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Virtually any mistake you make literally doesnt matter, most importantly the ones you never bothered to try
/r/seduction31/07/22 09:43 PM
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Lol what else do you need, for her to rip your pants off? Dude... this is either fanfiction or you need to grow up (I mean that in a positive way)
/r/seduction07/07/22 11:06 AM
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Sure but I don't give out life advice so vague that it could land the people taking it any number of unhelpful places
/r/seduction05/07/22 11:27 PM
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Then with all respect you shouldn't have made this post. If you want to offer advice on physical improvement processes then links are a must
/r/seduction05/07/22 09:41 PM
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Sure the concept makes sense, got a link to material?
/r/seduction05/07/22 09:39 PM
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Do you have resources beyond "kegels"?
/r/seduction05/07/22 09:35 PM
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This is a dumb rant, but the hard look is that woman like feeling useful. A project they can "fix" that other women visually feel attracted to makes them feel better about themselves, even though in reality they are being used. People lie to themselves all day long about everything (intentionally and unintentionally). This is just yet another example. But if you want on the train you don't need to be a douche, just learn to project confidence and don't compromise on the shit that defines you. It…
/r/seduction16/04/22 09:28 AM
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Yeah pretty much this. Anyone who seeks physical perfection on a daily basis is either hunting or posing. Women don't need to hunt usually so... yeah. That bit about ratings that guys throw out is so true. Everyone is always getting a 9 or a 10. ALWAYS.
/r/seduction27/01/22 09:04 AM
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Sorry dude you need tough love. You are a simp, just a simp who isn't even playing the game. No amount of worrying about it, will fix it, you need to fix your self respect issues first and foremost. Continue therapy... focus more on it, maybe look into CBT or whatever else they recommend. It's impossible to be 26 and have the regrets of a 40 year old man, it's just a stupid selfish thing to say. At 26 you have a whole world of possibilities, especially when your statements about lifting, being t…
/r/seduction03/08/21 01:25 PM
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Thankfully I was never personally given this advice, but yeah that's just insanity... but I have heard it many times.
/r/seduction14/07/21 02:57 PM
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"Alpha" and "Beta" doesn't exist the way it's thrown around. But beyond that, yes this is often the case. They don't even know they are doing it... it's this constant fight between wanting excitement and wanting comfort. Comfort is relaxing but too much of it becomes boring. Excitement is not boring, but includes risk. They want both, but after awhile comfort always wins out. If you don't find a way to give them comfort without sacrificing who you are, you will lose. If you they won't let you, i…
/r/seduction14/07/21 01:19 PM
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Sigh... This may be true for you, but sounds like a miserable way to live life
/r/seduction13/04/21 05:31 AM
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Belief in free will is to atheists as God is to a theist. A creature comfort giving people stability but in reality an obvious fallactious elephant standing in the room.
/r/seduction31/03/21 10:13 AM
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Lol that is meant to be proof of what? It's a God Damn editorial.
/r/seduction31/03/21 10:11 AM
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Learn to accept yourself both the good and the bad. Then learn to spend your time improving the aspects of the bad that you accepted but know you can change with time invested.
/r/seduction25/11/20 10:02 AM
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Dude you had a short term dating experience that went bad and are extrapolating from that to all future possible dating experiences in order to justify giving up. Frankly that means you have a weak ego and still have work to do. Also you don't improve yourself to get women, you do it for yourself as part of the only journey you will ever get in order to increase your own happiness and sense of well being. Until you understand and own that, no self respecting women looking for an honest long term…
/r/seduction09/06/20 10:54 AM
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As much as there is some dumb trash peddled on here about the secrets of "unlocking" women plus a ton of repetitive posts saying the same shit... this definitely goes on the trash pile. Sure life is more than this, and sure love and trust are a major components of a long term relationship, but in the real world that's not how most relationships are started. There is indeed advice to be had about how to present one's self in such a way as to make these initial contacts happen and how to foster th…
/r/seduction29/04/20 05:10 PM
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There is what people should do, and what they actually do. Most people have zero self awareness, which often causes discrepancy between the two.
/r/seduction20/04/20 04:40 PM
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Intermittent fasting will change your life regardless of how much fat you want to lose. Just do it and watch your identity change.
/r/seduction19/03/20 09:36 AM
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People in this thread interpreting this as an opener 😂
/r/seduction23/02/20 11:04 AM
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I don't think Brad Pitt is very happy on the inside...
/r/seduction16/01/20 10:05 AM
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That just means they are just inheritantly boring. No way to save them
/r/seduction06/12/19 10:23 PM
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It make sense of course. If all you do is chase, what are you offering? "I have sex to give!" ... and she's like "Ok....". Looks, Recognition, Humor, Power, Money are the classic attractive traits and they do work pure and simple. However most of these are just accelerants and without the confidence and self assurity to back it up, you will still only attract a fraction of your potential pool. The funny thing though is working on your goals will naturally make you more confident if you really co…
/r/seduction26/11/19 10:08 AM
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Stop seeking safe spaces and deal with reality. Maybe she was right and the sex was average. You could probably get better. Maybe she is being a bitch, let it roll like water. Either way if you can't handle this shit, how do expect to improve your skills? How the fuck do you handle honesty in a committed relationship?
/r/seduction21/11/19 01:50 PM
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Then you are weak
/r/seduction21/11/19 01:48 PM
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Yes I tend to agree, especially with her comment that "she talked it over with her friends", because I've personally witnessed girls do this in groups where they align to acceptability, but how they would actually act in a given situation is different (guys do this to, we just generally don't talk about it in big groups... in fact I think we tend to do the opposite and claim we would do shit that we would likely never do).
/r/seduction14/11/19 10:04 AM
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I'm curious, what activities,clubs,hobbies do you participate in where people could meet you "naturally"? I agree with your basic statement, but to be honest a lot of "pretty" girls I've known, don't participate in a lot outside their daily routine and meeting friends for drinks,clubbing,whatever social event. Naturally not all of them, I've known a few who were very outgoing.
/r/seduction14/11/19 10:02 AM
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Stop
/r/seduction13/11/19 07:27 AM
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It's in their culture on how they dress and maintain themselves.
/r/seduction08/11/19 08:55 AM
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Was his post /s? I don't even know anymore...
/r/seduction08/11/19 08:52 AM
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I'm not sure about the dead animals or the hooters pics, but if you filter in this way you are pretty much only guaranteed to get mainly the guys who are self obsessed with how they look and focus on image before all else. But hey we all seem to willingly choose paths that trip us, just because it "feels" good in the moment.
/r/seduction08/11/19 08:51 AM
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Not trying hard enough in real life? /jk idk
/r/seduction08/11/19 08:48 AM
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Sorry buddy them's the brakes unless you get good enough to interest the interesting ones. It sucks, but railing against is the same as not playing the game.
/r/seduction06/11/19 05:10 PM
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Girls don't want an interview, they want excitement. What the one guy in this thread said about "you look.." Is OK, but don't force something you don't feel (though it can be used as a crutch to start). The point is to make assertions and observations and share opinions. Info will flow along with this. One of my personal rules is to avoid the question "what do you do" in the first conversation, and if I land that then I know I have something going. Before you say "I have nothing to say!", I'll c…
/r/seduction06/11/19 01:32 PM
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Better would be to take her hand as she does it, say that, and then let go. People are missing the true power of push/pull. It's not about emotional manipulation, it's about the chase and escalating attraction.
/r/seduction02/11/19 08:38 AM
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No that's your interpretation of her feelings. The reality is these women seek out abusive relationships due to shit in their past, usually growing up. While I agree with your point, that is not what we are seeing here. That is just her excuse to justify her shitty decisions. Her shitty decisions are on display for all, analyse the facts not the position you want to proclaim (which as I said I agree with regardless). Not every action/thought/word said from women is a special key to be pigeonhole…
/r/seduction01/11/19 09:29 AM
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No that’s what she said, which is her ego coming up with excuses about why she chooses abusive relationships.
/r/seduction01/11/19 07:47 AM
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But is really not. This is seduction 101. To deny this is to shoot yourself in the foot.
/r/seduction28/09/19 10:44 AM
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Its not an equivalency concept. Improv is just another tool in the toolbox. If you dont apply it to your goal mixed with other tools then its worthless
/r/seduction26/08/19 10:09 AM
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The correct response
/r/seduction19/08/19 03:47 PM
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Says the guy who decided is such, despite multiple introverts in this post telling you, that you are wrong. God you are monumentally blockheaded, even by Reddit standards.
/r/seduction23/07/19 01:25 PM
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And every time you make a logical leap that has no basis in even hypothesis, let alone data. "Some introverts do wish they could break out of their shell" does not equal "are SHY and don't want to speak their mind". Shell here means "They wish they could give a shit about the conversation, and be as energized as all the other people, but they still would rather end the night and go home and sleep or read a book". You literally keep repeating the same wrong assumptions.
