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1

She has a boyfriend or a husband? Or just wants someone to text at night? Either way. I’d move on.
/r/seduction13/07/21 05:50 PM
3

Oh OP you’re really young I assume. Or just really wanting to impress this girl. If you do have a whole plan don’t tell her it. Just agree to do the first thing in your list. Because what if you meet and don’t click and it’s awkward and you want to leave. If you’ve already told her about the next 4 things how are you going to leave? Ditto for her. Dating is about getting to know each other, that includes the possibility you both may not like each other.
/r/seduction12/07/21 04:14 AM
2

If you have money to burn to get women to come sit and talk to you - go for it. A stripper would be cheaper though.
/r/seduction12/07/21 04:05 AM
1

Ok I book Phobos o bbb. I hobo no bunnies h her
/r/seduction28/06/21 10:51 AM
-1

Hang on what?! Please tell me you did not turn your bike around and follow a woman jogging in a park….. That’s a creepy move dude. Don’t follow women.
/r/seduction21/06/21 11:19 PM
1

Couldn’t care less*
/r/seduction21/06/21 11:32 AM
2

I would ask them if they are interested in going to X place with you. If they say yes then they are interested in hanging out with you alone. If they say no or ask who else is going then immediately back off. As a woman who goes to meetup it is a frequent and frustrating thing when men hit on me. I have had to tell organizers about it before and have men asked to leave when they have been persistent. About half of all meetups are deliberately for singles. Go to those ones if you’re looking for a…
/r/seduction09/06/21 04:46 PM
2

18 - hell yes! Almost 18 - hell no!
/r/seduction01/06/21 12:21 AM
5

Yes. She was clearly used to being the prettiest girl in the bar so I spoke to every girl except her. Eventually she comes up to me and tells me she’s a playboy bunny like it entitled her to something. I ask her what month she is. “November!” “Oh. Who was November last year?” “I don’t know”. .... .... I went back to talking to someone else. She came home with me that night.
/r/seduction25/05/21 12:10 PM
1

After you match - what are you sending as a conversation opener?
/r/seduction16/05/21 10:57 AM
3

Yeah that’s a terrible way to make conversation. You say you try to talk to them like they are someone you know - but you aren’t. You’re interviewing them and it’s a massive turn off. Just jump in. Just take a guess and run with it. Rather than asking “where are you from?” Say “Hey there - you sound like you might be from Philadelphia”. This comes across as way more casual and flirty. It doesn’t matter if you are totally wrong! They will say “hahahah, no! I’m from X - why would you think I’m fro…
/r/seduction10/05/21 02:29 PM
10

Why do you think this page is meant for only guys?
/r/seduction07/05/21 04:47 PM
5

Guys who admit they aim for 18 year olds would generally go younger if they could. Creepy assholes.
/r/seduction03/05/21 05:27 PM
2

No problem with the idea in general but you’re getting close to asking about medical info which you would want to keep anonymous and treat as confidential.
/r/seduction20/04/21 11:00 AM
1

I think this is a great opener. My now boyfriend would always get women with “can I ask your advice? I need a woman’s opinion?” .... “sure!”..... “Do I look gay?” They would then spend hours convincing him that he didn’t he just looked well dressed and hot.
/r/seduction14/04/21 10:28 AM
1

Engaged? What country do you live in? No western woman would assume she is engaged after a one night stand. As for if it can blossom into something else. Yes it can. But that’s the exception rather than the rule.
/r/seduction11/04/21 10:51 AM
1

If you meet her at a disco and she agrees to come home with you that night - trust me - she knows you’re not looking for a relationship.
/r/seduction11/04/21 10:22 AM
4

It is certainly not meant as a compliment.
/r/seduction30/03/21 03:49 PM
3

I don’t think so. Although obviously it’s easier for attractive men to be hoes.
/r/seduction30/03/21 03:49 PM
7

Total crap. Who told you that?
/r/seduction29/03/21 07:14 PM
1

Start with the ugliest and move your way up.
/r/seduction21/03/21 12:49 AM
1

Try r/jailbait
/r/seduction17/03/21 07:25 PM
4

What are you doing shopping in Walmart if you’re rich? Use that money to spend your time at high class places where women who care about money hang out.
/r/seduction13/03/21 02:36 PM
1

Yup. All this is, is 70 good nights. OP. Do you really think the only men who sleep with a lot of women have no careers? Because I feel you may need to broaden your social circle if the only people you know who are getting laid are these “dating-gurus”.
/r/seduction05/03/21 10:00 AM
4

Well you sound like a hella douche.
/r/seduction09/02/21 08:39 PM
1

Context... we need context!
/r/seduction30/01/21 10:08 PM
1

Are you fucking kidding me. Damn you’re an asshole.
/r/seduction30/01/21 05:41 PM
3

The point of it is to arouse interest in women. Not to keep hammering at uninterested women.
/r/seduction30/01/21 01:23 PM
3

Woah you’re a real catch aren’t you. You completely disregard her opinion on being approached. Fuck what she wants/thinks right? All that matters is what you want. Fuck you dude. Also. Isn’t it boring reading the same thing repeatedly. Stop deleting and reposting your shit in the hope of getting a different answer.
/r/seduction30/01/21 12:57 PM
2

Woah you’re a real catch aren’t you. You completely disregard her opinion on being approached. Fuck what she wants/thinks right? All that matters is what you want. Fuck you dude.
/r/seduction30/01/21 09:09 AM
3

Are you kidding? Move on. Don’t respond. Seduction isn’t about manipulating people who are clearly not interested. It’s about making people interested. You seem ... angry?!? That she doesn’t respond to you. Like you’re entitled to it. What the fuck dude. Get your head sorted out.
/r/seduction29/01/21 01:07 PM
0

If you’re not talking to me why are you commenting on my responses?
/r/seduction23/01/21 09:57 PM
0

