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Very reasonable take, I agree with pretty much all of that. Which is a first for me I believe with a TRP guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/25 11:09 AM
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In real life no one actually cares enough to even ask about someone’s sexual history.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 08:47 AM
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Conservatives judge everything, and that’s why nobody cares about your judging
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 08:30 AM
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They just look like women with a painted face
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 08:51 PM
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Going to the gym, using moisturizer and going to the barber are just icing on the cake, exactly like being kind and taking care of your hygiene. None of those are lies or bad advice, or enough by themselvws to get you on dates and have a healthy LTR. "Have a good personality" and "just hit the gym bro" are both equally good and equally insufficient advice to some awkward, shy virgin with no self confidence. Giving universally applicable, actionable advice that guarantees results is just impossib…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 06:48 AM
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Population decline is an amazing thing for our planet.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 08:31 PM
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Guys virtue signal here all the time, “as long as she is not fat” and “men find most women attractive”.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 05:00 PM
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Looks get everyone through the door. You are the one virtue signalling, as if you wouldn’t choose an attractive woman over an ugly one.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 06:10 AM
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You imagine that
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 06:29 PM
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And it always fails when the person faking to be impressive stops faking
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 05:54 PM
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Except none of them are actual feminist arguments and don't even argue preferential treatment.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 05:32 PM
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Shows I’ve watched lately: The Pacific, Last of Us, Yellowstone, Band of Brothers, Dune, Andor, House of Dragons. All pretty popular and highly rated afaik and contain a really varied assortment of characters of both genders. Haven’t noticed the theme you mention at all tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 02:12 PM
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Ugly, useless daughter of a billionaire to be specific
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 08:12 AM
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Africa is a continent bro
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 03:00 PM
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When someone is dumb enough to call Africa and South Asia communities, it’s easy to forgive them for not having a realistic view of the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 07:14 AM
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Americans worship assholes, it’s in their genes. Look at their president, a dumb, senile asshole and they think he is a gift from heaven.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 03:25 AM
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Sexual variety isn't about body types or hair colour :D it's about the person. Everyone is different in bed, and the experience with them is different.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 10:02 AM
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Or the other way around, or most commonly, because both want to.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 09:57 AM
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Lol no it isn’t 😂 sex drive is not even a scientifically measurable property. Not that facts would matter to a terper, you guys are way too deep in your gynocentric belief system to even understand reality anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 07:08 AM
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So why do they pursue sex with men who offer no money, commitment, comfort, children or validation simply because he is sexy?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 05:19 AM
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And men who have had a lot of sex also care more about the psychological side. I’ve become extremely selective long time ago. Guess this confirms your theory.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 05:15 AM
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You can just say that women don’t want to have sex with and you are throwing a tantrum over it, no need to come up with insane conspiracy theories in an effort to cover it up.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 04:30 AM
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Because the rest is also bullshit
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 04:26 AM
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Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 03:38 AM
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Why do you demand special treatment nobody gets in the dating world? If I don’t enjoy my first contact with a woman, she isn’t even getting a date. If I would be dumb enough to waste time on OLD and end up on a date with a person I don’t have chemistry with, am I obliged to go on two more dates with them?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 03:22 AM
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Other minorities aren’t owed dates either. Does this satisfy you?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 02:32 AM
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Everyone who looks great out there grooms. I’ve lived my life with attractive women, and none of them spent 20 hours a week or end of thousands into their grooming. My spouse spends 10-15 minutes before work to slap on very basic makeup to conform to office standards, and less than an hour before a night out. And yes we can see all those pitiful things women do to themselves, because those can’t hide the insecurity and vanity that caused them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 09:45 AM
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Lmao. Attractive women don’t need to spend 20 hours per week or tens of thousands annually to be attractive. They were born attractive. Vain, insecure average women do that in an effort to appear more attractive. Luckily they are easy to avoid.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 11:27 AM
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What is a bad boy in this context? Define the behaviour. What are the visible red flags? List them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 06:36 AM
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Yet not a single one has ever been made, published or linked here. Strange how you cultists still believe in them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 06:26 AM
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TRP focuses so hard on shitty women, because it was imagined by shitty men. Basically a manual on assholes for assholes, written by assholes. Unfortunately they are also so incredibly dumb that they think all people suck as much as they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 05:53 AM
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0% of it is even based in the reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 05:35 AM
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No, it’s not all of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 05:34 AM
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Do you mean Trump and Tate?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 05:32 AM
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It actually isn’t a curve. Nobody was discussing income, but education.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 05:19 PM
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Some of them are, just like men. Some are garbage, just like men. See for example the gynocentric permavictim whiners like OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 05:10 PM
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Yes, he is.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 05:04 PM
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Sometimes I wonder if anything deeper than looks even crosses your minds. My requirements from a partner are non-negotiable, no matter how attractive they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 01:02 PM
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This is like the mean, dumb children’s version of the truth concerning healthy adult relationships- people are together as long as they choose each other. You grow together as individuals and strive to be the best version of yourself, which leads to you being a good partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 12:47 PM
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What word? It’s hard to hear such tiny men, it’s like kids running around your feet. Maybe soon real men get tired of the bad behaviour of the short men and you will lose your civil rights. After all, they were given to you by real men who built the society.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 06:39 AM
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Perhaps the war will be between real men and short men. Short men can’t scratch a real man. I think short men are just digging their own graves at the moment.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 06:16 AM
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Lmao. You first claimed the study proves that hypergamy is a direct product of anisogamy, and then you imagine that the silverbacks don’t violently drive away every competing male from their females.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 12:41 AM
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That’s not something that is actually happening, so you don’t need to get your panties twisted about it. You would know this if you participated in the real world instead of letting your internet echo chamber mush your brain.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 10:45 PM
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Lmao 🤣 having standards for your spouse is now animal behaviour? And those aren’t even a dot on the list of factors causing the decline in birth rates.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 10:35 PM
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What are the women doing that is comparable to violence? What is effect in society?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 10:27 PM
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Exchanging your dignity willingly for pussy isn’t enslavement. There’s no abuse in that scenario, just stupid people.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 06:58 PM
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If there are guys like that, and women who do that, then I’d say they deserve each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 04:27 PM
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Cost of reproduction comes from the fact that women carry and give birth to offspring, not the size of gametes. Polygyny doesn’t prove hypergamy, just that at some point some men were able to prevent other men from procreating with the women they had secured. And the study offers another equally likely explanation, female dispersal. In short, the study you linked does not prove hypergamy exists. The language I used has no leftist undertones and was just quoted from the scientific study you linke…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 09:06 AM
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You just described how TRP men act, and why the majority of all men and women treat you like children.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 07:43 AM
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Very accurate description of TRP.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 07:24 AM
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The 80/20 bullshit is such a glaring example of choosing an irrelevant data source and intentionally cherrypicking and misunderstanding that faulty data and claiming that this disaster of a blog post applies scientifically to whole genders. One must be incredibly stupid to believe in it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 07:14 AM
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Everyone with the flair and everyone who defends and promotes is an actual RP man here.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 07:09 AM
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Most red pillers have never even touched a woman, and it teaches men to be terrible human beings, not just terrible partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 06:58 AM
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You don’t have any understanding about relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 06:39 AM
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Both have exactly equal power in all stages
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 06:38 AM
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This imaginary scenario doesn’t exist in my life
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 06:18 AM
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Lmao. Anisogamy just means that human sperm is physically smaller than eggs. And that study does not mention “hypergamy” either, as it’s a scientific study and thus can’t include bullshit internet incel terminology, and instead offers either polygyny or female dispersal as theoretical explanations for the higher number of female ancestors.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 05:37 AM
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Nobody is holding sex above your head. Do you understand how pathetic you sound when you admit that you can be bought with sex? Have some self respect.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 08:16 PM
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Lmao the fuck it is. Sex happens when people desire each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 08:11 PM
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Why don’t you take responsibility for yourself? Nobody gives a shit if you fail at the most basic human function, mating. It’s not women’s fault, not society’s or Chads fault. It’s you. You are the problem, so get off your ass and stop polluting the internet with your idiocy.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 04:21 PM
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Maybe you should too
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 04:19 PM
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Where did you get the idea that sex is a reward?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 04:19 PM
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All of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 03:00 PM
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It is human nature to resent people who treat you like shit, while it's just fucked up to resent people who have nothing to do with your life and were simply born different. Philosophy has not managed to reach any kind of conclusion on moral, this is just what moral people in general think. The reward system is fully internal, we do the right thing because not doing it would make us feel shit about ourselves. Yes, sexually as well. You won't have a healthy sexual relationship with a person who i…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 11:39 AM
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Well no, it certainly isn’t human nature to resent others for something they have no control over. I haven’t wronged you, you don’t suffer injustice from my actions. Deep down TRP guys know this, so they have to demonize us to justify the resentment. It’s an unhealthy and unhelpful coping method with only negative consequences to everyone. Moral character has never been rewarded, especially in a shallow, vapid anticulture like the USA. They worship greedy, selfish assholes, and they all strive t…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 10:32 AM
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You don’t understand that attractive men didn’t choose their looks either?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 08:20 AM
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Lmao data and study, you guys are incurable :D and observations from incels. It’s bullshit, that’s why it’s ridiculed, called out and debunked every time.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 07:51 AM
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Nope, you are trying to appeal to mass opinion to justify your own prejudice, and it won’t work.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/25 12:07 PM
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It’s absurd to think that both or either wouldn’t matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/25 11:31 AM
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Lol no, most men don’t have any specific opinions about “women”, and instead see and treat them as individual human beings. Some humans are assholes, untrustworthy, loyal, bad at communication and some are excellent. Generalisation based on gender is just naive.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/25 11:30 AM
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Most in your algorithm bubble are. You are still a minority
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/25 08:55 AM
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So why women don’t red pill most men? Why are you delusional misogynists only a tiny minority of men?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/25 08:53 AM
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No, not in my experience. Shallow, entitled people aren’t attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/25 06:27 AM
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It looks like hurting people by lying and cheating.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 06:39 AM
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Guess this is yet another cultural thing, or experience thing, I don't have sex with my friends but I like physical touch. Platonic cuddling is wonderful, I've always done it and don't give a shit about what you weirdos think of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 10:17 PM
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Most women aren't attractive at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 09:49 PM
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I will not allow anyone to harm or do injustice to people I love, people who are weak or defenseless, or people on my responsibility who rely on me. This is not a “job”, this is who I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 04:27 AM
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Greetings from the Nordics. We have high gender equality because we understand that we need everyone, and because of that, everyone deserves equal treatment.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 04:02 AM
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If that brings you happiness, by all means. I don’t see much benefit from that. I’d say well adjusted adults understand that every couple face their own particular problems, and imho if they can’t fix them together it is best to just divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 05:06 PM
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Well, that is indeed subjective. Sexual attraction is way more complex than conventionally hot looks, and it’s just not possible to judge what other people feel towards their partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 12:57 PM
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Everyone has. What do your eyes see?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 09:51 AM
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Ever considered that it’s not a privilege if everyone except a small fraction of men don’t need to prove anything? No, because you lack self-awareness.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 08:38 AM
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What is the point of pondering this? Every divorce is different, and probably both parties could have done something better. Honest, open communication is hard and something we need to learn as adults on our own.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 08:29 AM
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How would you know?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 07:46 AM
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https://stacks.cdc.gov/view/cdc/124625 And its men raping men
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 07:19 AM
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You come under the clueless ignorance group, we don’t have to prove anything
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 07:17 AM
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Everyone knows you are citing only that one, faulty study because no other study supports your ridiculous claims. https://stacks.cdc.gov/view/cdc/124625 That’s the latest version of the study. Men are nowhere near half of rape victims and that is a fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 07:10 AM
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Not one bit
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 07:00 AM
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Women don’t have the right to stare at me without paying either.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 08:50 PM
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I don’t want my kids to be raised by some sad loser.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 12:48 PM
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Following norms has no benefits, so I don’t give a shit about them.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 12:45 PM
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Yet even they are better at giving advice than sexually unsuccessful, bitter terminally online misogynists aka TRP.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 06:48 AM
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There is no such instinct. You and your kin invented that idea to avoid accountability.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 03:44 AM
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Refreshingly sane and based take for PPD. There are unfortunately so many people who have fallen victim to algorithm-fueled echo chambers, and are losing or already lost touch with reality. Manosphere and toxic “feminism” exist only because social media literacy doesn’t exist. Yet. Technology develops faster than culture, and genetic evolution is glacially too slow to keep up. A hunter-gatherer born into the era of smartphones is extremely vulnerable when cultural evolution also lags behind. We …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 03:08 AM
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I don’t see anyone not sympathising with the struggles here, one doesn’t need to have personal experience to understand that loneliness is shit, and that rejection hurts. I’m aware of my privilege. What I see is opposition to the delusional manosphere evopsych bullshit, misogyny and intentional misunderstanding of the opposite sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 10:12 PM
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This is my experience as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 09:56 PM
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True, we have endurance that only canines can match (barely). And no, our strongest men aren’t a match for even female gorillas, which can throw heavier objects than those guys can deadlift. And silverbacks are twice as strong as the females.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 12:59 PM
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Our biological bodies are weak and soft. Our brains gave us the ability to use tools and teach others how to use them, and co-operate so we can manifest situations where a pointy stick is useful.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 12:01 PM
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We don’t have any competing species. Homo sapiens dominates this planet not because of any male capacity for violence (we are weak, slow, soft, unarmed and have poor hearing and smelling compared to other apex predators), but because we can co-operate and pass knowledge both immediately and generationally which gives us absolutely supreme capacity to adapt.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 09:49 AM
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You need help, buddy
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 06:05 PM
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Feels like actual experience is rather more relevant than your imagination.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 11:41 PM
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I ma one of those guys and we do in fact explicitly state what’s on the table. No, we don’t treat women as sex toys (except those who want us to do that) so the talk for me these days goes something like this: “Im already in a committed open relationship and date others as well, and therefore only available for casual sex every now and then. How does this sound to you?” I don’t want to lead anyone on, I don’t want them to get too attached and don’t want them texting me every day. So it’s part ou…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 11:27 PM
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Well we Finns do like think we drink a lot, but we are actually below even the US in consumption per capita. We do have a part of the population that upholds our reputation, but vast majority don't drink all that much. Nobody drinks wine or beer with lunch, and not many drink those with everyday dinners like in many other European countries. And younger generations drink less and less every year, which is kind of cool... but I hope they still socialize as much as we did. Which might not be the c…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 09:02 PM
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Yep, it's unfortunately very rare especially in women under 30, guess it's the same for us men. Real confidence takes time to build as it requires self-awareness and actual basis in something.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 08:45 PM
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It's the most important thing for me. She knows who she is and values herself. True, grounded, secure confidence is not just extremely attractive to me, but I don't find women without it attractive at all. Tbh I'm not that interested in interacting even platonically with low confidence women in my social circles or workplace, there's no common ground for us to build on.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 08:40 PM
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Praised be ethical non-monogamy. It's literally having your cake and eating it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 08:33 PM
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100%.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 08:22 PM
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Women are saying that men (in general) lie about commitment to get sex, not just Chads. What you and others don't understand is that when you are a man who incites lust in women, you don't need to lie to get sex. You don't need to leave things undiscussed, you state what you can offer whether it's just sex or something more. You decide is she is going to get it or not, because sex is the first thing women want from you. There is no game, no deception because the her pussy is already tingling jus…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 08:17 PM
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Do you (like TRP) believe that all men experience and experience their sexuality in the same way? Or that women do? I don't think it's like that in the real world. Some are shy, some prude, some think sex is sacred while others have it with just about anyone, etc, variety is huge. So no, I don't think we can understand male or female sexuality, because they don't exist, sexuality is individual.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 07:55 PM
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Yeah, I agree about the attractive % of women, for me personally it's max 1 in 100 and usually more like 1 in 200, many physically/"objectively" attractive women simply don't have the confidence, charisma, sexual energy, style or personality that make me interested. And in your situation apps sound great, I'm lucky to have lived almost my whole life (I studied a year abroad) in the same capital area and I have three active, large and varied social circles. Most of my exposure tho is because I've…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 07:43 PM
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I don’t give a single shit about tiktoks, I’m interested in real opinions and not engagement/attention seeking content. I have never heard anyone say that in real life, I mean most people have bad experiences but nobody thinks relationships and hookups are trauma. Trauma is trauma.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 11:55 AM
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They don’t
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 07:24 AM
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Read the sub rules and edit your comment
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 07:03 AM
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That really depends on how you meet and what you value.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 07:00 AM
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Nice try, but it isn’t a concept in sociology either. It’s not biological or sociological because it doesn’t exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 06:41 AM
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And what did they say? “Hookups and relationships are trauma for women”? No, they didn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 06:40 AM
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It isn’t objective, and attraction is more than just looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 06:34 AM
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It’s not like we have ever ran out of options. I’ve always had more options than I have time for, so no apps for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 12:17 AM
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Yet somehow completely absent in the science of biology
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 11:50 PM
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All of them
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 11:33 PM
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Who was the last one who told you that?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 11:32 PM
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Lmao there is no need to envision when they collectively present themselves as incapable of critical thinking and nuance, and simply parrot whatever ridiculous bs they happened to watch or read in their tiny bubble.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 07:35 PM
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Wow, never met a man so devoid of both agency and accountability. No woman has ever dictated my sex life or dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 06:32 PM
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No, they don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 06:21 PM
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And that's why the factual version is that women approach men, they don't have any innate blocks to do so. Guess it sucks if they don't approach you, but it's not a gender issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 07:37 AM
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They look like kids
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 06:59 AM
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TRP men here show the least accountability of all humans, and are fully controlled by their emotions, not a trace of rational thinking.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 01:29 PM
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By definition
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 09:58 AM
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Lmao dude, you don’t have to shout that you are a virgin. Yeah our brains only release Endorphin, Norepinephrine, Serotonin, Oxytocin, Vasopressin, Nitric Oxide, and Prolactin.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 09:58 AM
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We are discussing evolved preferences. Those that make you want to fuck someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 09:54 AM
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And that is why we men like wide hips and boobs. Compare that to women preferring tall men, those are innate preferences. This aversion to women having sex isn’t one, it’s not even cultural, for many reasons. First, it’s not a property of a person. You can’t see it, you can’t sense it, it doesn’t affect fertility or your offspring, you can’t confirm it. There is no evolutionary aspect to a promiscuous past, so it is impossible for our species to evolve in reaction to it. Furthermore it’s a thing…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 09:51 AM
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Yet it isn’t innate. You’d like it to be so you can remain free of any accountability.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 01:40 PM
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It isn’t a fact so there is no erasure either.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 12:56 PM
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Wow what an imaginary world you have built there
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 10:36 AM
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He can just pick from the 9s for sexual variety.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 10:24 AM
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Guys who have to hogging to get a nut in aren’t attractive, just average.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 10:22 AM
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Why can’t you
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 10:06 AM
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That is a car. Is a woman a car?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 10:04 AM
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Just tell us why and how how you think sex is different to men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 10:04 AM
2

