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Being utterly convinced of beliefs via contextomized data is a massive problem within the Manosphere. It's all cherry-picked to death to create an alternative narrative that unfortunately tricks a lot of people who are unaware of these marketing tricks. It's sad.
/r/ExRedPill05/12/23 09:28 PM
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I think they mean trope.
/r/ExRedPill05/12/23 09:26 PM
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Maybe r/GuyCry too for the emotional stuff?
/r/ExRedPill04/12/23 11:07 PM
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Why can't you talk about it here?
/r/ExRedPill04/12/23 09:22 PM
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I had higher hopes for this, but he rambles on without going into detail about the dark patterns marketing that's being used on these channels. These "influencers" are financially motivated to create content that enables doom scrolling, misinformation, sensationalism, extremism, fear, etc. They have very little motivation to telling you how you're being tricked and how biases, cognitive distortions, and fallacies are being weaponized against the viewers for profit. Doing so would cut into their …
/r/ExRedPill04/12/23 01:32 AM
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I wish I could upvote this to a million.
/r/ExRedPill03/12/23 12:44 PM
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I wouldn't say it's healthy because even initially they were promoting non-consensual Master and Slave dynamics (called the Capitan and First Mate back in the day), but it was never violent. Not once in the years I hung around them before I tried to leave them all in 2016ish did any of them ever speak of violence against women. So the rise in violent acts is new. The rise in abusive mind control, identity brainwashing, etc. Like none of this is what RedPill was and I think that's what newer gene…
/r/ExRedPill03/12/23 12:54 AM
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All the ones I would have named have gotten de-platformed, one died, others have been arrested for obvious reasons. The recent 2 I would have said also got the axe. Thankfully I escaped this madness in 2015, so I only watch things by actual educated people with IQs above room temperature. 🤓
/r/ExRedPill02/12/23 11:26 PM
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Because believe it or not, RedPill wasn't this violent before. It promoted punishments via Pavlov-level stuff, but it was never about "SHUT UP, BITCH! OR I'LL CUT YOU WITH MY MACHETE!"
/r/ExRedPill02/12/23 11:24 PM
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Yes! I remember talking to several men who did not realize they were passing around edited studies! You're right!
/r/ExRedPill02/12/23 10:38 PM
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American conservatives have not been like this for decades or longer. This is all a manifestation of Trump causing chaos, triangulation, and division like a textbook malignant narcissist and wanna-be dictator. They all use the same playbook. I remember playing video games with my male friends and we'd, too, discuss the sex wars, but it never got so violent as it did until after 2015 (that's the time I got sucked up into it as well, though thankfully I saw some janky things I didn't like and left…
/r/ExRedPill02/12/23 10:37 PM
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Isolation is key for proper cult indoctrination. Removing the possibility of love from the equation would also keep him IN "the Matrix," wouldn't it? The constant quest for money and fighting for a place at the top is classic. Good ones!
/r/ExRedPill02/12/23 10:31 PM
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I cry a LOT more than I use to because it is extremely frustrating and stressful. I feel traumatized. I completely understand. I'm very sorry you're going through that. And you might be. I ended up with severe C-PTSD after my Red Pillers got done ravaging me to bones. Right now he's basically got half the internet telling him he's not a "man" unless he does X, Y, Z. Even if we loved him deeply before, they're targeting his insecurities like the beauty industry does to us. It's clearly a psyop si…
/r/ExRedPill02/12/23 01:05 PM
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Of which they're all allegedly splitting a cut of the profits in an effort to fool F&F simps. They've proven time and time again they're men screwing over men but gaslighting them to make them believe they're on their side. Sus AF.
/r/ExRedPill01/12/23 04:49 PM
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Right, literally everything he's exhibiting can be tied to getting recruited into a cult using identity-based brainwashing. The dissonance causes them to fiercely protect the narrative as a trauma response, according to the professionals who have assisted me with my own case (I was forced in using sexual exploitation, trafficking, extortion, intimidation, etc.) You can't attack it, you have to get him to talk about how he's rationalizing it. He interested, just stay grounded. Ask him to explain …
/r/ExRedPill01/12/23 03:27 PM
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It's amazing what happens when you strategically and unethically edit content to remove parts of the conversation that don't confirm the biases you're trying to weaponize against your audience, huh?
