archive

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2	Would women’s dating problems change if they had fewer suitors? So I got around to taking a look at these studies. The first one doesn't conclude thst men objective women, but that men more exposed to sexual imagery might be more prone to objectifying women ("this study proposed that the more men are exposed to objectifying depictions, the more they will think of women as entities that exist for men's sexual gratification") Also, the sample size was only 187 people. Thats really not enough to conclude anything about the entire gender. As for the second, I co…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/26 07:22 AM
1	Would women’s dating problems change if they had fewer suitors? Because people are complex and can't be reduced to studies? I swipe on most profiles, but I don't think women are beneath me. Now what?	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/02/26 08:17 PM
1	Would women’s dating problems change if they had fewer suitors? Don't you think you're dehumanizing men by assuming all men are like that? Would you feel dehumanized if people assumed you had the self control of an animal due solely to your gender?	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/02/26 08:11 PM
3	Would women’s dating problems change if they had fewer suitors? I think the misandrist part is when you said men don't care about women as people. That can sound extremely insulting to the men who do see them as people. Even if you only mean men who swipe on every profile, and not all men, it's still rather ignorant to think there could be no other reason than that they view women as sub human. For instance, could be as simple as the app incentives and rewards that behavior?	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/02/26 07:27 PM
–	Personal story: why people should appreciate their singlehood more But how can someone women do not find handsome find validation? And yes, I get some validation from places like work, but knowing you can do a job is different from knowing you are the type of person women want to spend time with.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/04/25 03:54 PM
–	Personal story: why people should appreciate their singlehood more Don't get me wrong, having friends ds and family goes a long way. I do get some of what I carve through them, and I'm thankful everyday to have them in my life. I do various things for touch, like a pet (cat), massages, and even a cuddle therapist. And if I really want sex, I could go see a professional (I'm considering it, but not there yet). But something is still missing. I am missing that external validation, that proof that I am indeed good enough. And if I'm good enough for one person, I c…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/04/25 03:50 PM
–	Personal story: why people should appreciate their singlehood more I hear what you're saying, but I have some issues I'm not sure how to deal with. Like wanting a hug or someone to hold my hand. I don't feel the need for it often, but sometimes I really want it. How do I deal with the hurt that comes when I realize no one wants to give me these? The hurt that I'm not good enough for anyone to want to give me those? This of course can be expanded to wanting someone to talk to, someone to comfort me when times are hard, someone I'm confident has my back, or just …	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/04/25 03:36 PM
3	CMV: More women should join the 4B movement in the US Why were you having sex with people you considered abhorrent in the first place?	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/11/24 04:38 PM
6	CMV: Males aren't hypergamous because of insecurity I care about her character, her mind, her soul. If her mind and soul are tied up with her profession, I would, of course, care about it for her. I would, of course, be proud of her accomplishments and happy she is doing something she loves and has overcome many obstacles (presumably) to get to this point. My point is that it would never be a negative. I would never be like, "Yeah, I like this girl a lot, but she's a [occupation], so I won't go out with her." All that matter is how she acts aroun…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/10/24 05:53 PM
2	CMV: Males aren't hypergamous because of insecurity ? That's a strange question. Why does it matter if they are into me? Ummm, feels like it should be self evident, but I want someone who is into me, yes. Do you usually go for people that aren't into you? I just want a companion who I like and who likes me in return. That's it. Why would I lead with the fact that they don't want me if it's irrelevant? Because them not liking me is not irrelevant. I can't very well go out with someone who doesn't want to with me. I was trying to say that none of w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/10/24 04:43 PM
58	CMV: Males aren't hypergamous because of insecurity I would, but they don't want me. I would, but they don't want me. I would, but they don't want me. Not dating these women has nothing to do with ego or control, and everything to do with the fact that the answer is always no from them. I don't care about a woman's social standing, income, or if she's more intelligent than me. I just want someone who cares about me, so I can offer the same love and care in return.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/10/24 02:49 PM
3	Would you rather be “picked” or settled for? It's hard to say which I'd prefer since ive never experienced anything like that. I know it would hurt a lot to learn that they don't really want me, or prefer another, but I don't see hating myself as a result. Instead, I would be focusing on the fact that something about me was good enough to at least be settled with. I could work with that and maybe improve further, or lean into whatever strength I have to find people that would want me. It's hard to explain if you've never experienced it, bu…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/10/24 04:06 PM
