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DiscussionDifficult-Ad-2866/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 12:21 PM
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Be someone who strives to be the best version of yourself. Finding a mate used to feel like ‘life and death’. It it meant the survival of your people. Through that lens, rejection still frustrating, but you just keep trying/problem solving, and you figure it out. We’re much more now of healthy and unhealthy behavior. Society , and the dating game has evolved (for the better in a lot of ways). We need to have more emotional intelligence. But that does mean have to get soft. Survival is easy these…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 10:34 AM
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I’m good. I married to someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 09:04 AM
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To actually understand the person I spent so much time with trying to know. And she could have trusted me with that information. I could have perhaps provided perspective from the perspective of someone who cares about her. And then even if it wouldn’t have work out, I could have helped her a little, and taken joy in helping someone I chose to care about. Instead, it feels like wasted time learning a- pretty unsatisfying lesson, if I’m being honest.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 02:01 AM
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Yeah, I agree. She just didn’t really show me who she was. So in my head she’s this ‘TBD’ who still had potential until proven otherwise. And it bothered me that i didn’t get to know her, even if it was just to better understand why she wasn’t ready and why we weren’t a fit.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 01:52 AM
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I accepted vague answers and gave her the benefit of the of the doubt. I talked myself into the idea that she, as someone who had been “hurt before” would appreciate me. I thought I just had to be patient with her, and show consistency. She asked for vulnerability that she didn’t reciprocate. She asked a lot of questions on our first date about my family and what happened in my last relationship. I gave candid answers to build trust. She gave vague answers that I trusted her to answer eventually…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 11:58 PM
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Are you a man or a woman? It only bothered me when I felt severely undervalued. When I reached a level of personal growth, and I put in effort to show my value as a man, I once got dumped by someone who kinda used me. I was offended, and didn’t know what to make of it. Like, “what did I miss? Why was I so easily disposed of?” Eventually I did get resentful. I thought “does she you know how much more work I’ve done on myself than her? She has no idea.” I was offended that someone could expect so …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 04:30 PM
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You don’t need to worry about this yet. Just do whatever you need to do (ethically) to get laid. Focus your energy on that. Being on a soapbox about how society brainwashed us into wanting kids isn’t helping you out. Also society didn’t ‘brainwash’ us with that. It’s what happens you follow your natural urges to have sex. It wasn’t until better education birth control that we separated having sex from the responsibility of children. Go on a dating app. Put it in your profile that you don’t want …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 03:22 PM
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It’s not that complicated. Sometimes we self sensor. Women have to too. But men sometimes feel that they have to do it more than women. They feel like they can’t say the truth. dating is such a competition. Young me go through arduous trail and error process they have to learn the right and wrong things to say. Saying/doing the wrong thing can destroy a girl’s perception/attraction. Me’s behavior often crosses into ‘just telling a girl what he thinks she wants to hear’. It messes with a lot wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 10:22 AM
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First, I like this post. I preaches personal responsibility. It’s saying ‘to have real expectations, means to accept the scarcity of healthy traits in a partner.’ It is scarce. It’s why I protect my marriage at all costs. And it will always be scarce. Because for better or worse, attraction is based on your traits and attributes relative to the rest of the dating pool. Essentially, you need to be the one before you can find the one, and then you have a whole new challenge of weeding through all …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 09:59 AM
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Yeah. I should probably just off myself now
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 03:17 PM
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Oh, my fault. lol yeah if you’re a man, you message takes on a different tone [ see that ladies? He mentioned he was a doctor and I assumed he was a woman (no one else is reading this)] Well then yeah I think, we’re mostly in alignment. I also read a couple of your posts on r/exredpill. This is just a thought. I think that because you are a successful doctor, there is less suspicion around your finances. I make decent living, but I’m in sales. It’s a little harder for people gauge my finances. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 05:48 PM
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I think you’re too hung up on your definition of “love”. If you change it to “value”, maybe it makes more sense. If somebody respects you, and values: times spent with you, your physical attraction, your personality, trust you not to just them, accept the parts of you that you least like about yourself. For all those things, they give you loyalty over everyone else in the world, AND have sex with only you. That’s kinda special, and hard to find. It’s worth working on yourself to achieve that. It…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 05:39 PM
