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Its not unconscious there is a reason you know it will work because it is proven. Aka what I said above. You cannot have confidence in something unproven therefore it needs to be mostly real not performative. An example you have confidence in facts not opinions.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 01:29 PM
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It is the same thing and births from the same place. The ability to be competent or percieved as it. There is no such thing as performative confidence as confidence comes from performjng. Most of the time its performing well but it also comea from at all. As being wrong can lead you to learning.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 01:06 PM
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It shouldn't be lol it actually encourages people to be more emotionally detached the higher it goes as base confidence is a comfort in being detached from most things due to experience or intelligence to not need said experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 01:00 PM
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That implies those same ugly people should want to stick around on earth and prolong being made fun of, being a last pick and pitied. Heres where you say theres more to life than love and relationships. Sure if you can go anywhere without being told and reminded you're a freak. Yes by all means work harder to be made a joke out of.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 12:51 PM
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Never claimed to not be. Besides it still backs up the stereotype
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 12:46 PM
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All I see there is basically "don't open up or irritate me with your problems" backing up the stereotype that men shouldnt have problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 12:40 PM
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That takes time. Even if someone puts in the effort and becomes jacked or shredded they could still be less attractive than 90%of people they encounter. Its a sad fact of life.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 12:28 PM
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I rarely say I'm a nice guy and more so state I try to be nice. I hold doors for everyone even when it hampers me or makes me late. I compliment everyone not on a surface level because life seems too bleak. I treat others how I would like to be treated even though it doesn't happen. I was insulted or made light of just existing being told I look old enough to be someones father, I joked said I don't know if I am and called her hot despite me having lost 20lbs over 6 months prior. Many times I th…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 12:22 PM
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It is a big part of attraction thats why women claim they won't date a hot guy if they learn he's an awful person or why terrible men with rumors around them can still get women. Disproving rumors in a womans eyes raises her curiousity about you.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 12:15 PM
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Incorrect it raises a womans curiousity of you especially if they share a friend circle
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 12:10 PM
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So there were still dudes wanting to sleep with you. Making your hypothetical question pointless. I always feel bad deconstructing someone farther up in age but sorry lady you proved yourself wrong with that admission.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 12:08 PM
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You'll cheat eventually once that gets boring
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 12:04 PM
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Another example of men need experience women don't. Its difficult for women to be bad at sex. Most who are its because they have a closed mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 11:51 AM
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Many want a girlfriend to know they are worth thinking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 11:49 AM
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You will not find a relationship as you can't accept the good nor the bad
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 11:45 AM
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Most of the time I see popular womens erotic literature be it a book or a book turned series/movie the man is extremely dangerous, abusive and its a case of kidnapping' coersion, rape. 50 shades, 365 days to name off the top of my head.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 11:42 AM
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Pick better and try and be loyal.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 11:37 AM
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They think men only want to mimic porn and can't understand its mostly acted.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 11:32 AM
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Are you ok with having a wrong opinion? Remember an opinion also constitutes and implies advice you may give. Thats why opinions have push back as if a large number of people are of the same opinion then it becomes a societal norm/fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 11:31 AM
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Most people who aren't individualistic are people too shy to shoot thier shot in dating or less likely to be picked and likely unattractive and are thus invisible to women the younger women get the more invisible they are. Society in terms of dating is confidence focused and most people with confidence will struggle to also practice consideration for thier partner because confidence inherently means being comfortable in situations. In terms of dating it means a comfort in being detached from a p…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 11:28 AM
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Loyalty quiets alot of those requests and I imagine most of them had an underlying theme of loyalty. As men are taught and have learned not to expect an ounce of loyalty from a woman at any stage of relationship and they should just take it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 11:13 AM
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If women hated thier marriages they could just leave and be richer for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 11:08 AM
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Men are also buying into datibg technically by working hard to meet womens standards as many women are attracted by money. Money can also lead to more free time to put into a grrat body, looks etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 11:05 AM
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Note your chances of this go up only if you're generally attractive. If you're fat, and or ugly give up.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 11:03 AM
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If a man is attractive approaching women he'll have more success even cold approaching if he's ugly then the guy who approached is a creep.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 10:59 AM
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You dont date men who you KNOW believe that about women.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 04:37 PM
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You can't the circles those women are in would then be filled with men who would try to get a date with them 24/7 leading to most being called creeps or annoying. How would we meet those women when apparently none of the scenarios you'd meet them in would be considered appropriate to try and date them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 03:32 PM
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Im glad you're more understanding than most. Men will not meet someone unless they put themselves out there. The places most commonly they put themselves out there are the places they'd be turned down for admitting they are a virgin. Along side the average woman doesnt find it to be a plus. Typically a negative or something neutral so identifying as such only hurts your chances of ever being with a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 03:26 PM
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Even so instead of a dateless kissless virgin you'd be now just a virgin if we're starting from there lol and have the experience to at least makeout or get a chick to go beyond your date.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 03:12 PM
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Even so instead of a dateless kissless virgin you'd be now just a virgin if we're starting from there lol and have the experience to at least makeout or get a chick to go beyond your date.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 03:09 PM
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Sure but if they take any advice from a friend, family social media etc the same thing applies.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 02:18 PM
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MOST women that men will encounter added onto by the message MOST women send on social media makes it improbable a big majority don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 02:03 PM
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You assume they'd be able to tell you're lying or any judgement would come out of my mouth. If I'm proven wrong then great until then. I'll stick with what is projected forward by women.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 02:01 PM
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Its not planned its just what your subconscious actually wants that you suppress
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 01:56 PM
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Im black pill actually.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 01:50 PM
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I see them as human beings who only truly care about getting the best out of thier own experiences. Again you assume you know he sleeps around alot before you. This works for men who do or dont sleep around alot. You need to enstill to the best of your ability that you are someone experienced and trustworthy enough to explore that with. It simply starts by getting a woman curious about you or about it And maintaining that you are sexually competent
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 01:47 PM
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If you don't any man would be lucky to have you and I'd wish you were in my life. Only time will tell.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 01:40 PM
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Pfft that woman will never find out you lied if you dont go overboard all that matters is vague experience, besides ehat matters if you're learning mid experience giving your all. Once other women hear you have experience they may want to explore thier kinks or simply be interested in you which will lead to more than 1 instance of sex
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 01:04 PM
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Don't listen to her. Lie about it in a very cautious believable way. Women will turn you away at the door for being a virgin because thier minds immediately fill with all the "work" they'll have to do or how long they'll have to go unsatisfied in a society built on instant gratification.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 12:33 PM
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They're not desired they're invisible. All of those factors mean you likely have no experience but you can't gain experience because all of those factors are out of your control at varying levels. They arent desired because of the implied work the woman THINKS she'll have to do sexually and in relation to those things. Stress is a turn off in whatever way you slice it. Yet your assumption makes you shallow minded. What if said person has "bad" social skills or little to no friends because of sai…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 12:30 PM
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Women seem to brag about it constantly on social mediaand have borderline delusional confidence especially if thry're in the club every weekend or eveey day and encourage eveey woman they meet to sleep arouns and take advantage of said priviledge . Its promoted on social media, TV, casually in conversation and worst of all music lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 12:21 PM
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Womem hate men who have no experience or very little of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 12:02 PM
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Shes lying. Also even if they do they'll leave for someone they don't...
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 11:16 AM
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This person is lying to you women hate men and will shit talk you behind your back if you have no experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 11:14 AM
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You'll get bored eventually
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 11:09 AM
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Oh trust me I do and have accepted there is no hope or reason. My statements aren't maliciously or emotionally charged. They are factual and simply truth deducted out of what happened in the past, what happens in the present. Hard work does not matter. The only thing that matters especially in relationships is luck off the draw. You can't work on anything if your partner isn't, you can't attract or keep them attracted if your looks don't bring out lust and it barely matters if they do because ot…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 12:46 PM
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Oh trust me I do and have accepted there is no hope or reason. My statements aren't maliciously or emotionally charged. They are factual and simply truth deducted out of what happened in the past, what happens in the present. Hard work does not matter. The only thing that matters especially in relationships is luck off the draw. You can't work on anything if your partner isn't, you can't attract or keep them attracted if your looks don't bring out lust and it barely matters if they do because ot…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 12:45 PM
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So if you dont have said luck and hard work ethic what is life but torture or isolation? Currently 23 dropped out of school at 15 to pursue my ged so I can enter college earlier in life this stress led to hard constant insomnia ontop of my already previously diagnosed severe manic depression and anxiety. It worked. Passing grades, gpa, honors, at 17 a 5 year relationship with my ex girlfriend whom I gave unconditional love and freedom to, supported her through college. She joined me everyday wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 12:08 PM
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Meh just tell us when the guy who doesnt need all that that you actually find hot steals you from him or taints your relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 03:07 AM
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Even caring about someone can be broken down. They only care about you if you provide something. You must provide something to enter a friendship, a close familial bond or a romantic relatiinship etc. Any relationship you can think of is transactional and lives and dies by transaction. More evidence of this is cheating' breakups and ghosting. Imagine it this way your worth shouldn't be tied to your looks right? Yet your dream job or jobs that are convenient for you won't hire you because your fa…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 03:02 AM
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I don't see those types of people that often. I go out everyday and most dudes I see arent homer simpson looking slobs with women on thier arm if they do look that way typically they're a 40 year old dad with multiple children to take care off and an equally as old looking wife or gf. Anyone hanging with a girl is vaguely thugish, decently to well dressed for street clothes or a mildly attractive guy in dad cargo shorts and a tee shirt. Clearly we live in seperate planets.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 02:43 AM
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I am not saying it is going to work. I am saying that is why people induldge and continue to induldge in x short term substance, behaviour etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 02:36 AM
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You just proved my point like what in the world are you even saying. A Chris Hemsworth body is unattainable let alone maintainable without roids. 99% of anyone working out will never obtain his body without roids including himself. But women don't care about the long term side effects/health issues they just care that he's hot and has said body.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 02:34 AM
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Women actually become extremely open to thier partners or at least to me be it dating them or not. Give a woman a greenlight to share her actual wants' fantasies, shady business and regrets you'll learn alot. Beyond anecdote it is extremely easy to observe women online getting seconded or upvoted for venting and sharing the same sentiment of growing bored, feeling held back or trapped just by thier husbands existing. They're also encouraged to treat him like shit and disrespect the relationship …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 02:30 AM
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Be there for us when we're down or at least try before ditching us like with it being talked out about how you want to leave but the love is there. Not just silently seeing if "we'll change" or if things get better naturally.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 01:11 PM
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He may not have been fat when they met or he makes better money than you. Don't worry she's probably cheating on him for the actually low quality dude. Or shes formed an emotional attachment after the actual low quality dude messed her up a bit. Either way the same way you see posts on here that women settle and arent attracted to thier partners thats why. My point still stands you have no clue what an all around low quality dude actually is especially going based ofd just a single feature. I co…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 01:05 PM
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You dont actually know what low quality means. Its clear you've dreamt up some anecdotal classification for low quality. "Bad boys" thugs, drug dealers or attractive unemployed dudes are not low quality to women because they're attracted to the money lifestyle and dark triad traits he exhibits or just sheer lust A low quality man is a man who is overweight, unattractive physically and a guy who tries too hard to satisfy partners. This is evidenced by the fact that you CAN go to super markets and…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 12:52 PM
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Low quality dudes are less than dirt to society. That would mean they get no one.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 12:44 PM
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Most of the other forms of intimacy actively repulse women away from a man. An example of this is being vulnerable. Or it is used against said ma. The other forms of intimacy are inexcessible to men. End of discussion unless you are blind and delusional.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 12:42 PM
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Sometimes theres nothing to communicate anymore. Like if you know she doesn't find you that attractive its a waste of precious minutes.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 12:37 PM