Dude stop telling me how I should feel and how I would feel. I can’t stand people explaining my own mind to me like you know it better than I do. I look forward to the day that I’m too old for men to take an interest. There’s a huge female literature on the “release of menopause” where you suddenly feel free and relaxed because you’re not being objectified all the time. Of course, you know better than that - right?
/r/seduction23/01/21 08:49 PM
1

You can tell a man wrote this....
/r/seduction23/01/21 08:40 PM
1

You think I need people to hit on me to know I’m good looking? Do you think fat people need to be reminded that they are fat? Nah dude. I don’t need that confirmation. I gave an honest answer to an honest question. Yes, sometimes it’s flattering. Sometimes it’s annoying. How many women need to say this before y’all believe us? Stop kidding yourself that we all secretly love it no matter what the situation is. Ps. We don’t all secretly love it when you grab our asses in a bar either.
/r/seduction23/01/21 08:38 PM
3

It’s all a matter of frequency and situation. I’ve lived in NYC for most of my 20s. I’m relatively attractive. I get cold approached regularly. Here’s a couple of examples. I’m on my way to meet a friend for drinks. So I’m dressed up nice. I have some time to kill because I’m early so I’m just standing around. A guy approaches and starts up a conversation about the pigeons who are fucking in front of us. No problem. Happy to talk and joke even if I end up rejecting you I was running late to a yo…
/r/seduction23/01/21 06:34 PM
5

Wait until you finish your course. As you hand in your final assignment ask her out. As a young female college professor I can tell you that if she knows what’s good for her she wouldn’t do anything while you are her student. Afterwards though, you’ve at least got a chance.
/r/seduction23/01/21 12:32 PM
2

Oh well mate then it’s just your hormones. Teenagers get crazy ass hormone induced infatuation all the time. I was nuts for Elijah Wood (and this was when he was when LoTR was coming out). It’ll calm down when you’re older.
/r/seduction11/01/21 12:15 AM
2

FeMaLES
/r/seduction11/01/21 12:00 AM
1

Wait for puberty to hit.
/r/seduction07/01/21 10:09 AM
3

3 days?! When I used to tinder (27F) I would check it every couple days. It was like coming back from vacation to work and your inbox being full. If you’re expecting a reply that quickly then I think you might be disappointed. I was genuinely interested in dating and in the end met my current fiancé on tinder. But at the beginning I’d go a 3-4 days between messages to him because I was trying to be methodical and fair and reply to messages in date order. Honestly you guys give us such crap for n…
/r/seduction27/12/20 07:14 PM
1

Every woman is different. Ask her to show you how she likes it. For example, I like my clit being rubbed side to side (not up and down) forcefully. None of this one or two fingers shit. Get your whole hand involved. I hate receiving oral. I love giving it though. My favourite is when I’m lying on my back and he’s thrusting his cock down my throat while I or he rubs my clit. I have no idea if other women enjoy the same thing. I expect everyone is different. But I know that they can explain to you…
/r/seduction22/12/20 10:00 PM
0

I ask what they do for work. After answering they will return the question. I answer (modestly).
/r/seduction17/12/20 09:27 AM
2

Masturbate before you see her.
/r/seduction24/11/20 09:48 AM
2

I wouldn’t list your height at all (unless it’s required by the app). People who list their height in their tinder are an immediate left swipe for me because they are clearly insecure or bragging. I don’t list my bra size. If I did I’d expect you to swipe left on me too.
/r/seduction21/11/20 07:41 AM
2

Since when has the PUA community ever suggested just walking up and telling someone you think they’re attractive? That’s not going to work. Ever.
/r/seduction03/11/20 07:40 PM
2

“Has it always been this way?” Dude it used to be sooo much worse. You’d have to marry the girl to get sex. Then, about 30 years ago, an engagement or “going steady” was enough to get you laid. Now you only need the possibility it might get serious to get laid. Count your blessings.
/r/seduction02/11/20 03:57 PM
1

What this guy said. It makes me sad to see just how completely deprived of touch people must be to think a hug and handshake are sexual.
/r/seduction02/11/20 03:53 PM
3

Doubt videoing you is illegal if you were in a public place. If you’re doing the exact same “set” on every girl in a certain area you will get labeled a creep. Mix it up.
/r/seduction01/11/20 05:54 PM
3

I was completely on board until the 4th paragraph. Women’s conversation is, on average, just a good/shitty as men’s. If you’re only talking to boring ass women, that’s on you bud. Have higher standards.
/r/seduction01/11/20 11:09 AM
1

Improve yourself.
/r/seduction24/10/20 10:52 PM
1

I’m still not sure how to help you. Are you nervous speaking to the old lady at the grocery store or not?
/r/seduction21/10/20 07:36 AM
1

I didn’t mean to call you out. I’m just trying to understand if you feel anxious around the old white lady on the bus, or just when you are trying to approach women in a dating situation. Because they are very different problems with different solutions.
/r/seduction21/10/20 07:30 AM
1

Is it all white women, or just young attractive “girls”?
/r/seduction21/10/20 07:23 AM
2

Can’t you tell? No? Maybe that’s because it doesn’t matter?
/r/seduction17/10/20 07:33 AM
2

Exactly. Calm down. No need to go over analyzing every minor interaction your “friend” has with women. There should be more important things to worry about in your life than why two women looked at you weird.
/r/seduction17/10/20 12:49 AM
2

Dude if she blocks you. Trust me. It’s not your height that’s the issue.
/r/seduction17/10/20 12:46 AM
3

Don’t get worked up when women don’t want to talk. Just move on. There are thousands of reasons they might not have wanted to talk to him that have nothing to do with him. Maybe they were in the middle of a difficult conversation. Maybe they are gay. You can do everything right and still not win. Women are not just puzzles you have to learn the right combination for. They are people, with lives that are as interesting and fulfilled as your own. Not some NPC waiting for you to approach them with …
/r/seduction17/10/20 12:34 AM
5

