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| 2 | I've joined the party!Avvo is a good place to start for lawyer ratings and reviews. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/08/23 09:56 AM |
| 2 | I've joined the party!Definitely consult with a lawyer, or with a few different lawyers. Matrimonial attorneys are a really mixed bag in terms of competence and scruples. I really hope that they look at what you have and say that it’s enough to help you. During your consultation, ask the lawyer about the possible repercussions of you diverting your paycheck to a personal account. My concern would be that if you completely cut off her spending money, she may claim that you were controlling her via “financial abuse” an… | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/08/23 03:40 AM |
| 3 | I've joined the party!The problem with sticking it out until your kids are grown would be that once your marriage hits the 20 year mark, she becomes eligible for open durational alimony unless NJ changes the divorce statutes and eliminates that between now and your filing date. And any savings/retirement accounts/investments you continue to grow between now and then will be split down the middle when you pull the trigger. Sorry that I can’t paint you a more optimistic picture, but unless you have something really dam… | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/08/23 02:55 AM |
| 5 | I've joined the party!NJ is one of the worst states in this country to get divorced in if you are the higher earner. If you can play a really long game, convince her to move to another state before she gets any idea that you’re thinking of divorce. Here’s why… After 13 years of marriage, you’re going to end up paying her alimony for about 75% of the time you were married. So 9-10 years. It will be about 25% of the difference in your incomes, including your bonuses. They’ll look at your income for the last 3 years and… | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/08/23 02:21 AM |
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