If she isn’t pregnant when you started dating, her past partners aren’t threatening your paternity. So that’s just pure insecurity and has nothing to do with biology. It’s not innate. Secure men don’t have this hangup.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 10:00 AM
1

Lol how exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 09:55 AM
3

Women can’t be either then
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 09:55 AM
5

You just described more insecurities you have. We get it, you have low self-esteem.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 09:45 AM
0

Men don’t care about purity. It’s not biological, and it has nothing to do with height.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 09:43 AM
1

I mean I’ve only seen “just don’t be fat” thrown out as a standard by actual incels here.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 09:20 AM
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And why
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 12:07 PM
1

There is no such survey. Just a blog post by an amateur.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 11:09 AM
0

Just like you guys, you think you speak for men
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 08:56 AM
1

There is no such evidence
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 08:46 AM
-1

No, women aren’t interchangeable. The fact that I can get someone else tonight doesn’t affect my motivation at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 09:44 AM
2

Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 09:41 AM
1

There are more undesirable assholes than desirable ones, and they are way louder.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 09:40 AM
1

First you talk about tuxedocity being sexy, then confuse it with toxicity?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 09:25 AM
0

Just ignoring the fact that the graph is not a randomly selected sample, and only deals with photos, you guys always leave out the graph that shows the men in OKCupid’s founders personal contact group only virtue signalled about who they find attractive. They only messaged the top 10% of women and ignored the rest. Humans do not find most other humans attractive. We all look for the best genes.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 09:23 AM
1

No, it doesn’t
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 09:17 AM
2

Lo no
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 08:57 AM
1

Women aren’t collectively saying anything. They aren’t a collective.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 08:53 AM
1

That sounds more like entitlement sets you off, and I agree with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 08:23 AM
2

All those things you also share with women, or any other human. As men, we don’t really have anything in common.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 08:22 AM
1

Common, like what?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 02:13 PM
1

So you come to this thread about invalidating experiences to invalidate experiences? I have never struggled one bit with dating. And of course it’s not just about personality, I can personally confirm how much looks matter to women. I simply exist, and women happen to me. It’s not my achievement nor my fault for winning in the gene lottery. What ticks me off here is the hatred towards men like me. TRP demonises us, blames us along society and women for their struggles. They want us to be asshole…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 02:08 PM
2

Do you feel resentment to everyone you see as more privileged than you?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 01:25 PM
2

That is a core failure of TRP. Women is not a concept, sex is the lowest common denominator for a very heterogeneous group of unique individuals. Just like men, you and I discuss here but that’s the only thing we have in common.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 01:22 PM
2

Men are not sad that women don’t date them. Some men are. Some women are also sad men don’t date them. This means that we are not discussing a men’s issue, we are discussing an issue that concerns a portion of men. The circumstances that lead to some men being sad aren’t their fault (in some cases that is possible though, like going RP is a choice), but it certainly isn’t women’s fault and they can’t help you.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 01:14 PM
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I can easily accept the experiences, mine are simply different than for most men. What I don’t accept are the conclusions about women.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 08:52 AM
0

Just like a cult, even a wrong message can reach vulnerable and gullible people.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 07:33 AM
3

I love the connection. The feeling that we can take each other out of this world into our private, blissful paradise. A state of trust and vulnerability not unlike love. This means that she needs to be secure in her sexuality and comfortable in her own skin, and tbh I find these qualities very easy to pick up on, even before talking with them. Also, women like this often approach directly.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 11:34 PM
4

Red pill has no clue about either gender
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 11:12 PM
6

She already explained it in the comment you replied to. Because you don’t have sex with looks, you have sex with a person.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 10:53 PM
2

As a man who likes casual sex, women don’t understand that either. You need to be more than a pretty face to get carried in my bedroom.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 10:51 PM
4

You never had sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 10:41 PM
1

That’s not what the banned word means.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 08:12 PM
2

I don’t any man who would fuck just anyone. I certainly don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 05:35 PM
1

Lol dude
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 05:34 PM
1

I'm not contemptuous of men, just red pillers. You are a tiny, misguided minority and don't represent men in any way.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 04:33 PM
2

No, I don't assume all women are wonderful or even interesting, I'm speaking from my POV. I have all the options without touching OLD, and to me 99% of those options are just something I use my energy on, to reject as gracefully as possible. It's just a chore, the real connections with someone I find attractive and compatible are so rare, the hundreds of other options mean nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 04:32 PM
2

There is no "red pill awareness". TRP is for the most part a stinking pile of bullshit, and the little trinkets of truth in that pile are extremely basic, common things that EVERYONE on this planet have always known. Except a small group of clueless american guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 04:17 PM
1

Using “ran through” already places you in a niche group of misogynistic idiots. And you definitely are insecure because of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 04:07 PM
1

You are exhausting, this forum is part of your little bubble of insecure men. Your opinion is minority, just deal with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 03:57 PM
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It isn’t a big topic outside your little bubble of insecure men. Most men don’t care, because it’s meaningless.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 03:53 PM
1

Yeah bs
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 03:52 PM
2

Unfortunately it’s just not that simple. You could have only two options, and one is a perfect match. And you could have 1000 options, and none of them a match.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 03:52 PM
1

Men aren't attracted to any larger number of women than women are to men. And they can't just fuck a Chad. Chad isn't attracted to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 03:34 PM
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Vast majority of women do not have thousands of men interested, and certainly not in them. You are talking OLD likes, most of which are men indiscriminately swiping on every woman without reading the profile, just looking to smash.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 03:32 PM
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Do you dimwits still fucking think that especially attractive men have time to waste on average women? Ever considered that we also have real lives to live- maintaining household, work, sports, hobbies, eating, sleeping. There's only a limited amount of hours to spend on women, why on earth would I spend them on some average Betty? If she is not absolutely exceptional, she can enjoy her vibrator for all I care. My time means a lot to me, and I prefer to spend it with women that make me dizzy wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 03:20 PM
1

No. We don't have sex with a sex, but individuals. Having to reject more of the options is not a virtue, it's a chore.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 03:09 PM
1

It doesn't actually matter. You either want someone or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 02:22 PM
1

Nobody agrees with such dumb statements dude
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 02:11 PM
2

Having options you don't give a shit about is not an advantage in any way.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 02:03 PM
1

That's exactly how it goes.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 01:47 PM
1

Most men don't give a flying fuck. I've had a vivid sex life since I turned 17, I expect any attractive, fun-loving, confident woman to have just as high body count as me, we don't live forever so why not enjoy life while it lasts.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 01:44 PM
1

lol dude
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 01:36 PM
0

No woman has ever expected for me to pay for their lifestyle.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 01:20 PM
1

How it would it change anything if you were a man like that?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 01:16 PM
2

I've known women all my life, starting with my younger sister and cousins, I had no naive delusions or thought "women are wonderful". You would need to grow up isolated from the opposite sex to feel an "awakening".
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 12:56 PM
1

I've never needed any coaching. And nobody needs coaching from clueless guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 12:53 PM
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That's not the default position of a young man. Red pillers are obviously naive chumps who think they have discovered some secret sauce after years of failing, but all the other men, the majority, never struggled in the first place because they have common sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 12:32 PM
1

Lol no, hotness is more important to me now than earlier, but it was never enough by itself. So yes, it's the same for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 12:27 PM
1

What exactly is the conversation here? You don't date unattractive women either.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 11:44 AM
1

Yes there are. Some people never find anyone, regardless of gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 11:35 AM
0

This sub is 99% men crying because they imagine women are "collectively lying".
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 11:27 AM
1

That's just what the incels say.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 11:26 AM
1

Having options does't make you treat people poorly. It's lack of integrity and morals, combined with misogyny/misandry.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 11:21 AM
1

And it's exactly the same for men. My expectations are sky high, having spent my life with amazing women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 11:18 AM
0

Me neither
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 11:13 AM
1

While in reality they were not lied to, they were dumb and poorly socialized. Avoiding accountability is the core tenet of TRP.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 11:12 AM
2

Same for women. It's always been so.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 11:11 AM
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They weren't hush hush about anything, you just didn't talk with women, still don't, you are just a zombie enslave to your algorithms thinking that's the truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 11:07 AM
1

Unpopular opinion of one person
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 11:04 AM
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It is new info only for this current batch of clueless men. Everyone else has always known it, for millenias.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 10:55 AM
1

That’s bs. I find at best 1% of women attractive enough for me to pursue them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 09:32 AM
1

That’s common sense, aka blue pill.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 09:13 AM
4

Drowning in attention from women, yes
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 09:11 AM
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Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 09:10 AM
3

Oh sure you would, I’ve been with women that any man on this planet would absolutely love to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 09:02 AM
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They don’t date Chads, nor expect Chad to be exclusive. Those apps and pages are for average guys who try to spin plates and string women along with lies. When you are hot enough, you don’t have to lie.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 08:39 AM
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I had my roster of FWBs before smartphones existed. They still dated to find LTRs, women just enjoy sex with us.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 08:34 AM
2

Lol no we didn’t and it’s just as effective as it always was.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 08:23 AM
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This is what I’m seeing from my pov, women are the same but we all suffer from entitled incels creating an issue out of nothing online.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 08:21 AM
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Nobody wants a useless woman that thinks women are less capable than men. Unless you are are some tradcon dimwit looking for a bangmaid, of course.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 05:46 AM
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Lol no
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 04:49 AM
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The only difference is that we live in a real world. We don’t have computer-generated matrices, we can’t learn martial arts by injecting skills or dodge bullets, and while we do have pills that may make you feel like you can escape reality, it’s only temporary and when the effects fade, you are still here.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 03:44 AM
1

You imagine that problem
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 03:35 AM
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Well it would see that even an imaginary woman who has lived without ever hearing or seeing a thing about men would understand male emotions better than you. Yes, men have traumas. Emotions last as long they last, gender has no play here. If you think "taking the edge off with beer" is the default way to handle emotions, you could just as well tell everyone that you have 0 capacity to handle your emotions.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 08:06 PM
1

Just saying shit doesn’t make it true
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 01:15 PM
2

The concepts that are valid in TRP are all blue pill, you guys are just too socially unaware to fathom it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 01:14 PM
1

That’s because your concepts are bullshit
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 11:18 AM
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Lmao, red pill is about denying reality and avoiding accountability.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 11:17 AM
1

Everyone does admit that.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 11:09 AM
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I can’t say that it wasn’t a thing where you grew up, but it certainly wasn’t here. I’ve enjoyed the privilege of a very attractive man all my life. While I’m proud of my morals and strive to be virtuous, I know first hand that those aren’t the things women want from me. Being a good man, being a rich man, having a rock star status are nothing compared to simply being hot. Which is exactly how we men function, physical attraction makes us go crazy. Nobody lied. We are just horny humans. Not diff…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 11:54 PM
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I confess I had to google that one up, but no, there is exactly zero science behind my intuition. The combination of those things is what attracts me IRL. All immediately visible.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 11:30 PM
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I very specifically did not call you/them guys garbage, just their upbringing. Childhood and our formative years have way more impact on who we are than any internet ideas. Nobody thought TRP themes are novel before this particular generation and TRP influencers. There is nothing new to us in what the “revelations” are, so all we see is the misogyny and the lack of accountability.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 11:21 PM
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You don’t realise that your take is because the ideas in TRP aren’t new, original or secret at all to normal people, they are novel only to the clueless guys who join the cult. It’s easier for them to say that they were misled and lied to than to admit that they had garbage upbringing and were poorly socialised as kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 06:53 AM
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The ideas that TRP categorises as blue pill aren’t mainstream or even real
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 06:37 AM
5

Those two things aren’t separate. Your personality is a main component in your appearance. How happy you look, how confident you look, how secure you are in your sexuality and your style all dictate how others view you.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 06:33 AM
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Most men get what they want, stop trying to bend facts to suit your miserable narrative.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 12:23 PM
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I have no idea who you even are, don’t worry about stalking, you’d need to be somehow meaningful. Now go and read your link and tell us again that the blog post is reliable “data” and that you didn’t completely gloss over the results.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 12:18 PM
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Are you a woman? Then you have no idea how hard it can be for women to date. See?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 12:10 PM
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Lmao, we call it religion. You don’t have any data to support your view.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 12:08 PM
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Lol no. She, just like every sane, normal person is basing their argument on observable reality instead of misinterpreted blog posts. There is no OkCupid “study”.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 12:07 PM
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It works both ways, you see a few men struggling but it doesn’t prove that most men are.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 11:07 AM
1

It isn’t about you either
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 10:18 AM
2

You don’t know? Why you don’t answer?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 09:48 AM
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Yes. Now answer my question, are you actually that clueless?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 09:13 AM
1

Are you actually that clueless about this world you live in?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 09:07 AM
0

Lmao we did no such thing in Finland
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 09:03 AM
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Why wouldn’t it be?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 06:31 AM
1

Does imagining issues help with your frustration? Why do you need sympathy from internet women?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 06:13 AM
1

Bitter over imaginary things is the new standard
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 06:05 AM
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Most men absolutely live their lives like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 10:37 AM
4

I’m a man and I’m not aware of our “struggles”.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 10:27 AM
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Red pill isn’t evidence based, it’s a religion. You are believing.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 10:27 AM
4

Emotions are not weakness
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 10:25 AM
0

How utterly unselfconscious coming from red pill cultist
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 10:03 AM
0

What’s the problem? I like to protect people, it’s in my power to protect those around me. I don’t care if it’s excepted of me or not, it’s simply a thing built in me. Nobody asks me, I expect no reward. I just follow my instincts.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 09:53 AM
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Yeah, as do even Reddit men. I want the brightest light in the party.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 09:37 AM
1

Lmao no it isn’t. You made a bunch of shit up to cope with your dating failures.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 09:36 AM
1

