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I have the kids full time and pulling that myself would just seem cringe. I feel narcissistic enough accepting Father's Day congrats.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/22 04:17 PM
3

Not so much a question of not marrying in California so much as it is one of not divorcing in that state, but point stands.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/22 11:11 PM
4

I'm on year six or so, I've kind of come to terms with it.
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/22 04:24 AM
6

Add me to the list of people who still feels this way, and my wife cheated and left half a decade ago. I don't think it's unreasonable to think if you truly loved somebody, and especially if you weren't the one who wanted the marriage to end, that it would affect you in the way that it has. There is nothing wrong with that, and frankly I think it's far weirder when people can brush off an ex spouse like nothing. But it is what it is.
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/22 06:01 PM
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there aren’t two states that have the same rules and hence why it’s unconstitutional! Not saying it's good or bad, but why does that make it unconstitutional? States differ in the application and passing of many many more laws that just child support enforcement related ones. The constitution literally gives the states the right to pass their own laws in that regard.
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/22 12:51 AM
1

I've been divorced for over 5 years. Haven't had a date since. Being a full time dad without the ex really in the picture doesn't leave much time. Not that I would want to in any case. I find most people mind numbingly boring, and I'm still in love with the ex. Not a great catch. Not sure I'm missing much to be honest.
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/22 06:53 PM
2

Nothing will happen. A judge might not like it, but a parent travelling or even moving with their child is not illegal, until an enforceable order is in place. Can't be punished for violating a crime you haven't committed, and it's not kidnapping (if another parent/guardian is travelling with the child) until a court has put those orders in place. Mind you, it would make the person doing it look awful, so not the best idea.
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/22 06:03 PM
8

Yes. It will get worse. Then better. Then even worse then you could have ever believed it could be! And then only occasionally meh. Emotions ebb and flow, and this cocktail of them is a doozy. Be kind to yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/21 02:48 AM
1

I conquered that conundrum by not having any. Honestly I might welcome it. <shrugs>
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/21 09:16 PM
3

My wife did exactly this same thing the day she announced she was leaving. Turns out she wanted to talk to her affair partner more "openly" than just sending furtive texts. She might just be cheating. Or she genuinely wants to be away from you. Or she is turning you into the monster in her own head. It doesn't matter. It's over.
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/21 05:47 PM
62

I'm considering never even dating again much less getting married.
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/21 04:31 PM
11

Lol. I read this 5 years ago when my wife WAS cheating. I thought I didn't recognize any of those signs. I loved her, she wasn't that kind of person. Turns out they were all there, but I was too oblivious to even know it WITH A LIST OF THEM RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME. Shit sucks.
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/21 05:47 PM
2

No. I am not. I loved my wife. Mind you I'm ok. My kids are ok. But I'm not happy.
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/21 04:09 AM
5

Sex is fantastic. It's also rarely worth the consequences. I say that as a man with children and a wife I adored for two decades (/still love both the wife and the kids).
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/21 02:24 PM
1

Coming from the other angle completely I honestly wish I understood how some people CAN. I'm fortunate in that my ex wife called me the "manipulative, impulsive, and non contributing" one (honestly everyone going through a divorce probably meets that label in almost everyone else's mind, to the point of being a non-statement) and left the kids and I. How does one deal with that? Good on you for at least WANTING to be there. That in itself will mean a lot to your kids.
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/21 12:45 AM
3

Sucks when you don't particularly care for pets I suppose.
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/21 01:28 AM
2

Once the guy she was monkeybranching to realises he's signed up for the god awful deal of carrying another man's family through life then subsequently bails out, she has little more to do with her miserable existence than to make her exhusbands life a living hell. Sometimes the other guy gets lucks and find a woman willing to up and leave her kids. Is some cases, those types consider that a win.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/21 01:29 AM
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in the US that said grandparents do not have rights to grandkids. That's simply not true. Grandparents don't have a constitutional right to time with their grandchildren, but that isn't to say individual states don't allow for some sort of grandparents rights, in some states even with enforced visitation. Simply saying they don't exist is misinformation at best and a lie at worst.
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/21 12:04 AM
1

Yes, I regret it everyday. I'm not a cheerleader for divorce like many on here though, so I may be the odd one out.
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/21 06:04 PM
1

