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Desperate-Exit7423/r/ExRedPill02/08/25 03:52 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 06:56 PM
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<image> 💣💥 Brutal
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 06:45 PM
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🎯
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/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 11:34 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 07:48 PM
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Talk to my lawyer
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 01:01 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 12:54 AM
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I like that character
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 12:47 AM
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Because I loved Hey Arnold growing up.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 12:33 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 12:02 AM
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<image> I see nothing wrong with his reply
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 09:04 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 06:32 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 05:42 PM
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<image> “Just wait until the bad boys are done having their turn, bro!”
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 04:08 PM
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Damn
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 03:05 PM
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<image> 💣💥
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 02:53 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 01:53 PM
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Backtracking+baseless assertion
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 12:24 AM
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Your opinion on the “credibility” of the source is irrelevant. You claimed that I made up material and I showed you that I didn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 12:20 AM
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This is a lie.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 12:16 AM
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https://www.refinedprose.com/not-attracted-husband/ Check the comments on this article.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 12:11 AM
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https://www.refinedprose.com/not-attracted-husband/ This screenshot is from the comments on this article. I don’t think it’s rage bait.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 12:07 AM
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If I provide a source, will you apologize for accusing me of making these up?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 11:55 PM
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<image> 💣 💥
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 11:35 PM
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And I answered, champ
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 11:16 PM
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It’s not my job to push back against anyone
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 11:12 PM
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<image> 💣💥
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 11:08 PM
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I don’t agree with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 11:08 PM
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I’ve never told women to lower their standards. I think women are entitled to their standards, and shouldn’t settle. That’s what leads to this.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 11:01 PM
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They’re all saved 🤓
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 10:33 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 10:22 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 08:02 PM
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You forgot “A man wrote this, not a woman!” lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 07:06 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 06:47 PM
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Lol just a heads up bro, I’m going to use one of the screenshots you posted on another subreddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 06:46 PM
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Yup, I was told in this sub many times that women never marry men that they’re not attracted to lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 06:24 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 06:00 PM
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It’s very hard for me to believe that this woman was attracted to him prior to the marriage if she feels this way. I just don’t understand why some women do this. I can’t imagine taking a lifelong commitment to someone that I’m not attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 05:13 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 05:04 PM
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My only experience with women lusting like that has been women that I’ve been involved with. But I do believe that most women will act that way with men that they’re really attracted to, so I won’t settle for anything less.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 04:13 PM
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Can’t un-fuck him though 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 02:09 PM
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Those same women expect princess treatment from their significant other. IDGAF what they think lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 12:48 PM
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Tbh I can’t change or know what a woman is thinking internally, but I know for sure that I won’t settle for anything less than “good looking Chad” treatment. That means she must initiate sex a reasonable amount of times, compliment me, lust after me, etc. She may not see me as a Chad but she better treat me like one or else I’m out.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 10:51 PM
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Because I want to.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 12:24 AM
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When have I ever implied that all women do that?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 12:20 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 12:15 AM
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Lol if you say so.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 12:08 AM
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All women don’t do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 11:58 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 10:13 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 08:01 PM
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https://np.reddit.com/r/IncelExit/s/VqJW2pmAC3 OP asks if it’s normal for guys to get absolutely zero female attention and the majority of responses said yes
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 04:31 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 03:34 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 01:48 PM
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<image> 💣💥 Alpha widow is real
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 07:31 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 06:53 PM
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I’m beginning to become convinced that some women fundamentally can’t be as turned on by the “nice” guy as they can for the “toxic” guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 07:49 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 07:43 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 02:43 PM
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https://np.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/s/lgu6xzHScB The raw attraction pill is undefeated.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 02:26 PM
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If you don’t get it then I’m not even going to bother trying to explain it to you 😬
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 08:33 PM
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<image> 💣💥 Brutal shit
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 08:04 PM
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I got catfished. I showed up and the girl was way bigger than the pictures. I just made an excuse to leave and never contacted her again.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 06:00 PM
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People in general. For example, when people make jokes about a man having to “compensate” for something, Napoleon complex, “small dick energy”, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 05:59 PM
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https://np.reddit.com/r/Marriage/s/N1onvEsRAC I’ll never understand why some women do this.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 05:19 PM
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No one cares about body shaming when men are on the receiving end. Especially men who are short or have small penises, it just is what it is at this point.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 04:31 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 03:51 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 10:41 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 12:26 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 12:53 AM
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That’s easy to say if you actually did it. That’s like a person who’s had sex telling a virgin that sex is overrated.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 12:43 AM
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Thanks for proving my point. Now let’s see if this dude is going to admit that he was wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 09:48 PM
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Throw in the source for which one? I’ve posted many screenshots.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 09:35 PM
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Bold claim, zero proof 🥱
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 09:26 PM
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Lol that was years ago, but good one.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 09:26 PM
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I was a reject in middle school and I was homeschooled during high school.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 09:15 PM
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Idk how any man who has even an ounce has self-respect is okay with his woman fucking another dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 07:33 PM
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Ngl sometimes it makes me sad that I never got to go to a prom 😕
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 07:23 PM
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<image> 😂🤦🏽‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 06:05 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 03:18 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 10:16 AM
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Imagine taking a girl out on a date that you end up paying for and then she goes on to fuck her FWB later that night and they share the to-go food she took with her 😖
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 06:49 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 10:12 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 07:15 PM
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Lol I have a collection of these.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 06:55 PM
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I would not be okay with being someone’s “safe option” or “Mr. Good Enough”. If a woman doesn’t compliment me, initiate sex with me, lust after me, or in any way treats me like she doesn’t genuinely desire me, I’d leave the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 04:13 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 04:08 PM
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It’s crazy how they don’t see how insulting and emasculating this stuff is.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 04:03 PM
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<image> 💣💥 Side note: it’s crazy how women think that saying stuff like this is supposed to cheer you up lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 03:12 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 02:33 PM
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All over the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 07:09 PM
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I have a collection.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 07:05 PM
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<image> 💣💥
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 06:51 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 06:12 PM
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https://youtube.com/shorts/nVnUr6NCCwY?si=eXEvjHnuuEUr4kYJ What years upon years of sexless-ness does to a man. Sad sight.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 08:50 PM
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Man.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 02:22 PM
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I mainly watch lesbian and FFM.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 02:15 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 09:19 PM
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One of the most brutal studies that I’ve ever seen said that bullies are generally happier and more successful than their victims. Brutal shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 05:10 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 04:58 PM
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😂😂
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/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 10:39 PM
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😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 04:47 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 04:09 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 03:25 PM
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No one wants to feel like the back up option
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 05:27 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 04:52 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 03:22 PM
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I’d be out. I’m not being with a woman who’s still in contact with men that she’s fucked
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 02:58 AM
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Glad we can agree then.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/26 04:49 PM
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Lol nice deflection attempt but my point still stands.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/26 04:46 PM
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Either sexual past matters or it doesn’t
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/26 04:27 PM
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Still waiting for a good explanation as to why men are insecure for caring about a woman’s sexual past, while it is perfectly valid for a woman to reject a man for sleeping with other men in the past 🥱
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/26 03:58 PM
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<image> Some girl I went on one date with two years ago randomly asked me for money last night
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/26 08:03 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/26 10:21 PM
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Free the homie
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/26 09:40 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/26 09:27 PM
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<image> 💣💥 Happy New Year!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/26 04:20 PM
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<image> Unfortunately that type of advice isn’t uncommon. Women really don’t understand how insulting this kind of stuff is
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/26 04:16 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 12:19 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/25 07:19 PM
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<image> 🤦🏽‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 09:04 PM
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Has there ever been a female poster who only argued with other female posters and never attacked men, or are there only male white knights here?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 03:16 PM
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What about a woman caring about a man’s sexual past? For example, if he slept with other men in the past?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 03:40 PM
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“It doesn’t matter, he’s with you now.”
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 03:04 PM
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Respectfully, I don’t even know you. Why would I care about your standards? Again, the point is pointing out hypocrisy, not trying to get anyone to change.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 02:51 PM
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I’m not seeking validation. I’m pointing out the hypocrisy of people judging men for caring about women’s sexual past, but remaining quiet when it comes to instances of women doing it to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 02:49 PM
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Still waiting for an explanation as to why it’s okay for women to care about a man’s sexual past when it comes to things like sleeping with the same sex, or even paying for sex while a man caring about a woman’s sexual past makes him insecure
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 02:20 PM
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I thought that looking at sex as a reward was incel behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 01:39 AM
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<image> This show was GOATed