So you actually think your post adds some value?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 09:30 AM
1

There is no reliable data and statistics about such things and those wouldn’t mean anything in interpersonal relations.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 09:29 AM
2

Then look at those guys to find out what boring is?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 09:26 AM
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Ok cool you base your feelings on an algorithm that feeds you scantily clad thots because you like jerking off to the pictures.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 09:15 AM
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Your opinion doesn’t make anyone a whore. You’re not saying things about the perceivable reality, just your personal feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 09:14 AM
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And that kind of talk is a sign of deeply ingrained misogyny, lack of sexual success and lack of accountability
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 09:12 AM
3

Stop holding back. Let your views out and accept that they can be challenged. This is very literally how to not be boring, out topic of the day!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 09:02 AM
1

And what is the issue with that sentence?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 08:58 AM
1

Dude, that’s all exclusively in your head. You victimise yourself, for what? You seem to invent double standards to make you feel more miserable, instead of just opening your eyes and enjoying life? What do you get out of this?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 08:52 AM
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For sure, my experiences have also shaped my views. I’ve lived my whole life in close proximity to women, as relatives, friends and romantic partners and this whole life experience is in strict contradiction to TRP views.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 08:44 AM
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I’ve never heard any woman say they would want a man without any female friends, who can’t flirt and has no relationship experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 08:33 AM
2

The real kicker is that this struggle of finding a relationship with someone you really like is hard as fuck for everyone on this planet. Compatibility is a rare thing, and honestly your desirability doesn’t really play any part in that process.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 08:31 AM
1

Without any details or subject matter there isn’t anything obvious to accept or refuse
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 08:22 AM
2

Well I don’t believe that, my marriage and the ones around me certainly aren’t so “most” seems to be rather far fetched.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 08:14 AM
1

Lol no
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 08:08 AM
1

How does girl talk go to unacceptable realms of discourse?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 07:24 AM
2

Why do you think video games and beer are masculine
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 07:15 AM
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They might not give a fuck about you, but they definitely do want to fuck me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 07:10 AM
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Just like good-looking, sexy women have always more attention than average women. Just try to remember that the TRO guys have not participated in the real world in the same way as normal people. They haven’t seen any couples form, they’ve never spoken with others.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 07:04 AM
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You need science to back up theories before they become facts
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 06:57 AM
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They can feed, shelter and protect themselves
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 06:50 AM
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No, it didn’t make me anxious.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 06:50 AM
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Women are just as attracted to our faces and bodies as men are. I experience this all the time. I understand you might never have been an object of desire and lust, and how that has shaped your views, but doesn’t tell anything about women.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 06:49 AM
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You only talk about your personal, extremely weird behaviour around women. Other men don’t fall into spirals of anxiety and shame, for us crushing feels good. Just like it feels for women. We feel energised, happy and curious. Then we ask them out.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 06:43 AM
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You’ve posted none so we can’t actually see it
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 06:37 AM
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No, it’s the reality
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 06:36 AM
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Then post scientific evidence
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 06:34 AM
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We would love to if such existed
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 06:33 AM
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No, your OP didn’t contain any science or facts.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 06:30 AM
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That’s just bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 06:27 AM
0

You only want to think it’s “most men” because you don’t want to see yourself in the minority of sexually unsuccessful humans. Most men don’t have any problems getting dates, and that’s just a plain old fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 11:43 AM
1

You can’t replace a husband or wife in 10 minutes online
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 11:22 AM
0

Lol, it’s not a fact and hypergamy doesn’t even have scientific component in it. TikTok is not science bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 11:12 AM
1

Men have pissed on the “sanctity” of marriage since forever
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 11:10 AM
-1

There isn’t a civilisation on this planet that actively despises men.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 11:07 AM
-2

They don’t need to be fed, sheltered or protected.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 11:03 AM
1

Yes I am. What are you trying to say?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 07:08 AM
1

No, they don’t
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 07:01 AM
2

Of course it’s a choice. You choose what you put in your mouth. Putting too much garbage in is the only reason anyone is fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 11:56 PM
3

For sure not, men don’t whine and complain that much outside Reddit
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 06:45 AM
1

So why not stop breathing as well, after all you are trapped by biological conditioning very time you take a breath
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 07:37 AM
1

Why
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 07:34 AM
1

But why
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 07:26 AM
1

Why would you want to ruin the world? What’s your goal?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 07:14 AM
1

Lol no they aren’t checking out, they failed and gave up
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 07:07 AM
0

Why would anyone care if you talk only about one third world country? Your shithole has thousands of issues endemic to your country, they aren’t gender issues, just issues that arise when people are too stupid to even live their lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 05:21 AM
-1

Of course it matters
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 05:06 AM
1

One, on Sunday at an outdoor party. One of the most attractive (I can’t separate looks and personality so attraction is always about the whole person) women I’ve ever met, spent all day yesterday with her. Sadly she lives abroad and left today, rip. I don’t usually do that, but I guess I should approach more since it has always worked.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 11:54 AM
0

I’m gen-x and nothing has changed or collapsed. Average or not, I’m still just a man and my experience is just as relevant as yours.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 10:10 AM
-1

That’s simply not true. Dating in real life is exactly how it has always been, it hasn’t failed anyone. You live your life, meet people, and occasionally you meet someone you click with. Dating ensues, same as it ever was. I’ve never used apps, and my dating life is exactly how I like it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/25 04:54 AM
1

You need to read what I wrote. Problems in the head, not made-up problems. Behaviour patterns that affect your life, therapy simply helps helps to reveal the origins of those patterns. Often these origins are hidden from us by layers of self-deceit, working from blind spots we create to protect our ego. Processing your personal history confidentially with a professional is just a simple tool to shine light on those blind spots, resulting in self-awareness. When you understand why you do X or why…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/25 04:40 AM
1

Why is that relevant in this discussion? Therapy isn’t just simple talk about problems. Nobody would pay for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 04:04 PM
1

Then again, therapy is actually about stopping lying to yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 03:51 PM
2

We pay on average 20.1% income tax here in Scandinavia
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 03:44 PM
1

Yeah, and it works because the problems are actually in your head. If they weren’t, you would have already fixed them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 03:40 PM
1

Therapy isn’t about coping or being reassured. It’s an exploration into who you are and why, and how it reflects in your everyday life and how you can fix shit that holds you down.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 03:38 PM
20

All the other promiscuous guys I know think just like me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 07:17 PM
39

Where exactly did you get the idea that men who hookup want a woman with low body count? I want someone with as much experience as I do so we can relate and share our crazy stories without the other feeling bad about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 06:44 PM
-1

I’m approached every time I’m out having fun, even when I’m with my spouse. I’ve been approached hundreds of times more than I’ve approached. I’ve only recently concluded that I might not actually be average, but never had any idea before I started reading Reddit and got confirmation from my friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 03:30 PM
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I honestly hope the young guy could keep in mind the that men simply outnumber women on dating apps, and that outside the apps situation is much more balanced.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 03:20 PM
1

No.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 12:31 AM
1

Lmao you’re the one throwing mindless blanket statements around, ones which don’t align with reality. This system, our civilisation, requires much more than just dirty work, and you know it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 11:07 PM
2

But I wouldn’t be if I was a redpiller.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 04:13 PM
1

Men depend on women for healthcare, education, services and administration. Both (artificial in the scope of society) groups depend on other people to have the lives they have.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 03:49 PM
1

You’re wrong in everything you say in the last chapter. Society is not built and maintained by men only.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 03:17 PM
3

I lost my virginity just after turning 17. I’ve had the sex life other men dream of. I’m blue pill, because the red pill lies wouldn’t have given me any of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 02:59 PM
2

I’m a man a meet women I’m truly attracted to maybe a handful of times a year. It takes more than looks to get me interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 01:30 PM
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How do jump from finding interesting people to raping? What is your point? Anyway, there has been a big effort to reduce the stigma associated with rape, which naturally leads to more cases being reported. Reported cases still represent only a portion of cases. But sure, even our country has a lot to do to make raping stop completely.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 01:33 PM
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Grapes don’t grow up here in the north, buddy
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 01:09 PM
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I’m from Finland, a country ranked very high for gender equality, perhaps there is a connection. But I’ve also lived abroad, worked with people around the world and travelled extensively, and met interesting people everywhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 12:59 PM
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But that is not my point. When you stop trying to please and entertain people, and instead just be true yourself, people around will do the same and interactions become actually meaningful and interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 12:54 PM
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Ok, I don’t make any effort to do such a thing. I make an effort to be open, present and secure in myself with everyone around me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 12:14 PM
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Most people obviously shouldn’t be allowed to vote, just look at the mess USA has ended in for a proof. But that in’s t a gender issue. If you don’t meet women who are just as interesting, fun and reliable as any of your bros, it’s a you issue. Probably related to your attitude.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 12:08 PM
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I can’t really agree with that. It has worked for me, but I don’t do OLD. Large and varied social circles result in a vivid social life, which results in meeting a lot of interesting women.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 12:05 PM
6

Dude you have a big mouth and nothing to back it up. I’ve done my military service and stay in the reserve, and will literally defend my country if the call comes. I oversee the maintenance and development of critical wartime communications infrastructure and backup systems as my job. I literally do the shit you take credit for, yet I don’t see it as any more important than what the women in daycare, schools and hospitals have done for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 10:53 AM
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Lol, that is such a tired pile of absolute bullshit. Nurseries, places for the elderly folk, healthcare, education and service sector are maintained mostly by women. They take care of us when we are toddlers and nearing the end of our lives. We all contribute and leech on society. Open your eyes buddy.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 10:43 AM
1

I see them all around.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 10:39 AM
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I was a boy scout until university, and the interactions we had with Girl Scouts during summer camps, competitions, hikes etc had a massive influence on how I view women as equals. Most of the scout groups in my country are mixed gender. And in teen age, scout activities were an incredibly fruitful ground for romances. My first girlfriend, my first kiss, I even lost my virginity to Girl Scout at our cabin, and countless priceless experiences followed that. It’s an environment where people are ge…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 10:37 AM
5

Yeah, because that’s just not true. And not approaching gets you even less results.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 05:24 PM
5

I approach and get approached and I have no idea why you guys make such a huge deal of it. Just go and meet interesting people, if it doesn’t lead to anything to just move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 04:45 PM
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Oh it sounds like plenty of they is new to you, I didn’t realise you struggle with the definition also- emotional intelligence is the ability to predict, recognise, process and manage emotions. Nothing vague or complicated about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 06:15 AM
1

Well that’s what we really are, a bunch of emotions. Emotions are just an extension of our basic reactions to our surroundings- when we burn ourselves for the first time, say a hand on a hot stove, our nervous system stores the pain so we can avoid it next time. Psychology being difficult to quantify in exact measures doesn’t make it irrelevant, and some lonely men have even twisted their kitchen level understanding of it into a religion called TRP. EQ is very easy to understand, and really cruc…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 08:57 PM
1

Emotional intelligence is not an internet trend, it’s a decades old theory in the field of psychology.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 05:36 PM
0

Yeah no, that is not what I observe at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 11:32 AM
3

How do you know all men who do flings?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 10:53 AM
2

Just like many women who are married. Ugly, introverted and boring people can also love, surprise.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 10:49 AM
1

That doesn’t seem to be true. Many women and men simply don’t like casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 10:47 AM
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Imagine imagining such country actually exists
/r/MensRights29/06/25 10:41 AM
4

Many women use the pill to ease the effects of their periods.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 06:23 AM
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I don’t see either as a male issue. Both are endemic to USA, so they should be treated as issues in American culture. These don’t happen in civilised countries. I obviously agree that they should be fixed yesterday.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 06:11 AM
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Delusional
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 11:32 PM
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No, desperate men claim they take whatever they can get.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 11:22 PM
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I’m not surprised
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 10:48 PM
1

You are not forced to leave. But if you stay, you will do as you are told.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 10:33 PM
5

Make your own country then
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 10:31 PM
3

Free education and healthcare, our roads, public transport water, subsidised sports facilities, justice system, harbours and airports etc etc and the officials who take care of all that. Taxes are pretty cool unless you are intellectually challenged.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 10:30 PM
2

World is overpopulated.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 10:23 PM
5

Who defines the correct way? You?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 10:21 PM
8

So kind of like maths and red pill
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 10:14 PM
5

Yep, for both men and women. Majority of humans are not considered especially attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 08:54 AM
-2

It means exactly what the words mean and it has everything to do with the topic. If there are some words you do not understand, use Google translate or ask a friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 01:30 PM
3

What a weird, one-eyed take. Even hot, fun and attractive women actually have agency and free will, and if you are a man they want to sleep with and enjoy it, they will pursue you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 11:52 AM
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You are projecting. This is a debate sub with people from all walks of life and around the world. I’m interested in this gender war thing as a phenomenon, my life experiences with women are dramatically different from what manosphere is claiming to be “true female nature”.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 08:13 PM
1

These guys thrive on seeing themselves as victims. Look at me, my issue is the worst! Men are oppressed by the global feminist government!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 01:33 PM
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No. You think you are undesirable and that is why you pretend to be something else around women. Lack of success on OLD means that the app is working as intended- their stock value is based on number of users. Successful matching reduces the number of users, so they design the algorithms to ensure no or bad matches to the users. You have not been deemed undesirable by women in general, just that the ones who were shown your profile didn’t find your photos and text interesting enough. Just uninst…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 01:31 PM
4

This avoiding accountability is such tired bullshit. Everyone chooses who they are with. Even “average men”, whatever tf that even means.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 12:40 PM
1

Lmao manosphere never became influential 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 10:14 AM
1

It’s always helpful to remind yourself that red pill is just a street name for the Gynocentric Church of America for Virgin Misogynists. Probably not the best place to get sex advice from, but you do you.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/25 11:15 AM
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Almost- keep being a good person if that is who you truly are, but understand the significance of being secure in your masculinity. Embrace it. Let it shine.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/25 06:09 AM
2

What about his consent and her desire? Idon’t really understand your English that well so not sure what the rest of your comment is trying to convey.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/25 06:04 AM
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OP wasn’t talking about mutual intimacy
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 08:18 PM
1

Less than five years, remindme
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 08:10 PM
-1

Why would your imagination weigh more in this discussion than actual reality?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 08:04 PM
1

Like you don’t have a bias
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 07:49 PM
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wtf is sexual access to her? Sexual control? Have you ever been in an actual relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 01:51 PM
1

Many of us in ENM circles like the term, we’re ethical sluts and not ashamed of it
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 07:10 AM
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Being boring is unrelated to being good or bad. The word you are looking for is non-sexual. The guys who are lonely don’t come across as men. No confidence, no charisma, no sexual energy. They can be good or bad and still single.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 05:28 AM
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Yeah, that’s a perfect analogy. I can understand that it’s sought after, lol, but I just disagree with the idea that it’s hard to have lots of sex for the guys who have lots of sex. I value real achievements, people who have worked hard for something. Not people who inherited money or good genes. You misunderstood the comparison to women- I mean it is as easy for a hot guy to have sex as it is for attractive women. Which makes the double standard stupid. We’re just sluts with dicks.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 02:15 PM
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Ok, so just want to stop people from having fun and enjoying their lives. Let’s criminalise good food, movies and music while we’re at it! Actually let’s just jail everyone who smiles for whatever reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 09:39 AM
0

I don’t understand. There are more bars, clubs cafes and restaurants than ever before. More hobbies, more online communities. Making friends doesn’t feel like hard work or “going thru shit”, I wish I had more time to develop all the new friendships that just happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 09:36 AM
3

Why do you want take away their rights? And which ones specifically?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 09:29 AM
1

What communities have you lost? Access to what?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 09:04 AM
3

wtf are you implying?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 09:03 AM
1

Reality might seem like a distant thing when you’ve buried yourself in an echo chamber, but it’s still there, intact and vibrant.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 09:02 AM
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Did I suggest that I was like most men? No, I told you that guys who have a lot of sex don’t actually have to do jack shit to have it. It’s not an achievement to be born tall, handsome, charming and masculine. No tricks, magic scripts or special skill involved. Just fucking luck dude. It’s exactly as easy as it is for attractive women, so valuing us makes literally no sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 07:53 AM
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It’s called casual because the romantic involvement stops at sex. It’s not a relationship. That doesn’t make passion, vulnerability, pleasure and connection meaningless. It’s wonderful just for what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 07:18 AM
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I said: there are no laws against approaching people. There are no legal consequences. This is objectively true. It’s a fact, not an opinion or argument. You said that you can be falsely accused of something else - sure, but you don’t even need to approach anyone for that to happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 07:10 AM
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Having a lot of sex has required literally zero effort on my part. We all understand that sex and dating is something mystical to you, but pedestalising men who have lot of sex is just as dumb as pedestalising women.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 06:55 AM
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Lmao it is not a “huge problem” just because you say so. And it does a lot of good for everyone involved, that’s why people have sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 06:45 AM
2

