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| 1 | The rise of sexlessness among men is NOT NORMAL, the reasons given for that is major coping by men and female gaslighting to hide the real reason. Women are not having less sex they are just having fewer sexual partners.I know many guys who live with their parents who still get laid on a consistent basis especially while I was in high school, nothing changed when these guys graduated. Anecdotal. We don't know enough about their living situation. It's hard to date when your parents are around, especially if they don't respect your privacy. Having sex is awkward if they're right across the hall from you. Living with your parents suggests lack of economic mobility, which is a turnoff. [Video games] have been aroun… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/21 05:48 PM |
| 2 | Long-term and short-term relationships are initially identical. They diverge after a few weeks or months, especially after sex.I think my ex used to post on pinkpill; can't verify since the sub was banned. A lot of those people (including her) have traumatic experiences and victim mentalities associated with them. They develop bad opinions of men while making bad life decisions. Once found a comment from a woman who encountered a PUA IRL. She had read the red-pill handbook and disarmed him pretty quickly. She said that some of the practical advice was useful while the rest was misogynistic crap. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/21 12:45 PM |
| 1 | Long-term and short-term relationships are initially identical. They diverge after a few weeks or months, especially after sex.Yes, the study has issues. I shared it because I thought it was interesting, not that I'm trying to support any "sides." A large, consistent replication attempt on it would be nice to see. Going off other studies and experience, I would still conclude that relationships don't last long without sexual satisfaction. It's a bit of chicken & egg -- sex is necessary to maintain a relationship, but emotional attachment is necessary for good sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/21 12:30 PM |
| 1 | Long-term and short-term relationships are initially identical. They diverge after a few weeks or months, especially after sex.That doesn't invalidate my comment. At this point, I'm citing experience and the link right above. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/21 12:12 PM |
| 1 | Long-term and short-term relationships are initially identical. They diverge after a few weeks or months, especially after sex.Where does that land a guy with a strap-on or dick extension? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/21 12:06 PM |
| 2 | Long-term and short-term relationships are initially identical. They diverge after a few weeks or months, especially after sex.Yes it is. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/21 12:04 PM |
| 3 | Long-term and short-term relationships are initially identical. They diverge after a few weeks or months, especially after sex.You should be fine. Emotional satisfaction is an important part of sexual satisfaction. You should have plenty of time to explore each other's bodies and it's not hard to catch on. Reading online sex advice can go a long way. When I lost my virginity, I gave my (ex-)girlfriend seven orgasms in one session, and she had a lot of experience. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/21 06:51 PM |
| 1 | Long-term and short-term relationships are initially identical. They diverge after a few weeks or months, especially after sex.I've lost interest in men because of... too small of a penis. What if they're really good with using tongue, fingers, or dildo? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/21 06:40 PM |
| -1 | Long-term and short-term relationships are initially identical. They diverge after a few weeks or months, especially after sex.Don't mistake correlation with causation. Emotional satisfaction influences sexual satisfaction. People who care about pleasing their partners get more satisfaction from it, and I can testify to it firsthand. I wouldn't get much out of a hot girl if I didn't care about her. My best orgasms from jerking off involved crushes I really liked. Higher n-counts are associated with lower sexual satisfaction. They may indicate an inability to stay in LTRs and build the emotional attachment necessary for … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/21 06:35 PM |
| 1 | Long-term and short-term relationships are initially identical. They diverge after a few weeks or months, especially after sex.I knew a bisexual girl who lost interest in another girl who didn't do well in bed. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/21 06:00 PM |
| 3 | Long-term and short-term relationships are initially identical. They diverge after a few weeks or months, especially after sex.If she's smart, she could catch on pretty quickly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/21 05:58 PM |
| 1 | Sex differences in desired characteristics of short-term and long-term relationship partners (Stewart et al 2000)Didn't know that was a rule. There's no reference to it in the sidebar. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/21 05:52 PM |
| 1 | Long-term and short-term relationships are initially identical. They diverge after a few weeks or months, especially after sex.That's referenced only in the extended rules page; there's nothing about it in the sidebar. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/21 05:50 PM |
| – | Sex differences in desired characteristics of short-term and long-term relationship partners (Stewart et al 2000)If that study is even reliable, the results are correlative rather than causal. Attractive people may have shorter relationships because they face lower breakup costs by virtue of being able to attract new partners more easily. In any case, it doesn't contract the original study; it doesn't change what men and women want in partners. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/21 05:42 PM |