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I hated using my social circle to meet women. Too many variables. I almost never did.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 07:57 PM
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Well then you’ll never experience real intimacy, and no one should trust you
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 05:23 PM
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It’s not hard to manipulate a man who finds you attractive. And yeah, there are a lot of manipulative people out there. And yeah it works for a little while. It’s not a recipe for a healthy long-term relationship, but sure, saying stuff like this is great if you was to use someone…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 04:44 PM
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If I were you I would think more on that. If you date someone for a month casually, sure you don’t owe anyone anything. I don’t even take ghosting personally before a month. After 3 months or so, I think you owe someone an explanation. If you intentionally waste someone’s time, you’re disrespecting them. No one’s presence is such a gift that it makes up for leading someone on. If there’s something about someone that will never accept about them long term, neglect to tell them, keep dating that p…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 04:35 PM
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Yup. I think he just means, if that’s the case be honest about it so you two can go your separate ways instead of patronizing someone and saying it doesn’t matter to you when it does. You end up getting dumped and not being told why. He’s saying your shit. If you’re a size queen, and guy has a dick that too small for you, don’t tell him that it’s because you’re too busy right for a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 10:45 AM
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Cool Doc. Yeah coffee is fine for a first date. You still need A CAR. And it can’t be a shit box. (If you live in nyc, fine. No car.) What about for a second date? How about 3 coffee dates in a row when Friday night was available? How about splitting the check on a dinner date? I noticed that you mentioned that you’re a doctor. Are you married? In a long term domestic partnership? Because if you’re single, I’ll take other opinions. And yeah of course you still need to have good conversation for …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 10:26 AM
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Other than from maybe your parents, there is no such thing as “unconditional love”. This doesn’t come across as ‘above superficial BS’. Maybe you don’t even want to admit it to yourself, but it really just seems like you’re too scared to try. It seems like you try to convince yourself that it’s not worth it. That you got depressed because when you think about all the shit you would have to do to get to where you want to be, it seems insurmountable. So you say ‘love and sex isn’t worth it the eff…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 11:12 PM
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That’s different than saying that they are literally ‘the happiest’ demographic
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 10:44 PM
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Where did you hear this? I have only heard the opposite. Anecdotally, I’ve only seen a woman in her 30’s/40’s declaring themselves happy after getting out of a bad relationship, or saying it like like they’re trying to convince themselves as much as everyone else. Obviously you can be single and happy. But ‘THE happiest’? I’m curious if anyone on here thinks single women in their 30’s and 40’s are ‘the happiest’. Please speak up.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 10:44 PM
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Yeah the thing is, since men have to initiate, we’re at the whim of women to be forth right about their interest in us. If a man is honest and shows good ethics in his attempt to earn a woman’s trust, and then notices that the woman didn’t actually value him, and she was only interested in in him as someone who would take her out, stroke her ego, and treat her well while she passes the time looking for someone better, for whom she does not insist on a the same amount of effort. Do you really thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 06:08 PM
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Men eventually become pragmatic. Their standards fall in line with what they can get. If they’re single, and not having sex, it’s usually not by choice. It’s because his standards are higher than his perceived value. A man knows that he either has to raise his value or lower his standards. As always, there are some exceptions, and some people told talk partners in thinking they have more value than they actually do, but that’s typically how it plays out.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 05:25 PM
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It harms the men without money and power. Exactly. It’s easier and more advantageous to become individually successful. You’re providing further evidence that ‘going Dutch’ is behavior of people with lower value. Going Dutch leaves a man vulnerable to other men treating their potential partners better. That’s why the men who can afford to, just accept it shut the fuck up about it. Men often get used that way and nobody cares and that will never change. No grass roots campaign that advocates ‘goi…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 05:16 PM
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It does depend on multiple facts but having your finances in order is a prerequisite for men and paying for dates is a gesture that represents that. money rules the world. To bring forth social change, you need help from people with money and power. Who is incentivized to go Dutch in this plan plan? Rich men or attractive women?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 04:31 PM
