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Question For WomenDesperate-Eggplant29/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 08:02 AM
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It is a way to exempt themselves (or anyone they want) from being guilty of participating/perpetuating. If its a systemic issue, its not 'my' fault. Then you can say arbitrary slogans like 'dismantle the system' that sound nice but mean nothing. Its performative empathy at best.
/r/EverydayMisandry28/07/26 08:42 PM
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Interesting how little that has to do with what I said and seems to consist entirely of you 'bitching and moaning' about men. How nice that you exempt yourself from the standards you try to enforce on others. My favorite part about talking to women is when they ignore everything said so they can complain about their personal issues. Thanks for the demonstration of female empathy.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 10:17 PM
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If pointing out reality is bitching then idk how people are supposed to talk about anything. If you like things the way they are, great. I'm more than happy to continue being single, I'm simply pointing out a method I thought might improve things when I was actively in or looking for relationships that didn't work. Like you said, women don't have to change a thing if they don't want to, the same dudes will still approach. I've seen a lot of women asking for change but if you're not among them, t…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 12:01 PM
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I've tried explaining this so many times with zero acknowledgement. The incentives as they are laid out reward a very specific method to approaching women and its not a nice one, its all the stuff I've listened women complain about my whole life. And yet, despite leaps and bounds of social progress in other areas, the expectations on men to show up, perform, and seduce are higher than ever. It should be no surprise to anyone men are choosing to go all in and maximize their numbers or simply opti…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 01:10 AM
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I once made a post about the obsession with semantic accuracy and how even a single poorly phrased idea can derail the entire thread. I was downvoted of course but I am constantly being proven right. A lot of the Men tend to actually try to address the argument, even if many of them are hung up on the idea of meritocracy. A lot of the women in the thread are doing a lot to try to discredit you and start completely different arguments.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 07:56 PM
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So you have enough awareness to know these people exist but not enough to realize that its not the socially unaware dudes who would take this advice and act on it? Maybe it can be taught and worked on, but you're asking for people who show they don't care about others to make an effort and care about others around them. I'm a socially aware dude and I already know to avoid bothering anyone. The guys that don't care about you will continue to not care and approach. Not sure why I have to explain …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 07:28 PM
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On the whole, social awareness is a rare trait for humans. It is far from guaranteed on an individual level. A large portion of the population simply lack that instinct or have it so undeveloped it doesn't effect their decision making. If you were socially aware, you would be aware of how many people are like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 06:58 PM
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No one mentioned dating teens or even implied it. Seems like pure bigotry on your part to assume that about men or worse, your own projection. Do we need to check your hard drives?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 08:31 AM
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Its the bluepill playbook: deny, deflect, obfuscate or outright ignore anything that contradicts you then accuse the opposition of being guilty of some social crime to undermine credibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 11:17 PM
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Don't. I stopped and my life immediately improved.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 11:15 PM
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Just remember other users get their posts taken down for acting like she does.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 11:13 PM
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I want to believe otherwise but I have only met a handful of women I can point to and actually identify intelligence. And I don't think men as a whole are smart(er) either, just haven't met many women who have impressed me with their smarts. And not for lack of trying. I like smart people.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 07:39 PM
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Press X to doubt. I've seen your rhetoric, it is far from indicative of a genius.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 07:28 PM
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Again, I've been told by your peers here with no pushback that male social conditioning is a personal responsibility to overcome. Either context matters or it doesn't but it seems like I see it only going one way with no hint of self awareness or irony. Even if you disagree with the other women on this sub, we don't live hundreds of years ago now. Thankfully, we live in a time where you as a woman, in most developed countries, can choose how you want to conduct your life. I support that and I fu…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 09:56 PM
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Ok, and I'm a man and I'm telling you its fine. I don't care how you live your life. If you want to exist being scared of judgement by random men, I guess that's fine too, but that's kind of your choice at that point.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 07:42 PM
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So older women lied to you, you believed them (i don't blame you for this, but i have been blamed by your peers here for listening to my elders when i was young). That makes sense. What doesn't make sense is somehow still making that men's fault. Do you need permission to go after what you want? People will judge you no matter what, that's how people are, not men or women. No one is saying that's not allowed. I've known girls with crushes on me that practically followed me around, I felt some gu…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 07:22 PM
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In this case, I think her goal was to make me insecure because she was worried I was trying to fuck her. It didn't work, nor was that my goal, but neither are we really friends anymore. And yeah, it was one of the first times we hung out. Thats just how some of your female peers can be.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 05:07 PM
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You don't even have to date for a woman to decide you need to hear about her abusive ex (who also had the biggest dick she's ever seen). I've had multiple female friends who felt the need to tell me all about their pasts. I wasn't trying to date them, it wasn't in the context of a date, but they just HAD to tell me.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 04:45 PM
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When you have children, are you going to tell them not to trust your advice or are you going to do everything you can to convince them so they comply with the lifestyle you have? Maybe you have the strength for the former, but most humans go with the latter. Its not 'good' but its how we raise children, through building trust (even if that means lying to them). You literally cannot expect a developing person with no outside experiences to compare to accurately judge when the people they love and…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 07:04 PM
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No, but its a nice start to a relationship to get the impression or outright confirmation that someone is attracted to you. That can be more than just physical attraction, but having some kind of security that someone isn't sticking around for alterior motives helps. By definition, being attractive means you attract attention, even if you didn't know what to do with that, its a better starting point than trying to interpret signals and body language. Being attractive isn't the end of the questio…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 02:52 PM
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Secret of Nihm and Watership Down are the classic examples.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 01:00 PM
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A lack of self awareness
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 02:32 PM
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Yes, I do think you should shut up thanks :)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 02:21 AM
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Several times and several different therapists. Mostly a waste of time since I didn't know I had OCD and bipolar at that point. The first couple months were helpful, then it just made things worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 03:13 AM
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So prostitution with extra steps? If all you want is money and labor, I'm sure there are better arrangements.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 08:39 AM
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Unfortunately it quickly starts getting into academic vs practical usage so even if I don't think its 'progressive', if Hasan says it, the average person will still think that's progressivism. Like you said, its kinda hard to trust the numbers these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 06:42 PM
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I never mentioned outliers and I agree that mainstream discourse paints a very different picture, hence why I don't feel associated with 'most' progressives. That's for a couple of reasons; its easier to argue against radicals with undefensible positions than reasonable moderates and as we all know, ragebait is effective for driving engagement. I don't know what the majority of progressives believe, I'm not so egotistical as to speak for anyone besides myself, but by definition the hasan brand a…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 06:14 PM
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There are plenty of solutions that involve no force whatsoever, but most of them do require women to participate willingly. So far, I haven't seen any suggestion that women want things to improve or even change. Incentives are a big one, but not economic ones. The fact rhat you cannot imagine a method that does not involve force says a lot about how men are viewed. If men have a responsibility to participate and contribute to society, women share that responsibility too. As much as well all poin…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 03:36 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 02:29 PM
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You talk about all these ways to keep socially engaged, but you forget that there is nothing treated with more suspicion than a single man. They can get excluded from these communities before they even get the chance.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 12:43 AM
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'Just accept the fact that half of the population wants nothing to do with you and its your fault for being unlucky' Don't be surprised young men won't simply accept that they should have no hope for the future. I accepted it, but it took many years and stronger willpower than most people possess, and its not like it changes the situation; I am alone, I will continue to be alone, that's not an easy thing to be ok with.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 12:28 AM
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I hate having progressive values because I get associated with dumb regressives who think openly displaying a lack of empathy is helpful to anyone. A human being offered their perspective, something that you should value if you care about intersectionality or even the basic premise of diversity, and chose to type something rude and flippant. You should never speak on behalf of progressives if you share any of their values when this is what you bring to the table.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 03:13 AM
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I've been saying it for a while, but I'm glad to see other people can see it too. Men aren't offered a lot of avenues to improve things. The ones that do exist are limited. Its no surprise that many men choose the path of least resistance which is the path that says its ok to keep being the man you are (as long as you maximize that man). Whether you agree or not, the other paths are not so accepting of him being a man. Women have said directly many times that some of them outright refuse to cont…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 08:17 PM
