Deebo_Sandals Archive

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2	Too many men destroy their own confidence. They’re too convinced that everything is against them, and it hurts their dating chances. I agree with your point. I’m 24 and I already regret the last few years, because I was stuck with this defeatist black-pilled mindset with an added touch of Catholic guilt. I had it better than most guys in that I’d get approached an ok amount and I had a large social circle, but I lived this life of self-hate in regards to dating, because I didn’t deserve it my minds eye.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/12/24 10:53 PM
–	Relationships ruin men I agree with this 100%. I was that “good guy,” I treated my ex (my first ever gf) well, she even said in our breakup she appreciated how kind and thoughtful I was. But I still got hurt and backstabbed beyond belief, so I turned to hookups to try and ease the pain (it doesn’t help). I just got more hurt and honestly I’m just resentful of myself and relationships in general at this point. My thought is why should I be a nice guy and put in so much effort, when there’s a good chance I’ll just be ch…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/11/24 09:40 PM
10	Society seems to believe that the average woman is entitled to her pick of the litter with men I agree this is a huge factor in modern dating/male loneliness. My college friends and I are a super close knit, and I would say healthy masculine friendship. We genuinely love and respect eachother, and are vocal about it. I was single for the vast majority of my time in college. I struggle with dating because I am super self-critical, have low self-esteem, am a bit socially awkward, and am one of those people who needs an emotional connection for attraction to really be there. That being said,…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/10/24 01:35 PM
2	LOOKS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREAD I think the problem is that Blackpill communities really hammer into your mind that the odds are insurmountable and that there is nothing you can do. The whole mentality is that you can either ascend to “Chad” or you are stuck forever alone wallowing in self-hate. It promotes one to compare themselves to everyone around them which only hurts them in the process. I have had really bad BDD for years and when I discovered those communities it just made my life a whole lot worse. I was always a skin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/09/24 09:10 PM
–	Some research or survey came out saying 45% of men aged 18-25 have never approached a women. I will also say from experience that self-esteem issues and blackpilled beliefs don’t magically go away when you get into a relationship. I unfortunately think a lot of these discouraged young men out there will get trapped in a cycle where they are their own worst enemy, even when they get what they want (an LTR in my case). My ex was the one to approach me at a bar, she was the one pushing for us to date, and by the second date she was already trying to get things sexual. Even after all that, …	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/08/24 05:32 PM
22	Some research or survey came out saying 45% of men aged 18-25 have never approached a women. Yeah I truly believe if you are an average/above average guy, the biggest things holding you back are the lack of social spaces/social circles and your own self image. I was my own worst enemy in college, and I realize now that I’m out of it, that I wasted a lot of opportunities. I had multiple friend groups, but they were all mainly guys, so I never had many interactions with women inside my social circles. But most to my detriment, I let my low self-esteem turn me blackpilled, to the point whe…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/08/24 02:24 AM
63	Some research or survey came out saying 45% of men aged 18-25 have never approached a women. I can actually personally attest to this one. A few months ago I saw this girl on hinge who popped up as “most compatible,” I liked her but got nothing back. Then literally 3 days later we met through mutual friends, we hit it off and by the end of the week we slept together. I asked her about it and she did say she saw my profile but didn’t think I stood out lol….It really is tough for guys meeting women solely off dating apps competing against 100s of other guys and top tier men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/08/24 11:55 PM
2	The average redditor is so ugly they can't even fathom the idea of a woman making the first move. I’m not a Chad, but I get compliments on a semi-recurring basis and my friends are all decently attractive. Girls do rarely approach but it is way more common for them (from what I’ve seen) to have their friends come up to you or as op said give obvious iois. Usually it’s a constant smile eye contact and giggling, but sometimes if they are drunk that can get touchy. My one friend straight up had a random girl walk up to him and ask to kiss a few weeks ago and the girl I’m talking to approached m…	/r/AllPillDebate	06/10/23 06:23 PM