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DeWittorComstock/r/askMRP22/01/19 06:03 PM
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What generates that calm, and how can you get to it independently of those around you.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/21 11:59 PM
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It is still a slightly bitter irony that at the time men need the support, is the time, women can't or won't give it. You can always crawl home to mommy.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/21 11:43 PM
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This weekend, my wife was being quiet because she was anxious, and I was cracking jokes and checking to see if she was cheered up Why did you feel compelled to fix her emotions?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/21 11:39 PM
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So have you found anything to do for fun that replaces video games? Finding healthy ways to enjoy your life will help you give less fucks about your wife.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/21 11:36 PM
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Your plan has shit prioritization.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/21 11:31 PM
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This is my thing where I'm the amog, and I paid attention to how naturally it comes to me in this setting. My new buddy is the amog at the gym, my hunting buddy is the amog in that setting. It feels good to have an activity where I am the group leader, I think it will help me parlay that into other areas of my life. Who knew all you needed to do was to compare your self to others to to establish your own self worth. You sound like a little boy talking about how cool you are after doing a sick tr…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/21 11:22 PM
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You should still have fun with him. My oldest was colicky too but that did not stop me from playing with her.
/r/askMRP07/08/21 09:58 PM
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I have 2 daughters, one is 13 months and the other is 3 years old. Chuck shared a lot of gold in his comments and I can't really expand much on that. Personally, I just try to make my kids smile and laugh while making sure I am having fun. This usually involves tickling them, chasing them, dancing with them, and flinging them about. I am pretty physical with my kids and playtime with them is almost like working out with a kettle ball. When I get tiered I just lay on the ground and let them crawl…
/r/askMRP07/08/21 09:57 PM
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Why the obsession with being productive? Why not just focus on being an engaged father? I know he does not do much at this age, but there are still ways to play with him that are fun for both of you.
/r/askMRP07/08/21 12:25 AM
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When I said that I became over-invested, I meant strictly in terms of my ego (rather than time/effort or anything like that). What I mean by that is I began to take everything personally. When things were going well I felt great about myself, when things began to go downhill and become stagnant, I felt like I myself had become stagnant. I would see every rejection and setback as a reflection on myself, there was no separation between me and my business. This led to self-sabotaging behaviour. I t…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/21 10:12 PM
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It is more about what did that YOU are proud of. You do not need to tell me, I do not give a fuck what you did, but it is important you celebrate your wins on your own terms. Just make sure that celebration is not looking for validation from others.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/21 09:21 PM
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I want to have a frame that pulls people in and is fun I have been working on this too and it has been more challenging to do it naturally than I could have ever imagined. Things to consider - Do you default to cynicism or optimism? How critical are you of people who do not live up to your standards? Do you overthink things or accept things at face value? I have noticed it is easier to pull people into your frame when you are optimistic, not overthinking, and forgiving. One thing to note, when I…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/21 07:58 PM
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What is wrong with being nerdy? Who is defining your sense of self here?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/21 07:37 PM
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Did you do anything last week that you are actually proud of?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/21 07:34 PM
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Is there something you could have been doing instead of porn? What hobbies do you have besides BJJ and lifting? And when I say hobbies, I mean something you enjoying doing so much that you get into a state of flow while doing it or leave it feeling a sense of deep accomplishment, not some bullshit thing you do to kill time during waking hours. The old saying that " Idle hands are the devil's playthings" is surprisingly true.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/21 07:16 PM
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I’m working on fostering an intrinsic sense of self-worth rather thanbeing defined by things external to myself, as well as becoming outcomeindependent in all areas of my life. At this stage I feel like I feellike I have overtaken her as far as SMV goes. So you say you want to work on your intrinsic sense of self-worth but then you proceed to define your worth by comparing yourself to your girlfriend by using a a subjective scale developed by others. Sounds you are a red pill master! It is inter…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/21 06:55 PM