It is meaningful for the people involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 06:20 AM
1

Lmao no, males were not shamed at all. You were.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 05:57 AM
0

So everything I said is true, thanks for confirming
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 05:42 AM
1

There are no laws against approaching people. There are no legal consequences.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 05:26 AM
0

Over 99,9% of the world population is “blue pilled”, meaning that they adhere to a facts-based world view instead of believing in an internet cult made up by sexually unsuccessful men.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 05:20 AM
2

What happened to all the normal men?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 05:11 AM
3

The only person who claims women have better personalities is you. Why do you feel they have better personalities than you? Why do you fail at dating? Focus on those issues, not on imaginary scenarios.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 02:15 PM
3

You display a lack of capacity to write cohesive, logical arguments and repeatedly fail at understanding written text. Those are typically signs of low intelligence. Low empathy accepted as self reported.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 09:00 AM
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No, I’m talking about your mindset but guess we’ve seen enough to figure out the reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 08:54 AM
2

I asked how you develop such a mindset, not how you justify it. You have never interacted with women? Never seen any movies, tv-shows or plays?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 08:41 AM
1

How does that kind of mindset develop? In total isolation?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 07:57 AM
2

The service they sell is itself faking.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 07:47 AM
2

If you don’t charge other men for attracting men for them, your personality sucks. This is what you are saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 07:43 AM
1

I’m turned on by her sexual energy. She knows who she is and likes it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 07:06 PM
1

Maybe men have talked to women before some nerds came up with red pill. Do you think it’s possible?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 03:16 PM
1

History, sir
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 03:13 PM
1

Lol dude
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 07:57 AM
2

Do you?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 07:50 AM
0

You do realise that what you write is peak gynocentrism? The whole red pill universe orbits around women.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 01:16 PM
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I’d guess that depends on what kind of women you are with, who you attract and who you are attracted to. If your sample is 50 shallow, vapid, entitled selfish cunts, you’re probably going to develop some misogynistic and sexist views. If your sample is 50 awesome women that have shown no signs of the bs TRP prints on all women, you’re more likely to side with more feminist views. This bias is difficult to bypass.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 09:27 AM
1

Primates do indeed learn most of their social behaviour. Even much “simpler” animals learn from others. Anyway, using other species as reference, especially in mating topics, is pointless.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 07:45 AM
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Are you glad that we have lungs? Would it worse in your opinion if humans had tails? Do you assume that intelligent species shouldn’t have hooves?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 11:27 AM
2

Enjoy your pillow!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 09:47 AM
1

Oh of course I do trust you! To know nothing at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 09:46 AM
2

Absolutely not. Simps have a vital function in the mating ecosystem, they keep the shallow, entitled women entertained and vice versa. If you would suddenly stop simping, the selfish princesses would start pursuing the attractive and confident men, and we don’t want anything to do with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 07:04 AM
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This makes no sense. Being attractive means you have absolutely no need to manipulate anyone. Being abusive correlates with bad childhood, not looks. Being attractive means you attract women, and you choose who to be with. This apparently protects you from bad experiences with women, because I find misogyny complete bullshit. Have you figured out why you hate attractive men?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 03:41 PM
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How is it literally proven lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 03:25 PM
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Doesn’t make it wrong either, just stuff some people are forced to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 03:23 PM
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There you go
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 10:17 AM
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Do you have periods?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 10:09 AM
2

Tinder and dating app data is not available to the public, it is owned by private companies Divorce rates and who initiates them doesn’t tell anything without knowing the why • ⁠Evolutionary psychology studies are as relevant as astrology • ⁠Real-world behavior in clubs, friend groups, social media shows that TRP believes are false
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 07:54 AM
3

By the same logic the women who are dating you only for resources can keep having sex with me, and don’t have to tell you, because the nature of your relationship is not sexual.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 07:13 AM
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Promiscuous = someone who is having more sex than the accuser, and two partners is considerably more than TRP average of 0
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 07:09 AM
1

Cool, then you agree there isn’t a red pill either.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 01:18 PM
1

There is no blue pill. There aren’t any blue pill arguments.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 01:13 PM
2

Life isn’t a Hollywood sci-fi movie. Reality isn’t Matrix, there are no red pills in this world. TRP is a gynocentric mythology made up by angry incels, its purpose is to avoid accountability.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 01:05 PM
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I feel sorry for you. Did these experiments lead to dates? Sex? Relationships? Or was it just likes on an app?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 12:47 PM
2

This is the heart of red pill. They believe that they have discovered some hidden reality which other people don’t see. When everyone else has seen it all the time, thru centuries.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 01:53 PM
11

TRP believes that
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 01:49 PM
3

To avoid accountability.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 01:49 PM
4

Yeah, at least before that. I personally wouldn’t waste a minute on such a loser.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 10:25 AM
1

Desperate men may have done that. Most men aren’t desperate.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 10:15 AM
1

No, you’re called patriarchal and imposing gender roles and impossible beauty standards because you do those things.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 10:07 AM
25

Telling before the first date is the way. Put it in your profile
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 09:45 AM
10

The only point it ever had was to claim 100% ownership of a woman, and legally pass your heritage to your eldest son. This is the original purpose of marriage, so no wonder it doesn’t seem all that popular anymore. And practically all married men still cheated while marriage still “had a point”.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 09:43 AM
5

So did my mother and grandmother. Everyone works. If you want a house and a family with an unemployed wife, it’s your choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 10:25 AM
9

You are not fighting any battles, it’s just normal work. Just like everyone else. Taking pride in having a job is like being proud you drink water.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 07:22 AM
0

For me feminine means simply that she is secure in her sexuality, values its power and lets it show in her appearance and behaviour. She is confident, positive and seductive whatever she does, and understands why she needs my masculinity.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 06:56 AM
7

Those features you listed aren’t masculine either, just generally unwanted features in a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 06:35 AM
1

You are delusional or just trolling. Link those grandmas and serial pedo rapists with +20k body counts and then we can continue.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 06:13 AM
3

No, it hasn’t. Feminism has pointed out shitty human behaviour that some idiots think is essential to their masculinity. World is a better place without that shitty behaviour. Try to think rationally instead of getting overwhelmed by your feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 04:24 PM
2

Not sure if it’s really worth the effort at this point. There are only three kinds of guys thinking they are the same thing: the non-masculine guys gobbling on Tate’s micropenis who find toxic masculinity attractive guys who just collect more excuses to justify their misogyny guys who lack the capacity to understand simple concepts The rest are bots
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 04:07 PM
2

Masculinity hasn’t been demonised by anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 03:39 PM
1

Men only messaged the ones they actually found attractive, which was the top women. Pure virtue signalling, don’t listen what say, observe what they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 07:30 AM
0

Lmao. Based on dating apps the male approach to women is that they only want casual sex and only find the model tier women attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 05:16 AM
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Ok, show us- give examples of things women have decided in my life. It should be easy for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 05:04 AM
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And Earth is flat. Lizardmen live among us, disguised as humans, and they are eating babies.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 05:02 AM
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The only movement in human history that is factually gynocentric is the manosphere. Just read what you wrote.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 04:53 AM
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I don’t signal anything, I’m just out to have fun and enjoying life. I smile when I make them smile. I’m approached a lot so guess it works.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 03:48 PM
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I’ve found her mindset to be very common among modern women.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 12:01 PM
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Hilarious yet savage because it’s true :D
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 11:42 AM
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That’s pretty much the same as a man wanting a loyal, nurturing wife yet chases young, shallow insta baddies. Some people just are shallow and hollow inside. Most aren’t, focus on them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 11:24 AM
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Better analogy would be applying to a job you don’t want and are not even qualified to do. Cool if your goal is to send applications, I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 11:18 AM
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This is an unfortunate result of a very shallow, materialistic society. I feel like you would fit better in the Nordic countries, where integrity and authenticity are valued over facades.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 07:47 AM
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This sounds very healthy and sensible, congrats to both of you! It also sounds very familiar :)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 07:32 AM
2

That is a different issue, point is that those dates are meaningless without deeper compatibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 07:26 AM
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No, you need a lot more to build a successful LTR with a good woman. What OP wrote is crucial.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 06:34 AM
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Majority of women aren’t on dating apps
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 06:32 AM
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And all the men are aiming for the submissive virgin insta baddies based on OLD data? Maybe take a reality check and go outside. The vast majority of average people find each other and live their happy average life.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 06:25 AM
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Why do you think being a functional adult is “going through all these hoops”? Wouldn’t you want those things she listed from your partner?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 06:22 AM
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How do you define success in dating?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 06:19 AM
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Common values amount to the foundation of a successful LTR.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 06:16 AM
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And so do men. We simply aren’t compatible with everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 06:12 AM
2

A small minority of men may settle for whoever gives them attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 06:10 AM
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Vast majority of men like hot women Vast majority of men aren’t with a hot woman This is real life
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 06:08 AM
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Living a healthy, sustainable life feels good. That includes lots of sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 04:44 AM
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She can use whatever foot she wants with someone else, I’m not interested in people who put on a show. Your “best foot forward” is an act, fake behaviour, trying to impress. I guess being authentic is just not something Americans can comprehend.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 04:43 AM
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Hilarious
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 04:36 AM
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Lol no we don’t compromise.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 08:54 PM
2

You skipped the rest? I expect her to be authentic, like she has been from the beginning. My attraction to her is based on who she is.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 03:14 PM
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How do you know and rate the effort of her past relationships?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 02:43 PM
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I wouldn’t have been impressed by the behaviour you describe. I want her to be herself, and grow with me. The effort we put in ourselves and to us just increases over time.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 02:42 PM
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Sometimes it shocks me how shallow the thinking is here. Neither men or women choose their partners just based on appearance. It’s about compatibility and mutual attraction. I fell for my spouse because she is the most interesting human I have ever met.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 02:35 PM
2

That sounds unhinged even for someone who loves a book character
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 12:03 PM
2

