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Not the person you were responding to, but, I feel I need to chime in here (I've been away for a while, thanks to work and life). I'm still bossy, assertive, intimidating, all of that, despite the fact that in my home life, I choose the first mate role (cause hey, two captains on the same team is a joke). But with my husband, I'm gentler. I don't nag, I don't demand. If I have a problem with him, I remember and remind myself that I love him, and treat him with the kindness and love he treats me …
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/14 09:01 PM
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It takes time /u/softerbee, and sometimes we fall back into old ways of thinking. It happened to me just this evening. I'd gotten home from work, having been up stupid early. D suggested I get laundry done, when all I wanted to do was lie down and sleep. The urge to argue started to rear its head. I sucked it up and figured I'd trust what he was doing. I did laundry. He fixed our dishwasher, cleaned the dishes that hadn't been cleaned due to the broken dishwasher not cleaning them properly, and …
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/14 01:30 AM
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And you encourage him to finish you off by not giving bjs? I have no flipping words. None.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/14 01:08 AM
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Toys. Seriously, if you absolutely have to finish, use a toy, either before, as part of foreplay, during, or after. Anything. And you might not want to emasculate him, but by denying him, that's exactly what you are doing. Guys who have been emasculated have no interest in sex.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/14 12:31 AM
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I should also add that his libido has been low for about a year. This the first time I have refused him- other than when I was coming down with a stomach bug last winter. I cannot count how many times I've been turned down. I can honestly say that I'm not feeling vindictive- I'm feeling sad and lonely. Sex is supposed to bond me to him- but its a source of loneliness right now. I'm not going to sugar coat this, but you're saying you get nothing in return but you're not feeling vindictive, you're…
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/14 12:04 AM
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OK, the first thing you have to do is stop being upset at things he cannot control. Telling him, as you say you did above "Seriously? Again?" is, in many ways, getting pissy at him for something he has no control over whatsoever. If I said that to my husband, well, there'd be words. The instance where he missed the flight - was he trying to balance his commitments to work/whatever he was traveling for (maximizing time out there) vs commitment to you? One thing this sub, and some very good friend…
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/14 01:48 AM
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Last March i heard "This is only temporary. Its only this month and next month that are like this". Now, its nearly september. This has gone on too long.. Thus the anger comes from him not just being like "Hey, this is what it is for the next few months. Just as a heads up" Shit happens. Perhaps when he told you "its just two months", that is what he thought, but things got scheduled in upcoming months. Perhaps work trips got thrown at him? You have to improve your communication with him, else y…
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/14 12:01 AM
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"We're entitled princesses and won't waste our time actually getting to know a man"
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/14 03:23 PM
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The way my husband and I got over this, is simply by not keeping score. The money goes into our joint bank account. Who cares through who's labor it got there? Its there by the fruits of our labor for the betterment of our family. Its not "my money" and "his money", its our money. That said, as of right now, my husband is hauling us financially. Things have been tough (see the post of mine that /u/PhantomDream09 stickied), but he knows full well that as soon as I am in full-time, career-related …
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/14 03:17 PM
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You respect your man as the leader and captain. He respects you as the woman he chose to spend the rest of your natural lives either. Exactly. There was a blog post that someone linked to that stated "Yes, my husband is the Head of the Household, and I am the Heart of the Household. The Head makes decisions, guided and influenced by the Heart, taking the Heart into account and doing right by both". That's what I want, and what I'm working towards with D.
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/14 07:31 PM
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No problem! I'm not going to lie. It was tough. Really tough. Half of my friends, even now, still wonder if my husband isn't browbeating me or something because they've never known me to be so trusting of my partner, that I let him take control of our direction. The other half, friends like K, look at me with pride in their eyes, because I've grown, matured, and frankly become a lot less selfish.
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/14 02:27 AM
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I'm glad I can give you the "other side", so to speak!
