Demnian1422 Archive

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7	How to keep her interested in you I think the middle is when you realize that you are okay, the way you are with your interests, hobbies, likes and dislikes and are okay with yourself being who yoy are - the moment when you say to yourself "Fuck it, I'ma do what I want and can". The moment when you become honest with yourself and women and you start trying to make yourself happy and focus on yourself rather than other people's perception of you, and remove the need to do X to get Y from them, and instead start thinking - "I want…	/r/seduction	06/01/22 12:18 PM
2	We had an amazing time together on our first date, had a great kiss and today she sent me a message that she found out that she's still not over her ex. What do I do? This. Be respectful of her wishes, but also focus on yourself and what you want and be clear with yourself about your wishes. No compromises, and then be clear about them with her. I want this and this... that's it. Nothing less. If she changes her mind, make sure that she's not stringing you along, as even me, in her position, would make sure that I have backups. You don't want to to be someone's backup, you wanna be their first choice. If I were you I'd tell her something like: "I am sorry tha…	/r/seduction	24/12/21 12:49 PM
1	How to stop thinking that Women are better than Men? I am in therapy right now, and this is one of the things I am working on right now. Focusing on reality, rather than fantasies and stories I tell myself, usually along the lines of "other people are better than I, in well everything, I have nothing to offer. Why would she choose me, when the guy around the corner is better. How can I win?". It's exhausting. But the cure so far has been, what my therapist said "If you're good at one aspect of your life, you can't really be good at another. It's e…	/r/seduction	11/12/21 04:24 PM
1	What would you do if you’re at a bar and a girl approaches you and asks if she can buy you a drink? I'd accept the drink. Thank her for it, and say I am flattered. As for the number and driving me home: I'd give her my number and decline the drive me home offer by saying with a kind of smirk something lighthearted or funny and yet declining the offer as it's a bit overwhelming from the first meetup: "Ahh women these days. You think only about one thing. Let's get to know each other a bit first before showing you my place" ooor "Thank you for the offer, but you'd have to to put some more effort…	/r/seduction	03/12/21 09:26 AM
1	Asking for numbers without a conversation Agreed. Imagine it from your point of view if it happened to you. You agreed to meet with someone you know nothing about, that doesn't mean anything to you - there's a huge chance you'd be wasting your time. Why go through the entire effort girls usually go through preparing for a date. Plus, how do you know you yourself are not wasting your time with her? She's as much a human as you are... What? .. you think she's perfect and has all her shit together, no flaws, no insecurities?	/r/seduction	01/12/21 07:16 PM
4	I(25M) was a virgin less than 2 weeks ago. Since then, I’ve had sex with 3 women and have slept with two women on the same day. This is because of a simple but VERY powerful change in mindset Yeah, I agree. I slept with more than enough women of all shapes, sizes and ages, and can say that at one point it becomes empty, but would do it again if given the chance just to confirm for myself that I am not missing out on anything when I settle down and I don't regret going into a relationship.	/r/seduction	19/11/21 08:31 PM
18	I(25M) was a virgin less than 2 weeks ago. Since then, I’ve had sex with 3 women and have slept with two women on the same day. This is because of a simple but VERY powerful change in mindset LOL. About 90% ofnwhat you listed requires social circle.	/r/seduction	19/11/21 08:19 PM
1	I(25M) was a virgin less than 2 weeks ago. Since then, I’ve had sex with 3 women and have slept with two women on the same day. This is because of a simple but VERY powerful change in mindset How does this work exactly? I mean how do you behave when you start thinking that? You become okay with yourself and as a result you don't try that hard, you're okay if it doesn't work out? Can you elaborate? What's the process exactly? It can't only be "Will I like her?". Like imagine the conversation becomes stale for a moment.. what do you do? You think "Will I like her?" and just wait for her to think of something to say?	/r/seduction	19/11/21 12:09 PM
1	How do you not tie yourself esteem with success with the opposite sex? Dude, you and me are the same. I am always telling myself the same things, and I think the same way. I always think - Okay, there's no way that there isn't a guy out there that can't make this girl obsessed and fully head over heels for him. Why can't I make her feel like that for me? I believe that there's some perfect sequence of thing you can say to make a woman want/desire/like me and I don't know what it is. Also, there's always these beautiful women that you see around with some ugly dude,…	/r/seduction	11/11/21 08:34 AM
1	Rejection? Yeah, a lot of women do that. Just be off-key aware of that and just don't ignore your instincts when something rubs you the wrong way.	/r/seduction	07/07/21 06:08 AM
1	Sexiest thing a woman can say It's because we make it hard, that's why you'll see a lot of the advise being something like "focus on yourself", "Don't overthink it", "be direct, and bold" and etc. But to answer your questions, what would work for me is: "Do you want to take it to the bedroom" or even "Wanna show me your bedroom" ? It's not directly asking for sex, it's implied, and simple enough of a signal that we men, who are notoriously bad at them, to understand it.	/r/seduction	04/07/21 01:57 PM
