DikembeNONONO Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
45	Note to Self/Reminders		DikembeNONONO	/r/seduction	26/03/14 12:53 AM
2	Keep seeing things about "confidence". I think confidence is simply..		DikembeNONONO	/r/seduction	08/06/14 08:56 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	Just been cheated on. Need some advice from you guys Do you think writing about it in a journal is bad because I'm constantly remembering? Or writing about her through music? Would that just re open wounds or can it be healing	/r/seduction	08/01/16 04:37 PM
1	Just been cheated on. Need some advice from you guys Oof. Is there anything specifically I can do to stop reliving memories in my head and then imagining them fucking? It's so hard to not be bitter because I had questioned her so many times and she'd get angry about it and not explain or re-assure me and it's just so funny I found out this is the same fucking dude. It's so hard to not be bitter here and jaded. So hard. I'll do the gym stuff and start following my passions but man. I've never felt this slighted before and I started to feel sick.	/r/seduction	07/01/16 03:20 PM
2	Just been cheated on. Need some advice from you guys Thanks man. Its just so hard to not internalize it and think something is wrong with my personality, looks, etc to the point where I could be led on like that for so long. It's just really making me doubt everything about myself. I appreciate the kind words	/r/seduction	07/01/16 04:57 AM
3	What does the word "fuckboy" (fuckboi) mean and how is someone a "fuckboy"? It definitely can be a leecher lol. Leecher of styles specifically; copycats. It's just an overall annoying person whether it be demeanor or the things said. So a leech is sort of a subsidiary to the bigger picture kinda thing.	/r/seduction	01/05/15 05:17 AM
44	What does the word "fuckboy" (fuckboi) mean and how is someone a "fuckboy"? You're 100% on the money. It has absolutely NOTHING to do with sex. It was derived from the hip-hop community and somehow girls managed to twist it into a definition that means "guys who fuck you and then leave you". It's the most frustrating thing in the world seeing them use it incorrectly. And every single time I correct them they refuse to believe it's origins. A prototypical fuckboy is a snapback wearing, hypebeast doucher who thinks highly of himself but isn't really what he thinks he is.	/r/seduction	01/05/15 03:13 AM
4	I had something become super clear to me this weekend: You must always be leading. This isn't true in terms of planning and other stuff though. You can't literally lead EVERY. SINGLE. THING. She has a say in some shit obviously. It's important to make the first move on things that you should initiate yes but to lead every single second of the interaction is unrealistic and setting yourself up for failure and frustration.	/r/seduction	16/12/14 04:45 PM
3	How to be the man in a relationship She tells you to do things? Don't do it if you truly don't want to or if it's not a part of who you are and man up physically. Make the move when you guys make out next time, finger her or some shit! Stop taking it slow physically. You waiting on her to make the moves is why she feels like the man in the relationship. Guaranteed.	/r/seduction	12/12/14 04:45 AM
5	How to Never Be Friend-Zoned Again Which is exactly what the video states haha.	/r/seduction	30/11/14 03:18 AM
3	Reading Models by Mark Manson, have some questions on being less invested in girls than they are you. [19M] No problem man. I really struggled with a lot of the same stuff and had similar questions in my first read. Like I would question every little thing and try to get it down to a science. I think after a few months I just realized like I gotta take everything with a grain of salt and not think of it as some like "do this and you're good, don't do this and you'll fail" type of mentality. It was really hard for me haha. Now it's like I have the knowledge from Models and I kinda fuse it with my own p…	/r/seduction	14/08/14 03:34 AM
16	Reading Models by Mark Manson, have some questions on being less invested in girls than they are you. [19M] There's nothing wrong with "sharing" everything. That is part of being vulnerable and a behavior he ultimately describes as attractive. I guess what it means is have other hobbies and a reason to live just besides her. I don't think girls are turned off by committed men it's more so when that commitment turns into clingy and needy behavior. I think you can be mentally committed to the relationship without having to SHOW it every second. Like long as you're down for the long haul. And investment …	/r/seduction	14/08/14 03:14 AM