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Yeah if you want to eliminate 80% of your options, and 95% attractive options. By all means. Factor in a lack of dating experience from handicapping your options like that, and you’re a real catch to the woman of your dreams.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 03:46 PM
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Yeah, but for some reason most women really want I hold on to that one… I’m married. I decided to pay for dates instead of dying alone waiting on the world to change.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 03:40 PM
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That’s not really the case in practice. Especially if you ask out an attractive woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 03:31 PM
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How old are you? Sure, just pick her up on your skateboard and go Dutch on a couple lattes. Make sure every see so all the other chicks get jealous.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 03:30 PM
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First, I don’t say things like “every man pays” because it’s sexist and in really poor taste. With that said, the phrase, “every man pays” is meant as a reason just justify using sex workers. As in “every man pays for sex in one way or another, so don’t be so judgmental of the sex trade. They’re just being up-front and transactional about it” The implication is this: men need to understand that ‘you better have some money in your pocket if you want to get women’. And this is true. If you just wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 02:29 PM
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No. You just have to find one to make you happy. Women marry 5’7” guys at a rate less than tall men, but it can be done. You can either cry about how the world is unfair, or you can go figure it out. You should probably start by not making excuses/blaming the entire female sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 01:47 PM
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Girl math
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 12:59 AM
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I’m not saying that I agree with this guy by any means, but that’s exactly what he’s doing. This post is him expressing what he thinks after he stopped to ask ‘why’ women are opting to be single. Why don’t you enlighten us? Why do you think women opt out?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 12:51 AM
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I mean… you do have to care about what they want if you want a relationship with someone. Pretty sure that what he means. If you just mean this guy in particular, then sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 12:44 AM
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Wow, 3 months… Can’t wait to see how your worldview changes when the this idealization phase wears off. You’re 36 man. You’re too old to be doing this.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 11:53 PM
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I think it’s a leap to say that it’s something he ‘deeply desires’. I don’t think men expect women to cook for them. I think most men would love a 50/50 split of chores and responsibility without a petty ‘back and forth’ about who does more house work. But when you’re being criticized, it’s hard to advocate for yourself when you’re under constant threat of being called sexist. Even if you feel like you’ve done more than your fair share. This rebuttal is a classic example of how people sometimes …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 11:48 PM
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Because if it’s common knowledge it doesn’t need to be asked. It’s like asking: “are you okay with gay people around your children?” “…yeah. Why? What’s your problem?”
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 11:28 PM
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He doesn’t. He literally compared it to a mythical creature that doesn’t actually exist…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 11:22 PM
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No, she wasn’t a bad person. She could have handled it a lot better, but I think the judgemental and selfish-righteous we get, the less accepting we are of other people, including ourselves. I think it’s that type of judgement that makes it harder for everyone to build trust.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 10:04 PM
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The line is when someone stops being honest. If you make a consistent effort, and someone leads you on because they just want something casual, but they’re not up front with you when you make it clear that you’re setting the course for a real relationship. You’re not entitled to the relationship, But if you’re honest, and you meet the expectations set by someone, then you are entitled to not have your time wasted, and probably a good explanation as to why that person wasn’t honest with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 04:27 PM
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No. There is no such rule. Be openminded. I would never be friends first because I want to be up front about my intentions and my attraction. Sounds like you have to have already agreed to start as friends to answer this. I think it’s a waste of time, but I guess it works for some people. … Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 10:24 AM
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lol how many autistic people are asking you out that you felt the need to say this? I feel you though, it’s like “when are they gonna ‘get it’?”. It’s almost like they have trouble picking up on social media cues. You see that? everyone on this thread who isn’t autistic? You’re allowed to turn down autistic people if they ask you out. Just in case you didn’t know. To our neurodivergent friends, stop gaslighting women into thinking you’re just ‘quirky’. This lady ain’t buying it no more. Go on ‘l…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 09:50 AM