What the crap is this? You sound like a child pretending he’s an adult.
/r/seduction17/10/20 12:22 AM
2

You didn’t do anything wrong. She’s just not interested / more interested in someone else. You won’t always win even if you do everything right.
/r/seduction14/10/20 11:36 PM
2

I wouldn’t. I’d ask something like “so when does your brother leave town, so we can have our date? “ You’re rescheduling the first date, not asking for another.
/r/seduction09/10/20 08:08 PM
2

Anything you’re averagely good at and devote a reasonable amount of time to. I realize “average” and “reasonable” are subjective but as an idea: If your hobby is writing and you write a blog for a few hours each weekend - that’s a regular hobby. If your blog has thousands of followers and you get asked to write for major publications, and you write for several hours each day. That’s not a regular hobby. That’s exceptional. You don’t need exceptional hobbies to succeed at dating. Regular hobbies …
/r/seduction08/10/20 02:29 PM
3

It’s like wearing pants. You need to wear pants on your date or she’ll think you’re a fucking weirdo. But you don’t get kudos for wearing pants. Like you’re saying, wearing super fancy, expensive pants may get you noticed more, but it’s not needed. Regular hobbies are like regular pants. And regular pants are just fine.
/r/seduction08/10/20 09:23 AM
1

Pre Covid the best locations were hotel bars. Single women on business with nothing to to that evening just sitting there alone.
/r/seduction05/10/20 11:11 AM
6

The acceptable distance to stand near someone is now 6ft. Do not try and get closer than that or you will elicit a “disgust” reaction. Similar to if you were to get within a foot pre-Covid. And “I thought I’d say you look cute” was always a shit opener man. Try commenting on something she is doing or saying instead. Or open with a question like “hey, my friends are giving me a hard time about this new shirt I brought. You look like you have good style. Could I ask you for a woman’s opinion?”
/r/seduction05/10/20 11:04 AM
3

Yup. This is psycho.
/r/seduction01/10/20 11:34 AM
1

If she’s rolling her eyes at you when you’re flirting and telling you to fuck off when you tease her she isn’t interested in you. It wasn’t what you were doing. You were doing it right. She just didn’t want you. There isn’t some magic combination of buttons you can press and things you can say that will get any women to like you. You can do it all right and it still not work because they are just not interested. Let her go and try again.
/r/seduction29/09/20 11:52 PM
6

No. If you’re proof reading your texts and counting hours to ensure you don’t appear too keen on the girl then it’s fucking ridiculous. You’re trying to appear like you’ve got better shit to do than text her back. Alternatively, I suggest, actually having better shit to do than texting her back.
/r/seduction22/09/20 11:57 AM
1

You’re in the wrong sub dude. This sub is not for advice about specific situations.
/r/seduction22/09/20 11:55 AM
1

She’s part of a team you’re coaching, you shouldn’t be leering at her, that’s creepy as fuck dude. So is your concept of “keeping her warm” sounds like grooming to me. Also, for you, putting all your focus on one girl who you don’t even plan on asking out is not effective. You’re young, find other women to ask out and your creepy obsession with your student will hopefully go away.
/r/seduction22/09/20 11:54 AM
1

r/askseddit
/r/seduction22/09/20 11:40 AM
18

All this effort to appear like you’re not putting in much effort .... Another strategy is to have a life. Then just text whenever you have the time.
/r/seduction22/09/20 11:37 AM
4

So much this. Stop being a jerk OP. Go sow your wild oats but don’t have a GF while you do it.
/r/seduction21/09/20 01:33 PM
1

Yeah.....
/r/seduction20/09/20 03:00 PM
1

Now you know how all your girls feel! 😉
/r/seduction20/09/20 02:58 PM
3

Teasing is pretty standard flirting from either gender. Laugh at yourself. Escalate it, if she says “you’re a bit of a nerd” say “yup, king of the nerds, just haven’t found a worthy queen yet”. If she keeps you on your toes, she’s a keeper.
/r/seduction20/09/20 02:47 PM
1

TLDR: You reap what you sow. If you call women bitches don’t be surprised when they turn on you.
/r/seduction19/09/20 08:30 PM
1

I mean you could and they may believe you short term. You’re fucked if you end up actually liking her.
/r/seduction15/09/20 10:54 AM
1

Well frankly I think that disqualifying stuff is bullshit. As a woman it’s so fucking obvious and just makes me think you’re a prat. I had this one guy who asked me what I did for a living. I told him I was a psychology professor. He said “oh, like a TA in college” to which I had to reply “no, like a professor in college”. That was the end of that conversation. Show you’re better than me by being awesome yourself, not by trying to bring me down.
/r/seduction15/09/20 10:53 AM
1

Let them ask the pertinent questions. Them “hey, what brought you to NYC? You “I came here for grad school.” Them “cool, what do you study?” You “I’m finishing up my PHD in astrophysics”. Another example. You “Hey what’s up? Them. “Not much. Went to the beach this weekend.” You: “That’s cool. Did you get any surfing done?” Them “no I don’t surf. Do you?” You “yeah I used to when I lived in Sydney.” Learn to direct the conversation into topics where you will inevitably be asked about something yo…
/r/seduction15/09/20 01:54 AM
1

If you don’t WANT to talk to them, why are you?
/r/seduction11/09/20 01:38 AM
4

I think you’ll be fine. Most Americans can’t recognize a South African accent. They’ll be all curious and “where as you from? Somewhere exotic?” They’ll probably fetishize you a bit tho - sorry about that.
/r/seduction08/09/20 10:16 PM
2

Well yeah. It’s like anything else. Practice makes you better. Girls that young just lie there like a dead fish.
/r/seduction06/09/20 12:01 AM
6

Try fucking women rather than girls. They are better in bed anyway. And women in their mid twenties are sexy as fuck.
/r/seduction05/09/20 11:49 PM
1