/r/ExRedPill01/12/23 12:56 PM
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That's some great self-reflection! 🖤
/r/ExRedPill30/11/23 09:29 PM
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Brother, I didn't insult you, nor did I insult Red Pillers who only used it for "self improvement." I was very specific with my insult. If you're not part of that, then you're offense is on you. Red Pillers are not all the same, but it doesn't take away from the fact that numerous experts have called out the program as ignorant, contextomized hogwash.
/r/ExRedPill30/11/23 01:07 PM
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Right, but then watch what he does if you use those same "science" journals and studies that counter what they're brainwashing into him. They become so enraged by the dissonance that many cannot function. It's a really hard place to be mentally because you WANT to help them, but Red Pill drives them further into insanity by isolating them with cult argot. It's so sad that people have to continue to divide and prop up old dysfunctional ideas just to avoid changing into better, more well-rounded p…
/r/ExRedPill29/11/23 02:06 PM
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I think sooooo many people to visit the sub lack the understanding that "science" is what drove Red Pill. They threw whatever study at someone to justify and validate weak excuses to abuse women instead of just learning how they work and working with women having more autonomy. They act like they're owed things without playing their "role" of the provider and protector. They wanted, nay DEMANDED, one-sided relationships and then got mad that women didn't want to participate after they had been t…
/r/ExRedPill29/11/23 01:56 PM
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I'm pretty sure she's paid to say all that garbage. She was saying the exact same shit that the recruiters from my generation were saying.
/r/ExRedPill28/11/23 11:17 PM
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Especially when you can buy that many for like $5 on bot sites. I used them a lot when I was trying to make my case to my team about some janky shit with Manosphere coaches. That's how we caught them buying it. Most of their traffic wasn't organic, it was bought. I'm pretty sure most of Andrew Tate's are too. The numbers he gets just don't make sense. This whole thing was an internet joke that got way out of control and the Capitans have decided to go down with the ship, I guess.
/r/ExRedPill28/11/23 11:14 PM
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It'll always been something. ALWAYS. It's called "moving the goal post" within narcissistic abuse situations, which the Manosphere basically was. It's a trap they deploy to always keep you chasing their affection. They created the demand for Red Pill, got ya'll hooked, and now you can't stand anything less than Madonna herself. Everyone else is a whore. I dunno though, I was raised by my Grandparents and have never fit in because I was a 'different era' kid, having a lot of interest in Crooner m…
/r/ExRedPill28/11/23 11:09 PM
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I believe that many of them are in an older type of thinking of a woman being a virgin meant some magical thinking and it was going to solve all the relationship issues if they were a virgin. Obviously this isn't true, but when you're raised with that idea, it's hard to look beyond it. Personally, I waited into my early 20's too. Mine was due to my faith, but also because I was deathly afraid that an accidental family was going to derail my goals and ambitions. I wanted a family, but I wanted to…
/r/ExRedPill28/11/23 06:24 PM
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Yes, that is what a shill is. Which is against the rules of the sub. This sub is openly against Red Pill and talks about the reasons why in great depth. So much so that academia is on this side because millions of people witnessed first hand how contextomized and slaughtered "facts" can become distorted to promote a dangerous agenda. Please keep in mind, many people have lost their lives because of this cult.
/r/ExRedPill28/11/23 01:58 PM
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Okay, well if you're just going to be an aimless shill, then you're not really here to engage in quality conversation. The unfortunate thing about "Red Pill" is that there was a good group and a bad group. One didn't instruct others to harm others, the other did. Then they splintered even further from there. One taught about abuse, codependency, how to fix it, etc. from actual professionals in their field, the other complied various books, most of them not from professionals in their field of st…
/r/ExRedPill28/11/23 01:55 PM
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Can you please lay it out? Who did you watch and read? Be specific. And no, most of these self-proclaimed coaches never charged. Their damages were via proxy from their channels and what they instructed.