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 05:08 PM
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<image> N count thread in a nutshell.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 05:02 PM
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There are a couple of users here who fit this
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 04:08 PM
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<image> 💣💥
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/25 04:05 PM
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True that, I couldn’t imagine
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 11:12 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 10:56 PM
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Yup.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 11:18 PM
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It’s far from over, my friend
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 08:40 PM
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Of course! The show must go on. It’s tireless work, but it must be done 😤
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 08:26 PM
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I’ve officially ran out of screenshots to post 😞
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 08:09 PM
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<image> I thought this was her father, that’s her man lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 04:08 PM
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<image> 💣💥
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 02:00 PM
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Some men have to wine and dine and some don’t. The difference? Attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 06:50 PM
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I literally quoted you lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 05:23 PM
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You did.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 05:19 PM
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You: You’re allergic to women liking anything and having the ability to choose Me: Women can like and choose what they want, but I can choose to not date women who have a certain perspective
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 04:35 PM
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It's like you're just allergic to women liking anything or having ability to choose. False. Women can like what they like and choose what they like. But men have the right to not want to be seen as the “safety and stability guy” after a woman spends years chasing the guys that she was truly attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 04:28 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 04:12 PM
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<image> 💣💥 I’ll never understand why women settle like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 05:05 PM
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Those types don’t seem to like men very much, so I’ll pass
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 07:26 PM
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Friendly reminder to all the men: don’t be the “safe” option after she’s done “having fun” with all the bad boys.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 07:22 PM
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<image> https://www.eviemagazine.com/post/in-defense-of-the-boring-guy The whole article is literally full of red pills
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 06:55 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 06:45 PM
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Q4A: How do you stop drinking? I get drunk almost every night
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 01:31 AM
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Murdering someone and killing in self-defense are two different things. Idk how you can disagree with this.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 01:18 AM
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Self defense and murder are two different things.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 12:32 AM
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Wasn’t he attacked first? I never understood why people call him a murderer
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 11:50 PM
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Okay then keep scrolling dude
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 11:25 PM
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The nice man who gets the woman after she’s slept with all the bad boys is the real winner. Every man should aspire to be the clean up man.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 08:18 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 07:44 PM
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Second
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 05:22 PM
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https://np.reddit.com/r/teenagers/s/C8hxEfrRzv Women are wonderful effect strikes again
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 04:35 PM
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<image> 💣💥
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 03:09 PM
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You say that as if your only two options are promiscuous women or “non-affectionate, low sex drive harpies”. A woman can be non-promiscuous and still have a healthy sex drive and a woman who was previously promiscuous can dead bedroom you.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 02:41 PM
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Seems like confirmation bias. I know some happily married women where their husband is their only sexual partner ever. Not to mention, aren’t there studies that say that promiscuous people are more likely to cheat?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 02:27 PM
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<image> 💣💥 AF/BB is real!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 01:38 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 08:33 PM
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Lol she said 80 as if that’s common or something. Those male friends are 100% lying.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 06:46 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 05:29 PM
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Lol nice flair 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 04:53 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 04:42 PM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 01:14 AM
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I couldn’t care less about people thinking that I’m insecure.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 09:53 PM
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They should be unapologetic about it, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 04:10 PM
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I can’t, I’m not single
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 04:04 PM
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I’m always forthcoming about it
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 03:42 PM
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Men who have an N count preference should be unapologetic about it. Don’t let the haters shame you. You can call me insecure all day, I really don’t care.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 03:14 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 12:23 AM
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<image> Another one for the collection 🔥
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 06:00 AM
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Oooo sick burn
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 03:36 PM
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Wanting a low-N woman is a perfectly reasonable and understandable preference
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 02:30 PM
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Women’s preferences are always valid, didn’t you know? This is why I’m unapologetic about my preferences. I prefer low N women and I couldn’t care less who’s offended about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 02:28 PM
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This is why I’ve never approached a woman. I’m not about to give someone like this an ego boost at my expense.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/25 06:57 PM
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Tbh I wouldn’t even waste my time. Just as I want to date a woman who feels real attraction for me, I’d want to be with a woman I feel the same way about
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/25 04:01 PM
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<image> Men should settle for nothing less than the desire, attraction, affection and lust that they desire for a woman to show them.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/25 03:54 PM
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<image> 💣💥
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/25 03:40 PM
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<image> 💣 💥 AF/BB
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/25 12:16 AM
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Enjoy being a disposable single use tissue. I thought using objectifying terms for people who partake in casual sex was offensive 🤔 Or does that just apply to women?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 11:26 PM
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<image> Hookup material>>>Husband Material 💣💥
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 11:04 PM
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Damn
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 04:09 PM
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<image> 💣💥
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 03:49 PM
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I can’t stop
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 03:45 PM
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Anything that goes against their narrative is fake and a LARP. Those people who say that aren’t debating in good faith.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 03:11 PM
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<image> Brutal 💣 💥
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 03:08 PM
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<image>
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 02:36 PM
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This is why you don’t date promiscuous women.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 10:35 PM
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Maybe that’s how you see it. I see it as her chasing the guys that she was truly attracted to until she had a kid, then having to deprioritize attraction in favor of stability to find someone to help her raise that kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 04:42 PM
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Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 04:34 PM
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<image> 🤡
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 04:12 PM
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I’m not so sure. Clearly she places him in a lower tier of sexual desirability than the guy that she’s talking about. I bet she was more enthusiastic with that past guy as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/25 05:50 PM
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You also can’t truly know if someone loves you, but you can judge by their actions.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/25 05:34 PM
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I hear you but I just don’t have the patience. Side note, it’s also very funny how some posters seem to be able to troll, argue in bad faith, and do personal attacks with impunity but never get reprimanded by the mods
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/25 05:31 PM
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Does she compliment you unprompted? Does she initiate sex? Is she enthusiastic during sex? Is she willing to be sexually adventurous with you? How long did she make you wait to have sex? Those are 5 indicators alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/25 05:29 PM
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Nope, you can screen for genuine, raw sexual desire.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/25 05:25 PM
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There are some posters here who are so bad faith that I just refuse to engage with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/25 05:22 PM
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I don’t want someone who places me on a lower tier of sexual desire than some fuckboy from the past.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/25 05:21 PM
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“She’s with you now so you won” Fuck that. Who wants to be placed on a lower sexual tier than some dude from the past?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/25 05:18 PM
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<image> 😖
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/25 05:04 PM
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<image> Why do women do this? I can’t imagine committing to someone who I’m not attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/25 01:52 PM
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I’m back
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 11:12 PM
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B
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 09:13 PM
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<image>
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 08:34 PM
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<image> Bruh… the jokes write themselves at this point 🤦
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 05:07 PM
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“When I was younger and had more options, I wouldn’t have given him a second glance. And even when I did meet him, I still could’ve chased guys out of my league and gotten ghosted” doesn’t sound like a compliment
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 04:44 PM
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Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 04:35 PM
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<image> Yikes! 😬
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 04:20 PM
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The key is to find someone who didn’t have a “bad boy” or casual sex phase
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 04:04 PM
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<image> AF/BB is real
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 03:48 PM
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<image> Hookup material>Husband material
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 02:25 PM
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<image>
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 06:22 PM
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<image> There’s more dignity in being single than being in a relationship like this
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 05:03 PM
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You’re denying that women can and have raped men?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 04:53 PM
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Literally anyone who has the ability to rape can be a potential rapist.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 04:01 PM
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If all men are potential rapists because men can and have raped women, then all women are potential rapists because women can and have raped men. Men may commit rape more often, but that doesn’t take away from my point.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 03:58 PM
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Last I checked, women have the ability and capability to rape as well. So all women are possible rapists as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 03:51 PM
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<image> AF/BB
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 03:13 PM
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Dating someone like that sounds like it would be insufferable
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 01:56 PM
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😳 Jesus Christ! I have to add this one to the collection
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 01:43 PM
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Lol blue pillers won’t touch this one
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 03:17 PM
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<image>
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 02:05 PM
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<image> Happy Thanksgiving
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 06:39 PM
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<image>
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 03:44 AM
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<image>
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 04:34 PM
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No, that’s a different website
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 03:46 PM
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It doesn’t feel good to read these but it acts as a reminder to never allow myself to be settled for.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 02:51 PM
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Just fucking think how much if a self centered issue this is when dudes can’t even go “yeah fuck those hateful people” You can say that without also insulting someone’s immutable characteristics, which is literally my entire point.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 02:46 PM
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Thank you!!! Like how is this even hard to understand?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 02:32 PM
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Why would you identify with anything says against a Nazi unless you were one? By this stupid ass logic, if someone insulted a middle eastern ISIS member with a racial slur, and I said that you can attack his extremist ideology instead of his immutable characteristics, I’m a terrorist sympathizer.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 02:29 PM
