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Definitely_Working/r/seduction20/10/14 05:50 PM
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no use guessing at intentions, there is no point at all. the knowledge isnt going to benefit you. its both one of the easiest ways for them to get out of the situation if they are lying, and a valid reason if they are not. if you spend time trying to guess womens intentions you'll just drive yourself crazy because half the time they dont correlate with their actions at all. you have to be the one that is unambiguous and find the ones that stick to you and join into your bubble, doesnt really mat…
/r/seduction27/10/15 05:14 PM
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your main mistake is caring. either be okay with a weekday or tell her you would rather go on a weekend. speculating is a huge waste of time and wont change the outcome. dont try and guess what they are thinking because it really doesnt matter at that point. find out what she thinks through action not speculation. theres a few different scenarios of how it will play out but they dont require guessing at intentions.
/r/seduction27/10/15 05:00 PM
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too many variables where things wont work out how you are imagining it in your head. theres no reason to play a game about it anyway - youve already built a bit of back and forth right? so HOW you ask is going to like have zero affect on the answer. just ask her out, things like this come off as weird and tryhard. putting to much planning into a girl that hasnt even said yes yet.
/r/seduction20/10/15 12:13 PM
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i do but always keep it light, dont try to build anything with her through text just funny stuff and chatting a bit. this is the one period where not being too invested is really important. i find less is better but going silent always leads to them flaking.
/r/seduction30/09/15 12:28 PM
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women dont know how to turn down dates so they pull bullshit like this, putting things off and they just hope that you will get bored so they dont have to confront the situation. its super fucking annoying but ive seen it happen a load of times, and ive dropped female friends because i see them do this to guys... its one of the most petty and childish things ever and i think its extremely rude. if she liked you she wouldnt tell you to save conversation for the date... that means she doesnt want …
/r/seduction24/09/15 03:45 PM
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do you not understand how a joke works?
/r/seduction17/09/15 05:12 PM
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it sounds fucking weird, but bitches love the minigolf. seriously, if i want a girl to think im fun i take her to minigolf and laser tag, and just fool around the whole time. you gotta make sure you own the fact that you are in a kids place though and that its just something funny to do. when i take girls out to dinner and a movie it just seems like it puts too much pressure and doesnt leave room for real fun, so i just do dates like that the pressure is gone and i can just focus on making sure …
/r/seduction17/09/15 01:37 PM
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dont facebook message her for the first interaction if you see them in person... that is just incredibly timid. hardest part about cold approaching is to learn to deal with the groups of women, because they always group themselves. other person here gives good advice, and other than that i would just say go up and engage the group if you need to. ive had the most success when i immediately take over their group by being imposing and engaging all of them... that way you dont get the akward looks …
/r/seduction14/09/15 03:03 PM
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Lol because it tells you what you want to hear? If you can't even get a hug when you want one then you certainly can't get more. New advice: grow up and stop being fucking delusional.
/r/seduction11/09/15 05:21 PM
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Lol quite a critisism for a kid who couldn't get a hug even from highschool girls (or probably middle school). There's a damn good reason girls won't touch you when you lack any sort of self awareness.
/r/seduction11/09/15 05:18 PM
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are any of them actually comfortable/friends with you? you have to kind of do something, and this seems to be just all about what they dont do for you (which you seem to expect them to do it out of nowhere). they hug your friends because they are comfortable with them and have a connection. stop it with this entitled bullshit because it honestly makes you sound more like a woman than a man in a relationship. just because you dont notice these bonds between the guys and girls or if a new kid gets…
/r/seduction11/09/15 04:17 PM
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makes you less nervous about human interaction. i get nervous when im standing in front of a guy who will beat my face in if i dont do things right, why be nervous with a girl who at the very worst case scenario will give you a bad look. its not the same thing, but if you can keep eye contact confidently with a man when there is physical and social threat, then that skill transfers into facing just social scenarios as well.
/r/seduction08/09/15 02:29 PM
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going to the gym is not being available, its doing part of your schedule. you are overthinking these bullshit tactics you read. they are guidelines not rules. do you think that women at work think you are too available because they see you at work for 8 hours a day? you're always gonna be somewhere doing something, just because shes there too doesnt make you too available. being too available means you are at her beck and call and that you are always ready to drop what you are doing for a woman …
/r/seduction03/09/15 05:11 PM
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you just described edging lol. i thought every 15 year old figured this one out =P
/r/seduction20/08/15 02:20 PM
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well your misunderstanding and i think your assuming alot so i suppose i will explain. think about his title of this post: "how do you guys avoid getting girlfriends all the time", while hes referring to why we don't end up with girlfriends with all these girls that we meet and engage with.... and all im saying is that the answer is that most girls aren't actually right for you, and that if you don't have the desire for the acceptance/security of a relationship, then its easier to see that witho…
/r/seduction06/08/15 08:50 PM
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lol you're quite the smug cunt.
