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There used to be days when the advice on this sub used to have some substance. Nowadays it is often somebody spewing bullshit. In a hypothetical scenario where a man ‘improves’ his game by going to a strip club, you know what happens after that? He goes outside hoping his skills would carry him. Only to find he has not learnt to grab the attention of women in the first place because he has been talking to strippers who in turn had been talking to him because they had a reason to. A girl in the s…
/r/seduction16/06/26 01:18 AM
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Dude. This should not even be a question. Always use condoms unless in an exclusive relationship.
/r/seduction24/11/25 02:03 PM
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Being in shape makes every stage easier.
/r/seduction09/11/25 05:23 PM
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Been there. What worked for me was being extremely unapologetic about my life situation and not letting it affect the value I provided to them. I.e. conversations weren’t marred with how difficult my life was at that time, or how sorry I felt with myself. Dates weren’t expensive, but fun nonetheless. Things like rollerblading together, tossing the frisbee around, even going grocery shopping together. One thing I’ve learnt, many women (even +8) won’t just care about where you are currently, but p…
/r/seduction26/09/25 10:16 AM
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This is the kind of post where an op talks a lot but says nothing.
/r/seduction27/07/25 05:03 AM
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This is solid advice. I do all of this. The part 2 (our date) is super powerful. Such future projections paint vivid pictures in their minds and keep them hooked. I didn’t check the comments but am pretty sure there would be people talking about rule 1 and 2 without even trying the techniques you have outlined here. My fav opener that works pretty well for me is: “Hey, we ought to chat, but i need to tell my grandma about you first.” Another simple opener I use that works like a charm is: “You k…
/r/seduction14/03/25 02:30 PM
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“Yay! Congratulations! Anyway, as I was saying…”
/r/seduction11/02/25 08:34 PM
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Confidence. I tried everything, dressing nice, grooming well, all that. But nothing worked better than being confident. Confidence allows you to project yourself better, make and maintain eye contact, speak your truths, and much more. I’m not saying dressing up and grooming are useless, in fact those things help you be more confident. The evidence supporting the superiority of confidence presented itself when during a date I was talking about a stupid online game and she was eating it all up. Co…
/r/seduction21/11/24 11:06 AM
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Hold eye contact for a second longer than what is considered socially normal and then give them a smile. Keep at it for some time and after enough smiles, you’ll find yourself comfortable enough to talk to them.
/r/seduction11/08/24 03:24 PM
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Username checks out.
/r/seduction16/06/24 11:24 AM
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Only one way to find out.
/r/seduction16/06/24 05:31 AM
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Techno parties? Nah mate. Yoga classes. Art gallery. Wine tasting. Brunch places. Cafes. Concerts. Theatre.
/r/seduction15/06/24 07:16 PM
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Can’t think of any variant of the question “may I kiss you?” that isn’t lame. I asked that question once in my life, and I actually saw the blaze of attraction in her eyes fizzle out instantly. Need consent? Lean in for the kiss, go about 90 percent of the way in and pause. Then see if she leans in or pulls away. Asking the question “May I kiss you?” or any of its variants is guaranteed to decrease your value in her eyes about 95 percent of the time. By how much?- that would vary for each case. …
/r/seduction14/06/24 06:12 PM
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People with game won’t ask. While building their game, they’ve developed a keen sense of reading body language and determining the buying temp of the one they’re courting. People with game will go in for the kiss when they know the girl would be more receptive. Worst case scenario… Their calculations are a bit off and the girl would reject the kiss.
/r/seduction14/06/24 05:22 PM
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If you want the opinion of an old schooler, this is a shit test. She was testing if you can keep your cool when things don’t go your way and you handled it alright. Telling her your feelings may seem like the logical next step, but it may prove risky. Once she knows how you feel, you’ll be “solved” in her mind— Another guy who absolutely digs her even after she has made it clear that she wants to be just friends. She claims she is not feeling butterflies now, but once you’re solved, she won’t ev…
/r/seduction12/06/24 02:02 PM
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Overall good advice. Don’t put ‘em on a pedestal. Don’t put up with their shit. Call them out on their bad behavior(with some humor). Then turn the tables and you start qualifying/disqualifying them. Then watch them eat out of your hands.
/r/seduction30/04/24 12:52 AM
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Always be escalating. You didn’t kiss her. Didn’t even as much as hold her hand or touch her in a romantic manner. Then you call her hot from the safety of your mobile phone. You came across as safe. Safe is boring. That being said, there’s no way for me to know all the nitty gritties of the dynamics between you two, so not necessarily all is lost. When you speak with/text her next, ask her out for the second date. Take charge and make a plan for the longer date and tell her that. What you’ve ha…
/r/seduction24/10/22 05:17 AM
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Be a BAMF. Don’t take their shit. Their sense of self is very dependent on the validation they get. And they may try to push the envelope see if they still get it when they’re being a complete ass. If you give it to them when they’re being c*nts, you will lose their respect and become just another guy they have successfully gotten wrapped around their lil finger. That’s the only way I know.