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Last time we had sex? 3 weeks ago? before that? 2 weeks? Not sure, I have not been tracking it really, but I know its not very often. Physical problems after the birth of my last kid and a mutual loss of attraction has recently killed our bedroom. I backslide hard during quarantine and reverted back to an un-attractive bitch boy. I also became less attracted to my wife after she gained a bunch of wait during pregnancy and after her neuroticism went up to 11 when I became mostly useless. Where do…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/20 09:50 PM
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OYS Age - 36, Height - 5'9", 179 Lbs, Bench - 165 x 5, Squat - 215 x 5, Deadlift - 225 x 5, Married 7 years (together 10), 2 Daughters - 2, baby Starting back from scratch after a long hiatus. Stopped posting in OYS when I started seeing a shrink and started making some progress with my mental state. Thought I was done with the shrink once the lockdowns started but then found out just how much I sucked during lockdown. Highlights include getting sent to the hospital after having a panic attack d…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/20 04:44 PM
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I have nothing but goals at this point and I know nothing. Looks like you do not even know what your goals are or what actions you need to take to achieve them.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/20 10:58 PM
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I still have a baseline of anxiety that I carry around. I don't really enjoy most of my life. It's sad to say. Fixing one will help to fix the other. What does an enjoyable life look like to you? ​ But my real goal is to just be okay What dose standard for "being okay" look like. That quote has a lot of great platitudes, but how does it translate to your life?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/20 10:54 PM
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Despite being single for effectively three years this month, I still find going to bed alone to be painful and lonely. Ask yourself why you think a women would actually fix this. Do you just want mommy to tuck you in at night? ​ Also, your list for next week is a bunch of bullshit. Items 1 and 2 are easy to answer. You just need to stop sucking and act. As for number 3, if you are not asking yourself why those thoughts get into your head than you are wasting your time.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/20 10:46 PM
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Fuck, you are right
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/20 03:32 AM
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You bring up great points, and I am aware of the dangers of making my kids my only mission. Part of my mission is making sure I am happy and making sure my kids are not the main source of my happyness. I do not want to burden them with that. My parents did that to me and it sucked. I hoping that by making my kids well being a mission will help me stay the course until I find another thing to also focus my energies on. I have wallowed in subjectivity, self neglect, and self doubt for too long and…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/20 11:41 PM
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OYS 25 "Why am I putting up with this bullshit?" It is such a simple question that I do not see a lot of people ask themselves around here. I see people set goals and chase ideals, but very rarely do I see them ask themselves why they are putting up with the bullshit in their lives. I finally started to really ask that question about a lot of things lately and I am left without answers that I like. There is always a choice to be made, and I find myself choosing between a shit sandwich or a turd …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/20 06:55 PM
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A shrink worked wonders for me.They listened to my bullshit, made me focus on myself, and called me on my bullshit. Funny enough, the weekly Own Your Shit thread does the same thing but you need to be comfortable with writing and no one there is forced to listen to your bullshit.
/r/askMRP18/02/20 09:54 PM
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She is two.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/19 01:02 PM
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OYS 24 36, 5’9”, 180 lbs, 15% BF, Married 6 years, together 10, just one little one Lifts (tested 1RM) - Bench - 195, Squat - 225, Deadlift – 285 Mission To live a fulfilling life by making the most out of my time in this world. Physical I was sick last week so I missed two workouts. Frustrating as hell, but I needed the rest. I did switch things up and did yoga afterwards and it seemed to go OK. I got the mental calm I wanted from the yoga and the lifts went fine. I am noticing I function bette…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/19 07:11 AM
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Try baking a cake.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/19 06:52 AM
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but I can still be more of the “life of the party” guy (even though it feels like pulling teeth) Why is this a priority for you even when you clearly do not like it? Who's standards are you trying to live up to?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/19 06:32 AM