Yes. Did you think you have a point just because you wrote a post?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 11:06 AM
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You should never trust a religious person.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 08:54 AM
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Ok so you would accept advice from people with experience from hookups, dating, casual sex like FWBs, LTRs, marriage and non-monogamy, but not if they are currently in love? I fail to see how that makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 08:03 AM
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You are just as unable to provide any logical explanation why being successful in dating would affect the given advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 07:52 AM
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How do you explain attractive, crazy bitches having no problems getting dates? In vastly larger numbers than men?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 07:36 AM
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That is certainly not my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 07:28 AM
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She listed downsides that almost all women in western societies face in their daily lives due to sexism, and unsurprisingly, you failed to come with even one similar issue for men. Don’t worry, I couldn’t think of anything either, life is very easy in my honest opinion as a man. Downside to your life as a man is that you need to defend your country? What is the alternative? I’m conscripted, I live next door to Putin. Downside to your life is that men have sexually abused minors? How does this ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 07:21 AM
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Yes, they are doing all those things when they want you- except driving home from dates, who the fuck drives to dates :DD
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 04:22 AM
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Why should people not go after what is good for us?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 04:10 AM
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Do you have any examples of those downsides?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 03:49 AM
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Me neither. You can’t force a connection, just need to be open for the possibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 07:52 PM
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Except we aren’t expected to do that. You are describing a man trying someone who is not interested, or even interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 07:48 PM
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That explains, you grew up without a father and that is why you failed as a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 06:49 AM
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Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 06:34 AM
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Ok so here you present a claim. And you need to provide proof for your claim. Show us at least two men, who announce to women that they have been convicted of pedophilia and rape, and they have been with over 20000 women after publicising their crimes. Do you understand how this works? And why everyone in this world understands that TRP is based 100% emotion, follows no logic and leads nowhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 09:41 AM
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Why are you emotionally posting here then
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 09:00 AM
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Not everyone is with a person they are attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 08:06 AM
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That’s awesome. I think a very sensible goal in life is to become the best version of yourself. And once you commit to that goal, it makes sense to use every tool available to help you toward that goal. Education, exercise, therapy, being vulnerable with other people, whatever would boost you on your personal journey.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 02:19 PM
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Lol no. Behaving like a creep is the reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 01:05 PM
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This is a universally accepted fact, old as the time and I’m astonished that you guys think that women don’t find confidence incredibly attractive, and lack of confidence a deal breaker.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 01:03 PM
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Lol, arrogant people appear arrogant. Many beautiful people are arrogant. That is not confidence, it’s a false belief where you think you are above others.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 01:00 PM
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No, you can’t read. It makes you attractive, it doesn’t change your physical shell. It gives you the foundation for developing charisma. It makes you carry yourself with pride.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 12:55 PM
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You had the courage and insight to seek guidance on your journey. I honestly believe therapy would help most of the struggling guys here.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 12:52 PM
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Your views don’t match with reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 12:50 PM
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This. This right here. Confidence stems from finding your value. You know who you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 12:48 PM
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You must have spent more time online, looking at photos than out there, among live humans.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 12:43 PM
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You saying that doesn’t mean anything. Show us a man who is not confident, yet considered hot by women.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 12:42 PM
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That is pure bullshit. I’ve had an amazing sex life since 17. I speak out of experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 12:25 PM
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Yes, some women will find him attractive. Without the confidence, no. Will he be attractive to as many women as a confident, handsome, white 6’2 man with an underwear model physique and blue eyes? No. But he can’t, so he has to value himself as who he is.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 12:20 PM
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Obviously. But having looks is not a requirement for confidence. You can be confident in your abilities and secure in yourself, which will make you attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 12:01 PM
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Not in real life
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 11:52 AM
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No. People aren’t just empty shells.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 11:51 AM
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Yet you can’t be hot without being confident. It’s the defining factor.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 11:47 AM
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I can’t answer that, I don’t subscribe to the idea of leagues. I’m interested in individuals, not in categories.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 11:45 AM
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Confidence makes people hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 11:42 AM
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Lol, you can’t have confidence without reasons. You need to find your own strengths to be confident about. It stems from self awareness. You know yourself, you value yourself. It’s not an act.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 11:41 AM
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Ok there’s your problem, you sound like you would take any woman. And do you think the top 20% men for women are bad men?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 11:28 AM
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I know, she knows, but red pill doesn’t consider women over 30 humans at all
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 11:17 AM
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Because you only get shit women if you are shit yourself. The women who go for hot and bad men can’t get a hot and good man. Don’t worry about them.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 11:16 AM
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No, there is no reason not to develop both.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 11:13 AM
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No, it doesn’t. And those things aren’t dependent on other- be good and hot. It’s the most universally attractive man.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 11:10 AM
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No, they don’t. What you don’t understand is the lack of masculine, sexual energy. The lack of assertiveness. Lack of maturity, integrity, stability, passion, confidence and excitement. The things that make her wet. You can be a good man who is meek, boring, and lonely.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 11:04 AM
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According to red pill 18-21
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 10:01 AM
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Why is it even more common for women to stay in relationships with good men?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 09:57 AM
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So you agree that women indeed prefer good men
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 09:46 AM
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Do you have the same psyche as those bad men?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 09:37 AM
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Those men and women don’t have standards. Unless you want one of those abusive men or unstable women, why do you care? Focus on the kind of women you actually want.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 09:24 AM
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The immoral men ignore red flags, and will settle for shitty women because he can’t attract a good woman. This is what you refuse to see. Their pool of available women does not contain women I would tolerate. Life is very simple, you need to be what you want to attract.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 09:15 AM
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They are good partners for shitty women
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 08:50 AM
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Why is this bot still here? It posts the same retarded comment every time. You haven’t exposed a lie. You have posted a lie.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 08:24 AM
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I can somehow imagine rejection feeling bad to some people for their own reasons, but reputation? People asking others out is like one of the most normal things on this planet. And so is getting that invitation rejected. I bet everyone in your office has participated in this timeless dance of courtship that is at the very center of all human existence. You don’t get a special reputation for doing something everyone does, just chill and keep shooting your shots!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 02:17 PM
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Ok, I accept the correct word, English is my third language.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 06:45 AM
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There’s nothing to blame anyone for :) it’s awesome
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 08:15 PM
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That’s the exact same thing. True, not truth. When conclusion follows necessarily from the premises, the statement is true. Otherwise it’s false. The output is not truth or lies, or stronger or better.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 01:51 PM
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There is no “better” or “stronger” in logic. A logical statement is true or false. Relationship models aren’t logical statements.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 11:14 AM
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It isn’t really. The sensitivity to observe and recognise the signals varies more, and is affected by a number of factors including the situation itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 10:20 PM
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Yes, it definitely is possible. Our attraction, or lack of it, is not a conscious choice, and our behaviour changes when we are attracted to someone. It wants the genes that is has become aware of, and it wants to attract those genes.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 08:50 PM
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I actually learnt in the army that modern life doesn't prepare people for the outdoors. I was a boy scout in a group that heavily emphasised wilderness skills, and had to teach the "city boys" how to be comfortable in the forest in shitty conditions because it just wasn't something that most people are exposed to. Another thing that left a mark on me and my views on this gender debate was that I met young scout women in competitions, camps and treks, saw how they handle stressful situations, har…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 07:58 PM
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I hope it's not yours either :D
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 07:14 PM
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Tbf most men don't know anything about those things either. Those are learnt skills, not innate ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 07:09 PM
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Show us the metrics
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 06:28 PM
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We eat, sleep and work. Rest of the time we spend with chores, family, friends and hobbies or just relax. This is the same for everyone, attractive or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 06:26 PM
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You seem to think that seeing women as objects is the same as liking them, and that all men share this mindset. Or that all men have trouble reading the room like you do. If she is not into you, don't shoot your shot. She will feel creeped out, and you will feel bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 05:30 PM
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All humans are primarily driven by emotions. The men who believe they are very logic driven always just out themselves as self-unaware and having low logical processing capabilities.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 07:30 AM
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You asked how they feel about the impact of AI bots, yet you also claim that you don’t care how they feel. Pointing out your failure to follow basic logic is not virtue signalling.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 07:19 AM
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I’ve never struggled with attracting or interacting with women. I have a lifetime of actual experience of real, live women from dating, harems, LTRs and marriage. I don’t need advice from the manosphere any more than Warren Buffett needs investment guidance from homeless people. Manosphere is not a source of information on the female nature. It’s a misogynistic movement of poorly socialised and sexually unsuccessful men.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 07:12 AM
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You don’t mention nuclear bomb in your post. You are asking for female views and feelings on the arrival time and impact of “AI girlfriends”. And you hope that they would care. But they don’t. Normal men don’t care either. Ask the people working on the projects, they care. The impact of AI companions that people who struggle with normal human relationships may experience at least temporary comfort when they interact with such AI. The companies make some money, and hopefully the R&D is more widel…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 06:43 AM
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You need to help yourself first before you can help others.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 06:20 AM
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Cool story bro
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 08:31 PM
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You care very much about that. Most people who don’t really care about something don’t post about it on Reddit
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 08:20 PM
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Oh but we do. Men with options will always choose the smartest and most competent woman. This is logical behaviour, we want the best genes for our offspring. Intelligent men need an intelligent partner to enjoy the relationship. And intelligence is just hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/25 08:13 AM
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You are making shit up. Successful, educated women, my preferred type, don’t look for a provider. And that is the thing that intimidates you. You would need to offer them more than money. And you know you don’t have that. You are intimidated because if you are not the provider, you don’t have any authority over her. And most of all you are intimidated because their success proves you wrong about your prejudices. Their existence challenges your fragile, imaginary sense of superiority.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/25 08:06 AM
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None of them would even exist without women.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/25 07:17 AM
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Hate to break the bad news to you buddy, but it seems very likely that most women and men are smarter than you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/25 09:31 PM
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Can you show on the map where this civilisation created entirely by men is? Is it on Earth? Do you often imagine places?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/25 11:01 PM
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So why in the fuck are you not focusing on the problem then? The men who made women more afraid of men than bears? Do you simply close your eyes to the unspeakable atrocities men do to women every fucking day? They are the reason. Not feminism.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/25 10:56 PM
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I live in a less shallow society, but I guess I’m not fully able to estimate the effect from my point of view.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/25 05:56 PM
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I’m not, I’m saying it’s just a minor bonus
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/25 05:42 PM
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I’m well aware of my pretty privilege and what kind of interactions it helps, but 99% of life is the same for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/25 01:59 PM
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Most people aren’t and they are perfectly happy. Or unhappy, because there are million more important things than looks that can and will go wrong in our lives. If you think life is a fairytale for attractive people, you need a reality check.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 03:50 PM
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Origins of western civilisation are in Mediterranean climate. Evolutionary psychology does not use scientific methods, and cannot provide facts, it’s just a belief system like astrology.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 01:40 PM
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Most people go the doctor when they’re suffering from a health condition. Some drink silver water and keep crystals under their pillow instead, and their condition gets worse. Most people go to a psychotherapist when they’re suffering from trauma. Some people watch TikTok videos and read forum posts instead, and their trauma gets worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 09:48 AM
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This. Someone out there will judge you for something, and unless you’re causing harm to others, you don’t need to give them any thought at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 08:02 AM
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Wow, that’s fascinating! I urge you to assess your situation through that model. Why are people not compassionate towards your cause?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 06:27 AM
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Yep, there seems to be a trend in mankind that advancements in life expectancy, quality of life and reduction in infant mortality correlates negatively with birth rate. It’s a very complex topic and the causality is unclear. What we do know that since our model is objectively superior and the global population is too big for the ecosystem, all nations should adopt this model and continue to develop it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 06:22 AM
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Compassion isn’t a choice, it’s an extension of our biological instinct to help others in our vicinity who are in distress, the purpose is to ensure the survival of our species.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 06:11 AM
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Lmao, the governments serve us because we have designed a multipartisan political system that actually works instead of the ridiculous red bs blue.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 06:03 AM
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I’m from Scandinavia and the reason this region is the sharpest tip of the global welfare, equality and happiness pyramid is that women who expected men to pay for their lives didn’t survive in the gene pool
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 05:56 AM
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Well that is not how compassion works. I have compassion for people who are treated badly, I don’t care if they even know I exist. I don’t expect anything in return.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 05:49 AM
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What
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 05:19 AM
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What are these roles and responsibilities and who governs them?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 05:07 AM
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I have requirements that very few women meet. This has resulted in me being very satisfied with my relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 05:04 AM
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Dude if you don’t select for the very best for your offspring, you got a really bad future ahead of you :D
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 04:34 AM
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I don’t really get this goddamn whining from you guys. If I ask a woman out on a dinner date, I do it because I find her interesting and I love good food and wine, and those are best enjoyed in good company. I invited her, I pick the place and I make money so I can enjoy things I like, and that’s why I pay the bill. I don’t give a flying fuck whether they or anyone else expect me paying.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 04:25 AM
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That is so absurd you’re either just trolling or clinically delusional.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 03:12 AM
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No, you are not talking about sex as it is practiced.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 03:05 AM
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I was talking about sex, not rape
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 01:48 AM
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Sex makes people happier and healthier, so it’s far from meaningless. How is it selfish though?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/25 03:18 PM
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That’s up to the couple to decide.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/25 01:22 AM
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Unfortunately many demonise and “diagnose” exes after the relationship fails. Labelling people with severe mental disorders is a job for professionals, but they are not the source here.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 02:54 PM
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Explain your alternative observation methods then, you used “look at the guys women are pursuing”. Perhaps knowing such men since birth and kindergarten would suffice? Or observing women how they filter out the men with your traits list, and how they praise and pursue men with opposite traits? What do you think of the men you described? I’d say they can be just called assholes to save all that typing. I bet you agree. And everyone else, women included. And I bet you really really want to see sex…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 01:27 PM
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Nothing in their behaviour or feelings towards me changed in a negative way, only in positive. I’ve chosen emotionally available, stable and intelligent women.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 03:46 AM
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Ok I looked, and none of the traits you listed are observable with eyes.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 03:37 AM
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And I haven’t seen a single woman acting as you believe.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 03:32 AM
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Being open about your lack of experience or being aware of your shortcomings is a very good sign in general, not just in matters of sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 03:57 PM
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Awesome stuff, glad to read that here!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 03:55 PM
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Attraction matters to both, when you think your partner is super hot, you are more aroused, sex is hotter and orgasms come easy. This isn’t about some objective looks ranking tho, just how well the two people connect, like someone already pointed out. But yes, obviously technique matters and communicating is absolutely fantastic way to improve sex- and this is where many women struggle. Some just don’t know their body well enough, some are too shy to talk openly about sex, and some have this str…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 03:53 PM
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Yeah I replied to that, all good, maybe just keep in mind that introducing a partner to their children is a huge step for single parents. And it involves the kid too, so I personally would back up before that happens if I was not serious about her long-term.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 03:04 PM
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Ok, thanks for explaining! Unfortunately you are not the only one let down by parents in what comes to dating, most of us just had to figure shit out and make easily avoidable mistakes. So yeah while you have some extra hurdles to cross, most parents are just useless in preparing their offspring for romantic life. About entitlement- if someone is giving their best effort in a relationship (of any kind) I would feel obliged to give my best as well. If you let down such a person, while you might l…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 03:01 PM
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So you come to this thread to post how to actually use a women and you seem proud for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 06:58 AM
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Who denied you the experiences
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 06:57 AM
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It is not even swiping data
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 08:54 PM
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Why don’t you “believe” in it then?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 03:22 PM
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How did the the test go, please post pics of how the thigh deformed
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 11:15 AM
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It’s not exactly a religious thing
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 08:49 AM
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Ok dude squeeze your thigh really hard for 10 minutes. Grab that muscle really good. Now let go and observe the changes.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 08:07 AM
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Only an idiot says “all” instead of what they mean
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 07:55 AM
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It’s cool that you think like that, but no, promiscuity is as easy as opening your zipper for attractive men.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 05:15 AM
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Maybe nobody needs any molds to live up to?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 11:59 AM
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I feel like this “decentering” is just achieving a normal base level of self dependency.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 11:56 AM
1

You have no idea mate. We don’t lead women on or even ask women, they ask us for sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 07:52 AM
1

That should be called social media crisis. We need live human interaction to connect with people, and people have less of that and more screen time.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 11:24 AM
1

The risks in protected sex are simply very low, and the benefits far outweigh them. It’s not just a moment of pleasure for, expressing my sexuality is very important to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 09:16 AM
1

She made a typo
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 05:16 AM
1

It doesn’t include any reasoning, your arguments are empty. Yes, that is what you are doing. If you don’t have a bias against sex, why do you claim sex is bad? Yes, in my experience people who enjoy casual sex enjoy the spiritual aspect most. But sure, the physical part is awesome too.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 05:15 AM
1

In my world I can have casual sex without any effort, and I wouldn’t entertain minors, mentally ill (conservatives and religious) or women too unattractive to get dick. Those are the only reasons for not having sex for both women and men, and that’s just not someone I want to even casually talk to.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 05:00 AM
1

Yeah I agree, but sex isn’t one of those. It’s awesome.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 04:11 AM
2

You can catch some virus at work and that’s without the dopamine
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 04:09 AM
2

That post does not address my question. You make claims and express strong opinions against people having sex, but no facts. Is your anti-sex bias because you don’t have sex? The spiritual part is what makes sex good. The connection.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 03:56 AM
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Of course it isn’t your fault, I wasn’t saying that. But if you want to help yourself, you’re the only one who can do it. Therapy requires 110% commitment from the beginning thru the years, and it’s a lot work and pain. But it’s the best investment you can make.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 06:48 PM
1

When you dive a little deeper and maybe gain some life experience, you’ll figure out that everything you do is with the intent of making you feel good.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 06:44 PM
1

I get tested regularly because I have casual sex, and being disease-free is common courtesy and the right thing to do. I wouldn’t go into someone’s bed with flu either.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 06:41 PM
3

And for others, Puritanism and hating fun is a red flag
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 10:48 AM
3

There you go, using the same telling phrases again. This isn’t a universal thing that you could refer to in passive. You commodify it, you think sex is something women give instead of enjoy. Not much we can do for you buddy.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 09:37 AM
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But you just wrote a long post detailing how you think you know women better than they do lmao In reality, nobody knows how men or women are, because they are not a group. The 21 year old American nerd whose parents failed to socialize him, suffering from a religious brainwashing and spending too much time on the internet has nothing to with normal men elsewhere. Yet the guy thinks he knows men and women are.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 09:28 AM
5

Amazing sex and all the benefits that come with it, what else are you getting out of sexual relationships?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 09:16 AM
3

How on earth are you so pilled that you even imagine knowing how “overwhelming majority of men” are loved?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 09:12 AM
2

Can’t you? What are your bargaining chips?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 08:58 AM
2

But you don’t have good morals and can’t offer a fulfilling relationship to anyone, so what’s left is just basic misogyny.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 08:57 AM
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But her sexuality hasn’t been commodified. That only happened in your mind, because you think that sex is something women “give up” to men, and you’d need to be the only one she “gave” it to so you can feel special. It tells that you don’t see sex as a mutual activity.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 08:55 AM
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She is not rare at all
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 08:48 AM
3

One day you will realize that men who don’t fuck just anything with a pulse, mislead, disrespect and manipulate women actually have women lined up at their door. You guys are making it easy for us by setting the bar so low.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 08:46 AM
3

That view comes from men who have never had casual sex with high quality women. They think only gullible, drunken sluts enjoy sex because nobody else would even look at their way.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 08:33 AM
2

So she uses stupid, horny guys for her pleasure, is that what you are saying?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 08:28 AM
1

Guess I’m just allergic to all ideologies equally. At the core they are someone else’s ideas on how to live.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 08:18 AM
4

I vote for causal sex replacing the term casual sex. Two people are horny and like each other, sex happens- there is causality but nothing casual :)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 08:16 AM
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It’s just one aspect of the US purity culture throwing up its ugly hatred on people enjoying themselves. An effort to shame, a futile attempt at justifying prejudices.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 08:14 AM
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Then again, sex is scientifically proven to be healthy. Condoms are really efficient at preventing both STDs and unwanted pregnancies. I’m a slut, never had and STD and only one case needing a morning after pill due to a broken condom. So statistically those risks are extremely low, and sex is much safer than spending an evening at home.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 08:12 AM
1

Well forget that pill bullshit as well, it’s the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 08:04 AM
1

Trust is just as important in non-monogamy.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 06:56 AM
4

Self destructive? Lmao, and polyamory is definitely not illegal.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 06:30 AM
2

Stop giving a fuck about mindsets. It’s your life, you only have one chance to live it like you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 06:21 AM
1

I love my wife and I’m committed to her for eternity, but I do enjoy having sex with others as well so that’s what I do. Sex is awesome, dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 06:17 AM
1

Sex doesn’t damage anyone though.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 06:12 AM
1

If it was successful maybe it wouldn’t have been abandoned by every rational human being on this planet.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 06:08 AM
0

As a non-monogamous man, I’m happy to correct you- most women absolutely prefer monogamous men.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 05:20 AM
6

Religion has caused more murdering than any other garbage idiocy humans invented.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 05:10 AM
3

It doesn’t succeed in that, that is why I’m asking.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 04:57 AM
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We already have tons of charities helping poor, disabled and ill people. If you feel like there is a need for more, what is stopping you from creating one? They all have been started by individuals. What particular charity do you see missing?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 04:55 AM
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Ok, so you are too busy to fix yourself, and when you had the time and you could have done it for free, it was too much trouble. Easier to change everyone else I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 04:44 AM
3

Explain where you would draw the line?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 04:05 AM
3

What sacrifices and who should do them?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 04:01 AM
2

Ok, so you have identified an issue, social anxiety. What steps have you taken to fix the issue?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 03:55 AM
10

Just like men, they like video games, cars and guns even as adults and need a woman to cook, clothe and clean for them just like mommy did
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 12:09 PM
1

I’m not following any more, first your problem was that everyone wants someone they are sexually attracted to, now it’s something else
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 11:44 AM
1

Just like many men do, they’ll stick their dick in crazy. We’re all just humans, with hormones. On the other hand, if you want a relationship which includes a happy sex life, a partner you find sexy is mandatory. If you want a stable, healthy relationship, you also need them to be good. And to find such a partner, you need to have the same qualities. So be good and sexy.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 09:20 AM
1

