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My friend keeps telling me this but she doesn’t get better results than I do and, since I was a professional writer for a lot of years, she constantly sending me verbiage to “evaluate” for red flags. My wife has a friend like this. She reads super deep into every exchange for hidden meaning. A lot of times there's nothing there at least when I look at it. I describe it as looking for all the reasons to make things fail instead of looking for where they might connect instead. I text mostly like h…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 03:24 PM
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Honestly if it looks like you were having a good time and not self-conscious about it people prolly thought you were mad confident.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 05:47 AM
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I think society and media at least put on a show that dating is a lot easier than it actually is. Like literally everyone was supposed to be going out having casual sex and getting FWBs easily and getting relationships is just something expected. Like I'm thinking of that Master of None show. I'm sorry but that dude is not cleaning up on Tinder in SoCal or Hollywood lol. In reality maybe like 1 in 3 guys I know did any of that easily. The rest some can do it with a shit ton of work. Some can get…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 05:45 AM
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I get it for things like flirting but you can get real good at bantering by shooting the shit with the bros. That transfers to bantering with women too. There's a small adjustment I've noticed but it isn't that much. Flirting you definitely need practice and maybe some good mentoring if you don't wanna learn trial and error style. But the longer I read stuff around here the more I see a lot of dudes who struggle to have friendships even with other dudes. The closest thing they get to banter is s…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 05:29 AM
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My coworker in IT has a stay at home husband. She makes all the bucks and support their family of 4. You never know, you might find a woman that makes your dream job come true.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 05:02 AM
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I think there's a window where this is true. Like between 25-35 when people date seriously and you're sort of in your endgame for marriage and starting a family a year without anything in the end can feel like a big waste. If you're younger than that though like HS or first couple years of college I don't think a year means much. And when you get close to 40 like me, a lot of us uncs and aunties have already done the marriage and family thing. I know lots of folks above 40 who don't even want to…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 06:49 PM
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In metric it's 180cm which is 5'11". So yeah it's just rounding off to a nice number. In the US too only 15% of men are 6'+ so if that cutoff is a hard rule it can shrink the pool a lot. I think someone mentioned though it matters a lot the community you live in. Like if you grew up in a richer area people have better nutrition and probably came from taller parents so they're usually taller. If you grew up in a working class neighborhood with food insecurity and drug problems and stuff you're pr…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 04:43 AM
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That is sad because so much of social media is just people stunting. I knew a couple wannabe influencers and they're all deep in credit card debt trying to live a virtual life. Oh and they always on their cameras too. A vacation with them seems kinda miserable they just spend the whole time taking pictures rather than enjoying the moment.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 04:39 AM
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They had it rough before too.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 03:09 AM
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I'm sympathetic to how disruptive covid was. But let's not pretend they were locked inside for like 5 years. It was like 1 year tops and then they went right back to classrooms in person. And they weren't isolated completely either. The ones with friends still hung out with friends they didn't shut out completely they just couldn't gather in large crowds in public.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 12:36 AM
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Best I could do was 2 and put the rest into the home down.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 04:20 AM
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Same energy as dudes calling themselves alpha males. Basically people trying to wrestle power out of life with words when shit ain't so hot for them. Guys I know who get play don't have to say anything to prove it to anyone. Women I know who make money don't have to say it either.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 04:18 AM
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That's like customer service though. The normal happy people don't go returning stuff and demanding you take their shitty half used items back at full price. You ask me 9 days out of 10 and I'd say life is great wife is great kids are great.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 02:38 AM
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Blue pill is usually associated with an optimistic look on dating I'm kinda still new around here, but that's prolly because blue pillers here are mostly those who are successful in dating and relationships. It seems like they're all married or in LTR and have children. It's basically the people who have it figured out the conventional way.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 04:31 AM
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You're also hearing people talk about how others perceive them. If somebody is describing their bad traits how often do they say 100% I got shit on my shoes and not sometimes I get unlucky and step in shit. Same concept. I'm friends with a woman who legit thinks that she intimidates guys. And fair play to her she's a really successful career woman with a killer body working in a field full of nerds. But legit what I remember of her when we still used to hang out a lot is that she is kind of a pr…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 03:57 AM
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I also keep coming back to this and not because I'm hating. But a lot of men here have the 'tism so the way they struggle with social interaction on top of how hard it already is. They were probably bullied or had bad formative experiences interacting with others so it became easier to withdraw socially and this gets worse the longer it goes on. Some I think replace with it online interaction but that doesn't help you learn how to be socially interactive in person.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 08:09 PM
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It's the tism prolly. Lots of it on this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 05:44 AM
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That requires a certain type of rizz that most people in this sub ain't got.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 02:09 AM
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He's from a different culture abd somehow had me convinced it was bigoted to have a problem with his views. You can thank cultural relativism for that one. People tryna be so open minded that their brains fell out. No, not all cultures are equal and just different. Some cultures promote things that are actively bad for some people and at the very least those bad elements need to go away. Don't tolerate intolerance.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 09:08 PM
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I've seen it worked out 0% so far in real life after like a year or so but maybe someone out there is the lucky 1%. The only ones that made it work started as an open relationship upfront. Everybody else who tried it has either divorced or broken up.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 06:24 AM
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Is that really said? I thought we even have some self-admitted high-n women around here. From what I see it's that casual sex or hookups are a smaller portion relative to relationship sex. Like if your girl has a past it's usually 1-2 hookups like you said and then like 5 relationships. So her count is mostly relationships with a couple extra credits thrown in. Yeah I'll admit reddit probably filters for more text based nerds who don't do casual as much or at all. But I'm almost 40 and just abou…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 06:15 AM
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It was wild to me reading in retrospect how much reddit had a hate boner for Trump leading up to 24 election. Every other post in MMW was something about how doomed the Republicans were after this election. Guess not lol. I was kinda distrusting of reddit prior to that but the election more or less convinced me this site is only a narrow subset of people who are way too active online. This sub further reinforces that too and I was kinda addicted to this sub for a while but it's clear most people…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 05:48 AM
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It's wild to me the way some of these dudes hate "parties." Like, a party isn't some American Pie or Animal House level rager...it can be as simple as 10 people getting together and hanging out at somebody's apartment where there's 5 guys and 5 girls. And asking these guys to socialize in those settings triggers such rage "But I'm an introvert" like bro...there's 9 other people there, just stfu and go try and have a good time. Even nerds back in my day had parties. We got TVs hooked up and had H…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 02:54 PM
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That specific judge might say something like that but reality is companies don't want employees getting hurt on the job trying to stop petty thievery. Like what a few hundred bucks tops someone might walk out with? On camera too so they'll eventually get charged like other OP said. But if your min wage guy tries to play hero and get shanked or knocked on his head, now the store owes comp and their insurance goes way up. That cost a lot more than a few hundred bucks lost. Unfortunately this leads…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 06:58 PM
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I think you gotta separate knowledge from service and access. Knowledge of RP might as well be free but getting the service of a human coach or access to a community is probably the real driver for most people even if they won't admit it. It's like why pay for OF when you can watch videos online for free. The content isn't what you pay for it's the supposedly exclusive and direct access to the content creator. The fee is for the attention. Where I think it becomes grift is when the coaches don't…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 08:30 PM
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I got the advice to use RES tag and it's the best thing ever. Just noting if they're a man or a woman and if they ever mentioned age or being in an LTR and how they identify as whatever is usually enough for you to know what they're about to say.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 02:49 AM
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I never had luck finding potential partners at the club. Best bet was always with a group of friends and their friends and then some of us pair up. This worked for me a couple times but I admit it's probably a lot harder these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 03:09 AM
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I'll add too the guys who are always serious about everything and never relax. It makes it really hard to be a partner or even a friend with them. Like not impossible since I guess some people like this lead good family lives. And yeah, people who can dish a joke but never take one. So obnoxious. Very often bad losers too, never their fault always bad luck or something like that. It's like someone can't just be better than them at a game or a skill, there's always a reason to explain it and it's…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 12:08 AM
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Honestly, this looks like something straight out of my kid's book. It's got a good color balance.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 01:55 AM
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Dude that's rad as hell. Make that children's book. Like I'll be honest you might not make a sale but do it because you made it. We don't have to turn our hobbies into a capitalist enterprise.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 01:54 AM
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I get where you're coming from. I guess some people just wanna screen themselves out of the game. I never had any complaints or side eye but I use church clothes as the barometer. Which is ironic because I used to complain to my parents all the time about why I had to dress up for God but really it's because all the adults at church are just a nosy gossipy bunch lol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 01:42 AM
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Never too late to start learning! Art as a hobby takes longer to get to a good baseline but then you are like in the top 10% immediately because almost nobody else wants to get good at it. We only live once so why not spend at least a little bit of it having fun
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 01:39 AM