It really is bizarre. Just don't make the mistake I did and point it out to your wife. They don't like being confronted with that evidence. But then, who does I guess?
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/21 07:19 PM
7

This is the thing that confuses me. Up until my wife left for the affair partner affection was never an issue and intimacy was a daily thing. One day it just stopped and less than a month later she was gone. Really confused the hell out of me. At least with the way that most people describe their marriages falling apart it was quite a bit more...apparent? Maybe I'm just supremely oblivious.
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/21 01:58 AM
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I hate that line. It REALLY wasn't worth it in my case.
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/21 03:15 AM
1

There was no way in the seven hells I would have let my ex take my kids with her when she left, and I was willing to give her almost anything. Unless you have a very good reason to let them go I really recommend against it. It likely do nothing but increase the emotional distance with your child, and ultimately that's something you can never get back. Maintaining a relationship at that distance is difficult at best, and unless things go swimmingly, not at all likely.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/21 01:03 AM
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“I knew the divorce was for the best because you immediately became a better father for our son.” Sounds like the same kind of gross self-validating statement my ex would make.
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/21 01:48 AM
2

And mine left me and the kids for someone well over two decades older than me who happens to have a bit more money, and lives in a much nicer place. Never mind I'm in the situation and location I'm in specifically because I did it for her. The family that loved her wasn't worth staying for when vacations and the allure of old man's genitals were on the line. It's always something. Maybe she is happier. I've always thought though if happiness comes at the result of the suffering of people who lov…
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/21 05:56 PM
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My exwife will swear to the moon and back that I drove her into jumping on another man's crotch and made her abandon her family. I mean, I might not have been perfect, but I hardly think her reaction to my imperfection was warranted. Point is she sees herself as the victim, or did at one point, I would not be surprised if that's more common than not.
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/21 12:58 AM
1

No. I haven't. I have two kids full time, who has the time?
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/21 12:07 PM
4

You're ready when you are ready. It's been 5 years for me. I'm not ready. Maybe you are. I personally would at least wait until the divorce is final, but you do you.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/21 02:10 AM
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No. I would prefer to go back in time and toss the guy she cheated with in front of a car though. Seriously though, my kids are the only family I have left after she took herself out of it. I would not give them up.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/21 03:36 PM
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I would have done almost anything for even a chance at some therapy with the ex. Too hard to want to see one when you are busy abandoning your family for your lover I guess.
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/21 10:03 PM
3

Good for him. In my case, he's fucking wrong. But good for him.
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/21 07:14 PM
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You can only be forced to pay what is ordered. The right thing to do would be to enter into a voluntary agreement to pay the state tabulated rates, get it documented and notarized and filed with the court, that way it won't come back to bite you later. I forgave the ex wife a year and a half of back child support, so that's possible, but best to do right by the kids.
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/21 02:03 AM
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I'm a guy with primary residential custody, so I know I'm not the norm. It should just be split by custodial percentage up to a certain cutoff in my opinion. I have my kids 90% if the time, and while my ex does pay a nominal amount in child support, it would hardly be fair for her to get half. Kids are really expensive and child support doesn't begin to cut it in many cases. I know a whole bunch of guys who get their panties in a twist over paying 50-100 bucks a month, two specifically who are w…
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/21 06:06 AM
1

It's unfortunate, but sometimes we have to deal with the ramifications of our actions. For many, it gets better with time, especially if you can distance yourselves from the things that remind you of what you've lost. Maybe that's a step you'll have to take sooner rather than later for your own sanity. Frankly, after having cheated, I'm surprised you have it as amicable as you do. I generally don't have much sympathy for those who willingly participate in infidelity. At least I can say that one …
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/21 03:55 AM
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I was the one who messed up. She found out about two years ago Infidelity?
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/21 01:58 AM
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I never would. My kids are too important to me for the moment. My exwife could give a crap, which explains why she left I guess. Though I have custody in my case, so I suppose it's only academic.
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/21 08:29 PM
1

6'11" about 186 lbs. Is that a typo?
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/21 01:15 AM
2

That's not reading into things at all...
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/20 06:10 AM
2