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Yeah, and? You can attack Nazi ideology without attacking the Nazi’s physical appearance, especially when people with those same characteristics might read your post and feel insulted.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 02:25 PM
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I’m legitimately baffled here. How the hell is saying “You can attack someone’s ideas without insulting their appearance” being a Nazi apologist?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 02:23 PM
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IDEK who that dude is, but assuming that he even is a Nazi, how is saying “You can attack ideas without attacking someone’s appearance” defending Nazis?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 02:19 PM
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You can attack people for their ideas without attacking their appearance.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 02:16 PM
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The left only cares about body shaming when it comes to women. They couldn’t care less when it happens to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 02:13 PM
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On and off of Reddit
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 01:33 PM
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I’m not forcing you to read it, keep scrolling.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 01:29 PM
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<image>
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 01:12 PM
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<image>
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 01:12 PM
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Does anyone else suffer from death anxiety? The thought of not existing anymore is terrifying to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 07:05 PM
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Victory Monday
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 03:34 PM
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<image> Some women will happily share a man if he’s attractive enough
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 02:17 PM
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<image>
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 12:48 PM
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<image>
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 02:30 AM
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<image>
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 05:47 PM
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<image> I feel bad for the next man she gets with #alphawidow
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 03:30 PM
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<image>
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 12:00 AM
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Lol thank you, I will definitely make a collection. There’s more to come
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/25 02:49 PM
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<image> 😖
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/25 02:42 PM
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Holy insecurity Batman. She doesn’t literally mean she’s never having fun with you. She’s just done with her hoe phase of life because she thought she found a guy worth giving it up for. Wild single fun is very different than coupled conscientious fun. Do her the favor of leaving. Lol, I can’t..
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/25 07:53 AM
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Maybe you’re right, who knows
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 07:51 PM
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Oh no! An internet stranger thinks that I’m pathetic! Anyway..
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 06:53 PM
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It costs you nothing to pay me no mind 🤷
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 06:43 PM
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<image> Ending up with someone who thinks about you this way is nightmare fuel
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 06:19 PM
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https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTreFkGRd/ Imagine thinking about another man on your wedding day. I don’t find this type of “joke” funny at all
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 04:01 PM
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I don’t use statistics to justify my preference. High N women just give me the ick, and that’s all the justification I need.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 04:57 PM
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Why “deal” with it when you could just not date people who trigger your “insecurity”?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 04:55 PM
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“Men who care about N count are insecure!” Let’s grant that this is true for the sake of argument, what does it matter? Literally everyone has insecurities. It seems like a non-issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 03:52 PM
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<image> Imagine being in a relationship with someone like this, fuck that
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 03:50 PM
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It’s not worth it if you’re going to be placed on a lower tier of sexual desire than some dude from her past.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 02:11 PM
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<image> Brutal shit
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 01:42 PM
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<image> People really say things like this and think it’s supposed to make you feel good 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 01:05 PM
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<image> Lol dude made it out of the friend zone
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 05:18 PM
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<image> Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 10:20 PM
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<image> Brutal
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 09:59 PM
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<image> Brutal
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 09:09 PM
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It’s not “feeling” lied to, it is being lied to. I’m sure it’s not an easy decision, but I’m not faulting a guy for bailing in that situation. Every time you look at the kid, you’ll be reminded of the betrayal.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 01:07 PM
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Call it what you will, I’m not raising a child that was a product of betrayal. The biological father can raise that kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 01:06 PM
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I care about not raising another man’s kid whom I was duped into believing was mine. Sorry not sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 10:34 PM
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I have sympathy for men who were duped into raising another man’s child, and protect their own mental health by distancing themselves but that’s just me.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 09:57 PM
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Men take care of other men’s kids all the time. That’s how a man should be. You can’t get over your pride and continue to love this little girl who doesn’t deserve what you are doing to her. Also you’re possibly setting her up for failure in her dating life and what she looks for in a man when she’s older. I hope she finds a real man and nothing like you. https://np.reddit.com/r/TwoHotTakes/s/F3hfg1FX0d “Just accept being cucked, bro! Raising another man’s kid makes you a real man!” 🤦🏽‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 09:20 PM
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<image> Brutal 😬
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 06:40 PM
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<image> Another one for the collection 🔥
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 03:29 PM
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<image> Bluepilled explanation of 80/20 theory lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 10:26 PM
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https://np.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/s/8ZIBrsH3KB
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 01:31 PM
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<image> The final boss of whiteknighting
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 01:47 PM
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Lol had a man made that same post: “She’s with you now, stop being insecure! Obviously she must find your attractive!”
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 09:13 PM
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Q4A: You’ve been married for 10 years. One day, you and your SO are drinking together and your SO drunkenly admits that they cheated on you in the beginning stages of your relationship, but have remained faithful ever since. It was a one time thing and they regretted it. What’s your next move?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 03:55 PM
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<image> Women will really say stuff like this and think it’s a compliment
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 04:15 PM
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I’d be single forever before I dated a single mom tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 02:54 PM
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Hm, i have 2, no actually 3 questions. 1) what are your other standards She has to be attracted to me, I have to be attracted to her, no kids, no smoking, nice personality, feminine, low-N. 2) how easy it is to find women who fir them Not terribly hard. 3) when you have sex with a woman is it only in ltr, like you know that you will marry her someday or are you more like we see how it goes? Only in LTR, I’ve only dated with the goal of marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 04:37 PM
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<image> Are girls out here just dry begging guys like this? If a woman randomly asked me for money, I’d feel justified in asking for sexual favors in return
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 03:27 PM
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Yeah, she doesn’t meet my standard but maybe she’ll be a better match with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 03:27 PM
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Very true. A woman wanting to have sex with you without the promise of commitment is the ultimate compliment. For every guy that had to go on dates, woo her and spend money, I guarantee there’s a guy who didn’t have to do any of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 03:22 PM
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Q4M with a low N count preference: What’s your limit before it becomes a dealbreaker? Mine is 5.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 03:16 PM
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I never implied that all women are hypocrites. I’m specifically talking about straight women who judge men for having sex with other men in the past, while calling men who care about a woman’s past partner count insecure. There’s women in this very thread who justify not dating bisexual men while bashing men who care about body count.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 02:50 PM
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You didn’t. You strategically avoided it, because you know what the implications are.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 02:37 PM
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Why are you avoiding the question?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 02:32 PM
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Do you believe that trans women are women?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 02:31 PM
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Exactly! Special pleading, just like I said. I’m still waiting for someone to come up with an argument that justifies this without engaging in special pleading. Still have yet to see one.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 02:29 PM
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I agree with you. I’m just pointing out the hypocrisy on this topic. Either sexual past matters or it doesn’t. If it matters when a man is uncomfortable with a woman’s body count, then it matters when a woman rejects a guy for experimenting with men in the past, for example.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 02:25 PM
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Yes, but a man could have experimented once and never did anything with men again after. Or he could’ve slept with trans women. The man could still identify as straight despite these things. A woman rejecting a man for experimenting in the past or sleeping with trans women is literally rejecting a man for his sexual past.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 02:24 PM
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So it’s valid for straight women to reject men for having slept with men in the past, but a man rejecting a woman for having slept with too many men in the past is worthy of criticism? I have yet to see an argument for this that doesn’t rely on the special pleading fallacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 02:07 PM
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“I like straight men. But there’s other people who like bisexual men.” doesn’t imply that you don’t like bisexual men? <image> How about this? “It’s a no for me, dawg” 🤣 You going to keep lying?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 02:09 AM
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I bet there will be no response to this..
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 02:03 AM
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I'm bisexual. I don't think a man not wanting to date me because I'm bi isn't biphobic. And I've had multiple men not date me because I'm bi. 🤷 <image> Wait a second. You’re bisexual but unwilling to date your own kind? Sounds like hypocrisy to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 02:01 AM
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I’m sure you’re not going to work for shits and giggles. Technically everyone who has a job is making a choice to work, but having a steady income is a pretty important thing in this society. Big difference between that and voluntarily engaging with people on the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 09:34 PM
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You can debate without wanting to change someone's mind. And let's be real here: this isn't debate, we're just mocking each other. I’ve had people in these threads debate me about N count preference, and I’ve seen the inverse as well, so debate does go on. And I have a public-facing career. It's very easy for me to talk to people I give zero fucks about lol Yeah, but you have to work to make a living for yourself. Constantly posting in a thread about N counts with guys that you seem to look down…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 09:24 PM
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Why would we want you to change your outlook? Oh, my bad. Silly me. I thought this was a debate subreddit. I don’t know where I got that crazy idea from. I think I speak for all sluts when I say we're happy you bother the poor virgins lol I can tell by the amount of time you and your peers engage with us “poor losers”. Truly a sign that you guys don’t care.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 08:48 PM
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“Some random stranger on the internet thinks I’m insecure for caring about N count, let me change my outlook” - Said no one ever Also, special shoutout to the butthurt person/people who downvote me in this thread. Sorry for triggering you 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 07:47 PM
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And the day is here. What did the ones that dismiss me actually do to prove me wrong? Idk.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 07:44 PM
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You think I need the money? I don’t know you personally. I have no idea. When did people assume there are no people around that care about young men for no other reason than they don’t want young men to end up wasting there youth chasing fake ideas that old men told them to sell ads in between videos. Trolling on PPD is your way of helping young men? Weird strategy but okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 07:32 PM
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Dude, I hope you’re getting paid. You treat running defense for high N count women like it’s your job or something!
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 07:22 PM
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Dude, I knew that was the same guy lol
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 07:17 PM
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https://youtube.com/shorts/UA46WQPPdlI?si=EZi6sYnsMpMW96NP
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 07:10 PM
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Unless you’re willing to date literally any and everyone, aren’t you a “ist” or “phobe” in some way? It seems kind of ridiculous to criticize people in this way over their dating preferences, which don’t harm anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 03:08 PM
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I disagree. Using this logic, I’m “transphobic” as I would never date or have sex with a trans-woman. I don’t believe that people are obligated to be fair or non-discriminatory in their dating life. It literally hurts no one.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 02:50 PM
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There are certain users here (I can think of at least three) that only agree with and defend women, and only argue with men. If there was a female user who did that, they would definitely be accused of being a pick me.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 02:47 PM