/r/seduction13/09/22 04:26 PM
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I’m in India. A country that could be as orthodox as most other countries (except for maybe some). Sure the hit rate may not be as great as it would’ve been if I was in the west but the principles are sound. Disagree with your post. Examine yourself. Examine the beliefs you hold to be true. If they aren’t congruent with your beliefs, reframe them. I can bet my beard that I’ve cultivated over three years that you will see massive improvements after you’ve done that.
/r/seduction10/09/22 05:27 PM
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Wasn't bad. But if you can make your response make you look better, that's better than saying something funny. Something in the lines of "What can i say? Being hot is a full time job. " Is what I'd go with.
/r/seduction16/08/22 02:49 PM
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Two second rule. You see a girl, just go talk to her within two seconds.
/r/seduction13/08/22 03:57 PM
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Ask for directions. When she tells me, I come clean and tellnher howbo think she's attractive and I had to say hi
/r/seduction12/08/22 12:39 AM
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Not so. Women get jaded too and are often open for casual nsa things
/r/seduction10/08/22 07:40 AM
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Good call. You didn’t choose to be balding. But you can choose to be bald. That’s the image you’ll be projecting. Bald by choice.
/r/seduction06/08/22 09:09 AM
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He was a socially awkward balding geek (during a time when being a geek was not cool), who then went on to be one of the best seduction masters in the world. Anyway, I’m signing off here. You’re convinced that you’re creepy and there’s not much I can do about it. Still gonna say, you oughta get rid of that negative image you have of self. If you see yourself in poor light, that’s how others will see you too.
/r/seduction03/08/22 04:40 PM
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Here’s a pic for you. Same guy. Old self and new self. Pic.
/r/seduction03/08/22 04:33 PM
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Neil Strauss (Style) look him up. Read his story.
/r/seduction03/08/22 04:29 PM
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All I can say is, while learning to walk, a child falls a lot of times. If they give up, they’re submitting to a life of crawling around. I can just tell you what I’ve learnt. Im sorry mate, seeing all your replies to suggestions by me and others gives me a sense that you’re brimming with negativity. And unless you remedy that, anything that anybody tells you is going to fall flat.
/r/seduction03/08/22 04:24 PM
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Man first of all you ought to reframe your thoughts. Gonna give some psychological gyaan here. The physiological sensations one feels when nervous are the same as one feels when excited. Elevated heart rate, a thrumming through the entire body, some lightheadedness among others. Elite athletes before their matches feel nervous too, but they frame it as being excited. You’re not nervous, you’re excited. You aren’t being creepy, you’re being friendly. Here’s what you can do to get in the zone. Let…
/r/seduction03/08/22 04:15 PM
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There’s this thing, emotional transference. The emotions you feel, are often felt by the ones you’re interacting with. So if you’re nervous, the girl will feel nervous. The only remedy is for you to get over your nervousness. And the best way to do that is talk to more and more girls. In the old PUA days, it was common for people with approach anxiety to approach women and honestly tell them that they’re trying to get over their fear of talking to women. That works because once you let it out in…
/r/seduction03/08/22 04:02 PM
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This is not something that happens often. The few times that it does though is unavoidable. Some years ago I was banned from a mall because the staff would see me and my wingmen there regularly doing cold approaches and they labelled it harassment. Nothing one can do about odd situations like this. Don't worry about this too much. I understand how you feel right now, a lost opportunity stings. As I mentioned, things like this will happen now and then. The only thing you can do is move on. Apart …
/r/seduction30/07/22 07:18 PM
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Move on man. You got cockblocked.
/r/seduction30/07/22 07:01 PM
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That’s awesome man. Why would you call it a mistake. The first time a person lifts weights, their body shivers and shudders. That’s a natural reaction to a new routine. In the olden PU days, we used to talk about Champs and Chumps. After screwing an approach, the chump would wallow the entire evening. On the other hand, the champ would move on to the next. Then the next. Then the next. The good part is, even chumps can become champs. Stay on the path man, greatness lies ahead.
/r/seduction30/07/22 10:47 AM
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Meeting and immediately having sex is a regular Tuesday for us who consider cold approaches superior over OLD. Your one off success story is not going to change our opinion. But hey, whatever makes you happy.
/r/seduction22/07/22 12:41 PM
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In Old school PUA language, that’s ASD -Anti Slut Defence.