Dude you’re getting close to some serious incel shit. Women’s worth to you appears to derive from the use as sex objects. You should want to hear what I say because you think I’m insightful, not because I have a pussy.
/r/seduction05/09/20 04:22 AM
1

No worries. Just here to remind you that women are people.
/r/seduction05/09/20 04:00 AM
1

This makes me have secondhand embarrassment just reading it. I do not want to be on the receiving end of some guy doing self therapy. Can you not say this shit into a mirror? Why do I have to be involved in your “self improvement”? It’s crass. It’s rude. And it would make me exceedingly uncomfortable.
/r/seduction05/09/20 03:55 AM
3

More info needed...
/r/seduction02/09/20 03:56 AM
1

Don’t know know WHY people watch the porn they do. So many assumptions....
/r/seduction02/09/20 01:04 AM
1

Are you kidding? Women watch lesbian porn at a higher rate than any other types of porn... Some guys might like cock in their porn but most straight guys don’t spend their time watching gay porn.
/r/seduction02/09/20 12:38 AM
2

Um....I’d watch you fuck a beautiful woman?
/r/seduction24/07/20 10:45 PM
2

Drinking to the point of memory loss is your biggest problem man. It’ll be okay. Just don’t do anything more.
/r/seduction22/07/20 04:25 PM
1

Why the hell would you add her on Instagram after all this!!?!? Leave the poor girl alone!
/r/seduction22/07/20 02:45 PM
2

Yup. It’s generally considered rather rude, stems from old traditions of “being introduced” (think how mortified miss Bennett was when Mr Collins approached Mr Darcy without being introduced “he will consider it an impertinence !”). These days you’re more likely to get a quizzical look and a “who the hell are you?” Eyebrow raise. All of this is different down the pub. Simply go down the pub and with a beer in your hand you can talk to whoever you like as if you’re best friends.
/r/seduction22/07/20 02:38 PM
2

You may want to consider a specialty dating app like disabilitydating.com. Most people on tinder are going to find an inability to verbally communicate or physically move yourself dealbreakers. Also these: https://www.datingadvice.com/for-men/10-best-disabled-dating-sites
/r/seduction20/07/20 11:13 AM
1

How do you communicate to other people in your life?
/r/seduction20/07/20 10:41 AM
1

I’d say your lack of independence will be the biggest turnoff. I’d happily date a guy in a wheelchair. Not one that has to be pushed by someone else though. I’d invest in an electric chair.
/r/seduction20/07/20 10:28 AM
2

Cheryl Cole’s husband cheated on her with a fairly average looking hooker. In fact psychologists find that people tend to cheat with people who are less successful and less good looking than their spouse - because they feel they don’t actually deserve their spouse. Sucks to be alpha sometimes too.
/r/seduction16/07/20 01:08 PM
6

Actually pretty good advice. Especially the have an interesting life bit. If you have photos on your insta if an interesting life I’m waaaay more likely to date you.
/r/seduction14/07/20 06:09 AM
6

Approach women your own age! At 16M I would recommend dating women 15-16 years old.
/r/seduction10/07/20 07:09 AM
2

You’re *
/r/seduction25/06/20 12:01 PM
2

Can you dance?
/r/seduction15/06/20 06:11 AM
1

That does strike me as odd. Would you be willing to share a few of the pics?
/r/seduction14/06/20 04:55 PM
1

You’re not getting matches at all? Is your location too small? Is your age range too small? Do you look terrible in photos? Do you have something racist/sexist/stupid in your bio?
/r/seduction14/06/20 04:44 PM
7

These are pretty good http://36questionsinlove.com
/r/seduction14/06/20 05:31 AM
2

Did you not hear about coronavirus? It’s been in the news a lot lately.
/r/seduction12/06/20 06:48 AM
1

You should have asked for the money earlier. Simple. The way you did it was classless and even if it’s not true it looks as if you’re bitter she turned you down.
/r/seduction06/06/20 05:53 PM
1

If she wanted to pay for her half then you should have split it at the restaurant. Splitting it later is just weird. Especially as you bought it up only AFTER she turned you down.
/r/seduction06/06/20 03:23 PM
1

She wasn’t into you. Simple. Nothing wrong with that. Some people we just don’t vibe with. You asked for her to Venmo you half the food?!? Fuck that’s Classless. Go halves at the venue, or pay no matter whether you get a second date or not. Don’t make whether you pay contingent on her agreeing to a second date. It’s like taking a gift back because you didn’t get one in return on your birthday. She will tell her friends. You will get a reputation for trying to “buy a second date”.
/r/seduction06/06/20 02:27 PM
2

It’s really hard when English isn’t your first language. That’s probably the main problem, not the height. Maybe approach with a line in your own language first, and then translate it for them. Then they won’t think you’re just dumb.
/r/seduction14/05/20 10:09 AM
1

Don’t most people date a smaller % of people than they fuck? I mean the investment in a date is so large... why would you do that unless you really cared about her? If your aim is just sex don’t bother with the date part.
/r/seduction12/05/20 02:34 PM
1

Yes, if you’re wearing two jackets on top of each other then your legs will always look thin in comparison! The problem is not your legs tho. It’s too much padding on your top half.
/r/seduction06/05/20 11:01 PM
1

I saw that pic. They look thin because you’re wearing a huge fucking jacket that makes your waist look huge. That is not a flattering jacket. Try not to wear that.
/r/seduction06/05/20 10:59 PM
2

No you’re not “too skinny” you’ve got a bit of a beer belly coming. You badly need to exercise to tone up.
/r/seduction06/05/20 10:54 PM
3

If you want to flirt with the girl asking you say “ I like the other girls’ (traits the girl your talking doesn’t have or doesn’t have a lot of). But it’s more important to me they have (trait the girl your talking to does have)”. For example if your talking to a cubby intelligent girl you could say “I really like the legs on her, but it’s more important to me that someone is educated and you can have a good conversation with them”. Oh and in case it isn’t obvious - say the truth. Otherwise she …
/r/seduction05/05/20 11:08 AM
1