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I think you have to grow up before you can be a good partner to anyone. Your partner needs to trust you to be understanding when they tell you the truth. If you’re judgmental about shit that doesn’t matter, she can’t really be honest with you. And then you guys can’t have real intimacy. Who she fucked in the past is in the past. What matters is how the two of you value each other and how you show each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 01:26 AM
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You ever think she fucked 20 guys better than you? Maybe she just does what she wants and doesn’t care what sexist people like you think.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 12:50 AM
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Maybe you should rethink what you value about women. You’re literally confirming their biggest frustrations with men right now. Jfc
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 12:43 AM
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That’s just it. They can’t be honest. It’s a fear of intimacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 11:58 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 11:22 AM
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My wife likes my gifts, but we set proper/ realistic expectations, and it’s not ‘make or break’ for the day. conversely my last ex was impossible to make happy on any special occasion and I’m confident that it says more about her at this point. No gift good enough, any fault in planning, and hitch in the plan was an inditement of my love and devotion, and it made it a miserable experience to try to get through.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 01:00 PM
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There are also plenty of men that just want to be with someone they love, who love them back and want to build trust with someone so that they have a relationship that doesn’t make them feel either part feel disposable. A connection that’s much deeper than looks and last past when you both look your best. You would want to date a man who says things like “women expire at 25” that such an extreme opinion of the reality the youth/looks is a factor in male to female attraction. Everyone is evaluate…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 11:01 AM
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That’s cool. And many men will date older women. It’s just also okay if a consenting adult (23) to do what she wants. Also, you’ll can have your own opinion on who you find attractive. You still have plenty of options. But it doesn’t change the fact that statistically men have their high sexual value at 36 and for women, it’s 23. And both age and looks is just two factors in dating. Do you think it I makes a 29 year old woman insecure that she has to compete with 23 year olds? I think it’s disho…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 10:26 AM
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lol. That’s great I’ll keep that in mind. Now go ahead and explain that to mine and every other man’s penis in the whole world. Also go ahead and only date me your own age. Plenty of women are attracted to older men, I don’t know if it’s the majority, but it’s at least a significant minority population. My wife is 10 years younger than me. The only people who have a problem with it are women that don’t know us.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 09:18 AM
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I mean some men have trouble accepting the reality that life isn’t fair. Just like some women with the age thing. not all. And it’s obviously a bummer to find that all out at first. But yeah, there’s biological and evolutionary reasons why women prefer height and money too
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 09:09 AM
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Looks. And it doesn’t have to be only the reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 09:06 AM
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Omg close enough. I’m sure every woman over the age of 23 would love if they could make it socially unacceptable for men to date the most attractive age demographic to men. That’s biological. Women are literally the most fertile. And men don’t even think of it from a procreation perspective. It’s mother nature telling us.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 03:22 AM
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I met my wife on an app when she was 23. I married her at 25. Exploitation accomplished 🎉🎈🍾.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 03:13 AM
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Nope, does that response seem somehow unhinged? Did you read our whole back and forth?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 10:04 PM
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Sorry the direct quote was “people get to brag about things that they or good at or have learned” One might argue that it is better not to brag about their morality at all. I’m sorry. My mistake. You probably won’t accomplish as much as MLK or Gahndi, but you in your opinion, do have superior morals compared both Gandhi and Martin Luther King. And when your boyfriend lets you down, it will be his fault right? Because you’re morally superior to Gandhi, and not because you’re too self righteous to…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 09:44 PM
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Feel free to send me one of your comments that show vulnerability. I didn’t read through them all but I didn’t find any in which you share anything personal where you were at fault and learned from it. People get to brag about what they’re good at and have earned What about people who never cheat, don’t brag about their relationships, have self respect, don’t ever get taken advantage of by cheaters, but choose not to call them shitbags? What if they just criticize the behavior, rather than the w…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 08:54 PM