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/14 02:24 AM
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My husband was pretty much RP already, and pretty much told me so while we were dating; though he didn't use the term "red pill", he made it clear he was going to be in a leadership role in our marriage and make decisions that were best for us, together, as a family. I blithely nodded along, said "OK", and carried on as usual. Till we got to the "change your name" discussion. Which, I resisted, till he made compelling arguments and pointed out that this was something that would make him very hap…
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/14 02:39 AM
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Husband and I joke and flirt all the time. Course, while we're in our 30s, we haven't been together for that long. But its the little things, like him chasing me around the house with a pool noodle. Or the time that we had a sword fight with sword-shaped letter openers. Or the tickles. In public, he's a little more reserved, but there's always lots of flirting, joking around and silliness.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/14 03:42 AM
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Yeah, we were lucky in the respect that I'd just lost my job, so had scads of free time (course, now I don't think its so lucky, but that's a different story!). Even so, that's pretty much the way we work everything; he has the vision, I get it done, asking for his input when I'm sure he would want it. In many ways, it actually made our wedding better, as frankly, I would have just gone to the courthouse, but he and my mother ganged up on me!
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/14 01:25 AM
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With our wedding, husband had The Vision. I was more sort of "eh, money is tight, let's just go to the courthouse". He laid out what he wanted (historic venue, not stupid expensive, allowed our own catering, general decor colors), I went and did the research and presented it to him. I made the phonecalls, did the leg work for the research and all of that. What I would do was as soon as I had a task completed that he had said he wanted control over (e.g. these are the venues I've found, and that …
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/14 10:40 PM
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I was 32, he was 34. We dated for about a month before he proposed, and had met about two months prior to that. We met at a renaissance martial arts tournament -- we're both historical fencers, and a mutual friend got me to hang around a bit longer, and we got talking. He claims he knew from our first date (where we sparred with swords and I cooked medieval Indian food), that I was right for him, and when I lost my job (yay, budget cuts!), he stepped up to the plate and said he would marry me; h…
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/14 10:33 PM
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I didn't have a veil, and my husband, like your fiancé, prefers my hair down and curled. So, my mother swept my hair back off my face into a sort of quarter pony in the back, having made sure it was nicely curled, to frame it, and added flowers to cover the bobby pins.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/14 04:33 PM
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I can't say much, as I haven't been around here too much, but /u/FleetingWish, you rock, and frankly have been a role model to me, having both the high flying career and the RP relationship. Sending you prayers and good wishes.
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/14 04:23 AM
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Whether you think PhantomDream09 is wrong or not is irrelevant. The fact of the matter is that OP's friend has decided to disrespect OP's relationship in a very serious and significant manner. By inviting her and making the statement "I know he's the one you've chosen to be with, but..." is, to any woman with two braincells to rub together, nothing more than a veiled insult. Having gotten married less than a year ago, the whole wedding etiquette thing is very fresh to me: long-term SOs are treat…
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/14 02:33 PM
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You don't go. Its one thing that they don't like your SO, but, as I have had to explain to many young-ish people (those in their early to mid twenties), there is such a thing as social etiquette. For the purposes of a wedding, or other formal event, where long-term couples tend to be invited together, you and your SO are considered a social unit. For someone to invite one half of the unit and not the other is basically not to invite the unit. You wouldn't take someone else as your +1, since that…
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/14 01:39 AM
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Having done all three, sometimes, just sometimes, rocket science is easier. ;)
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/14 03:53 PM
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You have to kind of read between the lines to see this woman's real issue. She hates her body because it's not as skinny, young and perky as the other girls she sees on social media. There's not much reading between the lines to be done. I think its stated up front and center.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/14 06:55 PM
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I am so sorry for your loss. (((hugs)))
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/14 07:00 PM
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The other thing that was pointed out to me by a good friend, which fits particularly with your point about "belonging to such a loving family", is this: I believe you honor your parent's effort and sacrifice [and indeed love], not by retaining a name or appending it to a title - which you have already done - but by living each and every day to build your own happiness. For me, part of my husband's happiness came from that united front with the same name. So...
