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| 81 | i don’t know who james fell is, but i appreciate him (shared via The Female Lead) on instaHe also just looks like a self-important beef cake (I wonder if he’s a feminist? He isn’t smiling or seeming incredibly happy either?) with the handle Renegade in terrible font next to a sailboat emoticon. Sooo my unhappy affect would likely descend as soon as I realized that he has more societal/institutionalized power than me and many, many other marginalized communities who would definitely not waste such power putting down people who want to be treated as at least his equals. I mean seriousl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 03:45 PM |
| 4 | The neg works manifoldThis. My mother always called these “jaded compliments.” I’ve only ever received them/experienced negging in satirical examples traded between women meant to parody the idea that women are intrinsically insecure and catty, as an over-the-top means of joking between close friends (usually in a moment of friendly competition), and then finally issued seriously maybe a few times by only the most pathetically insecure men, whether aimed at a man or a woman. When women (or girls) use negging structur… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 11:00 AM |
| 12 | Subtle FDS Themes Even in the PastI suggest we all take a moment to marvel at Nina Simone? Several of her songs continue to be relevant anthems for women that have been covered endlessly since. Born a Black woman in 1933 NC, Nina Simone went to Juilliard in 1950 and became a jazz singer, pianist, and songwriter. Though few of her songs were written by her originally, I find it phenomenally hard to overstate how impressive her accomplishments and contributions as an artist really are. Her fame and the fame she imparted to many ab… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 09:59 AM |
| 46 | Mate-retention strategies: benefit-provisioning vs. cost-inflicting behaviorFirstly thank you so much for sharing all of this and the work you put into synthesizing it all on top of the source texts! I feel strongly that any red flags within the first six months count roughly triple. That’s primo honeymoon phase/should be their best behavior! I call it relationship probation, which is half jest. Okay, bit of a rant... Everyone has a full year of probation in the government department I worked for when they start. I was on probation for two full years due to a promotion … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 01:58 AM |
| 99 | Can't even let go of your dog without being accused of trying to get men's attention. Actually saw this posted on Yahoo News first and fortunately she had a good deal of support at how crazy this guy is.Filed under Indelibly Creepy Moves RomComs Would Frame as Romantic 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 01:38 AM |
| 14 | This sub ruined my marriage!!! 🤣I almost felt pity when I realized he physically didn’t know how to pay the bills. Almost. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 10:36 PM |
| 19 | This sub ruined my marriage!!! 🤣My ex saying the words “I was a little bitch” to me after I dumped him is a piece of music I hope to never forget. 💖 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 08:18 PM |
| 7 | Hahahahaha I just....WHAT?! I’m sure you know why you deadbeat.tHe LaW oF tHe AnCiEnTs... As if this MF ever read an ethnography about an ancient culture? I’ve witnessed so many men pointing to what they call “polygamy,” whilst inferring it’s a One Dick Policy practice only, who don’t have the first clue about an actual, specific cultural practice, or they’ll “cite” a specific culture but don’t actually know the details of that cultural practice. In most of the so-called polygamist cultural practices of ancient cultures around the world, it’s either 1) way … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 04:47 PM |
| 4 | Thrive on consistency.It’s also a powerful training technique for animals (particularly clicker training with dogs). After first consistently rewarding for a marked behavior (which abusers will also do—they establish the desired behavior and are consistent in rewarding to reinforce it), you begin to continue marking the behavior but reward at random until the reward (and often the marking) are completely phased out. But dog (and other animal) trainers don’t sometimes reward and sometimes punish. Abusers will often os… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 03:00 PM |
| 23 | ‘Most of words we use for sex are violent, not just fuck. Think about it…. bang, screw, hit it, pound, smash, rail, plow, pound, like our entire culture has tried to remove the concept of intimacy/vulnerability/emotion from sex by associating violent words with the action.bell hooks* Spells her name like that to decentralize herself from her work. I’m not a fan, but her work is widely lauded as revolutionary. I had the ostensible privilege of meeting her when I was in college. She was being aggressively courted for faculty. Understandably, she was unimpressed by our largely white student body and therefore pointedly hostile. Regardless, many of my peers were super fans. A lot of her ideological stances on pedagogical theory are solid; I just didn’t love her styli… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 09:45 PM |
| 1 | And to think, I used to consider merely having a bookshelf a green flag 🤦♀️I would also like to know. I LOVE David Foster Wallace. I haven’t read his magnum opus, though. I just love how he combines hysterical realism with new journalism. However, I do know his ex, so I know he wasn’t a very high quality partner himself. Maybe that side of him shows in Infinite Jest? Idk. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 03:49 PM |
| 1 | Feeling Tired, Very TiredThe same dicks that don’t take you seriously because of your energy are probably the exact same dicks who would be intimidated by your intellect if that was what you projected most... just from my experience. Don’t even take those opinions or impressions into account. You sound amazing! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 07:14 PM |
| 1 | On “forever girlfriend”I did the same thing you did, although he did not do me the favor of leaving sadly (it became clear by the time I was actually looking towards marriage generally when I was close to the life stage I always wanted to be at before getting married or buying a house that I did NOT want to marry him). The poster above delineated it beautifully, but I’ll just underscore that that is not the forever girlfriend cliche. Yeah, after I dumped him, he actually DID get married not long after. I was shocked t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 07:06 PM |
| 1 | Found out one of our aquaintances follows teenagers on SM.When a man is more interested in young teens or kids, he can appear very unthreatening to adult women. They often have a very harmless seeming blend of emotionally vulnerable, slightly childish but unthreatening traits that appeal to women with caring instincts... I am sorry if you’ve simply met enough pedophiles to sniff this pattern out; I have, too. This is RIGHT ON. The only thing I would personally edit from this comment from my experience is specifying straight men, but again, that’s just … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 04:49 PM |
| 1 | Age 35 Isn’t a Fertility Cliff. Why Do We Think It Is?Fun fact: scientists/doctors long believed that some developmental disabilities were caused by AMA only to later figure out that it was the advanced paternal age causing those disabilities. Women were likely to be having babies with men around their peer group, but it took decades before the sperm was scrutinized instead of waving it away as some mysterious “yo womb old, girl” problem. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 03:18 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts...I will always assume there is something critically wrong with someone your age that prevents you from dating peers, which is why you’re dating a relative child. Yes it’s fucking gross. I started college when I was 13, and I used to think that meant I was precocious enough to justify wild age gaps. Then I hit around 25 and realized that that is total bullshit. There is no replacement for life experience nor any shortcuts to amend generational gaps. When you’re below 30, every year between you and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 02:57 PM |
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