3	Would you rather be “picked” or settled for? I find your examples rather confusing. "But you have your sanity and mental health intact." I'm a little confused by this. In this scenario if I am not picked, then I am alone forever? How does one maintain their sanity and mental health? I can say from experience it is very harmful to both. To know you are not worthy of anyone's love is very damaging. "and your confidence and self worth may be affected." More than being alone forever? How could someone choosing me, even if it's only settling, p…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/10/24 03:29 PM
3	What is the real reason some men are able to have success with love and some aren’t? What would advice wpuld you give to a guy with no female friends? I'm rather shy and haven't made any new friends since high-school. Expanding my social circle seems like the only way I'll ever find success, but I don't know how to. People always just tell me "go out" or "talk to more women", which I then follow with "ok, go out where? Where and when should I talk to these women?", which is met with "idk".	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/10/24 01:47 PM
1	Relationship experience is overrated and essentially meaningless I still don't really understand, but that's probably why I'm in this situation in the first place. Once again I'm going to give it a shot because there's no reason not to, but I would just like to clarify exactly what you are saying to do. Should I be more demanding about physical standards or personality standards or both? For instance, I absolutely love redheads and gingers. I think that hair color is stunningly beautiful. Should I state on my profiles/in interactions that I'm only looking for…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/09/24 05:08 PM
1	Relationship experience is overrated and essentially meaningless Again, I totally get what you're saying and it makes sense. But on the other hand, I feel like it's advice for guys who can already attract women. Using your job analogy, would that be a wise answer if it's the first applicant for the job in 3 years? What if this is your last applicant for the next 5 years? What if you get no more applicants at all? Would me being more brutal and relentless in my standards make me attractive to more women? If I can't even get one date to save my life, I don't un…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/09/24 04:51 PM
2	Relationship experience is overrated and essentially meaningless That all makes sense to me, but I also see lots of women complaining that guys just want casual relationships and won't commit. I would think being up front about wanting to commit and not just have "fun" would be what they want, but I don't know, maybe not. Regardless, I'm going to give what you said a try because why not. It's not like being upfront with my intentions has been working, so worse case scenario, nothing changes.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/09/24 04:21 PM
2	Relationship experience is overrated and essentially meaningless I would love to try that. The problem is that even women I'm not crazy about don't want to date me either. Could part of it be that I always answer that I'm looking for something longterm when asked? Would women be more open to the idea of going on a few dates if I said I just wanted something short?	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/09/24 03:51 PM
1	Men, would you choose love or sex? That would fall under the "she doesn't want to do it with me specifically" category, thus hurtful and not something I could do longterm. If she really loved me the way op describes, then I would hope she would be eager to show me what I'm doing wrong and work on getting better at it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/09/24 03:22 PM
4	Relationship experience is overrated and essentially meaningless What would you say is the dating equivalent to starting "with a low pay and doing less important roles"? How should I go about getting that "low paying job"?	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/09/24 03:20 PM
3	Men, would you choose love or sex? Considering 2 times a year is already an abundance compared to my normal amount (none), I would choose love. Alough it would still depend on something not mentioned in the hypothetical, which is why it's only twice a year. As others have pointed out, if she really loves me, we would likely be having sex more than that. So I would pick it if I can assume her decision to abstain is not out of lack of lust for me. For instance, some kind of medical issue, trauma, religious reasons, or even some kin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/09/24 09:12 PM
9	Would you like to get flowers from your girlfriend? I would love it. Not so much for the flowers themselves, but to know she was thinking of me and cared enough to go out of her way to get them. The gesture itself would feel fantastic.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/09/24 04:08 PM
1	Modern relationships don’t benefit women Thanks, I needed a good laugh! This post is hilarious! In the future, I would recommend not playing it up so much. The best troll posts are the ones that are believable, and when you lay it on so thick it's just obvious you're trolling. Still funny though 😆	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/08/24 04:40 PM
6	Why women reject most men and how men can empathize with them Wow, this sounds incredible! You mean that attractive women will actually approach me and do all the work? All I have to do is vet them and decide which one I like best? Sign me up, please!	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/08/24 02:23 PM
1	Do you guys actually have female friends? No, not really. Had a couple of acquaintances in school while growing up, but we were never very close. I've always been a little awkward around women, especially at that age. To be honest, I would really like a platonic friendship with a woman, but I don't really know how to start one. Women aren't exactly the most warm and open around men they don't know, and most will probably think I'm trying to hit on them anyway. What is your recommendation for a 28y man to start some friendships with wome…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/08/24 01:43 PM
