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DUMP HIS ASSDeep-Blackberry/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 05:31 PM
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11

I know someone like this, he is moving with his girlfriend into her house. She's divorced. She's doing all these renovations to her house. For example, changing a bedroom closet into a gaming room for him. While buying him an expensive desk. I asked him if he is going to buy this desk or help pay for it. No, he's just going to pay rent and other bills. On top of her renovating an entire bathroom. Lack of a fucking moral compass. Not to mention, in some weird way, he keeps referring to her as a r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 09:52 PM
16

Does anyone else get bored easily when it comes to meeting a new person? I feel horrible about it, but by the third month of being into anyone, I'm over it. I think I may just be enjoying being single too much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 10:32 PM
13

This reminds of an ex-friend of mine, he was telling me about his girlfriend, but he didn't refer to her as his girlfriend at first. He said his "lady friend", which can mean anything. I corrected him by saying you mean YOUR GIRLFRIEND.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 08:03 PM
9

My best friend went through this with a one night stand that sort of turned into a fuck buddy, he came to her apartment banging at the door drunk, she let him in, she wanted to go to sleep for work the next day, but he kept pushing her for sex. She told me she just let it happen, I just said that's rape. She explained she wanted to get it over with. I'll tell you this after that encounter, he never contacted her again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 06:53 PM
14

This really struck a chord with me I'm 32. I am still navigating through figuring out what I want and what I don't want. It seems to be an everyday process thank you for sharing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 12:50 AM
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This really hurt me. I hope he's able to Rest in Peace.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 05:21 PM
10

Kind of curious what does everyone think about seeing someone who has roommates instead of his own place? Is there an age where this becomes no longer acceptable?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 05:40 PM
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Excuse the absolute fuck out of me? Reddit gold? I cannot believe he would actually buy something that useless for her as a gift. That's something I would think you give someone as a gag gift, a for fun gift, not an anniversary gift. It's a digital gift that has no outside purpose other than giving to other strangers. That's absolute tone deaf. Not to mention 40 dollars(assuming that's how much reddit gold costs) is a budget of something I'd expect someone in high school not a grown ass man. Gif…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 08:08 PM
12

I enjoyed this thread thoroughly yesterday on twitter. I once asked a guy where he saw himself in 5 years. He said he didn't know. I knew right then and there, that he wasn't ambitious or had any goals. Which meant I wasn't interested.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 01:02 AM
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He was 29? Yikes. Sounds more like a teenager. Reading this my biggest concern was you being in his car, while all this pushy behavior is happening. I'm glad that you are safe, and you cut him off. His statement is bullshit and manipulative. No one ever should fall for those lines, yes I know some of you will say who would fall for that? A lot of women have definitely fallen for that, it's an unfortunate thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 05:52 PM
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I have a dilemma, that I could use some advice on. Recently, I removed an male ex-friend from my life, I was involved with him in a situationship as well. That was going nowhere fast and I knew by summer of last year it was never happening. I met someone in November, this guy checked everything off my list, but that's another story. NYE rolls around ex-friend sends me a message, that he loves me, he wants to know what we are, etc. Told him we could be friends, but I didn't want to be in a relati…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 12:12 AM
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You will get through this. The loneliness is temporary. In 10 months time, you'll be in a totally different mindset.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 12:22 AM
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I cut my dreadlocks off, after a breakup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 10:12 PM
21

"You must be mentally ill to think that's what happened." in reference to a play in a video game. "It seems like I have to get cancer for you to come visit me." My friend was diagnosed with leukemia at the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 09:25 PM
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What a weirdo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 09:17 PM
1