Those qualities aren’t mutually exclusive
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 08:13 AM
8

There isn’t a “male loneliness crisis” or epidemic in this world.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 06:22 AM
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There is no such instinct.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 06:17 AM
0

Nope. When you are able to choose whether you want to approach at all, who and when to approach, your position of power is strong. When you can only say yes or no if you are approached at all, without any say on who approaches you and when, your position is weak. And women want love just as much as men. That’s why there two people in a couple.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 03:30 PM
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No idea, probably not that many. Who holds the power, the one who chooses who to approach, or who waits to be approached?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 03:05 PM
2

The woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 03:02 PM
1

You’ve given your power away. No woman ever had any power over my dating, and they won’t in the future.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 02:59 PM
2

No, it doesn’t
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 02:54 PM
2

Nobody controls your dating unless you let them.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 02:54 PM
1

It isn’t calibrated for any gender
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 01:53 PM
2

Low quality refers to personality
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 01:51 PM
3

You haven’t a said anything objective
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 01:43 PM
2

Yes, why would we spend time with them if they weren’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 01:42 PM
3

One possible reason for that could be the fact that consumer market is a market, and dating is dating a not a market.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 08:05 AM
3

Law and morality, or even common sense don’t really work in lockstep all the time. Murdering would be very problematic for society even if it was seen as morally cool. And since cheating is seen as morally wrong, it already has consequences without governments taking a role.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 03:15 PM
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State loses a potential taxpayer, and without laws governing murder, civilisation would end.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 02:33 PM
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It’s not between the state and the individual.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 02:24 PM
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Idk, most married cheaters do face the consequences of their actions and get served by a divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 02:14 PM
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Promiscuity. I’ve fucked around and found out that it’s awesome. So I prefer women who also have found themselves and accepted the fact that they like sex. Casual sex doesn’t render humans disloyal or incapable of love. Just liberates us. Career success. I earn a lot and prefer a partner who earns a lot. This means we are even better off together. Submissiveness. It works only in the bedroom, outside it I want someone as strong as me. I want to make decisions together, and called out on my bulls…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 12:13 PM
1

Well said.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 11:57 AM
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You go first, say something useful for the first time in you life
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 11:51 AM
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This isn’t about picking and choosing, just calling out bullshit
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 11:44 AM
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Them women want good and sexy. Just like you and everyone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 11:36 AM
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He doesn’t have to
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 11:34 AM
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You’re stuck on a made-up narrative. The manipulation and abuse wasn’t the hot guy. It was an average misogynist guy who can’t get laid without lying and promising a relationship, yet only wants sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 11:32 AM
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Wrong. Hot guys don’t have to lie or manipulate.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 11:28 AM
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Ok I kind of get their thinking, while it’s stupid. What I don’t get is those SOs who get all exited to have sex with someone who is not feeling it, because that’s fucked up. But yeah, guess I forgot that broken people exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 06:11 AM
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Obviously everyone says no when they aren’t feeling it at the moment. I’ve said no more often than yes to women approaching me and usually in a way that won’t hurt their egos. I like the attention and their confidence, even if I wouldn’t be attracted to them so best to make them feel good for trying.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 06:09 PM
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Imagine being so deep in manosphere that you are able to type that without realising the irony
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 01:04 PM
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My best relationship, the current one, started from mutual love at first sight, so I agree with mutual interest being always the best option. However, when the interest is stronger from either side, it may cause issues, and it doesn’t really matter if it’s man or woman trying to woo their crush.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 08:44 AM
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While in fact they are, that is why the are sentenced for murder and not for manslaughter.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 08:42 AM
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Maybe everyone else except some PPD weirdo correctly acknowledges that no mother who kills her own infant is in a healthy mental state. If you think this is about babying women, you are not being realistic anymore, simply guided by your emotions.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 08:28 AM
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The same "3rd places" that two previous generations socialised are all still there. You are just using that as an excuse because you rather stay home and fiddle with your phones.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 05:14 AM
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Answer it or get out
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 10:04 PM
1

I asked you a question
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 09:45 PM
0

Not on this forum. And anyway that doesn’t make sexually successful men misogynistic. I should know.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 09:44 PM
0

Are they justified in your opinion?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 09:41 PM
1

What is a normie space?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 09:35 PM
2

Do you really believe that or are you just trolling?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 08:22 PM
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Lmao they aren’t. And that’s why they are successful. I don’t live in a bubble like you.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 08:19 PM
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Or you know, just a normal woman. I do agree on low T, main cause for TRP.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 08:17 PM
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True, is she is looking for an unloving, controlling and insecure man. Which has kind of fallen out of fashion.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 01:15 PM
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Wrong. Society, especially in the US, is making it seem that way. OP is spot on.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 07:13 AM
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No, they aren’t. Maybe where you live?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 06:58 AM
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Lol no they aren’t. Sex is something that happens between two or more people. If you believe that they gatekeep sex, those gates will probably stay closed for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 10:30 PM
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They already do, don’t worry :) now if I could only make the guys here open their eyes and realise that swallowing the red pill disqualifies them from being contested over.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 03:22 PM
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Or 5000 actual people similarly trapped in their algo bubble which feeds them toxic misandrist bullshit and 145K Russian bot accounts built to imbalance your society.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 02:47 PM
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The algorithm feeds you content you engage with to keep you engaging with their platforms. You, as adult should understand this, and understand that most people never see that kind of content because they have lives to live. You can either feed the algorithm with more sensible content, or start with a fresh account to avoid getting brainwashed by programs designed to do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 02:41 PM
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Average men find their average women, on average. Undesirable men and women rarely do. This is how it is, always was and forever will be. What changed was the Age of Entitlement. Spoiled babies of spoiled parents form a generation that expects everything handed to them with a press of a button. Their reality no longer consists of facts, just emotions and TikTok feeds. Then a bunch of crafty grifters realised these fools are an easy source of money, lured them in with a mix of appropriate hate sp…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 02:17 PM
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Congrats for living in the first world, I misfired. But do explain, how am I treated unequally exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 12:52 PM
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People have a tendency to use whatever study for whatever purposes. And no, it’s definitely not a study on female privilege as it examines the social areas where gender inequality hinders the economy such as access to education. These have a huge effect on the labour market, which has a huge effect on the national economy. Which is the topic WEF is dealing with. I hope you are aware that women are indeed treated unequally in many parts of the world. There is a 2024 edition of the study, btw. I’m…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 10:08 AM
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No, nyt everyone will find a partner, never has and never will.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 09:44 AM
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The whole study is examining the gender gap factors relevant to economic growth. It’s not a study on general equality, and only measures the gap between genders, not some absolute level of equality.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 12:15 AM
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Well, they do. And simply because they enjoy sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 12:12 AM
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Large portions of men won’t be checking out tho
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 10:43 AM
2

No, it isn’t. People who are unhappy in their relationships cheat.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 10:13 AM
2

Cheating doesn’t automatically mean non-committed sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 10:11 AM
1

It’s because he is aware of being incapable of meeting the needs of an unboring relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 10:03 AM
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And what happens when casual sex trains you to value intimacy, the emotional connection, empathy and simply good sex? Which it does for actual real humans who do it. You are thinking those experiences come with downsides, which don’t exist in reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 10:02 AM
1

Well, those things are not linked in any way.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 09:46 AM
1

Lol no. It gives you the experience of what a good connection between two humans can be like, so you avoid getting trapped into an LTR that lacks that. A successful LTR requires both the effortless chemistry and mutual growth.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 09:44 AM
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Except that is not how casual sex works. It doesn’t lack depth because that depth makes sex good. So if it would reinforce any loops (the quantity most people engage in casual sex isn’t enough to actually rewire anything in the brain, that would require a magnitude higher amounts of repetition), it reinforces the idea of what good sex is.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 09:40 AM
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Yet you haven’t observed it since that requires participation, you haven’t studied it and don’t have any first hand experience to be able to recognise patterns. You are technically clueless, yet wish to see yourself as an expert. A correct analogy would that a cardiologist cannot talk about heart disease if he hasn’t studied in med school or performed any work in the field.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 09:27 AM
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I believe the ones who cheat never really had casual sex before. That’s why they choose the wrong partner, which results in bad relationship and terrible sex life, which are the main reasons for cheating. Those who’ve been involved in casual sex are better at choosing LTR partners and don’t settle for garbage.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 09:12 AM
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Well, men aren’t struggling to find partners any more than women are. That is just how math works. For every partnered woman, there is a partnered man. The only thing that has happened recently is that the portion of men that are undateable has grown due to poor upbringing, and they have found internet outlets with similar guys and are engaged in an effort to make this a gender issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 08:59 AM
1

Oh look, another judgement post from someone who isn’t desirable enough to have casual sex. OP, you have no idea what casual sex is and why we do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 08:07 AM
1

Did you read the text you quoted about the World Economic Forum’s study on closing the gender gap in regards to economic performance?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 07:45 AM
1

Because most men don’t have anything to whine about, they just date. The guys who cry on Reddit are a very specific minority.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 07:12 AM
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I was commenting on your ridiculous idea that sex is something where women give their bodies to men. A couple of commenters write that they are only having sex in a relationship, while pretty much everyone else explains the more obvious reasons to have sex. I’ve never had a problem finding casual sex partners and never lied about my intentions. In some cases it has been the opposite, I’ve wanted a relationship with women who only wanted an FWB.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 07:11 AM
1

Lol dude, you missed the point. Crying on Reddit for your government to fix your problems isn’t doing anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 04:46 PM
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They are not giving their body, they want to fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 04:21 PM
0

Ruining your economy and international relations is supposed to help undateable men somehow? Both, you have become the exact same thing you hate.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 12:24 PM
2

TRP men
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 12:20 PM
1

Disregarding all facts and relying on feelings isn’t analysis
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 12:19 PM
1

Most women needing plausible deniability is simply not true. Maybe in some purity culture country? But not in the developed world.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 09:41 AM
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No, how is that even relevant? Most things aren’t privileges or rights, which you seem to imply.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 10:45 PM
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That is not showing any desire to solve your problems. You are crying for the government to solve them for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 10:40 PM
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It is really not if it contradicts with the definition of the term.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 10:38 PM
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”a special right, advantage, or immunity granted or available only to a particular person or group.” Normal, daily life to most people in this world does not fit the definition of privilege.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 10:23 PM
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Those aren’t privileges because most humans on this planet do them. Privileges are restricted for select minority.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 10:10 PM
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No, not your experience because that would be the same for every person dealing with any institution. You are talking about your interpretation of the events, which you are forming based on your feelings and values.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 09:49 PM
1

TRP is delusional men throwing tantrums and that is why you are laughed out of the room.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 09:42 PM
4

Money isn’t part of biology at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 08:30 PM
0

Obviously you don’t, how could you?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 08:18 PM
1

It’s never been a sure bet, that’s just you imagining that incels didn’t exist before you, and that it’s caused by others.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 08:13 PM
1

Men are wonderful-effect has really rotten your brain.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 08:10 PM
2

Respect is earned, not given out of courtesy to those who don’t deserve it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 08:06 PM
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When you start actually showing a desire to solve your problems instead of just spewing lies, avoiding all accountability and screeching misogyny, people might start to take manosphere seriously. But you never will, so just accept being ridiculed forever.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 08:05 PM
-2

Yet they aren’t common, it’s just an illusion you have crafted yourself to avoid accountability, and believe due to living 24/7 in your algorithm bubble.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 07:21 PM
2

Stupidity causes this internet raging, terpers aren’t radicalised.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 06:54 PM
1

Lol no they don’t need any other reasons than simply sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 06:52 PM
-1

Open your wallet to women who sell themselves for money, if that is the only thing you got going for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 06:51 PM
1

Those don’t make any sense. Contributing to society is not the recipe to finding love. Providing hasn’t been worth anything for generations. We all need to find our value inside us. Others can’t give it to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 06:48 PM
2

Time to entertain some average women
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 04:06 PM
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It’s talked about as much as your imaginary problems, as in not at all
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 03:58 PM
1

Who cares about those
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 03:56 PM
0

Exactly like you, you feel that men are more romantic because you are operating on your feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 03:11 PM
2

Misogyny, the core of TRP. The rest of their inane ramblings are just low-effort sugarcoating that only fools their own members.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 03:10 PM
0

What duty?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 03:05 PM
0

That goes for men too. Yet most of the guys here on PPD don’t think their garbage personality is a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 03:03 PM
2

Unhappy losers sacrifice their feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 03:01 PM
3

Their fault for choosing wrong women
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 02:59 PM
2

Do you not understand the concept of not having time for that?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 02:43 PM
1

Which is solely caused by desperate men swiping on every woman on the apps, without reading the bios. You caused it, not society, women or the apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 02:37 PM
1

While there are hundreds of millions of men who are kind, loyal, attentive and emotionally available and attractive? You will choose the more attractive option of the women as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 02:32 PM
1

What makes you think that the person lacking in desirable qualities would make a good partner or someone else happy?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 02:27 PM
2

Get better friends and be one. My buddies are always there for me no matter what.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 02:21 PM
0

It is not harder, and there are no reasons
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 02:19 PM
1

This is not how other men think.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 01:51 PM
1

We do, but the desperate terpers can’t comprehend that normal men actually do have standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 12:11 PM
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Yes there are, in real life, just as many as there are lonely men.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 12:01 PM
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How come?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 11:58 AM
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It isn’t impossible for most men to get laid. There will always be some men as women who just don’t make the cut. And it’s ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 11:56 AM
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So all gay men are sexually successful?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 11:54 AM
4

You are imagining the Chad part tho. Most men on OLD only want sex and lie about it. Those scummy men are average, because the really desirable men don’t have to lie to get casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 11:52 AM
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By your logic society should arrange gay men access to your anus.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 11:07 AM
1

Men who believe they should be rewarded with sex for fixing roads never had a chance anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 09:10 AM
2

It never occurred to you that the guys you call Chads don’t actually have time to waste with your average women? We are not competing for the same women.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 08:43 AM
5

That certainly requires professional help and not drawing a poor soul with you into a miserable relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 08:25 AM
4

There aren’t women whining on the internet about that. It’s only TRP incels who whine about imaginary things.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 08:14 AM
5

They haven’t had any relationships, most of them have never even spoken with a woman. It’s just made up bs to fuel their misogynistic daydreams.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 08:12 AM
1

Well, we men also get very much turned on when we turn you on. Many male posters on PPD explicitly state how important being lusted after is to them. That happens to be my life experience, down to sheer luck in the gene lottery, and I wouldn’t trade it for anything- in my experience me we are very similar in this need.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 10:59 AM
1

Are you a simp?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 10:54 AM
3

You commented on women. What is it that you see in marriage that we don’t? Share us, would you?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 10:49 AM
5

She proposed to me. I don’t take allegations personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 10:46 AM
2

So why not just say that you only mean some specific women? Perhaps I’ve been blessed to have known almost exclusively good women who wouldn’t entertain a simp instead of a man by their side. Would you say that a simp would make a good wife?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 10:45 AM
4

Think of it this way- I would never kneel for any other human than my fiancée. I’m pledging myself, giving her the ultimate honour. It’s mine to give.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 10:12 AM
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I’ve never known a woman who would be happy to share her life and herself with a simp. That is not what they mean with husband material.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 10:05 AM
1

Besides height, 188cm, haven’t found those stats on my character sheet? Just deduce the rest I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 09:59 AM
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Are you implying that other men feel like they are a downgrade or settled for?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 02:39 PM
1

You are. “No matter how many times you whine and cry about lack of respect to women” is exactly that. If they had reasons to respect you, they would.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 06:52 AM
2

Why are you whining here about it tho?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 12:36 AM
2

Every aspect, fundamentally different? Can you name even one aspect?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 12:24 AM
12

Yet nothing you said in op is in any way realistic
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 12:12 AM
5

You’ve never engaged in good faith either, with your overinflated ego and misguided beliefs.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 12:11 AM
1

I don’t see how your question is relevant here. I don’t know anyone who dates or doesn’t date transgenders, and they don’t seem to be in this thread either.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 03:41 PM
1

Gay men often have gay sex
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 01:55 PM
2

This world is basically outside the US.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 01:51 PM
1

Wtf is a league here? I’ve been approached by absolutely stunning women, cute ones, beautiful ones, ordinary ones but all of them were confident, fun and interesting even if wasn’t into them.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 01:49 PM
0

