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My problem with AWALT is that there is no one way that all women are. There just isn't. And treating every woman the same is a recipe for disaster. The response to this from Red Pillers is usually something along the lines of, "all women have the potential to be this way, treat every gun like it is loaded." This is a stupid argument. We don't go around assumming the worst of every person we meet just because some humans are pieces of shit. "Hey look, that guy kidnapped 3 women, kept them in chai…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/16 07:06 PM
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My favorite dates (aside from actual travel) are where we have a "stay-cation". We make a fort in the living room, get a fire going, cook smores, drink beer and wine, play board games, and have lots of sex. We ignore our phones Friday night through Sunday night and just make the world about the 2 of us!
/r/RedPillWives04/08/16 02:04 AM
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Agree that Leo and Brad Pitt are old and not that cute. But Dave Franco and Shia LaBouef? No way!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/16 01:54 AM
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I am sorry about your grandpa! I still believe that such relationships are possible. I hope that you find one!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/16 12:42 PM
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Real love is a partnership. It is choosing another person to share the best and worst of your life with and choosing to let them share their best and worst with you. It is deciding that, regardless of how your feelings or hormones are waxing or waning, that your man/woman is it for you. It is knowing that sometimes they will annoy you or bore you, and still choosing them. Real love is making the decision everyday to support that person and stay faithful. It is making a team of 2 and saying, whil…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/16 08:26 PM
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If those numbers are true, it's probably just because lesbians enter committed relationships much faster and more frequently than gay men.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/16 07:49 PM
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Hi! I found this thread because of Purple Pill Debate. I am not Red Pill and never will be, but I think there are great posts here sometimes and I lurk here often. I am a local news reporter and don't want to give out my name. I am way too easy to find online. I turn 29 in a few weeks and am in an LTR of 2 years. Everyone on here seems very nice and I thank the mods for creating such a welcoming environment!
/r/RedPillWives31/07/16 06:47 PM
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I didn't date a man that went red pill, but I did date a man that cheated on me. He was my highschool sweet heart, turned college boyfriend, turned fiance. While I think cheating is always, ALWAYS wrong, I acknowledge that I should have been more sexually available to him. I didn't like sex as much then (I was younger and didn't understand how good it could be and was raised to see it as a bad/sinful thing. Plus I was still dealing with some molestation issues and "dirty" feelings from that whic…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/16 09:15 PM
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To be honest the molesting thing hardly ever bothers me now. I like sex, have a high sex drive, and generally have no issues there. (Though an ex suggested that was why I am bisexual. I disagree.) The only way it has left an impact is that certain, very specific, things can turn me off more effectively than throwing ice water on me. I can't stand suggesting that I am a little girl and I refuse to sit on anyone's lap and be touched. It's easy to work around. I also don't think child molestor joke…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/16 08:33 PM
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My great uncle molested me when I was 3-5. That is definitely the worst. I also had a stalker (I work on local news and he became obsessed) and my high school sweetheart cheated on me right before our wedding was supposed to happen. So a top three really!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/16 06:42 PM
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Hahaha! Just wondering!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/16 03:57 PM
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I'm naturally strawberry blonde. Once a guy told me that he bet it looked like the sun was always setting on my pussy. I choked on my gin and tonic. I have been happy to avoid fire crotch comments. My sympathy is with you my red headed sister! Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/16 02:07 PM
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I hope this isn't rude, but do you have especially hairy arms? Or are they just regular lady hairy? Inquiring minds want to know!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/16 02:02 PM
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How far into the convo? I hate it when you think you're talking to someone nice and then BAM "Can you squirt?" happens. It's better if you know they're creeps from the start.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/16 01:34 PM
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Yeah. Somethings just aren't meant to be shouted out of cars or volleyed at unsuspecting ladies. A handy tip is, if it involves fluids or rape, try something - anything- else.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/16 01:13 PM
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I read that as "College, went on the subway" and was confused about your spicy italian request. Makes more sense after a reread!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/16 01:06 PM
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What have I done?!? ;-P
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/16 12:54 PM
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Wow. That's the top one on here I think!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/16 12:52 PM
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The juices thing made me shudder. Eww.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/16 12:47 PM
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Hahaha! $300 isn't bad! Good for you!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/16 12:46 PM
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That's a popular one too!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/16 12:45 PM
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That's terrible!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/16 04:03 AM