| – | Sex differences in desired characteristics of short-term and long-term relationship partners (Stewart et al 2000)That was only the first study reviewed in the paper. Studies 2a and 2b included 143 and 187 participants respectively. Two more studies (documented in supplementary material,) S2 and S3, respectively involved 189 and 252 participants. They add up to 857. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/21 05:28 PM |
| 3 | Long-term and short-term relationships are initially identical. They diverge after a few weeks or months, especially after sex.Big dick energy & knowing how to perform. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/21 05:02 PM |
| – | Sex differences in desired characteristics of short-term and long-term relationship partners (Stewart et al 2000)How is the survey worse? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/21 03:19 PM |
| – | Sex differences in desired characteristics of short-term and long-term relationship partners (Stewart et al 2000)That's not really what happens. As a 2018 study found, short-term relationships tend to involve less sexual excitement. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/21 03:10 PM |
| – | Women do think physical attractiveness is important. It's just not impossibly high standards. Just don't be a neckbeard.This study is worth a read. Men place more value on physical attractiveness while women place more value on earning capacity. Dating apps like Tinder and even Bumble are overwhelmingly male. Female hypergamy exists there, but it's not representative of the outside world. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/21 02:54 PM |
| – | "Tinder will soon let you run a background check on a potential date" - Is this seen as good or bad from a dating perspective?Sounds for a massive potential for privacy violation. If anyone can conduct the background check, they can easily publicize sensitive information about former criminals and hinder their chances at changing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/21 08:12 PM |
| 1 | What is your ideal ONS?Exchange glances, then smiles, with a cute girl and chat up. Nobody's around, both off work/class. Walk away in the same direction to get food or drinks, coming to life more as we keep talking. Evening hits before we know it. "Wanna go to my place or yours?" Book a hotel room if anyone's home for us. Fuck like wild animals. Go to sleep and wake up in each other's arms, meet her majestic gaze in the morning. Fuck again. Be sure to have each other's numbers by the time we split, meet up again. If … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/01/21 05:46 PM |
| 7 | What is your ideal ONS?You, sir, win the internet. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/01/21 05:18 PM |
| 1 | Promiscuity is bad for men and womenAgreed. I watched my ex ruin her life engaging in excessive hookups and I think it would be just as damaging to men. I encountered a male user on this forum who had the same mentality and I can easily see it leading to the same consequences. My best friend dated a guy like that and it's just as bad for him. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/21 04:21 PM |
| 1 | People who went through a bad relationship and took the long road of maturing and building themselves after it, do you regret that you had to go through that and wish you remained as you were? Or are you thankful for the experience that you went through?23M. Had one LTR (almost a year). It was an open relationship, but she constantly ignored me to fuck insane amounts of people, including ones who beat, drugged, stalked, manipulated, and raped her. One wanted to have sex with her 12-year-old sister. I should have broken up with her earlier, but there were parts of the relationship I don't regret. Nearly 21, I had sex for the first (and last) time. More importantly, I finally had someone to be intimate with, no shit-tests or bullshit games of any… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/21 07:45 PM |
| 1 | Are late bloomers basically screwed?I was referring to my late adolescence (which is still ongoing but near its end), not high school. I don't think I peaked back then. My life may certainly get better with age, but I may not have the same opportunities I did when I was in college. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/21 03:08 PM |
| 5 | Are late bloomers basically screwed?I never dated in high school, dated only a few people in college, and only one of them resulted in a follow-up and LTR, which went down in flames. You may have less experience than other people your age, but you can build on it through practice. Partners should judge you by your current qualities, not by your past experience or lack thereof. Anyone who judges you for being inexperienced is unsuitable. You're not limited to single parents. My grandparents met when they were 30. People are having … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/21 12:52 AM |
| 2 | Penis-size-manifesto: bigger is better up until the point of inconvenience?Bigger is better until 1) it becomes painful for the woman or 2) the guy is overconfident about size and ignores technique. Either way, coming up short isn't the end of the world. You can't go wrong by starting with oral or digital; the woman will be satisfied regardless of how well the penis works. Consider also how lesbians please each other well without any penises. If penetration matters that much, just use a dildo or penis sleeve. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/20 05:03 PM |