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/14 02:45 PM
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I felt that way too, before my husband and I considered marriage. I also had the fact that my professional publications were all under my maiden name, and I didn't want to lose that connection. Add in the fact that I'd been known by my maiden name for 33 years, and I was reluctant, despite the fact that in the culture I grew up in, not taking your husband's name is highly disrespectful. (By rights, as an unmarried woman I am known as MyFirstName FathersFirstName FamilyName. As a married woman, I…
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/14 01:19 PM
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I have a degree, undergraduate and graduate -- majored in physics. I got them at a time of my life when I was full-on feminist, but I don't regret them at all. Now, they mean that I can work a well-paid job that eases our financial situation, and lets us have the things we want. I didn't meet my husband in, or anywhere near college (in fact I met him almost a full decade after I graduated), and in his opinion, an educated woman was the most important thing for him. Not just due to earning potent…
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/14 04:35 PM
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My husband and I both love to cook, and see it as a release from work and other life hassles. He gets very creative in the kitchen, and has made some awesome meals in our time together. Our first date involved us cooking for each other, and well, that seemed to work out well. ;) Personally, as its something he loves doing, takes pride in doing, and does it very very well, I find it sexy as all get out.
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/14 04:27 PM
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Things are going much better for us. We've talked a lot more about my job situation, and my husband's been good about making me check my attitude over some things that had upset me. (I was being defeatist as all my cooking was coming out wrong, and that was, understandably, upsetting him.) Since I checked my attitude, things have improved drastically -- husband is being even more physically affectionate to me, there's less negative criticism, and he's even up for fun first thing in the morning (…
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/14 05:36 PM
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I've been there, done that. :) I'm glad things are good for you right now, but like /u/danabanana9 says, the toughest is likely yet to come. You're both academics in the same field. What happens if you get offered a better postdoc than him, or a tenure track position when he doesn't? Or if you're guided towards the management side of things and he isn't? Those decisions (albeit with a non-RP man) destroyed my last relationship because bitterness and resentment built up. Just be mindful, I think.…
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/14 09:27 PM
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This is basically what my husband does, complete with tickles, hugs when needed and going quiet. We've only ever had the "go quiet" option exercised once, pretty early on in our relationship, and almost cost us the relationship (Ignoring me is pretty much a sure fire way of making me feel unloved, and my reaction to that is to leave). But yes, he knows me better than I know myself. If I'm being bitchy/stroppy, he will come out and say it, tell me I'm being irrational and expect me to quit. At th…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/14 04:19 PM
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There's a reason I married a Southern man. ;) Southern culture is very much more RP than any other culture I've been exposed to (and my family is originally from the Indian subcontinent!), and I really don't see it as a bad thing at all. Its one of the few places I can tell someone "well, that's a decision I would have to talk to my husband about", and nobody bats an eyelid, its seen as normal. The fun one re tradition and manners was when my husband first met my brother and my mother. He opened…
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/14 06:20 AM
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Just to update folks a little here; the interview had to be rescheduled at the last minute for Monday. My husband has been very supportive of everything so far, doing more research into the area, to try and find a good place for us to live if it came to that (He has certain demands about where we live. Me, not so much.), researching laws etc to start his own business and stuff like that. And to those who would suggest that I'm a whore for daring to use my education to earn more money than my man…
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/14 04:41 PM
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Yeah, he wants all the info before a decision is made. So, I will make sure I can, as fully as possible, present him with all the info. :)
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/14 11:07 PM
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I grew up in Northern England, so the lack of sunlight is something I don't relish at all. The lack of polite people may well test my resolve though!
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/14 10:24 PM
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I don't think there's any rule about not giving away your state -- I'm just being circumspect right now for various reasons! Can you elaborate on "lack of everything"? In what way? And yeah, that's my husband's worry too about heavily influenced with Obama supporters!
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/14 09:48 PM
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Thank you! I think first, I just get through the first interview on Wednesday!
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/14 09:36 PM
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Not Philly. :) But it is very very different to where we are now!
