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My STBX's therapist saved my ass on the custody agreement. Straight up told her that she was being unreasonable. I don't know who she is, but I am eternally grateful.
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/22 09:37 PM
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I always put down the seat and the lid. every time. have since I was a kid. an open toilet just looks trashy
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/22 12:49 AM
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It's gotta be about something specific. In general, the right to go no contact is pretty important. Most of our communication is about my son's extra-curriculars. Since he's too young to remember it all on his own, we fill each other in on what his schedule is. Our agreement said something like "we agree that full participation in extra curricular activities is in the best interest of the children and agree to ensure the other party is informed of all details pertaining" or something along those…
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/22 11:18 AM
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She has every right to not speak to you. She doesn't have to tell you anything. The bright side is neither do you. You want a coparenting relationship, but she doesn't. You have to respect that. Unless you got stuff added to the custody agreement. I got lots added to mine so me and my ex communicate all the time because we're required to.
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/22 05:12 PM
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This right here. I've had a pretty amicable divorce and when I decided to consult with a lawyer anyway he straight up told me I was wasting my time talking to him. And when a lawyer tells you NOT to give him more money, you listen lol
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/22 08:10 PM
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Speaking from experience: don't say anything. As long as she has him, she will be a lot more compromising in the divorce because she feels comfortable and "loved". If you destroy that, she will come at you because she has nothing else. My divorce process has had it's ups and downs but it has ALWAYS been easier when her and her boyfriend have been on good terms.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/22 03:51 AM
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You, me, and every other guy here. Narcissist is just a synonym for "Male" nowadays.
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/22 09:33 PM
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It is considered adultery. But adultery doesn't affect anything. It doesn't change the division of assets. It doesn't affect child support. All it does is give you an excuse to do an at-fault divorce. Which, again, doesn't actually change anything.
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/22 02:35 AM
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no i was told not to because i wanted to use the fact that my ex moved directly into her boyfriends house while i was sleeping and had no idea we were headed for divorce. She was sleeping with him the whole separation. I couldn't use it because it didn't matter.
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/22 02:32 AM
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That's not what my lawyer told me. Maybe yours told you differently. I was told not to even bring it up.
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/22 02:17 AM
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Depends on where you live. He in the state of Maryland judges don't care. At best you could use it as the justification for the divorce, but if it's happening anyway, it wont have any effect. In the state I grew up in, Utah, as long as it happens after the defined separation date (the date you and your ex decided to get a divorce) then it's ok. You gotta look up your state, but either way, never tell your ex. legal or not, it will always lead to trouble. She can brag all she wants, but if you ev…
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/22 07:14 PM
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If you use joint money, she'll just get it back. I would probably rent somewhere for 6 months then buy a place if you still want to. Since they're both boys, they can probably handle sharing a room for a lurk little bit until the divorce is settled and you know what you can afford.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/22 11:51 PM
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There is no end game. What's the end game of life? You just die at the end. You do your best to enjoy it and maybe leave it slightly better than you found it. If I want to see a movie, I might invite a woman to watch it with so I can enjoy discussing it with her afterward. I'm not doing it with an "end game".
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/22 06:27 PM
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I've never seen dating as an investment that needs to pay off. If I don't think the date itself will be worth the money, I don't go. Marriage being on or off the table shouldn't be relevant to whether dating is worth it. Keep your first dates cheap and easy and save the big expensive ones for women who you know you are going to enjoy it with.
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/22 05:46 PM
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Can't speak for Army or Navy, but Air Force does not care. They know and are doing their best to help me on a personal level, but the actual divorce and everything involved is strictly a civil matter to them.
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/22 05:38 PM
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Only if you hate your kids. Save the truth for when they're older and fully developed. It's devastating for a kids development to believe they have bad parents. My hate for my ex eventually turned to indifference, but the whole time I constantly told my kids that mommy loves them and thinks about them everyday.
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/22 08:47 PM
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Your ex wants to relocate? Well looks like she finally doesn't get what she wants. As long as you keep being there for your son, he will see it eventually. If I had guess, as soon as he hits teenage rebellious stage, he'll see his mom as the villian and want to come live with you. Lawyers and courts can only affect the short term. Only you can affect the long term.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/22 03:07 PM
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You're 41, not 81. It's absolutely worth starting over. Do you want to be happy your next 41 years or miserable? It sounds like you definitely could use therapy to get you in the right space, but the grass is definitely greener on the other side if you're not happy where you currently are.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/22 08:52 AM
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No, I never noticed a change. 10 years of laughs, great sex, and good times. It just turned out I wasn't the only guy benefiting from all that.