| 0 | Women are not 'complicated' - they almost always make it very obvious if they like a manI've given girls "mixed signals." Sometimes, it was because I lost interest or wanted a better one. Other times, I was conflicted over whom to pursue. Balancing different people is taxing, hence open relationships don't work. Men and women really aren't different in this regard. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/20 04:42 PM |
| 2 | Why do you like when women send you nudes?My ex and I loved sending each other nudes, but everyone's different. Men and women aren't really different in terms of nude pic preferences. The issue is that men tend to send close-up dick pics, which women don't really like. Similarly, I want the full picture; close-up pussy pics weren't my favorites. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/20 07:38 PM |
| 2 | Men who want a "traditional woman", can you do traditionally male chores?A lot of millennials and zoomers lack those skills. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/20 03:43 PM |
| 3 | Men who want a "traditional woman", can you do traditionally male chores?My ex and my best friend dated guys like that. They basically wanted someone to control and exploit without doing anything for themselves. TRP attracts a lot of betas. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/20 03:42 PM |
| 1 | Men who want a "traditional woman", can you do traditionally male chores?I don't like killing spiders. They eat up the mosquitoes and other pests. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/20 03:38 PM |
| 1 | Why won’t you go gay for pay?Because I don't want to show the world my dick (let alone in a guy's mouth,) nor do I want to give financial support to porn sites that have trafficked underaged content and actual rape videos. I think that arguments about privilege are generally counterproductive and divisive. This subject exemplifies it well. Neither gender should be selling themselves. The end-goal should be reduction, not leveling. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/20 11:07 PM |
| 2 | Men value sex, women value emotional investment CMVNo problem. Good luck, man. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/11/20 10:39 PM |
| 3 | Men value sex, women value emotional investment CMV[I]f people are open and honest about themselves and who their with, then couldn't they also understand each other's needs and wants? That's what my ex did. It didn't work. She got so entangled that she wasn't able to keep up with anyone, not even herself. One also knows almost nothing about another person's life. A casual meet-and-greet before sex doesn't come close to telling you whether someone's safe. Most guys don't want someone that loose, hence she filtered out a lot of quality. Wouldn't … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/11/20 04:07 PM |
| 3 | Men value sex, women value emotional investment CMVDating before sex is like a natural background check. Engaging in frequent casual sex is how you wind up with bad people, especially since it repels good partners. Women will see through you if you're that loose. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/11/20 03:15 AM |
| 1 | Men value sex, women value emotional investment CMVWillingness to have casual sex is correlated with body esteem in women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/20 03:38 PM |
| 4 | Men value sex, women value emotional investment CMVThe trend seems exaggerated and driven by social rather than biological factors. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/20 03:23 PM |
| 1 | Men value sex, women value emotional investment CMVMen's standards aren't as loose as people here tend to think. Even when I was a virgin in college desperate for sex, I would consciously reject girls I found unattractive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/20 03:22 PM |
| 3 | Men value sex, women value emotional investment CMVI wouldn't want either, but the latter sounds less sustainable. If I keep fucking someone, I'd want their emotional attachment, otherwise I'd feel like a piece of meat. Relationships don't work if you can't support your partner's emotional (or let alone financial) needs. If there's non-sexual intimacy (hugging, kissing, cuddling) and monogamy, I could still find at least some happiness. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/20 03:15 PM |
| 3 | Men value sex, women value emotional investment CMV23m here. My ex-girlfriend was just like that and it fucked up both of our lives. She wound up getting violently raped by a man in real life. Some other guy she was with slammed her head into a window. Those weren't the last degenerates she fucked. One wanted to have sex with her 12-year-old sister, another stalked her, and the last one I knew about tried to isolate her from her friends. A hypersexual, she frequently sought out FWB ("friends with benefits"), thinking she can squeeze some short-t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/20 03:03 PM |
| 1 | Men value sex, women value emotional investment CMVIs there any science to support this position? Women are more selective, but I suspect the reason to be that promiscuity, more often than not, is socially discouraged in women while encouraged in men. (IMO it should be discouraged in both.) The gender gap in the number of lifetime sex partners is narrowing. Men value commitment too. There's a reason many of us don't want sluts. For us, sex tends to be "symbolic" (for the lack of a better term) -- while we enjoy the pleasure, it signals acceptanc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/20 02:30 PM |
| 1 | Hooking up and doing ONS on the side while in the beginning stages of dating a real relationship prospectUnethical. You're wasting a good relationship. Getting yourself entangled with other people will interfere with your ability to commit. If your partner finds out, they're not going to stay if they have self-respect, especially if they already let you know what they want. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/20 02:12 PM |