She doesn't speak to me and rarely speaks to the kids. She seems happy with her affair partner, and I doubt any gift from me would be wanted, much less appreciated. The last time I tried she called me a pathetic loser. I'm not going that route again.
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/20 08:20 PM
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My ex didn't pay for over a year after bailing on us for her affair partner. When I asked her to help out with the kids at least, she called me the worst person she knew for trying to get it on paper. Mind you she has paid every month since then (always a little late but still) but she still really doesn't like the fact that she has to pay anything. Sometimes that court order takes a while. Don't give up on it, as at the very least back child support should kick in.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/20 05:24 AM
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You and me both brother. There is no part of me that wanted the divorce that was forced on me and our kids by my ex and her lover, but it is what it is. Life sucks that way.
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/20 10:39 PM
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Pithy, sure, but you know very well what I mean.
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/20 05:03 PM
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I dunno. Its been 4+ years for me. I've sworn off relationships completely. My wife's leaving / infidelity etc... damned near killed me. I very nearly did myself in. I'm not risking that again for anyone. I'm resigned to dying alone.
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/20 04:33 AM
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I did. She walked out and left everything behind. Didn't even ask for it.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/20 06:49 AM
1

Sometimes I'm grateful the wife just bailed on me and our kids. True, I'm doing it alone, and the kids don't really have a mom there, but I don't have to deal with half the stuff you guys do. That said, your house your rules, but be consistent and try not to rock the boat with the ex too much. Might not be worth it.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/20 04:12 PM
2

Nah, I find casual dating kind of gross and personally distasteful, I'm just not built that way.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/20 06:30 PM
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Have been, have done, and no, still didn't help. I've had multiple therapists say that they can see that I have tried but that ultimately I'll have to get there on my own. In essence, meaning the therapy in and of itself really isn't helpful, to me at least. It's not fair to assume that one has not made an honest attempt and has just found it wanting.
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/20 05:12 PM
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Therapy doesn't always work. I found it more than useless and expensive to boot. That said, it is worth a shot. I have seen it help others, but it's not for everyone and really is not a magic bullet.
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/20 04:54 PM
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Four years here. You are not alone. I can't even gather the will to even try to date. As far as I'm concerned that part of my life is over. I spent half my life with someone who shat all over me like I was nothing in the end. And she was the only one who I had ever been with. I'm not risking that again.
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/20 02:16 PM
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Does she know you are planning on divorcing her?
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/20 09:48 PM
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But also, remember they your kids don't see things the same way you do. In fact if they see you feeling down or sad because of it that's gonna hurt them more. Their context is this is normal for them. This is just not necessarily true. At least it isn't for my own kids.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/20 10:43 AM
4

I am now ashamed of my cushy desk job.
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/20 01:11 AM
3

It was weirder explaining why she left and no longer lived in the country to be honest. Everyone assumed that I was the fuck up whose wife had to run away from me, the fact that I was left with the house and kids and everything else notwithstanding.
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/20 04:25 AM
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Unfortunately you just have to deal with it. It drives me batty that her AP now gets to spend time with my kid (who hates his guts at least), and there is less than 0 I can do about it. In fact even trying could conceivably cause me to lose custody. The guy in an amoral hypocrite of the highest order, but the courts simply don't (or can't) care. And I loved my wife, still do in spite of myself. Doesn't matter. In a sense that's pretty much the only way you can comfort yourself, in knowing you ca…
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/20 04:24 AM
2

Late 30's to early 40's. Old enough I suppose.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/20 05:02 AM
2

18 years.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/20 04:53 AM
2

No, it really hasn't gotten too much better for me. My kids seem to be handling it well though. It's been 4 years.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/20 04:34 AM
2

No, that really does seem to to be the point (the younger chick thing is just an example of it in play). Put your happiness first in spite of everything. In part it's that Cult of Happiness that is destroying the modern family.
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/20 02:25 AM
4

So everyone keeps telling me. It's been 4 years and it doesn't really seem to help. Here's hoping. Sorry to hear about your situation.
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/20 06:36 PM
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No. I can't say I've that fantasy. I loved my life, my wife and kids. I was happy with my life. Now I'm broke and my wife is screwing another dude old enough to be my dad and I'm raising my kids alone. Sometimes it's something good that is taken away from us.
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/20 06:22 PM
1