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Still looking for a way to just chat and be sociable while keeping boundaries Sounds like someone's neediness is infecting their interactions with others. ​ I don’t want an affair, and that makes me lazy. Laziness is a lie told to protect a fragile ego. Ask me how I know. People chat and flirt all the time without it leading to an affair. What is really stopping you?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/19 06:23 AM
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If you wanna dig into something, dig into your initial frustration with your wife. And quit pussyfooting around her emotions when you do. It's just as likely you were frustrated with her coping skills at the time. She was tired and caught off guard by a screaming, inconsolable child in the middle of the night. Instead of asking for help in round 2, it sounds like she got a little huffy puffy with you instead. Bingo. That is exactly what happened, and I am still struggling with how to deal with s…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/19 11:42 PM
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Self Bias Resistor is way better.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/19 07:11 PM
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Their album Demanufacture is a masterpiece of industrial metal.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/19 04:56 PM
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I am trying less. I am accepting my limitations. So are you doing this because you are being truthful with yourself, or are you just bullshitting yourself into wallowing in your own shit? Are you trying less because you are being less needy or are you trying less because you are withdrawing? I have also decide to put my creative skills out their Be creative for you, not for validation from others. I have a strong creative itch that I always suppressed because it felt like I could not make money …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/19 04:47 PM
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OYS 24 36, 5’9”, 180 lbs, 15% BF, Married 6 years, together 10, just one little one Lifts (tested 1RM) - Bench - 195, Squat - 225, Deadlift – 285 Mission To live a fulfilling life by making the most out of my time in this world. Physical I had no idea that static stretching before lifting was a bad thing until recently so I am re-evaluating my current routine. I really enjoy the mental calm yoga helps create so I.am going to switch things around and lift first. I am also going to incorporate som…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/19 04:30 PM
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That's exactly what you should be doing. I ran into the problem of not letting my self relax after everything was done. Do not do that.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/19 08:27 PM
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Do not focus on being productive in the evenings, focus on doing something you enjoy once all the shit you have to do has been taken care of. I have been struggling with the drive to always be productive for a while and it was feeding a lot of internalized negative feelings when I wasn't meeting my unrealistic goals.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/19 07:17 PM
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The answer is the same, regardless of age, stop making excuses. If your marriage sucks, then you suck, and your life sucks. All I see in this response is mental masturbation to justify not doing anything. I told him to do something to make himself happy. Is that somehow possible without getting a divorce? Yes it is. If you are claiming differently than there are two answer to that - 1) the marriage is toxic and needs to end. 2) He is too much of a faggot to live his own life. If happiness is onl…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/19 06:58 PM
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OYS 23 36, 5’9”, 180 lbs, 15% BF, Married 6 years, together 10, just one little one Lifts (tested 1RM) - Bench - 195, Squat - 225, Deadlift – 285 Mission To live a fulfilling life. What the fuck does that mean? Make the most out of my time in this world by doing things I enjoy, making stuff, and spending quality time with my kids. Physical Only missed one lifting day in the past 6 weeks. I tweaked my back again and needed to skip a squat/deadlift day to make sure I recovered. On the plus side. I…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/19 06:42 PM
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Dude, I started where you are and manage to slowly climb out of the pit of self loathing. The one thing that has helped a lot is finding something you enjoy doing, make time to do it, and make sure you let yourself enjoy it. Be mindful while you do it, and look back afterwards and appreciate the fact you did it for yourself. It is hard as fuck to do it in the beginning, but you need to find ways to value yourself. Once you start doing that then everything else starts to fall into place.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/19 05:47 PM
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Looks like you need to go back and re-read the post about connecting with your wife. You need to have a conversation with her, not just sit there and take up space. Right now it sounds like you can be replaced with any inanimate object in the house. If you are only listening to your wife so you can have sex with her then you need to rethink how you interact with people.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/19 05:37 PM
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Maybe look into martial arts, preferably one that really pushes you during training like Boxing or Muay Thai. Stress seems to melt away when your body is worn out from training. The only problem is you will have to eat even more when you are trying to bulk..