You mean like guys do when they can’t get hot women? Let’s take it out on the next fat chick we see!
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/05/20 10:40 AM
2

Well that’s some bullshit.
/r/seduction30/04/20 04:28 PM
1

Reviewing your own video is weird mate.
/r/seduction27/04/20 05:57 AM
4

To clarify, you are only attracted to people you rate as attractive. Shocking.
/r/seduction26/04/20 02:28 PM
4

Very common!
/r/seduction23/04/20 06:37 AM
1

r/gethelpgraham Edit: woah they banned your support group mate. That really sucks.
/r/seduction17/04/20 12:28 PM
1

Woah yeah you overreacted. Smiling and laughing is not a bad thing. Likely one of them thought you were cute and the others were gently teasing her for it. Laughing at you for cleaning the girls bathroom is just stupid teenage shit. Next time roll with it. Raise an eyebrow, come closer, smile and say “you think I’m funny ehy?” Or something. You acted like a spoilt child.
/r/seduction14/04/20 08:39 PM
1

That’s a no from me.
/r/seduction10/04/20 05:13 AM
2

Six. Hahahahaha... So guys who have a lot of sex lose their masculine energy?!?!?!? I know a lot of alpha guys who are living proof that shit ain’t true, and a lot of beta guys who show the reverse ain’t true. Or are you trying to make some kind of sexist point here?
/r/seduction04/04/20 07:30 AM
2

Sounds like you two are very much not on the same page. It could be she’s just not that into you or it could be that she’s just not that sexual. Either way she isn’t going to suddenly change. The last thing you want is a girlfriend who feels obliged to do things to please you and is doing them out of discomfort. If she doesn’t want to flirt sexually with you in the first 3 months of a relationship it’s only going to go downhill from there.
/r/seduction03/04/20 07:25 PM
0

I’ve always been fucking awesome at talking to women. I’m a stellar wingwoman. Have tonnes of female friends. I’m also pretty awesome at talking to guys. 😉
/r/seduction29/03/20 10:06 AM
3

Play stupid games get stupid prizes.
/r/seduction28/03/20 07:34 AM
1

https://youtu.be/7kxOo5QotdA
/r/seduction23/03/20 10:36 AM
9

Thanks admin. Astonished by how selfish some of our users are.
/r/seduction16/03/20 11:16 AM
2

Sounds like you’re having about as much success as most guys on OLD...
/r/seduction15/03/20 06:26 PM
2

I wouldn’t move over to her side. Rotate maybe in your seat to continue talking. But that’s it. Getting up and going to talk to her. Implies way too much interest on your side. Is creepy as fuck.
/r/seduction14/03/20 09:20 PM
1

Same applies.
/r/seduction14/03/20 08:12 PM
1

There are. I live in NYC. There are literally thousands of good looking men (physically). If he doesn’t meet 1) and he isn’t an appropriate age I wouldn’t even give the guy a chance. I have hundreds of options. Age is one of my criteria for reducing that number down. Sounds brutal but it’s true... This whole “but what if he’s perfect in every other way?” Question... well sure but if I’m on a dating app how am I going to ever get to know he’s perfect in every other way? When I was single I would …
/r/seduction14/03/20 07:40 PM
1

Of course! How is this even a question? There are lots of good looking men out there. Got to cut those numbers down somehow.
/r/seduction14/03/20 07:28 PM
5

It depends on your age. I’m 29. A 23 year old man is too young for me IMO. They just will not want the same things in life. Also they remind me of my students. If you’re 50, then no one is going to care.
/r/seduction14/03/20 06:54 PM
1

r/gethelpgraham
/r/seduction07/03/20 01:53 AM
1

You plan on just walking her to your place.... There’s no way for that not to be creepy unless she has specifically agreed to hook up. Take her to the ice-cream place or spring for a $2 coffee. Maybe afterwards say “do you want to come back to mine an watch a movie”. Everyone knows what that means but it allows her to get out if she wants.
/r/seduction05/03/20 12:19 PM
1

No. No it does not. Plenty of people want to date without being exclusive. And children and marriage are not synonyms.
/r/seduction02/03/20 12:04 PM
6

Just to add some more social norms: Men ask women on dates. Women ask men to be exclusive. Men ask women to marry them. Women ask men for babies. Edit: you’re welcome to break these all you want! Doesn’t mean it isn’t the norm.
/r/seduction02/03/20 04:30 AM
1

Yes that’s what casual means - I’m curious - what did you think it meant before?
/r/seduction29/02/20 07:18 PM
2

Use a timer (don’t hold it in your hand). If your expression is poor consider taking a “live” photo or short video so you can make different expressions and then choose the moment that you look best.
/r/seduction29/02/20 02:15 PM
12

r/wholesome
/r/seduction28/02/20 08:01 PM
1

Ask for their advice on an outfit choice. For example approach two girls sitting down chatting and say. “Hey I was just wondering if I could ask your advice. I could really do with a woman’s opinion” If they agree. Say “I just brought this sweater, do you think it’s okay for a date?” They’ll ask what kind of date etc - make something up. But during this conversation communicate that it’s a first date, that way they know that you’re 1. Desirable 2. Not in a relationship. Flirt. Escalate. And then…
/r/seduction28/02/20 02:45 PM
1

“You’re cute can I have your number” is a terrible opener as I’m sure you know. The resistance is all in your own mind. Approach. And expect 90% of them will ignore/reject you. Aim for 9 rejections in one day and you might be getting close to having someone interested. Also, take a friend. Get lunch. Split up and then meet back and discuss later. More fun with a Buddy.
/r/seduction28/02/20 01:39 PM
2

I’d mention it so they know why you’re struggling to get your words out. If you don’t mention it they might assume you lack confidence. You could for example say a phrase in your mother language and then translate it for them but say that it sounds much better in your language. Keep practicing English if English speaking girls are who you want to date. Or consider hitting on women who speak your native language.
/r/seduction28/02/20 10:56 AM
0