/r/ExRedPill28/11/23 01:48 PM
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Man, I'm so sorry to hear all of this. Every story I hear just breaks my heart. To know they do it for profit pisses me off to no end. I don't really have much advice other than to go to therapy as it seems to have impacted your life a great deal. Steve Hassan's books helped me do the walk back that helped me escape when I had friends trying to coerce me into it all. They're full of information about cults, why they 'work' but only temporarily, how to heal, the brain stuff, and all that. Maybe t…
/r/ExRedPill27/11/23 09:49 PM
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Last I heard 2 major ones got deplatformed, but I haven't confirmed yet. Apparently it was Fresh and Fit and Pearly Davis. They were both very trashy channels. Edit: "The Tragic Tale of JustPearlyThings | The Un-Pickable Pick-Me" https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=x81gguSPGcQ
/r/ExRedPill27/11/23 01:32 PM
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It's because it's an obvious shill. This sub has been around since the beginning and every time a coach gets canceled, the shills and trolls show up. Until he names people and coaches he learned from, we cannot confirm what content was taught. Most of the "good" Red Pill wasn't actually Red Pill.
/r/ExRedPill27/11/23 01:22 PM
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Yes, it's called cult argot. They do this often because they know they're doing bad things.
/r/ExRedPill27/11/23 01:17 PM
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Right, but that's not "Red Pill." That's simply realistic and encompasses more human behavioral wisdoms. The problem is the data points Red Pill taught were not connected to their correct counterparts with the label. This has already been debunked by people actually in their fields many times over. This is exactly why they're all being canceled because people already figured out what it all really is. So can you specifically name people you learned from?
/r/ExRedPill27/11/23 01:16 PM
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The idea of the redpill isn’t to learn how to control and manipulate others, it’s how to become a person such that others want to be with you, respect you and listen to you. At least this is what i have gained from it. You appear as if you learned an older version that hasn't been talked about since around 2015. What coaches and sites did you use, if you don't mind me asking. That would be able to help us discern on whether you're a shill or someone who actually benefited from a much older versi…
/r/ExRedPill27/11/23 01:14 PM
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I was in a terrible relationship with a Red Piller for 8 long years that had a severe impact on my mental well-being. My therapist explained that it was a 100% a form of narcissistic abuse and not any form of "codependency" eliminating behaviors, which created an addictive and Stockholm Syndrome-like bond with him without me knowing. These experiences are well-known across the board. Very rarely are the women happy. Throughout the abuse, I went from being successful and accomplished to feeling l…
/r/ExRedPill27/11/23 01:11 PM
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I do believe we call that collective gaslighting and propaganda. They have a motivation to continue to spread this narrative and until that motivation goes away, we won't see the end of it anytime soon.
/r/ExRedPill24/11/23 08:35 PM
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This is great, but it's wild that even in AI his voice is obnoxious. 😅
/r/ExRedPill23/11/23 10:15 PM
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OP, on top of this, understanding that her brain is literally fighting against her will help you stay calm. If she's been bonded, she'll fight you with everything she's got, especially if she doesn't have anywhere to go or have money. Patience is key.
/r/ExRedPill21/11/23 10:19 PM
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You are very welcome! I've intentionally designed it in a way that is truly helpful: no ads, no screaming and drama, no editing interviews to create fake sensationalism, no hooks, no relabeled terminology, etc. I hope that it's beneficial to you in your own personal journey (despite me making boring to our dopamine receptors 🤭).
/r/ExRedPill17/11/23 04:38 PM
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You are very welcome. I've been reading similar stories for years and it's awful that so many people got caught up. I think telling people what happened could help others out and hopefully before their life is utterly destroyed too. I'm praying I'm right.
/r/ExRedPill17/11/23 04:35 PM
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