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Lets keep rewarding criminal behavior though, really get our incentives in order. Can't have any men thinking something ridiculous like 'being kind is attractive'. In fact, lets double down on reminding everyone that being a good person only gets you taken advantage of, that'll show those pesky men! Glad you want the worst for everyone, I don't think I agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 09:39 PM
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If people aren't willing to take risks to escape what has been described as oppression, guess we should just do nothing and accept that things will never change. Either the problem is bad enough to act on or its not the problem you or any of the women claiming repression say it is. Framing it as a financial risk is a bit dishonest. You talked about a general strike, but that's not what was suggested. Frankly, I don't really see whats so bad about wanting women to be able to stand up for themselv…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 09:26 PM
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Another classic pointlessly gendered post being used as a soapbox to complain about someone's personal experiences and call it 'insightful'. Should I talk about the women that lied to me and how their lies ruined any chance of a deeper relationship even when I figured things out and confronted them? That's not even mentioning the many forms of manipulation thrown my way because I used to make extra effort to be kind and understanding. You've got a few examples of men you decided to date who lied…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 11:42 AM
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So you are never being honest around others? Does not surprise me to hear a woman thinn that's normal behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 04:13 PM
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Ok. Sure they are different. But can you understand that in a man's life, they often come and go together based on the women in your life? A woman who wants to have sex and stick around after will solve the loneliness (probably) for most guys. So attraction, loneliness, and sex get kinda mixed together for men, not because they are the same things or feelings, but because achieving catharsis and finding relief involve a lot of the same process of trying to get the interest of a woman. Some male …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 03:58 PM
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I haven't had sex in 10 years. I do not care about the sex. I care that every single woman I spoke to since then has offered me nothing in the way of mutual interest or even basic respect. So no, its not about a 'lack of sex'. Assuming the worst about people just makes you come across as the worst.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 03:40 PM
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Nah, the points were perfectly coherent. Several prominent women on this sub just have a reading comprehension problems and respond to anything a man posts in bad faith.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 03:28 PM
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Whether or not a man CAN overcome it is irrelevant, if he doesn't, he will be treated as a pariah. There is only two options, overcome the anxiety somehow through self examination and constant management, or hide it well enough to show up in public. I've tried to offer this to women in my life. I don't anymore, but for a long time, my approach was always about trying to build her up, help her gain confidence, show less fear. It never worked so I stopped. Men don't have a choice, so they have to …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 04:36 PM
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For all the biological essentialism and hypersimplification, you'd thinj it would be ovious to feminists.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 04:07 PM
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You have anxiety and that makes it hard to build the confidence to date? Join the fucking club. Men aren't allowed to use anxiety as an excuse without being ridiculed. If that's the only thing holding you back, I suggest you grow up. Maybe because you're a woman someone will just walk up and hand you a relationship, but men do not have that option. Anxiety is not uniquely female, men just don't mention it because everything men struggle with in dating is treated as their fault. I cannot respect …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 03:44 PM
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No, Im swearing off dating apps because its a waste of time and mental energy. I'd be more worried about being scammed than raped if I was still on the apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 01:37 PM
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You wouldn't know that listening to women talk about men.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 07:57 AM
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I appreciate the super insightful personal analysis, I'm sure that wasn't some kind of poorly hidden attempt to ridicule me. Showing off that staggering emotional intelligence I see. Your implications were pretty obvious. 'Women are the givers of life not men'. Its self-serving and pointless. Assigning some special significance to something all species are evolved to do as often as possible to maintain population stability is fine if it makes you feel better about yourself. Its also a bit delude…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 05:20 PM
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Its all of the above. There is something icky about it on a primal level that it just feels wrong to be raising someone else's kid. Not enough that a man couldn't look past it, but that's just one of the things to overcome. Its also a lot to ask to show up both as a partner and a surrogate parent. Its never going to be a straightforward situation no matter what reason the father isn't in the picture. You're not just getting into a relationship with a woman, you're almost certainly going to be in…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 04:46 PM
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You are not special or better or even interesting just because you reproduce. Billions of humans and animals have done it. Its not a holy act, its just biology. If we breed less, the population shrinks. If more kids get born, it grows. You are not a divine fertility goddess just because you got creampied.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 07:54 AM
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Women constantly display an unbelievable lack of empathy. From a male perspective, women have the average emotional intelligence and social awareness as a pile of rocks. Every accusation from women is just a poorly disguised confession.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 07:45 AM
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Nah, I'm an egalitarian. I am not a feminist. You can't just assume someone's position. Makes you seem ignorant and bigoted at best.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 06:53 AM
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"Provide more economically to the household so women aren’t as burdened and burnt out and thus they aren’t too exhausted to be romantic." This is a woman in this exact thread saying the exact opposite. I think guys are having trouble understanding because women refuse to be consistent and openly contradict each other or themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 06:50 AM
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Deflect, defend, play dumb, derail, obfuscate, and never ever admit you were wrong. Its only getting more obvious.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 05:16 AM
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Something something every accusation is a confession type shit
/r/EverydayMisandry03/06/26 04:59 AM
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Sure, most stalkers are probably delusional. Most men aren't stalkers though, so I don't really see how that's relevant other than to prove my point that women are concerned about the worst case scenario regardless of reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 08:46 PM
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Perception isn't reality then, but the way some women speak only leads me to assume a large portion of the female population is perpetually in a state of self-imposed delusion.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 03:45 AM
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Empathy goes both ways or it doesn't work. I don't disagree that inflammatory rhetoric has the intended effect, nor do I think its fair that young women have to be subjected to it. I also don't think its fair to young men to offer a hostile world where neither other men or women trust them, that's only going to make things worse. Its not an either/or, both things can be true and there are a variety of factors contributing on all sides. Blaming women doesn't help, neither does demonizing men. Say…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 08:12 AM
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That's a nice sentiment, but its never just been about money. And you can say its a few bad apples, but like I pointed out, statements like yours are rare and the these 'other women' don't seem to speak out against those that you say they disagree with often.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 12:31 AM
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Its extremely rare to even see this kind of admission from women so I feel I should thank you for showing actual empathy and honesty. It gets worse if you are coming from a progressive point of view and want to dismiss outdated gender roles but as a male are still constantly expected to suck it up and keep performing traditional masculinity if you ever want any kind of relationship. Then you see the rhetoric coming from supposedly progressive women (I do doubt a lot of the people on this sub) an…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 05:05 PM
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Y'all really have gone out of your way to prove OP more than correct. What a great example of the disgusting rhetoric used to excuse female bigotry.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 09:37 PM
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"i don't know who invented the lie" It was women, its always women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 02:30 PM
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Thanks for sharing your opinion on how male suicide is all about women. Really showing off that female empathy and solipsism. Next time I think about ending my life, I'll just blame the patriarchy and things will get better. Besides, if I become a feminist (again), I won't have problems with women... Except its never about women or being single or anything that contributes to female self-aggrandisment, life just sucks sometimes. Men don't try and fail for attention, they succeed and nobody cares…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 11:31 AM
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And that changes anything why? It isn't up to him. I share my personal experience, make it clear that its my personal experience and you still call it roleplay. Really going out of your way to demonstrate that empathy gap today huh?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 05:24 PM
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Men do not have the privilege to value compatibility if they want a relationship especially if they are young and want to start a family. Waiting around for the perfect girl to appear will leave you chronically single. Trying to test and ask questions to determine compatibility will also leave you single. Even if she does answer (which she likely will avoid), she's no longer interested because you weren't instantly smitten and devoted. I've been through this process more than enough times at thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 05:09 PM
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I have courted, flirted with, and otherwise sexually engaged with hundreds of women. The amount that actually understood basic communication? Less than a dozen. And thats just one thing to value, god forbid a man have actual standards beyond a single simple expectation for a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 11:16 AM
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Respect is a turn off to these idiots. For all the claims of misogyny, they really love encouraging the worst behaviors in men.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 11:10 AM
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So women are just openly spouting and supporting blackpill on this sub now?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 10:41 AM
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The mods actively emgage with and encourage it. Anything resembling a real discussion is an extreme rarity. The feminst playbook is deny, gaslight, obscure, and obfuscate until things are too confusing, then play dumb about how far they've derailed things.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 10:29 AM