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I mean yeah but decent is a pretty low baseline. Not like I showed up in a graphic tee and flip flops lol. We don't overdo it for a job interview here in the Midwest either, I only pull out the tailored suit for special occasions.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 01:32 AM
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A lot of little things and they took their time which I think is the biggest factor. Like they took scissors to my hair repeatedly and sculpted a shape that flatters me. Most of our heads has like little bumps and things and if you buzz it to a uniform height sometimes it looks awkward. Like I have a bump on the back of my head that makes a little clump of hair sit up when it's really short which is almost always the case in the US when you only spend $15 and get about 10 minutes total. There, I…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 07:19 PM
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My wife's last name is pretty rare and I was 100% okay if she wanted to keep it but she insisted on adopting my last name. Funny enough I'm sorta not attached to my name at all but we agree that a pale white woman with an Asian last name is at least kind of funny. She's definitely surprised a few people once they hop on a zoom meeting and it's not who they were expecting.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 04:45 PM
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That was a reference to me. My hair is dog poop 99% of the time but my wife thinks I'm funny so she overlooked it. That's why the glowup worked, she saw a glimpse of what I could have had if I wanted to spend $60 per haircut and probably every week to maintain it instead of going to Great Clips once a month and asking for a 3 with scissors on top.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 04:42 PM
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I had a friend couple whose combined names was so annoyingly cute how well it fits. Sorta like if you took (F)ast and S(low) and it makes Flow, the new surname sounded natural and appropriate. They have a kid and the kid has the new surname.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 04:39 PM
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I was telling a story about my wife and me, had nothing to do with you lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 04:32 PM
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Tbf it can work if you are also appealing in other ways. When we went to the UK for our honeymoon I splurged on a haircut at a French salon over there and my wife was swooning over my glowup for about a week. But we came back to the States and let me tell ya Great Clips can't give you that kind of makeover lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 04:23 PM
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Nothing changes priorities like being hit with all your own bills. I get it though. I'm glad my wife and I both make about the same. Can we get by with less absolutely but I already feel like with every year we get more bills and have to already cut back on something. We now have a kid and daycare cost alone is over $2k a month. Our first apartment together was like $1500 a month. It's just insane when I look back 10 years and saw how much more comfortable we were. We're considering trying for a…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 03:12 PM
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I gotta assume this is the parallel to the other post. Being a short bro myself I think it's just an easy target because it's obvious. People attack superficial things. So you get things like short, fat, buck tooth, bald, yellow teeth, get called chinky eyes if you're Asian like me and so on. It's not unique to short men I guess is what I'm saying, if someone is coming for ya they'll attack whatever they think hits hard. My fav is when they call a sexist dude who's getting laid an incel but I th…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 03:04 PM
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I think if we had a mass number of really attractive men with no obvious character flaws or something opt out it might get some conversations going for sure. But like I'ma be real, the men sitting out aren't getting much play anyways. It's like me claiming that I'm not choosing to go pro in the NFL because I don't wanna support the billionaire class. Like cool that's a nominally good reason, but that's not why I ain't in the NFL.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/26 06:02 AM
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Sites like eHarmony died because ultimately the customers wanted the swipe model. It was quick and easy and hit all the dopamine high. Like yeah we can all say that women prefer something different but then Bumble gave women the power to initiate first so men can't swamp them with DMs and it failed spectacularly too that they have to make that feature optional now. And limiting to 3 swipes a day or something seems good in theory but there are way more men than women on the app so effectively som…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 05:06 AM
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PPD has a discord, doesn't it? Is the discord active? Asking everyone. I hear references to it occasionally but no offense I cannot imagine popping in to chat with total strangers and explaining to my wife that it's people on PPD lol. She's already confused that I read this sub at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 04:57 AM
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As a whole men seem more into hierarchy than pure equality. Yeah you can point to almost every social revolution as led by men but I would argue that just about every single one leads to a different hierarchy where conveniently the winners came out on top. Tbf I think women are the same way too, there's always a queen b at the office and the politics are fierce.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 04:53 AM
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Some people are okay with flaking for a minor reason. Like my wife was sick and had to skip our second date. Sure I didn't know if she was just making it up or not at the time. But I tried again and then we just kept going from there. She did text me to let me know the morning of though, so idk if that counts as a true flake. Like if it was a flake where she said nothing to me and then pretended like it's not a big deal then yeah thank you next please. But sometimes life happens. It sounds like …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 02:57 AM
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Ignoring the cause or calling these individuals assholes isn't going to make them go away. I do wonder if it's peaked though. At this point you either are into the Tate stuff loud and proud or you know enough to not associate with it openly. So I think the group was growing for sure but it's saturated their market. You get a new one breaking through every so often but every other podcast bro or influencer wanna be I meet in my neck of the woods go back to their jobs after a couple months tops.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 02:36 AM
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You need at least one common interest but a lot of space can be good too. And to your point friends are kind of different than an intimate relationship. Most of the time in a relationship is prolly chores and the boring stuff and the older you get the more it is spent on things that aren't always very fun like healthcare or kids if you have them. Wife and I have a couple of things we do for fun together but otherwise she has her own hobbies and I have mine. I think the magic is that you can't ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/26 03:56 AM
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You know, that's a good question. I had a lot of fun when I was a kid and I had a lot less back then too. Before the internet and facebook and reddit, I read a lot. And played chess with my grandpa. And played pokemon blue with my brother. And just before puberty kicks in and life became a rat race my best bro at the time introduced me to magic which was prolly a huge mistake lol. All in all I think I'm still having fun in life but it's definitely not so 'innocent' anymore. Even fun stuff makes …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 04:01 AM
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The world is a mess and I just need to rule it
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 03:35 AM
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Pill
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 03:34 AM
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See I think the fact that some women are like you gives a lot of false hope to so many guys that maybe their woman friend is like this too lol. And no shade at all I actually respect that a lot. In college I had a woman friend who I still really miss as a friend but we fell apart after a drunken hookup one night and then the friendship went sideways after that. We tried being friends again at one point but it didn't quite work out. Life has moved on and it's been like 10 years since we last spok…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 05:50 AM
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I never dated guys so I'll take your word for it lol. But I know people will cheat a standard no matter what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 05:35 AM
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In all these cases, there was probably attraction from day one, but the people weren't in a position to start dating. This is basically like the plot for 4 seasons of Emily in Paris lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 05:32 AM
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What if it's photoshopped or catfished with some other dude's wang?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 05:31 AM
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What if they lie though? Or if they tell the truth but you don't believe them?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 05:28 AM
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Great for physical health and mental health. Still need to develop mindset though. And healthy habits like not overeating.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 05:23 AM
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In my experience at some point like age 35-40 the gaps don't matter anymore between two adults. I seen at work this lawyer who divorced and remarried 9 years younger but she was like 38 and he was just shy of 48 and nobody really cared. She even joked that she's the trophy wife though this woman was also a lawyer too so it's not like she was just eye candy. It definitely seems like something the young really obsess about a lot more but I think that's probably because when you're so young a few y…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 05:22 AM
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I think this generation at least has given up on this idea. Definitely growing up I got a lot of feedback about why you should befriend each other and then let it slow build. That only works if there was something there already however little bitty bit. Once she introduces you as a friend it's like 99.9% over. I only seen like a handful of couples who were friends forever and then become a couple. Usually it's because they had a long break where they didn't see each other physically and then uni…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 12:03 AM
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Smaller ships are more agile than larger ships. Smaller bodies are more easy to control than larger ones. Obviously a generality, I would get smoked by a dude in the NFL at any physical task. But I used to run in HS a lot and the big tall dudes tend to gas out a lot faster since they have so much more weight and size to move.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 11:29 PM
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But never fail the same way twice. Do it three times actually just to make sure. Once might just be 50/50. Two is a coincidence. Third time though it's probably real. Of course this isn't 100% always literal.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 03:50 AM
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Personally speaking drinking at a bar is just so expensive these days I don't think people random show to mingle anymore. Last weekend me and wife went out and a mixed drink was like $15. Like hell even a generic whiskey coke was like $12. I used to get those for $2 on Thursday nights you-call-its like 10ish years ago. Yeah I get inflation and post-covid and all that but my pay didn't 6x in that time period. I legit don't blame younger people for not wanting to bleed dry for random encounters. T…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 03:46 AM
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There's a reason why so many sayings and customs about not shooting the messenger have existed throughout time. Even the people who are like "just give it to me straight" aren't always ready to hear it straight.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 09:30 PM
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I feel like I compare dating to a job so much but literally the worst employees are also some of the loudest ones about how important they are and that things will fall apart if they weren't around. We had one of them retire last year and honestly things have gotten like 10 times better lol. Lotta mess to clean up but now the job is actually done by someone who knows what they're supposed to be doing.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 06:45 PM
