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Upvoted. Qualification is key here. On my last date I was late. She was really cool about it, so I said "first rounds on me!". I genuinely appreciated she didn't make a fuss and wanted to buy those rounds. And made it clear (subtly) that I rewarded that attitude and that was my way of evening the score of being late.
/r/seduction04/05/15 06:56 PM
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All this theory is good for Pick Up, and Game. That's it. I imagine many of the so called "masters" are getting addicted to pickup and have long lost the ability or interest to stick with someone for a longer time. I'd advise you to learn to live with yourself first. Find out what motivates and balances you. I'm also quickly bored once I figure a new hobby or theory out, so find some complex and layered things that keep you going. For me that's airsoft, it allows me to tinker with tech, meet new…
/r/seduction04/05/15 06:50 PM
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I use the same approach. Took a girl to an art exhibit 2 weeks ago, another on a pub streak last week-end. Never used the word date, but both said they liked the date afterwards. So yeah, they know what's going on. Classical dates like dinner and movies are a no-no for me, or there has to be a movie we're both passionate about and would be able to connect over. Staring at a screen for hours or getting spinach in your teeth is a turn off.
/r/seduction04/05/15 06:37 PM
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Upvoted this. The tactics, openers and theory are good to boost your confidence level and get examples. Especially youtube comes in handy there, you see the mannerisms and approaches put to practice in a fun way. Taking that into account, NEVER lose your true self. If you're an introverted thinker, you'll never be the center of the party. You can however learn how to put your mysterious and masculine side forward, and emphasize your natural traits. Don't stick with a guru cause he "gets it done"…
/r/seduction04/05/15 06:32 PM
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Team sports. I picked up Airsoft and got a ton of new friends. Just text the ones you feel are on your level when there's a festival, you want to hit a bar... Introduce them to each other, you'll soon be amazed how many people appreciate someone bringing people together in this age of communication.
/r/seduction04/05/15 06:26 PM
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Much of this seduction, pua and other stuff is all about self-improvement. To be considered a fun guy to hang out with and to be with, it will help to improve your social skills. Use these "less attractive" dates for that. Once your need to procreate is eliminated, you're naturally more relaxed and in tune with yourself. Try to build on who you are then, and call up this state in the more interesting dates.
/r/seduction29/04/15 05:24 PM
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Nothing to add to this. An upvote from me, sir. Self-NLP.
/r/seduction27/04/15 06:27 PM
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In cuddling the same 'game' applies as in dancing: Test your limits, 'accidentally' touch hot zones but get away from them before she realizes / can react, tease and play. Let cuddling go to massaging. Position yourself so you put (mild!) pressure on erogenous zones. Mind her breathing, when it turns heavier she's getting turned on. You can stretch it and tease her more to make her go wild. Let your breathing get heavier, feel the moment, and synchronize your body language. Avoid eye contact unt…
/r/seduction27/04/15 06:22 PM
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I'm borderline intro/extro. The intro part of me understands your situation completely, I think: you mentally take distance / objectify the situation of dating, analyze the person, figure pro's/cons, ... The hard part after this long period without partner should be, imho, physical contact. If you went through the theories, you know kino and escalation. My advice: find something that puts you in this setting. Dancing classes sound best. Acting classes a 2nd best. Anything that puts you in physic…
/r/seduction27/04/15 06:13 PM
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After a bad date I just don't call or text back (often). 90% of women understand that. If you want to get out DURING the date: Why don't you consider it as just having a drink with some random person? Mentally scratch the dating aspect and try and make some fun out of it. Or grab your phone, type something, and say you're needed for work/family whatever.
/r/seduction27/04/15 06:03 PM
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I'm on there for 2 weeks now, had a first date this week-end, and it went awesome! On her profile I noticed she's into art, so I checked where she lives and what's there to do. I proposed to go to exhibit X in one of the first messages, it was a cold lead - no response. A week later I messaged her I was going to some other event close to her, turned out she tried to get tickets but was too late. I said I'd check for possibilities and she should give me her nr - phase 1 done. A few texts later sh…
/r/seduction27/04/15 05:56 PM
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I don't know why or how, but I'm often approached by women at parties. I'd just be doing my thing near a dancefloor or band, and they'd come dance really close, sometimes 'accidentally' touching me then giving a coy smile. I rarely openly scan a room, I discretely find out who I'd like and go for, or I'm just talking with friends. Sometimes I clearly reject girls with body language. I think this lets bolder girls try and 'wedge in'.