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My bad for respecting you enough to treat you like an adult who can think for themselves. Next time I talk to a woman, I'll treat her like a child with an undeveloped brain like you suggest. Thanks for the tip!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 03:35 PM
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Are you openly admitting that you cannot distinguish grifting and propaganda? Kinda makes anything you say worth virtually nothing, but if that's the level of scrutiny you bring, its very hard to take you seriously if everything you know about a topic is from memes. Tate was not "in my bubble", in fact, his bubble was so small, he was forced to abuse algorithms to get anyone to pay attention. And then anyone with a brain promptly forgot because he was a nobody selling a pyramid scheme.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 09:55 AM
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You have to stop. Tate was barely relevant for maybe a month, heavily astroturfed and still only held anyone's attention for long enough to see he was a bald insecure dumbass, yet I see him brought up as a gotcha every day here. Tate is not relevant. Arguably never was except to gullible people even dumber than him who believed the grift. Are all of you really that clueless?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 06:10 AM
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You say this, but I don't think I have ever seen it so... are we just blatantly lying to protect the 'girl power'? Its a bit obvious and more than a little pathetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 05:52 AM
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Entitlement? I'm not sure where I asked for or demanded anything, but sure, a guy that hasn't dated in 10 years willingly is definitely the biggest scariest threat to women. But then again, you are making arguments that would make a eugenicist drool so there's not much discussion to be had.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 03:59 PM
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"Just the natural order" - literally just blackpill, but again, a woman is saying it so its cute or something. So mentally ill people or people with disabilities, including women, don't deserve relationships because they're 'defective'? Lets just be clear here about the insane things that you're saying. Some of us know enough basic history to know a few other people who shared the same sentiments, you aren't in good company lady.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 03:05 PM
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The only thing that matters is if YOU like him, but we all know women's opinions on everything including their own relationships are dicatated by the female hivemind.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 02:49 AM
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When did all the women in this sub go full blackpill? Its all the exact same arguements and rhetoric that got incel subs banned, but I guess its ok here as long as its coming from the girlies.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 02:45 AM
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When did women start openly supporting the most blackpilled statements I have ever seen? Its always the most shallow, materialistic answer for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 02:39 AM
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I am merely pointing out how inconsistent the messaging about women, from women is and how hard that makes it for any discourse to occur at all. Is it your opinion that I shouldn't 'listen to women' then? Because there is a lot of shared sentiment and rhetoric, until someone like you makes the revolutionary claim that women are flawed individuals. I hope you know that you are in the minority simply by your willingness to call other women 'stupid and impulsive'. Its not news to me, but it is rare…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 11:26 PM
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I just replied to a woman who admitted she sees women as both more moral and mature than men. These are your peers sending the complete opposite message.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 09:14 PM
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And openly delusional too!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 09:12 PM
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What? There's consequences to telling men that they are unwanted and should never approach women? Who could have ever seen this coming? Your peers have been sending the same message for years, are you really that surprised some men are listening?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 08:59 PM
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Both are heavily astroturfed to the point that I'm not sure how big their real audiences are. Tate hasn't been relevant in years, possibly ever (he blew up for like a month and women are still using him like a gotcha, he is a nobody who paid for views). Clav is hot right now, but its going to be the same situation. They pay for their clips to get reposted and spammed everywhere and these idiots are all falling for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 08:49 PM
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Notice how all the comments only disagree with the premise because you didn't specify that its 'not all women' as opposed to actually challenging the argument that bad behavior in dating is constantly rewarded. Reality doesn't matter to these people, only semantics that they get personally offended by. Women have shown time and time again; this is what they want and they don't want it to change even if it means other women get abused and mistreated more because of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 04:37 PM
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He just wasn't into you. That's what I get told when I complain about the exact same behavior from women.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 11:40 PM
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For a complete lack of self awareness? I don't see how that's anyone else's responsibility
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 11:33 PM
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Admitting you learned nothing from your education isn't the flex you think it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 05:13 PM
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For all the talk of hating incels and misogynists; do you know the quickest way to get a young man to hate women? Maybe calling him a creepy potential rapist with no chances of having a romantic parter isn't the best way to produce well intentioned members of society? If the best they can get for themselves is nothing, why should they participate in dating at all? Women have all the agency to determine what happens there. If you like the power women have in the dating market, a big part of that …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/26 11:49 AM
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Not a 'feminist' but still ends up giving the same bigoted justifications for why you generalizing is ok and men doing it is bad. Really doing some good work proving women aren't a monolith by doing the exact same thing as every other woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 08:13 PM
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Top poster on the sub btw. All she does is post blatant ragebait.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 01:49 AM
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I was talking about your post, but go off queen. Every statement is just confirmation of your own limited biases.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 06:38 PM
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Again, no one else mentioned bullying or peers or family. I know how it works and its not the sole reason people develop self esteem issues. Its a very strange assumption to make with no background information and then double down on defending. Kinda derails a whole conversation when you make assumptions like that. Sounds nice, but like you said, women use it as a reason not to engage. Hoping to find a woman who will stand up for a man is just foolish. Thanks for the reminder that women reward e…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 06:34 PM
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Men tend to have more coherent arguements and discussions than whatever this is supposed to be. Given that this is a discussion sub, makes sense that posts promoting actual discussion would be elevated.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 06:03 PM
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Kind of a weird, pointed assumption to make. Plenty of people have self-esteem issues for reasons other than bullying. sure, but as a partner, not a protector. And even that was too much to ask for. Expecting other people to solve your problems is the very definition of entitlement.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 10:02 PM
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Not the guy you're responding to, but where did you get bullying from? And to answer the question, no, I didn't think anyone was going to save me or stand up for me. I knew that would always be on me.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 08:15 PM
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What part of more than 10 years of experience did you not understand? That's not one woman deciding I'm not her type, thats hundreds if not thousands of women actively, enthusiastically advertising for very specific kink play then being unwilling to talk about it within an otherwise open and consensual environment. There were exceptions who actually understood the importance of communicating what they're into, but the vast majority were the opposite.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 11:03 PM
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Try asking women about their fantasies and kinks. I was in the roleplay sphere for 10+ years, its like pulling teeth the vast majority of the time. Getting a woman to simply say what she wants in any, but especially a sexual context, is one of the main reasons I had to quit. Just giving the basic information that's required for roleplay and kinky stuff is often beyond women, even when they are clearly knowledgable on kink.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 07:06 PM
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Who do we blame when a guy dates a crazy/abusive girl? 'Don't stick your dick in crazy', the responsibility was his when he chose to engage with a crazy hot girl. Why are women exempt from the same responsibility?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 08:16 PM
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I don't know what 'ones' you're referring to, but you don't actually seem to have a rebuttal. I guarantee I am not a part of the identity you want to project onto me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 08:12 PM
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Any man who is reading this; do not take the above advice. This is the quickest way to make a woman lose any and all attraction to you. The instant the relationship asks for her emotional engagement, she will shut down and the clock will start ticking. Its a nice idea in theory and seems like it would create bonding opportunities, however, it will only be reciprocated if the woman is already attracted or invested in you for another reason. Kindness, empathy, vulnerability are more likely to be p…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 08:03 PM
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The empathetic gender ladies and gentlemen
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 12:01 PM
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What a surprise. When you actually bring up their highly touted 'literature' she goes silent. Could it be that these feminists haven't even read their own texts that they religiously reference as having all the answers?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 10:39 PM
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Im not friends with misogynists. Im not friends with misandrists. Those people don't get to stick around in my life. Im not going to reward or incentivise their actions in any way. If someone tells me they assaulted someone else, I'm not going to support them by hanging around. It doesn't seem like the actions you're suggesting support the values you say you have. You somehow missed my point and still tried to turn this into moral responsibility (which again, extremely ineffective for dealing wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/26 01:01 PM
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I am an extremist and I am telling you to stop immediately jumping to the most extreme versions to avoid addressing the point. Unless you are actually saying all men are misogynists, the ones you can reach are going to value the opinions of the women they find attractive more than some random dude trying to control their behavior. That is all I'm saying. I'm not blaming women for the actions of men, but I'm also not absolving them of their role in creating incentives that encourage those behavio…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 02:54 PM