| 1 | How old are the posters here and is betabucks really even a relevant option for them right now?22.5 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/06/20 03:42 PM |
| 3 | Women who use Tinder: What do you see and want in male users?Why don't you want a guy who takes himself seriously? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/20 04:00 PM |
| 5 | Women who use Tinder: What do you see and want in male users?When I was a senior in high school, one of my teachers taught us that women get more attached to the same guy with each hookup, that the third night stand is where they get really clingy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/20 10:08 PM |
| 1 | Why is it always "female hypergamy" and not shameless male thirst that is complained about?What do you recommend guys to do in order to be successful on Tinder? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/20 02:15 PM |
| 2 | Men are even more women-pleasing than women are men-pleasing?Love isn't enough. My ex-girlfriend might have loved me, but it didn't count for much when she couldn't make the time of day for me when I needed her. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/05/20 06:37 PM |
| 1 | Would you be offended if someone changed their opinion of you because of your n-count?I wouldn't blame her for hesitating if my n-count was too high. On that note, I wouldn't judge her solely on the basis of her n-count. If she demonstrated that she was clean of STDs and (for an LTR) capable of commitment, I would accept her. I'd be offended, though, if she (more realistically) rejected me for being too low (1). If you have experience, you can show a guy what you want him to do. Improvement really isn't hard. Before I got laid, I did plenty of reading (and watching) on the intern… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/05/20 05:29 PM |
| 1 | Blocking low effort people- a good thing or a petty thing?If they're giving you low effort, just give them no attention in return. Keep an open mind, however, that they might change by the time they come back. It's also important to be direct about what you want in a relationship, because a lot of guys don't understand what they're doing wrong. Don't block them unless they're really bothering you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/20 01:36 PM |
| 2 | Statistics showing the type of users here on Purple PillMakes sense. I discovered this sub through my ex who's radfem. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/20 03:45 PM |
| 1 | Statistics showing the type of users here on Purple PillThose statistics aren't percentages but probability multipliers. They refer to the number of times more likely users here, compared to the average reddit user, are to post on the given subreddits. A PPD user is ~63x more likely than the average reddit user to post on IWOH; that doesn't mean ~63% of PPD users do. (This is the first time I ever heard of that sub!) Nonetheless, the data is pretty interesting. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/20 03:24 PM |
| 1 | To promiscuous/high-N women: what unique insights to men men do you have that non-promiscuous women and other men lack?Same story with me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/20 03:38 AM |
| 1 | To promiscuous/high-N women: what unique insights to men men do you have that non-promiscuous women and other men lack?It's common in "bro culture" and for young guys (outside the discussion of romance) to talk about sex. My track mates and I used to talk about it. I had to tell two of my best friends in college about my first time. In normal interactions, however, we generally don't ask each other about the physical nature of our relationships. That's generally seen as "crossing the line." (Even dick jokes have a line.) When I was in college, I once talked to another guy about hookups, and he deliberately went … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/20 03:33 AM |
| 1 | To promiscuous/high-N women: what unique insights to men men do you have that non-promiscuous women and other men lack?I know too well what that feels like. The second orgasm after a few hours doesn't even feel good. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/20 03:19 AM |
| 1 | To promiscuous/high-N women: what unique insights to men men do you have that non-promiscuous women and other men lack?Men can rarely go for as many times as women. I was pretty tired after my first time. I didn't even look at porn or jack off for a while after. She was ready for seconds pretty soon after, though. I wish I gave her more that day; at least I did the next day. Men that go down on you or want to go down on you, actually like women and care about pleasing them ( at least physically ) It felt good to surprise her. She never stopped talking about it. Definitely learn to play with their balls. Be asser… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/20 03:07 AM |
| 2 | Most guys on here wouldn't be bothered by a woman with a high N count if all of her partners had been womenI was in an open relationship with a bisexual woman for nearly a year. She was extremely promiscuous, participated in at least one orgy, which was lesbian. I don't want another partner like that, even if her entire sexual history was with women. Sure, it felt worse for my ex to see other men than other women. I tried brushing off her lesbian affairs or even looking for erotic thrill in them. Ultimately, however, they barely felt any better than her straight affairs. One particular partner she fr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/20 02:59 AM |