1	24 m. Cannot get a reply back from matches on tinder. Frustrated I know what you mean. It happens to me often as well. I believe that dating apps should add to your dating life and not be the primary way you meet women. It's not to be taken seriously, it's supposed to be fun. That's what it's for. Fun! Speaking from my point of view and I believe you should adopt the same mindset when it comes to dating apps: I don't vibe with all women. It's something like 1 in 5 matches, sometimes more, so don't expect anything and don't get frustrated if few women in a row…	/r/seduction	02/07/21 02:09 PM
2	How do you ask someone out if you have social anxiety at its worst? Okay, then I'd recommend a psychologist. It's a safe space, and they should be able to help uncover where it's all coming from.	/r/seduction	17/06/21 05:44 PM
2	How do you ask someone out if you have social anxiety at its worst? Why don't conquer the anxiety? Challenge the believes you have. There are guides on the internet about how to do it. I'd suggest Mark Manson's. Also, conquering anxiety requires real life experience. It's the fastest way. If you are affraid of snakes, spend some time around them. Start small. In your situation, what I did was to simply approach women. With all my anxiety in hand. Most of them saw it and were like "Hey, it's okay. Relax" and then congratulated me on having balls. And it wasn't sc…	/r/seduction	17/06/21 11:38 AM
2	What are your thoughts on a girl saying she’s busy, not bringing up another day, but continuing to talk? Yeah, I agree with that. Everybody can make time, even a 30 minutes meet-up is good enough to show interest, regardless of how busy you are.	/r/seduction	29/05/21 03:34 PM
7	13 WAYS TO MAKE A WOMAN WANT YOU That's what I've read in 'Models How to Attract women trough honesty' by Mark Manson. These things work not because they are good and they work, but because the woman has already made her descision about you and it's just a game that's fun because she is receiving attention and watching how far this guy is going to push it to impress her. But if it's about honest connection, interest and pursuing something serious, there has to be respect involved. Or at least, that's what I think. It hasn't bee…	/r/seduction	17/05/21 08:49 PM
1	TL;DR: Something changed in my dating life. Here are the things that I worked on (they're not particularly new or ground-breaking): Hey dude. Thanks for the post. Helped me remind myself some things and rethink others. Can you give us a blueprint of what you are doing when meeting women on the street. How do you start the conversation, what do you transition to and etc.? This is where I am getting stuck. My idea of going to a girl is as follows: "Hey, I like your 'X' (where X is something I noticed about her - clothes, style, haircut, necklece) and wanted to know more about you. What's your name?" We exchange names and then …	/r/seduction	16/05/21 11:36 AM
2	Going for a drink on Wednesday for the first time with a girl I matched with back in 2019. I'm obviously attracted to her but our communication has always been platonic. How do I change this in person? I didn't read anything except for the title and on it alone, I would say: Don't think about it too much. Just go without any expectations or believing stories that you made in your head. Just go and let the night take you wherever the night takes you. Just relax, be honest with her, in a way to give information, not to make her think X, or do X. Just be honest without thinking about the outcome and what you want it to be.	/r/seduction	10/05/21 01:10 PM
1	Men in your mid-30s or older, where are you meeting single women? You make some great points. I don't know why I fell into the mentality of measuring my own success and worth by how many women respond to me. Which currently is zero (that fact alone makes me sad) . But to be fair, it's not only Tinder, its real life too. Am not that good at starting up conversations with women on the street. But I am trying, I really am. But you are right, I have to come back to the real world and stop obsessing so much about dating, and also re-evaluate some of the things I us…	/r/seduction	06/05/21 09:49 PM
1	Men in your mid-30s or older, where are you meeting single women? Thank you. Yeah, I've somewhat tried this. Going to the cinema alone, hit the parks and malls, coffee shops and bakeries alone. Work out, play video games with online friends, reading, grocery shopping, apartment renovation planning. Wasn't thinking about women and people at all and it was nice. I was in the same mindset - if it happens it happens, not gonna stress about it. But yesterday it all came rushing in all at once and it got too much for me. I've been angry and depressed before about th…	/r/seduction	06/05/21 04:55 PM
1	Men in your mid-30s or older, where are you meeting single women? That works? In my mind it wouldn't... can you elaborate?	/r/seduction	06/05/21 02:55 PM
2	Men in your mid-30s or older, where are you meeting single women? Yeah what you are saying makes sense. I am shy around women, yes, but in groups of friends I am mostly fine, people actually like me. I am assertive, honest, intelligent and sometimes funny. Don't get me wrong, I am not the life of the party or the best in any of these things and am not done working on these, but I am miles ahead of where I used to be (Never saying anything controversial, never disagreeing and never the first to initiate, fully a nice guy). If something is missing as you've said…	/r/seduction	06/05/21 02:53 PM
2	Men in your mid-30s or older, where are you meeting single women? Thank you. I am better today. It was just too much. The entire day I was reading of ways to improve which reminded me that I am still not where I wanted to be a fuking year and a half later - not even a date! To relax I went on Facebook and was bombarded with pictures of people that just got married, or are on a vacation, or just got a baby. Oh my God so much babies and marriages. And that reminded me that these people are my age, 28M, and already have children and I am not even in my first rela…	/r/seduction	06/05/21 02:13 PM