/r/seduction18/07/22 03:24 AM
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Trail? As in hiking trail? Is this the first time you’re meeting her? If yes, then I’m not at all surprised she brings a friend along. Hiking trails are sorta abandoned right? She is doing it for her own security. Meet them in a public place where she can feel safe the first time you guys meet mate.
/r/seduction16/07/22 12:33 PM
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I had a year long dry spell many years ago when I had gotten hooked to World of Warcraft. MMORPGS are a rabbit hole I never want to enter again.
/r/seduction13/07/22 07:41 PM
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Certainly this.
/r/seduction10/07/22 02:58 PM
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Creepy. I’ve been guilty of doing something similar in the past. Certainly creepy.
/r/seduction10/07/22 01:17 PM
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Polo shirts look dope if you’re fit and the shirt fits you well. I like them in solids though. I feel striped polos look okayish at best and would rarely -if ever- look dope.
/r/seduction04/07/22 06:07 AM
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There used to be this dude. Short, balding and mousy. Also a nerd during the time period when being a nerd was not considered cool. Within a short span of time je became one of the best PUAs in the world. Look him up. He called himself Style. That being said, online dating is a crutch that wont do much for improving your game. The cards are stacked against men's favour there. Girls are drawn much more to personality than looks and OLD is mostly about looks. You hate approaching at bars because i…
/r/seduction03/07/22 12:55 PM
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The power of eye contact, invading personal space, matching the energy, frame control.
/r/seduction03/07/22 02:05 AM
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Plot twist, the three dudes were also the guys she met on bumble and decided to have an audition. Sorry mate, you don’t get the part.
/r/seduction02/07/22 01:04 PM
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Screw him mate. You dodged a bullet there. That guy was a jerk.
/r/seduction29/06/22 03:00 PM
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Great. Some more mental masturbation which in no way will affect how much you get laid.
/r/seduction29/06/22 11:17 AM
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Not enough info.
/r/seduction29/06/22 11:15 AM
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Usually guys avert their gaze after a second of an eye contact. Hold it for two seconds and smile at her. Then talk to her.
/r/seduction28/06/22 12:40 PM
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Yes. Asking the same question each time is such a hint drop.
/r/seduction27/06/22 01:38 PM
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Move on. Hurt people, hurt people. He doesn’t mean to hurt you but his depression would continue to do so. If you are very positive that you two can have a good relationship, pursue it but only if he starts getting therapy.
/r/seduction27/06/22 01:11 PM
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Good job done. As for the other dudes and often women. Think of them as flies on the wall. That is ignore them. But if they talk to you be your best self. If they try to mock you and stuff, don’t get worked up. Look at them like they’re an idiot, turn back to your girl and go “Anyways,….”
/r/seduction26/06/22 09:54 AM
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You're giving off classic one-itis vibes. If a game is designed for you to lose, don't play that game. Play another. -Seth Godin
/r/seduction26/06/22 06:35 AM
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Do as the man says. Shoot your do or die shot. The worst thing that a man does to himself during seduction is play it safe. Safe is boring. Ask her out for a proper date. Like dinner and drinks and stuff. The worst thing that can happen is she refusing to go on a romantic type date and killing all your future prospects of a relationship/affair with her. But thats where you are anyway. So big deal. If she says yes, awesome. Have a good time with her and ESCALATE. RIGHT FROM THE GET GO. if she say…
/r/seduction25/06/22 04:54 PM
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I feel you mate. For me it’s the thrill of the hunt. The will she/won’t she part keeps me in the game.
/r/seduction25/06/22 07:13 AM
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Men are visual creatures and like encouragement. Doll yourself up and you got our attention. See one of us that you fancy? Make eye contact and smile. Unless a complete wuss, the man will approach.
/r/seduction25/06/22 05:15 AM
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You were solved.
/r/seduction24/06/22 10:26 PM
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I may have something to say but you may not like it. I've had the exact same thing happen to me when I was younger and not indoctrinated into the world of PU where I learnt the differences between Mars and Venus folks. When I finally learnt what was happening, it broke me down enough to want to learn a thing or two about relationships. Was 22, girl was 20 moving out of country for further education. We had met through a mutual female friend who had told me not to get serious with her, but i did.…
/r/seduction24/06/22 06:50 PM
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Haha. The good thing about this is the subtle future projections. When you say this she immediately starts thinking about all the future fun times you guys are going to have as a couple. Future projections are dope for building attraction and comfort.