Whew. Bringing back some memories, back in my early 20s. I had a friend, she was going through a "hoe phase" her words. She was definitely sleeping around a lot, but she felt it was because she was in her early 20s and in college it was no big deal. Alright fine whatever. Time goes on, things get a lot more weird. The first time she hooked up with somebody in a relationship was a co-worker. She went over his place, then hooked up. He eventually moved and broke up with his then gf at the time. Af…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 09:13 PM
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Wasn't it alleged he was abusing her? I'm glad she got away and she's happy. I don't know much about the new guy. Just hope he's not a LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 07:02 AM
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A lot of fantastic points, definitely, definitely should be in the handbook. Recently, got rid of a male friend of mine for doing a lot of what you listed. He was not interested in knowing more about what was going on with me, but had plenty to talk about, when it came to himself. I was always there for him, supportive and a good friend towards him. He couldn't even reciprocate a 10th of what I did for him. It was extremely one-sided, the absolute final straw for me was my birthday, he told me h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 05:39 PM
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My mom was married to my father, he went after while she was pregnant with me. He beat her. He cheated on her. She eventually divorced him after a series of events of one particular night involving a hammer and a car window with me in the car. I remember this quite well. I'll say this I love my mother now, but as a child she was downright mean to me for absolutely no reason. It wasn't until I was older that I realized there was some weird cycle where she would abuse me verbally and emotionally. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 07:01 AM
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I've always noticed that when money is involved, when you start asking about certain things pertaining to said money. Instead of being ok with the questions, the person often becomes combative and then deny they need the money for any reason in her case surgery. You can get multiple computers for 15k, maybe 3 high end ones, but easily 15 low end ones. He's lying obviously, so cheating, gambling? Who knows. She needs to get the money have the surgery, then divorce if possible. If I was her, I'd s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 03:23 PM
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This is why you don't marry vacation dick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 09:07 PM
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Ewww. I think she might be fudging on how long they've been together. I feel like it's been less time together, but could just be me. As far as wanting to save money by moving in with her. It's not the first time I've heard of this male entitlement. Men literally want a maid when they say this shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 06:39 AM
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He's still lying. He's cheating, I don't know if he's cheating with a man or a woman, but he's cheating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 06:36 AM
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I wish I would forgive someone who cheated on me and a had a baby. I'd have the baby, divorce, then take him to court for child support. I know not everything is black and white but I have zero tolerance for cheating. I'm out the door. She's so embarrassing. Can someone explore whole logic on saying God makes no mistakes. Last I checked people have free will. And he willing chose to cheat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 08:47 PM
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Girllllll! That's some queen shit! Congrats on everything!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 12:59 AM
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This is an interesting perspective, I've never thought about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 11:52 PM
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I'd say he's a hard worker. Works a lot. I'd also say that he had no interest in relationships, he'd date around, but nothing came to fruition, but he also wasn't putting in effort from what he told me. He said it wasn't for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 11:44 PM
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Question. What do you all think of someone who hasn't been in a relationship ever? Say, he's early 30s. Is it considered a red flag?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 09:32 AM
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I'm going to find that thread, just interested in the comments. Shit, like this makes me side eye a man who tells me they've cheated in the past. I know it doesn't mean they'll cheat in the current relationship, but it does show a certain lack of character sort to speak.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 01:50 AM
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LMAO. Ma'am, why?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 03:22 PM
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Yeah, I'm in the same position as well. I'm wondering if its be in a relationship, but keep your options open? It seems somewhat difficult to navigate that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 02:48 PM
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You are a good friend for doing that. I tried sticking around for a friend after she was being physically abused, we were in our late teens/early 20s. It just got to be too much after a while. She eventually left the situation, which was good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 02:44 PM
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I had hinge/tinder once for 24 hours, and like you I deleted that shit. Its way too many LVM's on there, no HVMs, and I recognize it could be my area, but...no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 01:38 AM
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Apparently the idiot I was dating took him seriously. 🤣 Which explains quite a bit. Oh God the regrets .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 08:56 PM
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A guy I was dating years ago, sent me a YouTube video of this guy. The first thing I said to him is you know I'm not a conversative at all, right? He said, "so you should keep an open mind." Now I'm wondering if this was some red pill shit he was trying to pull.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 08:52 PM
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Eww. It's not something, I'd get but, I can say at least its not her SO's name or a photo of him. I've known too many women with their SO's tattooed on their body.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 09:54 AM
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I'm extremely traumatized from being a kid, then coming home from school and finding the house burglarized. Its a scary thing as a child,then finding out as an adult that your father set that situation up. Whew. I always double check my doors at night, windows too. I also have a weapon of choice nearby in case someone breaks in. It's sometimes never enough. I've never met anyone who doesn't lock their doors at night.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 06:07 PM
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This is disgusting and lazy. Who wants to lay around in their own filth, no one, but when you do nothing someone has to pick up, clean up and do responsibilities around the home. When you put all the responsibilities on one person's back, usually the wife, resentment will build. I want to get to married someday, but this kind of behavior is what makes me hesitant. I know I'll find that man I want to marry someday, but I need to know if he's a clean person, responsible person without me having to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 12:41 PM
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Block him! This sounds like a situationship. I know you feel this is an investment its not. Hes giving you bare scraps, while you are seeking his attention. It's better to be done with one year in vs five years with nothing haooening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 02:34 PM
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First of all, depending on where she lives,let's just say the united states. If this guy doesn't have insurance it's going to be extremely expensive. Not that any of that matters, the real issue here is him prioritizing something else that doesn't need to be taken care of. While he puts the real priority on her to pay for glasses, I'm not getting into the saving issue either. He's not responsible and his priority lies elsewhere. He better hop on those 29.99 glasses website get him a pair. The wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 10:03 AM
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Why is he giving you a range of excuses. I call BS. Next.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 06:55 PM
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I had no idea what demisexual was, so I asked a friend of mine who's bisexual if he could explain. The first thing he said was bullshit, I'm like what? Apparently, its just standards and having an emotional bond before sex. So, is this not the standard anymore?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 06:39 PM
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Quarantine has definitely given me time to think about a lot of things about myself. I keep having new realizations everyday, it's honestly a great thing. It makes me sad to think about, but its..progress.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 06:25 PM
