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No I did not file or serve yet
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/24 03:53 PM
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I understand that. I will still be paying for our home while she lives there until we get divorced and sell it so basically I will be paying for 2 places at once would not this make it seen not abusive? We have been married for 5 years minus 2 months.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/24 03:33 PM
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State is IL Mine is 140k. Hers is only 24k from VA Disability she does not work at the moment.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/24 03:11 PM
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Step by step... things are happening. I am reading more, I joined the gym today, I also attended men's support group last night, focusing more on my job and learning new skills and buying myself some nice things that I needed and I had them on hold for a long time. Hopefully me and her will speak again this weekend to have a closure! I know the holiday period is gonna to be the hardest so I am going to do my best to prepare things for myself to do and stay busy during the Christmas/New- Year's p…
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/23 02:11 AM
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I would not be able to trust her again! if you take her in what is your guarantee that she won't do the same again especially that you said everything was going fine and yet she still cheated what will happen if things won't go well?
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/23 12:35 AM
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James, thank you for ALL your great suggestions and recommendations. I actually started listening to "No More Mr. Nice Guy". I am discovering a lot about myself and that I am indeed suffering from the "The nice Guy syndrome" which sucks but accepting the facts is the first step to recover. My wife comes home when I am away at work and leaves before I get back home which really breaks my heart. I am trying to stay strong and not talk to her. We have not talked/texted in more than 2 days now. (I k…
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/23 01:35 AM
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Hey, thank you. I hope I can move on as fast as possible. Life sucks the way it is right now
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/23 01:13 AM
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Gotcha! 2 months is not as bad as I expected. I hope I will be out of this in 2 months. The thing that pisses me off is that my wife has it good. No one is cheating, she just cannot get over herself, if she does not get what she wants exactly every single fucking time. Hell will break loose.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/23 12:11 AM
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That sucks! Well I'm glad you got rid of her. My situation is pretty similar, I pay all the bills and she pays for groceries and cleaning which she barely does. I do almost half of the cleaning on top of working. Except mine does not have any kids. How did you get her to leave?
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/23 12:01 AM
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I'm sorry, that is cowardly of her to do! Mine feels so angry when I ignore her like now. I wanna push all her buttons before the final goodbye.
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/23 11:55 PM
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Definitely, reading this sub helped a lot. She lives by her accusations. It took me 5 years to get over the false accusations and stop believing that I am a piece of shit as she always says. She is clinically depressed/with sever anger management issues. Yeah I am going to record it once it happens. We are just avoiding each other now (I don't feel like talking to her at all) but once it happens I am gonna record it so I can laugh about it later on. Thanks brother.
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/23 11:46 PM
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Thank you man. We are still in the same house together and the divorce talk is about to start and I am struggling to just show up to work. No will, no energy to do anything. I barely eat. I stopped working out. I literally do nothing. It fucking sucks
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/23 11:34 PM
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Yes, it is about sex and me "not making her feel wanted in bed". She even said that right after we had sex and I did more than I usually do in bed. How I am not "like an animal in bed" but on the other side whenever we have good sex and she enjoys it more than me she is happy and telling me what a great performance. I think she is a sex addict at this point and I am not and this fact is not sitting well with her and that's why she keeps on blowing up every now and then. Add this to the fact that…
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/23 04:52 PM
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I am sorry you are going through divorce. It is a very tough time. I am going through one right now. What I did with the picture I bought an external hard drive and moved all of them every single one, moved messages and emails to the drive as well. Don't leave anything that reminds you of her on your phone. I hope this helps. Good luck brother and stay strong. It will pass
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/23 01:07 PM
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I'm sorry you are going through it. I am about to start the divorce process in my 5 years relationship (no kids) - She works part time and I work full time and I commute for 3 hours to work (both ways), do all the shores at home myself since she is messy and does not like cleaning; taking all sort of verbal/emotional abuse from her and I love her so much but you know what I love myself more and I think you everyone should. You realized that you love yourself and this is very important. Keep your…
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/23 02:21 AM
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I am 99% it is mine but the issue is that she has BPD and PTSD and it is getting in the way big time. She takes a little fight over a simple thing and turn it into a huge fight.
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/23 03:32 AM
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Thanks and best of luck to you on your journey
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/23 02:48 AM
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Thank you for all the useful information and resources. I will be reading this comment over and over multiple times to get the best out of it.
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/23 02:47 AM
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Definitely what I do or say is triggering her. I am not going to stay. I spent 4 years with her and spent a lot of holidays upset and miserable because we were fighting over stupid things. I think I should appreciate that she is coming further with divorce and take it as a chance to start over without all the drama. I appreciate your advice.
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/23 02:03 AM
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She is clinically diagnosed with depression, PTSD and bpd but after a huge in-patient session last year she started taking her meds and I thought things will get better but unfortunately she is stuck focusing on the unimportant little differences that we have and forgetting about the big picture of the things that we have together as a couple and she is stubborn with her opinions and will never forgive any single mistake. I think enough is enough at this point. Life is miserable with her and I m…
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/23 01:53 AM
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Thank you. I completely understand my problem of not standing up to myself and always caving to her needs during fights which got me into this position. After talking to people I realized that I am not doing anything wrong and I MUST stand my ground and not giving up to her like YOU said. I will be focusing on this from now and on. Thank you for your advice!
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/23 01:13 AM
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