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if both can give themselves time to heal yes, otherwise, not at all
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/24 05:30 AM
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but if you really want my experienced input, then DM me. You just dont belong on this sub
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/24 05:07 AM
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women who try to post on this subreddit clearly have a lack of boundaries or think they are the exception to the rule. i would suggest marriage counseling, but I don't know if you would take it seriously.
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/24 05:05 AM
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it will have to look like an equal share of community property is given to each party. Courts are obligated to keep things fair, regardless of pride. If she wants to give you back your alimony or allow you to "write the check" so it is not taken out of your paycheck, you can do that, but she an always go back to the courts and say you are not keeping up with it. Let the courts make the decision, but it sounds unlikely.
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/24 11:25 PM
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just so you understand this clearly, everything you own will likely be cut down the middle, savings and debts. she will not be rewarded for her bad spending habits as some have elluded to, because she will keep the lifestyle with 70K less income. Depending on how long you were married, she will likely pay you for support. If you are frugal, it will be an easy transition. The retainer is based on difficulty. Is your STBEW, the final boss on Mike Tyson boxing, or is she going to be gracious. If yo…
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/24 03:17 AM
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more common than you think. They generally dont teach how to pick a good partner in uni.
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/24 03:12 AM
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please do.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/24 11:52 PM
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It sounds like you make 8K a month more than her. Quit your bitchin and live within your means. It is way cheaper in the long run
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/24 07:55 AM
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It is good that she left and not you. Some states will favor this. Fight with everything you have to gain 50% custody. Psychologists have found that kids in single father homes actually thrive better than children in single mother homes. Also, you are just as entitled to be in the kid's life as mom is. The fact that she is keeping you from them, will not look good in court. Get to court ASAP. As long as you are not abusive, Chicago seems liberal enough to want both parents in the baby's life
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/24 07:06 AM
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Just to follow up, if you do need to take out, I would consider borrowing as much as possible, not to exceed 50%. Withdrawing funds from a 401k make your income look much higher in certain states.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/24 07:01 AM
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Ask your lawyer. If you cash out anything after DOS, you could be required to pay that exact amount to her. If that is the only way to pay the retainer, ake sure it is documented properly. definitely not hidden. My ex tried to hide 70K after she left. Guess how much she was forced to pay me
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/24 06:59 AM
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It is a lenghty process by an actuary who will determine her portion. All gains after DOS are yours. It is called a QDRO as someone else mentioned. If anything, increase your contribution now that you are likely saving money. The goal is to contribute as much as possible, especially in this season of growth you are entering.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/24 06:56 AM
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dont know if going to war is a subtle change to rebuild
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/24 06:53 AM
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If you mean financially, i got you
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/24 06:52 AM
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Is this meant as a joke? Im sure your wife tells you that every time
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/24 05:47 AM
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Well done. You have many obligations that require your attention. She needs to give you the space to heal and process this. She needs the same. You did the right thing. If only we all had your sense of boundaries. I say again, well done
/r/Divorce_Men29/02/24 05:55 AM
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If you are high value, it doesnt matter how much she make. If you both need to work then your pool is more limited. What is her relationship with money? How does she treat people she can gain nothing from? Can she give you kids? Prenup! Do you plan to marry or have an arrangement?
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/24 09:23 AM
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Do not move out until you file. Get a good lawyer and end the relationship. Your kid is too young to know any different. Your mom can let you stay in the home and you can "pay her" rent. Let her keep the house if she gives up her share of your retirement. All of this assumes you are the primary bread winner
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/24 09:19 AM
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