/r/seduction24/06/22 06:11 PM
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I’m 41. I was seeing a 25 y.o less than a year ago. I had met her through mutual friends and she had suggested we meet for coffee because she wanted to pick my brains regarding the work I do. A week later she asked to meet for dinner and drinks. I was a bit flummoxed. Eventually I did tell her that she should know I’m 40 (which I was back then)and a father to a girl of 7. She said “Age ain’t an issue for me as long as it’s not an issue for you.” But well. The more apt answer to your question wou…
/r/seduction24/06/22 04:16 PM
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Strong eye contact. Good posture. Smile. Escalate.
/r/seduction24/06/22 03:59 PM
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I used to say that. That does not work, or at least didn’t for me. Now I usually give an answer which is light-hearted and suggestive yet non-commital. I remember one from the past where when this question was posed to me, I replied, “I’m just looking for a Pictionary partner for couple’s game nights.” She responded with her number.
/r/seduction24/06/22 03:31 PM
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Did they update the meaning of the word seduction to include the art of handling toxic beaus? I must have missed the memo. My fifteen years playing the game I have experienced that seduction is phase 1, getting in a relationship is phase 2, managing relationships is phase 3. But never mind. Have fun asking how to bake a cake in animal husbandry forums.
/r/seduction24/06/22 01:08 PM
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I’m sure there’s a relationship advice sub somewhere. I don’t see how this has anything to do with seduction
/r/seduction24/06/22 01:24 AM
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Exactly my thoughts.
/r/seduction21/06/22 11:50 PM
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Are you even interested in these guys that you accidentally friendzone? Because from your comments it feels like only after you realize that they feel you've friendzoned them do you seem to begin to care that they won't pursue a romantic thing with you
/r/seduction21/06/22 11:47 PM
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In this community specifically, there's a lot of negativity. Most people don't think anything here would work for them because they're too ugly/poor/short/inexperienced etc. And it doesn't just end at that, they even refuse to see the light. As Voltaire once said, "It is difficult to free fools from the chains they revere. "
/r/seduction20/06/22 06:29 PM
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Attraction Code is more to do with what you can do for yourself to attract women. In pandoras box, he has done his best to decode women psychology and sort em in different buckets. You know how you can be this high energy dude and attract a certain kind of woman but repel the other? In pandoras box he explores how by observing certain aspects you can figure three key things about women that should tell you what they want in life and strategies to attract each of those kinds of woman.
/r/seduction20/06/22 06:24 PM
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Yes. Vin DiCarlo is quite good. His pandoras box method may seem a bit complex but it has worked well for me (when I'm able to decide the girls persona)
/r/seduction20/06/22 04:16 PM
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Indeed. It vexes me here when most people don't understand this and insist they have to look like a Greek god or be rich like King Midas to land good women.. Had they seen what Style looked like and the chicks he pulled their heads would explode.
/r/seduction20/06/22 04:06 PM
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Old school PU was much more than routines and opinion openers. I was indoctrinated back in 2007. Good to see a fellow old school PUA here
/r/seduction20/06/22 03:47 PM
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Go on do your thing. We’ll be here to cheer you and learn from you if you succeed. We’ll be here to cheer you up and offer our learnings if you don’t.
/r/seduction18/06/22 05:10 PM
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The more I read your comments the more I am convinced it is all in your head.
/r/seduction18/06/22 08:00 AM
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I'm sorry, the post is unclear. Have you explicitly asked for second dates and they refused or are you assuming there won't be a second date because they split the bill?
/r/seduction18/06/22 07:53 AM
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Where do I even begin…
/r/seduction16/06/22 09:50 AM
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The answer is always yes.
/r/seduction12/06/22 04:59 PM
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Move on. Plenty of fish in the sea
/r/seduction11/06/22 09:42 PM
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More people here need to hear this. It vexes me when people here say that to be successful you have to either look like a Greek god or have a lot of money. It has come to a point where I have stopped trying to get them to see that they are wrong.
/r/seduction08/06/22 04:05 PM
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Many things. They have a strong sense of self. They don't spend any time thinking what others think of them. They don't make excuses about doing what they like. Back in the old RSD days, Tyler had said something that stuck with me. He mentioned how people are often pinging others for feedback on themselves. He mentioned how that is a very beta thing to do. It has stayed with me since, and has helped me immensely. I'm a 41 year old man, father to a seven year old, living in a country where divorc…
/r/seduction08/06/22 04:02 PM
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u/VoiceAccomplished502
/r/seduction03/06/22 01:30 PM
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Well, none of the triple digit women that I’ve tried it on has called it that. Interesting phrasing though.
/r/seduction03/06/22 10:04 AM
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There is a right way to escalate mate. I had posted a long ass comment some while back on n how to make it work. Let me see if I can retrieve it.