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Yeah, it’s weird. There are literally zero female equivalent users who defend men to the same extent. They’ll offer women no push back but only argue with/shit on men. I hate whiteknights.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 02:40 PM
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Brutal shit https://np.reddit.com/r/shortguys/s/vdb2kn3zP1
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 02:15 PM
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Dude needs to grab his balls and have some damn dignity. Why would he let her humiliate him like that, and better yet why would she even want to?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 02:11 PM
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https://www.rollingstone.com/culture/culture-commentary/gen-z-men-filming-dating-1235453972/ This is one of the reasons why I don’t approach women.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 06:00 PM
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<image> AF vs. BB
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 05:19 PM
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I think I discovered some RP teachings in my early teens. I’m not talking about rich guys, there’s regular guys who get settled for too. <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 05:11 PM
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I believed in the idea that women did value personality over looks, and that you could win a woman over even if she wasn’t attracted to you at first. Now I screen for instant attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 05:10 PM
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Good actually. I now know what to look out for and to screen for genuine desire.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 02:30 PM
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Yes, but before RP I wasn’t aware of things like AF/BB or women settling for guys that they aren’t really attracted to for stability or resources.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 02:27 PM
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RP taught me about AF/BB and screening for genuine attraction vs. someone only being into me for resources or stability.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 02:27 PM
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That’s awesome
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 02:14 PM
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RP taught me about the importance of finding a woman who’s truly attracted to you, and things like AF/BB.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 02:13 PM
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There’s something attractive about a woman knowing that she has options but still being exclusive about who she sleeps with. This is one of the reasons why I find low-N women so attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 01:20 PM
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https://np.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/s/NMVubPMlEq Some guys on Reddit are completely spineless. Why would you put up with this behavior?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 04:44 PM
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“I may be a handholdless, kissless virgin but at least I’m not an incel!” vibes
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 12:35 AM
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The same thing that would be said if it was flipped and a man had lied for years about something serious to his wife. Emphasis on the fact that he was deceived? And he’s not the bad guy if he decides to nope out.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 02:51 PM
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Literally one sentence in that comment pertains to the husband, and the rest of it is sympathizing with the wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 02:47 PM
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More empathy for the husband for the fact that he was deceived about a major issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 02:40 PM
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What are you expecting an endless line of comments saying to leave her?? that’s the only alternative btw and also it’s a very sad and complex situation If a man had lied to his partner for years about a serious issue that basically robbed their partner of an informed decision, I doubt the comments would be as sympathetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 02:34 PM
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https://np.reddit.com/r/Marriage/s/PLjcuHyZde I’m convinced that there isn’t anything that redditors won’t defend women for. This woman lied about her ability to have children to her husband, and most comments are defending her and implying that the husband is the bad guy if he nopes out.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 02:08 PM
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I mean.. that sucks but he’s still arguably in a better position than most guys. Of 800 likes, at least some won’t care or will tolerate it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 10:32 PM
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So a woman won 🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 10:56 PM
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I’m only “anti-slut” insofar as my dating life, I do not wish to date promiscuous women. But I don’t care what anyone does in their private life, nor do I want to live in some backwards religious theocracy.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 07:39 PM
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Feminists: “We don’t hate men” Also feminists: <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 07:38 PM
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I’ve asked and been asked.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 06:06 PM
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Ngl I know it’s a double standard but let’s be real, most teenage guys aren’t turning down smashing a hot teacher. I know I wouldn’t at that age. Most of my teachers were old ladies
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 05:56 PM
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Her male equivalent would be an inkwell
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 03:57 PM
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<image> Yeah, sorry. I don’t believe this for one second
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/25 01:27 PM
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<image> Women: Reject the vast majority of men who approach, constantly talk about how they find the majority of men unattractive Also women: Why don’t men approach us anymore?! 😡
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/25 03:40 PM
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https://np.reddit.com/r/women/s/2GZVS8AqIk It’s hilariously ironic to me that a lot of women were mocking and dismissing men who had concerns about the Tea app, but now that the “TeaOnHer” app exists, they now suddenly understand how dangerous it is to have an app where someone can post unfiltered, unverified information about another person 🤯 I guess those stupid men were right all along!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 03:41 PM
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The idea that I would have a bunch of Eskimo brothers out there is just icky.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 02:55 PM
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A body count of 28 is pretty crazy. That’s way over even the supposed average woman’s body count.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 01:39 PM
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Idk
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 02:31 AM
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High N women give me the ick
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 01:04 AM
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My life experiences haven’t shown me to be an attractive guy to the point where approaching women wouldn’t net more rejections than dates. Being an attractive man comes with signs than confirm that you are, and I haven’t received those signs, so I see no point in approaching women IRL. I just use dating apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 11:37 PM
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Um.. I’m not entirely sure what you’re getting at?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 11:17 PM
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I personally have never approached a woman and I don’t think I ever will tbh. It seems like a pointless exercise for a man who isn’t exceptionally attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 10:50 PM
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https://www.instagram.com/reel/DNv6b4k4ua6/ Here’s one.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 08:49 PM
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Looks are more important than personality and it’s not even close.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 05:04 PM
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Yeah, I don’t find her attractive at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 04:51 PM
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Exactly. You can’t lecture men about how evil and privileged they are and expect them to turn around and vote for you
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 09:06 PM
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Men who care about number of sexual partners are insecure dick obsessed weirdos. Cool, so are women who won’t date men who have had sex with men in the past.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 03:50 PM
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I agree with you. I’m just pointing out hypocrisy. There’s women in this thread who stated that they wouldn’t date a man who had sexual relations with other men in the past, but call men insecure for caring about a woman’s past sexual history. That’s hypocrisy.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 02:57 PM
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I’m glad we can agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 02:27 PM
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It does have something to do with the sexual past. Many straight women want nothing to do with a man who slept with other men in the past. A man could’ve experimented with men, realized that he wasn’t into it, and only have sex with women after. That same man could consider himself straight and some straight women would still be icked out by the fact that he’s been with men before. If you’re going to say “Stop being insecure, that’s the past! Get over it!” when it comes to men with an N count pr…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 01:39 PM
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Dude, where did you get that from? The hypocrisy is saying that sexual past doesn’t matter when it comes to men who care about N counts, but then moving the goalposts when it comes to things like straight women not wanting to date men who slept with other men in the past.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 01:32 PM
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I’m okay with straight women refusing to date bisexual men, and I’m also okay with gay men choosing to only date other gay men. I’m just pointing out the hypocrisy. Either sexual past matters or it doesn’t. Either caring about sexual past is insecure or it isn’t. Anything else is special pleading.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 01:26 PM
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So you agree that sexual past matters? Because if a man is insecure for caring about a woman’s sexual history “She’s with you now, who cares how many men she slept with before!”, then so is a woman for caring if a man has slept with other men in the past. He’s with you now so what’s the issue?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 01:18 PM
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Either someone’s sexual past matters or it doesn’t. I hope you’re okay with men having an N count preference if you’re okay with women not wanting to be with men who slept with other men in the past.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 12:07 PM
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Y'all aren't making the point you think with this gotcha. Yes, we are. If a woman’s past is irrelevant when it comes to N count, then so is a man’s.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 03:21 AM
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If caring about a woman’s sexual past makes you insecure, then women who would dump a guy upon learning that he slept with other men in the past are insecure
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 12:55 AM
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Exactly! Or what if the guy is bi and recognizes that he feels attraction to men, but has never acted on it and only dated women?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/25 12:03 AM
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This is what I’m saying. Either caring about someone’s sexual past is insecure/stupid/insert insult or it isn’t. If a man experimented with men in the past, but is now committed to a woman, the woman shouldn’t care, and “the past is the past” advocates should call her out the same way they would if a man found out that a woman’s body count was higher than what he originally thought and he wanted to leave her.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 11:53 PM
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That’s anecdotal but even if the low-N girl is bad initially, she can improve over time.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 07:09 PM
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Some people claim that guys who want inexperienced women will have to deal with shitty sex. This is stupid because a low-N person can be great at sex and a high N person can be mediocre.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 07:02 PM
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I think there’s more “hoe defenders” in this thread than actual hoes, it’s weird
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 07:00 PM
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https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/ssqu.13320 This study suggests that attractiveness has a bigger impact on men’s socioeconomic success than women’s
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 04:33 PM
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<image> Yikes
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 03:04 PM
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I agree with you 1,000%. This is why it’s important for guys to screen for physical attraction as much as they can. Ending up as someone’s “Mr. Good Enough” is an extremely depressing thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/25 03:42 PM
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This is one of the things that blow my mind about women. I would NEVER date or take anyone seriously that I wasn’t instantly physically attracted to. I can’t imagine spending my life with someone who I only feel lukewarm attraction towards.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/25 03:16 PM
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Q4A: If you were married for 10 years, and your partner admitted to you that they cheated (just one time, never again) while you were still boyfriend and girlfriend, would you stay or divorce?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/25 02:19 PM
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https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/ssqu.13320 This study suggests that attractiveness has a bigger impact on men’s socioeconomic success than women’s
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/25 01:52 PM
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https://inews.co.uk/opinion/cheating-relationship-romance-sex-regret-3907497?srsltid=AfmBOooksQCSvizz0DcG5JNuOC3NsBPV_TITH6WbVh5Too2zEAdHLWWh A woman wrote it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 10:36 PM
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<image> AF/BB is real
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 10:33 PM
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There is no such thing as “playing hard to get” if she actually likes you
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 10:09 PM
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https://youtu.be/dHJPJn3GExM?si=2IIwSHr5vObzI38p Once you’ve been made aware of this stuff, it’s like you can’t unsee or unhear it. I’d rather die alone than be someone’s beta bucks
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 08:45 PM
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Because it has nothing to do with the point. I’m making a counter to an argument that some people pose against having an N count preference. The statistic about people being unfulfilled is irrelevant in this context.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 06:49 PM
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Someone blocked me mid debate, I’m telling
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 06:47 PM
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I’m strictly talking about low N vs. high N. The statistics say that high N people are more likely to cheat, which runs counter to “A low N partner may get curious and want to have sex with someone else”.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 06:42 PM
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No, it’s a counter to the argument that a low N woman is likely to cheat because she’ll eventually get the urge to experience sex with different men.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 06:36 PM
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This has nothing to do with my original point.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 06:28 PM
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I’ve seen people counter guys with an N count preference with “A virgin/low-N count woman might get curious about what sex with another man is like and cheat!” but aren’t promiscuous people statistically more likely to be unfaithful?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 05:38 PM
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https://youtu.be/wPLVaiVaZcY?si=QAmoWh58_LRl0gtG What years of sexlessness does to a man