Hang on you’re searching for a replacement and you’ll let your GF know shortly..?!?? You suck OP. Maybe stop sucking so bad as a person and things will get better for you?
/r/seduction25/02/20 12:54 AM
0

Pick up artists You realize you’re on r/seduction right?
/r/seduction24/02/20 04:41 PM
3

Source: psychology PhD
/r/seduction23/02/20 10:00 PM
17

Neuroscientists want you to know that whole “left brain” “right brain” thing is bullshit.
/r/seduction23/02/20 01:51 PM
1

Don’t lurk. Either come straight up and start talking. Or don’t. And always flirt up from the bottom. Ugliest girl first and move your way up.
/r/seduction17/02/20 06:43 PM
25

Because that makes her sound small and adorable like a puppy. Some girls like that. But if it doesn’t fit with her view of herself it can come across as infantilizing. If she doesn’t like any kind of compliment at all then she’s not into you.
/r/seduction16/02/20 02:21 PM
5

Paragraphs!!!
/r/seduction15/02/20 04:49 PM
1

Oh come on this clearly wasn’t a hard and fast statement. Lighten up.
/r/seduction12/02/20 11:53 PM
1

Well you’re saying I’m putting other people down to build up myself. Whereas I would say I’m using self depreciating humor to make someone else feel better. Was wondering why you would assume the former.
/r/seduction12/02/20 11:52 PM
1

Do you think I’m a man?
/r/seduction12/02/20 04:10 PM
1

It’s that rapid 7 minute sickness...... My students seem to get it just before deadlines too....
/r/seduction12/02/20 04:43 AM
62

Women peak at 21 men peak at 31. I know you’re tired of waiting. But at least you still have it to look forward too!
/r/seduction11/02/20 09:03 PM
1

As the other commenter said. Not a shit, a considerate woman who is letting you work when you said you were busy.
/r/seduction06/02/20 01:25 PM
2

Ask her out?
/r/seduction02/02/20 12:01 PM
4

She’s not into you. Move on. Stop blaming her for giving you excuses, not spending time with you or flirting with others because you’re not in a relationship, she doesn’t like you, and YOU keep putting yourself in this situation. Stop friend zoning yourself.
/r/seduction02/02/20 11:58 AM
1

I wouldn’t send money for her to buy her own gifts. If you’re doing that chances are she is playing you. You just looks like a dumb idiot.
/r/seduction30/01/20 12:10 PM
1

You said both tell her you want to take her back to your place and have sex with her... but then if she is hesitant say you are happy to not have sex with her. That makes you seem desperate! You’ve put your wants out on the table and then you’re going to make it obvious you don’t actually have standards and you’re just desperate for any attention from her (plus she not going to believe you anyway and it’s going to come across like you’re an insincere prat).
/r/seduction30/01/20 01:39 AM
5

How the hell do you do 2 and 3 together?
/r/seduction30/01/20 01:26 AM
2

If she keeps offering to pay she’s likely using it as a signal. If I’m not feeling it, I don’t want him to pay for me because then I feel guilty and pressured into flirting and seeing him again.
/r/seduction29/01/20 07:08 AM
6

Yes exactly. A good date would have chemistry, attraction, flirting... This sounds like a good time with a friend.
/r/seduction28/01/20 01:04 PM
2

That was a rejection dude. Move on.
/r/seduction27/01/20 12:43 PM
2

That’s pretty darn awesome. So what’s stopping you from closing. Nerves? Rejection?
/r/seduction22/01/20 01:22 AM
1

Curious - what’s a tower climber?
/r/seduction22/01/20 01:15 AM
2

NSFW!
/r/seduction21/01/20 12:09 PM
1

Why the hell would you stop talking to her? Talk to her. Flirt with her. And at some point drop into conversation how you “had a rough week last week”. Hopefully that will be enough for her to forgive you.
/r/seduction18/01/20 09:50 PM
1

I’m assuming “push her around” is a metaphor? Unless you’re 12 I don’t suggest this kind of playground teasing.
/r/seduction14/01/20 12:21 PM
2

No problem. Apparently I type like a guy! You’ll do well, just keep being confident!
/r/seduction12/01/20 05:34 PM
1

This is genuinely terrible advice.
/r/seduction12/01/20 05:27 PM
3

Woman* but you’re welcome 😀
/r/seduction12/01/20 05:25 PM
6

No. Why the hell would you do that?!?!? That would be incredibly cringe and not achieve anything.
/r/seduction12/01/20 04:45 PM
1

“How how was your day” is boring as fuck. “I want to eat your ass” is creepy. Come on. You can do better than that. Tell her an amusing anecdote from your day. “Hey I saw [funny thing] today and it reminded me of [shared experience at new years], you would have been laughing so hard I would see those funny little dimples again”. Bonus points if it’s flirty.
/r/seduction10/01/20 01:33 PM
1

If love to but they don’t take images 😕
/r/seduction06/01/20 01:48 PM
2

Man gets more.
/r/seduction06/01/20 12:00 PM
1

Woman here. Change the haircut and only wear the sunglasses when it’s sunny.
/r/seduction30/12/19 05:38 PM
3

It’s okay for her to stop responding. Conversations have natural lulls. You should look at those as good things. They are an opportunity to show confidence and self-assuredness. Best scenario is when you spot the lull coming. Flirt back and forth. Banter. Then when that lull comes, that’s when you say “we should get a drink sometime.” Do this before she actually goes but when the conversation is winding down. Second best scenario. You didn’t see it coming. She’s stopped responding. Here you wait…
/r/seduction17/12/19 03:20 AM
26

Being good at something. Anything really. So some guy is better looking. Another guy is funnier. That guy over there holds a PhD in theoretical physics. But can any of them win at flip cup every time? No. That’s all me baby. Know your skill. Remember your skill.
/r/seduction17/12/19 03:11 AM
4