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Is bumble the app that women pick the men? How does that work, I only tried tinder one time, that was enough for me. With that said, his whole profile is low effort, which means he is as well. I mean NOT to mention the glaring red flag of being over 30 and not knowing what you want. You have some idea at that point, maybe not concrete, but something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 05:36 PM
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Preach!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 05:34 PM
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I'm going to say No. Usually, there aren't set boundaries between the two people, then the confusion comes. Someone at some point does get feelings, maybe in all cases, but a large majority. I admit I had a situationship turned friendship, that had to end, lots of red flags, I was being a pick me, etc. I do have another male friend who is bisexual, not sure if that is of any relevance, but he's never once hit on me. So, there's that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 05:34 PM
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If this is real, really pathetic. I know there's a meme about gfs buying Playstation consoles, etc. Its true and its always pick mes doing this shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 07:13 AM
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As a black woman, I'm done educating people about race relations in 2020. When google and the library exists. Educate yourself. The last thing I want to do, during this time is talk about murders of innocent black men and black women. It's been a emotional draining period for me. The fact that this man is that tone deaf should been an instant block. In some weird way, reading this, it felt like he was going the devil's advocate route with that last question. Which is also an instant block.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 09:49 PM
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I absolutely hate that shit. I've been through it before, and it really fucks with your mind. Then its all a joke after, I just can't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 08:40 PM
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I hope she leaves the loser. Ridiculous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 09:36 PM
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"I tease and pick on you because its funny." No, it' s not you're just being an asshole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 06:49 AM
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I was in a situation like this as well, except we didn't have sex luckily. We got to a place were we became friends. Even him being a friend was a shit show. He was entirely too selfish to be a friend, and a very mean individual last summer while I was cheering him on as a friend in his goals, and his goals failed for a lot of reasons. I saw his true colors that summer, then mentally checked out. It was weird, he was always about, "It hurts when someone chooses someone else over you.". I told hi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 11:07 PM
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You might want to keep an eye on him. I don't know if he's a hardcore or casual player. I'm speaking as someone who quit playing last year, when I played for 10 years. I witnessed a lot of fuckery in that game.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 02:29 AM
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It's crazy, but I've known people to put on their resume leading raiding guilds or organized group settings while leading. Then they would still get a job! It was nuts to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 01:57 AM
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MA'AM WHY?! I'm crying here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 01:56 AM
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Actually, that's a really good point I hadn't considered. It definitely falls in line with that. Last guy I dated has an addictive personality and I told him as such, it cost him his job. This is giving me something to add onto.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 07:53 PM
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It really feels like world of warcraft is one of the worst ones out there. It has a lot to do with the achievement thing, plus the longevity it's honestly meant to keep you addicted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 07:35 PM
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I'm a gamer, but I make sure to prioritize other things than that. I'm probably going to do a write-up when I get some time about dating a gamer, and some signs to watch out for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 07:02 PM
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I need someone to check under his sink for the hair dye. Because sir, 27 you are not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 12:06 AM
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You know this reminded me A LOT about how people would talk about AoC growing up. It was like well the AoC is this, so it doesn't matter. I'm like...jesus christ what were thinking. A lot of my friends lost their virginity at 13, 14. A lot of these, were with people who were older than them. It was just never discussed for some reason, and considered normal. Which obviously, its not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 04:27 AM
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Yes ma'am.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 08:21 PM
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And...she chose to forgive him...so..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 07:11 PM
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You aren't wrong. It's really annoying when someone's entire basis around a conversation revolves around a meme. Don't get me wrong I do enjoy meme's, hell I'll browse them and laugh at twitter, but there's a limit in everything. After a while, it does become a basic thing to me. I was dealing with a guy who's entire thing would be consistently sending memes, drove me nuts. He'd just have some ready to go stacked in my text messages. I'm like ok well....Can we have a conversation instead of thro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 07:10 PM
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Memes are not a personality trait.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 08:28 PM
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Exactly! I've had a man fly me out, paid for hotel, meals, etc. It's not some otherworldly concept.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 08:20 PM
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Friend of mine did this. She was 19 years old and the guy was 30 or 31. Moved in with him 2 months later got pregnant. Had their son, he's got a form of autism. The daughter he has who was a teen at the time also had a form of autism. She's blaming him for the reason why their son is like this. They're still together 10 years later, but she's been looking for someone else, and talking to multiple because she wants out. She doesn't have her GED or anything. I tried to help her, but gave up, you d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 06:43 PM
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Happy Birthday to you OP. I know the feeling of when someone that you care, possibly even love, lets you down without saying Happy Birthday. I'm glad you left, and blocked him. I had a man say that exact thing same thing to me, "It's not a big deal to him and his family." It's not about you asshole. One thing that will always wake people up or should at the very least is Lack of effort in a relationship. Kudos to you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 01:50 AM
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I don't use online dating, but when I've see these type of group pictures. I always give a side-eye, WHY would you post a group picture, Why would you post what looks like a dated photo? Just everything about this is gross all around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 04:03 PM
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Wishing the best! Stay safe!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 07:15 PM
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Although, she probably checked out mentally. of her prior relationship. Yeah, I get the message, but I will not agree with this. The only thing I agree with is moving on from someone within a few years (2-3) . I don't agree with getting pregnant and getting engaged in a year. Even if you're older, it doesn't matter. You should still be cautious about jumping in that quickly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 03:53 PM
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Thank you for your thorough response, there was a tweet maybe a week or two ago where a woman boasted about her husband essentially 'supported' doing her onlyfans. Which made me feel uncomfortable. It was a interesting comment section in the tweets. I should've posted it here when I originally saw it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 03:42 AM
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Stop doing this! Holy shit. Don't get a house without signing something. Don't start a business without signing something. Don't co-lease a car, EVER. I could go on and on. Don't help with this shit, unless you are guaranteed something from it. Don't build a man up at all. He needs to do these things on his own, its one thing if you are married, but you aren't married to this person. You aren't gaining a damn thing other then time wasted and financial losses, because guess what he won't be cutti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 08:33 PM
1