Imagine thinking your little bubble is bigger, and that imagination would make your bigotry more popular.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 01:47 PM
2

I don’t see those men in this thread voicing their bigoted opinions.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 01:45 PM
2

Lol no they don’t. But I bet it makes you feel better about yourself to believe they are all bigots like you.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 01:43 PM
-1

That just tells every reader that you are insecure about your sketchy views, and try to pull majority of women in your imaginary gang.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 01:42 PM
0

Many gays are very masculine in appearance and exhibit traditional masculine qualities, so that doesn’t really float.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 01:40 PM
4

Bigots always think they are in the majority, no matter how rare their views are.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 09:46 AM
14

Where did you learn that idea that men fucking each other is somehow unmasculine?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 09:44 AM
1

You need help
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 08:46 AM
2

Lol dude, your whole religion is based on the premise that red pilled men somehow know how women think, even when no woman has ever even looked at your direction and you never grew the balls to talk with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 08:45 AM
1

Many men do exactly that.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 08:43 AM
1

Or they lose respect. Anyway, it’s not about them.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 08:42 AM
5

Yes it is
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 11:41 PM
-2

Yeah, advocating for men doesn’t necessitate putting women down.
/r/MensRights28/04/25 12:54 PM
-3

It is, but that’s the whole point of this sub, so you get downvoted for calling it out.
/r/MensRights28/04/25 12:25 PM
1

If you continuously need to demand respect from others, it’s obvious you lack the reasons why they would respect you. I have never once in my life spoken about respect to a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 12:13 PM
6

That creep part happened after the guy came out as a creep. Which he was all the time but deceived the girl to think he was a friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 11:16 AM
4

What lying?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 11:13 AM
1

Only among the fake people, aka Americans. Normal, developed adults don’t put out show for other people. Everyone gets the same experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 07:19 AM
0

How am I oppressed, if you care to explain?
/r/MensRights25/04/25 11:33 PM
0

Men weren’t forced to do anything. They literally set up the system that way.
/r/MensRights25/04/25 11:07 PM
1

The “rule”?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 08:45 PM
1

Try to write things down instead of hinting at your “points”.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 08:42 PM
4

Why would I let them get dehydrated? Not everyone treats others as badly as you. The only working moral philosophy is simple, yes, but that is often the case with best solutions.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 08:20 PM
1

They just changed the shit they are gobbling down their throats because it caters to their hatred for women and normal men. TRP relieves them of all accountability and feeds their misery. They swallow everything they read, no matter how badly in contradicts with real life, because they are no longer in touch with that.Standard sheep mentality. Yes, ugly people have always struggled to find partners. An attractive woman with shit personality doesn’t face the same struggles as an ugly woman with g…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 08:15 PM
5

Lol no it isn’t, especially that young
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 06:58 PM
2

Discussions aren’t a contest, no matter if debating is the only thing you believe you are good at.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 05:19 PM
9

Abusing and using is causing harm to others, so you lost the plot there. And sounds like that 18y old is going to have an awesome night at the rave, so it was probably a good deed.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 05:05 PM
1

Maybe that’s the difference between normal men and TRP cultists? That they are incapable of forming their own world view, and instead just gobble up everything they are told like good little lambs. People drown other people in bullshit like religion, it’s up to all of us to filter that and come to our own conclusions. Hilariously enough, personality matters more than looks to everyone, you as well so that one wasn’t a lie of any sort, just common knowledge passed on.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 04:58 PM
1

It’s the #1 thing in every long term relationship for both men and women. It’s what makes two people compatible or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 04:42 PM
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I asked you why
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 04:40 PM
4

What overwhelming advantage? Finding love is the same game of luck for everyone on this planet.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 04:39 PM
3

Nobody is denying human connection for selfish or egocentric reasons. It can’t be forced, love isn’t some resource you can just spew around, it’s formed from the connection between individuals.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 04:38 PM
1

No, ethical guys are with their ethical partners. Manipulation won’t give you a loving relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 04:28 PM
4

So why is TRP blaming women, chads and society then?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 04:26 PM
2

Yet you didn’t expose a problem. You voiced your opinion that women should contribute “femininity” yet fail to specify what you mean by that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 04:21 PM
1

Who is contributing to society and how, and why aren’t they rewarded? They don’t get paid?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 04:19 PM
0

Just say what you mean, try to be accountable even for your own claims.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 04:16 PM
1

Lol dude, there is no such thing as “societal effort aimed at keeping men dependent on women”.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 04:15 PM
1

You brought up the irony that TRP is exactly like fringe, extreme feminism
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 08:30 AM
1

It doesn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 08:28 AM
1

Some desperate men might do that. Most don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 08:24 AM
1

I’m a man and nobody ever fed me such bullshit. Be accountable and admit that you made that shit up in your head because you are clueless, and now you proudly spout more bullshit you learn in you echo chambers. Is TRP actually a community for low IQ boys?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 08:21 AM
1

And that is exactly the cognitive dissonance TRP proudly flaunts. It is an online cult for unattractive, zero charisma dudes without any social skills. Yet they desperately want to see themselves as “the average men”.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 08:18 AM
1

If everyone thinks your personal preferences are entitled and misogynist, it’s because they are. You need to work on that. You need to become accountable for your own shit, instead of trying to spill the blame on other men by calling your shit “men’s preferences”.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 08:13 AM
1

Everyone cares about their partner’s personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 08:09 AM
1

It’s a fantasy, like conspiracy theories, angels and starseeds. TRP believes that reality is a lie, and that there is a specific group that has discovered “the truth”.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 08:05 AM
1

The system you are vaguely hinting at doesn’t seem to concern most men, who are not humiliated, vilified or ruined.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 07:53 AM
1

You don’t really seem to grasp that irony, do you?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 07:49 AM
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Nobody cares what you personally find appropriate or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 07:44 AM
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Why would society need to do that?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 07:37 AM
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So if it’s happening to you, it’s important?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 06:42 AM
1

Look around you. Average men all over are dating, in relationships and married. The manosphere attracts terminally online, confused below average men.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 02:02 AM
1

None of those are bullshit, buddy.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 01:39 AM
2

Average men have no problems getting dates on apps or elsewhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 08:28 AM
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Why not call out the men as well, is it because you are one of those men?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 08:09 AM
2

So call out the men?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 10:16 PM
1

Guess that works unless you have any taste, standards or experience?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 10:37 AM
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And how did you arrive at this ridiculous conclusion? You interviewed all women? Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 10:36 AM
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Most women?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 09:25 AM
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Dude, there are no red or blue pills in real life, only in Hollywood sci-fi films. The vast majority of people living normal lives aren’t ignorant, the reality isn’t a lie. You’re just fallen into a trap of delusions caused by spending too much time in online echo chambers. You’re confused, exactly like flat earthers and folks who believe they are from Sirius. Time to wake up.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 09:19 AM
2

Well the women that unknowingly engage with TRP men have to deal with all of his delusions and baggage.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 09:09 AM
1

No, that’s not it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 08:55 AM
1

Why do you think normal life is flexing tho? Or that everyone else has the need to compensate like you do?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 08:50 AM
1

Your personal beliefs won’t change the reality around you.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 08:40 AM
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That is not what she said tho. There will always be a small percentage of people that nobody wants.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 07:56 PM
1

I chuckle when a bunch of losers get sucked into echo chambers with other miserable losers and then come to Reddit and claim they have discovered some secrets about real life, without ever lining a day of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 07:36 PM
1

I’m in a perfect relationship and I’m not envious of anything. My mates are also fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 07:33 PM
2

You are more delusional than any woman I’ve ever met.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 09:00 PM
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No, majority of men are doing just fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 03:25 PM
1

External validation doesn’t fix insecurity.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 03:47 PM
1

And what makes you think so? I would say most people in love think that their partner is exactly the best possible partner for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 07:39 AM
1

What makes you think that everyone settles?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 12:33 AM
1

There are no sides, dude
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 03:48 PM
2

Where is your evidence and facts then
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 05:01 AM
2

No, we don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 05:00 AM
2

Quite the opposite
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 04:42 AM
-2

Where? All women? You state that like it’s some kind of fact, do you have a source?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 04:26 AM
1

It isn’t a fact, it’s your personal opinion. Do you understand the difference?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 04:11 AM
1

They haven’t
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 04:10 AM
1

Self report is not proof, and even if your deepest fear is that your woman has had better sex with someone else, normal men don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 04:02 AM
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Men don’t universally value that. We understand that you have a need to justify your personal insecurity of your sexual prowess, but you can’t draw normal men into it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 03:58 AM
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The first link you posted reads rather rational, she explains why low body fat requirement is hurtful to some women, and her point was targeting men who claim that it’s ok to bitch about weight because height can’t be changed. The second link discusses an absolutely ridiculous list of specs of one man, her point being that men can have equally unrealistic standards as women, not complaining that men have standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 08:14 AM
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Well it’s a good thing no such context exists outside manosphere delusion zone.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 08:04 AM
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It literally is the problem though.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 05:18 AM
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That certainly isn’t the common narrative.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 04:25 AM
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Lol, what do you think those links prove?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 03:34 AM
-4

Blatant lies and virtue signalling, aka standard TRP.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 04:06 PM
1

Just be yourself, dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 08:23 AM
1

What is “extensively”? I’ve lived in two countries and spent a total of of 2+ years travelling in over 50 countries, and around here this isn’t really even a lot of travelling. Educated people tend to seek educated partners, but the main reason is to be on the same intellectual level, here education is free.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 08:23 AM
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It’s definitely just an American thing, for starters. Normal societies aren’t anywhere near as shallow or completely permeated with materialism. You just lack the knowledge of developed societies and insight to understand that 99% of the dating issues posted here daily are specific to your culture only, and not biology.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 06:28 AM
2

I picture an addict with skin issues, yellowed teeth, infected needle marks and some donated clothes that were washed last summer when I think of this homeless woman. Reeking of piss and old booze. But I fully understand your aversion to make-up, the way many American women do themselves is very unattractive because it looks so fake. What do you think about sunglasses btw? I hate them because I can’t see their eyes, can’t trust anyone in the summer.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 03:21 PM
1

For sure, I prefer natural look as well, but not homeless-level natural :D and you don’t either lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 07:05 AM
2

Ok, then your real world is just on some other planet.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 11:10 AM
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And what about all the women who can’t get a “higher SMV” man? There’s roughly as many men as women, so the claim that one gender has more options than the other isn’t mathematically sound at least. Can we claim then that women have more suitable partners than men? No, since the gender division between heterosexual couples in LTRs and marriage is always exactly equal as well. What we can claim though is that women in OLD have more “options” than men, since men outnumber women on those platforms.…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 09:18 AM
2

I don’t what world you live in where a non-violent man is a unicorn.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 08:51 AM
5

Who do these women get into relationships with?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 08:39 AM
3

Lol, men would be way more attracted to a woman in a designer evening dress, full war paint and hair done than to the same woman begging in a street corner in smelly, dirty clothing. Attraction is never absolute for anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 08:34 AM
2

True. The majority of sane, genuine and reasonable men are already taken by that age by the sane, reasonable and genuine women.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 06:18 AM
2

Anyone of the 9 out of the 10 men you see around you.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 04:12 PM
7

For example what? Do you think all men are either regular assholes or covert assholes aka Nice Guys? That would leave out all the normal men who actually form the male half of most relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 04:03 PM
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What about the vast majority of men, who are neither assholes nor Nice Guys?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 02:38 PM
0

Pareto principle applies to men as well, the difference is that the only “study” referred here, the OK Cupid founder’s blog post of his small dataset proves only that women are honest about who they really find attractive, while the men in the data set virtue signalled. In real life, only a minority of men and women are physically attractive at first sight to others. This is just genetics, and proves that other things besides looks matter more to most people, as the average looks genes have proc…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 08:59 AM
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Well she sounds perfectly rational and normal, while you sound bitter, raging and delusional to be fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 07:48 AM
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Very sensible, healthy and realistic take, I fully agree. I would like to add that any initial attraction does not necessarily mean the couple would actually work.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 07:41 AM
-1

Ok let’s ignore the ridiculous way you present yourself as the ultimate truth speaker who knows what women want better than they do, here’s engaging your point directly- it’s bullshit and you know it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 06:54 AM
-1

Guys listen to him, he is an internet expert! Very knowledgeable on all things women
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 06:26 AM
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Lol, my penis, my choice. If you don’t want it with a condom, you are not getting it at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 01:37 PM
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How does sex make people unhappy? A sexually satisfied couple is happy and forms a stable unit that is requirement for making children. What are the negative effects on society?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 01:49 PM
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I find some men massively overdramatising the dating market situation for all men.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 03:14 PM
1

Yes, obesity is a health condition with negative individual and society level impact. Sex has positive individual effect and none on the society, well maybe happy people can be considered as positive.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 09:49 AM
1

I honestly can’t see any misandry in her comment. And I hate it just as much as misogyny, the gender wars are just as retarded as real wars, no winners.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 01:42 PM
1

That’s not how FWBs work. They are just two people who don’t want a real relationship atm for whatever, but like each other and enjoy both the friendship and benefits things together. My FWBs just wanted a reliable, hot guy who fucks them silly every now and then. No need to make it more complicated, they are not situationships with hidden agendas or unfulfilled wishes. Just casual sex but better than with random people.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 09:31 AM
1

We practise ENM with my spouse, it’s our choice and we don’t really care what other people think about it. I real life, people are mostly just curious when discussing it, but haven’t been judged or criticised. Online there is a lot of hate and pretty funny misconceptions and prejudices, I sometimes try to correct them but tbh it doesn’t matter enough for me to care to change a random’s opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 09:26 AM
1

Consenting adults having sex doesn’t destroy the society. It doesn’t even have anything to do with society.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 06:36 AM
2

I understand that some men may think like that, but it stems from issues that they probably should work on. Quality over quantity builds self esteem, going for quantity just feeds insecurity. I’d rather wank or hit the gym than have bad sex. Those other things make me happy, bad sex leaves me frustrated and unfulfilled. That’s why I’ve learned to vet women for sexual confidence, I’m only interested in women if they are secure in themselves and enjoy their sexuality.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 07:09 AM
5

This is real man talk. The only thing that matters is the connection between you two.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 06:34 AM
1

Good comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 07:20 PM
1

Do you have a flowchart of this process? How do you accurately measure the efficiency, like do you use a time and cost logging system with stats? What types of markers do you use to measure interest? I find this mechanical approach fascinating. What are the victory conditions of this game?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 02:07 PM
1

The problem with red pill is that it’s a fantasy concept. There is no alternative reality in our world, so it’s literally abandoning reality for a delusional construct that fits whatever insecurities, trauma, hatred and previous terrible life choices the bitter misogynist men carry with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 04:42 PM
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Then be one and stop whining on the internet. Stop watching bs TikToks, hit the gym and therapy, go out.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 11:48 AM
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No, we are not all low maintenance, I want experiences, adventures and a strong sense of common goals and mutual effort to reach them. And a successful long term relationship is never low maintenance, the world around us changes, people change, our lives change and both need to be motivated and capable of navigating the changes. And even if nothing changed, the same routines for decades is a sure way to kill any passion. But explain what makes dating phase stressful, demanding and annoying? You …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 10:29 AM
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Then why did he go and impregnate the woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 09:56 AM
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Well, they don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 08:14 AM
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They need the Chad pump and dump fallacy to avoid accountability. Their troubles are always caused by others, either women or the Chads. They virtue signal by saying they find most women attractive, yet their porn and insta baddie rotten brain only finds shallow, Botoxshopped bikini models attractive so the RP guys go for them only, and get burned by both the shallowness of these particular women, and their options. They virtue signal about wanting actual relationships, but see fidelity as a sac…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 08:13 AM
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Dude, approaching an interesting human being is not in any way intimidating, absolutely not demeaning in any way, not disheartening in a world full of people and you, the approacher, have all the power. You decide who gets your attention, and you can cancel the approach at any time you want. Think of the encounter as a new adventure, where you have the lead. You are the star, not her.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 04:31 PM
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Just post the prompt you used if you want some reactions, because nobody wants to read that much ai nonsense
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 02:23 PM
1

That would work. But first they would need to acknowledge that attraction is a much more complicated thing 6/6/6. They would have to stop hating women and actually treat them with respect and be interested in them beyond just sex. They would have to grow the courage to be open and vulnerable, believe in themselves so they could be authentic. They would have to deal with their traumas and find happiness. The actual hard parts of being desirable.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 08:00 PM
1