18	Men in your mid-30s or older, where are you meeting single women? Yeah, mee to. I've been working on myself for the past 1.5 years, and I still don't have close friends or a girlfriend. Yesterday, I stayed until 1 am thinking of killing myself, since it doesn't seem to be getting better. And I am 28 next week. And I AM TRYING to make it work. I've tried picking up girls, clumsily true, but trying, and I am on Tinder where I have 20 likes, 4 matches, all of which are very beautiful. I opened with things I noticed about them, not Hey, Hi or anything like that, a…	/r/seduction	06/05/21 07:06 AM
1	How to last longer in bed? How are you getting girls in bed? I am honestly asking.	/r/seduction	04/05/21 06:56 AM
2	Is this a group anyone can join or jus males? Yeah, I completely understand you. I am exactly the same way. Super shy and worried how women will see me if I did or said X. And yes, I waited for women to do EVERYTHING. In school, during a party, a girl took my hand and without saying anything, dragged me to the bedroom. Do you know what I did? NOTHING. I was afraid of how I'd look if I tried to kiss her. Your ego is trying to protect you. Simple as that. It is simply telling you that you're afraid. That's it, Nothing more! Don't pay any atte…	/r/seduction	20/04/21 03:22 PM
8	Is this a group anyone can join or jus males? I cannot speak for all men, and once again, I think it depends on the guy you are pursuing and what stage in life he is in, but for me, 27Male, who has finished with hookups and is tired of the meaningless stuff... I want a relationship with a woman who knows what she wants, has the confidence to tell me what that is without games or manipulation, and takes the initiative to invest in me as much as am investing in her! I want the real thing, everything, from the good times where we can't get out…	/r/seduction	20/04/21 02:35 PM
3	Is this a group anyone can join or jus males? It depends on what type of guy you are pursuing, but for the average guy, I'd say show interest in him and the things he likes. If you want him to open up a bit, you might try opening up a bit first by sharing how you feel about something. Try to be close to him, a touch, a smile goes a long way. I checked your picture, and you look great, so no wonder you get asked out. But if it were me, where I ask you out and you don't show any interest in me and don't take the initiative from time to time -…	/r/seduction	20/04/21 02:18 PM
3	Is this a group anyone can join or jus males? I know that women nowadays are not being asked out by strangers as much. But I am sure that if you have a social circle where friends introduce you to friends, you'd pump those numbers to the 10s. And if you joined Tinder, then it'd be 4 dates in about 1 hour. Also, I've asked out 5 or 6 girls in the last year, and 4 ghosted me, one cannot find the time to meet so I stopped texting her, and the second to last one said no because she was 3 years older than me and as per her experience, the gap wa…	/r/seduction	20/04/21 01:12 PM
1	What's better?bluntly asking a woman if they want to go on a date?Or asking if you can take them out? To me they both read like the same question. You didn't use "hang" which implies friends. Take out, is a lighter version of date, so I guess its better. But if she asks "Like a date?", then say "Yes" without inhibition. It shows boldness and that you know what you want.	/r/seduction	16/04/21 09:26 AM
1	Speaking as a woman - Don’t forget you’re always coming off as horny. Mnoo?! I never want to use anyone. Is that how you interpreted my comment? If so, then read it again.	/r/seduction	13/04/21 11:22 AM
1	Speaking as a woman - Don’t forget you’re always coming off as horny. "Always remember rejection is better than regret" I couldn't agree more. When I started thinking like that it was a game-changer. I went from "I can't approach her. She is going to think XYZ." and then regret it for a week, to "I will approach her. Who knows what will happen. We might hit it off. And if I get rejected, fine. Less pain than regret. So I can't lose."	/r/seduction	13/04/21 08:47 AM
1	Speaking as a woman - Don’t forget you’re always coming off as horny. Suit yourself.🤷‍♂️	/r/seduction	13/04/21 08:28 AM
1	Speaking as a woman - Don’t forget you’re always coming off as horny. Sorry. I sontnnderstand what you mean. One of what?	/r/seduction	13/04/21 08:24 AM
1	A kind reminder to not focus on one girl You should check Mark Manson's "Models. Attract women trough honesty". It helped me a lot with anxiety. It actually has a chapter about approach that very humanely explains where your errors might be. Also check his article/video "F*ck your feelings". https://youtu.be/3UaXUbQsFKA	/r/seduction	13/04/21 12:14 AM
1	A kind reminder to not focus on one girl Yeah I've been there countless times. I feel so dumb and weak. But now I know not to fall in love with an idea and move on when they don't show interest in me.	/r/seduction	13/04/21 12:08 AM
3	A kind reminder to not focus on one girl Actually I wouldn't mind a copy orf it too. I might be missing something that you've already figured out.	/r/seduction	13/04/21 12:05 AM
2	Speaking as a woman - Don’t forget you’re always coming off as horny. Yeah, I get your point. I would so the same in that scenario, but check again OPs first advise. It reads much more direct. Yours and mine approach is subtle, hers, is not at all. At least from what I am getting from it. That's my point. I can't know for sure from just that. I need an example.	/r/seduction	12/04/21 11:59 PM
8	Speaking as a woman - Don’t forget you’re always coming off as horny. I couldn't agree more. It's exactly how I feel a lot of the time. Like, I have to be this other person so I am allowed connection and affection. But what I've learned which I think is true is that You shouldn't compromise who you are to get what you want with women. Because in the end it will feel fake for you and eventually her, and most likely crumble later on. Plus you'll probably disrespect yourself. Pretenting is form of neediness. Instead try honesty. When she is beautiful and you feel lik…	/r/seduction	12/04/21 11:48 PM
