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She is ~10-50 steps ahead of you probably. Protect your boys and yourself from her selfishness. Anyone willing to destruct your family is your opponent…no matter who it is. Protect your peace! You are now playing chess, and from what you’re saying it sounds like she’s done. Prepare both ways. You do not have to go scorched earth right off the bat…and if I’m guessing right you hold all the cards so plan everything out (both ways), and be ready to strike as necessary. Sounds like you’re grieving c…
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/26 09:52 PM
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6 kids + 1 adult can take care of 7 pets easy. That’s man on man D. Great opportunity for kids to take on some responsibility if not already. People, especially kids get attached to their pets, thus not the best direction to rehome pets if their mom/wife is leaving. Pets tend to be so supportive in harder uncertain times. My STBXW had to vacate the home this past week, and it ended up being her parenting week as well…the dog?!?…no, he stays with me!…forever 😁
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/26 10:06 PM
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Needed to hear this! I’m ~1.5yrs in and ~95% done per lawyer, but STBXW didn’t like what was being decided so fired 1st lawyer, and 2nd lawyer promised “results.” “Results” = a surprise emergency protective order that was vacated the following day by me & my lawyer. Follow up hearing tomorrow to close it out 🤞
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/26 01:49 AM
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“most American women I’ve met are not nearly as interesting as they seem to think they are.” Interested in your thoughts + the groups in terms of overall top nationalities for women in terms of a quality spouse: Korean? Ukrainian? Norwegian? Lay it on me! I fascinated by this topic!
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/26 08:10 PM
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Mother of God, you’re whining about a 3mo divorce w/ no kids?! Sweet f’ing Christ get it together, man up, and figure out the easiest situation + have some respect for the men on here that are dealing with life ending/crippling situations. You might lose some money, and you’ll rebuild. You’re going to be ok.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/26 04:45 PM
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Kept mine on for longest time (STBXW took hers off years ago), and one day something happened where I had enough, and I tossed it in the trash…not even the recycling 😁
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/26 02:45 AM
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Amazing. Saving your post it’s so good!
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/26 03:05 AM
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Long walks w/ dog more effective
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/26 01:13 AM
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Freedom comes at a (high) cost, and sounds like both you and/or your son are on the path to freedom. Congrats…and other people can f their own face. Going through my own version of this, and i humbly tell people “I need their ___ like I need an an asshole on my elbow” Figure out your support circle, and increase/decrease as necessary. You are the CEO of your own life: hire & fire personnel as needed
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/26 03:47 PM
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You are dealing with adversity. It’s not about the event - it’s about your response. Recommend stoic philosophy. Partying, drinking, f’ing, etc are empty paths in the end. Take care, and keep going. Hang in there.
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/26 02:33 AM
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Was in very similar boat for last ~11yrs, til I finally had enough and filed. You have time to plan your potential exit strategy - especially financially, thus if you had to make changes, you’re playing offense. Doubtful she changes, unless for the worse…and what motivation does she have to change?? What would your asks be? How ridiculous do they sound??…”hey adult mom spouse, can you start showering more often?” I’m not telling you to file/leave. I am telling you to thoroughly plan an exit stra…
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/26 01:15 AM
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“she’s gonna hurt”: not your problem. You now have an opponent. An opponent that is attempting to disrupt your way of life. Play to win.
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/26 01:43 AM
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✋🏻present
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/26 06:36 PM
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Look into if dissipation is possible in relation to the $150k of reckless credit card spending via mental instability
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/26 02:35 AM
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Amazing response, and agreed all around. She may be feeling “nostalgia”, and makes me think of a powerful scene from Mad Men: https://youtu.be/suRDUFpsHus?si=z9Z3o-wKJOwK4_2N
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/25 04:19 PM
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Now this is a perfect response. Crushed it. Respect 🤜
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/25 01:31 AM
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As someone going through this - something that requires as lil work/effort on my end + not a thing/stuff, but an experience. My sister, who has been a giant help/resource for me through during my divorce adventure, has tried gifting me a year subscription to those Masterclasses, or gifted books. My response each time: “thank you for thinking of me, and you may not realize it, but you just gave me a job” I can barely concentrate/focus rn and not for long, thus something relaxing + experience base…
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/25 11:41 PM
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Dyk you are living my dream rn? I’m 10mos in w/ no end in sight, and cohabitating + 13yo daughter. Sweet fancy Moses you’re living the dream!!