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/14 09:29 PM
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No. I actually discussed with him, based on everything here, before he went to work this afternoon, whether I should email back and ask to be removed from consideration. He asked why I would do that. I said: "Well, its in City and you don't like City. If I got it and the package was right, we'd have to move there, or I'd have to turn down the offer. Given you don't like City, I'd turn down the offer. Therefore, the interview is a waste of everyone's time" He got angry that I would think that way…
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/14 09:23 PM
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Agreed; its definitely the location that's giving him the most worry. The job itself, it was anywhere else, he'd be driving me to the interview, and making sure I presented myself as favorably as possible in order to ensure I got it. I think, as you say, its a matter of wait and see. If I get an offer, or at least, if after the interview, we have a better idea of the package, it may help him make a decision one way or another. I do know that if the package was good enough, he'd deal with the loc…
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/14 09:13 PM
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Yeah, I'm intending to do the interview at least, and then see what happens. If he would rather stay where you are, then you should give up the position. Other opportunities would arise eventually. Staying where we are means that my job opportunities are limited to what are essentially McJobs, or corporate jobs that I have skills that would transfer over, but are frankly, soul-less and the sort of job that my husband doesn't want me to take. Here's the rub: he wants me to take a job where my edu…
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/14 08:50 PM
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Thank you for the male perspective -- its really rather helpful! :) As things stand right now, we're not doing fine; we're barely treading water, and that scares my husband completely. His happiness comes first and foremost to me, and if he were truly to say "Love, I don't think I can live there", I would, with considerable regret, most likely not take the job. But, I also know that my husband's attitude is "money can't buy happiness, but it can buy comfort", and he wants to be comfortable. Bein…
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/14 07:06 PM
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Oh, I love the lifestyle in the south, and am loath to give it up. H doesn't want me staying at home, as my earning potential far outreaches his, and he desperately wants to not do McJob anymore and follow his passions. I'm all for that, as seeing him happy makes me happier than any amount of money in the world. He's griping about New City, but at the same time, won't let me cancel the interview, so I'm going to trust he has some sort of plan. :)
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/14 06:29 PM
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Thank you. I think its just one of those things where "change is scary" for both of us. I'm used to moving around -- I've lived in 4 different countries and 5 different cities since 2006. Husband, not so much. This is the sort of job where this would be "this is where we settle down and raise a family for the foreseeable future". So, I understand his reluctance and reticence in making such a huge change. His dream centered somewhere around where we are now, and now there's the possibility those …
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/14 06:22 PM
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That would be the plan. We're currently living in the South, where H has a job; a McJob that he hates, but a job. Part of the big push of my leaving academia to find a better job is to be able to provide enough income that H doesn't have to work a McJob anymore, and can work to follow his passions and dreams. New Job, if it comes through, would be in the North.
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/14 06:16 PM
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Are you working in a relevant job to your field right now? If so is there anything wrong with the current one? I'm not working in a relevant job right now, no. We're waiting for certain bits of paperwork to clear right now, hence not even a McJob for the time being. His job is an unfulfilling McJob, that he hates and wants out of. Is your husband willing to travel and check the area out? He is, and its one of the things both he and I insist on before making a decision about it. The thing about t…
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/14 06:13 PM
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Husband wants to live in the South, or at least a primarily conservative area. The state this job is located in is conservative leaning, but the city is decidedly not (it more or less swung the vote to Obama). This is the first interview I've had in months, and it would give us a heck of a money cushion.
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/14 06:02 PM
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I think if the position gets to more than the interview stage, this is what we will do. I have some friends up there who we can talk to too, and ask,if in real terms, whether the salary would be "good", "meagre" or merely "OK".
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/14 05:54 PM
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This is it; this is the second interview I've had in 8 months; I've been sending out resumés for jobs I'm eminently qualified for in our home city, left right and center. I haven't had a single bite. Nothing. The last semi-serious bite I had was in October (for the DC gig), and I've had less than nothing since then. I may be very qualified, but no one seems to be giving me a second look.
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/14 05:48 PM
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This is why I've been tempted to cancel the interview. I'll be honest though, I can't help but feel that promises are being broken. Like I said in the OP, this is what he promised me, without any prompting from me, this came entirely from him: You're the one with the earning potential to make our life together awesome. Provided that at home, and socially, you are willing to be my first mate, I will put your career first, because that is what will allow us to make our life together be exactly wha…
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/14 05:46 PM
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Speaking as a woman in a similar situation (down to the physics PhD and all), I couldn't agree more. I got married very late in life, comparatively speaking, and now, all I see is a clock, ticking down regarding when we can start a family.