6	Speaking as a woman - Don’t forget you’re always coming off as horny. Hahahahaha. Exactly. That's exactly my point. There is a way of doing the things they want you to do. It's just that they never tell you.	/r/seduction	12/04/21 11:26 PM
12	Speaking as a woman - Don’t forget you’re always coming off as horny. That's just such a leap in logic. Feels like you heard what you wanted to hear here. If you read the rest of my comment, you will (hopefully) understand that I am talking about women's advise to men about women. TLDR: It's not that I don't like the message of the advise it's that it's incomprehensible to anyone without the knowledge and experience needed to understand what exactly is being talked about. And why would not liking women's advise about women mean that I have trouble seducing women? …	/r/seduction	12/04/21 11:22 PM
214	Speaking as a woman - Don’t forget you’re always coming off as horny. Do you understand that being straight forward and aloof mean totally different things to each person? You should give examples, because to people, women especially, it matters a lot how you do/say things, so I ask you, how?! I can go up to a woman and ask "Hey, do you wanna go to my place?" and 49 out of 50 will reject me? Why? Wasn't I straight forward and bold? I can be aloof, where I don't pay attention at all to a woman. But when that happens, 19 out of 20, don't chase me. Why? Wasn't I aloo…	/r/seduction	12/04/21 08:16 PM
3	Why are so many guys in denial or don’t want to learn these skills? Psychologically there are many reasons: Ego, they want to feel like the victim, admitting that you are wrong is painful because it shatters the self-image you've built about yourself, insecurities, fear of rejection and other fears.	/r/seduction	13/03/21 01:56 PM
1	She's not the prize, and neither are you I agree with that. Thinking of women as the prize objectifies them as if they are some trophy to be won and paraded around so other people validate you. When I stopped seeing women this way, I stopped putting them on a pedestal and started thinking about them and talking to them as human beings like myself. It is great not being the super shy "oh what is she going to think about me" type of guy. Also, realizing she is not a prize means that neither am I.	/r/seduction	01/03/21 11:37 AM
1	How are you all meeting people during this whole covid thing? Bulgaria	/r/seduction	16/02/21 12:00 PM
3	How to stop chase women and start making her chase me? Escort maybe? Also, do something different or new that you can do at home. Focus on something else. The more you think of how you are not having sex at the moment, the more desperate you'll feel and when you see a live woman, it would show. Also, as the guy above said. Stop watching porn and masturbating so much. Doing this creates a habit and it burns the nerve endings in your mind. At the end you will only be stimulated by some pretty unrealistic stuff and normal women will not excite you. Tru…	/r/seduction	15/02/21 10:10 AM
2	I now choose to look at things differently I needed to hear that. I am in the same boat as you. Thanks.	/r/seduction	05/02/21 11:21 PM
1	Should i double text or nah Yeah, I wouldn't respect myself if I double-text. Why would I try to talk to someone who doesn't give me time of day. You just show them that for you, their attention is more important than you are for yourself. It's needy and therefore unattractive.	/r/seduction	05/02/21 02:39 PM
24	Always worried about what people think. How can I snap out of it? I was in the same situation like you for my entire life until a year ago. I started reading a lot of self-help books and articles which showed me a different way of thinking. What did it for me was the following: Mark Manson's "Vulnerabilty" articles. Check them out, they are free. (One thing that doesn't get mentioned there but its important: vulnerability is not a tactic. You should do it to give information with no expectations for anything in return. Let go of control). You can also check hi…	/r/seduction	01/02/21 01:50 PM
1	Is seduction 80% attitude and 20% locks, or reverse? You are welcome to leave then if its not your thing. Simple.	/r/seduction	28/01/21 07:41 PM
0	Is seduction 80% attitude and 20% locks, or reverse? So you wouldn't find it insulting if I said that your little hilarious rant is pathetic? Yes, I think its a good question. Because I can answer it. - Out of 10 women on the street I find 2 out of 10 attractive. I want to specify that I am talking about women around my age group. I won't click the link. I said its mostly good not that it's all good, so I believe you when you say there are cringy stuff here, I mean who are we kidding. I dont need the proof. But one or few very bad posts don't spea…	/r/seduction	28/01/21 06:48 PM
2	Is seduction 80% attitude and 20% locks, or reverse? Yes it is a broad question and I explained why I asked it like that. And when we are talking about aggressive you are the one who said that my question was "the dumbest you've ever read". Isn't that insulting my intelligence? I didn't ask for your advise, I asked for information. And I didn't get it with your first reply, but with your last. This sub is mostly good, but if there's anything you might take out of our little chat is that if you start insulting first, you shouldn't expect not to be …	/r/seduction	28/01/21 06:06 PM
2	Is seduction 80% attitude and 20% locks, or reverse? Oh yeah I agree. I didn't say that all beautiful people are shallow, that's why I said "some". Its actually impressive and even more attractive when beautiful people are also good and kind and smart. I met few last year and it was refreshing not to fall into the stereotype.	/r/seduction	28/01/21 05:53 PM