| 1 | Do causes of promiscuity vary by gender?I wouldn't conflate occasional casual sex with promiscuity (frequent casual sex, more or less). Doing it "right" means doing it carefully, which isn't often the case for people who do it frequently. Doing it frequently gets you emotionally tied up and stunts your ability to form a healthy relationship. LTRs and marriage are not easy. When they comes under strain, historically promiscuous partners are at higher risks of reverting to their old ways. In my experience, being tied to someone such a h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/20 09:14 PM |
| 1 | To promiscuous/high-N women: what unique insights to men men do you have that non-promiscuous women and other men lack?My ex was very promiscuous. She told me that I looked different after I lost my virginity, that I appeared to show more respect for myself. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/20 08:28 PM |
| 1 | Why is promiscuity seen as the norm around these parts?Funny enough, I found this subreddit through my ex-girlfriend, who was extremely promiscuous. Promiscuity is rising among women. TRP often exaggerates this trend, attracting a lot of betas who, by virtue of limited experience with women, share exaggerated perceptions of it. A lot of them probably had sluts break their hearts and skew their perceptions. At my college, there was an adage that "every girl here is either bitchy or in a relationship." I barely dated there; most girls were either take… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/20 08:18 PM |
| 1 | Do causes of promiscuity vary by gender?Dating before sex is like a natural vetting process. Whether you like it or not, sex builds emotional attachment and it's important to know that your partner wouldn't betray it out of irresponsibility or malice. Promiscuous people tend to be poor selectors, putting themselves and people close to them at risk. In addition to contracting more STDs, promiscuous people are more likely to suffer intimate partner violence and enter unstable marriages. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/20 07:47 PM |
| 1 | Do causes of promiscuity vary by gender?I don't know your experience, but promiscuous (or unrestricted) men tend to focus more on the physical quality of their partners while restricted men tend to be more socially selective. Self-esteem (as we know it) is naturally associated with confidence, which men need in order to be sexually successful, especially with attractive women. Maybe there's a certain kind of self-esteem or phenomenon related to it in which promiscuous men tend to be deficient. I agree with your last point that promisc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/20 07:15 PM |
| 1 | Do causes of promiscuity vary by gender?Interesting, I found a statistic (don't remember where) that lesbians, on average, tend to have the fewest lifetime partners (compared to heterosexuals and gay men.) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/20 06:18 PM |
| 3 | Do causes of promiscuity vary by gender?Self-esteem/loathing is an interesting point, especially when it comes to gender. Promiscuous men may have something missing in their lives, but self-esteem is unlikely to be one of them. Otherwise, it's extremely unlikely that they would have a lot of sex in the first place. Mia Khalifa described her motivation for entering porn as a search for validation that she didn't have growing up. The closest male equivalent to that would probably be the cuck or, in trending parlance, the "simp" - a guy … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/20 05:06 PM |
| 1 | Do causes of promiscuity vary by gender?The terms often used interchangeably because the phenomena they describe aren't really different. An overactive sex drive often manifests in compulsive sexual activity, at least when sex is feasible for the patient. Otherwise, it would manifest in activity such as compulsive masturbation. Either way, hypersexuality is, by definition, a mental disorder. Overactive libido results in significant personal distress and dysfunction. "Unrestricted sexuality" is a bit of a vague term. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/20 04:28 PM |
| 0 | Do causes of promiscuity vary by gender?Here's evidence. Hypersexuality is classified as "excessive sexual drive" under F52.7. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/20 03:30 PM |
| 1 | Do causes of promiscuity vary by gender?This information is quite interesting; it's always helpful to review the general causes of promiscuity. However, it doesn't answer whether motivations for promiscuity differ by gender. I'd like to know whether promiscuity correlates just as much with unhappiness and depression in men as well. Hypothetically, if increased promiscuity led to increased depression after the sexual revolution, there's still a question as to how much it contributed to the prescription of anti-depressants. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/20 03:16 PM |
| 2 | Do causes of promiscuity vary by gender?Sorry to hear about your experience. I have an ex-girlfriend with a similar history and outcome. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/20 03:26 AM |
| 0 | Do causes of promiscuity vary by gender?The former. I am not answering my own question here. It's well known that psychological traits vary by sex. I only want to know how such variation affects differences in promiscuity by sex, namely whether it translates to different causes of promiscuity by sex. I want to know why we feel like doing things differently. The Stanford Marshmallow Experiment doesn't explain much. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/20 03:24 AM |