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Oh yeah lol like I'm not trying to upsell it at all. Being poor absolutely sucks and when you have a way to make it feel a little less shit like paying for things on credit you take it. Consequences will come later but it's not like you can feel that much more broke than already being broke. Like nowadays I don't look forward to taxes anymore because I only get like $50 or even pay more sometimes. Back when I was making like $10/hr at the store tax season was great since it was like $800-1500 bu…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 06:41 PM
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My experience with friends and even sorta dating one girl back in the day from 'the hood' is that when you're used to not having basically anything, nobody is thinking about tomorrow. Like why. Something will always come up to take what you have today. This is why they spend as fast as payday comes because if you save a hundred today you need to get new car tires tomorrow. You save a thousand and someone gets hurt and it sucks but now you gotta get them stitched up. It's almost like a spiritual …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 03:57 AM
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It's always strange to me too how absorbed people are at any age about how some celeb who doesn't even acknowledge their existence is living. Like yeah I adore some celebs but I don't think about them beyond what movie they were in or what they were singing. Maybe the occasional 5 minutes omg Taylor is finally getting married and yeah it's definitely showing up in the themes of her new songs. Beyond that it's like I got to live my own life, Taylor doesn't know me, so why would I focus on her lif…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 06:07 AM
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Honestly, having a good upbringing is so slept on as a big factor. I'm like super lucky my mom was one of those Asian parents who had some strictness about education but was otherwise pretty chill. My bro had one of the classic Asian tiger parents who talk about 'dishonor' constantly and even years later he's still unpacking that trauma.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 05:53 AM
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Rough read.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 04:42 AM
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Maybe a conservative dating app I think there's been at least a couple attempts and they never took off beyond the fringes. more in person meetups I wanna say this is great but Idk I feel like people these days really don't wanna socialize unless it's someone they already know or is a friend of someone they know. Whenever I go out everybody sorta mingle within their crowd only, I'm guilty of it too tbh. It takes a few socially bold people who break the mold but most of us just circle up. And the…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 03:20 AM
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progressives but still have the “trad” aspects in our relationship. Same. I know this sub is all about the strict either or thing but almost every happy relationship I know blurs the lines. And I say good, nobody has to justify their relationship happiness to snooty outsiders who say you have to be a certain way or else it's oppression or it's not true love or whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 11:34 PM
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I've seen/heard people say that there are very few young women in church and conservative circles that aren't already taken Legit there's almost like no young people ever at church when I went. Only times is if they're with family or as a couple. But I'll be real conservative women who are young and single are not easy to date either. There's like an idealistic image around here that they're more pleasant and demure and will be trad or whatever but my experience is that they're modern like liber…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 11:29 PM
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Sounds like it's up to the person to know if they're part of the majority then. Yeah I agree with you that being sweet and supportive for example is probably what the majority of people want but if you're one of those people who prefers someone to be frank and push you then the sweet supportive approach is prolly too soft.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 01:59 AM
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We don't fix unless we think it's broken. Dating is left to general people activity in the west and for the most part it works. Idk if we ignore it, it just doesn't become a whole-ass society thing until you get to critical stages like Korea or Japan. And yeah, I think we're getting closer but Idk if it's doomsday like this sub makes it out to be at times.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 09:30 PM
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Should and is ain't the same though. The have-nots always go on about how things should be better, the haves go on about how good things are.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 09:15 PM
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Netflix might buy it and give you 2 seasons before cancelling!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 09:07 PM
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This is the market that you are ok living with So if they collectively say 'okay' because they can just stay single rather than date men they find unattractive, everyone is okay with that? I'm guessing based on this sub that ain't true at all. And for every guy "sitting on the thrown" the majority of men who are attractive find a partner and get hitched and move on with their day. Most adults past 30 are in an LTR. They could be playing the field but instead they choose a mortgage and family. Th…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 08:59 PM
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a wise man will resist that temptation That's the rub, wisdom so rare all my homies are dropping romantic dinner dates on women they barely even met.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 11:48 PM
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If online dating vanishes - these epidemic will end. Naw man, that's just symptom not the cause. Dating's gone global and women can just move on if her local options are bad or hell just stay single. Online dating is already kinda peaked and declined, bunch of apps are struggling with retention because the experience just kinda suck. There's always like 2 dudes or more for every girl on the app. If you're a guy and you weren't getting bites within like a week that ain't just bots or OF ads, the …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 11:42 PM
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In this sense, being nice can actually be morally bad. Yo, so this coincides with what I was watching the other day. There's a bunch of simulations in game theory. The interesting one is where two people interact, and they can either cooperate or betray the other person. If they both cooperate, they both get like $5. But if one betrays and the other cooperate, then the traitor gets $10 and the other one gets nothing. If they both betray, then nobody gets any money. But if you do repeated rounds …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 11:33 PM
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unnecessarily dramatic framing Describes this sub really well actually, ngl. But I'll make it both sides or all sides if I have to.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 06:39 PM
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Sounds like jealousy or maybe one of them thought they had a shot with you or something so now you upset the balance of the ecosystem lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 07:16 AM
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Not even my mom said that kind of stuff lmao. I remember watching a movie a movie with her and some handsome shirtless dude was onscreen and she was like 'hot damn.'
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 07:08 AM
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Kinda wild seeing pics of people from like 50 years ago in public and how everyone was just a lot skinnier at every age. Or I'll be mean since I'm included too but I was flipping through high school yearbook photos the other day and like half my classmates are unrecognizable and 50 lbs heavier lol. My ass was in the 112 lbs wrestling weight class but I need to shed like 3 newborn babies to get back down to that weight.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 11:18 PM
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Guy perspective but my wife is a couple inches taller. Sometimes I stand on my tippy toes to give her that feeling lol. And yeah, when we're lying down I default to big spoon or she snuggles into me anyways. I think a lot of the hype around height is really more about vibes. Not all of it of course, I dated a woman once who was a solid 6 inches taller and I coulda never made her feel petite, but she was a big wallflower so me approaching at all sort of gave her the femme vibe she was looking for…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 11:12 PM
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I think I see women slinging downvotes usually when the topic of kids come up. Lotta strong opinions about kids, having them or not having them, how to date as a single parent and all that jazz. But yeah, even the femcels seem to just ignore talks about husbands and partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 10:58 PM
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i kinda go for a “looks like she’d kill you, but actually is a cinnamon roll” type vibe Could always go the opposite occasionally "looks like a cinnamon roll, but actually will kill you"
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 02:54 AM
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I wish I saw more agreement tbh. It seems like still too many people disagree on basic facets of reality. Like I have some STEM training. It used to be that people would say "the data is the data but you can disagree on what it means." But I'm not sure anymore, people just be out there making their own reality these days and scarily enough it seems to work if you keep it small-scale.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 02:52 AM
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I think this is something worth pointing out. There's usually a motif for handsome in certain groups of men who go bald and just commit. But lots of guys don't wanna go bald so they don't commit and just live in the in between zone where they have thinning hair that doesn't look very good. Ngl I'm starting to lose hair so I feel the dread as well lol but hopefully I'll get on the rogaine or whatever it's called when we're done having kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 03:34 PM
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Sour grapes was a tale in Aesop's fables and lasted all this time for a reason I think. It's a way we protect our ego.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 04:10 AM
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i wonder why more 19-21 bmi women dont come here Most don't even end up on reddit, gotta go to other apps like Insta for that
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 04:09 AM
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I mean we were all in our 20s lol I'm guessing there were lots of miscommunication and blurred lines that someone read into. Like I'm sure some of them went on dates so maybe the guy thought it was more serious than it was but never confirmed, who knows. And I will say maybe that guy did think she doesn't have casual sex, again going back to stereotypes when you imagine who is likely to be the ones having casual sex you think club goers and partiers and not someone who's in the library 10 hours …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 08:13 PM
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Those old highlight reel defensive hits are now ejection-worthy fouls. In a way it's good for the game to let players stick around longer and not turn into jello by 30. And honestly with how good the Seahawks were this SB I think defenses have adapted just fine. If anything offense is looking kinda rough this past year.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 08:04 PM
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The first one is very particular about who she likes so picky I guess. She is really smart actually and if we're being stereotypical on top of stereotypes the guys she meets when going out to those places aren't exactly going to talk building AI with her. The masters' program one did not steadily date any of the guys. Actually caused some drama because one of the guys did like her but they weren't on the same page. Kind of an awkward day when they found out and the friend group never really reco…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 07:37 PM
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I was once chatting up this woman who was seemingly into me. She was a friend of a friend and they left us at a corner of our table at the bar for like 30 minutes just vibing almost like it was a setup. This is when I was still in my 20s and looked fit with a head full of hair. Anyways when it was time to go, we both stood up and she was like a good 4 inches taller than me and you can just see a total surprised look flashing across her face. We sort of chatted a bit more throughout the night and…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 07:22 AM
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And idk if this holds broader than my experience but those women in those videos dancing suggestively and living up the party life aren't actually all that promiscuous. It's almost like it's for show and they go out for because of fomo. Yes some of them sleep around but many don't. I know a woman in NYC who shows off her adventures like this almost every night since she's unemployed now. She has not had sex in like 3 years. The most promiscuous person I know is the innocent looking church going …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 05:09 AM