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/14 04:19 PM
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This is mine and husband's first Valentine's day together, and so far its been pretty low-key. He has to work late tonight, so last night (his day off), he told me to get dressed up and took me out for dinner. Tonight, I'm making some homemade pepperjack-blue cheese burgers with homemade bread rolls, caramelized onions, sauteed mushrooms, and red velvet cake (his favorite!) for dessert. I stupidly forgot french fries when I went shopping this morning though. :(
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/14 06:45 PM
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I'm going to be perfectly frank and honest. If you don't speak French, you're going to have a very hard time in French academia, even as an undergraduate; from my experience, instruction is basically in French, with little to no English, and with visible disdain for English. Making friends will be difficult, if not impossible if you don't speak even basic French. If you're truly wanting to be with him long term, and his career ambitions are taking him to France, learn French. I cannot emphasize …
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/14 11:30 PM
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Definitely. I have a much easier time with mathematics and abstract concepts than for instance, my younger brother (who, for various reasons wasn't raised in a bilingual environment). Don't get me wrong, he's intelligent, but he'd much rather deal with practical applications rather than abstract concepts.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/14 12:47 AM
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I grew up bilingual -- English and Kutchi (a Sindhi dialect), and knowing how that positively affected my learning capability, is a gift I would never deny a child.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/14 06:37 PM
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I hope you can squash that desire; actively knowing and realizing that you're rationalizing something that hurts and disrespects the man you love will, IME, help with that. I've mentioned it in other threads -- I used to swear like a sailor. My husband hates it; knowing he hates it made me think about my actions and words and modify my behavior accordingly.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/14 06:33 PM
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I believe so. It certainly is what guides both mine and my husband's personal philosophy and behavior. :)
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/14 06:17 PM
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OK, I have one question: why? If drug use is that recreational and infrequent, but makes your SO unhappy, upsets him when its discussed, why carry on doing it? One thing that was made very clear to me by my husband was as follows: "You are mine. I am yours. Your behavior reflects directly on me. My behavior reflects directly on you. I expect both of us to behave in a way that brings nothing but honor upon us both." This is just my opinion, and you can go ahead and ignore it, but, if you're truly…
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/14 05:14 PM
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I won't share him, sexually or emotionally. And our children will not be raised to be monolingual. That's it.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/14 05:01 PM
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I met my husband at a rapier-fighting tournament in April 2013; he'd just accepted formal studentship with the husband of the lady with whom I have an informal studentship. We didn't really hang out much during the day, but apparently someone saw a spark between us and insisted I help out at the dinner in the evening. Which is where he and I started chatting away to each other and sparks flew. The first thing I noticed about him was his humor; it was similar to mine, but he had such poise with i…
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/14 04:32 PM
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This. Exactly. When I met my now-husband, I was a fully-fledged "career girl" who had her career and her main hobby. I didn't want a relationship, didn't care about getting cock, just wanted my career and to be good with my sword. Then, I very suddenly and traumatically got laid off. Began to think about what I really wanted from life, and from this man who had brought himself into my life. My now-husband started pursuing me in earnest, and made it clear that it was me he wanted, with all the in…
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/14 04:27 AM
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Listen to your husband; he's the one you married, the one you're with for the long haul. Frankly, as regards aesthetics, there are only two opinions that matter: yours and his. And given that you want to ensure that you remain attractive to him, for the long-term, why would you not do what he finds attractive? My husband prefers my hair long, dark and curly, and he prefers me to wear dresses and skirts with a pair of heels instead of jeans/slacks. So, I don't cut my hair, use products to enhance…
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/14 04:30 PM
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This. Exactly. This is actually one of those scenarios, at least for us, where "big picture" vs "implement details" plays out very strongly. My husband made it clear when we got married: one bank account for the both of us, "our money", not mine vs his, live within our means, no credit cards, no debt. So that sets the tone, the big picture. Now, I know what bills are due when. I know how much money we have in the bank at any given moment; how much we need for bills, how much we have for grocery …
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/14 09:15 PM
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Oh, I'm not offended by others cursing, and I certainly don't pass judgement -- I do find him swearing distasteful, even if it is while playing CoD, but I'm self-aware enough to understand that not everyone makes such a big deal of it!