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Even if you don’t cheat, it’s still a betrayal to dump someone you committed to because you think you have better options. What do you think it says about you that you asserted yourself as morally superior to me, and/or potentially anyone who has ever cheated? Some people learn from their mistakes, and they should share what they’ve learned to others. It’s always the self-righteous ones who become bitter as the people are humbled by life’s lessons outgrow them. “Karma is my boyfriend”. That’s sm…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 08:08 PM
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Neither, Plenty of fish in the sea.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 04:42 PM
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And women think it’s weird that men care so much about looks and youth. None of this is weird. It has been understood forever as part of our biology, culture, etc. I think your opinion is weird. You that it’s ‘weird’ that life still isn’t fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 02:13 PM
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Just whatever women feel about it. All these men on the thread have their opinions based on how they think women think. I just wanted read what women actually think. I feel like I worked hard to go from more beta to more alpha in the more positive traits(muscles, money to be a good provider, not over sensitive, etc. I was always trying to prove to my partners that I was enough. That I was the alpha and the beta depending on their changing needs. Maybe fear of intimacy, attachment issues, and tra…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 01:43 PM
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Would love to hear from more women on this thread. Their perspective would be much more interesting…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 01:24 PM
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To some extent, people are only as faithful as their options. (Until hopefully we learn better). When we get married, we say “I’m giving up all other options to build something with you that isn’t worth the risk of exploring other options. We’ll have our ups and downs but even at your worst, I’ll always choose the ‘devil’ in you that I know.” Then some people get married and it’s harder than they thought for many reasons. And maybes someone’s options change for the better. Of course you should p…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 01:15 PM
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35m American. just married just married a 25f Brazil. I have two sisters 37f, 43f Both successful Before I met her, I dated women women closer to my own age. All of them quite beautiful in recent year. (27-33) I couldn’t get them to take dating me seriously. I honestly felt used. We would go on dates. I would ‘court’ them. We would sleep together and have a good time. I would show vulnerability when asked, and it was often not matched. All of them had their shit together. One divorced, one was t…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 05:02 PM
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The problem the the question is that you’re picking between extremes. The real answer is neither. If you understand what it takes to have a healthy relationship, and you look for someone who is honest, loyal, and also understands what it takes, then You just look for a someone: Attractive enough, Financially secure enough, sex good enough, Interesting enough to talk to, People who make those sacrifices like money but not attractive, or fun and funny but bad at sex, the people don’t understand in…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 03:33 PM
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You need a clearer definition of the beta guy. The beta guy still needs to Show that he is formidable Financially/emotionally secure Social enough to convince a Conan to be with him Etc. You’re forgetting about the betas that never develop the confidence to even try to build that connection. They live a life of solitude. Yes, obviously the comparison between the two choices you provided is easy. But there lies a large portion of ‘beta males’ that never really achieve the proficiency in enough ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 12:30 PM
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So look up longitudinal analysis studies and spend you whole life studying this to prove those studies wrong I can spend all day posting articles on this topic because there are thousands. One by one you could do the same thing. You can hyperfixate on their flaws for which there are in every study. Keep those blinders on to the fact that when you add it all up, there are still strong trends and correlations to support this guy’s claims. And I’m willing to bet this based on statistics that you do…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 01:39 PM
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In statistics you draw conclusions on trends and averages. There’s alway variability in preferences. You still can talk in generalities, and there will always be someone like you who will say something like you just said in your last paragraph. It contributes nothing to a dialogue, because ‘no fucking shit’.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 01:30 PM
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Because up you’re purposely putting blinders on to any point anyone makes that you disagree with. You could be visited by the ghosts of past present and future, and put through all day seminars on statistics, evolutionary biology, women’s studies, and communications. You still wouldn’t change one opinion about the factors of female attraction. Status, Masculinity, Risk taking behavior, A woman’s cycle and how they’re most likely to cheat with a more masculine man during ovulation, etc. It doesn’…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 01:21 PM