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Men in the 40s and 50s still got rejected. Just less so if he was rich or had a stable income.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 12:26 PM
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Cocaine gets them the stress relief and high same as casual sex does just from someone wanting them. Not doing these things does not get them that high. Thats why women view sleeping around as empowering
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 12:24 PM
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Thats one reason why drug dealers get laid among like 2 others like dark triad traits and being a good body type for most women. Women will always be on the arms of criminals especially successful ones. By all means tell me I'm wrong prove how little you know. Women don't care about means so long as you're successful. Bullies always have a girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 12:22 PM
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I think people are dating too young anyway an I'm only 23. I blame rap music, hip-hop, teen dramas, social media and the internet in general. Glamourizes it too much. If insecure people shouldnt date why the fuck should teens be dating? Im aware theres nothing to actually be done about it and this has always been a thing but now theres more comparrison than ever due to the internet and more and more kids are focused on dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 12:16 PM
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Its because all people are raised by society and absorb that they should be attracted to the most attracrive people + the natural instinct to already be attracted to them. Its just that for men that bar is actually way lower than any woman would care to admit because most men are invisible and not a dating option for them as they only care about the what the ones they find attractive care about. Alot of plus size men are going to find average to below average women datable in terms of looks. Whe…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 12:02 PM
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Combined with what was said above about fishing for compliments, most 20 year old women or even older ones have been faking confidence for years and haven't accumulated any thus they have none.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:54 AM
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I wont lie that men let thier wives down. But most women because of social media also scout for reasons to leave, be it he let her down or she simply missed have the clubbing life, missed out on the clubbing life or cheated.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:51 AM
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"Doesnt mean It shouldnt be changed" it will not change as you can't controll or expect most women aka what you will encounter to have that much introspection or to stop lying to society/social media about being virtious and caring leet alone while sleeping around. (Which is a standard harmful for women too) Its insantity to not accept the reality of the situation. Women only claim to care then will turn around at the slightest incling of you relying on them "I'm not your mother" because they ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:47 AM
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What the op forgot to mention is how many pretend that they dont and lie to themselves about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:41 AM
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You don't seem to be able to wrap your head around this. I don't support it. It is simply what happens and what a majority of people feel subconsciously. If the world worked how you are saying addicts wouldn't exist or instantly with no effort be able to be cured of said addiction. You need to get a more realistic worldview in order to provide better solutions rather than. "DON'T"
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:39 AM
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Further adding a pin to what exactly we dislike about it is. This woman will eventually demand more from you when she won't demand more than 7.99 or a certain number from her customers. Its made even worse if she has full blown sex on her onlyfans and not just thirst traps and nudes. As a man it implies alot about you to date someone who has to cheap out to make money. Your girl can be bought. I can see why relationships with of girls happen however. It creates an us vs them mentality which can …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:36 AM
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It does. It helps in the long run of taking the burden of feeling certain feelings away. Which is stress relief. It is a negative but the human brain will view it as a positive thats why things like drugs and cheating happen bad things happen because of perspective, do you understand?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:28 AM
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It is ingrained in us even back to like playground years and alotvof men don't really grow out of that reminder. Alot of men dont feel any particular way about it. To them its just truth and it causes alot of internal pain when you keep getting that truth shoved back into your face. Thats why so many men fear rejection have stopped trying with women or accumulate depression. It is made worse when they achieve something and it means nothing interms of changing that mindset. That is why theres not…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:25 AM
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The disdain is because of whats going on on social media in my opinion. Women are encoraged and pushed to all be promiscious women. Like a woman cheating on you is an absolute inevitability at this point when in the past it dealt more with probability. Not just cheating but her doing alot of things to disrespect you guys relationship. Alot of women listen to other women instead of thier own thoughts so any woman at any point in time in your relationship can switch up and become a party girl. It …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:18 AM
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Short term does provide long term fulfilment as it is a confidence boost because of how glamourized it is over long term anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:05 AM
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Women don't know or care who is on steroids. They just care who looks hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 10:59 AM
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Men care about looks and if you're enjoyable to be around. For some that just means fun, for others it means how agreeable you are to thier lifestyle (aka are they able to rope you into doing what they want) even then a man will still likely get you a gift you care about. Majority of men aren't looking for thier partners to prove that they're better than them because alot of men already think that about the women they admire. Thats why how men exclusively love is by putting themselves after thie…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 12:04 PM
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I feel like this entire comment section would be better explained if we replaced "attracted to" with "interested in". As stated pre selection gets you a chance to occupy a womans mind and thats how infatuation/lust/crushes are formed. By being attractive physically or personality wise you will likely occupy more of thier thoughtspace. Add onto that the "taboo"/excitement of being an affair partner and if that person starts trying to avoid these feelings you and your relationship will take up eve…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 11:53 AM
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End of the day its harder for men as even if you have lucrative hobbies and work your ass off to provide (a good time, financially etc) your girl will leave you for someone more attractive who does less or the same or more or hell you may never even get picked to be in a relationship or a friendship.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 11:27 AM
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Alot of young women cheat to trade up and must have an emotional attachment to said person
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 02:50 PM
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This open sexualization makes cheating seem like romance, thats why its so common and has ever growing popularity. It evokes the same feelings or intensity normal romance would.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/23 12:12 PM
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I understand what you mean, i think we're going to go in circles as we both are stating things as an expected out come to x. Cause and effect when applied to figure out situations is extremely useful. Pointing fingers is a waste of time but people point because the question is always asked " why should I have to change for x reason" My individual point is that there is ALSO a reason for the push back but there is no use in reiterating since we understand what eachother is saying. To be clear per…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 12:59 PM
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Its loaded with such virtiol because more women even future generations are encouraged to do this. Meaning the women these men desire are literally disappearing by the second and maybe some girls change but by then its too late and she is irreversably changed or will crave it in the future which leads to cheating or the guy having to put up with an open relationship, swinging, cuckolding you name it if he doesnt want to throw away x years he put in with her. I mainly find it strange how encourag…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 12:31 PM
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Best friends tend to loosen and step on more boundaries. I treat all women the same self proclaimed sluts, bookworms, strippers etx But so long as he's there we have no futur as far as I'm concerned and I'll just keep using her for a good time, something is bound to happen. Hey some guys become your girls best friend withoit you knowing it. Before anyone starts shouting. Ive been that best friend and there are far too many cliche and predictable stories that end in "it was with her/pur best frie…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 12:26 PM
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The reason peoole are harsh with thier words is theres an underlying narrative that every woman should sleep around and become high n count women and that its a rite of passage for confidence. Which hey awesome they weed themselves out but that also means theres less low n count women meaning the women men want become scarce, a fairytale, taken. Yet at the same time the men women desire are still there and as pathetic as people love to paint it wanting a stable family is a desire lots of people …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 12:20 PM
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Doesnt matter who did it first, first solution to a problem isweeding out false allies.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 11:59 AM
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Im saying thier faithfulness is self centered not out of obligation to thier partner and can change on a whim. There are exceptions but those are just that. Not to mention they could miss a particular type of experience they had while single and being a stripper just increases the odds of them going back to that, having had that ib the past or otgerwise which is the common trend for cheatera
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 11:50 AM
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Then theres no issue discussing how everyone is to blame. Any woman who puts a stimpulation on when men can and can't be emotional for any reason is not ok with men being emotional.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 11:43 AM
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They are faithful because they get stimulated by enough attention as is and are addicted to the dynamic and easy money.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 11:38 AM
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Women become more attractive if she's at least virtious. Theres a belief from femenists any woman can have any man she wants that is mostly true to me in the sense women can get CHANCES with almost anyman baring extreme circumstances. Most men cant get chances even scrapping the barrel. Its a side effect of being desired/pursued vs not. Like seriously. Even red pill or black pill bitter dudes like me will have empathy for a woman with a low body count who got finessed by a player but will still …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 11:36 AM
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I mean if you want something you have to do what you have to do to even enable a chance at it. Same way women going out to the club to meet friends is great advice lol. Most relationships friendships or romance will occur based on mutual interests or curiousity.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 11:27 AM
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Passed down by fathers, reinforced by women.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 11:23 AM
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Men line up for those women simply for sociopathic or desperation reasons. She's a good experience builder then when she inevitably cheats on you. You have fuel to change. In terms of actually falling in love and valuing that woman men are even more desperate for a woman that is for a lack of better words "only thiers"
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 11:08 AM
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Its a cop out where people simply assume you don't put in the work. My only advice as a sociopath that navigates social situations and friendships is to have multiple opinions on multiple topics. Essentiall just have things to string together a conversation when needed.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 11:03 AM
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All of comments like that in terms of abuse are tacked onto cascading problems and evidence women have very little to no accountability for her actions or the belief that men simply have it easier. Its rooted in apathy due to overlapping situations. Lets not pretend men aren't taken less seriously or ridiculed if they talk of being abused in anyway by women. Be it mothers sisters or SO's
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 10:57 AM
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Theres alot of bitter women that will just be an emotional drain on you because of what other men did to her and you're stuck dealing with it even though we're all grown and should be able to handle our own baggage
/r/MensRights17/03/23 10:32 AM
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Sexuality is visual. Even when people read or listen to smut, they still imagine and envision the scenario no matter how simple. Porn aids that or skips the warm up. Sadly most porn is meant to be quick, intense and extreme which desensitizes us to real life expectations. In some cases touch or other sensations can help people overcome this desensitization which leads to people having a more reactive arousal as in they MUST be touched first to even get started.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 10:21 PM
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Im going to be real blunt. You're going to have to lay some serious pipe and personality to get a girl hooked to you. Before that you're going to have to get her hooked on seeing you. Make as many interactions with her positive. You need to make her curious about you and how you do that is experience. Share experience and knowledge but not your full story, smell amazing get a little personal as time goes on, then start giving her compliments. Dont stop seeing other women during this. The goal is…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 10:15 PM
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Yes its point is to take women off the pedestal that many boys and men grow up with and is meant to interact with men. Not blame women. Not to sound pious but it helps shape a more realistic view of women for most men. The black pill takes it even further. Where women will behave differently given your looks, income, status no matter your personality subconciously. Think about it, you think the nerdy dude who is still listening to his mothers advice actually can obtain a womans interest and atte…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 10:01 PM
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3 months is nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 01:18 PM
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Cheating also has alot to do with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 12:36 PM
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All people tell men is they aren't wanted dating even if you find some success unless a relationship lasts its a simple reminder that you aren't wanted in that way either. You aren't wanted, aren't needed why continue putting in effort and struggle when you can just die and be at peace or some other variation.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 05:36 PM
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That makes it the same issue, I'm paying for something other dudes can get for free. No thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 09:50 PM
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Money and lifestyle is part of attraction silly
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 07:28 PM
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It is cause most dudes can't even get thier foot in the door for a relationship or one night stand.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 01:20 PM
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Its more of a general statement, not aimed at you.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/23 02:54 AM
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Then do that and don't get into relationships and build up marriage and kids. So what you're saying is afbb is true.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 11:38 PM
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To be clear the end sentence of the first paragraph I'm not targeting you its more about an ultimatum for my own life. I appreciate you correcting my spelling replying to comments quickly is tiring.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 03:57 AM
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A simple observation of how looks corelate to results. To be honest I'm "too cool" for anyone. Live is more peaceful when you're alone or in my case dead. Also shallow bitches vs no bitches. Also most people I'm around are on the more pleasant side. I'm just annoyed by pressence alone. People only give me thier pressence when they want something no matter how non-materialistic it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 03:51 AM
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Until they make it yours and call you sexist and evil for having preferances or online infering they would rather not date someone on the heavy side.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 03:44 AM
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I don't force myself onto women. Women ask me out and I run knowing relationships are extremely temporary. I will never take the chance of asking one out. Women give advice about dating and alot of them attempt to tell people "looks aren't important" they're important in getting chances, second chances and being arousing for her throughout the possible relationship. I only started getting women actually acknoweldging my existence when I hit the gym and grew knowledge about smelling amazing as I …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 03:42 AM
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Im not excusing it simply explaining why men find worth in lying or propping themselves up more than they actually are. If we want something to stop then remove the motivator. Also most men now hear that being too consistent makes them unattractive so believe me the opposite is true for younger women. She gets boredand will explore her more exciting options who she doesn't know she has in her pocket.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 03:32 AM
