Deightine Archive

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1	Southerners of Seddit, what's the deal with Georgia girls and people of the state in general? Eh. I'm probably not as accurate on it as I'd like to be. It took a lot of questions to get this far. I was totally thrown when I heard the term the first time, because my immediate thought was: "Did... did my coworker just say our receptionist is... bourgeois? I can't have heard that right. Nobody says that anym--... she just denied being 'bougie'... What in the..." So I asked them to define it, and it lined up. So I asked if they knew the French term, neither did... Suddenly everyone I ran int…	/r/seduction	10/10/15 02:15 PM
2	Southerners of Seddit, what's the deal with Georgia girls and people of the state in general? Thanks, but I didn't mean it to be a full on analysis. It's just important to keep in mind that the context of a given term, especially a pejorative like calling someone bougie... or a hipster... or a loser, whatever, is highly dependent on the speaker. I once watched a group of people laugh at someone (who you could probably label as bougie) for calling someone else bougie... because of the irony inherent in their doing so. Meanwhile, the same group would have probably been a little pissed if a…	/r/seduction	10/10/15 02:06 PM
3	Southerners of Seddit, what's the deal with Georgia girls and people of the state in general? If it's any consolation, I also believe that altruism doesn't exist naturally, but that it is a splendid adopted social behavior for gaining personal benefit. A kind of selfish-altruism, whereby you exchange your efforts on behalf of the group for interpersonal good will or a sense of contribution. Paradox to the combined term aside, of course. If we could spread this practice on a broad scale, it would create the appearance of a world full of people being nice and doing good for the benefit of …	/r/seduction	10/10/15 09:00 AM
2	Southerners of Seddit, what's the deal with Georgia girls and people of the state in general? Depends on the accent. If it's a more northern accent, it can slide a bit but with a southern accent (and many northern Americans seem to favor this in the pronunciation too) they'll use boo-jee, kind of like like rouge'ee only starting with a 'b' sound. The 'jee' sounds a bit like the 'ge' at the end of 'orange'. It's a layover from the original French term which sounds like boor-jwa or boor-jwa-zee for the full term, bourgeoisie (the body of bourgeois people). The contraction in that case drop…	/r/seduction	10/10/15 08:53 AM
4	Southerners of Seddit, what's the deal with Georgia girls and people of the state in general? Oh, not to destroy any faith you've regained in humanity, but being nice to people is selfish tactic I assure you.	/r/seduction	10/10/15 08:21 AM
6	Southerners of Seddit, what's the deal with Georgia girls and people of the state in general? Cognitive linguistics is my favorite part of Anthropology, and occasionally it shows. Although I'm not sure if that's a slow clap of respect, or a sarcastic slow clap... but for the sake of my ego and after looking at your username, I'll go with the earlier option. Also - Your username is identical to the two word seed I used to generate a possible upcoming novel project. That amuses me greatly.	/r/seduction	10/10/15 05:36 AM
34	Southerners of Seddit, what's the deal with Georgia girls and people of the state in general? Bougie: A contracted form of the word bour·geois; a French term: "of or characteristic of the middle class, typically with reference to its perceived materialistic values or conventional attitudes." Usually used as an insult in both cases. I hear it with most frequency in the Midwest among urban adults. The colloquial usage puts it somewhere between "basic" and "sellout" with a heady dose of "stuck up." Sometimes its used as a joking sort of "You're trying too hard." remark between friends, as w…	/r/seduction	10/10/15 03:08 AM
1	I have no friends That is absolutely mind-boggling that you were able to know that. I'm just outside of Toronto and there's really not much around unless I take an hour ride downtown. You're welcome. In light of where you are located (I've probably been there at some point), you might want to consider making changes to your lifestyle that drive you toward downtown somewhat. Any chance you get to move, move closer to the core, but not into the core. Changing jobs? Look closer to the core. Considering university? L…	/r/seduction	01/08/15 07:41 AM
17	I have no friends This is actually very important stuff to the pursuit of this subreddit's topic, although some might argue that. Basic human relationships have to be understood before you can start pursuing strange and complex ones. If you can't form a friendship, you may have a serious problem forming a romantic relationship once you find the person you want to spend your time with. The following is based on the observations of my life and the scholarly pursuit of psychology, anthropology, and interpersonal/rel…	/r/seduction	31/07/15 09:53 AM
2	I instantly become attached to the feeling of being with a girl as soon as she starts showing interest.. I'm happy I helped elucidate your feelings. I exist on both sides of the fence in all of this. I've been helping guys with approach anxiety most of my life, and there is a very vocal "power through it" and "become sensitized" minority that treat seduction as a gender war. I don't see it that way. Seduction can be a beautiful thing. There is an art to it. But as with all mass productions, you lose that art when people start following a cookie cutter model. It's dependency on what is referred to a…	/r/seduction	20/07/15 04:09 AM