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 05:21 PM
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<image> Aunties giving AF/BB game is crazy
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/25 03:31 PM
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You claimed that men demanding that women date men that they aren’t physically attracted to is a common sentiment that’s expressed in this subreddit, but you can’t provide one example of this? If it’s as common as you claim, you could’ve found one example in less time than it took for you to reply to me from the time that I originally asked.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/25 04:21 PM
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You want me to do your work for you? You made the claim. I’m just asking for one example.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/25 04:17 PM
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Can you show me a specific example of a man here telling women to date men that they aren’t attracted to? I haven’t seen it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/25 04:14 PM
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Men: Women need to lower their standards and date men they're not attracted to! Who is telling women to date men that they aren’t attracted to?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/25 04:10 PM
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<image> I don’t understand why some women date men that they aren’t physically attracted to
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/25 03:14 PM
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Ideally, you’d want to be seen as both. A woman calling you hookup material is a huge compliment because she’s saying that you’re attractive enough to have sex with even without commitment, or just for the sake of having sex. A woman saying that you’re husband material, but not hookup material is a backhanded compliment because she’s essentially saying that you’re not attractive enough to have sex with without the promise of commitment.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 04:31 PM
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Some people were born to suffer
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 03:01 PM
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Some things should be kept to yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 02:54 PM
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<image> Crazy
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 02:35 PM
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<image>
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 01:50 PM
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<image> Ouch 😬
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 12:21 AM
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Orbiters are pathetic
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/25 12:05 AM
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Not my business.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/25 02:16 PM
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I’m not one of them. I don’t tell women to date men that they aren’t attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/25 04:35 PM
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Who is asking women to date men that they aren’t attracted to?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/25 04:28 PM
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Beta bucks deluxe
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/25 03:15 PM
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<image> Brutal shit. Idk why a man would be okay with this https://np.reddit.com/r/Marriage/s/2EZ8pEGDHZ
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/25 03:00 PM
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Possibly if one was that desperate for companionship
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/25 06:09 PM
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I actually agree with the idea of privilege as it pertains to different people. Men aren’t a monolith.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/25 06:01 PM
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There’s men who can’t get a gf at all
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/25 05:47 PM
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It’s always been hard for me as a man to sympathize with women’s dating issues. It would be like expecting a low-income person to sympathize with a rich person complaining about the problems of having a lot of money.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/25 05:20 PM
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<image> Alpha widow is very real.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 06:41 PM
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<image> Stuff like this makes me wonder how many men are in relationships like this
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 04:09 PM
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If she had just called him husband/marriage material and said nothing else, there may have not been an issue. Leading it with “I wouldn’t hookup or FWB with you” makes it sounds like he isn’t attractive enough for her to have sex with just for fun. It may not be intended as an insult but it would be taken as very insulting to most men.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 03:13 PM
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<image> Damn 😬
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 03:09 PM
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It’s not being upset that she wants a relationship with him. It’s the “I wouldn’t hookup or be FWB” with you, with the implication that he isn’t attractive enough to have sex with just for the sake of having sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 02:52 PM
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<image> Yikes.. AF/BB is real
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 02:44 PM
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He had every right to be offended. Many women admit that they have lower physical standards for hookups than relationships. I think ability to hookup is a better metric of attractiveness for men than ability to get into a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 02:38 PM
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These men all have money but they are all unattractive as f*ck if you ask me. Jeremy Meeks went viral for his looks. And women pay Chris Brown to take pics with him. The other guys maybe unattractive but those two are definitely found attractive by women outside of the money.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 08:00 PM
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In it a woman marries the man she lost her virginity to with both of them knowing full well the sex situation is far from ideal, and the woman routinely fantasizes about other men during both sex and masturbation. Does this fit your priors about how AFBB/deadbedroom/marriage trap situations usually go? Do you think it's an exception? I think this is an exception.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 07:51 PM
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Okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 04:31 PM
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<image> AF/BB is real
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 04:03 PM
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<image> Being a woman’s best sexual experience is important
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 02:42 PM
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I linked the comment in another reply. It seems like a woman wrote it to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 07:45 PM
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<image> Brutal dickpill
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 05:58 PM
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Eh maybe
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 04:29 PM
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Pleasant people are often attractive and unpleasant people are often unattractive Hmm 🤔 I wonder if this has anything to do with the halo effect, and how being attractive will lead to people being nicer to you and receiving more compliments and positive reinforcement, leading to being a more pleasant person. Actually nah, it’s gotta be their personality /s.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 03:44 PM
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<image> Yikes
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 02:33 PM
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Men for the most part are expected to make the first move, plan and pay for the first date, and escalate. Oh yeah, and take a lot of rejections in the process.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 07:48 PM
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My grandma fell for one where she got an email saying that her PayPal password needed to be reset, and that they needed her SSN in order to reset it
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 07:20 PM
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It’s insane how much more proactive the average man has to be than the average woman in terms of dating
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 07:18 PM
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I personally think that the best type of relationship to get into as a man is one that started off with a hookup that graduated into a relationship. That way, you can be sure that she saw you as hookup material first.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 02:53 PM
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I advocate for the former but not the latter.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 06:06 PM
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How is her tweet any different than “I’m single because I’m a nice guy and women want assholes”?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 05:31 PM
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<image> If he looked like this, he’d get no female attention. Regardless of how feminist he was
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 05:26 PM
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I couldn’t date a woman who was still friends with an ex or really any guy that she previously had sex with for that matter
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 03:44 PM
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I’ve had gay men approach me before. I’ve never had a woman do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 02:44 PM
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If I was married to her and I saw this, I’d be incensed
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 02:19 PM
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<image> Yikes
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 02:07 PM
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He sounds like a gay best friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 04:44 PM
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<image> AF/BB is real
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 04:20 PM
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https://youtu.be/5MA0Vk03MUg?si=KJwec8mADLX4RAyP This video called “8 signs that you’re a highly attractive man” popped up in my feed and I can’t relate to any of the signs 😐 FML
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 07:17 PM
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I once matched with a girl on a dating app and later found out that she had her previous relationship anniversary tattooed in Roman numerals on her arm. I didn’t take her seriously, but it makes me wonder how someone could do such a thing for a boyfriend. I could understand if you were married, but not for any old relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 07:07 PM
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A woman fucking a guy without any promise of commitment is a true sign that she’s attracted to him. Notice how the woman in the comment describes the previous guys as “hotties”, but says nothing about her attraction level to her current man. The proof is in the pudding.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 06:10 PM
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Q4M: What’s the best way to avoid being in an AF/BB situation?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 04:25 PM
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<image>
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 02:13 PM
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<image> AF/BB is real
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 12:14 PM
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BP’ers be like “But.. but.. he won in the end. AF/BB is a myth!”
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 11:51 AM
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Are the 24 upvotes rage bait too?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 03:13 PM
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Or it’s just someone confirming AF/BB
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 03:02 PM
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<image> https://np.reddit.com/r/Bumble/s/PtlB41YlQ2 AF/BB is real.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 02:43 PM
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Is this even possible? This seems like one of those things where you either are or aren’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 08:42 PM
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<image> AF/BB
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 08:07 PM
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<image> AF/BB is real
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 02:57 PM
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If you say so.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/25 08:17 PM
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<image> AF/BB is real
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/25 08:00 PM
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<image> AF/BB is real
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/25 12:21 PM
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<image> BP dating advice be like:
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 06:43 PM
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I don’t expect random women to treat me that way, but if I’m in a relationship with someone then I definitely expect their best. I shouldn’t get less sexual desire, compliments, or overall treatment in general than she gave some other dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 07:28 PM
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Q4A: Have you ever been a victim of a violent crime? I’ve been robbed at gunpoint before.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 04:08 PM
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Same. And I could actually use the extra cash
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 02:53 PM
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That’s insane to me. I understand that everyone has their kinks, but paying a supposed woman to rate your penis is wild
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 02:50 PM
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I just found out that there are dudes out there who are literally willing to pay a woman for him to send her a picture of his penis and for her to rate it. If you’re an attractive woman, there is no excuse to be broke
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 02:37 PM
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<image> The irony when women also make fun of men’s height and penis size on a regular basis 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 01:35 PM
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That video was gruesome af
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 08:07 PM
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<image> Q4M: You stumble upon your wife’s Reddit account and find this comment. How do you react?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 02:07 PM
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No, I don’t know what they look like. But if a person’s life experiences has confirmed to them that they aren’t attractive, I’m going to take them at their word.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 08:19 PM
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Personality does play a role, I’m not denying that. But if someone says that they’re struggling with dating because they’re short and ugly for example, why lie and pretend that it’s likely their personality holding them back?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 08:15 PM
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Because one won’t even get to showcase their personality unless they meet someone’s looks threshold already. Not to mention the many studies we have about how things like height and attractiveness affect the way that people are perceived.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 08:11 PM
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No, a quick search will find many threads with guys complaining about struggling because of their looks, and you’ll find comments like these that try to tell them it’s actually their “personality” or some nonsense like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 08:05 PM
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<image> Here’s another one for good measure.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 07:52 PM
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https://youtu.be/HhluOFgcyME?si=BHAYzCNBiiEP_dCA This guy has 40 kids by multiple women. Does anyone really have an excuse?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 06:49 PM
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I know a ton of them. A lot of the girls I went to school with ended up becoming single mothers. Most of the kids I grew up with had single mothers. My own mother is a single mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 04:58 PM
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dating single moms is the easiest way I’ve seen men get girls out of their physical league. Yeah, because she wants help, not because of genuine desire.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 04:43 PM
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<image>
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 04:15 PM