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/22 04:04 PM
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So your choices are: A) I am trash and proving society right that men deserve to be screwed over in family court B) I do the bare minimum to be considered a decent human being or C) this poll doesn't apply to me. I'm not sure what you are trying to accomplish here.
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/22 09:15 AM
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You would have to hide them for the rest of your life. A divorce settlement is only final if it was based on actual amount of assets. If anyone finds out down the road that you hid it, they will come back and take everything you have. Better to bite the bullet now than lose everything 10 years from now.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/22 04:03 PM
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Recently separated? Not divorced? Gotta wait man. This isn't some school relationship drama. You aren't ready. If you try to rush it, this will continue to happen.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/21 01:42 PM
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Nothing scares me more than the idea of a 2nd ex-wife. Good luck buddy.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/21 12:56 AM
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Holiday hours end at noon. Then it resorts back to regular hours. Now that Christmas is over, you get them for your regular weekend. You get them until 6. If you REALLY want to play by the rules, you can bring them back and then immediately take them back home for 6 hours since it's your weekend.
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/21 02:55 PM
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There's nothing basic about marriage. It's a tool used to screw people over once the woman decides she wants to trade in her current man for a better one. At least if you don't get married, when she moves on your wallet doesn't take the hit.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/21 12:49 PM
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What does that have to do with marriage?
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/21 12:16 PM
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If you feel like you can't wait (I couldn't follow my own advice for 3 months so i get it) I recommend Hinge over Tinder/Bumble. You won't find too many supermodels on there, but girls tend to be nicer, which is sometimes all you really need
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/21 07:24 PM
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I get it man. My ex literally moved out of our home directly in with her "boyfriend"... on CHRISTMAS!!! I woke up after my afternoon nap to an empty house. Left me in bad spot for a long time. I was so low, for about 3 months I threw myself at every girl who even glanced my general direction. Wasn't till I stopped that I was able to start healing. The last thing you need right now is to hit it off with a girl only for her to ghost you (because it WILL happen in this day and age of dating)
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/21 07:18 PM
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DO NOT DATE! You gotta wait 1 year. You are not ready yet. If you go down that road with how you're feeling now you'll hook yourself to the first girl who gives you attention and 5 years from now you'll be back on this sub with divorce number 2. If you happen upon a situation where you can go out with a girl, don't necessarily pass it up, but don't even think about downloading apps for a year. work on yourself man. You deserve to find happiness in yourself and not attaching your identity to the …
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/21 06:15 PM
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You'll come off as controlling if you try to enforce it. It will only hurt you in the end. My ex tried to add something like that into our custody agreement and I kept fighting it until her therapist told her she shouldn't do it. Trying to control your ex never turns out well.
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/21 04:36 PM
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Dude... fire that worthless lawyer and get a new one. If you have a deal ready to go that could be changed any minute and the lawyer doesn't make it a top priority, then what else are they dropping the ball on?
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/21 09:56 PM
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Who said anything about demanding? If it's not freely given by both people then the marriage is already over.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/21 11:28 PM
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Sex is not the most important thing, but it's still vital. I was the one in my relationship with the low sex drive so she went out and sought it from other men. It hurt and is the primary reason for our divorce, but I completely understand why she did it. Without sex, marriage just dies. If she was withholding sex, then she wasn't supporting him at all. She was just piling it on.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/21 09:18 PM
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It's too bad you didn't give her $15,001. Then it would be considered taxable and you could convince her to stop fighting you on it or she'll have to lose a good chunk of it
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/21 01:37 AM
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That might work one time, but if a pattern develops it wouldn't hold up.
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/21 02:58 PM
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I imagine that would depend on your custody agreement. Mine specifically says that we must support extra-curricular activities. Pulling a stunt means I could take her to court AND she would have to pay both my and her legal fees (also part of the agreement)
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/21 01:34 PM
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Read No More Mr. Nice Guy. Changes your life.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/21 03:16 PM
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Speaking solely for maryland here, but you can definitely but your daughters personal trainer on the child support worksheet. You might still be paying a bit, but her share of that will bite into it a little bit
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/21 12:10 AM
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As long as you are caving to her every whim, she has no reason to disrupt the status quo and drag out this divorce as long as possible. Stand your ground. You could even tell her you'd consider it once the divorce is final. 5 years is too long man. You gotta move on from your life and stop allowing her to get what she wants without giving you what you want.
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/21 03:32 AM
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