/r/seduction23/07/19 01:08 PM
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HAHAHA based on what? You continue to use that phrase as proof of itself. What a joke.
/r/seduction23/07/19 11:46 AM
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"It's common for". You made up a statement and are using that as the central pillar of your argument. That is shit logic, and why you are getting called out.
/r/seduction23/07/19 11:45 AM
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Being shy is having something to say/do, and being unable to say it due to fear of being rejected. ​ Being introverted is having trouble coming up the thing to say in the first place as you aren't interested in contributing/learning to the topic.
/r/seduction23/07/19 11:44 AM
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Dude you state a self made conclusion as fact: "more common trait among introverts" and base your argument off of it. This is the classic sign of a poor argument based off of logical fallacy. It's never a good look.
/r/seduction23/07/19 08:54 AM
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Oh for fucks sakes, watching cognitive dissonance in action is always entertaining.
/r/seduction23/07/19 08:40 AM
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https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/basics/introversion ​ Sorry it's not a study, but yeah it's saying word for word what we are saying. ​ Maybe you should change your major?
/r/seduction23/07/19 08:33 AM
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Hahaha now I can just see you are being a stubborn idiot. What you feel right now? That's called cognitive dissonance and you are doubling down. Just stop, you are fucking wrong. I'd tell it to your face as introvert, because guess what? I'm not shy at all.
/r/seduction23/07/19 08:25 AM
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Good for them, that is not how the term is viewed in psychology today. Ironically "Urban Dictionary" has the more "accurate" definition in this case. ​ Sorry to say that you are wrong, and you should abort this chain of argument.
/r/seduction23/07/19 08:22 AM
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Read above. ​ These points you describe do not help an introvert at all. They might help an introverted shy guy, or a person with low self esteem. But an introvert does not have these problems by default when it comes to game. They have other problems, like literally not being able to talk on other people's level in a conversation. Not because they are smarter, but because they literally don't give a shit about the subject matter and don't like wasting the time talking about it.
/r/seduction23/07/19 08:00 AM
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and that would be a poor definition.
/r/seduction23/07/19 07:56 AM
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I like people. I like hanging out with people, sometimes a lot. ​ I don't like hanging out with people all the time. I get grumpy, I get tired. I want to do my own thing, I get sick of talking, and I have nothing more to talk to about. I need time to myself. ​ I am not shy. ​ I thought this shit was cleared up like 10 years ago, when every shy guy just liked to take the label "I'm a bit introverted".
/r/seduction23/07/19 07:55 AM
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Yeah I know of course what you mean. Just thought it was worth being explicit about this sort of thing.
/r/seduction30/06/19 09:05 PM
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Yes... Except you have to realize these girls are also acting emotionally unstable and manipulative like the weak guys you are talking about. In the end its a game of wills where everyone loses eventually. If you know when to get off the ride then great, have fun while it lasts, but don't be an idiot and stay for the insanity.
/r/seduction30/06/19 09:08 AM
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Ahh victim blaming. Nice.
/r/seduction16/05/19 11:13 PM
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"Well if you are still single, that sounds like a sign that you should switch."
/r/seduction08/04/19 08:51 PM
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Pretty much this. The rest has an effect, this the wall that most men have given up on.
/r/seduction30/03/19 02:02 PM
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Way to ruin your progress by fixating on what one girl once told you, who doesn't care for being approached. Not every girl is the same, and all of this regardless of success rate is about connecting with your potential audience. That audience will never ever be 100% of who you meet. ​ Let it go or you are your own problem.
/r/seduction11/02/19 07:18 PM
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Exactly. Confidence is not about knowing you will succeed, it's knowing and accepting the consequences if you don't. People who fake confidence and pretend by getting aggressive and being arrogant, fold like a deck of cards when reality hits them in the face. You see this with a famous people quite often who just get by on their looks. Women have generally always sat on this side of the fence, which is why you so often have to deal with "bitchy responses", and flippant putouts. Tinder just makes…
/r/seduction07/02/19 08:44 AM
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No, it's because most of them are way more scared of rejection than you are. Women are used to being treated with kid gloves and getting the attention. When that doesn't go the way they want, it drives them nuts. ​ Seriously you may end up working harder, but that gives you the true power of choice. You don't just choose from what presents itself (and then whine because he cheated on you with his tough guy attitude), you are the actor. You say "Hi, what's your name?". That's what people on here …
/r/seduction06/02/19 07:13 PM
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Haven't you ever experienced that the hotter girls, who on the surface are more confident, are in fact super brittle once challenged? Well this is now expanding to all the girls who lock themselves into their tinder safe space. Sure they get laid, but they also have less and less experience with reality. ​ As a guy you have to put up with more, but if you stay out of that cesspool and focus on real life encounters, you will still give something to women that they don't normally get. That dynamic…
/r/seduction06/02/19 07:07 PM
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As I posted above its the women that are losing here and don't know it. Be genuine, brave, and most importantly fun and you will still have the power.
/r/seduction06/02/19 05:22 PM
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I up voted you except I want to point out that losers in this situation are actually the women.
/r/seduction06/02/19 05:12 PM
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Tldr practice makes perfect, not reading theory. Yup you are right, it's all about the brain.
/r/seduction28/12/18 09:39 AM
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Learn to acclimate to the moods and personalities around you. You can Crack jokes about other people without problem if you measure when, with whom, and how much. If you have nothing to talk about listen. Actually listen. Not to yourself who is probably cringingly trying to figurre out how to respond in order to be as funny as possible. Instead when you have something to say, say it. Say as a statement with room for the other person(s) to engage and expand. And sometimes you will be in a situati…
/r/seduction22/11/18 05:58 PM
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Simply shit. What is your meyer briggs type? Really?
/r/seduction19/11/18 10:01 PM
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Yup you got it right on the nose. In person, I would just slightly smile while saying "good for him" or directly questioning her like you said. Then there is nothing creepy at all about it. You are saying "why the fuck would I care, let's move on if you want to be with me", but without anger. Calling her on her bullshit gives her a chance to respect you and make up her mind how much she wants to chase you. Anything else is a recipe for this shit to continue.
/r/seduction04/11/18 10:15 AM
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That's the right attitude dude. Keep it up and you will improve. Faster than you realize and slower than you hoped. Like everything in life.
/r/seduction03/11/18 05:01 PM
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Reread what you just wrote and examine the weaknesses you listed. Do the exact act that you are afraid to do in order to improve. There is no better cheat code. You weren't approaching and you were getting nowhere without the tinder crutch. You got past the barrier and started approaching... And you got results. It's the same with the other situations you listed. In particular never ever text a girl so much that you disappear off the face of the planet for 2 days thinking about it. Text basic st…
/r/seduction16/09/18 11:47 PM
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You are being a fool sorry. The girl is stringing you along or afraid to tell you that you are creeping her out. This shit is crystal clear, you assumed wrong, move on and get over it. Sorry for the straight talk but you need it.
/r/seduction16/09/18 08:22 PM
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Nice... but I hope that doesn't mean you're too much of a prude.
/r/seduction09/08/18 11:03 AM
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Neediness. Go game the girls you want.
/r/seduction07/08/18 09:48 AM
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I have been out of the direct loop for the last couple of years and in Europe, but I don't get that feeling. Confidence is still king when approaching and closing.
/r/seduction06/08/18 12:43 PM
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While I agree people are a bit brainwashed into believing "looks don't matter"... that video is playing hyper-strawman to make it's case. I mean all he did is prove why those looking to improve their game are wasting their time with online dating. Women there are going to choose looks every SINGLE time, because they can select more easily than in the real world. Everyone is putting themselves on there saying "I want someone ", and they are filtering. In those arena's it's actually shown that wom…
/r/seduction06/08/18 08:48 AM
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Actually this does happen, but only in situations where the female gender is present in disproportionate amounts.
/r/seduction27/07/18 09:36 AM
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Imagine being attractive but not being able to select. I think it's actually a disadvantage for the female gender and am happy to have that choice
/r/seduction27/07/18 09:34 AM
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No they won't because some things are in fact instinct and characteristic to individuals.
/r/seduction27/07/18 09:33 AM
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Always assume attraction. No seriously, you will find out when you talk to them real quick as long as you hold their frame. If your peripheral vision tells you they are looking at you, they probably are. Worst that happens is they politely tell you they are not interested in 99% of the cases. There are lots of semi-BS articles posted on this forum about how tell a girl is interested in you, but the reality is most woman will not twirl their hair or go for double eye contact. That usually happens…
/r/seduction19/07/18 01:18 PM
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Said the guy that suceeded. If you had failed you wouldn't have been on here at all. I mean congrats dude, I am happy for you, but this "risk everything" for your dreams nonsense is poison for society.
/r/seduction22/06/18 06:50 AM
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Then you are doing fine, keep at it and stick to your guns and keep it fun. Still as a person, I wouldn't put much trust in her. That sort of personality is pretty toxic.