20 years together, we have kids, and she was my first everything. She blindsided me with a divorce when it turned out she was sleeping with a man 20+ years older than us and left me to raise our kids alone while she moved half way across the planet to be with him. At the time of the divorce I was still very much in love with her. It came out of nowhere. Therapy doesn't help either.
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/20 05:55 PM
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Give it a year... It's been 4.
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/20 11:30 PM
1

and when you are done grieving you will start slaying pussy like there's no tomorrow. The sad aspect for me is that all of that just sounds awful. All I want is my wife back. Barring that I guess it's just being alone.
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/20 07:14 PM
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I haven't gone on a date since my divorce, and that was more than 4 years ago. I don't think a mild slump as you are experiencing is pathetic (as in being a loser) in any real sense.
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/20 03:02 AM
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In my exwifes case it was “I’m leaving you and the kids for someone I've known for a month who’s 25 years older.” But yeah, its the common refrain.
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/20 10:25 PM
3

Not doing much to dissuade my opinion there. She is his wife, not a used car, and he is (at least it seems so in my perusing this thread) cheating on her. I understand the legal strategy in it, but it would no less a scumbag move, especially to pull it on someone he's been with for 24 years.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/20 11:33 PM
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There's also no benefit telling her ahead of time -- simply have her served with the divorce paperwork. This is such a scumbag move.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/20 11:15 PM
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You’re asking Reddit for legal advice, as opposed to a lawyer? Well, there is /r/legaladvice But even then most of the suggestions from people there who aren't complete mouth breathers boil down to "see an actual lawyer".
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/20 06:45 PM
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Personally I did not and would not have even considered it. It would have contravened my moral compass. Even if that were not the case, it would have only served to complicate things, and hardly would have seemed worth it.
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/20 10:05 PM
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As with almost anything it's extremely context dependent. Some children really are better off without one of the parents in the picture. Sad, but true. It's too often abused though.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/20 06:29 PM
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My ex has missed every mothers day for the past 4 years. She prefers I don't speak to her. My kids really don't either, but I'm sure at least one will say something to her. I tried sending her cards and a gift once from me and the kids, she just sent them back. If you have a better relationship with yours I say go for it. It shows goodwill. Of course it would depend on what exact message you are afraid of sending.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/20 03:16 AM
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What you are asking for would require a far more massive infrastructure than we already have for enforcement. You can't decry the state's extreme involvement in child support and family law enforcement on the one hand and then ask for even more of it with the other. And in thr calculations use real world figures not magic numbers. This doesn't really mean anything. Those magic numbers are based on real world figures, normalized and averaged across a domain true, but if you want them to be made c…
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/20 07:56 PM
2

Claims she isn't moving in with anyone and that she "Just wants to be happy" (has been her mantra for the past year). So did my ex. It was only after she moved that I found out that finding herself and being happy meant living with another man. So how'd it work out for you? How'd the kids handle it? They've pretty much cut her off. One of them still speaks to her out of guilt and the fact that he is young, but the others want almost nothing to do with her or the affair partner. It's really sad. …
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/20 07:38 AM
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My wife did this. We went from being "happy" as far as I knew to her living with her affair partner in the space of a month. She left the kids behind and signed over everything. I didn't even really have to ask. So she very well might not be up to anything, and so long as it's all legal and above board it doesn't matter if she is. She, like my ex, will only be shooting herself in the foot.
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/20 05:38 AM
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I have my kids 100% of the time. My wife might be banging the affair partner, but I don't have the time or the will. I still love the ex. I've just settled on being alone.
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/20 11:31 PM
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Try having the kids 100% of the time and being away from any support network whatsoever while your (ex)wife is living with the AP half a planet away. As you say, it really is a rut maker.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/20 06:24 AM
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It's been 4 years. Ending it all is probably where it will end up. Thanks for the well wishes though.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/20 04:46 AM
1

Tried it. Spent thousands. Didn't help at all.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/20 04:38 AM
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To tell all those who have recently found out their partner cheated... it gets better, it comes and goes in waves but eventually the pain subsides to manageable levels. It really hasn't in my case. People keep on saying it will, but it hasn't
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/20 03:36 AM
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Because childsupport is never enforced on females. It was on my ex. It was on my friends ex as well. Two different states. Anecdotal sure, but still more evidence than you provided here. There is evidence that men are far less likely to ask for or force support orders to be enforced, which is a cultural issue more than a systemic one. The states make $1-15 back per every $1 collected Programs need an enforcement arm or they are useless. Federal funding is generally provided to enforcement arms o…
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/20 01:23 AM
1