0	Is seduction 80% attitude and 20% locks, or reverse? If you were a bit brighter you might have guessed that I was talking about random people on the street. The ones that populate about 95% of the world? I didn't describe them on purpose because you could read the question as a general one, and not put my understandings of beautiful onto you. Why would someone on the internet ask you about how many of 10 models you are attracted to. And why are you asking what they looks like? What answer do you expect? If I described you a mix of 10 Brad Pit, Chr…	/r/seduction	28/01/21 05:42 PM
5	Is seduction 80% attitude and 20% locks, or reverse? I think it heavily depends on the group you are aiming at. Good looks will win over personality and confidence for girls below 27. After that age women have had few bad apples and have had their share or good looking fukboys. And to be honest it's the same with guys. Let's not pretend we don't look at beautiful women thinking that if we dated them or had sex with them we would get status and acceptance from our peers. We all look at looks first and we want for someone beautiful to be attracted t…	/r/seduction	28/01/21 05:31 PM
-1	Is seduction 80% attitude and 20% locks, or reverse? So how manny out of 10 people you find attractive?	/r/seduction	28/01/21 05:23 PM
2	How do you pickup girls on a walking/jogging path ? That makes sense. I guess I need some topic prior to asking her out on a date, but its hard to come up with stuff on the spot especially if you are not in a thematic environment like a buss stop, or the street as opposed to a book store, park, party or some form of gathering.	/r/seduction	27/01/21 12:31 PM
2	How do you pickup girls on a walking/jogging path ? I want to preface this by saying I am not experienced. To me asking some random question and then transitioning to flirt mode seems weird. I mean it directly shows that you weren't interest in the information you requested. Not that I've done it a lot, but I'd straight out say. "Hey. I thought you're cute and wanted to talk to you". No misdirection, or tactics or shit I've read on the internet (PUA). I dont know if that'd work though. As I said, I am not experienced.	/r/seduction	27/01/21 09:40 AM
4	Is models still a good book for modern times? One important thing that has to be said though: When you are honest with her, be honest to give information and not expect anything in return. Being vulnerable isn't a PUA trick and if you use it as one it will become fake, ungenuine and show neediness, which is unattractive.	/r/seduction	17/01/21 08:21 AM
4	How do I talk to my gf during sex I'd guess its dirty talk. I love it too, it makes me hornier and it shows that she's enjoying me. I'd say something like this: You are so tight. I love the taste of your pssy. I want to taste your pssy. I want to put it in slowly, so you feel every inch 1 after the other. I can't wait to be inside you. I want you to feel me inside you. You are getting tighter (you know when to say that). I want you in XXX pose, I can feel every little part of your p*ssy. To be honest it's hard to talk while you …	/r/seduction	10/01/21 08:25 AM
1	How do guys differentiate between whom to pursue a relationship with and who they just want to have a good time with? Thats the very hard part.	/r/seduction	07/01/21 11:31 PM
1	How do guys differentiate between whom to pursue a relationship with and who they just want to have a good time with? Thank you man. Everything you said makes sense. This going from one bedroom to another to satisfy my current fwbs just wasn't enjoyable for me anymore. That's what it feels like at often moments. I think "Oh I haven't seen her in a while, I don't want to lose my options or for her to be mad at me because I haven't called. Let me reach her to meet" and when we meet, it feels like a blue collar job. I feel like I am doing routine stuff just like during my job just to satisfy somebody sexually, and…	/r/seduction	06/01/21 11:08 PM
2	How do guys differentiate between whom to pursue a relationship with and who they just want to have a good time with? I red Models How to Attract women trough honesty. It was really hard to get to the point where I was able to say what I think without any expectations. The idea is you say what you want from this person, how you feel about them, what you want to do with them just for information, and if they like you great if not, they are not the person for you. I am very hard trying not to believe the "Man is the fisherman, women are the fish and if you can't catch its the bait thats wrong" bullshit of an advi…	/r/seduction	06/01/21 07:59 PM
1	How do guys differentiate between whom to pursue a relationship with and who they just want to have a good time with? I didn't say they were or that I need their mentoring. I think you and me talk about the same thing differently. I think you are saying that you shouldn't need women to feel validated or happy and you should be enough for yourself. And having girlfriend should be as an outcome of you being you. If so then I agree. But your choice of words - "submission" means something entirely different. And in relationships, you can't always be the leader, you should allow for her to lead too. It's actually ex…	/r/seduction	06/01/21 10:13 AM
3	How do guys differentiate between whom to pursue a relationship with and who they just want to have a good time with? Homie or whatever, I hope you reize that loyalty and submission are two entirely different things that have nothing to do with each other. Yes I want loyalty, who doesn't. But I don't want submission. Thats the part me and the other dude are arguing with you about.	/r/seduction	06/01/21 08:56 AM
2	How do guys differentiate between whom to pursue a relationship with and who they just want to have a good time with? He is not naive. Personally I want a partner, which to me means somebody who is on the same level intellectually who can challenge me, who can disagree with me and call me on my bulshit, and not be afraid to do it. Thats the best way to grow as people, become better and stronger individually but still together. What you describe is as the previous person said "a dog". Someone who follows but never leads, never challenges. This to me is so boring, having someone agree with your every wish. This i…	/r/seduction	06/01/21 08:24 AM