/r/seduction03/06/22 06:05 AM
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You don't . You don't even tell them you're going to kiss them. When the time feels right, you lean in for a kiss, if she doesn't reject it, good. If she rejects it you move on. There are certain routines that PUAs used to follow. But in my experience, they're not needed.
/r/seduction02/06/22 03:53 PM
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Men care about boobs yes. We like them in all shapes and sizes. Don’t worry, go do your thang!
/r/seduction02/06/22 07:49 AM
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Girlfriend- be truly present. Random girl I'm seeing- "You're smart/strong enough to handle that, chin up! Btw, you won't believe..... "
/r/seduction01/06/22 03:56 PM
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The best advice I have received on this is a simple three step plan. 1) Girl... 2) Hot Girl.... 3) Get Hot Girl!
/r/seduction27/05/22 02:58 PM
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Yeah. That approach won't work. Most things about women, they aren't like an on/off switch. They're more like a volume knob which needs to be turned slowly to get to the optimum stage.
/r/seduction27/05/22 10:06 AM
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Most hot women are liked just for their aesthetics. As a result, they haven't had a need to show their interesting side and are thus not in touch with their fascinating selves. It's some work to bring that out for both of us, but when I successfully do so, the whole dynamic gets so mich better.
/r/seduction27/05/22 10:04 AM
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Maybe all you got going for you are your looks.
/r/seduction25/05/22 08:32 AM
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Yea. Get it over with. That way you won’t feel as much pressure when you land a girl you’re attracted to.
/r/seduction24/05/22 06:37 AM
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Have used the questions game with great success. https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/3z6m1z/question_game_20/
/r/seduction24/05/22 05:12 AM
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That being said. Tread carefully. Don’t build relationship castles in the air if you guys end up going out. Take it slow. Maybe she always thought of you as out of her league and started dating the other guy. Or maybe you would be the bf in the future while she confesses to another guy that she is crushing on him.
/r/seduction21/05/22 01:13 PM
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You did your bit. It is her move now. If she is in a fulfilling relationship, let her make the decision. Else, there are quite a few bf demolishing tactics. I don’t condone them, but they are there.
/r/seduction21/05/22 01:10 PM
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Agreed. Another example would be performers . Like musicians, dancers, stand up comics. They may look like a below average Joe and still they will manage to get good looking girls. Even the not big ones . There's something about seeing a man go out there and do his bit that women find inherently attractive
/r/seduction20/05/22 02:12 PM
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Meet other women. Stay in touch with this one talking about random fun stuff you’re up to. Or if you see a cute pic share it with her. Animal pics are awesome for that. But most importantly, meet more women. When you have other options to pursue, it will show in your interactions with her. That being said, med school can be really draining. I would give her a benefit of doubt.
/r/seduction20/05/22 11:28 AM
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Great post. In my experience doing pickup/seduction for about 15 years, I have yet to find a tool more important than eye contact with intention. And I’m glad you mentioned that study. The study actually found that people can fall in love at the end of the exercise. For people who want to read about it, just google “50 questions that lead to love”. I’d urge everybody to give it a shot before dismissing it. Visualizing having sex with the girl you’re seducing is pretty potent too, thanks to the p…
/r/seduction20/05/22 05:59 AM
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Just a perspective, older women are more understanding of a man’s lack of experience. Don’t let that hold you back :)
/r/seduction18/05/22 08:33 PM
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She gave you her number, she asked you to join for the campfire. Feel free to check with her on the campfire plan. If she says no, it’s aight. Just tell her you will see her tomorrow for dog walking. Please note: TELL her. Don’t ask her if the dog walk bit is on. If she flakes on both, move on :)
/r/seduction18/05/22 08:23 PM
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Sure, condoms were invented to have sex without worrying about pregnancies, however they help with STDs too.
/r/seduction18/05/22 08:14 PM
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Forget the naysayers man. You read her and she read you. You both wanted good sex and you got it. Win-Win. The only losers are people here who are trying to belittle your experience. But then I don't blame them. They don't have enough life experience to understand this. I am 41 too and I completely get you. Good job done! Edit: Corrected "love experience" To "life experience".
/r/seduction18/05/22 04:55 PM
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Well the follow up to this used to be " we will just horse around and giggle all day and not get any shit done."