/r/seduction06/08/15 12:27 PM
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lol thats just an example. and my view of relationships isnt tarnished i said nothing of that, i just said that i dont feel a need to jump in them with every person i fool around with. dont bother psycho analyzing me, its just foolish,
/r/seduction06/08/15 01:33 AM
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uh probably not but im assuming by then ill find someone that i want to keep around. never said i never want relationships, just that its alot more common to fool around with someone and not want them to be long term.
/r/seduction06/08/15 01:30 AM
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i entirely agree, and thinking otherwise is an illusion that people realllllllly want to believe is a good thing, but in reality its just not the case. the girlfriend i mentioned earlier ended up immediately switching to my best friend/roommate, and he went along right with it and it killed our friendship after 12 years of being best friends. people will drop you the moment it suits them. there is not some obligation people have just because you care about them, they will do whatever they want.
/r/seduction05/08/15 07:21 PM
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because the only reason you have to be in a relationship to have sex or spend time with girls, is because its been beaten into your head that its "the way it is". i just don't find most girls very interesting so i just don't hang out with them that frequently. but I'm still interested in having sex with most decent looking girls so sometimes thats what happens. the reason why it seems like were ending back at square one is because most people try to latch onto someone because they are afraid to …
/r/seduction05/08/15 06:12 PM
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https://pbs.twimg.com/media/CFgRu0rWAAAbSrZ.jpg:large
/r/seduction05/08/15 04:22 PM
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woosh
/r/seduction05/08/15 04:21 PM
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i usually have one on my back, that way it sort of balances out when i pick the girl up on my front. makes it a bit easier to walk.
/r/seduction21/07/15 07:28 PM
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maybe not interested, but it sounds like a guy on retainer. i had an extremely similar situation with my ex, and she said the same exact things and i had the same exact logic about the whole thing as you. lets just say i was naive and she was a stupid whore. i hope im wrong too, but just know that if it was obvious to you, then her obliviousness towards him is absolutely an act. she damn well knows he wants her, and if she wants to keep being friends with him after an akward situation like that,…
/r/seduction30/06/15 04:36 PM
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you sound incredibly desperate because of how much this matters to you, and calling it out will just make it seem more so because you have expectations for a girl you don't know. just move on, calling it out doesnt fix anything because they will still do it and guys will still fall for it. it really doesnt matter to anything else except your feelings because you think you deserve responses from women. you need to get off your high horse... the world and the people in it owe you absolutely nothin…
/r/seduction26/06/15 06:33 PM
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probably because they get to keep an upperhand by having higher value socially... they dont feel threatened/insecure as they would if they had a confident, muscular, accomplished guy. boys in highschool havent had a chance to develop actual value as a man, so the average looking girl is going to have the upperhand all the time. i only phrase it this dumb way because relationships in highschool seem to be more like commodities more than anything. also, you might just not be that interesting to gi…
/r/seduction19/05/15 03:14 PM
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this. strip poker is a great reason to give everyone an excuse to get sexual so things dont start awkward. my lesbian friend always suggests strip poker when we get other girls around and it always leads to fun and once lead to threesome. some times we dont even bother with the poker, and just turn on some fun music and go around a circle flipping coins: heads you are safe, tails you drink or remove clothing; but you cant choose the same option more than twice. keeps it from going slow/getting s…
/r/seduction18/05/15 01:04 PM
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i like this advice, i use it all the time when i get shit tests, but i never really consciously thought about it.
/r/seduction13/05/15 07:45 PM
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if shes doing it intentionally, shes probably wants to keep you as a retainer guy. fuck everything about that, because it neither makes a good friend or relationship. i say slow the contact with her or just politely tell her to get lost if you are talking to a girl. dont even look at the text, just dismiss her with "show me later" or whatever the situation calls for, and keep your attention on the other girl. heck, if you do that, the situation may even benefit you a bit; even if it gets your fr…
/r/seduction29/04/15 03:16 PM
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then why are you here? unsubscribe and stop commenting then if you think that way so adamantly. this is about doing what we can do be more attractive. this "be yourself" stuff is a load of crap in this type of context.