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No simply tell them the truth that thier body weight impacts thier ability to attract people. Coddling does not invoke change a change people need to be happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 02:29 AM
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Nor is it healthy but there is a ton of support for that type of stuff even more so for the next generation
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 02:23 AM
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Many women will omit that thier partner is attractive, then try to help people by telling them "looks don't matter"
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 02:21 AM
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People will spare eachothers feelings trying to be nice saying that type of stuff on social media to fight against said thing. As an example fat acceptance.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 02:16 AM
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I understand you haven't asked explicitly but you can infer by persay number of ex's, how he interacted with you and as people have stated some other women will simply let you know.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 02:13 AM
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Good now please never tell whatever offspring you have, or other people that looks don't matter or aren't as important as people think is all I'm asking.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 02:11 AM
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Even in short term relationships. Being socially or sexually competent is relevant and a major factor in the developing stages, thats what being funny constitutes as an example.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 02:09 AM
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I just ask please don't tell your offspring or amyone else that looks don't matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/23 02:07 AM
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In my experience the best counter for it is indeed to stroke your partners ego. My favorite line is "See its like I've been telling you insert feature being complimented here
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 11:21 PM
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i couldnt think of a better descriptor because I was rushing to work while typing this lol. This post was in part inspired by women who tell people "looks don't matter" not admitting that thier current boyfriend is above average or his looks is the only reason he even got an opportunity with her.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 11:19 PM
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Because it devalues cop out responses from likely these same women that "looks don't matter" or "everyone is a 10"
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 11:16 PM
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Privledge doesn't exist to those who have it. I highly doubt you're average and yes i've had women ask me out and I say no because one its ends the same way and 2 I don't think ill be around much longer.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 11:13 PM
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My first relationship was ended a year ago. Lasted 5 years I was black pilled before it and am after it. She asked me out actually. I tried to play it as smartly as possible. With emotional intelligence that made it last longer than it should've I wanted to be the type of boyfriend to cut straight to what she needed and even though I am young i know women don't always want you to fix thier problems but just listen, feel like the center and be heard, still did too much. My depression probably con…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 11:11 PM
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I'm not red pilled and trust me for a majority of men getting your foot in the door is a majority of thier problems with women. It takes a true truely special case to be extremely attractive and incapable to be social. Attractiveness is also in being sexually competent. They can be attractive but trust me you'll get more chances than an average person being attractive and/or being thier best sexual experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 10:34 PM
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An example of people rating other people, or persay she's giving advice to her male friend etc. She will likely omit or overlook the fact that her ex's or current boyfriend only got that chance because they passed her looks check.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 10:24 PM
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Is it not sexist that women feel pressured to be and do that? Also if they are great but as with any pie chart certain things are not even. Especially at different periods in a relationship. Like the relationship wouldn't have happened if the guy didn't pass her standards for looks which for a majority of women are very similar and general
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 10:23 PM
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An example. A woman for the sake of making thier friend feel ok or even in a moment of truly trying to help him will tell him looks don't matter completely ignoring the fact that looks are the only reason her current boyfriend fwb /whatever only got that chance because of looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 10:20 PM
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They are fickle in thier words and actions but not actions alone.like they'll give the advice to a guy friend that looks don't matter when looks are the only reason thier current boyfriend even got a chance to go out with her.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 10:17 PM
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I don't know but many women are extremely reluctant to admit thier partners are attractive and many just settle or are simply trying to be nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 10:14 PM
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Most are simply settling. It'll end sooner or later.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 09:31 PM
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Thanks for the correction wrote this in a rush to work.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 09:30 PM
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You highly overestimate the looks of average men
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 09:27 PM
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You think the guy who tries his best and fails repeatedly but got close to the original goal gets the girl? They don't
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 09:25 PM
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Looks to get in the door, competence to compound and build upon the attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 07:42 PM
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And yet in the circles I am around passively aka anything nerdy, fitness related etc. Sexual liberation is extremely loud and supported.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 07:38 PM
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A woman that is reasonable and that I can talk to calmly. I make an effort to never lose my cool under any circumstances. Its ok if she gets angry I know how to handle that but flying off the handle like I've observed too many women do is absurd or continue to think they're right in a beligerent way. Beyond that just a woman that tries. I know people who recieve empty compliments from just trying and failing to be funny etc. I am someone that deeply appreciates the effort because my life is noth…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 02:23 PM
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Being wanted.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 08:21 PM
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More people arguing. Watching someone drown while another dies of thirst. We will never see eye to eye on this because we come from intensely different scenarios as men and women. Thats why people keep bringing up semantics. Women are entitled, men are desperate both are terrible. One last analogy for the DISCONNECT is the poor vs the working class or rich. The poor struggle to get by whilst the later struggle and focus on keeping what they have.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 08:20 PM
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How would you know compatibility with a dude just approaching you on the street.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 08:01 PM
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They are virtue signaling they very much so do and will sleep around for it and any amount of sleeping around could easily turn into dating if you're good enough because most are concerned with sexual compatibility and thats what relationships typically live and die by now. Even if you break up if the sex was good you will always get another chance. Also itts not an insecurity if people are disqualified for dating simply because of it. There are very few but important things people will full on …
/r/BlackPillScience14/12/22 03:13 PM
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If any of those encounters were during that time it is and it is because it molded how you act today
/r/BlackPillScience14/12/22 01:30 PM
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Take out the word looks, its still the same argument and it still stands, I did think this was a different post as I just woke up. I would enjoy a follow up study to see if future partners for women were or were desired to be more hung down below.
/r/BlackPillScience14/12/22 01:21 PM
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Incorrect I base mine based on how many women I see upgrade to a different guy looks wise and the ammount of wives with low opinions on thier husbands looks. A fantasy can only be suppressed but for so long.
/r/BlackPillScience14/12/22 01:04 PM
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Let me guess you're single or planning to leave your partner at some point.
/r/BlackPillScience13/12/22 11:11 PM
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He's not expecting he's advising. Those men can have fun getting stds from a 4/10, getting divorced and broken up with and wasting money.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 11:25 PM
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It isnt in more of a cathartic way. Bbm is not readily available nor even a fraction of persay bbc search results.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 11:24 PM
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The simple answer is she got burned. Never let someone elses bitterness impact or confuse you. Learn the difference between emotional bias and an actual counter argument or else we'll all just be spinning our wheels.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 01:42 AM
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The simple answer is she got burned. Never let someone elses bitterness impact or confuse you. Learn the difference between emotional bias and an actual counter argument or else we'll all just be spinning our wheels.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 01:42 AM
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I don't think we should unless its easy, we're far too replacable and of course the issue of false allegations is prevalent.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 01:39 AM
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Accepting that they are more easily replacable by women until they have money/looks/charm. Lastly if anyman sees success using red pill methodology or thought processes, he will likely become redpill. The redpill only snowballs off of results and confirmation bias. Which confirmation bias in the eyes of a paranoid hurt or anxious person simply appears as; correct.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 01:37 AM
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Someone impressionable and a follower...
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 10:32 PM
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With sex, you have to know how to last against certain sensations your body have never felt before even with toys a person feels alot better and different. Warmer tighter etc. You also have to know how to motion your hips, the right preasure with your tongue and hands, and what to say and do for foreplay. As with everything I think things are different for men and women. Perhaps I am biased but I believe women have it easier in terms of satifying partners but harder in terms of satisfying themse…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 08:57 PM
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You mis understand, men fix thier own problems, not via other people but by finding fault within themselves first, it can obviously get out of hand but its the truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 11:19 AM
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Gimme french toast
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 06:51 AM
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Well if I kill that squirrel it solves dinner
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 06:18 AM
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Society also heavily questions if a man has something wrong with him dependant on if he has a woman on his arm or not amongst other expectations.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 06:15 AM
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Yes, while you could argue its just jokes first things people attack a man for is money and relationship status/looks. All insults are societally driven.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 06:11 AM
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I dont think you've dealt with actually smooth playboys then. You leave just enough for her to be curious and thats it . It establishes confidence and gets chemistry going.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 05:20 AM
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Eh itll be back once that guy or gal gets old, hence is the revolving door of life I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 05:03 AM
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For the record it does as dating and relationships have a very clear barrier to entry. Having good genes removes alot of those boundaries. More opportunity, you can work quicker.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 04:51 AM
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For the record it does as dating and relationships have a very clear barrier to entry. Having good genes removes alot of those boundaries. More opportunity, you can work quicker.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 04:51 AM
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You've mixed up the order of things safety vs hypergamy, a woman needs to feel safe pursuing hypergamy to actually do it, that's why she needs a huge leap in status. Any man wjo knows how to play the game can replace the safety with tension and toxic advice. Jf a woman doesn't mention her SO while with you, she's just having fun, if she does she'll start considering an upgrade, so all you have to do is get her to talk about him.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 04:40 AM
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Regardless theres always some other dude she likes more who has to try less than you ever will.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 03:59 AM
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When we die
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 03:21 PM
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I worked my ass off to help my family stay off the street, and save for me and her's future, I worked 3 jobs and used my insomnia as a tool, helped her with college and tried my best to go above and beyond with sex before I passed out the fuck out, did that for 5 years for her to turn around as soon as I get free time and says ahe changed her mind to go have the college experience and "spread her wings" . I did actual work on myself IN THE RELATIONSHIP I was always scared of being the jealous bo…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 11:56 PM
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We don't feel loved unless we achieve something. Being a womans best or having her addicted to you specifically is what men strive for, sex just gives that fleeting feeling of relief, a challenge and being fufilling for our partner, that and it feels fucking great and proves we can pull to our peers, other women and ourselves. Its a massive confidence boost
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 04:57 PM
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Im a guy who commited too much to the wrong woman but I could easily see most women acting just like her so I'm fighting myself on being a user and a player because I just want someone to share my life with and make intimate memories with maybe have a family with that I can work hard for, the path to that is very complicated. Also I've been a good dude but I seem to get more and others seem to get more by being a terrible one so I'm very torn and extremely lonely because good things don't happen…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 04:37 PM
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I assume when you mean suppressing attachment hormones you mean with multiple partners? That's what a hoe phase is. I'm saying without the want or need for a hoe phase a woman could be satisfied with one dude, the fact it exists means people will consider it an avenue of thier life they can take and there are too many factors that could lead up to a hoe phase, lots of men are accepting this but when we act a certain way to attract the plethora of women in thier hoe phase its an issue or people c…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 04:29 PM
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I don't mind him existing but he's not saying anything I haven't already heard, the reason Andrew Tate has gone viral is 1) exposure and accomplishments 2) because of psychological reasons for him disproving expectations. He is actually able to concede points, despite playing a narrcisist and myogynist. He can actually sit down and be a normal persob as its not always one note interactions it makes people bond to him better as his flip floppy hypocrisy and suggestion makes him appear more human.…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 03:37 PM
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Most people here are just people burned by the dating world, trying to change it for the future, mostly for themselves some because these issues aren't considered by society at large and in the future could spiral out of control for the next generation. To add though, most people here are also psuedo-intellectuals just venting thier paranoia, concerns and frustrations or attempting to cope with the reality of things as things will more than likely not change.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 03:25 PM
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You wouldn't have to with even just a single partner by sciences standards, thus meaning a hoe phase isn't required. They don't have to suppress them but when people find out, they shouldn't be surprised if someone doesn't fully trust thier feelings nor strength of said feelings as they've felt this with so many others before hand or they're simply settling because those that coaxed out MORE oxytocin simply aren't available.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 03:20 PM
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Incorrect, k-pop idols and femboys would like a word with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 03:15 PM
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Most women don't even realise or know that chris hemsworth takes steroids nor care that alot of teenagers in high school are on them either as a mere example
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 03:13 PM