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Life goes fast sometimes. My mom came to visit my kid today and we chatted a while. Being almost 40 and having an adult relationship with your parents just hit very different than back in the day. I used to be one of those young people where they move too fast for the adults but now I appreciate the quiet experience and wisdom even when we disagree which is still a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 04:53 AM
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Homemade or restaurant? Good stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 04:48 AM
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Sleep an hour less tonight woooo
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 04:47 AM
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I agree with your take. I feel like I must be in la la land sometimes where the people I know are clearly less moral than everybody else here on this sub apparently. I personally don't think so since they're just normal people out in the midwest. You name any take where a man or a woman does something stupid or act like a hypocrite or gossip and peer pressure people and it would take me like 5 seconds to think of someone in my life who fits that description. Hell sometimes that person is me and …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 04:41 AM
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So both you and him have to follow "the script" on who you're supposed to be with? Let him decide if you're worth, you obviously think he's worth. History would have been very boring if people only dated who they're supposed to because others are thrilled about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 04:32 AM
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Or you know just go for it. Get a good partner where the getting's good.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 03:03 AM
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Reminds me of the MAGA truckers in Canada lol. Or hell in my Asian community the algos got to the elders. It's really bizarre seeing unc talk shit about immigrants in broken English.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 01:07 AM
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Without religion we'd all just be atheists and there wouldn't be a word for it. It's like saying you're pro oxygen to breathe. There's no need to label it because everyone who wants to live is down for breathing.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 12:57 AM
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I just thought he was hot/cute/sexy. Since we're basing this on looksmatched logic this also applies to you. Congrats Stacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 12:34 AM
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Homie, women don't whip out a calculator to crunch numbers about averages to determine attraction. And this is 100% looks based but I'm guessing that physical attraction is what you are most curious about and not attraction overall which goes beyond that.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 12:32 AM
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That's one extreme of people for sure. But I see a lot of people carve out sex work specifically as being different to other work though even if it's done freely.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 11:57 PM
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Not just that. I think ND people and specifically the autism bros are sometimes very fixated. They get 'stuck' and can't seem to let go. I was helping my old roommate interview for a job and was like feeding him questions for an interview I got directly from the manager who I personally know. She told me that he got stuck on a question and they were going to give him a pass and move on but even like 2 or 3 questions later he still wanted to go back and give a better answer. He didn't get the job…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 04:03 AM
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It doesn't have to be the way though. Increasingly, more and more people will live with their parents as the economy worsen. In Europe I think Spain and Italy unemployment is like 25% in some areas, lots of people living in multigenerational homes. You can always find a way to grow and become independent even as you share living space with your parents. Confidence comes from self-sufficiency and success so you find ways to tackle some of that and you will build it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 03:57 AM
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My magic cards collection definitely did that wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 01:40 AM
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Is pill debate almost always about sex and dating and relationships? I feel like it should cover so much more than just that. Like today I went to visit a different department in my company and almost the entire department is women except for like 3 guys and one of them is very transparently a gay man. And no it wasn't HR lol though I know the stereotype is prolly true for us as well. I feel like life at work is such a big sphere in adult life but there's like no posts about it at all, not direc…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 01:27 AM
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The days are long but the years are short. Hits hard sometimes. I was like 22 and just starting life in a new city. Felt like yesterday but it's now almost 20 years with a kid and wife later. I look back at all the fun of my 20s but can't even think about getting more than 2 drinks a sitting anymore. Just too expensive and the consequences ain't worth.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 01:19 AM
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If we restrict debate to only people who are able to follow a flow of logic this sub is prolly toast tbh. But I respect your hustle. In a way I kinda like that it's a bit unhinged here in small doses. Reddit gets real echo-chambery and that's why Kamala is now our president. So it's important to have viewpoints that I don't get every day from my peers.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 12:10 AM
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You won't benefit prolly. Assholes get away with it because they bring value somewhere else. Some value is superficial like they're hot. Some value like at work the really skilled guy is also a dick so he can be a dick as long as he does his job. Idk why people think being a dick is the part that gets them laid. Being a dick gets attention. But if you can get attention without being a dick then it's a lot easier to not be a dick.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/26 04:36 AM
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Back when I was dating, I was told by many guys the general view of a woman approaching them first is it signals she wants to screw them and that's it. Kinda chicken and egg imo. I'm in my 30s and back in my teens and 20s women didn't approach a lot. So when it happened it meant she really really wanted to connect. If women approached more then it wouldn't be as meaningful. Prolly won't change anytime soon though. Since there are still guys approaching and they get credit for being brave and sho…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/26 03:09 AM
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Yeah strict equality isn't the goal. She needs to afford her lifestyle by herself and then we need to afford a shared lifestyle together that doesn't creep up just because.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/26 12:02 AM
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Yeah but they're smiling at you, so the emotional laborTM is clearly on them /s
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 10:12 PM
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That's rough. See if you can schedule lunches/early Friday wind-down hour with people. When I go in, it's basically to look for face time. Almost all of my job is done on the computer so can be remote 19/20 days per month and not really miss a beat.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 03:51 AM
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I mean, I expect that for a sugar relationship though. But at some point my bro's gotta do that ROI calculation. Sounds like they're barely even eating dinner together in public. Like none of my biz if people wanna do a sugar arrangement, but wth sugar is he even getting lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 06:43 PM
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I'm shocked it lasted a year tbh. Dude's getting robbed hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 06:25 PM
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You got this bro. Gonna taste damn fine when you're done.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 06:05 PM
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Covid swept our house last week. Me, wife, and child all went down. We're doing better now but it's hard when you and the kid is sick. No fun!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 05:59 PM
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Where is the criticism too broad, inaccurate, unfair, shallow, or ineffective? Probably by blending all of the pills and manosphere together. I'll be honest I don't follow the space at all. But I know people debate here about old RP and new RP and how black pill is pretending to be RP and then there's trad RP and all the other flavors. I don't think it's a coherent identity, it just doesn't like whatever they think blue pill is. What does it get wrong? Anything that holds a whole group for the a…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 05:33 PM
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So, again, most decisions traditionally fall on the wife as she is the one who makes most rules of the household as she is usually the one who manages the household In theory that's how it worked. In practice, my dad just butts his head in whenever he wants anyways. That's the real unspoken truth of trad relationships. The head who's probably a guy gets the ultimate say always when he insists on it. She runs as manager 90% of the time but he takes over as CEO when he feels like it. Respect to wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 04:43 PM
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People don't even date much at work anymore to avoid HR and other messes when they break up. Like at grocery stores and restaurants back in my 20s yeah people mate like rabbits. In the office jobs I've had ever since though, like zero. Zilch. None. People date in secret or it only came out because they broke up and drama started. Only time I see it work is when the people don't even work in the same team or floor or when one left the company and then asked out the coworker on their way out.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 03:40 AM
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I'm not OP but I think Karen is more about dominance and control. Maybe that's about feminine mystique or whatever. All the classic Karens I know just feel like they don't get respect that they think they deserve so they throw a temper tantrum and cause a scene. Most of us don't like confrontation or trouble so we just give in and make them go away. Idk why we don't have a name for guys who are like this too, maybe call them Kenny or something. I used to work grocery and we always get a bunch of…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 11:17 PM
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Nuance doesn't fit into a 30s Tik Tok ragebait unfortunately.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 03:30 AM
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Others are responding but I think the aloof part stands out specifically in your case. A lot of younger men your age are already cooling off approaching women. If you appear kinda aloof and independent then it doesn't send them signals that you wanna be approached. If you want a more general answer instead of more specific to you then lemme know.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 01:50 AM
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the social stakes were lower for speaking frankly about these topics I think that went away because people are super quick to point fingers and start yelling. Like I feel bad for the peeps who are kind and polite about things, I would love to get a coffee and chat with them about it. Several usernames here I'd probably really enjoy having a good vibe with. But half the posts I see, I know the convo will turn personal and it ain't the pleasant kind. It's sorta why politics and religion don't get …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 07:15 PM
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In a way it's kinda nice. I think the feminism word has lost a lot of distinct meaning. It's like Christianity. You have Mormons and Catholics and the prosperity gospel people and like 10,000 other sects. Some of them are so distinct they don't really overlap anymore. We can go back to treating people by their character. This sub honestly reminds me of that too. There's some people on here where I agree with them and then I'm like man they're such a crank about it we prolly wouldn't be friends I…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 05:15 AM
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Not me, but one of best bros got with his wife IRL after working together. But she said she saw his profile on Tinder and swiped left. He's a pretty big nerd, Star Wars, Marvel, the whole nine yards. She's got a little little nerd in her from being a theater/improv kid. But she's into dance, workouts, reality TV, and romcoms. So from his profile only, she didn't think they were gonna be compatible. In person though they vibe really well and have great chemistry. It turned into attraction real qu…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 03:50 AM