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/14 07:22 PM
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I guess its time to bust out the really good stuff from the top drawer then... ;)
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/14 06:52 PM
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I imagine that the non-religious background has something to do with it too! I used to curse -- the occasional expletive when surprised, hurt or something went wrong, but like I say, my husband hated it and shamed me out of it. Add in reinforcement from a very good girlfriend (she was actually my matron of honor) and I became very mindful of it, to the point that I just don't do it anymore. Now, my husband will swear like a sailor when playing Call of Duty, and I've called him on it, because I d…
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/14 06:50 PM
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While I'm not the OP, I am in a similar situation where my husband hates it. We're both early 30s, both raised in religious families (he Christian, me liberal Muslim), both of us raised in working class families and through a combination of hard work, education and more hard work, leading a reasonably middle class lifestyle in the Southern USA. We're both very active in a community where reputation and how one conducts oneself is important, which, I think plays a large part in the "don't swear, …
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/14 05:30 PM
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This will be mine and my husband's first Valentine's Day together, and frankly, I have no idea what to do. I want to do something special, to show this wonderful man just how much he means to me (which I try to do on a regular basis anyway), but finances are tight. I'm thinking of cooking him his favorite meal, complete with dessert, and just making him feel special. Not sure how I make it different though!
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/14 05:22 PM
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My husband hates it. So I don't. He tries very hard not to swear either, so its not like he's imposing a double standard. I used to swear like a sailor, till he shamed me out of it, and I did in fact mention it to one of my girlfriends who remarked on my not swearing. Her response? "Good. You're a lady, in the South, about to marry a man born and raised in the South. In a few months, you'll be his wife. You owe it to him to behave like the lady he knows you to be."
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/14 01:25 AM
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I was a full-on, women are oppressed, I don't need a man in my life, and I will never give up my life, my choices, my way for a man, jeans and sweatshirt with sneaker wearing, feminist/feminazi. Growing up, I'd always been taught to be ultra independent, taught that I never ever had to get married if I didn't want to, and if a man, with whom I was in a committed relationship with tried to have any "influence" over my career, to dump him immediately. Then, I met my now-husband. And well, I look b…
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/14 03:16 AM
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Oh, he was insistent that he have input on my wedding dress, down to material and look, and honestly? I'm glad he did. I'm not an ostentatious person; I dress well, but classically, and simply. I would have found the simplest wedding dress possible that was still a wedding dress and still looked good. He insisted on something far more elaborate, that in his opinion, was worth the occasion of our marriage. I'm glad he did, as the look on his face when I walked in was worth it. "He has the big pic…
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/14 01:19 AM
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Eurgh. I HATE all that "my day!" crap too! Heck, when husband proposed to me (no ring, no fuss, just "you're the best thing that ever happened to me. I can visualize our future together as husband and wife, with you by my side as we make our way in this world, raise a family and grow old together. Marry me?"), I was the one to suggest a brief and simple courthouse wedding, and he was the one who wanted a proper ceremony, with both our families and all our friends there. We ended up with a wonder…
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/14 05:43 PM
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This is actually what gets to me every single time -- the number of times I've been informed that I can't possibly be a physicist because I don't look like one, still astonishes me.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/14 07:46 PM
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Its women like this who, frankly, give geeky women a bad rep. Of course, the other side of this is that if you are a geek-leaning woman, speaking from experience, you've been exposed to years and years of "you come first" talk, and its been conditioned in you to look down on women who have domestic skills (I have peers who still take pride in not knowing how to cook, for instance). You simply don't know any better and think that "cooking, working out" and things like that are bimbo-like things t…
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/14 11:33 PM
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I looked at some of that sub, and then laughed till I cried. :/
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/14 08:22 PM
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Thank you! :) I have to admit, it is a struggle sometimes still, particularly when I don't agree with a decision he makes (my profession is very male-dominated, and I am very used to being in control, professionally), but, I know what makes him happy, so I do what I can to control those urges.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/14 03:16 AM
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I've been lurking here for a while, and I found the subreddit through another. As to how I came to identify with RPW, well, my husband. He'd proposed to me, and we were hashing out the logistics of what would be our married life. He made it clear to me that even from that moment, he considered us a family, and that he was the head of that family. He made it clear that yes, he'd talk to me and consult me on all decisions, but ultimately, he felt that if our relationship was going to work, the fin…
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/14 12:42 AM
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