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To elaborate I don't think any woman can fight off temptation around them, and I dont want them to. Otherwise it'll just pop up later, its not malicious its just a given. I'm not red pilled, I'm black pilled.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 03:11 PM
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Because its not common nor accepted for women to be called insecure.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 03:05 PM
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Personally if someone cheats on me, I use them strictly for sex and to better my game, the relationship will end on its own as I retreat back into myself. Till then may as well make them actually useful.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 02:59 PM
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Women cheat to replace, men cheat because the wife isn't around or isn't in the mood
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 02:52 PM
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Long as you do it for me too sure, hell women love to fight for that anyway, its why the term "he's just a friend pops up" and I have never seens nor heard of a woman financially supporting ANYONE other than family so go for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 02:47 PM
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Yeah they got thier memory they wanted, so now they can just fantasize about that instead while you're with them trying to make things work.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 02:44 PM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 02:41 PM
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Isn't equal opportunity a positive thing tho? Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 02:28 PM
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Ill say it again, literal marriage, he has no way out and if he fucks up it'll cost him even more money.If he cheats you get compensated via money, if she cheats you lose, your relationship AND money and social standing. Also a hard working dude will have minimal time for you let alone other women. All she has to do is know a few coworkers. If he's blowing off work to bang some chick/not telling anyone about what he's doing or trying to do sneaky shit in the car with her they'll know and find ou…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 02:24 PM
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Unlike single dads they actually get support. Something she coulddo is ensure he marries her first. Im not religious but the amount of kids concieved out of wedlock is astounding also men don't change as much as women because divorce costs men a whole lot more and we are less likely to find or actually pursue an upgrade.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 02:06 PM
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This isn't to ensure a woman isnt cheating, its to ensure you're not wasting thousands of dollars and time on a kid that you didn't even get a chance to know is legitimately yours which rarely happens to a woman and never in a way the father is to blame.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 01:55 PM
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That isnt equal, I'd gladly get one but paternity tests only take 2 maybe 3 times to be accurate
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 01:47 PM
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Ill use womens logic on this one, any woman who refuses or sees issue with a paternity test, is extremely insecure and it isn't your problem they need to work on themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 11:37 AM
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Exactly why they should be mandatory, any women who gets insecure at that is insecure, this man has more than likely dumped more money and time into you than even his job and she can't handle what essentially boils down to a question? While men are gaslighted and bashed for far less. Fuck off.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 11:33 AM
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Im talking about in first meeting someone in dating unless you thinks can pull chicks, while dusty broke and ugly/fat?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 09:26 PM
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You don't need to be an asshole or dick head to do that shit, also that is not what this post is about, the post is for women who complain about it to not when we just change to what they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 08:48 PM
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They don't control me, but they hold the keys to what I and alot of men want, be it a relationship or sex one of the expectations to get either are always there an important one is that you've already been successful in bed and can hold that up so your recommendation for 80% of men is?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 06:00 PM
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Ah I guess this is a male issue then as women have no issue dating or being used by assholes and won't complain, or punish the next guy she dates. Men don't reject sex because most dudes arent getting it. The percentage of dudes getting laid was 38% in 2007 down to 24% as of 2017. 23% of men have had 20 or more partners in terms of sex. Now that's not an excuse but the commoon knowlege is all men want is sex. It is not common knowledge that women pick whomever feels the most interesting at the t…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 05:55 PM
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The patriarchy did however mens rights movements did not, the patriarchy is not a mens rights movement. Men never get to decide if he wishes to be a father once its been concieved, irreguardless if he can support a child or not so welcome to the club. Also what changed you mean MEN helping WOMEN vote for better rights and accepting what they have to say despite people claiming there we're no good men back then, they all forced their wives into horrible oppressive marriages. Even powerful men who…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 05:44 PM
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I don't even know what the manosphere is. These are simply questions that have festered inside me as people sit there and verbatum believe I am an abuser, a rapist, a user and a good for nothing as ALL I try to be in everything I do is comforting and compassionate.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 04:58 PM
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My point exactly and I don't believe women as a whole get this with how many douche bags they let hit cause they're pretty. Its fine to do it but then turning around and complaining about an issue you incentivized to happen is insane.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 04:55 PM
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I have no clue how you derived that from the post. The post is, dudes change when certain things don't work for them and see that being a player or a liar does, thats fine but women are foolish to complain about something they as a whole (aka general attitudes and behaviors) control.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 04:53 PM
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The message is they do choose, men already accept they have to be better or meet the bar, no where did I tell them to lower the bar however they cannot be not responsible for who they choose to reward with sex. Dudes see x guy getting sex, they stop being a simp and pull a complete 180 resulting in the shitty treatment lots ofwomen complain about, its one giant loop that needs to be fixed via awareness especially if they encounter it multiple times.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 04:48 PM
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Moat dudes aren't waiting by choice lol. Everytime a woman chooses a fuckboi a guy who wasnt a fuckboy was probably an option for her and she didn't take it. I don't blame her for not but I'm tired of people pretending rewarding certain behaviors doesn't cause others to emulate that to get success. Good on you for not changing but lots of men either are thinking about dating be it for people they see around them or a hypothetical one when the opportunity presents its self (basically if he gets a…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 04:42 PM
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Moat dudes aren't waiting by choice lol. Everytime a woman chooses a fuckboi a guy who wasnt a fuckboy was probably an option for her and she didn't take it. I don't blame her for not but I'm tired of people pretending rewarding certain behaviors doesn't cause others to emulate that to get success. Good on you for not changing but lots of men either are thinking about dating be it for people they see around them or a hypothetical one when the opportunity presents its self (basically if he gets a…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 04:41 PM
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There is no concensus but what is more likely to work is what will happen because people just normally adapt to it, my point is that women may set higher expectation or stop moving the bar so often if they know that's where it comes from. This is only relevent because many complain about the caliber or type of guy they meet on dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 04:38 PM
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Works both ways but majorily women, as they're wanted more across the board, like an ugly man does not have the same value as an ugly woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 12:54 AM
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That statement in my opinion is a bullshit coping mechanism as women mostly pick the same dudes, and more typically chose dudes who can guarantee what she has, we don't gatekeep shit, the exception does if an average dude meaning a majority of men tried to gatekeep relationships he wouldn't get laid as that caliber of male typically only gets chosen FOR a relationship not sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 12:53 AM
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They popped up AFTER feminism and if we truly lived in and if patriarchy truly existed no movement based around women would exist. No ifs ands or buts about it. Not to mention it only benefits maybe 2-3% of men as most you encounter are just as oppressed by the rich as women are. If not more as men have not had reproductive rights for quite some time. While cuckoldry was more common it was always a negative. This further proves women control mens behaviours when it comes to mate selection. Penis…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 12:46 AM
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Create an issue people adapt
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 12:21 AM
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You wrote out all that to miss a key hole in your argument hell I'm not even arguing against you except the dispute that women don't control mens behaviours, most men are not successful with women or as women in the field of dating,love,sex. Women generally have to accept they create what they will eventually see or will mainly see as men adapt to to get them. So when they get mistreated by half the dudes they meet they have no right to compain outside of rape and abuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 12:20 AM
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You didn't take all your options, you don't have to of course but hey you chose your own reality
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 12:08 AM
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Firstly you're a fool, if you expect better then be and pick better. The issue is that women as a whole refuse to accept that they have the power in creating the type of men they want because they are what is chased and wanted. The other issue is that men use this as a point of malice, no one is fixing anything but when men DO accept this fact and change to fit that bar that women want all of a sudden its an issue?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 12:06 AM
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It is not. Most women want a specifc type of dude or rather would sleep with a specific type of dude, men not wanting to be losers or virgins become that because it is thier best bet and women don't pursue average dudes enough to simply wait.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 11:58 PM
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It is not. Most women want a specifc type of dude or rather would sleep with a specific type of dude, men not wanting to be losers or virgins become that because it is thier best bet and women don't pursue average dudes enough to simply wait.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 11:58 PM
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Unless you're someone that chooses not to participate in society and don't want sex, yes you are controlled by what you want. People need to accept the facts that everything they commonly choose sets a standard
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 11:49 PM
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Being a doormat isnt fun however it is something that person both unknowingly does AND unknowingly presents a problem for them. My point and frustrations is women can't accept its true and men use it as a point of malice
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 11:43 PM
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Most mens rights activism movements are reactionary same goes with the entire pill community. Also you act as if rejection still didn't exist beyond the 60s and that is not true as cuckoldry was seen as a negative thing since its conception
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 07:36 PM
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Most women won't fall victim to mens standards as they rarely come in contact with high value males and have more coddling when it comes to short comings and self improvement. Most men will and it creates things that people aren't willing to understand unlike women and that creates conflict enmasse and solves nothing. You realise even as a hot guy, unless you're rich you are worth less than an avergae woman? There is no one trying to balance anything out for average men. That is not reason these…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 07:29 PM
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I have said in multiple replies that the exception is abuse, however throwing out the exception and virtue signalling doesn't throw out the people who haven't been abused and the people who have been rejected which as much as I know you don't want to admit, is a large number however not the majority. The only reason you bring up abuse is to have anything to say about this, as if women don't pick superficial stuff just like men which many people believe and don't believe on a whim.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 07:21 PM
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A byproduct that they probably won't do without. I don't mean to be contrarian but I just cannot see even rich men not changing up if they ever had no action.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 07:05 PM
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My ex used to say that to me, guess who broke up with who lol
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 06:56 PM
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You don't have to be, complain about it online and more people will coddle you about it
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 06:50 PM
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You know what I constantly think about. Most people don't even know that a word for being sexist against men exists
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 06:48 PM
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Even more of the top percent, got rich to get women. Same with dudes training for aesthetics in the gym. Its like an "Alpha male" basically dedicating his life for learning women and projecting that he doesn't care about them. Its a delusion however its a delusion that women also fall for so it works.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 06:44 PM
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I already lift, and I've had this same mindset since about 13. I'm not red pilled, Im considered blackpilled as my opinions we're formed simply from what I have observed and rationalized. The only research I've done is finding arguments against my believes to see if they truly hold up from both inside and out if people simply accepted responsibility we could better weed out and focus on the truly dangerous ones for men and women in dating
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 06:34 PM
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Thats literally what the post is about
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 06:21 PM
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My post is aimed at people not getting so upset when its said women have all the power in dating and control what bars are met by men or even hypothetical men out there. It seems a majority of women say they get treated like garbage by men they date or that men aren't worth it when the reality is the men THEY choose aren't worth it while a large majority of dudes remain virgins and aren't even incels . It is just another case of cause and effect other women set up for them or possibly themselves…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 06:21 PM
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It is majorily what women want, even IF man is hustling to become a top 10% man. Until he reaches that goal he will have to deal with what women want if he wants that sexual experience. Until you get to or close to that 10% what you do is dictated by a woman also what the hell does bottom 80-90% entail. That is just unnattractive or furthering what I'm saying, is the average dude, what most dudes have to face at some point or another. My issue with your first paragraph is that even his standards…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 06:16 PM
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What is FDS?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 05:58 PM
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I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 05:56 PM
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Yet again, she chose to value that man. Unless you believe every successful man is literally out here on the spot raping EVERY chick they see?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 05:56 PM
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Which is what percentage exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 05:52 PM
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I'm saying in terms of who they date its becoming less and less acceptable to say a woman is responsible for how she lets a man treat her before she's willing to get intimate with him. She sets the standard for what she's willing to tolerate and clearly from the amount complaining and doubling down on thier standards they let that bar be very low for that particular guy. Why shoukd anyone else try any harder than that guy did?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 05:51 PM
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It is gender exclusive as women have more options in the majority equaling more power in the dating world. Most women WANT a high value man but won't get one. Are we going to talk about the minority which effects very view people or what effects most people, and possibly thier children as the next generations dating life is clearly dictated by the previous's
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 05:46 PM
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No everyone is responsible for who they end up banging and dating as are thier kids. Example of this, child support that message is forced upon men and outside of rape and abuse it should be to women as well. Did that person trick you because you're trickable or are they that good at manipulation? You had other options.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 05:42 PM