/r/seduction14/06/18 09:16 AM
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"If that's the best you can kiss, then I think I'm the one that's out of your league. Maybe you want to try again?". I mean it's a dick thing to say, but it would be the sort of thing that would work with her... her ego is far more fragile than you realise.
/r/seduction14/06/18 09:01 AM
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I'd say you struggling a bit with your looks (sorry its the honest truth... doesn't mean you can't improve it because even the ugliest guys can) and you are probably coming off as more than vulnerable but rather desperate. Honestly the direct game in volume you are applying is better set for after Uni when you are in a city and no one gives a shit. I don't know how big your school is, but sounds like it's small enough that reputation matters. In the real world after school the girls there will b…
/r/seduction08/05/18 08:24 AM
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Guess what? That's still fear of rejection and in fact the largest factor. You aren't special, just another noob. Get out there and practice getting out of your head. It's thought processes like this that people unwittingly use to avoid trying to step out of their comfort zones.
/r/seduction25/04/18 09:17 AM
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Solid FR for People to learn from and I think you acted the best you could the whole way through from the sounds of it. Keep it up 👍
/r/seduction15/04/18 12:35 PM
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I 2nd therapy man, you just jumped off the deep end. Learn this? You learn by doing and you most certainly are not doing.
/r/seduction27/03/18 09:51 AM
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Problem as in flaw in logic 😝
/r/seduction18/03/18 02:57 PM
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Your problem is you assume we are better than what we are. We say we want a soul mate but we act in a way that suggests that is the nice to have.
/r/seduction18/03/18 02:20 PM
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Well all things in moderation. If you can’t take the punch don’t do it. Sometimes though it’s worth standing up for yourself when you get used.
/r/seduction18/03/18 01:51 PM
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You should have yelled something a long the lines of "next time don't put your fucking tongue down my throat if you were just playing".
/r/seduction17/03/18 07:47 PM
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Well said. Perfectionism is just a way to control your situation so you can’t fail. If you only pick the battles you know you can win you won’t grow.
/r/seduction04/03/18 04:46 PM
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Of course dude but it really comes down to you. No amount of material or advice will cause you to want to change. Because at the end of the day that's what it's about... You wanting something different for yourself and then acting on it. Not just whining and wondering what if.
/r/seduction24/02/18 10:27 AM
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Vienna is for sure beautiful, and it's worth a trip without a doubt, but if you are going to drop by just for a day you might have more fun in Prague, especially since end of may it should be warming up. Either way man, good luck and have fun out there! The girls aren't used to it, but they will for the most part appreciate the attention.
/r/seduction19/02/18 03:20 PM
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(assuming your main language is English and you don't speak the local languages) Budapest and Krakow for sure. Viennese girls speak excellent english, but they on average imo will be less receptive to foreigners hitting on them out of the blue. Prague might be a toss up... but it's an amazing city regardless.
/r/seduction19/02/18 02:42 PM
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But that is exactly what you asked and is not really question. Try whatever approach you want, you'll get different types as long as the pictures are good.
/r/seduction10/02/18 05:26 PM
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Humble brag confirmed.
/r/seduction10/02/18 04:06 PM
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Cool story dude... What's your question?
/r/seduction10/02/18 04:00 PM
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Not absolutely but sure we all have our own strengths. Otherwise no one would have value and we would all just be having sex randomly.
/r/seduction02/01/18 02:04 AM
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Good post there dude. Enjoyable and nice practical advice (though ymmv on a few of those).
/r/seduction02/01/18 01:33 AM
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It's never a plus, I can tell you that as someone that has had multiple health problems.
/r/seduction14/12/17 12:44 PM
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If a girl hits you with a line like that, it doesnt matter if she is DTF you, what matters is she is that open to strangers and singled you out with a compliment. Those are the softballs in life you need to learn to respond to with a smile and an open mind. It's not that he had to say something specific, just return the compliment and open a short conversation. If the conversation seems good then ask for a date. Nothing more complicated to it.
/r/seduction13/12/17 11:34 AM
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Big IOI and you fucked up, but we've all been there before so don't sweat it. Just remember that you shitting on yourself is all about you and not the world, and stay out of depression!
/r/seduction12/12/17 10:50 PM
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You have to ask interesting questions, and if they can't play along because they are either bored or not getting that they are being asked to engage, then they are not worth your time.
/r/seduction10/12/17 02:18 AM
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Hardly! We are multidimensional people, and almost no one will appreciate all aspects of us. That doesn't mean be someone you are clearly not, but it does mean perceiving your situation and acting accordingly. That is what game is, and that is what you are glossing over by the "just be yourself" line. Thanks for the feelings bro, but I am good and I am really me.
/r/seduction13/11/17 11:50 AM
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Agreed, definetly not all, many. It's not for me, just pointing out it works.
/r/seduction12/11/17 06:56 PM
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I know who I am and I know enough that being myself all the time is the wrong answer. Good game is about knowing what she wants and embracing the difference between you and her (and the common ground that you both want to knock boots)
/r/seduction12/11/17 03:15 PM
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Most girls are fooled by confidence with poor inner game though. That is why the alpha doesn't give a shit type of guy wins so often. You don't have to play that game, and will do better if you don't, but it does work.
/r/seduction12/11/17 03:11 PM
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Load of crock. My midthirties are the best so far and I haven't had to settle yet.
/r/seduction07/11/17 10:34 PM
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You are humble bragging man. There are a ton of things you could do to grow your self and external awareness. Having hobbies and being good at them does not by itself = self improvement. You are also wallowing a bit in self pity. No one will ever really love you until you are happy being just by yourself.
/r/seduction27/09/17 10:08 AM
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The two go hand in hand, but I've known many people in my life that will seek self improvement without really changing on the inside. If that worked for you that's great, but I don't really feel thats what the original post was about.
/r/seduction26/07/17 02:36 PM
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It doesn't have to be that, those are just examples. Point is that the inner monologue that people have stop them from advancing. They can throw themselves at the gym, their job, women, whatever, but the monologue will hold them back if it's stuck a negative loop.
/r/seduction26/07/17 01:10 PM
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Yes that's true, I can also advocate that. However, self improvement for the goal that you don't really understand, because you are still telling yourself "I am stupid", "I am ugly", "I not good enough" won't cut it. You could say it's just another face of self improvement, but I would say it's not meant in the way most people take it.
/r/seduction26/07/17 12:08 PM
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Excellent post and write up. Couldn't agree more. Most people drown in their inner monologue without every asking why? How else could I think? People should internalize this, would help a lot of people exit mild depression and get out of their shell.
/r/seduction23/07/17 10:16 PM
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Dude you did well, don't beat yourself up. Nice write up as well! Relax and keep at it. Looks do matter, but most of us will go 0 for six. What matters is you are the guy trying and doing it in a friendly confident manner. With time your hide will get thicker and you will pull this stuff off with pure confidence. Then maybe you go 1 in 10, but you are still beating most people's averages and improving yourself in the process.
/r/seduction18/07/17 07:22 PM
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Just remember folks! It's only cringy if the guy isn't super hot looking! Then it's just charisma.
/r/seduction21/06/17 07:41 AM
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Cool post man, thanks for the write up. It's what we all know, but very practically applied. I really believe that women have no clue that they even do this, they just react.
/r/seduction16/06/17 07:37 AM
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That's the thing, that is not a paradox. Once you achieve that level you are certain that you matter to yourself and no one else, and therefore others cant tear your frame apart. However, rationally you understand that world is full of billions of people, of which there are multiple people better than you in at least one thing you do. Therefore you spend your time moving forward and improving yourself since you can objectively compare yourself to others. In others you separate your self worth fr…
/r/seduction15/06/17 09:15 AM
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Yes that is 100% true. And if a girl is too boring to even try it (at least bouldering), then probably she isn't going to be much fun for more than a night.
/r/seduction09/06/17 07:46 AM
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Rock climbing is like any gym though. Worse yet, it's usually the guys dragging their girlfriends along. I am not saying it's impossible to pull attractive women there, but I wouldn't say it's any better than a regular gym.
/r/seduction07/06/17 07:41 AM
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Really does it attract them? I have been rock climbing for years but other than other girls at the gym, most would just say "but that's dangerous!". I never got the feeling that it was something that created attraction by itself, though of course the physical fitness is great.
/r/seduction07/06/17 07:40 AM
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You did great but fuck snapchat. Either digits or already have a date idea in mind that is simple and suggest it. You took the time and were brave enough to try it, now do yourself a favor and filter up front.
/r/seduction12/04/17 12:24 PM
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That's your subjective interpretation since you've never done it. Objectively as you practice, it starts to feel like what you are born to do.
/r/seduction21/03/17 07:52 AM
1

