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LTR/MARRIAGEDiary-of-Jane/r/RedPillWomen17/06/19 07:01 PM
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LTR/MARRIAGEDiary-of-Jane/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 01:46 PM
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DISCUSSIONDiary-of-Jane/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 08:19 PM
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It’s a very hard cycle of victim mentality to get out of. Sometimes a woman in this situation tries to tell herself it’s not as bad, so she stay somewhat sane, because it takes a lot of mental strength to acknowledge you have been raped for years! By your own husband! It’s not as easy as it seems for us, people outside of this situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 04:19 PM
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Me too. 😞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 07:33 PM
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I feel stuck. I should have never go out with this guy to begin with. I thought if I give myself opportunity to see that he is just a regular dude it will be easier to forget about him. Instead, i got addicted to him. And he doesnt leave me alone either. I tried to end the relationship but he keeps texting/calling, talking about the future. I decided to stay with my husband because he has already proven himself to me as someone i can rely on, and the other guy might be reliable too, i just have …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 11:38 PM
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This is where i learned about this sub too. I used to consider myself redpilled... I dont belong there anymore. Im still figuring out my path.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 11:18 PM
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Because you dont plan on falling in love with someone else while you're already in relationship. Things happen?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 09:25 PM
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I didnt see any encouragement to cheat, but thought this sub might be more open minded... Seems like one thing this sub has in common with rpw is that women in general dont approve affairs. Would be nice if men who are in relationships would be as honest and loyal as women, because they encourage each other to cheat and not to get caught and say that its biology etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 09:20 PM
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I understand. Its a bit difficult because you dont always know if you meet someone who is a better match, but its too late.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 09:14 PM
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Thank you for your advice. I once knew a girl who actually knocked on a guy's door that she had a crush on and playfully introduced herself and said she thinks he is hot. They ended up dating. But its very risky and would be humiliating if he rejects her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/19 12:05 AM
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/r/RedPillWomen19/10/19 11:28 PM
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I think you're right. I'm being unhappy due to my own expectation of reality that don't measure up to the idea of my mind how everything is suppose to be. I also realize that the other guy won't make me happy. I probably will be high for a while until things settle down and then see him as another boring man, in a best case of scenario. In a worse case, he could be completely different from what he appears to me right now, since im in love and probably see him in a different way than I would if …
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/19 08:01 PM
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Wow, I can relate to every feeling you describe here. I tell myself it would be stupid to leave such a good husband, there are women that dream to have a man like that and im just wanting to chase someone exciting. I mean im 30, but what if its my hormones drive me crazy and when i lets say 45 and close to menopause i will dream about this boring stable life with a stable person instead of being with someone who gives me emotions. If i were old lady right now i would want the predictability in l…
/r/RedPillWives18/10/19 03:58 PM
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So what am i suppose to do? Seriously. Be married and unhappy deep inside? And dream about the life I wish i could have instead of actually going and getting that life? Why do I have to think about my husband's needs like its more important than my needs, my life? All you people who are judging, can you actually answer those questions. Do I have to sacrifice my life in order to please the other person?
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/19 03:42 PM
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Thank you. I agree with what you're saying. I need some time to myself to work on my own emotional issues. I never had longer than a month between my previous relationships, and I met my husband a week after I broke up with my ex. I remember how in the beginning I was dragging my previous relationship drama in my new ones, comparing how my ex acted and my new bf does. I want to get some distance while maintaining the marriage, like take a break visit family, but husband doesnt want me to go on m…
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 09:49 PM
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i understand. Monogamy is a choice.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 07:20 PM
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This is an awesome analysis. So, what is your prediction related to the probability of the new relationships to work out? Some people point out that the new guy might be not as trustworthy because he "steals someone's woman". Or that "if he cheats with you, he will cheat on you"...
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 05:59 PM
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Throughout human history we were polygamous beings, until a few hundred years ago when the society through religion started changing our mindset. It cant however change our biology thats why people have multiple monogamous relationships in their life. If we were strictly monogamous we would only be with 1 man/woman during our entire life period. When a "monogamous" person breaks up relationship they find another partner, thats already not a full monogamy. Your "monogamous" partner still finds ot…
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 05:49 PM
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I wont ever look at other men if im with someone i love. Love grows with time, and if its not love it grows in different direction. I hope he isnt Chad, it would have make things easier for me. I dont want to be with unstable chad who only wants to use women. This guy wants relationship. He is better than any chad.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 05:37 PM
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I definitely dont want any other guy, not even if he is better and more successful, only him. I liked how he looks but the real attraction started with talking to him, he is stable, not emotional, he say something and he does it, if he said i call at 5, it will be exactly at 5, he works out and leads active lifestyle, he plans something and follows with his plans instead of saying i dont feel like it today... My husband on the other hand, angry easily, he says we will do this and this tomorrow b…
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 05:31 PM
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There is no divorce payday here, no paid off assets, only bitcoin that I dont have access to. Thats why if i divorce im broke af.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 05:22 PM
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Actually the opposite, he is really attractive, and would fit definition of chad.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 05:18 PM
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Another thing is that im not afraid to seem dishonorable or immoral is because there are so many people "cheat" every day, and i've read the book Sex at dawn, so we're naturally polygamous and always have been. Why would I feel ashamed for my nature, for my biology, I didnt create myself this way, the nature /God did!