Question: I know this sub is not for sex work, but what is everyone thoughts regarding onlyfans?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 04:29 PM
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Ha, yeah. That was me 4 years ago. I was getting strung along by someone, who claimed I burned a bridge by removing him from life. He wanted me to kiss his ass to regain our friendship. No idea why I was into this person. I won't ever do that again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 04:12 PM
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I had a male friend like this, recently got rid of him. I told him he should check out Tiger King, it's a pretty insane show/documentary, which if you've seen it, it most definitely is. His response was something along the lines he's seen an episode and its not documentary but trash TV. It turned into a dumb ass debate on whether or not it was a documentary or Trash TV. I was more mad at myself for falling for it. He was 100% a LVM he would argue about the dumbest points, spelling words a certai…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 03:53 PM
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It was the 90dayfiance subreddit, which made it...all the worse. There was a huge thing with doxxing, etc. It was a wild time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 07:53 PM
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You aren't wrong. He had merchandise set up prior to the show, and is doing interviews. Reminds me of a guy a few years ago named Ricky who was also just looking for fame, there was some drama with that on a subreddit. I think he allegedly hooked up with a former mod.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 02:46 PM
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I think this particular episode was on youtube. I'll look.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 09:52 PM
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Geoffrey is trash. He has way more charges than he told. He shouldn't have been on this show at all, some I think are still pending as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 09:52 PM
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I was screaming, and I mean screaming at the TV. SAYING YES, TELL HIM. HE was only using her a sex-blow up doll. He didn't give af about her dreams and aspirations. HE knew she wanted more kids, but didn't even let her know he was getting a vasectomy. Those who watch the show will know, that Ed is absolutely a disgusting person. DON'T EVEN GET ME STARTED on the whole talking to her as an infant, when this is her 2nd or 3rd language. As if she didn't know what a bikini is? Sorry, I got to stop be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 09:50 PM
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So, I'll say this I've been somewhat seeing a man since November, it's long distance. Nothing official as he lives on the West Coast, and I live in the South. Our connection was pretty good, but the last time we saw each other was February, we had plans for me to fly out there in March. We still talk on the phone weekly. However, BOTH of us agreed we aren't flying anywhere to see each other, not worth the risk. If we work out , that's great, but if not other fish in the sea. We get along great, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 09:18 PM
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I had been extremely disrespected by someone I was interested in, it honestly hurt pretty bad. Prior to that, I was in a mental, emotional, physical abusive relationship. Dealing with the last person, I realized I hadn't really learned anything, and was being a doormat for this man. It was looking back on absolutely humiliating. My self-esteem was in the trash, but one day I said to myself this isn't right, I started making a list of what I wanted and didn't want in a partner. It kind of went fr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 05:33 PM
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Nope. I can't say that I have, because the actions definitely did not match, while claiming to love me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 01:47 AM
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No, from my understanding. It's right before they take a shit. I really wish I hadn't learned that some men do this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 01:58 PM
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YES. I think, they dip it when there's nothing in it. However, yes it's still dirty shit water to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 12:48 PM
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Yes. Basically trying to make a wet wipe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 12:32 PM
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No, you weren't too harsh. You did the right thing. No one wants to be left wandering if they are loved by the person who they've been with for two years. He couldn't validate his feelings, after two years you will know how you feel about your partner. It's better you end it now, than waste years upon years in your 20s with him, and nothing changes it. You'll go on to have a good career and a good life. Block him, and take the time to move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 11:32 AM
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Something that I just learned in the last week. Which I find really disgusting is sometimes men dip the toilet paper to wipe their ass. I wanted to throw up. I'm not SURE the reason behind it, but ew....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 11:21 AM
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That's pretty shitty he took advantage of your kindness. Would you be willing to take him to court? Your mother is coddling him. Basically, in his mind he's gotten the A-Ok, that no matter how much he messes up, there will be always be someone there to help him. Which isn't true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 03:34 AM
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I manifest as well! It's definitely helped me in certain areas in my life. Definitely envision a HVM in your life. Script, Journal, whatever you need to help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 02:10 AM
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Crazy. I remember my ex attempting to throw away my vibrator. That cost me $60 dollars, that shit didn't fly at all. He had some weird reasoning. Good he was so trash at sex. I'm just laughing thinking about it now. The things I did. I could kick myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 03:24 AM
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Why am I laughing ridiculously hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 07:05 PM
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The absolute worst!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 12:41 AM
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I saw that earlier. For some reason, I wasn't surprised when I saw him mention video games, I already KNEW what kind of person he was right then and there. I play video games myself, but I've noticed more and more men will prioritize that over everything else going on in their life. It annoys the hell out of me to see that can't put the down controller or mouse. No one CHOOSES to do household chores, its a mutual understanding to keep the house clean. He's just a lazy manchild who doesn't want t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 04:20 PM
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Yeah, rule of thumb for me is at least 3-6 months to start seeing any signs. Hope everything works out for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 02:38 AM
1