Tell her "I'd like a fun date with you more than a new gym buddy. Let's meet for.. next...". Make sure you have something fun planned and not lunch/dinner.
/r/seduction31/01/17 03:26 PM
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Last is very important... But I would extend it. If you think she should be the one initiating and complain about it, then you will stay getting absolutely nothing.
/r/seduction14/01/17 07:56 PM
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Nah was cool, you did good. Probably would have gone further with some other form of physical escalation. If you are smooth, taking her hand and kissing it. Or even better asking with her hand in yours, "no but I bet you are shy with the guys in bed".
/r/seduction29/11/16 06:50 PM
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Talk to them? No advice or tricks will help you if you don't open. The rest comes with practice and finding your style. But if you can't engage then all the theory is a bunch of words.
/r/seduction27/11/16 05:03 PM
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Congrats dude! Now don't fall into the trap of convincing yourself she is the one because you fear doing it again.
/r/seduction25/10/16 09:45 PM
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Yeah of course, I did not mean you act like a try hard and force it. But you can always start from a stand point of "I want her and will give it a try" rather than... Let me make sure she smiled the right amount first. Your tactics after that are based on your personality and situation.
/r/seduction14/10/16 06:30 PM
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God damn this is repeated like a mantra for a religion that no one should believe exists. Women do these things... if you miss this you are probably fundamentally missing Rule #1 which is always true and over rides every other one imagined or not. ASSUME ATTRACTION. If you need to be looking to see if a girl is twirling her hair to tell if you should make a move, you are doing it so so wrong. Most situations where you should be starting a conversation and escalating happen waaay earlier than thi…
/r/seduction14/10/16 04:53 PM
2