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Yeah for sure. Some people take a long time to grow or they never do. Idk if I want to spend time focused on these people though, mostly the people in real life that I focus on are the 'boring' couples like me and lady just living our little quiet life not shown on social media.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 10:31 PM
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I mean, yeah, you said it. Once people have some experience with dating and relationships, they have a better sense of things being slow because there's no spark or things being slow but building up. Like I was a typical horn dog in my 20s. If I met my wife back then I'd be gone by date 2 or date 3 max and miss out on the best relationship of my life. It took a few of those flame outs back then and some dating successes to not make sex the target of dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 10:19 PM
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I started getting allergies around 3 years ago. Obviously not the super life threatening kind, just skin hives for whatever is triggering it. I take a daily anti-histamine and it seems to be enough. I'd hate to be alive before we had this stuff tbh. I was scratching so much from the hives it was impossible to sleep some nights. And I didn't have allergies growing up all so I had no idea why I started having it until my wife pointed out that hives is a common symptom of allergies.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 10:11 PM
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Also, if a woman needs a taller guy to feel attraction, should she date a short guy? I get what you mean. But as a short dude who did eventually date some taller women, the only bit I question is the word 'need.' How do we know it's a need if the person never tried dating beyond their immediate comfort zone? Obviously, they're free to do whatever and I'm not asking people to pity date someone. I know some people tried and it was a bad experience and fair enough. But I think we could all use a li…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 10:06 PM
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I agree. And it sucks if you don't qualify for whatever that trait is and there's seemingly nothing you can do about it. I'm short as shit so I know the feeling of people gushing over someone who is something I can't be. It takes a while to come to terms with that. I think a lot of vocal people on this sub are on the younger side of things and are still working through those emotions. Some will reach acceptance. Some will try to negotiate attraction. Some get lucky. And some will not be able to …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 09:53 PM
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You can always dive deep into cutting-edge science. People be using chatbots to have fake relationships and stuff, but I often wonder how when the technology is good enough it's like having Jarvis from Iron Man around. So a realistically smart AI butler basically.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 09:30 PM
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It doesnt make a ton of sense that people in relationships are here. Why not. I still got friends who are single. Some of them talk like people in this sub sometimes. And hey, I'm not single now but you never know where life takes you. I know lots of couples who say 'till death do us part' and they're both still here and separated. Nobody normal gets married expecting to get divorced. It's not supposed to be a dating sub either. I kinda wish we see more people chiming about premises of the pills…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 09:26 PM
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So many other things that get inherited that for me allergies would be low on the list. I bring lactose intolerance though. Still eat cheeses, you just gotta pay the Poseidon tax later.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 09:17 PM
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Which is funny too because video games aren't balanced at all. I played dungeons and dragons back in the day and some people rolled multiple 18s and have an OP character and others were around 12-15 max with some penalties. I do think you make a good point though. And I'ma say something kinda blunt, but I find that the 'tism is strong on this sub. And from experience, a lot of autistic people I know are very fixated on rules and things needing to be a certain way. And I think fairness is usually…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 09:17 AM
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There’s some truth to what both of yall are saying. I think if it’s you making everyone wait then most of them would agree too. Personally it doesn’t matter to me as I hold no resentment. These dudes who do just lack the options and that’s why they feel attacked. Problem is the projection. How would they know for a fact if she is being consistent unless it's a woman who comfortably gets around. Like one of my exes slept with everyone at my old job basically so it's an open secret. We worked rest…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 09:04 AM
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Idk specifics since I wasn't close to the situation, but rumor is that he was just really good. One of the girls told a mutual gay best friend they got alcohol and basically went at it like 9 times one weekend. Clearly he did a good enough job that she was interested in seconds and thirds and ninths lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 08:51 AM
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Tbh, some fuckbois I know are fuckbois because rumors spread and seem to hold true. Like they're not ugly or anything but you wouldn't think they were gonna be batting as high as they did. We had this one dude in our class who "dated" 3 women from the same friend group. That friend group broke off after they realized he slept with all 3 because the first one raved about his skills and the other two took their chances after the first one was done with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 08:25 AM
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Same effect at work, no? Like the coworkers who chill at home wouldn't be chatting about going out to places. They'd be content at home binging Lincoln Lawyer with their spouse like we were. A dude at work asked me how my weekend was and I just said it's too short and back to the grind. The wife and I didn't go anywhere, we stayed at home with the little one and met up with family for dinner. The rest of time we did chores and watched TV and make sure the little one is entertained enough until t…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 08:14 AM
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Doesn't even have to be family. I learned a lot by just spending time picking my teachers' brains. Bless them honestly for letting me just burn time after class. My soccer coach gave me a lot of life advice too. I think this is where we are also fracturing, lots of kids just stay shut in and play video games or listen to music for hours on end. At most they hang out with people their age so it's like the blind leading the blind. I think this explains why you have 20 year olds claiming to be life…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 05:18 AM
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Hung out with my in-law uncle and aunt this week. Kind of fascinating to watch the clock turn back 50 years. She does basically all of the domestic things. It's like those classic shows where the man was reading the newspaper while the wife cooks breakfast and packs lunch for the kids. Just kinda odd feeling since I know them in other contexts and the guy is an absolute gem of a human being. But they're very much a product of their time. Obviously, they love each other and have been together 50 …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 05:12 AM
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No no, I agree with you lol. But a lot of us guys on this sub don't get anyone approaching them. Well, maybe not approach the same way guys would. I definitely had some women sit next to me in class and stuff back in the day and make their schedule available. But still the guy has to shoot his shot.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 05:00 AM
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If you ever have a good-looking guy friend, you see the difference between their experience and yours. I did get a laugh on occasion though when one of them is like why don't you just try to date one of the girls that DM you? Bro, ain't nobody DMing me back in the day.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 04:42 AM
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Sitting down at my desk at work and saying “Ahh, I can finally relax” was an eye-opening moment. Not disagreeing with your overall at all. Just chiming in that wife and I feel this way too. We love the little one, but we both work mentally stimulating jobs. The kid ain't far enough along yet so a lot of parent work is kinda dull. Lots of good times too of course, seeing them realize they have feet for the first time is a joy that will stay with me forever.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 04:26 AM
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I was extremely optimistic about love, marriage, and family until the last year or so. You're probably older than half the people who talk without the walk on this sub. Not gonna lie, I'm addicted ever since I found the sub. But I recognize that this place is nothing like my experience in real life. This place is far more antisocial and negative. It's got a lot of people that don't have success so the stories you hear and hearsay is geared towards that end. Lot of anxiety and frustration because…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 04:19 AM
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But he definitely was implying that since she has his kids = she can’t leave now. I totally believe you heard his intent correctly probs. But like, dude's an idiot if he thinks that's true. Unless he's in a state or country where divorce is impossible, breaking free now is more permissible than ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 04:01 AM
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Yeah, the text is from the woman's phone and not the man. She's probably trying to show evidence that she's in the right. Pie-mart does have a point though. I dated a woman with this kind of vibe once and it lasted like 2 weeks. Absolutely steer clear of this vibe one-hundo.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 02:51 AM
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A bit off topic, but now that i think about it, I rarely see "street smart" being discussed on this sub and imo it's a factor for attraction. You got me thinking. Obviously, a book-smart person can also have street smart or lack it. Is the opposite of book-smart, I'll say slow person, can they be street smart? Like, I've seen someone who's uneducated be street smart. But I wouldn't describe them as slow, they usually are pretty sharp on quick. They just didn't have a lot of formal education. I'm…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 07:27 AM
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Legit bro, read some smut. Heated Rivalries or whatever the series is catching the female fan base by storm. Men are hella visual, women are too. But women are mentally "visual" too. You set the right vibe and enjoy where the night leads.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 04:06 AM
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Way too many dudes have stories about how they can vividly remember the last compliment they received because it was so long ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 04:00 AM
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My immigrant mom had some stories about that with now-passed dad. He lost a lot of their shared money on drinking and gambling. It got so bad the local table where he gambled with his friends once forced him to go home after he got paid from work so he wouldn't lose it all. I don't have many positive memories of the guy as a role model tbh. But the more I learn the worse it got.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 03:45 AM
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Besides that women also endure abuse in their own immediate family. It's not always some random stranger or even spouse You can call it a stunt perhaps, but the fact that these billboards were up only like 10 years ago is kinda sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 03:41 AM
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I think it's been changing faster than expected actually. Western corporate cultures are being imported through the subsidiaries. That and their economies turning more inward is helping too. But China has the same future projections issues most notable economies are now expecting. They're stagnating and declining in birth rate and slowing down in economic growth. And production is still happening there but now increasingly cheaper elsewhere so they face stiff competition. Not to derail the whole…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 06:17 AM
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No u Hee hee
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 05:57 AM
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Oh look, two guys who can show solidarity. I guess we have to do locker room talk now to prove how toxic we are.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 05:53 AM