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I thought so too! I would have given the guy a chance if I was single!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/16 04:03 AM
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These are gold! The ice thing would have maybe worked on me. It is so bizarre and geeky and I love a good pun. Once a guy asked me to suck his dick with my dick sucking lips, and told me that he just got a blow job. Which made no sense at all. Maybe he was a new red piller trying out preselection? (And failing)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/16 03:01 AM
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Hahaha. That's what you get for riding the cock carousel!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/16 02:49 AM
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That's not too bad, except for the big legs thing. The big legs thing and the touching are what take it over the line.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/16 02:48 AM
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Haha. You're so superficial and terrible. You should have thrown him a bone and banged him. You would have if he was Chad! ;-)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/16 02:46 AM
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That's the thing... Who would that kind of shit work on? I think the guys that trot that crap out are the same guys that complain on here about girls saying they're creepy.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/16 02:43 AM
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This is after you were dating right? Not that it makes it better for you. I just can't imagine a man randomly walking up to cute ladies and leading with that line and a pack of kid's panties.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/16 02:25 AM
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A friend of mine was told she had German legs once as a compliment. I guess the German ladies have got it going on!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/16 02:00 AM
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I hate all the incel posts. They might get laid if they didn't spend all their time posting about not getting laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/16 12:48 AM
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1) Get chatted up and have randoms make "pleasant" convos a once or twice a week. Same for the nicer compliments like "I couldn't help but notice your smile", "You look too nice to waste it on grocery shopping" etc. Daytime number ask a couple times a year. Night time number ask, everytime I go to a club or bar without my man or when my man is getting drinks/away (which is pretty rare, maybe once a month?)Cruder "compliments" about once every couple of months or so, more if we are counting thing…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/16 12:45 AM
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I actually like tattoos better on darker skin because the aren't as glaring. I think colorful lipstick also looks better on black/brown women.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/16 07:43 PM
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Haha. That song is terrible! I don't think anyone would find it hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/16 01:19 AM
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Are you the same person now that you were at 18? Believe it or not, ladies can change too!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/16 09:24 PM
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You can bring it up! If you really like them, go for it!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/16 09:10 PM
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I don't have sex out of a relationship either. Why is it taking two months though? That is a long time to wait unless you're both very religious.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/16 05:18 PM
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Hahaha! That actually made me lol!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/16 06:46 PM
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Haha. I have my groceries delivered so not even that. We'll always have Reddit though. ;-)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/16 06:28 PM
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That's what I am saying. I don't think we'd ever even meet to begin with.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/16 05:05 PM
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Thanks! At least that is one mystery solved! ;-)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/16 04:04 PM
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What are incels?!? I get that they are virgins but why not just say virgin then? I never heard the term before stumbling in TRP one day. If I never see it again, it'll be too soon.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/16 03:20 PM
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You lost me when you recommended some PUA thread for relationship advice. There is a reason it isn't called relationship artists. ;-)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/16 03:16 PM
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Haha. I am mostly ignoring the men. Especially since most aren't even in a relationship and/or don't even want to be in a LTR. Why would a woman listen to them?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/16 01:45 PM
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I go to Dragon Con and other conventions. I'm into Sci-Fi and Fantasy particulary. I am writing a novel in my spare time and I like to hear what published authors say. It is also really fun!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/16 01:05 PM
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No worries, I would have probably already weeded you out. You wouldn't have to worry about facebook stalking. ;-)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/16 03:26 AM
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I am happy with the responses. There is a lot of good stuff here!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/16 03:22 AM
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This is good stuff! Thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/16 02:35 AM
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This is great advice! Thank you!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/16 01:36 AM