you mean you wish you were a woman?
/r/seduction15/09/16 03:18 PM
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Dude way too much text. Also the women guys wank off to in porn are not 9's and 10's. They are often average girls with lots and lots of makeup and lighting. You are not proving anything with your statement except guys want women with good bodies dressed up like fantasy. Then as an extension 9's and 10's of this world look like 8's without makeup.... Meaning the notion is purely fictionally created in your mind. Again dude too much text, and yes I read your other post.
/r/seduction13/09/16 07:05 AM
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The simplest one is something along the lines of "Hi, what are you up to?", which can be phrased in a 1000 different ways depending on the context. It shows a relaxed vibe, curiosity, and more than the "You're pretty!".
/r/seduction04/08/16 10:13 AM
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This is my problem too. I can be incredibly genuine most of the time, but in a work setting that isn't allowed as almost no one else is being genuine. I constantly have to remind myself to hold back a bit. Actually being around people who are not being genuine makes me very frustrated, because it's so much more boring. Good post op but it sucks you had to end it with yet another sales pitch.
/r/seduction03/08/16 04:53 AM
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Good video, but not great. I mean that, fundamentally what is said is true. 1) you often have to hit rock bottom to effect a change 2) there will never be a perfect moment to start something, and the more you find reasons, the less likely it is to happen However, what it doesn't address clearly is that willpower is a virtual muscle, and it's practice not attitude that matters most. This vague notion of doing good things and becoming a better person, is turning into a sales line in these communit…
/r/seduction02/08/16 09:17 AM
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You over thought it, became needy, and simply wernt ready to fail. You can only pull stuff like that off, if you accept that it very well might not happen. Instead your head was focused on what you needed to do. Then it crumbled and went into "please please please" mode. LMR can only be fixed with a confident and assertive take it or leave it attitude. You'll get better, but next time don't write a 10 paragraph ultra detailed field report about it. Failure is to be examined in a cursory fashion …
/r/seduction13/07/16 04:39 PM
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You are both right and wrong. The situations you listed are true, but in reality that's not a nice guy, thats just a guy afraid to be himself. You can be a nice guy and get the girl, you simply need to lead, to set boundaries, and be your unabashed self. You can complement a girl, but do it because you feel it, not because you think she will want you for it. You can listen to her opinion, just have your own first and don't give in if you don't agree. You can do her a favor, but if it borders on …
/r/seduction08/07/16 06:16 AM
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I am 6'4"... Yes it helps, though only when I take the lead and approach. Tall, ripped, stunning good looks... Only help close the deal not start it. For people lacking the superficial there are the things that help with approach like self confidence, frame, humor, intelligence, or just general charisma. They are just as important if not more.
/r/seduction29/06/16 08:45 PM
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Bat shit crazy people are all over the place. Probably one of the three of us is and doesn't realize it. Hell maybe it's me. However, if there is one thing I have learned... the sooner you recognize these traits in other people, and cut them out of your life, the better. He didn't need to understand anything, he could have made it clearer earlier he wouldn't put up with her bullshit, but that's about it. I don't think we can regulate a girl's emotions. We can simply state and set ours, and she c…
/r/seduction14/06/16 03:20 PM
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Beta males didn't condition her, her family did. She was never challenged and as such grew arrogant. However, most arrogant people deep down know they have never been tested, and so they constantly seek to prove themselves. It can't be fixed at her age... either something radical changes her life, or she drifts like this from guy to guy, seeking validation like a drug. I don't see good deep down in this, I see a weak person. Go have fun with the thousands of other girls, and don't over analyze w…
/r/seduction14/06/16 01:36 PM
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I disagree wholeheartedly on this, at least from what we can read. Way too much over analysis. She is a 20 year girl, and doesn't have a clue. She is insecure and seeking validation. It doesn't matter what he does, she will burn the bridge no matter what. She is immature, as simple as that. All this alpha stuff is way over played in such situations. Key is don't be a doormat, and if the other party is mature the relationship will work. If not she will push, whine, expect, and be constantly dream…
/r/seduction14/06/16 01:34 PM
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Hmm thanks for the post, and sounds like she just isn't worth the time. However, I don't subscribe to the notion that deep down they are good people and just insecure. Good people are good people, they don't let pettiness stop them from being decent human beings. If a girl gave me the silent treatment, I would just shrug my shoulders and ignore them. If they did it for a week, I would tell them to get their shit together. There is no situation that warrants that. (I am older so speaking from my …
/r/seduction14/06/16 12:32 PM
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I don't know what you expect from Ibiza... You will have fun though as long as you are chill and don't expect anything to happen. Gorgeous place and extreme party culture.
/r/seduction08/06/16 03:50 PM
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I only read the highlights, but overall I agree 100%. It's nobody's business but it dictates entirely how people perceive you. That may seem contradictory, but it's not. No one likes someone that goes around doing what they do in order to please others. Sure small things, or the occasional big thing. But people that don't have their own inner self, and act that person are boring. People smell it from a mile away, or if they don't recognize it, still have no attraction for it. And yes from your o…
/r/seduction26/04/16 03:25 PM
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Only way to handle it, is don't be dependent on her validation. Be yourself, confident, and assume she will take it or leave, which doesn't bother you. The rest will handle itself. It really is all mindset and confidence.
/r/seduction22/04/16 10:31 AM
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I know what he means though he is too young to be worrying about it. If you are truly as busy as people on this forum suggest you be focusing on self improvement, then as you get older it gets hard to focus on pickup. I work, run, climb, play basketball, hangout with friends, travel, pursue own projects, and generally try to process the enormous pile of shit that life throws at me on a regular basis. I have fun, I love flirting, but I admit at some point pickup becomes lower priority. However, i…
/r/seduction21/03/16 02:07 PM
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This is why I always tease girls when they talk about sex and about "protocol". I always say that protocol be damned, go for sex, have fun, and the rest will follow if there is something there. If it doesn't it means she probably has a hangup locking down her life into mediocrity.
/r/seduction21/03/16 02:03 PM
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Sounds great man. I am quite a bit older than you, but went through a similar experience years ago. Keep at it, and make your goals in life independent of the girl. That doesn't mean they can't mesh together but if she (read any) starts interrupting and preventing you, then choose yourself first. The next girl will appreciate that more than the one that tried to change you.
/r/seduction21/03/16 02:02 PM
2