7	How do guys differentiate between whom to pursue a relationship with and who they just want to have a good time with? I need your advise on the following because I am freaking out a bit. I am sleeping with few girls on a regular basis, but recently it's become very stressful for me when I am with them. At the beginning we are texting or sexting and I get excited but when I go meet them my thoughts change to "Oh I have satisfy her now, but I don't care about her relationship wise. Why am I trying to satisfy her when the furthest is going to go is just meaningless sex which she does with like 10 other dudes, I ai…	/r/seduction	06/01/21 08:11 AM
1	How are you all meeting people during this whole covid thing? Yes, I will do the same once things are open again.	/r/seduction	04/01/21 03:42 AM
2	How are you all meeting people during this whole covid thing? I dont know for your country but in mine Tinder girls are there only for the attention. I had one girl admit that she has a boyfriend (after talking the entire day) but was on Tinder just to see if she hypothetically could get with someone if she were to break up with her boyfriend or he broke up with her. Also, its a lot of "I am not here often, but you can DM me on Instagram". I DM on Instagram but no answer. But thats okay, because I can she has +2 000 followers. Definitely on tinder to get a…	/r/seduction	03/01/21 08:37 AM
2	Why being relationship focused man are bad? What he said :D	/r/seduction	18/12/20 08:12 AM
2	Why girls like bad boys Girls want "bad boys" because that's what they've been though from young age. Be it movies, friends, book ant etc. The idea is that they will get a confident dont give a shit about the world guy who doesn't let get pushed around and they will teach him to love, making him fall for her because he never had what she could give him. Now the women that date these type of men are usually girls who are not confident, don't have strong boundaries, do not live in reality and have the wrong ideas about w…	/r/seduction	17/12/20 10:19 AM
2	Confidence is not an issue for me. My issue is that I have ZERO opportunities to meet people Same situation here. Chatted with a girl on Tinder for few hours. We were vibing a lot. At the end of the convo she drops that she has a BF who's aware that she is chatting with other guys. Asked why is she here then, and I'll give her this, she's honest - she said attention. So sad. And I just started naming our children 😄	/r/seduction	10/11/20 04:03 PM
0	I want to share my experience, how I learned that one of the main things to do is stop giving a fuck To me this reads as the girl is being unconfident as much as you are. You played the role of the cool guy, and the unconfident girl that she is, she fell into the trap. Grat pick up artist bulshit dude. I hate this attitude "Fake it until you make it". It's not genuine, it's a mask, it has no real substance behind it. I mean Fake is in the name for gods sake. Good for you - got a lay with a girl who is attracted to fake shit. And she didn't had sex with you, but your peraona. Would I have been y…	/r/seduction	22/10/20 10:32 PM
9	For those without fancy jobs or possessions, how did you attract women "out of your league"? You attract what you are thinking about. And no, this isn't some universal law or voodoo. Its how our minds have been built and evolved. We all see familiarity better than the things we don't know. That's the point of commercials. They ingrain the name of the company in your head and when you choose between 2 products, you chose the more familiar one, because you know what you're getting and feel safe, while the unknown scares and/or confuses you. Now imagine the same with relationships. If you …	/r/seduction	18/10/20 07:55 AM
2	Girl skips question for a date Why would you show effort into thinking place time plan if you don't know what her answer It shows balls by taking the risk? Also I am not gonna suggest Y day because if she's interested she'd say "I am not free Xday but how about I give you my number and we can schedule" or suggest a perticilour Yday.	/r/seduction	09/10/20 03:20 PM
1	Girl skips question for a date I dont agree with that. Saying "meet with me sometime, wherever" just shows that you are hoping for her number and haven't put in any effort into thinking of place, time, plan and etc. To me its like a hail marry. I'd say something like "I know of a coffee place at Xplace, that serves the best coffee in town and I want to show it to you. Are you free this xxxday" or "would you like to go out with me this xday? I know of a coffee place that..."	/r/seduction	09/10/20 11:47 AM
4	Instagram Girl Nice but always "busy" for meeting up I'd like to add that not only you won't be changing them, but also you will be teaching them that this is an acceptable way to behave and that that is what men want. They can be selfish as much as they want if the di*ck never ever stops. I call this the princess syndrome - it's when you expect, the princess that you are, that suitors will present themselves constantly, seeking your imperial affection and graces. You see, princesses don't have to put themselves on the line, or risk anything to fi…	/r/seduction	07/10/20 02:58 PM
4	Women who don't want to chase men. This is something very hard to get trough my skull. You hear a lot of people saying stuff like "The man is the fisherman the woman is the fish. If you couldn't catch her its because your bait isn't good enough". I just now realize how bullshit of an advise this is, but extremely hard to get out of. It basically tells you that you should be able to get any woman and if you can't, then it's you who is at fault. And since you (if honestly) present yourself and get rejected then its you who's not go…	/r/seduction	07/10/20 02:09 PM