Why assume? Normally adults communicate their intentions. I don’t go on dates with women who are looking to get married, unless they tell that they just want to have fun while keeping looking. Be clear about what you want, people will respond.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 06:38 PM
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Can you be a bit more specific about what behaviour you perceive as toxic to women?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 04:23 PM
1

Finding a LTR, an FWB, a co-parent for kids you already have, a kink partner or yet another member to your polycule. Surprise, not everyone is not there to start a traditional family and marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 03:58 PM
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Ok, your studies show that: 1) two out three women would like a handsome husband 2) women’s sexual attraction to masculine traits varies according to their menstrual cycle 3) psychopaths are better liars than normal people, regardless of their looks
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 11:40 AM
1

Crazy take, everyone has their own reasons to date. There is no universal principle.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 10:37 AM
1

I don’t understand the idea that anyone would demand exclusivity while not offering the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 10:22 AM
1

And that is exactly what we do. “I have a goddess wife who is always and forever first priority no matter what, and a steady gf, busy life with work and hobbies so I’m only available for casual sex couple of times per month, is this something that you are also looking for?” No deceit, no covert contracts. Note that the first things I mention are instant dealbreakers for many, and there is still no shortage of women who simply enjoy no strings attached sex. For actually single guys this is even e…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 10:17 AM
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There are tons of women who simply like sex. And I love them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 09:13 AM
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Being honest does benefit me immensely, because I can respect myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 08:26 AM
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The lying and deceiving is a TRP/misogynistsphere strategy, utilised by the guys who state that the only valuable thing women can offer is sex, but who are not attractive enough for casual sex relationships. So they resort to faking LTR interest, lie about their other spinning plates, and ghost after sex. They even state that the sexual marketplace is amoral and thus their actions can not be judged.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 08:21 AM
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Are these toxic power-holding women in the room with us right now? How often do you hear them, are they whispering? When did you start hearing them? Do you also see them? Do you often feel like you see things or people that others around can’t see? Are you afraid of these toxic, powerful women?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 07:03 AM
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Because they act like despicable doormats by their own will, are stuck-up, low self-esteem misogynist, dishonest liars who are only after sex and despise the relationship part of a relationship and see it only as a method to “get sex”.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 09:15 AM
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Maybe just stop degrading yourself by seeing yourself as some fucked up internet weirdo concept like “beta buxx” and start working on yourself to become real husband material.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 09:12 AM
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I have no idea and don’t really know if anyone actually does that, makes no sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 09:10 AM
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It isn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 06:51 AM
1

Are you asking why people want fuck attractive people?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 05:57 AM
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The men who have sex respect women, it’s the incels who don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 05:45 AM
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I rank FWBs as casual sex, thought it was clear, and this kind of relationship establishes the connection. Mutual trust and understanding which allow both to be vulnerable. Obviously this isn’t the same as a life-long commitment, but exclusivity doesn’t seem to be that important. Of course everyone matches with everyone sexually, and I don’t think I was talking about some magic key to open every lock. I was talking against the idea many men here seem to have that women “give sex” and gatekeep it…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 07:51 PM
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This probably is just a joke, but one that still requires a terminal case of porn brain to produce so elaborately. In case this isn’t a joke, some corrections: Forget porn. Don’t settle for it. Women also absolutely love casual sex. It kinda makes sense when you think for a second, otherwise men would all be fucking each other casually. They especially enjoy it with trustworthy men who give them orgasms. Find a hot guy, try him, jfc that was good, establish boundaries and keep inviting yourself …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 06:40 PM
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Just like there is for men. Most of us like beautiful, happy, fit, shapely, sexy women. And some don’t, they want a sarcastic, pale big titty goth gf, while others seek for a modest, quietly confident religious woman. Their buddy might always fall for irresponsible party girls with epic tattoos and neon yellow hair, at least for a week. This ain’t rocket science, women are humans and many like handsome, happy, fit, strong and sexy men. And some don’t, they prefer a sensitive, thin, romantic and …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 04:02 PM
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Baggage is never the issue in itself, it’s the lack of self-reflection, motivation and capacity to deal with the baggage and not let it control you or dictate your behaviour. Most of us go through hard times in our lives, it’s human to make mistakes and be unfortunate in this chaotic world. IMO a person who can go “This shitty thing happened, it affects how I do this other thing, and I need to X and Y so that the shitty thing doesn’t weigh on me anymore” will make a much better partner than some…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 03:25 PM
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What adjustments and compromises? Biological compatibility means nothing, with that logic everyone would just make babies with the first person they meet when reaching reproductive age. And learning what someone else likes doesn’t mean you like the same things. This is what compatibility means. And what makes you think your views on sexuality are healthier and more realistic than everyone else’s?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 07:02 AM
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Cream of the crop of women isn’t on the dating apps, so it’s not possible to get maximum results there. Attractive men never had to put in any effort to be with women. They have always approached us.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 06:46 AM
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Lol no, sexual compatibility is way less common than personality compatibility. Most people get just fine along, but there are huge differences in the quality of sex because of different preferences. Even purely physical differences matter a lot more than you imagine. Loving relationships don’t require any kind of compromises or patience or whatever you think you need to force something to happen that shouldn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 09:12 PM
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Downside to this is that the boyfriend material doesn’t see you as girlfriend material, just as someone who plays dumb games instead of living.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 04:04 PM
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Love isn’t a business contract. What is it exactly that you feel the people you date owe you?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 12:11 PM
5

The first part
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 06:00 AM
7

Lol, they aren’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 05:25 AM
0

Nah, average 188cm
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/25 12:12 PM
2

Humans just have so many dimensions, and when you add your own half of the relationship, categories become less useful.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/25 08:45 AM
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I don’t think not having different categories is above anything, just how I personally feel. Every relationship is unique anyway. Some of my colleagues are also friends, and one of them became a wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 05:42 PM
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That kind of commitment requires true love, and that’s something I’ve only felt with one person. It’s about the depth of the connection, not what sort of “material” she is.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 05:27 PM
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Let’s not pretend anyone else thinks like you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 05:17 PM
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I don’t really categorise people beyond “I like them / I don’t like them”. I’m attracted to the whole person, so most women I end up in bed with I could also date seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 12:03 PM
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Glad I don’t live in that kind of culture then, or in a country polluted by religion. Here people marry for love, as it should be.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 10:29 AM
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Only very few people engage in serious relationships with people they don’t like, basically just gold diggers and passport bros and such. Just avoid those types and you’re good.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 10:25 AM
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Well I personally enjoy casual sex with women, and they all have been overall fantastic humans, so not really sure why anyone would consider them “less” in any way.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 09:35 AM
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Lol, that’s not cuckoldry, it’s just accepting that normal people have sex since teenagers and most likely don’t end up marrying their first one, because those relationships never work.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 09:12 AM
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Why would I give a shit if someone else had her for a night, she’s wants to be my slut for the rest of her life :D and it’s not exactly like I haven’t been the ride of the night for other women before her.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 09:02 AM
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There was a time in my life when I was not considered husband material by women, all they wanted from me was sex. I had to upgrade myself to get that title, so for me it is a massive compliment and that is how most women mean it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 07:18 AM
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This sounds like the view of a man who values sex over everything else a relationship is, but hasn’t even had sex. It sounds like this man does not value women beyond their pussy, and thinks that relationships are just obligatory work to be performed in order to have sex. Which explains why they have neither sex or relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 07:14 AM
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That’s just not true. All the women in my LTRs have treated me much better than any of the hookups or FWBs.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 07:07 AM
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Why do you believe women in general would ever want a doting husband they don’t even want to fuck?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 06:52 AM
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It’s got nothing to do with believing, I share my life with her.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 05:30 PM
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If my spouse would stop feeling sexy, I would honestly blame myself. We both work on ourselves to be sexy, and together to keep the passion alive.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 02:22 PM
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Did you even read the OP :D
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 12:37 PM
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This isn’t really gendered, as is clearly evident in this sub filled with raging TRP lunatics. Ideologies are generally just something that certain people are drawn to.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 11:26 AM
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This is a good one. Humans aren’t 100% (yeah you butthurt guy over there, you’re on spectrum like everyone else) but we are definitely conditioned to think we are, and most suppress their urges and dampen their actual orientation due to social pressure to appear “normal”.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 09:55 AM
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That is ridiculous and just shows that you are the cause for women losing desire for you. Women love sex and are physically capable of having much more sex than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 09:38 AM
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It isn’t sex if everyone is not enjoying it, and certainly not anything worth wasting time on.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 09:31 AM
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No, we don’t all settle, and I’m tired of reading it given as advice. There is absolutely no need for anyone to be in an unsatisfactory relationship, it just hurts two people.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 09:27 AM
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Women having less of a sex drive is bullshit. Many are just conditioned to suppress their sexuality, those who are free want sex at least as much as men.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 09:04 AM
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Yes, inexperience is valid reason to feel insecurity, but experience is not the main thing that makes someone good at sex. Sex is very natural, and being good at it is 90% of following your instincts, being present and connecting without partner, and letting go of your inhibitions. The technicalities you can learn from the internet, it’s all very simple and you have done way more complicated things in your life, reading your partner is the most important thing as every human is different, and yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 08:41 AM
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Same goes for men, everyone needs to be open.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 07:09 AM
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It’s a common complaint because most men on OLD are only after sex, and those who aren’t hot enough for casual sex will dangle relationship and lie in order to get sex. The men with options who are only after sex will be dead straightforward with it, zero need to deceive or uphold false expectations, and honestly why would they pick someone not attractive among all the options. We all have limited time in our life and rather spend it being with people we are attracted to. It’s perfectly honest a…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 09:36 AM
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And why would your personal observation matter to them?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 08:38 AM
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Who decides this “more attractive” thing, and why is it a problem for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 08:34 AM
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Yeah, but they were deceived by average guys, so OP's "advice", which was definitely not done in good faith, doesn't apply. He himself probably deceives women to get sex, attractive men never have to be shady.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 06:25 AM
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So you want to say that you personally don’t have high standards, and women you have dated were usually just in it for your money?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 09:49 PM
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Ok, so it only applies to hypothetical women who can't find a man they love. Well we are glad that you want to help them!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 08:50 PM
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Ok, so this applies to hypothetical situations where a man with all the options is somehow willing to fuck unappealing women who are strictly looking for commitment, and would have appealing men available who would like to commit specifically to her. In real situations where people just have mutual, casual fun sex, or both are looking to commit to each other, or just have sex because they haven't met anyone better, it doesn't. And at the end of the day, this whole issue just doesn't seem to be a…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 08:29 PM
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Why would they need to do that actually?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 08:09 PM
6

Then why you are the one who sees sex as the ultimate prize?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 07:16 PM
2

You don't have to follow such ridiculous rules dude. Make your own, it's your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 07:10 PM
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Those are completely different things than what you were discussing, attractiveness "levels" or "being hot enough to commit."
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 07:09 PM
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Well if I want to have sex with her, she is definitely more than fine enough for me :D I mean, why even bother if that wasn't the case. Not everyone thinks in some funky levels or 1-10 scales, or worry about "relative differences in attractiveness" as if they were some objective, measurable thing that should be balanced somehow.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 06:45 PM
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Well, manosphere is a lot of bullshit, and outside of it people have sex, find relationships and get married, in other words this "inflation" doesn't seem to have any actual real world effect.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 06:32 PM
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Ok, so the purpose of this is to help women. Very thoughtful of you! However, your whole theory is based on a false premise- in real world, attractive men don't have to lie to get sex. We don't need to bait with talks of commitment, we don't need to court women, there are plenty of gwomen who are simply down to fuck, no strings attached. We don't need the hassle of dealing with someone else's broken heart and dreams. The whole cheating scheme is performed by average assholes who only want sex an…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 05:58 PM
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If they are looking for LTR and also have casual sex with randoms, it just means they don't even consider the random as a real candidate. People like sex you know, and if you are single, you either keep FWBs, have random flings or just have sex with your hand.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 05:26 PM
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What exactly is the problem here? Are you concerned for the women who were looking for a relationship, but are let down by liars? Have you tried addressing the liars, or is that morally acceptable to you? At least more acceptable to you than the choice made by the victim who got deceived? I think it's fairly rational to conclude that a man who lies to get sex is in fact full of shit, averse to commitment, a cheater and a liar. If you haven't been deceived yourself, why does this really concern y…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 05:16 PM
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Ok, good points about such environmental effects, those apply on a general, biological level. On an individual level attraction is just between two individuals, and tastes vary. Social constructs don't have that kind of effect on pure biological lust, someone can fuck a celebrity just because they want that on their scorecard, that isn't attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 03:52 PM
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Sex isn't a big deal, or maybe it is to you? I do enjoy it a lot, and we have lots of it, but it's still not that many hours of the week compared to rest of our time together, the rest of the relationship. If sex is the only prize for you, maybe don't waste time with women who are looking for a real relationship, get an FWB or just look for flings? In which world women "deny sex"? People who like each other have sex because it's awesome, not just because someone is interested in them. They aren'…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 03:48 PM
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Sexual attraction isn’t a social construct or influenced by the environment. Or do you see someone as hot just because others think so?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 01:59 PM
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Where did she blame men? What consequences? Orgasms?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 01:51 PM
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There are no sacrifices in normal relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 01:48 PM
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How do you know? Are you attractive, and is that the reason you don’t commit to women? Why do they complain to you and try to change you? I have endless options, but there is exactly one person I want to spend the rest of my life with. We are both extremely lucky we found each other. That’s how love works.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 01:47 PM
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I would never choose a woman I don’t find attractive at first sight, it’s definitely one of my long list of standards. As per the most cited blog post here, the OK Cupid stats consisting of the data from contacts of the founder, it proves that men lie about their looks standard to appear more virtuous. They rated women along the bell curve, yet only actually messaged the top 10%. While women were straight up more honest with their ratings and behaved according to their stated preferences.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 01:41 PM
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Why would it be any different?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 01:32 PM
7

You asked it if it is ok, which implies you don’t think it is. And wtf are “Chad’s leftovers”?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 01:24 PM
10

That doesn’t make any sense
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 01:22 PM
6

It’s absurd, you can get sex by just walking into a bar or a club. Vetting people for LTR is what takes time and effort but is worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 01:06 PM
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If you prefer FWBs to a wife, why would you even get married? I definitely don’t, a long term relationship is the deepest bond between two humans, and nothing is anywhere near beautiful as loving someone who loves you.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 12:50 PM
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Yeah, all the women I’ve had casual sex is because they only wanted to have casual sex with a hot guy, why would this not be ok?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 12:39 PM
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Sex isn’t the prize, dude. Mutual love in a healthy relationship is the prize.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 12:37 PM
3

Men exclusively message only the top 10% women
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 12:22 PM
5

Those are children 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 10:29 AM
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Oh look little soy boy got all pissy when his retarded arguments weren’t accepted as some kind of universal truth. Go back to your misery chamber to hate on women and Chads.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 04:34 AM
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The difference is that know, spend time and interact with living people in real life, men and women of different ages, backgrounds and social classes.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 04:32 AM
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They look insecure and desperate for validation, nothing attractive about them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 03:32 AM
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Most men have just as many options as most women. Things may look different in your internet echo chamber filled with only undateable, desperate misogynistic and antisocial men, but they represent a minority. Reality is different.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 02:16 AM
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It’s widely known at this point that a growing number of young men aren’t functional adults, you claiming otherwise doesn’t change the fact. RP guys lie about it collectively to avoid accountability and try to gaslight women.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 01:56 AM
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Jesus what a pathetic response.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 01:18 AM
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They don’t play any part in your loneliness dude. Only you can help yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 12:29 PM
3

This is the way. Be accountable and call that friend you haven’t seen in ages. Go out, stop digging yourself into a hole by yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 12:27 PM
5

When your view is opposite to everyone else, it just might be that the whole world is not collectively lying, but you are just wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 10:22 PM
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I want it all, love, intelligence, confidence, education, status, high income, looks, personality, high sex drive, that is exactly what I got. It’s insane to not want these things from your life partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 08:20 PM
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No, the nice guy was a toxic, bad person who became obsessed because he felt didn't have any options for partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 01:39 PM
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It's still stalking, the motive doesn't matter. Imagining you love someone unavailable doesn't give you any moral right to stalk a person, so don't do it anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 01:33 PM
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