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Asian dudes specifically I think hail from a more "shame/face" based society and also collectivist, you aren't really encouraged to stand out, it's more about showing you are diligently working for the group unless you are already senior. Funny you say this. I remember somewhere in the last 10 years, the Chinese govt. has been pushing books about why it's okay to be ambitious and show it. They really want to change that part of the culture and encourage the young Chinese workers to show more...i…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 05:51 AM
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Your last paragraph reminds me of my first ex. I learned a lot from that heartbreak. And ultimately, like your ex, mine was mostly self-destructive to herself. I thought I could play captain rescue and just set myself up for all sorts of pain I didn't need. I don't wish all those emotions and pain on anyone. But I'm glad in many ways I went through that. Adversity teaches you far more than comfort ever could. And I'm married to a much better person for me today because of that experience. As for…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 05:43 AM
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It's not just dangerous topics. Speaking as an Asian person, I feel like we have a narrower bandwidth to express ourselves and still be taken as leadership/professionally. This is of course only speaking in general, exceptions are plenty. At the larger society though, you see the bamboo ceiling effect. Asians make their way to middle management but are then not seen as ideal for the next higher level. Yes, we have some examples like Google and Nvidia having Asian CEOs, and they're big examples. …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 05:36 AM
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Shouldn't we just swap the word men in your edit for adult so it applies to women as well? "reaching a level of maturity and level headedness that comes with the wisdom of life knowledge" is not gender-specific. I might agree that on average women become adults a little faster though. Lots of little reasons, some good some bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 07:27 AM
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Dudes on left might be putting off women in some way. Maybe neurodivergent to an extreme or something. Wasn't that one Elliot shooter some years back like that? He was apparently decent looking but had zero rizz. Negative even, I think he was like super hung up on why women weren't worshipping at his feet. Dude on the right cleans up with a certain demographic of his peers. This is where I disagree with who people refer to as chads. A few Chads are universal. Most chads are local. Medium fish in…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 07:06 AM
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That specific person might just not be the right person to be friends with you. Sometimes, people are fighting their own battles and until they're ready for the alliance or assist, the best we can do is give them an out but not try to force things. Based on what you've said about yourself, it sounds like you should be able to find other women to befriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 11:51 PM
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Now kiss (your respective spouses).
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 10:39 PM
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I saw this in corporate during the height of the DEI craze. It's sort of obvious who the ultra champions are, but more interesting is the people who can read the room and know they're going against the grain. They had to be extremely strategic in the battles they took so they don't hurt their image or career path by alienating certain individuals who can boost or railroad their upward trajectory.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 10:36 PM
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And then it brings a question, does it matter that there are no open conflicts in real life if people are thinking the same thoughts and it brings the same divide? I think it definitely gives credence to the idea that people keep giving and receiving shitty advice that sounds like platitude and don't actually help. I don't think it's gender specific either.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 10:32 PM
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I don't remember the article name, but there was one written by a liberal woman in some higher education op-ed a while back. The basic premise is that she started seeing more and more students trying to win moral battles in the form of outrage and snark. Like they felt that they were so obviously right they don't need to actually convince anyone else. They don't do any of the actual legwork to show they're right, they just assume it's the only common sense position and any opposition is just stu…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 10:18 PM
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It's probably a standardized shaker and they just give you however many pieces can neatly fall into it. Or if not, whatever fits into the box is 'good enough.' I doubt they spend too much time counting.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 05:39 AM
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That sucks, sorry to hear. It's certainly been a showing lately that someone can use delay tactics and wear people out. I have certainly given up money before because trying to claw it back is simply not worth the time investment anymore. I appreciate your patience though.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 03:46 AM
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That ain't worth at all, incompatibility is pretty real. You end up marrying someone you have bad bedroom chemistry with and it just sucks for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 02:08 AM
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Satire's been a dangerous game for a while now. With the spread of internet and social media, you can take an ironic or satirical stance and somebody will be fooled and thinks you're 100% serious. Reminds me of the Colbert Report show back in the day. Worked with some people who thought he was funny and poking fun at libs. Blew my mind like bro, way to miss the point.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 01:42 AM
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both before and after depending on the situation. When I was in grad school, we had a resident hot guy who cleaned up with multiple masters students. It's not like they didn't know his rep. From year 1 he started a bunch of drama for sleeping with several girls from the same friends group. He wasn't academically stellar or anything. Just decently smart but real good looking among all the nerds. Despite the drama and rep, he still had women seeking him out throughout the 2ish years we overlapped.…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 08:11 PM
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Society at large still judges the guy for not stepping up if he knows the kid's his even if he didn't want it. The finance is only a piece of it, the reputational damage is another piece too. It's something he has to explain whenever it comes up on a date unless he hides it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 02:49 AM
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I knew a dude who dated one of my friends who got hella jealous of the gay best friend. Like, out and out, flaming gay, no ambiguity, the guy has brought his guy over for double dates kinda deal. He didn't outright say they can't hang out solo or anything, but gets moody and passive aggressive when she would spend time with the GBF when he's not around. Idk what it is, some dudes just have such a hair trigger for it. Anxiety? Possessiveness? Possibly some mental health thing? Shrugs
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 06:01 AM
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I was more hurt by the Rams last weekend.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 05:55 AM
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How bout them Bears, your holiness
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 12:12 AM
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Picking up my longsword now Longswords are phallic-shaped, and that's inherently misogynistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 10:09 PM
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The longer I talk to a feminist, the more I wonder if we as a society have too much free time on our hands. Interestingly, the anti voice within the feminist circles talk about this too. Feminism in many forms has been extremely western, white-woman, and middle class centric. I can't remember the book name but I read it with my wife where it was feminism from a developing country's woman point of view. She complained that a lot of feminism that's packaged and sold to her from academic circles do…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 10:02 PM
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Most men in the Western World find women with hair on their legs repulsive. I have visited other parts of the world where unshaven female legs are normalised, and the men have absolutely no problem with it. I dated someone once where they got really sick for a few days and felt ashamed to snuggle with me because she hasn't shave her legs. It sort of blew my mind like girl, you were dying for the past 3 days why would this even cross your mind as important.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 09:55 PM
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Extending your analogy, there are also times when one simply wants bread or simply want cheese. But if I crave pizza, bread or cheese alone doesn't quite hit the spot. Like I'll get full off of those things probably but it won't be quite satisfying. Like something is missing.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 09:49 PM
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That depends, would you launch a crusade over pasta shapes?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 09:06 PM
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Instead of focusing on having become damaged goods, why not celebrate the imperfections that make us who we are? Perhaps the implicit point you're getting at is that if people aren't seen as disposable then relationships are secure and safe. But that's a passive sort of relationship that exists because you declare it exists. A positive relationship involves constant and active choosing. It involves investing your time and effort into a specific pairing rather than keeping a lookout for the next …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 08:47 AM
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I did say most lol. There's definitely some pretty bad apples but I see enough pushback that I don't think they're the majority. They do however draw a lot of attention. Honestly reminds me of those shock jocks in grade school. If positive attention isn't an option, they'd rather get negative attention than none at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 07:23 AM
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The older I get, the faster it seems to go. A month is just a little more than 4 weeks. So two paychecks cycle. You blink and it's back to waiting for the next paycheck to hit.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 07:16 AM
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Discourse is fun and all, but I find it harder to respect because the loudest voices tend to just talk. Reminds me of my philosophy classes back in the day, bunch of dudes who speak revolution but can't be assed to show up and volunteer at the soup kitchen when they're short-staffed.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 07:15 AM
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I actually really like men. Most of us ain't so bad. I'll even go further and say most of the men in this sub ain't so bad. There are far worse dudes I've had to deal with in real life than men venting here about their negative dating experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 07:12 AM
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When you say that smiling does not work, we have no idea what kind of smile are you doing. A happy smile or a forced smile. Or eye contact. I don't blame some people for not understanding social cues. One of my old roommates got the 'tism. He learned that eye contact is important but routinely forgets. When he does remember he stares into your soul until it's uncomfortable. I legit don't wanna be down on people. I think this sub and this topic attracts a lot of neurodivergent people who really s…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 03:55 AM
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You got some men going their own way, and some men sent their own way. The latter turn back and say well screw them I don't want it anyways. But deep down they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 06:49 PM
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People give chances to people without escalating any physical touch / kissing all the time. I feel like people here haven't gone on a bad first date before. The kind where you thought you might vibe before the date because you've exchanged a few texts and emojis, but when it got going the date is flat. Weirdest one for me probs is the zoom date I had during the pandemic. It turned out she used to date one of my close friends. The date was kinda flat for both of us, I was able to use the above as…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 04:55 AM
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a disagreeable loner who wants to be left alone, but not be alone crisis. I see you are describing one of our rescue cats from back in the day. I do miss him though. Beneath his grumpiness is a cat that could be anywhere in the house, but always within 10 feet of us when we settle down. As he got older, he did soften up a lot and enjoyed some lovely head scratches (that he'll occasionally bat just to remind you he's tough).