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In the time you wrote that, I sent you 3 articles drawing sting correlations between perceived status of men and female attraction. This has been well documented and understood for decades. It also makes locally makes biological, evolutionary, social perspective. It’s harsh truth than men have accept. When women say it’s not true, it’s silly. Of course you also need to treat a woman well also. But think of how many nice men get dumped because they “just not attracted to them” and how many rich s…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 01:07 PM
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https://scholar.google.com/scholar?hl=en&as_sdt=0%2C22&as_vis=1&q=male+attractiveness+status&btnG=#d=gs_qabs&t=1716123408890&u=%23p%3DlWytRwE5Iq4J https://scholar.google.com/scholar?hl=en&as_sdt=0%2C22&as_vis=1&q=male+attractiveness+status&btnG=#d=gs_qabs&t=1716123455950&u=%23p%3DDa2dfZL01pgJ https://scholar.google.com/scholar?start=10&q=male+attractiveness+status&hl=en&as_sdt=0,22&as_vis=1#d=gs_qabs&t=1716123515538&u=%23p%3DXowNJNPrOTQJ
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 12:58 PM
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His argument is one sided and comes off as a bitter but there is plenty of truth in what he said. You can either choose to completely ignore it, or find truth in people you disagree with. Like an adult
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 12:49 PM
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https://therationalmale.com/2016/02/23/the-pareto-principle/amp/
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 12:47 PM
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Definitely both. If you make being happy and successful a priority and work at it, then you’re more appealing to women. At the same time if you want to be happy and successful, you see the value in getting married, and building a life with someone you can trust. Having relationships and just letting them run their course have value, but eventually the lessons you learn from them start to dwindle. I grew tired of hurting people and getting hurt. I wanted to experience real intimacy as a form of p…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/24 12:42 PM
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I guess I’m saying it’s so obvious that it doesn’t need to be debated in the first place. It’s not controversial or a hot take. Everybody knows this. The people who are arguing with you are just going to their values to you.yes we agree. I’m challenging you to not debate obvious stuff when purple pill stuff is so rich with interesting nuance
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 09:58 AM
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I think you just sound like a teenager that got high. You can still have a relationship. It’s just not a romantic relationship. You took away the reasons for exclusivity, so yeah there’s no reason for exclusivity. You just described platonic friendship.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 12:55 AM
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Yes. Everything else is a patronizing lie disguised as kindness and empathy. It’s not being kind. It’s cowardly. It’s also disrespectful to me, my effort, and my time. I would absolutely respect a girl more if she told me the truth. I can handle harsh truths. Maybe she’s wrong about something. Maybe it’s something I could have changed. Maybe it will hurt my feelings. I won’t know unless you tell me. who are you to decide what truth I can and can’t handle? Do you think leaving someone oblivious t…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 08:18 PM
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“Why did you really break up with me?”
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 07:22 PM
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I think ‘pick me’s’ are a hyperbolic stereotype. It hard not to roll your eyes at it. Men used to call them bimbo’s, chickenheads, and hoes. Now women have their own term for them. If the term teaches women to act in a way that demands more respect, then great. But I don’t the stereotype is all that true, and I think it’s mostly a word used to by women to bully and shame other women. Sometimes women side with their men. It’s painting with a wide brush.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 07:20 PM
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It’s just ‘all other things being equal, younger women with no kids’ is preferable. Things are less complicated, and on average, they more attractive. This question was a layup. Of course you still have options.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 07:05 PM
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The woman. Learn how to stand up for yourself and speak the truth. It’s easier to expose a lair than convince someone that something isn’t true. Maybe we can debate about why she thinks it’s okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 07:01 PM
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This debate is a petty waste of time
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 05:05 PM
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Excluding sex and family, relationships are pointless. That’s like saying excluding travel and experiencing the miracle of human flight, airplanes are useless.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 05:03 PM
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I think what you mean to say is, “a lack of self awareness, and a lack of willingness to work on yourself in effective ways really limits your options. Being physically attractive and intelligent can only help you. Being too scared to approach women has already been solved by dating apps. If you’re good looking, that’s half the battle. Being ugly, dumb and shy is way worse. That’s the second itinerary I’ve heard a guy complain about ‘being smart’ as this insurmountable obstacle. Maybe you’re not…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 05:15 PM
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