That's how I feel! Is this fake!? How long have you been talking to the guy?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 02:32 AM
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Yep. This is currently me at the moment. I told myself, I wasn't dating anyone until 2021. Last year in November, I met this guy who was on a Business trip in my city. We exchanged numbers, while he was in my city we would meet up, I'd show him around. He paid for my dinner for any place we went. We honestly clicked. I enjoyed his company. He enjoyed mine. He eventually left to head back home. I thought well that's it, I'm not going to hear from this guy, especially since I didn't sleep with him…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 02:18 AM
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Oh, so you haven't caught up on the new season yet? Let me know when you do. Darcy got slightly better, IMO. She still cries way too much, though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 09:56 PM
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It's always fast food, too. I don't know why, but it always is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 09:52 PM
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You need to relax, you are LITERALLY assuming things. I've been friends with him for years. He brought up his sex life to me, I didn't ask him. I have MANY friends not just him. And coming at me acting high and mighty isn't doing anything. Not sure what you were trying to achieve this time. I ignored you the first time, now I'm blocking you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 09:21 PM
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I can't stop laughing at this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 06:41 PM
3

Tough titty. If he would've paid his child support, then none of this would be happening. I understand wanting to be amicable for the child's sake, and having a good co-parenting relationship. You have to look out for your child first, everyone comes second.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 06:38 PM
6