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 03:09 PM
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He also said that your strategy needs to be different depending on the kind of woman you want, they're not a one-size-fits-all. And the corollary, that you as a guy are also not a one-size-fits-all for women. Some of us are more flexible and can pair well with more varieties, but some are so specific that they may very well only make it with like 1-2% of the dating pool. Maybe even less. I know some men and women who are definitely top-third in attractiveness but never seem to date well. They ge…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 09:16 PM
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I'd agree with some of that. Society changes and dating dynamics evolve based on external conditions. So something that used to be a nice-to-have (a handsome man) mattered less if he checks off all the other more material boxes. Then we saw women making enough to provide for themselves so some of the material boxes went away and the handsomeness of the man mattered more. And now we see that the economy is not kind to most people anymore, so maybe a financially stable guy is going to rise in impo…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 06:08 AM
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The new guys have autistic’d too close to the sun…… LOL LOL LOL.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 05:58 AM
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Oh god. My ex in college, she was part of this special interest community. Befriended some people online. One dude, who she never met in person, decided that he has to get to know her better in person. Mind you, he's been going around hearting all of her FB pics and leaving suggestive comments too. The guy lives one state over and drove to our city 3 hours away on a random weekend day so they could hang out. Here's the thing though. She never invited him. She didn't respond to his messages on FB…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 05:42 AM
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too many men fall into this rabbit hole because they don’t feel like anyone else really cares. There's a feedback loop too. I got some bros like this, problem is, once they spiral down they become real tough to spend time with. So their friends and social support if they had any start to distance and that just isolates them further. I feel bad but one of my good bros back in the day recently confessed that he had some thoughts to end it all at his worst stretch. Right around that time, we stoppe…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 07:06 AM
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I think it's closer to 10%, 60%, 20%, 10%, though seasons and special occasions can be a bit blurry. There's also the factor of alcohol and other drugs. I'd reckon in the '00s and '10s, and before that most likely, hookups are mostly mutually drunken encounters. Some people don't purposely seek hook ups, but they won't exclude the possibility once they're jazzed up on some happy juice.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 04:21 AM
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My experience in my 20s was that most guys don't explicitly outright lie. Yes, some do and they're terrible people. But most, they just say wishy-washy things and women tend to lean on the hopeful side more often than not. Yeah, I was that dude too. She liked me and I did like her, but I didn't wanna commit. Tried to have my cake and eat it too. If my daughter ever asks me for dating advice by the time she's old enough to start dating, I'd tell her that if the man isn't 100% affirming that he's …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 04:05 AM
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Attraction isn’t rational, but you CAN reason a person out of positions they didn’t reason themselves into. Most racists, sexists, and general bigots were indoctrinated at an early age. But people reason themselves out of bigotries all the time as they get older and gain more exposure. I'll come at this from a different angle, but it's sort of like how appeal for Asian men have gone way up in the past 10ish years due to global popularity of KPop. I lived through it and the preceding decade, wher…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 08:40 PM
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Anecdotal, but I've always found ND women to be much more dude-like. Mostly autism though, ADHD doesn't seem correlated.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/26 07:18 AM
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Bit of a chicken-and-egg situation imo. Popular tropes are the ones that survive because they make for a compelling narrative/storytelling. Rags-to-riches and one-in-a-million odds are popular tropes for example, but they're literally one-in-a-million odds because they're so darn rare. For relationships, the love conquers all trope and its many sub-flavors have cropped up everywhere from Romeo and Juliet over to The Notebook, but most romantic relationships don't last. People get together, thing…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/26 11:28 AM
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Very male introvert-centric as well. My wife is more introverted than I am. I guess that makes me the attention whore then since I actually like to text my bros and ask how they're doing every so often, and try to get guys night going so we don't go half a year without knowing one of us had a kid or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/26 05:00 AM
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I legit get confused why people make out house work to be so much more than it is. Like yeah it's work and it's not fun, someone has to do it. I get being stuck with a shitty partner who doesn't do their share, which sucks and you should throw them out with the trash. But to pretend like it's a whole ass full time job these days is honestly bonkers. We have modern appliances that takes out like 90% of the hard work. Loading/unloading a dishwasher is like 30 mins. I do it every night since we mak…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/26 04:45 AM
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Realistically, none of us are without racism. And dating is at the end of the day a finite activity. You can't date everyone, and people use shortcuts. Like, if you grew up in a community where mixed-race couples were really rare, you probably conformed and don't buck the trend too much. Yeah, some do, but like anything else most people just stick with what they grew up with and are comfortable with. Like, I'm Asian and dating growing up 20ish years ago dating wasn't great because Asian men tend…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/26 04:11 AM
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Honestly, I think this viewpoint is interesting. It's borne out of tragedy or misery. You even say you're not a good person. And yet I think in some sense, you sort of are. You wanna uplift the demographic that most people want to avoid. You're not leading them to a 'good' place I guess, but it's also not 'bad' I guess?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 04:59 AM
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I think subs like this just attract entitled people. Not everyone on here is entitled, but damn there's alot of that going on in here from both men and women. Subs like this attract people who want to talk about these things anonymously. My wife thinks it's bonkers I would chat with internet strangers about these things. I would say she's pretty darn 'normie' and she would never make a comment on reddit. It's not like she doesn't think it's interesting. We watch dumb shows that are all relations…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 04:48 AM
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This website is such a gathering of a certain type of person (CS study, technical minded, gamers, etc) that certain things just cannot work around here. And the neurodivergent too. No hate on those who are, shit's already tough and when you have autism or something it gets exponentially harder. I used to live with a bro who had autism, he had a real rough go at life in general. Actually a really nice dude, but unless a woman know him super well, I don't think he was about to get any numbers.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 04:37 AM
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Bumble tried making women do the first move, and the majority of them just send a handwave emoji or a Hi and pass the baton back to the men anyways.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 09:15 PM
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I'd say just get off the apps at that point and find an alternative. Pretty sure it doesn't work for like 90% of guys anyways, and it should be obvious within like the first month if you're part of the 10% that consistently get matches and dates. I get just leaving the fishing rod out there and seeing if you get any bites, I did it too. At some point though, especially if you ever get tempted to spend, it ain't worth.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 09:14 PM
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I'm a short dude, and if taller women than me were equally interested as same height or shorter, I would have known. And I say that with having dated a couple tall ones - they were the far away exception that proved the rule. I'm guessing if I was batting like 5% for short/same women, it was like .05% for those taller. It's not like I'm ruling them out, the interest was just never reciprocated.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 03:47 AM
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Even on this sub, I've counted like 3-4 flavors or RP alone. You got the tradcons, the blackpills who pretend to be RP so they don't get banned, the RP player who has a realistic/jaded view of women they get with, the virgin who's confused and wants help, the virgin who's angry and just want to be angry, etc. There's some vague overlaps and coherence, but if you dig deep enough, you'll get one group of "RP" who completely disagree with another group on what the core tenets are. We can probably s…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 03:41 AM
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And yet we exist in a world where decent quality men who are full of honesty and integrity are often overlooked in favor of attractive men without those traits. Saw it mentioned somewhere on this sub before, but if good qualities like honesty and integrity were more valued in dating, people would crowd the bars near charities and volunteer events. Instead, the high-end bars are near all the top hits of capitalism like finance hubs. You know, places we associate with peak honesty/integrity in the…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 03:31 AM
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I have heard of a research that show how a majority of men where ok if they met a woman who has 80% of what they are looking for. But women are a majority to reject the offer if a man with 80% of what they are looking for come up Satisficing vs. maximizing. It's not just dating. Some people take a car that works because it hits the majority of things they want. Others hold out for the most perfect car and might pay a premium for it (if able). Same for house hunting, jobs, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 03:23 AM
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Incels are seemingly not very happy people. Why would I wish that for my wife when I'm no longer around?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 03:13 AM
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Not a number any girl with a count over 7 will know exactly. They don't keep spreadsheets of that shit. Just some examples from the top of my head: Not even a matter of honesty or count, so much as what even counts can vary so much from person to person. If a dude told me he's gotten a BJ but never gone further, I'd personally think he's still a virgin. But I bet some dudes out there will add that to the n count for themselves or for a woman. I knew a woman in college who's a virgin for marriage…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/25 04:53 AM
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I'm also curious what RMV is. Relationship market value. In theory, SMV and RMV is independent. You can have a dude/dudette who's smoking hot but terrible for relationships. You can also reverse and have a total dud sexually speaking but they have all the right things that would keep a relationship going. In practice, there's probably a trend, but published researchers don't use this language/paradigm as far as I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/25 04:46 AM