Soooo... Did you pay the drinks?
/r/seduction15/03/16 09:46 AM
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All good points and too true. Being confident is all about being yourself as much as possible. This means dealing with the consequences, and being willing to improve yourself when you would rather avoid those consequences.
/r/seduction04/03/16 04:36 PM
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Then that app is truly dumb. What guy wastes his time deciding when the got rate is low.
/r/seduction02/03/16 06:14 PM
2

What's that about them playing with ratios? Never heard that one.
/r/seduction02/03/16 09:27 AM
1

Yup chasing any other goal than being better than you were yesterday, is guaranteed to leave you unsatisfied.
/r/seduction26/02/16 11:04 AM
2

Every time this still makes me laugh... every last time...
/r/seduction26/01/16 04:28 PM
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I feel like that message was lost when reading your post, sorry if I sound harsh. It feels a bit samey overall in comparison to what's been written before. I think your opening message is good, but you don't really focus on that, and instead meander into "good eye contact...". Those things are general seduction tools, not leading. Also leading is A LOT more than just planning so you can get her home, at least in my eyes. I also personally meant that it's more than just "you KNOW". It's that your…
/r/seduction22/01/16 02:54 PM
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That post was pretty generic and awful. That being said I look at it in a different light. Why is leading awesome? Because you choose. Women don't get to choose, they get chosen. Men will bitch and say it's so easy for girls, but that's because they are asking to settle as quick as possible, which makes them weak. If you are a girl and are allowing yourself to be chosen by whoever has the balls to walk up to you, your pool will always be restricted. Most guys won't walk up to you on the street, …
/r/seduction22/01/16 09:12 AM
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First of all introverted/extroverted is bullshit. I do not believe these classical terms exist, nor are you one or the other. We are a range of all things. Most likely his environment had a strong effect on him at various points and his attitude changed.
/r/seduction11/01/16 04:08 PM
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This x1000. I can see girls' interest in their eyes when I am at most most playful, relaxed, and not at all working at what I am saying/doing. I have a girlfriend but was out the other night with a friend partying just to catch up with him and have a good time. Ran into a girl at the bar who was metaphorically dropping her panties for me within 1-2 minutes because I was singing along with her, teasing her, and gave her a high five. I only had 1-2 drinks in me and no intentions in my head. Her bo…
/r/seduction11/01/16 02:49 PM
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Yes you missed the point. When you approach you don't consider the reasons she would reject, only the reasons that she would be as happy to meet you as you are her. Your mentality will only pointlessly stop you from trying. Those women who would act the way you described... Who cares? How would you get them anyways? Would they even be fun to be with?
/r/seduction07/12/15 12:18 PM
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Go dance for yourself, not the women. I rarely have more fun than when I go to a rock club and let loose. No one cares, and you can just be yourself. If you show yourself open to the women around you, they will notice, then just smile and approach. Don't force things like grinding, women choose when they want that and you won't say no anyways.
/r/seduction18/11/15 02:26 PM
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A) No one says you have to, in which case end it B) It's practice like anything else. You prioritize it as something you work at and try to get better. Meditation, being self conscious, and focusing on other things besides the girl. Practice over multiple repationships. Takes a long time but it happens.
/r/seduction30/10/15 07:42 AM
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What do you want from her? A ltr? Good luck. Fun for now? Stop giving a shit and enjoy.
/r/seduction20/10/15 10:05 PM
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A little direct there buddy.... at least for my tastes. Good point in OP though.
/r/seduction05/10/15 03:19 PM
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Ed in my 20s
/r/seduction13/09/15 04:02 PM
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Couldn't be farther from the truth. Went from full blown ED in my 20's to completely normal, and only because of this. Took 9 months, but since then never had a problem with this again.
/r/seduction13/09/15 01:45 PM
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For me I was still having dysfunction, so stuck with it until about 9 months, where upon I finally fully reset. 6 months is only a guideline, though it's generally a minimum from what I remember. After that I just stuck with it until I didn't want to really. At that point I had little desire though, and years on now I would say I am still more or less PMO free. Maybe once every month. I spend my time either working, on hobbies, or chasing women. I don't have time for this shit anymore. And I don…
/r/seduction13/09/15 01:42 PM
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The time it takes for your brain and associated biochemistry to reset to a state where porn and Masturbation does not have an addictive hold on you.
/r/seduction13/09/15 12:48 PM
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Nope not true. It's a biochemical change for sure, it changed how I felt in social situations, and made it easier to assert myself. It was night and day for me, but you really need to reset and then stick without it except for the occasional release.
/r/seduction13/09/15 12:46 PM
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Which is why the reset period is 6 months for most who are addicted to PMO which is probably most guys who have wanked to Internet porn since they were young adults. I made it 10 months, fully reset, changed everything for the better, and I can't recommend it enough.
/r/seduction13/09/15 08:23 AM
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They try to bring you down to make them feel better. Ignore it, or even better smile and own it.
/r/seduction08/09/15 03:32 PM
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I agree with the comments that your pain is still so high because of the pedestal effect. Once you have a few more beautiful girls in LTRs that are at the level that makes you happy, then you'll start to be numb to this effect. If you are being your best self (or at least working at it), then you realize it's often outside your control and all it really means is just something that simply doesn't click between you (differing levels of attractiveness, dissimilar interests, mismatching backgrounds…
/r/seduction18/08/15 08:22 AM
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Expert in Sex as a columnist in cosmo.... Yeah that nullified it right there for me.
/r/seduction11/08/15 11:04 AM
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Well yes and no... If you have a problem with pmo like the many addicted then no. If not then of course.
/r/seduction29/07/15 05:24 PM
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Yes there certainly is. If you weren't trapped in cycle of pmo, sure but most people with problems are. Once you reset that is another matter.
/r/seduction29/07/15 05:23 PM
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I wouldn't bind those things together. An approach is an approach... avoiding PMO and resetting your dopamine response cycle merely helps enabled approaching and all the things that go with successful approaches later. Your problem is you are trapped in your head and cycles of wasting your time with fapping and more so worrying about other peoples opinion of you. What you must do is go outside and spend more time time talking with people, including but not limited to women.
/r/seduction29/07/15 03:10 PM
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Disagree about NoFap... if you are doing NoFap for the gains of resetting from PMO, it does a massive amount of good for many. Removed my ED, increased my sex drive, and forced me to put myself out there. Doesn't fix all your problems, but it does help in a way that nothing else will. I am no longer "NoFap", but I am fully reset for a couple of years now, and only seekout PMO occasionally and with certain restrictions.
/r/seduction29/07/15 03:08 PM
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Just go outside, meet new people, and get more comfortable in your own skin. You're asking to somehow learn all the card tricks in the world, when you are failing to do a basic shuffle. Ain't gonna happen that way.
/r/seduction29/07/15 02:47 PM
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Yeah that line feels pretty ridiculous. I know I couldn't pull that off with a straight face.
/r/seduction28/07/15 05:17 PM
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Dude you are fine. Sure you could be optimal, but most girls won't care, but rather would be happy to have a guy that takes care of himself. That said if you want to go further, then do it just for you. Not because of silly fears you put in your own head about women. I recently went from 15% fat to about 10%. Something I never achieved before, and my final goal is ~7%. I am doing it for me though, something I've wanted for years (though a girls comment gave me that push I needed to stop putting …
/r/seduction27/07/15 07:10 PM
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Sorry but I think this is the wrong message. The goal should not be to be remembered, it should be to be content. Contentment is different for every person, and the problem is most people never figure out what makes them content because they are afraid. People on their death bed are not afraid they won't be remembered, they are regretting all the things they never got to try. Hell most of them don't even know what they didn't get to try which makes them even more sad. People are not just bored f…
/r/seduction24/07/15 11:32 AM
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Yeah but did you talk to all those girls in between, or just tell yourself you will talk to the next one, because there is another around the corner? The excuses our minds come up with to feel comfortable for not trying are astounding... no insult, I have learned to recognize them in myself.
/r/seduction23/07/15 11:29 AM
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Dude... I pursue girls regularly and nothing about my desire is "broken". It's the Internet so there is no chance you will listen as you have already formulated your ideas, but step back. I did not say 90% of what you are saying. I simply said in my experience woman dream of adventure but in reality want comfort long term. This matches most of the posts in the forum about "she fucks the exciting guy but looks for the safe guy to take care of her kids".
/r/seduction06/07/15 05:49 AM
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Huh, who said I have let either happen? As I said when I meet a girl I don't assume it. However I have experienced it eventually in all my ltrs.
/r/seduction06/07/15 05:38 AM
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Hardly, it just makes you aware when you are being used. I don't assume when I meet a girl that is what will happen, but when I experience it, I don't lie to myself and pretend it will be better just because I want it so.
/r/seduction05/07/15 07:03 PM
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Actually women just believe they want adventure. What they really want is to cut the wings of an adventurous guy and sit lazily in comfort.
/r/seduction05/07/15 06:44 AM
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I think it's because people fundamentally don't question what they want. They go off what they are told to want, because that means they don't have to ask questions. However, when they either don't achieve what others tell them they want, or it turns out they don't want it at all, then the cognitive dissonance kicks in and you have things like oneitis... "But I love her! She was the one for me! That is my destiny!" and shit like that. The reality is of course always grey, and generally based on …
/r/seduction02/07/15 09:28 AM
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I have to say the desire to improve yourself does not have to lead to unhappiness. I was very unhappy as a teenager and early in my 20's due to a terrible family life, and then a bad marriage. Those things were most likely triggers to who I am now, a person that is in fact obsessed with self improvement. The thing is though, I have gotten past the darker unhappy part of my psyche, and am now happy 95% of the time, and when I'm not I just laugh at myself and get over it. That being said, I still …
/r/seduction01/07/15 08:44 AM
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Because introverted and extroverted are just imprecise terms humans came up with to describe empirically observed behavior. As in most things in life, there is a spectrum.
/r/seduction23/06/15 08:03 AM
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Haha sounds like this girl is an idiot. Probably doesn't know what she wants, have fun and don't over think it. Also the Fuck you was pretty hardcore douche, but otherwise just sounds like you stood up for yourself and called her on her shit. I like the immature sexually frustrated men part, did you read that somewhere or is that your own material?
/r/seduction09/06/15 05:03 PM
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Can you give more examples of you being mean? Your tease was a neg sure but depending on the context mostly playful. For me I have found being nice/kind is fine, as long as that is combined with outcome independence and a playful attitude.
/r/seduction09/06/15 07:07 AM
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Haha screw going for a hug, sounds like you should have gone for a kiss. Good job, but to be honest she approached you from the sounds of it. She moved to the bar, looked at you and smiled. See her again and have a blast, but realize you in the future still have to make the first move.
/r/seduction23/05/15 11:30 AM
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Yup truth. This is the real reason most guys settle for afc relationships. Especially guys in their 30s. They get lazy and just want something giving them social proof and the ability tp bow out of the game.
/r/seduction12/05/15 06:00 AM
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Yup my ex has a hell of a body, but she is moving out soon, and even though I still see her naked, all I see is a thing I can't wait to be out of my life.
/r/seduction11/05/15 09:38 PM
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Thats the thing to beat. The social inhibitions beat into our heads as kids, and some that are biologically there by default. Stop giving a fuck that they might fjnd it creepy but at the same time realize that alone wont get you closer to a girl you want. Baby steps ;)
/r/seduction10/05/15 10:51 AM
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Uh hard without context man we can't say much, but if "talking to" means flirting and not getting anywhere... then ask her out proper, and make it clear your intentions. If at any point she bails, then shrug and ignore her.
/r/seduction28/04/15 09:47 PM
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Dude he was just voicing his wish, not dissing your help. Chill... Btw op I know what you mean. Had that my whole life when speaking. Do it enough and you will just get better at laughing it off. I dont think girls give a shit about that, its in your head.
/r/seduction15/04/15 02:23 PM
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Very true... just ended my relationship, because after she moved in she thought she could dominate my life and insult me when she didn't get her way. Now that its ended in her mind "It just wasn't meant to be". Everyone wants what they want and doesn't want to work for it. Oh well her loss, I'm feeling frisky ;).
/r/seduction13/04/15 04:06 PM
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Damn straight life is fucking awesome, especially the ladies ;).
/r/seduction11/04/15 04:06 PM
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Thanks man! I'm older than you but also back in the wild after an ugly breakup with my now-ex after almost 2 years. I am actually excited and was starting to miss being single for the feeling of the chase and doing your own thing. Good luck to you dude, though I doubt you need it! ;)
/r/seduction11/04/15 03:24 PM
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Dude, I've only met a handful of those guys you are describing who weren't power hungry cocks. And those guys were typically in committed relationships and content. So I am not sure what you are preaching here.
/r/seduction11/04/15 03:17 PM
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Actually its a mainly bs categorization that has firmly entenched itself in the public psyche. I am not saying people dont tend towards those qualities, but there is no real line. I used to need time "to recharge alone", then I went through a phase of socializing a lot and not needing that, now my current relationship just ended and I feel more back to needing the time alone inbetween social events. I think the real qualities being described here in this is a mix of empathy and intelligence. The…
/r/seduction10/04/15 07:14 AM
1

Great post, insightful while not overly preachy. This forum needs more of this!
/r/seduction26/03/15 12:37 PM
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You are right but in this case wrong. Probably fits his intent better. Its a motivational post not an essay.
/r/seduction12/03/15 06:23 AM
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Lol I want to see the list of acceptable interesting jobs. I bet there is some correlation to wage for the OP's friend.
/r/seduction08/01/15 08:24 AM
1

Ah Köln is a great city! Wish I could find work there or Berlin.
/r/seduction08/01/15 08:12 AM
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FFM, which I've been told is famous for it's rather cold crowd (men and women). I have had success, just saying they have a colder barrier up front. Berlin for instance was a whole other story when I visited there. What about you?
/r/seduction07/01/15 09:17 PM
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Nice, but you are one-itising out the ass in the last quarter of the FR. Take a step back and enjoy what you got from it, and realize you will very likely never see her again. You kissed her at the right moment, and had every reason to go for it, there was nothing early about it. Send her a message for fun at some point in the future, and if you really want to go to Germany to see Germany itself (I live here at the moment, nice place to visit for sure though the women are not the most relaxed de…
/r/seduction07/01/15 04:40 PM
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This guy wins it. This is typical from eastern europeans. The only answer is dont let it phase you and be just as direct as you want to be right back.
/r/seduction06/01/15 10:04 AM
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Yes x10000, this is true of all learned skills and is the number one reason people give up. Learning takes time and energy, and our brains suck at estimating progress or required time over long periods. By default we expect things to be constant, and when its not we quickly question its utility. Tl;dr... being human sucks sometimes. Learn to recognize it, embrace it, and work with it to achieve what you want.
/r/seduction28/11/14 02:39 PM
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You are right, BUT, as you spend more time with them it quite often is. Girls hate feeling like they are wrong about things and I often find my logical and rational approach to problems pisses them off over time.
/r/seduction11/11/14 08:30 AM
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Disagreed. Had a gorgeous friend of mine do this recently, despite always getting hot guys attention. I think it's always a combination of the high of strong attraction accompanied by further hopes and expectations. Tldr: you think you found it all.
/r/seduction29/09/14 01:28 PM
1