I have a feeling you aren't the only person who has done this. My best friend definitely did this once in her early 20s, her words, "he doesn't take direction". My male "friend" as he puts it hasn't had sex as often, which is why he thinks he's bad at sex. I'm just thinking well..that would explain the relationships only lasting 3 months. I do think people can learn, often times though, its their unwillingness to want to learn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 02:07 PM
7

This happened? What the fuck?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 08:15 PM
62

Whew. Jesus. I'm fairly sure a friend of mine keeps getting ghosted by women, because he's bad at sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 07:29 PM
7

My biggest issue is when I get to a point in my life where my career is great, then what, I feel I have to find someone as the same level as me. Then again, I ask myself even if I find that person, and they are on the same level as me, are they going to resent me for where I am in my career.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 03:58 PM
8

Holy shit. He definitely told you that he cheated prior to your thesis to slip you up. He still was trying to make you mess up, even in the end. Absolutely, disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 03:48 PM
1

I've never heard of this subreddit. These stories are absolutely scary. I've been in a few situations where I didn't know what to do, and my first instinct is usually ignore, if that doesn't work I usually run. I'm always usually on high alert in my surroundings, and I'm always cautious about letting know men where I live until a good amount of time. Because it may not work out, the last thing I want is a stalker.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 01:21 PM
2

I have a degree in Accounting, but not a whole lot of experience. Hopefully, when time passes, I can look for something relating to that out in Vegas. Right now, I'm stuck with working from home. I hope in time you're able to head out there. Everything ticks my box off for Vegas.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 12:45 PM
1

I was considering moving to Vegas as well. Since, where I'm currently living is the around the same as Vegas, then the pandemic hit so things changed up. Ultimately, I'd like to live in LA, but cannot afford that at this time. For now, I'm just working on me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 11:36 PM
17

Good on her for cutting them out, and reconciling with her mother. I get why her mom did it, probably didn't to sour her relationship with her father. It was all a lie though, and he should have at some point said something to her. However....he wasn't going to, obliviously. My father actually pulled a similar stunt, there's so much I could write about this man. After my parents relationship ended due to domestic violence, which I witnessed as a child. I want to say a few months to a year after …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 10:07 AM
9

It's good to get a field report! I've been talking to this guy myself for a few months, we live in different states. I gave him my number since he was in town for work, I didn't think anything of it at all. I even rolled my eyes at him, thinking he can't be serious, but before this pandemic he flew me out twice and paid for my flight/hotel just so we could see each other. It was nice and I actually enjoy his conversation, but...we'll see. Not a fan of long distance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 07:31 PM
29

Yep, I did the same thing. I won't ever be doing that again, lesson learned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 11:16 AM
8

How awful! I have questions about this house. Is her name on it as well? Is it only his? I would never in a fucking million years co-sign a house or a lease with someone I'm not married too. Working everyday, slaving away, making sure his needs are met only for her needs to be met with resistance. 5 years? Wasting time like that? Nope. We all know what this is, he doesn't want her, but I have a very strong feeling the next one will be the one he marries. I've seen it time and time again. Also th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 10:57 AM
5

I've been speaking to a guy for a few months (not sure where its going to due to pandemic), I can't tell you how nice it is to have regular conversations without the constant mention of sex, its a HUGE breath of fresh air. His intelligence , the conversations we have are perfect. I actually told a male "friend" this in a passive aggressive way. That only talking about sex is boring, if someone is ONLY talking to me about that. I already know its time to block and move on. Nothing about that make…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 06:58 PM
34