/r/seduction27/04/15 06:42 PM
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just be confident in the room and be attractive? not much else to it other than that. i had a girl approach me a couple weeks ago that was interested but i think she only had the courage to approach because we knew eachother from way back in middle school. most girls are too nervous to actually try and make a move and there are no pressures on them to do so, which is why they typically will just never do it. i go out with girls all the time that talk about hitting on the cute guy at the bar but …
/r/seduction27/04/15 05:05 PM
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uhh... just literally make any reasonable move. Put your hands on her for christ sakes, then just work off of the vibe. all you need to do is initiate the physical aspect, and once that happens youll be able to pick up on her vibe and she'll start doing her thing. you dont need to plan the transition, just initiate it and follow your instinct. if you are worried about starting: dude, if she is there, staying in your room for the night watching a horror movie, you are already in and any move you …
/r/seduction27/04/15 12:50 PM
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exactly.. just wanted to point out that you have to take all advice here with a grain of salt. half the time, the advice is not based on reality at all. alot of the concepts here are great though, but specific advice like that is usually written by people who have just learned everything online and have some idealized version of what happens.
/r/seduction17/04/15 07:11 PM
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yeah well everyone here thinks they are some super alpha guy from 50 shades of grey and thinks that it somehow shows that they are above texting... girls text all the fucking time, and they are used to having men trying to get them alone all the time. if you only try to make plans repeatedly when texting youll probably give off the vibe that you just want to hook up.. girls get scared about the implications if they dont know you that well or dont feel comfortable enough yet. i always banter thro…
/r/seduction17/04/15 07:01 PM
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this is obvious, you cant pull the D.E.N.N.I.S system when your out with someone whos better looking, you have to move on to the M.A.C. method. jokes aside, ive had to deal with this my whole life as my best friend who i usually go out with is undeniably better looking than me by alot. its hard not to get frustrated, but the bottom line is you just have to start thinking more of yourself. when i go out, i know that he has me beat in attractiveness, so he uses that to his strengths. i know that i…
/r/seduction15/04/15 01:12 PM
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start accepting this as rejection. girls are fucking awful at dealing with being asked out - we are expected to make the effort and take the leap in asking them; yet they dont even feel obligated to respond, or give an actual answer. out of all the rejections ive gotten: about 10% were no's, 50% were dodging plans and hundreds of excuses (like whats happening here) and 40% just dont respond. when you start getting excuses like this, just stop talking to them because its fucking petty and stupid.…
/r/seduction10/04/15 07:01 PM
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nice vid there at the end. alot of us dont think of shit like that but they sure do.
/r/seduction27/03/15 06:42 PM
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i use this all the time. sometimes i wonder how many of them understand the futurama reference. no one ever complains though.
/r/seduction25/03/15 04:20 PM
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aye. realized after i broke up with my ex that the only thing i found especially attractive about her body or personality was her ass. it was enough apparently.
/r/seduction05/03/15 03:04 PM
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apply friction to the groin area repeatedly.
/r/seduction03/03/15 06:20 PM
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yeah that definitely sounds cringey, i just thought it was crazy that people would actually do that lol.
/r/seduction03/03/15 04:09 PM
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who brings girls there to watch them work out? i would imagine that they would both be working out and talking between sets and such. i could see doing this in a non douchey way. and also there are showers=P
/r/seduction03/03/15 02:14 PM
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aye, when i said unattractive i meant the whole package of attractiveness. genetic looks are only a small portion of that unless you look like some kind of mutant.
/r/seduction23/02/15 05:17 PM
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would playing video games be any fun if you had a guy sitting over your shoulder saying "okay turn left and go straight 3 seconds. k now hit A then B then right trigger three times. then go down that ladder, shoot that guy on the left first. now the middle one " etc. for the whole fucking game? no, it would be boring as shit. so don't ask for it in real life. you say "Sure, go up and talk to her, but there is more to it than that"... well yeah, but talking to them is the first step towards figur…
/r/seduction23/02/15 04:47 PM
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chill out dude, you're planning and overthinking way to much. it doesn't matter what you say as long as it doesn't come off as desperate and un confident as this post. just say you recognized her, where you saw her, and that you are interested in getting to know her. its doesn't need to be perfectly word crafted.
/r/seduction23/02/15 04:39 PM
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any game that removes clothing. once clothing is atleast partially gone, tell your GF you want to see her kiss one of the girls. escalate. If theres a girl who is gossipy or judgemental, get her the fuck out of there. Theres always that one girl in the group who doesnt want any of her friends getting laid, and the girls will not want to engage in anything if they are worried about being judged by one of the girls there... theres a girl like that i know that was being a serious cockblock just bec…
/r/seduction09/02/15 04:35 PM
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yep its what i use all the time. im not very attractive so i get the "oh lets just be friends!" alot. just dont expect it to turn it around all the time. most of the time they just get indignant and consider you some kind of mysoginist who only talks to girls for sex. ive had it turn things around before once or twice, but most of the time i actually just dont talk to them again.