2	I instantly become attached to the feeling of being with a girl as soon as she starts showing interest.. Your enthusiasm is appreciable, but even the tone of your responses is suggestive of an unwillingness to ruffle feathers. I hope what I offered up gives you a hand... but remember, that fear flavors your life. It won't only be affecting your relationships with women. It will also be influencing how you talk to men, how you seek advice, how you react to world events... Learn what relaxing means for you, do it more often, and learn to chill. It'll do wonders for you in every way. Confidence is the…	/r/seduction	17/07/15 10:34 PM
7	I instantly become attached to the feeling of being with a girl as soon as she starts showing interest.. Misunderstanding whose point is the problem here. The person who said it was depressing read the statements at face value, and it is important to remember that not everyone who reads something in /r/seduction is doing so with their own goal of overcoming approach anxiety or fighting through their fears. Some of the advice can come off as very cold and anti-intimate. I know where the original responder was coming from in giving that advice due to years of watching guys suffer through fear. I unde…	/r/seduction	17/07/15 04:42 AM
2	I instantly become attached to the feeling of being with a girl as soon as she starts showing interest.. Neediness is usually a response to fear. Fear they'll go away now that you kind of have them, or fear that you'll fuck up... and so on. So you try too hard and come off as needy. The key is to learn to relax. People really do exist when they're out of the room and you can't see them; they will come back if they're interested. Don't let your excitement at their company overwhelm you, and don't let your fear that they won't come back to you do so either. Learn to take a breath when you get to that…	/r/seduction	17/07/15 03:15 AM
12	I instantly become attached to the feeling of being with a girl as soon as she starts showing interest.. If you're the kind of person who likes the notion of emotional attachment, romance, a feeling of togetherness, etc, it's very much anathema. Becoming desensitized to beauty is to no longer be in awe of beauty; to be desensitized to rejection is to no longer work hard out of fear of rejection; to be desensitized to a girl's interest... and so on. A romantic or intimacy-driven person would see that as depressing. A person whose goal is to get laid would not, especially if they've spent a life crip…	/r/seduction	17/07/15 03:10 AM
1	So I had my first Tinder date yesterday Well, it's hard to say what is learned and what is not. Did I take to them naturally? Yes, but it's a function of the culture you grow up in. Often, you'll unconsciously learn skills from parents, friends, etc, as you grow and whether or not you are predisposed to being aggressively social determines if you put them into practice unconsciously. My mother had a viciously sharp tongue and often had a wise-ass remark to make. I inherited that through exposure, not genetics. So when I notice somethi…	/r/seduction	30/06/15 08:17 PM
1	So I had my first Tinder date yesterday You want to be amusing? Learn how to tell a joke and read an audience to see what kind of remarks will work with them. It's very context dependent. If you want to excite people, learn to be spontaneous but not offensive or frightening; this is one of the reasons so many people learn magic tricks, etc. But what is exciting for one kind of person won't be for another. Good conversationalists can do it just as well by asking questions that encourage a person to express their interests, then excite …	/r/seduction	30/06/15 02:10 AM
3	So I had my first Tinder date yesterday Of the top of my head, no immediate names come to mind because 'flirting' wasn't the term really used. Basically anything on the art of courtship or courtesans was the closest to what we think of as flirting today. The term has undergone a good bit of linguistic drift since its origins. You could look into any of the unadulterated versions of the translated Kama Sutra and run into a hundred descriptions of flirtation that don't use the term as its title. Likewise in Gentleman's guides of the 180…	/r/seduction	22/03/15 07:00 PM
4	So I had my first Tinder date yesterday Considering your username, it's not surprising you might feel that way; the appreciation is certainly welcome. I could have written two more pages on this but figured I'd hack it off short. You have to dig into books from the renaissance to find any serious discussion of this topic. Flirting used to be an established social art, along with wit, formalized dancing skills, being learned at good dinner conversation, et cetera. Unfortunately, most of that didn't survive the protestant move to the ne…	/r/seduction	21/03/15 05:18 PM
19	So I had my first Tinder date yesterday Of course. But when it comes to verbal and emotional play, why not just do it with anyone? Friends tease each other all of the time, for example. Mercilessly when they really know one another. The key is to learn to not do it mean-spiritedly, and to watch the person you're doing it with to make sure you aren't just about to piss them off. Flirtation benefits a lot from empathy, even if it is learned empathy. Flirt with the person who makes your coffee, chat casually with a librarian, go and just…	/r/seduction	20/03/15 08:49 PM
123	So I had my first Tinder date yesterday a short treatise on Flirtation Flirting is a complicated construct; you're either a natural at it or you have to bang your head against the idea trying to figure it out. Flirting isn't a single behavior; a verb, a way of standing, or a tone of voice. It is something built out of a lot of component parts. Those parts develop independently and differently for every human being you meet. So let me explain with an analogy of motion: The pistons in an engine are designed to move, but they don't 'just…	/r/seduction	20/03/15 07:58 PM