/r/seduction18/05/22 01:23 PM
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Just do it. - Some shoe brand. -Michael Scott
/r/seduction18/05/22 12:52 PM
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As others have said, it is different for different people. I like women who are kind and can hold their end of the conversation. Seeing a woman who is rude to waiters, store assistants etc is a huge red flag for me. Also while I am willing to carry the weight of the conversation, give and take is important to me. Another important thing is women taking care of themselves. For eg: if your hair looks like it needs a lot of grooming, I have an issue. At tue same time I don’t have issues with frizzy…
/r/seduction18/05/22 12:32 PM
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As an Indian I can confirm that does not work. 😝
/r/seduction18/05/22 07:37 AM
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I agree with what you say. However. Social competence isn't going to magically pop up one day. To get better in social situations, you have to put yourself in social situations and push the envelope. It is like lofting weights. You cant lift weights that you don't have muscles for. And you can't have muscles of you don't lift weights. What OP has shared here is very important. Doing cold approaches is a great way to become a socially competent person. Do it like weight training. Everytime you do…
/r/seduction17/05/22 11:32 PM
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Approach a lone girl alone. You are correct about her feeling overwhelmed if approached as a group. I mean if you were a girl and three random men approached ypu on the street, would you not feel a bit less than safe? Discuss with your buds that when either of you stops to talk to a lone woman, the others should keep walking for a couple steps before stopping. If the interaction goes fine, you may introduce your pals later. Bit while approaching, fly solo
/r/seduction17/05/22 08:18 PM
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I learnt flirting following advice of one of the Dinosaurs of Pick Up. He used to call it CnF: short for Cocky and Funny.
/r/seduction17/05/22 11:09 AM
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My pleasure. beat I hope.
/r/seduction17/05/22 10:35 AM
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It's fucked up mate. In movies, it is common to see sexual harassment of men portrayed as something funny. One example I can thinknof right off the bat is Jennifer Aniston character in horrible bosses constantly harassing our dude as a part of a funny arc in the movie Switch the genders and you'd have a movie with maybe a 3 rating on imdb and the director plus the male actor getting cancelled.
/r/MensRights17/05/22 07:37 AM
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I would just move on from the idea of trying to conventionally date her. She wants to hang as friends? Great. Invite her to your world. Plan to get drinks with your friends and invite her. Be cool and friendly at the gym while dropping occasional flirtatious lines and then step back by saying what a nice friend she is. She is either genuinely not looking to date, or she is testing to see how you take rejection. Women test this aspect a lot. It's a defence mechanism and they aren't wrong to do so…
/r/seduction17/05/22 07:31 AM
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Have you decided where you’re meeting? If not, then find a place and give her sort of hints and ask questions. For eg: let’s say you find a place for ice cream and another for froyo. Ask her whether she likes ice cream or fro yo one day. After she replies, follow it up with something in the lines of how you’ve found the quaintest(insert your own superlative adjective here) froyo place in town the next day and drop the details. That takes care of two days for you. By then you may have enough thre…
/r/seduction16/05/22 08:26 PM
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Creed Aventus?
/r/seduction16/05/22 06:24 PM
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Sorry for saying the same thing again and again. Texting should be used mostly to set dates up. We are living in a world where everybody is texting. Texting is perceived as a safe way to communicate. Safe is boring. Boring doesn't impress women.
/r/seduction16/05/22 05:16 PM
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For a man, not being conventionally good-looking shouldn't stop them from looking good. There's a difference. The first is about genetics, the second is about taking care of yourself. Dressing well, being well-groomed, rocking good body language are some things that can turn a 2/10 to a 7/10. I mean look at these: Guy 1 Guy 2 Both these guys are not really what we would say in a good shape. Yet we can tell which of the two has a better chance of landing a pretty woman :)
/r/seduction16/05/22 02:39 PM
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Maybe I am too old school to understand this. I don’t care about sexy pics. There are tons of sexy pics that I can see on instagram without having to do twenty percent of the work that I’ll have to do on lovoo (I don’t even know what it is tbh)
/r/seduction16/05/22 12:31 PM
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Haha. Well I’m MOBAs, S tier heroes are the best In meta. So those cities are the best for cold approaches in India
/r/seduction16/05/22 10:54 AM
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Depends mate. Major metros, yes. Then again not too sure about Chennai because I haven't tried there. Most major cities in each state too. Again not sure about the culture in Patna, Bhubhaneshwar etc. North eastern states are much more open minded. Had a blast in Shillong amd Gangtok. Lucknow can be a hit or miss. Mumbai, Delhi, Bangalore, Pune are, in terms of gaming language, S-tier.
/r/seduction16/05/22 06:46 AM
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This is very very important for all of us to understand.