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I'm not red pill, I am black pilled, there is no malice in my post, its just how things ARE and I'm trying to simply point out its an adaptation that people have control over unlike rape and abuse where the choice is stripped away from them. Hell the people I'm talking about may not include you but they effect you.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 05:38 PM
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Exactly hell while it may not remain that, many men start working out to become attractive or stay attractive specifically for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 05:35 PM
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Simply because the train of thought is the same doesn't make your comparrison true as they are vastly different in the intensity or severity of the issue. I don't blame women for getting raped nor abused women for getting abused, nor men for not fighting back against thier abusers Women are the goal be it for sex or love, men are not. People have a choice in this matter, to convey how your comparrison doesn't hold up the same train of thought applies to a people pleaser, it is your decision to a…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 05:33 PM
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Dating and love are extremely dehumanizing I'd argue its one of the most shallow aspects of ANY society because it is inherently based on someones value to you, irregardless of how you slice it. When people are numb to happiness or drenched in a materialistic world where most economies are too inflated to not overwork its people. Said rating becomes alot more cut throat as most pleasures in said society is fleeting and unfulfilling.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 05:09 PM
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Exactly lol, they're only fed up after they experienced it. If men didnt see douchebags being successful with women . There would be less douchebags. Women or people being pursued set the standard of what dating means, it has been this way for I'd say 200 years now.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 04:41 PM
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I mean having les money than your woman is an almost guaranteed way to get dumped
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 10:14 AM
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I can, I am a literal psychologist however women are afforded theadvantage that she "shouldnt have to"or doesn't.Promiscuous women get to to keep thier relationship and shame men who dont want them as insecure and gaslight then leave or in rare cases force him to keep left overs. The stigma behind this is reasonable as men have to try so much harderthan women to be dateable
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 03:44 PM
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Oh no you can, however its mostly a thing because women are not loyal and are praised for not being loyal and are convinced by friends, family and social media to not be. There's justification for it unlike a woman who just picks the wrong dudes because another one was boring. A man more commonly has the mindset of abundance because not only does past determine if she'll stay loyal, there are common and popular things egging women on to leave if you don't meet a certain criteria even though you'…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 03:39 PM
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Yet so common and easy for dudes to fall into rather than women. As men have no right to pry about a chicks past but a woman has the right to know whatevershe wants or she can leave
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 03:33 PM
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That started to become more popular NOW the same way hot girl summer is and is a byproduct of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 03:32 PM
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Dating is harder for men, just accept it, you have to improve and commit so much just for a potential yes and having to keep that woman is impossible in an age where all we do is compare people to other people. You also have to sitback and watch horrible dudes get more action and attention than you might ever get if you decide to try and be/remain a decent human being. Theres a higher barrier for entry and other things, like if you aren't able to satisfy a woman in bed she WILL leave you or chea…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 03:19 PM
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Nothing, its all transactional. I'll be proven wrong when someone lovesme for me or crushes on me at work or other places.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 02:58 PM
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It is but you need to be subtle with it, she cannot know you've slept with more than one of them.Women get jealous too they won't admit this but they always want what other women want or confirmation a man can bring it in the bedroom or socially
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 02:56 PM
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Lots of women actually don't communicate in bed it helps it be more natural where they don't have the pressure of communicating and can just focus on what they're feeling. Also I just wanted to add, if she uses a sex toy often enoughthat raises the standard of pleasure required to make her orgasm. Lastly in relationships I know alot of men stop flirting and doing as much foreplay, never ever stop and lastly, its a great feeling but use everything to your advantage not just your junk and dirty ta…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 02:51 PM
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Its because when they hit the wall they double down to maintain thier power or keep the illusion of it and to avoid any regrets from who they slept with or gave a chance in thier 20s. The wall doesn't exist though because men are always looking for scraps and women become either less shallow or more shallow with no inbetween. Its not maturity mostly, they already knew what was going to happen, they made that choice and they will deny it but the want to get blown out is still there. When they're …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 02:46 PM
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She needs and wants to impress him not me I understand. Imagine having that done to you, eh he just doesn't want to try as hard for you. Most dudes are people pleasers until they learn not to be because as a male you're expendable to literally everyone except MAYBE your family, but even then you have to earn the love you get or you're a loser
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 02:19 PM
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My issue is I keep what I believe out of the picture of my relationships, I have a new girl now and I treat her the exact same because I refuse to let the world jade me, but as I explained to many other people this post is about insight to what exactly that man might feel and that he shouldn't be guilted for leaving someone that won't treat him the same as her exes because even though things didnt work out, he's not that person. In a way isnt itthe same thing a woman setting new standards that m…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 06:27 PM
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I completely agree, same goes with fitness models, alot of them use what in body building it called a "pump" which is fresh out of a workout your muscles are bigger and swollen with blood flowing to them and downward lighting to give them a more 3d look, alot of them are also on various roids and/or have great muscle building genetics.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 06:16 PM
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If you can't tolerate he talks she'll just call you insecure that or its a shit test, also as I said you couldve been friends for a bit among other things, my ex of 5 years used me as a really long rebound, she was still crying and not over a dude she dated for like a year, she would also tell me about her past sexting adventures for some reason, decided to not say anything and remain stoic and attempt to forget about it, she also fetishized me as a black man, but that is unrelated to this post,…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 06:04 PM
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I was the least emotional of us both, but eventually I let my guard down because "a relationship is nothing without trust" but don't worry since I was the better communicator I know any short comings fall on me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 05:45 PM
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She broke up with me then I went radio silent for a week but that day we broke up she still sent me marriage and baby photos I asked her why the fuck she sent me that shit literally that week like she had been doing and she told me "I changed my mind, I'm only 21 abd need to spread my wings" After that week, she messaged me and I didn't respond. I'm not going to keep someone from what they want. To add because I'm considerate i told her to give herself some time to make memories because motherho…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 05:38 PM
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Thanks, dont worry as you can see from my post I'm meticulous with whatever I get into
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 05:09 PM
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Its really not, if it was I wouldn't have used passive language and simply say, its completely unbelievable that you love him and that she's just falling back on some "beta male" and there's nothing wrong with her intentions but the fact is women usually stick around more for the guys she does freaky shit with. I ignored these feelings for the relationship I was in, all that did was just waste more of my time.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 05:06 PM
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Waiting on meds till then, I'm just doing drop sets
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 04:41 PM
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I have been in the gym since 6 am, at 1 I'm heading to my job, my day looks like this because I have insomnia, In the next 48 hours I will pass out
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 04:38 PM
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That and irl
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 04:33 PM
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Exactly don't know why people can't understand this
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 04:21 PM
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Yes and I've been doing that however I cant sit by without correcting and teaching people to actually have compassion. Most people here are jaded and Hurt. I literally made this post explaining a mans thought process if he had those feelings and people are absolutely livid about it outside of the people that upvoted.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 04:20 PM
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Not a single one of my ideas have I ever presented to any of my partners, I am a comforter that takes on too much, both of my 5 year relationships ended because I had to work multiple jobsto keep my family taken care of as they got older, falls physical therapy, oxygen tanks and finally cancer, they were already old when they had me so you can imagine the medical bills. Last relationship we hung out too much and she became codependant and when I had to start working again that scared her off so …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 04:18 PM
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Meanwhile others don't and you're now about to be finessed or used
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 04:10 PM
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I guess you're pretty sheltered as Ive nonstop witnessed both from a young age from people older than me and it hasnt slowed down buthasspreaddueto social media
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 04:02 PM
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You're discrediting yourself my man and you don't even realize it the issue is that tons of people parrot and mimic what they see on social media, anyone with a smartphone does so dont say its just younger people, you're asking someone to stay ignorant aboutthe trickspeople pull and the attitude they have
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 03:59 PM
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You realizereddit is a social media platform too right?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 03:44 PM
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Im ok with it but if at any point she turned around and asked for anal, I'm immediately ghosting her or did anal while cheating
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 03:43 PM
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Yet people especially women want to say women are just as horny as men are, which is it? Also if she doesn't see you as the most attractive or one of the most she will leave you, womens egos go unchecked and are insane. That gets amplified in terms of the bedroom because she will always compareherself to what other women want or have
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 03:38 PM
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I'd love to be a husband and a father, tragically that is determined by others outside of adoption which I have considered but the likely hood of being able to adopt as a single father is low. Outside of that all I care about is being someones best lay since unconditional love doesnt exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 03:27 PM
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In my experience if she likes you as a sex toy she's alot more willing to stay thats also the message alot of women project on social media and get upvoted and liked to all hell so yes it is synonymous with women, if you don't holdit down in the bed room ATLEAST or go above and beyond she will leave you. Thats why most women don't want a dude with sexual inexperience.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 03:23 PM
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No its called learning from past mistakes and from what people project
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 03:21 PM
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Literally look on any social media, hell this subreddit even. You date to get to know some one. If they dont reveal that to you, or it comes up too late, tough shit you got your time and money wasted. Thats why its wise to leave a woman that won't do the same acts or take requests for you like she did her ex, she cared about him more
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 03:20 PM
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Well its not generally accepted for men worldwide to tell a woman to suck up her issues and that that's just life but you never see that from the opposite sex despite them saying theyre ok with men opening up. You dont have to cry or pity him but any type of compassion would be nice. Imagine any issue you brought up to anyone or even if you were venting or mentioning it " you're shallow" "you're insecure" "incel" "mysogynist" just for him being iffy about your relationship because you treat him …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 03:16 PM
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Women who will only do certain things with with an ex, will leave you for better. You're going to sit here and tell me its not common to see women preaching for other women to dump dudes for shallow reasons
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 03:13 PM
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I am 40lbs over weight, 6'1 and 23 my hair is a mess. Ive mainly slept with women older than me, my upper limit it 42
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 03:11 PM
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You stated it was convoluted as either just a comment or a negative point and I replied explaining why I had to be
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 03:07 PM
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Im also talking about dudes that aren't even on thier radar
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 03:06 PM
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Its a supported message, meaning you will encounter this person and people are not exactly forthcoming about their issues
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 03:01 PM
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Obviously but people can't sit down and just be like ah this one loves me, that one doesnt
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 02:59 PM
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In my experience it easily will or perhaps I'm under estimating how attractive I am? That I doubt.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 02:53 PM
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Only a small amount of these are preconcieved and proven simply by how the general public acts, what they desire etc. If she's not that way then great however a majority of people yiu encounter will be this way, its better to be prepared for that encounter than not
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 02:51 PM
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I do, because no one wants a downgrade, results are the only thing that people commonly care about, also that first statement would ring true if people didn't want what they dont have, or if in this situation he didn't break up with her. People care about you more when you have what they want, at least temporarily, unconditional love doesn't exist also that natural comment is like saying some people are simply born better than others, I have no issue believing that but which front that people pu…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 02:48 PM
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People rarely truly change, and more often than not she didnt like where the act led, once she stops associating those negative feelings with it, she'll probably be up for it again and change her mind again. You don't owe me shit but if that turns out to be a lie sge deserves to be ghosted
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 02:39 PM
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There is no obsession if she didnt treat him better than she does me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 02:37 PM
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She loves him more. If he came back she'd leave in a heart beast especially if enough time passsed. I don't want a moment, I'd like a future but thats put into question because she doesn't find me as attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 02:35 PM
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So what you said about sex being readily available isn't true. Also yes they are because its less about the looks more about what size you have in your pants, that overwrites alot of it for those curious about black men
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 02:33 PM
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Then you get bashed for not giving an explaination, its unavoidable. Also because not every guy has options, you either take what you can get or you get nothing
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 02:31 PM
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The issue is that it also depends on the guy, if she didnt wait in the past, you are just not it for her
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 02:29 PM
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I love that everyone insinuates that Ive had these issues as my personal problems, I quite literally said in the post that this is an explaination of what men feel if they feel this way. Personally I usually sit down and have a fun chat and demonstration with my partner about kink, showing them how to tie different knots and patterns or how to apply them with different pressures. Also don't be foolish I'm saying it can be difficult to gain actual experience not knowledge of things like bondage i…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 02:27 PM