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If I had kids? Maybe. But as a childless man, the cons seem to severely outweigh the pros
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 04:06 PM
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Why do you care what I do with my time? Why do you care if people post “bait” or not?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 04:04 PM
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You don’t have anything better to do than be the bait police of this subreddit?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 04:01 PM
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So it’s bait, yet you took time to reply and acknowledge my comment, instead of ignoring it 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 03:58 PM
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No one. I’m just stating my opinion
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 03:54 PM
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Who said I expected to be praised? I can’t state an opinion now?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 03:52 PM
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I would rather mop the ocean than date a single mother
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 03:47 PM
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No.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 06:40 PM
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What do you mean how haven’t I? I’ve heard women joke about height and small penises before online and in real life and I’ve never seen a woman offer any push back. If anything they agree and laugh along with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 06:09 PM
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Because a lot of times, the implication is that being short or having a small penis makes someone less of a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 03:45 PM
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I’m not saying that they don’t. I’m saying that I’ve never witnessed it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 03:44 PM
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It’s not just body shaming, it’s sexism.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 03:40 PM
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I don’t see it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 03:34 PM
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I didn’t say anything about having a preference, not sure where you got that from. What I said was sexist is the shaming of men for having those characteristics.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 03:27 PM
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Do women hold other women accountable for sexist things like height and small penis shaming? I see no reason why I have to police men for making sexist jokes if women don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 03:13 PM
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If you have to do more to get the same result then she isn’t as attracted to you, point blank period.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 03:50 AM
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Well good luck. The fact remains that there is no way to tell unless a person is honest about it, just like there’s no way to definitively tell if a woman is high N unless she’s forthcoming about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 06:55 PM
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A man with good character couldn’t have paid for sex in the past?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 05:33 PM
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So I wouldn't put myself in a position to be dating a low quality man who pays for sex workers. How could you possibly know unless he told you?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 05:24 PM
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Sure. But if I ask and he either refuses to answer or gives an answer I think is a lie, I'm gone. Do you believe that it’s equally wrong for a woman to lie about her N count if a man asks?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 03:07 PM
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If you believe that you don’t have to disclose previous sexual encounters to your partner, do you also extend this to men who have used prostitutes in the past?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 03:00 PM
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https://np.reddit.com/r/relationships/s/Cd6fcTISie
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 11:43 AM
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<image> I just love when people unintentionally confirm AF/BB theory.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 11:00 AM
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I don’t think it makes sense for either gender to do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 03:33 PM
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I respect men who can “step up” and raise another man’s child.. couldn’t be me though
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 03:32 PM
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I think this is right answer 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 03:27 PM
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I’ll never understand childless men who date single mothers
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 02:39 PM
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I think it needed to be said.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 11:35 PM
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Are you sure you’re reading the right post? I never said that high N women couldn’t get dates. I didn’t even say that I had an N count preference. I only said that men are entitled to their preferences. Unless you disagree?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 11:27 PM
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Idk, but my point still stands.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 11:21 PM
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I don’t disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 08:20 PM
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The reasoning why a man cares about body count is irrelevant to the fact that’s he’s entitled to hold that preference. You don’t seem to disagree with me, so what’s the issue here?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 07:49 PM
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Those two points that you made aren’t in contradiction with my two points.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 07:47 PM
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That’s fine. You’re entitled to that dealbreaker. Just as a high body count is a valid deal breaker for men to have.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 07:47 PM
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“You can’t fire me because I quit” energy 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 07:41 PM
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Q4M: How do you make sexual interest known to a woman without coming across as a creep?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 07:16 PM
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Just a reminder to women who are offended by men having N-Count preferences: You’re not entitled to a date. Men are entitled to have whatever dating preferences that they wish.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 06:52 PM
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<image> DC4L 🤠
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 01:28 PM
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Is the patriarchy in the room with us right now?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 10:54 PM
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A woman in her mid 30's and up without any kids is sus How?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 10:51 PM
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https://np.reddit.com/r/AskMenAdvice/s/lsat78sJCu Q4M: What are you doing if a woman that rejected you reached back out to you years later after she had become a single mother?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 10:34 PM
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You said yourself that they’re “self-destructing” their own dating pool, so if that’s the case then why not just let them be? There’s women who only want guys that are 6 feet and above which is a very small part of the population, but I’m not going to argue with them about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 02:38 PM
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Insulting a man for merely expressing his preference sounds insecure/triggered to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 02:15 PM
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I didn’t say that women don’t approach. I’m saying that there are women out there who refuse to approach men, yet want to be approached by men. Is that hypocrisy?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 01:42 PM
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It’s hypocritical for a woman to expect men to approach her while being unwilling to approach men, but you seem to have no issue with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 05:59 AM
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The low n count preference, possibly a preference caused by male biology, is rejected by logic. If you have a high n count as a guy, then you’re part of the reason these women have a high n count. It’s hypocritical to prefer the opposite trait in others that you yourself repeatedly chose to have. I can agree that the preference is hypocritical in nature, but I know plenty of women who want a tall man despite being short, or want a man who is confident despite them being insecure, or want a man w…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 08:12 PM
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If having a preference for a trait in others that you yourself don’t have makes you a hypocrite, are women en masse hypocrites for preferring that a man approaches them while being unwilling to approach a man?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 07:49 PM
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Why is a man who is high N or who pursues casual sex while also wanting a woman who is low N seen as this giant hypocrite when women have a lot of preferences for men that have traits that they themselves don’t have? 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 07:38 PM
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I don’t think we’re ever going to come to a point in society where the average man is being asked out as much as the average woman is. It sucks but it is what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 07:26 PM
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We’re in agreement here, men are definitely expected to ask women out by default. But asking someone out then expecting them to split the bill is just bad practice IMO. If a woman asked a man out and expected him to cover the bill, I’d say the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 07:07 PM
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Tbh I have to side with the women here. I think whoever asks the other person out should be prepared to pay. He asked her out.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 06:55 PM
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There is literally nothing wrong with a man preferring a woman with a low N-Count. If a man wanting a low N-Count partner triggers you, you may just be insecure.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 06:53 PM
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Q4M: What’s your absolute, non-negotiable deal breaker? Mine is kids. A woman could be a 10/10 supermodel and that still wouldn’t be enough for me to play step daddy.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 05:51 PM
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I think “responsive desire” is a cop out. Do you think she’d have “responsive desire” with her celebrity crush? 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 04:45 PM
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Why not?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 05:50 PM
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Why not if it makes him feel confident?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 05:48 PM
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Q4W: Would you date a man who wore a hair system due to his insecurity about balding?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 05:41 PM
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Why would it be an ego boost if it’s not something she wants? Why are you assuming that she doesn’t want it?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 05:29 PM
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You’re assuming that they all get approached at the same frequency. A woman who gets approached every time that she goes out will probably be desensitized to it, but a woman who gets approached once every few months might see it as an ego boost when it does happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 05:25 PM
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Women at all levels of attractiveness get approached, it’s not like it’s exclusive to hot women.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 05:21 PM
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What’s your point?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 05:16 PM
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I mean, I understand it from the perspective of giving her sons the best chance of success. But that would suck to read from the perspective of her bf.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 04:47 PM
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She was sure to “secure the genes” from the tall one. That says it all.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 04:45 PM
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At least with matches, you know the other party swiped right on you so you know that they’re interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 04:44 PM
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<image> Brutal shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 04:35 PM
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I’ve been fortunate enough in my life to where all the relationships I’ve been in have resulted from matching with women on dating apps. I’ve never had to approach a woman IRL to get a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 04:16 PM
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I’ve never approached a woman before in my life and I don’t think I ever will. It’s almost a guaranteed rejection and a free ego boost for the woman at my expense. I’ll pass.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 04:08 PM
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Wait, why is it weird?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 03:53 PM
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It’s not about being a celebrity. That comment in the screenshot didn’t seem to be implying that “Mr. Panty Dropper” had to be a celebrity. It’s about attraction. I don’t even think most women would be happy their partner told them “I used to chase sexy women, but they all hurt me so I deprioritized attraction to be with you”.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 12:05 AM
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She got her heart broken by the guys that she’s most attracted to, she compromised on physical attraction, and found someone. Good for her. I just wouldn’t want to be on the receiving end of being settled for.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 07:07 PM
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Most men don’t want to be with someone who sees them as a downgrade in terms of attraction compared to previous partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 06:20 PM
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Why isn’t he a “Mr. Panty Dropper” as well?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 04:22 PM
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“I used to go for guys that I was highly attracted to, but I comprised on physical attraction in order to be with you” isn’t the compliment that you think it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 04:20 PM
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<image> Brutal
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 04:04 PM
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<image> Q4W: Would you give this guy a chance?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 03:04 PM
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She could download tinder and get more validation than most straight men ever would.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 02:47 PM
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Brutal. I think all men should get DNA tests, even in secret if they have to.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 02:18 PM
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The "woman's behavior" isn't excusable, but is it really the kid's fault? This could be interpreted from an adoptive parent pov, can you really just drop someone you considered your child and you their father for years just like that? It’s not the kid’s fault, but it’s not the man’s fault either. If he decides that it’s better for his own mental health to separate himself, I’m not going to fault him. Any vitriol should be directed at the person who engineered this situation, not the victim.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 02:15 PM
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Men take care of other men’s kids all the time. That’s how a man should be. You can’t get over your pride and continue to love this little girl who doesn’t deserve what you are doing to her. Also you’re possibly setting her up for failure in her dating life and what she looks for in a man when she’s older. I hope she finds a real man and nothing like you. https://np.reddit.com/r/TwoHotTakes/s/F3hfg1FX0d 🤦‍♂️ “Just accept being cucked, bro!”
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 02:09 PM
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His wife didn’t abandon that poor girl. His wife is responsible for cheating. He is responsible for abandoning and destroying an innocent child. https://np.reddit.com/r/TwoHotTakes/s/PCSNRnkVIv It’s amazing to me that some people will go to extreme lengths to excuse a woman’s bad behavior. To imply that a man leaving a situation where he finds out that he was deceived into raising a kid that’s not his is worse than the person who orchestrated the situation is insane on so many levels.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 02:04 PM