1	20 Years old guys needs help with confidence What are you saying? I should put more investment in my social circle, hobbies and etc and look to meet women there and not in cold approaching? I don't have a wide social circle and friend of girl-friends are either taken, or when I ask donyou know somebody who you can introduce me to they wonder and say noone comes to mind. That leaves me with cold approaches? My profile isn't great. I really don't use it. I use it for chatting when needed. Maybe I can add when talking to them and they suggest…	/r/seduction	11/09/20 05:36 PM
1	20 Years old guys needs help with confidence That's solid advise I think since everyone is telling it when I read in here. The situation I am in right now I have hard time getting out of and I could use your opinion. I am trying to get a date by talking to girls on the street as honestly as I can, without alterior motive: I dress well, I am told I am good looking (by other women), 27M and fit. I go to a girl and honestly say: Me: Hi, I don't do this often, but I thought you're cute and wanted to talk to you. She: smiles Thank you. Me: What…	/r/seduction	11/09/20 05:00 PM
1	20 Years old guys needs help with confidence Oh my god, thank you! I could never use this wacky pick-up lines. They all sound so cheesy to me and are not what I really mean - It's performance. Somebody is asking you to learn some lines so you can get laid... I can't believe this works on women. Seeing what you wrote gives me hope about finding a girlfriend, but it is sooo damn hard to find one who actually likes you for you, and not for the bullshit she wants to hear from you to boost her ego or use you to entertain herself.	/r/seduction	11/09/20 11:47 AM
1	Pedastilizing women Ah, I see what you are saying. To your comment I'd add that if both of you are determined on different hours, you can outlay your points why you insist on the specific hour and if both of your points are valid, you can work on a compromise.	/r/seduction	10/09/20 07:50 AM
2	My current self development I read "The subtle art of not giving a f*ck" first. It put some things that I knew were wrong in words. From there on I read "Models" which perfectly described my situation and helped me remove my biases about women, which were: Being muscular, rich, handsome, a pro pickup artist and a God in bed - I thought this was the minimum in order not to be considered creepy, or to be considered for a date. I had horrible approach anxiety and I still have it to some degree. Sadly, I don't have a social ci…	/r/seduction	23/08/20 07:51 AM
1	Best cologne helps seduction, girls love it on men? I have Creed Aventus. Its amazing but super expensive. An alternative to it is Mont Blanc Explorer. Explorer its a copy of Aventus and a pretty good one at that. Its also few times cheaper. The only very tiny difference between the two is that Aventus smells just a bit more citrusy.	/r/seduction	30/07/20 06:55 AM
1	From pitiable “incel” to success with high quality women. My story + 5 suggestions for others. [Long post] Yeah thats my plan too. And I am being told my multiple women thatnI am pretty good at oral, but I think I have more to learn too.	/r/seduction	13/07/20 02:18 AM
3	From pitiable “incel” to success with high quality women. My story + 5 suggestions for others. [Long post] Except Models by Mark Manson, what did you read that helped you out in becoming more high value?	/r/seduction	13/07/20 02:00 AM
2	I’ve made animated summaries of 50 of the best self improvement books. I’ve made a list of the links for each of the videos so you can find and watch the summary of the book you are interested in more easily. Hope this is useful. I read Models and The subtle Art of Not giving a fuck and they helped with my self esteem. Any other suggestions to read after these 2 that you think can help me out with girls? Something self help that specifically helped you when comes to dating? I already have some of the ones in the list but have not started them yet.	/r/seduction	11/07/20 01:40 PM
2	Pedastilizing women Hopefully, yes. That's the dumbest thing I have ever heard. What i think womrn like is a guy that takes charge, but that is totally different from being dominated or in his example, disrespected.	/r/seduction	09/07/20 04:21 PM
1	Pedastilizing women The original content was removed, but I am curious what triggered your response? Did the OP say that you should make a woman wait to show dominance or something?	/r/seduction	08/07/20 02:28 PM
2	How would you like to be propositioned by a woman? For me an innocent touch and a simple, 'Hi my name is X. I think you're cute. Would you like to grab a coffee with me at X this X-day' would do it for me. I don't see myself refusing except if the girl is not my type which isn't her fault.	/r/seduction	07/07/20 06:55 AM
17	You know what’s attractive? Knowing your own worth Soo, what you're saying is.. that me knowing that I am a piece of shit, is attractive to women? 😲🧐	/r/seduction	04/07/20 07:03 AM
3	Most seduction books are pure s**t, what you need to be doing is working on fundamental social skills and dealing with your inner demons. Thats why I red and am re-reading some chapters from Mark Manson's: "Models: How to attract women trough honesty". The book is 90% about you and 10% about women.	/r/seduction	02/07/20 11:35 AM
1	The key to attractive personality (both for men and women) I think that people don't really understand what confidence is. Everyone days "just be confident" and like magic everything will happen for you. I think being confident comes when you start being super honest with yourself and your motivations. Start working on your issues and once you become okay with yourself you become more confident and not dependant on everyone else's emotions about you, but rather your own.	/r/seduction	23/06/20 09:40 AM
9	How to practice while locked inside? It is powerful. I think about it as a form of meditation. I am reading a lot and changing my mindset but it's one thing to read about it, whole another to apply it. Imagining it actually helps me change my mindset because I see a version (based on reality) where I am practicing this new way of thinking. That way, IRL, I don't have to stop for a minute and think about something that was said in the book - I have already changed my mindset.	/r/seduction	15/06/20 12:45 PM