/r/seduction16/05/22 04:07 AM
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That's step one of the whole loving thyself journey :))
/r/seduction16/05/22 04:07 AM
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The self is always coming through mate. If you don't like yourself, sooner or later your actions will show that. I am taller than most men in my country, goodish looking(there's no way to prove this but I was approached by a casting agent when I was 17 who asked me if I would like to model but I shat myself -thank you low self-esteem- and didn't even try to pursue it.) And yet the first time I scored with a quality woman was in my late twenties. Women sort of have a sixth sense about this. They …
/r/seduction16/05/22 04:04 AM
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I learnt seduction from the oft demonized pickup artists community. Sure, few of the people there were absolute douches, but most were really amazing guys. So anyway, the most important tenet of inner game among the little coterie that I found myself a part of was 'Fake it till you make it.' So id say the same to you. I am a recovering depressive, thanks to childhood abandonment issues and intergenerational trauma, and I didn't even know it before but I hated myself. I had my first gf at the age…
/r/seduction16/05/22 03:54 AM
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If you don’t like yourself, women won’t either.
/r/seduction15/05/22 11:17 PM
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That’s my sticky point too. Would appreciate the help.
/r/seduction15/05/22 08:02 PM
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Just to add, avoid saying weaknesses. The word is negative by itself and in spite of the context, may not be always appreciated. Nothing should stop you from using "You got three things that I admire" Instead
/r/seduction15/05/22 06:32 PM
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Misplayed a bit there. Time for damage control. I'd go with something in the lines of "See yourself from my eyes and you'll see how beautiful you are." It's important that you use the word 'beautiful', not cute or hot Or sexy. I'm not saying this would certainly work but i see that as the best option right now. Also, as others mentioned, commenting on their body right off the bat is not recommended. I don't ever talk about how attractive their body is until we've made out a little or at least sp…
/r/seduction15/05/22 06:29 PM
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I’ve tried it. And it works on really hot women. The 9s and above. I don’t know the psychology here but I can make a guess. Most men feel nervous around real hot women and thus when you approach them with this confidence, you are sort of an outlier. It may work on some 8s too. But anything below that it usually doesn’t. 7s and below get approached a lot because men don’t feel too nervous around them. So… Also you’d be surprised to learn that it hardly ever works on 5 and below. Mostly because th…
/r/seduction14/05/22 11:43 PM
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Must be a cultural difference but exchanging social media info is not a big deal around here. The big deal is exchanging numbers though.
/r/seduction14/05/22 04:57 PM
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I was seven when an older boy beat me up at school. All that teachers and my family had to say to the upset me was “Boy’s don’t cry.”
/r/MensRights14/05/22 04:44 PM
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Big red flag for me. Also ove seen enough tweets from women who use tinder only for free meals
/r/seduction13/05/22 04:49 PM
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“I’m trying to make changes to my look, I’d love your opinion on new clothes I want to buy. Would you help me pick some?” Works on many levels. Girls like to pick outfits. Also this is something that one would expect from an intimate partner so in her mind you’re creating this scenario that you’ll are intimate. Then there is that psychological effect where when a person does something for you, they end up liking you more.
/r/seduction13/05/22 01:41 PM
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I wanted to be angry about this but I am not. Yes please keep em home during their periods. They’ll get the rest they need plus they won’t be in office murdering everybody else’s vibe.
/r/MensRights12/05/22 04:40 AM
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Not sure about board games, but I’ve taken footballs and frisbees whenever we had a walking date at the park or by the sea.
/r/seduction09/05/22 10:03 AM
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Simple rule I follow. Unless it’s a dating app, or IG where I strike up a conversation with a girl whose ig I like, I dont text for any reason other than setting up a date.
/r/seduction08/05/22 06:06 PM
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I had acrophobia. To beat that, I’d go to the roof of high rises and stand as close to the parapet as I could get myself to. The next time I’d try to get an inch closer. Today I can stand on the parapet for a long ass while.
/r/seduction04/05/22 05:18 PM
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Akua Naru - Poetry (how does it feel) Morcheeba - Slow Down Massive Attack - Angel Air - Sexy Boy FKA Twigs - Papi Pacify These are some that I love (and women have too)
/r/seduction04/05/22 05:01 PM
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Conditioning
/r/seduction04/05/22 12:12 PM
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Of the things I mentioned, Kegel exercises are really great to help maintain erections for longer periods of time. Also, now it may become a confidence issue. To counter that some people do resort to sildenafil (brand name viagra) for an encounter or two just to boost their self esteem.
/r/seduction03/05/22 02:55 PM
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To add to what u/MrBlack__ said. There is this phenomenon of emotional transference to consider. If she found the movie boring, she had a boring date which in her mind translates to the guy is boring.
/r/seduction02/05/22 11:41 PM
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Fkin A. Love it.
/r/seduction02/05/22 11:37 PM
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Wow. I like the arts and crafts store idea. Than you. That’s going to be my next first date for sure!