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Q4M: Has a woman ever been visibly flustered while talking to you? (Stuttering, not making eye contact, blushing)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 06:26 PM
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Me either.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 05:27 PM
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Q4M: Have you ever caught a woman staring at you before?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 05:11 PM
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Some guys say that they get more female attention when they’re in a relationship vs. single but I’ve never experienced this when I was in relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 03:58 PM
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I’ve never asked women to do that, and I disagree with anyone who thinks that they should.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 02:57 PM
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I’ll believe that it isn’t his appearance if you can show me an unattractive male celebrity under 6 feet that women are paying to take pictures with 🤷🏽‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 05:14 AM
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I’m just speaking for myself, but I have no problem with women going for who they find attractive. In fact, I’d rather have a woman go for a man that she’s genuinely attracted to vs. one that she isn’t. I’m just saying to stop the lies about “personality” being the reason why a man is single if he’s complaining about the lack of female attention that he gets. If a man isn’t getting much attention from women, it’s not his “personality”, it’s his looks, point blank period.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 04:46 AM
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No because men aren’t a monolith.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 04:21 AM
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A lot of women admit that they compromise physical attraction for other qualities when it comes to LTRs.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 04:18 AM
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It’s a mix of looks and status.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 04:16 AM
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I think it’s more of a response to “it’s not your looks, it’s your personality”. If personality mattered more than looks, attractive men with bad personalities wouldn’t get much attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 04:04 AM
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When people say “it’s not your looks, it’s your personality”, remember that there are women out there who will pay Chris Brown over $1,000 to take a picture.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 04:00 AM
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easier for women, and attractive people in general. This is true for dating in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/25 08:06 PM
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Thanks for the advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/25 08:05 PM
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Is it possible for someone with autism and social anxiety to become charismatic?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/25 07:28 PM
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I once slept with a woman on the first date after we split the bill for the outing. If she’s attracted to you, you won’t have to lead with your wallet.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 05:53 PM
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What’s amusing to me is that there are a couple of “male” users here who will spend literally HOURS going back and forth with other guys, but will never push back against anything a female user says, no matter what they say.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 03:35 PM
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If a woman is physically attracted to you, you don’t have to lead with your wallet, your personality, or be a dancing jester
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 02:52 PM
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https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT6VkPe8E/ This woman is 1,000% right. If a woman isn’t extremely physically attracted to you, the relationship isn’t worth it.. point blank period.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 01:31 PM
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“It’s not your (insert immutable characteristic), it’s your personality” is a lazy copout response to avoid the fact that certain things outside of your control will limit your dating prospects through no fault of your own.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 12:21 AM
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The amount of people who claim to be against body shaming, but use phrases like “small dick energy” or “Napoleon complex” astounds me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 07:49 PM
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I don’t understand that mentality. An ugly woman could approach me and even if I ultimately end up rejecting her, I’d still be flattered.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 06:02 PM
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A female friend once told me that she gets sad when unattractive guys approach her because it makes her question her own attractiveness. Men and women really date on two different playing fields 😐
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 05:45 PM
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Is it possible to be an attractive guy who struggles to get matches on dating apps?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 03:59 PM
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A woman coming up to you and introducing herself or asking for your name or number. I guess DM’ing first on social media counts as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 02:53 PM
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Is it fair to say that a man who has never been approached by woman before is just not attractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 02:22 PM
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Tbh I don’t know how anyone could deny this.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 01:50 PM
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<image> I would hope that anyone that I get in a relationship wouldn’t feel like they’re compromising on attraction to be with me. Stuff like this reinforces why hookup material is such a big compliment to dudes
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 01:10 PM
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Q4A: What percentage of partnered or married people do you think would cheat with their celebrity crush if the opportunity presented itself?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 02:16 PM
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High functioning autism is considered a sheltered middle class problem while violent criminals and the women who hang around them tend to come from a very different set of circumstances. I have it and I grew up in a poor neighborhood in one of the poorest big cities in the US.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 07:08 PM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 06:32 PM
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I think there is merit to the claim that being autistic as a male is more of a turnoff to women than being a violent criminal is.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 06:28 PM
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I would too if it wasn’t for the fact that it seems at least somewhat common for women to admit that they’re more willing to compromise on looks for a husband than a casual fling.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 06:24 PM
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Invisible is the average man’s default setting 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 02:21 PM
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<image> plays the world’s smallest violin 🥺
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 02:07 PM
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Q4A: Is it insecure for a man to want a partner to feel like you’re the most attractive man that she’s been with? Not seen but been with.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 03:45 PM
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I don’t understand people who decide to stay in a relationship after infidelity. Doesn’t it get awkward if you’re both watching a movie or show and a scene comes on where a person is cheating?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 02:03 PM
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I don’t care what the amount is 🤣 unless you’ve polled all lonely men, what basis do you have to say that lonely men en masse are demanding that women who aren’t attracted to them date them?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 01:34 AM
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Yet lonely men are demanding women do that for them. All lonely men are demanding that women who aren’t attracted to them date them?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 01:27 AM
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Man gets rejected by women: “You have no right to be upset, you’re not entitled to a date.” Woman gets rejected by men: “Those loser men don’t deserve you anyway, Queen!” https://x.com/FearedBuck/status/1955635262169723144
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 01:22 AM
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So just because a person is lonely, they should be willing to accept anyone? Even if they aren’t attracted to them?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 01:17 AM
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Wait a minute.. what happened to no one being entitled to a date? 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 07:47 PM
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Making and holding eye contact is extremely difficult for me as well 😬
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 06:26 PM
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If only mild ASD was curable 🫤
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 06:06 PM
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Those are your words, not mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 01:41 AM
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I have been approached by men before and I rejected their advances because I’m straight. What’s your point?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 01:31 AM
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i used to get approached constantly
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 01:12 AM
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It’s a mindfuck to me to see posts where women complain about never being approached by men and how it makes them insecure. I’m like, dude, if you were an average guy you’d probably want to unalive yourself 🤨
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 01:07 AM
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“Being rich is overrated”
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 04:58 PM
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Nice dodge. I can’t believe you’re actually equating free, willful validation/attention to having to pay for attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 04:22 PM
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So all the likes are guys pretending to like the woman in order to get laid? None of them genuinely think that she’s attractive? None of them want a relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 04:17 PM
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Yeah, thought so. I don’t think downloading an app and getting free validation is the same as paying some woman to pretend to like you for a few minutes. Just saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 04:13 PM
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There’s a free cam girl app where single men can talk to hot, horny women from around the world? Where?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 04:10 PM
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Exactly!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 03:53 PM
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Meaningless to you. That’s my point.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 03:50 PM
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You’re denying that most women can download Tinder and get a ton of likes?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 03:48 PM
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Umm.. where did I claim to?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 03:45 PM
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Validation is meaningless plus some of us don’t like dating apps You can’t speak for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 03:44 PM
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When people talk about how women are happier single than men are, do they discount the fact that most women can download a dating app and have instant validation?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 03:40 PM
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No it isn’t. I never said a woman has to think that I’m the most handsome guy that she has ever seen.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 03:20 AM
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I wouldn’t marry a woman who I didn’t think was the best looking woman that I’ve been involved with.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 10:38 PM
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No, but that’s irrelevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 10:37 PM
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No.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 09:21 PM
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Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 09:21 PM
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I want girls to be as attracted to me as they are to Chad? I want them to be as freaky with me as they are in bed with chad? Why would you want these things when she isn't as turned on with you as when she is with chad? That’s fine. But I don’t want a woman who feel like she’s settling in terms of attraction or feels like she was more attracted to past guys than she is to me. Call me insecure, but that’s my standard.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 04:26 PM
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Hot and exciting can mean different things to different people. I want to be a woman’s “hot and exciting”, as well as “stable and reliable”. I don’t want someone to compromise on attraction and excitement in favor of stability.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 06:33 PM
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Yeah but the problem is the way that she describes her former type vs. her current type.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 06:29 PM
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https://np.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/s/u80gD7m7Lt I can absolutely relate to your fiancee. When I was young, I was all about excitement. After having children and growing up a bit, my priorities shifted. I didn't want the hot guy on a Harley, who lived life in the fast lane. I wanted solid, stable, reliable, dependable, responsible. All the things I thought were "boring" in my younger days. Those things are not boring. Not at all. It could be you absolutely misunderstood what she was sayi…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 06:09 PM
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I don’t see how it’s “nothing”. Everyone has things that they feel are important to them. I just want to find a partner who finds me physically attractive first and foremost.
/r/ExRedPill05/08/25 10:28 PM
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I think I’m being misunderstood here. I’m not saying that being seen as safe or dependable is bad. I’m saying that compromising on attractiveness in favor of those things is what I find bad. Like for example, if someone were to say “When I was younger, I prioritized looks and fun, but now I look for stability and dependability”. If a woman was equally as physically attracted to me as she was feeling that I was safe and stable, I’d have no issue.
/r/ExRedPill05/08/25 07:54 PM
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This is my whole point. If a woman can say “I used to prioritize attraction and excitement before you” then she’s basically saying that she compromised on those things to be with you. I can’t see how that’s not an insult.
/r/ExRedPill05/08/25 04:58 AM
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You know, I have never considered that perspective before. You make an interesting point. Although it is painful to think about what I missed out on, dwelling on the past doesn’t help. Maybe I’m looking at this all wrong.
/r/ExRedPill04/08/25 04:08 AM
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I don’t know for sure but I hope I don’t and I want to avoid it. But you can’t read someone’s mind, so it’s almost impossible to know. That’s the part that frightens me.
/r/ExRedPill03/08/25 10:55 PM
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I’m just not understanding how wanting a partner to be very physically attracted to you is wrong.
/r/ExRedPill03/08/25 10:54 PM
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You can still protect yourself and try to not end up in those marriages Can you elaborate?
/r/ExRedPill03/08/25 07:22 PM
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You’re entitled to your opinion. I don’t think I’m willfully misunderstanding the comment. She described the previous guys as hot and exciting, and the ones that she goes for now with words like “dependable” and “stable”. To me, that implies that there’s less of an emphasis on attraction and excitement and more of an emphasis on being stable. And that’s fine if that works for her. But for me, I don’t want to be with someone who wouldn’t have gone for guys like me until they “matured”. It’s just …
/r/ExRedPill03/08/25 07:09 PM
5