2	"Shes not yours but your turn" makes me not want to do anything with a woman Dude, read Models: How to attract women trough honesty by Mark Manson. Yesterday I (27M, did the unthinkable for the 2nd time in my life (the first being more than 6 months ago)) approached a girl on the street and told her that I think she was cute and wanted to talk to her. Asked her name, age and she said cudos to me for being that courageous and that actually she does approach guys too. She saw that I was a bit nervous and simply said to relax. Asked her out for a coffee this Saturday and sh…	/r/seduction	10/06/20 10:46 AM
2	How to be authentic I wouldn't say a book won't help. Some books have exactly that purpose you mentioned - deep dive.	/r/seduction	05/06/20 12:48 PM
2	How to be authentic I am reading it right now. I was gonna put some theories from the book to help th OP. Sometimes I find myself re-reading the chapters from the first half of the book just to remember what the mindset was when I feel the Nice-Guy in me coming up.	/r/seduction	05/06/20 12:46 PM
1	Is there anyone here who GENUINELY went from loser to champ? How did you do it? Where did you start, and what does your success look like now? Thanks, man. That'd be great. I hope it doesn't come to that too often as I don't want to be a bother but I just might take you up on it.	/r/seduction	01/06/20 05:40 PM
1	Is there anyone here who GENUINELY went from loser to champ? How did you do it? Where did you start, and what does your success look like now? Thank you. I found this to be true too. I just wanted to check with somebody else. Furthermore, because of this, my motivation is down, and going full couch potato, shoving food down my throat looks more and more appealing. As I said, I have no one to talk to about these stuff, much less somebody who is going through the same. Thanks again.	/r/seduction	01/06/20 05:15 PM
2	Is there anyone here who GENUINELY went from loser to champ? How did you do it? Where did you start, and what does your success look like now? You said it was hard. I have days where I am learning new stuff, and thinking and fixing my behavior and I see the light and the future and all I will accomplish because I am working on myself and feel great about it. But days like today I feel like shit. Like I am not worth anything, like everything I do is for nothing and like I have lost my way. I try to keep going but damn its hard to get my mindset back and feel good about myself. I don't know what to do. if you had days like these, what di…	/r/seduction	01/06/20 04:15 PM
5	Is there anyone here who GENUINELY went from loser to champ? How did you do it? Where did you start, and what does your success look like now? I know it's like that, but that other person is me. I have no friends. I have days where I am learning new stuff, and thinking and fixing my behavior and I see the light and the future and all I will accomplish because I am working on myself and feel great about it. But days like today I feel like shit. Like I am not worth anything, like everything I do is for nothing and like I have lost my way. I try to keep going but damn its hard to get my mindset back and feel good about myself. I don't kno…	/r/seduction	01/06/20 03:56 PM
3	Interested girls lose interest after talking to me for a while. Have you red "Models: How to attract women through honesty" by Mark Manson? This is what he talks about - being you with all your faults, being genuinely vulnerable and speaking your truth.	/r/seduction	30/05/20 07:20 AM
1	you're good enough when you stop asking the question Thanks man. Reading your post I feel like I am the right path. I am reading Models: How to attract women though honesty. I also plan to start talking to strangers. The problem I have now though is that sometimes I loose my mindset (like I loose view of my goal). Also, as soon as I get a gf I plan to simply ask what she likes so I can become better. I want to be more confident.	/r/seduction	15/04/20 09:24 PM
1	Confidence = knowing that whatever happens, it will be alright Thank you for the reccomendation. I am now more inclined to check it out first before any of the other books.	/r/seduction	05/04/20 09:38 PM
2	Confidence = knowing that whatever happens, it will be alright That's why I red "The subtle art of not giving a f*ck" and I am now reading "Models: How to attract women through honesty". I am at 20% in Models and that's what the beginning of the book is focused on. Confidence, Honesty, Vulnerability. Also you might wanna check Apollonia Ponti's YouTube channel and her videos about confidence and attraction.	/r/seduction	05/04/20 08:15 PM
3	Confidence = knowing that whatever happens, it will be alright Thank you for the comprehensive reply. I actually heard about "How to be a 3% man" and I wrote it down, but haven't checked it out yet. Will do, so thank you for the reminder. I was actually feeling bad today - I fell out of the mindset. What took me out of it in an hour was taking the following steps. I basically asked myself. 1.Q: Why do I feel bad. 2.A: I dont know what I can offer a woman, I am not good enough and I feel like I have to prove myself to her so she finds value in me. 3.Realisat…	/r/seduction	05/04/20 08:08 PM
3	Confidence = knowing that whatever happens, it will be alright Amir Levine - Attached Christopher Canwell - Atomic Attraction	/r/seduction	05/04/20 01:14 PM
24	Confidence = knowing that whatever happens, it will be alright I completely know what you mean. In fact I am trying to learn all of these things right now by reading "Models: Attract women through honesty" and "The subtle art of not giving a f*ck". Next would be either "Attached" or "Atmoc attraction". The problem I have though is that sometimes I fall out of the mindset and start thinking "what should I say next", "how to make them like me" and etc. Its such a bad feeling and it takes me days to get back to "Who cares, I will be fine. I dont need their app…	/r/seduction	05/04/20 12:53 PM