Lighthearted, flirty, jokey. Don’t ask serious questions. Don’t get boring. It’s tinder FFS!
/r/seduction13/12/19 12:37 PM
2

Text her now and ask her out. Calls are higher risk because she might be busy and unable to chat.
/r/seduction13/12/19 12:32 PM
1

Hostel idea is great. Pick one with a large communal social area.
/r/seduction11/12/19 12:09 AM
1

Hi there. Short education... bisexual women are no more or less open to threesomes than straight women. Straight women will happily have a threesome with another woman if they are into the idea/ into you enough and you’re into the idea. Bi women may in fact be less open to the idea because to them that involves negotiating a possible mess of feelings. Also we’ve had enough guys want to do this with us that we’re kinda just over it. Just sayin’
/r/seduction10/12/19 10:43 PM
2

I assume you’ve tried: “Want to go get some fresh air?” - walk outside it’s cold. She cuddles close and you say. “It’s cold. Why don’t I get a Uber and we can chill at mine”.
/r/seduction09/12/19 12:28 AM
5

You spelt pussy with dollar signs. I don’t think your problem is that you respect women too much. I think you don’t respect them but are wondering why they aren’t all flocking to you as they should be.
/r/seduction09/12/19 12:25 AM
1

Sorry friend. I hate to say but that’s not original. Lots of guys do the Instagram from tinder thing.
/r/seduction08/12/19 01:49 PM
1

Yeah I should probably mention I live in NYC. You’re right. If you think someone is a 10, so do most other people.
/r/seduction08/12/19 01:37 PM
2

You don’t think some of us are married to the guy that “gamed” us? When they fall in love with you they explain all their tricks. And you can honestly evaluate those that work and those that don’t. Both sides is what you need to know. Women are gaming too. All my girlfriends read “mystery method” and “the game” in college. We know what you’re doing. Pretty sure when he saw it one my bookshelf is when he finally quit the shit. One day I hope you will have years of fun sitting at bars sharing both…
/r/seduction08/12/19 03:22 AM
2

Because I’ve heard it 20 times today. I know I’m hot/cute/pretty whatever. It’s unoriginal. It might work on an ugly chick. Not a good looking one. It also tells me you’re low quality. Because if you were high quality and sleeping with hot women every night you would need more than just my good looks to attract you. There are loads of attractive women around. Tonnes. You should be able to sleep with attractive women whenever you want - or at least give that impression. You want to make me feel l…
/r/seduction08/12/19 03:18 AM
1

No I mean another club. One girl each friendship group? You don’t think they will notice you hit on other girls already simply because it wasn’t right in front of them? Women have eyes. We are watching. We see exactly what you’re doing. One target per club (or room in club if there are multiple rooms).
/r/seduction08/12/19 03:07 AM
3

Yes. Absolutely. Unless you look like brad Pitt that’s a terrible opener. And that’s only because if you’re brad Pitt there are no bad openers.
/r/seduction08/12/19 03:02 AM
1

Your post confuses me slightly. You are dancing with multiple women? And then you try to make-out and they reject you? As a woman I would see this and think, that guy is just trying to make out with every girl in the club. I suggest you pick one target and stick with her. Sure flirt and dance with others to get her attention/ make her jealous. But trying for multiple girls in one night will be noticeable to all other women present. No girl wants to feel like one of many. If you strike out move t…
/r/seduction08/12/19 02:36 AM
1

She’s not attracted to you.
/r/seduction07/12/19 10:41 PM
1

What exactly do you gain by sending her that message? If he behavior isn’t to you liking just leave.
/r/seduction06/12/19 12:56 PM
1

Obviously this guy is attractive. This seems like a dumb question.
/r/seduction06/12/19 12:54 PM
1

Oh no!!! Faints with sarcasm
/r/seduction05/12/19 11:13 PM
40

Agreed. Also a woman. This would work on me. Even if I wasn’t interested I would give a very kindly rejection. Soooo much better than “I just wanted to say you’re pretty” or some crap.
/r/seduction05/12/19 01:14 PM
3

You don’t think it was around back then? You think men only figured out how to ask women out during daylight hours in the last decade?
/r/seduction04/12/19 01:55 PM
1

No it’s a joke based on the “1000 yard stare” which is a real thing.
/r/seduction03/12/19 12:09 PM
1

Yes. But I’ve only ditched a guy for this reason because it happened repeatedly and I needed some bloody sleep!
/r/seduction24/11/19 12:49 PM
4

I don’t think he means close the tab. He means don’t start by offering a drink.
/r/seduction23/11/19 05:12 AM
3

Her place!!!!
/r/seduction20/11/19 01:24 AM
2

Spot on with the indirect thing!
/r/seduction19/11/19 01:15 AM
1

No that’s not what he meant. No that does not work.
/r/seduction19/11/19 12:30 AM
3

This sort of response is why women are not “clear” with their rejections. Guy comes up to me and makes a move. I want to reject him but I fear he will flip it around and call me arrogant. So instead I assume he just wants to be friends, then later I get blamed for leading him on and “it should have been obvious” he liked me. Can’t win either way.
/r/seduction18/11/19 11:53 AM
20

I wouldn’t start with telling them that they are pretty...
/r/seduction14/11/19 01:24 PM
1

No. No he did not.
/r/seduction13/11/19 11:45 PM
1

I can answer this.... No he did not get her number.
/r/seduction13/11/19 11:44 PM
1

Everything is creepy and strange.
/r/seduction13/11/19 11:43 PM
3

This is an incredibly well thought out explanation of why this is wrong. OP please read this.
/r/seduction13/11/19 11:42 PM
3

I can answer that one for you.... NO
/r/seduction13/11/19 11:40 PM
1

Second this. Don’t approach from behind or cut us off when we want to leave.
/r/seduction13/11/19 11:34 PM
1

It’s easier in person, just comment on what’s around you. “Look at that cute dig over there” “Look at that guy try chat up that girl - he’s doing it all wrong...”
/r/seduction06/11/19 11:37 PM
1