I'm not sure I understand the argument given these charts. We know that parental separation affects children, and you are arguing that it affects homelessness as well.If we take that as a given though, how is that an argument that it is an aspect of the "systems design" and not just something that comes from the breakdown of the family itself?
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/20 02:30 PM
1

No, but I've been accused of being the alienator. Which is a whole other ball of worms.
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/20 12:39 AM
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I have the kids full time. She is living it up with her AP somewhere in another country. I don't have time for anything else but to be a dad. I'm still in love with her in any case. Dating and what not isn't in the cards and I have no time for anything else.
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/20 02:15 PM
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Things really get better. Not always, and not for everyone. It's nice to know it is for some, but it's true that'll it won't be that way for all, or even most.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/20 09:30 PM
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I still haven't. It might be because I didn't want it and I was completely blindsided, but here I am 4 years later and still almost as damaged as I was then. I don't think I'll ever get over it. I think how fast you come to terms with it depends on how much agency you feel in making the decision. If you feel that divorce is something that you want and need, for good reason or not, you'll come to peace with it much faster. It sounds like you might be wanting to give yourself that agency by being …
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/20 05:51 PM
1

Isn't that to prevent double taxing? Child support is post tax, making the CP pay tax on it would be double taxing the money. To do what you would advocate would mean that the NCP pay funds pretax no?
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/20 05:58 PM
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So much about that tax change was complete and utter ridiculousness.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/20 05:56 PM
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I agree with most of what you say, what I don't see is anything other than anecdotal evidence that this is actually occurring on a massive scale. Where is the evidence that all of this is due to the greed of the state? I would genuinely like to see that. As I say, orders need enforcement. Enforcement is obviously not perfect, there will be those that suffer, but there are mechanisms to deal with what you describe, assuming one knows how to file a form in most states, so if that's not the solutio…
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/20 05:40 PM
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I won't disagree with that point. The video on the other hand seemed to go further than that specific point. In any case, where is the evidence of: The child support agencies are trained to deny modifications as much as possible. And why is it specifically not in the child's best interests? Because I can see many circumstances under which it might be. Again, what's the alternative?
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/20 05:03 PM
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What's the argument here? I get how it seems unfair on the surface, but kids are expensive. There are too many parents who would just flat out not provide a cent if they weren't compelled to, so what's the solution to that? I know the pittance my ex wife pays is nothing on the face of things, shes not even on the continent. I know my own dad was a deadbeat. I know my sisters childrens fathers don't contribute at all... So honestly, what's the alternative?
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/20 04:00 PM
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I know this was true for me. Wife left me and the kids out of the blue around that same age for someone much much older than her.
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/20 08:23 AM
3

What is the purpose of this chart?
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/20 08:54 PM
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I'm a man whose wife cheated and bailed, but even I have to say it isn't always the wife that was the hoe. I've known plenty of men who neglect their families, and cheat on their wives, only to cry foul when the ex treats them the way they almost asked to be treated.
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/20 05:00 AM
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no divorce stigma and all the old social restrictions are out the window. Probably not good for society long term but enjoy it. I'm too much of a moral masochist to do that personally.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/20 01:44 AM
1

My ex wife around your age left me and the kids for a man in his 60's. That's not a suggestion, but merely an observation of the fact that almost any woman will be able to find an interested man. Now as to their quality I suppose it's like any other thing... Your mileage may vary. But, if you are interested, you'll never know if you don't try.
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/20 11:39 AM
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You committed the betrayal, cheating without much consideration on someone you had been through thick and thin with (I was married for about 20 myself). Haven't you already unilaterally made the decision as to if the end of the road was reached?
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/20 08:28 PM
1

I really do wish more people treated marriage like the commitment it is and not just a convenience to be done away with. If I had wanted a girlfriend I would have had a girlfriend. I wanted a wife. They aren't the same damned thing.
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/20 05:29 PM
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Let the poor woman go. You seemingly don't respect her or the effect your actions will have on your kids, and as you say your commitment to your family is not the priority to you. If you aren't all in don't drag it out. Your selfishness will just hurt them more.
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/20 01:09 PM
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I think it might be easier to open up to someone who has also gone through similar circumstances, given that they ideally should know what it's like and would not want to do that to another person themselves, but I'm pretty certain I'll never get there.
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/20 11:39 PM
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I never will. I'm ok with that. I loved my wife. She cheated. I'm done. I can't trust anyone like that again. It almost broke me the first time.
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/20 10:28 PM
1