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Ehh... I think that TRP is wrong about that. Plenty of ladies go through a wild period and then level out. They aren't doomed to be forever alone bc they were slutty at 19. I'm 28 and before my SO I was with 4 men and 4 ladies. When he was making all his sex moves on the 3rd date, I flat out told him that I have moved too fast in the past and think that it stopped my relationships from becoming all they could be. I told him (truthfully) that I liked him too much to potentially miss out on someth…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/16 12:00 AM
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Yes, but the only guys who have ever asked are because I asked first and even then it was an established relationship by that point. The only before sex convos I've ever had were initiated by me too and consisted of: 1) Are you seeing anyone else right now? "I really like you and only want to be having sex with you now. Are we on the same page?" 2) Have you been tested? Also, birth control convo.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/16 11:48 PM
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We agree on this for sure!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/16 11:37 PM
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Are you in high school or a small college where you are all dating the same people? As you age most people date people and have no clue who they've banged.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/16 10:07 PM
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I wasn't saying that you should hide everything for life! Just saying that maybe you shouldn't lead with your divorce or how you like Twilight fanfiction. Haha. A little mystery is a good thing!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/16 10:02 PM
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I am absolutely not saying to never tell them. It just isn't 1st or 2nd date material in my opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/16 09:52 PM
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Agree 100% that communication is key!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/16 09:40 PM
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All guys that I've dated are guys with options. They could get laid anywhere. Waiting to have sex shows that you value yourself and they usually value you too. A used Volvo will drive you around town but men will still save up for that Mercedes! This advice has worked for every single one of my girlfriends. Including one whose longest previous relationship was 3 weeks. She just got married. Obviously that is ancedotal and there is more to it, but there are definite perks to waiting. I am guessin…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/16 09:32 PM
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I am talking about finding someone you actually like and securing a relationship with that person.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/16 08:53 PM
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Adopting is harder than you think it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/16 02:30 PM
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Yes they do. Unless your parents were absolute garbage, you owe them a lot. They literally are the reason you are alive.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/16 02:29 PM
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Thinner women, fatter men in upper class Southern US.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/16 02:44 AM
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Number 2 bc he would have low standards probably, then 3 bc he has that former frat guy feel, then 1, and last 4 because he had to spend a bunch of time studying.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/16 03:32 PM
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It is something that comes up fairly regularly and most of it isn't a huge deal. Men tend to over explain things to me on the regular and offer "helpful" advice that isn't really that helpful. Occassionally I'll get a real jackass that'll call me baby or honey in a work setting or dismiss me off the bat. For example, I've been asked to get coffee by men that have come in, assumming that I am a secretary, when really they were there to meet with me. If it is the "trying to be helpful" kind of stu…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/16 01:01 AM
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No, I am pretty stereotypically feminine naturally. It isn't hard for me to act very feminine. What is hard is making people understand that I can have big boobs, long blonde hair, like dresses, and still be intelligent and good at my job.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/16 01:41 AM
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What is your pill? - Purple Do you have casual sex on a semi-frequent basis? - No. I am in a LTR of 2 years. Have you ever had a one night stand? - Yes in that it was a one time thing and we weren't in a relationship. No in that I had known him for years prior and have remained friends after. Wine was involved. So much wine. Have you ever been to a night club? - Yes! But I have never hooked up with anyone that I have met there. I have only ever gone to dance with friends. Have you ever been drun…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/16 10:44 PM
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Sorry cats. That's a tough break. I can't even imagine. :-/
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/16 03:35 AM
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I waited until I was "in love". I was 16 though, do I count?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/16 03:22 AM
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Me too sister friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/16 03:19 AM
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I might bang other women occassionally. I'd pass on other men though. I miss having sex with ladies somtimes but I'd never cheat. If he was really ok with it though? Totally. I would never agree to sharing him though, so I don't see that happening.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/16 03:11 AM
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Eugene is hot. Ned and Keith are cute. Would bang. And I agree that men have more pressure to look a certain way now. It's been that way for women for a long time but it has gotten a lot harder for men lately.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/16 02:45 AM
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No, it is too dangerous. I won't have sex with someone I don't trust. I like being dominated, but that requires absolute trust and I only explore that with long term partners. I don't want to be worried that he'd seriously harm me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/16 06:11 PM