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That is an insane interpretation of what I said. Its ok to admit you are unwilling to read but resorting to a default argument is just pathetic. Women are the incentive for the vast majority of male behavior. Men value the opinions of women they find attractive more than some random dude. I'm not sure where in there I blamed women for rape. But it seems like you are committed to your misandry so I doubt you will even acknowledge that.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 02:24 PM
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What a surprise, she just didn't respond. Its the same arguments over and over, then they back out when asked simple questions. They incentivise the worst behaviors and play the ignorant fool to avoid all accountability.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 02:11 PM
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I can promise you that the scary rapists and pushy guys you want other men to police care 10x more about the opinions of the women they are attracted to than some random dude telling him 'hey stop that bro, its not cool'. Offloading responsibility is easy sure, but you're still completely wrong. You don't want to improve things for men or women, you just don't want to take any accountability for women being the primary drivers of male behavior. If women change their values, so do men. Its happen…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 02:02 PM
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Women really go so far out of their way to defend their ability to abuse and manipulate others. No, you don't have any moral highground after defending exploitation. You're just another abusive POS.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 12:48 PM
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The consequences of leftist and feminist arugments being coopted into general rhetoric are far reaching. Reframing things in terms of privilege, historical context, and socioeconomic reality seems like the correct thing to do, until you realize that these systems are so deeply complex and filled with different individual people that you, as one individual yourself, can never truly reach the level of understanding to actually use empathy. The fact that there were rapists and murderers 1000 years …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 02:51 PM
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And that reaction should be to respect you or fuck off. Thats the point of a boundary. Starting a semantic argument to break down and guilt trip your way to what you want anyways is not 'reacting', that's manipulation.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 09:43 AM
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Idk that seems like clear and direct communication that I personally (as I cannot speak for other men) would appreciate. Not sure why being open and honest is somehow passive aggressive and 'terrible'.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 09:38 AM
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Its been 10 years since my last relationship though I gave up somewhere in that space. I've had a handful of encounters that I considered changing for, but in every situation it was better for me to not even entertain the idea of a relationship. I have been lied to, gaslit, catfished, and ghosted enough. The level of communication I myself would need to feel comfortable in a relationship is not something women offer. I always thought I would have a partner, but it doesn't look like thats in the …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 02:25 AM
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Every single 'dominant' woman I've encountered has used it as en excuse to be cruel and exploitative. It doesn't come across that they enjoy any part of it, just that its easy and makes them money. I was in the ERP scene for many many years as a switch. I never met a girl I could call 'dominant' who inspired me to feel comfortable as a sub. I'm not entirely convinced they would exist at all if there weren't so many submissive men. I don't want a submissive girl, but other than the fake 'dommes' …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 12:44 AM
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The best part is the rule about no circlejerking posts and thats literally 90% of the entire sub
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 06:26 AM
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Damn, you really got me there, I guess everything I learned was fake and the discussions I had were just trolling (yes this is sarcasm, yes your assumptions about my intentions are just another example of the theme of the post. I honestly did not expect it to be so obvious. I did think I wouldn't get many honest answers and most women would be trying to troll and discredit me, but I got some valuable insight from a couple women who weren't afraid of self-examination or sharing their actual opini…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 07:30 AM
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She answered the prompt directly, did not try to argue with the premise to avoid addressing anything, and gave her honest perspective. You can pretend its about the details, but she chose to honestly and directly engage. You can see how different the other responses are. You don't even see women just saying 'no, you're wrong about this assumption and are likely biased', which i would absolutely be willing to accept. Instead what you see is example after example of the exact kind of pedantry I am…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 07:23 AM
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Ladies and gentlemen, we got another. I didn't expect to 'win' anything. I was doubtful i would get any honest responses, thankfully, some women were willing to actually respond to my points directly. They had none of the problems understanding my points you seem to. What I really did not expect is how many women would show off the exact behavior I was criticizing. Thank you for dropping another great example for anyone reading the post.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 10:45 PM
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I would agree on both points. Its almost mirrored behavior from men and women, but expressed a little differently though both strategies revolve around avoiding the other party's argument. I've definitely fallen into that pattern at times, being convinced that I just need to explain myself more clearly and everyone will agree. I definitely didn't expect much out of this post to be honest, but I've gotten a few worthwhile answers including yours so I consider it a success.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 01:06 PM
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Its a basic example of tone policing that adds no value and only shuts down discussion, not sure why thats confusing.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 12:50 PM
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Look at some of the responses, there is plenty of evidence right in this post. See how many women somehow came to the conclusion that I don't care at all about semantics or tone when my whole point is how you can use them to argue pointlessly and asking why it is a common strategy for women. I got one direct honest answer and you clearly understand the base of the argument so I don't think I was conveying something different. Even asking me for personal examples is another method with the same i…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 12:46 PM
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How is that a contradiction? If the meaning is clear, its not hidden and therefore does not need to be searched for. If its not clear, then asking for clarification is fine, but at a certain point, you either accept you don't understand and move on or actually engage. The focus on a bunch of statements that I ignored specifically because they were the kind of semantic quibbling I don't see as helpful is very telling. Maybe you don't know what being dehumanized feels like, but hopefully you posse…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 12:21 PM
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I wasn't expecting honesty, but thank you for actually answering. As you can see, the rest of the thread struggled a bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 10:28 AM
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I'm not going to complain about them filling the post with prime examples. It makes it a lot easier when they prove your point for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 10:26 AM
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So do they understand or not? Responding to the words does not show understanding, its making an emotional response to what might already be an emotional statement. What a woman may 'perceive' based on words is up to her, you can't always dictate how a statement is going to be received no matter how carefully you pick your words. There are times when semantics are the issue, but even in this post, there are blatant misinterpretations of my point that have nothing to do with the words or the tone…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 10:22 AM
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Case in point. Where did you get that from? No, I never said that and no, it wasn't said to me. See how you asking for examples was really just an excuse to dig into specific statements for anything to discredit me? Thanks for giving a better example.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 10:07 AM
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And that I have no problem with, its important to establish some kind of baseline understanding for any discussion to happen. i just find once it starts, its often the end of a conversation, not the start.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 10:03 AM
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Case in point. Nowhere did I say semantics have no importance and cannot be discussed. I am specifically talking about the way in which semantic arguments are used to shut down discussion by making assumptions. So no, your example did not help me understand the importance of semantics and tone. It was honestly kind of confusing.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 10:00 AM
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"You sound angry/triggered" is probably the most prevalent example you'll see online.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 09:52 AM
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I completely agree that how things are phrased creates impressions or assumptions that can be hard to break. Its more that even when the essence of an emotional statment is more or less obvious, I have noticed some women tend to feign ignorance, focusing on the use of the word 'slut' in your example, as opposed to acknowledging that there may be a purpose there other than just degrading women. "You sound angry/triggered" is probably the most prevalent example you'll see online. It reduces any st…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 09:51 AM
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I did acknowledge that this is not a female exclusive trait, just that I have noticed it more from women. And I get where you're coming from, generalized and catastrophized emotional statements can be hard to parse. My point is that you clearly understand the essence of these statements, the underlying frustration or pain that would prompt that kind of language, then use your own confusion about the specific intention to discount the whole thing and let it devolve into an examination of words ra…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 09:36 AM
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I agree, self reflection is difficult, but its something no one else can do for you. This is why men complain about being expected to read minds; how is a dude supposed to manage all that nuance unless its clearly communicated? You brought up multiple, completely valid hangups and factors, but from the outside, there is no way to know which are relevant for any individual woman. Particularly when you're dealing with potential partners, it makes zero sense to obfuscate and avoid honest expression…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 06:09 PM
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Nuanced answers but never just plainly stating that they don't know and can only speak for themselves. And then they confess they have the same preferences as the last 10 women and it only gets more confusing. Do y'all not engage in self-reflection at all about this kind of stuff? Is expecting a woman to know herself really that unreasonable?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 05:47 PM
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What they aren't saying is the reason they are struggling to 'find dates' is that they are waiting for an already compatible, fully realized man to approach them. Women 'trying' and men 'trying' are two completely different sets of behaviors.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 05:43 PM
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A woman taking zero responsibility for her own inability to communicate effectively and refusing to engage with even the most mild of criticism? I am shocked I tell you
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 05:27 PM
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You really are the most hateful, sad person I have ever encountered. Anything to justify your own bigotry and lack of respect for other humans...
