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RELATIONSHIPSDependentInternal875/r/RedPillWomen23/08/24 06:42 PM
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It's more so, waiting until there's commitment will maintain your self respect (biggest thing) and will keep away commitmentphobic men. While it may not have made those two men commit, you wouldn't have wasted 6 months on each of them. If my next relationship asks me about my past, he’ll hold this against me and will be even less likely to commit. There's ways to deal with this, I can find the post on it, it's about dealing with your past and moving forward with it.
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/24 02:34 AM
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People will take as much as they can get while giving as little as they think they can get away with, it's sad but it's the reality of life. The way to subvert this is to have strong boundaries and expectations. No being exclusive without a relationship, men who want to be exclusive for months without a relationship want all the benefits of monogamy without any of the responsibilities of a relationship. No oral sex, men will just think "this is good enough" and move on.
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/24 02:27 AM
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yea, the brad pitt rule comes into play here
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 04:50 AM
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I would start with reading the Surrendered Wife by Laura Doyle. It lays a solid foundation for everything while also talking about how our upbringing resulted in the behaviors we have today. It's a very insightful book.
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/24 09:44 PM
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A man who's 52 and has never been married before likely isn't going to have his first marriage at 52. IIRC, every year past 38, the chances of a man ever marrying drops dramatically with every passing year afterwards. Men see living together as a way to delay marriage, women see it as a step towards marriage. If you don't want to act like a wife while getting none of the commitment a wife gets, then hold firm.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/24 10:40 PM
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Look at other places it's de criminalized, they still get to consent or not consent to individuals. This is false, Dutch sex workers are only allowed to deny a certain number of clients per year without being fired, I believe the number is 3.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 02:12 AM
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because you know he’s commitment minded I browse the waiting to wed sub out of boredom sometimes, one of the biggest commonalities I see there is the man was divorced before, and he's vehemently against risking himself to that possibility again. It seems when someone goes through a messy divorce, whether it was their parents in childhood or their own adult dating life, the chances of them ever wanting to date becomes almost nothing. You can weed some of these men out by asking their feelings abo…
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/24 09:05 PM
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Chapter 23 in the Surrendered Wife talks about the importance of spiritual connection and believing in a higher being.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/24 01:45 AM
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The two big things are to practice self care and to say "I can't" when you need to. A good rule of thumb for when to say "I can't" is when what is asked of you will make you resentful, overtired, lose your dignity, or interfere with your self-care. If he gets upset in return, that's his on his paper.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/24 04:54 AM
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a lot less women are serial killers (that we know of) which is why you hear about it less, but rest assured it does happen with female serial killers as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 12:28 AM
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What's more important to you, your desire for vindication or your desire for intimacy? You've seen where your desire for vindication has led you: a cold marriage absent of passion, sex, and intimacy. Forgiveness is hard, especially when you don't get an apology, but forgiveness is just as much for ourselves as it is the other person. At some point you need to break the cycle for the sake of a happy marriage, sure he could do that, but you only control your own actions, not his.
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/24 08:30 PM
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The Surrendered Wife is really good for these situations, I'd give it a read.
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/24 05:25 PM
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The best thing for you to do is maintain your dignity and work towards building life up on your own again. Crawling back to him and begging him to stay together will only serve to degrade and humiliate you and hurt your self worth.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/24 05:58 PM
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Women complain that men don’t have good hygiene yet men are more likely to shower everyday than women are. Doing your hair everyday is a pain, also testosterone causes men to produce more sweat. One of the most noticeable changes I got after starting estrogen was how much less I sweat and how much less pungent my sweat is.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 04:55 PM
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You're emasculating him by acting like this, ironically enough. Just let it go and allow him to grow for himself, a man's journey is his own and forcing him to go a certain way is telling him he doesn't know better. Is it better to be right and emasculate him or have peace and allow him to grow past his upbringing on his own?
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/24 04:24 PM
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Thank you, I will. I psyche myself out about these sorts of things sometimes because of fear of abandonment, but this sub has helped me learn the importance of boundaries and self care.
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/24 09:05 PM
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It's not a way of life, just something that we frequently have as a part of when we have sex.
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/24 08:44 PM
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It's a frequent part of when we have sex, but not outside of our sex life.
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/24 08:44 PM
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It's not a way of life, just something that we frequently have as a part of when we have sex.
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/24 08:43 PM
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Thank you, the good advice seems to be to tell him my feelings, reassure him that I was indeed into it before, and see where things go/see what his solution is.
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/24 08:41 PM
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He will react with kindness, but I mostly fear it hurting our intimacy with one another. I also fear he may think I was never into it when I was.
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/24 08:39 PM
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I don't understand, is hamstering only a thing if the fear or hurt is irrational? The most recent example was from a manager today and falls under the resources category you listed. I talked about something I had accomplished in my personal life and she immediately downplayed it and dismissed it, and I felt very hurt and upset about it for the rest of today.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/24 08:01 AM
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Do you have any advice when your hamster runs when you try to be vulnerable but it goes poorly? This extends to almost every interpersonal relationship I have, not just romantic.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/24 01:06 AM
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