–	Would you want to be a man? Can we please switch places? I'm the kind of guy who has never, and likely will never, be seen as a sexual being. Needless to say, it's a very cold and lonely existence knowing you are wanted by no one. I would gladly take unwanted advances if it meant people I liked thought of me as sexual too.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/08/24 06:28 AM
2	Why are women surprised that men ask mostly for physical intimacy only, when emotional vulnerability quite often results in judgement, ridiculing, or rejection? If I asked, begged and pleaded with my gf to shave her head bald, and when she does I break up because I don't like how she looks bald, is it not (at least somewhat) my fault for the breakup? I mean, had I not brought it up she would never have shaved her head, right? Is it her fault for believing the words of her bf? Should she have just known most men don't like bald women? In this scenario, I would say I'm responsible for the breakup because she did the thing I SPECIFICALLY ASKED FOR. Accordi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/08/24 04:33 PM
2	Why are women surprised that men ask mostly for physical intimacy only, when emotional vulnerability quite often results in judgement, ridiculing, or rejection? And people say men are the bad communicators, lol. How are you supposed to communicate with someone when there's a 50/50 chance they actually mean the opposite of what they say?	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/08/24 04:22 PM
2	Why are women surprised that men ask mostly for physical intimacy only, when emotional vulnerability quite often results in judgement, ridiculing, or rejection? "That's why he's to blame" Yeah, how dare he not read her mind to know she really wants the opposite of what she said she wants? Like, duh! Just read her mind idiot!	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/08/24 03:19 PM
3	AMALT It's going to be a case by case thing. I'm sure there are plenty of people who would lie for nefarious purposes, but I think it can also be them wanting you to like them by being into your interests, even if they really aren't. It's like how I am with my friends sometimes. One of my friends loves biker gang culture/history. Personally, I'm not super interested in that, but because I know he is, I might ask more questions or engage more in the conversation than I would normally. Because he's my f…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/08/24 05:20 PM
3	AMALT It's more about having someone actually want to pursue you. The idea of women trying to pursue me is a foreign concept. I have never experienced a woman doing this, so I would think it's sweet if someone met me and thought, "I really want to talk to him. Let me think of ways I can get him to like me". If anything, I would maybe think she's a little awkward or shy because she thought she needed these tactics to get closer to me, but it would not repel me at all. I guess it's just feels different …	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/08/24 05:02 PM
3	AMALT I would be flattered a woman took the effort to even fake liking the stuff I did. If they actually liked me enough to come up with strategies to get with me, although unnecessary, would be really sweet and show me I mean a lot to them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/08/24 02:09 PM
2	Women should avoid inexperienced men. Emotional baggage from prolonged loneliness? But wait, I've seen plenty of women argue that being alone is no big deal, so why would they have baggage from something that shouldn't be affecting them in the first place?	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/24 02:41 PM
3	Women simultaneously dislike men approaching because they feel treated as "romantic prospects" instead of "regular people" yet dread the moment a male friend would suggests something more You should have a chat with my therapist then. She has told me lots of women value personality over looks. She claims it's how she fell in love with her first husband. I mean, I find that hard to believe based on what I see, but she is adamant that is the case. Did she just lie to me or what?	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/24 02:37 PM
1	I feel like, most men on here would easily resolve their issues with women and their views on women if men as a group viewed them as people and not just achievements to be made and rewards to be had... oh, and just went to therapy... What is your advice for guys who view women as equals, goes to therapy, but still struggles to get women interested?	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/07/24 04:33 PM
–	Men NEED sex. The use of prostitution should be normalized, legalized, and recommended for struggling men. Nope, thats not what I believe or what I asked. You said, "A need is something you need to survive". You can live on a feeding tube. So, by your own logic, you would need nothing else. Anything else is not critical for survival. Obviously such a life would be horrible, but I'm trying to illustrate a point. Just because something is not 100% necessary for survival doesn't mean you don't need it to live a happy normal life. And yes, relationships are one of those things for most people.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/07/24 06:26 AM
–	Men NEED sex. The use of prostitution should be normalized, legalized, and recommended for struggling men. Would you he OK existing on a feeding/breathing tube, unable to move, speak, or interact in the world in any way? I mean, you don't need anything else to survive.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/07/24 12:16 AM
0	Men NEED sex. The use of prostitution should be normalized, legalized, and recommended for struggling men. People don't need friends, or family, or fun, or laughter, or all your limbs to survive, but I think we can agree that living without one of those would make life a lot harder.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/07/24 05:16 PM
–	Women should avoid dating late bloomer men I can relate to that as a late bloomer myself. Well, I guess I'm not technically a late bloomer as I have yet to bloom, so to speak. I hope that op was just rage baiting and doesn't actually believe what they said. If they do, then that just sad.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/05/24 05:04 PM