Super fake, not to mention wildly immature, childish and stupidly petty. The courts would rip him a new one. Any man who would do this would almost (it really depends of the exact circumstances) automatically get me to support the exwife, because it really speaks badly as to his character.
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/20 05:54 AM
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My ex moved straight out of our house into his and demanded the kids come over. There was nothing I could do. It sucks.
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/20 06:21 PM
1

You’re seeing shadows on the wall and believing it is reality. Gotta leave the cave to understand how wrong your perception was. What's wrong about it? Your children want you to be happy. My ex believed that happiness came from another persons genitals. I don't. I would prefer my kids try to learn that being "unhappy" doesn't always mean you have to find that happiness in someone else. My ex has already taught them that lesson. Thanks for the well wishes.
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/20 06:14 AM
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Dude, envision yourself with the next woman you love. That's exactly what I mean by dishonorable. I would not do that to someone. You won’t find healing in the person who hurt you. I'm not so blind as to expect that. You absolutely can stop loving your ex. It will go away eventually. Go no contact. Nah. It's been 3+ years and we have kids together. We were together almost half my life. It's not going to happen (or at least not for a long long time). Loving someone else would be cheating for me. …
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/20 05:54 AM
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I will likely always be alone for the rest of my life. There really isn't much of a point. I can't stop loving my exwife no matter how much she hurt me. Moving on would be dishonorable.
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/20 12:56 AM
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Somehow that doesn't help. My own kids tell me she isn't worth it, but I can't help but still love her.
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/20 11:42 PM
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Honestly, no to both questions. My ex is many things, but never a goldigger. And by all accounts the guy is a bit of a tool. He does sleep with married women after all (among other things). It's not my job to understand it it I guess, which is good, because I doubt I ever will.
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/20 04:27 AM
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Mine left me for a guy older than my parents. Who were in their mid to late 20's when they had me. Fat, old, bald and near retirement. That one confuses me.
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/20 03:13 AM
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Our culture has made marriage disposable. I find many people treat it as such. The sad fact is 70+ percent of divorces are initiated by women, and maybe it's because men are truly awful, or because it's easier for women, I don't pretend to know. Having the love of my life leave me and our kids for another man, even if I was not perfect, was worse than death. I don't know if I would recommend it.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/20 11:29 PM
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May I ask what you did or didn't do to deserve your wife's ire? I've seen some cases where a parent treated the way you feel you are being treated is due to the fact that they cheated or rather let one of their own moral failings cause the family's downfall, only to pin it entirely on the other parent. That said, I can believe it's rough.
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/20 08:49 AM
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Oh I know. It's been over three years already. People keep on saying it'll get better, it really hasn't.
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/20 04:58 AM
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Still not there. I doubt I ever will be.
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/20 12:35 AM
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Mine left me and the kids 2 days before my birthday. That was nice
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/19 11:29 PM
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My ~40 year old wife left me and the kids for someone is his mid 60's. There is someone out there willing to pickup almost any woman really.
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/19 04:40 AM
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If sex is all that separates your wife and your sister I have to venture that you might not be in control of all the facts. That's just a tad creepy. It really isn't that difficult a concept. If I was medically unable to have sex would that make my wife any less my wife? I would say no, and would question the judgement of any who would claim otherwise, as that is just an extremely sad way of viewing a marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/19 03:20 PM
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Disagree, but ok.
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/19 11:31 PM
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My wife meant a lot more to me than something as basal as mere sex. Marriage is much more than touching bodyparts.
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/19 11:23 PM
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If my wife hadn't decided to cheat on me and abandon me and the kids I would have said yes it's 100% worth it. I still believe that, but I won't ever risk trying for a relationship again.
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/19 12:29 AM
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It's been 3 years for me. I'm also an introvert. One year would be way way too quick for me, but only you know you.
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/19 03:40 AM
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Common law marriage isn't exactly either new or ultra-liberal.
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/19 04:20 PM
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No I did not, and I would not. I would not have been able to do so morally.
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/19 07:56 PM
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I live in the same house as them. My ex gave up custody and moved a couple of thousand miles away to be with the AP. One small silver lining there I suppose.
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/19 01:16 PM
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Texas does have fault divorce. Though no-fault is also an option.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/18 12:05 AM
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