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| 2 | How do you justify leavingHe's 8. It's the same age my parents got divorced at. My mom moved me two years later and the loss of my social circle had longterm effects on me. So maybe I'm projecting. I could see JHS/HS being worse. We also currently live on a street full of kids his age. It's an amazing environment for him. It's hard to justify taking that away. Then there's the opportunity cost associated with job mobility. Being in tech, almost anywhere I move is either equally expensive or I lose mobility. Remote work i… | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/07/24 04:05 AM |
| 1 | How do you justify leavingIt's not so much expenses. Neither of us are really big spenders. It's just the cost of housing in my city. It's brutal. Unfortunately if we move out, then not only does my kid lose his friends and school, but my job mobility takes a nose dive. It seems overly dangerous to do that given that I'd be single income at that point | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/07/24 03:59 AM |
| 2 | How do you justify leavingThanks. I partly worry about my son with her since I already do the lions share of interacting with him. I think post divorce I'd have more energy, as you say, but I'd have less time with him. He'd have to spend more time with someone less interested in his life. I try to tell myself it'll be better, but it's hard to not question whether it's just a selfish justification...in any case I still have to figure out to afford divorce...everything is so expensive and bird nesting is doomed in the long… | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/07/24 03:45 AM |
| 4 | How do you justify leavingSimilar situation here. We got married for all the wrong reasons and now we're loveless and full of contempt and resentment. We both want to split, but we have an 8 year old. She really wants out. Until recently I was struggling, I didn't love her but I thought a broken home would be worse for my son. I'm still not sure divorce is better for him, but her and the "relationship" are sucking me dry and I don't have the energy to be the kind of father I want to be. Luckily there is no manditory alim… | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/07/24 11:03 PM |
| 2 | Do I let her goThe divorce is in progress. I held onto hopes and tried to make it work for 5 years after the specter of divorce was raised. About 7 months ago she asked more formally for one and I held out hope for about 6 months, I did everything I could but all it did was shred my self-worth. I don't regret trying since my kid is my top priority, but it's become pretty clear that she has no interest in fixing anything. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/07/24 07:11 PM |
| 2 | Do I let her goIt's complicated I think. Do don't regret working on myself, it made me a better man and ultimately I have to look at myself in the mirror everyday. But depending on the relationship and it's problems, she might interpret the self-focus as pulling away. Not all women are as motivated by physical looks as most men, and chances are she already found you attractive. By focusing on your physical self and playing hard to get, you risk the emotional ties that are important to a healthy relationship. T… | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/07/24 04:51 PM |
| 3 | Do I let her goI tried this. It was good for me but destroyed anything that might have remained between me and my STBXW | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/07/24 04:10 AM |
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