/r/seduction27/04/15 05:52 PM
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Good feedback, thanks! One last question: Where do you meet all these lawyers, consultants and whatnot? I do meet a lot of (IT) consultants, but my friend group doesn't extend into people in those professions.
/r/seduction11/03/15 09:46 PM
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Can you imagine there are girls that are in the same situation as you, not being so comfortable going out there to meet people? I think that's not just a guy thing.
/r/seduction05/01/15 05:37 AM
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Same here, rather bulky frame, so I don't appear that fat for my weight. I've had girls tells me they like cuddling/supporting on me more then with a skinny guy, it's more comfortable. But don't use that as an excuse, if you are not completely comfortable with your appearance, it's good you work out to remedy that. A feeling of fitness and being able to do physical stuff without getting winded is much more important to me than looking like a jock. In my country it's about exam time, the universi…
/r/seduction04/01/15 07:12 PM
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Next week should be good indeed. You can then hint slightly at her being on your mind (or leave that out, this should be clear from the fact you're contacting her). Heh that's quaint, that FEAR part from Nightcrawler stuck in my mind as well! My big life goal is looking for The Truth in everything, from science to psychology, and most times I felt fear it was of assuming something of which I didn't see all the facts. It's a thin line, as knowing everything is impossible, and often you need to pl…
/r/seduction04/01/15 07:01 PM
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Yep, not much to do about that. It's her choice if she wants to pursue a jealous SO and not claim the right to warmth from friendship in her romantic relation. Some realize after a while they need that freedom and leave the SO. Some don't need the freedom and let the friendship go to another level or dim out in favour of the SO. Not much we can do to influence that, pushing someone to something they don't want or are not ready for seldom leads to something positive.
/r/seduction04/01/15 06:52 PM
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Well I used to date this girl 11y ago. We were a bit too foolish and immature then to keep the relation up. In the time in between, we have had other relations. She has made 2 beautiful daughters and left their father. We've stuck around each other all these years, supporting through hardship, and sharing in fun. We're both to eachother almost the only people in our friend group that can stand being together a lot, I mean get together 3 to 4 times per week for hours on end, without being fed up …
/r/seduction04/01/15 06:48 PM
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You get some of the best reactions, possible bonding or great sex by doing it in a spontaneous, not "this is the bedroom" area. A lakeside, park, bus stall, hospital, university, mall (the "staff only" sections). Important: scout the area first, familiarize yourself with the routines. Example: in a hospital you can get to the geriatrics wards and find staff rooms while all residents are sleeping, a uni dorm will be near empty during class hours, parks have their quiet times and places. Even publ…
/r/seduction04/01/15 06:41 AM
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Very good insight. You hit a wall, stood up, rubbed the bump, and start looking more in front of you in stead of in your pants. Only by loving youself you can allow yourself to love another. All these pickup tricks are, in my book, only good for training to reel in that catch you really want. It took me 2 years to find that person, in between I worked on myself and my family and friends. Now I have something to bring to the table for her. You're going the same way - and we both realize this is a…
/r/seduction04/01/15 06:31 AM
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This puzzled me a lot while in India, they have such awkward rules. They generally don't date and have families arrange marriages, so all other interaction is very hush-hush and can't be seen by anyone or their reputation is ruined. I had a spark with a girl, and once asked her to show me how to make the Indian bread (chapati / naan). Besides getting odd looks because men don't belong in a kitchen, she got weird looks because she was touching me a lot to show how much pressure I had to apply to …
/r/seduction04/01/15 06:11 AM
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Dude, switch places with me. I get a lot of attention from girls I'm not interested in, exactly the ones you're looking for. I do meet the kind of women I find attractive in professional settings, but I don't mix work and romantic relations: most are (potential) customers. Ah well, how do I get the party girls? Just go to parties, preferably with a female friend, and play the enigmatic cool guy part that has ample female friends, dance with the female friends but make eye contact with the bimbo,…
/r/seduction04/01/15 05:47 AM
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Nice detailed report! And good for you you see yourself improving! I think you missed an opportunity by not going into why your girl doesn't want a bf. Although it can be a tricky topic, you don't want her thinking you are coming on too strong on the "I want to be your bf" part. It could let you relate, saying something like "I get that, most girls I meet have lost the art of seduction, them falling for the easiest tricks in their hopeless yearning for a bf is boring to me.". It's a hidden compl…
/r/seduction04/01/15 05:36 AM
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Google or click the sidebar posts. Some top-of-mind ideas: her first kiss her best childhood memory handling how guys react to her attractiveness her first time masturbating Just get emotional queue-points, she'll link those emotions to you. Ask her. Colour reactions with a bit of your insight/experience on the subject, but get back to another pull fast, you want her to do most of the talking.