1	Keep seeing things about "confidence". I think confidence is simply.. right, and someone who prioritizes their own thoughts above others will not feel the need to ever seek validation.	/r/seduction	09/06/14 08:08 AM
1	Keep seeing things about "confidence". I think confidence is simply.. What's your definition of arrogance? Hmm.. how can I word this better. Cause you're right. I'm trying to word it in the way it makes sense to me. It's not that I'm saying to put yourselves above other people and think you're better but for example if you are a confident person you will express your true opinion. I think an unconfident person would be afraid to express the said opinion because he's worried about what others will think of him. A confident person would approach a girl because his t…	/r/seduction	09/06/14 03:58 AM
3	What is one important thing you wish you could have taught your younger self about being better with women? Touch. Was always afraid to touch them when younger because I wanted to respect their boundaries and shit. If I were more physical with all the girls that I had "things" with in the past, and was able to escalate I would've been successful. Teasing and everything else comes extremely naturally to me.	/r/seduction	29/05/14 03:29 PM
2	Does acne affect your game? Indeed. And it's sad that most dermatologists will never admit to diet because they're in it for the money. They prescribe harsh chemicals that end up irritating people w sensitive skin, ultimately making it worse and just driving it into this crazy cycle. I've been trying to eat more whole foods and a SHIT ton of vegetables. We'll see how it goes. Praying. I've been on accutane fucking three times and the fact that it comes back PROVES that diet is a factor and that a healthy lifestyle is the b…	/r/seduction	27/05/14 03:17 PM
2	Tupac, from beta to alpha in 2 years I fucking laughed. That transition was so quick.	/r/seduction	25/05/14 06:35 PM
7	Does acne affect your game? Accept it. Love yourself. When you have inner fulfillment then the external validation doesn't matter. In this case, external validation would be you worry about what people think about your skin. Don't care about what they think, at the end of the day if a girl judges you on something like that they simply weren't worth your time. Why waste time trying to change her opinion. Through it all, be yourself and you'll attract a kind girl who will be able to look past this. But in order for her to lo…	/r/seduction	24/05/14 07:29 PM
1	Every conversation I have the mindset 'I need to impress you'. I know this is bad so how do I make them want to impress me? You're looking at it like it's a performance. Stop doing that. You TRYING to get her to like you, is putting her on a pedestal. You're valuing her OPINION of you so much, that you feel like you need to win her approval and "impress her". The way to counter this is to be genuine. Just do what you want to do because you want to do it, and don't filter your thoughts, don't feel the need to impress her. If she doesn't like you for who you are then she's not worth the time	/r/seduction	24/05/14 05:23 PM
1	The Bad Boy and The Nice Guy Yeah, so it goes back to intent, you say em hoping they'll like you for it. I'll only give a compliment when I genuinely mean it, and I think they can tell. Anyway I agree, complimenting on their looks isn't the best way to open. I'd say something like "I saw you over there, wanted to meet you, etc" and even better than telling them you're attracted you can just kino and SHOW them. But yeah, ultimately we agree. Cheers. Just couldn't read the huge wall of text lol.	/r/seduction	23/05/14 01:00 AM
1	The Bad Boy and The Nice Guy I think if you're worried about their perception of you then you've already lost half the battle. It's much easier to just HAVE the right intentions and know that you are aligned w these yourself, and if a girl rejects you thinking that you ARE being disingenuous then frankly she's not worth the time to try and "alter" her perception (again this is now being manipulative).	/r/seduction	23/05/14 12:21 AM
1	The Bad Boy and The Nice Guy So it's all intent. I don't see anything wrong with saying a girl is cute if you genuinely think so. if you DONT say it and you think it, you're NOT being true to yourself.	/r/seduction	22/05/14 10:11 PM
1	When your game is 'too good' All I can tell you is that it's a good problem to have :)	/r/seduction	15/05/14 06:26 AM
3	I experienced the power of vulnerability first hand tonight. Saved. Well said. Framed it in a way where I truly understand now. Thanks again.	/r/seduction	13/05/14 04:11 AM