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 12:01 AM
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I know multiple women guilty of all of those crimes. All people can be shitty. All people can get treated like shit by the people they are attracted to. You are not special. Men are not out to get you.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 11:08 PM
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I don't know what to tell you. This isn't a 'belief' or a 'narrative'. This is what real women have said about their own preferences. You can play ignorant, but none of this exists if women stop encouraging it. M Feel free to keep making assumptions and putting words in my mouth, but its pretty obvious you just want to ignore reality and have no interest in actually learning anything. And yes, maybe you live in a special hidey hole and never interact with your peers, so let me try explain, women…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/26 08:03 PM
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You tell me. You can advertise a lot of a things as a man but one of the most successful, if not the most successful, is showng that other women deaire you. 'Most' men respect that a woman in a relationship is off the table (not saying it never happens) whereas a man in a relationship is somehow at the top of the list for women regardless of how it might affect that man or his partner. Women continually reward and encourage that behavior. You may question why, but I can guarantee that men would …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/26 07:22 PM
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Considering how boring and unenthusiastic most of yall are, I don't know what's so surprising about it. 'Sluts' actually portray attraction and interest in men. Do you?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/26 06:20 PM
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This was not advice, this was an answer the the question you posed. I gave you an answer and you still try to discredit my points based on generalizations when I was very explicit in pointing out that there are exceptions in every single case. Glad you have the relationship you want, but I also don't care, I acknowledged that there are ways around the usual expectations. I did not direct any of this at you specifically and I was pretty clear that this was based on my experience. Not sure why you…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 06:55 PM
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You can try to start a cooperative relationship as a man as much as you want, then get ghosted and rejected for not taking charge and making things 'exciting' or whatever excuse that discounts the effort you made to create an equal relationship. I would love to say this is not the vast majority of women, but in my experience, women respond much more positively to a guy immediately leading the way and maintaining some kind of dominance. I agree that its kinda dumb and illogical, which is one of t…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 06:13 PM
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You have no idea lol. All of the biggest freaks I've met in my life were women. I'm very open minded but I've known a lot of girls who were so kinky they ended up pushing my boundaries.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 08:31 PM
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If thats the content you're looking for, that's the content you're gonna see. I show no interest in any of what you are calling common and cater my algorithms if it does ever show up. If you look for misogyny everywhere, you'll see it everywhere, but it turns out there's a lot of other stuff to look at if you aren't permanently ragebaiting yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 08:26 PM
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So cool that literally begging for money is a dating strategy for women because some men are so beaten down they have no self-respect. Wanna talk about exploitation, deception, and taking advantage of vulnerable people? No, you're not a girlboss for getting expensive gifts and doing nothing for it, you're just a sociopath.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 02:49 AM
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I guess I don't exist lol. I love adventures, done a lot of crazy shit other people will never even have the chance to, and even after many years of trying to date and meet girls, I'm too awkward and antisocial for casual. I did try though so I suppose you're correct on not wanting to miss out and doing something about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 04:24 PM
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Look at the kinds of posts made by the moderators of the sub and it starts to make more sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 01:19 PM
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Sure, but the point is, you changed your methods and criteria for finding a partner and didn't just keep sending it on tinder hoping for the best. You put yourself in a situation where you could make a good decision and properly vet. Apparently thats a rare thing so good for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 02:51 PM
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This'll probably get ignored but this is literally the definition of choosing better done right. You didn't sacrifice your standards, you just realized dating apps weren't getting you the relationship you wanted so you tried other means. All the people arguing way up the thread should just read your comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 02:39 PM
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I've got a woman just a few steps up the thread who said all relationships are transactional. Which woman should I listen to because you are saying the exact opposite things?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 02:17 PM
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It kinda the default for both genders from what I've seen. Women tend to disagree with me more often so I've had more directed at me from them, though they might start more covertly with the SIGNing, but there's definitely been plenty of dudes who jump in to discredit me by attacking my assumed character.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 09:57 PM
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Basically every argument I've had here so yeah
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 02:57 PM
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I dont :)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 12:41 PM
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You're right. Honest women are in the 99.9999th percentile. Frankly I don't even have proof they exist, but probability suggests some of you might be smart enough to understand why that's important.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 11:58 AM
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Do you think progressive men are the ones dehumanizing you or are you punishing your potential allies for the sins of other men? If you're going to treat all relationships and sexual interactions as exploitation of women, then I guess humans should just stop breeding and partnering altogether since apparently having a male partner is the worst outcome. Do you see how unrealistic and delusional that sounds? You are leaving no room for improvement of anyone's situation including your own. That's n…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 10:24 PM
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I knew you'd treat that as some kinda gotcha. Women are so predictable. So what is the incentive for progressive men? Nothing? They should just pick the morally correct path that denies a huge part of their human experience? How are your progressive values that deny them having relationships an improvement or even progress in any way? Its unrealistic and frankly insulting to suggest that men simply go along with you when you clearly don't see them as people. You can be disturbed by reality, I am…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 04:32 PM
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Nothing of substance to say, just that I'm a big meanie? Learn to read, you're a big girl, you can do it. I hold everyone accountable for their own choices. If you want to blame me, by all means, enjoy it, but some of us live in the real world. I am not responsible for the actions and choices of shitty men and dumb women like you. Keep criticizing people who are honest with you and keep fucking those bad boys, it'll all work out I'm sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 04:04 PM
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Considering you started by saying that you and your friends don't date cis men, I'm not sure what your point is. If you don't want men as part of your movement, all I can say is good luck. If you do want the support of progressive men, maybe reconsider your judgement of literally every single straight male because it certainly doesn't come across that you even acknowledge their sexuality as valid, never mind actually wanted or valued. Look at the first statement I responded to and ask yourself i…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 03:59 PM
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Expecting the full support of progressive men when you refuse to see them as men is only going to hurt the movement. The worst thing you could possibly do for progressive values is to rebrand as the 'no sex' party. You will instantly lose the support of most, if not all young men. And where do you think they will go after being told they are entitled for even wanting to touch a woman? You cannot just let the moral 'righteousness' of your beliefs be the only unifying thing about being a progressi…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 03:41 PM
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I can't stop bad men from existing, I'm sorry. Nor can I personally stop them or convince them, because you know who gives them validation that they do care about? The girls lining up for their bad boy experience. Women actually have all the power here and they choose to incentivize the worst male behaviors. There is nothing I can personally do about that other than advise to do literally anything else. You don't create bad men, they are going to exist no matter what, but the least women could d…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 03:32 PM
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Now its teenagers too? Man your life is so hard. I referenced older men because you did. Now you're talking about teenagers... why are you in a position where teenagers are hitting on you in the first place?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 04:39 AM
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Surely this could never have any consequences for the political movements you support...