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One sister wants kids, another doesn’t and wants to be the “cool aunt.” Reminds me of the kin selection hypothesis for why homosexuality persists at some level of genetics. Basically, from genes perspective, a few people who don't strive to reproduce within the fam can still play caretaker and increase likelihood the genes pass on anyways. A quality vs. quantity kind of thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/25 04:42 AM
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Consequences are for the poor and powerless.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 04:43 AM
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Thrill of getting caught to spike the adrenaline a little.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 04:30 AM
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I'd say most of us are serial pair bonders, some of which can go for basically the whole life. Which honestly makes sense. We live too long and for most of history, people die off for the randomest reason. Like imagine your husband got shot dueling at the age of 40, and you live another 50 years after that (Hamilton). I respect someone who doesn't want to pair up again, but it's kind of ludicrous to expect someone to stay single and widowed forever. If I die young, I'd absolutely want my wife to…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 04:29 AM
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Uno.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 04:21 AM
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people have to differentiate between mras, redpillers and conservatives but it is easier to put all of them under the manosphere umbrella... terfs + radfems are also a part of feminism but apparently it is misogyny criticising it/them but it is fine to bash mras generally... The lack of nuance in general discussion is honestly disappointing. Even here there's probably like 3-4 camps of redpillers at minimum. Some are trad, some are left wing, some are 'cels, some are players. But I'm sure they'r…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 10:47 PM
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If you really fell in love, and I mean LOVE , then yeah, constant reminder of rejection, of being not enough for this person you love can be super hurtful. I see no problem with leaving then (after all, no one is entitled to your friendship. I used to lean more towards the guy for this. I felt some unrequited love throughout my 20s. But to feel this intense about someone, and they only ever felt like they were a good friend to you at most, means that you harbored a shit ton of one-sided feelings…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 08:23 PM
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Guys need male role models and mentors. I screwed up big early on, definitely thankful for some who looked at me and thought "okay, this one's not hopeless" and straightened my shit out.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/25 09:09 AM
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It's the thought process that good things happen to good people and bad things happen to bad people (i.e. it's a just world). So by extension, if someone's failing at something like dating, there's something they're doing wrong or something's wrong with them. Basically, we overpresume it's a personal factor and not necessarily an environmental one (e.g. luck of the draw). It's incredibly pervasive. It's also like how people assume and treat rich people as smart and business savvy (they're rich s…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/25 09:06 AM
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Civil offense vs. criminal offense is a distinction that's commonly lost to laypersons when speaking about the law. I'll include myself too: it's surprising on occasion to me what's merely a civil offense when it 'feels' like there should be more serious consequences. Vice versa as well of course, though a lot of times it's because of some archaic laws that just never got updated.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 05:19 AM
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I'd even break out 18-34. People between 18-24 are more likely to be single, in school these days, be with a partner who's probably not their long-term one, etc. Once you hit late 20s and 30s, it's where more and more couples are settling down and starting families. So comparing the first half to the second half can be a little misleading as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 08:53 AM
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It's like a boss in a video game that has a shield you need to wear down over time before you can do damage. If you just try to do damage at the start of the boss fight it will almost certainly be reflected back to you and you will fail. The long game is wearing down the shield. LOL. But no lies detected.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 08:34 AM
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Fellow short guy here, cheers to you and the positive mentality you've cultivated. When it gets tough, I channel my inner immigrant narrative. We made it through a slog of a time, adapted, and found a niche to keep going. Life doesn't get easier, we just level up.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 08:21 AM
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Will community and friendship solve everything? No. Companionship is very different and scratches a biological itch that friendship doesn’t. But male suicide is scary high, and I think it’s important to recognize that men are lonely while also pointing out that we as a society are collectively losing out on connections that we so badly crave. I appreciate your much more nuanced and sympathetic take. I do think most men who are lonely and sexually frustrated try to solve both in one go through ge…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 04:18 AM
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Yes, my statement does not disagree with you. But a handsome, short guy will tell you height matters more than looks. An ugly, tall guy will tell you looks matter more than height. The guy who has both and autism will tell you social skills and neurotypicalness matters more. And so on. Everybody who isn't experiencing success will (reasonably) assume what they're missing is the 'it' factor. It's likely there's not one 'it' factor that needs addressing. It's also possible they misjudge what their…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 03:48 AM
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An individual can follow their core civic duties (paying taxes, obeying the law, voting) while completely ignoring the traditional social obligations (community engagement, raising a family, etc). I think you highlight a good dichotomy. The two spheres used to be overlapping. Very, very few did sneak off to the woods or something and live as hermits, but almost everyone else mingle out of necessity. You didn't really have a choice to be non-social because most people cannot live without relying …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 08:13 AM
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Guess it depends on what democratization means to you. An aspiring OF star doesn't need an agent or an existing network to break big, but like any other endeavor, having connections and help goes a long way. They have to get noticed fast so the algos that advertise them pick up steam and keep featuring them. Having friends and friends of friends link to you for example is just one way an OF aspirant can benefit from connections. Or doing collabs with an already well-known player in the market. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 08:08 AM
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No lol. Median OF earnings are like $100/month. Most of the money goes to the top 1% to .01% accounts aka people who already have and continue to have a massive following. The more people join, the more saturated it only becomes.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 06:04 AM
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Almost any services or performance related gig goes this way. There's not an infinite amount of demand, you can always capture some small amounts at the fringes, but it quickly peters out. I'll bet most small-time OF'ers got started and the bulk of their money comes from someone who knows them personally. They quit shortly after because invites some uneasy parasocial relationships, but also because they probably have no way of standing out among all the content creators. It's like all the art sc…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 05:56 AM
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Modernity has made life comfortable enough that nobody has to do these interactions that used to be required. Some asocial person can get their food delivered contact-free and use the self-checkout aisle and never talk to another person. Some now use AI as a pseudo-friend and companion in lieu of interacting with someone else for information they do not have. Not sure if chicken or egg, or if that's even relevant. The upkeep cost of society is people participating. I guess some people don't want…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 05:40 AM
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Most, by definition, are just Average Joes that happen to be tall. That sub is full of guys that can't seem to find companions. I don't know why anyone can complain about them. The short guys think that height is the biggest factor holding them back. The ugly guys think that face is the biggest factor holding them back. And so on. Every unsuccessful guy thinks the 'it' factor is what he's missing.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 05:24 AM
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most people genuinely don’t know the difference Took me a while, but stopping at acknowledgement, but before getting into solutioning is key. Voila, became a much better partner (and coworker).
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 04:22 AM
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Kind of interesting too that the conversation has been almost exactly stuck in the same spot, perhaps with a modicum more of awareness. Like that last part where he pointed to when a potentially frustrated guy would look for answers, he sees what hostility one side offers, and what almost neutral-ish tones the other side offers, and is unsurprisingly going to choose that. 11 years since then, I personally think this is still where we're at. Actually, perhaps we're one notch further. The more com…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 05:18 AM
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And unfortunately for some men, they exhibit traits/behaviors that trigger those risk aversions. For some other men, they are 'sparky' and able to override/dampen that risk aversion. How good a person is, is not correlated to the above.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 04:47 AM
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hot people do each other, ugly people do each other, and average people are in the middle Assortative mating, if you will.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 04:15 AM
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Socially awkward nerdy women have no problem dating Yeah, because men will date awkward women. Men just don't prioritize social lubrication until they have been burned by socially awkward partners and/or have alternative options. It's not some gesture of charity or benevolence.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 10:40 PM
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There's a social mandate about how "tough" a man needs to be that is just not true anymore. I think society now requires men to be more open to connect and bond from another place, but dont know how. I think the mandate is that society wants men to open and vulnerable, but also be able to not be threatened by that vulnerability. A man not in control of his emotions is, after all, a potential danger. So it has to be a couched vulnerability, a la "Yeah, this is really hard and I'm suffering, but i…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 04:13 AM
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