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Who are these women telling their partners details about their previous partners??? No one does this in real life!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/16 02:43 AM
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If the woman you just had sex with looks emotionally distraught and/or has a blank stare, you're doing it wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/16 06:42 PM
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Reading, 1st and foremost. I would climb a tree and read all day. The Littles, Nancy Drew, The Chronicles of Narnia, A Wrinkle in Time, etc. The later two were my gateway into fantasy and supernatural novels, which I guess is a way I am "geeky". Well, that and subsequent Renaissance Fair attendance, cosplay, etc ;-) Physical stuff - I did dance and later cheering. I was a cheerleader throughout high school. My brothers had video games but I never did. I did like playing Donkey Kong Country and M…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/16 04:21 PM
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Fine with it. It's not like we're all out peeing in the open anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/16 11:35 PM
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But there isn't even a lag time. If anything I notice what I don't like FIRST. So it'd be more like, "Woah, Veiny McHulkerson over there is taking up all the space at the bar. Ew. Too bad he overdid it at the gym because his face is actually pretty cute!" Women as a whole get hit on way more than men (something I agree with RP about, as long as we're speaking generally and not applying it to everyone as a rule). We, as women, need to be able to quickly weed out the nopes, so I at least - and I c…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/16 10:56 PM
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Third guy has huge shoulders and a tiny head, how that is caused by lighting? Also second guy has well defined abs. Third guy's abs look like they could cut steel. I included second guy not bc he is my top preference, but bc he is the most muscley man I could still find attractive. The third guy has too much muscle for me if he has ANY more muscle than second guy bc second guy was already my outer limit. Make sense? I set it up that way so that my response complied with the question: "Can we get…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/16 08:17 PM
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Idk. I just google image searched body builders and their girlfriends and body builders and their wives. The results were not pretty for the most part.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/16 06:42 PM
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Yes! Not to mention the number of roided up TRPers that are angrily down voting every woman that doesn't like veiny muscle monsters (which is most women)!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/16 06:23 PM
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Yep. It's the reverse lollipop effect with these huge dudes!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/16 05:48 PM
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I prefer a guy that is active but will gladly take less muscles over a gym addict. My guy bikes, rock climbs, and rafts. He also drinks beers and eats pizza. He has toned arms and legs but no six pack. I'm madly attracted to him ;-)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/16 05:35 PM
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Maybe I am misunderstanding you, but your comment seems to be missing the point. Most (most, not AWALT) women aren't just looking to bang. Therefore, when they are checking a guy out, his looks help inform them about his personality which is all taken into consideration on whether or not they're attracted to him. If I see a guy that I'd otherwise find attractive (facial or body type) but he looks like he spends more time grooming than me, he becomes unattractive. If I see a guy that I'd otherwis…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/16 05:17 PM
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I'm not a redpill woman or wife but even my tiny hamster brain can understand what Atlas is saying! Why would a woman listen to advice that wouldn't end in an exclusive, happy LTR? Why would they want advice on how to get used as a plate by a guy when that would end with them disgarded like trash in the end? It makes no sense. We can figure out how to do that on our own. Be pretty and put out - bam someone will want to plate you! Wife you though... No, you need a different strategy!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/16 04:02 PM
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They must be in the gym all the time! Which is good for them if that's what makes them happy, but bad for me if I am their girlfriend. Not to mention that it throws off their proportions so that their heads look oddly small.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/16 02:23 PM
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I don't know how to link on reddit, but personally I like this: http://images.girlslife.com/image.axd?i=35214 Also good: https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/236x/a0/67/8c/a0678cb316da1e9b6cb790263f4d25b7.jpg This is too much: http://www.johnthebodyman.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/Bodyman-Handsome-muscular-man.jpg This is WAY too much: https://cvetito.files.wordpress.com/2011/04/muscle-building-image-man.jpg Edited to add another attractive one!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/16 02:04 PM
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I agree that it isn't a desirable masculine trait. That doesn't rule out me finding a guy with a slight beer gut or less than toned physique attractive however. But no Bubbas, as we call them in my neck of the woods. ;-)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/16 10:05 PM
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The physical traits I find attractive in women (aside from faces and long hair) are hips, butts, boobs, and overall "softness." The traits I find attractive in men (aside from face and, once again, hair) are jaw lines, lean muscles, and overall "hardness". I hardly think I am unique in that regard. Therefore it makes sense that a woman that is soft and curvy - even if a bit too soft and curvy - would do much better in the sexual marketplace than a man who is soft and cuvy. She at least is still …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/16 09:26 PM
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This post is great and actually really helpful! Thanks so much!