As I read this all I'm seeing is red flags. Starting from the first one the age difference. 42 and 28? No. No. NO! Second red flag, he moved in with her, all that tells me is he can't provide for her, and is likely a hobosexual. Third red flag, he's putting down her 'fancy drinks' by shitting on them, because he was once an bartender, he must be all knowing. /s Fourth red flag, he's talking about her weight. Fifth red flag, He's throwing away her property. This isn't a pack rat issue, this is he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 11:38 AM
9

Dating during these times is just trash, and being a millennial makes it so much worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 11:01 AM
3

I'm still trying to find THAT friendship that everyone seems to have, I'm a great friend, but its not reciprocated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 10:17 AM
3

One of my relationships was like this, I felt completely alone in that entire relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 10:16 AM
10

Talking to a male friend(yes, I know male friends aren't good to have) who I once had feelings for, I realized he wasn't what I needed in the end, after many years of back and forth. Long story there, but watching him to start dating again has been...interesting. I'm noticing things a lot when I was interested in him. There's a lot of controlling issues on his end with the women he is seeing. I'll have to make a post about this someday.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 03:55 PM
2

I got mail the other day for my opinion on broke men. I read it and laughed. Reported it, the moved on. Funny enough, He said he'd already been banned from here. :thinking:
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 03:51 AM
15

Personally, I'm allergic to being broke. I grew up in a single mother household, paycheck to paycheck. I don't want to go through that EVER again or bring a child into the mix that way either. During a long distance relationship, in my dumb pick me days. My broke ex couldn't keep his phone on "allegedly", it was one of those cheap tracfone's where you paid for minutes. So, I'd buy his minutes, which was 30 dollars so we could talk. We did use skype, but sometimes you just want to text someone or…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 06:56 PM
4

Probably a mobile issue, but here's the text: " I have been with my bf for 5 years and we are very much in love/ discussing marriage. When we first got together he told me that he really enjoys blowjobs. He has a hard time cumming with intercourse/handjobs/masturbation, but can with blow jobs. I absolutely hate giving blowjobs, and it usually results in my vomiting after just a few minutes. I have tried many times, but I have only once been able to do it long enough for him to cum. We've discuss…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 04:34 AM
81

My abusive father went after my mom when she was pregnant with me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 01:59 AM
9

The. Audacity. What is with these men with 80 roommates and no place of their own?! He sounded like a hobosexual. A "friend" of mine mentioned how he wanted to move out, due to his roommates having their gfs over all the time, and not paying their share of the rent. Then went onto saying how he needed to find a serious gf, just so he could split the rent to save money. I'm just like whew...I dodged a damn bullet. I'm really wondering nowadays is it possible to just find someone who has THEIR own…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 05:45 AM
30

That also falls into the same about line of NOT asking a guy out on a date. Anytime, I've heard of someone remotely doing this, I start judging. Although in that particular post she was just joking, but him laughing in her face should've be the red flag waving. That story is sad as hell. I think everyone needs to have a time line for themselves of where they want to have the relationship to go. When you want to get married, if you want to have kids, so you don't waste anyone's time. She was 32 y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 05:04 AM
4

https://www.removeddit.com/r/sex/comments/fb7047/would_it_be_insane_to_hire_someone_to_give_my/ Here you go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 04:19 AM
6

As a woman who does play video games, I don't want someone who is also into gaming. While it's nice to share hobbies, even playing together a lot of men I've met who I considered dating were not prioritizing their time well at all. You will in a lot of cases come second to a man and his video games. The ones I've known lost jobs, relationships, etc. Some even start emotional relationships online in some of these games, while ALREADY being in a relationship, and yes sometimes it'll turn physical …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 11:46 PM
3

I agree with this fully. For me its almost 6 months to see the real them or if something major happens such as losing a job. You can see how he deals with stress and how he handles it with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 08:55 AM
1

I literally laughed at him. I humored him by watching the youtube videos, but that's about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 03:30 AM
6

It really sounds as if he's trying to isolate her? Possible abuse. I'm hoping I'm wrong, I've been in that situation, so just stating. I've definitely dealt with some "friends" who would definitely put their bfs on pedestals. I couldn't even call one to vent about some things that were going on. I just wanted to talk to her, and after listening to her BS about her boyfriend. She finally asked how have you been? Not 5 minutes later it's I got to go. After that I stopped taking her calls. Eventual…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 03:28 AM
5

