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Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
4	Should I save it? Part 2 - More reality		Departure_point	/r/Divorce_Men	14/08/18 04:08 AM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	Should I save it? Thanks for that. All fair. How long did you take to exit once you had decided? And when were you spiritually ‘out’? Any kids?	/r/Divorce_Men	01/08/18 12:33 AM
1	Should I save it? Well, it's interesting. I agree the BS around her political rhetoric won't change. I just need to avoid political discussions and school the kids offline. Her attitude has already changed for the better, amazingly. I see where she visited a counselor. I think he told her what she needed to do if she wanted to stay married and it's produced adjustments. All without ever asking me. Very interesting. I need to see a lawyer anyway, but am inclined to led this ride and see where it goes.	/r/Divorce_Men	31/07/18 04:54 AM
1	Should I save it? Nah. There is what I'd like to do, what's best to do and what I'm willing to do. Like: divorce Best: make it work til college or at least exit on my timeline Willing: Any	/r/Divorce_Men	31/07/18 04:50 AM
1	Should I save it? Thanks for the details. Yes, I need a business to make some dollars vanish. The safety deposit box might work. I think I have a few other things I need to look into, like off shoring. I will want to be fair in a divorce, just not screwed over. I don't want my kids thinking I left their mother destitute. But I also don't want them visiting my 1 bedroom condo with dog food on the shelves either. Ha!	/r/Divorce_Men	28/07/18 08:34 PM
1	Should I save it? Yup, prolly so on the Biz as usual. Sigh. Yes, my takeaway is marriage sucks 9 out of 10 times. Tons of stuff that used to be ok is now not OK, even if your partner under performs on their promises. If you have large income and/or high sex drive, avoid if at all possible. Thanks for the ear and well wishes. Will report back in a few months. Edits: sp	/r/Divorce_Men	27/07/18 07:06 PM
1	Should I save it? She flipped the script on the dead bedroom because she got a car. At least to start. I also think she's trying to 'save her marriage' as she's worried I'm cheating. So that's all good, overall. Agree on the sit down...sort of...but I do like having the window into the 'real thinking' and don't want to highlight obvious opsec gaps and then have them close. So that needs to be approached delicately and possibly using legacy information in a therapy setting. Edit: BTW, my self worth is fine. I'll h…	/r/Divorce_Men	26/07/18 07:16 PM
2	Should I save it? Thanks for the detailed thoughts and sharing your story. Scary stuff, but glad you got out. I have a vasectomy. Yes, life w/o worry rocks. She's putting out again and not performing half bad. Either faking it or actually orgasming too. Quite interesting. But I agree she's setting up for divorce, but feels like she can't come to terms with what happens after a competent financial planner who pays all the bills leaves. The girly man stuff is just stupid on her part and an outcome of foolish politi…	/r/Divorce_Men	26/07/18 07:12 PM
1	Should I save it? Struggling with how to do this. She doesn't know that I've seen all of this info. Meanwhile, she's improving her behavior and has moved from a dead bedroom wife into enthusiastic sexual accommodation. I get the impression she doesn't really want a divorce, when she thinks thru it. I have pointed scenario based questions for an attorney. I want to work thru those before I tip my hand that I know all of this. Also, if we stay together, I may never want her to know how much I REALLY know or how I c…	/r/Divorce_Men	25/07/18 10:53 PM
2	Should I save it? Yes, I had words with my wife when she did this with me directly. The above example was a text with a friend. She no longer does it directly with me for fear I'll come 'unhinged'. Which is probably for the best, if you can't expunge the thinking all together. Better, though, to marry someone who isn't like this. Or, I'm coming to the conclusion better not to marry at all.	/r/Divorce_Men	25/07/18 07:09 PM
1	Should I save it? I don't respect her. Only an idiot makes these kinds of statements based on political differences. This was a conversation I caught on text with her friend, not with me directly. Meanwhile, she's become sexual again. But your story is even tougher to swallow. Are you worried about financial treatment in divorce? Kids? If not, why not initiate it? Or force it?	/r/Divorce_Men	25/07/18 07:05 PM