Yeah fair point.
/r/seduction05/08/14 05:33 PM
0

That doesnt make it better. It just means the whole thing is convenient fiction.
/r/seduction05/08/14 09:18 AM
0

With more woman, sure but then again I enjoy monogamy. I just find it hilarious for a man who is supposedly as in the know as he is, he acts like a little bitch when he gets a whiff of rejection.
/r/seduction04/08/14 06:43 PM
2

A bigger blowhard with glass armor you will not find.
/r/seduction04/08/14 12:20 PM
0

I hope you made a joke when she declined you the first time to the effect: "Yeah you're right... probably better to get the results back first before getting serious". Or maybe... that's exactly what she did.
/r/seduction25/07/14 12:22 PM
1

Wow man, if that's a true story then props for being a neighborhood hero with the power of seduction. That being said, she sounds like a total loony, and probably not even worth a one time stand. If she was honest about the thefts then ok, it's just her twisted game or whatever, but for her to spout excuses is pretty sad actually. Either way, job well done!
/r/seduction10/07/14 02:06 PM
62

Caring about people is not fucking beta. Caring about how they might judge you is.
/r/seduction09/07/14 10:43 AM
1

Yup that's my attitude. I never throw the first punch, but by God if someone escalates I will do everything in my power to wreck them. It's a balance between respecting the wishes of your subconscious and at the same time controlling it when the outcome would be bad for those around you in some way that the conscious part of your brain is aware of. Basically mediate and be self aware, but not so much so you are afraid to act.
/r/seduction03/07/14 10:01 AM
1

No it's a choice, which I said is yours to have. But your statement was an indication that you do not understand what more there can be to a relationship since "the sex is easy". I do consider that emotionally stunted.
/r/seduction02/07/14 04:32 PM
2

What you are really describing is a wolf and sheep situation. Just like most guys are relatively spineless and unwilling to control their lives, so are most women. To generalize that all women will just follow your lead on everything is silly. You are basically advocating being a wolf preying on the sheep of the other gender. Fair enough, but be conscious of that situation, and dont make it out to be something its not.
/r/seduction02/07/14 11:04 AM
1

This article is stupid but so is this attitude. Somehow everyone missing what is beyond sex, which is love. It's not a game to win, its an emotional state which is thrilling and comfortable at the same time. It's not in every relationship you will have, nor is it some deep understanding of the other person you need to prove yourself worthy of. Its one part mutual passion and one part mutual respect. That isnt to say I am preaching for it here on /r/seduction. Persue what you want at your point i…
/r/seduction02/07/14 10:58 AM
4

Exactly, as soon as she did not show the same magnanimity as he did by offering to buy him popcorn etc, then he had no need to maintain pleasantries that would not show him the same kindness. These people are not worth following preconceived notions for. Congrats OP, you did fine. Nothing lost, hopefully the movie was fun, at least you got out and enjoyed the evening to some degree.
/r/seduction04/06/14 10:34 PM
1

Yeah thas why I dont go for that. I prefer relationships and I have never slept with a girl on the first night. I still think many aspects of seduction are awesome as they are about undoing the damage that modern society has done to men. I think of them as tools you learn, you apply them how you want. All I know is the last two girls I have dated, I approached and dominated the interaction, and have been way more outcome independent about the long term as well. Even picked up the attraction of a…
/r/seduction11/05/14 12:21 PM
3

Well if she was staring at him, then no I don't quite believe that, but if she is that confident in herself at that age, then I'm guessing she can pick guys that she wants after talking to them rather than waiting around for the "true alpha". Smart girl.
/r/seduction08/05/14 04:05 PM
3

The hive mind is correct.... always correct... the hive mind is correct... always correct... No but come on that's not apologizing that's politeness in an especially potentially awkward situation. That's still pretty bold and has generally the same effect on the woman that all the other "alpha as fuck, never buy drinks, never apologize or look weak in any way at all" advice on here. Not saying it would work 100% of the time, but to be honest nothing does.
/r/seduction30/04/14 09:02 AM
1

Yup, I know exactly what you mean. Keep on running, running brother.
/r/seduction03/04/14 10:20 AM
3

Well yeah and in your example, you are in fact making them uncomfortable as you won't conform to what they want to believe to make themselves feel better.
/r/seduction02/04/14 12:23 PM
1

And that was the most beta response you could give us. Owe up to your weaknesses, that's a big piece of how you can control of your game.
/r/seduction29/03/14 09:37 PM
1

You just got advice on what you did wrong but you willfully ignore it. Doesnt sound like you want to learn st all.
/r/seduction28/03/14 10:42 PM
1

No that wasnt my point. My point was it just didnt happen. No reason to obsess over the why on one data point. The fact that he sent the second text means he overthought about the situation.
/r/seduction28/03/14 04:06 PM
3

You gave a shit and gave into your anxiety by sending that second msg.
/r/seduction28/03/14 02:29 PM
3

Strong people dont put up with that shit, and that includes women. A strong personality accepts outcome independence and that means if their boy/girlfriend pulls that shit they get bored and move on. That is not blue pill, that is just reality.
/r/seduction27/03/14 10:02 PM
2

Nope, you only keep the shallow and frail ones. Plus you waste two people's lives.
/r/seduction27/03/14 09:49 AM
20

I always love how these articles make you assume it's your "fault" and you need to change. That's shit, its always more complex. Sure if you are a lazy neckbeard with no job that might be it, but in a lot of cases it has to do with her personality, timing, etc. The important thing is to not get hooked on it, trivialize it so that you can find a "remedy", and waste your time. This is just another article that basically says "Improve yourself". Aren't there more than enough of those already?
/r/seduction27/02/14 04:34 PM
2

Good stuff man. Genuine self positivity that you are trying to share without you sounding like some wunderkind. Apperciated and agreed on almost every point.
/r/seduction17/02/14 05:08 PM
1

And that is what I dont like about Ayn Rand, as she equates empathy with fakeness. You can do something for someone not because society tells you too, but because you want to make that person happy, and you know in turn you will share in their happiness and feel it yourself. That is not starting from the selfish perespective, the kick back you get from empathy is merely the result, but up front you have a giving mentality.
/r/seduction13/02/14 09:29 AM
2

You can be a nice guy to women and still be fun. Nice guy does not mean doormat. That is the desperate guy. I try to have fun with every girl I meet, and quite honestly they tend to bore me. Doesnt mean I fuck em and dump them, I am simply polite and next them without wasting either of our time. I think that is where people like the op go wrong. The game should be about more than getting laid. It should be about going out and enjoying dating and meeting people. The getting laid part comes from b…
/r/seduction13/02/14 09:18 AM
3

Far enough that I am happy and content, enjoying what comes my way. Wtf are you talking about?
/r/seduction12/02/14 11:31 PM
13

There is a difference between selfish and self centered. Selfish can be good but when it crosses the line into a lack of empathy and respect for your fellow man as described in your OP, it can get ugly fast. It has nothing to do at that point about "development", just simply presuing desire. There is nothing wrong with expecting courtesy and respect from people you meet. That is how we live in a society where we can even have these sort of discussions. What is bad is being dependent on your expe…
/r/seduction12/02/14 11:30 PM
4

How so? Works well for me. I am happy and successful in my life and dont give a shit what others think of me. Where is the problem with treating everyone you meet with respect and expecting the same in return. If you dont get it, fuck em. At least you didnt act like a self centered unempathic jerk.
/r/seduction12/02/14 11:18 PM
35

What I find funny is how selfishness gets equated with personal strength and development in a lot of these posts. I mean dont get me wrong outcome independence is great and at some level there is nothing inherantly selfish about these points. Just a cry to break social norms that constrain us. But the mentality of how its used... it is so unecessarily self centered. Treating others how you expect to be treated is being a doormat? Treat women like children? You dont feel warmth when a kid close t…
/r/seduction12/02/14 07:51 PM
-3