| 4 | Do causes of promiscuity vary by gender?Interesting. These include sexual benefits (e.g., experiencing the novelty of a new partner), resource benefits (e.g., receiving expensive gifts) and the improvement of their seduction skills... When viewing attractive female models, unrestricted men are more interested in the models’ physical attractiveness, while restricted men show more interest in the social traits presumably possessed by attractive females. Unrestricted women report more interest in attractive male models’ popularity and ar… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/20 02:51 AM |
| 0 | Do causes of promiscuity vary by gender?Psychological traits that vary from person to person - motivating them to exercise their free will differently - tend to vary by gender. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/20 02:38 AM |
| 6 | What have we learned about women now that they have economic, social and sexual freedom?The advent of abortion and contraception denormalized shotgun marriages, leading to the explosion of non-wedlock birth rates, which puts kids at risk of growing up in poor, single-parent households. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/20 11:23 PM |
| 1 | Is bad parenting fueling the current climate of male social ineptitude?I was never a fan of the manosphere, per se. With the obviously misogynistic currents aside, my problem with the anti-feminist movement has been that it often focuses on irrelevant issues and distorts its targets. I took the Red Pill elsewhere years ago, but - having learned science and philosophy to draw my own conclusions - I don't regret it. Although there's plenty of toxic bullshit on TRP (I haven't lurked there much yet), I think there's plenty of merit to their mechanistic philosophy of hu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/20 02:17 AM |
| 1 | Where can I find woman in real life that are as bold and unfiltered on ppd?No, homicide rates are lower among white females. Sorry if the original wording of my comment gave the wrong impression. I just edited it. I don't think rejection-based homicides are frequent enough to justify a fear of men. Are you afraid of your boyfriend? He's much more likely to kill you than your ex-boyfriend is, let alone some guy you didn't even date. Domestic homicides are no less brutal. However, there's only a 1.7-in-100,000 chance (at least as of 2007) that you would be a victim of in… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/20 11:14 PM |
| 1 | Where can I find woman in real life that are as bold and unfiltered on ppd?It seems skewed by race. Reading page 30 of the pdf, homicide still ranks high but peaks at only 5% among white women. It's rises to 6.5% among white girls aged 5-9 but yields a per capita death rate of only 0.6 per 100K, and I doubt that romantic violence would explain those deaths. Female homicides are much more prevalent among other races. Either way, I don't see this supporting your original comment about rejected men driving violence against women. According to the CDC study referenced belo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/20 09:07 PM |
| 1 | Q4all: could you forgive your cheating spouse?I can see that happening under certain hypothetical circumstances in which her mental health gives out due to forces beyond our control, but she would have to do a lot of work to rectify her actions. Realistically, that's extremely unlikely to happen. If she cheats once, she's most likely unfit to commit. I was in an open relationship for nearly a year. I loved her, there was a strong emotional bond between us, but she saw so many people at my expense that I couldn't take it anymore. I confronte… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/20 08:27 PM |
| 2 | How would you handle different cheating scenarios?We were much more than that. There was a lot in my relationship that I haven't disclosed and I don't want to overstate the extent to which she ignored me. We communicated regularly, frequently, and profoundly during that time, both sexually and romantically. It was a really fucked up relationship, but it was still a relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/20 08:00 PM |
| 1 | How would you handle different cheating scenarios?Leave in all cases except for 7. She can't commit, respect your emotional trust, or respect your physical health. On top of that, going as far as to stalk someone means she's fucking crazy and dangerous. Don't trust her. You can't control what people think or feel. Obsessions come and go. Part of me will always still love my ex-girlfriend. However, strong feelings can still damage a relationship. Some relationship counseling might be needed. I would stay with her on the condition of repentance -… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/20 06:41 PM |
| 3 | How would you handle different cheating scenarios?As someone who was in an open relationship for nearly a year, I've learned the same thing the hard way. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/20 06:31 PM |
| 1 | Why do men avoid "sluts" for LTR/marriageAs I commented, I was in a relationship with a slut for nearly a year, so I can confirm this. Some of her facebook photos and posts had had over a hundred likes and she had a closely knit extended family. She was a hard-working college student who was working to get into graduate school when we were together. Promiscuity is associated with extraversion, at least in the West. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/20 05:18 PM |
| 1 | Why do men avoid "sluts" for LTR/marriageThanks for your support. I had to learn a few life lessons the hard way. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/20 05:09 PM |
| 1 | Why do men avoid "sluts" for LTR/marriageThe problem there is that you're encouraging slutty behavior. I'd be lying if I said that I would never try a ONS, but I would make no moral illusions about what I'm doing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/20 05:06 PM |