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 04:16 AM
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Well I'm not fucking those dudes and having their kids so that's gotta be on y'all. Can't ask random men to fix that for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 04:13 AM
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I agree. Adults have responsibility for their own relationships and who they spend their time on.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 05:05 PM
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Women choose to date those men. I do not have any sympathy for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 03:57 PM
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Romance is dead and women killed it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 03:55 PM
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Kinda incredible to see only a few women even attempt to argue (aka. Insulting OP as unsubtly as possible) and all of their points are already covered in the text. They don't read it, get mad because it acknowledges that women are fallible, then attack without thinking. Its the same every time. They can't even accept not all men even though not all women is their favorite cop out. "Erm its different women" then why do you all say the same things?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 03:22 PM
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Hmmm wonder why its the older generations... oh wait, young men have been told they are dangerous their whole lives and to stay away from women. Unsurprisingly, some of them believe it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 03:13 PM
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I'll take "things that have never happened" for 500 Mr Trebeck
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 09:03 AM
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Its normal female projection. She feels insecure but her boyfriend is hot enough that it can't be his fault, so she blames guys as a whole and posts on reddit. Lack of self awareness or actual self delusion are their bread and butter for escaping personal reflection.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 04:50 PM
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Yeah, women just HAVE to treat men as ATMs because there's a chance another woman will find the fact that he's in a relationship as proof enough so he can cheat. In fact, women SHOULD exploit their partners for money cause some men have the opportunity to cheat. This is how you sound. Don't pretend this is about protecting children.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 04:39 PM
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So a misandrist and a misogynist? Niceeee. Gotta love women being honest
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 11:03 PM
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So gaslighting and willful ignorance? The truth really has 0 value these days... gotta protect those fragile female egos though, even if it means lying to everyone including themselves. Kind of a fucked up way to live.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 10:38 PM
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Anything but the horrific crime of... texting twice. Tell me women are shallow and have the worst selection process imaginable without telling me directly.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 04:00 AM
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Surprise surprise, it got completely ignored as usual. I've brought it up multiple times but women refuse to address how their selection process and criteria incentivizes the worst behavior in men. This is what they want, that's all I can conclude at this point.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 09:55 AM
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So take the time? If its someone you want to date long term or even marry, seems like that would never be wasted effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 12:44 AM
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Humans are in every sense of the word, animals. Human and animal are not mutually exclusive. You have not evolved past basic biology.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 04:40 PM
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Then, as the expert here, could you define it? Could you describe its structure and function as a social organization?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 10:30 PM
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I don't disagree at all that these are different feelings/levels of attraction but it seems incorrect to say a crush has no emotion at all behind it. And yeah, I do think thats a harmful narrative for everyone these days, nor do i think its impossible to have emotionless sex (I've certainly been there). I'm just not sure I fully believe women are the emotionless creatures they are potraying themselves as in this thread. I could be wrong, but something in those first encounters with your husband …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 10:42 PM
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A crush is still an emotional connection. It may not be the deepest of all possible connections and it probably won't last long but throw in some physical connection on top of that and yeah you might feel something that isn't just 'horny'. Kinda disturbing to see so many women in this thread essentially claiming they feel absolutely nothing. Either you're all lying or you're all experiencing some level of sociopathy. I'm not sure which is worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 10:23 PM
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Depends on the context, but a lot of the physical dates I ended up just as bored, still having to push everything forward regardless of my own waning interest. Never found myself in an instant hookup situation, probably because I don't push for it (and I'm not a big drinker). Handful of relationships that lasted a few months. Only one of them felt somewhat reciprocal, but I was moving to another place and she wasn't. Couple of online things that lasted longer, but those were pretty disastrous no…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 02:59 PM
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Double texting? No response Joke or funny statement? Lol Attempt to discuss anything? K cool Respond too quickly? Ghosted Take over 10 minutes to respond? Are you even interested? Ghosted Take even a few hours too long to escalate the relationship even after just meeting? Ghosted Escalate too fast or awkwardly? Understandable, but still ghosted Can we call to avoid all the issues of texting? Don't be ridiculous, blocked. Every single one of these has happened to me, sometimes multiple times. Som…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 02:28 PM
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I've been lied to in relationships multiple times so guess what? I started vetting harder for liars. Unfortunately that ends up disqualifying 99% of women, but I've learned what to avoid through taking responsibility for my own judgemental errors and focusing on what is most important to me (in this case, honesty). So yeah, anyone can lie, but you can still use your brain and social skills to make the right call. If being lied to is something you're actually concerned about, maybe do something a…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 05:53 PM
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And I've met plenty women who don't contribute, don't ask questions, but most importantly, they don't answer questions either. You can ask, sure, but you won't get anything from doing so. I think a lot of guys have had similar experiences where asking doesn't seem worth it, so they just talk about themselves instead. I'm not saying its a good thing in any respect, but I know the message I got from dating women and it was to keep my questions to myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 05:43 PM
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You ever tried asking about what a woman likes sexually? 99% lack the self awareness to even have that kind of basic conversation. Even the ones that do know their own kinks and tics rarely have the ability to communicate those things. I have met a very small handful of women who did not expect me to read their mind for everything sexual and these were in situations where the only reason we were talking was 'mutual' sexual interest. It doesn't matter what any man does if women refuse to do any o…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 05:29 PM
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You are openly admitting that you encourage men manipulating women to get dates? Guess I really did get the wrong message from listening to all the women who told me men shouldn't lie or manipulate. Just know the kind of behavior you are encouraging is the exact stuff men are told is immoral by your peers.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/26 06:45 PM
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Do you have something to actually contribute or is that the best you can do? 'Nuh-uh' is not an argument. enjoy living in your little bubble of self imposed ignorance.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/26 10:33 AM
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Irony and truth aren't mutually exclusive despite what you may believe.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/26 09:36 PM
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Nice ad hominem. Really showing your cards here. He made a good point, but you didn't like how he said it and so you retreat behind petty insults... shameless behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/26 09:35 PM
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As usual, the more well thought out and supported arguments are completely ignored because its easier to keep playing team sports than it is to acknowledge someone might actually be right.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/26 09:30 PM
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Specialized language does tend to be more specific even if you don't personally understand it. Between your examples, one of them provides an actual goal of improving your status (a specific, thought flexible thing) while the other just says to generally improve your life (hyper general, entirely nonspecific). I'm not saying redpill is always giving specific useful advice, but in my experience, its usually fairly direct and actionable stuff that a guy can work on. Whether or not you agree with t…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/26 09:27 PM
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I've been fed the line about girls flocking to me when I got older by both sides of my family. Then I got older and they still keep saying it. And its obviously out of love so I don't blame my family, but this is a very real thing that happens and does contribute to the cognitive dissonance some men feel when dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/26 08:36 PM
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Do you see the rest of the comments? Basic acknowledgment of reality is a rare thing here.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/26 11:57 AM
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Its 100% a self coping mechanism. Most of them are lying to themselves just as much as they are lying to you. They aren't 'happier', they just have stronger social safety nets and get more attention in general. Women cannot experience what men do when they are single.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/26 11:49 AM
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So they are normal? And treating them as extreme outliers is dismissive and reductive in that case?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/26 11:43 AM
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I am too. What you said was condescending, ignorant, and unhelpful. Maybe you thought that was a 'nice' thing to say and I'm telling you it was not. "You're one of the good ones" is a racist dogwhistle in a different context. Hope this helps :)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/26 09:31 PM
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Would you look at that? Tells you to read more but can't suggest a single piece of text to support her own argument. Its just constant exposure of their bias and self-victimization.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/26 02:18 PM
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We know you are incapable of empathy, thanks for proving OPs point yet again. Using slavery as a justification/comparison is truly insane. Are you from another planet entirely perhaps? That would at least explain your completely alien perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/26 02:15 PM
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I grew up in the same era and I've been asking this question since I entered middle school and realized I still had to do 99% of the work to start a relationship. Maybe you actually absorbed the messages of the media of the time, but I don't think it was as widely accepted and acted upon as you'd think. I'm sure you have a progressive circle and family, so do I, but the instant I went outside of that immediate influence, seemed like every girl was still playing by the old rules. The shift in mes…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 09:20 PM
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We're talking about reducing your odds from near zero to even closer to zero of even getting a conversation started, never mind anything after that leading up to a relationship. Maybe this would work for a handful of women and thats great, but the rest are still locked into their 1950s gender roles that they show no desire of shedding. The best you could hope for from this is she says, 'hi' first and the guy immediately takes the lead for the rest of the conversation. Its adding on unnecessary r…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 09:14 PM
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The demand for perfection. I don't expect humans to be perfect, ever, in any circumstance. Someone not being exactly what I want them to be does not exclude them from being someone I care about. Having expectations and demands has only served to drive people away in my experience. Its kind of horrifying to realize that many women are doing the exact opposite and cutting off anyone that doesn't measure up. I've had it happen to me and I've seen it happen. I literally cannot imagine living life an…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 06:10 PM
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Damn, I should have thought of that! It couldn't have anything to do with teacher's salaries being so low that modern women wouldn't respect a man in that position. Men are motivated by other men, everyone knows this! Listen to yourself. I know the ingroup bias is hard to overcome but blaming men for everything just makes you sound ignorant.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 09:17 PM
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Its tough to figure out something when simply discussing men's issues is considered misogyny by a decent portion of the internet (yes, this is not necessarily reflected IRL, but it does happen in some spaces like where I attended college). Some of us are genuinely trying to 'figure it out' but that effort is not respected at best, and openly ridiculed or reported to authorities at the worst. I've seen it time and time again, on and offline, men getting shut out or banned for asking questions and…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 08:33 PM
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Wonder what happened there... could it have possibly been labeling all men as predators who can't be trusted around children? Nah, men are just being pussies i guess...