5	I experienced the power of vulnerability first hand tonight. Awesome stuff man. I've been thinking though. Since you KNOW in your head that being vulnerable is something that girls react well to now, aren't you always gonna have the "oh okay, so if I'm vulnerable in this situation right now, she'll ultimately become more attracted to me" mindset, even though you don't INTEND to seduce her. You think it's okay to have these thoughts and still be vulnerable as a part of who you are? Just overthinking this but I guess when you are vulnerable without expectin…	/r/seduction	13/05/14 03:11 AM
5	Forgot "the zone" and AA is back in me... let's make list on breaking it. Go up to her w the mentality of "I wonder what she's like". This will help because you have to see if she's right for you, not if you're right for her. Also, when you have self limiting beliefs and thoughts in your head just realize they are merely WORDS that are in your mind. When you fuse w the words in your mind you believe them. You have to diffuse these self limiting beliefs like "Oh she would never like me." "Oh she has a boyfriend". You can do this by quietly saying to yourself "I notice …	/r/seduction	11/05/14 10:35 PM
1	I think the number one problem is putting a girl on a pedestal, I was wondering what makes a girl feel like she's a pedestal? Can you shed more light on the way you flirt and approach conversations? Maybe you're giving off the excited vibe of "OMG I CAN'T BELIEVE YOU LIKE ME BACK" then yeah, that's putting her on the pedestal. When you flirt you should try and tease her and break rapport and channel your excitement into lively conversation. Qualify her. Basically act like the fact that she's giving you attention isn't anything but still keep a good positive upbeat vibe to yourself.	/r/seduction	11/05/14 07:38 AM
3	How I ask girls out can i get this back	/r/seduction	04/05/14 05:24 PM
1	A simple guide to texting- short and informative how is that being needy? that isn't putting identity investment in her. nor is it seeking her validation. seems like just a simple question i'd agree its needy if thats a constant text being sent every day but once is not needy	/r/seduction	29/04/14 06:02 PM
1	A simple guide to texting- short and informative what is an example of being needy and seeking validation in a text? curious	/r/seduction	29/04/14 06:10 AM
1	I'm successful with attractive women I don't actually "like". I'm unsuccessful with the ones I'd actually like a relationship with. Help? how does this not belong in askseddit? mods are inconsistent as hell	/r/seduction	19/04/14 08:10 PM
1	Note to Self/Reminders what led said about 3 seconds and here's an article on teasing: http://www.girlschase.com/content/teasing-girl-right-way	/r/seduction	26/03/14 01:21 PM
2	How do you make the transition from being the one who texts to having girls text you? i move on lol sometimes it can get upwards to a month but they really do always end up coming back. its the weirdest thing	/r/seduction	30/01/14 10:30 PM
2	How do you make the transition from being the one who texts to having girls text you? i guess it depends on your relationship but it's always worked for me w girls ive built attraction or rapport w. but generally i am super entertaining when texting or face to face and then when i kinda go away they think "Whats wrong w me?" and start to text me first lol. it literally works w/o fail. all women are diff obv. like theres gonna be ones that just give up and move on but in my experience idk WHAT i do to make it like this, but they always end up texting me first. sometimes the wait i…	/r/seduction	30/01/14 05:31 AM
1	How do you make the transition from being the one who texts to having girls text you? honestly yeah ignore them and they always text me first	/r/seduction	30/01/14 04:31 AM
1	The 20 Lessons to Learn in Your 20s About Women and Dating or Be Single Forever why does he say let them know youre interested right away, but then says be a challenge. doesn't this contradict itself	/r/seduction	17/01/14 12:25 AM
1	How to KEEP the Girl? thanks a lot for the post. really appreciate it. i think you said it well and has cleared my head. i was just starting to get overwhelmed w everything here like all these "rules" when i was probably better off not reading anything. a lot of the stuff combats each other but what you said is just a good way to approach life in general. i am indeed less confused	/r/seduction	16/01/14 06:17 AM
1	How to KEEP the Girl? what about in terms of chasing? like how long into the relationship do you have to keep being a "challenge". cuz these are things that lead them to want you in the first place but in terms of a long term relationship it's like where do i draw the line?	/r/seduction	16/01/14 05:39 AM