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/19 05:31 PM
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Do not slack on finding time to do things you enjoy. It will help you get past the rage, make you happier, and help put everything else in to perspective. Also be mindful of excuses you make to not to do these things. It is easy to bullshit yourself into not doing something, especially when you are a recovering nice guy.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/19 05:08 PM
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What are your lifts? Any hobbies that aren't you just sitting around being a bitch? What are you doing for yourself? You are old as fuck, ditch the wife and enjoy what is left of your life. Fuck man, go do something for yourself and stop looking for validation from women.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/19 04:26 PM
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I have been working on expanding my social circle, and one thing I have realized is that the people you choose to spend time with are reflections of you. Think hard on that. If you really want to expand your social circle then take a class on something you are interested in or find a group activity you like doing and make time for it. Do not worry about making friends, just enjoy what you are doing and be social. Your social goals right now sound super needy and you will drive people away with t…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/19 04:17 PM
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OYS 22 36, 5’9”, 177 lbs, 14% BF, Married 6 years, together 10, just one little one Lifts (tested 1RM) - Bench - 185, Squat - 220, Deadlift - 275 The Story So Far Just trudging along. Physical Getting back into the routine after a week away from home was a little rough, but it feels great being back at it. Recently started doing 15 minutes of yoga before every work out, and I gotta say its been a great addition to my morning routine. Not only does it warm up my muscles, it centers me mentally an…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/19 04:58 PM
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I never thought about the need for more physical exertion or the fact I am just a glorified babysitter most of the time when I am watching them. Thanks for the link to your post about interacting with kids, I have tried to kept that post in the back of my mind since I first read it and I try to spend time with the little one everyday when we are at home. There are times where we are playing and I am fully engaged with them, and there are times when I am simply following them around and helping t…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/19 06:50 PM
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Damn, did not think about the "fucking around" comment like that. You are right, I am still projecting my frustration and stress associated with taking care of the kid onto her. Fuck me, that is a bunch of bullshit. As for day 4, you are right, I was being wrongly black and white about things. One thing I am still chewing on is that frustration I saw does not really reflect how she is as a parent. At the time, I saw it as her rejecting our kid in their time of need and, like I said, hit hit a ne…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/19 08:05 PM
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OYS 21 36, 5’9”, 177 lbs, 14% BF, Married 6 years, together 10, just one little one AAR - Family Vacation Just got back from a rather eventful week away with the family filled with bullshit from me. DAY 1 - Things went as well as could be expected when flying 5 hours and driving another 4 hours with a toddler. I spent the majority of the flight trying to keep the little one occupied and was pretty exhausted by the time we got to our destination. Nothing really to note happened that day. DAY 2 - …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/19 04:57 PM
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Damn, the simple check in is exactly what I need to do more of. Prety frustrsting that its a novel idea, but it is something I need to embrace
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/19 07:19 PM
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The guilt seems to be a combination of feeling like I dont spend enough time with her and waiting for her to say its ok to do something (basically stuck in her frame). The guilt is less than it use to be, and ya, pushing through it seems to work the best. I use to do exactly what you described with the over thinking and it was awful. I say use to because I stop my self now about one or two statements in, the problem isnthe feeling of guilt still lingers. Thats were I think pushing through will b…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/19 07:17 PM
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OYS 20 36, 5’9”, 177 lbs, 14% BF, Married 6 years, together 10, just one little one Making Time for Me I still find my self struggling with feeling guilty when I try to make time to foster new hobbies. The best I can tell is this guilt is caused by feelings of not feeling like I am spending enough quality time with the wife. When I say quality, I mean time where we are both engaged in a mutually fulfilling activity. Right now, when we have time together it is usually after the little one is in b…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/19 08:16 PM