Wow what a bunch of self preserving rationalizations. While no one should be expected to put their life at risk for a stranger, just saying no to a situation that could even unknowingly make someone else's life better for a day,week, year, or potentially even life is certainly worth considering. If you were on an island with a handful of women, and a ton of guys it might be different... but we are not. There are tons of options out there that don't require you being a selfish prick. Even if the …
/r/seduction17/01/14 05:07 PM
5

Glad to hear it man... I think any guy would have trouble saying no when they already had her clothes off. Not suggesting you to beat yourself up about it, she is definitely the biggest douche in this. Just food for thought, and I personally think in the long run holding to your values while pursuing what you want is the best path to contentment in any endeavor.
/r/seduction17/01/14 05:00 PM
19

first of all, nice job man. However... It's your conscience and your choice. That being said, I still think emapthy has a part to play in all of this, and if you stop and consider how you would feel if you were the other guy, you still ought to consider taking control of these situations and saying no. I mean you are 19, that makes it a lot harder I know, but there are tons of not taken girls out there you can seduce. Even if you stopped it when she said she had a boyfriend, you can walk out tha…
/r/seduction17/01/14 10:31 AM
10

Fair enough man, but you should keep it accurate even if you simplify it. It's not fair to tell people they all have the same levels of the chemicals involved, when they don't. What I'm talking about is not even remotely at the level of even a summary article, but just basic text book stuff. I think it's important to get the concepts out there no matter how simplified you have to make it, as honestly this is a big piece of the puzzle that many people ignore when it comes to trying to better them…
/r/seduction13/01/14 02:48 PM
2

Or try Phenibut responsibly, once or twice a week max. Titrate up SLOWLY to a max safe dose for your body, and cut your AA at parties, clubs, bars by a factor of 4. Doesn't always work for me, but when it does it's like I am a completely different person. I talk constantly, have tons of social energy, and generally have no anxiety in talking to people. P.S. if you have an addictive personality, or are too lazy to measure out doses and take the matter seriously then don't even try it. There are p…
/r/seduction13/01/14 02:04 PM
3

Yeah the rest though pseudo science'y, is conceptually correct. That part is ridiculously over simplified however. Worse yet, not only are the chemical levels different from person to person, and in environment to environment, but also more importantly the receptors, and their down stream receptors. In other words, one guy might have the genetic lottery where his receptors respond super strongly to dopamine, so it might be easier for him to get past AA, and another guy might literally be having …
/r/seduction13/01/14 02:02 PM
-3

Oh I've had my own insecurities, quite a few when I was younger. But I've never really encountered stuff so obvious as those related directly to money, height, or looks.
/r/seduction09/01/14 05:47 PM
-18

It's amazing to me that people need to actually here this shit. I mean there are some good examples in there, and I always find that interesting to hear, but seriously, people can not be that insecure can they?
/r/seduction09/01/14 12:05 PM
1

Actually the most important thing in there is dropping the porn. Go read the links you find off of /r/NoFap or YBOP. Most guys on here will find excuses about how porn doesn't waste their time, and how they are strong enough so it doesn't have an effect. In some cases that might be true, but for the majority no, its a big f'ing deal. Dropping the bad habit is changing lives (made a massive difference for mine), and will setup you up to do the rest as long as you give a shit and use your time wis…
/r/seduction17/12/13 02:13 PM
2

... but still try to make good choices up front from widsom you learned in the past... right?
/r/seduction12/12/13 01:20 PM
1

And this is why I'm ok living without power. Doesn't mean I let people walk over me, I do my own thing with confidence, but I have no desire to be a power hungry alpha either. Then again that sounds pretty fucking extreme.
/r/seduction12/12/13 01:17 PM
1

Part of it will just take time to be honest, it did for me at least. The other part is work on yourself and not just on your outward facing self as many on here are suggesting, but your inner self. Meditate, and figure out what it is you are missing and why you need it so bad. I was very much the same as you, and while I still will remain an introvert the rest of my life seeking a deeper connection, I no longer NEED that connection if that makes sense. So when I get it I treasure it, but when I …
/r/seduction15/11/13 10:37 AM
3

To be honest if she doesn't, she was either busy, which makes you the asshole or she is too self centered to appreciate a new interaction, which makes her an asshole. Obviously this does not apply to all contexts, but certainly social ones (bar, club, meetup, friends of friends, etc).
/r/seduction01/11/13 11:22 AM
3

Nah best response is to tease and play along, but without it being direct. The best way to enter any reaction with a girl to be honest.
/r/seduction28/10/13 07:26 PM
1

Well said man, I agree with you. I personally don't like how a lot of the stuff on /r/seduction is applied, my last ex was a girl who was with a PUA trainer before me for far too long and it showed. She was quite bitter inside and had a fractured view of relationships, and from what I learned about him, despite the high flying outcome independent image he was selling, he was actually also very fragile and needy. That being said I agree with your message, and the basic message on /r/seduction whi…
/r/seduction26/10/13 09:44 PM
0

Sounds like a good night to me. She gave you resistance, didn't want to look like a slut, but if she kissed you again at the end she obviously had fun. See if she calls, or call her back and have fun. As others are saying... whats the problem here?
/r/seduction26/10/13 05:36 PM
1

Yeah but that stuff is boring and takes effort. Way better to just dump the other person when you are bored, and get the next hottie. Because you will always be able to do that! Right? Right? Oh thus the point of this article...
/r/seduction26/10/13 02:25 PM
3

Reading this makes me ill. Its true but its still ugly as sin. Its like no one gives a shit that empathy is a distant echo in many relationships these days, and that all that matters is the end game and that someone else will be there to make you feel alright about yourself. Fuck this noise.
/r/seduction26/10/13 10:52 AM
4

What I have learned in the last year.... just go for it. As long as you do it with confidence in both your voice and touch, she will like it. If its too much she will give you cues... pay attention and adjust accordingly.... then throttle up when things get more intimate or the laughter becomes more pronounced. As is repeatedly said on here, the key is to not give a shit and be yourself. These days I start with touches on the arm and back almost immediately. Just last week bumped into a girl at …
/r/seduction21/08/13 10:28 AM
1

I'm not a good dancer but I've become a lot more lively at it of late. I think guys that just stand there and barely move are boring so I let myself stand out. That being said if there is a girl I'm interested in dancing with nearby I'll slow down to her speed. I would just say make sure you let someone like that know you want to dance and he'll do the rest.
/r/seduction16/10/12 10:44 AM
1

Haha easier said than done here living abroad, especialy in Germany.
/r/seduction15/10/12 03:25 PM
1

Cheers, thanks for the comments :)
/r/seduction01/08/12 07:13 AM
3

So what do I do? I'm 6' 4" and taller than most people I meet. Due to exercise I have decent posture at least when standing, but that puts me way above people. How do I stand tall and still not come off as towering above others and making them feel submissive?
/r/seduction31/07/12 11:01 PM
1

Fair enough I'm new to the game and I don't even know the "wingman rules". But yeah I agree with what you're saying, and I'm already over it. Thanks!
/r/seduction31/07/12 10:43 PM
1

He didn't really open the set, and no I'm not awesomer. We're both learning is what I would say :) Its just a question of being able to trust him as a wingman. I'm not going to help him if in end he ignores what I say and tries to go behind my back. That being said, yeah in the end it doesn't matter. It may reek of insecurity but no it doesn't it only relates to him, and yes that's my plan. Still thanks for the comment.
/r/seduction31/07/12 10:41 PM
1

Good stuff, but I have to say that is not a linear difficulty curve right there :P
/r/seduction30/07/12 06:35 PM
1

thanks man, good advice. I just have to start living it, and I think with time I will.
/r/seduction22/07/12 11:17 PM
1

Yeah sadly enough it is scary, but the hard part for me is really that I don't think of those things. Guess I've gone too long telling myself I'm not good enough or some shit. I need to find a way to become more random in my conversations.
/r/seduction22/07/12 12:18 PM
1

Yeah guess it is an excuse to some degree, but I'm still getting used to this feeling of confidence. Its awesome and weird at the same time. Thanks for the tips, I guess I just still worry about saying the wrong thing because I never really try in those situations. Next time I'll give it a go :)
/r/seduction22/07/12 12:14 PM
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