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/25 03:31 AM
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Attempt mediation? My buddy recently got divorced (L.A. area), and just settled via mediation. I thought he was toast: 2 kids, wife using biz acct as piggy bank + she had no real job. Dad doing most at home and work. He settled via mediation where my divorce has no end in sight. I thought no way mediation would work for him as wife is out there, but she capitulated.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/25 06:32 AM
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Amazing response
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/25 01:58 PM
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Amazing response. Saving this
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/25 12:13 AM
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Agreed on documenting ^ Can you use OurFamily Wizard as a tool in this instance? Can the kid (eventually) gain access to OFW?
/r/Divorce_Men09/11/25 01:24 PM
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Find yourself first
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/25 10:59 AM
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You are dodging so many massive bullets, yet you’re in the trench dealing with immediate hurt. Would you rather have her do this now, or 5-10yrs down the road, with shared assets, a home, kids, etc. Do you even have a pet together rn?…if not, holy shit - you hit the breakup lottery. The lease sucks, but very breakable. …tbh I would use your story wherever it can benefit you - landlord, rebound hook-up, etc. People are understanding + have gone through similar or a friend/family member has. Trust…
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/25 02:02 PM
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Opportunity here for speedy divorce, and/or mediator - especially since no kids. File first to be petitioner.
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/25 09:03 PM
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Biggest recommendation not listed: NEVER raise your voice moving forward. My STBXW poured a can of soda onto bacon I was cooking that splattered hot grease all over my hands and arms. Scared the shit out of me and I went sideways reading her the riot act w/ my daughter in earshot. STBXW (and a SAHW) used that outburst to file motions that I narrowly beat: would have been kicked out of the home + supervised visits…and I’m Mr Mom + breadwinner in my situation…almost wiped away by not controlling m…
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/25 07:04 PM
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Ty for this. This is a gem. Real truth & wisdom here.
/r/Divorce_Men30/09/25 10:27 AM
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Lasted ~5 seconds. Greatly appreciate you sending.
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/25 02:13 PM
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This is an absolute gem: “Don't focus on women. Women aren't attracted to Men. They are attracted to their lifestyle and what that lifestyle can provide them.” Amazing
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/25 12:55 PM
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Agreed. Immediate thought was why wait for opposing side to file when you can control the chess board?? OP - in very similar situation, but I filed first, and grateful I did so.
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/25 05:40 PM
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The fact that you have no kids + your properties are pre-marital makes it hard to not take a lonnnnnnng look at divorce while untangling is by far simpler. Highly similar experience in relation to the negativity, walking on eggshells, concocting perfect wordings of phrases, few similar interests + lack of similar goals. Main difference is that I have a beautiful daughter w/ my train wreck of my wife. What is keeping you around?…loss aversion? She would have changed up by now. Probably not happen…
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/25 03:04 AM
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Hello. Will hit 7yrs sober next month. One of the reasons I got sober was I knew divorce was imminent, and never wanted alcohol used against me. Filed in February, and dealing with the rollercoaster. It’s not for everyone, and I can guarantee you sobriety is the best choice I made in my life…so much so I mention it in my daily prayer (“I’m grateful for sobriety…best choice I ever made”)…side note, I’m not religious, but have gotten into a morning prayer. Hang in there. You’re not alone. …figure …
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/25 01:25 PM
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Respectfully you need therapy/someone to talk to…which it sounds like you have in the past + maybe currently do. Feel like anything I say past this point will be opinions + finger points. Just know your child is defenseless, vulnerable, needs your love, and didn’t ask for this…please keep your child safe while you work through what you need to work through. It sounds like you work a shitload of hours on top of a newborn…which is a hellacious workload. Is part of this feeling guilty for the amoun…
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/25 12:51 AM
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Does your 6mo bring you joy? Is there something more important you need to do outside of caring & providing for your newborn?