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I was hovering around 20% body fat for the past 10 years and recently dropped to around 15%. The biggest changes I have noticed have been in my own mindset. Loosing the weight helped me build discipline and better habits that have spilled over to other parts of my life. I will admit that all my weight loss was not only due to those better habits, but it was a key factor in success. I also noticed that once I hit 15% I was able to really see a difference in my physic and that reward has helped me…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/19 08:31 PM
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OYS 19 36, 5’9”, 177 lbs, 14% BF, Married 6 years, together 10, just one little one The Story So Far Feeling Fine. Physical Started a new workout routine that focus on volume and frequency. Working out 5 days a week now and it is glorious. Energy levels are way up despite pushing my self more. It is also amazing how the amount of fucks I give about things is on a downward trend. I wish I had started this routine sooner, but I know my body would not have been able to handle it before now. Mental …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/19 12:41 AM
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OYS 18 Nothing has changed, yet everything has changed. No significant progress on the physical front, but no notable backslides. I still struggle each day to maintain a strict routine and build better habits. My wife is still cheery, but at times a neurotic mess. I am still not sure what I want in life, but what I do not want is becoming more clear each day. So what has changed? I decided that I can no longer take care of my elderly father and that he needs to move out of my house. He has been …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/19 11:49 PM
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OYS 17 35, 5’9”, 180 lbs, 14% BF, Married 6 years, together 10, just one little one Current Lifts: Bench – 170 x 5, Squat-205 x 5, Overhead Press-107.5 x 5, Deadlift – 260 x 5, Bent over Row – 150 x 5 The Story So Far Stepped away from OYS for a month to focus less on mental masturbation and more on action. Building Habits Still a daily struggle to maintain a solid routine. All the tasks are there, but I want my days to flow like a fine swiss watch. Right now they are like a janky 1830s pump. No…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/19 09:55 PM
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OYS 16 35, 5’9”, 187 lbs, 18% BF, Married 6 years, together 10, just one little one Current Lifts: Bench – 170 x 5, Squat-205 x 5, Overhead Press-107.5 x 5, Deadlift – 260 x 5, Bent over Row – 150 x 5 The Story So Far Work is back to being stupid, a major project at home is quickly becoming a reality, and I am still a bitch. Is this a re-run? Building Habits Grinding away here. Nothing new to report. My Health Diet is on track. I have not weight myself recently, but I am down another belt notch …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/19 05:28 PM
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OYS 15 35, 5’9”, 187 lbs, 18% BF, Married 6 years, together 10, just one little one Current Lifts: Bench – 170 x 5, Squat-202.5 x 5, Overhead Press-107.5 x 5, Deadlift – 260 x 5, Bent over Row – 147.5 x 5 The Story So Far Same song, different week. I do have to say, the ADHD meds are pretty awesome. It's like my mind I went from being a raging brush fire to a butane torch. Building Habits Nothing new to report here except things are going well. Just need to keep working at it and not get lazy. M…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/19 04:12 PM
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OYS 14 35, 5’9”, 187 lbs, 18% BF, Married 6 years, together 10, just one little one Current Lifts: Bench – 170 x 5, Squat-200 x 5, Overhead Press-107.5 x 5, Deadlift – 260 x 5, Bent over Row – 145 x 5 The Story So Far So it has been 3 weeks since I last posted in an OYS thread. I have been basically hiding while I focused on trying to get my shit together with no external stressors in place. I knew what needed to be done, and avoided posting while I let my hamster spin by thinking "I am not gett…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/19 07:19 AM
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Oddly enough, I was thinking about the container analogy as I wrote my post. It describe what I am letting myself get away with perfectly. Thanks for the tip about keto. I did not realize it helped so much with hunger.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 10:45 PM
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OYS 13 35, 5’9”, 188 lbs, 18% BF, Married 6 years, together 10, just one little one Current Lifts: Bench – 170 x 5, Squat-190 x 5, Overhead Press-107.5 x 5, Deadlift – 245 x 5, Bent over Row – 140 x 5 Week in review And so it ended, not with a bang, but a whimper. My demanding project at work is done and my temporary promotion is coming to an end. Things are returning to normal, and I am here asking "Now what?". I feel like a rubber band that just snapped back into place after being stretched to…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 07:48 PM