/r/seduction27/01/15 03:34 PM
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lol keep deluding yourself. you can take charge without ever using force on a woman. some of us can still be a man with an alpha mindset while still allowing women to feel safe. theres a big difference between taking charge and just going for the kiss without begging permission, and physically grabbing her head and forcing a kiss. the latter is someone who can only find their advantage physically, rather than mentally conveying it, and thats a huge sign of weakness to me. i dont need to remind w…
/r/seduction18/12/14 08:49 PM
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lol im sure. if you're having to physically force her head into a kiss im sure you are quite the seduction artist..
/r/seduction18/12/14 07:50 PM
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umm... no, thats a god awful strategy you may have just gotten away with once, but probably never have.
/r/seduction18/12/14 03:00 PM
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i have a problem being overly nice too. i was thinking about it though and i think there are just 2 kinds of niceness, and each of them give off a different vibe. I think alot of the positive kindness is just sort of an energy in the way you act. i know i always try to be kind to everyone and i try and find ways to like everyone, but that comes more from giving off an aura of kindness, and when you do that it tends to be enough to stay friendly and make everything go smoothly for guys like us wh…
/r/seduction23/11/14 04:45 PM
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i found this out by accident once. girl told me she dyed her hair red, after a few texts i told her "oh, and send me a picture ya bum!" and got a picture of her bum. 10/10 response
/r/seduction20/11/14 05:09 PM
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who cares. doesnt matter wether she did or not, its close enough to assume. quit waiting for some huge sign to light up and just make a move and find out. if you were that close, you could probably have made a move quite a while ago. if she didnt like you she would avoid your foot, its that simple. dont use uncertainty as a way to delay making the plunge, thats weak shit if you do =P
/r/seduction14/11/14 04:02 PM
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but also notice that she didnt say anything about what to do when a girl does that; just that its a sign of attraction if she WANTS your opinion, and thats the important part (for this post)
/r/seduction14/11/14 03:57 PM
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It will absolutely not be worth it. I can't even explain how bad this idea is, but I can garuntee it won't work out. It will not just be casual sex like you think, if you live with her some sort of attachment will be made and she will have expectations that are beyond what you want no matter how clear you make the situation, I had a similar situation and it spiraled out of control very quickly and I've seen numbers friends of mine do the same and it has never worked out nice, always end up with …
/r/seduction15/05/14 02:59 PM
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I saw this and I just had to share this story, because I managed to help a kid in highschool go from being shy, akward, and just a generally quiet and uninteresting guy (not because he was causally uninteresting, he just presented himself that way). It was not out of pity whatsoever, I just became friends with him and exposed him to a lot of people and new ideas through our mutual love of music. Met him in my video production class when I was in highschool, and he never talked to anyone except h…
/r/seduction07/02/14 03:56 PM
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Earlier is better for valentines day, sit I were in highschool I'd probly do it at her locker in the morning, but I don't know your situation. Just don't make a scene about it. Just a simple "I got you this" big smile, "Happy valentines day" give her a hug if she receives it well and move on to whatever else you would normally do with her. The biggest part is the smile and eye contact in between those. I would urge you not to ask her to be your valentine, but that might just be me thinking it's …
/r/seduction28/01/14 07:46 PM
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No need to back off from her, just keep your maintenance level very low is all I mean. By all means take her places, just don't come off any bit like your trying to make up for anything :P The rose thing is fine, girls like that stuff if they are into you, just be sure that feelings are mutual first otherwise it's hard to make any move on valentines day without seeming kinda creepy, know what I mean? I'm always very hesitant to push anything on valentines day unless I'm sure they are on board. L…
/r/seduction28/01/14 07:29 PM
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Really man, your biggest step would be to just own up to it for yourself, not to her, then, quit seeming so needy and insecure. All you needed was a simple apology for acting like a fool, then man up and start to actually act like you aren't just pushing to make her like you with gifts and plans for valentines day. You need to calm down and stop worrying about it, I've seen girls act incredibly dumb while drunk,but you just forget about it and move on. So all in all, you really just need to drop…
/r/seduction28/01/14 06:22 PM
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yeah i dont think thats a shit test... pretty sure thats just responding to your joke the same way you would to hers. just cause its called game doesnt make everything they say a game
/r/seduction08/01/14 09:01 PM
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I think it's because of the way you are phrasing wanting to ask them a few quick questions. It's uninteresting, and it seems to me a bit obvious that you're playing the numbers game. Like another commenter said, I'd avoid calling them cute off the back, that might work if they have already decided they like you, but otherwise just imply the attraction, don't say it. Try and find a way to make less of a cold approach if you can, I'm sure you'll have more luck if you create some real situations in…
/r/seduction01/11/13 06:23 PM
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