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/25 08:59 PM
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One’s/your relationship and time with your kids is first & foremost.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/25 07:50 PM
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This seems more like a legal question best suited for a family lawyer - gotta be some free consultations out there.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/25 02:38 PM
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Yes! Underrated topic IMO. STBXW was (mis)diagnosed w/ ADHD post pregnancy, and that changed a lot IMO.
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/25 11:50 AM
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Highly highly recommend sensory deprivation tank / float tank. Only positives come from floating - feeling refreshed, rested, clarity, even made a buddy go with who has nagging back problems…fixed!
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/25 01:50 AM
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Amazing response. Literal gold.
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/25 01:46 AM
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Get busy living, or get busy dying
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/25 02:40 AM
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Hang in there. Sounds like you’ve started grieving the death of the marriage. …and it also sounds like you’re a kick ass dad who cares about his kids. That’s worth fighting for in terms of being that go-to rock of stability for your kids. I’m early in the process, and thus far, grieving has been by far the hardest part IMO. Keep going!
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/25 05:59 PM
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On paper via your explanation - your situation doesn’t sound completely horrific. Maybe get the apartment up & running, the day to day/kids logistics down pat for the most part, all the while allowing ideas of what to do w/ your time to flow? Sounds like maybe baby steps of crawling, walking, then running might be good approach? You work remote - fostering a dog possible in your area/situation? Film club?…watch a movie w/ someone? Pass down your love of film via fave genres/age appropriate movie…
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/25 12:57 AM
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Hang in there, and keep going. It’s a roller coaster vs an escalator. Embrace the adversity! Amor fati! “No man is more unhappy than he who never faces adversity. For he is not permitted to prove himself.” Seneca https://dailystoic.com/20-stoic-adversity-quotes/
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/25 12:11 AM
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From everything you’ve stated, and regardless of whatever you choose to do: you hold ALL the cards IMO. Like you have two cowboys (kings), and she’s got nothing but the ability to bluff ($30k offer). What is unclear: you state “one-week separation” before filing” + “wants me to wait until she closes on a house before we file”: have either of you filed already? Is this all very recent? Yes, let her close on that house first: 1. you’re being agreeable, 2. dumb on her part b/c that new home is now …
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/25 01:45 AM
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It does not count for something in relation to the dissolution of marital assets. No different than if either of you have student loans - that debt would have occurred pre-marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/25 12:54 AM
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That sounds like a pre-marital asset
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/25 11:42 PM
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Great job w/ all your doing. Early in the process myself, and this is what keeps me going: “Things are way better than before”
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/25 01:29 PM
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^ this. Take action & play offense here ie file first! …sadly, it doesn’t sound like your wife or her family are switching up and going to be amicable all of a sudden, thus it’s time to make the change for you…as painful as it may be. Echo same sentiments about son. You’re doing the right thing - especially for the medical history. Similar situation happened to my friend where his actual biological dad ended up not being who he thought it was. Friend pivoted to talking w/ biological dad for heal…
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/25 10:17 PM
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Stay strong. You got this! A big first step + you filed first 💪🏻
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/25 09:40 PM
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Take love out of the equation: you are entering a binding contract with your partner, and the state you reside in. pre-nups, post-nups should be considered whether you have assets or not - can make life simpler for both, and mitigates risk. What is her family like? You marry them. Do you share similar values, ideas…can you stand being around these people over the course of a lifetime? How are there finances?…would you have to bail them out at some point? Sibling dynamics. People will change for …
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/25 12:36 PM
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The hot stove comment is everything. Ty for that
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/25 10:49 PM
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