/r/seduction02/05/22 11:37 PM
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Here are some of the almost free first dates I’ve been on: Meet at a park or beach for a walk. I carry a football/frisbee and we walk about playing catch and talking. I roller blade. I have an extra pair and we go rollerblading. Since I’m a reader, I’ve taken a few for book signings. Told her I’d like to get a woman’s opinion on clothes I need to buy and meet at a mall where she helps me shop. My longest…Erm… “relationship” was with a girl whom id taken grocery shopping for my first date. With t…
/r/seduction02/05/22 11:34 PM
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Sorry about the sarcasm earlier, I think you’re sorta new to seduction. Movie for a first date hasn’t been a good idea and vocally advised against since I got into seduction about ten years ago. Mostly because of the lack of opportunities to have a decent conversation. Also, unless things are going well between both, first dates last over less than 90 minutes much more often than not. The 90 minutes spent at the movies will eat up that time, and you won’t get a chance to do anything to make thin…
/r/seduction02/05/22 10:00 PM
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WTF. You ought to report this shrink to whatever body regulates them. Seriously. Tf.
/r/MensRights02/05/22 05:04 AM
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And when she watches iron man put on the infinity gauntlet and snap his fingers, she’d be ready to sleep with you. Talking is so overrated isn’t it? Communication is absolutely redundant when it comes to seduction.
/r/seduction02/05/22 05:02 AM
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A bit complicated to explain over written word but I’ll try. The first part would involve touching her hands/arms. Let’s say you are seated at a table with her and her hand is on the table while she is talking and you have something to offer to the conversation, you add to it after gently tapping her hand and saying something to the effect of “Check this out.. before telling her something on the topic you are discussing. It doesn’t even have to be a great point, just congruent to the conversatio…
/r/seduction21/04/22 12:10 PM
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Best part about it is the boost your confidence gets when you are in good shape. I went from a 110 kgs to 80 kgs within a year (I am 6’01” and 80 is pretty good for me) and it was awesome for my image of self and it showed during my interactions with the hunnies
/r/seduction21/04/22 06:28 AM
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There’s a way I use to escalate which tests for compliance at every step. I think there are six-seven such compliance checks I run before going in for a kiss. Works 8/10 times. Also, keep in mind that I am from a sort of an orthodox country. So if it works here, it should work in more open countries.
/r/seduction21/04/22 06:19 AM
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When they talk about wage gap, they’re talking averages. And the average is too high for males because of a small percentage of men with extraordinary wealth. Somehow, it is the fault of men that a handful of us worked f***in hard to become Jeff Bezos, Mark Zuckerberg, Elon Musk, Bill Gates, Mukesh Ambani, among others.
/r/MensRights17/03/22 01:00 PM
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The first step is working on yourself. From the tone of your post it looks like you suffer from low self-esteem. Remedy that first. You got it mate chin up. And don’t worry much about your genetics. Even those who aren’t good looking, they can find ways to look good. Just by doing basic things like being in a better shape and dressing well can do tons for how you look. Just work on yourself mate.
/r/seduction09/03/22 11:01 AM
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If a female accuses you of sexual misconduct, you're guilty until proven innocent in India. No evidence needed.
/r/MensRights27/08/21 04:01 PM
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Nah.
/r/seduction08/09/20 09:24 AM
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Walking has helped me quite a few times to escalate. In fact escalating while walking is something I feel most comfortable with.
/r/seduction03/09/20 07:06 PM
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Way back, many years ago when RSD actually releases kickass programs Tyler had made one program that helped me out with the mindset you are in. The entire program was built around the philosophy of 'Being' not 'Doing'
/r/seduction10/01/20 05:34 PM
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One brother was saved from orbiting around a self-centred coont, hoping she'd accept his advances some day while being no more than a spare tyre for her.
/r/MGTOW24/10/19 01:32 PM
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As a recovering depressive, I wholeheartedly agree. I saw things in the movie that my well-adjusted friends did not.
/r/MGTOW20/10/19 05:33 PM
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200 iq play.
/r/MGTOW18/10/19 06:34 PM
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Golden
/r/seduction18/10/19 06:04 PM
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Maybe the answer lies in your problem. Maybe somewhere deep inside you still believe you are not good enough and probably broadcasting it in your interactions. The true self is always coming through mate.
/r/seduction07/10/19 02:45 PM
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Yes. A couple times. Eventually I learnt why. Confirmation Bias.
/r/seduction20/08/19 08:45 AM
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I'd pretend I was the dog.... say something in the lines of 'Of course you'd be more excited to meet me. My hooman is boring as fuck.' When the conversation gets going I'd throw in random stuff like, 'Ohh, I can do with a belly rub now' etc.
/r/seduction21/05/19 03:58 PM
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Thanks to the surge of Toxic feminism
/r/MGTOW27/04/19 06:25 AM
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