That’s not a bad idea. I do want to get into playing musical instruments.
/r/ExRedPill03/08/25 07:03 PM
3

I’m not doubting that a woman could be physically attracted to me. There are billions out there, plus I have dated before. But I’m aware of the fact that some people will compromise on things like sparks, attraction, and excitement in favor of stability and reliability, and I’m not interested in such a relationship.
/r/ExRedPill03/08/25 07:02 PM
2

The fact that she describes her previous type as hot and exciting, without offering the same type of description for the present type. Also, the fact that she wouldn’t give “boring” guys a chance until after she had a child.
/r/ExRedPill03/08/25 07:01 PM
5

you gotta grieve your youth and move on. Yeah, it sucked and other kids were having more fun than you. That's true, it happened, and it's never going to change, because it's over and done with. You have to make choices based on the current situation. What do you want out of life right now, going forward? My goal is to live a fulfilling and fun life and live as comfortably as possible. I know that my youth is past and gone, but it’s hard to get over the fact that I missed out on a lot of that stu…
/r/ExRedPill03/08/25 06:59 PM
2

I never implied that it was women’s fault.
/r/ExRedPill03/08/25 01:47 PM
2

I started working out in the beginning of the year and have dropped almost 40 pounds since. I’m in the process of updating my wardrobe since I’m getting smaller and I’ve always done skin care and maintained my hygiene. Outside of plastic surgery, I don’t know what else can be done physically. I think you’re kind of strawmanning me here. I never said that I want to inspire primal lust in every single woman that encounter, that’s not even possible. However, as I said before, I don’t want to be wit…
/r/ExRedPill03/08/25 03:40 AM
3

I want to be desired physically before anything else. That’s just my personal preference.
/r/ExRedPill03/08/25 02:54 AM
4

I do fun activities when I can. The industry that I work in has me working on call most days. I don’t have a ton of free time.
/r/ExRedPill03/08/25 02:52 AM
6

Yes I would be attracted. But I’m not saying that I have to be perfect, or expect my SO to think I’m the most objectively attractive person that she has ever seen. I just don’t want her to feel like she’s settling when it comes to attraction. I wouldn’t be with a woman who I didn’t feel physically attracted to.
/r/ExRedPill03/08/25 02:45 AM
5

No, I want a woman who’s attracted to me physically and doesn’t feels like she is settling or compromising.
/r/ExRedPill03/08/25 02:34 AM
2

I’m not saying that women don’t value those things. Like I said in other comments, I would want a woman to be equally as attracted to me for my looks as she is for the stability or reliability. I don’t want someone who feels as though they’re compromising on attraction in favor of stability.
/r/ExRedPill02/08/25 10:17 PM
4

That’s not entirely true. I’ve known many handsome/“pretty boys” throughout my life, and I’ve seen the difference between how they’re treated vs. normal guys. I’m not just some guy who sits online all day. I work, I travel, and I go out sometimes. Even if it was the case that most women (I don’t really believe this but okay) like guys for their qualities and not their looks, that’s not what I want. I actually want a woman to be attracted to me first before the other stuff. I don’t want to be wit…
/r/ExRedPill02/08/25 10:04 PM
6

I’m not sure. That’s why I’m paranoid about this. I’ve never received much attention from women in my life.
/r/ExRedPill02/08/25 10:01 PM
-1

Again, I’m not saying that a woman feeling secure with me is a bad thing. If a woman thought I was equally as exciting and sexy as I was stable and reliable, then I’d have no problem. What I find concerning is when someone compromises on attraction in favor of stability or security, or thinks their current SO is less attractive than their “old type”.
/r/ExRedPill02/08/25 09:57 PM
-2

Some women had enough shit in their childhood that from the get go in their dating life they want stability, hot guys equals drama to them. This doesn’t really help. You’re kind of implying that the stable guys aren’t hot.
/r/ExRedPill02/08/25 09:13 PM
3

I understand that recklessness can lead to some terrible consequences, but it does suck that I missed out on a lot of the youthful, carefree fun that a lot of others got to have when they were younger. I do fun things when I can (travel, go to events, stuff like that) but I have real responsibilities now (like mortgage, car payment, bills) so it feels like I can’t have care-free fun anymore.
/r/ExRedPill02/08/25 08:46 PM
0

I’m not trying to generalize and I don’t think that all women like the same things or have the same thinking patterns. Some women like “bad boys” or toxic guys and some don’t. But my concern is someone who feels like they have to compromise on attraction in order to be with me in favor of stability and reliability.
/r/ExRedPill02/08/25 08:40 PM
3

But if you're looking for the love of your life, but it'd make you anxious that she finds you "reliable" or "secure", then you're effectively asking for the impossible. It’s not a woman finding me reliable or secure that I have a problem with. It’s having a partner that feels like they compromised on attraction and excitement in favor of stability. A woman thinking of me like “He’s not as attractive as the hot, toxic guys I used to get with but he’s stable and reliable” doesn’t make me feel good…
/r/ExRedPill02/08/25 08:36 PM
-3

I want attraction to be the primary reason why a woman is with me.
/r/ExRedPill02/08/25 07:25 PM
5

No. I’d rather be with a partner who refers to me with words like “sexy” and “exciting” vs. “stable” and “reliable”.
/r/ExRedPill02/08/25 07:13 PM
-8

I don’t think that’s true in all cases. But like the comment I linked, when certain guys are described with words like “hot” and “exciting”, and others are described as “dependable” and “reliable”, it seems like a downgrade in terms of attraction.
/r/ExRedPill02/08/25 06:02 PM
-5

No, but I also don’t want to be with someone who wouldn’t have looked at me twice when they were younger.
/r/ExRedPill02/08/25 05:52 PM
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