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OYS 12 35, 5’9”, 189 lbs, 18% BF, Married 6 years, together 10, just one little one Current Lifts: Bench – 170 x 5, Squat-190 x 5, Overhead Press-105 x 5, Deadlift – 235 x 5, Bent over Row – 140 x 5 Week in review Took a break from OYS last week due to work travel messing EVERY thing up. I have to say, it has been an odd two weeks. A massive amount of bullshit went down at the office, had to go out of town only to return the following week with the realization that all the bullshit was caused by…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/19 08:01 PM
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It is really true that women want guys to "just get it", but I guess that's where outcome independence is key. The only way men get it is by trying, failing, and trying again. I wish I had internalized this when I was younger, instead of learning the hard way while stuck in a marriage, but hey, gotta make the best of what you got. Incremental improvement is better than continuing to suck, and if the wife cant see that, well that is her problem. I like the action hero image, never really thought …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 11:50 PM
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OYS 11 35, 5’9”, 189 lbs, 18% BF, Married 6 years, together 10, just one little one Current Lifts: Bench – 170 x 5, Squat-190 x 5, Overhead Press-105 x 5, Deadlift – 235 x 5, Bent over Row – 140 x 5 Week in review Imagine yourself swimming in the ocean, exhausted from swimming so long and you finally see land on the horizon. Only problem is that you need to swim through rocks in choppy water. But hey, you have come this far so you just need to dig deep and make the final push. You summon all you…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 04:59 PM
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OYS 10 35, 5’9”, 190 lbs, 18% BF, Married 6 years, together 10, just one little one Current Lifts: B – 170 x 5, S-190 x 5, OH-105 x 5, DL – 225 x 5, BR – 130 x 5 Week in review Still crazy, still swamped, blah blah blah. I am pretty much done worrying about it. Things are suppose to get better soon, but you know what, I hope they don't. I get lazy when things are easy and I like the sense of fulfillment that is coming out of all this shit. The only real problem is the physical tole from the lack…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/19 11:49 PM
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It is really begging to feel that way unfortunately. I do not know if that was his intent or if he was just running his mouth. He is pretty useless, but I do not think he would be that malicious toward me.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/19 04:27 AM
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He has health issues and some one needs to keep on eye on him. I am the lucky one who gets to do it because the rest of his family is dead or estranged. I could put him in an assisted living facility, but I am pretty sure he would kill himself within a year or two of being admitted. And no, I am not being dramatic here. He refuses to live in assisted living because of his stupid pride and self loathing. He did not overtly coerce me into letting him live with us, but I always remember conversatio…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/19 08:02 PM
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OYS 9 35, 5’9”, 191 lbs, 18% BF, Married 6 years, together 10, just one little one Current Lifts: B – 170 x 5, S-187x 5, OH-103 x 5, DL – 220 x 5, BR – 13 x 5 Week in review The broken record keeps playing, work is still life with some stuff in-between. A critical deadline got pushed to the left a month so I am scrambling to meet that this week, but after that I will finally be in the clear. Building Habits Treading water here. Haven't really slipped up much, but sleep is still messed up from wo…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/19 06:26 PM
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I started 60 DoD 2019 with too many goals and was not really going anywhere with them After a few weeks I cut down to three goals and I think it worked out ok. I focused on lifting, diet, and building my frame. One thing I did learn while doing this is I need to focus on not sucking before I can really worry about being attractive, building my frame, or developing a mission. A quick recap of my goals, and the outcomes - Lifting – Continue to lift Monday, Wednesday and Friday morning. Improve my …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/19 03:29 PM
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OYS 8 35, 5’9”, 191.5 lbs, 18% BF, Married 6 years, together 10, just one little one Current Lifts: B – 170 x 5, S-187x 5, OH-103 x 5, DL – 220 x 5, BR – 13 x 5 Week in review Same song, same dance as last week. Typical days been work, home to take care of family, work, sleep. I realize I am starting to sound like a broken record, but work is ridiculous right now. Building Habits Lack of sleep is causing some bad habits to creep back in under the guise of "I have bee working so hard, so I earned…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/19 08:24 PM
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OYS 7 35, 5’9”, 193.5 lbs, 19% BF, Married 6 years, together 10, just one little one Current Lifts: B – 170 x 5, S-180 x 5, OH-100 x 5, DL – 220 x 5, BR – 133 x 5 Week in review Burning the candle at both ends at work is starting to take its tole. I just feel lucky that my current situation is an outlier and not the norm. Building Habits No progress here. Its damn frustrating that when things get difficult working on my goals goes to shit. I am trying to stay focused on my goals, but I am starti…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/19 11:17 PM