/r/RedPillWives25/04/16 08:59 PM
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I don't think it is weird at all! Voice can make or break a man!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/16 05:06 AM
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I find the first girl so much better looking! Different strokes for different folks I guess!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/16 02:42 AM
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Same! I have known too many men that were bi on the way to gay town. I also realize I am a giant hypocrite.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/16 02:33 AM
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Disliking stupidity isn't superficial though. I could never date someone I thought was dumb. Inversely, wit and mastery of sarcasm really gets me going. Also, I've always liked alternative looking chicks. Maybe because I am very feminine and look super wholesome. Opposites attract and all that. A hot girl with a chest piece, pink highlights, and nose ring gives me all kinds of tingles.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/16 02:30 AM
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You are unique that way. /s ;-)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/16 12:25 AM
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Me too! In real life I stay away from that many muscles but damn if he doesn't make it look good.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/16 09:55 PM
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I would never have made it to the hook up stage. He'd have said his opening line and I'd have pretended to be married or pregnant or all lesbian instead of bi. Broad isn't so bad though if he was like, "you're quite the sassy broad" or somesuch.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/16 09:32 PM
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Like, permanent duck faces? Or just girls that pose that way a lot?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/16 09:28 PM
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I too see facial tatoos and think, "What a dumbass!" I've yet to be proven wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/16 09:26 PM
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I just met a male bartender with long hair the other day and he's the first man in real life that I ever found attractive with long hair (aside from some black men with well kept dreads). However, there are tons of TV men with long hair that I've found hot. Khal Drogo for the win!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/16 09:25 PM
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Mustaches san beards are just horrible. I don't know why anyone would ever do that to themselves. Whatever the guy looked like pre mustache, subtract 5 hotness points and add 10 to the creepiness factor.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/16 08:47 PM
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Back at you! The knife play part actual makes my vagina clinch in terror. Not judging you UBC, just saying it gives me the chills and not the good kind.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/16 08:40 PM
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No, thinner girls can have curves. But under 21 BMI it is extremely rare. That is pretty ultra thin. Like I said, whatever floats your boat. My personal preference for myself and girls I've date is around the 24-28 range but that is just me. I like soft curves. (Not fat rolls, but a little softness and ample breasts/hips/booty). However, it'd be bad if we all liked the same things.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/16 08:34 PM
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Lol at liking the movie Crash. This is the oddly specific gold I was looking for!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/16 08:08 PM
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You're missing out on a lot of great lady parts that way. Like hips and booties and big breasts. But you do you!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/16 08:07 PM
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Blondes aren't an automatic nope for me, but I tend to be more attracted to brunettes. I think it is because I am blonde and don't go for anyone that looks vaguely related.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/16 08:03 PM
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That is really odd. I think you dodged a bullet there! Besides, the characters in Wreck it Ralph were kinda cute!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/16 08:00 PM
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I am assuming you are a man but will be very amused if you are a woman that just likes hippie or biker men. ;-)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/16 07:40 PM
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With you on that too! Does it also bother you when the top teeth way overhang the bottoms or when there is alot of gums?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/16 07:36 PM
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Ahhh! That is another one for me. I can't stand a New Jersey accent. It just grates my nerves!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/16 07:27 PM
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I don't think this is 100% true but it did make me chuckle!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/16 06:28 PM
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It matters, but not as much as short guys actually think it matters. Most women I know only want the guy to be taller than them. That said, I feel for guys below 5'6 because I know that they have a harder time than most. Also, I'm 5'3 and my man is 6'5, so maybe I am full of shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/16 06:25 PM
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Yep, totally. I have a pretty huge rack and long hair so I'll move my hair out of the way to give a good view if I'm into someone. (Not anymore, as I'm taken, but single me did this). Also, bending forward and touching arms.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/16 12:47 AM
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I have no problem with paternity tests as ling as they're done post birth (no threat to the baby like amniotic fluid tests).