/r/seduction04/01/15 05:17 AM
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As matrix2002 said, we need a situational example or 2. Example of the behaviour, how you feel about it, and why you lock up or how you would think about mentioning it. Whatever it is, carrying it around too long is a no-go. If she's been doing it for weeks or months before you mention it, it makes her insecure about doing more things you don't like without her knowing.
/r/seduction04/01/15 05:13 AM
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I'd say "I think that's a bit too soon". "Maybe another day" might let them think she's a bad kisser, has skunk breath or you're toying with her. But I agree, not going all testosterone over her all the time makes most women a bit confused, especially those on the high attractiveness scale. You need 2 to make that game interesting, the most fun I've had is with both parties doing push-pull in a quite longer, fun way. I remember a girl about 10y ago, we've been flirting for weeks, and keeping eac…
/r/seduction04/01/15 05:02 AM
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So true. The first times I tried the push-pull and other 'techniques', I was rationalizing it too much. More evaluating their body language, touches, smiles and the 'correct' response patterns than enjoying the process. This can come over as bad acting or sitting on the couch of a shrink. As with any framework: Pick up SOME techniques that suit you, be more conscentious about how you carry yourself when flirting and learn from mistakes, but don't lose your natural self. If a pick up style doesn'…
/r/seduction04/01/15 04:47 AM
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Gonna remember this one, stepping in stead of push-pull. It's a better visualization of the technique. And yeah, don't get me started on female-side seducing. All that over-feminization has let a lot of women think they can just sit and be pretty, and deserve only the best of males do all the effort. Gotta filter those out, if they don't step in when you step back, break off.
/r/seduction04/01/15 04:43 AM
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As mentioned, use Tinder for chatting up random girls. Also local message boards or chat rooms, these are filled with people that want to meet NEW people. Facebook is about connecting to people you already met, and that have mom, dad, auntie and lil' sis looking at everything you do on there. Don't fret too much over appearance. Look around, there are plenty average, overweight, ugly or weird guys dating women. Messaging girls on Facebook is not creepy if it has a goal. Find a common interest. E…
/r/seduction04/01/15 04:37 AM
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I have more female than male friends, and besides them being people I look to as being family and love very much, there are some cool benefits: You get to show up to social occasions with a girl easily. You get to talk about touchy feely stuff and romantic relations without feeling the need to hold a beer to keep your manliness up around buds. You can get physical warmth, from hugs to snuggling on the couch while watching a movie, without the drama. You get real world feedback about your appeara…
/r/seduction04/01/15 04:19 AM
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Coming home with you is a first sign that she's into you. I'll go into a quite detailed walthrough, I assume you wouldn't have posted if you didn't want that. I see 2 paths: Relationship material: DONT go all out on the first date. Let her know you're into her, flirt, touch her casually (not on erogenous zones, caressing friendly touch), but keep a bit of mystery and try to get a 2nd date fixed asap. See below for what to do on 2nd date. flirt/sex material: Put something distracting in the backg…
/r/seduction04/01/15 04:04 AM
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What I've learnt about personalities: Some can separate the physical act of sex from deep romantic feelings. They have an itch and scratch it, as simple as that. Or they fall in love easily. Others can only really enjoy sex to the fullest with someone they feel a deeper bond with. This can be a very good friend or a romantic partner. Both types are capable of forming monogamous relationships with one partner for a longer type, if they are mature enough (regardless of age) and find their match. B…
/r/seduction04/01/15 03:31 AM
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This one is the right answer. If you have a spark with one girl, continue on that line. If you approach all of them, they'll just think you're collecting girls. OP, I think you handled the response quite nicely. Saying you like her as a person and just want friendship, opens a new line, like Bobbo said - it expands your network. As an introvert this is something you have to mindfully work on, kudos for making that work for yourself. These skills in network building and communicating will help yo…
/r/seduction04/01/15 03:16 AM
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