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OYS 6 35, 5’9”, 194 lbs, 21% BF, Married 6 years, together 10, just one little one Current Lifts: B – 170 x 5, S-180 x 5, OH-100 x 5, DL – 220 x 5, BR – 133 x 5 Week in review Still stuck in autopilot while work is insane. I did take some time off for a family trip to an amusement park that went well. Everyone had fun and we have some great memories of little ones first major outing. The trip reminded me how much I hate this autopilot mode and highlighted how my relationship with my wife is in a…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/19 08:50 PM
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OYS 5 35, 5’9”, 196 lbs, 21% BF, Married 6 years, together 10, just one little one Current Lifts: B – 170 x 5, S-172 x 5, OH-100 x 5, DL – 215 x 5, BR – 130 x 5 Week in review Work has been so busy that I am relying on autopilot for a lot of things in my life right now. I have not had to work this hard for this long in ages and it’s reminded me that I have gotten soft as fuck and I have no idea how people with families work long hours consistently. At this point, it feels like I am just treading…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 03:21 PM
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OYS 4 35, 5’9”, 200 lbs, 21% BF, Married 6 years, together 10, just one little one Current Lifts: B – 170 x 5, S-165 x 5, OH-100 x 5, DL – 210 x 5, BR – 125 x 5 Week in review Missed posting on OYS last week, did not make any progress on any of my goals while away from home for work for about a week and a half, wife went through hell with our toddler while I was gone and I manage to not let it get to me too much, and I got fatter; but but hey, I have been doing a fair amount of self reflection, …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 07:59 PM
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I was originally going to argue about what I am doing and not doing, but that wouldn't change the fact you are right.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/19 09:15 PM
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Thanks for the heads up about the formatting. I look into streamlining it. Is my writing style problematic too? Its a little stream of conciousness, but that seems to be how I process stuff while writing. As for the habits, you are right. I was trying to tie them to the 60 DoD thing, but they need to be pared down. I actually read the recomended post before youbmentioned it and I have been taking it to heart.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/19 09:03 PM
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OYS 3 Late as fuck, but better late than never 35, 5’9”, 198 lbs, 21% BF according to Navy method, white collar professional within a large government bureaucracy. Married 6 years, together 10, just one little one Current Lifts: B – 165 x 5, S-165x 5, OH-100 x 5, DL – 210 x 5, BR – 125 x 5 Completed Reading: NNMNG x 4, WISNIFG x2, Book of Pook x 1, Way of Superior Man x 1, MMSLP x 3 Currently reading: Bang Mission: Still trying to figure this one out Current Goal: Be the best version of myself W…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/19 05:26 AM
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OYS 2 35, 5’9”, 198 lbs, 21% BF according to Navy method, white collar professional within a large government bureaucracy. Married 6 years, together 10, just one little one Current Lifts: B – 165 x 5, S-160 x 5, OH-100 x 5, DL – 200 x 5, BR – 115 x 5 Completed Reading: NNMNG x 4, WISNIFG x2, Book of Pook x 1, Way of Superior Man x 1, MMSLP x 3 Currently reading: Bang Mission: Still trying to figure this one out Current Goal: Be the best version of myself Week In Review: Shit came off the rails l…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/19 05:19 AM
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You are right on all accounts here, especially about the progress, but there is that saying “The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now."
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/19 04:09 AM
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OYS 1 35, 5’9”, 198 lbs, 21% BF according to Navy method, white collar professional within a large government bureaucracy. Married 6 years, together 10, just one little one Current Lifts: B – 160 x 5, S-155 x 5, OH-100 x 5, DL – 200 x 5, BR – 115 x 5 Completed Reading: NNMNG x 4, WISNIFG x2, Book of Pook x 1, Way of Superior Man x 1, MMSLP x 3 Currently reading: nothing Not sure where to begin with all of this, but this is not the first time I have posted to OYS. A few years ago I tried it out u…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/19 03:50 PM
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I am in. Updated to include actual goals - Lifting – Continue to lift Monday, Wednesday and Friday morning. Improve my lifts by getting a minimum of 6 hours of sleep each night. Diet - Start counting calories every day. Current goal is to eat enough to maintain my current weight. Hygiene – Improve my smile with whitening strips Style - Improve my style by investing in a new pair of casual shoes, getting rid of clothes that do not fit me well or are too old (5 years or older) and slowly rebuild m…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/19 08:36 PM
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