The guy I was in a situationship with showed me some youtube videos about that lifestyle. He was honestly considering doing that as a cheap alternative, mind you he had recently lost his job due to his video games habit affecting his work. Then proceeding to ask me would I ever consider that. I flat out TOLD him hell no. While creative, a lot of these RVs/Tiny Homes are not for me. I was watching a video of a woman who had children with her husband living this kind of lifestyle, they were young …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 02:59 AM
3

Twin flames are basically someone running and someone chasing. Pull and Push. A tug of war if you will.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 05:10 PM
14

All I hear is excuses from her about him. Why defend him? Is she sure she's in a relationship with him and not a situationship?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 08:24 AM
14

Ugh. Yes, yes all of this. Ex of mine came back a year later after ghosting me, we were together for 3 years. He told me had been charged with a DUI then was court ordered to attend a program. None of that was true, he was living with his gf and her family.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 03:47 AM
25

I was in a relationship for 3 years, never got a single thing from him. Not even a card. My early 20s were a damn mess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 10:50 PM
5

I definitely needed to read this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 05:24 PM
23

This whole thing is sad, and disgusting. I stopped reading cosmo in high school, when I realized it was the same recycled garbage every few months.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 06:44 AM
7

Yep. Some women are looking for other things in their partner. A friend of mine once told me love does not equal compatibility.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 06:20 AM
4

I'm glad you are happier now, and that you got yourself out of the situation. This gave me some serious deja vu, I'll have to tell the story of my house hopping bum ex-boyfriend in my early 20s one day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 06:17 AM
25

I'm here for this thread! I've definitely had references of being called chocolate, which was not a cute thing AT ALL. I'm not food, and I don't want to be your latest fetish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 04:45 AM
7

What the fuck did I read? 16 years, since you were 13. It's not too late for her to leave, this sounds absolutely awful!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 11:13 PM
1

Me. When I found this sub, I was actively involved with a guy that was going absolutely nowhere. He treated me like an emotional sponge, was a complete asshole, and very dismissive. He lost his job then he turned into an evil bastard. It had gotten to the point where I had lost interest back in the summer, then he asked not too long before the new year, what we were, at that moment I realized we were just friends. I didn't want him. This sub helped me get to that point, and get out of that situa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 02:03 PM
5

I've definitely heard the whole opposites attract because we are different races(I'm black). A lot of this resonated with me. I'm especially tired of being therapists for ain't shit men. This will definitely be bookmarked for me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 08:06 AM
1

Yep! This aligns with my manifestation routine. It definitely does work!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 10:40 PM
7

Exactly. They'll have you thinking one way, when its really another way. You have to let go of them in order to make room for someone else that brings value to your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 05:24 PM
1

Lose weight. (Looking into doing keto and working out more) Decide if I want to go graduate school or change careers to go into pharmacy school, not sure on that yet. It's been 2 years, since I graduated. I had to take a nice gap break. Work on skin care. Drink water everyday! Travel more. Staying consistently positive. Work on my spiritual side more. . Find more friends who are simliar to myself who share the same hobbies as me. Move to another city.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 07:27 PM
13

This brings me some super deja vu. I dated an ex who I thought had a potential, it NEVER went anywhere. My motto is now don't date potential, date established. In other words date someone who's already set with their life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 06:30 AM
7

Why does this come off as a person who likes the smell of his own farts. Hopefully no woman "falls" for this person. He seems like a real "JOY" to be around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 06:03 PM
3

Everytime I watch that show, which is regularly. I always think of this sub, and all the pick me things going on with these couples.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 07:47 AM
1

I've been burned in the past, so I think I'm naturally suspicious. I definitely think what you did was the right way to go about things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 05:02 PM
2

That's usually how I feel. I had a conversation with someone who I was interested in at the time, said he wouldn't marry someone who he hadn't lived with, his words were, "It's to see how two people live together first before committing to marriage."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 05:00 PM
4

Congratulations! Very inspiring! I'm glad to see you waited on moving in together until you were at least engaged. Would you recommend most people wait to move in? Or would you say its a case by case basis?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 07:39 PM
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