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 08:26 PM
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Idk, seems like most people need support, kindness, attention etc. from their partners. What is a woman proving that a man isn't? Especially if she's not willing to spend her paycheck on him.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 03:06 AM
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Gaslighting
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 02:49 AM
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Your first instinct to a man feeling down and lonely is to insult his capacity to form romantic/sexual relationships. Not only does this show what you truly value from women, it shows just how unempathetic and disingenuous you are. You are proving his point lady and I don't think you're smart enough to see how.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 02:48 AM
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So you admit openly that half of the posts here are just reactionary trolling which is explicitly against the rules, but you won't change the rule because you'd rather let female hypocrites bitch and moan for the content? Something something about exploiting women idk.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 02:37 AM
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Spending this much energy on a purely pedantic argument is truly a work of idiocy
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 02:33 AM
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I'm not lol and its way too late to save me. No man trying to get a girl is going to listen to another guy who hasn't tried to date in 10 years. Yes, I do respect other people which is apparently extremely rare these days, but that doesn't mean I actually like other people. Nor has it ever attracted any kind of real recognition. Honesty has very little social value these days for men or women. Me feeling disgusted at the way other people go about their relationships only seems to make me less at…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 02:28 AM
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Success in this case is lying to and manipulating a woman into a sexual encounter. Are you honestly trying to say this is a good thing we should promote?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 09:04 PM
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The more and more I read these arguements, the more I worry that sociopathy is a much bigger portion of the population than anyone thinks. They are all openly rooting for more manipulation and relationships built on deception... this shit is why I don't date anymore. If I have to lie and manipulate a girl just to get in the door, there is 0 chance for the kind of mutually respectful partner I want.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 09:02 PM
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What is it y'all always say? 'Erm, its actually not even the same guys doing this so ur wrong!' 'Acktually men aren't a monolith sweaty."
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 08:42 PM
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Is there something in particular you're thinking of that could not be invented or imagined by a person without the internet? I can think of a couple that are entirely modern creations (usually related to technology that did not exist), but the rest would only take a person with an active imagination to discover and we have historical evidence for many of these. Seems to me that anything people can come up with on their own, they probably will. I acknowledge that kinks spread easier these days, b…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 06:08 PM
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Yeah... i don't think this logically tracks. Human brains and pleasure organs have not changed in 50 years, they might not have the exact same understanding and expression of certain kinks, but there is always going to be people on the extreme edges who would end up exploring things. They may not be able to search up a visual example in 10 secs like we can, but human desires have not suddenly become different just because we can satisfy those desires easier. I would probably agree that more peop…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 05:04 PM
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And yet so many women doing kink don't seem to get this and just wait around for their dom to lead literally everything from the discussion, the setup, and the actual deed. I'm glad to see some of y'all get it because I just got tired of dictating the whole business with minimal input from my partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 04:56 PM
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Thats horrible and I hate that there are dudes who are that pushy. Like I said, I don't know who is pushing for what more, we don't exactly have much in depth research on the prevalence of kinks by gender (i think the results on these kink and a few others would be eye opening as to how common they are). Unfortunately, there are plenty women who would respond positively (or at least neutrally) to that kind of approach, which only emboldens guys who don't care enough to ask first. On the other si…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 04:50 PM
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Every degrading, abusive, or misogynistic thing I've ever done in sexual encounters with women was a direct request from them without prompting from me. I have never and will never suggest hitting, choking, or other kinds of abuse, these things do not explicitly turn me on and yet, the vast majority of women I've spoken to in any kind of sexual context ask for or even demand this kind of abusive treatment. Refusing to engage with this kind of consensual sexual abuse will get you ghosted or ridic…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 11:15 AM
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I hope for any woman's sake that she would at least somewhat attempt to determine this kind of stuff before she gets married and pregnant. A dude with these kinds of insane beliefs does not live in reality. If this is the kind of man you're encountering, it might be on you to be a bit more selective with regards to education and intelligence.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/25 11:01 PM
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I'm not sure where you're getting that or if you're genuinely asking, but in my experience, the best thing to do is to point out more specific behaviors and red flag opinions to look out for than using the blanket of conservatism (which carries different baggage for different people). I encourage women to be more assertive and ask directly about important topics like abortion, and then to act quickly if the answer is a dealbreaker. And sure, it doesn't have to be the most direct interrogation, b…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 10:55 PM
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Completely understandable. I got to shake his hand once and he gave me some very good advice. Impressive man in many ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 10:45 PM
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And I'm telling you as someone who generally agrees with your goals that this is a poor place and method of communicating it, especially if you want the political message to have any kind of impact. There are better ways to frame the argument to convince a woman who may be in a bad situation and there are much better ways to start a productive political discussion to actually change minds.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 10:37 PM
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Ah, my bad, I thought that since you're in a debate sub you might actually be looking to learn something and listen. I guess its easier to pretend men are all out to get you and completely shut down discussion while demanding blind acceptance and silence. Is this the superior communication and emotional intelligence women are supposed to have? Pretending honest men don't exist doesn't make them disappear, its just means you're not listening.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 10:29 PM
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And still you haven't learned what honesty sounds like because the only men you listen to are hot/high status enough to manipulate you. I recommend listening to real men, not grifters.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 06:48 PM
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Seems like you'd be better served posting this somewhere other than a debate sub. Otherwise it just comes across as you trying to be inflammatory towards conservatives and get little wins in the comments. I'm not a conservative and I fully support educating women on the existence of dangerous men and its still hard to read any of what you're saying as genuine concern for other women when you frame it as a point of political opposition.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 06:39 PM
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Advice tends to involve the sharing of actual information and the acknowledgment of reality. What you have here is a poorly thought out childish revenge fantasy that will never exist. You can 'encourage' all you want, but I don't think you made your point well enough to convince any of your fellow women, never mind men on the same political ideology. Its poor rhetoric, unrealistic, and once again, probably just backfires if it becomes even remotely mainstream. Save your energy for goals you can …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 07:06 AM
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Turning them into off-limits 'bad boys' is only going to make things worse. I would think a woman would understand why this would backfire. not that you could stop all the conservative women even if you somehow got your message out there. The constant need to one-up, get little wins, and revenge is a race to the bottom. Fantasy scenarios do even less to achieve your goals. Venting is one thing, but this is just pointless.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 01:53 AM
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I like to talk in depth about a lot of things, hoping I might get that same level of engagement out of past partners left me bored a handful of times and were major contributors to why I ended the relationship. This is not a usual requirement for guys so idk how helpful this is, but I am looking for at least some level of intellectual engagement which has been the hardest thing to find out of any of my standards. Physical attraction is easy and most people, particularly men, will be satisfied wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 01:45 AM
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Small clarification: there is no such thing as Bipolar medication, just like there is no such thing as autism medication or OCD medication. Psychiatric care (actually giving out prescriptions) is focused entirely on giving out generalized medications that have proven, but small effects on multiple conditions. For example, as someone with diagnosed OCD and Bipolar disorder, I have been given meds designed as emotional suppressors, antipsychotics, and every other remotely applicable drug. You are …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/25 09:32 AM
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I'm not sure where I said any of that. Kinda sounds like projection or just self-delusion coming from nowhere. Its really telling that this is your response to me simply stating that most men want a woman that genuinely likes them. The most basic of desires and you still have to treat it like personal opposition. Does it get tiring always being in attack mode?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 03:04 PM
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Idk who your male friends are that this your belief but most dudes just want one girl to actually like them enough that flirting/dating isn't a giant obstacle in the relationship. I don't think that has anything to do with wanting a harem.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 02:57 PM
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Well there's the 'legit' reason of women feeling insecure about being compared sexually to pornstars, because they would never compare regular dudes to celebrities... Then there's the real reason of threatening the monopoly women have on sex. A man who can satisfy himself is a man who has less need of the only thing most women can offer. Any man will tell you that masturbation and intercourse only have an orgasm in common, but it easier for women to pretend that a man masturbating devalues that …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 05:15 PM
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15 years in the online kink/rp scene and the main reason I quit was the constant focus on CNC or actual rape roleplay. It never interested me when I was starting out, most things I can get into if my partner is passionate, but I have never and probably will never enjoy non-consent (even with prior consent). It was common enough within that space that when I truly started getting the ick from it, I could no longer participate. 60%-80% of all female-presenting roleplayers (you can assume some of t…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 08:42 AM
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I've been looking for a woman who values truth my whole life. I'm not entirely convinced they exist at this point.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 08:13 AM