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/16 01:16 AM
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A slut is someone who cheats on their SO or goes after taken men. Otherwise, you do you and I'll throw no shade.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/16 01:11 AM
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I think the "wall" is only partially real and that most women hit it much later than red pill men think. However, I do think that most women hit a point where most men their age no longer find them attractive. The solution is to go older. A decent 45 year old woman can easily get a decent 60 year old man, wall or no wall. *Sorry if this is a repost, my last comment disappeared on me
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/16 09:22 PM
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I think it is only if they are teaching you that it is a problem. For example, she (my BF) and another male grad student traded students so that she could teach his girlfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/16 04:03 PM
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My best friend is a grad student TA. In the paper work to accept her assistantship she had to agree to a no fraternization with students policy. I assume it is so there is no sex for grades trade offs. Many businesses have similar policies.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/16 08:50 PM
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The question asked about a no fault divorce, so I think most people responded based on the standard divorce, not an abusive one or one with adultry. If you were asking me, I specifically said I didn't agree with anyone having to waive their parental rights to get out of a bad marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/16 07:51 PM
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It was a great survey overall though! Thanks for making it!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/16 07:07 PM
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It also said that the university shouldn't be able to expel the accused rapist. I think that rape accusations should be handled by police AND universities should be able to expel the accused rapist if they find he broke univeristy laws or code of conduct. (For example, if it was a grad student with a undergrad student in his class. There might not be enough evidence for rape in the legal system but if he admits that there was sex, he is still might have broke his university's policies for TA beh…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/16 06:06 PM
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The problem for me there was lumping financial support and parental rights. I think it'd be fair to say the divorcing party gets no money. I think it is unfair to expect a man or woman who wants out of a marriage to waive their parental rights though.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/16 05:57 PM
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It was a typo. I meant to say that the significant MINORITY was unsettling. I (a blueish purple woman) don't think most men would become rapists but I find it a little scary that a significant amount of men think that they would.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/16 04:06 PM
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Yeah, that significant minority is a little unsettling! Edited for typo and clarity!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/16 03:38 PM
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Are you German by any chance?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/16 05:18 AM
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I love sex. I can't imagine not enjoying it. Have you tried exploring a little? Maybe working on your kinks?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/16 03:23 AM
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So far the ancedotal evidence goes against your theory sir.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/16 11:59 PM
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I'm sorry that happened! I can't stand anyone (male or female) that use their children as pawns. I actually consider that a type of sexual assault if she forced sex for visitation. I hope that you are able to get some sort of legal visitation or shared custody!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/16 11:32 PM
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Are you a man? I am a woman that really, really enjoys sex. In my current relationship we average about 6 times a week, sometimes more. But I can and have gone for a while without sex when there was no one around that I wanted. I am wondering if male sex thirst is different.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/16 11:22 PM
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I don't. Without all the "Turned on" and/or romantic feelings, what is left that my vibrator couldn't do? I'm being serious here.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/16 11:17 PM