–	Women should avoid dating late bloomer men Don't get me wrong, I agree and have no problem with late bloomer women. I was just curious about what the op would think about that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/05/24 04:38 PM
–	Women should avoid dating late bloomer men What about late bloomer women? Should we ignore and shun them as well? They would share most of these traits, would they not?	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/05/24 01:58 PM
–	Is the fate of being settled for, unavoidable? Ah yes, the classic incel fantasy of wanting your partner to be attracted to you... sure hope none of your partners have been attracted to you, that might make you an incel, I guess.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/03/24 04:49 PM
3	To the men who complain about loneliness Using what as an excuse? I'm just calling out someone saying something really assholeish, that's all. Not an excuse or a life hack for anything. Never said it was...	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/03/24 02:27 PM
7	To the men who complain about loneliness But wait, you do do that? In another comment you said you make all these posts while you're getting paid to do nothing at work. So it sounds like you DO expect results from doing nothing...	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/03/24 12:38 PM
5	To the men who complain about loneliness How helpful. Yes, it's easy to trigger emotionally vulnerable, depressed people. What's your point? Do you want a medal for figuring out you can hurt vulnerable people?	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/03/24 12:29 PM
2	When self-proclaimed “nice guys” say that they are “good guys,” what “good” traits are they talking about? In what context is unintuitivness or social awkwardness good?	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/03/24 04:04 PM
1	Is it over for inexperienced men who didn't go to college? I would just say I don't want to talk about my past relationships yet, but I have had them. That would not be a lie. Guess I'm just really confused as to why inexperience is a hard deal breaker. Everyone always says losing your virginity doesn't matter much, and you're still the same person after you've lost it. While this is true, it seems really important to women, even tho I'm literally the same person with the same personality, with or without a v card. The fact that this "problem" can be oh…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/03/24 03:59 PM
1	When self-proclaimed “nice guys” say that they are “good guys,” what “good” traits are they talking about? I'm really confused by what you said at the end there. You say they "aren't necessarily bad or good," but are they not? If they were good traits, why is it so rare to be attracted to them? Seems to me, given everything you've laid out here, that they are in fact bad traits. If I want to attract people, and these traits are unattractive, they are bad traits, no?	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/03/24 03:48 PM
2	Is it over for inexperienced men who didn't go to college? What I'm saying is yes the lie will likely ruin that initial relationship, but now the next time you are in that situation, you don't need to lie, because you have had experience. Assuming you'll always be rejected when your inexperience comes to light, what alternative do you propose? Also, does one lie mean you're treating your partner like shit? I mean, lying isn't good and should be avoided generally, but I think it takes a little more to say you "treat them like shit"?	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/03/24 03:36 PM
2	Is it over for inexperienced men who didn't go to college? Lying about it could lead to experience, so you won't have to lie about it anymore in the future.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/03/24 02:08 PM
–	Most women want to be loved, but they don't want to love. No, some of us just want someone to be with and talk to when we get home from work	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/03/24 05:09 PM
5	Too many people overthink dating OK fair enough. I find it embarrassing to be told I'm not good enough. If it's someone in a social circle I'm a part of, I find it embarrassing because they will tell their friends and may mock me. I find it embarrassing to be laughed at or mocked (which has been rare). I find it embarrassing to know I've bothered or creeped someone out. I find it embarrassing to have to admit to my friends I struck out yet again. I find it embarrassing to fail at something most people can do. How do you not fee…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/02/24 10:32 PM
6	Too many people overthink dating Why is rejection embarrassing? Are you trolling?	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/02/24 10:16 PM
8	Too many people overthink dating Very introverted and shy, yes. I used to be able to psyche myself up to some degree, but I haven't been able to in a while. I feel pretty defeated after nothing but failures. "Why go and embarrass myself when she's just going to say no?" Is what goes through my head now.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/02/24 08:57 PM
10	Too many people overthink dating Admittedly, it's been a while since I have in person. I stopped because wveryone said no. I've tried online/dating apps with no luck. I just don't think I'm the type that excites women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/02/24 08:48 PM
26	Too many people overthink dating I'd love to, it sounds like fun! But, in order to go on dates with people I find attractive, a woman has to agree to go with me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/02/24 08:44 PM
4	A word for someone who struggles to get laid AND doesn't hate the opposite sex? My theory is that it is a defense mechanism. The idea that there are people who, for one reason or another outside their control, will never experience love and affection is frightening and depressing, and so some may try to rationalize that they must be bad people for such a horrible fate. It's far more comforting to believe bad people are getting their just desserts than the reality that some people are just really unlucky and there's nothing anyone can do to help them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/02/24 05:57 PM