| 1 | Why do men avoid "sluts" for LTR/marriageI've felt genuine revulsion at hookup parties. They taught me that I don't want a lifestyle like that. A ONS is like eating fast food. A ONS with a slut is like eating fast food that's been sitting on the counter for days. (Let the number of days equal the slut's n-count.) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/20 05:03 PM |
| 1 | Why do men avoid "sluts" for LTR/marriageMen love decent women who support and balance them into commitment. We dislike those who would treat us like toys and give up on stable family lifestyles. That's all, men dislike bad relationships. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/20 04:46 PM |
| 1 | Why do men avoid "sluts" for LTR/marriageI was in an open relationship with a slut for nearly a year. High n-count, participated in at least one orgy. Not worth it. She invited me in and I accepted it because I was alone and broken. However, there was already a budding emotional attachment. I fell in love with her, not knowing how "open" the relationship was going to be. She went on to see so many other people that she had little time for me, failing to honor her own commitments. We once agreed to meet with my parents, but she left us … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/20 04:34 PM |
| 1 | Is bad parenting fueling the current climate of male social ineptitude?Agreed except for the first paragraph. I'm certain that some single mothers are radical feminists trying to "stick it to the Man," but it more often results from births out of wedlock. Those typically involve poor planning and husbands who can't financially or personally support their families. They aren't organized. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/20 02:58 PM |
| 1 | Is bad parenting fueling the current climate of male social ineptitude?My parents weren't really authoritarian, but I can relate. They treated me like I was much younger than I really was, especially because of my autism. Even today, they treat me like a child. They gave me virtually no dating advice in my teenage years and I completely fell apart in college. (Concurrent bullying and domestic abuse severely exacerbated it.) However, I don't think that or authoritarian parenting explains the predicament of most adolescents today. There's much to be said instead abou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/20 03:28 AM |
| 11 | Is bad parenting fueling the current climate of male social ineptitude?A fried of mine in middle school made a point of using your kind of definition to describe a "geek." A "nerd," in her terms, would be a socially inept geek. I still go by that dichotomy. As a nerd, I wouldn't police my kids for having unconventional, geeky, or hyper-intellectual interests. My family did that (in the former respect) with me growing up and left me not knowing what to do with myself because everything I liked was heavily discouraged. If my kids were passionate about video games, to… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/20 03:04 AM |
| 6 | Is bad parenting fueling the current climate of male social ineptitude?My dad's no beta and my parents never broke up, but I feel like they didn't raise me to be enough of a man. I was never taught to place significant positive value on my masculinity. Even my ex-girlfriend thought that was strange; she was a feminist, but her mother taught her to carefully cultivate her femininity. My parents infantilized me a lot throughout my upbringing and still treat me like a child sometimes, especially because of my autism. Nobody thought to give me dating advice in middle s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/20 02:35 AM |
| 2 | Is bad parenting fueling the current climate of male social ineptitude?r/TheRedPill | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/20 02:24 AM |
| 16 | Is bad parenting fueling the current climate of male social ineptitude?My mother works at a middle school and she says that students there are starting to act like elementary school kids all over again. Nobody yells at them anymore. She once had to yell at a group of kids in the library (because they kept making loud noises on the computers while other kids had to study) and they looked ready to cry instantly. There was once a really troublesome kid who wouldn't get off his phone and pay attention. None of the teachers yelled or at least commanded him forcefully; t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/20 02:18 AM |
| 11 | Is bad parenting fueling the current climate of male social ineptitude?High divorce rates, falling and late marriage rates, rising illegitimacy rates, outsourcing of working class labor, and the rise of two-income households in the middle and upper classes. Women have been entering the workforce with their high-earning husbands in order to sustain their quality of life, which leaves little time to raise their kids. Parenting has become ridiculously hard in the United States, having the sharpest detrimental effect on happiness out of 22 OECD countries. Males are inc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/20 01:58 AM |
| 2 | would you still have children if your partner had autism?As a 22m with autism, I myself worry whether my kids would have it. I want them to have normal lives. The mental health and family history of my partner definitely influences whether I want to start a family with her. (Some women I dated and liked had autism, schizophrenia, and other mental disorders.) Important factors include relationship strength, financial leeway, child-raising time, and symptom severity. An intuitive understanding of autism - from personal experience or strong education - w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/20 09:41 PM |
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