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Typically I give a demonstration, it can be intimate and fun to sit down with a partner and show them or joke around with the toys as you talk about using them or not. The most sexist thought in my head that has proven to be true is that if you give a girl amazing pleasure she'll be willing to do a whole lot more for you, so if she's not willing to , shes had better in bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 02:21 PM
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I need to provide intricate detail to explain to those who dismiss this as an invalid problem that men have. I don't post to have some echo chamber of emotions but to not have people be so abrasive regardlessof how eloquently nor gently you present said issue. You my friend are grasping at straws everything anyone says applies only to those that feel it. After all if some jealousy is inevitable the way you react to it is the actual issue in the relationship, I've been with a number of jealous po…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 02:16 PM
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I need to provide intricate detail to explain to those who dismiss this as an invalid problem that men have. I don't post to have some echo chamber of emotions but to not have people be so abrasive regardlessof how eloquently nor gently you present said issue. You my friend are grasping at straws everything anyone says applies only to those that feel it. After all if some jealousy is inevitable the way you react to it is the actual issue in the relationship, I've been with a number of jealous po…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 02:15 PM
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How does a lesson interfere with your life? You ignore the lesson and you get the consequences of not learning from it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 01:33 PM
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She wants a nice guy, but not too nice otherwise she'll feel pressured to live up to how he is, an asshole but not too much of one, emotionally abusive but not too emotionally abusive they just don't want to be bored.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 01:30 PM
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You're literally signing up to get cheated on or dumped from a sexually repressed woman if she doesn't want to have wikd sex with you, youll lose when she finds someone more attractive than you
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 01:27 PM
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Usually if she's drunk/drunk texting or if she's been your friend for a while, or if you present a judgement free attitude alot of women will spill thier guts to you. Women are literally dying to not suppress thier sexuality and secrets. If you let them it lets you weed out if the relationship would work or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 01:25 PM
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She will already compare the two sooner or later, the thing I LITERALLY said in the post is that men should leave if she doesn't get the same sexual vibes from you as she did about her ex, the relationship is doomed to fail. Clearly she doesn't like you as much so cut your losses and leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 01:22 PM
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Thats what the post is saying fool, thats why men should leave. Shes going to become unhappy because clearly she's staying with someone who doesn't give her as good of vibes from sex as her ex, evidenced by the fact she was willing to do more with him.I swear you people can't read and its extremeky frustrating.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 01:19 PM
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Clearly you don't understand that an initial interest is built because you're black. With your exact build and looks any other race will get more no's than you will. You may not get a relationship but you have far more of an abundance of options due to being fetishized Also the issue with what you're saying is that is foolish, your census is only talking about married men and cohabitated women. Average men, I'm talking about in terms of looks and have been for the entirety of our conversation. T…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 01:14 PM
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Because its a classic story of her saying that then when she cheats she does those exact things to get herself off better. I've been the guy to do those exact things with women. Also how on earth without even trying it can you just tell someone cannot perform the kink safely. Do you see how a string of partners saying that could lead to a guy never even getting the chance to.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 01:01 PM
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Sometimes this stuff only comes up after you're married because I woman feels the most secure and comfortable there if that was on her radar. Plus if your wife really got around you very well may encounter people she's slept with. All it takes is for them to be a douchebag and brag about what they did together that you haven't despite you being together longer. Also too late means you've already wasted time, affection and resources on a woman who values you less than an ex of hers. Have fun gett…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 12:50 PM
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Firstly this post is not anecdotal, its merely an observation of what most men would be thinking if his long time girlfriend enjoyed certain things in the past (could literally be a year or a few months or 5 years) that she doesn't wish to do with him. You completely missed the point of this post. If that nympho was a situational nympho that was a nympho for another guy but not for you but she was still with you how exactly would you feel? Or if she tried to repress her nymphomania and change on…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 12:42 PM
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Exactly because it means they view it as something positive and that means she'll miss it eventually and that's doomed if you want monogamy. People also use the phrase "young and stupid". Young people are still capable of making choices ontop of the fact that she possibly made that same choice a year and a half ago and plays it off as her maturing.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 12:34 PM
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Exactly because it means they view it as something positive and that means she'll miss it eventually and that's doomed if you want monogamy. People also use the phrase "young and stupid". Young people are still capable of making choices ontop of the fact that she possibly made that same choice a year and a half ago and plays it off as her maturing.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 12:34 PM
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Its an indicator of her being willing to move the goal posts for other guys but not you. She doesn't value you the same as the others. Its also an indicator of what type of new guys to be wary of if she's tempted to cheat, because that's a sign she's just settling and you should leave because there are always options to have in relationships. If you are not her first pick type of guy you will eventually get cheated on and waste both of you guys time.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 12:27 PM
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Being too trusting, letting her do suspect things like hanging out with her ex alone because "I trust you babe" or go out on a girls trip with tons of drinking. Forgiving and not mentioning things you shouldn't like her not shutting down flirty guys in her dms. You already knew what could happen and it blew up in your face because you made the mistake of thinking someone you've been with 5 years could value you over chasing feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 12:21 PM
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If he isn't your best he can always lose you to random people or people in your social group who come along and either are or project themselves as being an upgrade. If he is your best or one of the best, this entire issue can be mitigated by simply telling him he is. Instead men get faced with "its not a womans job" a complete lack of any compassion from more than likely women who was "Its ok for a man to open up" when people open up the topics at the very least are not going to be pretty so I …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 12:14 PM
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People clearly need as much detail as possible to understand and not be able to dismiss a mans problems as "shallow" or sex-obsessed. Despite the fact many have tried on this post.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 12:08 PM
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You said that extremely well, and I focus on the sex part because that and money is the core of most of mens insecurity when it comes to relationships. Sex is like a blanket where it can cover things in the looks department
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 12:05 PM
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That is a great thing to add, that and you cant help but wonder why she would move those goal posts for a certain guy buy not with you be it for sex at all or with particular sexual acts. If she's a virgin that's valid but if she's not, you become more aware of how she actually sees you.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 11:47 AM
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I'm saying a womans reason for not doing it is not ALWAYS just because she doesn't like it. In my reply I'm saying some women fear judgement for the act especially by thier partners, same reason lots lie about thier body count. Another reason is she just doesn't see you as a person to do that with which women do and categorize men by alot which is fine but I despise when peopke grandstand and act like there isn't shallow points to being who they are as it gives people false hope, no reason to ch…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 11:42 AM
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Yes welcome to life, its full of double standards and compromises people have to make especially if they would like to not be as lonely anymore, find someone to build a relationship with and so are you, by not settling themselves men can make both themselves and women happier because she's not being settled for and neither is he if he leaves. Personally I think people attach too negative a conotation to being settled for because you can be settled UPON as in that person wants a life with you. Th…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 11:32 AM
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Cool but with a lot of women a certain act from thier past doesn't even cross thier minds with a certain man, also it matters to your partner what you think of them, so I hope you have a better answer than "it doesn't matter" if this ever comes up and if you say you want a man that doesn't care what you think about him. You want someone detached.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 11:30 AM
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Do your own research based on the figures Ive given you. I have too many comments to reply to to link the source I got it from, daily life to deal with as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 11:25 AM
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While the manosphere can breed extra insecuritues, most of the support is due to the very basic by the numbers stories that are extremely common for men to go through. Unless they are all seeing the same woman, that implies most women you encounter will be like this and are a waste of time. To presume that the opposite isn't possible nor common is also illogical. Most people here don't walk up to women they want to date and go "Oh hey btw I'm red pilled/black pilled" its simply lessons and thing…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 11:23 AM
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Its not neurotic. Sometimes you learn about a womans past far too late in the relationship. The image of the person you thought you may have known is pulled into question, especially if she's not doing the same things she enjoyed in a past relationship with you even worse if she became a prude. Women change the goal posts for certain men. If she didnt do that for you, she will more than likely leave you in the future for whatever she doesn't think you bring and one of the most painful things is …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 11:08 AM
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Well he's not settling he wants the same enthusiasm or acts of fun a woman had back when she was single or was with someone more attractive. Most men settle for women for the sake of keeping what they have only certain dudes get to pick and choose/filter out girls he doesn't like
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 11:02 AM
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You would be very surprised how bad lots of women can be at communicating or handling possible rejection so they avoid it, or they treat your relationship different sexually
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 10:59 AM
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As someone said down below, she may very well be more attached to the the guy from her past because women are complacent with thier pleasure thats what happens in any marriage with a dead bedroom where the woman starts an affair. He was just better and either doesnt want to compare youin an attempt to spare your feelings or she has the mindset of "I had my fun" and doesn't view you as that.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 10:55 AM
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Because women sometimes treat relationships different than eachother and you're really asking why chicks aren't using thier utmost logic to run thier lives? Its as simple as they didnt feel like it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 10:50 AM
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I quite literally in the post explained that, I said it brings security and that alpha males literally never stop being the most wanted
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 10:47 AM
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That is a given if I'm dating someone so much so that my downfall is cheerishing someone so much it encroaches on my self respect. Thats why I'm curious if they'll appreciate me. Its more of an overall treatment rather than a hanging by a thread one
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 05:32 AM
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That is a given if I'm dating someone so much so that my downfall is cheerishing someone it encroaches on my self respect. Thats why i m curious if they'll appreciate me. Its more of an overall treaent rather than a hanging by a thread one
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 05:32 AM
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If someone is going to leave, I'd like to see it coming. Many women are chatterboxes when you esablish trust and portray a judgement free playful attitude about exes. Sometimes you find out by her friends, or you guys just talk about exes once to know eachothers past a bit more usually the conversation looks like this childhood memories>first kiss> exes, playfully of course and you wont learn everything but you can find out a good bit. I believe if she wants something you should ask how importan…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 05:25 AM
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The way I look for people, because I'm usually exhausted and I try too hard is "Will this person appreciate me" the answer in my head is usually no but I enjoy the chaos so I see where it takes me. Im a comforter, I between my job and personal life its what I do. However its hard to do that with random dates. It'd be awkward to pry deep into thier life on just a few dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 04:54 AM
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My issue is quite the opposite, all Ive had are experiences that confirm that without it happening to me, I've wrecked a marriage, 2 other relationships, seen people I know have SOs cheat in places they shoukdnt have. Ive seen how much easier it is to get women when I learn about kinks and fetishes. What I want doesn't matter if its not actually on the table and lastly I don't worry about it I just know its a given no matter how attentive I am or how much I try to be sincere. I used to, hell lov…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 04:46 AM
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Which is what, I'm saying even in dating the average man cannot get sex whenever he needs it
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 04:37 AM
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Not in terms of something as potentially selfish as pleasure and especially when they don't think they ever need to which just so happens to be most women, I see, hear from or date. My philosophy is that people will always want what they don't have especially in an age where all you see is the brief highlights of how others live on social media
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 04:35 AM
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You dont fully understand fetishization then, its just assumed you've got what they need because you are black. Also you think people in marriages are having sex on the regular. That is a funny joke. Typically how it goes is things slow down, and someone leaves or cheats. Have you looked up affair statistics? Its very interesting, either there are just so many nymphomaniacs in both men and women...or...theres a dead bedroom
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 04:28 AM
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You dont fully understand fetishization then, its just assumed you've got what they need because you are black. Also you think people in marriages are having sex on the regular. That is a funny joke. Typically how it goes is things slow down, and someone leaves or cheats. Have you looked up affair statistics? Its very interesting, either there are just so many nymphomaniacs in both men and women...or...theres a dead bedroom
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 04:27 AM
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No as it only happens when something goes wrong, hence meaning its not excessive, also its less of an obsession more of a truth you accept where no matter what went down its your fault
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 04:23 AM
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Issue with that if you want your girl to be happy but she's standing in the way of her own by refusing to do something she enjoys. If your girl ain't happy nor taken care of thats just asking to be dumped or cheated on. So I either am the best, one of the best or nothing
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 04:20 AM
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Thats just how relationships are, if you dont do or have xyz you're not going to get the time of day and in the middle of a relationship if you dont have all of xyz they are going to leave you for better. Ironically I've lived my life the complete opposite, my love is not transactional and yet all that will lead to is pain, so its time to stay grounded in reality
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 04:16 AM
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Do I need to bust out the lock and key analogy? Most women don't have to pursue dudes, they approach she says no or yes based on the quality of approach, and I'm saying most women dont put in the physical movement/effort a man has to before or during sex
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 04:11 AM
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I'm black too, and in terms of sex, black men are absolute fetishized sex objects, I lost my virginity younger than most by an older woman. You're going to sit there and say 60%-70% of the population is getting sex right now as we speak
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 04:06 AM