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 05:14 PM
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Im going to tell him about how i feel. Thank you for this, i do plan to open up and tell my husband everything. And see from there. Im thinking to see personal therapy first, but it wasnt helpful last time because i can see what the therapist thinking and predict their next question, and then when i wanted them to leave me alone i started saying pretty much what would sounded good for them to hear. I faked the satisfaction from the sessions because i just wanted to leave.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 05:09 PM
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I feel empathy even more than i should. In fact, im HSP and Empath. I completely acknowledge its wrong and immoral, but what am i suppose to do with feelings inside me... I want to live according to my heart, not my mind.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 04:39 PM
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I dont know how to live on my own though. I want independence but im terrified i wont be able to provide for myself. To be honest, i got too lazy over the years, i dont want to work, get up in the morning or worry about bills. The more I think about it, the more I feel hesitant. He said I will live with him and he marry me eventually. But i dont like the word "eventually" or "someday". I havent discussed this part with him, but i mean if i divorce i'd have no medical ins etc. Maybe i should talk…
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 04:28 PM
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U stupid, u dont even know, he has anger issues and yells starting from the morning, i dont even do anything wrong to him, he just yells at eveything even dog.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 03:40 PM
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No, i would never do that. Especially that im not interested in kids.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 03:39 PM
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Sorry im not a troll. Im in this life situation at the moment. I read red pill theory regularly and know about hypergamy etc. I understand the psychology behind all of this but its hard because im not a robot and i have feelings.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 03:33 PM
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Well, i know. He could have found better, but why does he want me then? I mean im attractive but there are even younger girls out there who r single. Do you think its his ego and he just wants to see if i will actually risk my life for him? How do I test him for his true intentions?
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 03:25 PM
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I would like to "test the waters" before I do this, but the guy says he doesnt want to mess with a married woman and its either him or my husband.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 03:20 PM
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Oh no he is not married. I know who he is, his life, family, everything, his social media, background check etc. He said he will marry me. I dont know if im delusional and maybe missing something but if he takes this responsibility destroying my life he hopefully has the moral responsibility to take care of everything as he promises.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 03:16 PM
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Well, to make matters worse, I will confess on here because i ve been keeping it in for so long. I married my husband because I had to! I wouldn't marry him back then if I didnt need citizenship. However, I sincerely hoped to marry once and forever and just be with him because in my mind he saved me, so as a grateful wife I wanted to love him.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 03:06 PM
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Thank u. Im fine with not getting much support, I want to find a way to change my mind before its too late, so I thought maybe disapproval from the redpill society would help me. I do appreciate pointing out that that I need to be sure about this guy. I feel like he has nothing to lose and Im about to lose everything.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 03:00 PM
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Thanks. I know that relationships go through stages and at the first stage where im at you dont see the other person the way you will see him in a year.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 02:55 PM
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My husband is not innocent himself, he has anger problems and yells all the time. Maybe if he was a better person I would have been more in love with him.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 02:48 PM
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How do you make yourself to LOVE someone? Yes, he deserves to be loved, but how do I even squeeze feelings that are not there? On the other hand, I love Gabe and wish to suppress the feelings but I cant. You cant control love.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 02:42 PM
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Well do you think I ruined it with this guy then? I worry that deep inside he will not trust me. I want to have strong relationships with him and be together for the rest of the life. It did start wrong, very wrong. Is there even a way to fix things... I think i've messed up... i probably shouldnt have slept with him too soon. But it didnt feel too soon because we were talking for many months before we met.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 02:39 PM
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Im just thinking screw it, just do it. Worst case of scenario, it will be a mistake, then its my destiny. Life is short. Better regret of something you've done, than to regret of something you wish you'd done.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 02:30 PM
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I did. For a while. I just have always had feelings for this guy, its stronger than me i guess.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 02:23 PM
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I hate being in this situation, never i thought an innocent flirt online can grow into this mess. I dont know what to do at this point. Maybe to tell my husband about all this and see if he breaks up with me first? Im trying to think over before making the next step. Its just too emotionally draining.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 02:22 PM
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Well, my husband provides security, i provide him other things: organize our life, run the house, cook, do grocery shopping, entertain him in bed, take care of his emotional stuff (he is not an easy person to be with), i contribute to the relationship too, just not in a monetary way.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 02:17 PM
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I also just thought that i would hate to leave my husband and then discover some other woman gets to have what used to be mine. It would be just dumb to risk my marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/19 08:43 PM
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Yes, you're right! I dont even know the guy, his issues and shortcomings. I should focus more on the things i like in my husband. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/19 08:40 PM
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Good point. Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/19 08:37 PM
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My exact thoughts! I thought i will just have a short "innocent fun" flirting with a guy online. And at first, i didnt even look at him as anything special. Im not sure at what point it sucked me in. I was considering even meeting him in person. I guess it could be im bored i dont know. I will try to stay focused on my marriage and myself. I just can't resist to check his fb. I was wondering whether i will feel jealous when i see his next gf or will i simply let it go and finally stop stalking h…
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/19 08:24 PM
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