6	Women act like TRP is some kooky conspiracy theory rotting men’s brains but then tell bold faced lies like “maybe if you were nice to women and took a shower you would get a date.” This blatant dishonesty is the very foundation of red pill ideology. Don't worry, I think I have realistic expectations. I know I'm not much in the looks department, so I won't be expecting a lot. Besides, I'm not very picky when it comes to looks. I think my problem is more my shyness. Feels like my whole life has been a vicious cycle of being too shy to approach or say what I want, which lowers my confidence, which makes me more shy, which lowers my confidence, ect. I'm fine when I'm around people I know, I have very close friends I get alone really well with. …	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/24 11:58 PM
15	Women act like TRP is some kooky conspiracy theory rotting men’s brains but then tell bold faced lies like “maybe if you were nice to women and took a shower you would get a date.” This blatant dishonesty is the very foundation of red pill ideology. Please dm me if you're serious. I would be very interested in something like that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/24 10:27 PM
3	So... how are men supposed to understand women, anyways? Could you elaborate on that a little? Maybe it's just my social anxiety, but I really feel like just approaching random women and saying hi won't work out too well. I would think they would think it's abnormal and might make them uncomfortable. Maybe that's more normal in school, but what about other settings? And even if they are comfortable and it's going well, how should one take the next step to see them again without coming off as trying to get a date with them?	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/24 05:33 PM
–	Men have already lost the gender war and it's bound to get worse My whole issue was the framing that this is winning. If escaping into a virtual world is preferable to real life, you are not winning.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/01/24 08:18 PM
–	Men have already lost the gender war and it's bound to get worse So because we don't know for sure, just fuck it? Dam, I never know people actually unironically agree with Cypher	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/01/24 04:40 PM
–	Men have already lost the gender war and it's bound to get worse You really think sitting in your room all day surrounded by virtual worlds, without any real-life affection or intimacy, is winning? Being dead inside doesn't sound like winning to me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/01/24 02:09 PM
–	The Best Way To Meet Women Based On Your Personal Attributes. OK this is going to sound weird, but how should one go about joining an online group? I've been told by multiple people that that's how I should try to meet people, but I don't use much social media, so I don't really know where to start. Which platform would be best to find these groups, and what do I do exactly when I'm in a group?	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/01/24 02:47 PM
2	“I’ll take Anyone at this Point” I've been alone my entire life (27M). As for bottom of the barrel traits, for physical I really don't care. If they are into me and want to be around me I'm willing to give almost anyone a chance in that area. Obviously i would prefer someone im at least a little attracted to, but at this point, I'd be willing to try just about anyone. As for social, my only barrier right now would be if I had reason to believe she was dangerous or a sociopath.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/24 06:14 PM
4	“I’ll take Anyone at this Point” I mean, "anyone" would be a bit hyperbolic. Like, I wouldn't want to be with a murderer or a meth head, but besides some crazy extreme like that, I would basically take anyone at this point. Being alone for your whole life does some shit to your brain. It's hard to explain, but yes when you've gone long enough with no one taking interest you, you start to want anything, just prove it's still possible.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/24 02:57 PM
2	Should people just give up and learn to be happy alone? I agree there is a difference between value to society and how people personally value you. Yes, the person who cured cancer but is hated to be around is useful to society, but that doesn't change the fact that people don't value them as a person. If they did, they would want to be around them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/12/23 05:38 PM
3	Should people just give up and learn to be happy alone? Dating itself does not add value, however people wanting to date you does. I can't say this for sure, but I imagine people would want to be around the person who cured cancer. If no one wants to be with you, doesn't that say something about your value?	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/12/23 05:10 PM
9	Should people just give up and learn to be happy alone? If there's a person who no one wants to date, do they not inherently have lower value than someone who is wanted? I mean, if they had value people would date them, no?	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/12/23 04:27 PM
3	Having 0 suitors and 100 suitors is the same thing if you don’t like any of them It has a lot to do with hope. When someone has 100 bad suitors, they at least know that it's possible for others to find them attractive. And if it's possible, then one day a suitable suitor may find them attractive. But with zero suitors, there is no hope. How can a suitable suitor ever find you attractive if NO ONE finds you attractive? So the question really becomes, would you rather live with hope, or with no hope? I think it's a little absurd to say living with hope and without hope are the…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/11/23 02:42 PM