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They do seek eachother out however on the opposite sidd of the spectrum it may not be full blown fetishes but things she enjoyed, something tame like dressing up, light roleplay, a playful spanking, calling you a certain name. Not to mention some of the worst prudes I've witnessed have done some wild things. Sexual past shouldnt come up but it more than likely will. Be it in the relationship, in the dating phase or perhaps even as they were friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 04:02 AM
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Oh please. Also have you applied the same logic to the existing relationship who on earth wants an uneventful marriage/relationship sex life. Tastes change only on an as needed basis, if you're not the best to her she will leave you possibly by cheating and if you don't do what what she enjoyed with chad you will never be the best or one of the best.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 03:58 AM
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Ah you're right she might not leave, but keep quiet about an affair, much more preferable.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 03:53 AM
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"I only date guys who are nice" theres always an invisible checklist when it comes to dating. "Man what would he think of me if he knew I gave a guy a rusty trombone" dont act like there aren't things people wpuld rather not know about you or see you in a different light. He asked her to, she said yes, you asked her to, she said no...hmm can't help but wonder why.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 03:52 AM
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Mainly because men who have acted this way in the past, got dumped and divorced because thier wife missed something she used to do. We're all jjst trying to learn from other peoples wasted time and mistakes
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 03:43 AM
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This post is less about at all, more so what did she enjoy with a man prior that she refuses to do with you, that is a huge red flag and the paranoia comes from "what if she's lying about hating it to save face" after all women sleep with and date guys the "dont like"
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 03:41 AM
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That's basically what i said multiple times, I'm just adding details because people seem to not be able to wrap thier heads around it
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 03:39 AM
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If she genuinely hated it thats fine, however if she enjoyed something in the past with another dude or did it willingly multiple multiple times, I expect the same treatment or by extention she quite literally values him more than me and that ends the relationship right there.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 03:37 AM
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I agree however it seems most people overlooked the actual meaning behind the post, if she enjoyed doing something with another man but refuses to do it with me that poisons the relationship and is like a landmjne waiting to go off when she misses it and leaves or cheats to relive it
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 03:35 AM
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Agreed and by extention of not ending up a chump, you leave that relationship especially if she enjoyed doing that with the other guy, that is a huge red flag
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 03:32 AM
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Agreed and by extention of not ending up a chump, you leave that relationship especially if she enjoyed doing that with the other guy, that is a huge red flag
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 03:32 AM
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If you truly dont like it theres no issue, however if she enjoyed doing it with another dude but not me, thats a sinking ship because she's just going to make herself unhappy and step out of the relationship eventually and/or just stay miserable festering over the fun she used to have.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 03:31 AM
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Again if what you did in the past comes up and you enjoyed it, by refusing to do it with me you're just making yourself unhappy and I'm not going to stay with a sinking ship of a relationship. I'd rather not end up one of those chumps that when their wife misses the life she had ends up cheating
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 03:27 AM
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Its chill to have a past, but if you enjoyed it and refuse to do the things you did with them, with me. You're just going to make yourself unhappy and I'm just signing up to get divorced or dumped unless I do it first.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 03:24 AM
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Wow literally no one red the post huh, interesting and typical for this sub. I'll paraphrase for you, if WE men are not your best or one of the best in bed don't waste our time because all that does is make you unhappy and then you leave us when we both could've been looking for someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 03:21 AM
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You're only obligated if you aren't actually telling the truth about disliking it, and by "obligated" I mean if you want the relationship to actually lead anywhere. If he's not the best or in the realm of the best you have 0 reason to stay with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 03:14 AM
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Im not encouraging it, I'm merely laying out the fact that if he feels he isnt your best he may be distraught about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 03:10 AM
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As do you with your rebuttals. You've presented anecdotal evidence, I presented you with anecdotal evidence and statistics but yeah you keep believing every average dude is a stud. My apologies for strawmanning but I'm rather upset.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 11:52 PM
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I hate to burst your bubble but thats not a majority of people on tinder let alone men lol. Also if you're getting recommended to them or potentially matched by them on Tinder I have bad news, its because some other chick probably did sleep with them, usually the men who are the most pissed and mysogynistic are ones scorned from relationships where things did not workout, so guess what they're not virgins. Also tinder did a study to see how many men for women attractive and how many women found …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 11:07 PM
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Im not advocating to force anyone to do anything but thats the source of pain and I'm explaining it because when anyone is hurt typically they don't react well to said pain. I wouldnt call that a positive, especially since I'm young and alot of women just have the misconception that "older guys are just more interesting, hotter, more experienced in bed" I mentioned the Daddy thing since its a discussion about kinks. The reason a guy wouldnt leave is becausefor the average guy you have to put in …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 10:54 PM
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Exactly the point though, people talk about exes alot though. If your woman got out of a relationship she was kinkier in and refuses to do the same stuff with you, especially if you two have been together longer than the previous relationship that would emasculate you, even more so if you choose to stay and some men do
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 10:41 PM
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Sometimes you don't need to ask and you find out the hard way that she's a snow bunny. Hell some girls cave to the pressure scared that you might view them different because they want to be slapped, choked or even punched, maybe treated like a pet when you're both home and thier solution is to go do it with someone else. Also you're very lucky, people talk about exes alot and many people are friends or associates before dating least in terms of long term relationships. Also if you ever actually …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 10:37 PM
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Not wild sex stories but more like admissions of cheating and doing things she'd never do with her husband, some of those friends and I are the men girls end up cheating with. Also the same way men lie to get sex, women lie to uphold thier image. It also comes from a place of wanting to be the best she's had to not have her leave you when she inevitably gets hit on/attention from other dudes. If she cheats or leaves no matter what happens its always the mans fault. Finding out if a woman is hold…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 10:35 PM
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You my friend are delusional and I'm confident you couldnt even describe an average man.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 10:32 PM
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Most men haven't had those experiences, the ratio of male to female virgins is astounding just in general. Only a certain amount of dudes will actually be able to get chosen by a girl, most are just orbiters etc. Example Tinder, a small percentage of men actually get any matches at all. That translates to the physical life as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 10:28 PM
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Not wild sex stories but more like admissions of cheating and doing things she'd never do with her husband, some of those friends and I are the men girls end up cheating with. Also the same way men lie to get sex, women lie to uphold thier image. It also comes from a place of wanting to be the best she's had to not have her leave you when she inevitably gets hit on/attention from other dudes. If she cheats or leaves no matter what happens its always the mans fault. Finding out if a woman is hold…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 10:23 PM
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Not wild sex stories but more like admissions of cheating and doing things she'd never do with her husband, some of those friends and I are the men girls end up cheating with. Also the same way men lie to get sex, women lie to uphold thier image. It also comes from a place of wanting to be the best she's had to not have her leave you when she inevitably gets hit on/attention from other dudes. If she cheats or leaves no matter what happens its always the mans fault. Finding out if a woman is hold…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 10:20 PM
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How is having pain caused to you an incel fantasy, I admit I'm black pilled but its more of just a given. It has literally played out this exact way more times than I can count, in fact I advocate that men at a certain age maybe around 25 if you're not compitent with sex that they should just give up on ever keeping a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 10:09 PM
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Very harsh here but for every absusive cunt there was a guy who wasnt but was less "exciting" hot or whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 02:11 PM
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Women will always find better because theyre actually wanted
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 02:08 PM
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Women killed it, because if you can easily get something for less work/being sleazy why would you be an upstanding person? Women only start to value themselves as someone who should be treated well when they start to decline by then its too late you've already shown dudes they can get women by not only not being chivalrous but by being the complete opposite
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 01:59 PM
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Thats an even bigger IF for a stranger and that most of those issues were caused by her own actions. Also the implications and likely hood of that working out are abysmal and not worth it. -She needs great sex to feel secure in her life and if I dont provide that in comparrison to other options thatre likely still in her life, she'll leave me or cheat on me to be fully happy -she made the choice to use her great years not being serious with anyone or she was the type of girl to only give certain…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 01:54 PM
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There are pros to getting married? Honestly uyou can get the pros of being married if you just give down to earth advice or manage your social circles with the utmost care.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 01:25 PM
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Ye this will probably be my last reply but that and at least any nagging negative thoughts get quelled a bit. Even the strongest people still go through what ifs or sometimes believes all the feelings were fake and end up questioning themselves, many times it can spiral out of control to you two seeing eachother but also not seeing eachother even if that comes to an end you could more easily leave it at "yeah just truly didnt work out"
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 01:22 PM
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It should be at least discussed, both are damaging but you have a higher likely hood of recovery and recovering faster with the short term Making someone else possibly suffer for your choices or someone elses actions is wrong. How could a guy ever believe you liked him more than the one night stand when he had to wait over 3x as long for you to think he sucks in bed and eventually leave him after idk 3 months vs you got lied to by some asshole or you had sex with him with no reason to believe it…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 01:08 PM
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Because being good at sex as a man can lead to further secure feelings/more women also that isn't true you can easily make feelings pop up for a woman if you give her amazing sex and no matter how hard you mess up, your chances of being on her mind or getting back together are always better if you are her best in that department. If you give a woman better love than sex and you two break up, you wont hear a single word from her.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 01:04 PM
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The reason it matters if its one night or not is obviously it felt good enough even if its temporary, to willingly go back for more, more so than feeling shitty. Also I refute the part about the right time because if he looks good enough to her, usually that makes it the right time. It very much so is about the guy because how on earth would she know he has what she's looking for outside of looks thats why men lie to get sex. If its based on looks at first guess what that means the guy she's wai…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 12:57 PM
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The reason it matters if its one night or not is obviously it felt good enough even if its temporary, to willingly go back for more, more so than feeling shitty. Also I refute the part about the right time because if he looks good enough to her, usually that makes it the right time. It very much so is about the guy because how on earth would she know he has what she's looking for outside of looks thats why men lie to get sex. If its based on looks at first guess what that means the guy she's wai…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 12:57 PM
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Its not paranoia the proof is in the pudding based on how much more often women monkey branch. Do you expect someone to believe "ah yes I'm just so attracted to you that I dont want to lose you even though I know how important sex is to men "
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 12:41 PM
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Of course, but women will hide that from you trying to be virtuous or worse, will full on believe they want you even though they were willing to give it up sooner to someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 12:38 PM
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Yes but which is worse, someone demanding your loyalty and attention for 6 months regardless even though youre not enough? or someone who doesn't waste your time and leaves a month in and didnt give a shit if you started talking to other people?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 12:35 PM
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Then why would I continue on a path thats doomed to fail? Seriously think how common this is "wife ends up resenting husbang because he isnt as good in bed as tyrone, stops having sex with him, and either starts an emotional affair that leads to divorce or a physical affair." If youre not a womans best, she will leave you, could be sooner could be later.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 12:32 PM
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I agree reply to that is for most men, I'm talking average looking dudes, he could even have a nice body most of thier encounters with women will be for long term partners because youre not going to have the same ammount of options, no one is going to approach you, well maybe once in your life time. Most have to take what they can get or remain virgins, hell even kissless thier entire life because you getting into relationships completely on you approaching people, if they all say no tough shit …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 12:27 PM
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The issue with using this is that most men don't wait or can't afford to wait and most dudes dont have an issue with a chick having this mindset. Cause if a dude isnt waiting he's leaving however if a woman is waiting, she will keep you there and consume your time and you probably wont even get a yes to sharing a night with her
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 12:12 PM
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Pffft, in my experience and observation most women who lost weight usually try to fuck as many higher tier dudes in terms of looks asshe can, perhaps not from her past but random strangers definitely, and if not she's just repressing that thought and in the future you will get cheated on because the only thing assured from people close to you is that they'll let you down and most women are told not to waste time on guys who don't give them what they want 24/7 the thing is in terms of attraction …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 12:10 PM
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Do you know how rare it is for a woman to have a single night of casual sex then swear off it? Typically it takes a few times before she suddenly decides its not enjoyable, and if she doesnt get that same feeling from you as her casual sex partners + more from being in a relationship more than likely, guess what when she misses it or thaf feeling then she'll leave you. Most women dont have thag introspection until its too late and by then the guy she's with emotionally or financially has to deal…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 12:04 PM
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Do you know how rare it is for a woman to have a single night of casual sex then swear off it? Typically it takes a few times before she suddenly decides its not enjoyable, and if she doesnt get that same feeling from you as her casual sex partners + more from being in a relationship more than likely, guess what when she misses it or thaf feeling then she'll leave you. Most women dont have thag introspection until its too late and by then the guy she's with emotionally or financially has to deal…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 12:04 PM