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Hot = better partner
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 05:48 PM
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Once again, my point is that asking for specific archetypes and aethetics is only encouraging the kind of behavior you are advising against. There is a contradiction of incentives. And just like the other woman who responded, you seemed to miss that the cowboy bit was what happens if a guy doesn't neatly fit into all your favorite boxes to be the perfect hallmark dreamboy. Its kind of insane to suggest that what women want is charicatures of men who don't change, pre-baked and perfect out of the…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/25 09:50 PM
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Nuance, sarcasm, and basic logic seem to be a bit much for you to handle all at the same time. I apologize, I didn't realize it would be such a struggle. You gave the impression that you might actually have something to contribute, now I see I was mistaken. That's my bad. Since you need it literally spelled out, i was being facetious and taking the 'logic' you presented to its endpoint. My entire argument has been about the value of direct, honest communication but you chose to focus on a percei…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/25 07:45 AM
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I guess all discussions here are moot in that case since getting women to be honest is apparently an unreasonable expectation. No talk about trends or statistics or culture, everyone is so different they might as well be from different planets. Just get lucky and already be exactly what she's looking for. Its pretty telling that your descriptions of all these different kinds of men are the most surface level aesthetics, but if you're willing to ignore the things that make a good partner in favor…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 11:15 PM
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Dating is hard for everyone. I think that's always been the point of a lot of this discourse. And my argument has always been that it might be a little easier if everyone was a little more honest and didn't go out of their way to make it even more confusing. Again, not suggesting that things should change overnight, but things only start changing if people start making different choices. And that does not imply women should date boring guys or completely ignore attraction, but nor should they de…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 10:37 PM
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There are not as many older women who are interested in younger men, nor would I ever suggest a man just starting his life jump into a relationship with a woman with a child in the picture unless he is very certain. Personally, I would love if older women were the simple solution you frame it as, but that's not reality. What is reality is young women openly expressing and acting on preferences for older, abusive men. The young men in their peer group aren't exactly left with options, no matter h…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 09:23 PM
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My bad for suggesting a way things could improve for both men and women. I know introspection is hard and I'm not sure where I said women must be the 'arbitrators of goodness', just pointing out that people act through incentives and that removing some of the incentives for antisocial behavior could be a good thing. No one expects people to change overnight. It does help to be open to the idea that things might actually improve though, unless that isn't your objective and you'd prefer that young…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 08:59 PM
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If women valued honesty over excitement, the only men left lying would be the true abusers, sadists, and antisocial men. Its not exactly normal that any human lies without something to gain or protect.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 08:21 PM
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This is incredibly short-sighted and reductive. A white lie to your server has no consequences other than the small chance the chef would appreciate real feedback and could improve their food in the future. Certainly not your responsibility and it won't have any real consequences. Lying or omitting information when talking about preferences only hurts men who want to learn and other women who will deal with the consequences of ignorant men. Protecting men's feelings in this case is just shruggin…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 08:04 PM
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I'm glad you personally know so many men that are in relationships despite their circumstances. I'm not sure at what point I suggested that I was looking for your opinion on my chances of getting a date. If I wanted to, I'm sure I could, but I know what I'm looking for at this point and I haven't seen it yet. As to your question, people are afraid or intimidated by me. I'm not big or scary, but something about me is enough to put people on edge regardless of what I'm doing, this includes family …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 12:13 AM
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I appreciate the attempt at advice, but its nothing that hasn't been said before, nor was it asked for. Aside from a couple moments of weakness, I haven't even attempted to date in 10 years. I'm not interested in chasing down uninterested women and convincing them that I'm worth their time. I'm even less interested in being fully responsible for starting and maintaining a relationship. The current dating culture does not support my values and I know that. I am well aware of my personal shortcomi…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 07:01 PM
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So young men literally have no chance to improve themselves? By the end of highschool they are automatically toxic and dangerous? Are young men really guilty of such crimes? What kind of disguisting bigotry are you peddling here? Do you really believe the things you're saying? If you want young men to listen to women, giving up on them entirely as lost causes is certainly not helping anyone. At what point are men supposed to have a chance? Ah, my bad, I was supposed to take responsibility for th…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 10:38 AM
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Can you see how this might be amplified if you are a young man seeing the young women in your age group ignoring you? I get that it might be a thing that's mostly for immature women, but if that's what young guys are seeing from their female peers, it shouldn't be hard to understand how this might affect their opinions. I'm not pointing any fingers, young men are ignorant and misunderstanding of the reality and young women are irresponsible and insecure. A lot of that misunderstanding comes from…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 06:07 AM
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See what you fail to realize is that semantic ambiguity is the point. It supports having an ingroup and offers a certain level of plausible deniability. Is it a conscious choice? I'm getting convinced it might not be. A lot of women don't seem to value clear communication in the slightest.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 02:38 AM
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If you use that physical difference in power to threaten, abuse, or otherwise control her. Yeah. But an imbalance alone is not the issue, its always about abuse. Humans are unfortunately not great at handling power differentials.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 10:39 AM
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I'm flattered, but i'm not looking right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 06:42 PM
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Women making up dudes in their head to get mad at will never not be funny 🤣cute strawman, does he have a name?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 06:24 PM
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Ah, so pretending everything is fine and feelings don't exist? What a fantastic solution for the party benefitting the most from the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 06:09 PM
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The thing is, women openly admit they hookup with guys they are sexually attracted to but otherwise 'hate'. I don't think this was the gotcha you thought it was. its just a people thing, but go off queen, turn it into more fuel for bigotry. In my experience, women who express their attraction like this tend to care even less about the guy's personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 05:59 PM
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Reasonable? Sure, I can see why someone might want to protect their fragile ego. Useful? No, no one cares about your cute little personal exemptions and anecdotes. There are always exeptions, that doesn't make you special.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 05:51 PM
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You're so right queen, the most important traits for a father are being tall, rich, and hawt.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 10:44 AM
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Gotta be serious to be taken seriously and women are deeply unserious people
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 10:43 AM
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You think your presence alone is worth paying for? What in the inflated ego?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/25 01:14 AM
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Totally fair. I said the same thing, but it actually made a pretty big difference when I found out. Made it easier to separate the rational fears from the irrational ones. But if its not bothering you, then its not a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 07:17 PM
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I'm all but convinced its just a mod's alt account. Any other user would be banned 100 times over
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 07:12 PM
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Have you considered getting checked out for OCD? I mean this in all seriousness as someone with OCD who was tipped off by a friend telling me thinking about cutting yourself every time you hold a knife is not normal. I literally cannot ignore the thought and it sounds like you are experiencing something very similar.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 07:10 PM
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And yet young men are told time and time again from every different angle that women don't need them, that their lonliness is their fault, and that being lonely automatically makes them dangerous. Its a perpetual feedback loop and it takes a lot of luck or very kind people to break it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 07:01 PM
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True, you having ideas would require rational thinking at some point. Sorry to hear thats impossible.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 06:32 PM
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My experience is that getting off the app in the first place is almost impossible with these passive women and once you get face to face, they've already made up their minds regardless of whether you still want to vet them. They will sit there and wait for you to make every move, silently or openly judging, never picking up the slack or pushing the conversation... and before you ask, no, i rejected/ghosted every woman who treated me this way.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 05:17 PM
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You mean my age group with 90% of the people I grew up with and know? I know one semi-deadbeat dad out of thousands of men (and had I known the girl he had a kid with before, I would have warned her off). Everyone else is in or out of normal relationships, or has no chance at all. None of my friends or acquaintances are going out and getting random girls pregnant then ditching. Maybe you should stop ignoring regular guys for the hawt tall ones? I know you're constantly looking for anything that …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 04:53 PM
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You know most men don't even have the opportunity to have "an illegitimate kid somewhere" right? Or are you so blinded by the existence of irresponsible chads that other men don't exist? Your delusions are not reality. Wake up.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 07:31 PM
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Playing dumb only works if its not the truth sweaty. It would help if you didn't post 5 times literally any other person, but you just can't help proving men right.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 05:32 PM
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Sounds like you attract the exact kind of men you deserve
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 05:14 PM
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I wonder why men feel and act that way. Perhaps its their experiences with every single other woman they meet? I've tried being direct, I've tried full deception. None of it matters. Its not the man's choice what works.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 03:28 PM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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