You know if you don’t want to approach strangers you don’t have to..... If every man approached every good-looking woman they saw it would be even more exhausting to walk around with boobs. Let some of them go.
/r/seduction01/11/19 11:20 PM
1

She’s like 18? Or she is actually 18? Watch yourself. Practical advice. It’s winter, it’s cold, don’t go to a park. She’s not going to automatically jump under a blanket with you. She’s going to be uncomfortable and leave early. Go somewhere warm. Any cafe or restaurant will do (although I agree Panera is too loud). So somewhere more relaxed with sofas and some board games. Not weird at all for her not to want you to pick her up. Safety first.
/r/seduction01/11/19 11:13 PM
1

Yes. A party is very different from a club assuming it’s not a completely raging party (which very few are). At the beginning when everyone is kinda sober and talking - use your daygame.
/r/seduction26/10/19 01:22 PM
1

Agreed on the fascinating!
/r/seduction24/10/19 06:55 PM
3

I’d disagree on them being feminists. The do not appear to believe in equality of the genders. That’s actually my problem with them.
/r/seduction24/10/19 01:00 PM
11

I discovered r/femaledatingstrategy last week. Learnt a lot of things about my fellow women that I didn’t like. Don’t think it’s changed my life though.
/r/seduction24/10/19 11:25 AM
2

Wait until the sun goes down. It’s hard not to pick up on the boulevard.
/r/seduction22/10/19 09:36 PM
1

Okay so for the first 4 lines I thought you were going to explain how you couldn’t carry her weight. I was about to recommend squats.
/r/seduction22/10/19 04:22 AM
2

Id start with the apps. Start off slow. It’s a lot easier to write a text than speak out loud.
/r/seduction22/10/19 04:02 AM
1

I’m not sure I’m your intended commenter as I know nothing about “compliance tests”. But if a woman is trying to use your attraction to her to get you to do stuff (as some women do) I can see that refusing to do that shit would make her realize you’re not the kind of low quality man to be manipulated. The line, therefore, is when she actually needs your help. As long as she’s just using you because she CBA then say no. If she really needs your help though I’d say yes. Edit: although frankly I wo…
/r/seduction22/10/19 02:23 AM
1

Sigh. No. My boyfriend doesn’t actually have that haircut.
/r/seduction22/10/19 01:11 AM
3

Short. Social conditioning I daresay.
/r/seduction22/10/19 01:06 AM
13

How exactly are you FWB if there are no benefits? Sounds like you’re just friends bruh.
/r/seduction21/10/19 10:42 PM
4

Take a friend! Perfect wingman situation. Next Thursday say “my buddy John is going to join us, he’s really cool” (it helps if John is cool). John knows to talk to the friend. He should make sure the friend has a good time. Then you can talk to the woman you’re interested in. Boom.
/r/seduction21/10/19 10:06 PM
2

Ah. I better understand your point now. You’re not pissed she’s seeing someone else per se, but that that they take priority over you. That’s fair. I wouldn’t want to be the obvious back-up/ 2nd choice either. When dating multiple people it’s important everyone feels like their time is important. I used to work on a “who asks first wins” basis. Had the nice additional benefit of encouraging guys to plans in advance. They knew if they wanted a weekend night they had better schedule that stuff. Of…
/r/seduction20/10/19 05:01 PM
2

I hear you! My boyfriend is also deployed at present. It’s been 2 months for us so far. I would say don’t make any decisions whilst he’s away (or as soon as he comes back). Get back to reality a little first then maybe have a conversation. Ps.. sending love!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/19 04:54 PM
1

Strongly disagree with the other commenter. You didn’t mess up. Assuming your goal is to be in a good relationship for the rest of your life and not just to get married Actually really happy to hear you’re living with him, I must have misunderstood your original post as I thought you hadn’t. Men are not stupid. If he wants to propose he will. If he doesn’t it means (sadly) that he doesn’t want to. Now, at the beginning of the relationship we are okay with the fact he doesn’t want to (yet) and af…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/19 04:24 PM
4

You don’t want to keep talking to a woman if she has other guys she’s seeing? That’s your call. But 1. Make sure you hold yourself to the same standard. 2. Recognize you are reducing your pool of eligible women.
/r/seduction20/10/19 04:15 PM
11

Definitely don’t push for a proposal. I did that once. It’s leads to an unhappy marriage and divorce. The reason proposals are so damn wonderful is that you know HE has independently decided he wants to marry you. He has weighed the pros and cons and decided he wants it. It’s good that he’s waiting. It’s good that he’s thinking it through. It means when he does eventually ask he will be sure about it. Trust me. You want him to be sure. If you haven’t lived together yet you don’t know each other …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/19 02:52 PM
1

Halloween isn’t exactly a “date night” so just do whatever you normally do and give candy to the kids who come by.
/r/seduction18/10/19 12:52 PM
3

This guy knows what’s up. The tried and tested “wanna come and watch [insert movie]” works because it doesn’t mention your place. But it only works if you’ve been talking about that movie earlier in the night. Pets, artwork, music, signed baseball ....etc all work too. Edit: it also gives her a get out of jail card. If upon returning to your place you give out major creepy vibe she can leave after the movie/ petting your dog or whatever without feeling she broke a social script.
/r/seduction18/10/19 12:45 PM
5

Can concur. It’s a full time job. Myself and many other women I know abandon tinder because it’s exhausting. Trying to keep up with all the messages and then having guys get annoyed when you don’t respond back the same week - or even day! It’s like opening your inbox at work after getting back from vacation. But every day. We don’t swipe right a lot because we don’t want more matches. We have more than we can cope with already. We don’t message first because we don’t want more conversations. We …
/r/seduction18/10/19 12:37 PM
3

Stop creepily messaging some woman you don’t know repeatedly.
/r/seduction18/10/19 12:21 PM
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