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You dont have to make us feel equal, we dont care much about how WE feel either, its more the question of are we actually equal? If not this relationship is doomed because no matter how long you've been with your girl theres always a higher and higher chance of her fucking someone just because he was better in someway be it timing, looks, etc. If she doesnt have sex with you the exact same way you're just her second choice because clearly she isn't happy with you. Most of the salty dudes want th…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 11:52 AM
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If men communicated that upfront we'd stay virgins for alot longer and clearly most women we'll encounter want experience in a man. Also typically the talk about the past and other people comes up way later than you may think.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 11:43 AM
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The implications is this; the reason she doesnt do that with you, is because she doesnt think you can give the goods and if the sex isnt as enthusiastic if not more so then she doesnt actually want to have sex with you. Meaning you're not as attractive, can't get her in the mood as well or otherwise, meaning in the future she's easily going to cheat (physically or emotionally) on you for someone that does tick all those boxes for her be them new or in her past, so you might as well either move o…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 11:40 AM
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The implications is this; the reason she doesnt do that with you, is because she doesnt think you can give the goods and if the sex isnt as enthusiastic if not more so then she doesnt actually want to have sex with you. Meaning you're not as attractive, can't get her in the mood as well or otherwise, meaning in the future she's easily going to cheat (physically or emotionally) on you for someone that does tick all those boxes for her be them new or in her past, so you might as well either move o…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 11:40 AM
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Most men will feel this way and if he doesnt, then he will get used and dumped/divorced no questions asked in the future.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 11:35 AM
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Eh yes they are, most women cannot fuck a dude they don't like in multiple ways. Thats why some men lie thier ass off to get sex because it works. Women are more complacent with sex and pleasure. You're telling me you didnt have ANY other less attractive options?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 11:32 AM
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Clearly it does because if that relationship worked out, me and that woman clearly wouldnt be talking. Lastly the thing about women is most of them have the option to go back to thier best dude and we have seen it happen and seen far too many stories happen where she does because women are complacent about sexual pleasure, lots of dudes are fine with not being the most attractive person, however being her best lover EVERY dude wants to be that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 11:25 AM
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Its really not that creepy, it just lets you know how she feels about you, and that you're not as hot as the guy she did it with. Which will only be amplified more when she cheats on you with him and does the exact same thing again she didnt want to do with you. Again why do you have to try harder for less? This is why I refuse to be some chump of a boyfriend again. What do i need a spouse or intinate partner for? Sex? I can get that easily with FWB, intimate connection? I can have that with fri…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 11:20 AM
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The reason is very simple, dudes are only valued by what they provide and there is no male body positivity about sexual short comings or anyone trying to correct any shallowness when it comes to men. I was already aware of this but then a friend with a below average size took his own life off of feeling forever alone and unwanted in his past, present and due to very minute positive reinforcement and a lot of negative reinforcement of both wonen and men shaming him casually for it, his future as …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 11:08 AM
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I'm not saying she gets off explicitly knowing he pleases other women, but that he CAN, meaning he has what she needs this meaning she'll either pursue him best way she knows or give him more of a chance than a guy that no one talks about. I mean it's hard for men to get that connection because all love is is just a competition or something to be chased for us basically since well she may have had better or wants better and we dont have as many women orbiting us as women do men usually. Last poi…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 09:05 PM
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More commonly than men women get turned on from the IDEA of someone being better than what they've had in the past and it helps them get off better. Like women can be into you simply because you know how to please other women so even in light of other options or if she's in a relationship she'll come back to you. With men we CAN just sleep with anything. An example is how less women than men who are straight will sleep with the same sex just to get off. I know many women dont want to hear this b…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 03:32 PM
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They do in spite typically. Women are encouraged by friends and media to immediately forget the man they were with cause "he wasnt shit" tho most cant actually manage this and end up with baggage the next guy has to deal with. If he handles her off the rebound well she will generally "fall for him" but only because she's putting her old bf under a murky dirty microscope and the new guy under a brand new one.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 12:52 PM
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Yes it's a need for validation not just from females but society, the general public and while women seem to think they need to be amazing at sex guys typically need to be better for either more casual sex or a relationship. If you have great sex in a relationship clearly it's a huge motivator for a woman to keep you in her life. When women forgive cheating or other short comings it's because he's either rich or a sex fiend that gave her her best so far
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 12:47 PM
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Because experience attracts women. No girl wants a guy who cant pull chicks or has no clue what he's doing in bed. Women get pretty complacent with thier sexual satisfaction. That's mainly why lots of women are in clubs etc because guys who are the most sexually experienced are typically there or they at least can play it off for that they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 12:43 PM
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They think they do until they get a 5 pump chump who has no clue what he's doing
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 12:38 PM
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Well life isnt over yet, theyll cheat sooner or later missing the life.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 12:36 PM
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It's not really stupid, it helps you gauge someones nature, if she had fun getting ran through, she's never going to be satisfied with just you in the long terms so why not just save both of you guys time and leave it at that.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 12:35 PM
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Same
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 10:24 PM
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I'm a 22m former porn addict and back in my 5 year relationship I would just use it as a quick fix, because I had a higher sex drive than her. I would also use it to better my dirty talk since alot of women liked my voice alot and no I'm not talking about basically dirty talk it more tiered on the lines of something you'd find in smut or BDSM novels except actually smooth. On top of that I'd also use it to delve into more kinky things or roleplay scenarios since that was involved in alot of our …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 06:09 PM
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You didnt talk about the effects it has on men, penis envy is on the rise due to it and contributes to ED which may ruin relationships and actually leads a number of men to suicide. Fact is it also contributes to the standards for men straight, gay or bi theres no really escaping being shamed for your sexual prowess if you lack it in size, stamina, technique etc
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 05:56 PM
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Most dudes have to make it a performance because if we actually felt that connection, it'd feel too good and we wouldn't have the stamina to please our woman. Personally sex for me gives me anxiety already because I feel if I dont make my woman climax everytime in some form she's just going to get bitter, fantasize about other men or look at me as even more disposable. The art form to it is not letting that shine through and playing it off as naturally as possible. Lastly I do it because women a…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 05:51 PM
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If a virgin never looked at porn he'd fantasize about the women around him. It's like women reading smut which a ton do instead of watching porn, at the end of the day its visualization in different ways, simple as that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 05:46 PM
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I've had women tell me I'm misogynist for opening the door for them, does that count?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 07:24 PM
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Wannabe alphas or budding virgins or people who have huge dry spells. Even amongst rich men people overestimate how many men are actually alphas, lots of guys can get through life pretending to be alphas and those are the ones that play women. A real alpha let's a woman play herself, as in he quite literally talks to other women in front of her and somehow she thinks its itshe's totally not cheating on her. Like she makes excuses FOR him that is not that common but does happen. The issue most me…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 09:38 PM
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Neither, I've known from a younge age and had it confirmed for me that I am not enough for either.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 05:43 PM
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It's because it is heavily implied that if you got women you must have something intimate that is desirable or satisfying to them that you had to work for. What is more respectable to you? Creating a flow or an overflow?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 05:37 PM
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That's what the men you give the time of say to do lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 05:26 PM
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I actually agree with this guy, with women you're either good at sex or youre not, yes women are taught to watch out for dudes who only want sex and are taught most do, but when it comes down to what a woman looks for in a man. He's either good in bed or isnt, theres none of this "oh he just wasnt that into you" or any of those excuses lol. Men are sexual objects.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 05:22 PM
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Sadly women dont actually ever have to face regrets with people, there will always be some loser she can get with or that she can lie to to get that companionship
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 05:18 PM
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I've seen girls marry the dude she wouldnt have even dated in high school or college, and all it takes for her to cheat is for me to act like the dude she was actually with in college/high school
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 05:07 PM
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It doesnt need nuance when it's both a standard and its portrayed in media and social media that that's what women should do.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 05:04 PM
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Do you know how acceptable and how many women complain on social media about where "good men" have gone? Imagine hearing that as a guy who was a doing everything he could to be a good dude and not getting any results from it. Infact not just no results but pain from it. Of course you'd say or do something about it. If a woman acted EVER like the exact same chicks that either rejected or especially dumped you for a Chad then they dont deserve you right now cause clearly it's not what she wants, s…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 05:03 PM
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Yes wife material is good because he actually wants to work for you. Being a husband is basically slavery why would you want to be someones husband who isnt as sexually active anymore because she got sastisfied by someone else, that is humiliating
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 04:59 PM
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I'm sorry for your loss man
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 04:55 PM
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The amount of women that complain on social media that they cant find providers or good dudes and it's actually socially acceptable for is hilarious then he dude that was minding his own business gets reminded of how much he was rejected early on in life and gets pulled into this bullshit. Sadly these women typically have no consequences for how they lived unless we as men give them some. We face consequences for listening to our out of date parents "treat a girl nicely" so we gotta even things …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 04:51 PM
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The issue is that way more women complain than men about not being able to find a partner after they've been blown out, they already identified themselves as shallow why would any dude want that as a partner and I hope more and more men think this way because that way women actually know the consequences of doing this, and we wont be shamed for rejecting them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 04:46 PM
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Be sure to tell him the Alpha was way better at getting you off than him by far lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 04:42 PM
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Remember guys cum helps the brain grow. Most chicks do this knowing theyll mature out of it and act like its assured, as dudes it's our job to remind them not to be cocky and that theres consequences to thier choices, simple as that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 04:39 PM
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This post is just a reminder that those who were shallow dont deserve to be rewarded for being shallow, become a product of society to spit in its face. Break her heart and remind her that this is what she wanted from you. It's a reminder that you shouldnt be a good man because you get the shit end of the stick for it. Even not so attractive women will reject or worse leave you to go fuck some douchebag. Why would you continue to emotionally pay/invest for something that isnt worth it or that yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 04:31 PM
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I dont believe I'm bitter it just seems like a waste of time just to have someone leave later in my life
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 03:40 PM
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Exactly and I believe that is an issue, because that's false and delusional. Someone who gets approached and does a minute amount of approaching will see more success than someone who has to approach and will never or seldom gets approached at all cause dating is a numbers game.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 03:37 PM
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My comment even though I am redpilled is that women are literally the center focus of the movement, how to avoid certain women, how to actually keep a woman by not trying so hard the list goes on. It's like trying to throw something away without a place to put it (like a literal trash can) . Regardless as a dude you literally have to work in some way to get women. Cultivating charm, money, a nice body or looks etc. Unless you show these thing women wont approach you or even signal to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 03:33 PM
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I have never asked anyone that either but it's a question that men get silently asked in all stages of dating because you're always competing with other dudes or even women if she's Bi and alot of women across the board have an inflated ego actually about what makes them a good partner men have to become a good looking partner to even enter the dating world.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 03:22 PM
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They arent accessories lol, I promise you more men than chicks would date an unemployed chick. People consider someone with a future but it is not the end all be all for men choosing women, the fact she even got a date is based off looks alone with a guy. Like tell me how often you think average men mooch off women for money and how often vice versa is true. If a woman is unemployed in this day and age it's because she wants to be, and by pay for herself I mean " eventually she'll pay me back fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 03:16 PM
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Someone who's chill and wont dramaify his life, who will actually support him, be thoughtful and do little things for him, like if he's busy but you know he has to book a flight, if she does it for him and let's him know. Someone who still shows love, loyalty and support when stress is high, its doesnt have to be perfect.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 02:55 PM
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Typically the filter for men is based on whatever woman says yes because we face rejection more naturally being the ones that have to approach please don't be delusional if we didnt approach anyone in our lifetime we'd end up alone that is not the case for women because opportunities come YOUR way. The conditions for approaching are that is that you have to approach a girl in the right way and look good the first half being the far more complicated part.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 02:45 PM
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It really doesnt take much for dudes. Women have to filter who comes along to not end up with trash, most men kinda have to take whatever comes thier way
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 01:29 PM
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When women are asked what they bring to the table, most only describe working hard in thier career which isnt something dudes look for, like I'm happy you have a good career but that matters Jack all to him because well he's more than likely paying for everything anyway and that has no bearing on having a relationship with a chick. 99% of dudes dont pursue a chick thinking "eventually she'll pay for herself"
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 01:26 PM
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Eh most girls piggyback off of how interesting you are. Being above average in some way outside of intelligence raises thier interest in you. Like when women say they want a funny guy they're not talking about modest funny they're talking about being the funniest guy in the room on most days
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 01:21 PM
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