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That makes sense I guess. You probably were attracted to her at the time, right? (Alcohol can play unfair tricks!)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/16 11:13 PM
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I completely support male birth control! It is great for men because they will have more control over their reproductive destiny and great for women that are tired of taking pills that wreak havoc on their hormones. Win, win!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/16 10:23 PM
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If someone picked up your baby, held its mouth open, wrapped their hand around its throat and was somehow able to manage making the baby produce a "mama" like sound, I'd doubt that you'd claim that your baby spoke its first word. Rape and virginity is the same way. Rape isn't sex except in the most base of ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/16 02:02 AM
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No!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/16 08:04 PM
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Hand jobs and fingering no. Rape no. All other consensual sexual activity, yes. (Here is a hint, if it has "sex" in the name, it is sex. Oral SEX, Anal SEX, etc)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/16 06:20 PM
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You're right. I was thinking more of severe cognitive disabilities (Autism, Down's Syndrom, etc). I guess I was considering being bipolar, anxiety disorders, and the like as emotional disorders. I wouldn't be interested in a relationship with someone who is bipolar, for example, but they could certainly be smart and funny. I should have considered my words more carefully!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/16 04:53 PM
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I don't think this is necessarly true. My boyfriend is friends with a dude that got his leg blown up by an IED in Iraq and that guy rakes in the ladies. Hand to God, we once met him at his house where one lady was leaving, took him to brunch where we met another girl, and then had drinks with him and yet ANOTHER woman later that night. I had to stop saying names on fear of getting them wrong. That guy has everthing but the leg going for him though. He doesn't let it slow him down, so no one else…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/16 05:26 AM
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I went on a few dates with a deaf woman once and I found her to be incredibly attractive. The reason why our relationship didn't make it past the 3rd date was due to incompatibility and had nothing to do with her being differently abled. I have never dated a man with any disability, but I believe that I could date a physically disabled man, depending on the disability. I admit that I wouldn't be able to date someone that can't care for themselves though. I would need to feel that my partner and …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/16 05:12 AM
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I have never been attracted to someone due to their smell or their voice, but it has worked in reverse. Someone can be sexy as all get out and lose all desirability if they smell. Also, I can't stand overly nasal voices or certain accents. For me it is Jersey and midwestern accents that turn me off.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/16 05:01 AM
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Or I could make fine money and have a heck of a lot more fun doing what I actually enjoy and have a talent for. I just told the math teacher story because it was true. It's not like people in other fields never have disheartening experiences. I can't tell you how many times I have been yelled at or threatened while covering stories. It is just that the younger version of me was shaped in a very real way by that math teacher. Nonetheless, congratulations on your STEM career. I'm sure your success…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/16 07:45 PM
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I am terrible at math. That mostly links back to a bad 6th grade math teacher (He made fun of my Southern accent everytime I spoke so I just stopped asking questions. Every year of math after that I was playing catch up for the year before and even with tutoring it was a fight for me to eeek out low Bs). Anyhow, being bad at math pretty much rules out STEM fields. Besides, I was great at English and Social Studies and I wanted to become a badass international journalist like Christiane Amanpour,…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/16 06:53 PM
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I think divorce rates will be lower than they are now. They have been falling in recent years and I think that trend will continue. I think non-married and childless rates will rise. To me, those ideas are kind of correlated. There is less societal pressure to marry, so more people stay unmarried. Those that do marry are more likely to stay together because they chose to be married, rather than were pressured into it by societal norms. I could be totally wrong but it makes sense to me (shrugs).
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/16 09:52 PM
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Something we can agree on! Honesty and loyalty are very important to me. I've had plenty of opportunity to cheat in life and I have never done so because I respect the person I am with and my commitment to them. I expect the same in return. You probably did dodge a bullet with that first LTR. I'm sure that I did too. It took a while but I stopped being bitter about it a couple of years ago and decided to just use it and the sexcapades afterwards as a learning experience. I've been much happier.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/16 04:05 PM
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That's a view point I haven't heard before. Thanks for your response!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/16 03:54 PM
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I've only ever dated straight men (and bi and lesbian women) but I think it would matter to me. I have known way too many "bi" men that were really gay and only half way out the closet (I live in the South where it's harder to be gay). There ARE actual bi men, but it seems to be rarer than women. I'd definetly rethink the relationship if he was leaning heavily toward the penis and potentially just using me as a beard.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/16 11:50 PM
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I know that men can have sex without feelings. My guy's N count is in the 70s (he thinks!) but I told him that I was ok with it as long as he is exclusive with me. (Plus he is clean, doesn't have unprotected sex, and got tested regularly). At 32 I am only his third LTR and the 1st he has discussed marriage with or introduced to his family though, so that has to count for something! :-p Anyway, I know he could have a no feelings threesome, but I couldn't. I'd enjoy it when she was with me but I'd…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/16 11:38 PM
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I hope this marriage works out for you! I think it is just different mindsets, and that is ok. I don't stay in relationships long term (1+ years) unless I see marriage as a real possibility. The 6 year relationship was a doozy... On the day before my wedding I found out he cheated on me with two strippers/hookers at his bachelor's party bc his best man filmed it and then showed me. Thus the no relationships and craziness for a while afterwards, I couldn't deal with being crushed like that again.…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/16 11:16 PM
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Fair enough. I'm a very live and let live kind of lady. I only ask for honesty and polite discourse, both of which you have provided, so you're fine by me! Have you been married a long time? (Thus the low N count?) If so, congrats!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/16 10:33 PM
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Hi fellow bisexual (insert secret handshake here)! I agree. I have never been in love with a woman, but I feel as though I could be if it was the right lady. I dated a girl for a year and while I wasn't "in love" with her, there were feelings and I cared about her a lot. I think a lot of straight guys are thinking about the "I'm BI!!!" straight girls from college. Yeah, those girls probably wouldn't develop feelings for another woman, they were never really attracted to them in the 1st place.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/16 10:24 PM
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This actually makes some sense to me! Thanks for explaining your reasoning!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/16 10:15 PM
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We're going on a year and a half and so far he hasn't pushed for a threesome. I put out there in the beginning that I'm loyal and extremely monogamous and expect the same. We do sometimes watch girl on girl porn together or check out ladies for fantasy land, but that is about it. I didn't ask the purple pill bc it is a problem for us, I asked because I've recently discovered all the "pills" and was curious. Thanks for your input though!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/16 09:47 PM
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I'm almost 29 and have been having sex since I was 16, so in about 13 years I have had 10 partners. I don't think that is that much but I know people judge differently and that is ok (as long as they aren't pushing an agenda on me). I have only had 1 "one night stand" so to speak, decided it wasn't for me. I was with 1 woman in highschool, 1 guy for 6 years (highschool sweetheart), some craziness after the highschool sweetheart break up (including the one night stand it was 6 total) 1 girlfriend…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/16 09:35 PM
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You wouldn't like me. I'm monogamous and have never had a threesome (or cheated). I just don't roll that way. If I'm committed to a person, that is it. An old fashioned bisexual I guess (shrugs).
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/16 09:12 PM
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Thanks for your response! I have been in an actual relationship with a woman before. It lasted a little over a year and I really cared about her, but was never in love with her. I have only ever loved 2 people my whole life though, and do think that I could love a woman, I just haven't. Your logic does make sense to me though. I've always thought I could forgive someone for cheating on me once (and only once), if it was a one time thing that was purely physical, but could never forgive an ongoin…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/16 09:07 PM
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This made me chuckle at my desk. My boss looked over and I had to turn it into a cough.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/16 08:57 PM
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No, I wouldn't ask my man to marry me. I think that if it's going to work for the long haul, the man has to make the decision himself and not feel pressured into it. I have no problem with the lady making the approach/ asking for a date, but that is totally different.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/16 08:47 PM
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It honestly doesn't matter to most women as long as it isn't tiny. I think 4.5 inches onward is fine for most people. Width matters a bit more but again, huge isn't necessary.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/16 06:28 PM
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